Podcast appearances and mentions of David J Ley

Recorded: May 21st, 2023 / Published: August 19th, 2023 - Text your questions and comments to 865-268-4005 or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com.- In this episode, Mayfair and I are diving deep into the new legal standards involving BDSM.- Rules to Love By: (https://inclusionwoodworks.com)1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity3: “Submission is not about authority and it's not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young- “New Consent Laws for BDSM-S05E06”“Criminal Charges and Consensual Kink New guidelines may help consenting adults avoid being charged.” Posted June 2, 2023 by: David J. Ley, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the author of “Insatiable Wives, Women Who Stray and The Men Who Love Them.”https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/202306/criminal-charges-and-consensual-kink KEY POINTSBDSM and kinky sexual practices are increasingly seen as forms of normal sexual diversity.BDSM and kinky sex can result in criminal charges, even when such behaviors are completely consensual.New guidelines, known as Explicit Prior Permission (EPP), may offer protection from prosecution.EPP requires explicit informed consent, no extreme behaviors, and an ability to end activities.There is increasing evidence that human sexuality involves far more diverse flavors and interests than historically acknowledged. When von Kafft-Ebing first began labeling various paraphilic sexual interests, they were believed to be generally rare. But research by Joyal and Carpentier reports that nearly 50 percent of a non-clinical, random sample disclosed being interested in at least one sexual behavior historically deemed unusual or anomalous.Criminal Conflict With BDSMEPP: Explicit Prior PermissionImportant Links:Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/506National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255NCSF Kink Aware Professionals: https://www.kapprofessionals.org https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic Show Producers (Updated April 15, 2023):Become a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon Make a one-time donation: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/PayPal Snail mail a donation or gift:Kuldrin Entertainment, LLC257 N. Calderwood Rd. #168Alcoa, TN 37701- Benefactor ($2,000/month): - Pro Producer ($100/month): - Master Producer ($50/month): Buffalo_Max92- Executive Producer ($25/month) Knot_the_Daddy, Shadowy Fox, Junicornsangel, Johnny Ferrell, Rei Webb, Haru Webb, Maxi, DarlingTN and Sarge, Kyro, and ExploringMermaid- Sr. Producers ($10/month): Trouble113, Alexandria, babylove&T-Rex, Daddy Steve, KJ, Atsila, Ben, TrinityFae, Iamar Kinhawk, and clk124- Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, ThatPlace in OK City, Hadea, MBRpoodle, Baddogbad & Subx13, XxLilyXxX, Katnipmeow, WyldThyme & Deacon Sean, CheeryQuery, Rabbit, ArchAngel, Jon Shaw, A.U., Sekhmets_Shadow, Grizzled Yeti & Yoza, FetishArtist, SirBNice, Kitten399, Neon, Dan & Dawn from Erotic Awakening Podcast, Black Angel, Sir RJ Recife, Nix_09, Officer Davis, Finn, Arden Solace, Pepa, KinkyyJay, Daddy's Princess, Kayla, and Valfreyja- Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Morgana13, CIVLdisobedience, Rope Aficionado, Gator & Gizmo, Lexa, Ashley, Meg, Dark Diamonte, and AstridinchainsVendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TorridTimber - Fine fetish furniture and accessories- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist - Dark Delights Shops: https://darkdelightsshop.com/ (Watch my product review of them: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/DarkDelightsShop)Contact info:Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Twitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrinPatreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypt

Welcome to the season 2 finale! This season has been all about words entering a dark tunnel and coming out on the other end looking completely different. And nothing better encapsulates that than "groomer". As a word that defines a process rather than an outcome, this one is notoriously hard to pin down. It occupies a legal and colloquial grey area which leaves it dangerously vulnerable to misuse. "Groomer" was invented to protect children from abuse but, as so often the case with misused terminology, marginalized people have been harmed as a result (and even children themselves). This episode covers delicate subject matter - please listen at your own discretion. Support us on Patreon and get juicy bonus content: https://www.patreon.com/rehashpodcast Intro and outro song by our talented friend Ian Mills: https://linktr.ee/ianmillsmusic SOURCES: EJ Dickson, “The Problem With How We Talk About Grooming” Rolling Stone (2021). “Grooming: Know the Warning Signs” RAINN (2020). https://www.rainn.org/news/grooming-know-warning-signs Genyue Fu and Kang Lee, “Social grooming in the kindergarten: the emergence of flattery behavior” Developmental Science, Vol. 10 (2) (2007). David J. Ley, “Misuse and Abuse of the Term Grooming Hurts Victims” Psychology Today (2022). “Understanding Sexual Grooming in Child Abuse Cases”, American Bar Association (ABA). https://www.americanbar.org/groups/public_interest/child_law/resources/child_law_practiceonline/child_law_practice/vol-34/november-2015/understanding-sexual-grooming-in-child-abuse-cases/ Ann Wolbert Burgess and Carol R. Hartman, “On the Origin of Grooming” Journal of Interpersonal Violence, Vol. 33(1) (2018).  https://calio.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/on-the-origin-of-grooming.pdf  2001. Coercion and Enticement (18 U.S.C. 2422). The United States Department of Justice Archives.  https://www.justice.gov/archives/jm/criminal-resource-manual-2001-coercion-and-enticement-18-usc-2422#:~:text=Section%202422(b)%20of%20Title,imprisonment%20and%2For%20a%20fine. 

SHOW NOTES: On this show…we are allowing the door to close, the song to end, and the chapter to play out because we're moving on without the need for closure. Feels unfinished, huh? People want answers whether there are any or not. If not, we tend to fill in the blanks with the not-so-rosiest of answers. Are you thinking about your own unanswered questions or the time you didn't receive closure? How did you move on? Maybe you didn't and you're still carrying shards of that failed relationship around with you, comparing every new encounter. I'm sure I don't have to tell you how dangerous that can be. Put yourself in their shoes. That's it, it's so difficult to see this from any other angle than the one you're struggling with. What did I do? Where did I go wrong? How can I fix it? Who else is going to hurt me? If you can't get there on your own then I'll move this topic around, from angle to angle for you, to make sure you're seeing all the possible sides.  Pam Ramsden gives us an understanding of The psychology of closure – and why some need it more than others found at theconversation.com Wendy Rose Gould answers the question, What Is Closure in a Relationship? 5 signs you haven't found it just yet, plus steps to help you move forward, found at verywellmind.com Psych2go 7 Signs You're Ready for a Closure From a Relationship Marc Chernoff shares more with 8 Effective Ways to Let Go and Move On Found at markandangel.com Dr. David J. Ley suggests an alternative view of Why You Don't Actually Need "Closure" found at pyschologytoday.com CHALLENGE: don't be afraid to move on without having all the questions answered. Not every situation needs to be fully defined and not every situation offers you closure. Freedom from the old way of thinking can propel you into a future full of unlimited possibilities. I Know YOU Can Do It!

Dr. David J. Ley is a world-renowned clinical psychologist and author of Insatiable Wives and The Myth of Sexual Addiction. We'll be discussing everything about sex: porn, kinks, addiction, and even religion. We share our sexual role models, what we think of sex education in America, and how sexual values play a role in a person's belief system and political values.Links and Resources:Dr. Ley's Twitter and website.Support the podcast  ► https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candiceMeta-DescriptionClinical psychologist and author Dr. David J. Ley talks about sex, porn, “addiction”, and the value of proper sex education.Support the show (http://patreon.com/candicehorbacz)

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. David J. Ley. David is a world-renowned clinical psychologist, known for bringing scientifically-accurate and clinically sound information to discussions about modern sexuality. He serves on the board of the Sexual Health Alliance as an expert advisor and is an internationally-recognized expert on issues related to sexuality, pornography and mental health. He has appeared on television with Anderson Cooper, Katie Couric, Dr. Phil and others. He has been interviewed in publications ranging from the New York Times, Washington Post, LA Times and the London Telegraph, to Playboy and Hustler magazines. Dr. Ley has published extensively in both the academic and “pop” realms of literature. His latest book, Ethical Porn for Dicks, A Man's Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure has endorsements from Dan Savage and Pornhub.com and is a humorous and provocative handbook for men who want to think more comprehensively about porn. In 2018, he spoke with Esther Perel, at her Sessions Live conference exploring The Masculinity Paradox. His talk, seen here, offers a concise overview of his view on masculinity and sexual integrity. The Myth of Sex Addiction (2012) and Insatiable Wives (2009) were revolutionary explorations of sexual issues which blended a powerful client-centered narrative with a rich understanding of psychology, biology and sociology. Dr. Ley is starting a new project, exploring the stories behind people who engage in professional sexual misconduct. Why do teachers, lawyers, doctors, therapists and police cross sexual lines? He is interested in conducting confidential, anonymous interviews with people who have insight into these experiences. The two of us talk about the importance of prioritizing sexuality in the medical community. We also discuss the issues of porn, including definitions, usage, and masturbatory habits. Key points: David introduces himself Common sense vs Research Challenging biases What is “healthy” sexuality? The priority of sexuality What is porn? Media consumption Educational porn How to use porn Male sexuality Relevant links: David's Instagram: @davidleyphd David's website: https://www.davidleyphd.com/

“I think it's so important that you have conversations with people on the podcast and you publish it [so] people can experience different people, basically different voices, different ways of thinking.” ~Izzy It's fascinating how the common thread of each of these 5x5 conversations varies. Matthew, Inma and me speak a lot about space, place and the gift economy. Reddy and me have been travelling within and without, visiting the Himalayas and native lands, food and languages. A journey in the footsteps of Andy's quickly growing creative-babies (13 songs born just before we had our first conversation). There's been some deeply personal and creative explorations with Steve, and with Izzy, well, intimacy is it. This conversation is no different, even though we take a slightly different slant, and get a bit more explicit here. Like the difference between the hypersexualized world we live in, a world I perceive as zoomed in, in-my-face, explicit. The in-and-out:ness of porn, in a Duracell Bunny-hyped energy that… just doesn't get my juices flowing. Counter that with what does; something much more sensual, erotica which feels more zoomed out, with a lot of allure, a dance between light and shadow, leaving a lot to my own imagination. Luckily, I get to choose, and so do you. Like Izzy says, we're all different! She also points to something that is rarely spoken about: the benefits of pleasureable sex. “There is research that proves that having sex, enjoyable sex, sex that allows you to explore your own and your partner's pleasures, sex that is consensual, has a positive impact on your health.” ~Izzy She calls it 'the discovery of our pleasures' which brings a smile to my face. Perhaps because that phrase opens pleasure up (way) beyond sex? Or the other way around, opens sex up to be more than I have labelled it to be? The sensuality of ordinary life suddenly takes on a whole new tint and tone… mmm. I like it! Tag along for a ride that will certainly give you a tankespjärn or two. Links: Izzy can be found through RedCheeks Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer Esther Perel, author of the book Mating in Captivity Process-oriented therapy with Dominic Bosman Venter Women who run with the wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés Operant conditioning and classical conditioning Kinsey, the movie Skarhult Castle and previous exhibitions on lovers and mistresses Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man's Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure by David J. Ley

I've wanted to do an episode on the psychology of Jiu Jitsu for some time. I know this is a very broad topic and that this can mean many different things to many different people. In this episode, we make an attempt to cover some of what I feel are imperative scenarios. Recently I happened to have stumbled upon an article in Psychology Today entitled, “The Psychology of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu”. After reading the paper I knew I had to have the author on the show to help field the myriad of questions I had, most of which we answer on the show. David Ley, Ph.D., was born with one hand, is a BJJ Black Belt, and is a clinical psychologist in practice in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He earned his Doctoral degree in clinical psychology from the University of New Mexico. Dr. Ley is licensed in New Mexico and North Carolina and has provided clinical and consultative services in numerous other states. He is the Executive Director of New Mexico Solutions, a large outpatient mental health and substance abuse program in Albuquerque, NM. Dr. Ley has been treating sexuality issues throughout his career. He first began treating perpetrators and victims of sexual abuse but expanded his approach to include the fostering and promotion of healthy sexuality, and awareness of the wide range of normative sexual behaviors. Dr. Ley has published 3 books and dozens of articles on Psychology Today, he's been featured in The New York Post, London Telegraph, CNN, Huffington Post, and many more. Links: https://www.davidleyphd.com/ Instagram: @davidleyphd Twitter: @DrDavidLey Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/david.leyphd Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/david-j-ley-phd Books: https://www.amazon.com/David-J-Ley/e/B00348D2JQ/ref=dp_byline_cont_pop_book_1 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/foreverwhitebelt/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/foreverwhitebelt/support

Men, do you watch, enjoy, and consume porn? Is your partner okay with your porn use or do they shame you for it? Have you been labelled a sex addict by loved ones or even a professional because of pornography use? And Ladies, do you see porn as cheating or wrong or do you watch it with your partner Join us with Sex Therapist, Dr David J Ley, as we discuss touchy topics that are quickly becoming hot button debates within society. Topics like, healthy and responsible approach to porn use and reducing the impact of sexual shame. And how to use porn as a healthy tool to encourage great sex.

Ethnically Speaking is back for Season 2 and the ladies are finally all in one room! In this episode, Monah, Nushy Rose, and Sophie Hannah discuss whether women are forcing monogamous relationships on men. Are there different expectations for men and women when it comes to monogamy? What role does sex play and are men using polyamorous relationships as an excuse to sleep around? Does science say humans are meant to be monogamous or is having one partner at a time an outdated concept dreamed up by society? The ladies are exploring all angles in this episode of Ethnically Speaking and we want to hear your opinions in the comments below!--------------------------------------- FOLLOW THE CONVERSATION #EthnicallySpeakingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/unitedmelanincoYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/UnitedMelaninGroupTikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZM8H5Jx9b/Twitter: https://instagram.com/unitedmelanincoFacebook: https://facebook.com/unitedmelanincoLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/unitedmelaninco/Get in touch with us: ethnicallyspeaking@unitedmelaningroup.com---------------------------------------- LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SA5sj_j726A(Video – Why do women make men be in monogamy relationships? – kmoorethegoat YouTube channel)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DSLw76kxEQM(Video – Does your relationship with your parents change with age? | ETHNICALLY SPEAKING 74 – United Melanin Group channel)https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/between-the-sheets/201904/is-monogamy-natural(Article – Is monogamy natural? – Lawrence Josephs, Ph,D. for Psychology Today)https://www.vox.com/conversations/2017/2/23/14684236/monogamy-valentines-day-polyamory-marriage-love(Article – A philosopher makes the case for polyamory – Sean Illing for Vox)https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/why-are-we-so-obsessed-with-monogamy-cmtt/(Article – Why are we so obsessed with monogamy? – Ravishly for The Good Men Project)https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2012/11/study-oxytocin-the-love-hormone-makes-men-in-relationships-want-to-stay-away-from-other-women/265314/(Article – Study: Oxytocin (‘ the Love Hormone') makes men in relationships want to stay away from other women – Lindsay Abrams for The Atlantic) https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/straight-men-dating-women-polyamory-bumble-a8294796.html(Article – Straight men need to stop using polyamory as an excuse to manipulate women into casual dating – Jasmine Andersson for The Independent)https://ifstudies.org/blog/is-monogamy-unnatural/(Article – Is monogamy unnatural? – Robert VerBruggen for Institute for Family Studies)https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/women-who-stray/201805/monogamy-and-violence(Article – Monogamy and violence – Would “enforced monogamy” reduced male violence? – David J. Ley Ph.D for Psychology Today)----------------------------------------Join Monah, Nushy Rose and Sophie Hannah, three smart, curious and opinionated highly-melanated women, as they discuss life, love and everything in between. No subject is off limits for these ladies, especially when it comes to issues affecting British communities of colour. So get ready to laugh, learn and liberate your mind, because if there's one thing you can guarantee, it's that the Ethnically Speaking ladies will be giving it to you straight. New episodes every Thursday.----------------------------------------Music by GC

The Atheist Community prides itself on a reliance on science so in true SecX tradition we made sure our scientist guest was also a pod *scratch that* porncaster. We’re joined by Scibabe and science journalist Yvette d'Entremont from Two Girls One Mic and anywhere junk science jumps onto the scene to sell you a supplement. Yvette writes and speaks on everything from genes and GMOs to sex and splenda and now joines the show to take your calls on the October 15th episode of Secular Sexuality. ►Find a Yvette’s science journalism and writing around the web at https://scibabe.com/ ►Get your sci-on and dive deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/scibabeThe Error Of 'Biological Sex' -https://www.vcatx.com/media/2019/5/12/the-error-of-biological-sex Talking To Parents About Transitioning | Dani-NM | Secular Sexuality 07.37 https://youtu.be/G4qIW5lilkw The Myth of Sex Addiction by David J. Ley

The Atheist Community prides itself on a reliance on science so in true SecX tradition we made sure our scientist guest was also a pod *scratch that* porncaster. We’re joined by Scibabe and science journalist Yvette d'Entremont from Two Girls One Mic and anywhere junk science jumps onto the scene to sell you a supplement. Yvette writes and speaks on everything from genes and GMOs to sex and splenda and now joines the show to take your calls on the October 15th episode of Secular Sexuality. ►Find a Yvette’s science journalism and writing around the web at https://scibabe.com/ ►Get your sci-on and dive deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/scibabeThe Error Of 'Biological Sex' -https://www.vcatx.com/media/2019/5/12/the-error-of-biological-sex Talking To Parents About Transitioning | Dani-NM | Secular Sexuality 07.37 https://youtu.be/G4qIW5lilkw The Myth of Sex Addiction by David J. Ley

In our very first episode, we interview world-renowned clinical psychologist and media sexpert, Dr. David J. Ley! Find out how the Dr. Phil show introduced David into the media world and how to talk to journalists as a sexuality professional. Then listen to a shocking story about discovering a fake necrophilia expert and some of the mistakes David has made in the media that has taught him how to navigate it all.

Dr. David J. Ley joins the conversation to unfold the controversy behind the Netflix film "Cuties." We dive into discussions surrounding Falwell Jr. and cuckoldry, sex and porn addiction, masturbation, and society's addiction to orgasmic outrage on all things sexual.This is for mature audiences.To learn more about Dr. Ley:https://www.davidleyphd.com/publicationshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/experts/david-j-ley-phd 

You may only know of cam girls because of internet pop-ups (we won’t tell) or bad jokes. Maybe you’ve always been curious but have held back because of money, exploitation or religious moralizing. Well it’s 2020, working from home has become the usual and our sex worker friends are way ahead of us. Enter Saint Eve, our friendly neighborhood atheist cam girl. While she walks Christy and Vi through cam customer etiquette we’ll be getting ready to take your calls. This is the Atheist Experience Network’s Secular Sexuality on July 2nd. ► Find our beloved Saint at https://saint_eve.cammodels.com/► Learn more by diving deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/sainteveRecommended reading from tonight’s episode-Transgender History (Seal Studies) by Susan Stryke (https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-History-Studies-Susan-Stryker/dp/158005224X) Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More by Janet Mock(https://www.amazon.com/Redefining-Realness-Path-Womanhood-Identity/dp/1476709130)Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women, and the Rest of Us by Kate Bornstein (https://www.amazon.com/Gender-Outlaw-Men-Women-Rest/dp/1101973242) Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man's Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure by David J. Ley(https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Porn-Dicks-Responsible-Pleasure/dp/0996485236)

You may only know of cam girls because of internet pop-ups (we won’t tell) or bad jokes. Maybe you’ve always been curious but have held back because of money, exploitation or religious moralizing. Well it’s 2020, working from home has become the usual and our sex worker friends are way ahead of us. Enter Saint Eve, our friendly neighborhood atheist cam girl. While she walks Christy and Vi through cam customer etiquette we’ll be getting ready to take your calls. This is the Atheist Experience Network’s Secular Sexuality on July 2nd. ► Find our beloved Saint at https://saint_eve.cammodels.com/► Learn more by diving deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/sainteveRecommended reading from tonight’s episode-Transgender History (Seal Studies) by Susan Stryke (https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-History-Studies-Susan-Stryker/dp/158005224X) Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More by Janet Mock(https://www.amazon.com/Redefining-Realness-Path-Womanhood-Identity/dp/1476709130)Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women, and the Rest of Us by Kate Bornstein (https://www.amazon.com/Gender-Outlaw-Men-Women-Rest/dp/1101973242) Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man's Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure by David J. Ley(https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Porn-Dicks-Responsible-Pleasure/dp/0996485236)

EPISODE THREE OF JACK MURPHY LIVE PORN, MASCULINITY, AND HEALTHY SEX NORMS About David J. Ley David J. Ley, Ph.D., is an internationally-recognized expert on issues related to sexuality, pornography and mental health. He has appeared on television with Anderson Cooper, Katie Couric, Dr. Phil and has been in publications ranging from the LA Times and the London Telegraph, to Playboy and HUSTLER magazines. Dr. Ley has published extensively in both the academic and “pop” realms of literature. His two books, The Myth of Sex Addiction (2012) and Insatiable Wives (2009) were revolutionary explorations of sexual issues which blended a powerful client-centered narrative with a rich understanding of psychology, biology, and sociology. His latest book, Ethical Porn for Dicks is available now on Amazon. Subjects we cover on the podcast: Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Masculine Identities - 15:00 Victim Culture Blank Slate Genetics and Behavior Porn and Masturbation - 30:00 Therapy for Men Abstinence only Sex Ed Feminist Alliance with far right Porn and Motivation Testosterone and Masturbation Positive Sex Norms Visualization and Fantasy Porn and Feminism Female Sex Cartel Marriage Therapy The 21 Convention Sexual Role Models Sex Fantasies by Political Party

Peter & Beau tackle the new article by David J. Ley Ph.D. Distress comes to many self diagnosed sex addicts who don't hold to there sexual standards. What we believe matters. Is Christianity to blame for such distress? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201801/compulsive-sexual-behavior-disorder-in-icd-11

  Sex Addiction isn't real. Sex is real. Porn is real. Some other words that are real include diversity, fetus, vulnerable, science-based, evidence-based, entitlement, and transgender. Yes, transgendered people are real. This week it seems the Trump administration decided that these seven words don’t exist and should not be used by the CDC. Whether or not this ban is real, political leaders have been doing this as long as we have had scientific research. Misinformation about reality, or the censoring of reality, can be harmful. Myths about sex can make it difficult for people to feel normal in their sexuality. If they are told that their biological urges are sinful or weird, they can feel a split between sex and themselves. They can see sex as something outside the normal human experience or even outside of their own control. If we as humans label something as uncontrollable, then we may fail to even try to have control over it. Sex addiction is not a real addiction listed in the most recent edition of the DSM, the bible of mental health diagnosis. These individual’s struggles are a failure of logic brought on by shameful views of their own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. People who self-label as sex addicts have the same amount of sex as people who do not. People who claim to have this addiction feel the need to hold themselves to a standard beyond the normal human condition. They feel amorous, they feel love, they feel horny, and yet they deny these feelings and push them down to hide and deny their own sexuality. They not only feel uncomfortable just talking about sex in a social setting, but can sometimes feel uncomfortable even discussing these topics with their sexual partners. They can literally be having sex with their partner and feel super uncomfortable just discussing birth control and condom usage. Our guest today is clinical psychologist Dr. David J. Ley, Ph.D. and the author of the books Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure, The Myth of Sex Addiction and Insatiable Wives. I also just found out he has a black belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. What the hell? That's awesome. To me, he sounds like the Jason Bourne of the clinical psychology world, saving people from myths and misinformation about sex and relationships. Our discussion with him covers the myths of sex addiction, porn, the CDC’s list of banned words, and so much more.   David J. Ley PhD (@DrDavidLey) on Twitter   About Us: Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. She is a published author, with her second book releasing in February. About Sex now livestreams episodes on Facebook a week before the podcast episodes come out. Check us out at our new YouTube Channel. // Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com // Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed., a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist at: www.therapistinstlouis.com Also, we have facebooks and twitters and all that stuff, but if you read this far i seriously doubt you have time to read any more. Facebook: Angela Skurtu LMFT, M. Ed, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist // Joshua Skurtu

I’m going to lay down some truth here, people. Listen closely, especially the fellas. In your life, you may find yourself in a position of power or in a situation where someone is vulnerable to your actions. When you find yourself in this position, it’s important that you remember to do one thing: Don’t rape people. I know it’s easy to forget. We live busy lives, working long hours, spending time with family, and wasting so much more time bingeing Netflix episodes of Stranger Things, or spending hours and hours refreshing our Facebook feeds, hoping to get ahold of some of those juicy thumbs up. Or is it up thumbs? But among this busy life, you must find it in you to push through those urges to rape, coerce, or exploit vulnerable individuals into sexual situations. The damage you can do to another individual in such a situation can be life altering. Recently, many prominent men in positions of celebrity or political power, including comedians such Louis C.K. and Al Franken, have been accused by large swathes of women of sexual misconduct and sexual assault. Just today, Al Franken announced his resignation from the Senate amid these sexual allegations. Come on, guys! It is important to know when you are in a position of power so that you may be more vigilant to not exploit that power. Many professions, such as prison guards, police, and medical professionals understand how much power they have over the individuals they work with and serve, and because of this knowledge they have codes of ethics and rules in their professions that give them guidelines on how NOT to exploit those individuals. Yes, we have to tell these professionals not to do it. We had to make it a rule for a reason. Comedians have very few rules of the trade and many comedians are notorious for being rulebreakers when it comes to drugs and other taboo topics, but on this topic, they need to stand up and find it in their hearts to not rape people. They also should probably not kill people as well. No one likes to die. Which brings us to this week’s main topic: Death! While we do talk about the sexual misconduct of celebrities this episode, the main topic is about death from a legal standpoint and estate planning. Our guest Martha Burhardt, a lawyer, not only explains what a trust is, but she also shares some insight on how she deals with the taboo topic of death with her clients.  Next week, Dr. David J. Ley Ph.D. will be joining us to discuss the myth of sex addiction and Ethical Porn for Dicks. We're pretty excited to have him join us. He is a clinical psychologist and has been featured on Dr. Phil As an aside, this is actually our sixtieth episode. We have been doing this podcast for over a year now. We have enjoyed having so many amazing guests and we look forward to having many more in the future. After next week's episode, we will be taking a break to rest and relax and enjoy the holidays. We hope to see you next week and again in the new year, 2018.   About Our Guest: Martha Burkhardt - Burkhardt Law Firm - www.burkhardtlaw.com/blog     Martha graduated from Dominican University and University of Missouri-Columbia School of Law. Post-graduation she proceeded to a positionwith Pension and Retirement Services. During that time she realized thatmany families and individuals need help understanding their estateplanning options and how they may impact the family’s future. Her goalhas become to fill the gap in knowledge that nearly all families findintimidating and confusing so that they may protect their future. About Us: Angela Skurtu is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AASECT certified sex therapist. She is a published author, with her second book releasing in February. About Sex now livestreams episodes on YouTube a week before the podcast episodes come out. If you just can't wait to listen, the livestream goes out a week before the podcast releases. Check us out at our new YouTube Channel. // Visit us at: www.aboutsexpodcast.com // Get marriage therapy and sex therapy in the St Louis area with Angela Skurtu LMFT M.Ed., a Licensed Marriage and Sex therapist at: www.therapistinstlouis.com Also, we have facebooks and twitters and all that stuff, but if you read this far i seriously doubt you have time to read any more. Facebook: Angela Skurtu LMFT, M. Ed, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist // Joshua Skurtu

Our media is filled with confusing, polarizing messages about the dangers of porn, while at the same time sexually explicit images are pronounced in advertising and entertainment. Using a natural question/answer format for people feeling fear and shame about porn use, this accessible, funny, and well-informed book is the first one to offer men a nonjudgmental way to discover how to view and use pornography responsibly.David J. Ley, PhD, is an internationally recognized expert on issues related to sexuality and mental health. He has authored two books, published in the Los Angeles Times and Playboy, and appeared on television with Anderson Cooper and Dr. Phil.

Your kids are going to want to know why people lie.  Maybe they'll want to know why YOU lie. You totally do, everyone does. In this episode, Ethan Millard and visiting co- host Rebecca Cressman of FM100.3 talk about why people lie, how people lie, and how to deal with it when your kids try it. Lying is something that happens across the animal kingdom. Wolves will conduct feints to mislead prey and killdeer will pretend to be injured to lure predators away from a vulnerable nest. Humans have a whole spectrum of deception. From the "little white lie" to exaggeration, bluffing, and others, we have lots of ways to manipulate information and belief to our advantage. There are a lot of reasons people lie. Often it's because people don't want to disappoint each other. But what do you do if someone, maybe your child, is lying and won't cop to it even when it's obvious? David J. Ley, PhD wrote in Psychology Today that sometimes a lie indicates an issue of critical importance to the person lying.  That may be the reason they won't let it go.  He recommends you start asking about why the issue is so important to them. Stuff Your Dad Knows is hosted by Ethan Millard. What do you do when your children hit you up with crazy questions? Do you know the answer? Do you just pretend? Kids are smart, so this podcast empowers parents to answer those tough questions and stay at the top of the family food chain. If you want to be more efficient, just listen to the podcast with your children present. Then you don't have to be the information middle man.  Family harmony is our goal! If you want to ask a question, use #stuffyourdadknows and Ethan will answer it for you! Follow him @EthanMillardKSL on Twitter.

This is a brief commentary of my conversation with Psychologist Dr. David J. Ley.

Comedian Rosie Tran (@FunnyRosie) interviews clinical psychologist, sex expert, and author, David Ley (@DrDavidLey) about sex addiction and human sexuality. David is the author of several books about human sexuality and has appeared on Dr. Phil, Anderson with Anderson Cooper, and The Today Show as a sexpert. This fun and funny interview focuses on sex as a self-expression as well as sex education and acceptance of one's self, desires, and preferences. Very positive and educational podcast! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/out-of-the-box-podcast/support

Ben Fraser refutes Dr. David J. Ley's claim that "the label of 'porn addict' causes depression, but porn watching doesn't." While shame is indeed an issue, the label isn't the problem, but in fact can be a solution. We're fundraising to make new episodes of the web series! $5 can help a lot! http://www.igg.me/at/brickhousetv Thanks for checking it out! The article by David Ley. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/women-who-stray/201509/your-belief-in-porn-addiction-makes-things-worse Appreciation: Chocolat movie (2000) http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0241303/ The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I'd love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Welcome to episode 316 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. David J. Ley to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss cuckolding, analyzing the misconceptions, the role that cuckold porn plays and, tips and suggestions on how you can explore cuckolding.  David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist and author, based in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He's the author of several books and research articles on sexuality, including his first book, Insatiable Wives, Women who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, which was the first book to examine the cuckolding and hotwife phenomenon.  With Justin Lehmiller and Dan Savage, he published the first psychological study of the cuckold fantasy. Dr. Ley is a frequent guest in media around the world, with appearances in the New York Times, CNN and Time Magazine, as well as Hustler and Playboy magazines.      In this episode, you will hear:   How David became interested in Cuckolding How is Cuckolding defined? The difference between Cuckolding and Hotwifing  Analyzing the misconceptions around Cuckolding  Looking at what makes up healthy sexuality  The role that masturbation plays in this issue Who initiates Cuckolding? How Cuckold porn is one of the most popular categories  Ways in which people are now rejecting shame How Cuckolding is losing its stigma  Tips and suggestions on how you can explore Cuckolding   Survey https://help373205.typeform.com/to/JaOWt8CM  Please take a few minutes to complete this survey to help us curate content that is relevant to your needs.  Emjoy  https://links.letsemjoy.com/ref/DRMOALI  Emjoy is a wellbeing audio app empowering women on their journey to sexual happiness with content that has been designed with licensed sex therapists, sex coaches and experts from various fields, such as mindfulness. Sexology listeners can use the app for 14 days free by using the link above.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy