Podcasts about deconstructing tiger parent

Send us a textIris Chen, author of Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent, shares how she shifted from a strict, high-expectation parenting style to a trust-based approach.Raised in a Chinese-American household, Iris grew up with academic pressure and obedience as the norm. She carried those expectations into her own parenting—until she saw how control and punishment were harming her relationship with her children. A parenting workshop on neuroscience led her to rethink discipline, ultimately guiding her toward unschooling.This conversation looks at how tiger parenting is often rooted in intergenerational trauma, especially in immigrant communities where educational success is tied to security and acceptance. Instead of accepting these methods as “cultural,” Iris encourages parents to examine their origins and whether they truly serve their children today.

In today's episode, we are celebrating Mother's Day and Asian American Pacific Islander Heritage Month with a very special guest, Iris Chen! Iris shares about her life and parenting journey and how changes in her experience of God's love directed her toward a new movement and the release of her eye-opening book, Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent.    Learn more about Iris on her site (https://untigering.com/) and grab a copy of her incredible book (https://a.co/d/4thE57v)!    Don't forget—you can support Calling Water via Venmo (@arumdaunchurch).

Fran chats to Iris Chen, author of the book Untigering, writer, and unschooled. They chat about building consent-based relationships with our children and our family members, creating a family culture, and cultural expectations and how we navigate them. They also speak about doing the inner work of parenting our children without coercion and domination, about unschooling and how to break free from dogma, and how you don't have to be the perfect parenting or excel at unschooling! (in fact both of those things comes from schoolishness!). A bit about Iris: Iris Chen is an author, intersectional unschooler, and founder of the Untigering movement. After recognizing the negative effects of authoritarian tiger parenting in her own life, she now empowers others to untiger by advocating for peaceful parenting, self-directed learning, mental health, and decolonization. Her mission is to inspire generational and cultural transformation, especially among Asian communities. She spent 16 years living overseas in China but now resides in her native California with her husband and two sons. You can read more about her adventures in her book Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent and on her blog at untigering.com Find Iris on instagram @untigering and on Facebook @untigering --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/consentbasedeverything/message

On this episode of The Fresh Start Family Show, we are taking a closer look at one culture's form of hand-me-down autocratic parenting: Tiger Parenting. It's a parenting style that stresses success and achievement at any cost so that the child fulfills the parent's definition of "good enough".  Wendy is joined by her Asian-American cousin, Midori, to chat with today's guest Iris Chen about growing up in Tiger Parenting families. Iris is the author of the book Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent, and the founder of the Untigering Movement. Her mission is to inspire generational and cultural transformation, especially among Asian communities. There's no question that we love our kids, AND there are many things we do as parents that are born out of the idea that parents need to be in control of their children by any means necessary and define what success should look like for them. This episode lays the groundwork for rethinking the cultural influences many parents adhere to in parenting vs what we are at choice to do.  Tune in to learn 3 Ways to Solidify Unconditional Love in Your Home & Parenting (& why it works so well to help kids behave better!)  1. Focus on connection over correction (talk about how mistakes are opportunities to learn & don't require us to be so harsh on our kids)  2. Mentor your children on how to be happy & healthy vs. drive performance (take a break from making your child "do their best / do more / be better / etc.)  3. Let go of image striving (appearing we or our kids have it all together - we are raising humans, not robots & we all have messy moments / imperfections).  For links & more info about everything discussed in this episode, head to www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/159. It's time to join The Fresh Start Experience! Head to www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/joinnow for all the details! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Who's ready for some peace in your parenting world? Liza's guest is Iris Chen, author of Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent. Iris Chen is a peaceful parenting advocate, unschooler, and founder of the Untigering movement. She started out as an authoritarian tiger mom whose goal was to raise obedient and high-achieving children. When her attempts to control and mold them only led to constant tantrums and never-ending conflict, she knew something needed to change… and it wasn't her children. Through her writing and speaking, Iris now shares her journey of healing and shifting from power-over to power-with in her relationship with her children. Her mission is to inspire and support others to make the shift, especially among Asian communities.In this episode, Liza and Iris unpack the healing benefits of Peaceful Parenting, Unschooling and the transformational process involved in healing ourselves through our parenting journeys. Untigering is a movement that strengthens the foundation of families today. Whether your family is healing or seeking more space, more connection, more empowerment, listen to this inspiring episode and very happy story.Connect with Liza's guest, Iris Chenuntigering@gmail.comwww.untigering.comhttps://www.facebook.com/untigeringhttps://www.instagram.com/untigering/https://twitter.com/untigeringConnect with Liza Online:Liza's Personal and Group Coaching - https://www.veryhappystories.com/workLiza on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/lizasveryhappystories/Liza on FaceBook - https://www.facebook.com/veryhappystorieswithLizaBlas/Subscribe to Liza's Newsletter – www.veryhappystories.comGrateful for our sponsor - Green Valley NutritionHave you heard of all-natural CBD products by Green Valley Nutrition? This company was founded by an entrepreneur who overcame PANDAS. Get 20% off. Click the link below and use the code VERYHAPPY.https://greenvalleynutrition.com/Very Happy Stories is Partners with the LymeLight FoundationThe LymeLight Foundation is a charitable partner in the Lyme community that provides grants to enable eligible children and young adults with Lyme disease to receive proper treatment and medication as well as raising awareness about Lyme disease. LymeLight has awarded grants totaling over $7.7M to more than 1,000 individuals in 49 states. To donate directly toward LymeLight grants which help those struggling to receive treatment > click here to DONATE. To learn more about treatment grants > click here for GRANTSSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Iris Chen is a recovering Tiger mother and founder of the Untigering movement. In her book Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent, she shares her journey and reflections on shifting away from parenting rooted in power to parenting grounded in partnership. She's an American-Born Chinese who ended up with kids who are Chinese-born Americans.  She's a peaceful parenting advocate, intersectional unschooler, anti-oppression activist, and deconstructing Tiger Mom. In this episode, Iris shares how a workshop about brain science began a long journey to deconstructing everything she thought she knew about parenting, school, and even religion.She began to move away from Tiger parenting which is based in control, which was the way she was raised and the culture she was surrounded by and began a process of re-parenting herself.  She shows gratitude for her strong-willed firstborn, resisting her control and pushing her to learn and grow and find another path. She speaks to the regret of not learning it sooner, and how she was able to share her journey so publicly in her book without shame. We also dive into a deeper conversation into her shift from getting all the accolades and awards and formal schooling to finding and loving unschooling as a family. So wherever you're at in your reckoning or movement towards more positive discipline approaches, I know that you'll be able to find gems in this episode that will keep you going for years to come. We covered...how parenting and re-parenting are interconnectedwhy she recommends you "Aim to Fail"how suffering from "good child syndrome" affected her growing upwhat "a day in the life" of unschooling looks likehow there's truly no guarantees with any education approach// CONNECT WITH IRIS CHEN //IG: @untigeringUntigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent book https://untigering.com/// FREE BRAND NEW MASTERCLASS // www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologetic*FREE* EXTREME MAKEOVER: PATIENCE EDITIONwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com/patience*FREE* CALM BIG EMOTIONS GUIDEwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com/emotions*FREE* CHAOS TO CALM MASTERCLASSwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com/masterclass// SCHEDULE YOUR FREE CONSULTATION //wholeheartedly.as.me/callI believe in you & I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Write a Review & Share with a friend!// Brand New FREE Masterclass: Authentic + Unapologetic //REGISTER: www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticSupport the show

My guest today is Iris Chen, author of the wonderful book, Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent. Iris and her husband have two boys, who are 12 and 14, and in the book Iris charts her journey from strict, perfectionist mother to advocate of peaceful parenting and unschooling. Iris is Chinese American, as is her husband, so her book addresses the cultural conditioning that she had to shed in order to parent in a way that felt truly coherent to her. Among other things, we talk about how we can go about untangling all our own conditioning, how to hold ourselves with compassion as we do the work, and the healing that naturally arises from the work. I hope you enjoy the conversation,You can find out more about Iris' work at https://untigering.comIris' book is available on Amazon. 

In this very special episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I have compiled a list of advice former podcast guests have shared about what they would say to their younger parent selves.   I know you will find this episode so inspiring. I've created a cheat sheet that you can download for free with all of my guests' expert advice for you to reference. You can get it here: www.sarahrosensweet.com/guestexpertadvice. We go into: [3:30] Dr. Laura Markham's advice [5:05] Ned Johnson's advice [7:30] Yolanda Williams' advice [9:31] Dayna Abraham's advice [10:55] Leslie Priscilla's advice [12:21] Dr. Sharon Saline's advice [13:50] Mr. Chazz's advice [15:50] Kristy Forbes' advice [17:35] Eve Rodsky's advice [19:30] Teacher Tom's advice [22:10] Iris Chen's advice [23:45] Lynn Lyons' advice [26:10] Julie Lythcott-Haims' advice [30:45] Janine Halloran's advice [33:00] Dr. Mona's advice [34:50] My advice to my younger self Resources mentioned in this episode Episode 2: When Your Child Refuses with Dr. Laura Markham Episode 8: Raising A Self-Driven Child with Ned Johnson Episode 14: Decolonizing Parenting and Raising Anti-Racist Children with Yolanda Williams Episode 17: Sensory Processing Challenges/Disorder with Dayna Abraham Episode 20: Reparenting Ourselves: Being the Parents We Want To Be with Leslie Priscilla Episode 22: Understanding ADHD with Dr. Sharon Saline Episode 25: Seeing, Guiding and Trusting our Kids with Mr. Chazz Episode 27: Understanding Autism with Kristy Forbes Episode 30: Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky Episode 31: Play-Based Learning with Teacher Tom Episode 34: Untigering: Moving From Coercion to Compassion with Iris Chen Episode 35: Three Skills to Protect Our Kids' Mental Health with Lynn Lyons Episode 37: Your Turn: How to Be An Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims Episode 41: Healthy Coping Strategies for Kids with Janine Halloran Episode 42: Brain-Body Parenting with Dr. Mona Delahooke   Books Authored by Our Guests Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Marham  Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings by Dr. Laura Markham  What Do You Say with Ned Johnson and William Stixrud  Find Your Unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky  Purchase: Fair Play by Eve Rodsky  Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent by Iris Chen Anxious Kids Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons  How to Raise an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims  Real American: A Memoir by Julie Lythcott-Haims Your Turn: How to Be An Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims  Brain-Body Parenting by Dr. Mona Delahooke    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

"A lot of untigering is about turning inward." - Iris Chen What can we undo versus do? That is what we are exploring today: the power of undoing. It takes a lot to shift culture and break generational cycles, so to help me explore this topic is Iris Chen, a self-described recovering tiger mother, the founder of the "untigering" movement, and author of Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent. After seeing the negative effects of authoritarian parenting and unhealthy cultural expectations in her own life, she decided to dedicate herself to promoting mental health, peaceful parenting, and self-directed learning. In today's show, we talk about the undoing process that must occur for us to truly step into our power of The Only and we explain why this message resonates with both parents and non-parents alike. "Looking back, I felt like I didn't have a voice as a child." - Iris Chen Listen in to learn how to reevaluate your relationship with your children and your parents and how to unlearn patterns you picked up in your childhood.  We also talk about Iris' early use of success and achievement as coping mechanisms, how to move past perfectionism, and ways to create moments of intergenerational healing in your own family. “Look beyond the behavior to see all behavior as communication.” - Iris Chen Show Notes: What is untigering Negative effects of tiger parenting Unlearning negative patterns from childhood Setting healthy expectations for children Seeing bad behavior as communication Harnessing the power of the only Reevaluating your relationship with your children Achievement as a coping mechanism Healing intergenerational trauma Respecting your parents' journey "My whole thing is about investing in my family and slowing down and doing what feels right." - Iris Chen 3 Pieces of Advice or Action Steps: Cultivate a solid sense of self Live in alignment Give yourself plenty of grace and compassion Brand and Resource Mentions: Watch The Home Edit Get your copy of Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood by Lisa Damour Ph.D. Get your copy of Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent by Iris Chen Connect with Iris Chen: LinkedIn | Instagram | Facebook | Untigering Thanks for being a part of this bold and powerful conversation on The Power of The Only! If you would like a free copy of The Power Of The Only principles and a Clarity and Vision worksheet to help apply them in your business and life click here to get access. Whether you feel like the only one in your company, industry, or community or the only woman in the room, we're here to support you in stepping up, speaking up through power, presence, and representation, and to make an impact in your personal and professional life. Want even more insider tips, resources, and training  to help you own your voice and power and step into your leadership.  Join me in my free, invite-only  YOU, Amplified!™ community! You can also join the conversation on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, and Twitter. Learn more about this episode of The Power of The Only with Angela Chee at www.angelachee.com/62

The month of May is Asian-American Pacific Islander month, but for those of us who might not see ourselves in these adjectives, I thought we could expand the description to TCA month - Third Culture Asian month!So, for Third Culture Asian month, I'd like to share with you 3 back-to-back episodes that together frame the topic of the healing of intercultural and intergenerational conflict in the global asian diaspora community. On the second of this 3-part series, we'll hear from Iris Chen, Chinese-American author of the book “Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent”, and the different approach that she takes to parenting, and how some traditional Asian values can be better understood from a more holistic perspective. *To learn about the Untigering movement, and to read Iris' book, go to untigering.com*To support this show as a patron, go topatreon.com/beyondasian.com*To leave me a voice message about this episode, go to speakpipe.com/beyondasian

Iris Chen is a recovering tiger mother and author of "Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent." Iris is the founder of the Untigering movement, which emphasizes shifting away from parenting that is rooted in power to parenting that is grounded in partnership. In this episode, Margaret, Amy, and Iris discuss: Navigating parenting at the intersection of American and Chinese identities The turning point for Iris when she decided to "untiger" How we all can practice peaceful parenting in our daily lives Here's where you can find Iris on social media: https://untigering.com/ Facebook: @untigering Instagram: @untigering Twitter: @untigeringmom #untigering And her book is available here! Special thanks to this month's sponsors: Beam's Dream Powder is their sleep-promoting healthy hot cocoa. 99% of people experience better sleep quality when taking Beam Dream! Get $20 off at beamorganics.com/fresh with the code FRESH. Betterhelp online therapy is affordable, confidential, and effective! Give it a try and see if online therapy can help lower your stress. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/fresh. Daily Harvest delivers delicious harvest bowls, flatbreads, smoothies, and more, all built on organic fruits and vegetables. Go to dailyharvest.com/laughing to get up to $40 off your first box! Firstleaf is a wine club that curates and ships wines that are personalized to your tastes! Get 6 bottles of wine for $29.95, plus free shipping, at tryfirstleaf.com/laughing. Home.Made.Podcast is a terrific new podcast offering stories about the meaning of home in America. Subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts! KiwiCo projects make science, technology, engineering, art, and math super fun. Get 30% off your first month plus FREE shipping on ANY crate line at kiwico.com with code MOTHERHOOD. Ladder helps you find life insurance without the hassle! Answer a few questions online to apply for up to $3 million in term life insurance coverage. Go to ladderlife.com/laughing today to see if you're instantly approved. Mathnasium is the place for online and in-person math education– whether your kids are a little behind, or need to be further challenged. Get your free consultation at mathnasium.com. Native products keep you feeling and smelling fresh. Get 20% off your first order by going to nativedeo.com/fresh or by using the promo code FRESH. Parade underwear and loungewear are sustainable, size-inclusive, comfortable and fantastic! Go to yourparade.com/laughing and use the code LAUGHING for 20% off your first order. Peloton has a workout for every goal, day, and mood: everything from boxing and dance cardio to yoga and meditation. Visit onepeloton.com to learn more. Prose now makes supplements personally tailored to address your specific cause of hair shedding. Get your free in-depth consultation and 15% off your custom hair supplements at prose.com/laughing. Renzo's Vitamins “melty vitamins” taste great and give your kids the vitamins they need- without all the sugar of gummies! Go to renzosmagic.com and use the code FRESH to get $5 off. StoryWorth is an online service that helps you and your loved ones connect through sharing stories and memories and preserves them for years to come. Save $10 off your first purchase at storyworth.com/whatfreshhell. Thrive Causemetics beauty and skin care products have clean, skin-loving ingredients– and are truly high-performance. Get 15% off your first order at thrivecausemetics.com/WHATFRESHHELL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we have the pleasure of chatting with Iris Chen, a deconstructing tiger mom, unschooling partner, youth advocate, liberation activist and writer of the book Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent. Iris shares about how unschooling is deep social justice work, her family's journey in transitioning to unschooling and how she has shifted from authoritarian to more peaceful parenting. By the end of this episode we hope you will feel as pumped up as we do about your own role in this larger liberation movement!

Many Asian parents were called tiger parents. They have high authority in their families which causes a lot of pain and struggles between their children and them. In this episode, Iris Chen, the author of Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent shared her story and insights on how she practices peaceful parenting that helped her have better communication and connection with her children. Learn more about Iris Chen & her work at: https://untigering.com/ https://www.facebook.com/untigering https://www.instagram.com/untigering/ https://ko-fi.com/untigering

Join Angela Harders as she has a conversation with Iris Chen. Iris is The founder of the Untigering movement and the author of Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent. After starting out as a hard-core tiger mother, she began to untiger when she saw the negative effects of authoritarian parenting in her own family. Now she's on a mission to empower others to practice peaceful parenting and unschooling, especially among Asian communities. 2:37 - Can you share a little about you, your family, and your story? 4:35 - How did you discover gentle parenting? 7:50 - How do you parent without punishment? 9:50 - How can rewards cause harm? 17:50 - What was the transition to gentle parenting like for your children? 22:07 - How do you come back to being a gentle parent after messing up? 27:10 - How do you handle when your children are angry or sad? 34:26 - How do you cultivate a gentle parenting community? 36:07 - Can you tell us more about the Untigering Community? 37:50 - What would you say to someone who says that your children are not expecting your authority? 45:45 - How did gentle parenting inform your decision to pursue unschooling for your child's education? 49:08 - Did you have any fears or concerns about unschooling when you first started? 51:50 - Are there things that you wish you would have done differently in your unschooling journey? 54:44 - What does a self-directed learning facility look like? 57:30 - What are your children interested in now? 1:05:38 - What would be one piece of advice that you would give to someone considering gentle parenting and unschooling? 1:07:22 - How can someone connect with you? ***CONNECT WITH IRIS*** Website: https://untigering.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/untigering Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/untigering/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/untigeringmom Membership: https://ko-fi.com/untigering/tiers ***RECOMMENDED RESOURCES*** Book: Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn Book: Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent by Iris Chen Book: Tales of a Toxic Teacher by Angela Harders Self-Directed Learning Center in Los Angeles: Alcove Learning alcovelearning.org

How do we navigate moving away from punitive parenting to peaceful parenting if we have only ever known that one parenting style?   My guest is Iris Chen, the founder of the Untigering movement and author of "Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent."    We talk about how to undo the shame and negative thoughts that can come with transitioning from punitive parenting to peaceful parenting, giving ourselves grace, and repairing the relationship with our kids.   We go into: The definition of Tiger Parenting Iris' transition from Tiger Parenting when she realized it wasn't working with her kids How Iris was able to find and give herself genuine compassion for how she parented before discovering peaceful parenting The three big ideas around Adultism  Why family meetings are important and best practices for incorporating this into your own family team As a peaceful parenting advocate, unschooler, and deconstructing tiger mom, her mission is to inspire generational and cultural transformation, especially among Asian communities. She spent 16 years living overseas in China (land of the tiger parent!) but now resides in her native California with her husband and two sons.   Resources mentioned in this episode Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent by Iris Chen   Connect with Iris On Instagram On Twitter On LinkedIn Facebook https://untigering.com/     Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

This is the third episode in our "How We Homeschool" series. We're talking with different homeschool parents all season to hear about their philosophies, insights, and experiences.    Iris Chen is our guest this week, and we couldn't be more excited! You might be familiar with Iris's work on Instagram account @untigering and her book Untigering (which we LOVED). We talk with Iris about healing and shifting away from authoritarian parenting toward more collaborative, peaceful parenting and how that impacts her parenting ideology and practices. Iris shares about unschooling, finding community, and the routines that are working for her and her kids. Find Iris on Instagram, Facebook, on her website, and order her book Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent here.   This episode is sponsored by Elephants and Algebra. Elephants and Algebra offers one-on-one K-12 math tutoring that meets your child where they are. http://elephantsandalgebra.com/   Aha Moment “It's ok to not plan.” -Maren     Newsletter Let's stay in touch, even when our favorite social media platforms crash. Plus, you get a FREEBIE from us when you subscribe! homeschoolunrefined.com/newsletter   Want more episodes? Join our $5 Squad on Patreon to get an extra episode every week. Every month, you'll get 2 Listener Q&P (Question & Process) Episodes, an LTW Extra episode, and a monthly check-in where we get real about what's going well, what's hard right now, and what we're doing for self-care. You'll also get plugged into our community of like-minded parents for support, encouragement, and fun!   Loving This Week (LTW) Angela: Unbound: My Story of Liberation and the Birth of the Me Too Movement Maren: Windex Outdoor Window Cleaner   Patrons get a monthly "LTW Extra" episode when you join our $5 Squad. A chat about the shows, products, podcasts, books, and more that we're loving!    More About Homeschool Unrefined We are an inclusive and nonsectarian podcast. We believe Black Lives Matter, and we are LGBTQ+ affirming (for more, read our piece on Romper). We are listener supported and are donating 10% of all Patreon income and product sales to The Conscious Kid, a Black and Brown-led organization that has been instrumental in our own evolution and in leading the way in both ideological and tangible change with their work in “parenting and education through a critical race lens." Read our full ABAR Statement here and on Instagram.   Connect with us!  Visit our website | Sign up for our newsletter. | Support us on Patreon. | Merch Shop | bookshop.org Follow us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Youtube Angela on Instagram: @unrefinedangela | Maren on Instagram: @unrefinedmaren Email us any questions or feedback at homeschoolunrefined@gmail.com

Did you grow up under an authoritarian parenting style and do you want to try something different with your kids? Or perhaps you want your children to have more confidence in their decision making skills, be independent thinkers and self driven? If any of those ideas resonate, listen in on my conversation with Iris Chen, founder of the Untigering movement and author of Untigering, Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent. In addition to being an Untigerer, Iris is also an advocate for unschooling -- homeschooling that's completely student led and non-coercive -- the epitome of Untigering. In Part 2, we talk about what Iris's expectations are of her kids' career choices, how to instrinsically motivate your kids, and how to apply an unschooling mindset if you're in public school. If you missed Part 1, we talked about unschooling definitions and impacts on happiness, Iris' family's unschooling journey, and what a typical day of unschooling looks like. Resources: www.untigering.com Instagram & Facebook: @untigering Sponsor: BrightStory Admission Consulting www.BrightStory.info --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/happyaw/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/happyaw/support

Did you grow up under an authoritarian parenting style and do you want to try something different with your kids? Or perhaps you want your children to have more confidence in their decision making skills, be independent thinkers and self driven? If any of those ideas resonate, listen in on my conversation with Iris Chen, founder of the Untigering movement and author of Untigering, Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent. In addition to being an Untigerer, Iris is also an advocate for unschooling -- homeschooling that's completely student led and non-coercive -- the epitome of Untigering. In Part 1 we talk about unschooling definitions and impacts on happiness, Iris' family's unschooling journey, and what a typical day of unschooling looks like. In Part 2 we talk about whether Iris has expectations of her kids' career choices, how to instrinsically motivate your kids, and how to apply an unschooling mindset if you're in public school. Resources: www.untigering.com Instagram & Facebook: @untigering Sponsor: BrightStory Admission Consulting www.BrightStory.info --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/happyaw/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/happyaw/support

"As I understood more about peaceful parenting and honoring our children, the school system really clashed against my understanding of how to care, respect, and love my children." Iris Chen on choosing unschooling to align with her values.   Iris Chen is the founder of the Untigering movement and author of "Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent." As a peaceful parenting advocate, intersectional unschooler, anti-oppression activist, and deconstructing tiger mom, her mission is to inspire generational and cultural transformation, especially among Asian communities.   She spent 16 years living overseas in China (land of the tiger parent!) but now resides in her native California with her husband and two sons. In this Episode we'll discuss: What an Untigering parent is What Unschooling is Why children have a natural learning drive Show links: Untigering Website: https://untigering.com/ Follow Iris here: https://www.instagram.com/untigering/ Holiday Challenge: https://www.wholemodernparent.com/

I had the honor of sitting down with Iris Chen, author of the book Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent. Iris has transformed her parenting from the authoritarian Tiger mom to becoming a peaceful parent and now an unschooling mom. We discussed what unschooling looks like in her family and how other parents can implement it, as well as how unschooling as a philosophy can be applied to our adult lives. You can find Iris at untigering.com and on Instagram at @untigering As always, you can follow Paula at @paulamoralesmcdowell on Instagram to continue the conversation. Feel free to drop me an audio message on Anchor to be played in a future episode! if you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts and/or take a screenshot and tag me in your stories! Talk soon! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thewayweparent/message

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As a child, first generation Chinese American, Iris Chen, author of Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent, was raised in a strict, high expectation house. As her own children began to rebel against her authoritarian parenting, Iris began to question what it truly means to be a “good” parent. In this episode, Hunter talks to Iris about her experience of “untigering” and her journey to change generational patterns. *New!* Watch video clips from this episode on the Mindful Mama Youtube channel! If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I'd love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to  Apple Podcasts or  Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! 3 Takeaways: Love is not about control Children are like plants, having individual needs that must be met in order to thrive Success is for each of us to define for ourselves in ways that are meaningful for us Iris Chen is the author and founder of the Untigering movement. Her mission is to promote peaceful parenting, intersectional unschooling, and anti-oppression, especially among Asian communities. Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we're over 25 thousand strong! Join the Mindful Parenting membership. Take your learning further! Get my Top 2 Best Tools to Stop Yelling AND the Mindful Parenting Roadmap for FREE at: mindfulmamamentor.com/stopyelling/ Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Be sure to check out these deals from this week's sponsors: You can get an exclusive, one-time offer of 15% off your order of Bitty Baby products with promo code HUNTER at americangirl.com. Go to GreenChef.com/hunter100 and use code hunter100 to get $100 off including free shipping! Try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to Acorn.TV and use my promo code hunter.

Tiersa McQueen is a full time working mother of four and a proud unschooler. She is a graduate of Howard University and works full-time in corporate retail as a Location Planner. She's an advocate of Unschooling and Conscious Parenting. Check out Tiersa's Twitter and YouTube Channel for great content and more insight on unschooling and self-directed education. Key Takeaways: 00:00:18 Evolution Into Unschooling 00:09:47 Advice to Parents 00:16:57 The mindset of respecting children 00:29:01 Raising independent and free children 00:32:42 Benefits and opportunities for people of color and Black Parents who do Unschooling. 00:38:28 Debunking the Myth: “I can never Homeschool because I am Not A Teacher” 00:43:27 Deepening relationships with children Quotes: “The unschooling philosophy was like learning by doing and having experiences.” “You have to figure out ways to live life and be in the world.” “Children understand why it would be necessary for them to know. And then they just do it on their own.” “Once children have the why, they learn so quickly.” “Children aren't as unreasonable as we think they are. They're more reasonable than we give them credit for.” “I didn't want to fall into the same trap that our boomer parents fell into, which was advising us for a future that didn't come, that didn't happen. A place that doesn't exist anymore.” “Children are going to evolve. I don't want to always focus on the future.” “Parents are the first teachers.” “Parenting is hard. You need people and there's no way you'll know everything.” Social Links: Twitter - https://twitter.com/tiersaj Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/mother_bae_i YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCM9W1D9umDk05sMIO_gEFzw Books Mentioned: Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent by Iris Chen The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by William Stixrud Podcast Mentioned: Fare of the Free Child Podcast

Welcome again Fare of the Free Child community! In episode 222 you'll hear excerpts from our feel trip with Iris Chen, author of Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent along with our fellow unschooler, Tiersa McQueen. Iris and Akilah talk about multigenerational learning and unlearning, the differences between respect and relationship with the elders, collective change, cultural distance, relationship skills and how we can feel honored and honor other people too, learning to coexist and grow together. Tiersa joined the discussion, and poured her usual awesomesauce all in the mix. If the excerpts just ain't enough, you can watch the entire conversation here.In case you haven't listened to the previous elements of this three-part flow, here's Episode 220: Iris Chen on Culture, Childhood, and Consent, and Episode 221: Untigering with Iris Chen (Pt. 2) where our listeners shared their feedback. Join our podcast village to make sure you don't miss any feel trip invitations.We are just a few episodes away from the end of this season, including two more episodes and a feel trip with Kris and Akilah to close out the season and celebrate the five year anniversary of Episode 0. So exciting!Need to knows:In an effort to bring all of you more deschooling resources and liberation tools Raising Free People Support Suite which includes the Card Decks has a Workbook material coming up in collaboration with Leslie Bray from P.O.U.R Podcast (Purposely Openly Up to Relationships) Thanks to all of the people that had contributed to translate Raising Free People book to Spanish, we're halfway there! / Gracias a quienes han colaborado para traducir el libro Raising Free People al idioma Español, ¡ya recolectamos la mitad!LIBERATION WALKShout out to Val Sinclair from Plant it up podcast, who'll join us once more at the end of the season!Feel free to share and question by pressing that “Leave a Voice Message” button on the right side of the site!While you're there, subscribe to Akilah's Youtube ChannelSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/akilah)

This week’s episode opens the first segment of our three-part flow from a mindful conversation with Iris Chen of Untigering. Iris is an unschooling mom and author of Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent, an authentic and vulnerable narrative about parenting as an Asian-American with cultural awareness, consent, love, and survival all blended in. Iris will also join us next week on a Feel Trip episode and we would love to hear some of your feedback prior to that! The week after that (on Saturday) we’ll bring you a recap of that Feel Trip. Make sure you don't miss any of our Feel Trip invitations by entering our podcast village.Iris chats with Akilah about the process that led her into writing her book, a process that started two years ago as she was blogging about her family experiences. Akilah and Iris also speak about the expectations and the pressure that we sometimes create around our children by seeing them only as extensions of us and not also as individuals."We can be agents of change instead of victims to tradition" - Iris ChenIris challenges the idea that we are trapped by our culture and rules, because we can celebrate but also question. Iris asserts that we are more than our stereotypes, and Akilah agrees with that and invites us to embrace the elements that are aligned to who we are while we reject what doesn’t vibe with us as part of our evolution. Iris also talks about the importance of language and the influence that culture has to offer as a tool that enhances connection and more ways to expand understanding.They also talk about consent and emotional intelligence skills and how important it is to re-parent our inner child to heal and understand the ways we can be influencing our children's behavior, because this can shape the practices that help us unravel our schoolish mindsets as we grow together.LIBERATION WALKPress that “Leave a Voice Message” button on the right side of the site and share some thoughtsLearn more about The Homeschool Association of CaliforniaHere you can read Parenting in a Climate of Anti-Asian Racism by Iris ChenSubscribe to Akilah’s Youtube Channel!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/akilah)

Iris Chen is the founder of the Untigering movement and author of "Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent." Her mission is to promote peaceful parenting, intersectional unschooling, and anti-oppression, especially among Asian communities. After spending 16 years living overseas in China (land of the tiger parent!), she now resides in her native California with her husband, two sons, and cat. Listen to our interview as we unpack her book... and other things!For more show notes and links to the things I mention, visit: https://www.fcksavingface.com/podcast/episode-05-untigering-with-iris-chen See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Iris Chen, the author of “Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent,  and first-generation Chinese American, comes on to discuss changing generational parenting narratives and intentionally choosing a more peaceful parenting approach. We take a deep dive into cultivating meaningful relationships with our children and discuss the work necessary to changing parenting patterns.  To find out more about Iris Chen:  Website: https://untigering.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/untigering IG: https://www.instagram.com/untigering/ The content on The Mindful Corner Podcast should not be taken as medical advice. The content here is for informational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. You are encouraged to consult your doctor concerning your specific health condition and because each person is unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving an honest rating and review. Want to share your story or know someone who does? Email us at themindfulcornerpodcast@gmail.com Business inquiries: derikavelez@gmail.com Make sure to follow The Mindful Corner's Instagram Page https://www.instagram.com/themindfulcorner/