Failing Motherhood

Not giving up. Not giving in. Not settling. Being all in. Today's episode recounts the story of Abbey, Jake, and their 7-year-old son finding purpose rather than despair, leaning in, offering mutual respect, and feeling like a united front.From feeling desperate and helpless, having "no good days" to parenting authentically, strategically, enjoying time together again.From their son never doing something he doesn't want to do, to not saying no anymore.From considering divorce, to the strongest they've ever felt together.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...How Jake took a good hard look at his relationship with his sonWhat they had to do to get the "Jerry Springer" moments to stopThe heartbreaking question their son asked and how they transformed his self-esteemDON'T MISS-The power that comes from asking for helpI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Don't forget to leave a rating or review! Thank you!Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

We have a returning guest today! KC Davis is a Licensed Professional Counselor, author, speaker, the creator of the mental health platform, Struggle Care, AND the author of the brand new book, out today... Who Deserves your Love (How to Create Boundaries to Start, Strengthen, or End any Relationship).In our conversation, we discuss the problems within the traditional self-help industry and the parallels of mom guilt and our effect on the people and the relationships we love.  The heart of our conversation centered around having clarity in our decision making using her "relationship decision tree" and finding more creative ways to sustain relationships rather than the pendulum swings between being a complete doormat and cutting off contact completely. So if you need more skill building around healthy boundary setting, self-love and what it looks like to be a "good person" in your relationships, let's be honest, this episode is for all of us.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Why shame isn't a sustainable motivatorHow to create the "Plinko board" our relationships flow within while remaining in integrityThe truth behind "if they wanted to, they would"DON'T MISS-A counterintuitive (yet MORE effective) way to spend quality time// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Special Time Cards// CONNECT WITH KC DAVIS //Who Deserves your Love (How to Create Boundaries to Start, Strengthen, or End any Relationship) Book — KC DavisWebsite: www.strugglecare.comInstagram: @strugglecareTikTok: @domesticblistersI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Don't forget to leave a rating or review! Thank you!Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Welcome back!This is the 3rd of 3 episodes breaking down the vast array of parenting resources we have at our fingertips. Today we're talking: personal therapy, marriage counseling, one-off or 1:1 parenting coaching, and virtual parenting programs / memberships.For each, I break down the family that resource is BEST for, the benefits it provides, the unique Pros and Cons of utilizing that support vs. another, and ultimately, for some, the way they fall short. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:What a therapist will never tell youWhy 1:1 coaching actually takes LONGER to see resultsThe nuance missing from programs developed 50+ years agoDON'T MISS:The program that has it *all* if you are still looking for a breakthrough // MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.)Nonviolent Communication (N.V.C.)Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (S.T.E.P.)Active ParentingTriple P (Positive Parenting Program)How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will TalkPositive DisciplineLove and LogicDare to Discipline // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Welcome back!This is the 2nd of 3 episodes breaking down the vast array of parenting resources we have at our fingertips. Today we're talking: Occupational Therapy, Parent Child Interaction Therapy, Child Therapy (play therapy) and seeing a Psychologist.For each, I break down the family that resource is BEST for, the benefits it provides, the unique Pros and Cons of utilizing that support vs. another, and ultimately for some, the way they fall short. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:When play therapy would most benefit your childWhy PCIT is less likely to work with strong-willed kidsThe criteria often necessary in order to get a referral to a psychologistDON'T MISS:A study on childhood anxiety and what treatment style was most effective - the answer may surprise you! // MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //2019 Yale Study on Combating Childhood Anxiety // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Welcome to my VERSUS series!This is the 1st of 3 episodes breaking down the vast array of parenting resources we have at our fingertips. Today we're talking: parenting content, parenting courses & books, and in-person parenting classes.For each, I break down the family that resource is BEST for, the benefits it provides, the unique Pros and Cons of utilizing that support vs. another, and ultimately for some, the way they fall short. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:Why it's extra hard to implement strategies from a bookThe topics I recommend buying courses forWho benefits most from parenting classesDON'T MISS:The Industry standard completion rate for online courses vs. mine // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

What does it even look like to set + hold good boundaries?Boundaries can feel like an illusive mystery. Our preconceived notions of what we should be doing can create really rigid metrics for succeeding or failing, when in all actuality, there's often no right or wrong!Today's discussion includes validating the intention to “find the line”, why boundaries isn't a binary but rather a spectrum, and the mindset reframes needed to be more effective and successful while still allowing for exceptions to the rule. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:How the lack of boundaries leads to entitlementWhat your true responsibility isHow much time you actually have to address the behaviorDON'T MISS:An important distinction to realize when parenting strong-willed kids // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Well that backfired!When we parent out of fear, our short-sighted reactions can add fuel to the fire. This can create unintended consequences, like MORE helplessness, MORE sibling resentment, and MORE attention-seeking.In this episode, I cover where this starts, two extremely common examples, and what to do instead.IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:The Boomerang Effect: What you push away, comes back full forceA parallel to the movie- Monsters, Inc.The "Veruca Salt" mentality we're all afraid ofDON'T MISS:How the best of intentions can actually create MORE entitlement or sibling rivalry// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Dr. Shefali Tsabary books// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Cooking during daytime hours, running in & out of a store, joining a homeschool group... these may seem like everyday occurrences to some families, but at Lisa's house, they felt impossible.She was tasked with getting her neurodivergent son up to state curriculum standards last year while homeschooling, but his pathological demand avoidance made cooperation so hard to attain.NOW - she shares what IS possible now, how her confidence has grown, and what seemed to help when nothing else did.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The multi-faceted feelings of failure Lisa struggled withThe breakthroughs she experienced while we worked togetherThe remarkable progress they've been able to make DON'T MISS-The unorthodox solution that helped her son wash his hairI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Does it ever feel like your strong-willed child SNAPS and turns into someone else entirely? Like an alter ego took over?You're now walking on eggshells trying to diffuse a bomb before it explodes. There are two wires, which one do you cut?Choose SILLY over SERIOUS. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:A situation in college you'd have handled in a similar wayThe ramifications of doubling down on seriousnessWays to inform your mindset that boost your patience and compassionDON'T MISS:Several examples of ways to effectively choose the sillier option without letting them “get away with it” // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Shame is a universal human experience no one is immune to, especially in motherhood where it feels like there's a right and a wrong way to do everything, yet no matter what you do, you can't win!How do you break free from the shame cycle?My guest today, Sharon Johnson, is a mother to six who creates social media content focusing on motherhood, mental health, getting older and finding oneself, and healing after years of trauma and crisis. Sharon kicked motherhood off by being absolutely swallowed by shame - so much so she didn't even realize it.Tune in to hear her story of deconstruction and leaving the LDS church, adopting her niece and nephew, managing her bipolar and depression, and the true pride she's able to feel now in saying she in fact IS the parent her kids need.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The viral post of hers where the internet called her a bad parent, horrible mother, and threatened to call CPSHow Sharon's relationship with shame has evolved and what mattered mostThe importance of building open and honest relationships with teens so we can discuss difficult topics and build trustDON'T MISS-How much more she actually enjoys motherhood and her kids now and why// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Rhett McLaughlin's (of Rhett and Link) house analogy clip from their podcast, Ear BiscuitsRhett's Spiritual Deconstruction - full episode 226 of Ear Biscuits (2/3/2020)// CONNECT WITH SHARON //Podcast: Wake Her UpTiktok: @Sharon.a.lifeI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

What do bad mornings, clingy birthday parties, fighting playdates and candy on the way home from school all have in common?Instead of doubling down to invite the meltdown or giving in to avoid it… there's a better way!These are all situations where you, as the parent, can intentionally indulge.  Tune in to learn how. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:Ways to shift from being reactive to proactive, getting one step ahead of your childWhy “intentionally indulging” works so wellHow to compromise to get more cooperation in the long runDON'T MISS:A practical way to help your “slow to warm up” child be successful at a chaotic birthday party // MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Follow me on TikTok for “Advice Column Answers” - @‌thatparentcoach // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

My guest today, Marli Klaus, is a mom of three, a pediatric sleep consultant, and a trainer and mentor for other sleep consultants as the owner of The Cradle Coach and The Cradle Coach Academy. I've known Marli for several years and had the chance to work with her family last winter!In our conversation, Marli shares very openly and honestly about her fears for her son, the way she dreaded pickup, the heartbreaking effect on her other kids, the determination she felt to figure it out herself, and the guilt for clearly failing him somehow.I hope you see yourself and your family in Marli's story and find hope.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Why Marli *couldn't* figure it out all by herselfWhat her husband needed to hear & experience that made all the differenceWhat she would go back & tell herself nowDON'T MISS-Why sleep is so underrated yet so important// CONNECT WITH MARLI //Website: www.thecradlecoachacademy.comInstagram: @thecradlecoach & @thecradlecoachacademy I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Most strong-willed kids struggle with sleep, so if bedtime feels like neverending pulling teeth at your house, join the club!While I'm always going to advocate for nuance and individualization, confidence comes from having a diverse set of tools in your backpocket, so this episode is here to help you have a few more "tricks" up your sleeve.Here's to a shorter bedtime routine for the kids and more time for revenge bedtime procrastination for the adults! :)IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:Why you might need to rethink TV time before bedtimeHow to embrace your "dread" + commiserate with your childThe script to say when you leave their room DON'T MISS:What to do when they're acting like your old drunk college roommate// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Mighty and Bright - Kids' Daily Routine ChartHoneybee & Friends Bedtime Stories// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Heather and David, parents from the Midwest, take us along in their journey of parenting their strong-willed five-year-old daughter. Just a few months ago, they were drowning; overwhelmed by her tantrums, feeling like parenting was heartbreaking, stressful, and defeating more days than not.NOW, they are parenting with hope, optimism and confidence, let alone 90% less tantrums overall!Tune in to hear the things that were hard to admit, why they believe they benefitted so much from this work, and the nuggets and takeaways they want every listener to learn alongside them.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The moment Heather knew they needed helpHow David began to relate to his daughter in new waysThe mindset shifts that led to a quick turnaroundDON'T MISS-The challenges of being in a field like Heather's (speech language pathology in an elementary school) where you *SHOULD* know how to do this & struggle at home with your own childI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Can you imagine setting a New Years resolution, watching healthy living content and going to a class where they teach you why you should exercise and expecting to lose weight without ever working out?NO! We know getting stronger requires taking action.In the same way, working on your parenting requires implementation, not just intentions.IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:Ways immersive learning experiences transform parenting skillsWhy it's impossible to grow stronger while "malnourished" and what to do about itThe role of structured support in achieving parenting goals DON'T MISS:How to pour gasoline on your good intentions to *actually* become a stronger, more confident parent// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Today's episode is a rare treat. I had a fantastic coaching conversation with a parent of a 4 year-old around an ongoing problem at their house around not listening and not telling the truth when asked about it, and I have her permission to share it with you here!Listen as she shares more of the background into this particular moment as well as her concerns around the behavior, then tune in to hear what I recommended to her (and anyone else who can relate!) IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Insight into the developmental shifts happening at this ageWhat to STOP doing in the future when faced with this behaviorWhat TO do to prevent this situation from happening again (that does not include punishment)DON'T MISS-Perspective that will give you a sigh of relief I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @‌parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

From “I can't change the world. I'm just a mom” to “I can change the world because I'm a mom!'Cynthia Levin is the author of “From Changing Diapers to Changing the World: Why Moms Make Great Advocates and How to Get Started.” A non-partisan activist working across a variety of issues, she coaches volunteers of all ages to build productive relationships with members of Congress.In our conversation she laid a realistic roadmap for the average mom to get involved where it matters most to her; starting small and leveling up in small amounts of discomfort.She summed up our conversation with a really powerful quote I'll be thinking about for years to come.Be sure to follow this episode up with ACTION! IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...3 common myths about advocacySurprising benefits of getting your kids involved over timeReasons why moms are uniquely qualified to do this workDON'T MISS-Tangible examples of how advocacy actually makes a difference // MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Organizations you can get involved with, in no particular order:The ONE campaign - to create a more Just & Equal worldCARE - Fighting Global Poverty & World HungerMomsRising - Building a more Family-Friendly AmericaSUNRISE - End the Climate CrisisMoms Demand Action - for Gunsense in AmericaRESULTS - ending poverty in US and globallyBread for the World - Christian based hunger advocacyUN Foundations Shot@Life - global vaccines// CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA LEVIN //Book : From Changing Diapers to Changing the World: Why Moms Make Great Advocates and How to Get Started.Website: www.changyit.comInstagram: @‌ccylevin I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @‌parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

If all your weekend plans seem held hostage by your strong-willed child's mood, you're not alone.In this episode, I name the extra challenges you face on the weekend and specific strategies to tackle them for good, unlocking actual freedom and possibilities to be spontaneous or just enjoy each other and relax! IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:Why what we think we want isn't what we actually wantTwo goals to go into every weekend withHow to stop power struggles before they startDON'T MISS:Powerful realizations a client shared that transformed her mindset // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

How can we create a more equitable world that supports motherhood?My guest today, Erin Spahr, is a licensed therapist, mother, feminist, podcast host, and maternal mental health advocate. She uses a feminist lens in her work with mothers in her private practice and strives to help mothers free themselves from oppressive societal expectations and find more self-confidence and self-compassion. Our conversation today spans cultural conditioning, matriscentric feminism, internalized patriarchy, and feminine rage.  We cover what feminism is not, how the patriarchy shows up on a daily basis and affects men too, and tangible next steps on how to reset and forge ahead trying to raise kind, accepting kids. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...How feminism isn't necessarily “equal to be fair”The stage of feminism that's needed most todayWhat to do with your feminine rage in the years to comeDON'T MISS-A simple, yet radical way to fight back today // MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Matricentric Feminism by Andrea RileyMom Rage: The Everyday Crisis of Modern Motherhood by Minna DubinSong: Labour by Paris Paloma // CONNECT WITH ERIN SPAHR //Instagram: @‌feminist.mom.therapistFeminist Mom Podcast: www.feministmompodcast.comPrivate Practice Website: www.erinspahrtherapy.com (available to folks in North Carolina and Maryland)Inclusive Provider Directory: www.inclusiveproviders.com I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @‌parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

We all dread it - the inevitable meltdown of EPIC proportions. It's survival mode, and no one is immune.In this episode, I share why I disagree with typical advice (and even Dr. Becky) on how to manage these meltdowns/outbursts, why it's OK to walk away, and what to do when you can't. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:An analogy to help illustrate your responsibilityWhy staying WITH your child might actually backfireHow to “leave” the room without physically leavingDON'T MISS:Mantras to adopt that speak to your nervous system // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

The holiday season is upon us filled with changes, anticipation, late nights, unfamiliar meals, sweets, high emotions, extra tasks and stress.Your strong-willed child will understandably have an even harder time navigating all of this unpredictability, triggers, and lack of routine.Tune in to hear my 7 steps to a more successful holiday season for the whole family! IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:What to say NO to and whyCritical mindset shifts that allow you to prevent rather than reactHow to manage the inevitable jealousy and lack of etiquette/appreciationDON'T MISS:Why there's no right answer on whether you stick to routine or not // MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Managing Candy + Holiday Sweets with Nicole Cruz, RD // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

… seems timely, right?My guest today, Dr. Tovah P. Klein, Ph.D. is the author of Raising Resilience: How to Help Our Children Thrive in Times of Uncertainty. In her role as a researcher and professor and in direct care with parents and children for over thirty years, Klein has helped to define what every child needs to thrive, regardless of their life situations.In our episode today, Dr. Tovah breaks down the 5 critical pillars that are the roots of resilience our kids need to be okay when things are not okay. She shares strategic ways to change how we react to our kids' negative emotions and how to feel much more equipped to know what to focus on. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...What Resilience is NOT and how our good intentions backfireThe 5 Critical “Roots of Resilience” we can instillThe recipe for our kids to love themselves for who they areDON'T MISS-A pep talk if your child is rigid and/or loses it when things don't go their way and you fear they're on track to be entitled, spoiled or selfish! // CONNECT WITH DR. TOVAH KLEIN //Website: TovahKlein.comUSA Today Bestselling Book, RAISING RESILIENCEInstagram- @tovahklein I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @‌parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

No couple goes into parenting as a perfectly united front. Every parent runs out of steam, hits a wall, and loses it from time to time. Good parents ask good questions like “How can I help my partner when things are going off the rails without stepping on their toes?”Before you hop in the car and start parenting extra challenging behaviors in front of extended family this holiday season, have this important conversation with your partner to set you both up for much more success. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:The ONE question to ask your partnerWhy you're actually not failing, and what failing really looks likePractical strategies to inspire you to put a new plan in placeDON'T MISS:A better story to tell yourself that gives you permission to tag in/out in the first place // MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Other recommended Failing Motherhood episodes:Ep. 53 from 11/23/21 - Parenting Around FamilyEp. 61 from 3/8/22 - How to Get on the Same PageEp. 123 from 9/26/23 - Good Cop/ Bad Cop: The Broken Record RelationshipEp. 129 from 11/7/23 - Best BOOKS for Strong-Willed KidsEp. 131 from 11/21/23 - Best GIFTS for Strong-Willed Kids (unconventional, practical and long-lasting ideas that are still fun to open!)Ep. 133 from 12/5/23 - Boundaries with Parents with Jamie Cooper // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

There is something ALL parenting books are missing. You cannot fake it. There is no substitute. It is transformational.…and it's the critical antidote to guilt + shame.If you've tried EVERYTHING under the sun- this might be the reason why you've stayed stuck. And it's more needed than ever before. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:What my daughter's violin teacher did that changed the game for me as a parentThe real reason why my coaching wasn't helping familiesWhy a healthy sense of skepticism is warrantedDON'T MISS:What my clients appreciate most // MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //The Suzuki MethodAl-Anon Family Groups // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

One of my kids just received a diagnosis. It was 10 years in the making because school was not seeing any of the symptoms we saw at home until now.In light of this milestone for our family, I'm sharing a personal reflection of my own parenting. As parenting is often filled with confusion, overwhelm, guilt and regret… here are things I do NOT regret.IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:A vulnerable audit of my own parentingWhat to do if your child is too young to be diagnosed with ADHD but you think they have itYour path to better days with or without a diagnosisDON'T MISS:How to download a PDF guide helping you parent on the same page // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

What's wrong with sharing pictures on Facebook so grandparents can see the kids?As parents in 2024, we're in uncharted waters trying to navigate our own internet use, let alone our kids'.My guest today, Sarah Adams, is an online safety advocate and expert, exploring the state of parental public oversharing, child exploitation and minor security on social media.While diving into the harsh realities of the Internet in 2024, she defines some key terms we should know, the impact of the pandemic, and whether private accounts are really private.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Beyond the digital footprint - 5 risks to consider when sharing onlineContent she considers to be exploitative and what to do about itAlternatives ways to stay in touchHow to talk to your kids about YouTube channels you can't supportDON'T MISS-Questions to ask yourself before hitting POST// CONNECT WITH SARAH ADAMS//Website: www.kidsarenotcontent.comInstagram: @‌mom.unchartedTikTok: @‌mom.uncharted I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @‌parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

T minus 2 days until a candy avalanche is at our doorsteps!Thankfully, my guest today, Nicole Cruz, RD is here to take some weight off our shoulders.Nicole is the founder of Nourish Together, a shame-free approach to family nutrition. As a Registered Dietitian and mom of three, Nicole supports parents in raising confident eaters who can eat a variety, listen to their body cues, and not obsess over sweets or other ‘treats'.We start off our conversation naming many of the understandable fears around sugar, and how sometimes our fears end up exacerbating the fascination! Nicole shares two really important factors that help take sugar off it's pedestal and teach an intuitive eating approach. She then gave a lot of practical advice for managing all the holiday sweets to come, Halloween and beyond. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...What to do if your child is OBSESSED with sweetsThe enemies of intuitive eating - scarcity and restrictionWhat one word matters most in our language around foodDON'T MISS-Whether or not she recommends using the “Switch Witch” or other trades for Halloween candy // CONNECT WITH NICOLE CRUZ, RD //Website: nicolecruzrd.comInstagram: @‌nicolecruzrd I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @‌parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Are you in the midst of the chaotic beautiful hard journey that is raising a gifted child at your house?  Can you know "for sure" if your child is gifted?My guest today, Erin Vanek has spent well over a decade supporting gifted students with a Master's in Education and an endorsement in gifted education. She's also the founder of The Gifted Perspective, offering workshops, printable resources, and activities, and fostering a strong social media community. At home, she navigates the challenge of raising two twice-exceptional (2e) learners of her own.In today's episode, Erin shared how she beat herself up for struggling to support her oldest in ways she could with her students, and sharing what led to answers that allowed him to thrive, setting off a cascade of realizations within her family.She defined twice-exceptional kids and giftedness as a whole, including the common traits, complexities, assets, and struggles as well as the most fascinating concept- asynchronous development - insight sure to set off lightbulbs and peace of mind in many listening parents.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Why gifted kids make seemingly simple + “careless” mistakesThe "waiting for the other shoe to drop”  feeling parents like Erin so commonly feel when getting updates from school staff knowing there are behaviors to discussA key life skill to model with your gifted child while they're still youngDON'T MISS-The parenting changes you can make now to prevent your child from burning out down the road// CONNECT WITH ERIN VANEK //Website: www.thegiftedperspective.com Instagram: @the.gifted.perspectiveSend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Election day in the US is in 21 days (Tuesday, November 5th).  Early voting has already began! As parents, our kids are counting on us. Every vote counts, especially in the smallest races and ballot initiatives, shaping the world our kids grow up in.I do not expect you to agree with everything (or anything) I share here today and that's okay.  I just want you to vote!IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:Things you can't know about your family's futureA memory I'm afraid to admitConcepts that are allowed to co-existDON'T MISS:Final reminders before you go do your part// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Vote.org  to find registration, early voting and day of info for your state2024 Nebraska Voter Guide// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

One could say with motherhood, you know what you're signing up for - but you certainly have no idea how it will feel. As a Child of Divorce and Child Protection Worker with a background in Psychology and Social Service Work, Jamie Scrimgeour thought she knew what she was signing up for as a childless bachelorette when she decided to marry a man with three kids and an ex. But as I am sure you can guess, she felt like she had no freaking idea, and quickly found herself  in-over-her head. Finding a lack of resources for step moms, she created her own and now supports thousands of step moms in doing the work to show up as their best selves.In this episode, we spoke to assumptions her clients make of her and each other and unique challenges stepmoms face.  She spoke to the guilt stepmoms feel in typical motherhood spaces - the things they would be shamed to say and the cycle they get into trying to prove themselves.  She also shared advice for ex's and offered grace for dads.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The dichotomy of "loving like they're your own" yet needing to "know your place"Things stepmoms are ashamed to sayWhy learning how to disengage without disconnecting is a critical, relationship-saving skillDON'T MISS-Questions every parent can ask themselves to gain clarity + intentionality moving forward as a family// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Book: The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love by Vienna Pharaon// CONNECT WITH JAMIE SCRIMGEOUR //Website: jamiescrimgeour.comInstagram: @jamiescrimgeourProgram: https://www.kickassstepmom.com/I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

When other kids at the park instantly listen to their parents, it can make even the most well-intentioned parent feel self-conscious (and a little jealous).Isn't that the goal? A child who listens without hesitation?Let's talk about it.IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:The longterm ramifications of putting obedience on a pedestalWhat to focus on and aim for insteadA question to ask yourself to reflect on your approachDON'T MISS:The limiting factor that makes all of this extra challenging with strong-willed kids!‌// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

"You can't have ADHD! You have a master's degree!"... and other misconceptions about ADHD.  Whether you've been diagnosed, related to the memes, or have a child that's been diagnosed... this episode is for you! Patricia Sung, Adult ADHD coach and host of Motherhood in ADHD, is here to share her journey into diagnosis, understanding her unique brain, and empowering other moms to do the same.We normalize the struggle, share new insights, and reflect on the powerful act of breaking cycles.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Common traits and misconceptions of ADHD beyond being forgetful Her go-to tools for managing anger while parentingWays to work WITH your ADHD to boost your self-compassion as a parentDON'T MISS-The double-edged sword that is having family with ADHD// CONNECT WITH PATRICIA SUNG //Website: www.motherhoodinadhd.comInstagram: @motherhoodinadhdhttps://www.patriciasung.com/meetupI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

In today's quick episode, I break down a key facet to behavior modification I've been supporting a lot of clients with lately!  It's not a surefire guarantee toward cupcakes, rainbows and butterflies - but it is necessary shift in your communication that doesn't contribute to a crash and burn affect.IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:2 Examples of effective behavior modification outside of parentingWhat the "Hold the Football" Tool is and why it's criticalHow to apply this tool when a sibling is being pestered in the carDON'T MISS:A challenge for you as you parent this week!// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Netflix Series- America's Sweethearts: The Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

My guest today, Holly Murphy, is accomplished in their profession, a devoted parent in love with their kids, a vibrant personality, AND they're open about how if they knew what they knew NOW back THEN, they would not become a parent. You might not agree with Holly, but I know they're not the only one.  If there's one thing we are on Failing Motherhood- it's honest - and that's why stories like Holly's have a place here. There is nothing more serious than making the commitment to become a parent.  Do you truly know what you're signing up for?  Can you?IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Holly's two different paths into parenthoodWhy we believe parenting is so much harder than teaching (as teachers) Ways to find yourself outside the parent roleDON'T MISS-What to do when parenting isn't what you thought it would beI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

It's that time of year, when your strong-willed child keeps it together all day at school then lets it all fall apart with you the second they get in the car.I packed this episode full of perspective, mindset shifts, tangible strategies and preventative measures to equip you with the "game face" you need to tackle this transition.IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:How to meet them where they're at while still setting boundariesWhy saying "Stop." "Don't" or "Calm down" won't work and what will insteadQuestions to ask instead of "how was your day?"DON'T MISS:The tool you need to try esp. if you have siblings riding home together// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Kids Podcasts I recommend: (find them on Spotify or Apple Podcasts)PRE-KCircle RoundQuentin and Alfie's ABC AdventuresMolly of DenaliSound DetectivesELEMENTARYThe Big Life Kids PodcastStory PiratesGreeking Out from National Geographic KidsWhat If WorldBut Why - A Podcast for Curious KidsSmash Boom Best// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

A special gift for you this week, courtesy of our friends at Moms Talk Autism. Not only did they join me for last week's episode, but they interviewed me on their show and were kind enough to share it with our audience so I could share it here.My work specializes in helping families who are struggling with Neurodivergent traits in their child but don't have a diagnosis yet or whose child does not meet the criteria for a specific diagnosis.In this episode of Moms Talk Autism, I share what traits to look for in your child and what to do when you're in the messy middle, in hopes this conversation is a helpful stepping stone to finding solutions for your family.After you tune into this episode, don't forget to head over to Moms Talk Autism and check it out... lots of great vulnerable conversations, topics and resources for families with Neurodivergent and Autistic kids!‌IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The dichotomy of strong-willed kids at HOME v. at schoolJean's 1st hand experience of this with her daughter 20 years agoThe powerful catalyst of communityDON'T MISS-When it feels like you're in an abusive relationship with your child‌// CONNECT WITH MOMS TALK AUTISM //Website: https://www.momstalkautism.com/Instagram (@momstalkautism)Apple PodcastsSend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Today I'm sitting down with Brittney and Shannon, two out of the four moms from Moms Talk Autism, a podcast where good friends share their journeys figuring out in real time how to best support their kids and themselves, discussing school, family balance, siblings, grief, therapies, social issues, behaviors, delays, diagnosis advocacy, marriage, and more.Our conversation highlights their individual stories, Brittney with four kids - two with Autism, both with very different needs and Shannon with an 18 year old and 10 y/o daughter with Autism. They offer honesty, wisdom and advice for other parents in the trenches with them - where there's no rulebook and a lot of pressure, spanning from protecting your peace, finding your people, and building a new dream.As we wrap up, they reflect on the beautiful ways they've changed as people as a result of parenting their kids.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Trusting your gut when you know something is wrong"My child has not changed, your perception of them has..."Moments that are gut-wrenching alongside moments of gratitudeDON'T MISS-Diversifying your friendship portfolio// CONNECT WITH MOMS TALK AUTISM //Website: https://www.momstalkautism.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momstalkautism/Link Tree: https://linktr.ee/momstalkautismApple PodcastsShannon's InstagramBrittney's InstagramI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Have you ever been told, "I HATE YOU" by your child? Or even worse "You're not coming to my birthday party!"Parents of strong-willed kids (esp. mom) can become the scapegoat for the anger they harbor, and it can lead to parents hearing things like “You don't love me”.This often causes a spiral into permissiveness to avoid conflict, anxiety, and/or a lot of self-doubt as a parent.Spoiler Alert: They don't hate you. They hate feeling crazy and all alone with their BIG emotions. And we do too.‌IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:My CRAZY week and what led me to resent my husband7 things they hate MORE than youThe prerequisite to building the momentum that's needed to problem solve forward togetherDON'T MISS:How to interpret and respond when your child says “I HATE YOU!”‌// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Episode 111 (June 2023): “Why are they so angry?”‌// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

You are gonna be pretty hard-pressed to find more honesty than what is inside this conversation! In today's episode, I have the honor of interviewing Joseph and Sarah, my clients + parents of 6- and 21-year-old daughters.  Together they share the shifts that made it possible to stop triggering their daughter's defense mechanism, get on the same page, and have an approach and home full of mutual respect.Fair warning - Joseph describes himself as a blunt, "tell-it-like-it-is" kind of guy, and that is exactly what we get from him. No fluff, no sugarcoating; the real deal.He has gone from being incredibly skeptical of gentle parenting itself, let alone my program or working with me, to being on my podcast.This episode might speak deepest to Gen X'ers, dads, or any/all parents that were raised not to ask for help. If your partner is skeptical of how you're trying to parent, send them this episode.  IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The breaking point that made change possibleJoseph's powerful realizations that allowed him to stop fighting with HarperA new way to define "gentle parenting", esp. for strong-willed kidsDON'T MISS-Sarah + Joseph's two LIFESAVERS for bedtimeI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Parents are inundated with messages from complete strangers on the Internet and in person reiterating "You're going to miss this!" "It goes SO fast!" "The mess can wait!"The problem is... sometimes the mess can't wait, you might NOT miss this stage, or there's so much more to look forward to!Let's stop forcing undue pressure on parents and instead, consider the hope and gratitude in a more longterm approach.IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:A viral post and a well-written rebuttal The lies I believed and what I believe now as a mom to 10 + 11 y/o'sPermission to step away without guiltDON'T MISS:The best might be yet to come* Failing Motherhood will be on break until August. *// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //FB Post: Last Time for Everything by Shay Toler// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Happy Father's Day, dads!My guests today, Kevin + Evan, are two stay-at-home dad comedians trying to let parents know the struggle is normal and we're doing better than we think. You might already follow them as they've been featured on Good Morning America, Momsplaining with Kristen Bell, & Today and go viral often on TikTok and Instagram for bits like "Dad Press Conferences".‌They've set out to be relatable dads that can poke fun out of the bizarre experience that parenting is, fight the stigma of the bar being on the floor for dads and give parents permission to laugh at themselves and their kids, knowing they're not alone.They say they're failing fatherhood, but I pull some great parenting perspective out of them inside this episode!IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Some of the most patronizing moments they've had as SAHD'sHow they find the line of what to share onlineHow to add the Improv tool of "Yes, And" to your parenting toolkitDON'T MISS-Why they're already the parents they wish they were// CONNECT WITH KEVIN & EVAN //‎Dumb Dad Podcast on Apple PodcastsInstagram: @thedumbdadsTikTok: The Dumb DadsI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Ryan Allen, LPCC-S, LPC, is a licensed therapist with a decade of expertise working with young children and their families.  A parent of two young kids, Ryan creates free resources for nearly 1 million parents and child caregivers on both TikTok and IG, providing guidance and support to shift away from traditional punitive approaches towards fostering environments of mutual respect.I intentionally bring up several controversial topics to get his thoughts.Is it true....That therapists are perfect parents?That your pediatrician's advice is the golden rule?That kids grow out of behaviors?That you shouldn't say “good job”?That you have to read to your kids every night?That all it takes to extinguish a behavior is playing your cards right?Is there such a thing as a naughty or bad kid?If your child knows better and does it anyway, isn't that manipulation? Shouldn't you take it personally?Do we need to fix a behavior right away or else it will get worse?IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER -Two questions to ask yourself to actually stop a negative behaviorThe insight that completely shifted Ryan's professional approachAn alternative approach to the red/green/yellow clip chartsDON'T MISS:What to do when behavior feels disrespectful// MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE //Beyond Behavior by Mona DelahookeDan Siegel booksPunished by Rewards by Alfie KohnNo Bad Kids by Janet Lansbury// CONNECT WITH RYAN //Tiktok: @preschooltherapyInstagram: @preschooltherapistWebsite: http://Preschooltherapist.comSend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

You're 100% right. They do know better. These are smart kids we're talking about here, nothing gets past them!So, if that's true, why are they still hitting, pushing, screaming, or whathaveyou? Explaining the rules for the 1,456th time isn't going to solve anything.What will?  Tune in with curiosity.IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...The truth behind two incredibly common misconceptionsThe painful sting of regret that's oh, too familiarHow it feels when the tables have turnedDON'T MISS:Why it's problematic to tell your child to "make good choices."// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Today you get a true behind the scenes look at what parenting a strong-willed child looks like at someone else's house.Laura and Mike are full-time working parents with 3 kids living in Minneapolis.Just a few months ago, they describe what parenting felt like - powerless, volatile, unpredictable. They felt lost, with no toolkit and no shared understanding.After sharing the barriers they had to overcome to get support, they narrate what really stuck with them through the work that they did on themselves through their time inside Wholeheartedly CALM, my 3 month group coaching program.They both describe the feeling of empowerment they found through a lot of self reflection and just how amazing it feels to get to enjoy their kids more again. Their kids enjoy being enjoyed as well!‌IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED…The power of language - small tweaks have a huge impact on cooperationWays to take your power back as a parent, while empowering your child at the same timeThe topic Laura + Mike truly appreciated having shame-free conversations aboutDON'T MISS:It matters more what we do than what we saySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Failing Motherhood is 4 years old and Wholeheartedly is 5! We're taking this opportunity to reflect on the last two years and the lessons I've learned - some easily, some the hard way.Entrepreneurship is such a similar journey to parenting - you don't know what you're getting into exactly, it's much harder than anticipated, it requires a lot of self-work and growth, and it's riddled with self-doubt and imposter syndrome. You have to take it one day at a time and make new decisions with every piece of new information.Take these 5 Lessons into your current business, potential business idea, or parenting journey, and know that your confidence is everything!‌IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:The Importance of “pruning” over innovating at this stageWhat I attribute the consistent success of Wholeheartedly toHow to relate these lessons to your parentingDON'T MISS:Why “going viral” doesn't mean what we think it does‌// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Ep. #65:  3 Years In: Reflections on being a Solopreneur - Failing MotherhoodCALM + CONFIDENT: The Masterclasswww.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident‌// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

‌Today's conversation answers so many questions you're likely too afraid to ask.My guest today immediately makes uncomfortable topics comfortable, sensitive subjects approachable and speaks from so much experience, get ready to pull up a chair.Kelley Coleman is a feature film development executive turned author and advocate for parent caregivers and individuals with disabilities. Her book Everything No One Tells You About Parenting a Disabled Child: Your Guide to the Essential Systems, Services, and Supports  combines the wisdom of 40 experts and all sorts of cheat codes to save time in all the logistics of raising a disabled child,  including her own experience parenting a child with multiple disabilities.Disability remains such a taboo topic, and there is so much to learn from Kelley. She shares what parents of disabled children wish we knew, as well as speaking hope and validation directly to parents of disabled children.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The most respectful terminology to useHow to handle when your child is curious and you don't know the first thing to sayAll the emotions that are normal to have when your child gets diagnosedDON'T MISS-Kelley pouring her heart out with ways to make your caregiver role sustainable while sharing validation and hope// CONNECT WITH KELLEY //Link to order the book: Everything No One Tells You About Parenting a Disabled Child: Your Guide to the Essential Systems, Services, and SupportsWebsite: www.kelleycoleman.comInstagram: @hellokelleycoleman// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Emily Ladau: https://emilyladau.comTiffany Hammond, aka Fidgets and Fries: https://www.fidgetsandfries.coElspeth, aka Neurodivergent Parenting: Think Outside the Box: Neurodivergent Parenting: Think Outside The BoxI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Failing Motherhood is turning 4 years old!Rate the podcast with 5 Stars on Spotify and/or Leave a Review for Failing Motherhood in Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before hitting SUBMIT, and send it to Danielle for a chance to win a $50 Amazon gift card!DM: @‌parent_wholeheartedlySupport the Show.*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

This week we're taking parenting tips from Hello Fresh!In ways you may not have realized, being a parent is sort of like working in customer service. In our case, the customer isn't always right, but the way we handle conflict may invite our child to ask for our manager! :)Your goal as a parent is to build credibility and trust in your “brand” rather than bad reviews!  As I reveal the two mistakes well-intentioned parents make, you'll be invited to reflect on your default reaction and formulate a balanced response instead.In this episode, I share…How to embrace conflict even when it makes you uncomfortableTwo different ways you can take feedback, criticism or complaints from your childA quote that's shaped every single day of my parentingDon't Miss:How my missing package was handled by Hello Fresh (and whether I recommend them or NOT)‌// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Failing Motherhood is turning 4 years old!Leave a Review for Failing Motherhood in Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before hitting SUBMIT, and send it to Danielle for a chance to win a $50 Amazon gift card!DM: @‌parent_wholeheartedly // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySupport the Show.*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

For the past 6 months I've had the opportunity to work on my relationship with my body- no procedures, no weight loss, no supplements, just selecting and being more mindful of how I'm dressing myself and how it makes me feel.In today's episode I break down what kicked off the journey, the milestones along the way, and the absolute game-changer that sealed the deal!This episode is for you if you know your appearance has taken a back seat to your kids, and more self-love is on your list this season.‌IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:How I re-wrote the “unwritten rules” I used to dress myselfThe stores I had luck with (and where I got burned!)Takeaways I recommend to every momDON'T MISS:The P.S. at the end that might be just what you need to hear// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Colsie underwear from TargetCRZ Yoga brand on AmazonAtolea JewelrySeasons of Color Omaha - Amanda ThiessenIG: @seasons.of.color.omaha// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Today's episode is a little bit of a different, more special setup. I had a fantastic coaching conversation with a parent of a 3 1/2 year-old about a situation that they were dealing with around an irrational hyperfixation they just could not get over or let go of no matter what they tried!Listen as I dive into this universal experience and offer some more context around these situations and what I recommend. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The critical step to salvaging your sanity in these momentsWhen to introduce the logic or reasoningA counterintuitive game-changer I dare you to try!DON'T MISS-The lifesaver that is individualized feedback and support!I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Ever feel like you're doing it ALL and it's never ENOUGH?My guest today, Erica Djossa is a registered psychotherapist, sought-after maternal mental health specialist, and the founder of wellness company Momwell. Erica is frequently featured in media publications and her popular Momwell podcast has over a million downloads. Her book - Releasing the Mother Load: How to Carry Less and Enjoy Motherhood More comes out TODAY (Tuesday, April 9th) and our conversation today highlights so much of the meaningful work inside it.After she shares her "breakdown to breakthrough", Erica reiterates it's not just us - MOMS ARE NOT OKAY.  She introduces ideas like the motherload, our motherhood filing cabinet, and an activity called a Values Sort to help us become more conscious of the default patterns we've found ourselves in and how to dig our way out.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Where the myth of the "perfect mother" comes fromThe 5 core beliefs of "intensive mothering" and what to replace them withThe measuring stick we should use to evaluate ourselves instead of blood, sweat and tearsDON'T MISS-What it truly means to be a good mom// CONNECT WITH ERICA DJOSSA //Links to order the book: Ericadjossa.comWebsite: http://Momwell.comInstagram: @momwellI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

This week I am partnering with my friend Amy Lang, (from episode 80 of my Failing Motherhood podcast) one of the most respected experts on talking to kids about sexuality and relationships, to bring you a class all about your boy* and puberty! I know if you've found this podcast, you're an intentional parent.  You take your role seriously and you have questions.  Well, Amy has answers!Join us for Puberty Prep for Moms of BOYS  but you'll have to act fast!It's tomorrow, Wednesday, April 3rd, 202410:00 - 11:30 AM Pacific / 12:00 - 1:30 PM Central / 1:00 - 2:30 PM EasternONLY $29***If you can't make it LIVE, register and the recorded replay will be sent to you to watch with your partner at your convenience!REGISTER HERE - https://www.tickettailor.com/events/amylang/1193666What's covered:What will happen to their bodies and brainsHow to navigate challenging behaviors and big feelingsHow to show them they can trust you (even though you don't have their parts)How to talk about:MasturbationWet DreamsTaking care of their bodyP*rn (tiny bit about this)Hope to see you there!P.S. Moms of girls, I haven't forgotten you!! Your turn for Puberty Prep for Moms of GIRLS will be - Wednesday, May 29th at 10 AM Pacific / 12:00 Central / 1PM Eastern.  Save that date!!// CONNECT WITH AMY LANG //https://birdsandbeesandkids.com/REGISTER HERE -https://www.tickettailor.com/events/amylang/1193666Support the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com