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Conversations among Catholics about trans people and the church often center on questions of inclusion and belonging in relation to church life and teachings. Can trans people be baptized into the church or partake in other sacraments? Should trans Catholics be allowed to join religious orders? The conversations often proceed as though trans Catholics are fundamentally a problem to be solved.  Even when the intention is to be welcoming, making this the primary discussion among Catholics fails to recognize that trans Catholics are already part of our families, communities, workplaces, and parishes. Trans Catholics are already a part of the church.  Some theologians and pastoral leaders suggest that shifting the focus of these discussions could lead to a broader understanding of church life. As well as considering what we owe to trans people, we should also consider how trans people enrich the church—how their active participation in church communities might help us deepen our theology and pastoral witness.  On this episode of Glad You Asked, the hosts talk to guest Kori Pacyniak about what the church can learn from trans Catholics. Pacyniak is a queer, nonbinary, and trans Catholic who is a doctoral candidate at the University of California Riverside. They studied religion and Portuguese at Smith College and have a master of divinity from Harvard and a master's degree in theology and trauma from Boston University. Ordained as a priest through Roman Catholic Womenpriests, Pacyniak focuses on creating sacred space and liturgy by and for queer and trans Catholics. Learn more about this topic and read some of Pacyniak's writing in these links. “Gender diversity has always been part of the church,” by Emma Cieslik Gender diversity has always been part of the church - U.S. Catholic “As a transgender Catholic, I don't see gender diversity as a threat to our faith,” by Maxwell Kuzma As a transgender Catholic, I don't see gender diversity as a threat to our faith - Outreach “Trans and Catholic: A parent's perspective,” by Deacon Ray Dever Trans and Catholic: A parent's perspective - U.S. Catholic “We cannot abandon trans Catholics,” by Father Bryan Massingale We cannot abandon trans Catholics - U.S. Catholic “Pope Francis Calls for the Inclusion of Trans People in Catholic Church Practices,” by Dallas Knox Pope Francis Calls for the Inclusion of Trans People in Catholic Church Practices | GLAAD “God Doesn't Want You to Be Miserable,” by Kori Pacyniak "God Doesn't Want You to Be Miserable.” - New Ways Ministry “The Women Who Want to Be Priests,” by Margaret Talbot The Women Who Want to Be Priests | The New Yorker Glad You Asked is sponsored by the Claretian Missionaries.

Devotional Time - Luke 13:1-5Repairing our Understanding - Polite PersecutionSound Words - How to Be MiserableTruths from the Timeless Text - Finding Something in SufferingHave a Bible Question - What would have happened if the Jews picked Jesus to free instead of Barabbas?

AMDG. Actor, writer, homeschool alumnus, husband, and dad Kaiser Johnson joins Bonnie and Steven today for a conversation on the love story of creation.  Starting with sharing his experience of deepening faith as an adult, Kaiser discusses how he lives out his desire to love more like God loves while having a career, a job, and a vocation all at once.  He highlights the importance of doing the work set before you and the skill of “learning how to learn” that homeschooling developed in him.  Related links:  Kaiser's website   Kaiser's books Grit & Glory: Cross Training Your Body and Soul and How to Be Miserable and Alone (Or Discover a Life That Truly Matters)  Catholic Central on YouTube  Family Theater Productions, creator of Catholic Central  Catholic Momcast  Kolbecast episode 133 An Audience of One  Have questions or suggestions for future episodes or a story of your own experience that you'd like to share? We'd love to hear from you! Send your thoughts to podcast@kolbe.org and be a part of the Kolbecast odyssey.  We'd be grateful for your feedback! Please share your thoughts with us via this Kolbecast survey!  The Kolbecast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and most podcast apps. By leaving a rating and review in your podcast app of choice, you can help the Kolbecast reach more listeners. The Kolbecast is also on Kolbe's YouTube channel (audio only with subtitles).  Using the filters on our website, you can sort through the episodes to find just what you're looking for. However you listen, spread the word about the Kolbecast! 

Randy Paterson, in this very critical conversation, brings to light the essential insights and strategies for enduring mental wellness, resilience, and growth. Randy Paterson challenges the prevalent myths and misconceptions in our hyper-informed, social media-driven world, offering invaluable insights into how our narratives and behaviours shape our mental wellness. From exploring the impact of childhood experiences to dissecting the 'failure to launch' phenomenon in young adults, this episode delves deep into the critical aspects of mental health that are often overlooked in traditional discourse. Dr. Paterson also shares practical strategies for managing anxiety, making decisive life choices, and the importance of balancing self-compassion with accountability.  Randy Paterson is a Vancouver-based psychologist and author (The Assertiveness Workbook, How to be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use). He also has a YouTube channel, PsychologySalon.     SHOWNOTES - 00:00:00 - Show Intro 00:00:36 - Guest Intro 00:03:00 - Dr. Paterson's work & The conception of his book "How to Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use” 00:08:30 - Impact of information abundance on mental health 00:12:50 -  The psychology of victimhood  00:15:30 - The Thought-Behaviour-Emotion Triangle 00:26:20 - Behaviour vs. narrative: Where to begin 00:34:20 - How to cope when you can't change the past 00:38:20 - Failure to launch phenomenon 00:44:20 - Decline in resilience across generations 00:48:30 - Raising successful adults (with the mushy middle!) 00:53:50 - Expanding comfort zones & managing anxiety 01:00:00 - Developing decision-making skills for greater independence 01:02:00 - Self-compassion, accountability, & personal growth 01:06:00 - Cultivating an image vs building real capacity 01:11:45 - Emotional maturity & managing tough emotions 01:15:10 - Self-acceptance and rethinking constant self-improvement. 01:17:40 - Balance emotion with action   CONNECT WITH RANDY PATERSON -  Website - www.randypaterson.com Clinic - www.changeways.com YouTube - http://bit.ly/2VNC9ok   CONNECT WITH ME - Take the EmoPersona Quiz - https://www.kratimehra.com/emopersonaquiz/ Subscribe to the Newsletter - https://www.kratimehra.com/newsletter/ For more, visit - https://www.kratimehra.com/experible/

David & Mike discuss the satirical self-help book How to Be Miserable by Randy J. Paterson and share the dysfunctional skills they are particularly good at.

David & Mike discuss the satirical self-help book How to Be Miserable by Randy J. Paterson and share the dysfunctional skills they are particularly good at.

How to Be Miserable: 5 Easy Steps Warning: The five-step guide is meant for humorous purposes only. 1. Find something slightly out of reach, or completely out of reach, and decide that you cannot be happy until you have it.  2. Worry about money.  3. Eat a lot of fast food.  4. Compare yourself to other people.  5. Ignore the good stuff.  There you have it. I know you can do it. Of course, misery is not what all of us are going for. If, in fact, you are looking to decrease your misery -- and maybe even boost your joy -- try a healthy dose of the opposite of everything that was mentioned. But be careful: You may just lose your misery altogether.   Connect With Us Website: http://www.rockingalentertainment.ca Internet Radio: https://www.rock103.ca Apps: https://apps.rock103.ca Chatroom: https://chat.rock103.ca Studio 103: https://rock103.ca/the-station-page Rock 103's Stream: https://rock103.ca/Stream.htm My Linktree: https://linktr.ee/rockingal Become a Patron:  http://patron.rockingalentertainment.ca Email: therockingalshow@rockingalentertainment.ca  

Why do we to do the same things and expect different results? Turns out humans are bad at predicting happiness for themselves. That's the conclusion from Dr. Randy Paterson, author of How to Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use.  Dr. Paterson joins us this week to discuss how this may be having an impact on our finances and how we might be able to change it. Get the FREE 7-Step Credit Card Debt Slasher guide Get the Credit Card Debt Slasher Toolbox For the resources and to connect with our guests, get the show notes at: https://queermoneypodcast.com/subscribe  Follow us: Queer Money Instagram Queer Money YouTube Queer Money Twitter Queer Money on Tiktok

Nia Shanks talks about why working out shouldn't hurt and your diet shouldn't be miserable Episode 2000: Working Out Shouldn't Hurt and Your Diet Shouldn't Be Miserable by Nia Shanks Nia Shanks is a writer and coach, and leader of the Lift Like a Girl revolution. She helps women discover and reach their potential through an empowering approach to health, fitness, and life. Nia also hosts The Nia Shanks Show--the podcast dedicated to helping you reach your health and fitness goals and become the most awesome version of yourself. The original post is located here: https://niashanks.com/working-out-shouldnt-hurt/ Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalHealthDailyDietNutritionFitness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nia Shanks talks about why working out shouldn't hurt and your diet shouldn't be miserable Episode 2000: Working Out Shouldn't Hurt and Your Diet Shouldn't Be Miserable by Nia Shanks Nia Shanks is a writer and coach, and leader of the Lift Like a Girl revolution. She helps women discover and reach their potential through an empowering approach to health, fitness, and life. Nia also hosts The Nia Shanks Show--the podcast dedicated to helping you reach your health and fitness goals and become the most awesome version of yourself. The original post is located here: https://niashanks.com/working-out-shouldnt-hurt/ Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalHealthDailyDietNutritionFitness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Assertive communication is one of the most important skills when it comes to human relationships. Be it in the workplace, with family, or in friendships, it is a skill that you must learn to develop in order to communicate in ways that are respectful, clear, and effective. Without assertive communication, your goals will be difficult to meet. Joining us for this episode is Randy Paterson, Psychologist, Director of Changeways Clinic, and Author of The Assertiveness Workbook. Randy breaks down the significance of assertive communication and associated misconceptions, when assertiveness is not always the best approach, and the different communication styles you can use to confidently express your needs, wants, and opinions in your personal and professional life.  Listen and Learn:  What assertive communication skills are and why they are important  How people can benefit from practicing assertive communication skills When assertive communication isn't always the best approach  Randy's thoughts on picking your battles  The challenges that come with assertive communication  Understanding the different communication styles and how to use them The link between control and assertive communication  Analyzing gender-related differences in communication styles The specifics of assertive communication and examples  How to structure requests for desired outcomes  The best way to give and receive feedback, both positive and negative Resources:  Learn more about Randy at his webpage: https://www.randypaterson.com/ Check out Randy's books The Assertiveness Workbook, How to be Miserable, How to be Miserable in Your Twenties, Private Practice Made Simple, and Your Depression Map.  Read Debbie's blog post on Assertive Communication Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael's new book, Work, Parent, Thrive!  Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill's websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Randy Paterson: Dr. Randy Paterson is a psychologist in Vancouver, British Columbia. He is the director of Changeways Clinic; and provides training programs across Canada and internationally on evidence-based mental health practice. He is the author of several books, including: How to Be Miserable, How to Be Miserable in Your Twenties, Private Practice Made Simple, and The Assertiveness Workbook, which is now in its second edition. He offers courses for professionals and the public through his online teaching website, psychologysalon.teachable.com.  Related Episodes:  216. Managing Anger and Irritability, Featuring Russell Kolts 246. Burnout and Boundaries with Tammie Chang 252. Getting the Help You Need, with Us 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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We enjoyed chatting with Dr. Randy Paterson in this episode. Hear him talk about his strategies of using reverse psychology and real-life affirmations to help other people find their way through depression and life failures. Yes, stick to repeatable processes and what works, and hit play!Key Takeaways from This EpisodeWhat is the main point of assertiveness?Ways to access your book sales stats and author rankHow negative mood states impact motivationEffects of introducing children to failure at an early ageReasons why people write and its benefitsResources Mentioned in This EpisodePatrick Fanning – New Harbinger Publications, Inc.JK RowlingAmazonCGP GreyCGP Grey: 7 Ways to Maximize MiseryFailure to Launch SyndromeHikikomoriNot in Education, Employment, or Training (NEET)Nielsen Cross-Platform Report University Student Counselling ServiceAbout Randy Paterson, PhDRandy Paterson, PhD is a psychologist and author living in Vancouver BC. He is the founder of Changeways Clinic, one of Vancouver's largest private psychotherapy services, and the author of How to be Miserable:40 Strategies You Already Use, How to be Miserable in Your Twenties, Private Practice Made Simple, Your Depression Map, and The Assertiveness Workbook. He vlogs about psychology and mental health at YouTube's PsychologySalon channel, and provides online courses for professionals and the public (including a course on writing long-form non-fiction). He has provided over 300 training seminars for mental health professionals on topics including communication skills, psychotherapy process, practice management, and the treatment of mood and anxiety disorders.Website: Randy Peterson, PhDYouTube: PsychologySalonRandy's Online Courses: https://psychologysalon.teachable.com/Randy's Books:How to Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use ⏐ Paperback and KindleThe Assertiveness Workbook: How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and in Relationships ⏐ Paperback and HardcoverYour Depression Map: Find the Source of Your Depression and Chart Your Own Recovery ⏐ PaperbackPrivate Practice Made Simple: Everything You Need to Know to Set Up and Manage a Successful Mental Health Practice ⏐ Paperback and KindleHow to Be Miserable in Your Twenties: 40 Strategies to Fail at Adulting ⏐ Paperback and KindleLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share!Here's How » Join The Author's Corner Community today:Website: Robin ColucciLinkedIn: R Colucci, LLCFacebook: Robin ColucciTwitter: @Robin_ColucciRobin Colucci's Book: How to Write a Book That Sells You: Increase Your Credibility, Income, and Impact

Most of us know at least one young adult who's having trouble making that transition from dependent teenager to 20-year-old adult paying their own bills and pursuing their own goals. This is Dr. Randy Paterson's area of expertise, and today he shares helpful insights. Press play to learn: Why males seem to have a harder time leaving home or “launching” than females Whether the “failure to launch” phenomenon in young adults happens primarily in the U.S., or in cultures across the globe The strange dynamic that exists between the parents of young adults who fail to launch, and the therapist's role in navigating this dynamic How the idea of “following your passions” can actually be paralyzing for many young people Dr. Paterson has been a psychotherapist for nearly 40 years, is the author of How to Be Miserable in Your Twenties, and currently serves as the director of Changeways Clinic. Throughout his career, he's noticed a subset of his client population that struggles to achieve adult independence, even into their twenties. In the U.S., you might know this as a “failure to thrive,” which generally means that the young adult is not employed (or grossly underemployed), not in school, and not even engaging in much of a social life. Dr. Paterson sees this in young males far more than females, and he discusses why that might be. He also explains that the longer this failure to launch lasts, the more entrenched the young adult becomes in this state, and the harder they find it to gain independence. Tune in to learn how Dr. Paterson helps young adults—and their families—make the critical transition into adulthood. For more, visit https://randypaterson.com/ and the YouTube channel called “How To Be Miserable.” Episode also available on Apple Podcasts: apple.co/30PvU9C

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 The world tries to tell us we will never be happy unless we accumulate more stuff, that we will never be good enough so why try, and that our success is measured by the size of our bank accounts. And that's just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the bad guidance it doles out! Following this path leads to a life of misery and frustration. We need to turn away from what the world tells us and lead a life filled with purpose. But how? Kaiser Johnson joins me this week to discuss what he has discovered in his own life and how we can change ours for the better as well. Get a copy of Kasier's latest  How to Be Miserable and Alone: (Or Discover a Life That Truly Matters) here. 

In this episode, we look at the must-read books of July 2020. Recommended by listeners. Buy the Consistentcy Code: http://consistencycourse.com Daring Greatly by Brene Brown "Brown explains how vulnerability is both the core of difficult emotions like fear, grief, and disappointment, and the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, empathy, innovation, and creativity. She writes: “When we shut ourselves off from vulnerability, we distance ourselves from the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives.” Get Your Copy: https://amzn.to/39ufgPe How to Be Miserable by Dr. Randy J Paterson "This tongue-in-cheek guide will help you identify the behaviors that make you unhappy and discover how you—and only you—are holding yourself back from a life of contentment. You’ll learn to spot the tried-and-true traps that increase feelings of dissatisfaction, foster a lack of motivation, and detract from our quality of life—as well as ways to avoid them." Get Your Copy: https://amzn.to/2CDsZqY Playing Ball on Running Water by Dr. David K Reynolds "Essentially based on Japanese Zen psychotherapy Morita Therapy and Constructive Living Therapy. Teaches that quietly sitting with and accepting emotions is calming, then our daily actions can present a positive influence in life. In other words, actions are more important than feelings." Get Your Copy: https://amzn.to/32QlE1P Own The Day, Own Your Life by Aubrey Marcus "Own the Day, Own Your Life is an empowering handbook that guides readers to optimize every moment of the day, from waking in the morning, through work and play, until bedtime each night. With small, actionable changes implemented throughout the course of one day, we can feel better, perform more efficiently, and live happier. And these daily habits turn into weekly routines, ultimately becoming part of lifelong healthy choices." Get Your Copy: https://amzn.to/2ByykiE Instagram: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

**Point 1 : Christ's infancy is His humiliation** Philippians 2:5 - Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, 6 who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, 7 but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. 8 Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. *a. HUGE contrast “although He existed in the form of God”* *b. Even for a human king the nativity is humiliating.* *c. Jesus emptied himself.* **Point 2 : The descent of Jesus is even deeper than we assume; just look at us.** Philippians 2:7 - but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. 8 Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. *a. We tend to overestimate ourselves.* *b. Christ had to descend to the form of condemned criminal* *c. Be Miserable, Mourn & Weep : *We must to accept that without Christ we are desperately lost in darkness and sin.* **Point 3: To resist Christ is both foolish and offensive.** *a. Resisting Christ is utter foolishness.* *b. Resisting Christ is doubly offensive.* **Point 4 : So, we celebrate the descent of our Deliver.** Hebrews 2:14–16 - 14 Therefore, since the children share in flesh and blood, He Himself likewise also partook of the same, that through death He might render powerless him who had the power of death, that is, the devil, 15 and might free those who through fear of death were subject to slavery all their lives. 16 For assuredly He does not give help to angels, but He gives help to the descendant of Abraham. **Conclusion** Philippians 2:9 - For this reason also, God highly exalted Him, and bestowed on Him the name which is above every name, 10 so that at the name of Jesus EVERY KNEE WILL BOW, of those who are in heaven and on earth and under the earth, 11 and that every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

Ever wonder why you were terrible to that one person who, like, actually loved you? Do you find yourself making excuses for why you can’t have the things you want, delaying getting started on your tasks until the last minute, or diving head first into an internet worm hole rather than getting to work on what you truly want? THIS IS YOUR EPISODE. We roast our own destructive choices as we discuss self sabotage.---------------------------------BOOKS RECOMMENDED IN THIS EPISODE:How to Be Miserable by Randy J. PatersonThe 5 Second Rule by Mel RobbinsThe War of Art by Steven Pressfield---------------------------------The definition of self sabotage referenced in this episode: http://bit.ly/2Kzunve; http://bit.ly/2KtxLb9------------------------OUR SHOW: http://gsswshow.comSUPPORT THE SHOW: http://ko-fi.com/gsswshowGSSW on ig: http://instagram.com/gsswshowGSSW on twitter: http://twitter.com/gsswshow---------------------------------OUR INTRO SONG is by Media Friend: http://soundcloud.com/media_friend

There's a myth that's perpetuated among artists, which I've bought into myself earlier in life, that says in order to be a successful artist, you have to be miserable. Some people term it as you have to suffer for your art. By the mere fact I've called it a myth, should tell you that I don't agree with this notion. But more importantly than that, how does one become successful and maintain happiness? That's the question I explore in this lesson. After hearing my thoughts, please comment below and let me know if you agree or disagree with everything I've presented. Thanks for tuning in. TRANSCRIPT: https://philsvitek.com/is-it-possible-to-be-a-happy-artist SELECTED LINKS FROM EPISODE: Happy Artists (Psychology Today Article): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/zig-zag/201409/happy-artists Do You Have to Be Miserable to Be An Artist Article: https://thoughtcatalog.com/ryan-frawley/2012/04/do-you-have-to-be-miserable-to-be-an-artist/ Master Mental Fortitude Non-Fiction Book: http://mastermentalfortitude.com Not Twice T-Shirt Campaign: http://nottwice.org A Very LA Birthday Short Film: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b9SHJaepE0c SUPPORT THE SHOW: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/philsvitek Merchandise: https://shop.spreadshirt.com/phil-svitek---360-creative-coach/ Adorama Affiliate Link: https://www.adorama.com/?utm_source=rflaid914115

Weep Mourn and Be Miserable

Weep Mourn and Be Miserable

Staying within our comfort zones is reassuring and very tempting. However, many experts agree that our lives improves when we break out of our comfort zones. In this episode we’re sharing a humorous excerpt from the audiobook “How to Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use,” written by psychologist Randy Paterson. In this tongue-in-cheek audiobook, Dr. Paterson outlines 40 specific behaviors and habits, which—if followed—are sure to lead to a lifetime of unhappiness. On the other hand, if you do the opposite, you might just find yourself living a happy, fulfilled life. We hope this excerpt will inspire you to try new things, take some new chances, and expand beyond your comfort zones into a world of new possibilities!

This week on Relationships 2.0 my guest is Randy J. Paterson (PART 2) author of How to Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use About the book: In How to Be Miserable, psychologist Randy Paterson outlines 40 specific behaviors and habits, which—if followed—are sure to lead to a lifetime of unhappiness. On the other hand, if you do the opposite, you may yet join the ranks of happy people everywhere! There are stacks upon stacks of self-help books that will promise you love, happiness, and a fabulous life. But how can you pinpoint the exact behaviors that cause you to be miserable in the first place? Sometimes when we’re depressed, or just sad or unhappy, our instincts tell us to do the opposite of what we should—such as focusing on the negative, dwelling on what we can’t change, isolating ourselves from friends and loved ones, eating junk food, or overindulging in alcohol. Sound familiar? This tongue-in-cheek guide will help you identify the behaviors that make you unhappy and discover how you—and only you—are holding yourself back from a life of contentment. You’ll learn to spot the tried-and-true traps that increase feelings of dissatisfaction, foster a lack of motivation, and detract from our quality of life—as well as ways to avoid them. So, get ready to live the life you want (or not?) This fun, irreverent guide will light the way. About the author: Randy J. Paterson, PhD, is director of Changeways Clinic, a private psychotherapy practice in Vancouver, BC, Canada. He is author of The Assertiveness Workbook and Your Depression Map, and he conducts training programs for professionals on evidence-based treatment. Through Changeways Clinic, Paterson presents lectures and workshops internationally on topics including mental health policy, cognitive behavioral therapy, the nature and treatment of depression and anxiety disorders, and strategies for private practice management. He is the 2008 recipient of the Canadian Psychological Association’s Distinguished Practitioner Award. For more information on Paterson, his presentations and workshops, or Changeways Clinic, visit www.changeways.com. To view Paterson’s blog on psychological and practice issues, please visit www.psychologysalon.com.

This week on Relationships 2.0 my guest is Randy J. Paterson, PhD author of How To Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use About the book: In How to Be Miserable, psychologist Randy Paterson outlines 40 specific behaviors and habits, which—if followed—are sure to lead to a lifetime of unhappiness. On the other hand, if you do the opposite, you may yet join the ranks of happy people everywhere! There are stacks upon stacks of self-help books that will promise you love, happiness, and a fabulous life. But how can you pinpoint the exact behaviors that cause you to be miserable in the first place? Sometimes when we’re depressed, or just sad or unhappy, our instincts tell us to do the opposite of what we should—such as focusing on the negative, dwelling on what we can’t change, isolating ourselves from friends and loved ones, eating junk food, or overindulging in alcohol. Sound familiar? This tongue-in-cheek guide will help you identify the behaviors that make you unhappy and discover how you—and only you—are holding yourself back from a life of contentment. You’ll learn to spot the tried-and-true traps that increase feelings of dissatisfaction, foster a lack of motivation, and detract from our quality of life—as well as ways to avoid them. So, get ready to live the life you want (or not?) This fun, irreverent guide will light the way. About the author: Randy J. Paterson, PhD, is director of Changeways Clinic, a private psychotherapy practice in Vancouver, BC, Canada. He is author of The Assertiveness Workbook and Your Depression Map, and he conducts training programs for professionals on evidence-based treatment. Through Changeways Clinic, Paterson presents lectures and workshops internationally on topics including mental health policy, cognitive behavioral therapy, the nature and treatment of depression and anxiety disorders, and strategies for private practice management. He is the 2008 recipient of the Canadian Psychological Association’s Distinguished Practitioner Award. For more information on Paterson, his presentations and workshops, or Changeways Clinic, visit www.changeways.com. To view Paterson’s blog on psychological and practice issues, please visit www.psychologysalon.com.

There are tons of books about how to be happier, how to improve yourself, how to be less angry, etc. These books often tout things you should add to your life to get to where you want. But sometimes the best way to achieve a goal is to actually subtract something from your life, and to stop doing the things that are making you miserable. That's the approach today's guest took in his latest book, How to Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use. His name is Randy Paterson, and he's a psychologist. Today on the show, we discuss the things he's seen with his patients -- common lifestyle choices and thinking patterns -- that make them miserable, and what you can do to eliminate those things from your life.