The Peaceful Parenting Podcast

You can listen wherever you get your podcasts, OR— BRAND NEW: we've included a fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, we have a coaching call with Laurel and Derrick. This call is such a good one because we cover ALL the big ideas behind the peaceful parenting approach, while applying them to real life scenarios in a home with three kids. Topics include sibling rivalry, nurturing our kids, self regulation, how to handle kids asking lots of questions and always wanting more, what parenting without punishment looks like, and more!**If you'd like an ad-free version of the podcast, consider becoming a supporter on Substack! > > If you already ARE a supporter, the ad-free version is waiting for you in the Substack app or you can enter the private feed URL in the podcast player of your choice.Know someone who might appreciate this post? Share it with them!We talk about:* 7:00 What it looks like when our children truly respect us* 9:00 7-year-old refusing to get dressed* 12:10 Why it is okay baby and nurture our kids* 14:00 Tuning into our own self regulation* 18:00 Mindset shifts to give our kids the benefit of the doubt* 19:30 How to handle sibling rivalry* 24:00 Don't try to make it a teachable moment* 38:00 When kids ask questions over and over* 41:00 Why kids always want more!* 45:00 Helping kids see how their actions affect other people* 55:00 Why kids lie and what to do* 57:00 Natural consequences, boundaries, and limits* 1:02 Peaceful Parenting MantrasResources mentioned in this episode:* Yoto Player-Screen Free Audio Book Player* The Peaceful Parenting Membership* Free Stop Sibling Fights E book* Free How To Stop Yelling at Your Kids e-coursexx Sarah and CoreyYour peaceful parenting team- click here for a free short consult or a coaching sessionVisit our website for free resources, podcast, coaching, membership and more!>> Please support us!!! 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No one listening or watching and they can't go where you don't want them to go and they aren't watching screens. BUT they are being entertained or kept company with audio that you can buy from YOTO or create yourself on one of their blank cards. Check them out HERETranscript:Derrick: Hi, good morning.Sarah: Hi Derek. Nice to meet you. Hi Laurel. Hi. Are you a firefighter, Derek? I'm—yeah, I'm actually—I see you've got your sweatshirt.Derrick: Yeah. Just a heads up, I may have to jump off if we get a call.Sarah: Okay. Well, so nice to meet you guys. So you've got three—boy, girl, girl. And what would you like to talk about today?Laurel: I think I just love your whole—I've sent Derek a couple things—but I just love your whole premise of peacefulness and remaining calm when it's easy to get angry. Mm-hmm. And just some tools for doing that. I guess like some basic things, because we would both like to say where, you know, we have like, you know, the streaks where we're all calm, calm, calm, and then just—and then her, yeah, limit. Yeah.And so yeah, just tools for when that happens. We have very typical age-appropriate kind of response kids, mm-hmm, that need to be told 80 times something. And so it's frustrating. And then how to help them kind of see—without bribing, without threatening discipline, without all of that. Yeah. Like how to have a better dialogue with our kids of teaching respect and teaching kind of “we do this, you do this.”Sarah: Yeah. Yeah. So, I mean, maybe. Okay. So there's always gonna be situations where it's hard to stay calm, you know? Just being a parent—like of course your kids are gonna push your buttons sometimes. But rather than—so, we do always start with self-regulation.And what I mean by self-regulation isn't that you never get upset. It's that when you do get upset, you know how to calm yourself and take a minute, take a breath—whatever you need to do—so that you don't yell. Because yelling hurts our relationship with our kids. You mentioned respect. I think there's an old idea of respect that used to mean that kids were afraid of their parents, right?But real respect is that you care what another person thinks. Like, that's real respect. I don't want to do this because I don't want my dad or my mom to be unhappy with me—not that I'm afraid of what's gonna happen if I do it, but I care what they think and they care what I think. And that's how I define respect. True respect doesn't mean that you're afraid of somebody; it means that you care what they think, right?So when we yell, we chip away at that. Like yeah, we could get them to do what we want through yelling or threatening things or taking things away, but we're chipping away at our relationship with them. And that's really the only true influence.And as your kids are getting older, you're gonna see that you can control them when they're little, right? Because you can pick them up and move them from one place to another or whatever. But there's a famous quote by a psychologist that says, “The problem with using control when kids are young is that you never learn how to influence them, which is what you need as they get older.” Right? You need to be able to influence them, to get them to do what you would like them to do. And it's all about the relationship. That's really what I see as the most important thing.So back to what I was saying about yelling—yes, that's really important to be working on—but there's also: how do I be more effective so the kids will listen to me and I don't have to ask 80 times? How do I get their attention in an effective way? How do I get them to cooperate the first time or at least the second time?So it's a combination of learning how to calm yourself and stay calm when things are hard, and also being more effective as a parent—not asking 25 times, because that just trains them to ignore you. Like, “Oh, I don't have to do it until they yell,” or “I don't have to do it until they've asked me 25 times.”If there's something really unpleasant you had to do at work that you didn't want to do, you might also ignore your boss the first 24 times they asked you until you knew they were really serious, right? Mm-hmm. I mean, you wouldn't, but you know what I mean. If they can keep playing a little bit longer, they will keep playing a little bit longer.So I think what would be helpful is if you gave me some situations that have happened that you find challenging, and then we can do a little bit of a deeper dive into what you could have done instead, or what you could do next time if a similar thing comes up.Laurel: Yeah. I mean, for my daughter, for example, the middle one—she's so sweet, she's such a feeler—but then when she gets to the point where she's tired, hungry, it's all the things. She often doesn't wanna pick out her clothes. Something super simple like that.But when I'm making lunches and the other kids are getting ready and all the things, I just have to have her—I'm like, “You're seven, you can pick out clothes.” I give her some options, and then she'll just lay on the floor and start screaming, “You don't care! Why don't you pick out my clothes?”And then instead of me taking the time that I know I need to, I just tell her, “You have one minute or else this—so you lose this.” I just start kind of like, “This is yesterday.” You know, so she doesn't wanna get dressed, doesn't wanna get her shoes on. “You get my socks, you get all the big—” And then I end up picking her up, standing her up, “You need to get dressed.” And then both of us are frustrated.Sarah: Yeah. No, that's a great example.So first of all, whenever there's difficult behavior in our child, we try to look below the surface to see what's causing it. The symptom you see on the outside is a kid lying on the floor refusing to do something she's perfectly capable of doing herself. That's the iceberg part above the water. But what's underneath that?To me, I'm seeing a 7-year-old who has a 3-year-old sibling who probably does get help getting dressed, a capable older brother, and it's hard to give enough attention to three kids. What I see this as is a bid for attention and connection from you.I don't know if you listen to my podcast, but I did an episode about when kids ask you to do things for them that they can do themselves. Seven is a perfect age because you're like, “Oh my God, you're so capable of getting dressed yourself—what do you mean you want me to put your shoes on you?” But if you can shift your mind to think, Ah, she's asking me to do something she can do—she needs my connection and nurturing.So what if you thought, “Okay, I just spent all this energy yelling at her, trying to get her to do it. What if I just gave her the gift of picking her clothes out for her and getting her dressed?” It would probably be quicker, start your day on a happier note, and you would have met that need for connection.And yes, it's asking more of you in the moment, because you're trying to make lunches. But this is a beautiful example because you'll probably see it in other areas too—what's underneath this difficult behavior? Kids really are doing the best they can. That's one of our foundational paradigm shifts in peaceful parenting. Even when they're being difficult, they're doing the best they can with the resources they have in that moment.So when someone's being difficult, you can train yourself to think: Okay, if they're doing the best they can, what's going on underneath that's causing this behavior?I just want to say one more thing, because later on you might think, “Wait—Sarah's telling me to dress my 7-year-old. What about independence?” Just to put your fears aside: kids have such a strong natural drive for independence that you can baby them a little bit and it won't wreck them. Everybody needs a little babying sometimes—even you guys probably sometimes. Sometimes you just want Laurel to make you a coffee and bring it to you in bed. You can get your own coffee, but it's nice to be babied and nurtured.So we can do that safely. And I tell you, I have a 14-year-old, 17-year-old, and 20-year-old—very babied—and they're all super independent and competent kids. My husband used to say, “You're coddling them.” I'd say, “I'm nurturing them.”Laurel: Oh, I like that.Sarah: Okay. So I just wanted to say that in case the thought comes up later. Independence is important, but we don't have to push for it.Derrick: Yeah. No, I think that's super helpful. And I love—one of my good buddies just came out with a book called The Thing Beneath the Thing.Sarah: Oh, I love that.Derrick: It's such a good reminder. I think sometimes, like you addressed, Laurel is often a single mom and there is the reality of—she's gotta make lunch, she's gotta do laundry, she's gotta whatever. And sometimes there's just the logistical impossibility of, “I can't do that and this and get out the door in time and get you to camp on time, and here comes the carpool.”And so sometimes it just feels like there needs to be better planning. Like, “You just gotta wake up earlier, you gotta make lunch before you go to bed, or whatever,” to have the space to respond to the moment. Because the reality is, you never know when it's coming.Like, totally independent, and she wants to pick out her own clothes in one example—but then all these things creep up.Another way to describe what Laurel and I were talking about in terms of triggers is: I feel like we both really take a long time to light our fuse. But once it's lit, it's a very short fuse.Sarah: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.Derrick: So it's like for me especially, I'm cool as a cucumber and then all of a sudden the wick is lit and I'll explode.Sarah: Yeah. I think that's really good to be aware of. The thing is, if you go forward from today and start looking—you're calm, calm, calm, calm, calm—sometimes what's actually happening is what my mentor calls gathering kindling.We don't realize it, but we're gathering kindling along the way—resentment, eye-roll frustration. If you can start tuning in a little bit, you'll see that yeah, you're not yelling, but maybe you're getting more frustrated as it goes on. That's when you can intervene with yourself, like, “Okay, I need to take a five-minute break,” or, “We need to shift gears or tap each other out.”Because it feels like it comes out of nowhere, but it rarely does. We're just not aware of the building process of gathering kindling along the way.Derrick: Yeah. No, that's helpful. I have two examples that maybe you can help us with. You can pick one that you think is more important.Sarah: Sure. And I just want to comment on one more thing you said before you go on—sorry to interrupt you. If it's annoying to have to dress a 7-year-old in the middle of your morning routine, you can also make a mental note: Okay, what's under the thing? What's under the difficult behavior is this need for more connection and nurturing. So how can I fill that at a time that's more convenient for me?Maybe 7:30 in the morning while I'm trying to get everyone out the door is not a convenient time. But how can I find another time in the day, especially for my middle child? I've got three kids too, and I know the middle child can be a bit of a stirring-the-pot kid, at least mine was when he was little, trying to get his needs met. So how can I make sure I'm giving her that time she's asking for, but in more appropriate times?Derrick: Yeah, no, that's helpful. I think part of my challenge is just understanding what is age-appropriate. For example, our almost 10-year-old literally cannot remember to flush the toilet.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Derrick: And it's like, “Bro, flush the toilet.” It's been this ongoing thing. That's just one example. There are many things where you're going, “You're 10 years old, dude, you should know how to flush the toilet.” And then all the fears come in—“Is he ADD?”—and we start throwing things out there we don't even know.But it seems so simple: poop in the toilet, you flush it when you're done. Why is that? And that'll light a wick pretty quick, the third or fourth time you go in and the toilet's not flushed.Sarah: Yeah.Derrick: And then you talk about it very peacefully, and he'll throw something back at you.Sarah: So do you have him go back and flush the toilet?Derrick: We do.Sarah: Okay, good. Because if you make it a tiny bit unpleasant that he forgot—like he has to stop what he's doing and go back and flush it—that might help him in a kind and firm way. Like, “Oh, looks like you forgot. Pause your video game. Please go back and flush the toilet.”Also, maybe put up some signs or something. By the sink, by the toilet paper. There are just some things that, if they're not important to kids, it's very hard for them to remember. Or if it's not…I can't tell you how many times I've told my boys, “Don't put wet things in the hamper.” They're 17 and 20 and it drives me insane. Like how hard is it to not throw a wet washcloth in the hamper? They don't care if it smells like mildew.Derrick: Yeah.Sarah: It's very frustrating. But they're not doing it on purpose.Derrick: That's the narrative we write though, right? Like, you're just defiant, you're trying—because we've talked about this a million times. This is my desire.Sarah: And you feel disrespecedt.Derrick: Right.Sarah: That is so insightful of you, Derek, to realize that. To realize that's a trigger for you because it feels like he's doing it on purpose to disrespect you. But having that awareness and a mindset shift—he's not trying to give me a hard time. He's just absent-minded, he's 10, and he doesn't care if the poop sits in the toilet. He's just not thinking about it.Derrick: Yeah.I think the other example, which I'm sure is super common, is just: how do you manage them pushing each other's buttons? They can do it so quickly. And then it's literally musical chairs of explosive reactions. It happens everywhere. You're driving in the car, button pushed, explosion. The 3-year-old's melting, and Kira knows exactly what she's doing. Then Blake, then Kira. They just know. They get so much joy out of watching their sibling melt and scream. Meanwhile, you're in the front seat trying to drive and it's chaos.For me, that's when I'll blow my top. I'll get louder than their meltdown. And my narrative is: they're not even really upset, they're just turning it on to get whatever they want.Sarah: Classic sibling rivalry. Classic. Like, “How can I get Mom or Dad to show that they love me more than the other kid? Whose side are they gonna intervene on?” That's so classic.Kira came along and pushed Blake out of his preferred position as the baby and the apple of your eye. He had to learn to share you. Is it mostly Kira and Aubrey, or does everything roll downhill with all three?Derrick: It just triangulates and crosses over. They know each other's buttons. And you're right—it's always, “You always take her side. You never—”Sarah: Yes. And whenever you hear the words “always” and “never,” you know someone's triggered. They're not thinking clearly because they're upset and dysregulated.Sibling rivalry, or resentment, whatever you want to call it, is always about: “Who do they love more? Will my needs get met? Do they love me as much as my brother or sister?” That fear is what drives the button-pushing.It doesn't make sense that you'd pick a fight hoping your parent will choose you as the one who's right. But still, it's this drive to create conflict in hopes that you'll be the chosen one.So I could go over my sibling best practices with you guys if you want. That's really helpful for rivalry.Derrick: Yeah.Sarah: Okay. Do you currently have any rules about property or sharing in your house?Laurel: Not officially. I mean—Derrick: We typically will say stuff like, “That's Kira's. If she doesn't want to share it with you, give it back.” But the problem is we have so much community property.Sarah: Okay. That's what I call it: community property. Yeah. So you're doing exactly the right thing with things that belong to one person. They never have to share it if they don't want to, and other people have to ask before they touch it. Perfect.And in terms of community property, I'd suggest you have a rule: somebody gets to use something until they're done. Period. Long turns.I didn't know this when my kids were little, and I had ridiculous song-and-dance with timers—“Okay, you can have it for 10 minutes and then you can have it for 10 minutes.” But that actually increases anxiety. You want to relax into your play, not feel like, “Oh, I've only got this for 10 minutes.”So if it belongs to everyone, the person using it gets to use it as long as they want. And you empathize with the other person: “Oh, I know your brother's been playing with that pogo stick for an hour. It's so hard to wait, isn't it? When it's your turn, you'll have it as long as you want.”So if you have good sharing rules and community property rules right off the bat, you take away a lot of opportunities for resentment to build upDerrick: My biggest question is just how do you intervene when those rules are violated?Sarah: You just calmly say something like, “Oh, I know you really, really wanna play with the pogo stick. You cannot push your brother off of it just because you want a turn.” I'm just making things up here, but the idea is: you can't push your brother off just because you want something. Then you go back to the family rules. You could even make a sign—I actually have one I can send you to print out—that says, “In our family, we get to use it as long as we want.”And then you empathize with the aggressor about how hard it is to wait. Keep going back to the rules and offering lots of empathy. If someone's being difficult, recognize that they're having a hard time.Laurel, when Derrick said, “You always…” or “You never…,” anytime you hear words like that, you know somebody's hijacked by big feelings. That's not the time to make it a teachable moment. Just empathize with the hard time they're having. Nobody ever wants to calm down until they feel empathized with, acknowledged, and heard. You can always talk about it later if something needs to be discussed, but in the moment of heightened tension, just acknowledge feelings: “Oh my goodness, you were doing this thing and then your brother came and took it. This is so hard.”I also have a little ebook with these best practices laid out—I'll send it to you.The third best practice is: always be the moderator, not the negotiator. If there's a fight between the kids, your goal is to help them talk to each other. Don't try to solve it or say who's right or wrong. Even if you're right and careful not to favor one child, your solution will always fuel sibling rivalry. The child who wasn't chosen feels slighted, and the one who was chosen might think, “Dad loves me best.”So my phrase is: “Be Switzerland.” Stay neutral, intervene in a neutral way, and help them talk to each other. Give each child a chance to speak. Do you want to give me an example we can walk through?Derrick: A lot of times it's not even about taking, it's about disrupting. Aubrey has this baby doll she's obsessed with. She carries it everywhere—it looks really real, kind of creepy. Blake will walk by, pull the pacifier out of its mouth, and throw it across the room. Instant meltdown. His thing is, he knows the rules and how to toe the line. He'll say, “I didn't take the baby, I just disrupted it.”Sarah: Right, right.Derrick: And then, “Deal with it.”Sarah: Yeah, okay. So that's not exactly a “be Switzerland” moment, because it's not a two-way fight. He's just provoking his sister to get a rise out of her. That's classic sibling rivalry. It also sounds like he worries you don't love him as much as his sisters. Does he ever say that out loud?Laurel: He has sometimes. His other big thing is he doesn't have a brother, but they have each other. He constantly brings that up.Sarah: That's what I call a chip on his shoulder. When he provokes her like that, it's because he has feelings inside that make him act out. He's not a bad kid; he's having a hard time. Picking fights is often an attempt to get rid of difficult feelings. If we have a bad day and don't process it, we might come home cranky or pick a fight—it's not about the other person, it's about us.So I'd suggest having some heart-to-hearts with Blake, maybe at bedtime. Give him space to process. Say, “It must be really hard to have two little sisters and be the only boy. I bet you wish you had a brother.” Or, “I wonder if it's hard to share me and mom with your sisters. I wonder if it's hard being the oldest.” Share your own stories: “I remember when I was growing up, it was hard to be the big sister.” Or Derrick, you could share what it was like for your older sibling.The same goes for Kira: “It must be hard being in the middle—your big brother gets to do things you can't, and your little sister gets babied more.” The point is to let them express their feelings so they don't have to act them out by provoking.That provocative behavior is just difficult feelings looking for a way out. Your role is to open the door for those feelings. Say things like, “I know this must be hard. I hear you. You can always talk to me about your feelings. All your feelings are okay with me.” And you have to mean it—even if they say things like, “I wish they didn't exist,” or, “I wish you never had that baby.” That's totally normal. Don't be afraid of it. Resist the urge to offer silver linings like, “But sometimes you play so well together.” It's not time for optimism—it's time for listening and acknowledging.You can also say, “I'm sorry if I ever did anything that made you feel like I didn't love you as much as your sisters. I couldn't love anyone more than I love you.” You can say that to each child without lying, because it's true. That reassurance goes to the root of sibling rivalry.Derrick: That's really helpful. I'd love your insight on some of the things we're already doing. Lately, I've realized I spend more time in the girls' room at bedtime. Blake has his own room. He's more self-sufficient—he can read and put himself to sleep. For the past year, I've been reading in the girls' room instead, since they need more wrangling. So I've tried to switch that and spend more time in Blake's room reading with him. We've also started doing “mom dates” or “dad dates” with each kid.Sarah: That's perfect! My final best practice is one-on-one time. You're on the right track. It doesn't have to be a “date.” Special Time is 15 minutes a day with each child, right at home. You don't need to go to the aquarium or spend money. Just say, “I'm all yours for the next 15 minutes—what do you want to play?” Try to keep it play-centered and without screens.Laurel: Sometimes when we call it a “mommy date,” it turns into something big. That makes it hard to do consistently.Sarah: Exactly. You can still do those, but Special Time is smaller and daily. Fifteen minutes is manageable. With little ones, you might need to get creative—for example, one parent watches two kids while the other has Special Time with the third. You could even “hire” Blake to watch Aubrey for a few minutes so you can have time with Kira.Laurel: That makes sense. I did think of an example, though. What frustrates me most isn't sharing, but when they're unkind to each other. I harp on them about family sticking together and being kind. For example, last week at surf camp, both kids had zinc on their faces—Blake was orange, Kira was purple. She was so excited and bubbly that morning, which is unusual for her. In front of neighbor friends, Blake made fun of her purple face. It devastated her. I laid into him, telling him he's her protector and needs to be kind. I don't want to be too hard on him, but I also want him to understand.Sarah: Based on everything we've talked about, you can see how coming down hard on him might make him feel bad about himself and worry that you don't love him—fueling even more resentment. At the same time, of course we don't want siblings hurting each other's feelings. This is where empathic limits come in.You set the limit—“It's not okay to tease your sister because it hurts her feelings”—but you lead with his perspective. You might say, “Hey, I know people with color on their faces can look funny, and maybe you thought it was just a joke. At the same time, that really made your sister feel bad.” That way, you correct him without making him feel like a bad kid.Do you think he was trying to be funny, or was he trying to hurt her?Laurel: I think he was. He'll also reveal secrets or crushes in front of friends—he knows it's ammo.Sarah: Right. In that situation, I'd first empathize with Kira: “I'm so sorry your brother said that—it never feels good to be laughed at.” Then privately with Blake: “What's going on with you that you wanted to make your sister feel bad?” Come at it with curiosity, assuming he's doing the best he can. If he says, “I was just joking,” you can respond, “We need to be more careful with our jokes so they're not at anyone's expense.” That's correcting without shaming.Laurel: I love that. Sometimes I'm trying to say that, but not in a peaceful way, so he can't receive it. Then he asks, “Am I a bad kid?” and I have to backtrack.Sarah: Exactly—skip the part that makes him feel like a bad kid. Sensitive kids don't need much correction—they already feel things deeply. Just get curious.Laurel: That makes sense. Correcting without shaming.Sarah: Yes.Laurel: We also tried something new because of the constant questions. They'll keep asking: “Can I do this? Can I watch a show?” We got tired of repeating no. So now we say, “I don't know yet. Let me think about it. But if you ask again, the answer will be no.” Is that okay?Sarah: I used to say, “If I have to give a quick answer, it's going to be no.” I'd also say, “You can ask me as many times as you want, but the answer will still be no.” With empathy: “I know it's hard to hear no, but it's still no.” Another thing I said was, “It would be so much easier for me to say yes. But I love you enough to say no.” That helped my kids see it wasn't easy for me either.Laurel: That's helpful. Another thing: our kids do so much—they're busy and around people a lot, partly because of our personalities and being pastors. We try to build in downtime at home, but often after a fun day they complain on the way home: “Why do we have to go to bed?” They don't reflect on the fun—they just want more.Sarah: That's totally normal. You could go to an amusement park, eat pizza and ice cream, see a movie, and if you say no to one more thing, they'll say, “We never do anything fun!” Kids are wired to want more. That's evolutionary: quiet kids who didn't ask for needs wouldn't survive. Wanting isn't a problem, and it doesn't mean they'll turn into entitled adults.Kids live in the moment. If you say no to ice cream, they fixate on that, not the whole day. So stay in the moment with them: “You really wanted ice cream. I know it's disappointing we're not having it.” Resist the urge to say, “But we already did all these things.”Laurel: I love that. We even started singing “Never Enough” from The Greatest Showman, and now they hate it. It feels like nothing is ever enough.Sarah: That's normal.Laurel: I also want to bring it back to peaceful, no-fear parenting. I can be hard on myself, and I see that in my kids. I don't want that.Sarah: If you don't want your kids to be hard on themselves, model grace for yourself. Say, “I messed up, but I'm still worthy and lovable.” Being hard on yourself means you only feel lovable when you don't make mistakes. We want our kids to know they're lovable no matter what—even when they mess up or bother their siblings. That's true self-worth: being lovable because of who you are, not what you do. That's what gives kids the courage to take risks and not stay small out of fear of failure. They'll learn that from your modeling.Laurel: That makes sense.Sarah: And I've never, ever seen anyone do this work without being compassionate with themselves.Laurel: Hmm. Like—Sarah: You can't beat yourself up and be a peaceful parent.Laurel: Yeah, I know. Because then I'd see them doing it. It's like, no, I don't. Yeah. Yeah. I purposely don't want you guys to be that way. Yeah. That's great. Those are all good things to think about. I think the other questions I can tie back to what you've already answered, like being disrespectful or sassiness creeping in—the talking back kind of stuff. And that's all from, I mean, it stems from not feeling heard, not feeling empathized with.Sarah: Totally. And being hijacked by big feelings—even if it's your own big feelings of not getting what you want. That can be overwhelming and send them into fight, flight, or freeze. Sassiness and backtalk is the fight response. It's the mild fight. They're not screaming, hitting, or kicking, but just using rude talk.Laurel: Hmm. And so same response as a parent with that too? Just be in the moment with their feelings and then move on to talking about why and letting them kind of—Sarah: Yeah. And empathizing. Just like, “Ah, you're really…” Say they're saucy about you not letting them have some ice cream. “You never let me have ice cream! This is so unfair! You're so mean!” Whatever they might say. You can respond, “Ugh, I know, it's so hard. You wish you could have all the ice cream in the freezer. You'd eat the whole carton if you could.” Just recognize what they're feeling. It doesn't have to be a teachable moment about sugar or health. You can just be with them in their hard time about not getting what they want. And they'll get through to the other side—which builds resilience.Laurel: How do you discipline when it's needed—not punish, but discipline? For example, a deliberate rule is broken, somebody gets hurt, or stealing—like when it's clear they know it was wrong?Sarah: You want to help them see how their actions affect other people, property, or the community. That's where they internalize right and wrong. If you give them a punishment for breaking something, that only teaches them how their actions affect them—not how their actions affect others. That makes kids think, “What's in it for me? I better not do this thing because I don't want to get in trouble,” instead of, “I better not do this because it will hurt my sister or disappoint my parents.” So punishments and imposed consequences pull kids away from the real consequences—like someone getting hurt or trust being broken.You really want to help them understand: “The reason why we have this rule is because of X, Y, Z. And when you did this, here's what happened.” If they have a problem with the rule, talk about it together as a family. That works much better than punishment.Laurel: We had an incident at church where our 10-year-old was talking about something inappropriate with another kid. The other parent reached out, and I feel like we handled it okay. We talked with him, he was open, and we discussed what was said. Then we apologized to that parent in person and had a conversation. It didn't feel like we were forcing him to do something bad or shaming him.Sarah: That's good—it's about making a repair. That's always the focus. Without knowing the whole situation, I might not have said apologizing to the parent, because technically the parent wasn't directly involved. But if your son was willing and it felt authentic, that's great. What matters is the outcome: repair. Sometimes parents suggest an apology to make the child feel ashamed so they'll “remember it,” but that's not helpful. The question is: does the apology or repair actually improve the situation? That's what you keep in mind.Laurel: Well, thanks for all your wisdom.Sarah: You're welcome. It was really nice to meet you both.Part 2:Sarah: Welcome back, Laurel and Derek. Thanks for joining again. How have things been since our first coaching call?Laurel: Yeah. I feel like we gained several really good nuggets that we were able to try. One of them was about my daughter in the mornings—not wanting to get dressed, feeling stuck in the middle and left out. I've gotten to stop what I'm doing and pay attention to her. Even this morning, she still had a meltdown, but things went faster by the end compared to me being stubborn and telling her to do it on her own.Sarah: So you dropped your end of the power struggle.Laurel: Yeah. And it felt great because I wasn't frustrated afterward. I could move on right away instead of also blowing up. If we both blow up, it's bad. But if she's the only one, she can snap out of it quickly. I can't as easily, so it usually lingers for me. This way, it was so much better.We've had some challenging parenting moments this week, but looking at them through the lens of making our kids feel worthy and loved helped us respond differently. One thing you said last time—that “the perpetrator needs empathy”—really stuck with me. I always felt like the misbehaving child should feel our wrath to show how serious it was. But we were able to love our kids through a couple of tough situations, and it worked.Derrick: For me, the biggest takeaway was the “kindling” metaphor. I've even shared it with friends. Before, I thought I was being patient, but I was just collecting kindling until I blew up. Now I recognize the kindling and set it down—take a breath, or tell the kids I need a minute. This morning on the way to soccer, I told them I needed a little pity party in the front seat before I could play their game. That helped me calm before reengaging.Sarah: That's fantastic. You recognized you needed to calm yourself before jumping back in, instead of pushing through already-annoyed feelings.Laurel: Yeah. We did have questions moving forward. We had a couple of situations where we knew our kids were lying about something significant. We told them, “We love you, and we need you to tell the truth.” But they denied it for days before finally giving in. How do we encourage truth-telling and open communication?Sarah: Kids usually lie for three reasons: they're afraid of getting in trouble, they feel ashamed or embarrassed, or they're afraid of disappointing you. Sometimes it's all three. So the focus has to be: we might be unhappy with what you did, but we'll just work on fixing it. When they do admit the truth, it's important to say, “I'm so glad you told me.” That helps remove shame.Natural consequences happen without your involvement. If they take money from your wallet, the natural consequence is that you're missing money and trust is broken. But adding punishments just teaches them to hide better next time.Derrick: How do you frame the difference between a consequence and a boundary? Like if they mess up in an environment and we don't let them back into it for a while—is that a consequence or a boundary?Sarah: In peaceful parenting, we talk about limits. If they show they're not ready for a certain freedom, you set a limit to support them—not to punish. A consequence is meant to make them feel bad so they won't repeat it. A limit is about guidance and support.The way to tell: check your tone and your intent. If you're angry and reactive, it will feel punishing even if it's not meant to be. And if your intent is to make them suffer, that's a punishment. If your tone is empathetic and your intent is to support expectations, it's a limit.Derrick: That's helpful. Sometimes we beat ourselves up wondering if we're punishing when we're just setting limits. Your tone-and-intent framework is a good check.Sarah: And if you mess up in the moment, you can always walk it back. Say, “I was really angry when I said that. Let's rethink this.” That models responsibility for when we act out while triggered.Derrick: That's good.Sarah: You mentioned sibling rivalry last time. Did you try the “It's theirs until they're done with it” approach?Derrick: Yes—and it's like a miracle. It worked especially in the car.Sarah: That's great. I know car rides were tricky before.Laurel: What about mantras to help us remember not to let our kids' behavior define us as parents—or as people?Sarah: What you're talking about is shame. It's when we feel unworthy because of our kids' behavior or what others think. We have to separate our worth from our kids' actions. Even if your child is struggling, you're still a good, worthy, lovable person.Laurel: Almost the same thing we say to our kids: “You are worthy and lovable.”Sarah: Exactly. So when you feel yourself going into a shame spiral, remind yourself: “Even though my child did this thing, I am still worthy and lovable.” Hold both truths together.Laurel: Yes. That helps. One last question: mornings. School starts in a day, and we worry every morning will be a struggle with Kira. She resists everything—getting dressed, socks, breakfast. Then she's fine once we're in the car. How can we help her set her own boundaries about mornings?Sarah: It sounds like she gets anxious around transitions. She doesn't do well with being hurried. That anxiety overwhelms her, and she goes into fight mode—pushing back, lashing out.Laurel: Yes, that's exactly it.Sarah: So part of it is adjusting your routine—giving her more time in the morning. But another part is building resilience. The anti-anxiety phrase is: “We can handle this.” Remind her, “Even if it's not going how you wanted, you can handle it. We can do hard things.” Add in laughter to ease tension.And maybe accept that for now, you might need to spend 10 minutes helping her get dressed. That's okay. You can balance it by giving her extra nurturing at other times of the day so she doesn't seek it as much during rushed mornings.Derrick: That's good.Sarah: Thank you both so much. I've loved these conversations.Derrick: Thank you, Sarah.Sarah: You're welcome. It's been wonderful. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

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No one listening or watching and they can't go where you don't want them to go and they aren't watching screens. BUT they are being entertained or kept company with audio that you can buy from YOTO or create yourself on one of their blank cards. Check them out HEREInterview transcript:Welcome back to another episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast. Today's guest is Devon Kuntzman, who is an expert on all things toddler. We discussed why toddlers get a bad rap—why they can be really challenging—and what's going on with them developmentally. Devon has so much insight into how to understand your toddler better, and therefore how to make life with them easier by knowing how to support them.We also talked about mysterious toddler behavior, and I asked her the questions I get most from you—what to do in tricky situations like car seats, teeth brushing, diapers, and more. You are going to finish this episode with a deeper understanding of your toddler and a deeper appreciation of these wondrous and sometimes challenging little beings.Even if you don't have a toddler anymore, you might find it interesting—as I did—to understand in hindsight exactly why they acted the way they did. And if you don't have a toddler anymore but you do know someone with a toddler—that's ages one through four—send this podcast on over to them. I'm sure they're going to find it really, really helpful. Devon is just wonderful.Okay, let's meet Devon.Sarah: Hey Devon, welcome to the podcast.Devon: Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to be here.Sarah: Me too. I'm so excited to talk about your new book that's coming out. But before we dive into that, can you tell us a little bit about who you are and what you do?Devon: Yes. So, I am Devon Kuntzman, and I'm an ICF certified coach, toddler expert, and the founder of Transforming Toddlerhood. I'm also a mama to a toddler and now an author with a book coming out October 21st called Transforming Toddlerhood as well.I really started Transforming Toddlerhood in 2018 to dispel the myth that toddlerhood is terrible. Yes, toddlerhood is very, very challenging developmentally for so many reasons, but it's also a critical developmental period. If we just go into it white-knuckling it, bracing ourselves for the worst, we actually start to miss the magic of this developmental period and the opportunity to set our kids up for success in the long run.The first five years of life set the foundation for brain development and social-emotional development for years to come.Sarah: I love that. And actually, I love the toddler stage. I know a lot of people find it really challenging, and I can see why, but also, as you said, it is really magical. They're such interesting little creatures, and I just love that stage.So, your book is coming out October 21st, and we would encourage anyone listening to pre-order it. I was so excited to read your book because, when I was reading it, I was thinking, “You know what this is? It's like a perfect peaceful parenting primer, except everything is focused on this age group.”There are a lot of great peaceful parenting books out there, but they don't focus on this age group. And this age group is so specific. I don't know if that's what you were intending to write when you wrote it. If you weren't intending to, I think that's what you did.Devon: Yes. The reason I wrote this book is because we have so many parenting books out there—amazing books that talk about peaceful parenting, respectful parenting, and all of these things. But none of them are truly tailored to the toddler years.At the same time, I have parents DMing me every day asking me so many different questions, and I can see the desperation of these parents. They're searching on Instagram, they're Googling, they're trying to find the answers to these very real, challenging problems in their lives. And there wasn't just one place to go to get all of these answers.That's why I wrote Transforming Toddlerhood. It's an all-in-one, comprehensive, easy-to-read guide that truly covers just about every challenge you might have throughout toddlerhood. Whether it's healthy, developmentally appropriate discipline, being on a different page from your parenting partner, your child whining, struggling with parental preference, or introducing a new sibling—I really cover everything in this book.I wanted parents to have a place they could go to get quick answers that were trusted, so they didn't have to search everywhere for them.Sarah: Yeah, you absolutely did it. You succeeded at your goal. I get lots of questions about toddlers too—in my coaching and in my communities—and every single one of the questions that I get was in the book. That was great.So, I encourage people to go out and get it. I'm actually going to order a copy for my husband's cousin and his wife. They have a little girl who's about 15 or 16 months now, so it'll be perfect for them.Devon: Perfect.Sarah: So, toddlers—as you mentioned before—have a bad rap, right? You know, the “terrible twos,” the “horrible threes,” or whatever people call them. Why do you think that is? And maybe tell us a little bit about what's going on developmentally. I think those two answers are probably connected.Devon: I am so excited to answer this question, because this is a question I always ask everyone who comes on my annual summit. And I'm so excited to get to answer it myself.I really feel that toddlerhood is so challenging for parents because it's the first time your child is realizing that they're a separate entity from you. And at the same time, you're realizing your child is a separate entity from you as well.The whole point of toddlerhood is for your child to become their own separate individual. And the way they do that is through behaviors that delineate a line between your toddler and yourself. They're going to say “no.” They're going to push back. They're going to have their own agenda.We start seeing this even as early as nine months old, with a child who doesn't want to get their diaper changed. Or you have a 12-month-old—you ask them to come over, they laugh and run the other direction. Or you have a 14-month-old who thinks you're moving too slowly, or doesn't like what you're doing, and then they hit you on the head.It's really the first time we move out of a purely caregiving role into what I like to call a really active parenting role, where we have to decide how we're going to respond to these behaviors.I think the bigger challenge is that we're looking at these behaviors through a logical lens with fully mature brains. So, we label these behaviors as bad or wrong. But really, all the behaviors that drive us crazy are developmentally appropriate behaviors for toddlers.Because of that mismatch—between our expectations of what we think is typical and what our toddlers are actually doing—it creates a lot of frustration. It creates fear spiraling: “Are they always going to be this way? Is my child going to grow up to be a bully?” X, Y, Z. All of that makes parenting this age group really, really challenging.Sarah: Yeah, I was just talking to someone this morning who has a 2-year-old and a new baby—which, of course, as you know, exacerbates the challenges of toddlers when you're adding to your family.I have noticed anecdotally that people tend to think two or three are the hardest years, and it almost always comes back to when they had their next child. If they had them two years apart, they found two harder. If they had them three years apart, they found three harder.This mom was just telling me about some struggles, and I said, “Yeah, your daughter is at that stage where she has her own ideas about things she would like to do or have. And it's combined with a lack of logic, perspective, and brain development.” It's like a perfect storm: “I know what I want, but I don't have any experience in life or brain development to be able to express it in a different way.”Devon: Yes, exactly. And another challenge that's really happening in toddlerhood—which comes through in their behavior—is this idea of contradictory needs.As I was saying, your toddler is trying to become their own person. They want to be independent. They're developmentally driven to have a sense of control, feel capable, and exert their will. But at the same time, they're highly reliant on the adults in their life to meet their social and physical needs.So even though these developmental needs are so strong, they still need you—that safe and secure base—to help meet their emotional and physical needs. Toddlers are constantly trying to balance these opposing needs, and that really comes out in contradictory, challenging behavior that can drive us crazy.Sarah: Yeah, I love that. I remember that so well—that “I want to do it by myself. No, I want you to do it for me.” The contradictory needs. That's such a beautiful way to put it.Devon: Yeah.Sarah: What is something you hear all the time that you find yourself saying, “Oh, that's totally normal for toddlers”? What's something parents don't know is normal, but you find yourself reassuring them that it is?Devon: Yes. Basically, the behaviors we as adults really don't like, that we think are inappropriate. Yes, in our logical, fully mature adult brains, hitting, biting, throwing, kicking, screaming, crying—all of these things—feel wrong.But if you think about it, babies' only way of communicating is to cry. Then, as toddlers start to grow, they go through a lot of physical development. They start communicating through their behaviors.For example, if you have a toddler throwing food from their high chair at 15 or 18 months old, they might be experimenting with cause and effect: “If I drop this food, what happens? Does the dog pick it up? How do my parents respond?” They're experimenting and exploring, which is very appropriate.Or take hitting and biting. Toddlers, especially one- and two-year-olds, cannot say, “I don't like this. I'm feeling frustrated.” So instead, they hit you or bite you.I just want parents to know: behavior is not good or bad. We have to step away from that dichotomous lens. Behavior is communication. Once we understand that, we can ask: “What skill does my child need to learn to be successful here?” instead of “What punishment do I need to give to make them listen or to teach them a lesson?”Sarah: Yes—or not only, “What skill?” but also, “What support does my child need to meet my expectation?” Right? Because sometimes the skill's not going to come for a long time with a toddler. But the support is something you can give them.Devon: I love that. This comes up a lot—the idea of “My toddler's not listening to me.” We set the limit, and then we expect our toddlers to just fall in line, follow through, and listen.But the truth is, we need to ask: “What support does my toddler need to meet this limit I'm setting?” We often think saying the limit is the end of our job, but it's actually the beginning.Setting the limit is step one. Then we have to help our kids follow through on that limit—especially the younger they are or the more unmet needs they have in that moment. If they're tired, hungry, overstimulated—then they're going to need even more help to follow through.Sarah: Yes. And I'm going to jump ahead in my list of questions. I was going to ask you about power struggles later, but I want to ask now since you just mentioned limits.I find parents sometimes get too hung up on limits—not that limits aren't important, because they are—but they often get too attached to their own sense of what the limit should be.I love that when you were writing about power struggles, you suggested starting with the question: “What's the goal here?” I'd love for you to talk about power struggles and limits through that lens. Because, as I mentioned this morning to a parent of a 2-year-old, there's so much a 2-year-old has no control over in their life. We want to think about how we can be flexible about the rest.So maybe just talk about your lens of power struggles a little bit, starting with that “What's the goal here?” I love that.Devon: Oh my gosh, I have so much to say on this subject.When we ask ourselves, “What's the goal here?” the main thing to consider is: are we trying to win? Because if you're battling your toddler to win, then you've probably lost sight of the bigger picture—which is: How do you want to show up as a parent? What relationship are you trying to create? What support are you trying to give your child? What skills do they need to learn?When we get caught up in trying to win, we're in our stress response. The more committed we get to winning, the more tightly we get locked in the power struggle. And then everyone's just on their own emotional roller coaster.The reality is, it takes two people to be in a power struggle. And if you're waiting for your toddler to suddenly say, “Oh, just kidding, I'll do what you want,” you'll be waiting a long time. Toddlers are developmentally driven to exert their will and be their own person. They're likely to double down.And toddlers can be really persistent. So we have to zoom out and think about the bigger picture. Instead of being so attached to one way of doing something, we can pivot in an empowered way.That might mean moving forward and letting your toddler follow you. Maybe it's giving them a choice between two things within your boundaries. Maybe it's saying, “When you brush your teeth (or pick up this toy), then we can go outside (or read a book).”There are so many different tools we can use to pivot out of power struggles. Because quite frankly, we're the adults. We have to be the leaders and guides in these moments. Our toddlers aren't going to suddenly say, “Oh, just kidding, sorry.”Sarah: Yes. And the other thing I've been thinking about a lot lately is, if we're not modeling flexibility, how are our kids going to learn it? If we can't be flexible as parents, then how will our kids learn to be flexible?So often parents say, “My kid is so rigid, they're not flexible at all.” And then you listen to the parent a little, and it sounds like they're also being pretty rigid with their child.I think finding those graceful sidesteps—what you're talking about—is so important. It's not about someone winning and someone losing, but about how we can still get to the goal we're trying to reach.Devon: Exactly. And this is a very Montessori-aligned thought: we as parents have to create the container, the foundation. But within those boundaries, there are a million ways something can happen and get done.So, we can give our child freedom within the boundaries. Of course they still need our guidance, but the key is to avoid backing out in a way that says, “Fine, you win.” Instead, we ask: how can we give them a sense of control within our boundaries? That way their developmental need for autonomy is met, while we're still in charge overall.Sarah: Okay. Going back to expectations—one thing I read in your book really struck me. You cited research showing that half of parents believe kids are capable of self-control and milestones earlier than they actually are.I find that too—parents' expectations are often way too high for the age their child is, or for where they are developmentally.So, how do you know if your expectations are out of whack? And what happens—what are the negative things that can happen—when they are?Devon: I always say we typically underestimate our child's physical abilities and overestimate their social-emotional capabilities and impulse control.There's a lot of research and polls showing this is the case. And when we hold unrealistic expectations, we get really frustrated, because we think our toddler is being “bad,” doing something they shouldn't be doing developmentally.Then we turn it inward: “I must be doing a bad job. I'm messing up.”The best way to know if your expectations are appropriate is by looking at your child's behavior over time—over several days or a week. What's really happening in those moments? If you see a consistent pattern, you can start to say, “Okay, maybe I'm asking too much of my child.”That doesn't mean you just throw the expectation out the window and say, “Too bad, I'll try again next year.” It means they need more support.So you scaffold the skill. For example, something like getting dressed takes a lot of planning and coordination. It's a skill that needs to be built over time. We need to start transferring those skills to our children—with our support.So when your expectations are too big, you don't throw them out completely. You ask: how can I support my child to get where I need them to be?Sarah: Yeah. I always talk about when there's the gap between your expectations and the reality, a lot of conventional parenting is like, “Okay, well what threat or consequence do I need to close that gap?” But I always think about just like, what support do we need to close the gap between the expectations and reality?And of course, sometimes I think you do—there is a place for throwing expectations out the window. Because sometimes they're so far off that it's better to let go of the expectation than to try to get your kid to do it.Or, you know, I think resources can go up and down. One day your kid might be able to do something, and the next day their resources might be a lot lower and they can't manage. We have to be flexible.Devon: For the parent too. There are going to be days when we're more resourced, and days when we didn't sleep well. Maybe our toddler was up at 2:00 AM and we're tired. There are days when we just feel like there's too much to do and not enough time. Days when we have our own feelings, emotions, and needs that need attention, and there's not a lot of space for that.That's where we really just need to have compassion for ourselves and for our toddlers, and really give each other the benefit of the doubt—knowing that we're doing the best that we can. Then we can start working from that place: right now, we're doing the best we can in this moment. What's the next step to getting where we need to be?I didn't mention this in the book, but something I talk about a lot with my private clients is that oftentimes we want to jump from A to Z. And that's a really big leap, right? We want to leap across the Grand Canyon, when really what we want to do is step across on stepping stones. Move from A to B, B to C, C to D. That's how we eventually get to where we need to be.This is true across the board when we're thinking about expectations, skills, and things of that nature. So when we don't try to do it all at once, we're going to have more realistic expectations and we're going to be less frustrated.Sarah: Yeah.Devon: That makes so much sense.Sarah: I love also that you really, in the book, normalize toddler behavior. You mentioned before, throwing—and at one point, as I was reading your book, I wondered, “I wonder if she's going to talk about play schemas.” And then you had the section on play schemas.So much of what toddlers do, parents just don't know is normal. Like you were talking about throwing food off the highchair. I always remind parents of the trajectory schema—how does the food move through space, or what happens when I drop this, and learning about gravity.Speaking of normalizing, one of the things that I loved in your book was when you talked about avoiding positive dismissiveness. I loved how you addressed that—when parents say that kids are crying for no reason. Can you talk about that a little bit, what to avoid, and what to do instead?Devon: Yeah. I decided to dedicate a chapter to crying because crying is such an important communication tool for kids. Beyond that, research shows that crying is actually beneficial to our bodies. It helps release hormones that make us feel better.So crying serves a lot of purposes. When we look at crying as “fake crying” or “crying for no reason,” it really shortchanges a normal biological process, a normal way of communication for young children. It also dismisses a child's needs.Now, I will tell you, it is hard to hear your child cry. It is so hard. I had a baby that cried for hours on end—I'm talking five-plus hours a day. So I've heard my fair share of crying, probably enough for ten lifetimes.It's really hard for me, even now with my toddler, to hear him cry. But knowing that you're not a bad parent and there's nothing wrong if your child is crying—that this is actually an emotional release—is super helpful.We don't want our kids to shove it down. Instead of saying, “You're fine, you're fine”—which usually comes from a good place, because we just want our kids to feel better—we can say things like, “That must have been hard,” or, “That was unexpected,” or, “Oh, you fell down and scraped your knee. I'm sorry that happened.”This creates emotional connection and helps build emotional resilience.Sarah: I love that. Listeners to this podcast will have heard me talk a lot about emptying the emotional backpack. That's what you're talking about too—crying might not even be about the thing that just happened. It might just be how they're releasing pent-up stresses, tensions, and big feelings they've been carrying around.And the second part of what you're talking about is really empathy, right? It's so hard because we don't always get why something is so upsetting—like you cut the sandwich wrong, or the muffin is broken in half and they want it whole.But I always tell parents, it's appropriate for little kids to have big feelings about small things. That's their life perspective right now. They don't have big adult problems like we do; they just have toddler problems. And to them, those are just as big.Devon: Yeah. And I think it also really stems from this idea of a lack of control. A lot of crying isn't really about the thing that happened—it's just the release of all the pent-up stuff, and that was the last straw.But why that becomes the last straw—like cutting the sandwich wrong or peeling the banana when they didn't want you to—is because toddlers have so little control over their lives. Yet this is the stage where they're craving control so badly, as they're differentiating themselves and becoming their own person.So that little thing, like peeling the banana when they didn't want you to, just reinforces the lack of control they feel—and that's what sends them over the edge.Sarah: That makes so much sense. I just have so much compassion and empathy for toddlers. I think toddlerhood and middle school are the hardest times of childhood.Okay, let's shift into some tips, because I'm going to use you to ask some of the questions I get all the time. These have been the questions on repeat for the last 12 years I've been doing this.Here's what I hear:My kid won't get in the car seat—or they cry when they're in the car seat.They don't want their diapers changed, even if it's really wet or dirty.They don't want me to brush their teeth.They won't stop throwing things.So if you want to lump some of those together, go for it—or take them one at a time. I'd love to hear your advice on those situations.Devon: Absolutely. Most of these have to do with the toddler's developmental drive to experiment and explore—and that happens through movement. Couple that with bodily autonomy: kids know inherently that they are in charge of their bodies.You can't force a child to eat, use the bathroom, or fall asleep. They are 100% in control of their bodies. That idea—that control is an illusion—is really tough for toddler parents to reckon with. But toddlers are great at teaching us this.The faster we accept that control is an illusion, and that instead we are partners who have to work with our children, the better things will go. At the same time, we are the adults, and we are in charge. Sometimes we do have to cross a child's bodily autonomy to keep them safe and healthy.So let's go through the examples.Car seats: Toddlers don't like being restricted—in a high chair, stroller, or car seat. Every toddler will push against this at some point. It can last for a while and come in phases.Giving your child a sense of control helps: let them climb in, let them choose whether you buckle them or they do it, let them clip the chest strap. Play a silly song as a celebration when they're in. Keep special toys in the car that they only get to play with there.Also, start earlier than you think you need to, so you're not rushing. But in the end, sometimes we do have to keep them safe by buckling them in. If we go against their autonomy, we need to talk them through what's happening, support their emotions, and try again next time.Diaper changes: When toddlers start refusing diaper changes, it means they're ready for something new. They want to move from a passive bystander to an active participant in their toileting journey.The first step is to change them standing up in the bathroom. Teach them how to push down their pants, undo the diaper tabs, or lean forward so you can wipe them. Yes, it's harder to clean them up this way, but it gives them control.Tooth brushing: Toddlers want control here too. I recommend three toothbrushes—one for each of their hands and one for you.Sarah: I remember letting my kids brush my teeth with my toothbrush while I brushed theirs.Devon: Exactly! That's perfect. Another tip: start brushing your own teeth in front of them from a young age. Don't put pressure on them; let them get interested in what you're doing.If it's become a big power struggle, change up the environment. We often brush my son's teeth in his bedroom, with his head in my lap—it's actually easier that way. Change of scenery can make a big difference.Sarah: I'll share a tip that worked with my kids—we made up a story about “Mr. Dirt” who lived in their mouths, and every night we brushed him out. They loved hearing about his adventures while we brushed.Devon: I love that. That's playfulness—and playfulness creates connection, which creates cooperation. Play is the language of toddlerhood. The more we can tap into that, the better things go.Sarah: Yes! I'm surprised we got this far without specifically calling out playfulness—it's the number one tool in the toolbox for working with toddlers.Devon: Exactly. Playfulness, role play, brushing a doll's teeth first, or letting your child brush yours—it all helps toddlers feel powerful and understood.Sarah: Okay, the last challenge: throwing things. I talked to a young couple who wanted to make a “no throwing” rule in their house. I told them I didn't think that would work, since it's such a developmental need. How do you manage throwing when it could be unsafe or destructive?Devon: Great question. I talk about this in my book when I explain the recipe for effective discipline: connection, limits, and teaching skills.First, get curious about what's driving the behavior—throwing can mean so many things. Then, set clear limits: it's not okay to throw breakables or throw at people. Finally, teach skills and alternatives.Sometimes you can't expect a two-year-old to regulate in the heat of the moment, so give them safe alternatives: a basket of balled-up socks, or paper they can throw into a laundry basket. This meets the need within your boundaries, while you also work on calming skills in calmer moments.Sarah: That's so helpful. Now, can you talk about why you don't recommend timeouts, and why you prefer time-ins instead?Devon: Yes. Timeouts are usually used as punishment—to teach a lesson or stop a behavior. But that's shortsighted. Behavior is communication, and if we don't understand what it's telling us, it will keep popping up—like a game of whack-a-mole.Also, kids often escalate in timeout, because they're being cut off from their safe base—you. They need you to help them calm down.That's why I recommend time-ins instead. With time-ins, you're still upholding limits and keeping everyone safe, but you're staying with your child, supporting them, and helping them regulate. This builds long-term skills and emotional resilience.Sarah: Love that. Thank you so much for coming on and for writing this book. I really encourage anyone who is a toddler parent—or who knows one—to pre-order your book. It's a fantastic addition to the peaceful parenting world, and so specific to toddler needs and development.Before I let you go, here's the question I ask all my guests: If you could go back in time to your younger parent self, what advice would you give?Devon: Gosh. I waited a long time to have a child, and I had a vision of how I wanted things to go. But I had a child with a lot of extra needs, and the things I thought would happen didn't. So I would tell myself to loosen my expectations, be grateful for the moments I have, and be flexible in how needs get met.Sarah: I love that. Perfect advice for parents of toddlers especially. Thanks so much, Devon.Devon: Thank you! You can find me on Instagram at @transformingtoddlerhood, or on my website, transformingtoddlerhood.com/book for preorder info and bonuses.Sarah: We'll put the link in the show notes. Your book is comprehensive and very readable—even for me, far past the toddler years. Great job, Devon.Devon: Thank you. That was my whole goal.Thanks for reading Reimagine Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet Substack! This post is public so feel free to share it.>> Please support us!!! Please consider becoming a supporter to help support our free content, including The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, our free parenting support Facebook group, and our weekly parenting emails, “Weekend Reflections” and “Weekend Support” - plus our Flourish With Your Complex Child Summit (coming back in November for the 3rd year!) All of this free support for you takes a lot of time and energy from me and my team. 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In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I have a conversation with Zach Brittle, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and couple's therapist certified in both Gottman Method Couple's Therapy and Relational Life Therapy. We focus on the two big areas that partners struggle with: what do you do when you disagree about parenting, and what do you do when one parent is highly reactive.We talk about:8:00 Sorting through different levels of disagreements between partners11:00 Start by finding what you agree about/values/parenting goals18:00 Explaining “Relational Life Therapy”21:00 How “repair” is the goal in peaceful families27:00 How to go into triggering conversations with our partners30:00 Take care of yourself, so you can show up for your partner and kids31:00 When one parent is more reactive than the other36:00 What do you do if your partner won't change?Resources mentioned in this episode:Sarah's podcast about limits and boundaries and the issues with themYoto Player-Screen Free Audio Book Player The Peaceful Parenting Membership Reimagining Limits (and more) in Peaceful Parenting Zach's podcast Marriage Therapy Radio Zach's private practice Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:Instagram Facebook Group YouTubeWebsiteJoin us on SubstackNewsletterBook a short consult or coaching session callxx Sarah and Corey**If you'd like an ad-free version of the podcast, consider becoming a supporter on Substack! If you already ARE a supporter, the ad-free version is waiting for you in the Substack app or you can enter the private feed URL in the podcast player of your choice. Know someone who might appreciate this post? Share it with them!Share This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

You can listen wherever you get your podcasts, OR— BRAND NEW: we've included a fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I have a conversation with Desireé B. Stephens about her 10 conscious steps to talking to kids about global crisis. **If you'd like an ad-free version of the podcast, consider becoming a supporter on Substack! If you already ARE a supporter, the ad-free version is waiting for you in the Substack app or you can enter the private feed URL in the podcast player of your choice. You can find the private feed URL for the ad-free version in your Substack account settings under “manage subscription”.Know someone who might appreciate this post? 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No one listening or watching and they can't go where you don't want them to go and they aren't watching screens. BUT they are being entertained or kept company with audio that you can buy from YOTO or create yourself on one of their blank cards. Check them out HEREInterview Transcript: Talking with Kids about Global Crisis with Desireé B. Stephens: Episode 205Sarah: Today's guest is Desiree B. Stephens, and we are going to be talking about 10 Conscious Steps to Talking with Kids About Global Crisis. With everything that's going on in the world right now, it's so important to know how to effectively talk to our kids about what's happening and to help them become social change-makers, rather than wanting to turn away from everything scary.I loved this conversation with Desiree. I was inspired by her and the work that she does, and I thought it would be a great overlap to have her come on and talk to us about this topic.On her Instagram, she asks the question: Ever wonder how decolonization and whole self-healing can transform our world? She and I would both agree that adding conscious parenting—or peaceful parenting—to that is really important. It's one way we are changing the world. Slowly, yes, but still changing the world.Hey Desiree, welcome to the podcast.Desiree: Hello. How are you, Sarah?Sarah: Good. I'm so glad! We've crossed paths a couple of times, but we've never really sat down to talk. I'm so glad to have this opportunity.Desiree: I am as well.Sarah: So, tell us about who you are and what you do.Desiree: Okay. Well, my name is Desiree B. Stephens, and I used to open up on TikTok and say, I pathologize whiteness as a system. What I do is believe in dismantling systems through somatic and trauma-informed practices and education. We work on removing shame spirals and touching on the root of the oppression that intersects us all.Sarah: Awesome. I found you—well, I knew you from Yolanda Williams—but I also came across an article you wrote on Substack that someone forwarded to me. That's what we're going to be talking about today.But I was also looking at your Substack, and you write about everything from parenting to history, decolonization, and politics. You cover a lot of really interesting topics. I encourage everyone to check it out—we'll link it in the show notes.The article that really piqued my interest was titled 10 Conscious Steps to Talking with Kids About Global Crisis. This is something I get asked about a lot, and honestly, I've never felt like I had great answers. Now you do! So I'm excited to hear about your steps. I think conscious parents are really struggling with this right now. I know I am, both personally and as a professional.My kids are older, so they have a little more understanding—not that it makes it easier, but at least they can use logic a little bit more. Whereas little kids are like, but why?You opened your article with the line: The world is burning and our children are absorbing the smoke. How do we talk to them about war, injustice, genocide, climate collapse, and economic fear? Just a few light dinner table topics, right?So what inspired you to write this? And then let's get into your ten steps.Desiree: What inspired me was simply that I am a conscious parent. I think we've all traversed different parenting styles over the years. I've been parenting since I was 17 years old. My youngest just started first grade, and over the years I've always had conversations with my children about what's happening in the world.I think where parents struggle is that it's innate to want to protect our children. Protection often looks like insulation. But in this current climate—having parented through the ‘90s and now parenting kids who have access to the entire world—it doesn't matter if we talk about it or not. They're going to find out. They can get on TikTok, and parental controls don't stop that.So I asked myself: how can I do this in a trauma-informed way? How can I honor their bodies? Because, like you said, we can't logic our way through colonization, genocide, starving people, or climate collapse. None of it makes sense.What we can do is trust what our kids are feeling, what they're going through, and what they're hearing from friends. So I began sitting down with them and asking: What did you hear about today? How did that make you feel? Where did that show up in your body?Our bodies tell us something. If they say, “My tummy hurt,” that's anxiety. For example, if a child hears about a school shooting, then suddenly doesn't want to eat and complains of a stomach ache, they're not sick—they're anxious. I can't tell them, You're safe, there's a security guard at school. That doesn't erase their fear.So the question is: how do we process those feelings and help them engage in social justice within a framework that makes sense to them—usually, the home?Sarah: That's such a good point—that none of it makes sense, and that the fear is real. I love that one of your steps is asking them what they already know. But before that, you have a step that I think is so important: start with consent, not control. Can you talk about that?Desiree: I believe in consent in all things. We often talk about consent in the context of sex—like, don't touch me here, that's my no-no square. But consent is much broader. A touch on the shoulder could be the lead-in to inappropriate behavior. Most children who are harmed are hurt by someone they know, who has built trust.So for me, consent extends to all things—including conversations. That ties into the second step, which is: What have you heard? But it begins with consent: Would you like to talk about this today? How are you feeling? Do you have questions?It lets them lead and make a choice. Because sometimes, even I don't want to talk about it. Sometimes I just want to eat dinner or relax, not think about the world burning. And if I feel that way, surely they do too.Sarah: You know what I love about that? I think of my oldest child, who's 24 now. From day one, he carried this existential angst. He cares so deeply about everything we're talking about, but he's always had a hard time putting it down.As he was growing up, I kept saying, It's amazing that you care so deeply and you go to protests, but you don't have to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. That's such an important lesson—and it's embedded in your idea of starting with consent.Desiree: Exactly. Right now, I'm in what I call a season of rest, reset, resist. On my Substack, I've been writing lessons on these themes: two on resting, two on resetting, and two on resisting.There's no way this work can be sustainable if we live in constant crisis. If we only focus on the terror, we lose the joy. But joy and rest are also acts of resistance. They are resilience.For example, in my work on decolonization, I remind people that these systems have existed for thousands of years. And yet—we're still here. That should bring joy. It's proof of resilience.White-bodied people who are new to anti-racism work or activism often burn out quickly. They go to every march, every meeting, until they're exhausted. And I ask: When are you just going to take a walk? When are you going to gather with friends and celebrate?This doesn't have to feel like an emergency all the time. That sense of urgency is one of the pillars of supremacy culture. Not everything is urgent. We're still here.Sarah: Yeah.Desiree: And that's why it's so important to balance. Otherwise, kids end up feeling crushed under the weight of global crisis, on top of their own developmental changes. Sometimes the best response is: Okay, baby, breathe.Sarah: Yes. And so, by starting with consent, you give them the choice to say, Tonight I'm just going to play video games, even if there was a school lockdown earlier that day.Desiree: Exactly. That's fine. Because later is coming. These conversations are not going away.Activism has to be sustainable. You have to know your capacity. Not everyone can march. Some people write emails. Some people color with their kids and talk about it during that time. That's valid too.Sarah: I love that.Desiree: Coloring with your kids, reading children around the world books, talking about culture—these are beautiful, simple ways to weave in social justice. It doesn't have to be violent or traumatizing.Sarah: Yes—because if you traumatize people, they shut down. And then nothing gets done.So, your second step is ask, don't assume. Ask them what they've heard, what they know, and how they feel. And your third step is name the reality, not the details. Tell us about that.Desiree: This changes with age. I have children from adulthood down to six years old. So, for example, when my kids ask about expensive sneakers, I explain: They cost $3 to make, using child labor. That's why I won't pay $300 for them.That's naming the reality—without overwhelming them with traumatic details. Similarly, with Gaza, I don't need to show my kids graphic images of starving babies. That's traumatizing. The reality is enough: This is happening. People are suffering.Children don't need trauma dumps. We can speak clearly without overwhelming them. For a younger child, it could be as simple as: Some leaders are hurting people, and some people are standing up to stop it.Sarah: Right. And you use examples at home too, like play-fighting among siblings. One child steps in and says, That's too rough. That's social justice on a small scale.Desiree: Exactly. Small examples at home translate to global understanding. We can show kids that standing up for others matters. And then we help them find their own capacity—whether it's writing letters, talking about it, or making a video.Sarah: Yes. And if you just pour out trauma, kids will shut down.Desiree: Exactly.Sarah: So step four is honor their hidden hives. What does that mean?Desiree: Kids have their own communities, their own secret lives. Online especially, they connect globally—with Palestinian friends, Jewish friends, Congolese friends, kids in red states, kids with MAGA parents. Their reach is global in a way ours never was.So, honoring their hidden hives means respecting that their conversations matter. Ask: What are you and your friends talking about? What do they think? Don't dismiss them as “just kids.” They often understand more than we do.Sarah: Yes! I remember being dismissed by adults as a child, and how frustrating that felt. I had real thoughts and opinions. That's a kind of adult-centrism, and I know that's a theme in your work.Desiree: Exactly. Center kids in their own lives. What matters to them matters—just like what matters to us in our friendships.Sarah: Okay, now step five: Let them see your grief, with boundaries. This is a hard one for me. I cry easily when talking about these topics, but I don't want to traumatize my kids.Desiree: But why do we think crying is traumatizing?Sarah: I guess I worry that if they see me overwhelmed, they'll feel overwhelmed too.Desiree: The opposite can also happen. If you never let them see you grieve, they may feel they have to hold it in as well.Our parents and grandparents grew up in eras of war, enslavement, displacement. They learned to “button it up” and carry on. They raised us to believe there's “no crying in baseball.”But my parenting journey has been about humanizing myself. I don't want my kids to only realize I'm human after I die. If they see me cry about a world in crisis, that teaches them it's okay to feel deeply too.Now, the boundary is important—we don't completely fall apart in front of them. They still need to feel safe. If a parent collapses emotionally, kids may feel like they have to take care of the parent. That's the line we don't want to cross.Sarah: Yes—that's exactly what I was worried about.Desiree: Right. So we want to find that balance of communal care. We take care of each other here, right? Let's set aside a moment for grief. How are you feeling? What are you grieving today?What made you feel sad? What made you feel displaced? What made you feel unheard, unseen, unloved? Let's get into that. Let's feel that for a moment. And then — what could feel different? What could we all do better as a community?This made me feel bad when you said that. I share with my kids: “When you don't do X, Y, and Z, it makes me feel like you don't care about what I think. And that hurts me.” Right? I don't want to be a parent who just seems angry. I want to be clear that I'm hurt. That hurt my feelings.And I love you so much, I care about you so much, that your feelings matter to me — but I also want to matter to you. And that, for me, is communal care.Sarah: You mentioned a couple of sentences back about “what can we do,” which links nicely into your next step: link emotions to actionable compassion.There's that Mr. Rogers quote about whenever anything bad is happening, look for the helpers. And research shows that when you have big emotions without feeling like you can do anything, that's when kids (and adults) turn cynical.So maybe you could give us a couple of examples. You already mentioned going to marches and emailing. But what are some other things you've done with your kids, or that you've seen other people do with their kids, that connect emotions to actionable compassion?Desiree: Well, again, it all ties together. What's your capacity? What are you able to do that's long-term and sustainable?When the George Floyd protests were happening, my eldest was outside. She said, “Absolutely not. I'm not going to march, I'm not going to take risks.” I said, “Okay, but how do you feel? Do you feel like you're making a difference?”She started going out with water and sandwiches. That turned into a nonprofit — Feed the Revolution. Donations poured in. We even had to get a storage unit for all the water and dry goods. That's linking compassion and passion with actionable steps. It was something she could do safely.And that's how you bring in community care. Other people couldn't march, but they could bring food, bring water, or look for the helper.With kids, it might look different. If they have a Discord group, maybe they can have a conversation once a week: What are your thoughts on this? How do you feel? That's activism too. Sharing, course correcting, letting people know, “Hey, that was harmful. Can we do better?”So: What are you feeling? What do you have the capacity for? What's sustainable? And what can we do?Sarah: And you mentioned even some quiet things, like coloring with your kids, learning about kids around the world, lighting a candle at home, making art for peace, or helping someone locally. Even helping actions that aren't tied to a “cause,” but are just about kindness.Desiree: But that is the issue, right? Because then you start raising helpers.The other day, we had some leftover curry. My son Kira said, “I don't want any more… but can we box it up and give it to somebody?” I said, “I love that. Great. Let's microwave some rice, put it in a container, and go outside to share it.”So now he's learning about not wasting food, about climate collapse, about taking care of community. And people often think it has to be big. “Oh, you need to feed 50 people.” But you fed one. That matters.Sarah: Even if it's just your next-door neighbor who doesn't cook much — bring them some food.Desiree: Or the burned-out parent who's doing all the caretaking. How nice would it be to say, “Hey, I got dinner for you. I know you've already fed your kids. Let someone take care of you.”That shows your children you can make a difference without it having to be huge. The fatigue comes from feeling like we need to combat everything at once. That's overwhelming, and overwhelming leads to burnout.Sarah: Right.Desiree: Liberation isn't one-and-done. It isn't a single conversation. It's a practice, a relationship, a rhythm. You're modeling that the truth takes time, and we don't have to rush.Sarah: I love that. It's like conversations about sex, right? You don't have one talk and then you're done. You keep talking as kids grow and change.Desiree: Exactly. When I talk about liberation work and decolonization, it's about creating a culture shift. None of us like to feel lectured to. Making it conversational changes everything. It becomes about solution-finding: there's a problem, what's the solution, what are the steps?That teaches kids that even if a problem can't be completely eradicated, we can do something. Harm reduction matters. How can we create less harm and do more good?Sarah: And it leaves space for thought and choice. For example, my daughter's iPhone screen broke. She wondered if she should just buy a new phone. I told her, “I'm not going to judge you, but my value is: fix what's still good.” It might not be the most practical or cheapest option, but it feels better ethically.So we talked. And then she made her own decision.Desiree: Yes, exactly. It's harm reduction again. And you gave her the choice — you didn't say, “Absolutely not.”Sarah: Right.Desiree: That's powerful.Sarah: Okay, so your next step is build their critical consciousness. This means inviting them to go deeper — asking questions like, “Who benefits from this system? What would fairness look like? What do you wish adults would do differently?”Desiree: Yes. The safest place to practice that questioning is at home. But that's hard in a hierarchical society.Sarah: Right, you're like, “Question other people, not me!” (laughs)Desiree: Exactly. But raising reflective rebels — kids who can think critically, even with us — is essential.We even did this around bedtime. My kids didn't want a set bedtime. I explained why rest matters. Then we co-created a boundary: “Okay, stay up as late as you want, but you have to get up happily, on time, and not be dysregulated at school.”It lasted less than two weeks! They realized for themselves that lack of sleep doesn't work. That's better than me saying “Because I said so.” They learned through experience.Sarah: That's such a good example of co-creating boundaries. What does that look like in the context of activism and social justice?Desiree: It's about recognizing reality. Not everyone is open to these conversations, especially because they're kids, and also because they're Black and neurodiverse. They need to know when to call me in, and when to stand firm with a respectful “no.”For example, my kids don't do homework. I don't want them indoctrinated into an 80-hour work week. They come home to rest, play, and have a balanced life. That's our boundary.Sarah: Yes, that's so good.Desiree: And finally, root it all in relationship, not rhetoric. If I don't trust you, I won't have conversations with you. Punitive parenting “works,” but only out of fear. The opposite of fear is radical love.Our kids need us to see them as human beings and build real relationships with them. That includes repair when we mess up. Restoration is key.Sarah: Yes.Desiree: Parenting is inherently hierarchical, and that creates a power imbalance. It can be abusive if we're not conscious of that. So our goal is to shift from power over to power with. That's how we raise kids who believe in communal power — and who grow up ready to change the world.Sarah: I love that. That's a hopeful place to stop. Thank you so much.Desiree: Thank you.Sarah: One last question I ask all my guests: if you could go back to your younger parent self, what advice would you give?Desiree: Parent the child in front of you. That's the best advice I ever got. Don't parent from your own trauma.Sarah: Beautiful. And where can people find you?Desiree: My Substack is desireebstephens.com— that's Stephens with a PH. I also co-host Parenting Decolonized with Yolanda, and we run a parenting support group. I'll share those links.Sarah: Perfect. We'll put all of that in the show notes. Thank you again.Desiree: Thank you.Sarah: We're all out here trying to change the world. Slowly, but sustainably.Desiree: Absolutely.>> Please support us!!! Please consider becoming a supporter to help support our free content, including The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, our free parenting support Facebook group, and our weekly parenting emails, "Weekend Reflections" and "Weekend Support" - plus our Flourish With Your Complex Child Summit (coming back in November for the 3rd year!) All of this free support for you takes a lot of time and energy from me and my team. If it has been helpful or meaningful for you, your support would help us to continue to provide support for free, for you and for others.In addition to knowing you are supporting our mission to support parents and children, you get the podcast ad free and access to a monthly ‘ask me anything' session. This is a public episode. 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Hey all, we just wanted to let you know that we are doing a little podcast hiatus, while Corey and I both take some time off in the summer and enjoy time with our families. We will be back with a new episode in a few weeks. Until then, look over the archives. There may be an episode or two that you've missed. We've been doing this podcast for a long time now and we have over 200 episodes. So maybe there's one you've missed or maybe there's a favorite one that you would like to revisit. And also if you love the show, please take the time to rate and review us and make sure you're following the show so you don't miss an episode when we do come back. Thanks for being such a great listener and can't wait to come back to you in this space. See you soon!

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, we are giving you a sneak peak inside my Peaceful Parenting Membership. We have virtual office hours twice a week, and during this particular Office Hours we cover a lot of ground including limit setting, anxiety, sibling conflicts, parenting peacefully even when triggered, and using play to give children power.    We talk about: 5:00 A member working through conflicts with siblings 11:07 A member having conflicts with their child's school being too punitive 12:41 Working through when you can accommodate your child's preferences vs. when you are accommodating your child's anxiety 21:00 What we take into consideration when setting a limit 28:45 Working through sibling sharing rules 33:00 When siblings are saying mean things to one another 35:00 A member sharing a big win about sticking to being peaceful even when things get hard with her kids 43:00 Setting limits around play dates during the week 49:00 Giving children intentional “boss us around time”   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/yoto  The Peaceful Parenting Membership https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/membership  Be Your Child's Play Therapist! The Way of Play with Georgie Wisen-Vincent: Episode 178    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, is a conversation with Ned Johnson who is the co-author of three books including his most recent The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook. This is Ned's fourth time coming on the podcast and this time we discuss letting kids learn from controlling their own lives and making mistakes, being kids “technology consultants”, and motivating teens to make changes when they are engaging in unhealthy behaviours. We talk about: 6:30 What is a self driven child?  11:50 How parental anxiety leads to not giving kids control over their own lives 15:52 Why we need to stop forcing our kids to do things 18:00 Why kids should be in charge of their own college/university applications 26:00 Letting kids learn from their own mistakes/natural consequences 32:00 How do we handle our kids' tech use without controlling them? 45:00 How to handling fighting over a teen's phone use 50:00 Case study about an autistic teen who is smoking a lot of weed   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/yoto  The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook Unmasking Autism by Devon Price  What Really Works for Children with Autism by Peter Vermeulen  Is This Autism by Donna Henderson   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, is a conversation with parenting coach and author Lori Sugarman-Li. We discuss how to teach the next generation to care for the home by focusing on making care work visible, discussing shared family values, and respectfully getting children involved in care tasks. We talk about: 5:00 What is Fair Play? 1:00 Getting kids involved in caring for the home 14:32 Elevating the work of giving care and having men participating in that 18:22 How what is visible is valued 19:22 The Peaceful Parenting approach to raising helpful kids 24:000 Starting from a place of being a Family Team with shared values 29:43 What happens when family members have different values 32:30 Explaining the “why” behind chores 39:00 When kids say “no” to chores   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/yoto  Our Home: The Love, Work, and Heart if Family  Lori's website  IG @ourhomeourpride   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, is a conversation with Scott Novis, a 25 year veteran in the video game industry. We discuss how to choose quality video games, how to manage ending video game time, the problems with free games and games connected to the internet, how too much screen time disrupts children's development, and how to apply lessons learned in video games to the real world!   We talk about: 9:30 Why you should pay for games and get ones that don't require an internet connection  13:27 Make sure your kids only play with people they know 15:00 Know how games end and when they can pause 18:00 Flick lights to get kids attention when gaming 19:00 Being intentional about social interaction and applying this to gaming 20:00 Why Scott doesn't like tablets 26:24 What makes a quality game? 27:45 The problems with the Hook Algorithm 34:00 Why we shouldn't call video games a waste of time 36:51 Applying what kids learn in good video games to the real world 40:00 Brain science behind why screens are disruptive to kids' development    Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/yoto  Scott's blog that includes his favourite games  Contact Scott     Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, is a conversation with Jackie Silver, a registered dietician who works with neurodivergent kids, teens, and adults. We cover when you should seek help with your child's selective eating, why eating is so complex and the steps to feeding, helping kids understand their hunger cues, and routines that help make mealtimes fun, low pressure, and increase exposure to new foods.    We talk about: 7:30 Why we need to let go of shame around feeding our kids 13:00 How does a parent know when their child's selective eating is a “problem” 15:00 Why eating is complex and the “steps to feeding” 18:14 How do you get a child engaged in the process of expanding their diet? 21:00 Managing the anxiety as parent when your child is having challenges 25:00 Helping children who have trouble understanding their hunger cues 33:00 Why some Dieticians are shifting away from the Divisions of Responsibility 34:00 Routines families can set at mealtimes to make it low pressure, fun, and conducive to trying new foods 37:56 Food chaining to help with new food exposure 40:56 Why we shouldn't hide or sneak things into foods for kids   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/yoto  Work with Jackie Silver Nutrition https://jackiesilvernutrition.com/  IG @accessiblewellness   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, is a conversation with Dr. Sheryl Gonzalez Ziegler, a psychologist and the author of the new book The Crucial Years, the Essential Guide to Mental Health and Modern Puberty In Middle Childhood. We cover how to normalize and celebrate puberty, how to teach moderation with screens, and red/yellow flags of disordered eating in middle childhood.  We talk about: 10:45 Why we need to talk to children about puberty in middle childhood 12:00 Historical context- how the timing of puberty has changed  16:00 Red parties and celebrating/normalizing puberty 29:00 Normalizing having conversations about tough topics in age-appropriate ways before kids ask questions 35:00 What you can do to teach your kids moderation with screens and technology 43:00 Making a small pod with other families who are delaying smartphones 46:33 Signs that kids are engaging in disordered eating in middle childhood   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Yoto Player- non-screen audiobook player  Dr. Sheryl Ziegler's book The Crucial Years, the Essential Guide to Mental Health and Modern Puberty In Middle Childhood  Erin Loechner's book The Opt-Out Family, how to Give Your Kids What Technology Can't    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, is a conversation with Rebecca Minor, a gender specialist who works with queer and trans youth and their families. We discuss the cost of not affirming kids' identities, how we can raise our kids in an affirming environment, and how we can support and advocate for LGBTQ+ kids out in the world! We talk about: 4:40 Statistics for kids who don't have loved ones affirming their identities 8:45 How can we raise kids in an affirming environment, before we know their identity? 13:07 How to advocate for your LGBTQ+ child 17:40 How to handle unsupportive people in your life (family, friends, etc.) 21:38 How to handle the hostile environment against LGBTQ+ people and families  25:30 Take your kids to family friendly PRYDE events!   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Dealing with Non-Affirming Family Members: PFLAG's guide for families: https://pflag.org/resource/guide-to-being-a-supportive-parent/  Gender Spectrum's resources for caregivers: https://genderspectrum.org/articles/family-resources  Rebecca's blog: www.genderspecialist.com/blog   Who to Call, Write, or Donate To: Trans Youth Emergency Fund: https://southernequality.org/tyep/  Transgender Law Center: https://transgenderlawcenter.org ACLU Action: https://www.aclu.org/action or https://www.aclu.org/writing-your-elected-representatives Trans Lifeline: https://translifeline.org Raising Trans Kids: What to Expect When you Weren't Expecting This https://amzn.to/4e0XWT1  Organizations for people of faith who are supporting LGBTQ+ kids:  The Real Mama Bears https://www.realmamabears.org/   Free Mom Hugs https://freemomhugscanada.ca/ Mama Dragons https://www.mamadragons.org/   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Corey and I cover eight different times when parents tend to talk too much to their kids! We discuss times when you can make minor tweaks such as when kids are engrossed in play or when we are giving kids directions. As well as major changes we can make such as not talking at all when kids are completely dysregulated or upset. 1, 2, 3, STOP TALKING!   We talk about: ·         2:20 Stop talking when kids are engrossed in play ·         4:17 We don't have to make it a teachable moment ·         7:52 Giving unnecessary directions to our kids ·         10:33 Problems with praise ·         13:00 The Zone of Regulation as a guide for when and when not to talk ·         24:00 Over explaining ourselves when setting limits ·         28:00 Avoiding safety chatter ·         30:45 Stop talking when kids have a problem   Download the episode transcript HERE   Resources mentioned in this episode:   ·         Coaching with Sarah or Corey  ·         Our Peaceful Parenting Membership  ·         Podcast about not making it a teachable moment  ·         https://www.alfiekohn.org/article/five-reasons-stop-saying-good-job/ ·         Podcast about cultivating nonchalance     Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation with journalist Melinda Wenner Moyer about her new book Hello, cruel World Science-Based Strategies for Raising Terrific Kids in Terrifying Times. This is Melinda's second time on the podcast, and this time we cover what the research says about teaching kids self-compassion, managing tech use, preventing addiction, achievement culture, and more!    We talk about: 5:00 Helping kids learn self-compassion 9:30 The simple themes that keep coming up to help our kids in multiple domains 11:45 How the research about tech use surprised Melinda 15:00 Communication is the most important part of managing screens 19:39 What the research says about preventing addiction and substance use 29:30 Sneaky ways we pressure our kids to achieve 36:20 Teaching Kids media literacy   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Hello, cruel World Science-Based Strategies for Raising Terrific Kids in Terrifying Times  How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes  https://www.melindawennermoyer.com/  https://melindawmoyer.substack.com/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a coaching call with Charlotte who has a 7-year-old, 4-year-old, and 3-year-old. We had an interesting conversation about when we are giving too much empathy to sensitive kids and all the nuance around having a more nonchalant attitude to big feelings. We also discussed self regulation challenges and how to set limits with little kids. We talk about: 8:30 When deep breathing isn't enough to calm you down 13:30 Why you have to be there to enforce a limit with little kids 16:20 What is “discipline”? 19:00 Managing Aggressive Tantrums 23:00 Having a nonchalant attitude to big feelings 36:00 Getting playful when a child is being aggressive 41:00 Getting kids thinking brain back online 46:00 Checking back in after Charlotte tries Sarah's suggestions 47:00 When you are all out of patience 56:30 Finding time for one-on-one time 58:00 No one has to be a perfect parent   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Coaching with Sarah or Corey Our Peaceful Parenting Membership    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation with Dr. Gila who is a psychologist, neuropsychologist, and peaceful parenting coach that specializes in supporting single parents. We discuss the unique challenges and blessings of being a single parent, as well as how being a single parent amplifies many aspects of the parental experience. We also cover encouraging research about attachment and how to let go of perfectionism.   We talk about: 6:00 What does the research say about being a single parent? 9:00 Why we should not chase being “perfect” 13:00 Fears, anxieties, and grief single parents experience 14:35 Logistical challenges of being a single parent 16:55 Strategies to manage stress as a single parent 18:23 “Sink metaphor” for self regulation strategies 24:00 The importance and challenge of finding community 32:47 The special relationship you can have with your kids as a single parent   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: https://www.drgilaparenting.com/ Facebook Group: Single-Parenting with Connection, NOT Perfection, with Dr. Gila    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation with Erin Loechner, author of the book The Opt-Out Family, How to Give Your Kids What Technology Can't. We discuss how to go about limiting technology in your homes, how to deal with pushback from your kids, and all of the benefits. We talk about: 3:25 What is an Opt-Out Family with Technology? 7:35 Erin's journey from being an influencer to opting out of technology 10:50 Pushback from kids when opting out 14:26 When parent's want kids to have phones for safety reasons 17:40 How to deal when kids are pressuring them for technology 21:00 Helping kids feel socially connected when you opt out   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Erin Loechner's book The Opt-Out Family, how to Give Your Kids What Technology Can't  https://www.optoutfamily.com/   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation with Alfie Kohn, the author of 14 books including Unconditional Parenting and The Myth of the Spoiled Child. The work of Alfie Kohn has been one of the biggest influences on how I parent and why I have dedicated my career to being a Peaceful Parenting Coach. We discuss why people have always thought parents are too permissive, the nuance involved in “working with” our kids, and why we need to raise reflective rebels who question what they are told. We talk about: 7:00 Why people think we are “too soft” and permissive with kids 12:00 How black and white thinking gets in the way of peaceful parenting 15:37 “Working with” parenting vs. intensive or helicopter parenting 22:00 Why some kids need more parental support 24:00 Why we need to be realistic and raise “reflective rebels”   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: The Myth of the Spoiled Child  Unconditional Parenting    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a coaching call with Victoria and Alex who have an 8-year-old daughter. Listen in as I coach them through how to end power struggles by implementing the worry brain method. You won't want to miss the check with the family, after they had been practicing the worry brain method for six weeks!   We talk about: 6:00 Child who is too anxious to go to the bathroom or fall asleep alone 11:30 How anxiety works in our brains 13:20 How anxiety is a combination of nature and nurture 19:25 The problem with reassurance when people are anxious 22:00 How to teach kids how our brain works 34:00 How to know if your child is being independent enough 46:00 Check in about how the Worry Brain Method worked for Francis 54:00 Anxiety vs. Power struggles 1:00:00 What to share with kids about the hard things going on in the world   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Lynn Lyon's podcast Flusterclux  Sarah's podcast interviewing her daughter about being raised with peaceful parenting     Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is an interview with Sara Sherman and Mort Sherman about their new book Resonant Minds. We discuss the different ways to listen to and engage with music, how to take it “one note at a time” and make the choice to use music in our lives, and how to handle music lessons with our kids.  We talk about: 5:12 Summary of the book Resonant Minds  7:45 The difference between active and passive listening to music 14:20 Collective Effervescence- taking in an experience together 15:55 Groove- when our brainwaves synchronize to build community 17:00 How to help parents bring more music into their kids' lives 21:40 Why music lessons aren't the only way to bring music mindfully in 25:30 Connecting music with emotions 29:00 Creating musical habits in our homes 34:00 How to take it “one note at a time”  36:00 How to handle Music Lessons with kids (to make them practise or not!)   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Parenting Playlists to shake off stress or to soothe the nervous system  Mozart for munchkins  Resonant Minds    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is an interview with Jack Hughes, an 18-year-old Parent Tech Support Expert. We discuss how to set up parental controls, why communication with our kids is key to setting tech limits and teaching kids how to use technology, and how to help kids engage in the real world instead of just interacting on screens.   We talk about: 5:00 What parents should know about Parental Controls on technology 7:09 Layering in different levels of parental controls 11:00 What parents should do in addition to parental controls 12:00 How to determine the age kids should get a phone 13:00 How to respect your kids' phone privacy 16:25 How parents can teach kids to manage their own devices 24:30 How to facilitate children to have lives outside of screens 28:00 How to start limiting use of phones and screens 33:00 How to shift from online connection to in person connection 35:00 The common loopholes kids find to get around parental controls   Download the episode transcript HERE  https://docs.google.com/document/d/17TLxyi4DngJuqOcXGqXObtlW7UOZoLb7/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=110018038237477921046&rtpof=true&sd=true   Resources mentioned in this episode: Jack Hughes' website https://parenttech.support/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a workshop I gave recently about the keys to being a successful peaceful parent. I discuss how this parenting approach is about more than the tools we use to get through the day (which are also super important!). Instead, I focus on how peaceful parenting is a way a of life- a new way of thinking about your relationship with your kids and a new way of thinking about discipline. We talk about: 6:00 Three Big Ideas of Peaceful Parenting 9:00 How peaceful parenting going mainstream has led to misconceptions about this approach 12:00 Key 1- The mindset that kids want to be good and are doing the best they can 13:54 Key 2- Have self-compassion when you make a mistake 18:10 Key 3- Combating our own adult centrism 22:00 Key 4- Watch out for “sugar coated control” 24:20 Key 5- Your needs count 27:30 Key 6- Manage your own needs because it is a long game 30:21 Key 7- Co-regulate focus on calming yourself 31:35 Key 8- The goodwill bank 36:19 Key 9- Find a mentor 39:28 Key 10- Find a community 40:46 The Peaceful Parenting Membership Download the episode transcript HERE  Resources mentioned in this episode: YouTube version with slides  Peaceful Parenting Membership Podcast about changing our language around “limits”  Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation with Jaime Caponetta from the Paws and Pacifiers Podcast. Jaime is a Behavioral Dog Trainer/Consultant, Dog & Baby Expert, and author of the book "Stop Training Your Dog". We discuss how Jaime's approach to dogs is the same as the peaceful parenting philosophy, how to teach children to engage with dogs, and what to do when you are bringing a new dog home to your kids or a new baby home to your dog!   We talk about: 3:12 What is force free, emotion-based dog training? 6:00 Identifying the emotions driving dog's behaviours 10:00 Why won't Sarah's dog listen to her? 15:20 What parents should teach their kids about how to behave around dogs 21:50 How to read dog body language  28:00 Why we shouldn't reprimand our dogs 30:35 What to do when bringing a new dog home when you have kids 35:27 How to get kids involved with taking care of the dog 39:00 How to handle if you are having a baby and already have a dog   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Dog and Baby Bliss Course https://www.jaimecaponetta.com/ Book: Stop Training Your Dog  IG: @jamiethedogtrainer YouTube: Dog and Baby Bliss   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation with Mia Wisinski from the popular social media account, Playful Heart Parenting. We discuss why being playful needs to be woven into your daily life with your kids and not as a tactic to get their cooperation, what makes it hard to be playful, and lots of tips and tricks to start being more silly today!   We talk about: 4:00 Why does play sometimes backfire when you use it to try to get through the schedule? 7:00 How to be more intentional about play and fun 10:00 Changing your way of being with your children 13:00 How sexism shows up in our attitudes and ability to access our playful sides 17:00 How we are “weaned off” of play in our society 23:00 How to start getting playful and silly again 33:00 How games can help with specific challenges with your kids 41:00 How to not use play in a manipulative way   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Playful Parenting with Lawrence Cohen: Episode 103 https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode103/  Mia Wisinski @playfulheartparenting on IG https://playfulheartparenting.com/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

We're with our families for March break! We'll be back March 19.

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation with Dr. Tamar E. Chansky who helps children, teens, and adults overcome worry and negative thinking. We discuss examples of what negative thinking sounds like, why empathy is always the first response, and some gentle teaching tools to overcome negative thinking and improve flexibility.  We talk about: 5:00 Examples of negative thinking in children 7:10 Why do reassuring words not help? 12:00 Why are some kids more prone to negative thoughts? 15:00 How to help your child with their negative thinking 23:54 Difference between engaging in the content vs. empathizing 29:50 “Long distance learning” and getting the timing right for teaching 33:45 Teaching kids to not fear feelings 39:30 Games to increase children's flexibility   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Free Your Child from Negative Thinking  Free Your Child from Anxiety  Freeing Yourself from Anxiety    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

Want to be more calm and regulated with your kids? Starts Monday! Join me for a FREE 5-day challenge where you'll learn how to stay calm and regulated (or pull it out of the tailspin!) when things are hard-- with your kids so you can move through the day we with more ease and joy!  Save your seat for the FREE 'Parents, Cool Your Jets! A Simple 5 Day Challenge To Teach You How To Stay Calm in Moments of Mayhem.' Or go to ReimaginePeacefulParenting.com/Challenge Share this with a friend and you can keep each other on track! xx Sarah  

If you have a new baby under 18 months (or so!) or you are expecting a new baby, this is for you! WORKSHOP THURSDAY FEB 27TH >>>>> https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newbaby (Have a friend who fits into this category? Please share!) Adding a new baby to our family can be tricky even when we're all excited... How we prepare our older child when we have a new baby and how we handle the transition can either set our kids up to be friends for life- OR set them up to be rivals. Whenever I talk about this with adults, someone usually says either, "Oh yeah- my older sibling still resents me" or "I never got along with my younger sibling."  If we want the transition to be as smooth as it can be and as easy on our older child(ren) as possible- there is A LOT we can do to make it work out best. To help you with just that, I am offering a virtual workshop on Thursday Feb 27 at 2 PM EST/New York time https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newbaby (can't make it live? Don't worry... Read on) Virtual Workshop: Big Sibling Success! Adding A New Baby To Your Family you are expecting a new baby or have added to your family in the past year (ish) you want to help your older child adjust to the new baby  you want to know the best practices and strategies to make this transition a successful one You will learn the do's and don'ts for the best transition possible to make best friends for life: what to expect from your older child when you add to your family concrete strategies for how to prepare for baby steps and tools for helping your older child adjust to the new baby what to watch out for and how to handle any troubles that arise in the first year We will also have a live Q&A so you are READY! Can't make it live? I will send you the recording and the opportunity to hop on a short call to ask me any questions that arise after you watch it Already had your baby? If you are still in the first year or so this workshop will also be beneficial for you! When: Thursday Feb 26 at 2 PM EST/NY time* Where: Your computer Sign up here: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newbaby

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Corey and I talk about parenting scripts which have become a controversial topic and are often at the heart of the backlash against this parenting style. We cover when and how you can use parenting scripts, all the nuances involved in what we say, and how the same words can be used be a peaceful parent or a conventional parent.  We talk about: 1:56 How peaceful parenting is both a science and art 5:00 Why people want scripts 8:00 How the same words can be used for peaceful or conventional parenting 13:00 The importance of being authentic to your own personality when parenting 17:00 Focusing on the intent and context of your words 20:00 When words are not enough Download the episode transcript HERE  Resources mentioned in this episode: What Do You Say? By Ned Johnson and William Stixrud  The Declarative Language Handbook by Linda Murphy   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation with Tim Blower from Sex in Space about how to talk to your kids about porn. We cover how to approach this at different ages and stages, the importance of educating your kids about sex, and fostering a relationship where they can talk to you about this important topic. We talk about: 5:00 how can we best prepare kids for coming across porn 7:20 how to educate kids about what they will see 10:32 how porn becomes the default for kids and teens looking for information about sex 12:00 what age to start talking to kids about porn 17:40 how to not bombard your kids with information 18:34 the 3 stages when they can come across porn 20:00 the definition of porn for kids and teens 28:00 how to get these conversations going 33:00 mistakes parents make talking to their kids about porn Download the episode transcript HERE  Resources mentioned in this episode: https://www.sexinspace.com/ https://www.sexinspace.com/books  https://www.sexinspace.com/podcast  Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation with Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, an internal medicine doctor and author of the book Sacred Rest. We discuss the difference between sleep and rest, the seven types of rest, and how to restore yourself if you are an exhausted parent!   We talk about: 3:00 Difference between sleep and rest 4:33 We don't need to earn rest 7:00 The 7 types of rest 18:00 How children experience emotional rest 20:40 How to fill the creative rest deficit  22:24 How to fill the mental rest deficit 24:41 The importance of sensory rest!   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Dr. Saundra's Rest Quiz https://www.restquiz.com/quiz/rest-quiz-test/  https://www.drdaltonsmith.com/  Sacred Rest https://amzn.to/3WU5yzA    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation with Corey and me about how frustrating it is when you feel like you're getting the worst performance reviews from your children. We discuss how this can include your kids complaining about everything you do, as well as your kids being “good” out in the world and then more challenging at home. Don't despair, we give you many ideas for how to lift your spirits during these hard parenting moments.   We talk about: 1:00 When it feels like you're getting the worst performance reviews from your kids 3:00 The different ways this presents 7:31 When kids are picking fights with you 8:00 How to start noticing the good reviews and wins 10:00 Self compassion when things feel thankless 11:50 The importance of community  13:00 Remembering you have a choice 16:02 Micro moments of connection 17:46 Change of scenery 19:56 Give yourself appreciation!   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: When You're New to Peaceful Parenting: Coaching with Haley: Episode 179 https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/when-youre-new-to-peaceful-parenting-coaching-with-haley-episode-179/  Self Compassion Break Guide- https://peacefulparents.kartra.com/page/self_compassion_break  Free resources, including How To Stop YellingA t Your Kids free course https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/resources  Peaceful Parenting Membership https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/membership    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation with Elaine Taylor-Klaus who coined the term “complex kids” and has written two books on this subject. We discuss how to take the coach role to support our complex kids through their own journey. Elaine shares how this worked out with her kids who are grown now and how it is never too late to start parenting in this way.    We talk about: 4:25 Elaine's definition of “complex kids” 6:25 Why we need a more accommodated environment at home for complex kids 9:56 How to create flexible structure for complex kids 18:00 Why it is never too late to start peaceful parenting! 19:28 The “coach approach”  26:00 What do parents find hard about the coach approach? 35:00 What do natural consequences look like?   Download the episode transcript HERE   Resources mentioned in this episode: Parenting ADHD (now!) Summit - February 4 - 6, 2025 https://impactparents.pages.ontraport.net/ParentingADHDNow2025?orid=153391&opid=243 Impact Parents- Helping Parents Help Kids https://impactparents.com/  The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, Anxiety, and More https://amzn.to/3PQPFpu Parenting ADHD Now! https://amzn.to/3PQPFpu    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a coaching call with single parent Haley of a 4.5 year-old. Haley is brand new to Peaceful Parenting and we cover why she wants to parent this way and how to go about implementing it- especially when the people in her life are using a more conventional parenting approach. We talk about: 3:30 How to handle kids saying hurtful things to us 14:00 How to handle setting limits 19:00 Comparing different parenting styles 28:00 How to respond to our kids without shaming them 35:00 How to handle other people's perspectives on our parenting 44:00 How to know what limits to set 50:00 Understanding our own triggers Download the episode transcript HERE  Resources mentioned in this episode: Transform Your Family Life Course https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/parenting-course Peaceful Parenting Membership https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/membership  Free How to Stop Yelling at Your Kids Course https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/resources  Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation Georgie Wisen- Vincent a play therapy expert and co-author of the new book The Way of Play with Tina Payne-Bryson. We cover the importance of play for teaching children skills and understanding their feelings, and tangible ways that parents can join their kids in the world of play (even if they don't really like playing!). We talk about: 7:25 What does it mean to “observe and attune” to our kids? 12:22 How play helps children learn to manage their feelings without having an actual fight or flight stress response 23:00 Why kids tell us we are playing wrong! 28:00 Why it is okay to let kids have control and power in play 29:00 The “think out loud” strategy 33:00 How much should we be playing with our kids? 36:25 How play helps with resiliency  Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: The Way of Play https://amzn.to/3PrAm6D  https://playstronginstitute.com/   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a special conversation with my teenage daughter Maxine. Peaceful Parenting is a long game, and a lot of you are interested in what it's like when you have an older kid who's been raised with peaceful parenting. I think Maxine will reassure a lot of you who are still in the weeds with little kids and encourage you to keep going if you have tweens or teens.  We talk about: 2:00 Maxine's definition of what peaceful parenting 6:42 Maxine's observations of conventional discipline in a school  12:21 Maxine feeling closer to her parents and brothers than her peers 15:17 Maxine's experience with peaceful parenting making her more independent 19:00 Maxine's definition of conventional parenting 19:45 Maxine noticing confusing messaging about gentle parenting on IG 21:00 How to encourage your kids to talk to you 25:19 Maxine's take on grounding kids 26:30 Maxine's feelings about her parents limiting her screen time when she was younger 29:00 What Maxine would tell to her grown up parents self Download the episode transcript HERE  Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194 Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

If you are a regular listener to The Peaceful Parenting Podcast you know that at the end of every Guest Expert interview, I ask them if they could go back in time and give advice to their younger parent self, what advice would they give themselves? There are so many gems of wisdom that come from that question that I thought it would be fun to end 2024 with a mashup of all of the advice from our guests of 2024. We talk about: 3:00 Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) with Casey Ehrlich 4:13 Understanding and Loving Spicy Kids with Mary Van Geffen 5:23 Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky 5:54 From Strict Disciplinarian to Peaceful Parenting Dad and Coach with Kyle Wester 8:32 Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids with Stephanie Pinto 13:17 When Your Child is Different with Sonali Vongchusiri 15:21 Neurodivergent Insights with Dr. Megan Anna Neff 17:31 Parenting Middle Schoolers with Phyllis Fagell 21:00 Conscious Parenting with Destini Davis 22:01 Ruth Whippman Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys- BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood 24:05 ADHD and Feeding/Eating Challenges with Dr. Roberto Olivardia 24:42 How to Help Kids Manage Stress and Difficulty with Ned Johnson 30:08 Greg Santucci on Sensory Processing 33:10 Kristen Day Play Based Learning: Or Why You Don't Need to Get Your Child Ready For Kindergarten 36:33 Why Is Parenting So Hard with Yolanda Williams 38:28 Sexism and Sensibility: Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls in the Modern World with Jo Ann Finkelstein 40:19 School Avoidance and Anxiety with Lynn Lyons 44:32 Strong-Willed Kids with Vivek Patel 46:32 Disordered Eating and Body Image Issues with Luciana Rosu-Sieza and Alexis Sauls Ramos 48:51 How to Help Our Little Ones Sleep with Kim Hawley 52:49 When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic with Jennifer Wallace   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Casey Ehrlich https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode139/  Mary Van Geffen https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode138/  Eve Rodsky https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode30/ and Eve's book Find Your Unicorn Space Kyle Wester https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode141/  Stephanie Pinto https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode-144-raising-emotionally-intelligent-kids/ and Stephanie's Book- From Chaos to Connection  Sonali Vongchusiri https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode-146-when-your-child-is-different-with-sonali-vongchusiri/  Dr. Megan Anna Neff https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/neurodivergent-insights-with-dr-megan-anna-neff-episode-147/ and Dr. Neff's book Dr. Megan Anna Neff's book Self-Care for Autistic People: 100+ Ways to Recharge, De-Stress, and Unmask!  Phyllis Fagell https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/parenting-middle-schoolers-with-phyllis-fagell-episode-151/ and Phyllis' books Middle School Matters and Middle School Superpowers Destini Davis https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/conscious-parenting-with-destini-ann-episode-153/ and Destini's book Very Intentional Parenting: Awakening the Empowered Parent Within   Ruth Whippman https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/raising-emotionally-healthy-boys-boymom-reimagining-boyhood-episode-155/ and Ruth's book BoyMom: Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity Ned Johnson https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/how-to-help-kids-manage-stress-and-difficulty-with-ned-johnson-episode-156/ and Ned's books What Do You Say with Ned Johnson and William Stixrud  and Self-Driven Child by William Stixrud (PhD) and Ned Johnson  Dr. Roberto Olivardia https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/adhd-and-feeding-eating-challenges-with-dr-roberto-olivardia-episode-149/  and Dr. Olivardia's book The Adonis Complex: How to Identify, Treat and Prevent Body Obsession in Men and Boys by Dr. Roberto Olivardia Greg Santucci https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/greg-santucci-on-sensory-processing-and-live-qa-with-my-membership-community-episode-157/  Kristen Day https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/play-based-learning-or-why-you-dont-need-to-get-your-child-ready-for-kindergarten-episode-159/  Yoland Williams https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/why-is-parenting-so-hard-with-yolanda-williams-episode-160/  Jo Ann Finkelstein https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/sexism-and-sensibility-raising-empowered-resilient-girls-in-the-modern-world-with-jo-ann-finkelstein-episode-164/  and Jo Ann's book Sexism & Sensibility Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls In The Modern World Lynn Lyons https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/school-avoidance-and-anxiety-with-lynn-lyons-episode-166/ and Lynn's book Anxious Kids Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons Vivek Patel https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/strong-willed-kids-with-vivek-patel-and-qa-with-membership-episode-168/  Luciana Rosu-Sieza and Alexis Sauls Ramos https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/disordered-eating-and-body-image-issues-with-luciana-rosu-sieza-and-alexis-sauls-ramos-episode-170/  Kim Hawley https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/how-to-help-our-little-ones-sleep-with-kim-hawley-episode-172/  Jennifer Wallace https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/when-achievement-culture-becomes-toxic-with-jennifer-wallace-episode-173/ and Jennifer's book Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic- and What We Can Do About It Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup YouTube: Peaceful Parenting with Sarah Rosensweet @peacefulparentingwithsarah4194  Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

In this episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I bring back one of my favorite holiday episodes, which is an interview with my kids, where we talk about ‘people, not stuff'. I know many parents are concerned that their children might become materialistic due to the abundance of gifts they receive during the holiday season, which is why I highlight the importance of showing kids that there's more to life than possessions.  We talk about why it's normal for children to desire many things, and how to remind them that we can welcome their feelings without necessarily fulfilling all their materialistic desires. We cover: [1:05] Discussion on Kids Wanting More Stuff [2:13] Raising Non-Materialistic Kids [2:19] Acknowledging Financial Privilege [4:33] Addressing Parents' Fears about Kids Wanting Stuff [8:50] Encouraging Kids to Give Presents [10:06] Parents' Role in Reducing Materialism [16:46] Kids' Excitement and Gratitude for Presents [24:06] Changing Values with Age [26:10] Influence of Parenting on Materialism [27:10] Importance of Anticipation in Celebrations [27:56] Advice for Parents on Materialism [28:47] Reflections on Childhood and Consumerism [30:14] Transition from Wanting to Appreciating [37:12] Understanding Gratitude and Privilege Download the episode transcript HERE Resources mentioned in this episode: Free How to Stop Yelling at your Kids Course https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/resources  Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php

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This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation with Corey and me about how our thinking about the word “limits” has changed over time. We cover why we think the word limit wasn't capturing the spirit of what it means to be a peaceful parent, and how we find the word collaboration works better. Don't worry, we give lots of examples of what this looks like in practice! We talk about: 4:30 Peaceful Parenting Big Idea 1: Self Regulation 5:20 Peaceful Parenting Big Idea 2: Connection and Relationship 5:40 Peaceful Parenting Big Idea 3: Collaboration 14:55 The importance of being flexible 18:16 How collaboration fills up the “good will bank” 25:00 Letting go of using power over our kids   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Free How to Stop Yelling at your Kids Course https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/resources    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation with Jennifer Wallace, author of the book Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic- and What We Can Do About It. We cover how putting less pressure on our kids will actually lead to better outcomes in the long run, and how to actually go about implementing this approach in our homes.   We talk about: 4:45 Separating self worth from achievements 9:35 How to minimize criticism and prioritize affection 12:00 Why “good schools” don't matter as much as people think 14:00 Why feeling like you “matter” is most important 17:37 How to not put pressure on little kids 24:00 How to help parents redefine success 36:00 How to make kids feel worthy no matter what 38:33 How to notice the signals you are sending your kids   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic- and What We Can Do About It https://amzn.to/48ZSDk7  https://www.jenniferbwallace.com/ IG @jenniferbreheneywallace   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This is a replay of an important episode. Celeste and Jen join me on the podcast to talk about supporting LGBTQ kids, specifically if you're part of a religion or way of living that does not affirm them. Celeste is the executive director of Mama Dragons, which was created by Gina Crivello. Gina gathered a small group of Latter-Day Saints (Mormon) mothers together as they navigated supporting their LGBTQ children in a culture that was not affirming.  Since then, Mama Dragons has grown to become a leader in affirming parent education and offers support to more than 9,000 members worldwide. We cover: [6:50] What is Mama Dragons [11:50] How Jen found out her son was gay, and what she did to navigate it [15:20] The physical effects of coming out of ‘fight, flight of freeze' mode [19:10] The difference affirming parents make, and how you can affirm a child [22:10] Parenting practices to adopt  [24:30] What Jen wishes she knew about raising a gay son [26:30] What Jen has learned working with Mama Dragons  [29:10] The impact of growing up in a religious setting [31:50] The importance of doing your own research and not getting caught up in misinformation [33:10] Why people so threatened by the idea of LGBTQ people [38:35] Advice both Celeste and Jen would give to their younger parent self Download the episode transcript HERE Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling' Course: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/resources Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Learning program Parachute – https://parachute.mamadragons.org/  Get free Parachute courses using the code PEACEFULPARENTING Connect with Sarah Rosensweet: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/ Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation with Kim Hawley, a holistic sleep coach. We cover what developmentally appropriate sleep is and Kim shares some great tips and tricks to work with our little ones so everyone stays safe and gets more sleep. Be sure to listen to the end when we discuss my own experiences and sleep regrets from 20 years ago, when I was a young mother with children who didn't sleep well.  We talk about: 4:18 Developmentally appropriate sleep expectations kids 0-1 years-old 8:27 Problematic sleep practices that started in the 1950s 9:30 Developmentally appropriate sleep for toddlers 11:40 Why do toddlers wake at night? 17:00 How to get everyone more sleep safely 18:50 How to make babies/toddlers more comfortable with a separate room 22:00 Is there a place for tears? 27:55 The problems with rigid sleep schedules 32:00 Good sleep hygiene practices 38:18 How to use noise machines 39:00 Sarah's story with night weaning as a case study   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Developmentally Appropriate Sleep Expectations: Birth to Age 5 (2024 Update) https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/blog/2018/7/6/developmentally-appropriate-sleep-expectations-birth-to-age-5  The Responsive Family Sleep Podcast https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/podcast    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a coaching call with Hayley and James who have a 2-year-old and 3-year-old. We cover what to do when kids behave in embarrassing ways in public and how understanding brain development can go a long way in helping parents become more confident.  We talk about: 5:20 What causes sibling rivalry 7:00 Lack of impulse control with little kids 16:00 Understanding developmentally appropriate behaviour 20:50 Self Compassion when feeling judged 35:00 Can you nurture or “coddle” kids too much? 47:00 How understanding child development can increase our confidence as parents Download the episode transcript HERE  Resources mentioned in this episode: Dr. Dan Siegel's Hand Model of the Brain https://drdansiegel.com/hand-model-of-the-brain/  Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is an important conversation with Luciana Rosu-Sieza and Alexis Sauls Ramos from Bulimia Anorexia Nervosa Association (BANA). We have an in depth discussion about disordered eating, including causes, red flags, and what we can do as parents to prevent our kids from developing eating disorders and foster a healthy relationship with food and their bodies. We talk about: 6:00 What is disordered eating? 11:00 Risk factors for disordered eating 12:57 Boys and disordered eating 18:39 Red flags for eating disorders 24:00 Why you shouldn't “Wait and see” 26:00 What can we do as parents to prevent this? 38: 55 Be Your Selfie Campaign 48:15 How to handle children saying “I'm fat” 59:00 Food neutrality   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: National Eating Disorder Centre  www.nedic.ca  The Bulimia Anorexia Nervosa Association www.bana.ca   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a conversation with Corey and me about our upcoming Flourish with your Complex Child Summit. We cover why we decided to do this summit and all the important themes, information, and support it will give parents of complex kids.  We talk about: 5:30 How seeing behaviour through a sensory lens changed parenting for Corey 9:00 Parental concerns about getting a diagnosis  10:22 Why parents don't need to be afraid of a diagnosis 13:00 Support for parents who are complex or having a hard time  15:15 Challenges when working with professionals when you have a complex kid 18:15 The different layers of skill building and mindset shifts as a peaceful parent 21:00 Confusion about what “gentle parenting” is Download the episode transcript HERE  Resources mentioned in this episode: REGISTRATION IS OPEN! Flourish with Your Complex Child Summit 2024 https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/summit Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php 

This week on The Peaceful Parenting Podcast you get a sneak peek inside my Peaceful Parenting Membership. Listen in to our Q &A with Vivek Patel about non-coercive parenting and strong-willed kids. Vivek is a true champion of children and is one of the speakers this year in the upcoming  Flourish with Your Complex Child Summit. If you would like to hear more from Vivek as well as 25+ additional speakers, register for FREE today! We talk about: 7:30 What is coercion? 10:50 Rewiring our own patterns 12:14 Non coercive collaborative parenting- what we don't do and what we do  15:20 Problems with “transitional parenting philosophies” 28:08 Member Question- how to apply these ideas to feeding challenges 38:00 Member Question- how to help a kid respect their brother's boundaries 47:00 A radical humanity approach to children hitting   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode:   REGISTRATION IS NOW OPEN! Flourish with Your Complex Child Summit 2024 https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/summit Vivek Patel https://www.meaningfulideas.com/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a replay of my conversation with Dr. Devon Price from last year's Flourish with Your Complex Child Summit. We have an in-depth discussion on why neurodivergent people mask and what it is, the “fine at school” phenomena, and the long term effects of heavily masking. Registration opens today for this year's summit where you will get access to over 25 conversations just like this one! We talk about: 6:50 What is masking? 10:50 Masking for survival 16:56 The “fine at school” phenomena 20:00 Self Compassion for Parents 25:31 What is harmful about masking? 34:00 Changes needed in the school system Download the episode transcript HERE  Resources mentioned in this episode: REGISTRATION IS NOW OPEN! Flourish with Your Complex Child Summit 2024 https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/summit Unmasking Autism by Dr. Devon Price  https://amzn.to/47GZRsF  Secret Life of the Black Aspie by Anand Prahlad  https://amzn.to/4eGU2xV  Uncomfortable Labels, My Life as a Gay Autistic Trans Woman by Laura Kate Dale  https://amzn.to/47GZRsF  Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is my fourth interview with anxiety expert Lynn Lyons! We discuss how to handle school avoidance, including: how to figure out the root cause of school avoidance, how anxiety works including physical symptoms, and how to teach parents and children how to handle anxiety when it inevitably shows up. We talk about: 4:31 Finding the root cause to school avoidance 7:00 Using “home days” when kids need a break 9:00 Normalizing needing breaks, rather than pathologizing  11:40 Emotionally based school avoidance- includes anxiety and depression 16:00 How anxiety can cause physical symptoms like stomach aches and headaches 23:03 Teaching kids and parents to tolerate uncertainty 30:00 Why techniques to “get rid” of worry don't work 32:00 How to talk back to worry 48:13 How to handle “The Moment of Goodbye” when dropping kids off Download the episode transcript HERE  Resources mentioned in this episode: Three Skills to Protect Our Kids' Mental Health with Lynn Lyons https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode35/  Membership Q&A – How to Help Anxious Kids in Real Life Scenarios with Lynn Lyons https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode45/  How Anxiety Shows Up in Our Parenting and What to Do About It with Lynn Lyons https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode-99-how-anxiety-shows-up-in-our-parenting-and-what-to-do-about-it-with-lynn-lyons/  Lynn Lyon's podcast Flusterclux https://www.flusterclux.com/episodes/  Lynn's website https://www.lynnlyons.com/  Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php     

This episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast is a coaching call with Celine, Mom of a 2.5- year-old and a 4.5-year-old. Listen in as we discuss strategies for supporting sleep and eating, as well as the big ideas and mindset shifts that happen when you are transitioning to Peaceful Parenting. We talk about: 2:47 Why Celine decided to try peaceful parenting 4:30 Strategies/Mindset shifts around trying to get the kids to bed 23:28 Strategies/Mindset shifts around getting kids to eat/stay at the table 27:30 The Division of Responsibility of Feeding 49:00 How to process our feelings without making our kids responsible for them   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Podcast- Bedtime Best Practises with Corey Everrett https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode86/  Podcast- How to Overcome Picky Eating with Jennifer House https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/episode49/  Podcast- ADHD and Feeding/Eating Challenges with Dr. Roberto Olivardia https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/adhd-and-feeding-eating-challenges-with-dr-roberto-olivardia-episode-149/  Yoto Audiobook Player https://ca.yotoplay.com/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php   

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I interview Jo Ann Finkelstein, a clinical psychologist, about her new book Sexism & Sensibility Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls In The Modern World. Listen in as we discuss how to address sexism and gender bias in our parenting of both girls and boys. We talk about: 3:58 Jo Ann gives an example of gender bias she experienced growing up in her own home 9:58 Learned helplessness around sexism 10:00 How we can recognize our own gender bias 14:00 Pushback when women and girls challenge gender bias 17:00 Teaching girls a sense of healthy entitlement 22:37 Ways to raise sons who don't perpetuate sexism 27:50 Complexities of beauty culture 31:30 How to handle comments about girls' appearance 32:47 How we navigate our girls' clothing choices 36:00 Finding a balance with safety and letting girls be who they are  Download the episode transcript HERE  Resources mentioned in this episode: Sexism & Sensibility Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls In The Modern World. https://amzn.to/4dCLLeg  30 acts of micro feminism https://joannfinkelstein.substack.com/p/30-small-acts-of-resistance  Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com   Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php