Unstuck Your Life

You've made it to the final episode of the Permission to Disappoint series—and let's be real, we saved the hardest part for last: actually saying the no.This isn't about knowing what your boundaries should be. This is about the moment someone asks you for something and your mouth says “Sure!” while your soul quietly packs a bag and tries to escape out the back door.If you've ever:Agreed to something just to avoid the awkwardness of saying noFelt responsible for other people's feelingsOr replayed a conversation 47 times because you're still second-guessing your “no”...This episode will feel like a deep exhale.Pamela's walking you through the art of delivering a clear, unapologetic no—without spiraling into guilt, overexplaining, or people-pleasing gymnastics. She also breaks down the four most common boundary-pushers (yes, there are types!) and how to handle each one with calm confidence.✨ Plus, she shares a mindset shift that might just change how you view your relationships forever.Oh—and if you're wondering what to actually say when you're put on the spot?That's where the Boundary Setting Toolkit comes in.Inside, you'll find:10 plug-and-play scripts for tricky boundary convosA 3-step reset plan for when you slip upQuick phrases to buy time (because “I panicked and said yes” is a real thing)Text + email templates when you want to say no without a face-to-face showdownYou can grab it for just $27

Okay, real talk—Have you ever said no to something you knew wasn't right for you……only to spend the next 48 hours wondering if you're a selfish monster who's just disappointed everyone and ruined everything?Yeah. You're not alone.And also? You're not a monster. You're just tangled up in a guilt spiral no one warned you about.This episode is for the people-pleasers who are so done putting everyone else's comfort before their own sanity… but still get that pit in their stomach every time they try to set a boundary.If you've ever thought,"Why does saying no feel so bad, even when it's the right thing to do?"—this episode is about to flip that script in a way you didn't see coming.Inside, Pamela drops a truth bomb (the kind that feels like a loving slap from your most honest friend):Guilt isn't your moral compass… it's your withdrawal symptom.Yep, like caffeine headaches—but for approval.You'll learn:✨ Where your guilt really comes from (hint: it's not your fault)✨ The powerful 3-second move that will save you from a lifetime of regret-yesses✨ A set of magic questions to ask before you give your next answer✨ And the surprising reason people get mad when you start saying no (this one will make your jaw drop… and then nod in deep recognition)There's even a hilarious moment where Pamela accidentally discovers one of her most effective boundary tools mid-sip of a drink. (Because sometimes clarity shows up when your mouth is full.)So if you've been feeling low-key exhausted from always being the “go-to” person, if your inner monologue sounds like “I should just do it—they'll be upset if I don't…”—pause.And listen.Because the way out of that guilt trap?It starts with one small, powerful shift—and Pamela's handing you the map.

Ever catch yourself saying “It's fine, I'll handle it” when it is definitely not fine and you absolutely do not have the time, energy, or patience to handle it?Yeah… same.If you're constantly overcommitting, over-explaining, and over-functioning for everyone but yourself, this episode is your wake-up call. Because here's the thing—saying yes all the time doesn't make you a good person. It makes you an exhausted one. And the worst part? You probably don't even realize just how much it's costing you.That's exactly why I'm kicking off a brand-new, 3-part series called Permission to Disappoint: The Boundary-Setting Masterclass—because setting boundaries isn't just about saying no. It's about giving yourself the freedom to stop living for everyone else and start showing up for yourself.

Ever catch yourself standing in front of your closet for 20 minutes trying to pick the "perfect" outfit? Or maybe you've got a note app full of business ideas that you're still "researching" months later?Yeah, we've all been there. And that's exactly why this topic needed to be tackled in this week's episode.This episode dives into that murky territory between being thoughtfully prepared and being completely stuck in your head. You know that place—where you convince yourself that "just one more Google search" or "just one more pro/con list" will finally give you the clarity you need.What might surprise you is the complete flip of the script on what we think helps us make better decisions. There's a mind-blowing moment that explains why adding MORE information to your decision-making process can actually make your choices WORSE. (You might need to pause and replay that part!)The episode explores a question that might stop you in your tracks: "Are you planning to take action, or are you planning to avoid discomfort?" Ouch, right?And for anyone with a habit of researching vacation destinations for weeks only to never book the trip, there's a ridiculously simple 2-minute technique shared that has helped make decisions that were on hold for months.The funniest part? There's a confession about overthinking tendencies that you'll probably relate to. Let's just say it involves a project that should have taken days but stretched into months (and we've all been there).Do yourself a favor and listen to this episode on your commute today. Your future self—the one who actually takes action instead of just thinking about it—will thank you.P.S. If you've got a friend who's still "planning" to start that side hustle from three years ago, this episode might be the gentle nudge they need. Share the love!How to Connect With Pamela:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠About the host:Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

You know that moment when you're crushing it at work, checking all the boxes, doing ALL the right things... and then that sneaky little voice in your head whispers "but what if you're not good enough?"Yeah, that voice. The one that shows up uninvited, like that relative who always has an opinion about your life choices.

Ever catch yourself scrolling through Instagram at midnight, looking at people doing exactly what you dream of doing, and think "I could do that... if only..."? Yeah, I see you there. That little voice in your head that whispers "you're meant for more" while another voice quickly jumps in with "but what if you fail?" In this week's episode, we're diving deep into that space between knowing your potential and actually living it. (And trust me, as someone who spent two decades in one career before making a massive pivot, I know this territory well!) What's waiting for you in this episode: The sneaky way your brain tricks you into thinking you're being "logical" when you're actually just hiding A mind-bending perspective shift about confidence that turns everything you've been told on its head The surprising truth about what happened when I faced my biggest career fear (spoiler: it's not what you think) A practical exercise that will help you turn down the volume on self-doubt (without trying to silence it completely) This episode is for you if: You've ever looked at your life and thought "Is this really it?" You're tired of watching other people live your dreams while you stay stuck in "planning mode" You catch yourself saying "I'll do it when..." (but "when" never seems to arrive) You're ready to stop letting self-doubt run the show (even if you're not sure how) Real talk: This isn't another "just believe in yourself" pep talk. We're going way deeper than that. I'm sharing actual, science-backed strategies that helped me navigate my own journey from "someday" to "starting today."

"I'll do it when things calm down..." "I just need to get through this busy season..." "Once I finish this project, I'll have more time..." Sound familiar? (Yeah, I thought so.) In this week's episode of Unstuck Your Life, we're diving into the one excuse that's probably costing you more than you realize. Hint: It's not about time management – it's about something way deeper. Ever notice how the busiest people you know are often the ones accomplishing the least? Or how about that friend who seems to "have it all together" but is constantly telling you how overwhelmed they are? There's a reason for that, and it's probably not what you think. This episode might make you a little uncomfortable. Good. Because we're about to challenge everything you think you know about being "busy" – including the real reason you might be wearing it like a badge of honor. Warning: If you're looking for another productivity hack or time management system, this isn't it. But if you're ready to get honest about what's really keeping you stuck in the hamster wheel of busy, this episode is for you. You'll discover: The surprising link between "busy" and fear (this one hit me hard) What your schedule actually reveals about your priorities (even if you don't want it to) The generational impact of our "busy" addiction (parents, this one's especially for you) A radical new way to think about time that changes everything Plus, we'll explore the question nobody's asking but everyone needs to answer: What if being busy isn't the problem – or the solution? P.S. If you've ever caught yourself saying "I don't have time" while scrolling social media for an hour, this episode is definitely for you. Just saying...

Ever catch yourself in a quiet moment, looking at your life and all you've accomplished, and feeling like something's still... missing? You're not the only one secretly wondering if you missed a memo about how success is supposed to feel. This week, we're diving into that confusing space between achieving goals and actually feeling fulfilled. (Spoiler alert: If you've ever felt guilty for not being "happy enough" with your success, this episode is going to be a game-changer.) In this conversation, we're exploring: *The sneaky way your achievements might be hiding what you really want *Why checking off goals isn't filling that empty feeling inside *The question successful people are afraid to ask themselves *A mind-shifting perspective that changes everything (and no, it's not about gratitude journals) Plus, a revealing exercise that shows you exactly where fulfillment has been hiding all along. Hint: It's closer than you think.

Ever catch yourself crafting the "perfect" text message for 15 minutes? Or lying awake at night replaying that "awkward" comment you made in a meeting three weeks ago? (No judgment - we've all been there!) In this episode, we're diving deep into why we're all so hooked on seeking validation, and more importantly, how to break free from this exhausting cycle. Because let's face it - being your own worst critic is a full-time job none of us applied for. What you'll discover: The surprising reason your brain is actually being "logical" when it spirals into approval-seeking mode Why that constant need for validation might not be what you think it is (this was a game-changer!) A simple 10-second practice that can stop an overthinking spiral in its tracks Plus, you'll learn a mind-blowing reframe about self-trust that will change how you view every decision you make moving forward. Ready to break free from the validation hamster wheel? Listen now and discover how to trust yourself without having to pretend you're immune to human emotions.

Ever feel like you're waiting for the stars to align, the perfect moment to magically appear, or for life to finally give you a green light? Spoiler alert: that moment isn't coming. But here's the good news—action doesn't have to be perfect to move you forward. It just has to happen. In this episode, we're unpacking the sneaky traps of perfectionism and how they keep you stuck in the same place, spinning your wheels. You'll discover why taking action before you're ready is the ultimate power move, how one small step can lead to massive momentum, and why waiting for “ready” is the quickest way to stall your dreams. But we're not stopping there. We'll dig into what's really holding you back (hint: it's not what you think) and explore practical, no-fluff ways to shake off the fear and just get started—even if it's messy, sweaty, and feels wildly uncomfortable. If you're tired of feeling stuck, overthinking every decision, or postponing your dreams until “someday,” this episode is for you. It's not about being perfect—it's about showing up for yourself in the smallest, sweatiest ways and watching how those small actions create life-changing momentum. So grab your coffee, hit play, and get ready to rethink what it means to take action. Because your life doesn't need perfect—you just need to start. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why “waiting for perfect” is the ultimate trap. The surprising truth about courage and complacency (and why fear isn't the enemy). How small, imperfect steps can take you places you never thought possible. A simple, science-backed hack to create momentum today (seriously, it's easier than you think). This episode is your permission slip to take messy, sweaty, imperfect action—because your dreams are too big to stay stuck. How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Ever feel like you're almost satisfied with where you are… until you see what someone else is doing? Yep, we're talking about that all-too-familiar “compare and despair” spiral. It sneaks up fast, doesn't it? One minute you're fine, and the next, you're questioning your entire life because someone else posted yet another picture-perfect vacation or landed another promotion. Sound familiar? In this episode, Pamela digs deep into that relentless comparison game that leaves so many of us feeling like we're forever falling short. But here's the twist: what if everything you're feeling is just a trick your mind is playing on you? Today, Pamela shares an unexpected insight that flips the script on comparison and reveals why chasing someone else's version of “success” keeps you stuck in self-doubt. Here's what we're unpacking: Why Comparison is a Trap – Find out why measuring your behind-the-scenes against someone else's highlight reel will always leave you feeling less-than. An Unexpected Insight – Pamela shares a surprising mindset shift that can instantly pull you out of that comparison spiral and put the focus back on your journey. A Powerful Question – Next time you catch yourself comparing, ask this one question to ground yourself in what's actually going right in your life. A Practical Exercise – A simple but impactful exercise to remind you of your progress and help you break free from that constant need to measure up. Ready to stop chasing someone else's path and start owning yours? Hit play to discover how to leave comparison behind and finally feel like you're enough. How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Ever find yourself collapsed on the couch at 11 PM, completely exhausted, with a to-do list that somehow got longer during the day? Yeah, we need to talk about that. In this game-changing episode, former talk show host turned life coach Pamela Hughes gets real about why running faster on life's treadmill isn't getting you where you want to go. You know that voice in your head saying "If I just work a little harder..." or "I can't slow down or everything will fall apart"? Pamela's been there (spoiler alert: her own wake-up call came after leaving her broadcasting career), and she's got some seriously refreshing insights about why "rise and grind" might be keeping you stuck. Here's the thing: what if the solution isn't about doing more, but about getting crystal clear on what actually matters? Pamela shares a brilliant car analogy that will completely change how you think about your daily hustle (hint: flooring the gas pedal isn't always the answer

Ever feel like you're constantly swimming against the current, trying to change things (or people) that just won't budge? Like you're stuck in a never-ending battle with the universe? Well, buckle up, because this episode is about to blow your mind and potentially change your life. In this game-changing episode, I'm diving deep into the "Let Them Theory" - a powerful mindset shift that'll revolutionize how you approach, well, everything. It's all about recognizing what you can control (hint: it's you) and letting go of what you can't (spoiler: it's pretty much everything else). Here's a sneak peek at what you'll discover: The liberating truth about why trying to change others is a losing battle (and what to do instead) The sneaky way you might be giving away your power without even realizing it A practical guide to setting boundaries that actually stick (no more people-pleasing!) The unexpected ripple effect this theory can have on every aspect of your life This episode is for you if you're tired of feeling drained, frustrated, and stuck in the same old patterns. It's time to let go of what you can't control and focus on what you can - being your amazing self. So grab your headphones, find a comfy spot, and get ready for some real talk that'll leave you feeling empowered and ready to tackle life head-on. Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share with a friend who needs to hear this! How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Ever found yourself wide awake at 3 AM, your mind racing through every possible scenario for a meeting that's weeks away? Or spent hours agonizing over the "perfect" response to a text message? If so, you're not alone in the overthinking club. In this engaging and humorous episode, Pamela Hughes dives into the world of overthinking, exploring why our brains seem hardwired to worry and how we can regain control of our runaway thoughts. Drawing from evolutionary psychology and modern neuroscience, Pamela explains why our caveman brains might be ill-equipped for the social media age. But this isn't just about understanding why we overthink - it's about practical strategies to break free from the cycle. Pamela shares a toolkit of techniques to help overthinkers: The "Brain Dump" method for clearing mental clutter How to play "Fact or Fiction" with your worries Simple mindfulness practices that don't require a meditation cushion The power of taking imperfect action to break decision paralysis Throughout the episode, Pamela's relatable anecdotes and self-deprecating humor make complex concepts accessible and entertaining. Whether you're a chronic worrier, an indecisive planner, or just curious about the inner workings of the overthinking mind, this episode offers insights and strategies to help you reclaim mental peace. Don't miss this opportunity to turn your overthinking tendency from a burden into a superpower. Tune in and discover how to harness your brain's energy for productivity and creativity, rather than endless worry loops. It's time to show your overthinking brain who's boss! How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Have you ever found yourself avoiding a task, conversation, or opportunity simply because it made you uncomfortable? You're not alone. Many of us instinctively shy away from discomfort, viewing it as something to be avoided at all costs. But what if that very discomfort you're dodging is actually the key to unlocking your potential? In this thought-provoking episode, Pamela Hughes challenges the common perception of discomfort, revealing how it can be a powerful catalyst for personal growth and transformation. Drawing from cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience, Pamela explores why stepping out of our comfort zones is essential for developing resilience, creativity, and overall life satisfaction. But this isn't just about theory. Pamela gets personal, sharing her own humbling (and often hilarious) journey of embracing discomfort through learning to swim as an adult. Her story illustrates how facing our fears and insecurities head-on can lead to unexpected breakthroughs and a renewed sense of self-confidence. Throughout the episode, Pamela offers practical strategies for incorporating beneficial discomfort into your daily life, including: How to reframe nervousness as excitement The power of setting weekly 'discomfort' goals Techniques for building your "uncomfortable muscle" Why celebrating effort, not just outcomes, is crucial for growth Whether you're looking to advance in your career, improve your relationships, or simply break free from a rut, this episode provides a roadmap for harnessing the power of discomfort to propel your personal growth. Don't miss this opportunity to transform your relationship with discomfort and unlock new possibilities in your life. Tune in and discover why the path to getting unstuck might be a little uncomfortable - in the best way possible! How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of planning and dreaming, but never quite making the leap into action? Or perhaps you've felt paralyzed by indecision, unsure of which step to take first? If so, you're not alone. The gap between our intentions and our actions can often feel like a vast, uncrossable chasm. In this inspiring episode, Pamela Hughes explores the final and crucial component of her T.E.A. Framework - Action. She uncovers how our thoughts and emotions, discussed in previous episodes, ultimately manifest in the real world through our actions (or lack thereof). Pamela delves into the powerful connection between our inner world and outer reality, revealing how even small, intentional actions can create ripple effects of positive change in our lives. Through relatable stories and practical examples, she illustrates how action is the key that unlocks the door to transformation. But this isn't just about motivational pep talks. Pamela equips listeners with concrete strategies to bridge the gap between intention and action, including: How to break down overwhelming goals into manageable, actionable steps Techniques for overcoming fear and resistance when taking bold actions The power of consistent, small actions in creating lasting change How to align your actions with your thoughts and emotions for maximum impact Throughout the episode, Pamela offers insights and tools that listeners can immediately apply to their own lives, whether they're looking to advance their career, improve their relationships, or simply cultivate a more fulfilling daily routine. Don't miss this empowering conclusion to the T.E.A. Framework series. Tune in and discover how to transform your aspirations into reality, one intentional action at a time. It's time to stop dreaming and start doing - your unstuck life awaits! How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Have you ever felt like your emotions were running the show, leaving you as a mere passenger in your own life? You're not alone. In this compelling episode, Pamela Hughes pulls back the curtain on the mysterious world of emotions, revealing how they can either empower us or hold us back. We've all been there - heart racing before a big presentation, fuming after a frustrating conversation, or riding high on unexpected good news. But what if you could understand and harness these emotional currents instead of being swept away by them? That's exactly what Pamela explores in this deep dive into the "E" of her transformative T.E.A. Framework. She uncovers the hidden link between our thoughts and emotions, showing how this connection shapes every aspect of our lives - from our relationships and career decisions to our day-to-day happiness. But this isn't just about understanding emotions - it's about mastering them. Pamela equips listeners with practical, easy-to-use tools that can turn emotional turmoil into emotional intelligence. Imagine being able to: Instantly recognize and defuse emotional triggers Transform anxiety into focused energy Use negative emotions as catalysts for positive change Cultivate emotional resilience in the face of life's challenges Throughout the episode, Pamela breaks down complex concepts into bite-sized, actionable insights, including: A four-step process to navigate emotional storms with grace The "pause and question" technique for emotional clarity How to reframe negative situations for a more balanced perspective Whether you're a busy professional trying to keep cool under pressure, a parent navigating the emotional rollercoaster of family life, or anyone seeking greater emotional balance, this episode offers a roadmap to emotional mastery. Don't miss this opportunity to unlock the power of your emotions and take a crucial step towards unsticking your life. Tune in and discover how to transform your emotions from silent saboteurs into your secret superpower! How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Have you ever found yourself lying awake at night, mind racing with worries about things that haven't even happened? Or perhaps you've talked yourself out of an amazing opportunity because you convinced yourself you weren't good enough? If so, you're not alone. Our thoughts, often operating behind the scenes, have an incredible power to shape our lives - for better or worse. In this eye-opening episode, Pamela Hughes delves into the "T" of her revolutionary Spilling the T.E.A. Framework, unveiling the hidden influence our thoughts have on every aspect of our existence. She explores how these silent narrators in our minds can turn a simple misunderstanding into a full-blown crisis, or transform a mundane moment into an opportunity for growth. But this isn't just about exposing the mind's tricks. Pamela provides listeners with practical, easy-to-implement tools to recognize and reshape their thought patterns. You'll learn how to: Identify common thought traps that keep you stuck Transform negative self-talk into empowering internal dialogue Use the "Thought Catcher" technique to gain clarity and control Harness the power of your thoughts to create positive change in your life Throughout the episode, Pamela breaks down complex concepts into relatable, actionable insights. Whether you're a busy professional trying to manage stress, a creative person battling self-doubt, or anyone looking to cultivate a more positive mindset, this episode offers a roadmap to mastering your thoughts. Don't miss this chance to peek behind the curtain of your own mind and discover how to turn your thoughts from potential saboteurs into powerful allies. Tune in and take the first step towards unsticking your life and creating the reality you truly desire! How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Ever feel like you're stuck in a mental maze, constantly asking "why" but never finding your way out? You're not alone. In this eye-opening episode, we dive into: The hidden cost of always seeking answers How your brain's need for closure might be holding you back The liberating power of acceptance (and why it's not giving up) A simple mindset shift that can change everything Plus, discover the research-backed strategy that's helping people break free from overthinking and start living their best lives. Whether you're dealing with a past heartbreak, a career setback, or just feeling stuck in general, this episode offers a fresh perspective that could be the game-changer you've been looking for. Ready to stop spinning your wheels and start moving forward? This is the episode for you. Key takeaways: The difference between helpful and harmful "whys" How to recognize when you're trapped in unproductive thinking Practical tips for shifting from "why" to "what's next" The unexpected benefits of surrendering to "what is" Don't miss the powerful exercise that's helping people transform their approach to life's challenges. Tune in now and take the first step towards unsticking your life! Remember to subscribe, rate, and review if you found this episode helpful. Your feedback helps us reach more people who could benefit from these insights. Resources mentioned: "Start with Why" by Simon Sinek Journal of Personality and Social Psychology study on cognitive closure 2010 Emotion study on accepting negative emotions Want to dive deeper? Check out our website for additional resources and information on one-on-one coaching. How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Ever feel like you're wearing a mask at work, in relationships, or just... life? Welcome to the wild world of imposter syndrome, folks! In this episode, we're diving headfirst into that pesky feeling that has us all wondering, "How did I end up here, and when will they figure out I don't belong?" Here's what we're unpacking: The "Oh crap, they're onto me" moment: We've all had it, and it's about time we talk about it! Why your brain is basically a drama queen (thanks, evolution!) The shocking truth about success and self-doubt (spoiler: they're often BFFs) How to build your very own "I'm Actually Awesome" evidence locker The day I almost chickened out of a major opportunity (and why I'm glad I didn't) Plus, we'll explore some mind-bending facts that'll make you go "Whoa!" Did you know that some of the world's most successful people feel like frauds too? It's like a secret club, but with less cool jackets and more anxiety. By the end of this episode, you'll have practical tools to quiet that annoying inner critic, boost your confidence, and strut your stuff like the badass you are. Because let's face it, the only thing you're an imposter at is being an imposter! So pop in those earbuds and get ready to laugh and learn. Your future confident self will thank you! How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Ever feel like your calendar is a game of Tetris, but instead of blocks, it's filled with other people's needs? Welcome to the wild world of people-pleasing, where "no" is a four-letter word and your own desires are buried deeper than that gym membership you swore you'd use. In this episode, we're diving headfirst into the people-pleasing pool (hope you brought your floaties!): Discover why saying "yes" is the emotional equivalent of eating an entire pizza by yourself. Feels great at first, but oh boy, do you pay for it later. Learn how being a pushover can actually make people respect you less. Plot twist: saying "no" might make you more likable! Master the art of declining requests faster than you can say "I'd love to, but..." One simple question that'll make you feel less guilty than eating the last slice of cake at a party. Why doing absolutely nothing might be the most rebellious (and healthy) thing you do all week. Whether you're a black belt in people-pleasing or just a yellow belt in setting boundaries, this episode is your chance to level up your self-care game. Tune in to learn how to go from a "yes" puppet to a "no" ninja, all without turning into a total jerk. Because let's face it, the world needs your kindness - just not at the expense of your sanity. Remember, you're not a smartphone. Stop letting everyone else drain your battery! How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Ever feel like you're stuck in a never-ending loop of trying to get everything just right? In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into the world of perfectionism and why it might be your biggest obstacle to success and happiness. Key points covered: The surprising link between perfectionism and procrastination Why B- work could be your ticket to faster growth and success The science behind perfectionism and its impact on stress and creativity A personal story involving website design and color swatch madness Discover why "done is better than perfect" isn't just a catchy phrase, but a powerful mindset shift that could transform your productivity and well-being. Learn practical strategies to break free from the perfectionism trap and embrace the beauty of imperfection. Plus, get ready for a challenge that will push you out of your comfort zone and into a world of gloriously imperfect action! Whether you're a self-proclaimed perfectionist or simply someone who struggles with the occasional bout of "not good enough" syndrome, this episode is packed with insights and actionable advice to help you kick perfectionism to the curb. Tune in to learn how to: Identify perfectionist tendencies in your daily life Reframe your thinking around "good enough" Boost your creativity and innovation by embracing imperfection Overcome the fear of looking stupid when trying new things Get ready to laugh, learn, and liberate yourself from the shackles of perfectionism. Your imperfectly awesome life is waiting! Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review if you enjoyed the episode. Your feedback helps the show grow and reach more recovering perfectionists like you! Next week: We're tackling the close cousin of perfectionism - people-pleasing. You won't want to miss it! How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

After a nine-month break, I'm back! Life has been full of changes, including my dad's cancer journey. During that time, I chose to step away from some things to spend time with my family. While it's been a difficult path, there's been tremendous growth and lessons learned. Sometimes life forces us to transform in unexpected ways. In this episode, we'll talk about taking those next steps when you feel lost or overwhelmed. You'll learn how to break free from feeling stuck and gain strategies to identify immediate actions, even when the grand plan is unclear. We'll discuss why consistency, not intensity, is the key to sustainable progress. Let's connect! Share how you've navigated life's transformations and what's the next step on your journey? How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Welcome to an empowering episode where we dive deep into the world of personal boundaries, unraveling their transformative power in our lives. I'm your host, Pamela Hughes, and together, we'll embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth. In this episode, we explore the concept of personal boundaries, those essential guidelines we establish for ourselves and effectively communicate to others. These boundaries act as guardians of our well-being, protecting our mental, emotional, and physical health. We'll debunk common myths surrounding boundaries, shedding light on their true nature and dispelling any misconceptions that may hold you back. Join me as we address the challenges individuals face when setting boundaries, offering practical strategies and insights to overcome them. From identifying and communicating boundaries effectively to navigating the different types of boundaries and their significance, we'll equip you with the tools you need to establish healthy limits that empower you and transform your relationships. Tune in and get ready to unleash your personal power as we delve into the world of boundaries. It's time to embrace the life you deserve. Let's dive in! How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

In this episode of the Unstuck Your Life podcast, host Pamela Hughes tackles the big question: what's the difference between motion and action? And, more importantly, why does it matter for your life? Pamela will have you laughing and thinking as she explains the difference between just spinning your wheels and actually hitting the gas pedal to make real progress. Here are some of the key moments in the episode: (0:00-2:00) Introduction to the topic of motion vs action and why it's important (or, you know, life-changing) (2:00-5:00) Explanation of motion as being like a hamster on a wheel, while action is like taking a road trip to your dreams (5:00-7:00) Discussion of the importance of taking small, daily actions, or "planting the seeds" of your future success (7:00-10:00) Explanation of how breaking down big goals into smaller steps can help you take action and make real progress (or, you know, finally start that garden) (10:00-12:00) Discussion of how taking action can help you get unstuck and make real progress towards your goals (or, you know, escape the hamster wheel) (12:00-15:00) Conclusion of the episode and encouragement for listeners to take action in their own lives (or, you know, take that road trip to your dreams) How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠Website⁠ ⁠Facebook ⁠ ⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠TikTok⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Hey there, folks! Today on "Unstuck Your Life with Pamela Hughes," we're talking about the difference between self-confidence and confidence. Now, I know what you're thinking, "aren't they the same thing?" Nope, not at all! Pamela explains that confidence comes from experience, like being a pro at putting on your pants or hitting a 90mph fastball. But self-confidence, on the other hand, is all about how you feel about yourself, your worth, and your value as a person. So, how do you build up that self-confidence muscle? Well, Pamela's got some great tips, like self-reflection, journaling, and replacing those pesky negative thoughts with positive ones. Remember, building self-confidence takes time and effort, but it's so worth it for personal growth and success. So go ahead, believe in yourself, upgrade that thinking, and don't be too hard on yourself if you have a bad day. >The difference between confidence and self-confidence. (4:47) >We tend to have more self-confidence when we're kids.(6:12) >Pamela's story of how she learned to swim.(8:10) >If you want to gain confidence, you have to stop being an asshole to yourself. (15:03) >Self-confidence is not arrogance. (17:24) >How to change the story in your brain. (19.44) Thank you for tuning in to this episode of Unstuck Your Life with Pamela Hughes. Please subscribe and leave a review if you enjoyed this podcast. How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

On this episode of Unstuck Your Life with Pamela Hughes, we're diving deep into the superpower that is resilience. Think of it as a tool to help you navigate the ups and downs of life with ease - like a superhero power that helps you bounce back from tough times. And who doesn't need a little superpower in their life, am I right? Throughout the episode, Pamela shares some practical tips and tricks to help build mental toughness, like having a strong support system, practicing self-care, focusing on things that can be controlled, and even embracing failure. Yep, you heard that right. Embracing failure is actually a crucial part of building resilience. It's all about seeing it as an opportunity to learn, grow, and improve, and not as the end of the world. And with these powerful tools, you'll be able to bounce back from any adversity that comes your way. So, remember to be kind and gentle with yourself, while also pushing yourself to grow and become stronger. Because girl, you are capable of so much more than you realize! Tip #1: Build a strong support system: 4:16 Tip #2: Practice self-care: 8:22 Tip #3: Focus on the things you can control: 13:35 Tip #4: Embrace failure: 17:43 Thank you for tuning in to this episode of Unstuck Your Life with Pamela Hughes. Please subscribe and leave a review if you enjoyed this podcast. How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Facebook ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

In this episode of "Unstuck Your Life," Pamela Hughes explores the reasons why you know what you should do, but you don't do it. She shares the story of her friend Jane, who struggled to lose weight despite knowing what she should be doing. Pamela explains the science behind your tendencies to resist change, the role of the subconscious mind, and the need to align it with our conscious mind to meet our goals. She then dives deep into six mindset hacks that can help you get unstuck, including developing healthful habits, being aware of our thoughts, having clarity about our goals, taking small action steps, being consistent, and celebrating our successes. Here are the key moments of the episode: Introduction (00:00) Pamela's personal story about her friend Jane (02:10) Explanation of the subconscious mind and its role (05:14) Six mindset hacks to get unstuck (07:50) Conclusion (19:25) Episode Resources: To schedule your free mini session: https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/ UNSTUCK YOURSELF #8: Are You Living in the Gap or the Gain?: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/JIl4LLw9Syb How to Connect With Pamela: ⁠Website⁠ ⁠Facebook ⁠ ⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠TikTok⁠ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

I want to celebrate a huge milestone with you - Episode #100! I can't believe we've made it this far and I want to take a moment to thank you for being a part of this amazing journey. In today's episode, I'm going to share one of my secrets to staying focused, and it's simple, yet powerful. Seven years ago, I started wearing a bracelet on my wrist with a metal circle that had one word on it - MY WORD. This word was meant to remind me of what I was focusing on, who I was becoming, and to inspire, ground and push me forward. I've gone through different seasons in my life and my word has changed several times. In today's episode, I want to inspire you to choose your own word and help you discover what that word may be. Think about your season, what you're focusing on, and what resonates with you. Your word could be anything that inspires and motivates you, and it could change as you go through different seasons in life. I'll also be sharing some of my favorite words and the stories behind them, hoping to inspire you to choose your own word. Thank you again for your support and I can't wait for you to join me for Episode #100 and to discover you're own WORD! How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

You find what you're looking for in life. If you're looking for all the things that are going wrong, holding you back and what you can't do, YOU'RE GOING TO FIND IT! On the flip side, if you start challenging yourself to start looking for all the things that are going well, the progress you've made and the small steps you've taken forward, YOU'LL FIND THEM TOO! Life is full of both fulfilling and stressful moments. As humans we experience both joy and pain. We have both positive moments and negative ones. It's the duality of life. But which experiences are you choosing to focus on more? Not sure? Answer this, if ten people give you a complement and one person gives you a criticism, what do you pay more attention to most the many complements or the one criticism? In this episode, I'll explain the biological wiring that guarantees you find what you're looking for and ways to rewire your brain so you find more of what you say you want. I'll do this with the help of one of my favorite self help books, The Gap and the Gain by Dan Sullivan. If after listening to this podcast, or this series, you're ready to get out of your own way and create the life you know you're capable of having ... but you need someone to guide you along the way, teach you tools and concepts that will get you there and support you on this journey, click here to schedule a free 1:1 zoom call with me to dive into where you are, where you want to go and how I can help get you there. How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Everyday you have two types of conversations. The conversations you have with other people and the conversations you have with yourself. Take a guess which one is more important. Here's a hint ... where ever you go, there you are. While you can ignore or avoid other people, you can never escape yourself. That's why you need to pay attention to the conversations you're quietly having in your head. The truth is that voice in your head can either build you up or tear you down. If the banter or chatter you regularly have with yourself is negative, critical or judgemental then chances are you're feeling stuck and frustrated. That's why we're tackling negative self talk in the 7th episode of the 'Unstuck Yourself Series' In this podcast I'll share my own battle with the bully in my brain and how to retrain your brain to work for you instead of against you. This is the stuff I wish I would have learned in my teens but I'm so thankful to be sharing it with you now! How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

What is self discipline and how do you get more of it? Those are the questions we're tackling this week in 5th episode in the 'Unstuck Yourself' series. It really comes down to whether your playing the short game or the long game. Are you going to make decisions that feel good right now or feel really good later? Are you willing to sacrifice what you want today for what you really want in the future? If you sacrifice in the short term, you can have long term reward. If want the reward now, you could be sacrificing that long term reward. I'll break it all down for you and what to do about it in this episode. How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

This is the 5th podcast in the ‘Unstuck Yourself' series and in it I'm sharing the ‘2 Keys to Achieving Any Goal.' While these keys are simple, I warn you they are not easy. Having a life you love is going to require a certain level of discomfort and dedication on your part. Don't let that scare you. I'm just being honest. If going after what you want and making it happen were easy then everyone would be doing it. You're here because you believe achieving your goals is possible and in this podcast I'm going to share with you what it takes. LET'S GO! How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

This is the 4th episode in the 'Unstuck Yourself' series. Last week you set a goal for yourself. Something that was specific, measurable and had a deadline. This week, you're going to create the road map for accomplishing that goal because setting a goal is only half the job. The other half is taking action. You know what you want but how do you get it? In this episode you'll learn the '4 steps To Taking Action.' These steps will clearly lay out your own personal plan for achieving your goal. Everyones plan is going to be different because we are all different, with different goals, different skill sets, and different priorities. The framework you'll learn in this podcast will give you the tools you need to create your own individual path forward towards your specific goal. This is not a one size fits all framework. You will use this framework to discover what you need to do to accomplish your goal and then how to schedule it so it actually gets done. Let's do this!!!!! How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

The number one reason people get stuck is because they stop growing. They stop learning. They stop working towards something new. In this podcast I'm inviting you to stop living in the 'miserable maybe' and make a powerful decision. Decide where you want to go by deciding what goal you want to set for yourself. In the third episode of the UNSTUCK YOURSELF SERIES I'll share with you the importance of setting a goal and the elements of an effective goal. It's really hard to get where you're going if you don't know where that is. Goals give you direction and focus. Maxwell Maltz once said, 'We find no real satisfaction or happiness in life without obstacles to conquer and goals to achieve.' If you want to wiggle loose, experience satisfaction and find some happiness again, start by listening to this podcast and setting a goal. How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

One of the biggest reasons you get stuck is because of your thinking. That's not an attack, it's good news. It's good news because that means you can get unstuck all by yourself. It doesn't require anyone in your life to change, you don't have to massively alter your life to get relief and simply becoming aware of what's going on between your two ears can be all it takes to wiggle loose. This is the second podcast in the 'Unstuck Yourself Series' and in it I will show you how your mind is creating your experience in life. Once you learn this, you can't ignore it. It allows you to take ownership of your feelings and empowers you to decide what story you're going to tell yourself about everything. There are no worksheets this week. All I want you to do is create awareness around your thinking. You can do this by simply writing down what you're feeling and getting curious as to why? What are the facts? What are the thoughts swimming around your head about those facts? Once you can see the story you're telling yourself, you then get to decide what you want to do with that story. Do you want to keep it, alter it or completely change it? If you need help or have any questions, use the links below to find me on my social accounts and drop me a message or a DM. How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

If you feel stuck, want to wiggle loose but you don't know where to start … GOOD NEWS!!!!! This is the first episode in my UNSTUCK YOURSELF series! Over the next several weeks I will be laying out the blueprint to UNSTUCK YOURSELF. First, I want you to know you're not alone and nothing is ‘wrong' with you. Feeling stuck is a universal experience most people have at some point in their life. Being stuck is one thing. Staying stuck in another. Oftentimes you don't have control over what happened in your life that wedged you between a rock and a hard place. What happened, happened. It's now up to you to decide what happens next. I'm kicking off this series by inviting you to clearly define what you want. I know that's a broad question but give yourself permission to just explore what comes up for you when you ask it. Allow yourself to want something just because you want it. You don't have to explain why you want it, how it would benefit you or your family or the reasons behind wanting it. To some of you that sounds amazing and exciting, to others it sounds irresponsible and to some it sounds selfish. Just notice what that little voice in your head said when I invited you to allow yourself to want something just because you want it. One of the biggest reasons people get stuck is because they stop growing. They do the same thing over and over, day after day and call that a life. Try something different. Get curious about the little voice and its reaction to wanting what you want. I'm going to help you do that in this podcast because you have to be clear on the results you want to create in your life if you're going to get unstuck and create them. You're going to get a few simple questions to ask yourself to help uncover what you want. If you already know what you want, GREAT, I've got a few questions for you as well. AND … if you want to get to know yourself better so you can Unstuck Yourself faster, email the word ‘WANTS' to Unstuckyourselfpodcast@gmail.com And I will send you my ‘Deep Dive' bonus worksheets so you can take this work and go deeper!!!! Okay, enough already! Go listen to this podcast and don't forget click the + and ‘Follow' this show so you don't miss the next episodes in this UNSTUCK YOURSELF series. How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

There's a time to grind it out and push forward and there's a time to slow down and take a break. It can be tough to figure out which one you should do. My recommendation is to try one method, see if it works and go from there. For most of my life I've adopted the 'grind it out, push forward' method and it has served me well ... until it didn't. Recently I've taken a break from this very podcast because grinding it out and pushing forward when what I really needed was rest and reflection wasn't working for me. So I took a break. I pushed paused on a few things so I could reprioritize where my time, attention and effort was going and I gave myself the space I needed to rest and reflect. This podcast is about what I learned during that time. We are conditioned to just put our heads down and make stuff happen and there is definitely a time and place for that mindset. But have you ever slowed down enough to reevaluate why you're doing that and whether or not it's truly serving you right now? Don't know how to do that? I'm going to help you in this episode because sometimes you need to slow down now to go faster later. Want to shut up the inner critic and have more peace? Get my free guide by clicking on the link below. Click to Grab my free guide: 4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER. Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow! How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

You've heard the saying, you are responsible for your own happiness. Hell, I've said it on this very podcast because it's true. You are responsible for your own happiness. But today we're kicking it up a notch … You're not just responsible for your own happiness. You my friend are responsible for everything in your life. And the moment you realize this, embrace it and run with it is the moment your life changes. If you want to get unstuck, radical responsibility isn't just going to wiggle you loose, it's going to slingshot your life forward in ways you can't imagine. Want to quiet the negative nelly in your head? Click to Grab my free guide: 4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER. Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow! How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

I don't like the phrase, 'Go big or go home.' I understand why people use it but I think focuses on the wrong thing. You can't 'go big' ALL the time. It's impossible. In fact, you can't 'go big' until you've done small ... A LOT! It's the commitment and the consistency of taking the small steps that eventually set you up to 'go big.' Without the small steps there are no big results. You can try to go from zero-to-100 right out of the gate but chances are you can't sustain that speed very long because you haven't done the work to earn it. For most people it's too much too fast and it just leads to frustration, burn out and the false belief that others can do it but you can't. I'm a big believer in setting big goals but breaking them down into small steps and celebrating every inch forward along the way. When you do that, you don't quit before you even start, you create momentum and experience success early. This works because SUCCESS BREEDS SUCCESS. If you've struggled to set goals and get started or if you're a pro at setting them but fizzle out fast, this is the podcast for you. Want to quiet the negative nelly in your head? Click to Grab my free guide: 4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER. Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow! How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Have you ever said, or had someone say to you, "It could be worse, you could be _____." Or maybe you've thought, "well at least I'm not ____" or, "It's better than being ____." These are all examples of comparative suffering. This is when we look at someones pain or struggle and minimize it by comparing it to the difficult time someone else is having. When I was a new mom, I really struggled balancing my new role at home with my professional role at the radio station. I once had someone say, 'It could be worse, you could have 5 kids at home to parent and not just one.' Yeah, I'm sure parenting 5 kids is really hard but that doesn't mean my struggle of parenting one wasn't hard for me. I believe that person was just trying to provide perspective but what they did was minimize what I was going through. We do this to ourselves as well. We try to make sense of our own pain by comparing it to other people's pain. "I shouldn't complain about how much I'm working, at least I have a job." The upside to this is it can provide perspective. The downside is it minimizing your own feelings. Just because you have perspective doesn't mean your feelings magically go away. If you don't pay attention to those feelings and allow them to be there, they will fester and show up at inopportune times. If you've ever judged how your feeling because it's not as bad as what someone else is experiencing, you need to listen to this episode. Want to quiet the noise in your head? Click to Grab my free guide: 4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER. Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow! How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Life is both good and bad. It is both positive and negative. No matter how old you are, how much money you have in the bank or where you live, you will experience both ups and downs, as well as times of stress and times of peace. That's because life is 50/50. Fifty-percent of the time it's good and 50% of the time it's bad. It's always 50/50. It's 50/50 when you're 20years old. It's 50/50 when you're 45 years old. It's 50/50 if you have $2,000 in the bank. It's 50/50 if you have $200,000 in the bank. It's 50/50 if you live Nashville. It's 50/50 if you live in Maui. It may be a different set of victories and struggles but it will always be 50/50. When you begin to realize this it can create a sense of relief. It always you to be present and fully experiencing life as it is right now. Chance are you've been conditioned to believe 'there' is better than 'here,' so it's common to be constantly pushing, grinding and wishing for something different because you think it will all be better when you get 'there,' wherever 'there' is. I'm here to tell you life is 50/50 here and it will be 50/50 when you get there. So how can you slow down and become more present today? Click listen and find out. Want to quiet the noise in your head? Click to Grab my free guide: 4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER. Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow! How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

I have to admit, I've never considered the difference between 'thoughts' and 'thinking' until I read, 'Don't Believe Everything You Think' by Joseph Nguyen. His book is a simple read that delivers a fresh, powerful perspective on 'why your thinking is the beginning and end of suffering.' In this episode, I use Nguyen's book to explain the difference between thoughts and thinking, as well as how I've used this distinction to calm my own worrying, anxiety and stress. If you've ever felt stuck in the spiral of a negative thought loop, check out this episode for examples of how to get out of it. Don't Believe Everything You Think, By Joseph Nguyen Want to quiet the noise in your head? Click to Grab my free guide: 4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER. Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow! How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK. Disclosure: Some of the links below are affiliate links. This means that, at zero cost to you, I will earn an affiliate commission if you click through the link and finalize a purchase.

You've heard the saying, 'The only thing constant in life is change.' While that's true, it's not very helpful when you're the one experiencing the change and don't know what to do about it. One of the biggest changes parents will go through is when the kids grow up and leave the house. I've had friends describe it as a 'loud quiet' in the house and it feels like you're wearing your shoes on the wrong feet. My guest this week knows that feeling and can help. Allie Hill is an Empty-Nest Life Coach who helps moms create a roadmap for themselves so they can still feel purposeful, content and excited about this next chapter of their life. If you're looking for clarity on your next steps of what to do during this time of transition, this is the podcast episode for you. Want to quiet the noise in your head? Click to Grab my free guide: 4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER. Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow! How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok How to Connect With Allie Hill: www.alliehillcoaching.com Facebook Instagram About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Separating the facts from your story is one of the simplest, most powerful tools I teach. But just because it's simple doesn't mean it's easy. In this podcast I'll explain why this concept is so powerful, how to figure out what's a fact and what's a story (believe it or not this can be tricky) and what to do with that valuable information. By separating the facts from the story you'll get clarity and perspective that may have eluded you up until this point. If you tend to overthink issues, worry about stuff and get overwhelmed easily ... this is the episode for you. Want to quiet the noise in your head? Click to Grab my free guide: 4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER. Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow! How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Byron Katie said it best, "When you argue with reality you lose but only 100% of the time." It's true! When you argue with what's actually happening, because you think something else should be happening, it doesn't change anything. All it does is make you feel like crap. You create more suffering for yourself. Just because you think something 'shouldn't' be happening doesn't change the fact it IS happening. Or vice versa, just because you think something 'should' be happening doesn't change the fact that it isn't happening. This week I share my own struggle with reality. I get personal and open up about some of the ways I've been arguing with reality and what it's caused me. I know a lot of you are going through some stuff right now and I hope that by sharing what's happening in my world, you're able to learn from my experience and find a little more peace in your own world. Want to quiet the noise in your head? Click to Grab my free guide: 4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER. Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow! How to Connect With Pamela: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

My life has been a bit hectic and chaotic lately. The routine and structure I value has been disrupted, leaving me a bit 'itchy.' I gave myself permission NOT to do a podcast this week but I decided to crack the mic and share with you what I've learned through this rough patch. You hear me say, 'there's value in vulnerability.' I'm being vulnerable with the hope you get value out of it. And if you don't, that's okay too. Want to feel better faster? Grab my free guide: 4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER. Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow! https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/4waystofeelbetter How to Connect With Pamela: -Website: https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/ -TikTok: @pamelahughescoaching About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Being a parent is one of the most challenge and rewarding things you'll ever do. Being the parent of an infant or toddler is no easy task with all those sleepless nights and temper tantrums. Parenting teenagers on the other hand, is a whole different ballgame. It's tough finding that balance between telling your kids what to do and letting them figure it out on their own. That's why I've invited Kristen Goodman on the podcast this week. She helps parents communicate with their teens without yelling and power struggles. If you feel like your teen doesn't listen to you and you find yourself constantly yelling, worrying and frustrated over their choices, then this is the episode for you. Kristen walks you through how to stay calm instead of losing your cool, what to say to your teens to get them to start talking to you and how to feel more confident and in control of your life so you can stop managing everyone else's emotions and expectations. Mentioned in this episode: 78. What to Do About A Miserable Marriage Kristen Goodman Website Kristen Goodman Instagram 3 Ways to Avoid a Power Struggle with Your Teen Want to feel better faster? Grab my free guide: 4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER. Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow! https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/4waystofeelbetter How to Connect With Pamela: -Website: https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/ -TikTok: @pamelahughescoaching About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

How often do you think about what you put in your mouth? Do you ever think about what you eat and how it impacts your body? Most of us do. If you're anything like me you probably think about eating more fruits and veggies and eating less sugar and junk. I know when I do my body feels better. Have you ever thought about what you put into your brain? The impact news, social media, and tv has on your mind? Most of us don't. If you're anything like me, the first thing you grab in the morning is your phone. I know when I do I start my day off a bit stressed. The type of media you consume, and how much you consume is going to have a dramatic effect on your mood, your stress level and your overall sense of well being. You've heard of the ‘Food Pyramid.' In this podcast I introduce the ‘Media Pyramid.' It's the same concept but instead of veggies, protein and carbs, it's books, news and social media. This comparison or analogy really helps me and I want to share it with you because it takes this abstract idea of media consumption and makes it more concrete so you feel empowered to make healthier choices. Want to feel better faster? Grab my free guide: 4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER. Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow! https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/4waystofeelbetter How to Connect With Pamela: -Website: https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/ -TikTok: @pamelahughescoaching About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

What's your word worth? When you say you're going to do something, do you actually do it? Most of us believe we follow through on our word and most of the time we probably do. But I don't think we're as good at it as we think. AND I don't believe we truly know what going back on our word is costing us. Sure, life happens and sometimes we need to drop back ten and punt, but that is the exception and not the norm. I'm talking about the times you just change your mind and then break a commitment. Make no mistake, you're ALLOWED to change your mind. In fact, I encourage it. BUT ... when you do, there is an important step you need to take in order to live with integrity for yourself and others. In this episode I'll take a look at the different ways we go back on our word, the reasons we do it and a simple way to turn it all around. Want to feel better faster? Grab my free guide: 4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER. Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow! https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/4waystofeelbetter How to Connect With Pamela: -Website: https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/ -TikTok: @pamelahughescoaching About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Are you miserable in your marriage but not enough to get a divorce? Do you feel more like roommates than lovers? Do you ever wonder if you made a mistake marrying your spouse? Do you feel like your happiness is contingent upon everyone else in the house being happy? Do you put your needs on the back burner to ‘keep the peace?' Those are some pretty heavy (but relatable) questions. If you answered ‘yes' to any of them then this is the episode for you. I'm sitting down and digging into all of that with Certified Advanced Relationship and Marriage Coach, Crystal Hansen. While it's common to feel lost in the roles of spouse, parent, provider, or household manager and feel as though your life isn't your own, it also doesn't have to continue that way. Crystal talks about the importance of vulnerability in creating connections, why it only takes one person to ‘fix' a marriage and why a ‘polite' marriage isn't necessarily a good one. If you're wanting more connection, less stress and a way to shift your perspective on your marriage than listen to this episode. How to Connect With Pamela: -Website: https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/ -TikTok: @pamelahughescoaching How to Connect with Crystal Hansen -Website: http://crystalhansencoaching.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/crystalhansen_/ About the host: Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I'm a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves. This was no easy task and I'm not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me. I told you it wasn't easy … but I wouldn't change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.