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Julie Lythcott-Haims visits Google to discuss her book "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult".  In the twentieth century, psychologists came up with five markers of adulthood: finish your education, get a job, leave home, marry, and have children. But early adulthood for members of the Millennial and Gen Z generations looks a lot different. Those old markers are valid choices, but any one person's choices along those lines do not make them more or less an adult. In “Your Turn,” Julie exposes her own veins, dropping any pretense of authority about her subject and instead leads with disarming vulnerability. The result: A remarkable, comprehensive, loving, useful guide to living a more authentic adulthood from a leading voice in parenting. It turns out that being an adult is not about any particular checklist; it is, instead, a process—one you can get progressively better at over time. Once you begin to practice it, being an adult becomes the most complicated yet also the most abundantly rewarding and natural thing. For anyone struggling with #adulting, “Your Turn” shares a path replete with actionable items that leads to joy and fulfillment. Originally published in May of 2021. Visit http://youtube.com/TalksAtGoogle/ to watch the video.                   

In a panel recorded live in front of an audience at the 2023 Eye to Eye National Friends and Allies conference, David and Isabelle sit down with Eye to Eye co-founders David Flink and Marcus Soutra, Eye to Eye student leader Kayla and an Eye to Eye student leader's parent Claudia to discuss what it is like to be neurodivergent—or a parent to a neurodivergent kid—across different generations. Part two of a series. To learn more about Eye to Eye, visit www.eyetoeyenational.org In this part, we cover masking, loving/hating school, and what's next for the next generation. ——David Flink shares his story, where he had a family that backed him and had a lot of privileges (being a white male in this country), but he was “invited” to leave four schools. He did not have a community. He met with his first student while he was in college, despite their neurodivergence in common, was very different from him—single mom, Cape Verdean family—became the closest person to him. He met Marcus, and they connected about getting their meds at 3p together, and now, 25 years later, here they are. Marcus points out that people think he was always talking about his learning difference, but he wasn't, he was going to school to become a teacher at King State college, and he was talking with David, and after he shared his experience in the classroom he was student teaching in and seeing the impact that made on the students, he said “no one is going to listen to us, we're 22,” we both overcompensated, were so extra professional, always showing up to meeting in suits, having to convince people that they could do this. The first person he openly talked about his learning difference with was David. Isabelle jumps in with her story; daughter of Polish immigrants, rags to riches immigrant dream kind of idea, and she had no clue she was neurodivergent until her mid to late 30's and she hadn't felt the feeling of what it's like to be in such a neurodivergent friendly space (with snacks, food, fidgets, people being so direct and honest!) until now, and is so grateful that Marcus and David co-created such a thing. She realizes her community is now other neurodivergent parents who are sitting in their own learning and parenting kids who may be neurodivergent and just working so hard and finding community that way. David wants to normalize what Isabelle is speaking to, which is that we tend to think neurodivergence or learning difference means struggling or hating school, and the truth is so many people realize they are neurodivergent when they lose the structure of school, when they get a new job, when they become parents. David Flink wonders, asking Kayla—we work for you—what are you seeing? What are you hopeful for? What is it like for you? She saw a lot of pull out classes, and her little brother is telling her his experience at school, and it's a little bit better. She was not pulled out for different classes. In class supports would be helpful, but public school districts are severely underfunded—she hopes that he does not go through so much ridicule and bullying that she had to go through. He's making genuine friendships; she didn't have a chance to make those the same way because she was always taken out of classes and kids were too busy realizing her difference. What should we all know about Gen Z? Kayla is describing being in 5th grade, taking these standardized tests and it was on the computer, and she has to take it with the rest of the class. The upside: easier than writing on paper. The downside: everyone is done before her, and everyone is on her “c'mon Kayla, finish up the class” and it just wasn't enough—if she had the proper accommodations, she wouldn't have to deal with that bullying. Claudia thinks that this is going to continue to change and evolve. Her Zoomer (wait?! Is this the next generation name?!) Got early intervention and proper accommodations and is dunking in all his classes that are not easy classes. If you have parents that start with acceptance, then seek resources and accommodations for you when you're really little, the sky is the limit. David names that generationally speaking, don't sleep on accommodations, and effective early intervention is making a difference we weren't even able to see before because it wasn't a resource that was even available to earlier generations. Claudia names that each person's unique potential and style of intelligence is different, but this sets someone up to live up to their unique greatest potential, whatever that is. Isabelle jumps in with the idea that it's also a systemic thing, to recognize (as author Julie (see show notes) put it in a talk earlier at the conference) that Gen Z is the first generation of students to even have social emotional learning standards as a part of their curriculum, we're now seeing the changes because it's not just on parents to nail it, it's the larger change that has to happen to a culture through awareness. Marcus names that this cultural change always takes longer than you think it will; when they were first starting Eye to Eye 25 years ago, they were referencing studies just completed by Marshall Raskin about what helped kids with LD to help them launch into adulthood—metacognition, social emotional skills—and David and Marcus were trying to develop an art curriculum that would develop that for students. This was a foreign concept in 2002, and there was a big push for them to “tutor.” They had been tutored, and tutoring means “fixing,” and dyslexia needs “fixing,” and the great book “Overcoming Dyslexia” had just been written (not so great title), and it was awful. Turns out tutoring someone who can't read by someone who can't really read is a bad idea. But social emotional learning—BOOM. Changes everything. So they were doing this forever ago, and it's still something they have to advocate for. It takes generations to make these changes. When David (Kessler) started working with Eye to Eye, he would ask a room full of people “who here has a learning difference” and people would reluctantly barely raise their arms, v. Now- now people own it and they talk about ableism sucking and what can we do to fight society, and… students who know they're neurodiverse it's a big difference Kayla sees. She also knows that her school setting matters. She is in a private school for high school, and people who know they have an LD and are proud of it, while her peers in public schools haven't had the same supports and staff who are also ND modeling it for them. She goes to her teachers at the beginning of the school year, and she advocates for what she needs, and her teachers self-disclose their own ND to her. David describes: kids that aren't shamed feel better about it. We can't really learn with shame. Kayla also describes how she has to keep advocating for herself, teachers don't really know what you need and you keep having to explain and name your accommodations.Julie Lythcott-Haims - OI speaker and author of "How to Raise an Adult" and "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult"To learn more about Eye to Eye, visit www.eyetoeyenational.org-----Cover Art by: Sol VázquezTechnical Support by: Bobby RichardsSpecial Thanks to our amazing panelists: Marcus Soutra, David Flink, Kayla Dumas, and Claudia Bouchacourt for their courage, enthusiasm, and willingness to be vulnerable and real. Also, so grateful for everyone at Eye to Eye National: Sabrina Odigie (Eye to Eye Executive Assistant) for her logistical wizardry, Alicia Siegel (Eye to Eye Director of Development) for her warmth, welcome, insight and planning, Alexandra Claeys (Eye to Eye Director of Community Leadership) for letting us join her awesomely organized event, Amanda Feliciano (Eye to Eye Outreach and Onboarding Associate) and Philister Lukacevic (Eye to Eye Director of Marketing and Communications) for his patience and help in getting these edits and materials out there! And to everyone at the conference who came to our recording and co-created such a welcoming and safe enough space, we are so grateful you came!

In today's episode, I dig into the art of adulting with the phenomenal Julie Lythcott-Haims. Julie is not just a former Stanford Dean and a New York Times bestselling author; she's a beacon of wisdom for the youth and an advocate for the exhilarating journey of self-reliance. Tune in as we unravel the complexities of adult life, discuss the power of human connection, and explore the intricacies of finding your 'why'.  deliciousness of adulting!Timeline Summary:[00:00] - Julie opens up about the terror and exhilaration of stepping into adulthood and the deliciousness of being in charge of your own life.[02:46] - A warm welcome to Julie, as she joins the podcast, bringing her insights on the challenges of adulting in today's world.[03:10] - Julie discusses her motivations for writing her latest book and reflects on her role as a guiding dean to the younger generation.[05:59] - The struggle and triumph of finding a voice that resonates with young adults.[10:27] - Unpacking the concept of adulting.[17:23] - The necessity of stepping out of your comfort zone to truly engage with life and develop resilience.[20:13] - The courage to be transparent and the power of sharing vulnerabilities.[30:46] - Julie's discussion with Irshad Manji about the moral courage in conversations and the power of listening.[37:47] - The deliberate inclusion of diverse voices and experiences to reflect the vast tapestry of human life.[43:36] - The significance of mentors and the impact of one caring adult in a young person's life.Links & Resources:- Julie Lythcott-Haims' TED Talk: ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting- Books:  - "How to Raise an Adult"  - "Real American"  - "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult"If this episode has struck a chord with you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. Here's to growing, learning, and thriving as adults in this wild world. Until next time!If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

Overparenting is a pervasive practice in our society today. My guest Julie Lythcott-Haims identified over-parented students in her former role as the Dean of Freshman and Undergraduate Advising at Stanford University and wrote the NYT best-selling book How to Raise an Adult, and later Your Turn: How to be an Adult. Links from the episode Julie Lythcott-Haims: Website Julie Lythcott-Haims: Instagram How to Raise an Adult Your Turn: How to be an Adult Sponsors Prep Dish -- Get 2 weeks free meal planning, prepdish.com/families Indeed - If you need to hire, you need Indeed! Visit www.indeed.com/families.

My guest today is Julie Lythcott-Haims.   Casey and Julie chat about Julie's newest book, “Your Turn: How to Be an Adult,” including what topics are covered, reactions from young adults & parents, and what Julie was hoping for while she wrote this book.  They talk on how young adults learn to “fend for themselves” and find self-acceptance.  Casey and Julie dig into how and when young adults claim their own narratives and the challenges of when that's different from your vision for them.  They get into the unknown and lifelong effects of Gen Z and the pandemic and wrap-up by touching on how great self-agency and problem-solving feels for everyone, especially these young adults.   Takeaways from the show How young people learn to “fend for themselves”  What surprises young adults when they move away from home  Using Julie's new book “Your Turn: How to Be an Adult” as a roadmap for adulthood  Young adults claiming their own narratives (and when that's different from your own vision for them)  Young adults finding self-acceptance  COVID-19 impacting Gen Z  Self-agency & problem-solving Looking for more? Check out our website for more + transcripts of the episode. 

On this episode I am joined by Julie Lythcott-Haims. She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Her third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a “groundbreakingly frank” guide to adulthood. TED has turned her book into a TED Course that is available now.Julie holds degrees from Stanford, Harvard Law, and California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Black Women's Health Imperative, Narrative Magazine, and on the Board of Trustees at California College of the Arts. She serves on the advisory boards of LeanIn.Org, Sir Ken Robinson Foundation and Baldwin For the Arts. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother.On this episode we discuss adulting and why it is so challenging for some of us. We discuss helicopter parenting and how it has led young people to not feel as capable as they head into their adult years. We discuss her TED course and newest book, as well as her hotline that gives space to people to anonymously reach out to ask her questions about anything. Julie Lythcott-Haims (julielythcotthaims.com)Julie Lythcott-Haims | FacebookJulie Lythcott-Haims (@jlythcotthaims) • Instagram photos and videosJulie Lythcott-Haims | Speaker | TEDAshley (@filledupcup_) • Instagram photos and videos Filled Up Cup - Unconventional Self Care for Modern WomenSOLD On The DreamWhat's a life selling real estate really like? This humorous guide tells it, as it is!Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify

For this final episode of the season, I talk to Julie Lythcott-Haims, who is asking the question “what does it mean to grow up?” For her, it's about lovingly letting go of your past burdens so that you can be true to yourself – while not trampling on anybody else. Our conversation flows naturally from topic to topic as we learn about how learning mindfulness took her from being a lawyer and dean of a university to becoming a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and activist focused on helping humans find their true north. Later, we bring these themes into a discussion of inclusion, identity, and intergenerational healing. Julie shares about growing up as a Black and biracial person with a white mother, healing her past to be the parent she wants to be, and widening her scope to community engagement after isolation during COVID 19. --- Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, teaching, mentoring, and activism. She is the New York Times bestselling author of https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/how-to-raise-an-adult (How to Raise an Adult) which gave rise to a popular https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/speaking (TED Talk). Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/real-american (Real American), which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Her third book, https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/your-turn (Your Turn: How to Be an Adult), has been called a “groundbreakingly frank” guide to adulthood. Julie holds degrees from Stanford, Harvard Law, and California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Black Women's Health Imperative, Narrative Magazine, and on the Board of Trustees at California College of the Arts. She serves on the advisory boards of LeanIn, Sir Ken Robinson Foundation and Baldwin For the Arts. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. Learn more and follow Julie at https://my.captivate.fm/julielythcotthaims.com (julielythcotthaims.com). Julie is currently running for office with Palo Alto City Council, support her campaign at https://www.julieforpaloalto.com/ (julieforpaloalto.com). --- If you enjoyed this episode and want to dive in deeper, consider joining one of Rebecca's online offerings to deepen your relational skills and expand your Self care. Learn more at https://connectfulness.com/offerings (connectfulness.com/offerings) Also, please check out our short form weekly https://whydoesmypartner.captivate.fm/ (WHY DOES MY PARTNER) sister podcast. This podcast is not a substitute for counseling with a licensed provider.  

Julie Lythcott-Haims, bestselling author of the books "How to Raise an Adult," "Real American," and "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult," joins Dr. Solomon on the show to discuss her career, groundbreaking writing, and the challenges she's decided to take on along the way. Listen to feel inspired by Julie and her mission to bring attention to the issues that matter most.How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success by Julie Lythcott-Haims:https://bookshop.org/books/how-to-raise-an-adult-break-free-of-the-overparenting-trap-and-prepare-your-kid-for-success/9781250093639How to Be an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims:https://bookshop.org/books/your-turn-how-to-be-an-adult-9781250838414/9781250137777Real American: A Memoir by Julie Lythcott-Haims:https://bookshop.org/books/real-american-a-memoir/9781250296733Subscribe to Dr. Solomon's Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Raising – and being – an adult is a life's work. Author, speaker, and activist Julie Lythcott-Haims explores what can get in the way of thriving as an adult and how helicopter parenting fails our children. A former Stanford Dean of Freshman and author of the perennial bestseller, “How to Raise an Adult,” Julie shares ideas from her latest book, “Your Turn: How to Be an Adult.” We cover ideas for tackling fear, the perils of over-parenting, and strategies to fuel resilience in ourselves and our children. Plus, how to get unstuck in midlife and why Julie is throwing her hat into the political ring.SHOW NOTES + TRANSCRIPT:acertainagepod.comFOLLOW A CERTAIN AGE:InstagramFacebookLinkedInGET INBOX INSPO:Sign up for our newsletter AGE BOLDLYWe share new episodes, giveaways, links we live, and midlife resourcesLIKE BOOKS?Each month we do an author BOOK LOOK on Instagram Live Follow us for the fun! @acertainagepodCONTACT US:katie@acertainagepod.com

Replay of Episode 69. There's a lot to learn about how to help (or let) a kid become an adult from someone who worked with Stanford students for 10 years, not to mention someone who wrestles with every major moment in parenting herself. Julie Lythcott-Haims is the author of How to Raise an Adult and Your Turn: How to Be an Adult and is as honest as they come. This is one to play on repeat. If you loved this conversation, you might also like the August 27 quick hit pod on Parenting Mantras or Kelly's conversation with parenting expert Dr. Lisa Damour on how different generations approach parenting.

By loading kids with high expectations and micromanaging their lives at every turn, parents aren't actually helping. At least, that's how Julie Lythcott-Haims sees it. With passion and wry humor, the former Dean of Freshmen at Stanford makes the case for parents to stop defining their children's success via grades and test scores. Instead, she says, they should focus on providing the oldest idea of all: unconditional love. After the talk, stick around for a discussion on how you can be a grown-up, too, as Elise and Julie discuss her new book, "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult." This episode is part of the TED Talks Daily summer book club, a series featuring talks and interviews to inspire your next great read. And if you'd like to learn more from Julie, you can enroll in her new TED Course, which builds off the ideas from her book. Whether you're just launching your adult life or finally giving yourself permission to question what adulthood even is, you'll learn practical strategies to build a future that fits you. Enroll at tedtalks.social/bestself.

I am bringing you a special guest to celebrate my 100th episode! Julie Lythcott-Haims joins me to talk about “adulting”. She is the New York Times best-selling author of “How To Raise An Adult”, and today she and I discuss her latest book, “Your Turn: How to Be An Adult”. Enjoy!     You can find Julie on social media at: @jlythcotthaims Her books can be found at:  https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/your-turn  And her TED course:  https://ed.ted.com/lessons/uX3soXgB  

This week, Farai interviews New York Times bestselling author Julie Lythcott-Haims on what adulthood— or “adulting”— looks like for millennials and Gen Zers, and how generally we can all live with more authenticity in her new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult. Then in the weekly segment, Sippin' the Political Tea, we revisit an enlightening conversation about abortion access for Black women and girls between Farai, Georgetown law professor and OBP legal contributor Tiffany Jeffers, and UC Irvine law professor, Michelle Goodwin.

 Grateful to have NYT Bestselling Author Julie Lythcott-Haimes on the podcast once again talking about her latest book- Your Turn- How to Be An Adult.  In this book, Julie writes with such compassion helping  young adults navigate their way in an incredibly complicated world. In this episode she vulnerably shares some of her own challenges in her own parenting young adults as well as the powerful stories of young people trying to figure it out. Julie shares timely wisdom for parents who want to know how to support their young adult as well as young adults who need to know they are not alone on this journey.  

In 7th grade, I was invited by my teacher to join a creative writing group. I respectfully declined. Then, during a parent/teacher conference, that 7th grade teacher told my mom I declined. In all of my mom's wisdom, we had a discussion about it and encouraged me to reconsider. I still said no. For me, it felt like an unsafe club because there were no stories I could related too as a young black girl. In this episode, I would love to introduce you to Julie Lythcott-Haims. Julie is no stranger to telling a great story. Not only does she share how her writing was rejected for decades but she also shares her journey on how writing allowed her to find the most important love. The love she had for herself. Julie Lythcott-Haims is an American writer, speaker and human. She has written three non-fiction books: How to Raise an Adult; Real American, a memoir; and Your Turn: How to Be an Adult. She served as dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising at Stanford University. I invite you to join our conversation as Julie and I discuss: Self acceptance Societal Rejection Privilege Mindfulness Internalized oppression Race in books Inclusion NY Times Best Seller Showing up Affordable housing Mental Health Honorable Mentions The controversy over the new immigration novel American Dirt, explained 5 Simple Mindfulness Practices for Daily Life Faces of Power: 80% Are White, Even as U.S. Becomes More Diverse More candidates explore run for Palo Alto City Council Julie For Palo Alto City Council Let's Talk Excited to hear more of what Julie has to say? Join her in these spaces: Twitter: https://twitter.com/jlythcotthaims LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jlythcotthaims/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jlythcotthaims/ Website: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/ How to Raise an Adult: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/how-to-raise-an-adult Real American: A Memoir: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/real-american Your Turn: How to Be an Adult: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/your-turn

In this very special episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I have compiled a list of advice former podcast guests have shared about what they would say to their younger parent selves.   I know you will find this episode so inspiring. I've created a cheat sheet that you can download for free with all of my guests' expert advice for you to reference. You can get it here: www.sarahrosensweet.com/guestexpertadvice. We go into: [3:30] Dr. Laura Markham's advice [5:05] Ned Johnson's advice [7:30] Yolanda Williams' advice [9:31] Dayna Abraham's advice [10:55] Leslie Priscilla's advice [12:21] Dr. Sharon Saline's advice [13:50] Mr. Chazz's advice [15:50] Kristy Forbes' advice [17:35] Eve Rodsky's advice [19:30] Teacher Tom's advice [22:10] Iris Chen's advice [23:45] Lynn Lyons' advice [26:10] Julie Lythcott-Haims' advice [30:45] Janine Halloran's advice [33:00] Dr. Mona's advice [34:50] My advice to my younger self Resources mentioned in this episode Episode 2: When Your Child Refuses with Dr. Laura Markham Episode 8: Raising A Self-Driven Child with Ned Johnson Episode 14: Decolonizing Parenting and Raising Anti-Racist Children with Yolanda Williams Episode 17: Sensory Processing Challenges/Disorder with Dayna Abraham Episode 20: Reparenting Ourselves: Being the Parents We Want To Be with Leslie Priscilla Episode 22: Understanding ADHD with Dr. Sharon Saline Episode 25: Seeing, Guiding and Trusting our Kids with Mr. Chazz Episode 27: Understanding Autism with Kristy Forbes Episode 30: Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky Episode 31: Play-Based Learning with Teacher Tom Episode 34: Untigering: Moving From Coercion to Compassion with Iris Chen Episode 35: Three Skills to Protect Our Kids' Mental Health with Lynn Lyons Episode 37: Your Turn: How to Be An Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims Episode 41: Healthy Coping Strategies for Kids with Janine Halloran Episode 42: Brain-Body Parenting with Dr. Mona Delahooke   Books Authored by Our Guests Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Marham  Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings by Dr. Laura Markham  What Do You Say with Ned Johnson and William Stixrud  Find Your Unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky  Purchase: Fair Play by Eve Rodsky  Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent by Iris Chen Anxious Kids Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons  How to Raise an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims  Real American: A Memoir by Julie Lythcott-Haims Your Turn: How to Be An Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims  Brain-Body Parenting by Dr. Mona Delahooke    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

Today's job market is a stark contrast to the job market of 20- years ago. Millennials and Gen Z'ers who are entering the workforce have different ideas about what makes a successful career and a happy work life. Young adults who are empowered with the right tools to problem solve for themselves will be major assets for the organizations they join. How long they maintain a position will be up to the organization to foster their talent and the ability of the young adult professional to rise to find different opportunities within the same organization. To discover how young adults entering the workforce can build a foundation of trust and commitment to achieve work/life success, Positive Psychology Podcast Host Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with two authors about how young adult professionals can stand-up, stand- out, and succeed. Julie Lythcott-Haims is a New York Times bestselling author and former Stanford Dean of Freshman. She explores the role parents can play in raising empowered young adults and other reflections from her book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult. Mark Zides is the CEO of CoreAxis Consulting and a serial entrepreneur. He discusses the core concepts he provides to young adults in his book, The #PACE Process for Early Career Success.

We talk to Julie Lythcott-Haims, who believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, teaching, mentoring, and activism. She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Her third book, which we talk about in this interview, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a “groundbreakingly frank” guide to adulthood.   Thanks for listening! Support us by becoming a subscriber to The Science of Psychotherapy Academy! Or you can simply buy us a cup of coffee! Please leave a review! (Reviews are fabulously important to us! On your podcast player you should find an option to review at the bottom of the main page for the podcast - after the list of available episodes) - Here's a link for iTunes. And please subscribe to our show!  You can also find our podcast at: The Science of Psychotherapy Podcast Homepage If you want more great science of Psychotherapy please visit our website thescienceofpsychotherapy.com Grab a copy of our latest book! The Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Psychotherapy

Your Turn: How to be an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims What does it mean to be an adult? In the twentieth century, psychologists came up with five markers of adulthood: finish your education, get a job, leave home, marry, and have children. Since then, every generation has been held to those same markers. Yet so much has changed about the world and living in it since that sequence was formulated. All of those markers are choices, and they're all valid, but any one person's choices along those lines do not make them more or less an adult. Being an adult, it turns out, is not about any particular checklist; it is instead a process, one you can get progressively better at over time, becoming more comfortable with uncertainty and gaining the knowhow to keep going. Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, teaching, mentoring, and activism. Julie holds degrees from Stanford, Harvard Law, and California College of the Arts. For more information visit: www.julielythcotthaims.com *************************************************** For more information about BITEradio products and services visit: http://www.biteradio.me/index.html To view the photography of Robert at: rpsharpe.picfair.com

When my daughter was just 6 years old, I first picked up the book How To Raise An Adult. I devoured it. I earmarked pages. I told every parent I knew to read this book. Today, I am thrilled to have the author, Julie Lythcott-Haims as my guest. Julie is a writer, speaker, teacher, mentor, and activist, Her mission has always been to be of service to others, and through her books, Julie is helping us to raise and be adults.    Let's face it, adulting is hard, and Julie believes our job as parents is to prepare our kids to be adults, to function without us, essentially to put ourselves out of a job.  Her newest book, Your Turn, How to Be an Adult, was just released in paperback and is a must-read for all parents and young adults on the topic of adulting. In this conversation, Julie and I are talking about helicopter parenting, the influence of social media on children, how college admissions are impacting our children and so, so much more.    About Julie  Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, teaching, mentoring, and activism.    She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Her third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a “groundbreakingly frank” guide to adulthood.    Julie holds degrees from Stanford, Harvard Law, and California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Common Sense Media, Black Women's Health Imperative, Narrative Magazine, and on the Board of Trustees at California College of the Arts. She serves on the advisory boards of LeanIn.Org, Parents magazine, and Baldwin For the Arts.    She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother.    Connect with Julie Website https://www.julielythcotthaims.com Facebook https://www.facebook.com/jlythcotthaims/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jlythcotthaims/ Twitter https://twitter.com/jlythcotthaims   Support the Show Thanks so much for listening. If you enjoy the show, you can provide support in a number of ways.    1. Shop Beautycounter- The number one way you can support the podcast is by supporting my business with Beautycounter. Use the promo code CLEANFORALL20 for 20% off your first order https://www.beautycounter.com/regannelson?goto=/   2. Support my affiliate partners- I've partnered with brands whose products I use (and love) as an ambassador. You can support the podcast by shopping with these brands using my codes/link.  • Shop Dropps - Regan's favorite clean and green laundry and dishwasher pods. https://dropps.pxf.io/3PYGvn. Promo code somethingbetter25 for 25% off your first order. Promo code somethingbetter15 for 15% off for existing customers • Shop Plants By People- mixable wellness drinks that are thoughtfully crafted from 100% organic superfoods, botanicals, and adaptogens. Promo code SOMETHINGBETTER15 for 15% off our first order https://plantsbypeople.com/?rfsn=6313100.79daa7 • Shop Branch Basics- Regan's favorite cleaning products. Promo code SOMETHINGBETTER for 15% off all Starter Kits, except the Trial Kit https://links.branchbasics.com/thisorsomethingbetter   3. Become a Patron https://www.patreon.com/thisorsomethingbetter

This episode is with Julie Lythcott-Haims and we talk about her new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, which is about how to be a good person and have a good life.   We also talked about how to raise kids so that they don't need a book to learn how to be an adult. Julie also shared some really great tips about truly seeing our children.    Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, teaching, mentoring, and activism.    We go into: How Julie's new book is changing the narrative around the heaviness of living in today's society What fending is and how can you best prepare your kids for when they do get to the fending stage The four step method to teaching any kid any skill How to parent our kids the way they need us to parent them Unpacking privilege in gentle parenting   She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces.  Julie holds degrees from Stanford, Harvard Law, and California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Common Sense Media, Black Women's Health Imperative, Narrative Magazine, and on the Board of Trustees at California College of the Arts. She serves on the advisory boards of LeanIn.Org, Parents magazine and Baldwin For the Arts. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. Julie's Books How to Raise an Adult  Real American: A Memoir Your Turn: How to Be An Adult Connect with Julie On Instagram On Twitter On LinkedIn Facebook https://jlythcotthaims.bulletin.com/ https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

I loved chatting with this week's Beyond Influential guest—it's easily one of my favorite interviews I've done for the show because it dives into the highly relevant topic of what it truly means to be an adult in today's world. This is an important conversation as many millennials and more and more Gen Z-ers are currently trying to be an adult while simultaneously starting to raise the next generation of adults.  New York Times bestselling author Julie Lythcott-Haims is a speaker, teacher, mentor, and activist who brings so much value and experience to the table and delivers insight after insight in this conversation.  As the former Stanford dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising, Julie has encountered countless twenty and thirty somethings who feel they're just playing the part of “adult,” while internally struggling with anxiety and stress. She has written multiple books that I can highly recommend. Her first book, How to Raise an Adult, led to a popular Ted Talk on How to Raise Successful Kids Without Overparenting. And now her most recent book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, examines and answers the question, “What does it really mean to be an adult today?” and includes practical strategies for living a more authentic adult life.  In Ep. 174, we cover: Julie's journey from lawyer to creating her own role at Stanford to acclaimed author The overparenting phenomenon and its effects Why many millennials don't feel confident in their adulting skills What it actually means to be an adult (and why it's a process, not a checklist) Why you need to stop “playing it safe” in order to live your most authentic life, and more!   Books by Julie Lythcott-Haims How to Raise an Adult https://amzn.to/36Qw7yi Real American: A Memoir https://amzn.to/3DsaeBK Your Turn: How to Be an Adult https://amzn.to/3Nx1lew Want to Support the Podcast for free? Leaving a rating goes a long way and allows me to continue putting out quality content! You can leave one on Apple (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-influential/id1264581842) or Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/0Z55W0OeqRN9VHhVVDQaMD)! Take a screenshot while listening to the episode and share it in your Instagram Stories—and make sure to tag me @brittanykrystle!   To connect with Julie: Website: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jlythcotthaims/   Twitter: https://twitter.com/jlythcotthaims   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jlythcotthaims/   Watch Julie's TED Talk on How to Raise Successful Kids–Without Overparenting: https://youtu.be/CyElHdaqkjo     To connect with me, Brittany Krystle: Website: https://www.brittanykrystle.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brittanykrystle/ Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/brittanykrystle/   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brittanykrystle/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brittanykrystlexoxo/   Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/brittanykrystle/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1f0uI6wzWqp58n7fk-7-1g     Don't want to miss an episode (or valuable free resources!)? Get on my list here: https://www.brittanykrystle.com/subscribe   *Disclosure: These show notes may contain affiliate links. If you choose to purchase through them, I may earn a commission which helps me continue to create this content (at no extra cost to you). Thank you so much for your support.

Show notes: https://www.tamihackbarth.com/blog/episode-130 Show links: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/how-to-raise-an-adult https://www.julielythcotthaims.com https://www.instagram.com/jlythcotthaims https://www.facebook.com/jlythcotthaims Episode #11: How to Say No The Wholehearted Way with Rosie Molinary About Julie: Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, teaching, mentoring, and activism. She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Her third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a “groundbreakingly frank” guide to adulthood. Julie holds degrees from Stanford, Harvard Law, and California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Common Sense Media, Black Women's Health Imperative, Narrative Magazine, and on the Board of Trustees at California College of the Arts. She serves on the advisory boards of LeanIn.Org, Parents magazine and Baldwin For the Arts. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother.

Julie Lythcott-Haims is the NYT Bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to her popular Ted Talk. Her newest book is coming out, it is called Your Turn: How to be an Adult. Julie is also the author of a poetry memoir called Real American which illustrates her experience as a ... more »

To join the Spring cohort of The Journey Forward Method: https://joreerose.com/journeyforwardmethod/ Any parent who has ever protected their child from feeling an uncomfortable emotion, wanted to prevent them from being in an uncomfortable situation or didn't adequately prepare their child to gain the skills to get through challenges needs to listen to this episode. I speak with the amazing Julie Lythcott-Haims, who is a lawyer, turned Stanford University dean, turned author, who is writing to help parents back off from over parenting their children and actually learn how to repattern the unskillful patterns that are preventing young adults from living a thriving life. So many parents have good intentions and yet poor execution, and while many parents are wanting to reduce their kids' anxiety, the results of overparenting are actually increasing anxiety for both parents and kids. This candid conversation shares not only personal stories but really helpful and practical tools that any parent, with kids of any age, will benefit from. Julie also shares about her new book, recently released, Your Turn, which she considers to be a follow up from her first book, How to Raise an Adult.   Julie's bio: Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, teaching, mentoring, and activism.  She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Her third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a “groundbreakingly frank” guide to adulthood.  Julie holds degrees from Stanford, Harvard Law, and California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Common Sense Media, Black Women's Health Imperative, Narrative Magazine, and on the Board of Trustees at California College of the Arts. She serves on the advisory boards of LeanIn.Org, Parents magazine and Baldwin For the Arts.  She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother.  Follow her on IG: @jlythcotthaims Here's the articles we mention in the conversation:

This episode is with Julie Lythcott-Haims and we talk about her new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, which is about how to be a good person and have a good life. We also talked about how to raise kids so that they don't need a book to learn how to be an adult. Julie also shared some really great tips about truly seeing our children.  Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, teaching, mentoring, and activism.    We go into: How Julie's new book is changing the narrative around the heaviness of living in today's society What fending is and how can you best prepare your kids for when they do get to the fending stage The four step method to teaching any kid any skill How to parent our kids the way they need us to parent them Unpacking privilege in gentle parenting   She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces.  Julie holds degrees from Stanford, Harvard Law, and California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Common Sense Media, Black Women's Health Imperative, Narrative Magazine, and on the Board of Trustees at California College of the Arts. She serves on the advisory boards of LeanIn.Org, Parents magazine and Baldwin For the Arts. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. Julie's Books How to Raise an Adult  Real American: A Memoir Your Turn: How to Be An Adult    Connect with Julie On Instagram On Twitter On LinkedIn Facebook https://jlythcotthaims.bulletin.com/ https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call

This is a far ranging, passionate discussion that you are sure to enjoy. We explore topics like free range kids, stranger danger, overprotecting. How to empathize and empower not only our kids but also adults. How to become stronger in the face of the storm. This is a discussion we all need right now. Show notes: I believe in humans. I'm rooting for all of us to make it. I've come to appreciate that despite our innumerable differences, we all want to be treated with dignity and kindness. We all yearn to know that we matter. We all want to be seen, accepted, and loved simply as we are. I'm interested in what gets in the way. Sometimes the obstacle begins within: our ego, fear, and shame can eat at us and make it difficult for us to be kind even to ourselves let alone to others. Each of us is also implicitly biased in favor of and against groups of humans based upon our upbringing, lived experiences, and the ideas to which we have been exposed. And over the decades and centuries of our modern existence, we've built societal mores, rules, policies, structures, and systems that preference some while demeaning or excluding others. There is so much work to do, at all levels, to build a human community in which we all matter. I want to do my small part. As someone who has the privilege of writing and publishing books, I've decided that the twin practices endemic in American publishing of describing characteristics of race, class, sexual orientation, and other identities only when deemed “the other,” and of assuming that all readers belong to a particular demographic group are no longer tolerable. I'm using my newest book Your Turn: How to Be an Adult to demonstrate that we can, and must, write inclusive books. You can read about how I've attempted to do that, here. It's up to you and me to treat all humans with dignity and kindness and to inspire others to do the same. We can do this. It's well past time. Website: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/ Books: "How to Raise and Adult: Break Free from the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success" "Your Turn: How to be an Adult"

Julie Lythcott-Haims is passionate about raising self-sufficient kids and helping them find their unique path into adulthood. The former Dean of Freshman at Stanford University, Julie is the author of several books including How To Raise An Adult and Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, both of which we discuss today. In this amazing, smart, and no B.S. conversation, Julie and I discuss: What success means and how we can model it for our children Why affluent parents are more likely to over-parent. Why parents freak out about our kids' college decisions What Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer can teach us about career plans Julie holds degrees from Stanford, Harvard Law School, and holds and California College for the Arts. She serves on several boards, including LeanIn.org, Common Sense Media, and Parents magazine. She has appeared on NPR, Good Morning America, Today, and mega podcasts like the Rich Roll show. Her TED Talk has been viewed over 6 million times. In other words, she's, like, super-smart and totally interesting. You should totally listen to our discussion.  Learn more about Julie on her website: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/ Buy tickets to Paul's Los Angeles show here.  Rate and review Crazy Money here.  Follow Paul on Instagram here.

In this episode, we're chatting with New York Times bestselling author Julie Lythcott-Haims about her new book Your Turn: How to Be an Adult. You might know Julie from her first book, "How to Raise an Adult," which was a New York Times bestseller and was the antidote to overparenting culture. Thankfully, she's back with a sort of follow-up to that one, aimed at older Gen-Z and millennials (and hey, Gen-Xers too), with a super helpful guidebook to what it means to be an adult. It's supportive, thoughtful, and inspiring, whether you need it for yourself, or you've got a budding adult in your life. Follow us on social media: Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook

Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, teaching, mentoring, and activism. She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult, which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Her third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a "groundbreakingly frank" guide to adulthood. Julie holds degrees from Stanford, Harvard Law, and California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Common Sense Media, Black Women's Health Imperative, Narrative Magazine, and the Board of Trustees at California College of the Arts. She serves on the advisory boards of LeanIn.Org, Parents magazine, and Baldwin For the Arts. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. You really should check out her website here: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com If you liked this, sign up for her newsletter “Julie's Pod” here: https://jlythcotthaims.bulletin.com/ And, of course, social media! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jlythcotthaims Twitter: https://twitter.com/jlythcotthaims Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jlythcotthaims _______________________________________ Follow me on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs Looking for a heartfelt gift? Visit my print shop here: https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/theshop Sign up for my weekly newsletter! Click here: https://longdistancelovebombs.mykajabi.com/email. It's easy and takes five seconds. Check out a list of my favorite books here: https://www.amazon.com/shop/longdistancelovebombs --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/longdistancelovebombs/message

From the "Best of the Will to Change" In this episode, originally recorded as a TONE Talk, Julie Lythcott-Haims joins Jennifer Brown for a conversation about 3 "superpowers" that everyone possesses and how to unleash them. Julie is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-From the helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult. Her TED Talk on the subject has more than 5 million views, and in 2020 she became a regular contributor with CBS This Morning on parenting. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, will be out in April 2021.  To learn more about TONE Networks, visit https://www.tonenetworks.com/ 

There's a lot to learn about how to help (or let) a kid become an adult from someone who worked with Stanford students for 10 years, not to mention someone who wrestles with every major moment in parenting herself. Julie Lythcott-Haims is the author of How to Raise an Adult and Your Turn: How to Be an Adult and is as honest as they come. This is one to play on repeat. If you loved this conversation, you might also like the August 27 quick hit pod on Parenting Mantras or Kelly's conversation with parenting expert Dr. Lisa Damour on how different generations approach parenting.

Here are our top 5 books from 2021 with honorable mentions of the other 40+ books we read this year. We love to read as a way to grow our minds to different ideas and perspectives and we hope you enjoy these books as much as we do!  Chapters: 0:00 - Intro  2:46 - Intro to High and Low from 2021 6:47 - Actual(!) High and Low from 2021 11:44 - The Books of 2021 13:28 - Quick Thank You to Our Sponsors 14:06 - The Books of 2021 cont. 31:09 - Good Word Of The Day!!! 33:21 - Continued Focus on Health Gigantic 2021 Book Review Jihae Books 1 The Madness of Crowds by Douglas Murray 2 Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy 3 Daring Greatly by Brene Brown 4 No Greater Love by AW Tozer 5 The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: How to Stay Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in the Chaos of the Modern World John Mark Comer 6 Business Made Simple: 60 Days to Master Leadership, Sales, Marketing, Execution, Management, Personal Productivity and More Don Miller 7 The Tanning of America: How Hip-Hop Created a Culture That Rewrote the Rules of the New Economy Steve Stoute 8 The Gospel Comes with a House Key: Practicing Radically Ordinary Hospitality in Our Post-Christian World Rosaria Butterfiled 9 Crying in H Mart: A Memoir  Michelle Zauner 10 Never Lose a Customer Again: Turn Any Sale into Lifelong Loyalty in 100 Days Joseph Coleman 11 I Am Here: The Journey from Fear to Freedom Ashley Lemieux 12 Surprised by Joy: The Shape of My Early Life  CS Lewis 13 Eat a Peach David Chang 14 Fortitude: American Resilience in the Era of Outrage Dan Crenshaw 15 Real Artists Don't Starve: Timeless Strategies for Thriving in the New Creative Age By: Jeff Goins 16 Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life By: Emily Nagoski PhD 17 The Hiding Place by Corrie Ten Boom Re-Read Books 18 For Women Only by Shauti Feldhahn 19 Essentialism by Greg McKeown 20 Love Does by Bob Goff Chris's Books 1 Wizard's First Rule: Sword of Truth, Book 1 Terry Goodkind 2 What Got You Here Won't Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful Marshall Goldsmith 3 His Needs, Her Needs: Building a Marriage That Lasts By: Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr. 4 Nonviolent Communication: Create Your Life, Your Relationships, and Your World in Harmony with Your Values Marshall Rosenberg PhD 5 Public Speaking for Success Jim Rohn 6 It Worked for Me: In Life and Leadership – Colin Powell 7 Twelve Pillars – By: Jim Rohn , Chris Widener 8 More Than a Carpenter Josh McDowell 9 Tangled Up in Blue: Policing the American City – Rosa Brooks 10 Re-read The Compound Effect Read Together 11 Feeding the Mouth That Bites You: A Complete Guide to Parenting Adolescents and Launching Them into the World Kenneth Wilgus PhD 12 Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew By: Sherrie Eldridge 13 The Anatomy of Peace, Expanded Second Edition: Resolving the Heart of Conflict The Arbinger Institute 14 The Outward Mindset: Seeing Beyond Ourselves The Arbinger Institute 15 Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box The Arbinger Institute 16 A Promised Land by Barack Obama 17 How To Have Your Best Year Ever Jim Rohn 18 Your Turn: How to Be an Adult by Julie Lythcott Haims 19 Winning the War in Your Mind: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life – By: Craig Groeschel   Keeping Score: Jihae - 29 Books Chris - 19 Books Jihae is the 2021 FV Pod Book Reading Champion!! Other Links: Lily's devo she did on the Bible App - Growing Your Faith  Patrick Lencioni 5 Dysfunctions of a Team ‎At The Table with Patrick Lencioni: The Five Dysfunctions … Dave Ramsey Goal Sheet  Bek and Kev goal setting with kids Good Word of the Day “Don't ask yourself how you can be more efficient, ask yourself how you can be more effective.” –  Carey Nieuwhof Wishing you all a great new year of healthy bodies, spirits, and minds! If you would like to connect: Fostering Voices on Instagram You can also email us! Follow us on YouTube! AND we would LOVE it if you would SUBSCRIBE and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people! If you want to see how to leave a review, check out this handy little video!    

Do you have a young adult child who is struggling with adulting? Are they finding it difficult to take on the many important tasks and responsibilities of adulthood? It's no surprise as college gets more expensive (and loan debt increases), as wage growth is slow, and as healthcare and housing costs climb. So, what can be done to support our young adult children as they make the transition into adulthood?   New York Times bestselling author, Julie Lythcott-Haims, returns to Mom Enough with a new book on supporting our children in becoming adults. She shares wisdom, personal reflections, and the stories of other young adults in her ultimate guide for adulting, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult. With vulnerability and compassion, Lythcott-Haims offers insights and helpful tips to guide young adults to discover their unique selves and define their singular path to adulthood. Speaking of the transition to adulthood, 16-year-old Clara Garner joins her mom, Dr. Erin Erickson, as this episode's co-host. Clara was eager to hear what Julie Lythcott-Haims had to say about how young adults can combat perfectionism, stop pleasing others, and identify their "why" as they make the world a better place. You won't want to miss this important episode of Mom Enough!   WHAT STEPS CAN YOUR YOUNG ADULT TAKE TO BEGIN ADULTING?  How can we support young adults in moving past perfectionism? Why is it important that young adults stop aiming to please others? Contribution is an important part of being a healthy adult. How can we, and the young adults in our lives, find our "why" as we make the world better?    WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT BECOMING AN ADULT AND JULIE LYTHCOTT HAIMS? ❉ HOW TO RAISE AN ADULT: A CONVERSATION WITH NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING AUTHOR, JULIE LYTHCOTT-HAIMS. While our job as parents is to love, care for, and teach our children, the purpose of our role is to raise a contributing member of society as our children reach adulthood. Lythcott-Haims shares wisdom and insights from her book, How to Raise an Adult, in this compelling episode of Mom Enough.   ❉ JULIE LYTHCOTT-HAIMS. Learn more about New York Times bestselling author, Julie Lythcott-Haims on her website.   ❉ EXCERPT OF HOW TO BE AN ADULT. Begin reading Julie Lythcott-Haims latest book now!

I'm excited to welcome you to a special episode of the Mother's Quest Podcast that I am extremely grateful for, just in time for Thanksgiving, featuring the amazing Julie Lythcott-Haims and my 17-year-old son Ryan Neale. Julie is an incredible mother to two, a former Stanford Dean and New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult, which gave rise to a TED Talk that has more than 5 million views. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. I'm so fortunate to have had the opportunity to interview Julie for the podcast several years ago when that book was first released. When I heard about Julie's new book Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, I knew I wanted to invite her back to the podcast again. And, I hoped that my son Ryan, on the threshold of adulthood himself, would join us in the conversation. The stars aligned and Ryan was available the day of the interview, enabling Julie, Ryan, and I to explore the concepts of her book, about navigating adulthood and embracing our differences, especially our neurodiversity, in deeply personal and relevant ways.  In this episode, I'm also excited to share a dedication from Deborah Reber, former podcast guest, fellow mother on a quest, and host of the TiLT Parenting Podcast.Deborah's heart-felt dedication honors Julie and other mothers raising neurodivergent children. I could not agree more with Deborah's assessment about what an exceptional human Julie is, about the power of Julie's commitment to put the stories of a diverse group of young people with different identities on the pages of her book, and about the impact of Julie's work for normalizing and honoring differences.  As you hear our conversation unfold, I know you'll be as struck as I was by Julie's wisdom and humility as she talks with Ryan, helping him to understand that he deserves to be cherished for who he is, that he can approach things like writing in ways that work for his differently-wired mind, and that he can seek out environments, like college, that enables him to play to his strengths and allow him to thrive. Since our conversation, Ryan was able to take Julie's advice to heart, using voice to text without shame to write his personal statement for college applications and sharing his personal insights on a panel at the recent Stanford Neurodiversity Summit. You can follow the link in the show notes to listen.Finally, this conversation is a demonstration that there is no destination to becoming an adult, but an ongoing journey of learning and discovery, that parents and their children can support one another in reciprocity with curiosity, and that we can all benefit from asking ourselves the question from Mary Oliver's famous poem, that Julie gives us as our challenge, “What is it that we want to do with our one wild and precious life?”As we approach Thanksgiving, the five-year birthday of the launch of Mother's Quest, and my 50th birthday, I can say there is nothing I'd rather do than hold space for a conversation like this one and share it with you.   About Julie: Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. She is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a TED Talk that has more than 5 million views. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, is out now. Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean, and she holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. She serves on the board of Common Sense Media, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org, and she is a former board member at Foundation for a College Education, Global Citizen Year, The Writers Grotto, and Challenge Success. She volunteers with the hospital program No One Dies Alone. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother.    Connect with Julie:  Website  Twitter Instagram LinkedIn   About RyanRyan Neale is a neurodivergent 12th Grader from San Mateo, California. His parents discovered he was differently wired when he was 18 months old but he has been in fully mainstream education for his academic career, with most people around him not knowing about some of the struggles that he faces. His experiences publicly masking his neuro differences have given him a unique perspective on many of the struggles neurodiverse people face, such as public stigma, ableism, and the ever-present desire to fit in. As he has begun advocating more for his needs, he has high hopes to use his perspective and communication skills to increase public understanding of neurodiversity, and hopefully create a more inclusive society for everyone. In his free time, he enjoys playing varsity basketball for his high school team, coaching youth sports, roughhousing with his little brother, and diving headfirst into his many fantasy special interests. He is thrilled to have participated in this fall's Stanford Neurodiversity Summit on a K-12 student panel. You can listen to the panel here. Connect with Ryan:  Instagram   Topics Discussed in this Episode: How Julie's experience listening to students as a Stanford Dean and raising her own children led her to write a book about young adults The painful admission Julie shared about overlooking her own son Sawyer's challenges with ADHD and anxiety and the poignant moment when her son acknowledged Julie's shift in understanding him  The ways that Ryan identifies as neurodivergent, how he has adapted, and the pain he has experienced trying to fit in a neurotypical world  Julie's advice to Ryan about embracing who he is Her recommendation of the book Normal Sucks by Jonathan Mooney  The revelations parents can take from Julie's book How to help young adults figure out what next steps to take on their path to becoming an adult  The lessons Julie has personally gained from writing her books Julie's words of wisdom for Ryan on how to move through his resistance of writing by trying methods that might work better for his differences and strengths  The biggest takeaway that Julie learned in her research and in her own journey writing the book about how to be vulnerable and connected and open to the support of others so that you don't have to feel alone Julie's challenge for all of us that can help us live our best lives as adults   Resources and Topics Mentioned: Ep 52: Third Chapters, Raising Adults, and Loving Ourselves with Julie Lythcott-Haims  Normal Sucks by Jonathan Mooney  Julie's books Julie's Ted talk    This Episode's Challenge: Ask yourself the question from Mary Oliver's famous poem, “what do I want to do with this one wild and precious life?” Explore what would you do if it was only up to you...if nobody else's opinion really mattered. Go to a quiet place, a shower, out in nature, or on a hammock and ask yourself "What is the work that brings me joy? What are the places and spaces where I feel valued and seen?" This Episode is dedicated by Deborah Reber Debbie Reber is a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded TiLT Parenting, a top resource for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in Kids & Family, with more than 3 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A certified Positive Discipline trainer and a regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie's newest book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired. In the summer of 2020, she co-created the Parenting in Place Masterclass series. Prior to launching TiLT, Debbie spent more than fifteen years writing inspiring books for women and teens, including Doable: The Girls' Guide to Accomplishing Just About Anything, Language of Love, Chill: Stress-Reducing Techniques for a More Balanced, Peaceful You, In Their Shoes: Extraordinary Women Describe Their Amazing Careers, and more than a dozen preschool books based on the series Blue's Clues. In 2008, she had the privilege of creating and editing the first-ever series of teen-authored memoirs, Louder Than Words. Before becoming a solopreneur, Debbie worked in TV and video production, producing documentaries and PSAs for CARE and UNICEF, working on Blue's Clues, and developing original series for Cartoon Network. She has an MA in Media Studies from the New School for Social Research and a BA in Communications from Pennsylvania State University. In 2019, her husband, and 17-year-old twice-exceptional son relocated to Brooklyn, NY after living in Amsterdam, the Netherlands for five years.    Connect with Deborah: https://tiltparenting.com https://instagram.com/tiltparenting https://facebook.com/groups/tilttogether https://twitter.com/tiltparenting   You can also check out my conversation with Debbie on the Mother's Quest Podcast about embracing differences here! Announcement:   Special Q & A Brunch with Julie Lythcott-Haims Join Mother's Quest and Happy Women Dinners for a special opportunity to receive Julie's new book, get it personally signed, and enjoy brunch and a Q & A with Julie at Julie Neale's private home in the SF Peninsula. Cost is $125 and includes brunch and a copy of the signed book. Email jill@happywomendinners.com to secure your spot ASAP. Tickets are sold out with the exception of a small number for Mother's Quest listeners and members.    Mother's Quest is Turning Five - Celebrate With Us! On December 1st, Mother's Quest will be celebrating it's 5th birthday. To honor this milestone, we are having a virtual celebration with poetry, music, toasts and more.  If you've been impacted by Mother's Quest and have wishes to share for our next chapter, I'd love for you to join us. Email hello@Mothersquest.com to get all the details and RSVP.    Mother's Quest is a podcast for moms who are ready to live a truly E.P.I.C. life. Join in for intimate conversations with a diverse group of inspiring mothers as they share how they are living an E.P.I.C. life, Engaging mindfully with their children (E), Passionately and Purposefully making a difference beyond their family (P), Investing in themselves (I), and Connecting to a strong support network (C). Join our community of mothers to light the way and sustain you on your quest at https://www.facebook.com/groups/mothersquest/

You are not a piece of clay that is meant to be formed into something someone else wants you to be. You are a human being. A human being with dreams, goals, passions, interests, talents...You're not a drone, a puppet, or a dog on a leash. You are whatever YOU want to be and feel called to be in this world. Julie Lythcott-Haims, a New York Times bestselling author and a speaker, didn't always see her work encompassing writing, speaking, mentoring, and activism. She went into college unsure on what to do but curious on how she could make an impact; a good impact in the world. She started with studying American Studies, shifting to Law and eventually finding herself working in higher education, serving college students. As she worked with students, she found a huge passion for leading young adults and parents of young adults, so much so, she decided to write a book and go on to write two more: Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, Real American: A Memoir, and How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success.On this episode of Success is Subjective, Julie joins Joanna to share her journey going from failing communications class to now making a living as a communicator with 3 books and a TedTalk. Her story of overcoming challenges as a woman of color working to make a name for herself, will be sure to inspire you to take action today on your passions. Listen in for Julie's insight on how imperative it is to figure out what you're good at, what you love, and where you feel a sense of belonging in the world and to not let anyone stop you. You CAN live the life you want to lead, despite what anyone else has to think or say about it. What You Will LearnWhat it was like being raised knowing that higher education was imperativeHow going through school was for Julie, as a woman of colorHow Julie's relationship with her mother really drove her actions in school What sparked Julie's interest in studying American Studies How American Studies got her to pursue LawWhen Julie realized that corporate Law wasn't right for herWhen she decided to pursue bigger passions with serving studentsThe recurring micromanaging she saw from parents of college students which led her to write her first bookWhat Julie has learned from working in higher education and how she uses that experience in her work now, as an entrepreneur The Venn diagram of a fulfilling lifeHow important it is for parents to learn to let go of the reins in their young adult's lifeConnect with Julie Lythcott-HaimsJulie Lythcott-Haim's BlogJulie Lythcott-Haims's Social Media:FacebookInstagramTwitterLinkedInTiktokConnect with Joanna Lilley  Lilley ConsultingLilley Consulting on Instagram Lilley Consulting on Facebook Sponsored by: College Parent Survival NetworkEmail joanna@lilleyconsulting.com

The boundary between adolescence and adulthood is naturally blurred. Usually, there is no distinct moment in which you seize to be a “youth” and begin to be an “adult”. But more important than identifying a key moment in time when this transition occurs, what does it actually mean to “become an adult”? Former Stanford Dean and New York Times bestselling author Julie Lychott-Haims re-joins the podcast to explore her new book, "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult". Julie's Website (with links to her books)https://www.julielythcotthaims.comFollow Julie on Twitter @jlythcotthaims

Invariably, we all want what is best for our children. As parents, we would give anything for them to be happy, successful, and fulfilled. But that eagerness to give them the world can create problems. If we move from being a teacher and advocate to something more, we run the risk of stripping them of the opportunity to learn and grow into the fullness of who they could be.  This conundrum fascinates Julie Lythcott-Haims, compelling her to help parents raise healthy, self-sufficient kids. She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Her third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a “groundbreakingly frank” guide to adulthood. This episode is full of both helpful advice and touching stories, both of which are sure to inspire you on your parenting journey.

Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, mentoring, and activism. She is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a “groundbreakingly frank” guide to adulthood. Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean, and she holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Common Sense Media and the Black Women's Health Imperative, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org and Parents magazine. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. You can find Julie online... Twitter: @jlythcotthaims Instagram: @jlythcotthaims Facebook: Julie Lythcott-Haims Website Originally Published 10/14/21

Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. She is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a TED Talk that has more than 5 million views. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, is out now.Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean, and she holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. She serves on the board of Common Sense Media, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org, and she is a former board member at Foundation for a College Education, Global Citizen Year, The Writers Grotto, and Challenge Success. She volunteers with the hospital program No One Dies Alone.She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother.Support the show (https://pod.fan/the-dude-therapist)

How do we support our young people in becoming independent, thriving, adaptable, confident learners? How do we encourage them to develop a sense of their own agency and shape their lives, rather than having their lives dictated to them? And what is the role of schools in creating capable, responsible adults -- not just high-stat students who achieve academically but struggle to “adult” beyond the classroom?The impact of the college admissions race on students and schools is becoming increasingly clear. While students pursue an ever-growing number of advanced courses, impressive extracurricular achievements and other “resume-builders” to boost their chances of getting into top colleges, educators and parents are taking stock of the other skills that seem to have fallen by the wayside. Is the pursuit of academic excellence at all costs leading to a generation of students who don't know how to handle the basic tasks of adulthood? Julie Lythcott-Haims, NY Times bestselling author of “Your Turn,” “Real American,” and “How to Raise an Adult,” joins New View EDU to shed light on how our current concepts in education may be inadvertently restricting students' growth.In this episode, hosts Tim Fish and Lisa Kay Solomon talk with Julie about her personal concept of “rooting for humans” and her investment in helping all people thrive. A former dean at Stanford, Julie shares how her own observations about the emerging harm of helicopter parenting led her to begin exploring how young people suffer when they're deprived of opportunities to develop agency, self-determination and problem-solving skills. She urges school leaders to consider how responsibility and care for the community can be infused into the school experience from the youngest ages, rather than left as “community service hours” check boxes for older students to complete. And in the wake of the pandemic, Julie encourages all adults to reconsider their definitions of both service and success -- understanding that no child can be considered to have “failed” when confronted with a global crisis, and that for many students, stepping up to help at home to fulfill a need may have been the highest form of service possible.More deeply, Julie examines the ways in which true inclusion and care for every student make a stark difference in the educational landscape. Who “matters” in each school and classroom, and how can educators examine the evidence presented to them that shows which students feel seen and which don't? What can educators do to commit to creating school cultures where each and every student feels that they matter deeply to someone? And how can school leaders ensure that everyone within their communities understands, commits to and lives the values upon which the school is founded, using those values to invest deeply in relationships that uplift every person?Some of the key questions Tim and Lisa explore in this interview include:What opportunity currently exists for school leaders to let go of practices that don't serve their values, and embrace changes that do?How do we design schools to deliberately embrace relationship-building and connection as core concepts, not secondary to test prep and rigor?In what ways might we be able to redefine concepts like SEL and service learning to become more joyful, integrated and internalized, and less performative?How can schools create cultures that support “fending” skills from the youngest ages, and why is it important to do so?Resource List:Your Turn: Julie's bestselling book about “how to be an adult.”The Your Turn Study Guide: A helpful resource for using Julie's book to start “fending” and finding your voice. Julie's inspiring talks: Watch Julie speak on topics relevant to parents, educators, and young people who are trying to grow into competent adults.Hunt, Gather, Parent: The new book by Michaeleen Doucleff Julie mentions in this interview The Daily SEL Leader: Julie's recommended book for educators looking to improve their SEL practices Hella Social Impact and Vaya Consulting: Two organizations Julie recommends to help schools level up their DEI efforts.In This Episode:“You don't just sort of give someone the opportunity to fend at their 18th birthday. It doesn't happen that way. Fending is intrinsically about skills. You don't, we don't go from handling everything for kids to them suddenly being capable of doing for themselves. That's called being cut off cold turkey, and it's cruel, and it leads to, you know, can lead to real devastating results. So we are definitely in for a reframe.” (8:16)“At a very practical level, Home Ec and shop class-- Home Ec and shop class were terrific places to learn some of the fending skills. And in many communities, those courses have gone the way of the dinosaur because we've gotten so enamored of what we think of as enrichment, which we think is only the hardcore academic stuff. So we've jettisoned the stuff of life out the window, and we shouldn't be surprised that we graduate people with high GPAs, who cannot do much for themselves.” (10:17)“I try to hone in on the root, the Latin root educare, you know, educate, educare. Educare, I'm told-- I was never a student of Latin, but I have learned-- means to bring forth. And I tell educators, what's your subject? And they'll say French, Latin, Spanish, Math, English, History, Art, Music, et cetera. And I'll challenge that. I'll say, isn't your student the subject? Aren't you bringing your student forth, and simply your expertise-- math-- is, is what you use to bring them forth?” (14:15)“Our educators are hurting. They're, they're stretched so thin. They've been burning the candle at both ends and in the middle. And we all need to restore the self, if we have any hope of being of use to other humans. And when we can walk that walk, then I think we are reshaping education and reshaping the experience our children have within it.” (20:15)“You know, for some kids, they're just proud they're alive, and we need to celebrate that because people were pushed to the brink. So celebrating, recognizing the stronger capacities and emotional strength that was built because of this struggle. That would be an important thing, I think, to embed at least into this coming fall, if not to make it a part of a much bigger practice.” (27:31)Full TranscriptAbout Our Guest:Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. She is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a TED Talk that has more than 5 million views. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, is out now.Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean, and she holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. She serves on the board of Common Sense Media, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org. She volunteers with the hospital program No One Dies Alone.She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join Signe for a conversation with Julie Lythcott-Haims, former Stanford dean, on "adulting," the modern markers of adulthood and the importance of feedback. Julie is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a “groundbreakingly frank” guide to adulthood. Julie is a former corporate lawyer, holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Common Sense Media, the Black Women's Health Imperative, the advisory board of LeanIn.Org and Parents magazine. To learn more about Julie, visit www.julielythcotthaims.com.

"Adulting" has now become a verb, and it scares us. Yet it is also essential if we are to live our best, most authentic lives. So how do you do it if you've not learned all the necessary lessons? And what defines an adult, anyway? These are the questions tackled by Julie Lythcott-Haims in her new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult (2021, Henry Holt & Company). In our interview, we address how the meaning of adulthood has changed from what it used to be; the necessary balance between “fending” for oneself and relying on others; and how Julie's own life experiences shaped the development of the book and her ideas. This episode is for adults trying to improve themselves, parents trying to raise them, and those in between. Julie Lythcott-Haims is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Her new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a “groundbreakingly frank” guide to adulthood. Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean, and she holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Common Sense Media and the Black Women's Health Imperative, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org and Parents magazine. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. Eugenio Duarte, Ph.D. is a psychologist and psychoanalyst practicing in Miami. He treats individuals and couples, with specialties in gender and sexuality, eating and body image problems, and relationship issues. He is a graduate and faculty of William Alanson White Institute in Psychiatry, Psychoanalysis, and Psychology in New York City and former chair of their LGBTQ Study Group; and faculty at Florida Psychoanalytic Institute in Miami. He is also a contributing author to the book Introduction to Contemporary Psychoanalysis: Defining Terms and Building Bridges (2018, Routledge) and has published on issues of gender, sexuality, and sexual abuse. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology

"Adulting" has now become a verb, and it scares us. Yet it is also essential if we are to live our best, most authentic lives. So how do you do it if you've not learned all the necessary lessons? And what defines an adult, anyway? These are the questions tackled by Julie Lythcott-Haims in her new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult (2021, Henry Holt & Company). In our interview, we address how the meaning of adulthood has changed from what it used to be; the necessary balance between “fending” for oneself and relying on others; and how Julie's own life experiences shaped the development of the book and her ideas. This episode is for adults trying to improve themselves, parents trying to raise them, and those in between. Julie Lythcott-Haims is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Her new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a “groundbreakingly frank” guide to adulthood. Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean, and she holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. She currently serves on the boards of Common Sense Media and the Black Women's Health Imperative, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org and Parents magazine. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. Eugenio Duarte, Ph.D. is a psychologist and psychoanalyst practicing in Miami. He treats individuals and couples, with specialties in gender and sexuality, eating and body image problems, and relationship issues. He is a graduate and faculty of William Alanson White Institute in Psychiatry, Psychoanalysis, and Psychology in New York City and former chair of their LGBTQ Study Group; and faculty at Florida Psychoanalytic Institute in Miami. He is also a contributing author to the book Introduction to Contemporary Psychoanalysis: Defining Terms and Building Bridges (2018, Routledge) and has published on issues of gender, sexuality, and sexual abuse. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

Find Juliehttps://www.julielythcotthaims.comhttp://www.facebook.com/jlythcotthaims http://www.twitter.com/jlythcotthaimshttp://instagram.com/jlythcotthaims About Julie:WRITER. SPEAKER. HUMAN.  Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. She is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a TED Talk that has more than 5 million views. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, is out now.Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean, and she holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. She serves on the board of Common Sense Media, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org, and she is a former board member at Foundation for a College Education, Global Citizen Year, The Writers Grotto, and Challenge Success. She volunteers with the hospital program No One Dies Alone.She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. Support the show (Http://Www.patreon.com/speakforchangepodcast)

Watch This Episode on Our YouTube Channel Episode 30: Julie Lythcott-Haims Julie's new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, was written with the 18-34 set in mind. It's a book about adulting, and sure, young people need to learn a lot about being adults. It turns out, however, that we, um, slightly older... The post It's “Your Turn” to Decide What You Want, with Julie Lythcott-Haims appeared first on Mom And Podcast.

In this episode, I speak to Julie Lythcott-Haims the author of Your Turn: How to Be an Adult. Julie is also the author of the New York Times bestseller How to Raise an Adult, a book on overparenting (with a popular TED Talk on the topic), and Real American: A Memoir. Julie believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, mentoring, and activism.In the conversation, Julie and I discuss:Vulnerability and confidencePlanning and flexibilityHow to avoid perfectionismChoosing your own path in life Forgiveness and much more Connect with Julie Lythcott-Haims:Homepage: julielythcotthaims.com/Twitter: twitter.com/jlythcotthaimsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jlythcotthaims/Follow In Search of Wisdom:Twitter: twitter.com/searchofwisdomInstagram: instagram.com/searchofwisdompodcastSign-up for The PATH our free newsletter (short reflections on wisdom). 

In this week's episode, I sit down with Julie Lythcott-Haims, the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a TED Talk that has more than 5 million views.    Julie believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way.    Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, is out now.    Listen in as we talk about: The boundary between letting your kids do things for themselves and you doing it for them The four-step method to teaching any child any skill Why we over-parent and why it's detrimental to our kids' success How to step outside of your comfort zone and live on purpose   Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean, and she holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. She serves on the board of Common Sense Media, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org, and she is a former board member at Foundation for a College Education, Global Citizen Year, The Writers Grotto, and Challenge Success. She volunteers with the hospital program No One Dies Alone.   She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother.    Resources mentioned in the episode: Chasing Childhood Documentary Order Your Turn: How to Be an Adult here   Connect with Julie On Instagram On Twitter On Facebook www.julielythcotthaims.com    Connect with Natalie Tysdal On Instagram On YouTube On Facebook Website

Have I ever been embarrassed by some of the things I've done in the past? Endlessly. Have I ever been ashamed of things I've done? I have. But have I ever felt ashamed of myself on the basis of being me? Have I felt ashamed of myself for not fitting in because of some ‘unlucky' so-called roll of the DNA dice? No, I have not. It turns out, this is privilege. Julie Lythcott-Haims, speaker, activist, and author of “Your Turn: How to be an Adult”, shares her experience growing up and living as a black and biracial woman and the struggle she faced in managing shame, and between conformity and being herself. Get‌ ‌book‌ ‌links‌ ‌and‌ ‌resources‌ ‌at‌ https://www.mbs.works/2-pages-podcast/ Julie reads two pages from 'Educated' by Tara Westover. [reading begins at 11:18] Hear us talk about: Julie's experience of finding her identity and how she harnessed this experience: ‘We must unburden ourselves from the shame installed in us by the opinions of others.' [20:40] | How to stop seeking conformity and living to please others. [22:47] | How to find your own voice: 'Our doubtful feelings are just as much substantial proof of us being miserable as our bodies breaking down from stress.' [27:52] | Differentiating which challenges make you stronger and which ones will make you miserable. [33:02] | What it means to be an activist. [36:21] | Moving from fear to love - What keeps us stuck in fear? [39:06]

When we over-parent and rescue all the time, we're depriving our kids from living. Life is truly an active verb. And when we focus on making things easier in the short term, we deprive our kids of the skills they need for the long haul.   In this episode we speak with Julie Lythcott-Haims who is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult, Real American, and her newest book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult. Julie believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way.   She shares with us how parents can sometimes get focused on the short term gains and lose sight of those long haul parenting goals. And in the end, it's our kids who pay the price. We some of our best “Oh crap! I'm an adult now” moments and how we found strength in them, just as our kids will! Resources We Shared:   Me & My Friendships Book    Julie Lythcott-Haims   How to Raise an Adult   Real American: A Memoir   Your Turn: How to Be an Adult   Leave Us a Podcast Review (How to Video)   Download the Transcripts HERE   The best mom is a happy mom. To better take care of you, download our No Guilt Mom mindset here .  These reminders will help you second guess less, and feel more confidence every day in your parenting.

WRITER. SPEAKER. HUMAN. Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. She is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a TED Talk that has more than 5 million views. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, is out now. Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean, and she holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. She serves on the board of Common Sense Media, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org, and she is a former board member at Foundation for a College Education, Global Citizen Year, The Writers Grotto, and Challenge Success. She volunteers with the hospital program No One Dies Alone. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. In this episode, we discuss why she got into each of her three careers (7:12), the values her parents taught her as a kid as she felt “otherized” in society (11:35), naming blackness but not whiteness (17:00), the idea of the “other” (24:19), how she figures out when to be curious and when to be convicted (28:10), what changed between her two Ted Talks (31:58), if she's experienced any imposter syndrome and how she's handled it (35:27), what she misses about being Dean (39:16), inspiration (42:15), her identity (43:38), writing (47:03), if she prefers writing poetry or not (51:46), where the line is as a parent between commitment and over commitment (54:35), fostering independence in your children (1:01:16), adulting (1:03:44), and what she intentionally does to make sure she feels alive (1:07:00). You can check out Julie on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Additionally, when posting about her new book, make sure to use the hashtag #YourTurnToAdult. You can visit Julie's website here and can purchase her new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, here! Thank you so much to Julie for coming on the podcast! I wrote a book called “Shift Your Mind” that was released in October of 2020, and you can order it on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. Additionally, I have launched a company called Strong Skills, and I encourage you to check out our new website https://www.strongskills.co/. If you liked this episode and/or any others, please follow me on Twitter: @brianlevenson or Instagram: @Intentional_Performers. Thanks for listening. -Brian

Julie Lythcott- Haims is a Black biracial woman born to an African American man and a White British mother. Because her parents violated rules and policy by daring to love, she's always questioned norms. She grew up knowing her existence was problematic in the eyes of some, which has stayed with her giving her the superpowers of compassion and kindness. She believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way.    She is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult. It gave rise to a TED Talk that has more than 5 million views. She's just published a new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult that speaks directly to the heart and mind of people coming into their adulthood. It's an inclusive, candid, and comprehensive guide for young adults and for those who love them.   Julie is a former corporate lawyer and a Stanford dean. She holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. She serves on the board of Common Sense Media and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org, among other roles.   Julie identifies as queer and bisexual. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, Dan Lythcott-Haims, their two itinerant young adults, and her mother who moved in with them 20-years-ago, the subject of her next book.   SHOW NOTE LINKS: Julie Lythcott-Haims Website Your Turn- How to Be an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims Julie Lythcott-Haims Instagram Julie Lythchott-Haims Twitter Julie Lythcott-Haims Facebook The Trevor Project Rachel's Dear Family, Podcast on the topic of Sharenting Rachel's Article on Sharenting CONNECT WITH US! *Dear Family, Podcast Page *Write Now Rachel Website *Rachel's Blog @Medium *Rachel's Twitter *Facebook *Instagram   PLEASE JOIN: *Dear Family Members, the Private Facebook Group     WAYS TO HELP THE PODCAST: *PLEASE Leave a 5-Star Review and Subscribe! Thank you! Your support means the world to me. Wishing you love, happiness, and good mental health always.  

Julie Lythcott-Haims is a former corporate lawyer and Dean of Freshmen and Admissions at Stanford University, motivational speaker, and author of Real American: A Memoir, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success, Writing Memoir, and Your Turn: How to Be an Adult. Our wide ranging conversation begins with her experience growing up Black and biracial in America. We also talk about the need to purge perfection from our lives, especially parenting. And she gives tips for helicopter parents who wish to change their ways. Lots packed into this thirty-eight minute interview. And be sure to check her out at https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/. Enjoy!   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

California Attorney General Rob Bonta discusses combating anti-Asian American hate, police accountability and gun control. Plus, tips on "adulting" from Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult." And, Ethan talks with Oakland-based architect Deanna Van Buren about building a world without prisons.

In this episode, Kim has an authentic conversation with New York Times Best-Selling Author, Julie Lythcott-Haims. Julie just came out with her third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult. Kim and Julie discuss how to raise an adult and how to be an adult. They also share personal stories and offer advice to both parents and young adults. This is an episode you won't want to miss! You can find Julie at https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jlythcotthaims/ Books- Your Turn: How to Be an Adult: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Turn-How-Be-Adult-ebook/dp/B08HKWC6NC?crid=3L534ZFC41X0M&dchild=1&keywords=julie+lythcott-haims&qid=1622678453&sprefix=Julie+Lythcott,aps,239&sr=8-3&linkCode=sl1&tag=threpean-20&linkId=77900a0836e63acab9cfd637bf65cd08&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl How to Raise an Adult: https://www.amazon.com/How-Raise-Adult-Overparenting-Prepare/dp/1250093635?pd_rd_w=zRoG9&pf_rd_p=ad02864c-dd1c-47aa-98b9-1e72a1084f6a&pf_rd_r=T3YV2161S66705V00XY3&pd_rd_r=f4e61d1f-c4e5-427d-bc96-5ecd28fd4631&pd_rd_wg=XdQwd&pd_rd_i=1250093635&psc=1&linkCode=sl1&tag=threpean-20&linkId=8fb8e2df18202f0d62d68417b8acbb4f&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl Real American: A Memoir: https://amzn.to/3gbOZZF Listen to her Ted Talk! https://www.ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting?language=en

Adulting can be hard.  Julie Lythcott-Haims believes that statement is more than a meme. It’s the truth.  The transition from childhood to adulthood used to be clear: Finish your education, get a job, leave home, marry and have children. But the world has changed dramatically. Lythcott-Haims, a former dean at Stanford University and a mom to two young adults, says young people today lead different lives and have more freedoms — and thus, need updated guidance.   In her new book, “Your Turn: How to be an Adult,” she offers compassion, practical advice and personal stories for anyone struggling to “hashtag adult.” She shared that wisdom with host Kerri Miller Friday morning.  Guest: Julie Lythcott-Haims is an author, speaker and activist. Her latest book is “Your Turn: How to be an Adult.” Subscribe to the MPR News with Kerri Miller podcast on: Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify or RSS

What is up everyone and welcome back to my podcast—You're Doing A Good Job.My intention with this podcast is to dive deep and explore what it looks like to expand our lives—consciously. Because when we expand our lives—consciously, we become more emotionally aware, present and connected people and when we become more emotionally aware, present and connected—we win.Our relationships win. Our self-worth wins. Our sense of purpose wins. And most importantly, our mental health and emotional wellness, win.Now if you follow me on social media or if you know anything about my story, then you'll know that mental health and emotional wellness are a big part of my journey. I often talk about how I did reach my dreams of playing in the NFL but I lost myself in the process. And after years of healing and redefining that season of my life it is a passion of mine to share a message and help facilitate brave conversations around how we can begin to integrate our mental fortitude, and determination to expand our lives with the power of vulnerability and emotional skills.Because when we live more consciously aware and integrated, we unlock our lives—physically, emotionally, financially and relationally.Just recently, I had the chance to read How To Raise An Adult, by Julie Lythcott-Haims and as I was reading this book, I was overwhelmed in the best of ways. Truthfully, up until reading this book, I never directly correlated the mental health challenges that I experienced as a young adult to the direct effects of being over-parented as a child. It was eye opening to me in so many ways.Not only that, but as I was reading this book I could feel it deep in my bones that I would naturally want to over-parent, despite knowing the damaging long term effects it could have on a child and that's when I knew I had to have Julie on my podcast to talk more about her research on over-parenting and her book.This podcast episode with Julie is full of deep wisdom but make no mistake, it will challenge you. So if you're ready to lean into your edges of growth as a person and as a parent, you're going to love this episode.On this episode of You're Doing A Good Job, we dive deep into:What is over parenting and how and when did it originateWe also talk about what's really going on behind the need to over-parent and what you should do about itWe talk about my story around being over-parented and how it impacted my lifeWe talk about the importance of redefining success as a parent and where to draw the line between making decisions for your children and giving them the space to forge their own paths in life.I promise you, you're going to walk away with so much from this episode. Julie is one of a kind and not only does she know what she's talking about, but she's full compassion and empathy.-About Julie Lythcott-Haims:Julie believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. She is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a TED Talk that has more than 5 million views. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, is out now.Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean, and she holds a Bachelor of Arts from Stanford, a JD degree from Harvard, and a Master of Fine Arts, MFA, in Writing from California College of the Arts. She serves on the board of Common Sense Media, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org, and she is a former board member at Foundation for a College Education, Global Citizen Year, The Writers Grotto, and Challenge Success. She volunteers with the hospital program No One Dies Alone.She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother.Lastly, before we dive into this podcast, can I ask a big favor? If you find this episode useful in any way, it would mean the world to me if you left a review on my podcast as well as share this episode with one friend that you might think would benefit from it. That would be so so helpful.Connect with Julie on Instagram, here.Connect with Caleb on Instagram, here.Also, a BIG thanks to Jeff Orlowski and the cover art for this podcast. Find his work, here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week Abigail speaks with Julie Lythcott-Haims, about her latest book "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult." This funny, heartbreaking, and deeply inspirational talk between two new friends examines the skill-sets today's kids must learn in order to become tomorrow's thriving grown-ups. A must-listen, no matter how old you are!

In this episode, Vicki and Lynn again share some of their favorite books for college parents. This time, we focus on Jessica Lahey and Julie Lythcott-Haims who have each written two books that are essential reading for parents. Whether your child is younger, or you have someone heading to college, you’ll find information, inspiration and support. After you listen to this episode, you’ll want to find a copy of The Gift of Failure, The Addiction Inoculation, How to Raise an Adult, and Your Turn:  How to Be an Adult. Happy reading!

#121: Our children need "ARC" according to Julie Lythcott Haims - agency, resilience, and character. As parents, there are many things that we can do to foster this in our young children and young adults, giving them the foundation they need. Listen in. About my guest: Julie Lythcott Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. She is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a TED Talk that has more than 5 million views. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, is out now. Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean, and she holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. She serves on the board of Common Sense Media, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org, and volunteers with the hospital program No One Dies Alone. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother.    Join the Conscious Parents, Thriving Kids community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/138844930006014/   Stay in touch! Join the Conscious Parents, Thriving Kids community /Subscribe to the newsletter /YouTube/LinkedIn/Facebook/Instagram  

Palo Alto author Julie Lythcott-Haims reads from her new book, "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult." It’s about adulting.

Best selling author and amazing human Julie Lythcott-Haims has done it again with her new book, YOUR TURN: How to be an Adult. She offers the guidance, empathy, and sound wisdom young adults need to hear. Listen in on our chat about YOUR TURN in this episode of the podcast. About Julie WRITER. SPEAKER. HUMAN. Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. She is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a TED Talk that has more than 5 million views. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, will be out in April 2021. Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean, and she holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. She serves on the board of Common Sense Media, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org, and she is a former board member at Foundation for a College Education, Global Citizen Year, The Writers Grotto, and Challenge Success. She volunteers with the hospital program No One Dies Alone. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their itinerant young adults, and her mother. Links & Related Julie's website Ep. 170: Adulting with Emma Liberman How Camp Helps Parents Raise Adults Ready for Adulthood Check-List for Kids

What does it mean to be a “real adult”? As a former dean of freshmen at Stanford University and the New York Times-bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult and Real American, author Lythcott-Haims has spent her career helping young adults pursue their goals. In her new book Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, Lythcott-Haims provides compassionate and practical guidance on how to navigate the wonders and challenges of adult life, from finding a fulfilling career to gaining the confidence to understand what’s most important. Join Lythcott-Haims at INFORUM to discuss how becoming an adult might seem scary, but the process can be exciting and rewarding. Note: This program contains EXPLICIT language SPEAKERS Julie Lythcott-Haims Author, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult Darnell Moore Author, No Ashes in the Fire: Coming of Age Black and Free in America—Moderator In response to the COVID-19 pandemic, we are currently hosting all of our live programming via YouTube live stream. This program was recorded via video conference on April 20th, 2021 by the Commonwealth Club of California. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it mean to be a “real adult”? As a former dean of freshmen at Stanford University and the New York Times-bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult and Real American, author Lythcott-Haims has spent her career helping young adults pursue their goals. In her new book Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, Lythcott-Haims provides compassionate and practical guidance on how to navigate the wonders and challenges of adult life, from finding a fulfilling career to gaining the confidence to understand what's most important. Join Lythcott-Haims at INFORUM to discuss how becoming an adult might seem scary, but the process can be exciting and rewarding. Note: This program contains EXPLICIT language SPEAKERS Julie Lythcott-Haims Author, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult Darnell Moore Author, No Ashes in the Fire: Coming of Age Black and Free in America—Moderator In response to the COVID-19 pandemic, we are currently hosting all of our live programming via YouTube live stream. This program was recorded via video conference on April 20th, 2021 by the Commonwealth Club of California. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Unorthodox, Andrew Cuomo’s Jewish “tree houses” and Israel’s wild boars. Our Jewish guest is Devin Gordon, author of the new book “So Many Ways to Lose: The Amazin' True Story of the New York Mets—the Best Worst Team in Sports.” He tells us why Mets fandom is a profound spiritual exercise in perpetual disappointment, and Liel offers his take on why the Mets are a fundamentally Jewish team. Our Gentile of the week is writer, speaker, and activist Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of “How to Raise an Adult,” and most recently, “Your Turn: How to Be an Adult.” She explains the societal factors making it harder for today’s young adults to grow into their full potential, and offers advice for young people on how best to build meaningful and full adult lives. Her question for the hosts is how non-Jews can be better allies to the Jewish community. Share your conversion story for our annual Shavuot episode! Leave us a voicemail (under a minute long) at (914) 570-4869, or record a voice memo on your phone and email it to unorthodox@tabletmag.com by April 30 to be featured on the episode. Upcoming virtual events: Sunday, May 2 — Join us at 7 p.m. EDT/4 p.m. PT for a special virtual live show with Tovah Feldshuh, presented by the Community Scholar Program of Orange County California. It's free, but you'll need to register: http://bit.ly/cspunorthodoxlive Thursday, April 29 — Stephanie will be moderating Rachel Bloom and Tovah Feldshuh in ‘A Conversation Between a (Television) Daughter and Mother,’ presented by The Jewish Museum and the Jewish Book Council, 7 p.m. EDT. Register here. Thursday, April 29 — Liel will be talking about podcasting with JCast Network's Darone Ruskay, presented by Ansche Chesed. 7 p.m. EDT; Register here. Find out about all our upcoming events at www.tabletmag.com/unorthodoxlive. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter to get new episodes, photos, and more. Join our Facebook group, and follow Unorthodox on Twitter and Instagram. Get a behind-the-scenes look at our recording sessions on our YouTube channel! Join our Get your Unorthodox T-shirts, mugs, and baby onesies at bit.ly/unorthoshirt. Want to book us for a live show? Email producer Josh Kross at jkross@tabletmag.com. Check out all of Tablet’s podcasts at tabletmag.com/podcasts. Sponsors: American Jewish World Service supports more than 500 social justice organizations fighting for justice around the world, including at the forefront of action against the COVID-19 pandemic and the challenges it’s created.AJWS is currently twice-matching all donations; find out more and make your donation at AJWS.org/unorthodox. Harry’s is a great shave at a great price. Get a special offer and a Harry’s Starter Set and Body Wash at harrys.com/unorthodox. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Communication is such a delicate dance and kids need to emerge from childhood having practiced,” says Julie Lythcott-Haims, former associate vice provost of undergraduate education Stanford University. In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, lecturer and podcast host Matt Abrahams sits down with Lythcott-Haims to discuss her new book, Your Turn: How to be an Adult, and ideas on how to communicate with young people so they feel empowered to take on the various (and often intimidating) duties of adulthood. “Responsibility isn’t a bad thing,” she says. “Responsibility is actually an amazing thing. And I think we have to do a better job of narrating that truth.”Think Fast, Talk Smart is a podcast produced by Stanford Graduate School of Business. Each episode provides concrete, easy-to-implement tools and techniques to help you hone and enhance your communication skills.

Today it’s great to chat with Julie Lythcott-Haims on the show. Julie believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. She is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean. She serves on the board of Common Sense Media, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org, and she is a former board member at Foundation for a College Education, Global Citizen Year, The Writers Grotto, and Challenge Success. Julie is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American. Her third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, will be out in April 2021. Topics [1:32] How Julie defines “adulting” [3:07] How the way we define adulthood has changed over time [5:59] What is the “adult mindset”? [8:00] Why Julie challenges the “right track” concept of adulthood [15:07] Julie’s advice to those who want to take an unconventional path [18:57] Julie’s advice to those struggling with questions of identity [20:46] Julie’s encounters with racism and “othering” [26:21] Julie’s promise of inclusivity and how she overcame her struggles [29:40] Julie’s thoughts on self-acceptance and self-love [33:22] How Julie collected inspiring stories from people for her book [37:15] Julie’s advice to people who struggle to embrace outsiders [40:17] How Julie ended up interviewing her Lyft driver for her book [42:54] Julie’s reflections on intuition and her observational capacity [45:43] “Life’s beautiful F-words” --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-psychology-podcast/support

Cathy and Todd discuss “invisible” situations (such as being neurodivergent, anxious, have migraines or an autoimmune disorder) and why we are sometimes not “believed” when we try to explain our challenges or differences (this comes from Julie Lythcott-Haims new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, in the chapter about self-care). They also discuss how our attention creates our reality, and why knowing what brings our life meaning is an essential step toward contentment.

Cathy and Todd discuss “invisible” situations (such as being neurodivergent, anxious, have migraines or an autoimmune disorder) and why we are sometimes not “believed” when we try to explain our challenges or differences (this comes from Julie Lythcott-Haims new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, in the chapter about self-care). They also discuss how our attention creates our reality, and why knowing what brings our life meaning is an essential step toward contentment.

Cathy and Todd discuss “invisible” situations (such as being neurodivergent, anxious, have migraines or an autoimmune disorder) and why we are sometimes not “believed” when we try to explain our challenges or differences (this comes from Julie Lythcott-Haims new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, in the chapter about self-care). They also discuss how our attention creates our reality, and why knowing what brings our life meaning is an essential step toward contentment.

In today's interview, I am honored to talk with NYT Bestselling author and former Stanford Dean, Julie Lythcott Haims about how to be and raise an adult.   Julie Lythcott Haims is the author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult and the award winning memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Julie holds a BA from Stanford and a JD from Harvard. Her third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, was just released on April 6 2021! In this interview, Julie discusses: The ways math can be problematic or empowering What it means to be an adult and why some struggle with this Advice for parents on how to raise successful kids (without overparenting) Inspiring stories from her new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult  You can order Your Turn here: https://bookshop.org/books/your-turn-how-to-be-an-adult/9781250137777

"Humility and respect will make your employees more connected, and that connection will make them work harder and more loyally for your company." Today's guest is an expert at how to be an adult. Julie Lythcott-Haims is the author of the New York Times best-selling book How to Raise an Adult. Before becoming an acclaimed author, Julie was Stanford's Dean of Freshmen. At Stanford, Julie was known for advocating on behalf of her students and for her fierce critique of parental involvement in the day-to-day lives of college students. Julie started writing about the harm of helicopter parenting, which gave way to her book How to Raise an Adult and her popular TedTalk on overparenting. However, before you can raise an adult, you have to know how to become one. Julie's new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult was released this week, on April 6, 2021. When 1Huddle's CEO and Founder Sam Caucci sat down with Julie on this episode of Bring It In, they talked about everything from why successful adults have to adopt a growth mindset to how we can lead by example and create companies and cultures people will be excited to work for. This is an episode you won't want to miss featuring one of the most forward-thinking authors of our generation, so let's get ready to… Bring it in!

I want to welcome back Julie Lythcott-Haims the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult. Julie believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her TED Talk on the subject has more than 5 million views, and in 2020 she became a regular contributor with CBS This Morning on parenting. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Her third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, is out now! Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean who holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. Julie serves on several boards for organizations doing meaningful work in the world and is a mother of young adult children. In this episode, Julie and I discuss the nuances of becoming an adult. When does it happen, after graduation? Your first job? Moving out of your parent's house? The fact is, becoming an adult is different for everyone. There is no road sign that you pass along the way with "welcome to adulthood" in bright lights. Becoming an adult is a process and a journey. Julie wrote Your Turn: How to Be an Adult for everyone, no matter the circumstance. The inclusivity in this book is commendable. I recommend this book to all parents and most importantly to anyone looking for a guide on how to become an adult.  Learn more about Julie Lythcott-Haims  julielythcotthaims.com @jlythcotthaims on Instagram, facebook, TikTok, Twitter Book: Your Turn: How to Be an Adult

Too many adults are living lives where they feel like passive participants rather than the creators of their destiny. In this eye-opening discussion with Julie Lythcott-Haims about her new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, we discuss the challenges many individuals face as they attempt to step into their adult life, the actions that caused a generational shift in how we view adulting, and what is possible when we step into the adult life we were meant to lead.   In this episode you'll learn: How the fundamental capacities of agency and resilience are underdeveloped in young adults who were over-parented as children How fear and learned helplessness can result as an adult for those who aren't given the opportunity to grow independently The questions we need to ask ourselves when trying to quiet the voice of what others think we should do and begin acting on what we want our path to be   About the Guest: Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. She is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult. Her TED Talk on the subject has more than 5 million views, and in 2020 she became a regular contributor with CBS This Morning on parenting. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, will be out in April 2021.  Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean, and she holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. She serves on the board of Common Sense Media, and on the advisory board of LeanIn.Org, and she is a former board member at Foundation for a College Education, Global Citizen Year, The Writers Grotto, and Challenge Success. She volunteers with the hospital program No One Dies Alone. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her partner of over thirty years, their young adults, and her mother.    Learn more about Julie's work and her new book Your Turn: How to Be an Adult at: Buy the book: https://bookshop.org/books/your-turn-how-to-be-an-adult/9781250137777 Julie's website: julielythcotthaims.com Facebook: facebook.com/jlythcotthaims Twitter: twitter.com/jlythcotthaims Instagram: instagram.com/jlythcotthaims   About the Host Janice Scholl is passionate about illuminating the work-life struggle that causes working mothers to leave professional jobs to raise their families, with a special focus on helping mothers start businesses that allow them to be financially empowered and use their skills, while being fully present for their children. She is host of the Money, Career & Motherhood podcast and a frequent speaker on the topics of motherhood & money, career breaks, and business strategy. She is the founder of Strategic Sabbaticals, a program designed to amplify the growth and opportunity women find through a career break to ensure a successful a return to paid work.    Sign up for a FREE 30-minute Career Break strategy session with Janice here. Visit the Money, Career, & Motherhood website, Facebook page, Facebook group, or on Instagram.       Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device. Leave us an iTunes review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on iTunes, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on iTunes.

Life for young adults was already complicated before the pandemic.  Cell phones, tablets, video gaming systems, streaming videos, and helicopter – no, snowplow – parents removing character building adversity from the paths of their children.  Then the pandemic hit, requiring an internal grit to work through it – the type of grit usually developed as a result of having to deal with the same adversity cleared by the snowplow.  Julie Lythcott-Haims is a New York Times bestselling author and former dean of freshmen at Stanford University who joins John for a candid discussion as part of Higher Ground's year-long focus on parenting impacts upon higher education.  John and Julie discuss life, leadership, and development lessons learned from Julie's latest book Your Turn:  How to Be an Adult.  Julie's book reads like a deep and warm conversation between friends, full of anecdotes reflecting insights into the mind of today's young adult generation that every parent and every educator needs to read.  A humble thanks to Julie for her work in this area and for her time in talking with us. Order her new book here.

Author, speaker, and activist Julie Lythcott-Haims (How to Raise an Adult) takes us inside her powerful, inclusive new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult.For more info, visit:  https://tiltparenting.com/session248Support the show

In this episode, originally recorded as a TONE Talk, Julie Lythcott-Haims joins Jennifer Brown for a conversation about 3 "superpowers" that everyone possesses and how to unleash them. Julie is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult. Her TED Talk on the subject has more than 5 million views, and in 2020 she became a regular contributor with CBS This Morning on parenting. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, will be out in April 2021.  To learn more about TONE Networks, visit https://www.tonenetworks.com/ 

My guest this week is Julie Lythcott-Haims the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult. Julie believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her TED Talk on the subject has more than 5 million views, and in 2020 she became a regular contributor with CBS This Morning on parenting. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Her third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, will be out in April 2021. Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean who holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. Julie serves on several boards for organizations doing meaningful work in the world and is a mother of young adult children. In this episode, Julie and I discuss the importance of breaking down the cycle of overparenting and how to work towards raising capable and self-competent adults. Julie introduces the audience to various parental behaviors such as the overprotective parent, the fiercely directive parent, and the concierge parent. All with their own characteristics, Julie explicitly paints a picture of how each of these behaviors hinders a child's ability to learn, perform, and succeed on their own and for their betterment now and in their future. Julie strives to help parents shatter these walls and lead them towards a healthier relationship with themselves and their children for years to come.   Where to learn more about Julie Lythcott-Haims... JulieLythcottHaims.com Julie's Books Pre-Order Your Turn: How To Be An Adult 4-Step Method For Teaching Your Kid A Skill Instagram Twitter Facebook   Connect with Dr. Nicole Beurkens on... Instagram Facebook Drbeurkens.com   Need help with improving your child's behavior naturally?  My book Life Will Get Better is available for purchase, click here to learn more.  Looking for more? Check out my Blog and the Better Behavior Naturally Parent Membership- a resource guide for parents who want to be more effective with improving their child's behavior.  Interested in becoming a patient? Contact us here.