Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

Key Points:Introduction to Brian Sloan and AutoblowBrian Sloan introduces himself as the creator of the Autoblow brand of male pleasure products. He discusses how he got into this industry, starting with selling latex fetishwear and then realizing there was a need for better male toys. He has been working on developing the Autoblow and VacuGlide products for over 16 years.Passion for Male PleasureBrian explains that his initial interest in this industry was more of a business decision, but over time he developed a genuine passion for helping men find pleasure and addressing the imbalance in the pleasure products industry being more focused on women. He believes men have different needs and desires that were not being met.Autoblow and VacuGlide Product DetailsBrian provides an overview of the Autoblow AI Ultra and VacuGlide products, including how they work, their key features, and the different use cases and target customers for each product. He discusses how the VacuGlide in particular caters to men who may have difficulty achieving or maintaining erections.Online Communities and Customer FeedbackBrian discusses the online communities that have formed around the Autoblow products, including an active subreddit where customers provide feedback and suggestions. He explains how this feedback has been valuable in improving the products over time.Concerns About AI-Powered Toys Brian shares his personal concerns about the potential risks of AI-powered toys, particularly the VR integration, and how the immersive experience could become addictive for some users. He believes there needs to be more awareness and education around the potential downsides of this technology.Balancing Risks and Benefits of Tech Cam and Brian have a thoughtful discussion about balancing the potential benefits of tech, like helping disabled users or providing educational/training tools, with the risks of addiction or unhealthy reliance. They explore ideas around data privacy, transparency, and empowering users to make informed choices.Closing Thoughts Brian acknowledges the validity of Cam's concerns about the potential risks of AI-powered toys, and says the industry needs to recognize and address these issues, even if they don't change their core business practices. Cam expresses excitement to see if and how the industry evolves in response to these emerging challenges.Relevant Links:Brian's Website: https://www.vieci.com/

Key Points: Introductions and Zari's backgroundZari introduces himself as an artist, illustrator, and traveler who is currently exploring the topic of authentic connection and pleasure. He shares his passion for travel, authentic connections, and finding new ways to cultivate presence and embodied experiences.Challenges with modern connection and performance Zari discusses the issues he sees with modern connection and intimacy, including the pressure to perform, the influence of social media and media portrayals, and the tendency to get caught up in playing roles rather than being authentic. He emphasizes the importance of slowing down, being curious, and focusing on the embodied experience rather than external expectations.Unpacking body image and performance anxiety Cam shares his observations about the body image and performance anxiety issues he sees in many of the men he works with, including comparing themselves to idealized male physiques on social media and in media, as well as anxiety around size and performance. They discuss how these pressures and scripts can lead men to develop unhealthy habits and get stuck in their heads during intimate experiences.Suggestions for more playful, embodied intimacy Zari and Cam discuss practical ways to create more playful, embodied, and pressure-free intimate experiences, such as sensual touch and exploration games, writing down fantasies, and being creative and spontaneous in the moment when things don't go as planned. They emphasize the importance of communication, vulnerability, and a willingness to experiment and learn together.Zari's upcoming book "Play With Me" Zari shares details about his upcoming book "Play With Me", which will be a visually-rich, illustrated guide to intimate games and practices. He discusses his goal of creating a movement and community around this work, and invites Cam to support the Kickstarter campaign launching next week.Relevant Links: Zari's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zari.plays/Zari's Twitter: https://x.com/ZariPlays

Key Points:Defining love and its many facetsTriss and Cam discuss the concept of love, its various meanings and expressions, and how it can be experienced on emotional, physical, and spiritual levels. They explore the limitations of language in capturing the full essence of love, and the importance of acknowledging the diversity of love's manifestations.Navigating masculinity and gender normsCam shares his personal experiences and reflections on the societal narratives and prescriptive ideas around masculinity, and how they can create barriers for men to engage in self-love, intimacy, and vulnerability. They discuss the polarizing rhetoric from some masculinity influencers and the need to move beyond rigid definitions of what it means to be a "real man."Embodying love and connectionTriss explains his approach to facilitating workshops and retreats focused on cultivating self-love, interpersonal connection, and a deeper understanding of one's authentic self, beyond societal labels and expectations. He emphasizes the importance of engaging the whole being - mind, body, emotions, and spirit - in this transformative process.Navigating uncertainty and the liminal spaceCam shares his personal experience of feeling caught in a liminal space, where he doesn't fully identify with traditional labels like "heterosexual" or "queer," and the challenges and fears that can arise from this ambiguity. Triss offers insights on embracing the unknown, integrating shadows, and finding freedom in the space beyond rigid definitions.Closing thoughts and next stepsTriss shares his passion for working with men who are on the cusp of deeper self-discovery and a more expansive understanding of love, connection, and purpose. He invites Cam and the listeners to explore the resources and opportunities available to continue this important exploration and personal growth.Relevant links:Triss' website: https://trisstashi.com/

Key Points:Mish's Background and Book Overview - 60-something prostate cancer survivor, now 5 years cancer-free - Moved from South Africa to Canada, shifted focus from cancer to broader men's health - Book "Beyond Erections" (originally titled "Softcock ") fills gap in resources on enjoying without erections - Draws from personal experience, prostate cancer support group, and interviews with diverse individuals/couplesMental and Emotional Aspects - Acknowledging loss and grief around erectile changes is important - Reframing expectations and embracing body changes takes time - Withdrawal is common but not a good long-term strategy - Challenging cultural myths about "fixing" everything medicallyPhysical Exploration and Pleasure - Shifting focus from just genitals to whole-body pleasure - Slowing down, using light touch, exploring non-genital erogenous zones - Developing interoception (awareness of internal body sensations) - Adapting to changes in arousal patterns and redefining "finishing"Energy and Connection Beyond Physical - Cultivating awareness of subtle energy exchanges between partners - Visualizing energy circuits in the body during intimate touch - Allowing pleasure to spread and "store" throughout the body - Developing practices to circulate energy solo or with a partnerCommunication and Presence - Importance of clear, ongoing communication about desires and boundaries - Developing presence to notice subtle shifts in arousal/energy - Being comfortable with different needs/desires between partners - Taking responsibility for one's own pleasure while respecting partner's wishesNext Steps - Readers can purchase "Beyond Erections" on Amazon or through beyonderections.com - Cam to potentially visit Passion Fruit shop in Melbourne to support local retailer - Mish and Cam open to future podcast conversations on related topicsRelevant Links:Mish's Twitter: @RecoveringMan1Mish's website: www.recoveringman.net

Key Points:Aasha's background and passions Aasha introduced herself as a certified emotional intelligence expert, shamanic practitioner, hypnotherapist, and CEO of a tech startup. She is passionate about helping people ignite their souls and authenticity, and stop hiding who they are. Aasha shared her personal journey of overcoming health challenges and trauma to find self-acceptance and empowerment.Emotional resilience and leadershipAasha discussed her approach to emotional resilience, emphasizing the importance of feeling emotions deeply without abandoning one's post as a leader. She shared insights from losing her home in the Pacific Palisades fire, and how it taught her the difference between "strong" and "resilient" leadership. Aasha believes resilience involves empathy, self-empathy, and transmuting emotions into personal power.Privilege, shame, and receivingCam and Aasha explored the nuances of emotional resilience and how access to resources and support can impact one's ability to process grief and loss. They discussed the tendency for people, especially those with privilege, to feel guilty or ashamed for struggling emotionally. Aasha and Cam agreed that the ability to receive - whether feedback, love, or pleasure - is a universal challenge that both men and women face.Feminine leadership and embodiment Aasha described her experience of embodying a more feminine style of leadership after losing her home a second time. This involved being more authentic, vulnerable, and empathetic in her approach, while still maintaining a strong sense of purpose and authority. Aasha believes this blend of feminine and masculine energy is essential for effective and resilient leadership.Closing thoughts and resources Aasha shared information about how to connect with her on social media and access her work, which focuses on topics like feminine embodiment, emotional intelligence, and self-worth. She emphasized the importance of embracing one's authentic expression and magnetizing what one desires, while also having fun and not hiding.Relevant Links: Aasha LaCount website: https://www.beyondeqinternational.com/

Key points:Milla's background and passion for condom educationMilla Impola is the Marketing Director at Global Protection, the parent company of One Condoms. She is passionate about condom education and has a background in peer health counseling and working in the LGBTQ+ health space. She is particularly interested in addressing the shortcomings of abstinence-only education.Condom sizing and the importance of fitMilla explains that One Condoms offers 52 different condom sizes to accommodate a wide range of anatomical differences. She emphasizes the importance of proper fit to ensure comfort and effectiveness, and discusses the challenges of overcoming the historical regulatory barriers to offering more size options. Milla also shares insights on how to properly measure length and girth for condom sizing.Innovations in condom materials and designMilla discusses One Condoms' use of innovative materials like graphene to create thinner, more sensitive condoms. She also talks about their "Flex" condom line and the company's efforts to make condoms more comfortable and pleasurable to use.Promoting condom usage through creative campaignsMilla describes One Condoms' various initiatives to raise awareness and normalize conversations around condoms, such as condom wrapper design contests, condom fashion shows, and partnerships with musicians and artists. She emphasizes the importance of making condom discussions fun and engaging.Addressing the needs of the LGBTQ+ communityMilla discusses One Condoms' efforts to get their products approved for use, including working with Emory University on a study to demonstrate the safety and efficacy of their condoms for this purpose. She also talks about their "Butt Stuff Approved" campaign and the importance of normalizing condom use for all activities.Conclusion and next stepsMilla and Cam wrap up the conversation, discussing opportunities for further collaboration and Cam's interest in trying out some of One Condoms' products. Milla encourages Cam to reach out if he or his audience are interested in participating in future product testing or research initiatives.Relevant links:ONE® Condoms website: https://au.onecondoms.com/

Key Points:Toby's background and journey to coaching Toby shares his background, including being an open intersex person, his diagnosis with Kleinfelter's syndrome, and his transition into the coaching and counseling space. He discusses how his own self-discovery and openness about his identity led him to want to support others in similar ways.Toby's philosophy on self-love and whole-person approach Toby explains his holistic, "whole person" approach to coaching, emphasizing the importance of self-love, self-acceptance, and changing one's internal narrative as the foundation for growth and fulfillment. He uses the analogy of a pilot light to describe the importance of cultivating an intrinsic sense of self-love.Societal barriers to self-love and the impact on menToby and Cam discuss how Western capitalist society often encourages external validation and a lack of self-love, and how this can manifest in unhealthy behaviors, particularly for men. They explore the changing cultural narratives around masculinity and the need for men to embrace vulnerability and emotional intelligence.Practical steps for cultivating self-love Toby outlines specific practices he uses with clients to help them become aware of negative thought patterns, decouple their identity from those thoughts, and replace them with positive affirmations. He emphasizes the importance of daily practice and support during this process.The relationship between self-love and the bodyToby and Cam discuss the connection between self-love and body acceptance, noting how the relationship with one's physical self is a reflection of the internal landscape. They explore how self-love practices can help individuals develop a more positive, pleasure-focused relationship with their bodies.Recap and next stepsToby summarizes the key points of their discussion, emphasizing that self-love is the foundation that allows other self-care and self-loving activities to be truly nourishing and impactful. He expresses excitement about continuing his coaching work and supporting more people in reaching their potential.Relevant links:Toby Whittington's website: https://www.whole-person-relationships.com/

Key points:Toby's background and journey to coachingToby shares his background, including being an open intersex person, his diagnosis with Kleinfelter's syndrome, and his transition into the coaching and counseling space. He discusses how his own self-discovery and openness about his identity led him to want to support others in similar ways.Toby's philosophy on self-love and whole-person approachToby explains his holistic, "whole person" approach to coaching, emphasizing the importance of self-love, self-acceptance, and changing one's internal narrative as the foundation for growth and fulfillment. He uses the analogy of a pilot light to describe the importance of cultivating an intrinsic sense of self-love.Societal barriers to self-love and the impact on menToby and Cam discuss how Western capitalist society often encourages external validation and a lack of self-love, and how this can manifest in unhealthy behaviors, particularly for men. They explore the changing cultural narratives around masculinity and the need for men to embrace vulnerability and emotional intelligence.Practical steps for cultivating self-loveToby outlines specific practices he uses with clients to help them become aware of negative thought patterns, decouple their identity from those thoughts, and replace them with positive affirmations. He emphasizes the importance of daily practice and support during this process.The relationship between self-love and the bodyToby and Cam discuss the connection between self-love and body acceptance, noting how the relationship with one's physical self is a reflection of the internal landscape. They explore how self-love practices can help individuals develop a more positive, pleasure-focused relationship with their bodies.Recap and next stepsToby summarizes the key points of their discussion, emphasizing that self-love is the foundation that allows other self-care and self-loving activities to be truly nourishing and impactful. He expresses excitement about continuing his coaching work and supporting more people in reaching their potential.Relevant links: https://whole-person-relationships.com/

Key points:Victoria's background and passionVictoria Cullen runs an online resource called "A Touchy Subject" that helps men who have had prostate cancer treatment to thrive. She is passionate about supporting men's mental health and wellbeing, as the suicide rate for men with prostate cancer is 70% higher than the general male population.Challenges men face after prostate cancer treatmentMen often struggle with the side effects of prostate cancer treatment, such as incontinence, erectile dysfunction, and penile shortening. This can lead to feelings of hopelessness and a sense of their quality of life being permanently diminished, which negatively impacts their mental health.Limitations of a narrow medical approachThe medical approach to treating erectile dysfunction often focuses narrowly on prescribing medications like , without considering the psychological, emotional, and relational aspects of male . This can leave men feeling broken and unsupported.Educating and empowering menVictoria's approach involves a comprehensive rehabilitation program that starts with education, then explores a variety of strategies and tools, such as vacuum devices, pelvic floor exercises, and pleasure-focused techniques. The goal is to help men regain a sense of agency and control over their health.Incorporating partners and eroticizing the processVictoria encourages men to involve their partners in the rehabilitation process, and to find ways to eroticize the use of devices and tools. This helps reduce shame and reframe the experience as an opportunity for playful discovery and intimacy.Recap and resourcesVictoria summarizes the key points of the discussion and encourages listeners to reach out to her if they have any questions or need support. She also mentions some additional resources, such as expert webinars and a private membership community.Relevant links:Victoria's website: https://atouchysubject.com/

Key points:Aasha's background and passionsAasha introduced herself as a certified emotional intelligence expert, shamanic practitioner, hypnotherapist, and CEO of a tech startup. She is passionate about helping people ignite their souls and authenticity, and stop hiding who they are. Aasha shared her personal journey of overcoming health challenges and trauma to find self-acceptance and empowerment.Emotional resilience and leadershipAasha discussed her approach to emotional resilience, emphasizing the importance of feeling emotions deeply without abandoning one's post as a leader. She shared insights from losing her home in the Pacific Palisades fire, and how it taught her the difference between "strong" and "resilient" leadership. Aasha believes resilience involves empathy, self-empathy, and transmuting emotions into personal power.Privilege, shame, and receivingCam and Aasha explored the nuances of emotional resilience and how access to resources and support can impact one's ability to process grief and loss. They discussed the tendency for people, especially those with privilege, to feel guilty or ashamed for struggling emotionally. Aasha and Cam agreed that the ability to receive - whether feedback, love, or pleasure - is a universal challenge that both men and women face.Feminine leadership and embodimentAasha described her experience of embodying a more feminine style of leadership after losing her home a second time. This involved being more authentic, vulnerable, and empathetic in her approach, while still maintaining a strong sense of purpose and authority. Aasha believes this blend of feminine and masculine energy is essential for effective and resilient leadership.Closing thoughts and resourcesAasha shared information about how to connect with her on social media and access her work, which focuses on topics like feminine embodiment, emotional intelligence, and self-worth. She emphasized the importance of embracing one's authentic expression and magnetizing what one desires, while also having fun and not hiding.Relevant links:Aasha's website: https://beyondeqinternational.com/

Key Points:Johnny Cole's background and passion for men's work Johnny Cole shares his personal story and explains how his father's traumatic military experiences and rigid views on masculinity deeply impacted his own upbringing and understanding of manhood. This led him to discover the field of men's work and start his organization Hey Brother Co. to help men and boys unlearn harmful patriarchal messaging and redefine masculinity on their own terms.The power of vulnerability and emotional leadershipCam shares his own experiences with rigid masculinity norms growing up, and how he has seen the transformative impact of adult men modeling vulnerability and emotional openness, especially in working with young people. Johnny emphasizes the importance of men being brave enough to have uncomfortable but necessary conversations to drive positive change.Deconstructing the "man box" and challenging gender norms Johnny and Cam discuss the concept of the "man box" - the rigid societal expectations and pressures around masculinity that stifle boys and men. They share examples of how they've seen young people have powerful realizations about how these norms have impacted them and their relationships.The role of sports and media in shaping masculinity Cam notes how sports have often provided a socially acceptable outlet for young men to express intimacy and emotion. They also discuss how media portrayals of relationships and can give young people skewed and unhealthy messages about masculinity and intimacy.The importance of platonic male intimacy and affection Johnny emphasizes the devastating impact of boys being discouraged from physical affection and emotional vulnerability from a young age. He argues this leads many men to conflate all intimacy with , contributing to issues like erectile dysfunction and unhealthy relationships.Embracing boyhood and avoiding the rush to manhood Johnny passionately argues against the tendency to vilify boyhood and pressure boys to rapidly transition into a rigid, prescriptive version of manhood. He believes this contributes to many social issues, and advocates for allowing boys to simply be boys without shame or judgment.Relevant Links:Johnny Cole's website: https://www.heybrotherco.com/

Key Points:Exploring identity and authenticity Ann and Cam discuss the importance of understanding and embracing one's authentic identity, whether related to gender, , spirituality, or other aspects of the self. They emphasize the need to move beyond prescriptive societal norms and labels, and instead focus on self-discovery and self-acceptance.Unpacking religious trauma and shameAnn explains her work helping clients who have experienced religious trauma, particularly from high-control religious groups. She discusses how this can lead to anxiety, depression, and shame around and relationships. Cam shares his own experiences with Buddhist monasticism and the control and shame he witnessed.Navigating masculinity and gender expression Cam and Ann explore the complexities of masculinity, including societal pressures and expectations. They discuss the importance of allowing men to define masculinity for themselves, rather than prescribing a singular version. They also address the stigma and fear around exploring different aspects of gender and .Challenging assumptions and biases Ann and Cam emphasize the need to examine one's own assumptions and biases, particularly around identity, , and spirituality. They encourage listeners to approach these topics with curiosity, empathy, and a willingness to learn and grow, rather than judgment or defensiveness.Closing and resources Ann provides information about her therapy practice and upcoming book, and invites listeners to reach out if they would like to continue the conversation. Cam and Ann emphasize the importance of seeking support from professionals who specialize in these areas.Relevant links: Ann Russo's website: https://www.amrtherapy.com/about-us/#about-us

Key Points:Introductions and PassionsCam asks Justin to introduce himself, share what he does, and discuss his passions. Justin describes his journey of shedding societal programming to embrace radical authenticity, including his work as a certified nutritional therapist and influencer. He is passionate about human biology, communication, healing trauma through intimacy, and exploring the limits of human potential.Letting Go of Societal Narratives Justin shares how he had to let go of the societal narrative that being an exceptional musician would lead to love and validation. He describes his 15-year music career, which left him feeling empty and disconnected, leading him to seek therapy and unpack his lack of true intimacy.Reclaiming Authentic Self After leaving the music industry, Justin embarked on a journey of self-discovery to figure out who he truly is beyond the performer persona. This involved stripping away external validation and reconnecting with his passions like martial arts and fitness, but without the need to prove himself.Emotional Expression and Vulnerability Justin discusses his current approach to music and martial arts, focusing on doing them for the joy and experience rather than external validation. He emphasizes the importance of being able to express emotions without judgment or the need to perform.Masculine vs. Feminine Energy Cam and Justin explore the concepts of "king" and "prince" energy, with the king being secure in himself and able to vulnerably express emotions, while the prince seeks external validation. They discuss strategies for men to lean into emotional expression and self-care.Navigating Conflict and RelationshipsJustin and Cam discuss how even those in a "king" state can still slip back into "prince" behaviors, especially during times of stress. They emphasize the importance of quick apologies, taking responsibility, and creating safety and unconditional love in relationships.Unconditional Love vs. Commitment Justin emphasizes that unconditional love does not mean unconditional commitment. He advises that people should be willing to walk away from relationships that are not safe or serving them, while still holding love and compassion for those individuals.Relevant Links:IG: https://www.instagram.com/justinnaultofficial

Key Points:Introductions and backgroundLaura introduces herself as a psychologist and sexologist who works at the intersection of mental health and relationships. She shares her passion for art, the outdoors, and living near the ocean. Cam and Laura also discuss their astrological signs and the esoteric symbolism of water.The importance of communication in relationshipsCam and Laura discuss the importance of communication in relationships, especially when it comes to topics like desire and satisfaction. They note that while communication is often cited as important, people often struggle with how to actually have those conversations.Defining and distinguishing communicationLaura explains that communication refers to the verbal and non-verbal ways partners communicate about their preferences, desires, fantasies, and limits. She distinguishes this from general relationship communication, noting that communication is often seen as a "black spot" that is avoided or not handled well.The challenges and risks of communication Laura discusses why communication is particularly high-stakes and fraught for many people. Factors include the potential for rejection, shame, and vulnerability, as well as a lack of skills and comfort with the topic.Strategies for effective communicationCam and Laura explore ways to make communication more approachable, such as having smaller, more casual conversations rather than big "sit-down" talks. They also emphasize the importance of focusing on feelings and experiences rather than just acts.The role of non-verbal communicationLaura and Cam discuss the many ways non-verbal cues like body language, tone of voice, and physical touch can communicate desire, consent, and interest. They highlight the value of observing these cues both in and out of the bedroom.Using third-party tools to facilitate communicationCam and Laura share ideas for using activities, games, and other resources as a "third party" to help initiate and guide communication in a more playful, low-stakes way. This can help build curiosity and connection.Recap and key takeawaysIn closing, Laura emphasizes that effective communication has a protective function, helping maintain desire and satisfaction in a relationship. She encourages listeners to embrace the awkwardness and invest in developing these communication skills.Relevant links:Laura Lee's Website: www.lauralee.com.au

Key Points:George's background and servicesGeorge introduces himself as a 52-year-old male escort who provides a "sensual and caring" connection for women, often those who have not had intimacy for a long time. He explains that his services go beyond just physical intimacy, and that he aims to provide tenderness, affection, and a safe space for his clients.Addressing the loneliness epidemic Cam notes that George's services seem to address a significant need, as many women experience loneliness, especially those living alone. George agrees, stating that his clients often crave basic human touch and connection that they are missing in their daily lives.Debunking misconceptions about escort workCam acknowledges that there are many misconceptions about what escort work entails, with the assumption that it is purely transactional. George emphasizes that for him, the emotional and companionship aspects are far more important than the physical, and that he aims to provide a truly caring and nurturing experience for his clients.Navigating boundaries and authenticityGeorge discusses how he maintains boundaries and authenticity in his work, noting that while he uses a pseudonym, he is largely the same person in his personal life as he is with clients. He explains the importance of understanding each client's needs and desires in order to provide the best possible experience.Destigmatizing women seeking male escort services George believes that the key to destigmatizing women seeking male escort services is for women to feel empowered to acknowledge and embrace their desires, without shame or judgment. He advocates for more open and honest conversations around intimacy and human connection.Closing thoughts on kindness and curiosityIn closing, George emphasizes the importance of being kind, curious, and attentive in relationships, both personal and professional. He believes that these qualities are the foundation for meaningful connections and fulfilling experiences.Relevant linksGeorge Goulburn's Website:https://www.georgegoulburn.com/

Key Points:Dr. Frankie's background and passionDr. Frankie introduced herself as a clinical psychologist, board-certified therapist, and the CEO and founder of Little Gay Book and Little Black Book matchmaking services. She shared that her passion is helping people have healthier, happier relationships with themselves and others, and being a conduit to bring people together.Challenges with dating appsDr. Frankie discussed common themes she sees with her clients using dating apps, including feeling stuck in a "hamster wheel" of swiping without making real connections, misrepresenting themselves to appear a certain way, and experiencing disappointment when dates don't match their online profiles. She emphasized the importance of authenticity and setting boundaries when using dating apps.Navigating dating app dynamicsDr. Frankie and Cam discussed strategies for using dating apps more effectively, such as setting time limits, doing video calls before in-person dates, and moving quickly to meet up rather than prolonging messaging. They also explored the psychology behind the addictive nature of dating apps and the need to be mindful of how they are designed to keep users engaged.Advice for in-person datingCam and Dr. Frankie provided advice for meeting people in person, including the benefits of doing activities you already enjoy, giving thoughtful compliments, and having an "exit strategy" to gracefully end conversations. They also discussed navigating the transition from a romantic connection to a platonic friendship.Recap and closing thoughtsDr. Frankie expressed appreciation for Cam's work and the practical, real-life dating advice they discussed. She encouraged people to get out there and make in-person connections, despite any fears or self-consciousness, as most people are hungry for that type of human interaction.Relevant links:Dr. Frankie's website: https://www.littleblackbookmatchmaking.com

On this episode of Men, Sex & Pleasure, I chat with Tim Fisk from Complete Men. If you're interested in supporting our men's mental health initiative Men, Mates and Mentors, check out the following links: Website | Feb 24 Showcase | March 22 Event Key points: Tim's background and passion for men's work Tim introduces himself as a 66-year-old man living on the Gold Coast, and shares how he became involved in the Complete Man Foundation and the Rights of Passage program, which focuses on supporting teenage boys and their families through rites of passage experiences. Tim is passionate about this work as it allows him to heal his own younger self and model healthy masculine behaviors. The value of rites of passage and community support Tim explains how the rites of passage program takes fathers and sons into the bush for several days, removing them from everyday distractions. This immersive experience allows the boys and fathers to bond, communicate openly, and learn from each other. The program also includes ongoing community support and check-ins after the retreat, which Tim sees as crucial for helping the participants integrate the insights and changes from the experience. Tim's personal journey and the importance of men's groups Tim shares his own struggles with suicidal thoughts and the importance of being able to open up and share vulnerably in men's groups. He contrasts this with unhelpful responses he received when reaching out for help in the past. Tim emphasizes the value of men's groups in providing a sense of belonging, lifelong friendships, and tools for personal growth and healing. The Men, Mates and Mentors initiative Tim discusses the upcoming Men, Mates and Mentors event, which aims to introduce men to various men's support organizations and programs in the local community. The goal is to provide men with exposure to different approaches to personal development and growth, while also ensuring they know where to turn if they need support in the future, even if they don't engage right away. Closing thoughts and next steps Tim and Cam wrap up the conversation, with Tim inviting Cam to volunteer with the rites of passage program. They discuss the vision for expanding the Men's Mates and Mentors initiative to other communities beyond the Gold Coast.

From episode #84 with Andrew Gurza. More from that episode: - Andrew introduces himself - Ableism and creating spaces for learning - The sexual stigma of disability - Disability representation in porn - Considerations for sex with a disabled person - The depth of “yes” - Andrew's relationship with care - Using social media to raise awareness - Playing with identity, femininity and masculinity - Assumptions about people with a disability

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Milla Impola. Milla is a Senior Size Specialist at Global Protection. She excels in educating about sexual health and promoting body positivity. Milla's work with the FDA approval for anal-safe condoms, which was featured in The New York Times, highlights her knack for bringing significant changes to public health conversations. Key points: Milla's background and passion for condom education Milla Impola is the Marketing Director at Global Protection, the parent company of One Condoms. She is passionate about condom education and has a background in peer health counseling and working in the LGBTQ+ health space. She is particularly interested in addressing the shortcomings of abstinence-only  education. Condom sizing and the importance of fit Milla explains that One Condoms offers 52 different condom sizes to accommodate a wide range of anatomical differences. She emphasizes the importance of proper fit to ensure comfort and effectiveness, and discusses the challenges of overcoming the historical regulatory barriers to offering more size options. Milla also shares insights on how to properly measure length and girth for condom sizing. Innovations in condom materials and design Milla discusses One Condoms' use of innovative materials like graphene to create thinner, more sensitive condoms. She also talks about their "Flex" condom line and the company's efforts to make condoms more comfortable and pleasurable to use. Promoting condom usage through creative campaigns Milla describes One Condoms' various initiatives to raise awareness and normalize conversations around condoms, such as condom wrapper design contests, condom fashion shows, and partnerships with musicians and artists. She emphasizes the importance of making condom discussions fun and engaging. Addressing the needs of the LGBTQ+ community Milla discusses One Condoms' efforts to get their products approved for  use, including working with Emory University on a study to demonstrate the safety and efficacy of their condoms for this purpose. She also talks about their "Butt Stuff Approved" campaign and the importance of normalizing condom use for all  activities. Conclusion and next steps Milla and Cam wrap up the conversation, discussing opportunities for further collaboration and Cam's interest in trying out some of One Condoms' products. Milla encourages Cam to reach out if he or his audience are interested in participating in future product testing or research initiatives. Relevant links: ONE Condoms website: https://au.onecondoms.com/ 

From episode #84 with Tim Lagman. More from that episode: - Tim shares about his escorting journey - From escort to sex educator - Masturbation vs Self-Pleasure - Multi-orgasmic experiences - Anal play, rimming and personal hygiene - Edging techniques and strategies - Stereotypes about Asian men - The intersection of being Asian and gay

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Avalon Lust, the provocative name behind scorching hot erotica that ignites passion and desire. With a focus on short, tantalizing reads, Lust's stories are crafted to arouse and captivate, perfect for those seeking to spice up their intimate moments. But beware, these tales come with a trigger warning, ensuring readers are prepared for the steamy journey ahead. So, whether you're indulging alone or with a partner, dive into Lust's world and let your imagination run wild. Key points: Avalon's background and writing journey Avalon introduces herself as an erotica writer who started writing after the pandemic, shifting from longer romance novels to shorter, more direct erotica. She discusses how her husband's frequent travel led her to seek out erotica over romance novels, as the erotica could be read when he was home. Avalon also shares that she draws inspiration from her own experiences, conversations with friends, and research to craft her stories. Exploring themes and characters in Avalon's erotica Avalon explains that her erotica primarily explores women's fantasies, though she has a sizable male readership as well. She covers a range of themes including group dynamics, role play, and elements of dominance. Avalon also discusses how she approaches describing physical attributes and intimate scenes, balancing realism with idealization. The benefits of reading erotica Avalon shares how reading and writing erotica has helped reignite the romance and intimacy in her own marriage. She also discusses the positive feedback she has received from readers, including one review where a husband thanked her for a "wonderful night" after his wife read her work. Avalon's writing process and future plans Avalon describes her current writing projects, including a holiday-themed anthology she is working on. She discusses the occasional writer's block she faces and how she overcomes it by stepping away from a project for a while. Avalon expresses a desire to be able to support herself financially through her erotica writing, though she sees it primarily as a passion project. Recap and closing thoughts Avalon and Cam discuss the benefits of reading erotica together as a couple, using it as a way to open up conversations about desires and fantasies. Avalon shares that her husband does read her completed works, providing support for her writing. Cam emphasizes the value of erotica as a creative outlet, especially for men exploring and expressing their . Relevant links: Avalon's latest book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D9KRGKW9

From episode #83 with Luna Agneya. More from that episode: - Luna shares some of her story - Integrating spirituality and sexuality - Strategies for beginning shadow work - Cultural vs personal shadows - Integrating your shadow - Generational trauma - Shadow aspects of pornography - Advice for people interested in shadow work

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jenna Switzer. Jenna is a Holistic Sex Coach who helps you rediscover intimacy, playfulness, and sensuality in long-term relationships. With a unique blend of science, energetic practices, and real-life advice, she makes connection more fun and exciting. Jenna's approach empowers couples to embrace deeper intimacy and rekindle passion in ways that feel authentic and enjoyable, both in and out of the bedroom. When she's not supporting her clients, you'll find her cuddling her Frenchie or chasing her next outdoor adventure. Key points: Introductions and background Cam and Jenna introduce themselves and discuss their backgrounds. Jenna shares that she is a holistic coach focused on integrating all aspects of a person's life, not just intimate moments. Cam emphasizes the importance of curiosity as a foundation for his work. Clients and common themes Jenna explains that many of her clients struggle with a disconnect or shame around their pelvic/genital area, often stemming from trauma or conservative upbringings. Cam shares his dislike of the term "dysfunction" and preference for more nuanced language around experiences. Reframing pleasure and intimacy Cam and Jenna discuss the need to broaden the definition of pleasure beyond just /genital experiences. They emphasize the importance of curiosity, presence, and exploring the whole body rather than just focusing on performance or outcomes. Practical strategies Jenna shares a practice of creating a "non-sexual pleasures" list to help clients become more aware of and intentional about experiencing pleasure in daily life. Cam describes a "pleasure mapping" exercise to help clients explore sensations across their entire body. Closing and resources Jenna shares information about her online community "Behind Closed Doors" and a free downloadable resource on her website called "Simple Pleasures." Cam and Jenna express their shared passion for helping people live more pleasurable lives. Relevant links: Jenna's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenna_switzer/ Jenna's website: https://www.jennaswitzer.com/

From episode #82 with Lana Jade. More from that episode: - Lana shares about her experience in the adult industry - Integrating other modalities - Emotional burnout and compassion fatigue - Mentoring others in the industry - Stigmatization from the Sacred Sexuality community - “Real” women vs adult performers - Only Fans, camming, and authenticity - Male clients, pleasure, and communication - Advice for potential clients

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Matt Musgrave. Matt is the Principal Counsellor & Founder of Strong Space Counselling, an online group counselling practice specialising in supporting the mental health of men and fathers. With nearly a decade of experience in community services, including work as a probation and parole officer and facilitating men's behavior change programs for those who used violence and coercive control in relationships, Matt brings a wealth of expertise and a unique perspective to his clinical practice. He is IFS (Internal Family Systems) Level 1 trained, feminist-informed, and gender-affirming, offering a deeply compassionate and inclusive approach to counselling. Matt empowers men to lead healthier, more authentic lives by fostering self-awareness and self-compassion as the primary foundations of his therapeutic methodology. Key points: Matt's background and expertise Matt introduces himself as a men's mental health counselor running an online private practice in Australia. He has a background in history, domestic family violence, men's behavior change, probation/parole, and criminology. His main passions are working with men on trauma healing and supporting fathers/new dads. Navigating masculinity in male-dominated environments Matt reflects on the "hyper-masculine" cultures he experienced growing up and in his previous roles, where there was an "absence of alternative" expressions of masculinity. He describes the challenges of questioning and challenging these norms, and how he was often "bullied or pushed back into the box" of traditional stereotypes. Anger as a common emotion for men Matt observes that anger is a very accessible emotion for many of the men he works with, often used as a way to feel "in control" and "empowered" when dealing with hurt or trauma. He emphasizes the importance of creating space for men to fully experience and process their anger, rather than just trying to down-regulate it. Navigating the landscape of men's mental health support Matt shares his perspective on the challenges of advocating for more funding and resources for men's mental health, noting the complexities of comparing it to support for women. He expresses concerns about approaches that perpetuate rigid gender norms, and emphasizes the importance of creating spaces that allow men to explore masculinity in a more open and authentic way. Gendered approaches in therapy Matt explains that he takes a gender-affirming approach when working with men, drawing on his own experiences and training to better empathize with and support the unique challenges men face. He notes the importance of his team also doing their own personal work to show up in a more connected and compassionate way. Relevant links: Matt's Instagram: @strongspacecounselling

From episode #81 with Jazmin Wu. More from that episode: - Jazmin shares about her journey with BDSM - The spectrum of kink - Holding space for submissives - The submissive mentality - Letting go of performance anxiety - Reframing sexual validation - Sexual symbols and rituals - Boundaries, exploration, and safewords - Sub-space and trance states

On this episode, I chat with Ari Tuckman, PsyD. Ari is a psychologist, international presenter, author, and ADHD thought leader. He has given more than 650 presentations and podcast interviews and routinely earns excellent reviews for his ability to make complicated information understandable and useful. He is the author of four books, including his most recent, “ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship”, "Understand Your Brain, Get More Done”, “More Attention, Less Deficit” and “Integrative Treatment for Adult ADHD”. He is a co-chair of CHADD's conference committee and was awarded the 2023 Hall of Fame award for his significant contributions to the field. He is in private practice in West Chester, PA. Key points Ari's background and focus on ADHD in relationships Ari Tuckman is a psychologist who has specialized in ADHD, particularly in adults, for over 25 years. He has become increasingly interested in the impact of ADHD on relationships and couples, as he felt this was an important but under-discussed aspect of the condition. Prevalence and diagnosis of ADHD Ari discusses the prevalence of ADHD, noting that it affects around 4-5% of adults. He explains that ADHD is often underdiagnosed in adults, as clinicians tend to focus more on identifying it in children. Ari also notes that there can be a "two-for-one" diagnosis, where a child's ADHD diagnosis leads a parent to realize they also have the condition. Differences in ADHD symptoms between genders Ari explains that the core ADHD symptoms are similar across genders, but the way ADHD manifests can differ due to societal expectations and gender roles. Women and girls may be more inclined to try to hide or compensate for their ADHD symptoms, while boys and men may have more "permission" to be openly disruptive. Levels of ADHD severity and associated factors Ari discusses how ADHD can vary in severity, and how other factors like anxiety, depression, substance use, and personal strengths/protective factors can impact the experience of ADHD. He notes that ADHD is not a one-size-fits-all condition. ADHD and occupational/recreational interests Ari shares that while there are some common occupational and recreational interests associated with ADHD (like sales), people with ADHD can thrive in a wide variety of fields if they find work that engages their interests and strengths. ADHD and intimacy Ari explains how ADHD can impact intimacy and , such as difficulty transitioning into a mindset or getting distracted during intimate moments. He emphasizes the importance of being intentional, flexible, and focused on the process rather than performance. Strategies for managing ADHD in relationships Ari provides several recommendations for partners of those with ADHD, including educating themselves on the condition, being intentional about scheduling and communication, and focusing on the positives and complementary strengths in the relationship rather than just the challenges. Recap and closing thoughts Ari and Cam conclude the discussion by emphasizing the importance of flexibility, creativity, and appreciating the unique strengths each partner brings to the relationship, even when there are significant differences like ADHD. Relevant links: Ari's website: ⁠https://adultadhdbook.com/speaking/⁠

From episode #80 with Brad Gage. More from that episode: - Brad shares about his upbringing - How do media images of men affect our lives? - Toxic vs positive masculinity - Stereotypical portrayals of men - Representations that challenge stereotypes - Critically thinking about media - The importance of diverse representation

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Melissa Hadley Barrett. Melissa is a Nurse Practitioner and Sexologist from Western Australia with over 20 years of experience. She is the Principal, Director and lead clinician of Restoring Men's Intimate Health (RMIH) Pty and Restorative Sexual Health Clinic (RSHC) Pty Ltd. Melissa is an advocate for sexual health and regularly engages in public speaking and education regarding sexual health, particularly prostate cancer for both health professions and community members. Melissa has co-founded the Penis Project Podcast, which shares real-life stories to support learning and offer support, gaining a worldwide audience. Key points: Melissa's background and expertise Melissa introduced herself as a nurse practitioner and sexologist who runs the Restorative Health Clinic. She specializes in helping couples and men navigate intimacy, relationships, and sexual function, taking a holistic approach that addresses both the physical and psychological aspects. Treating dysfunction in cancer patients Melissa explained that about two-thirds of her clients are prostate or bladder cancer patients, as the treatments for these cancers can significantly impact sexual function. She described how the nerves that control erections can be damaged, leading to issues like erectile dysfunction and Peyronie's disease. Melissa emphasized the importance of rehabilitation to maintain penile health and function during this recovery period. Overcoming stigma and shame around sexual health Melissa discussed how many cancer patients feel guilty or ashamed about wanting to maintain their sex life, believing they should just be grateful to be alive. She works to reframe this mindset, emphasizing that quality of life and intimacy are important, and that positive outcomes can come from adversity. Melissa also highlighted the need to involve partners in these conversations to address misconceptions and provide support. Educating healthcare providers Melissa shared how she works to upskill other healthcare providers, like GPs and urologists, to have open conversations about sexual health with their patients. Even if they don't have the expertise to provide comprehensive treatment, she encourages them to at least ask about it and provide referrals to appropriate specialists. Melissa's resources and programs Melissa described the various online programs and resources she offers, including rehabilitation programs for issues like erectile dysfunction, Peyronie's disease, and premature ejaculation. She also highlighted her podcast, The Penis Project, which features real stories from clients about their experiences. Relevant links: Melissa's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ Melissa's website: https://melissahadleybarrett.com/

From episode #79 with Jordan Hackett. More from that episode: - Jordan shares some of his story - There is nothing wrong with male sexuality - The importance of rites of passage - Unintentional sexual initiations - Elements of initiation ceremonies - Challenges, choice, and agency - Liberation and shame - Tantrikas, Dakinis, and Sex Goddesses - Initiations for young people and societal barriers - Sexual debuts and ongoing exploration

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Katia Schwartz. Katia is a disability and sex worker rights activist, with a career in the sex industry spanning over 16 years. As a profoundly deaf, queer sex worker, Katia navigates unique intersections and is passionate about advocating for the destigmatisation and inclusion of marginalised groups. Episode transcript: CLICK HERE Key points: Introductions and background Katia introduces herself as a deaf, disabled sex worker who lives on Gadigal land in Sydney and does advocacy work for the disabled and sex worker communities. Cam shares that he previously wrote a blog post about the appropriation of sex worker aesthetics, in which he quoted Katia. Katia's experience on SBS Insight Katia describes being approached by the producers of the SBS Insight TV show to appear on an episode about "Convenient Relationships" and transactional relationships. She made her access needs clear, including requiring an Auslan interpreter and accurate closed captions, which the producers agreed to. However, when the episode aired, the captions were poor quality and not synced properly, making it inaccessible for Katia. She tried to resolve the issue with the network but faced dismissive responses. Misconceptions about disability and sex work Katia discusses common misconceptions people have about disabled people and sex workers, including the assumption that disabled people cannot or should not engage in sexual activity. She shares examples of inappropriate questions she's received, like "How do you have sex if you're deaf?" Katia explains how her disability informs and enhances her sex work in positive ways, like her heightened sensory awareness and communication skills. Advice for allies and advocates Katia provides advice for allies and advocates, emphasizing the importance of listening to marginalized voices, being open to feedback, and amplifying the perspectives of those with lived experiences. She encourages people to diversify their social media feeds and be mindful of the representation and narratives they consume. Wrap-up and resources Katia shares how to find and connect with her online, including her Instagram handle and website. Cam thanks Katia for the insightful conversation and the opportunity to learn. Relevant links: Katia's website: www.thegingerdoll.com Katia's Instagram: www.instagram.com/katiaschwartz

From episode #79 with David Chambers. More from that episode: - David shares about his work and passions - Purpose vs passion - Co-creating attraction and intimacy - Overthinking and anxiety - Treating dating like a video game - Invitations vs expectations - British masculinity and being a Black man - Race and the white spirituality community

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Danielle Bezalel, MPH, aka DB (she/her/hers). Danielle is the Creator, Executive Producer, and Host of the ⁠Sex Ed with DB⁠ podcast, a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. Danielle earned a Master of Public Health with expertise in sexuality, sexual, and reproductive health from Columbia University. Danielle lives in Oakland, CA. Go to⁠ www.sexedwithdb.com⁠ to learn more about the podcast and get discounts on DB's faves ⁠here⁠. You can listen to the podcast on ⁠Apple Podcasts⁠,⁠ Spotify⁠, ⁠Soundcloud⁠, or wherever you get your podcasts. Follow Sex Ed with DB on⁠ TikTok⁠,⁠ Instagram⁠,⁠ Twitter⁠, and ⁠YouTube⁠. Key points: Introductions and background Danielle introduces herself as a sex educator and podcast host, sharing her passion for providing medically accurate, pleasure-centered sex education. Cam shares that his wife is also a musician and has done work related to birth and postpartum. Defining pleasure-centered sex education Danielle and Cam discuss what it means to have a "pleasure-centered" approach to sex education, focusing on topics like birth control, STIs, LGBTQIA+ health, consent, and the physical and emotional aspects of sex. They emphasize the importance of using scientifically-backed, non-judgmental, and inclusive language. Danielle's "Magic Wand" self-pleasure experiment Danielle shares details about a self-experiment she conducted using a Magic Wand vibrator, tracking the impact on her health, mood, and sexual experience over three weeks. The results showed decreased stress and anxiety, more positive moods, and increased libido when using the Magic Wand daily. Navigating public discussions about and intimacy Cam and Danielle discuss the challenges of having public conversations about sex, particularly for men. They explore the differences in how men and women are typically portrayed when discussing their masturbation habits, and the importance of creating safe spaces for open, non-judgmental dialogue. Closing thoughts and resources Danielle shares some final wisdom about the importance of self-love and appreciation, and provides information about how to connect with her through her podcast, social media, and an upcoming workshop on building a profitable online education business.

From episode #76 with Melanie Curtin. More from that episode: - Melanie shares about her work and research - Healing from religious trauma - Creating safety for men to explore sexuality - 70% of men are not good in bed - “Too much, too fast” - Expectations of male sexuality - Teasing and touching a woman - Creating safety for women to explore sexuality - Communication skills

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jimanekia Eborn. Jimanekia Eborn is a Queer Sexual Assault & Trauma Expert, Trauma Media Consultant, and Comprehensive Sex Educator. She is the host of Trauma Queen - a podcast working to normalize conversations about life's most challenging experiences, from sexual assault to mental health and beyond. Jimanekia is the Founder of Tending The Garden- a nonprofit in service of sexual assault survivors who have been marginalized; offering retreats, online summits, community and education. She is also the co-founder of Cintima, bringing increased representation to the field of Intimacy Coordination in the film industry. Key points: Introductions and background Jimanekia introduces herself, sharing her full name and background. She describes herself as an inquisitive, question-asking person who has experienced various traumas and is now dedicated to supporting others navigating difficult experiences. She outlines her diverse work, including the Jimanekia project focused on assault, her trauma-focused podcast, an intimacy coordinator training company, and her role in the mental health department of a professional wrestling company. Trauma-informed support and advocacy Jimanekia discusses her approach to supporting survivors, emphasizing the importance of allowing them to guide the conversation and decide how they want to share their experiences. She contrasts this with common unhelpful responses that project assumptions or make demands of survivors. Jimanekia also highlights the need for more trauma-informed support, especially for marginalized groups and men, who often face additional stigma and barriers to disclosing. Navigating trauma and consent The conversation explores the complexities around trauma, consent, and gender. Jimanekia and Cam discuss the societal pressures and norms that can prevent men from recognizing or disclosing their experiences of abuse, as well as the tendency to dismiss or trivialize these experiences. They emphasize the importance of creating safe spaces for all survivors to be heard and supported without judgment. Systemic change and accountability Jimanekia and Cam discuss the need for broader systemic changes to address the root causes of violence and trauma, such as harmful gender norms, power imbalances, and lack of accountability. They highlight the responsibility of institutions and communities to proactively create safer environments and provide comprehensive support for survivors, rather than placing the burden on individuals. Closing thoughts Jimanekia closes the conversation by offering encouragement and validation to any male survivors listening, emphasizing that their experiences are not their fault and that there are supportive communities available to them. Relevant links: Jimanekia's Instagram: @jimanekia Jimanekia's websites: https://traumaqueen.love/ and https://www.cintima.co/

From episode #75 with Darragh Stewart. More from that episode: - Darragh shares some of his story - Religion and the lack of embodiment in Ireland - Alcohol and drinking culture - The quintessential Irish man - Exploring sexuality in men's work - Lad culture and banter - Psychedelic ceremonies and men's circles - Attitudes towards psychedelics

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with William Moore. William is the founder of the Dallas-based biohacking clinic AdvancedYOU and the visionary behind PhalloFILL®, the leading network for non-surgical penile girth enhancement. After launching in 2021, PhalloFILL now spans 20 U.S. markets, Mexico City, and Montreal, solidifying its status as the largest and most accessible treatment for penile girth enhancement. Beyond the clinics, Moore is the President of the Texas Med Spa Association, advocating for LGBTQ+ rights and healthcare equality. With an MBA and an M.S. in Health and Human Performance, William draws on two decades of experience to guide patients to optimal health, enhanced appearance, and heightened self-esteem. Key points: - William introduces himself - What is PhalloFILL - Length vs Girth - Treatment options - Do you need to be bigger? Relevant links: William's website: https://phallofill.com/locations/texas/dallas/

From episode #74 with Aren Bahia. More from the episode: - Aren shares about his “Eat, Pray, Love” journey - Catalysts for transformation - Learnings from organized crime - Practical aspects of spirituality - Compartmentalization, context and authenticity - The “Bad Boy” mask: Performing masculinity - Self-pleasure, self-care, sex, and sensuality - Defining presence and being present - Owning your arousal and communicating with a partner

On this episode of #mensexpleausure, I chat with Magda Kay. Magda is an Intimacy Expert, Tantra Teacher & Conscious Relating Coach, author, and founder of the School of Intimacy. More than 10 years ago she quit her corporate job, and embarked on a journey that led her through ashrams, yoga trainings, Tantric communities, and ceremonies. through hours of daily devotion and practices into her deepest parts, facing the wounds and fears, and it also revealed her highest calling: to share and teach others how to access their deepest desires and ability to create transformative intimacy in their lives. Her work combines the gifts of the East and the West, a blend of Tantric and yogic philosophies with psychology and human behaviour. Key points: Introductions and background Cam and Magda introduce themselves and share their personal journeys that led them to their current work as intimacy and relationship experts. Magda shares how her own struggles with intimacy and shame around her motivated her to dive deep into Tantra and somatic practices to heal and transform her relationship with her body and . Navigating boundaries and safety Magda and Cam discuss the importance of creating safety and comfort in intimate relationships, and how to navigate the difference between "want to" and "willing to" when it comes to activities. They emphasize the need to honor each partner's boundaries and not make assumptions about their desires or comfort levels. Communicating effectively about intimacy Magda provides practical tips for how partners can communicate more effectively about their intimate needs and desires, such as avoiding yes/no questions, not trying to answer questions for your partner, and being patient as they explore and discover what they want. She highlights the importance of foreplay and building anticipation throughout the day. Gendered differences in intimacy Cam and Magda discuss how gender stereotypes and societal expectations can impact people's relationships with their and bodies. They share insights about how men and women may have different needs and preferences when it comes to intimacy, and the importance of being open-minded and not making assumptions. Practical tips for enhancing intimacy Magda and Cam provide specific techniques and practices that couples can try to build safety, comfort, and playfulness in their intimate lives. This includes non- touch and sensuality, directing energy through the body, and being willing to experiment and not take intimacy too seriously. Recap and closing Cam and Magda conclude the conversation by emphasizing the importance of bringing more lightness, playfulness, and self-compassion to one's intimate experiences. They express gratitude for the opportunity to connect and share their insights. Relevant links: Magda's website: https://magdakay.com/ Magda's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/magdakayofficial/

From episode #73 with Mish Middelmann. More from that episode: - Mish talks about his diagnosis - The process of prostatectomy - Recovery and rehabilitation - Impacts on masculinity and virility - Erectile dysfunction after prostate surgery - Learning new ways of being sexual - Viagra, penis pumps and dry orgasms - Reconnecting with a partner

Episode #226 of #mensexpleasure with Tantric Hypnotherapist Alexandra Holovitz. Key points: Alexandra's background and work Alexandra introduces herself as a coach and erotic hypnosis practitioner. She runs the brand "Alexandra Guru" and is passionate about supporting men to embrace their masculine and feminine polarity, as well as becoming more multi-orgasmic. Erotic hypnosis vs. regular hypnosis Alexandra explains that erotic hypnosis uses an erotic setup to help clients access deeper pleasure, body sensations, and explore fantasies in a safe, visualized space before potentially trying them out in real life. It differs from regular hypnosis in its focus on the erotic and sensual. Case studies and client experiences Alexandra shares two case studies - one of a client who used erotic hypnosis to anchor pleasurable sensations that he could access during boring meetings, and another of a couple who used it to explore and overcome shame around trying new practices. Addressing men's fears around erotic hypnosis Alexandra discusses how many men are initially hesitant or fearful about losing control or being "mind controlled" through erotic hypnosis. She emphasizes that she cannot make clients do anything they don't want, and that the process is about empowering them to access more pleasure and sensations. Practical tips and resources Alexandra recommends clients do an "emotional CV" exercise to reflect on past experiences and emotions, which can provide helpful context. She also offers custom hypnosis recordings and a free "Guided Sub Pleasure" audio for clients to use on their own. Erotic hypnosis course and closing thoughts Alexandra shares that she is launching a new course to teach men how to use erotic hypnosis as a "bedroom superpower" to spice up their lives. She encourages men to be curious and open-minded about exploring erotic hypnosis and the many ways it can enhance pleasure and connection. Relevant link: Alexandra's website: https://www.alexandra.guru/ Alexandra's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra_guru/

From episode #72 with Rory Callaghan. More from that episode: - Rory talks about his work and his mission - Rory shares about his recent breakup - Navigating the post-breakup headspace - Communication strategies and vulnerability - Integrity and taking time for yourself - What is self-care? - The fundamentals of health - How to achieve integrated health - Rory offers some advice for men

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Nicolas Notini Wallin. Nicolas had his first Energyflow awakening at the age of three playing drums. It was life-changing, the greatest magic. Inspired by family friend and music legend Quincy Jones he decided early on to devote his life to exploring this Energy in music, improvisation, compassion and personal growth. It remains his biggest passion in life. He has a career as a recording studio musician and he is a serial entrepreneur and founder in digital entertainment Key Points: - Nicolas introduces himself - Nicolas' passion for transforming energy - The analogy of music and improvisation to relationships - Compassion as a framework for living and working - Nicolas' 100-day challenge for cultivating self-love and positive energy - Closing reflections Relevant links: Nicolas' website: www.warriorsoflove.org

From episode #71 with Sascha Heart) More from that episode: - Sascha shares about his passions and work - Building confidence to have better sex - Men who feel intimidated by women - You are not your partner's coach - Fear of leaving a relationship - Entrepreneurship and financial independence - Nourishment and connecting in with your body - The masculine seeks freedom - Semen retention vs conscious ejaculation - The symbolism of ejaculation - Ejaculation shaming - Semen retention and meditation

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Katy Bampton. A passionate and experienced Somatic Sexologist dedicated to empowering individuals on their journey to heightened confidence, effective communication and well-being, Katy brings a unique blend of expertise, compassion, and personalized guidance to those seeking positive transformations in their intimate lives. Katy specializes in helping individuals overcome barriers related to confidence in the bedroom, relationship struggles, navigating ADHD/anxiety, sexual trauma and how to live a life full of pleasure. Her approach is rooted in creating a safe and judgment-free space, where clients can explore their desires, embrace their bodies, and navigate the intricacies with confidence. Key points: - Katy introduces herself - Understanding embodiment - Overcoming societal conditioning - The power of breathwork - Expanding intimacy beyond penetration - Guiding women to self-touch - Transcending the bedroom Relevant links: Katy's Instagram: @katybampton Katy's website: https://katybampton.com/

From episode #70 with Chloe Adriana. More from that episode: - Chloe shares about her transformative journey - How Chloe defines radiance - How Cam defines radiance - The power of travel and exploration - Masculinity and dark masculine energy - Relationship with penises - How penises are portrayed in media - Rewriting sexual scripts - Loving your genitals

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Pharrell Shaymar. Pharrell is a professional boxing coach, proud trans man, and LGBTQ+ advocate and community leader. Pharrell uses the prism of boxing through advocacy, breaking down barriers, educational videos, and breaking stereo types of trans people in combat sports. His key message is, "I will never become biologically male, but I am a gentleman." Key points: - Pharrell introduces himself - Pharrell's journey to advocacy - Challenges of trans athletes in sports - Pharrell's personal experience as a trans man - Navigating masculinity and identity - Advice on mental health and self-discovery Relevant links: Pharrell's Instagram: @pharrell_shaymar Pharrell's website: https://www.pharrellshaymar.com/

From the solo episode #69 with Cam Fraser. More from that episode: - The stigmatization of male sex toys - Celebrating men's self-pleasuring - Fifty Shades of Grey Relentless Vibrations Couples Vibrator - We-Vibe X Lovehoney Clitoral and G-Spot Vibrator - Blowmotion Warming Vibrating Male Masturbator - Blowmotion Warming Pulsating Vibrating Male Masturbator - Blowmotion Real Feel Vibrating Male Masturbator - Blowmotion Blow Job Real Feel Vibrating Suction Male Masturbator - Desire Luxury Male Vibator - Desire Luxury Vibrating Prostate Massager - Kinky Confessions Card Game

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dave Booda. Dave is a writer, musician and social entrepreneur. He is the co-founder of IntimacyFest and hosts The Darkness Experiment. He has led over 450 workshops on connection, touch and relationships and has consulted for and facilitated experiences for companies, communities, retreats, festivals, conferences, birthday parties, orgies, weddings, funerals, and gatherings of all kinds — with the intention to inspire authenticity, connection and group cohesion. He has published over 200 essays for boodaism.com and played over 1000 shows as a touring singer/songwriter. He is a former Naval Officer and graduate of the U.S. Naval Academy, currently serving on the board of directors for the Foundation for Intentional Community while living at a community in rural San Diego County. Key points: - Dave introduces himself - Exploring the “Pickup Artist” and “Sacred Sexuality” communities - Authenticity, connection, and community - Accountability and abuse of power - Advice for those in dogmatic communities Relevant links: Dave's website: https://boodaism.com/

From episode #68 with Danny Lakey. More from that episode: - Danny shares about his career on radio - Showing up authentically - Australian men and our drinking culture - Sobriety and masculinity - Altered states of consciousness - Experiencing the divine feminine - Stigma about psychedelics and sex - Combining sex with psychedelics - Danny shares some advice

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Mattia Zambaldi. Mattia guides men through processes of deep transformation and soul emergence. He is a firm believer that evolution is at its core a process of initiation which requires the alignment of mind, heart and body - including free and authentic sexual expression. His coaching method is a unique blend of western science, eastern wisdom and esoteric knowledge. He is a certified men's sex coach, a certified Tantra teacher, and he also draws from all the knowledge and experience of his previous career as an elite sports physiotherapist where he has treated and coached some of the best athletes in the world. Key Points: - Mattia introduces himself - Mattia's holistic coaching approach - Perspectives on masculine and feminine polarity - Embodiment practices for me - Integrating pleasure and embodiment during life transitions Relevant links: Mattia's Instagram: @rivoluzionemaschile Mattia's website: www.rivoluzionemaschile.com