Make it Mentionable with Alyssa Patmos

The holidays bring joy and laughter, but they can also bring stress and tension. Laura Guilmain joins me as co-host to share tips and tricks for staying grounded in your desires and nourishing yourself this holiday season. We cover: How to avoid overeating due to emotional stressHow to set boundaries with family membersHow to shift the focus from food to connectionTips for how to turn a situation around in just a few minutesThis is episode 55 of the Make it Mentionable show, and Laura and I are rooting for your happy, intentional holiday season!

Swim below the surface of conscious thought with me today and explore the subconscious—that deeper layer that runs your thoughts, patterns, and actions unknowingly. This is episode 54 of Make it Mentionable and I'm rooting for your clarity. If you love the episode, please leave a review and subscribe. It helps get the word out and makes it easier for others to find the show! I'm running a new program! PRISMA is a 45-day accelerator to help you see yourself and your next decision clearly. Show up with your problem, leave with clarity.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/show/episode-54EXTRA RESOURCESThere's more where this came from. Sign up for The Peel for the latest updates and fresh perspectives on the layers of life: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).Support the show

When we're clear, we can make decisions with ease. When we're not, we end up spinning more than a record player. There's one thing that will kill our clarity faster than a needle to a balloon—certainty. This is episode 53 of the Make it Mentionable Show and I'm rooting for your clarity. If this episode has you nodding your head every second, Prisma, my new 45-day accelerator is here, and may be exactly what you've been hoping for! Join me in Prisma to stop waffling, see your decision clearly, and finally move forward with clarity and commitment. Get all the details and snag your spot here: AlyssaPatmos.com/PrismaThe show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/show/episode-53EXTRA RESOURCESThere's more where this came from. Sign up for The Peel for the latest updates and fresh perspectives on the layers of life: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).Support the show

What kind of relationship are you in? Are you sailing the high seas onboard a luxury cruise liner? Or are you barely staying afloat in an inflatable dinghy? In this week's episode, we dive into the 5 types of relationships. What kind of relationship have you boarded? More importantly, what kind do you want? To get my relationship check-in mentioned in the episode, message me “relationship check-in” on Instagram. You can find me at @alyssapatmos. This is episode 52 of the Make it Mentionable podcast, and I'm rooting for your relationships.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/show/episode-52EXTRA RESOURCESThere's more where this came from. Sign up for The Peel for the latest updates and fresh perspectives on the layers of life: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).Support the show

No one wants to feel like a doormat. So naturally, we employ strategies to protect ourselves from getting walked all over. Unfortunately, some of these strategies are less than stellar for actually resolving conflict. Getting defensive is one such strategy. The good news is, there's a simple pivot you can make the next time you feel defensive that will help you dissolve the conflict instead of starting the doom spiral. This is episode 51 of the Make it Mentionable podcast and I'm rooting for your nervous system.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/show/episode-51EXTRA RESOURCESThere's more where this came from. Sign up for The Peel for the latest updates and fresh perspectives on the layers of life: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).Support the show

Language Arts and the art of language are two totally different things. Most of us have taken a language arts class, but almost none of us were taught the true art of language. When you learn this art, it can be almost shocking how you can get so much more of what you want. This quick language pivot will make it easier for others to assist you in getting whatever it is you want. This is episode 50 of the Make it Mentionable show and I'm rooting for you getting all your needs met.

Many people walk around feeling “stuck” and have no idea why. But the truth is, it's impossible to be stuck. Tune in to free yourself from feeling stuck forever. This is episode 49 of Make it Mentionable and I'm cheering for your momentum.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/show/episode-49EXTRA RESOURCESThere's more where this came from. Sign up for The Peel for the latest updates and fresh perspectives on the layers of life: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).Support the show

Do you have a problem or a perspective? When you ask yourself this one question, your problems start to dissolve like dark chocolate on your tongue. Tune in to shrink your problems (no hot water required). This is episode 48, and I'm rooting for your peace, joy, and creativity.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/show/episode-48EXTRA RESOURCESThere's more where this came from. Sign up for The Peel for the latest updates and fresh perspectives on the layers of life: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).Support the show

We all have an inner child. Whether or not we pay attention to our inner children is an entirely different story. This is episode 47 of the Make it Mentionable show and I have a very simple and highly effective practice for you to start healing your inner child. I'm rooting for your healing, your full expression, and your inner peace.

What is toxic positivity? How does toxic positivity hurt you and your relationships? In this episode of Make it Mentionable, I break down toxic positivity and give 3 steps for breaking it's destructive cycle in conversations and relationships. Plus, whether you default to toxic positivity when you're talking to yourself or someone else, I've got phrases you can pivot to. I'm rooting for your full range of expression.

Self-help can feel like a public bathroom. You know you have to go, but you don't really want to use it. Change is easier when it elicits positive emotions like joy, pleasure, or hope. It's harder when it elicits criticism, judgement, shame, and guilt. Self-help can quickly leave us feeling like there's a laundry list of things to “fix” about ourselves. Pivot your perspective from self-help to self-growth to make the progress you've been longing for and watch your changes stick.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/episodes/pivot-from-self-help-to-self-growthEXTRA RESOURCESThere's more where this came from. Sign up for The Peel for the latest updates and fresh perspectives on the layers of life: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).Support the show

Resilience is a life changer, shaper, and saver. In this episode, I'm dishing my top tip for how to become more resilient. All throughout I'm rooting for the expansive life. The kind of life where you bounce back from challenges quicker, and choose expansion over constriction. Pivoting to resilience will help you get there.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/episodes/my-top-tip-for-becoming-more-resilientEXTRA RESOURCESThere's more where this came from. Sign up for The Peel for the latest updates and fresh perspectives on the layers of life: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).Support the show

This week I'm coming to you from my hotel room in Greece with 3 insights I've been reminded of for more presence. We can never reduce all the things that take us out of the present moment, so what do we do instead? These insights will help you reclaim more presence, whether you're at home or traveling.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/episodes/3-insights-for-more-presenceEXTRA RESOURCESThere's more where this came from. Sign up for The Peel for the latest updates and fresh perspectives on the layers of life: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

Changing directions can feel daunting at times. It's like one part of you knows you need something new, but another part may be freaking out at the thought of switching things up. In this episode, Stephanie King joins me to co-host a conversation about how to change directions—especially if it feels overwhelming. ABOUT STEPHANIEStephanie King is a long time entrepreneur and organic Skincare and Sugaring expert based in Parma, Italy. After almost a decade of running her brick and mortar businesses in the US she relocated abroad to start her training academy and skincare distribution business in the UK and EU. Stephanie is a champion for small business and bootstrap start ups in the beauty space and always on the look out for the next up and coming trend in the industry (and beyond). She happily resides in beautiful northern Italy with her husband and son but enjoys traveling back to the US as much as possible. The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/when-you-want-to-change-directions-with-stephanie-kingEXTRA RESOURCESThere's more where this came from. Sign up for The Peel for the latest updates and fresh perspectives on the layers of life: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

Ever feel like there isn't enough time? This week I'm talking about the power of our attention. If we want to reclaim our time, we have to reclaim where our attention flows. Because if we aren't intentional about our attention, everyone else is happy to claim it for themselves. Our attitudes, thoughts, and actions get an upgrade when we're conscious of where our attention is going. I share three questions to reclaim your agency around your attention so you can experience your peace, joy, and creativity more deeply. Thanks for giving me a dose of your attention each week. If the show speaks to you, it'd mean the world if you leave a review and subscribe.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/whos-in-charge-of-your-attentionEXTRA RESOURCESThere's more where this came from. Sign up for The Peel for the latest updates and fresh perspectives on the layers of life: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

Sometimes conflict in relationships feels like a tsunami, flooding our systems. Other times, it feels like the tide going in and out—inevitable, but gentle. In this episode, I'm riffing on 5 perspective shifts that transform triggering moments in relationships before they turn tsunami status. I'm cheering for less turmoil and more peace in your life. The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/5-perspectives-for-more-peace-in-life-and-loveEXTRA RESOURCESThere's more where this came from. Sign up for The Peel for the latest updates and fresh perspectives on the layers of life: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

Conflict gets a bad rap. When conflict is handled with care it can lead to greater intimacy time and time again. In this episode of Make it Mentionable, I'm sharing a new way to handle conflict so you can let go of emotional whiplash and experience more peace.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/Relationship-Ruptures-Wild-Emotions-and-Inner-PeaceEXTRA RESOURCESThere's more where this came from. Sign up for The Peel for the latest updates and fresh perspectives on the layers of life: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

I'm fascinated by the ways we can resolve conflict faster, navigate conversations with more elegance, and go from rupture to repair with less disruption. But how do we do all that? Behavioral flexibility. (Ability to do the splits not required).Tune in to hear:

This week I'm diving into competition, comparison, and the courage to be yourself.Are you playing in a league of your own? Or are you playing in the muddy waters of someone else's desires?Hit play for a conversation on: 

If you've ever felt overwhelmed, this episode's for you.What's in store...

My houseplants are teaching me things again! This week we're talking about how to create space for growth. Hint: It doesn't require a complete overhaul of your life--just a bigger pot.Tune in to discover: 

"You're like an information sponge!" You've likely heard this phrase if you're a self-identified lifelong learner like me. But sponges can only take in so much water before they start sloshing dirty water around instead of cleaning the counter. Similarly, we can only take in so much information before experiencing information overload.If you're hungry for knowledge, today's episode will help you make sure you can digest all the info you take in without becoming creatively constipated.Tune in for these highlights:

How we perceive a situation directly influences how we respond. But what or who determines your perception—you or your inner critic?Tune in to discover:

Feel stuck but unsure what choice to make? Know something is off but not sure what you want instead? Tired of sitting on the fence between decisions? This episode is sure to have some gems in store for you because we're talking about embracing a life of choice.Tune in to learn:

It's a special birthday edition! I turn 31 this week, and it just so happens this is the 31st episode of the show. Naturally, that requires something fun! Geoff joins me on the couch for a special Ask Me session. Geoff compiled a list of questions people might ask kids, tweens, and teens on their birthday and asked me instead. I didn't get to peek beforehand, so you get my off-the-cuff answers.You'll learn…

Our food system is broken. As a result, our relationship with our bodies suffers. Health coach and functional health practitioner, Megan Brown, joins me to discuss our societal definition of aging, the role food plays in how we feel, and how we can nourish ourselves in a world filled with cluttered messages around health. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS

Joy can be contagious. What are your top Joy Inducers? Share them with me in the comments here: https://alyssapatmos.com/show/Is there a topic you want me to cover on the show? A question you're dying to ask? Send me a text at (512) 710-5124.EXTRA RESOURCESThere's more where this came from. Sign up for The Peel for the latest updates and fresh perspectives on the layers of life: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelThe show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/unleashing-trapped-joy-even-when-it-feels-scaryJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

This week's episode is just you and me talking about joy. More specifically, we're talking about trapped joy because I've found that sometimes joy is one of our most terrifying feelings. I break down what trapped joy is and how we can start experiencing more joy in our daily lives.You might be experiencing trapped joy if you've ever been on a date and found yourself not wanting to show how happy you are, so you bite the inside of your cheek. Or maybe you're like me, and it's really easy to talk about something challenging you're going through, but sharing what's great can feel significantly more uncomfortable. We're talking about how to experience and express your joy more fully this week, and it starts with unleashing your trapped joy. I tell the story of how I was terrified to express joy this past Thanksgiving and share my top Joy Inducers right now.Joy is a theme that appears in many episodes of this show. During this episode, I also reference these episodes: 

Laura was 14 when she found out she had 28 days left to live. Her body was deteriorating rapidly due to anorexia, and she needed help. The way Laura tells her story is incredibly powerful and sets the tone for a conversation that wanders through questions often left unspoken. We discuss eating disorders, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, the role control can end up playing in both, and most importantly, hope.As we navigate this topic, we also cover:What happens when we feel like our body is the only thing we can control? What happens when healing doesn't have an end stamp that says, "I'm cured!" and instead is an ongoing process of maintenance and management?Where does perfectionism hide in our lives beyond school and work?How do you love and appreciate your parents while acknowledging their role in the coping mechanisms you've chosen?This is one of the most intimate episodes of the show thus far. I hope you feel like you're around the table with us as you tune in.ABOUT LAURALaura is a people-loving, deep feeling, loud laughing, Gemini. ;) Her passion is to help illustrate others' incredible life stories and welcome the most vulnerable, raw parts of us as humans in any photo she takes. Laura is the photographer responsible for many of the pictures we use for alyssapatmos.com and the cover art for Make it Mentionable. Since the first time I stepped behind her camera, she's been a dear friend.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/ocd-eating-disorders-and-the-ways-we-search-for-control-with-laura-morsmanEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

Emily Carter joins me to talk about rest, relaxation, time, and leisure. These topics often make for hot articles, but how often are they talked about through the lens of trees, bees, and nature? That's where we're going in today's episode. Often, the distortion we feel around our time leads to burnout or a general sense of unfulfillment. In this episode, Emily and I dive into how our relationships with time, rest, and community influence how each of us feels daily and what we can do to feel more alive. One of my favorite things is turning back to nature because nature holds so much wisdom, and it's right in front of our face (even though I live in the middle of a major city). Emily's obsession with the pawpaw tree kicks us off, and my recent obsession with bees helps us go even deeper.My orchid is also discussed because it seems I'm learning something weekly from watching it grow.Tune in if you feel out of rhythm and want to get back to feeling in sync. Or if you find yourself wondering about time frequently like both Emily and I do.ABOUT EMILYEmily is a community builder, podcast host, and founder of Change Agent Studio. Her work and current curiosity centers around how our relationships with time, community, ourselves, and work influence how we experience life on the daily. She's also in love with pawpaws (aka - the Indiana Banana). It's a unique fruit, native to the Midwest, that's a cross between bananas and mangos. Have you tried one? Let us know in the comments. You can find Emily's podcast, From Hustle to Hell Yes, here: https://www.changeagent.studio/podcastThe show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/rest-relaxation-and-what-trees-can-teach-us-about-both-with-emily-carterEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

It's mash-up week at Make it Mentionable! When Dr. Mitch Harlan reached out to me to interview him on his show, Truth Talks, we decided to create an episode mash-up mixing the spirit of both shows together. The result was topic roulette in search of perspective, wisdom, and truth. As always, no topic is off-limits and we dive below the surface on mental health, religion, groupthink, and truths of being human.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/below-the-surface-on-mental-health-groupthink-and-religion-with-dr-mitch-harlan-of-truth-talksEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

In last week's episode, Geoff and I brought you along as we went through a list of 45 life lessons written by now 90-year-old Regina Brett. When we left off, we had 18 more to go. This is part two of Geoff and I diving into the wisdom of Regina's list. Join us as we explore what each lesson means to us—what we love, what we'd edit, and how we're integrating these into our lives.Which lesson resonates with you the most? What would you add? Join the conversation over at alyssapatmos.comOther episodes mentioned:Episode 16 “Should it be this hard?”The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/45-lessons-from-a-90-year-old-part-two-with-alyssa-geoffEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

When Regina Brett turned 90-years-old, she re-published one of the most popular columns she'd ever written—a list of 45 lessons life taught her. A few weeks ago, Geoff stumbled across this list, and we started talking about it over espresso martinis. We quickly realized we were having too much fun discussing it, so we decided to turn it into an episode. We're bringing you along as we dive into each item on Regina's list. You get Regina's insights mixed with our unfiltered reactions and additional commentary.And because 45 is a lot of lessons, we broke this episode into two parts. Part two will come out next week.Which lesson resonates with you the most? What would you add? Join the conversation over at alyssapatmos.comThe show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/45-lessons-from-a-90-year-old-part-one-with-alyssa-geoffEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

Sharing your story and yourself with others can be terrifying at times. And I'm not just talking on stage. I can't tell you how many times people come to me saying, “I feel like I lost my voice in the relationship.” Being under the spotlight whether it's on stage or in a 1:1 conversation, can lead to full-blown panic. I'm talking you're supposed to be flying to Italy tomorrow and you just realized your passport is expired levels of panic. It's not just nerves that hold us back though (I wish it were that simple), there are sneaky fears, memories, and beliefs operating under the surface that influence our confidence in sharing more of ourselves. Linda Ugelow joins me this week for a conversation around what keeps our voices trapped and how to set them free.If you listen for no other reason, tune in to hear the embarassing story of how I ran out of a talent show mid-performance in 5th grade.ABOUT LINDA Linda Ugelow is a speaking confidence coach and movement specialist with an uncommon approach to overcoming the fear of speaking. Formerly stricken with public speaking fear herself, she now helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and corporate leaders to transform their experience of speaking from dread to delight wherever they speak: online or on stage, in the media or the meeting room. She is the author of the book, Delight In The Limelight: Overcome Your Fear of Being Seen and Realize Your Dreams.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/hidden-fears-and-what-to-do-about-them-with-linda-ugelowEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

We often think success and fulfillment go hand-in-hand. The general narrative seems to be if you have success you'll experience fulfillment. But as many of us have learned, that isn't always the case. Julie Schoen joins me for a deep dive into what fulfillment actually feels like. We discuss how to access more joy, what presence and fulfillment have to do with each other, a tip for delegating better, and by the end we end up stumbling upon a new way to start thinking about fulfillment that blew both our minds. ABOUT JULIEJulie is a numerologist, copywriter, teacher + homeschool mama of 4. She believes in the power of energy + being able to control your experience here on the planet. The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/what-does-fulfillment-actually-feel-like-with-julie-schoenEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

Chris Ward joins me to talk about fixing our broken systems. This convo is a tad different from ones I've released thus far and I'm super excited to share it with you. Chris tells me about his time spent in human intelligence collection and what his experience in the military taught him about systems. We then have a convo about how to have hope when there's so much despair. The last part of the conversation is an insight into Chris' genius—envisioning a new way forward. Through our conversation, Chris paints a picture of how we can do things differently. Sometimes we have to go further than we can comprehend to be able to make bold changes in the moment. This conversation helps us do just that. The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/how-do-we-fix-our-broken-systems-with-chris-wardEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

Sami Miles joins me to talk about leaning into turning points and the nuances of making an unconventional choice.Highlights from the conversation: The turning point that led to Sami quitting her corporate careerAnother unconventional choice Sami and her now-husband made that also influences their kids (and how it's made their lives better)Tips for telling your story in your own words (especially after leaning into a turning point)We also discuss how embracing the unconventional impacts our sense of freedom.ABOUT SAMI:Sami is a copywriter helping coaches welcome their subscribers with an autopilot email sequence to get their ideal customers to love 'em and buy from 'em. She's 7 months pregnant with her second pandemic baby and about to get legally married over Zoom while pantsless. She recently quit a corporate biomedical industry job to pursue copywriting full time. She's also a former stand-up comic.Here's the link to the free meditation Sami mentions at the end:https://catchiestcopy.com/meditation-opt-in/ The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/making-the-unconventional-choice-with-sami-milesEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

How often do you find yourself wondering? Stormy Sweitzer joins me this week to talk about wonder and awe.We talk about the power of choosing where to put our attention, how wonder walks changed our lives, and give practical tools for cultivating more wonder in your life. And in case the benefits of wonder are feeling foreign to you, we share the rewards we've each reaped from devoting more time and attention to tuning in and embracing wonder. Stormy also shares an experience she had one morning on a run that borders on magical and had me on the edge of my seat.ABOUT STORMYStormy Sweitzer (@stormy.sweitzer) is a future-oriented writer, researcher, and guide to the unknown. As a PhD Candidate in Organizational Behavior at Case Western Reserve University, she studies the practices and potentials of wonder and how complex social interactions lead to phenomena like inclusion and identity development. Having long helped people and organizations navigate uncertainty and change, today she offers vision coaching and strategic consulting through her business Mapping Wonder.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/experiencing-wonder-awe-and-magic-with-stormy-sweitzerEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

Dr. Sophia Town is on the show with me this week to talk about how we flourish in the face of complexity.We dive into what it means to flourish, how to cultivate wisdom, the power of discernment, how to make the transition from knowing to being, and what to do about our society's prioritization of the rational mind. We let one of Sophia's recent studies guide us in conversation about what it takes to be an exceptional leader and the different ways we can process information to make wise decisions.Sophia also explains what self-care actually looks like and blows my mind with her framework for figuring out our personal flair of self-care.If you're looking to come back to clarity, this conversation is filled with valuable gems.EXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

Geoff and I are coming to you from our couch this week with an unconventional Q & A. We identify a question that many people end up being plagued with and offer stories and solutions for figuring out how to answer it. Come behind closed doors with us as we shine a light on the uncomfortable, so it holds less power.This week's question is, “Should it be this hard?” Meaning, “Should a relationship be this hard?” We dive into the pain behind this question, the underlying frustrations that lead to it popping up, and offer a better question to ask yourself.We also dive into: The illusion of chasing happiness and what we can choose to embrace insteadThe type of work that makes relationships work The facades we often put up to protect ourselves and how they eventually create conflictBetter questions to ask on dates, so you can know sooner if you want to commit or not We also ask and answer...Is there such a thing as “the perfect relationship”?When is the time to leave and when is the time to stay?The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: alyssapatmos.com/should-it-be-this-hard-an-unconventional-q-a-with-geoff-and-alyssaEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

Iona Holloway is on the show with me this week for an illuminating conversation about shrinking, shadows, shame, and self-liberation.The first question we ask is, “Is inner work worth it?” Once we cover that, we dive into why women shrink and the many faces shrinking can have. We talk about safety, coping mechanisms, how to be on your own team, what it means to be brave, and the walls strong women put up to protect themselves (and how to take them down).ABOUT IONAIona is the best selling author of Ghost - Why Perfect Women Shrink and founder of Brave Thing. She helps strong women do inner work to find the blindspots holding them back from burning brighter and braver and being more themselves in their lives, work, and relationships.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/blind-spots-bravery-and-unlocking-our-truest-selves-with-iona-hollowayEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

My friend Dr. Amber Ortega joins me to talk about science and spirituality. As a scientist, firefighter, and priestess, Amber brings a unique lens to exploring these two worlds that often seem at odds. We talk about the science of fire and why it's been such a powerful symbol for humans throughout history. We also discuss what fire teaches us about boundaries, how agreement fields set us up for success, and the importance of trusting our bodies. And in a world that's obsessed with the brightest flame and flashiest lights, Amber and I talk about the science of smoldering and what it means for us on a day-to-day basis.ABOUT AMBERDr. Amber Ortega is a weaver of science and spirit, here to co-create planetary healing. She earned her PhD in Atmospheric Chemistry and is an Elemental Priestess of the Sacred Arts. She's a lover of deep conversations and comfortable with most things taboo (which makes her a fantastic guest in this episode)! She's also a Wildland Firefighter and lives a vegan, sober lifestyle.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/how-do-science-spirituality-co-exist-what-fire-teaches-us-with-dr-amber-ortegaEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

Irina Leoni joins me to talk about the nuances of what it means to travel full time. We dive into what it takes to own and act on your desires, how burn out can creep in even while traveling, the emotions traveling full time can bring up, and what to do if you decide you want to go all in on travel.Questions of loneliness come up in addition to a conversation about the choice to be alcohol-free.Irina also gives a few killer tips for transitioning to a new place or space.Since Irina is a photographer she also drops some quick tips for making your photos instantly more engaging. Travel as a spiritual practice is the name of the game for Irina, is this something that calls to you? Let me know in the comments: https://alyssapatmos.com/full-time-travel-dealing-with-burnout-and-daring-to-act-on-your-dreams-with-irina-leoniThe show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/full-time-travel-dealing-with-burnout-and-daring-to-act-on-your-dreams-with-irina-leoniEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

Ron Cecil joins me for a conversation about creating intentional relationships—the kind that add more vibrancy to our lives.I met Ron 2 minutes before hitting record, but by the end we feel like great friends.We ask and answer:If a marriage doesn't work, is it a failure?When is vulnerability helpful?Is the patriarchy hurting men, too?What are our partners actually responsible for in a relationship?And because surface-level convos are not my jam, we also cover:- How the patterns of our parents have a way of trying to creep into our own relationships and how to catch them- What it means to craft an intentional relationship/marriage- What happens when our wounds trigger our partnerThis is a conversation about the often vulnerable process of waking up to ourselves, and what it means to embrace that vulnerability in a relationship with another human trying to do the same thing in their own way.Ron also shares what happened when he asked his wife's dad if he could marry her (it's not what you might think). And we both share the moments we recognized that our parents are humans, too. ABOUT RONRon Cecil was born in rural New Mexico, where he fell in love with the Divine, rock climbing, and smoking cigarettes in secret.In 2016, he committed to his calling as a Masculine Wholeness coach and now guides men through the journey of resetting their nervous systems and disrupting patterns that have kept them from creating mental, physical and emotional health.Lasting romantic love has also been a vital aspect of Ron's story. His parents were married 13 times, and this has created in him a devotion to understanding what makes a healthy marriage. He has been vibrantly partnered since 2009 and is now father to a daughter and adopted son.The show notes and transcript for the episode are available here: https://alyssapatmos.com/growing-up-vulnerability-and-how-our-parents-creep-into-our-relationships-with-ron-cecilSubscribe to Make it Mentionable: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJFtl9fbklbVSoIJg0Bny0A Sign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeel Join my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityFor even more deep-dive conversations: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLB6EN4QhOalLkYHWNWzYD6vJmVFp3psMNCONNECT WITH ALYSSA ON SOCIAL:Follow on Facebook: https://www.Facebook.com/alyssapatmos Say hi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alyssapatmos Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/alyssapatmos

Ahh! I'm so excited because Geoff, aka my boyfriend (why isn't there a word between boyfriend and husband?) is joining me this week! In our first-ever joint episode we're discussing how to work through conflict in relationships. We share many behind-closed-doors moments of conflict we've been through and how we came out on the other side feeling more connected. Show notes and transcript and can be found here: https://alyssapatmos.com/working-through-conflict-in-relationships-with-alyssa-geoffEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

This week, Erika Lyremark joins me to talk about how we can eliminate decision fatigue. During our conversation, we cover how to make powerful decisions, the difference between a viewpoint and an opinion, why viewpoints make everything easier, and how to get more of what you want in life. We also each share the scoop on what it was like working with our dads and why our level of commitment is one of the greatest indicators for future success.ABOUT ERIKAThink you're working in a tough marketplace? Try hustling your wares alongside cut-throat dancers and a roomful of customers who think they own you — in a neon bikini and six-inch stilettos for 9 years. That used to be Erika Lyremark!In 2001, she quit the strip club world and went on to co-create a successful commercial real estate investment company, write Think Like A Stripper: Business Lessons To Up Your Confidence, Attract More Clients & Rule Your Market – endorsed by Shark Tanks' Barbara Corcoran and #1 NY Times best-seller Dan Pink – and launch her business coaching consultancy in 2005.Erika spends her leisure time…Watching Gossip Girl,Eating take-out with her hunky husband,Admiring photos of Elo – her adopted orangutan who lives in Indonesia.And texting the Bugatti headquarters with suggestions on what to call the next generation of sports coupes. The Lyremark, of course.You can follow Erika on Instagram @dailywhip.Show notes and transcript and can be found here: https://alyssapatmos.com/eliminating-decision-fatigue-with-erika-lyremarkEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

My friend Britni Ross joins me to talk about money, debt, and the stories we tell ourselves about our worth. We discuss the shame and embarrassment that so often comes with mentioning debt and how talking about money can drastically change friendships for the better.ABOUT BRITNI: Britni Ross is a Business & Financial Educator who uses behavioral finance to help others master their money, build wealth, & fall back in love with their lives. From budgeting to wealth building, Britni teaches you how to set up and manage all the money stuff in your life. To date, she has paid off over $170,000 in personal debt, which gives her the confidence and the freedom to run her business from the comfort of home. Britni is a wife, mother, and creative who lives in rural Ohio where she continues toward her goal of becoming totally debt-free. When she's not writing you'll find her painting, gardening, experimenting in her kitchen, or traveling with her family.Show notes and transcript and can be found here: https://alyssapatmos.com/how-do-we-talk-about-money-and-debt-without-feeling-embarrassed-with-britni-rossEXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

How do we cultivate community as adults? This is the question Mindy Jones joins me to talk about in this week's episode. During our conversation, Mindy and I talk about belonging, how to lead community with intention, some of the reasons we're left feeling disconnected in today's day and age, and how to be intentional about finding friends you want to hang around. ABOUT MINDY: A native of Arizona, Mindy is the owner of the Amy Jones Group, a residential real estate team serving the Valley. On a mission to thrive, Mindy has created a platform for gritty, busy, hard working women who want to live their best lives personally and professionally by serving through real estate and community. Founded on the core principals of doing things better, Mindy's team is focused on educating and empowering consumers to make the best decisions for their families.Show notes and transcript and can be found here: https://alyssapatmos.com/how-do-we-cultivate-community-as-adults-with-mindy-jones/EXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin my free community, The Convey Collective, to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/communityI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos).

Emily Majewski joins me to talk about how our environments—the homes we live in and the buildings we work in—significantly influence our well-being. We cover how our environments can limit our self-growth, how buildings pollute our bodies, and how to change our chemical dialogue with our homes to promote endorphins. One of my favorite points of discussion is when Emily and I talk about whether our houses are sick affirming or life affirming. We also touch on the trend of eggshell white and how our homes are like pharmacies. If you've ever dreamt of building a home from the ground up or if you're obsessed with optimizing your surroundings for optimal health this episode is for you. Show notes and transcript and can be found here. ABOUT EMILY Emily Majewski is Founder of Phytostone, a natural building products firm in Mexico. Emily is also the creator of Embodied Home Design, an open-source program teaching wellness warriors how to design their dream home centered on personal growth and what she calls 'tridimensional health' - where occupants thrive from body + mind to heart. This mission is fueled by 2 things: a passion for upskilling women in optimizing their environments and 2) guacamole a la Mexico. :)EXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin The Convey Collective to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/conveyI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos) or join me over on Telegram.

Helping each other out is a good thing, right? What happens when it doesn't feel like such a good thing, though? What happens when someone in your family gets sick or a friend goes through a hard time, but you don't want to help them? These are the types of questions my friend Dr. Colter Ray and I are making mentionable in this week's episode.We also talk about the pressure of feeling like you have to know what to say and how we can be better supporters if we decide to lend support to a friend or family member going through a tough time.Show notes and transcript available here.ABOUT DR. COLTERDr. Colter Ray is an Assistant Professor in the Department of Communication Studies at Louisiana State University. He's also a Master Trainer for Empathy Bootcamp. His research currently centers around how people support loved ones as they're going through tough times.EXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin The Convey Collective to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/conveyI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos) or join me over on Telegram.

If you've ever wondered, “Am I creative?” or “When is it good enough?” listen to this episode. My friend and rockstar salon owner, Amber Pope (@method_twenty_seven), and I dive deep into what it means to be creative, how perfectionism gets in the way of creative expression, and how to lead with creative awareness. We also talk about what creativity is, what happens when we absorb too much outside influence, and the breath-restoring difference between perfectionism and excellence.Show notes and transcript: https://alyssapatmos.com/redefining-tapping-into-creativity-amber-popeABOUT AMBERAmber Pope is a Stylist, owner of Salon27, educator, creative director, and content writer, with over 15 years in the hair industry. She's also the only person I've trusted to cut my hair for the past decade.EXTRA RESOURCESSign up for my free newsletter, The Peel, and get my tips for navigating whatever life dishes: https://alyssapatmos.com/thepeelJoin The Convey Collective to master authentic communication: https://alyssapatmos.com/conveyI'd love to hear from you and continue the conversation! Message me on instagram (@alyssapatmos) or join me over on Telegram.