Podcasts about helpfulness

What if the biggest thing holding your business back isn't effort, strategy, or talent, but a lack of clarity?In this energizing episode of the Sacred Changemakers Podcast, I'm joined by Isabelle Mercier-Turcotte and Margarita Romano, Co-CEOs of LeapZone Strategies and founders of Trailblazers Retreat Center. Together, they are no-nonsense business growth catalysts known for helping entrepreneurs, leaders, and teams build brands, businesses, and lives by design, not by default. With more than 25 years of hands-on experience in brand positioning, marketing, leadership, and business growth, Isabelle and Margarita have worked with over 500 companies, including A&W, Robeez Footwear, TEDx, Earls Restaurants, IMAX, TD, and HSBC. Their work helps businesses become The First, The Best, or The Only, so their value becomes unmistakable and they can be chosen with confidence, regardless of price.This conversation brings together two powerful streams of wisdom. Isabelle brings the sharp, strategic lens of brand clarity, positioning, leadership, and business architecture, while Margarita brings a deeply embodied understanding of human behavior, energy, resonance, and the wisdom of horses. At Trailblazers, their retreat center on Vancouver Island, their equine partners help leaders and teams see what's really happening beneath the surface, because horses don't respond to performance, titles, or polished words. They respond to what's real.Together, we explore why so many businesses are missing clarity and how that affects everything from leadership and culture to sales, team alignment, execution, and growth. We talk about the difference between branding, positioning, and marketing, why so many purpose-led people over-function, and how leaders can stop carrying everything themselves and begin building with more courage, structure, and intention. This is a practical, honest, and deeply human conversation for coaches, founders, changemakers, and leaders who want to build meaningful work without losing themselves in hustle, chaos, or performance.Key TakeawaysWhy clarity is one of the greatest competitive advantages in business today.The difference between branding, positioning, and marketing, and why mixing them up creates confusion.How to become The First, The Best, or The Only in a way that feels true rather than forced.How horses reveal incongruence, energy, and leadership patterns that are often hidden in boardrooms.How to build a business and life by design, not by default.Learn More About Today's GuestLeapzone Strategies website ****→ www.leapzonestrategies.comMargarita's bestselling book: How To Love Without Limits →https://leapzone.lpages.co/book/Ebook: The First. Best. Only. Advantage eBook → ****https://leapzone.lpages.co/first-best-only-advantage-optin/Isabelle on LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/leapzoneleader/Margarita on LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/margarita-romano-a40445209/About the HostJayne Warrilow is the founder of Sacred Changemakers, a global community and learning space exploring the intersection of human resonance, regenerative change, and conscious leadership.Learn more at sacredchangemakers.com

Discover the power of radical helpfulness and building long-term trust with John Hall, speaker, author, and Managing Partner at Relevance. In this episode, John details how his entrepreneurial mindset evolved from a third-grade lunch brokerage to a multi-million dollar real estate portfolio, all centered around identifying what people truly value. He shares practical insights on mastering deliberate time-blocking, navigating the massive shift into AI search engine visibility, and why leading with humility and core values ultimately outlasts ego. Guest Links:John's LinkedInRelevanceJohnHallCredits: Host: Lisa Nichols, Executive Producer: Jenny Heal, Marketing Support: Landon Burke and Joe Szynkowski, Podcast Engineer: Portside MediaSomething Extra with Lisa Nichols

Too many companies today still think that improving CX is all about fixing what's broken. But for CX to make a meaningful difference in the health and success of a business, management should strive to make the everyday lives of customers better. That's why the concept of "Helpfulness" should be adopted as a core enterprise operating principle, says CX pioneer Tom DeWitt.

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LESSON 67Love Created Me Like Itself.Today's idea is a complete and accurate statement of what you are. This is why you are the light of the world. This is why God appointed you as the world's savior. This is why the Son of God looks to you for his salvation. He is saved by what you are. We will make every effort today to reach this truth about you, and to realize fully, if only for a moment, that it is the truth.In the longer practice period, we will think about your reality and its wholly unchanged and unchangeable nature. We will begin by repeating this truth about you, and then spend a few minutes adding some relevant thoughts, such as:Holiness created me holy.Kindness created me kind.Helpfulness created me helpful.Perfection created me perfect.Any attribute which is in accord with God as He defines Himself is appropriate for use. We are trying today to undo your definition of God and replace it with His Own. We are also trying to emphasize that you are part of His definition of Himself.After you have gone over several such related thoughts, try to let all thoughts drop away for a brief preparatory interval, and then try to reach past all your images and preconceptions about yourself to the truth in you. If Love created you like Itself, this Self must be in you. And somewhere in your mind It is there for you to find.You may find it necessary to repeat the idea for today from time to time to replace distracting thoughts. You may also find that this is not sufficient, and that you need to continue adding other thoughts related to the truth about yourself. Yet perhaps you will succeed in going past that, and through the interval of thoughtlessness to the awareness of a blazing light in which you recognize yourself as Love created you. Be confident that you will do much today to bring that awareness nearer, whether you feel you have succeeded or not.It will be particularly helpful today to practice the idea for the day as often as you can. You need to hear the truth about yourself as frequently as possible, because your mind is so preoccupied with false self-images. Four or five times an hour, and perhaps even more, it would be most beneficial to remind yourself that Love created you like Itself. Hear the truth about yourself in this.Try to realize in the shorter practice periods that this is not your tiny, solitary voice that tells you this. This is the Voice for God, reminding you of your Father and of your Self. This is the Voice of truth, replacing everything that the ego tells you about yourself with the simple truth about the Son of God. You were created by Love like Itself.- Jesus Christ in ACIM

Pain is inevitable, but suffering does not have to be.

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Live Work with Madeleine I'm Helpless! Part 3 of 3 Today, we are pleased to present the live and unedited follow-up session with Madeleine, a loving mother who became terrified when she realized that her oldest beloved daughter might be in mortal danger during her hear abroad while in college.  Part 3 of 3 We were a bit rushed near the end of M = Methods in Part 2 because of a mistake that I (David) made. I forgot that we had extended this webinar by 30 minutes, so we wouldn't be rushed at the end, so I wrongly concluded we were running out of time when we weren't! In order to complete our work, we scheduled Part 3 several weeks later to do the following critical pieces of the work with Madeleine. Additional work with the Externalization of Voices to make sure she could knock all of her self-critical thoughts out of the park. Cognitive Flooding, using the magazine article she was triggered by to prompt the anxiety. The idea is to make yourself as anxious as possible for as long as possible, until the anxiety and panic eventually loses its punch and becomes boring. This will be one of the first times we have illustrated this technique live in a video-recorded session. Any other loose ends that may have emerged since our first session with the wonderful Madeleine! We did some cognitive flooding, urging Madeleine to close her eyes and describe her most terrifying fantasy involving her daughter's abduction by a sociopathy. We encourage her to make herself as anxious as possible, and within minutes she was at 100% and sobbing. Then we did some "memory" rescripting as we had promised her at the start, and part way through there was an unexpected surge of anger, that seemed to come from out of the blue, although the circumstances of the fantasy were clearly more than enough to trigger rage.  Using the technique called "Affect Bridging," I asker her whether the anger she was now feeling might trace back to some earlier traumatic event in her life, perhaps when she was young, and this was confirmed. She described a profoundly troubling indecent involve her mother and dad shortly before they got divorced.  There was a tremendous amount of emotion packed into today's follow-up session, almost non-stop, in fact. We look forward to seeing Madeleine's end-of-session Brief Mood Survey and Evaluation of Therapy Session. Jill and David assigned follow-up homework for her, including 15 minutes per day reading the terrifying article from People Magazine that had initially triggered her in the beauty salon.  We want to thank you, Madeleine for your courage in being so open and real, and for giving us all a unique opportunity for some incredible learning, and also the chance to get to know you at a deep a genuine level! Thanks for listening to these three podcasts. We hope you enjoyed them and learned something useful and helpful, especially if you've also been struggling with feelings of depression and anxiety, or if you're a mental health professional wanting to take a deeper dive in to how TEAM CBT can sometimes produce extremely rapid healing, even from severe feelings of depression, anxiety, and despair.  Madeleine, Jill, Rhonda, and David Following the session, Madeleine sent us the following feedback on the session via email: Hi Jill and David, Completed after session yesterday, but in my state of emotional fatigue, forgot to hit send! Brief Mood Survey after session: Depression: 3 / 20 (minimal) Suicidal urges: 0 / 12 (none) Anxiety: 8 / 20 (mildly elevated) Anger: 9 / 20 (mild/moderately elevated) Happiness: 12 / 20 (low) Relationship Satisfaction: 29 / 30 (nearly perfect) Evaluation of Therapy Session Empathy: 20 / 20 (perfect score) Helpfulness: 20 / 20 (perfect score) Satisfaction: 8 / 8 (perfect score)  Commitment: 8 /8 (perfect score) Neg feelings: 4 (high, range = 0- 4) Difficulties with Q: 2 (medium, range = 0- 4) What did you like the Least: exposure was pain. It feels very heavy and exhausting. And i understand, necessary to healing. What did you like the Most: David's "bridging" my affect states to discover my rage source. Jill's keeping us on track and making connection from my present worry about daughter's safety to past feelings of betrayal, losing trust, and resulting anger in my dad, a trusted figure. You both hit the nail on the head so many times in the session to uncover the deeper, ugly, messy, dark pools that lie within me i choose to keep safely sealed tight and out of the light. Postscript: I just completed day 1 of exposure in re reading the awful article. All the anxiety and fear resurfaced along with new feelings of revenge, determination, appreciation for the authors who are perhaps trying to help the family by publishing this. Ick. Best Regards, Madeleine  Again, a big thanks to you Madeleine, and we will watch closely as you continue your courageous daily exposure work, and look forward to the day when you have won this battle!  Warmly, david

Live Work with Madeleine I'm Helpless! Part 2 of 3 Today, we are pleased to present the exciting conclusion of our work with Madeleine, a loving mother who fears that her eldest daughter might be in mortal danger during her year abroad. Last week, you heard about the T = Testing and E = Empathy phase of the live work with Madeleine, a mother feeling intense panic and helplessness and inadequacy because she fears that her daughter could be in grave danger of abduction and worse. This week, we will focus on A = Paradoxical Agenda Setting, using the Miracle Cure Question, Magic Button, Positive Reframing, and Magic Dial to see if we can melt away her resistance to change. You can see the Emotions table of the Daily Mood Log Madeleine during the Magic Dial portion of the session if you Click Here As you can see, she wanted to reduce her negative feelings somewhat, but thought she still wanted to keep them fairly elevated, since she still sensed that her daughter might be in real danger, and clearly did not want to abandon her. This is one of the significant refinements in TEAM CBT. First, we want to bring the patient's resistance to full conscious awareness. Second, we want patients to full grasp that their negative thoughts and feelings do NOT result from some "defect" or "mental disorder," but rather from what is most beautiful and awesome about them as human beings. After the Magic Button, David and Jill went on to the final, M = Methods portion of the TEAM session, using tools such as Identify and Explain the Distortions, the Double Standard Technique, and the Externalization of Voices, with the Acceptance Paradox, the Self-Defense Paradigm, and the CAT (Counter-Attack Technique). We will, of course, do numerous role reversals to see if we can get Madeleine to a "huge" victory over her many distorted thoughts. You can see the Daily Mood Log Madeleine prepared at the end of the session if you Click Here As you can see, the reductions in negative feelings were dramatic, but in several areas (anxiety, inadequacy, frustration and anger), Madeleine's negative feelings were still minimally elevated. That is one of the reasons we decided to schedule an additional session together several weeks later to see if we could intensify Madeleine's responses to her negative thoughts, and hopefully due some Cognitive Flooding to complete her "treatment." At the end of these show notes, you will find an email from Madeleine after the session that includes her end-of-session scores on the BMS and EOTS. You will also see comments submitted by many participants who attended the webinar live. This email below from Madeleine following the session shows her end of session scores on the Brief Mood Survey as well as the Evaluation of Therapy Session at the end of her session with Jill and David. Hi David, Yes, here are my BMS & ETS score totals after the extended session. Please let me know if you have any questions. A relapse prevention session would be nice; however, I hesitate to accept your offer as you all are so busy. Please know that I am practicing the PTs and keeping the NTs in check for now. Thank you again a million times over

Over my years of mentoring many of the most extraordinary entrepreneurs, artists, and leaders on the planet, I've discovered that the truly great ones—those who lead not only with brilliance but also with grace and a sense of magic—measure success by their helpfulness.We each have a deep human need to bring value to others—to know that our days meant something. As the poet Tagore wrote, “I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted, and behold, service was joy.” When we lift others, we rise ourselves.My latest book “The Wealth Money Can't Buy” is full of fresh ideas and original tools that I'm absolutely certain will cause quantum leaps in your positivity, productivity, wellness, and happiness. You can order it now by clicking here.FOLLOW ROBIN SHARMA:InstagramFacebookXYouTube 

We each have a deep human need to bring value to others—to know that our days meant something. As the poet Tagore wrote, “I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted, and behold, service was joy.” When we lift others, we rise ourselves.My latest book “The Wealth Money Can't Buy” is full of fresh ideas and original tools that I'm absolutely certain will cause quantum leaps in your positivity, productivity, wellness, and happiness. You can order it now by clicking here.FOLLOW ROBIN SHARMA:InstagramFacebookTwitterYouTube

This podcast is a short daily audio provided by the online recovery group Transitions Daily. The daily distribution consists of different recovery quotes from various resources, including; Twenty-Four Hours a Day, A.A. Thought for the Day, Daily Reflections, Big Book Quote, Just for Today, As Bill Sees It, plus more! Transitions Daily also distributes this same content in a daily email with a secret Facebook group for discussion. Go to www.DailyAAEmails.com for more information. Do you want to stop drinking? Have you ever listened to sobriety podcasts? Does alcoholism or addiction run in your family? Have you tried Alcoholics Anonymous or the 12 Steps of A.A.? Are you considering how to get sober? Are you seriously thinking about sobriety for the first time? Is alcohol controlling your life as never before? If so, you will definitely want to check out this recovery podcast.

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Doing unexpected good for people in need not only brings grace into their lives and shows them a higher nature of humanity, it escalates your personal joy and interior peace.This is what my latest book The Wealth Money Can't Buy is all about. Real wealth versus fake success. True winning versus spending your life climbing a mountain, only to find out at the end that it was the wrong one. You can order it now by clicking here.FOLLOW ROBIN SHARMA:InstagramFacebookTwitterYouTube

In this episode, Kathy Eggers discusses the importance of teaching helpfulness to children as a key character trait. She emphasizes the role of parents in modeling helpful behavior, engaging children in helpful activities, and providing developmentally appropriate tasks. The conversation highlights the significance of building confidence in children through participation in household chores and the positive impact of helpfulness on family dynamics. Kathy also shares practical tips for making helpfulness a fun and natural part of family life, concluding with a reminder of the lasting effects of these early lessons on children's character development.Check out our summer sale going on now @kathyeggers.com, you can get our summer curriculum guide (A Summer of Playing Skillfully) on sale for $15 off plus get our MUD Kitchen plans for FREE. Use the code, slowsummer. For more information, check out Kathy's book, The Homegrown Preschooler and curriculum, A Year of Playing Skillfully. You can also sign up for Kathy's monthly newsletter on her website or by commenting NEWS on any IG post. Thanks for listening. If you have topics you would like for us to discuss or people you would like to hear from, let us know at hello@kathyeggers.com or shoot us a message on Instagram. Don't forget to subscribe to our podcast and leave a review on iTunes!!! Also, to thank you for listening, you can receive a 10% discount on any purchase at the Kathy Eggers store by using the code, PSPODCAST.

In this Mother’s Day message, we honor the powerful discipline it takes to be a mother, through the lens of Mary’s life and Nehemiah’s story. Learn how helping, obeying, and paying attention can shape a mother's legacy and reveal the prophetic potential in her family.

Learn about the Rhythmic Gymnastics World Cup and rampant helpfulness in local culture.

Ever catch yourself saying “It's fine, I'll handle it” when it is definitely not fine and you absolutely do not have the time, energy, or patience to handle it?Yeah… same.If you're constantly overcommitting, over-explaining, and over-functioning for everyone but yourself, this episode is your wake-up call. Because here's the thing—saying yes all the time doesn't make you a good person. It makes you an exhausted one. And the worst part? You probably don't even realize just how much it's costing you.That's exactly why I'm kicking off a brand-new, 3-part series called Permission to Disappoint: The Boundary-Setting Masterclass—because setting boundaries isn't just about saying no. It's about giving yourself the freedom to stop living for everyone else and start showing up for yourself.

LESSON 67Love Created Me Like Itself.Today's idea is a complete and accurate statement of what you are. This is why you are the light of the world. This is why God appointed you as the world's savior. This is why the Son of God looks to you for his salvation. He is saved by what you are. We will make every effort today to reach this truth about you, and to realize fully, if only for a moment, that it is the truth.In the longer practice period, we will think about your reality and its wholly unchanged and unchangeable nature. We will begin by repeating this truth about you, and then spend a few minutes adding some relevant thoughts, such as:Holiness created me holy.Kindness created me kind.Helpfulness created me helpful.Perfection created me perfect.Any attribute which is in accord with God as He defines Himself is appropriate for use. We are trying today to undo your definition of God and replace it with His Own. We are also trying to emphasize that you are part of His definition of Himself.After you have gone over several such related thoughts, try to let all thoughts drop away for a brief preparatory interval, and then try to reach past all your images and preconceptions about yourself to the truth in you. If Love created you like Itself, this Self must be in you. And somewhere in your mind It is there for you to find.You may find it necessary to repeat the idea for today from time to time to replace distracting thoughts. You may also find that this is not sufficient, and that you need to continue adding other thoughts related to the truth about yourself. Yet perhaps you will succeed in going past that, and through the interval of thoughtlessness to the awareness of a blazing light in which you recognize yourself as Love created you. Be confident that you will do much today to bring that awareness nearer, whether you feel you have succeeded or not.It will be particularly helpful today to practice the idea for the day as often as you can. You need to hear the truth about yourself as frequently as possible, because your mind is so preoccupied with false self-images. Four or five times an hour, and perhaps even more, it would be most beneficial to remind yourself that Love created you like Itself. Hear the truth about yourself in this.Try to realize in the shorter practice periods that this is not your tiny, solitary voice that tells you this. This is the Voice for God, reminding you of your Father and of your Self. This is the Voice of truth, replacing everything that the ego tells you about yourself with the simple truth about the Son of God. You were created by Love like Itself.- Jesus Christ in ACIM

LESSON 67Love Created Me Like Itself.Today's idea is a complete and accurate statement of what you are. This is why you are the light of the world. This is why God appointed you as the world's savior. This is why the Son of God looks to you for his salvation. He is saved by what you are. We will make every effort today to reach this truth about you, and to realize fully, if only for a moment, that it is the truth.In the longer practice period, we will think about your reality and its wholly unchanged and unchangeable nature. We will begin by repeating this truth about you, and then spend a few minutes adding some relevant thoughts, such as:Holiness created me holy.Kindness created me kind.Helpfulness created me helpful.Perfection created me perfect.Any attribute which is in accord with God as He defines Himself is appropriate for use. We are trying today to undo your definition of God and replace it with His Own. We are also trying to emphasize that you are part of His definition of Himself.After you have gone over several such related thoughts, try to let all thoughts drop away for a brief preparatory interval, and then try to reach past all your images and preconceptions about yourself to the truth in you. If Love created you like Itself, this Self must be in you. And somewhere in your mind It is there for you to find.You may find it necessary to repeat the idea for today from time to time to replace distracting thoughts. You may also find that this is not sufficient, and that you need to continue adding other thoughts related to the truth about yourself. Yet perhaps you will succeed in going past that, and through the interval of thoughtlessness to the awareness of a blazing light in which you recognize yourself as Love created you. Be confident that you will do much today to bring that awareness nearer, whether you feel you have succeeded or not.It will be particularly helpful today to practice the idea for the day as often as you can. You need to hear the truth about yourself as frequently as possible, because your mind is so preoccupied with false self-images. Four or five times an hour, and perhaps even more, it would be most beneficial to remind yourself that Love created you like Itself. Hear the truth about yourself in this.Try to realize in the shorter practice periods that this is not your tiny, solitary voice that tells you this. This is the Voice for God, reminding you of your Father and of your Self. This is the Voice of truth, replacing everything that the ego tells you about yourself with the simple truth about the Son of God. You were created by Love like Itself.- Jesus Christ in ACIM

This podcast is a short daily audio provided by the online recovery group Transitions Daily. The daily distribution consists of different recovery quotes from various resources, including; Twenty-Four Hours a Day, A.A. Thought for the Day, Daily Reflections, Big Book Quote, Just for Today, As Bill Sees It, plus more! Transitions Daily also distributes this same content in a daily email with a secret Facebook group for discussion. Go to www.DailyAAEmails.com for more information.   Do you want to stop drinking? Have you ever listened to sobriety podcasts? Does alcoholism or addiction run in your family? Have you tried Alcoholics Anonymous or the 12 Steps of A.A.? Are you considering how to get sober? Are you seriously thinking about sobriety for the first time? Is alcohol controlling your life as never before? If so, you will definitely want to check out this recovery podcast.

What if I told you that living an amazing life boils down to just three simple traits? In this episode of The Happy Hustle Podcast, I'm breaking down the concept of PHK, which stands for Positivity, Helpfulness, and Kindness—three attributes that, when embodied, will drastically improve your life in more ways than you can imagine. I first came across this idea from Ryan Deiss, the founder of Digital Marketer. We met at the Traffic and Conversion Summit, and he recently discussed it on the Money Mondays podcast with Dan Fleyshman (shoutout to them!). Ryan shared that PHK is what he teaches his kids to live an amazing life, and let me tell you—it's just as impactful for adults too. First up in PHK is Positivity. And no, this isn't about being unrealistically cheerful 24/7. Positivity is about carrying that light within you, that energy that uplifts everyone around you. It's about gratitude and finding the silver lining, even when things get tough.When you choose positivity, you attract positive opportunities. You inspire those around you. And most importantly, you create a better life for yourself.The second attribute is Helpfulness. If you want to win in life, you have to serve others. Period. Helpfulness is about offering value without expecting anything in return—because good karma always finds its way back. When you help others, you build trust, create connections, and establish strong relationships. Last, but not least, is Kindness. You have the choice to be kind in every interaction. Whether it's a compliment to the grocery store cashier or offering support to a friend in need, kindness is a game-changer. It's more than just making someone's day—it has the power to transform lives.So that's PHK: Positivity, Helpfulness, and Kindness. These three simple yet profound traits are the keys to Happy Hustlin' and living an amazing life. Shoutout to Ryan Deiss for sharing this with me because it's been a game-changer, and I hope it is for you too.If you start embodying these traits today, I guarantee you'll notice the difference. Be positive, be helpful, be kind—and you'll attract more joy, opportunities, and fulfillment.Now get out there and start living your best PHK-filled life!Connect with Cary!https://www.instagram.com/caryjack/https://www.facebook.com/SirCaryJackhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/cary-jack-kendzior/https://twitter.com/thehappyhustlehttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFDNsD59tLxv2JfEuSsNMOQ/featured Get a free copy of his new book, The Happy Hustle, 10 Alignments to Avoid Burnout & Achieve Blissful Balance https://www.thehappyhustle.com/bookSign up for The Journey: 10 Days To Become a Happy Hustler Online Coursehttps://thehappyhustle.com/thejourney/Apply to the Montana Mastermind Epic Camping Adventurehttps://thehappyhustle.com/mastermind/“It's time to Happy Hustle, a blissfully balanced life you love, full of passion, purpose, and positive impact!”Episode Sponsor: Magnesium Breakthrough from BiOptimizers (https://bioptimizers.com/happy)If you've been on a restricted diet lately or maybe even taken some meds to shed those pounds for the summer, I gotta warn ya—be careful! You might have unknowingly created a nutrient deficiency that could not only mess with your health but also jeopardize those weight loss goals.Did you know that over 75% of Americans are already deficient in magnesium? Yeah, it's wild! Magnesium is this powerhouse mineral that's involved in over 600 biological reactions in your body. It helps with everything from sleep to stress management to hormone balance—all key players in keeping your weight on track.And if you're still on those meds, you might be dealing with some side effects like sleepless nights, digestive issues, or irritability, which can totally throw off your commitment to your goals. Whether you're taking meds or not, setting up healthy habits is crucial to maintaining your weight over time. One of the best things you can do? Make sure you're getting all the magnesium your body needs.Don't let a magnesium deficiency derail your progress! Give Magnesium Breakthrough by BIOptimizers a shot. Unlike other supplements, this one's got all 7 forms of magnesium that your body can actually absorb, so you get the full spectrum of benefits.This approach will help you crush your goals and maintain a healthy weight while keeping your overall health in check. For an exclusive offer, head to bioptimizers.com/happy and use the promo code 'happy10' at checkout to save 10%. And if you subscribe, you'll snag amazing discounts, free gifts, and a guaranteed monthly supply.

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In this episode, we dive back into Romans 15 where the Apostle Paul delivers heartfelt compliments to the believers in Rome, despite never having met them. Paul's message is more than just praise; it's a demonstration of the roles we should embrace within the body of Christ. Join Stephen Davey as he explores how Paul exemplifies wearing different "hats" of helpfulness in his ministry—roles that we, too, can adopt to strengthen and support one another in our faith journeys. Paul dons the hat of an encourager, recognizing the goodness, knowledge, and instructive abilities of the Roman believers. This is followed by his role as a professor, reminding them of important truths they may already know but need to revisit. He then becomes a preacher, emphasizing the grace given to him to minister to the Gentiles, and finally, Paul takes on the hat of a minister, serving with self-sacrificial love and dedication, much like the medical pioneer Dr. Evan Kane, who demonstrated his commitment by performing surgery on himself to prove a point and save lives. Through these various roles, Paul models the essence of a servant-leader, showing us that making a difference in the world involves more than just knowledge or position; it requires a heart willing to serve and sacrifice for others. Tune in to discover how you can apply these principles in your own life, wearing different hats of helpfulness for the glory of God and the benefit of those around you.

Money is the reward rendered for usefulness rendered. Barons pick businesses that raise the lives of billions of human beings. Which, in turn, makes them billions in income. This is what my new book “The Wealth Money Can't Buy” is all about. Real wealth versus fake success. True winning versus spending your life climbing a mountain, only to find out at the end that it was the wrong one. You can order it now by clicking here.FOLLOW ROBIN SHARMA:InstagramFacebookTwitterYouTube

Helpfulness ~ People dislike me for being helpful. Listen to caller's personal dramas four times each week as Dr. Kenner takes your calls and questions on parenting, romance, love, family, marriage, divorce, hobbies, career, mental health - any personal issue! Call anytime, toll free 877-Dr-Kenner. Visit www.drkenner.com for more information about the show.

LESSON 67Love Created Me Like Itself.Today's idea is a complete and accurate statement of what you are. This is why you are the light of the world. This is why God appointed you as the world's savior. This is why the Son of God looks to you for his salvation. He is saved by what you are. We will make every effort today to reach this truth about you, and to realize fully, if only for a moment, that it is the truth.In the longer practice period, we will think about your reality and its wholly unchanged and unchangeable nature. We will begin by repeating this truth about you, and then spend a few minutes adding some relevant thoughts, such as:Holiness created me holy.Kindness created me kind.Helpfulness created me helpful.Perfection created me perfect.Any attribute which is in accord with God as He defines Himself is appropriate for use. We are trying today to undo your definition of God and replace it with His Own. We are also trying to emphasize that you are part of His definition of Himself.After you have gone over several such related thoughts, try to let all thoughts drop away for a brief preparatory interval, and then try to reach past all your images and preconceptions about yourself to the truth in you. If Love created you like Itself, this Self must be in you. And somewhere in your mind It is there for you to find.You may find it necessary to repeat the idea for today from time to time to replace distracting thoughts. You may also find that this is not sufficient, and that you need to continue adding other thoughts related to the truth about yourself. Yet perhaps you will succeed in going past that, and through the interval of thoughtlessness to the awareness of a blazing light in which you recognize yourself as Love created you. Be confident that you will do much today to bring that awareness nearer, whether you feel you have succeeded or not.It will be particularly helpful today to practice the idea for the day as often as you can. You need to hear the truth about yourself as frequently as possible, because your mind is so preoccupied with false self-images. Four or five times an hour, and perhaps even more, it would be most beneficial to remind yourself that Love created you like Itself. Hear the truth about yourself in this.Try to realize in the shorter practice periods that this is not your tiny, solitary voice that tells you this. This is the Voice for God, reminding you of your Father and of your Self. This is the Voice of truth, replacing everything that the ego tells you about yourself with the simple truth about the Son of God. You were created by Love like Itself.- Jesus Christ in ACIM

LESSON 67Love Created Me Like Itself.Today's idea is a complete and accurate statement of what you are. This is why you are the light of the world. This is why God appointed you as the world's savior. This is why the Son of God looks to you for his salvation. He is saved by what you are. We will make every effort today to reach this truth about you, and to realize fully, if only for a moment, that it is the truth.In the longer practice period, we will think about your reality and its wholly unchanged and unchangeable nature. We will begin by repeating this truth about you, and then spend a few minutes adding some relevant thoughts, such as:Holiness created me holy.Kindness created me kind.Helpfulness created me helpful.Perfection created me perfect.Any attribute which is in accord with God as He defines Himself is appropriate for use. We are trying today to undo your definition of God and replace it with His Own. We are also trying to emphasize that you are part of His definition of Himself.After you have gone over several such related thoughts, try to let all thoughts drop away for a brief preparatory interval, and then try to reach past all your images and preconceptions about yourself to the truth in you. If Love created you like Itself, this Self must be in you. And somewhere in your mind It is there for you to find.You may find it necessary to repeat the idea for today from time to time to replace distracting thoughts. You may also find that this is not sufficient, and that you need to continue adding other thoughts related to the truth about yourself. Yet perhaps you will succeed in going past that, and through the interval of thoughtlessness to the awareness of a blazing light in which you recognize yourself as Love created you. Be confident that you will do much today to bring that awareness nearer, whether you feel you have succeeded or not.It will be particularly helpful today to practice the idea for the day as often as you can. You need to hear the truth about yourself as frequently as possible, because your mind is so preoccupied with false self-images. Four or five times an hour, and perhaps even more, it would be most beneficial to remind yourself that Love created you like Itself. Hear the truth about yourself in this.Try to realize in the shorter practice periods that this is not your tiny, solitary voice that tells you this. This is the Voice for God, reminding you of your Father and of your Self. This is the Voice of truth, replacing everything that the ego tells you about yourself with the simple truth about the Son of God. You were created by Love like Itself.- Jesus Christ in ACIM

Ola King started his career as a music producer, learning SEO along the way to help promote his songs and score millions of views. In addition to hosting several MozCon events, Ola practiced as a UX Researcher at Moz before transitioning into independent consulting. Search experience optimization is more valuable than ever before. Discover what metrics to be most attentive to when prioritizing UX, and learn why user experience is key to achieving sustainable SEO this week on the EDGE!    Key Segments: [00:03:45] Introducing Ola King [00:05:27] Ola's Rise into the Industry [00:17:34] EDGE of the Web Title Sponsor: Site Strategics [00:18:20] AI's Role in Search [00:21:38] Is SEO Dead?  [00:26:03] Prioritizing User Experience [00:32:345] EDGE of The Web Sponsor: Wix  [00:33:46] What Role Does User Experience Play in Determining Content's Helpfulness?  [00:34:46] What Metrics Should you Focus on to Grow Search Experience? Thanks to Our Sponsors! Site Strategics: http://edgeofthewebradio.com/site   Hostinger: https://edgeofthewebradio.com/hostinger Wix: http://edgeofthewebradio.com/wix Follow Our Guest Twitter: https://twitter.com/justolaking LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/olaking

This week we are looking at a gift so overlooked that we may literally have forgotten it exists! Yet, we have all loved and appreciated those who have it and are used by God to bless others with their gift.

This week we are looking at a gift so overlooked that we may literally have forgotten it exists! Yet, we have all loved and appreciated those who have it and are used by God to bless others with their gift.

In this week's episode we praise Diet Chick Fil A lemonade. It really is that good. We chat about some other fast food faves before diving into our weekly updates and chatting about Laura's trip to Vegas. For our wellness updates, Laura discusses how her weight loss journey has affected her vacations and Steph talks about influencers who aren't being honest about their weight loss and how they are getting there.  FOTW // Laura - @stayfitmom_krista on Instagram; Steph - Omax Health Cryofreeze CBD Pain Relief Roll-On Shop past FOTW here. WE HAVE MERCH and a new WOM sticker, order here! Numerous styles, colors, and sizes available for shirts and sweatshirts. Join our Facebook group, Club Wine Over Matter and follow us on Instagram - @WineOverMatterPod, @CrunchesBeforeBrunches, and @AuthenticallySteph! You can also find us on TikTok, @WineOverMatterPod! Thanks for supporting us and our sponsors! Music used in this week's episode provided by Uppbeat (License code: HC5SSAI4EHNGWR2) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/wineovermatter/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/wineovermatter/support

A little boy learns to look for ways to help.

The game of leadership is helpfulness.  It's easier to serve more people, innovate beautifully and lead your field in hard times versus easier ones because so many people are scared. The producer that helps the most humans wins, regardless of economic volatility. So make it your obsession to deliver outright magic to your clients.  If you'd like so much more information like this to keep you focused on your mission in these trying times along with science-backed insights and daily practices to increase your happiness, performance and peacefulness......Go ahead and read my latest book The Everyday Hero Manifesto. It's become a worldwide phenomenon because it works. Period.FOLLOW ROBIN SHARMA:InstagramFacebookTwitterYouTube 

Winning is growing more leaders by shining a light on the gifts and talents of everyone around you—and then enthusiastically helping these humans to step into the promise they've been built to be.If you'd like to learn the tools, habits and daily routines of warriors, billionaires, sages and superstars then read (or listen to) The Everyday Hero Manifesto today. It's a life-changing book. Get it here.FOLLOW ROBIN SHARMA:InstagramFacebookTwitterYouTube

Jake Dworkis is a seasoned marketing professional currently serving as the Vice President of B2B Marketing at iHeartMedia, a leading global media and entertainment company. Based in New York, Jake is instrumental in shaping and executing innovative marketing strategies that drive business growth and enhance brand visibility. In this episode, Jake shares his strategic approach to enhancing sales verticals within the business, showcasing the intrinsic value his department offers to other internal departments, and so much more.

Money is the reward rendered for usefulness rendered. Barons pick businesses that raise the lives of billions of human beings. Which, in turn, makes them billions in income.If you'd like to learn the tools, habits and daily routines of warriors, billionaires, sages and superstars then read (or listen to) The Everyday Hero Manifesto today. It's a life-changing book. Get it here.FOLLOW ROBIN SHARMA:InstagramFacebookTwitterYouTube

This podcast is a short daily audio provided by the online recovery group Transitions Daily. The daily distribution consists of different recovery quotes from various resources, including; Twenty-Four Hours a Day, A.A. Thought for the Day, Daily Reflections, Big Book Quote, Just for Today, As Bill Sees It, plus more! Transitions Daily also distributes this same content in a daily email with a secret Facebook group for discussion. Go to www.DailyAAEmails.com for more information.   Do you want to stop drinking? Have you ever listened to sobriety podcasts? Does alcoholism or addiction run in your family? Have you tried Alcoholics Anonymous or the 12 Steps of A.A.? Are you considering how to get sober? Are you seriously thinking about sobriety for the first time? Is alcohol controlling your life as never before? If so, you will definitely want to check out this recovery podcast.

"It is often easier to worship Jesus than to live like Jesus." Sermon by Roy Cole, recorded live at the 10:00am service on Sunday, October 1, 2023.

Podcast 357: Stories from the 60s, Part 1 Today's podcast will be a little different. I had the good fortune to be alive in Palo Alto, California during the late 1960s. For me, it was a magical era of happenings, the Haight-Ashbury District in San Francisco, psychedelics, war protests, civil rights activity, cool music, learning about life, and cutting an awful lot of medical school classes! But what I learned on the streets was far more valuable in my later career as a psychiatrist, working with real people with real problems, than anything I learned in medical school. It was an era of magic, to be honest. In fact, to me, California has always had the feel of magic. And that magic is still alive and well, happening every day, at least in my life. Let me know if you like these stories. I shared them at my weekly Stanford training group, and publish the recording of that evening's training session here, with trepidation. Some of the stories are pretty far out. If you like them, and want more, I have a lot more, which I've listed below. Just let me know, and I'll gladly start babbling again. . .  IF I haven't been arrested! If you'd like to see one of the R-rated but gorgeous Larry Keenan photos taken at my “Uptightness” happening, you can see it at this link: Look for the photo called “The Kiss.” https://www.larrykeenan.com/prints Larry Keenan, a brilliant young commercial photographer at the time, attended my “uptightness” happening and took many fantastic photos that day. Larry became a famed photographer of many of the greats of the “Hippy Era,” like Bob Dylan, Neil Cassady, Lawrence Ferlinghetti, and a host of others. Sadly, Larry passed away several years ago, but I will always be grateful to him for the gorgeous and now-famous photos he created that day in the infamous but glorious 60's! Warmly, david Part 1 (in this podcast) Psychodrama / encounter David gets put down: Rob Krist's encounter group The return of tears: My first psychodrama marathon The pompous professor: False front / tragic surprise Spiritual Desert experience: Sadness as celebration Dating / Relationships / R-Rated Having fun and making a movie: "Uptightness”   Part 2 (not yet recorded: let me  know if you'd like a Part 2!) More Stanford stories not yet covered: let me know if interested! Husain Chung and the crazy teen from LA: When a stallion wants to run A frightening encounter with Vic Lovell: And a mentor's advice Threats from unwanted guests: Fighting back with paradox Bar next to the Free University Coffee House: Outrageous works, even with Hell's Angels Inside the Free University Coffee House: How I met my wife The day we bombed Cambodia: Triggering a riot at Stanford, beaten by police, motorcycle smashed to bits, handcuffed, arrest announced on the campus radio station, escaped The bearded man on the quad near the Stanford student union—Telling me to “sit with open hands” Ken Kesey and his merry pranksters in the Stanford student union—they were dressed in pajamas or clown outfits and Neil Cassady was juggling hammers) The tape recorder experiment: Bizarre week, unexpected conclusion Medical School Stanford medical school interview: Unexpected outcome The day that Gene Altman and I attended class: Totally weird Broken jaw: Anger, fear, and intense pain that suddenly vanished Getting kicked out of neuropathology class Encounter at the Medical School: Psychiatry and Psychotherapy—Are they Relevant or Obsolete? Featuring Hussain Chung Missing graduation ceremony: Didn't pick up my diploma until years later Homeless in Carmel Valley: Saved by Ramadan, Subud Re-entry: The Highland Hospital Emergency Room Dr. Allen Barbour's Medical Outpatient Clinic Hidden emotion 1: One of Stanford's first coronary artery bypass patients Hidden emotion 2: Doc, what happened? I'm not dizzy anymore! Hidden emotion 3: Help! I need emergency surgery NOW!   Here's the Stanford group feedback from group after telling stories 1 – 5 Positive Feelings about the Training   Not at all true Somewhat true Moderately true Very true Completely true N/A 1. I felt I could trust my trainer. 0 0 0 0 17 1 My trainer paid careful attention to what I said 0 0 0 0 7 11 My trainer critiqued my work in a sensitive manner. 0 0 0 0 7 11 I felt good about the training I received. 0 0 0 0 17 1 Overall, I was satisfied with my most recent training session. 0 0 0 0 17 1 Negative Feelings during Training   Not at all true Somewhat true Moderately true Very true Completely true Sometimes I felt uncomfortable during the training. 18 0 0 0 0 Sometimes I felt defensive during the training. 18 0 0 0 0 Sometimes I felt frustrated during the training. 18 0 0 0 0 Sometimes I felt anxious during the training. 18 0 0 0 0 Sometimes I felt insecure during the training. 16 2 0 0 0 Helpfulness of the Training   Not at all true Somewhat true Moderately true Very true Completely true N/A I expect to use these ideas with patients I am now treating 0 0 2 1 11 4 What I am learning seems useful in my clinical training. 0 0 1 2 13 2 My trainer and I are working together effectively. 0 0 0 2 10 6 The training was helpful to me. 0 0 0 1 16 1 I felt I was learning and growing during the training session. 0 0 0 1 16 1 Respectfulness and Safety of the Training   Not at all True Somewhat true Moderately true Very true Completely true N/A My trainer was sensitive to potentially relevant cultural, racial, religious, age, gender, or sexual identity issues that might impact the therapy. 1 0 2 0 13 2 My trainer created a safe and warm space for all identities. 1 0 1 0 14 2 Difficulties with the Questionnaire   Not at all true Somewhat true Moderately true Very true Completely true It was hard to be completely honest answering some questions. 16 1 0 0 1 My answers weren't always completely honest. 16 1 0 0 1 Sometimes I did not answer the way I really felt inside. 16 1 0 0 1   Please describe what you specifically disliked about the training? What could have been improved? Were there some things you disagreed with or did not understand? Nothing N/A Was too short na I'm starting to catch on to the fact that David has read more than 3 books... Nerd. :) It is funny coming from David and I believe he used it affectionally... most of use won't get away with the term "Chainaman" perhaps Asian American Loved the group tonight n/a Nothing I disliked. My answer of "somewhat insecure" from above was about my comments and whether they were helpful or "good enough." Please describe what you specifically liked about the training? What was the most helpful? Were there some things you learned? I really enjoyed learning from David's stories. Thank you for sharing these personal stories with us. I had been looking forward to the evening's stories but I didn't know emotional and impactful they would be. I was especially touched by David's & Cai's tears and appreciate how much they both shared. It had to be especially difficult to share over Zoom because sometimes it can sound flat. With most people muted it can be hard to hear the feedback from the audience but the connection still felt very powerful. I truly appreciate your openness and willingness to show your vulnerable side. Just like many others, I was deeply moved by your heartfelt tears as you shared stories about the woman you believed would succumb to cancer, your beautiful encounter with your wife Sara, and the journey of creating "Uptightness." You didn't have to let us into those deeply intimate and personal experiences, and for that, I am genuinely grateful. This was absolutely amazing! It couldn't have been more special. Thank you Dr Burns! You are a national treasure and gift to us all. Can't wait for the podcast so that I can re-live it exposure and being uncomfortable with adult stuff so silly but real for me I was touched by the depth of emotion David manifested in telling some of the stories, his deep compassion and humility, and the reality of celebration of sadness. I liked feeling closer to David both from his sharing deep feelings and by his telling about life events like how he met Melanie. It was cool to have stories illustrating powerful lessons and even some that illustrate the mundane (e.g. mostly not a lot happened when David spent a week disclosing every feeling). What a wonderful night. These stories brought that time period alive for me, and having not lived through that era, that was a real treat. The only thing I was surprised about, and a bit sad, was seeing that David appeared to be a little self-conscious or something. David, I hope I can reassure you that even though I was silent and didn't have any questions, you had my full attention. It was like watching a profound and entertaining movie. - Ed W I really loved hearing about the spiritual connections with others that you had, David. I also loved seeing the photos afterward and you showing us who you were talking about in your stories. What a beautiful, magical time! Some very interesting and very touching stories. Made me feel closer to the group and gave some insights into the 60s and the development of TEAM CBT That was beautiful. More and more I'm convinced therapy is art verified by science. This very human tradition of telling stories is so important to our work as therapists/people. I enjoyed this greatly. A two hour work of art I was fortunate enough to have experienced. Thank you, much love. It was mesmerizing and holy God listening to the stories now I understand how he could have come up with such an amazing Tool It was lovely to travel back in time and get snap shots of David's live in the 60s. I appreciated the tender moments of sadness and also the spiritual mystical moments. I like David even more knowing that his calling was to council people, and the journey he has taken to become a conventional healer. It is an honor to be part of this training, almost feels like a type of lineage. I mostly found it just very enjoyable and fun and salacious. But I also liked the tears and the parts about people hiding their suffering and how we all really suffer but often have a hard time showing it. That was beautiful. Fabulous! How wonderful to learn more about David, learn about his "weird" past and shadow side, and share in his authentic expression of intense feelings. He really opened up and it did make me feel closer to him! The desert story was inspirational to me, and Cai's story as well...I, too, love the book Siddartha. Interesting to learn of the origins of techniques such as Externalization of Voices and Downward Arrow. Really contextualizes it for me. Not to mention bringing the "magic" of California in the 60s back to life. Thank you! Left me yearning for more! It was a spellbinding evening, and it felt to me like we were right there with you, David, in the desert seeing the multicolored clouds with our tears flowing, or at the psychodrama marathon crying for the woman who was dying, or on in a field with you and lots of naked ladies at the "Uptightness" event. And now it makes so much sense to me how your methods like EoV and the Downward Arrow all grew out of these experiences you shared with us tonight of tapping deeply into that River of Emotions that you talk about. Thank you, David, for sharing this with us! Seeing David's tears. Love him even more. Learned so much from the stories I liked this evening very much. I felt very close to you, David, and to the others who shared, and I felt honored to be a part of it. There were so many good stories. I think your story of being in the desert and the woman suddenly giving up drinking might be an example of a powerful prayer-- I know it sounds pretty goofy and I would have thought so too when I was an atheist not long ago, but I've had some experiences that have really led me to believe some seemingly goofy things. Please describe what you learned in today's group12 responses It was such a moving & emotional evening filled with incredible stories, some of which seem too wild to be true but you certainly had the pictures to back it up! Even though I'd been working with the pictures they really came to life after hearing the context and learning more about the people in them. Thank you! It was terrific to hear the origin story of the greatest psychotherapy approach ever developed the founding go team cbt I learned it is unnecessary to be uptight except for cinematic purposes. We are all connected and affect each other on an energetic level

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How Skillful is your Shrink! Now you can find out! The Exciting Recovery Coefficient-- and the FEAR the grips the hearts of the therapists who are afraid to use it! People often wonder how skillful or effective their therapist is, but until now, there was no very valid or precise way to know. But now there is, and it has fantastic implications for psychotherapy. Today, we feature an interview with Kevin Cornelius, a therapist at the Feeling Good Institute in Mountain View, California.  Kevin Cornelius is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice at Feeling Good Institute, with in-person counseling for teens .Kevin is a Certified Level 4 Advanced TEAM-CBT Therapist and Trainer. I asked Kevin to write a brief description of his evolution from a career in acting to his career as a shrink. Here's what he wrote: After many years of working as an actor I was ready for a change. After some painful personal events, I saw a therapist who was quite helpful to me. She helped me see that changing to a career as a therapist could be a great thing for me. I went to school and got my Master's in Marriage and Family Therapy. Just before I began applying for internships to complete licensure, I learned that the children's theatre group I had grown up in was looking for a new supervisor to lead the group following the death of its beloved founder and leader. This was a wonderful opportunity for me to use my theatre skills and my desire to help young people in their growth and development. I was very fortunate to be hired and worked as the director of the children's theatre group for 19 years. Towards the end of my years with the children's theatre, I was ready for a change and thought it might be time for me to finish getting my therapy license. It had been 15 years since I had worked with a patient in a therapy session, so I had a lot to learn! I was so lucky to discover David Burns and his amazing TEAM-CBT. The testing element of TEAM enabled me to see right away where I needed to improve so I could focus my efforts on improving specific skills. Being able to study with David in his Tuesday group at Stanford was a golden opportunity. Here was a framework designed to make therapy as effective as possible being taught (for free!) by one of the world's greatest therapists. I'm so happy I followed David's advice to get involved at Feeling Good Institute while I was still pre-licensed. Learning TEAM while I was completing the process to earn my license as a therapist enabled me to start my career in private practice with confidence and a stable foundation. Now, I get to continue learning from mentors at Feeling Good Institute, from the wonderful Feeling Good Podcast, and the valuable lessons I get from my patients. I'll sum up my good fortune with a theatre reference and quote the Gershwins: "Who could ask for anything more?" Kevin recently made the courageous decision to find out exactly how he was doing as a therapist. And the results surprised him tremendously. Background Information for today's podcast Outcome studies with competing schools of psychotherapy in the treatment of depression have been disappointing. They all seem to come out about the same, slightly better than placebos, but not much. For example, in the British CoBalT study of 469 depressed patients treated with antidepressants vs antidepressants plus CBT, only 44% of the patients treated with antidepressants plus CBT experienced a 50% improvement in depression after six months of treatment, and the multi-year follow-up results weren't any better. This was better than the patients treated with antidepressants alone, (only 22% experienced a 50% improvement), but still—to my way of thinking—very poor. We see more improvement than that in just one day in patients using the Feeling Good App. Here are just two of many online references to that landmark study: https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lanpsy/article/PIIS2215-0366(15)00495-2/fulltext https://www.thelancet.com/pdfs/journals/lanpsy/PIIS2215-0366(15)00495-2.pdf Because of the disappointing results of research on the so-called "schools" of psychotherapy, the focus is switching, to some extent, to the effects of individual therapists, since even within a school of therapy, there can be huge differences in therapists' effectiveness. Some therapists seem to have the proverbial “green thumb,” with many patients improving rapidly, while others seem much less effective. Is there a way to measure this? Now there is! And do patients have a right to know how effective their shrinks are? That's what I'm proposing! For at least twenty years or more, I've been trying to sell therapists on my Brief Mood Survey with every patient at every session. That's because you can see exactly and immediately how depressed, anxious, or angry, etc. your patient was at the start and end of today's session. This allows therapists to see, for the first time, exactly how much the patient improved in various dimensions within the session, as well as how much the patient relapsed or continued to improve between sessions. Here's a simple example. To make things really clear, let's imagine that your depression test goes from 0 (not at all depressed) to 100 (the worst depression imaginable, and your patient has an 80 at the start of today's session. That would indicate a horrendously severe depression, similar to patients hospitalized with depression. And yet, your patient might be functioning effectively, and might appear reasonably happy. So, bonus #1, you can see exactly how your patient was feeling at the start of the session. You might think of the BMS as an “emotional X-ray machine.” Now, let's assume you have an excellent session, and feel like you're clicking with the patient, and the patient scores 40 on the end-of-session BMS. That would be a phenomenal 50% improvement. Of course, a score of 40 means that the patient is still moderately depressed, and has a way to go, still the goal is a score of 0 on the depression test and a huge boost in the patient's score on the happiness test on the BMS. Keep in mind that in the dozens of psychotherapy outcome studies that have been published worldwide, the very highest levels of improvement in months and months of therapy are  never higher than this. So, I call this the Recovery Coefficient (RC), and it is a very precise measure of any therapist's effectiveness in treating anything you can measure accurately. In an informal study of de-identified data of more than 10,000 therapy sessions at a local treatment center about two years ago. I discovered that the RC the first time therapists met with their patients predicted the improvement over the entire course of therapy. In addition, different therapists had vastly different initial RC scores, which can range from -100% in a single session (meaning a complete elimination of symptoms)  to +100% in a single session (meaning severe worsening.) Sadly, because all patient or therapist identifying information was removed to protect identities, I had no way of letting the therapists know their skill levels! But today, we are joined by a therapist who had the guts to calculate his RC in ten patients to see how he was doing. He was initial incredibly demoralize with his percent reductions (RC) of 45% for depression and 47% for anxiety in 50 minute sessions,  He reasoned that a 44% in a class would be a failing grade, but I pointed out that this isn't the right comparison. After all, if you had a contract to build the Brooklyn Bridge, and could complete nearly half of it in 50 minutes, you'd be doing something incredibly amazing. Kevin's Depression and Anxiety Recovery Coefficient Calculations     Depression Anxiety Empathy 1 Before 6 14 20 After 3 1   % Change -50.00% -92.86%       Depression Anxiety Empathy 2 Before 5 6 20 After 1 3   % Change -80.00% -50.00%       Depression Anxiety Empathy 3 Before 12 10 20 After 9 9   % Change -25.00% -10.00%       Depression Anxiety Empathy 4 Before 10 5 20 After 5 3   % Change -50.00% -40.00%       Depression Anxiety Empathy 5 Before 5 9 18 After 3 5   % Change -40.00% -44.44%       Depression Anxiety Empathy 6 Before 18 15 20 After 10 9   % Change -44.44% -40.00%       Depression Anxiety Empathy 7 Before 14 12 20 After 10 6   % Change -28.57% -50.00%       Depression Anxiety Empathy 8 Before 2 9 18 After 4 5   % Change 50.00% -44.44%       Depression Anxiety Empathy 9 Before 2 1 20 After 0 1   % Change -100.00% 0.00%       Depression Anxiety Empathy 10 Before 6 5 20 After 1 0   % Change -83.33% -100.00%       Depression Anxiety Empathy Recovery Coefficient   -45.13% -47.17% 19.6                     And indeed, Kevin's scores actually showed he was outperforming all the published outcome studies on depression by a factor of several hundred. Which was, I think, a well-deserved pleasant shock to his system! I've always had tremendous admiration and respect for Keven because of his obvious great skill and intelligence combined with world-class compassion and humility. In addition, patients complete the Evaluation of Therapy Session (ETS) immediately after the session, and rate the therapist on Empathy, Helpfulness, and other crucially important dimensions. Kevin's Empathy score was 19.6 (96.5%), indicating near perfect empathy ratings from his patients. This is extremely impressive, since most therapists get failing Empathy scores from nearly all of their patients when they start using the ETS scales. However, what was really cool is that Kevin brought the Daily Mood Log he prepared prior to the podcast. As you can see if you check the link, recording his intense negative feelings and self-critical thoughts when he initially completed his calculations. This helps to explain the fear that so many therapists—nearly all—feel when it comes to being accountable for the first time in the history of psychotherapy. Here's what he was telling himself: I'm not doing well enough. I'm fooling myself. I'm letting my patients down. I'm a fraud. I should be better. I should charge less. I suck! During the podcast, we used some TEAM-CBT to deal with these concerns live, in real time, using Positive Reframing, Identify the Distortions, Examine the Evidence, and Externalization of Voices to smash these thoughts. If you'd like to see the Positive Reframing Table he brought to the session, you can check here. In Kevin's case, the RC calculations, which are simple and only take a minute, gave him a huge gift—the confirmation of his immense technical therapeutic skills as well as his empathy. But what if you're not like Kevin, and you discover that your RCs are not so great, and that your Empathy ratings are in the failing range. Isn't that kind of terrible? Well, it depends on how big your ego is, and how motivated you are to improve. I've gotten plenty of horrible ratings on the ETS, and have had lots of sessions with poor outcomes, including sessions when I wrongly believed I was doing a great job. It DOES hurt. But over the years, my patients have dramatically shaped my therapy approach, and have become my greatest teachers by far. I now enjoy pretty tremendous outcomes with the vast majority of the people I treat, but could never have improved without the constant feedback. Psychotherapy skills are a lot like athletic workouts, and they say, “no pain, no gain.” This is definitely just as true for shrinks. Are you a shrink? Do you have the courage to check out your skills? Here are a couple more random comments. Over the years I've seen the scores of many therapists in training, and many established shrinks in the community. And sometimes I've been surprised that some of the big name, flashy people were actually very unskilled in real therapy situations. And I've also seen that some of the giants of our field, were humble, kindly individuals, like Kevin, who were quietly working miracles, but not even realizing it. And I also had this brainstorm. If you're a patient, and your shrink refuses to use the BMS and ETS, for whatever reason, you could take the test prior to and after each session, and calculate your therapist's Empathy Scores and Recovery Coefficient scores. Mmm. I am thinking there might be a business model in here somewhere! Like a website where you could take the tests and get all the calculations automatically. And maybe that type of information could be published... After all, wouldn't patients LOVE to have this information BEFORE going to a new shrink for treatment. And isn't that EXACTLY where our field should be moving? Accountability and transparency? I hope you enjoyed meeting the incredible Kevin Cornelius today. Thank you for listening and supporting our Feeling Good Podcasts! Warmly, david

Yikes! Do I REALLY have to share my feelings?  Last week, we featured Part 1 of a live therapy session with Keren Shemesh, PhD,  a licensed clinical psychologist who began having intense panic attacks when her mother and father visited from Israel.  Today, we feature the exciting conclusion of that session, with follow-up. If you are interested, you can listen to the follow-up with Keren and Jill who joined us st the end of today's podcast. They comment on the session as well as the details of what happened following the session. I (David) raised the question of why so many of us have trouble being honest and open with our feelings, especially anger. Jill suggested that it might be due to the false dichotomy people see, contrasting aggression with love. But you can be honest and loving at the same time, including when you express feelings of anger. Of course, we make the Five Secrets of Effective Communication sound easy, but these powerful tools actually require an enormous level of skill as well as commitment. Part 2 of the Keren session: M = Methods We began the Methods part of the session with a bit more Paradoxical Agenda Setting, and listed some really GOOD reasons NOT to open up more to her mother. I want to protect her because it may be hard and upsetting to her. I'm not used to being vulnerable with my parents. I don't want to rock the boat or change the status quo. I'm not sure I want a closer relationship with my mother. NOTE: David and Jill were thinking that we often resist intimacy because we have negative pictures in our mind of what real closeness is. For example, if you think it means something yucky and upsetting, you obviously won't want to get “close.” Jill tried to finesse around this by suggesting Keren might aim for a more “honest” relationship instead of a “closer” relationship. There are things about me that they've rejected, like the fact that I don't really want children. And I'm not so sure I want to make myself vulnerable and get rejected again! I'm afraid I'll get swallowed up and enmeshed. We asked Keren what kinds of feelings she was hiding from her mother. My feelings of nervousness and intense anxiety, and the intense somatic symptoms, like the knot in my stomach. I am scared for her future, since she is not in good health and she's not taking care of herself. I have feelings of anger and resentment about the fact that I'm not the kind of daughter they wanted. I'm sad about her health and seeing her struggle. I feel hurt when I think how I have failed them and let them down. I sometimes feel like I don't really belong. At this point, I became so absorbed in the session that I stopped taking notes, so you will have to listen carefully to the recording of the session which was fascinating. I do recall, however, that we began working on communication, using the Five Secrets of Effective Communication (LINK), as well as tips on how to proceed, taking it one step at a time and not trying to do it all at once, and role playing practice. Then we did some Externalization of Voices with the thoughts on Keren's Daily Mood Log, using several strategies: Self-Defense, the Acceptance Paradox, and the CAT, or Counter-Attack Technique. You can see the Daily Mood Log she completed after the session, based on the work we did in the session, at this LINK. Keren's end-or-session Brief Mood Survey and Evaluation of Therapy Session In addition, Keren and Jill will be with us to record the follow-up. T = End-of-Session Testing You can review Keren's BMS and EOTS (Patient's Evaluation of Therapy Session) at the end of the session at this LINK. Keren's end-or-session Brief Mood Survey and Evaluation of Therapy Session As you can see, her depression score fell to 1, indicating substantial improvement, while her suicidal thoughts and urges remained at 0. Her feelings of anxiety vanished, but her feelings of anger remained fairly elevated, falling from 7 to 4. We would not expect further improvement in this dimension until she's had the chance to share more of her feelings with her mom. Her feelings of happiness only increased from 10 to 13, again any further improvement would not be expected until she's had the chance to do her “homework” following the session. However, her satisfaction with her relationship with her mom increased from 19 to 26 out of 30, which is substantial, while still leaving some room for improvement. On the EOTs, you will see that our Empathy and Helpfulness scores were perfect, along with our scores on the Satisfaction with Session, Commitment to homework, unexpressed Negative Feelings, and honesty scales. Here's what she like “the least” about the session: “Nothing. This has been a powerful experience.” Here's what she like “the best” about the session: “This has been empowering. The hidden emotion is like a blind spot. I know it is there, but I cannot see it. I loved when David pointed to my avoidance, and I am glad we focused on the hidden emotion. Jill and David were able to see the depth in situation and I feel seen and understood.” Follow-Up We exchanged a number of emails following the session, and will also talk to Keren and Jill live on the podcast so you can catch up on what happened. But here is an excerpt from one of Keren's emails: Here is what has happened so far: On Friday morning, she made some comments about my gray hair and that the fridge gasket was not properly clean. I got really annoyed, but did not say anything. To be honest, I was too angry to use the 5 secrets and needed time to cool off. About after half an hour later, on our way to the acupuncturist, I told her that I love having her over and that it is special to me that we spend time together. She thanked me for everything that I am doing for her on this trip. Then I added: "this morning, when I came to check on you, you commented on my hair and then you told me to clean the fridge gasket..." I was going to follow up with 5 secrets, but before I was able to finish, she interrupted me and said "Gosh, I am so critical! I am sorry, I didn't mean it that way. I can see now why your sister gets upset with me. I can't believe myself." I told her that I love her honesty and while her criticism comes from a caring loving place the how and when she says things sets tone. This was a breakthrough because even though I did not finish using the 5 secrets I got through to her and felt heard. It was encouraging for me to feel that I could be understood and accepted by her.  I have clients who say that they love the 5 secrets, but like to call it the 3 secrets because they find it effective enough to use only 3. (I still encouraged them to use all 5). I can see now what they mean, I did not finish my 5 secrets spiel and got some good results. I believe that my conservation with my mother will further trickle during her stay. Perhaps because there is a lot to cover, or perhaps it's the way we communicate. In either case, I feel good about having the talks that I previously dreaded. I have not had any panic attacks since, but I don't think they have completely gone. I believe they will be there to remind me to address certain emotions that need addressing.. . . I will keep you posted and may even send this to the group. Just need to think about it a bit longer. Responses from the Tuesday Group who observed our work with Keren Here are just a few of the comments from the 35 therapists who observed the session. This is part of the feedback we get on the quality of our teaching at the end of every Tuesday training group. Please describe what you specifically disliked about the training/ Nothing. The live work was fascinating to watch. David and Jill were masterful as always! This was a truly moving and inspiring and helpful session. I can't think of anything I didn't like about it. Nothing I disliked. I think I would have liked to see Keren do more deliberate practice with the 5 secrets with grading and more roleplaying. Conceptualization was a bit hard to follow. Please describe what you specifically liked about the training. Thank you for such an authentic, moving, beautiful session. And tour-de-force demonstration of TEAM therapy. Observing David and Jill as co therapists in service of Keren was an amazing learning opportunity! The power between them was exponential and felt like they successfully addressed every angle. . .  I had not considered using EOV and loved how effective that was in crushing Keren's thoughts. I also loved how Jill finessed gently guiding her to address Hidden Emotion, having clear conviction that this was where the "action" was. I can understand what Keren said that she wants to be closer but does not want to be enmeshed. I think that it helped us in our work with immigrants and those who live away from where they were born. The discussion about the desire to be a parent or not, was another aspect of the work that I really respected. Excellent class tonight! Keren's gift to the class was priceless and David and Jill's masterful teaching was outstanding as always. Thank you!!! I got to feel closer to her and to several group members through their sharing. David touched me with the notion that opening up to one's parents is an important gift that many of them don't get to receive. Thanks for listening today! Rhonda, Keren, Jill, and David

When the Hidden Emotion isn't Hidden! Today's podcast will feature a live therapy session on September 13, 2022 with Keren Shemesh, PhD,  a licensed clinical psychologist and certified TEAM-CBT therapist. The entire session was recorded and will be presented in two consecutive podcasts. The two co-therapists are Jill Levitt, PhD, a clinical psychologist, and Director of Clinical Training at the FeelingGoodInsititute.com. Part 1 of the Keren session I will summarize the work that Dr. Jill Levitt and I did with Keren according to the familiar sequence of a TEAM-CBT Session: T = Testing, E = Empathy, A = Assessment of Resistance (formerly Paradoxical Agenda Setting), and M = Methods, with a final round of T = end-of-session Testing. In today's podcast, we will include the T, E, and A. In Part 2, we will include M = Methods and the final T = Testing. T = Testing Just before the start of the session, Keren completed the Brief Mood Survey (BMS) which you can review at this link: Keren's Pre-Session BMS As you can see, her depression score was only 3 out of 20, indicating minimal to mild depression. There were no suicidal thoughts, and her anxiety score was 10 out of 20, indicating moderate anxiety. She was also moderately angry (7 out of 20) and her happiness score was 10 out of 20, indicating very little happiness. Her relationship satisfaction level with her mother was 19 out of 30, indicating lots of room for improvement. However, she rated “degree of affection and caring” at 6 for “very satisfied,” which is the highest rating on this important item. We will ask her to take the BMS again at the end of the session, along with the Evaluation of Therapy Session, so we can see what the impact of the session was on her symptoms, as well as how empathic and helpful we were during the session. These ratings will be important, because the perceptions of therapists can be way off base, but the perceptions of our patients will nearly always be spot-on. Keren also brought a partially completed Daily Mood Log, which you can see at this link: Keren's Daily Mood Log (DML) at the start of the session As you can see, the upsetting event was her mother's visit from Israel. She had moderately to severely elevated negative feelings in nine categories, along with 17 negative thoughts, along with her rather strong beliefs in all of them. Most of her thoughts were of a self-critical nature, with lots of Hidden Should Statements as well. E = Empathy At the start of our session, which took place in front of our Tuesday evening training group at Stanford, Keren described her struggles like this: On Wednesday I woke up at 3 AM with panic attacks, one after another, and no way of getting back to sleep. I get somatic symptoms, I felt weak, nauseated, with no strength, almost paralyzed, and emotionally unstable. This was four days after my mother arrived form Israel. In the last 20 years, she and my dad visited me only once, on my graduation. I always had to visit them in Israel every year and was frustrated they none came to visit me in the Bat Area. On my last visit in May, I expressed my frustration about them not visiting me. They took it to heart and made plans to come for the Jewish high Holidays. My mom arrived first a few days ago and It's my first time alone with her. She's a Jewish mom and she stresses me out. Of course, I was really excited when she first arrived, but after four days I feel overwhelmed. This is SO MUCH WORK! I feel sad. I'm afraid I won't be able to function. I just cannot seem to enjoy my time with her. I feel fragile, but I'm hiding it. She's 73, and the signs of aging are obvious now. She needs more care, and it's tough to see her aging. Dad has always been super athletic, and he's in great shape, but she doesn't exercise or take care of herself. She's frustrated about aging and is angry with us for not accepting her as she is. I don't want to seem unhappy. I'm overwhelmed and just feel bad! David and Jill empathized, and Jill emphasized how much her parents must love her, coming from such a great distance to be with her, but also acknowledged how hard it must be for them and for Keren to be living at such a great distance. Jill pointed out that one of the issues Keren may be struggling with is the belief that their time together should be fun and conflict-free, since the time is so precious. Keren continued: My biggest problem is that I feel I cannot be me when I'm around them . . . . They want me to be a different version of myself. . . . They want me to be a mother, and they want grandchildren. But I'm in the 5% of women who don't have any interest in having children. I'm 46 years old now, and I guess I could see myself adopting, but having a family is a big job, and I've never had the passion. So, I feel like I'm a disappointment to them. But we never talk about it. I sometimes feel invisible and unseen when I'm around them. They'd be so much prouder of me if I had children they could brag about. Keren also shared her frustration and anger with her mom for not taking better care of her health. Since her mom has been in town, Keren has arranged all kinds of fun activities for them to do together, but Keren's joy is dampened by the many unspoken feelings she is constantly trying to hide, for fear of conflict and upsetting her parents. A = Assessment of Resistance Keren gave us an A+ in Empathy, so we went on to the Assessment of Resistance phase of the session, where we set the Agenda. Keren's goal was to get over her panic attacks, and we discussed three possible treatment strategies with Keren: The Hidden Emotion Technique: This technique would be based on our hunch that Keren's panic attacks are the direct result of the many feelings she is consciously, and subconscious trying to hide and sweep under the rug. Dealing with the self-critical thoughts on the Daily Mood Log she provided at the start of the session. LINK Using Forced Empathy to help her see the world through her mother's eyes, as we did in a fairly recent podcast with Zeina, another member of our Tuesday training group who was in conflict with her mother. Keren expressed considerable enthusiasm for options 2 and 3. I (David) pointed out that she appeared to be ignoring / avoiding the first option, and raised the question of whether that meant it might be the most productive, but scariest, of the three options. Keren conceded that this rang true, and wanted to start out with learning to express her feelings more openly and directly, but in a respectful and loving way. In next week's podcast, you'll find out what happened! Part 2 of the Keren session: M = Methods We began the Methods part of the session with a bit more Paradoxical Agenda Setting, and listed some really GOOD reasons NOT to open up more to her mother. I want to protect her because it may be hard and upsetting to her. I'm not used to being vulnerable with my parents. I don't want to rock the boat or change the status quo. I'm not sure I want a closer relationship with my mother. NOTE: David and Jill were thinking that we often resist intimacy because we have negative pictures in our mind of what real closeness is. For example, if you think it means something yucky and upsetting, you obviously won't want to get “close.” Jill tried to finesse around this by suggesting Keren might aim for a more “honest” relationship instead of a “closer” relationship. There are things about me that they've rejected, like the fact that I don't really want children. And I'm not so sure I want to make myself vulnerable and get rejected again! I'm afraid I'll get swallowed up and enmeshed. We asked Keren what kinds of feelings she was hiding from her mother. My feelings of nervousness and intense anxiety, and the intense somatic symptoms, like the knot in my stomach. I am scared for her future, since she is not in good health and she's not taking care of herself. I have feelings of anger and resentment about the fact that I'm not the kind of daughter they wanted. I'm sad about her health and seeing her struggle. I feel hurt when I think how I have failed them and let them down. I sometimes feel like I don't really belong. At this point, I became so absorbed in the session that I stopped taking notes, so you will have to listen carefully to the recording of the session which was fascinating. I do recall, however, that we began working on communication, using the Five Secrets of Effective Communication (LINK), as well as tips on how to proceed, taking it one step at a time and not trying to do it all at once, and role playing practice. Then we did some Externalization of Voices with the thoughts on Keren's Daily Mood Log, using several strategies: Self-Defense, the Acceptance Paradox, and the CAT, or Counter-Attack Technique. You can see the Daily Mood Log she completed after the session, based on the work we did in the session, at this LINK. Keren's end-or-session Brief Mood Survey and Evaluation of Therapy Session In addition, Keren and Jill will be with us to record the follow-up. T = End-of-Session Testing You can review Keren's BMS and EOTS (Patient's Evaluation of Therapy Session) at the end of the session at this LINK. Keren's end-or-session Brief Mood Survey and Evaluation of Therapy Session As you can see, her depression score fell to 1, indicating substantial improvement, while her suicidal thoughts and urges remained at 0. Her feelings of anxiety vanished, but her feelings of anger remained fairly elevated, falling from 7 to 4. We would not expect further improvement in this dimension until she's had the chance to share more of her feelings with her mom. Her feelings of happiness only increased from 10 to 13, again any further improvement would not be expected until she's had the chance to do her “homework” following the session. However, her satisfaction with her relationship with her mom increased from 19 to 26 out of 30, which is substantial, while still leaving some room for improvement. On the EOTs, you will see that our Empathy and Helpfulness scores were perfect, along with our scores on the Satisfaction with Session, Commitment to homework, unexpressed Negative Feelings, and honesty scales. Here's what she like “the least” about the session: “Nothing. This has been a powerful experience.” Here's what she like “the best” about the session: “This has been empowering. The hidden emotion is like a blind spot. I know it is there, but I cannot see it. I loved when David pointed to my avoidance, and I am glad we focused on the hidden emotion. Jill and David were able to see the depth in situation and I feel seen and understood.” Follow-Up We exchanged a number of emails following the session, and will also talk to Keren and Jill live on the podcast so you can catch up on what happened. But here is an excerpt from one of Keren's emails: Here is what has happened so far: On Friday morning, she made some comments about my gray hair and that the fridge gasket was not properly clean. I got really annoyed, but did not say anything. To be honest, I was too angry to use the 5 secrets and needed time to cool off. About after half an hour later, on our way to the acupuncturist, I told her that I love having her over and that it is special to me that we spend time together. She thanked me for everything that I am doing for her on this trip. Then I added: "this morning, when I came to check on you, you commented on my hair and then you told me to clean the fridge gasket..." I was going to follow up with 5 secrets, but before I was able to finish, she interrupted me and said "Gosh, I am so critical! I am sorry, I didn't mean it that way. I can see now why your sister gets upset with me. I can't believe myself." I told her that I love her honesty and while her criticism comes from a caring loving place the how and when she says things sets tone. This was a breakthrough because even though I did not finish using the 5 secrets I got through to her and felt heard. It was encouraging for me to feel that I could be understood and accepted by her.  I have clients who say that they love the 5 secrets, but like to call it the 3 secrets because they find it effective enough to use only 3. (I still encouraged them to use all 5). I can see now what they mean, I did not finish my 5 secrets spiel and got some good results. I believe that my conservation with my mother will further trickle during her stay. Perhaps because there is a lot to cover, or perhaps it's the way we communicate. In either case, I feel good about having the talks that I previously dreaded. I have not had any panic attacks since, but I don't think they have completely gone. I believe they will be there to remind me to address certain emotions that need addressing.. . . I will keep you posted and may even send this to the group. Just need to think about it a bit longer. Responses from the Tuesday Group who observed our work with Keren Here are just a few of the comments from the 35 therapists who observed the session. This is part of the feedback we get on the quality of our teaching at the end of every Tuesday training group. Please describe what you specifically disliked about the training/ Nothing. The live work was fascinating to watch. David and Jill were masterful as always! This was a truly moving and inspiring and helpful session. I can't think of anything I didn't like about it. Nothing I disliked. I think I would have liked to see Keren do more deliberate practice with the 5 secrets with grading and more roleplaying. Conceptualization was a bit hard to follow. Please describe what you specifically liked about the training. Thank you for such an authentic, moving, beautiful session. And tour-de-force demonstration of TEAM therapy. Observing David and Jill as co therapists in service of Keren was an amazing learning opportunity! The power between them was exponential and felt like they successfully addressed every angle. . .  I had not considered using EOV and loved how effective that was in crushing Keren's thoughts. I also loved how Jill finessed gently guiding her to address Hidden Emotion, having clear conviction that this was where the "action" was. I can understand what Keren said that she wants to be closer but does not want to be enmeshed. I think that it helped us in our work with immigrants and those who live away from where they were born. The discussion about the desire to be a parent or not, was another aspect of the work that I really respected. Excellent class tonight! Keren's gift to the class was priceless and David and Jill's masterful teaching was outstanding as always. Thank you!!! I got to feel closer to her and to several group members through their sharing. David touched me with the notion that opening up to one's parents is an important gift that many of them don't get to receive. Thanks for listening today! Rhonda, Keren, Jill, and David

It's a 3rd edition of turnaway studies! Links: Gould et al. (2012) Patient Education and Emotional Support Practices in Abortion Care Facilities in the United States, Gould et al. (2013) Predictors of Abortion Counseling Receipt and Helpfulness in the United States, Foster et al (2013) Effect of Abortion Protesters on Women's Emotional Response to Abortion, National Abortion Federation Releases 2020 Violence & Disruption Statistics

IT WILL PAY OFF, IT MIGHT NOT BE TODAY, BUT IT DOESIn today's episode, Collin explains that being helpful should be the core value of every company. Helpfulness may not always pay off immediately, but it actually opens other windows of opportunity for you as a seller, and you will learn more from Collin in this latest episode of Sales Transformation. Stop sending boring sales e-mails or videos and start sending catchy GIFs and Memes with VIDU.io!Power up your podcast experience by joining our Free Podcast Community!TRANSFORMING MOMENTSProspects and buyers are too smart these daysTruly helping could be not helping at allBeing helpful should be a core value of every company“It may not always pay off, like how you think you should, and I mean, I have lots of examples where, I've been generous with my time and helped people, and they didn't end up being clients, but they might have referred me somebody, or they might have been left and went to another company.” - Collin: It may not always pay off, but it opens other opportunities  Connect with Aaron and learn more about what he's been working on!About AaronAbout OpkallaOpkalla.comConnect with Collin and find out what's new in Sales Transformation and other things he's up to:About CollinAbout SalescastSalescast CommunitySales TransformationWanna kick off your own kick-ass podcast?Already have one? How about growing it, or even monetizing it?LET'S TALK.