Podcasts about David Ley

Evan leads a deep dive into the complexities of sex addiction and human sexuality with clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. David Ley. The conversation dispels myths, addresses misconceptions about sex addiction, and explores the nuances of intimacy, relationships, and pornography. The episode also features the lively 'Overrated or Underrated' segment and a discussion on AI's impact on child exploitation. Additionally, Dr. Ley provides professional insights on maintaining realistic expectations in relationships and discusses the potential benefits and ethical dilemmas associated with artificial intelligence in combating sexual offenses.   Topics 00:38 Diving into Divorce and Relationship Insights 02:00 March Madness and Bracket Strategies 04:46 Red Sox and Yankees Rivalry 06:40 The Docket: Sharing Truth After Divorce 14:07 Overrated or Underrated: Legal and Fun Topics 26:17 Interview with Dr. David Ley on Sex Addiction 30:05 The Harmful Effects of the 'Sex Addiction' Label 30:45 Sex Addiction in the Courtroom 31:31 Misconceptions About Sex Addiction Treatment 33:26 Moral Judgments and Sex Addiction 35:53 Pornography and Its Misunderstood Impact 37:07 The Role of Sex Education 39:06 Pornography in Relationships 45:09 The Myth of Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction 46:40 The Complexity of Human Sexuality 01:01:36 AI and Child Exploitation 01:10:17 Final Thoughts and Reflections

The Venus Cuckoldress podcast celebrates five years with a special compilation of the most profound, mind-shifting moments that have transformed understanding of cuckolding relationships.• Key Barrett explains the concept of "unfiltering" in female-led relationships, breaking down how women are taught to filter their responses and how shedding this brings clarity to relationships• Crystal Welch characterizes cuckolds as "higher life forms" who have evolved beyond toxic masculinity through personal growth work• Dr. Justin Lehmiller's research reveals men with cuckolding fantasies have higher self-esteem and self-confidence than typically assumed• Dr. David Ley explains how sexual shame creates self-defeating behaviors in men with cuckolding desires, including the common pattern of intense interest followed by ghosting• Ella breaks down how patriarchal systems create a skills deficit in men's emotional intelligence, explaining why many struggle with the "varsity level" communication needed for ethical non-monogamyLinksKey Barrett: https://bsky.app/profile/keybarrett.bsky.social - books https://a.co/d/4PNQSHp episode - https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336219-flr-surrender-submit-and-serve-her-with-key-barrett-m-scDr. Justin Lehmiller: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/ - books https://a.co/d/4gvABX0 episode https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336195-what-do-your-cuckolding-fantasies-say-about-you-with-special-guest-dr-justin-lehmillerDr. David Ley: https://bsky.app/profile/davidleyphd.bsky.social books https://a.co/d/gjjwtdO episode - https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336246-unraveling-the-cuck-shame-spiral-with-dr-david-leyCrystal Welch: https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/cw episode https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336214-a-bold-message-to-the-women-of-the-world-you-really-can-have-it-all-with-cuckoldingElla episode: https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336206-ella-is-back-with-a-revelation-cucks-we-see-you?t=0Joymode: GREAT SEX SOLVED, NATURALLYUse Code VENUS for 20% off your first order at tryjoymode.com/venus

In this thought-provoking episode of Chatting with Candice, host Candice Horbacz sits down with David Ley, a renowned expert on sexuality, to discuss the complexities of consent, the influence of porn, and the myths surrounding sexual health. They delve into the challenges of navigating consent in an era of social media and hookup culture, exploring the nuances of verbal and non-verbal communication. David Ley shares his insights on the impact of p*rn on young people's perceptions of sex and relationships, emphasizing the importance of porn literacy and comprehensive sex education.  *********************************************************** *********************************************************** Check out Candice's socials and Website Follow Candice Horbacz on socials: link.me/candicehorbacz Support The Podcast on Patreon: http://patreon.com/candicehorbacz The intimacy you've always dreamed of. Get deeper intimacy and transformative results  Use the code CANDICE10 to get 10% off: https://bit.ly/3YiIVEM Begin your wellness journey  Full Body Massage Set with Big Bag for easy storage. This Massage Set has everything you need for a complete massage experience, from head to toe. Use code: Candice https://pranamat.com/af/lnkbeovx?coupon=candice Try our new body candles x E.Lo: https://shop.elo.fun/

When it comes to sex or relationships and wanting to find a therapist or coach, what should people know before they shop around? Are all sex therapists “created equal”? Why is it so important for therapists to be educated on how to support their client's sexuality while not creating more shame? As a client, what are some of the signs my therapist or coach might not be a good fit for me? And how can I go about that? For people who want to become a sex educator or therapist, how can they start to venture down this path? And what makes SHA different from other sexuality training programs?  About our guest: Heather McPherson is the CEO and Founder of the Sexual Health Alliance, a premier education and certification provider for sexuality professionals. Heather also founded Respark, a national brand that encompasses a group therapy practice, Respark Foundation Nonprofit, and ReSpark Retreats. Respark Therapy & Associates (respark.co) is a group practice that serves Colorado, Washington and Texas specializing in sexuality and relationships. She is published in Playboy Magazine as well as Playboy Online, and has been featured on CNN, HuffPost, Rolling Stone, SheKnows, Quartz, Bravo, the Body, the Sun, Sex and Psychology with Dr. Justin Lehmiller, Psychology Today with Dr. David Ley, Parent Harald, and more.  Heather McPherson has lectured at prestigious universities including University of Texas at Austin, Texas State University, University of Utah, University of Colorado Denver and Governors State University in Chicago. She is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Supervisor (LMFT-S) and a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor (LPC-S). She also is the Texas Section Leader for AASECT (American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists). She has appeared on several podcasts including Loveline with Dr. Chris Donaghue as well as Sex with Dr. Jess. Heather helps clients gain confidence, rebuild trust, increase playfulness, and find passion and meaning in their erotic lives. Heather graduated with honors from Texas State University with a MA in Marriage, Couple and Family Therapy; a CACREP Accredited Program. To learn more go to https://sexualhealthalliance.com/ https://www.instagram.com/sexualhealthalliance https://www.tiktok.com/@sexualhealthalliance https://www.facebook.com/SHAteams https://www.instagram.com/resparkgroup   SEATTLE! Come see our LIVE Shameless SexUnleashed sexy variety show: The Unleashed Tour: Where Shamelessness, Sexiness, and Laughter Collide in a Hilarious Orgy of Fun, Discovery, and Sex Edutainment! Get your tickets here ASAP: https://www.shamelesssex.com/events Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: Get 20% off Epiphany Clit Arousal Serum with code SHAMELESS at http://tryepiphany.com Get soaking wet and bigger loads + 10% off with code SHAMELESS at http://soakingwet.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com

On this last episode in this series, our co-hosts Hanan Ali and Natasha Mhuriro talked to four guests. Djaka Blais, Executive Director of Hogan's Alley Society; Robert Byers, President & C-E-O of Namerind Housing Corporation; Joshua Evans, Associate Professor at the University of Alberta. and Franz Bernhardt, Postdoctoral Researcher at Aalborg University, Denmark. We spend time thinking about and imagining alternative models of community housing. How could or should Canada's community housing sector look differently in the future? What are some good examples of innovative housing projects and practices from across the country – and around the world? What lessons can we learn? The production of the podcast series is led by Dr. Yushu Zhu and Dr. Meg Holden at Simon Fraser University as part of the Community Housing Canada project and the Housing Inequality in Canada project, in partnership with IRPP. Student researchers include Hanan Ali, Natasha Mhuriro, Pok Man Tong, and Khoa Vo. This podcast has been a dedicated collaboration, with production assistance by Ricardo Montrose, Cléa Desjardins and Luc Moulaison at IRPP, and audio producer Jackie G. Karen Sawatzky contributes to script editing for this episode. If you like what you heard and you want to know more about the Institute for Research on Public Policy, head over to https://irpp.org/. Additional resources: Hogen's Alley Society - A Black-led non-profit organization dedicated to advancing the social, political, economic, and cultural well-being of people of African descent in Metro Vancouver. Namerind Housing Corporation - An Indigenous-led housing provider and social enterprise. Aboriginal Housing Management Association (AHMA) - An umbrella organization composed of 41 Members that are each Indigenous Housing providers. The first Indigenous Housing Authority in Canada and only the second in the world. Ontario Aboriginal Housing Services - A non-profit housing provider with a focus on the Indigenous community. Housing Boom in Gateway Cities – Book written by David Ley, 2023. Utilising a comparative approach in five gateway cities, the author provides an understanding of the politics of booms, lifting the debate beyond narrow housing and real estate studies. Policy fact sheet: National Building Fund, Denmark. European Construction Sector Observatory. 2019. The resilience of social rental housing in the United Kingdom, Sweden and Denmark: How institutions matter. Timothy Blackwell & Bo Bengtsson. Housing Studies. 2023. 38:2, 269-289.

In this episode of Cuck My Life, the panel spend time talking to the “Godfather” of cuckolding. The author of “Insatiable Wives, and the Men Who Love Them", "Ethical Porn for Dicks” and "The Myth of Sex Addiction" Dr. David Ley. We talk about his progress in the field, the psychology of cuckolding, and so much more. The conversation was a blast! He's an amazing and incredibly informative guest, we think you'll love it! Find Dr. David Ley Website https://www.davidleyphd.com On twitter @drdavidley Other Resources from this episode Dr Keely Kolmes Article: Guide to choosing a kink aware therapist: Tammy Fisher Youtube Presentation: Cuckolding with a Bull of Color: Racism or Harless Kink? Have some thoughts or comments for the panel? Please get in contact, we'd love to hear from you!  ⁠⁠cuckmylifepod@gmail.com⁠ Get the latest updates! Follow the show on Twitter ⁠@cuckmylifepod⁠ ⁠ Find the panel on Twitter here

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"Cuck" is way more than an internet insult. In this episode of Taboo Science, we're stepping out and diving in to cuckolding, the real-life kink and lifestyle all about the thrill of your partner sleeping with someone else. Join us as we chat with clinical psychologist Dr. David Ley and popular cuckolding podcaster Venus Cuckoldress, who shed light on the psychological quirks and deep emotional connections in this often misunderstood practice. We're also breaking down how it all plays into the complicated dynamics of race, power, and gender. If you're curious to understand a taboo that's reshaping how some people view relationships and empowerment, give it a listen. Let's get into why cuckolding is having a major moment right now and what it could mean for you.Resources from Dr. David Ley:Website: https://www.davidleyphd.com/Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them https://amzn.to/3V0mRy4Resources from Venus Cuckoldress:Podcast: https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/Matchmaking service: https://www.venusconnections.com/See citations and a transcript here: https://www.tabooscience.show/042-cuckoldingNeed music for a project? Use my Epidemic Sound referral link: https://share.epidemicsound.com/kbva2hConnect with the show: Leave me a voice memo: https://podline.fm/tabooscienceNewsletter: https://www.tabooscience.show/newsletter Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tabooscience YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@tabooscience Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/tabooscience Website: https://www.tabooscience.show/ Loved this episode? Leave a review and rating here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/taboo-science/id1533606473

In this episode of Sacred Tension, I'm joined by sex therapist and author Dr. David Ley to discuss male sexuality. We talk about how men use sexuality to meet their deeper needs, myths about “porn addiction”, the importance of sexual role models, and much more. Dr. David Ley is a clinical psychologist, certified sex therapist, consultant, and expert witness. He is the author of Ethical Porn for Dicks, Insatiable Wives, and The Myth of Sex Addiction. Learn more about Dr. David Ley here.I love hearing back from my audience. Did you agree with us in this conversation? Disagree? Let us know in the comments below. If your comment is excellent, I might feature it in an upcoming post.Sacred Tension is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sacredtension.substack.com/subscribe

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Discover how cuckolding has shaped human sexuality through the ages as we unravel its historical threads with Dr. David Lay. His expertise in the field, especially reflected in his groundbreaking book "Insatiable Wives," illuminates the evolution of female sexual empowerment and its manifestations in modern relationships. This episode is a tapestry weaving the rich past of 'wittols' and infamous figures like Victoria Woodhull into today's narrative, where sexual freedom and female-led dynamics are increasingly celebrated.Embark on a psychological odyssey where we confront the shame spiral that haunts many men with cuckolding fantasies and you'll be surprised to learn about the strong undercurrent of such fantasies among those who publicly uphold traditional values. We also dissect the social stigma surrounding infidelity and how cultural attitudes towards it vary surprisingly across the globe, offering a rare glimpse into the intricate dance between public personas and private desires.As Cuck Week 2024 approaches, join us in championing a future of self-acceptance and the destigmatization of cuckolding. We recognize the profound impact of "Insatiable Wives" on couples exploring this lifestyle, emphasizing that desires do not compromise masculinity but rather celebrate the sexual flourishing of women. This episode isn't just a reflection on history and psychology; it's a call to embrace sexual diversity with open hearts and minds, inviting you to participate in a world that honors every individual's erotic blueprint.David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist and author, based in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He's the author of several books and research articles on sexuality, including his first book, Insatiable Wives, Women who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, which was the first book to examine the cuckolding and hotwife phenomenon. With Dr. Justin Lehmiller and Dan Savage, he published the first psychological study of the cuckold fantasy. Dr. Ley is a frequent guest in media around the world, with appearances in the New York times, CNN and Time Magazine, as well as Hustler and Playboy Magazines.LinksThis episode is brought to you by Joymode - GREAT SEX SOLVED, NATURALLY

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Dr. David Ley, a renowned psychologist, certified s*x therapist, and supervisor of s*x therapy, is back with us in this exciting new episode. Dr. Ley has authored several books, including Insatiable Wives, The Myth of S*x Addiction, and Ethical Porn for Dicks. Dr. Ley will be discussing the topics of cuckolding and er*ctile dysfunction. What is Cuckolding? Cuckolding is a form of consensual non-monogamy where a wife engages in s*xual relationships with other men, often with her husband's enthusiastic support and permission. This arrangement is typically female-focused, with the husband remaining monogamous to his wife while she explores her desires with other partners. For more free erectile dysfunction education and resources, please visit: https://erectioniq.com/    Mark Goldberg helps men resolve erectile dysfunction. He offers individual, one-on-one services to men throughout the world through a secure, telehealth platform. It's 100% confidential. You can visit the Center for Intimacy, Connection and Change website to schedule a free consultation: https://centericc.com/ 

In this podcast episode, we are joined by Dr. David Ley, a renowned psychologist, certified s*x therapist, and supervisor of s*x therapy. Dr. Ley has authored several books, including "Insatiable Wives," "The Myth of S*x Addiction," and "Ethical Porn for Dicks.".   Dr. Ley discusses the "lifestyle" , or swinging and other forms of non-monogamy that couples explore to spice things up.   Couples can have rules in order to keep things comfortable and safe. For example, they might only play with other couples or do things like kissing and oral s*x but not have penetrative s*x.

It's a $97 billion global industry that has made its way into mobile phones, video games and laptops. Never before has porn been more accessible, and offered more variety, than the present day. And yet, some feminists want to revisit the question of whether it should exist at all. They say pornography exploits young women and creates unrealistic expectations in the bedroom. So many of society's worst problems – from pedophilia, to sexual assault, to gender inequality – are amplified by porn use. And with the advent of the internet and video streaming, children are able to access hardcore porn with few guardrails, leading to a generation of young men who are getting their sex education from unrealistic and exploitative sexual relationships portrayed onscreen. On the other side of the debate are those who see value in porn: research shows that men who watch porn value female pleasure more, couples who watch porn together have better sexual relationships, and LGBT folk report a greater sense of community acceptance. Porn, its defenders argue, is being used as a distraction when many of the problems related to the industry are already systemic in our everyday lives. And finally, attempting to ban porn would only drive it underground and increase the risk of exploitation. In their view, it's time to put the decades long debate over porn to bed, once and for all. Arguing for the motion is Meghan Murphy, she's a writer, journalist, and founder of Feminist Current, a feminist website and podcast Arguing against the motion is David Ley, clinical psychologist and sex therapist, and author of The Myth of Sex Addiction SOURCES:  3 GIRLS 1 KITCHEN The host of this Munk Debates podcast is Ricki Gurwitz Tweet your comments about this episode to @munkdebate or comment on our Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/munkdebates/ To sign up for a weekly email reminder for this podcast, send an email to podcast@munkdebates.com.   To support civil and substantive debate on the big questions of the day, consider becoming a Munk Member at https://munkdebates.com/membership Members receive access to our 10+ year library of great debates in HD video, a free Munk Debates book, newsletter and ticketing privileges at our live events. This podcast is a project of the Munk Debates, a Canadian charitable organization dedicated to fostering civil and substantive public dialogue - https://munkdebates.com/ Senior Producer: Ricki Gurwitz Editor: Kieran Lynch

Cuckolding month is finally ending, so we had to end it with a bang! Today on the show, we have the ultimate cuckold expert Dr. David Ley! Dr. Ley wrote THE book on cuckolding called Insatiable Wives, the go-to academic resource on the psychology of cuckolding, and Ethical Porn for Dicks, a guide to responsible viewing pleasure. On this episode, tune in to a riveting conversation about the ethics of porn usage, the difference between amateur or violent gangbang, and the best way to use porn?Dr. Ley is a clinical psychologist and sex therapist based in Albuquerque, NM. He's the author of several books on sexuality and psychology and regularly provides expert testimony on sexuality issues in legal proceedings worldwide. Oh! And, of course, we ended with a rapid round of "5 Quickies with Dr. Tara" Listen and learn, my luvs…oh, and have an orgasmic day!For more sex and relationship realness, follow me on social media @luvbites.co and subscribe to my JUICY newsletter at www.Luvbites.coListen to The Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast: https://www.luvbites.co/podcastLinks:https://www.davidleyphd.comhttps://www.amazon.com/Insatiable-Wives-Women-Stray-Love/dp/1442200316https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/women-who-stray/202108/why-certain-men-love-hearing-about-their-wives-sexual-pastMy E-Book - “30 Days to My Best Sexy Self: A Sexual Mindfulness Journal”Link: E-BookMoana Lisa - The Art of Pleasure https://moanalisa.co.uk/In this episode: Porn Addiction Sex and Porn Abstinence and Porn Cuckolding PornSexual RolemodelTrauma and Cuckolding Novelty and RelationshipsSexual confidence

Pornography has been the primary blame for many relationship problems. Fingers get pointed. Feelings get hurt. Doors get slammed. Psychologist and sex therapist David Ley, PhD believes pornography gets the blame because it is the “big, sexy, shiny object” that grabs the focus when a relationship is feeling bumpy. Ley says pornography is really just a symptom of other underlying issues that are not being discussed. In fact, he says pornography can be a great resource that can introduce novelty and new ideas to a couple's sexy life if it's viewed together. He and Ali also talk about why men seem to use it so much, the importance of communication and, hot tip, there is feminist porn out there.   If you have questions or guest suggestions, Ali would love to hear from you. Call or text her at (323) 364-6356. Or email go-ask-ali-podcast-at-gmail.com. (No dashes) Links of Interest: Dr. David Ley Instagram Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man's Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure Is Watching Porn Right for You (Psychology Today) A Beginner's Guide to Watching Feminist Porn (Vice) The Top Ethical Porn Sites that Are Inclusive and Empowering (Glamour UK) Common Sense About the Effects of Pornography (Psychology Today) Porn Addiction See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr David Ley is a clinical psychologist and a board member of the Sexual Health Alliance whose research focuses on issues related to sexuality, pornography and mental health. Your partner being intimate with another guy should evolutionarily be one of the biggest fears of a man's life. Actually encouraging this behaviour seems almost unthinkable, and yet cucking is becoming a much more common pursuit and one of the most popular categories of online porn. Expect to learn the stats around how common cuckolding actually is, whether cuckolding could cover up a husband's desire to be with another man, how often this goes wrong and destroys a relationship, whether sex addiction is an actual thing, some surprising research around porn addiction, how religiosity predicts dysfunction with porn and much more... Sponsors: Get 15% discount on Mud/Wtr at http://mudwtr.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM) Get 20% discount on House Of Macadamias' nuts at https://houseofmacadamias.com/modernwisdom (use code MW20) Extra Stuff: Check out Dr Ley's website - https://www.davidleyphd.com/ Follow Dr Ley on Twitter - https://twitter.com/DrDavidLey  Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/ 

This week is Cuckweek! Who knew? - not me until I recorded this interview with Dr. David Ley, someone whose work I have followed for many years and indeed the world's foremost expert into the world of cukolding, hot wife-ing and the impact of religonn on human sexuality. Dr David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist and author, based in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He's the author of several books and research articles on sexuality, including his first book, Insatiable Wives, Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, known as the “Bible of Cuckolding.” With Justin Lehmiller and columnist Dan Savage, Dr. Ley published the first empirical research on cuckolding. Dr. Ley is a frequent guest in media around the world, with appearances in sources such as the New York Times, CNN and Time Magazine, to Hustler and Playboy magazines. In this interview we trace the origins of David's work in unpacking human sexuality, how he developed his signature brand of open minded inquiry and curiosity, and the errrors in judgement he made early in his clinical career. Then we pivot into his ground breaking exploration of the world of cuckolding or hot wives, and how the cuck world is become a movment of erotic awakening unto itsef. Enjoy today's interview with Dr David Ley on all  podcast platforms and watch the interview on You Tube Follow @theeroticphilos on IG & Twitter. Follow Cyndi @cyndi_darnell or website www.cyndidarnell.com  Follow Dr. Ley: twitter @drdavidley Insta @davidleyphd Don't forget to leave us a rating and review

This week we're joined again by Dr. David Ley!  Dr. Ley is a Gracie Barra black belt and a leading psychotherapist in New Mexico.  In this episode, Dr. Ley gives us a primer on cognitive behavioral therapy.Cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT, is an effective tool for treating anxiety, depression, and many mental health disorders. It's also a great tool for general lifestyle and mindset improvement, and in this episode Dr. Ley shares some advice on how CBT can be beneficial to grapplers.Follow Dr. David Ley on Twitter:https://twitter.com/DrDavidLeyContact Dr. Ley through his website:https://www.davidleyphd.com/Books referenced in this episode:Atomic Habits, by James Clear:https://amzn.to/3Bnc8DBDescartes' Error, by Antonio Damasio:https://amzn.to/3iUTr43Dummies books by Charles H. Elliott:https://amzn.to/3YdzqpkMental models discussed in this episode:Cognitive Behavioral Therapyhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/cognitive-behavioral-therapy/Defensive Thinkinghttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/defensive-thinking/Mindfulnesshttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/mindfulness/Law of Contrasthttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/law-of-contrast/Technique Visualizationhttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/technique-visualization/Train With Purposehttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/train-with-purpose/Incremental Learninghttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/incremental-learning/Growth From Discomforthttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/growth-from-discomfort/Probabilistic Thinkinghttps://bjjmentalmodels.com/probabilistic-thinking/Don't forget to check out BJJ Mental Models Premium!If you love the podcast, you'll definitely love our premium membership offerings. The podcast is truly just the tip of the iceberg – the next steps on your journey are joining our community, downloading our strategy courseware, and working with us to optimize your game.  We do all this through memberships that come in at a fraction of the cost of a single private.Sign up here for a free trial:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/Need more BJJ Mental Models?Get tips, tricks, and breakthrough insights from our newsletter:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/newsletter/Get nitty-gritty details on our mental models from the full database:https://bjjmentalmodels.com/database/Follow us on social:https://facebook.com/bjjmentalmodels/https://instagram.com/bjjmentalmodels/Music by Enterprize:https://enterprize.bandcamp.com/

Dr. David Ley is a therapist and psychologist here to de-shame, debunk, and shed light on the idea of sex as an addiction. He unpacks the impact growing up religious or with morally conservative beliefs has on people identifying as sex addicts, discussing why it's crucial we make sexuality a healthy part of life. David and Alexa break down how after 40 years, the sex addiction model of treatment still has no positive impact, and how leaning into self-compassion and acceptance are actual solutions to sexual disorders.Today on That Sex Chick:Challenging claims of sex addictionIssues with sex addiction “treatment”Being religious is a risk factor for developing a sexual disorderThe power of self-acceptance & compassionMaking sexuality a healthy part of your lifeConnect with David:Website: davidleyphd.com Twitter: @drdavidleyDavid's booksConnect with Alexa:Instagram: @thatsexchickWebsite: sexandlove.coFree resources: sexandlove.co/resourcesFacebook Group: Sex & Love Co Community Click here to submit your review for That Sex Chick, and you'll get access to “Uncover Your Inner Kink,” a guided meditation and more, created by Alexa! This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

What is Cuckolding and why are people into it? How does Cuckolding differ from Hot-Wifing? How can people embrace their inner Cuck? And how does male-chastity fit into the mix? Dr. David Ley shares all this and more. About our guest: David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist and author, based in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He's the author of several books and research articles on sexuality, including his first book, Insatiable Wives: Women who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, which was the first book to examine the cuckolding and hotwife phenomenon. With Dr. Justin Lehmiller and Dan Savage, he published the first psychological study of the cuckold fantasy. Dr. Ley is a frequent guest in media around the world, with appearances in the New York Times, CNN and Time Magazine, as well as Hustler and Playboy magazines. To learn more visit davidleyphd.com Follow us on Tik Tok @shamelesssexpodcast for entertaining and informative clips from episodes such as this one. Come join our free private Shameless Sex online community on Discord: discord.gg/9q4ybEb5jW Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com, and 20% off the Magic Wand line with code SHAMELESSWAND here

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In  this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster chat with clinical psychologist, sex therapist, and Ju Jitsu black belt Dr. David Ley, about the psychology of kink over a dram of Shieldaig 25 Single Malt Scotch Whisky. The Kinky Cocktail Hour is brought to you by Motorbunny, the worlds most powerful saddle style sex machine. Save $50 using this link http://motorbunny.com/?ref=KINKYSupport the show

Have you ever fantasized about being ‘forced' to have sex? If so, you're not alone. Fantasies about being taken against one's will (also known as 'ravishment fantasies' and 'consensual non-consent fantasies') are actually quite common. But just how many people report having had them? And why? That's what we're going to be exploring in today's episode. I'll be sharing five examples of forced sex fantasies that have emerged in my research to illustrate what these fantasies tend to look like, and also to explore the psychology behind them.  To help me put this show together, Rose Caraway returns to narrate the actual fantasies. Rose is a writer, editor, and publisher who runs the Kiss Me Quick's Erotica Podcast. She also served as the narrator for Dr. David Ley's amazing book, Insatiable Wives, which was the subject of Episode 70 of this program. The fantasies we dive into in this show come from my book Tell Me What You Want, and they include: Ravished By My Lover Kidnapped and Forced to Have Sex Animalistic Sex With an Alpha Male Banged By the Bachelorettes Taken By a Warrior Princess I walk you through the main themes behind each of these fantasies and the common threads that unite them, while also considering similarities and differences in how these fantasy scenarios play out for men and women. I also discuss who is most likely to have fantasies of this nature and why. This is a fascinating episode. Be sure to check it out! Thanks to The Handy (thehandy.com) and the Kinsey Institute (kinseyinstitute.org) for being sponsors of this episode! The Handy, made by Sweet Tech, is an automatic stroker designed for self-pleasure. Pair it with your sleeve of choice to mimic realistic sensations of different partnered activities with precise speed and stroke control. Visit https://link.thehandy.com/sexandpsych-1 to learn more and use my exclusive discount code (sexandpsych) to get 10% off your order. The Kinsey Institute's (kinseyinstitute.org) 75th anniversary is underway and you are invited to join in the celebration! Follow @kinseyinstitute on social media to learn more about upcoming events. Also, please consider a gift or donation to the Institute to support sex research and education. Click here to donate. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: LEGIT Audio (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

As someone who studies the science of sexual fantasies, every time I think I've heard it all, I discover something new. Human beings are endlessly inventive and flexible when it comes to their sexuality, which means that our fantasies are sometimes truly fantastical and may reflect things that wouldn't even be physically possible in reality. While these fantasies may strike many people as "strange" or "weird," however, a deeper analysis of them reveals that they aren't so unusual after all. They're actually just creative variations on the things that turn most of us on. In this episode, we're going to explore four uncommon sexual fantasies I've encountered over the course of my research and consider the psychology behind them. To help me put this show together, I invited Rose Caraway to narrate the actual fantasies that my participants provided. Rose is a writer, editor, and publisher who runs the Kiss Me Quick's Erotica Podcast. She also served as the narrator for Dr. David Ley's fantastic book, Insatiable Wives, which was the subject of Episode 70 of this program. The fantasies we dive into in this show come from my book Tell Me What You Want, and they include: The Human Cow (or HuCow) The Human Doll Getting Eaten Alive (Vorarephilia) Taken By Tentacles I walk you through the main themes behind each of these fantasies and the common threads that run through all of them. I also discuss who tends to have more of these fantastical fantasies and why. This is a truly fascinating episode you're not going to want to miss. Check it out! The Kinsey Institute's (kinseyinstitute.org) 75th anniversary is underway and you are invited to join in the celebration! Follow @kinseyinstitute on social media to learn more about upcoming events. Also, please consider a gift or donation to the Institute to support sex research and education. Click here to donate. Thanks to the Modern Sex Therapy Institutes (modernsextherapyinstitutes.com) for sponsoring this episode! *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: LEGIT Audio (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Many people believe that they have a porn addiction or that they masturbate too much. In fact, the idea of porn or sex addiction is so common that it is often featured in television, magazines, and even certification for therapists. However, in this episode, Dr. David Ley challenges the idea of porn addiction and encourages listeners to rethink their approach to the topic.Plus we review the Panzer Girls Ona Hole from MotsuToys.

Psychologist and Sex Therapist Dr. David Ley is passionate (as are we) about moving toward a values-based model of sexual health. He reminds us that we recognize in this more nuanced world that it's not about what you do, but how you do it. He uses the same concept when working with porn education and helps people of all ages address their consumption and behaviors free of shame. TODAY'S EPISODE SHOWNOTES: https://www.thehippodcast.com/sexual-health-series-with-david-ley HEALTH: IT'S PERSONAL INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thehippodcast/ HEALTH: IT'S PERSONAL FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healthitspersonal LOVE the work we are doing? Buy us a cup of tea. https://ko-fi.com/healthitspersonal

Join us for this fantastic discussion with Dr. Ley, one of the foremost authorities on female sexuality, and consensual non-monogamy.  I contacted him after reading his book and was thrilled he agreed to chat with me!

Nikki Leigh welcomes Dr David Ley as her guest. The topic for discussion is Dr Ley's book, The Myth of Sex Addiction and a number of other topics related to healthy sexuality.

We talked to Dr. David Ley, a world-renowned clinical psychologist who has written prolifically in both academic and popular culture outlets about sexuality and mental health. He is a member of the board of the Sexual Health Alliance and is recognized as an international expert on issues related to psychology, pornography, and sexuality. Dr. Ley is regularly interviewed for television (e.g., Anderson Cooper, Katie Couric, Dr. Phil) and by the press (e.g., the New York Times, the Washington Post) and is exceptional at sharing scientific research and clinical expertise with the public in an accessible manner. He is the author of three books: Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, The Myth of Sex Addiction, and Ethical Porn for Dicks. We talked to Dr. Ley about how partners can increase sexual satisfaction through communication, sociocultural factors that influence attitudes toward sexuality, his books and research, the importance of competence in these areas for mental health professionals, and more. For additional information about his important contributions to the field, check out Dr. Ley's website and follow him on Twitter. Links Mentioned in the Episode: Professional Organizations & Resources Sexual Health Alliance American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers APA Division 44 Consensual Non-Monogamy Task Force Dr. Ley's Psychology Today Blog 3 Ways to Meet Your Partner's Sexual Ideals and Why You Should Dr. Ley's YouTube Channel On Katie Couric's Show Other Research & Books Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers by Kleinplatz & Menard Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help Improve Your Sex Life by Lehmiller Sexual Addiction 25 Years On: A Systematic and Methodological Review of Empirical Literature and an Agenda for Future Research by Grubbs et al. The Prevalence of Paraphilic Interests and Behaviors in the General Population: A Provincial Survey by Joyal & Carpentier Concordance and Discordance between Paraphilic Interests and Behaviors: A Follow-Up Study by Joyal & Carpentier Moral Incongruence and Pornography Use: A Critical Review & Integration by Grubbs & Perry Past Psychodrama Podcast episode with Dr. Joshua Grubbs (Will Pandemic Porn Use Lead to Addiction?)

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Hello Interactors,While the media dwells on border disputes like Russia and Ukraine or Trump’s wall, COVID, climate change, and the global economy thumb their nose at territorial boundaries. Are these borders we obsess over even real or are they products of our imagination? As interactors, you’re special individuals self-selected to be a part of an evolutionary journey. You’re also members of an attentive community so I welcome your participation.Please leave your comments below or email me directly.Now let’s go…A CASTLE WITHOUT HASSLEOn Sunday I pulled the beast from the closet. It had been awhile. Probably too long. It pulls with a heaviness that always takes me by surprise. Its long neck, standing tall above its body, awkwardly slumped over my shoulder as I drug its head from the darkness. I walk down the hall with its neck strung out behind me tugging on its short, stout resistant body that pressed heavy with resistance.I don’t know why we keep it. Nobody in the family likes it. It’s not that it eats incessantly; that’s why we got it. It’s more that it’s so damn heavy and awkward. No wonder we keep it in the closet longer than we should. But there’s only so much dust and dirt one can tolerate in a house. It was time to vacuum.We tolerate a fair amount of dust in our house. Lazy? Maybe. Is it so bad that we let a little dust accumulate? As the comedian George Carlin once said,“Dusting is a good example of the futility of trying to put things right. As soon as you dust, the fact of your next dusting has already been established.”I grew up, like many people I suppose, learning to have anxiety around dust accumulation. But I was raised Methodist and it was John Wesley, Mr. Methodism himself, who most likely coined the phrase, “cleanliness is next to godliness.” He had a thing about remaining clean. But this idea dates back to the Old Testament. Cleanliness for the Hebrew people wasn’t about the home, it was about the body. That’s how we got baptism, foot washing, hand washing, and, yes, circumcision. Either way, to be clean was to be pure.By dragging this weighty, electrified, menace with its dust breathing head across floors, window sills, and furniture I am not only sucking up undesirables into a bag, I am purifying the home. And just to make sure these impurities don’t escape the menace of this machine it features a HEPA filter on its exhaust. Why do people feel the urge to purge these dusty hombres from our home?There are practical reasons, I am sure, just as with washing our bodies. But it’s different with our homes. These unwanted microscopic interlopers have made their way inside our home and we want them outside our home. As they invade we become territorial. We sweep dust into a bin, under the rug, or out the door. There is a spatial differentiation to ‘cleansing’ the home of ‘undesirables’. Get out and stay out!As a child, were you not allowed to take food into certain rooms? Do you take your shoes off at the door? How about, “No pets upstairs!” Growing up I had friends where entire living rooms were off limits to kids. Parents are known to issue all kinds of spatial regulations to their families. “Go to your room!” “Get out of the kitchen!” “Take it outside!”But rooms can also house fond thoughts. Some of my best memories were in my basement. I played pool, the piano, and with trains. I watched home movies, made art, or pulled an Encyclopedia from the shelf and was transported to another world. I told this story to someone on a Zoom call last week and they leaned into the camera looking not at me but around me and asked, “And where are you now?” “In my basement”, I replied.But not everyone has fond memories of their homes. If they had one. For victims of spousal and/or child abuse, or even slavery, recalling memories of home – or certain rooms in a home – brings on discomfort, anxiety, and pain. Response to that anguish varies by person.The influential feminist author, professor, and social activist bell hooks (a pen name borrowed from her grandmother’s name Bell Blair Hooks and reduced to lower case out of deference) writes in her book Yearning: Race, Gender, and Cultural Politics that black women, during her childhood in the south,“constructed their homes as places of care, nurturing and retreat from a harshly racist society in which most of them also worked outside their own homes, in domestic service at the homes of white people.Making their own home, hooks believed, however modest or temporary had ”radical potential” to regain “their ‘subjectivity’ (their personal human identities) in a society which tended to categorize them oppressively by gender and ethnicity as ‘women’ and ‘black’.”This interpretation of and relationship to ‘home’ can be complex. For some “a man’s home is his castle” so long as ‘he’ is the ‘master’. This phrase first read as “An Englishman’s home is his castle.” Which is to say “An English person’s home is a place where they may do as they please and from which they may exclude anyone they choose.” It was popularized after appearing in the book The History of the Norman Conquest of England in 1868 by the English historian Edward Augustus Freeman. However, it had been ensconced in British law since 1505. The law read,“If one is in his house, and he hears that such a one wants to come to his house to beat him, he can well make an assembly of folk among his friends and neighbours to assist him, and to aid in safeguard of his person...”But if an assembly can’t be made, or one can’t escape, then“the house of one is to him his castle and his defence, and where he properly ought to remain…a servant can beat one in defence of his master…a servant can slay one in saving the life of his master, if he [the master] cannot otherwise escape.”HOME IS WHERE THE HEART ISWhen the home comes to be known as a place that offers comfort, solace, independence, privacy, and the legal right to harm – even kill – an intruder you deem threatening, it also becomes a place that excludes. The ‘head of the household’ can assert their superiority; especially when coupled with traditional gendered roles. It’s where phrases like, “Are you the man of the house?” or “Who wears the pants in this family, anyway?” serve to validate and perpetuate male superiority and dominance in the home. At its worst, can even lead to domestic violence.What, then, does this say of homelessness? If Western social norms, legal text, and financial incentives favor home and property ownership, imagine what kind of insecurities or negative connotations come with being without one? Many fear the homeless, but the fears of the homeless – or nearly homeless – are surely greater.And what about homeless people who call their city their ‘home’? Imagine living in a city your whole life, renting as an adult, maybe even saving to buy a house, when suddenly a rent increase pushes you out to live in your car, on the street, under a bridge, or in a park. These people have not left home, but are considered ‘homeless’. ‘Houseless’ is more accurate, but does little to ease the feelings of loss, anxiety, and pain that comes with losing a roof over your head and the status that comes with it.If homes are a place of inclusion for the owner and its occupants, a place of’ belonging’, what places outside of the boundary of the home do we ‘belong’? We perceive our environment through the most intimate of senses; touching, tasting, hearing, smelling, and to the least intimate, seeing. But we are bounded in our ability to absorb and reason over the barrage of information our senses provide. We are thus influenced by our abilities and reasons for being in particular places.These inputs form mental images that help navigate space, are shaped by perceptions, preconceived notions, and relationships with people and place. Each individual understands and relates to their environment in unique ways. Environments, territories, places, and the people in them, do not exist in some objective ideal but in a subjective reality informed by our senses, beliefs, and histories.Humanistic geographer David Ley, who leveraged the work of the French geographer Vidal de le Blache, asserts that ‘home’ is a combination of the very real, regional physical environment with which we can see, touch, hear, and feel – our objective reality – and the social environment formed by the lives we lead – our subjective reality – which can be influenced by our imaginations and our emotions.Humanistic geography relates ‘home’ to a sense of ‘belonging.’ This sense or feeling exists at multiple scales from our body, abode, neighborhood, town, region, county, state, or country. We talk of ‘home towns’, ‘home field advantage’, or ‘hangin’ with my homey’s.’ And when we’re far away from them for a long time we often yearn to ‘go home.’ We become attached to these ‘homes’. They become a part of who we are – a slice of our identity and pride. The way we think of our ‘homes’ is how we would like others to think of us. There’s a word for this ‘belonging’ that combines the Greek words ‘love’ and ‘place’: topofilia.But this sense of ‘belonging’ is more than identifying with our physical surroundings. It’s more than the senses detect as you return ‘home’ from a long journey; it may be the smell of rich soil, the humidity enveloping your body, the cool mist absorbed by your thirsty pores, the arid sun radiating your closed eyes, or that songbird signing in the tree. ‘Belonging’ can also mean belonging to the people of that place – real or imagined.These people and places with which we feel ‘belonging’, at scales ranging from our bodies to homes, neighborhoods to cities, or states to countries become defensible. We become territorial. This need and desire to defend ourselves, our people, and our place is an act of control that aims to exclude others.Territories are defined by boundaries. Boundaries, when seen from the inside are protectors but from the side or the ‘others’ are rejecters. National borders, for example, are not natural and often have no physical demarcations at all. Nor are they fixed in space or time. These imaginary boundaries are created and maintained by various people over the course of history who make determinations on who is inside and outside the border. And it’s based on a this elusive notion of ‘belonging’. In the case of national borders, it’s based on a national identity – a ‘homeland’.BORDER DISORDERA nation-state is an idea that is grounded in a fabricated ideal created by a select group based on the identity they assigned to a particular set of people. This manufactured idea and it’s origins, like any idea, is contestable, changeable, and continually in flux. Like the borders themselves. To give the illusion of permanence to these unnatural homeland borders, and the national-identity they suggest, requires a constant propagation of ‘myths’ – propaganda. To reduce or eliminate contention of a fabricated national-identity, or the borders they represent, people need to be convinced these territories must be be defended. Just as they would their own body or home.Geographer Stephen Daniels suggests that both these real physical geographies and perceived national identities are interdependent. He says,“…national identities are ‘coordinated, often largely defined, by “legends and landscapes”, by stories of golden ages, enduring traditions, heroic deeds and dramatic destinies located in ancient or promised home-lands with hallowed sites and scenery’.”UCLA Geographer John Agnew calls this a “territorial trap”. He says that by “regarding states as fixed units of territorial sovereign space, unchanging through time; separating domestic (inside) from foreign (outside) political spaces; [and] treating the territorial state as a container of society” we are committing a conceptual error.It is this very trap that Trump tapped to prop himself up as president. He would repeatedly say, “If you don’t have a border, you don’t have a country.” To make the invisible border visible, he focused on building a wall. He encouraged his disciples to chant, “Build the wall, build the wall.” Staged political performances at the border drew the attention of the world. While making the intangible tangible, he strengthened the territorial trap. He perpetuated the myth that this border represents a “fixed territorial sovereign space unchanging through time”.But the United States didn’t even have a border patrol until Herbert Hoover in 1924. It too was largely a performance with the same racist goals as Trump – sweep those dirty, dusty Mexicans outside. That same meager border patrol of the 1920s remained meager until the 1990s. And remember, Texas, a state that shares a border with Mexico, was its own country, the Republic of Texas, under President Sam Houston for nearly a decade before the U.S. annexed them in 1845. There is nothing fixed or permanent about borders or territories.This fetishizing of territorial boundaries has fueled a rise in border walls over recent decades. Guggenheim Fellow and political geographer Reece Jones writes,“Two thirds of the seventy border walls that exist today were built in the past twenty years by countries as diverse as Bangladesh, China, South Africa, and Norway.”  In the 2020 book Borders and Border Walls, Élisabeth Vallet shows how border walls have gone from nearly zero in 1940 to over 72 in 2020. What’s more telling is 47% of those are built by democratic governments, 35% authoritarian, and 18% a hybrid of both. I’m assuming the U.S. is in the democratic bucket, but indeed may be slipping into hybrid.In a 2020 paper called Populism, Sovereigntism, and the Unlikely Re-Emergence of the Territorial Nation-State, British historian Aristotle Kallis writes that it leads to“economic nationalism and an embrace of protectionism, political chauvinism, isolationism, reassertion of strict border controls, reversal of previous international commitments, and an expansive range of discriminatory measures targeting those excluded from the narrow definition of ‘the people’.”Reece Jones puts it like this,“Since states the world over are threatened by the dawning of a global consciousness—a global awareness of economic, political, and environmental connections—states everywhere are responding with increasingly violent efforts to signify their control over their borders. Indeed, the border has become the location for the performance of the territorial sovereignty of the state, par excellence.”Populist, nationalist politicians and parties are behaving like a homeowner who’s convinced their home is soon to be invaded. The dust collecting around their ‘homeland’ are people who look different and share different beliefs and ideals. In America, Black and Indigenous scholars are surfacing alternative territorial and societal histories that intrude on traditional “legends and landscapes” many in this country believed to be fixed. These people are ensnared in a territorial trap, scared the rope is about to snap. So they build walls and political clout, they make calls to keep it all out.But the dust they fear isn’t going away. Try as they may, global consciousness is here to stay. So they best remember what George Carlin had to say.“Dusting is a good example of the futility of trying to put things right. As soon as you dust, the fact of your next dusting has already been established.” Subscribe at interplace.io

This special Friday show happens in the middle of the event known as Cuckweek, which celebrates the world around this connective form of kink. And with the release earlier this week of  a wonderful audiobook written on the subject of cuckolding, and female empowered ethical nonmonogamy, called Insatiable Wives from renowned clinical psychologist Dr. David Ley - we thought it would be great to bring some of the voices of the this world to the show for a discussion on the subject.

  Stupid Fish web links for List of Events:  https://www.stupidfishproductions.com/cuckweek-schedule-of-events/  Purchase #InsatiableWives audiobook here (Audible): https://bit.ly/InsatiableWivesAudiobook Follow @CuckWeek on Twitter! CUCK WEEK, Day #1 (January 25th) CUCKOLD STORYTIME with Nookie & Ryan of Dating Kinky. LIVE EVENT (Jan 24th - Jan28th) hosted on the MON app. (Only available to iPhone users.) Download MON App here. *Check above schedule for your time zone. CUCKTALE hour: An Evening with David Ley & Friends. LIVE EVENT via zoom, open to the public! RSVP link here: http://sexualhealthalliance.com/cucktale-party Sponsored by The Sexual Health Alliance. Plan Ahead: Rose Caraway is hosting CUCK WEEK FINAL WRAP-UP Q&A session on Twitter Spaces: @CuckWeek. Curious minds will get to ask my panel of Cucks, Cuckoldresses, Mistresses, and Bulls questions about the cuckold lifestyle. Please prepare questions ahead of time. @CuckWeek's DM's will be open during this even, so you can message your questions there if you'd prefer not to speak. INSATIABLE WIVES Audiobook giveaway! First come first served. The first 5 people who tweet: “I ♥ Insatiable Wives” to @theKMQ will win a free Insatiable Wives audiobook. No, DMs won't count. We want those tweets to show up on our timeline =)  Follow these amazing #CuckWeek participants: Cuck Week: @CuckWeek Dr. David Ley, Ph.D.: @DrDavidLey Sexual Health Alliance @SWSexualHealth The Kiss Me Quick's Erotica Podcast: @theKMQ   The KMQ would like to thank the following musical artists: Scott Holmes Kai Engle Feature Credit music A love so bad by Jeffery Philip Nelson

That's right, all of you who enjoy watching your partners sleep with others now are officially celebrated ALL WEEK LONG. And here at the Savage Lovecast, we're delighted to take part.  Venus Cuckoldress is on to talk about her podcast, and to advise a woman about her plan to have a gang bang on her wedding night. And there's more on the big ole Magnum version of the show.  Then, also on the Magnum, Dan chats with David Ley, who literally wrote the book on cuckolding- “Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them.” He and Rose Caraway (who narrates the audiobook, and came up with the idea for Cuck Week ) are on to talk about what a relief it is to finally have the practice of cuckolding out in the open. But do we need just a little bit of shame to enhance that erotic charge? They discuss.  And now. What is the next sexual practice to get its own week-long celebration?  Record a Q and send it in to us! voicemail@savagelovecast.com Or call 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Allform- premium, customizable sofas and chairs shipped right to your door. For 20% off your perfect sofa, go to Allform.com/Savage.

This very special episode features Dr. David Ley and Rose Caraway to talk about Dr. Ley's iconic book "Insatiable Wives" Women who stray and the men who love them, Rose's experience narrating the new audiobook version, cuckolding trends, and the impact the book has had on so many people. Insatiable Wives on AudiobookRose Caraway - @RoseCaraway, @theKMQ, @CuckWeek, thekissmequicks.com, stupidfishproductions.comWebsite: Dr. David J. LeyBooks by Dr. David Ley: Insatiable Wives, The Myth of Sex AddictionTwitter: @DrDavidLeyJoin Venus on The MON App Friday January 28th (free live event)Register for the special Pillow Talk event!  Saturday January 29th (free live event)Venus Cuckoldress - https://venuscuckoldress.com/Submit a question for the show - https://venuscuckoldress.com/ask-venus/Twitter - https://twitter.com/CuckoldressVFor the month of January 2022 as part of the 2 year anniversary celebrations for the podcast, patrons in of any of the three Patreon support tiers are automatically entered to win one of the grand prize draws! Visit https://www.patreon.com/VenusCuckoldress for more information! Venus Connections is a new matchmaking service for single men and single women who are looking for a loving cuckolding relationship. It's not a dating app - there is no swiping through profiles and no messaging members. You apply for a membership, fill out a detailed questionnaire, work through a 3 week educational course, and have a one hour interview with Venus. Then the staff let you know when they've made a match for you. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/VenusCuckoldress)

Cuckolding refers to a sexual practice in which someone finds it arousing to watch their partner have sex with another person. I first learned about cuckolding nearly a decade ago and, in the years since, its popularity has exploded. Google searches for it are on the rise, it's increasing mentioned and depicted in the popular media, and it regularly emerges among the top porn searches in the world year in and year out. There's even a new annual tradition called #CuckWeek, aimed at celebrating the cuckold lifestyle. So why are so many people into cuckolding? For insight, I spoke with Dr. David Ley and Rose Caraway. David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist, and author of the book Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, which was just released on audiobook. Rose narrated the audiobook for Insatiable Wives and is host of Kiss Me Quick's Erotica Podcast. Some of the topics we explore in this show include: How cuckolding can be sexually empowering for women. The diverse motivations behind why men want to watch their partners have sex with other people (there isn't just one reason!). How common cuckolding fantasies are, and who's most likely to have them. How cuckolding is distinct from cheating. How cuckolding relationships tend to work out. What people who are thinking about exploring cuckolding need to know. How to bring sex to life as an audiobook narrator. For more on cuckolding, be sure to check out the new audiobook for Insatiable Wives! This podcast was made on Zencastr. Join Zencastr today and receive 40% off of their professional plan for 3 months with my exclusive discount code: sexandpsych Thanks to Promescent (promescent.com) and the Modern Sex Therapy Institutes (modernsextherapyinstitutes.com) for sponsoring this episode! *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: LEGIT Audio (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

I've wanted to do an episode on the psychology of Jiu Jitsu for some time. I know this is a very broad topic and that this can mean many different things to many different people. In this episode, we make an attempt to cover some of what I feel are imperative scenarios. Recently I happened to have stumbled upon an article in Psychology Today entitled, “The Psychology of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu”. After reading the paper I knew I had to have the author on the show to help field the myriad of questions I had, most of which we answer on the show. David Ley, Ph.D., was born with one hand, is a BJJ Black Belt, and is a clinical psychologist in practice in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He earned his Doctoral degree in clinical psychology from the University of New Mexico. Dr. Ley is licensed in New Mexico and North Carolina and has provided clinical and consultative services in numerous other states. He is the Executive Director of New Mexico Solutions, a large outpatient mental health and substance abuse program in Albuquerque, NM. Dr. Ley has been treating sexuality issues throughout his career. He first began treating perpetrators and victims of sexual abuse but expanded his approach to include the fostering and promotion of healthy sexuality, and awareness of the wide range of normative sexual behaviors. Dr. Ley has published 3 books and dozens of articles on Psychology Today, he's been featured in The New York Post, London Telegraph, CNN, Huffington Post, and many more. Links: https://www.davidleyphd.com/ Instagram: @davidleyphd Twitter: @DrDavidLey Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/david.leyphd Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/david-j-ley-phd Books: https://www.amazon.com/David-J-Ley/e/B00348D2JQ/ref=dp_byline_cont_pop_book_1 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/foreverwhitebelt/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/foreverwhitebelt/support

Stephanieandfox.comSex Therapy | Intimacy & Relationship Coaching |Education | Podcasts | Articles & BlogsSex Therapist Stephanie Sigler, a Licensed Professional Counselor, and Fox, a Board Certified Intimacy, Relationship, and Sex Educator interview World Reno-renowned Psychotherapist, TV Personality and author Dr. David Ley. We talk about Pornography, Sex Addiction and how men should not feel shameful, and how porn should be used as a sexual tool for sex. We will try to have new and exciting guests on weekly We hope to put together an informative and interactive podcast, not like the restAs sex coaches, we hope to entertain, tantalize, stimulate, and pass on our experiences and advice in a fun yet an educative wayHost: Stephanie Sigler MS,NCC,LPCCo-host: Craig Chacon BS,SEC,SAVI,CIS (aka: Fox)Evolve Your Intimacy LLC Guidance & Counseling services w/ Licensed & Certified Professionals for those seeking better sex. The Tremor Sex Toy The Tremor is a World Class ride-on sex toy! What makes The Tremor different?HEDONISM II Resort (Negril, Jamaica) Come live the life you've always wanted. Nudists, Hedonists, Swingers, LGBTQI+, and the most Daring!Kasidie Looking for uninhibited adult fun? Kasidie is the adult community for sexually adventurous peoplePartners ID JEWELRY TO DISCREETLY IDENTIFY OTHER SWINGERS AROUND THE WORLD Double Date Nation THE SEXIEST & SAFEST ALTERNATIVE DATING WEBSITE!ASN Lifestyle Magazine Ask Stepahine a question about relationships, sex, kink, or fetishes and read about it in ASN.

Michael Kosta sits down with clinical psychologist Dr. David Ley, who traces the origins of the alt-right movement's anger to its anti-masturbation stance. Originally aired November 2019. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

Is it possible to become addicted to sex? How much sex is too much, exactly? Laci is joined by Dr. David Ley to untangle the sticky web of sex addiction. Ley makes the case against the concept of sex addiction, arguing that it is rooted in sexual shame. They discuss sexual repression, porn addiction, "normal" sexuality, impulse control, politically incorrect fantasies, and why our sexual fantasies often correlate with our politics. Content Notice. This episode contains: frank discussions of sensitive sexuality issues, a brief mention of a mass shooting, and brief descriptions of sadomasochistic sex acts.

Have you struggled with the cuckolding fantasies and thoughts that you have? Have you felt like you don't have control over them? Do you feel "addicted" to cuckold porn or cuckolding fantasy sites? This episode could quite possibly be the most important thing you'll listen to!Dr. David Ley sits down with Venus to explore why so many men seem to fall into the cuck shame spiral, the reasons behind it, and steps they can take begin to turn it around. David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist and author, based in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He's the author of several books and research articles on sexuality, including his first book, Insatiable Wives - Women who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, which was the first book to examine the cuckolding and hotwife phenomenon. With Justin Lehmiller and Dan Savage, he published the first psychological study of the cuckold fantasy. Dr. Ley is a frequent guest in media around the world, with appearances in the New York Times, CNN and Time Magazine, as well as Hustler and Playboy magazines. Website:Dr. David J. LeyBooks by Dr. David Ley:Insatiable WivesThe Myth of Sex Addiction Twitter:@DrDavidLey Resources mentioned in this episode:American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists National Coalition for Sexual Freedoms - Kink Aware Professionals Directory Chapter markers have been added to this episode.Venus Cuckoldress - https://venuscuckoldress.com/Submit a question for the show - https://venuscuckoldress.com/ask-venus/Pillow Talks - https://www.crowdcast.io/venuscuckoldressBecome a Patreon supporter - https://www.patreon.com/VenusCuckoldressTwitter - https://twitter.com/CuckoldressVInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/cuckoldressvenuspodcast/YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxpeMPYHPFIapapZDoaa03wFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/The-Venus-Podcast-107081554590774  Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/VenusCuckoldress)

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #12 - Talking Shame with Dr. Eric SprankleGuest: Dr. Eric SprankleReleased March 1, 2021 Sponsored by Woodhull Freedom Foundation at https://woodhullfoundation.orgSupported by Patreon at https://patreon.com/theheartofjacks/ Important lessons for a nine-year-old snoopMissing lessons in mid-century schoolAnd talking shame with Dr. Eric Sprankle Segment 1: Paul talks about how he learned about sex before most of his friends did (hint: It wasn't from his parents or school) and about the ways that queer kids learn nothing at all about sex or relationships and are still left to kludge their lives together without guidance, a monologue inspired by his conversation with today's guest.Segment 2: Dr. Eric Sprankle is an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and Co-Director of the Sexuality Studies program at Minnesota State University, Mankato, as well as a licensed clinical psychologist and an AASECT-certified sex therapist affiliated with the Minnesota Sexual Health Institute. He joins Paul to talk about shame and sexual shame.Questions that we chewed on:What is shame?Is sexual shame unique from other kinds of shame?Where does sexual shame and overall sex negativity come from?Is shame ever a good thing?What's a good alternative focus?What's behind the cultural pressure to feel shame?Is the rise of secularism alone a solution to sexual shame?- - - - -Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comCall the show: 206-580-3120Send your questions and they might be included in future episodes. The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergTheme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford Sharp Podcast distribution by Simplecast - - - - -Dr. Sprankle Links:Website, Scarlet Letters, Twitter, Instagram Dr. Sprankle at Minnesota State University Mentioned in this podcast: Inspiration:Jerry Seinfeld Howard Stern Rob Zombie  Recommendations:Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving, Betty Dodson The Myth of Sex Addiction, Dr. David Ley  Books by Mary Roach Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex Spook: Science Tackles the Afterlife Stiff: The Curious Lives of Human Cadavers 

This podcast episode was originally recorded for "Mormon Sex Info" Podcast. It's now being refurbished for your enjoyment here at the "Healing Sols Podcast." For more from Natasha Helfer, LCMFT, CST, CSTS, please visit https://www.natashahelfer.com. Natasha Helfer Parker interviews Dr. David Ley, author of The Myth of Sex Addiction, regarding the problems with the sex addiction treatment model and the conversations we should be having instead. He states that not only is this type of modality erroneous, but dangerous. They cover such issues as: How do shifting attitudes about sexuality force us to renegotiate how we see and define healthy sexuality? Why is sexual diversity easily pathologized? Why is it that there is not a single published study that sex addiction treatment makes a difference and yet treatment centers are growing in number at an alarming rate? Why are we abandoning people within a moral or social crisis, by focusing on things like a supposed pornography public health crisis? Are we aware that gay and bi men are three times as likely to be called “sex addicts?” Are we aware that the American Psychiatric Association has rejected the language of “sex addiction” for 40 years? Are we talking about the importance of sex education and regular dialogue? How can we help people explore morality in their sexuality as adults? How do we incorporate religious beliefs in ways that allow for normative sexuality? Dr. David Ley is a clinical psychologist in practice in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He earned his Bachelor's degree in Philosophy from Ole Miss, and his Master's and Doctoral degrees in clinical psychology from the University of New Mexico. Dr. Ley is the Executive Director of New Mexico Solutions, a large outpatient mental health and substance abuse program in Albuquerque, NM. Dr. Ley has been treating sexuality issues throughout his career. He first began treating perpetrators and victims of sexual abuse, but expanded his approach to include the fostering and promotion of healthy sexuality, and awareness of the wide range of normative sexual behaviors. Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them is his first book and won a Silver Medal in the Foreword Magazine Book of the Year contest for 2009. Dr. Ley wrote Insatiable Wives following two years of interviews with couples around the country. His controversial second book, The Myth of Sex Addiction was released in March 2012. Resources mentioned during the podcast: Defining “Normophilic” and “Paraphilic” Sexual Fantasies in a Population-Based Sample: On the Importance of Considering Subgroups by Christian Joyal Jason Winters (2010) published three studies on sex addiction, demonstrating that alleged sex addicts have as much (or as little) sexual self-control as anyone else, and that the identity of sex addict is predicated by a religious upbringing. Grubbs, Hook, Griffin and Davis (2015) published a review of the paucity of outcome data on sex addiction treatment in Current Addiction Reports. Work of Dr. Rory Reid Work of Stulhofer The Religious Institute

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #8 - Tyler the Bad WolfGuest: Tyler Darlig UlvReleased December 14, 2020 Looking for sponsors in all the right placesAsking an expert about straight JacksAnd talking sex work and the awesomeness of masturbation with Tyler The Bad Wolf Supported by Patreon Segment 1a: Hey sponsors! I'm looking to sell some ad space on the show. If you have a product or service you'd like my listeners to know about, shoot me an email at sponsor@theheartofjacks.com or call 206-580-3120. Segment 1b: Michael, a listener in San Francisco wants to know how I know who the straight members of the Jacks are. I give him my take on it and reason for approaching member sexual orientation the way I do, and then I call in a lifeline in the form of Dr. David Ley, clinical psychologist and sex therapist (you may have seen him on TV or heard him on radio or other podcasts before) and Dr. Ley shares his take… "It's complicated." Segment 2: Tyler The Bad Wolf. Guest, Tyler Darlig Ulv's last name literally translates from the Norwegian as "bad wolf." Tyler is a professional sex worker living in Berlin, a writer, designer and blogger and an ex-New Yorker who I met at NY Jacks. He made an impression and we became friends. I'm thrilled to share our conversation with you. We talk about sex work, NY Jacks, the awesomeness of masturbation and Kylie Minogue! Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comSponsor the show: sponsor@theheartofjacks.comCall the show: 206-580-3120 The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergTheme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpPodcast distribution by Simplecast- - - - -Mentioned in this podcast: Tyler's Links (NSFW)Main site: https://tylerthebadwolf.com/Blog: https://badwolf.blog/Insta: https://www.instagram.com/tylerdarligulv/Twitter: https://twitter.com/tylerthebadwolf Dr. David Ley (web site)Dr. David Ley on Twitter-----Books by Dr. David Ley:Insatiable Wives (2009)The Myth of Sex Addiction (2012)Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure (2016)-----NY Jacks (NSFW)Handobs Magazine (NSFW)Tales From The City, Armisted MaupinTyler Interviews Dad, Creator of Handjobs Magazine (NSFW)Masturbation is Amazing (NSFW)Cockrings: Every Day (NSFW blog entry)Kylie Minogue, DISCOThe CrownThe FavouriteThe Four Agreements

How do you approach your partner about an open relationship? What do you do if one partner wants monogamy and the other wants consensual non-monogamy? How do you get your partner to talk about sex if they're shy or uncomfortable? How do you deal with sexless marriages? Heather McPherson, M.A., LPC-S, LMFT-S, CST joins us to discuss her experience working with couples and singles as a sex therapist and founder of the Sexual Health Alliance. The Sexual Health Alliance has a Full Sex Therapy and Sex Education Certification Training program with all the CEs you need to apply to be AASECT Certified. SHA has several advance certificate training programs as will including CNM, Kink and more to be announced soon. This weekend in Denver, Colorado, join world renowned experts in the field for a Sexceptional Weekend to learn the basics and explore all the intricacies of what it means to be in a consensual non-monogamous relationship. Lectures by Dr. Eli Sheff and Dr. David Ley with special guests from the APA Consensual Non-Monogamy Task Force and creators of the Orgy Story podcast. And next weekend in Austin, TX, join the Sexual Health Alliance for Adventures in Unicorn Hunting, Happy Endings and Other Advanced Skills for Open Relationships with Dr. Eli Sheff and myself! We'll take a deep dive into Monogamish and Open Relationships and discuss advanced concepts, case studies and treatment approaches in working with these populations. And, join Heather and myself for a special evening program on Saturday at 8pm at Respark Therapy for The Business of Sex. Follow the Sexual Health Alliance on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. To learn more about Respark Therapy, click here. Follow Respark Therapy on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts.       If you've got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone's headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. In(Compatibility): When You Want an Open Relationship & Your Partner Doesnt 00:00:05 - 00:05:05 You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight Welcome to the sex with Dr. Just podcast I'm your co host Brandon. Where here with my lovely partner? Dr Jess Hey. You know what's on my mind. Talk to me. Talk to me like you're lying on your couch. Ti whatever you can. You do. rubberband man I I can but I'm not going to okay so ti. I've always been a fan big fantasy. Oh well I was. You were past tense. Well he's recently opened up about taking his eighteen year old daughter to the gynecologist every year. To make sure that they inspect her hymen to make sure that it's it's intact. Wow yes and apparently she signs a form giving him permission to find out whether or not it's intact. I'm I am surprised that a doctor is willing to do this in the first place. Because when it comes to the Hyman and inspecting the Hammond the World Health Organization Cautions Shinzo Against this. They're quite clear that inspecting the hymen is not a sign of so-called Virginity and I'll say first and foremost that virginity is a social construct. There is no one specific. Act that makes you a virgin or not a virgin. I always think about well. What if you have different types of sex? What if you are a lady who has has sex with another person WHO's lady to vaginas rubbing against each other doing that...