One Conversation Podcast

In this episode, Colin and Briana chat with author Delia Franklin about her book, Domestic and Intimate Partner Violence: A Holistic Perspective, and get her download on the state of DV, IPV< and SA, as well as some of historical and sociological learnings on how we address abuse, violence and assault on a national and global scale. Shop Delia's Book here: https://www.amazon.com/Domestic-Intimate-Partner-Violence-Perspective/dp/1793571597 Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444International/National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233International/National Domestic Violence Text Line: Text START to 88788Intro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)

In this episode, Lisa shares some common signs that indicate it might be time to re-evaluate, or end your relationship.Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444International/National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233International/National Domestic Violence Text Line: Text START to 88788One Love “How do I Know When It's Time to Breakup?”: https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/how-to-know-when-its-time-to-break-up/Time Magazine “How to Know When It's Time to Let go of Someone You Love”: https://time.com/5373451/break-up-someone-love/-Other Informational Episodes:-The 5 Types of DV Abuse-What Gaslighting Sounds Like-Should I Stay or Should I go? A Common Question in DV Relationships-Teen Dating Violence-One Sided Relationships-Trauma Bonds-The Cycle of Violence-Red & Green Flags in RelationshipsIntro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

***Disclaimer- In this episode Lisa discusses abuse that occurs in reactive abuse dynamics, and also shares a personal story that involves physical abuse. Listener discretion is advised***In this episode Lisa discusses reactive abuse. She starts by giving an overview and definition of reactive abuse before talking about warning signs, why reactive abuse is helpful for the abuser, and even shares her own personal experience.Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444International/National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233International/National Domestic Violence Text Line: Text START to 88788Other Episodes Mentioned:-Post Separation Abuse & How to Stay or Leave Safely-Safety Plans- What They Are & When You Should Make One-The 4 F's of Trauma-What Gaslighting Sounds LikeEmerald Aisle Health & Recovery “Reactive Abuse”: https://emeraldislehealthandrecovery.com/reactive-abuse/Break The Cycle “Reactive Abuse, What it is And Why Abusers Rely on it”: https://breakthesilencedv.org/reactive-abuse-what-it-is-and-why-abusers-rely-on-it/National Legal Service “What is Reactive Abuse”: https://nationallegalservice.co.uk/what-is-reactive-abuse/Choosing Therapy “Reactive Abuse”: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/reactive-abuse/Intro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

In this episode we chat with Maddie Bishop, who is a psychotherapist that specializes in the neurobiology of trauma and chronic stress. Maddie has a private practice in South Lake Tahoe, and utilizes several unique methods to approaching trauma therapy. We chat about her approach, how to choose the right therapist, and debunk a lot of common misconceptions surrounding therapy.Maddie's Website: https://www.maddiebishoptherapy.com/Info on “Building Balance, Kickboxing For Mind & Body” Group: https://www.maddiebishoptherapy.com/groupsMaddie's Instagram: @therapymaddiebishopPeter Levine's Book: Waking the Tiger: https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233XBella Bishop Artwork Mentioned In Episode: @bellabishopstudioIntro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

In this episode, Lisa talks about the all too common- ghosting. She starts by discussing some reasons why people choose to ghost others, and shares some of the consequences it has on the person who's been ghosted. She then shares some tips and phrases that can be used in some common dating situations to close the door on a relationship in an easy and honest way.One Love- How to Let Someone Down Without Ghosting Them:https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/healthy-conflict-how-to-let-someone-down-without-ghosting-them/Scientific Article “Gone With The Wind: Exploring Mobile Dater's Ghosting Experiences”: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0265407520970287Good Men Project “Don't Ghost People, Pick One of These Excuses Instead”: https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/dont-ghost-people-pick-one-of-these-excuses-instead/Previous Episodes Mentioned:-Dealing With Breakups: Episode 5-Post Relationship Abuse & How to Stay or Leave Safely: Episode 69-Stalking: Episode 10Intro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

In this episode Briana is joined by Brian Howard. Brian is a father, a podcaster, and a passionate volunteer for local causes. Brian vulnerably shares many of his life experiences and discusses how they have created an impact on who he is today. He also shares some of the most eye opening moments from his podcast, and advice for anyone who wants to start their own passion project.Unfiltered Discussions Page: https://www.unfiltereddiscussionspodcast.com/Brian's Social Media: @unfiltereddisIntro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

In this episode, Lisa shares out tips for how to navigate post-conflict situations. She shares some helpful questions and phrases that can be used to drive healthy conversations that come to a resolution, and can help repair damaged or hurt feelings.National University “7 Conflict Resolution Tips for Couples”: https://www.nu.edu/blog/seven-conflict-resolution-tips-for-couples/One Love “7 Tips for Handling Conflict in Your Relationship”: https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/handling_conflict/Psychology Today “How to Heal After Upsets”: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201501/how-heal-after-upsets-safe-4-step-route-recoveryThe Gottman Institute “How we Used the Aftermath of a Fight to Repair our Relationships”: https://www.gottman.com/blog/how-we-used-the-aftermath-of-a-fight-to-repair-our-relationship/MayoClinic “Forgiveness: Letting go of Grudges & Bitterness”: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/forgiveness/art-20047692Intro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

In this episode we begin our "Our Stories" series. In these episodes, the One Conversation hosts are going to be vulnerably telling our personal stories of who we are, where we come from, and how we got into the field of violence prevention work. Our host Colin starts us off and shares background of his upbringing, moving from the east coast to the west coast, working for the Kardashians, and what led him to work at Live Violence Free in Tahoe.

June is Pride Month. In this episode we chat with Claire McCully. Claire is an English professor, LGBTQIA activist, speaker, writer, a parent of 6, and a proud trans woman. Claire is also a TedX speaker, and has written an opinion article that was published on CNN. In this episode Claire not only shares her vulnerable story of transitioning, but we also chat about activism, having transformative conversations, and how important it is to share stories like hers in our current political climate. Lastly, she shares her wisdom for anyone out there who's in the closet, questioning, or transitioning.Claire's TedX Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/claire_mccully_the_low_road_or_the_high_roadClaire's CNN Response Article: https://www.cnn.com/2022/03/15/opinions/dont-say-gay-bill-florida-texas-trans-discrimination-mccully/index.htmlOriented to Love: https://christiansforsocialaction.orgBook “Walking The Bridgeless Canyon”: https://www.amazon.com/Walking-Bridgeless-Canyon-Repairing-Community/dp/1619200287Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/GLAAD Resource List: https://glaad.org/resourcelist/International LGBTQIA+ Resource List: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/resources-for-international-lgbtq-youth/Intro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. In this episode we have special guest Dawn Riddle, who is a certified guided meditation facilitator, to discuss some fascinating benefits of mindfulness and meditation. We chat about the several different types of mindfulness, some surprising health benefits achieved through consistent practice, and how to easily incorporate it into our everyday lives.Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction: https://palousemindfulness.com/Mayo Clinic “Meditation, A Simple Fast Way To Reduce Stress”: https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/meditation/in-depth/meditation/art-20045858NIH Meditation & Mindfulness: https://www.nccih.nih.gov/health/meditation-and-mindfulness-what-you-need-to-knowTara Brach Guided Meditation Library: https://www.tarabrach.com/guided-meditations/UCLA Health Guided Meditation Library: https://www.uclahealth.org/programs/marc/free-guided-meditations/guided-meditationsNeuro “Does Meditation Help With Brain Fog?”: https://getneuro.com/blogs/thinktank/can-meditation-help-with-brain-fogCanMeditation Help Your Immune System?; https://ranchcreekrecovery.com/blog/meditation-for-the-immune-system/#:~:text=What%20are%20the%20Benefits%20of,pressure%20and%20enhanced%20cognitive%20function.The Recovery Village “Meditation For Addiction”: https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/drug-addiction/meditation/New York Time's List “The 3 Best Meditation Apps”: https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/best-meditation-apps/Intro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

In this episode Lisa discusses vicarious trauma. She goes over the definition of vicarious trauma, how it can manifest, and how to provide support for someone who is experiencing this.Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444Self Care For Social Workers: https://onlinesocialwork.vcu.edu/blog/self-care-for-social-workers/Self Care For Emergency Responders: https://emergency.cdc.gov/coping/responders.aspCDCR Vicarious Trauma Fact Sheet: https://www.cdcr.ca.gov/bph/wp-content/uploads/sites/161/2021/10/Trauma-Fact-Sheets-October-2021.pdfAmerican Counseling Association “What is Vicarious Trauma”: https://www.counseling.org/docs/default-source/trauma-disaster/fact-sheet-9---vicarious-trauma.pdfPsych Central “Vicarious Trauma”: https://psychcentral.com/health/vicarious-trauma#next-stepsWendt Center Coping With Vicarious Trauma: https://www.wendtcenter.org/resources/for-professionals/CBT Psychology “When Vicarious Trauma Goes Too Far & How To Cope”: https://cbtpsychology.com/vicarioustrauma/Very Well Mind “Trauma Therapy”: https://www.verywellmind.com/trauma-therapy-definition-types-techniques-and-efficacy-5191413Intro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Disclaimer- In this episode we discuss domestic violence, listener discretion is advised In this episode we interview Bonnie Welsh, a survivor of Intimate Partner Violence who now advocates for violence prevention. Bonnie vulnerably shares her survivor story and how, even as the victim, she found herself incarcerated when trying to leave. We discuss her story, the prevalence of abuse victims who are incarcerated, and why teaching about abuse is crucial.Live Violence Free Crisis Line- 530-544-4444National Domestic Violence Hotline- 800-799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline- 1-800-656-4673RAINN Sexual Assault And Abuse National Website- https://www.rainn.org/International Domestic Violence Resources- https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/international-organizationsInternational Sexual Assault Resources- http://www.ibiblio.org/rcip/internl.htmlIntro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

In this episode we chat with the Mayor of South Lake Tahoe, Cristi Creegan. Cristi served as the president of the board of directors of Live Violence Free for over a decade. She has been actively involved in several non-profit agencies and other volunteer opportunities; her passion for conservation and the Tahoe community itself is abundant. We chat with Cristi about her time as president of the board, her new role as Mayor, and what it looks like to balance working in the civic arena while being a mother and having several other roles.Live Violence Free's Crisis Line: 530-544-4444California Local- Cristi's City Council Bio: https://californialocal.com/localnews/el-dorado/ca/government/show/120-city-of-south-lake-tahoe/representative/417-cristi-creegan/Cristi Creegan's Instagram: @councilmembercristiEarth Day Event at LTCC (April 22, 2023): https://visitlaketahoe.com/event/south-tahoe-earth-day/Soroptmist Advocacy 101 (April 19th at the Tahoe Public Library): https://www.sislt.org/events/State of South Shore Event at Tahoe Beach Retreat: https://business.tahoechamber.org/events/search?c=6Opportunities to Get Involved in The Tahoe Community- WWW.CITYOFSLT.USBooks Mentioned-The Singularities: A Novel by John Banville - https://www.amazon.com/Singularities-novel-John-Banville/dp/0525655174-City of Bohane by Kevin Barry- https://www.amazon.com/City-Bohane-Novel-Kevin-Barry/dp/155597645XIntro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

Disclaimer- In this episode we discuss sexual assault. Listener discretion is advisedApril is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. In this episode, Briana and Lisa dive into the issue of sexual assault. They discuss statistics, terminology, the short & long term effects of victimization, and how to support survivors.National Sexual Violence Hotline: 800-656-HOPE(4673)Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444National Suicide Hotline: Call or text 988International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines/Episodes Mentioned-Episode 28“Sexual Assault Exams w Debbi Robison, SANE'Episode 80 "Vulnerability Shame & Connection”Hunting Ground Documentary Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jAcO6byawpoUnebelievable Series Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QTIkUzkbzQkI am Vanessa Guillen Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wpii7t26aZU RAINN's Website: https://www.rainn.org/ UCLA Health: https://www.uclahealth.org/news/the-long-term-effects-of-sexual-assaultVAWNet Online Article Database “Effects of Sexual Violence” Article: https://vawnet.org/material/psychological-consequences-sexual-traumaRAINN Statistics on Sexual Assault: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/scope-problemRape Foundation “Helping Someone You Know”:https://therapefoundation.org/helping-someone-you-know/RAINN “Tips for Talking to Survivors”: https://www.rainn.org/articles/tips-talking-survivors-sexual-assaultWashington Coalition of SA Programs “Effects of SA”: https://www.wcsap.org/help/about-sexual-assault/effects-sexual-assaultTrauma In The Body: https://www.coalitionrecovery.com/rehab-blog/how-unprocessed-trauma-is-stored-in-the-body/Intro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

We are rounding out Woman's History Month with a candid conversation discussing the wisdom and insight we've learned from Brene Brown. Brene is a researcher and story-teller who has spent the last few decades researching courage, shame, vulnerability, and empathy. Lisa and Briana both have learned so many valuable lessons from her various talks, podcasts, and interviews, and share some of their favorite teachable moments they have learned from her work. Brene Brown TED Talk “The Power of Vulnerability”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o&t=2sBrene Brown TED Talk “Listening to Shame”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psN1DORYYV0&t=23sBrene Brown TED Talk “The Price of Invulnerability”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_UoMXF73j0c&t=29sBrene Brown's Book List: https://brenebrown.com/books-audioBrene Brown's Podcast: https://brenebrown.com/podcasts/Brene Brown's Website/Bio: https://brenebrown.com/aboutMotivational Instincts Video- Brene Brown: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6qfbpBzqitALive Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444Intro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

Disclaimer- in this episode we touch on difficult subjects such as domestic violence, sexual and emotional abuse, listener discretion is advisedIn this episode we highlight Bridey Thelen Heidel. We chat with Bridey about her blog and upcoming memoir which detail her upbringing in a household with domestic violence and abuse, and how sharing her story has been apart of her healing. Bridey has devoted her life to empowering the people around her, especially youth. She is a Tahoe local, English teacher, head of the ALLY club, and is soon to be in an off-Broadway production in New York City. Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444National Domestic Abuse Hotline: 800-799-7233Bridey's Blog: https://bridey-thelenheidel.com/ Tickets/Livestream Info for “Listen to Your Mother” Performance: https://theatre71.venuetix.com/show/details/TqcmhvqRVhNOGJrWs7ZY/1680375600000Bridey on Dancing With The Tahoe Stars: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5p4lOsisxkcNational Domestic Violence Resources: https://www.thehotline.org/International Domestic Violence Resources: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/international-organizationsIntro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

March is International Women's Month. In this episode we highlight Mei Lee, who is an entrepreneur, and founder of "Ageless Zen" a local Tahoe beauty brand. Ageless Zen has partnered with Live Violence Free in an innovative community partnership, where shopping their clean ingredient products can directly benefit the clients we serve at our agency. We chat with Mei about the products in the Ageless Zen line, tips for other women starting a company, and discuss how other businesses can take this community partnership approach to support local agencies and non-profitsAgeless Zen's Community Partnership Link (proceeds of sales go to Live Violence Free): https://www.azcommunitypartnership.com/Ageless Zen's Website: https://agelesszen.com/Live Violence Free's Website: https://liveviolencefree.org/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode we have a deep conversation about relationship truths with Rio Timberlane. Rio is a Relationship Scientist and Author, helping others to recognize how their subconscious mind influences their day to day life, often causing fear, anxiety & worry. We discuss paradigm shifting concepts of how we hold power in our relationships, and the line between healthy and unhealthy. Rio discusses some of the 4 laws he has created in his book that identify how we can better navigate our relationships, and be the most authentic version of ourselves. One Conversation Instagram to Provide Q & A Questions: @oneconversation_lvfRio's Book “The Joy of Lucid Love”: https://www.riowrks.org/ Rio's Biography Page: https://www.riowrks.org/rio-timberlane Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444Intro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

Disclaimer- in this episode, the topics of abuse and self-harm are discussed, listener discretion is advised February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. In this episode, Lisa has a comprehensive discussion on teen dating violence. She begins by defining teen dating violence before discussing some of the immediate and even long-term impacts that can come from having experienced intimate partner violence in these formative years. She shares out warning signs and red flags of teen relationship abuse that can be noticed by adults and teens themselves, and even shares some personal experience before sharing out what can be done to limit some of the negative impacts that can occur. Live Violence Free Crisis Line- 530-544-4444National Teen Dating Violence Hotline -866-331-9474National Suicide Prevention Hotline- Dial 988Teen Dating Violence Global Resources- https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/teen-dating-violenceEpisodes-Ep 13: Teen Dating ViolenceEp 40: 5 Types of DV AbuseEp 68: Coercive ControlEp. 2: Dynamics of Domestic ViolenceEp 61: Impact of Childhood Trauma & ACE StudiesLove is Respect- https://www.loveisrespect.org/CDC Fast Facts- Teen Dating Violencehttps://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepartnerviolence/teendatingviolence/fastfact.html#:~:text=Violence%20in%20an%20adolescent%20relationship,risk%20for%20victimization%20during%20college.USA Today- Teen Dating Violence Affects Well-Being in Adulthoodhttps://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2012/12/07/teen-dating-violence-pediatrics/1749105/ Erin Levitas Foundation- Impacts of Teen Dating Violence in Adulthoodhttps://erinlevitas.org/2022/02/24/impacts-of-teen-dating-violence-on-adulthood/ Cornell Chronicle- Teen Dating Violence Linked to Long Term Harmful Effectshttps://news.cornell.edu/stories/2012/12/teen-dating-violence-linked-long-term-harmIntro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Warning- listener discretion is advised for this episode due to the content and describing situations of violence. Please be advised this episode is for mature audiences onlyJanuary is Stalking Awareness Month. In this episode, Lisa dives into the realities of stalking. She shares how stalking is portrayed and discussed in media and current events, the different profiles or types/characteristics of stalkers, and goes over some myths and facts about this issue. She ends by sharing tips and options for victims of stalking, and how to seek support. Live Violence Free Crisis Line- 530-544-4444 Episode 62- "Safety Plans, What They Are & When You Should Make One"Episode 42- "How Technology Can Be Used In Abusive Relationships"Stalking Awareness.org- Stalking Safety Strategies: https://www.stalkingawareness.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/Safety-Strategies.pdfOne Love- 5 Movies that Normalize Stalking IRL: https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/5-movies-that-normalize-stalking-irl/National Domestic Violence Hotline- Stalking Safety Planning:https://www.thehotline.org/resources/stalking-safety-planning/Victim Support Services- Myths & Facts of Stalking:https://www.stalkingawareness.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/Safety-Strategies.pdfCharlotte Police Department- Myths & Facts of Stalking:https://police.charlotte.edu/safety/what-if-i-am-being-stalked/stalking-awareness-fact-sheetScholarly Thesis- Behaviors Characteristics of Stalkers Who Kill: https://shareok.org/bitstream/handle/11244/331402/BrooksRL2021.pdf?sequence=1&isAllowed=yStalking Risk Profile- Types of Stalking: https://www.stalkingriskprofile.com/what-is-stalking/types-of-stalkingDomestic Violence Shelter Search (National/International):https://www.domesticshelters.org/helpIntro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

January is Positive Parenting Awareness Month. In this episode, Lisa and Sara discuss the Triple P, or Positive Parenting Program. The Triple P is an evidence-based parenting method that is backed by 3 decades of research, and has been piloted in several countries across the globe. We share out some of the components of the program that make it different from other parenting styles, and share the core elements of the positive parenting method. The Atlantic “Welcome to Parenting College”: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/03/welcome-to-parent-college/473484/Triple P “Find Out About Triple P”: https://www.triplep.net/glo-en/find-out-about-triple-p/Triple P “Parenting FAQ”: https://www.triplep-parenting.com/us/about-triple-p/faq/Positive Parenting Awareness Month Tools: https://www.positiveparentingtools.org/tools-to-useCNBC “Here's What Makes Positive Parenting Different”: https://www.cnbc.com/2021/12/04/why-psychologists-say-positive-parenting-is-the-best-style-for-raising-confident-successful-kids.htmlAlfie Kohn “The Risk of Rewards” Research Article: https://www.alfiekohn.org/article/risks-rewards/Positive Parenting During COVID: https://acrobat.adobe.com/link/track?uri=urn:aaid:scds:US:dcaf377f-ab12-300b-aa58-7a3eaf08877cIntro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode Lisa breaks down what it looks like to be living in survival mode. She shares how trauma impacts the brain and causes the survival mode response. The warning signs of being in survival mode are shared to paint a picture of what this looks and feels like, followed up by some tips for alleviating the symptoms of frequent survival mode. This episode ends in a trauma informed guided meditation.Episodes Mentioned:-Episode 65 Overcome Trauma With Mindfulness With Marta McLean LMFT-Episode 56 The 4 F's Of Trauma-Episode 27 Self-Compassion With Jen Kile LMFT-Episode 1 Self-CarePsychology Today “Why Living In Survival Mode Isn't The Best Way To Live”: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifting-the-veil-trauma/202006/why-survival-mode-isnt-the-best-way-liveRosen Institute “8 Signs You're In Survival Mode (And How To Escape)”: https://roseninstitute.com/8-signs-youre-survival-mode-step-escaping/Jefferson Center “What is “Survival Mode?”: https://www.jcmh.org/a-how-to-guide-for-surviving-survival-mode/Genesis Shelter “Understanding PTSD”: https://www.genesisshelter.org/understanding-ptsd/Dr. Gia Marson “Negative Impact of Prolonged Survival Mode”: https://drgiamarson.com/the-negative-impact-of-prolonged-survival-mode-what-can-you-do-to-thrive/Child Guidance Resource Center Staff “Trauma & The Brain - Signs You Might Be Living In Survival Mode”: https://cgrc.org/blog/trauma-and-the-brain-signs-you-might-be-in-survival-mode/Grounding Techniques Worksheet: https://www.winona.edu/resilience/media/grounding-worksheet.pdfIntro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comhttps://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode we talk about the importance of healing your inner child. We chat about the process of reconnecting with our inner child through a process called re-parenting. We share some exercises for that reconnection process, and some tips and considerations along the way. We also discuss some other measures to address your inner child, and some helpful skills to strengthen that process. Reparenting Your Inner Child: https://www.stepupformentalhealth.org/reparenting-your-inner-child/ Healing Your Inner Child: https://psychcentral.com/health/how-to-heal-your-inner-child#hug-yourselfInner Child Healing Exercises PDF: https://www.zalmannelson.com/inner-child-healing-exercises-pdfForbes “5 Self-Soothing Techniques to Heal Your Inner Child”: https://www.forbes.com/sites/womensmedia/2021/09/02/5-self-soothing-tips-to-heal-your-inner-child/?sh=187ad0522f32Carl Jung “Inner Child In Dreams” Book: https://www.amazon.com/Inner-Child-Dreams-Foundation-Books/dp/1570626790Thich Nhat Hanh “Reconciliation, Healing The Inner Child” Book: https://www.amazon.com/Reconciliation-Healing-Thich-Nhat-Hanh/dp/1935209647 Inner Child Healing Books: https://medium.com/the-conscious-way/7-books-that-will-help-you-heal-your-inner-child-583176bfaaefBriana's TED Talk “Preventing Teen Dating Violence From The Inside Out”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iwuy5UZy3GwEpisode Mentioned Today:-Episode 65: “Overcome Trauma With Mindfulness with Special Guest: Marta McLean LMFTVideo- Dr Dawn Elise Snipes “Healing The Inner Child” Using CBT: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IKJPtpaNP2AIntro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode we talk about the attachment styles. These attachment types are formed in infancy, and can significantly affect our relationships with partners, friends, family, or in any relationship capacity. We break down the 4 attachment styles by sharing the behaviors, patterns, and triggers for each type. We also discuss how we can navigate dealing with the insecurities felt by each type, and how to maintain a healthy relationship with someone who has an insecure attachment style.Discover Your Attachment Style (Free Quiz): https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/The Attachment Project “Attachment Styles”: https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/four-attachment-styles/What is Attachment Theory?: https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-theory/HelpGuide “How Attachment Styles Affect Adult Relationships”: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/attachment-and-adult-relationships.htmMind Body Green's “7 Expert-Approved Books To Take A Deep Dive Into Attachment Styles”: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/best-books-on-attachment-theoryPsych2Go “The Four Attachment Styles of Love” Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=23ePqRkOKtgOther Episodes Mentioned in Today's Episode:Impacts of Childhood Trauma & The ACE Study- Episode 61Intro Music Provided By:Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode Lisa discusses the dynamics of a one-sided relationship. She shares some of the signs of either being in, or perpetuating a one-sided relationship dynamic, and also shares how partners can work to overcome this. This episode ends with a guided meditation focused on dealing with difficult emotions.Cleveland Health Clinic "4 Signs of One Sided Relationships": https://health.clevelandclinic.org/one-sided-relationships/Very Well Mind "One-Sided Relationship Signs": https://www.verywellmind.com/one-sided-relationship-signs-causes-effects-coping-5216120One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

*Disclaimer- In this episode we discuss abuse and share statistics on relationship violence/fatality. Listener discretion is advised*In this episode we talk about Post Separation Abuse and how a victim/survivor can stay in, or leave, a domestic violence relationship as safely as possible. We break down the ways that someone can abuse a victim/survivor after separation, by explaining the types of manipulation provided on the Deluth Model "Post-Separation Abuse" wheel. We then move on to discussing tips for remaining in the relationship as safely as possible and some considerations to keep in mind. Lastly, we discuss important factors for maintaining safety after leaving a abusive relationship. Live Violence Free Crisis Line- 530-544-4444National/International Domestic Violence Hotline- 800-799-7233One Conversation Episodes Mentioned Today-Episode 62 “Safety Plans - What They Are & When You Should Make One”Episode 41 “Should I Stay or Should I Go? A Common Question in DV Relationships”Episode 65- “Overcome Trauma With Mindfulness With Special Guest: Marta McLean LMFT” (Explaining EMDR & Other Trauma Focused Therapy/Tools)One Conversation Episodes Focusing on Domestic Violence-Episode 2- “Dynamics of Domestic Violence”Episode 3-”How to Support Domestic Violence Survivors”Episode 30- “Unhealthy & Abusive LGBTQIA+ Relationships”Episode 35-”Impact of Domestic Violence on Children & Survivors”Episode 40-”The 5 Types of Domestic Violence Abuse”Episode 42-”How Can Technology be Used in Abusive Relationships? With Special Guest Heather Anderson”The Women's Safe House “Stages of Leaving a DV Relationship”- https://twsh.org/community-education/stages-of-leaving-a-dv-relationship/DomesticShelter.Org's “8 Common Post-Separation Abuse Tactics”- https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/legal/8-common-post-separation-domestic-abuse-tactics NCADV's “Why do Victims Stay?”- https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stayCTCADV's “National Statistics About DV”- https://www.ctcadv.org/information-about-domestic-violence/national-statistics/Duluth's “Post Separation Power And Control Wheel”- https://www.dvact.org/post/the-post-separation-abuse-wheelHelpGuide's “How to Get Out of an Abusive Relationship”- https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship.htmOne Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www/liveviolencefree.org

In this episode we discuss abuse that happens within coercive control relationships, listener discretion is advised October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. In this episode we spend time breaking down the prevalent and complex issue that is coercive control. We take time to not only define it, but also share some of the ways it can look or feel within the relationship. We highlight ways someone can recognize if they are in a coercive control relationship, and even share some of our own personal insight. Lastly, we discuss some tips for how to leave a coercive control relationship safely and some things to keep in mind. Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444International Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233National Domestic Violence TextLine: Text “SMART” to 88788Domestic Shelters.Org “Guide to Coercive Control”: https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/a-guide-to-coercive-control Domestic Shelters.Org “Abuse That's Hard to Recognize”: https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/abuse-that-s-hard-to-recognize-coercive-controlPsychology Today “4 Common Patterns of Coercive Control in Relationships”: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-ptsd/202206/4-common-patterns-coercive-control-in-relationships VIDEO- Divorce & Beyond Podcast “UnderstandingCoercive Control With IPV Expert Christine Cocchiola”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V2lUeD1yI6E&t=4s Book Link- “Invisible Chains, Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship”: https://www.guilford.com/fontes3-forms Domestic Shelters.Org Domestic Violence Book Guides: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/books One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode, Lisa shares important insight for how to deepen our connection with our partner. The 5 Love Languages are different ways people give and receive love. Knowing the love languages is helpful for showing up for your partner in ways that make them feel seen and appreciated, and also the key for how your partner can show you that you are loved. 5 Love Languages Website/Quizzes: https://5lovelanguages.com/start/romantic/ 5 Love Languages Book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-That-Lasts/dp/0802473156Very Well Mind “5 Love Languages” Article: https://www.verywellmind.com/can-the-five-love-languages-help-your-relationship-4783538#toc-criticisms-of-the-love-language-theoryFamily Centre “5 Different Ways To Show Love And Improve Your Relationship”: https://www.familycentre.org/news/post/5-different-ways-to-show-love-and-improve-your-relationshipPsych2Go Video "What is Your Love Language?": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0EEdwpAOg One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode we discuss a topic that is near and dear to us: positive affirmations. Not only are we big believers in the power of utilizing affirmations, but there is also scientific evidence on how beneficial they are to our outlook and overall health. We talk about the research findings, share tips to help create a daily routine with affirmations. examples of affirmation statements, and even share some of our own personal experiences and insight. National Library of Medicine “Self-Affirmation Activates Brain Systems Associated With Self-Related Processing and Reward and is Reinforced by Future Orientation”: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4814782/ Washington Post “How to Make Self-Affirmations Work”: https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2022/05/02/do-self-affirmations-work/Positive Affirmations for Self-Love, Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yo1pJ_D-H3MPositive Affirmations for Improving Your Mindset Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQUkLue4Q-oHuffpost “35 Affirmations That Will Change Your Life”: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/affirmations_b_3527028Affirmations Journal Prompts: https://www.holisticwellnesspractice.com/hwp-blog/2021/04/22/21-days-to-a-positive-mindset-journal-prompts-affirmationsThe “Love Girls” Online Magazine: https://www.lovegirlsmagazine.com/“I Am” App Link: https://iamaffirmations.app/ One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode we are joined by special guest, Marta McLean, to have a deep conversation on how we can deal with trauma. Marta has been providing therapy services at Live Violence Free for 10 years, and specializes in trauma therapy. We define triggers before she shares a plethora of techniques that can be used when someone is triggered. We end with a special breathing technique for our meditation, that can be used to help ground and center you either during or after a trigger. Live Violence Free Virtual Trauma Support Group: Every Wednesday at 10AM. Call 530-544-2118 for more information (Available to residents of El Dorado and Alpine County)Trauma Survivors Network Peer Support Group: https://www.traumasurvivorsnetwork.org/pages/peer-support-groupsHealthline's "The 5 Best Online Trauma Support Groups: https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/ptsd-online-support-groupKristin Neff's Website: https://self-compassion.org/Kristin Neff's Books (Marta Recommended):Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Self-Compassion-Workbook-Yourself-Strength/dp/1462526780Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself: https://www.amazon.com/Self-Compassion-Proven-Power-Being-Yourself/dp/0061733520Fierce Self-Compassion: https://www.amazon.com/Fierce-Self-Compassion-Harness-Kindness-Thrive/dp/006299106XMedical News Today's "Grounding Techniques for PTSD & Trauma": https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/grounding-techniquesChoosing Mental Health's "25 Grounding Techniques for Trauma": https://choosementalhealth.org/25-grounding-techniques-for-anxiety/Very Well Mind's "Best Meditation/Mindfulness Apps of 2022": https://www.verywellmind.com/best-meditation-apps-4767322Live Violence Free: https://liveviolencefree.org/One Conversation, the Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode, we explore and share some insight for foster, adoptive, and biological parents of children who have experienced trauma. We discuss how children in different age groups can be impacted from traumatic experiences, and what types of experiences can develop into childhood traumatic stress. We highlight the different risk and protective factors that can mitigate or worsen traumatic episodes, and even discuss some tips for how parents can help their child overcome living with trauma. Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444CSP Overview of Trauma in Foster Care: https://www.csp.edu/publication/trauma-children-in-foster-care-a-comprehensive-overview/Washington Foster's "Understanding Trauma": https://foster.wachildrenandfamilies.org/blog/understanding-trauma-in-foster-childrenChild Welfare's "Parenting A Child Who Has Experienced Trauma": https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/factsheets/child-trauma/The Marshall Project "Hidden Trauma in Short Stays in Foster Care": https://www.themarshallproject.org/2020/02/11/the-hidden-trauma-of-short-stays-in-foster-careChild Welfare's "Support For Foster Families": https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/outofhome/resources-foster-families/supports/National child Traumatic Stress Network "What is Trauma": https://www.nctsn.org/what-is-child-trauma/trauma-typesTreating The Effects of Childhood Trauma: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-are-the-effects-of-childhood-trauma-4147640One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode, Briana and Lisa dive into a topic that they both struggle with - Imposter Syndrome. This phenomenon causes people to feel like they are a fraud in some area of their life, whether it's in their work, home life, or relationships. Are we really not doing enough? Or, are these feelings of falling short coming from somewhere else? They define the 5 types Imposter Syndrome and some of the ways we can challenge this limiting inner dialogue, while also taking time to spill some tea and discuss how this has impacted them personally.Dr Valerie Young Imposter Syndrome Institute: https://impostorsyndrome.com/valerie-young/ “Thinking Your Way Out Of Imposter Syndrome” TED Talk, Dr. Valerie Young: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h7v-GG3SEWQ APA “Feel Like A Fraud?”: https://www.apa.org/gradpsych/2013/11/fraud Psychology Today “Imposter Syndrome”: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/imposter-syndromeVery Well Mind “Imposter Syndrome”: https://www.verywellmind.com/imposter-syndrome-and-social-anxiety-disorder-4156469PsychCentral “Imposter Syndrome Test” : https://psychcentral.com/quizzes/impostor-syndrome-test One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode we are diving in to all things safety plans. We start off by talking a little about the different types of safety plans that exist, before sharing out important information on domestic violence safety plans. We go through the different types of questions a safety plan will ask, and also discuss some tips and considerations for creating one.The Hotline National Call Line: 800-799-7233The Hotline National Text Chat: Text SMART to 88788Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444National Search Tool for Domestic Violence: https://www.domesticshelters.org/help#?page=1The Hotline “Interactive Guide to Safety Planning”: https://www.thehotline.org/plan-for-safety/create-a-safety-plan/#gf_1Love is Respect “Create a Safety Plan”: https://www.loveisrespect.org/personal-safety/create-a-safety-plan/RAINN “Safety Planning”: https://www.rainn.org/articles/safety-planning“Victim Centered Safety Plan for Adults” Article: https://s3-us-east-2.amazonaws.com/ncall/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/20102351/SafetyPlanningOlderAdults.pdfOne Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode Briana and Sara discuss the many ways that experiencing trauma in childhood can have negative effects across the lifespan. They discuss the areas of the brain that are most impacted by trauma before introducing the ACEs, or Adverse Childhood Experiences Study. They share out some of the groundbreaking research done by the ACEs research team that shows how trauma in childhood can lead to significant health or emotional issues later on in life. Lastly, they share how protective factors can help curb some of these negative health outcomes.Not to be used as a diagnostic tool- Take the ACES Quiz: https://americanspcc.org/take-the-aces-quiz/ACES “Who We Are”: http://aceresponse.org/who_we_are/ACE-Study_43_pg.htmTraumatic Stress Impacts on Brain Study: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3181836/APA Article “Trauma”: https://www.apa.org/topics/trauma#:~:text=Trauma%20is%20an%20emotional%20response,symptoms%20like%20headaches%20or%20nausea.Nadine Burke Harris - How Childhood Trauma Affects Health Across a Lifetime TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=95ovIJ3dsNkFind a Doctor Near You Search Page: https://doctor.webmd.com/Find a Therapist Near You Search Page: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapistsHarvard's “ACEs and Toxic Stress Frequently Asked Questions”: https://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/aces-and-toxic-stress-frequently-asked-questions/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

Some of the stories told today discuss abuse and mistreatment that could be triggering for some listeners. Listener discretion is advisedIn this episode, Lisa and Sara take time to share out some of their most impactful stories from working in the field of violence prevention. Throughout the stories they discuss the importance of being a support system and how to be a strong advocate for others.Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444Live Violence Free Website: www.liveviolencefree.orgThe Hotline Domestic Violence Call Line: 800-799-7233The Hotline Domestic Violence Text Line: Text START to 88788RAINN Sexual Assault Support Resources: https://www.rainn.org/resourcesOne Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

Listener discretion is advised, as this episode discusses moments of harm and a mass shootingJune is Pride Month. In this episode, Lisa shares out an interesting mini-history lesson on the LGBTQIA+ movement. She starts at the very beginning, discussing some of the earliest documentation of individuals in the community, and the earliest activist groups. While touching on some important moments throughout history, she dives into the infamous Stonewall Riots, which was a pivotal moment for LGBTQIA rights, and the movement itself. The episode is concluded by discussing some current considerations, including the horrific Pulse Nightclub incident, before moving in to a guided meditation.History Channel- Stonewall https://www.history.com/topics/gay-rights/the-stonewall-riots“Who Was At Stonewall?” Article: https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/a36319161/stonewall-riot-leaders/Female Husbands of Kenya History: https://face2faceafrica.com/article/fascinating-history-africas-female-husbands8 Things You Should Know About Two-Spirit People: https://indiancountrytoday.com/archive/8-misconceptions-things-know-two-spirit-peopleNational Park Service LGBTQIA History and Culturehttps://www.nps.gov/ston/learn/historyculture.htmStonewall History 50 Years of LGBT History https://www.stonewall.org.uk/about-us/news/stonewall-uprising-50-years-lgbt-historyLGBTQIA American History Timeline https://www.lgbtqhistory.org/lgbt-rights-timeline-in-american-history/GLSEN LGBTQ History https://www.glsen.org/lgbtq-historyAmerican Psychological Association History of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Social Movements https://www.apa.org/pi/lgbt/resources/historyHistory Channel LGBT History https://www.history.com/tag/lgbt-historyNBC's Queer History Book List https://www.nbcnews.com/select/nbc-out/11-books-read-lgbtq-history-month-ncna808486Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444GLAAD Resources https://www.glaad.org/resourcelistTrevor Project Resource Center https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/ConnectSafe Resource Hub https://www.connectsafely.org/lgbtq-resources/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

June is Pride month. In this episode we discuss the coming out process. We share some valid considerations for why someone in the LGBTQIA+ community might choose, or choose not to come out. We go over some tips for how you can prepare for the coming out conversation(s) if you are not out yet, as well as some ideas for how to make sure you take care of yourself before, during, and after that talk.Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444Trevor Project Coming Out Handbook: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/guide/the-coming-out-handbook/Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/Trevor Project Mental Health Hub: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/contact-us/Coming Out For Teens: https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/coming-out.htmlLGBTQIA Resource Help Center: https://lgbtqia.ucdavis.edu/support/hotlinesPFLAG Support Hub: https://pflag.org/needsupport“Stop The Hurt” LGBTQIA Healthy Relationships: https://stopthehurt.org/lgbtq-relationships/“Love is Respect” Healthy LGBTQIA Relationships: https://www.loveisrespect.org/pdf/Healthy_LGBTQ_Relationships.pdfUS LGBTQIA Shelters/Housing Options: https://nationalhomeless.org/issues/lgbt/LGBTQIA Homelessness Services: https://www.hudexchange.info/homelessness-assistance/resources-for-lgbt-homelessness/#resources-for-homeless-lgbtq-individuals-in-crisisInternational LGBTQIA Resources: https://www.stonewall.org.uk/our-work/international/international-resourcesStonewall UK's “Advice for Coming Out LGBTQIA+”: https://www.stonewall.org.uk/help-advice/coming-out/coming-out-as-an-adultUK Shelter Info: https://england.shelter.org.uk/get_helpHuman Rights Campaign "Coming Out Resources: https://www.hrc.org/resources/coming-outOne Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode Lisa, Sara, and Miguel share out some personal insight as to why they choose to work at Live Violence Free in the field of violence intervention & prevention. They share their motivations, difficult moments, successes, and what keeps them going and doing the work, Lastly, they discuss ways that you can become involved at Live Violence Free as a volunteer if you are local to the area. Below are links to numerous national and international organizations to get involved in violence prevention if you are not a Tahoe California local.Live Violence Free Volunteer Page: https://liveviolencefree.org/get-involved/volunteer/Live Violence Free "Crisis Intervention Training" Info Page: https://liveviolencefree.org/get-involved/crisis-intervention-training/National Coalition Against Domestic Violence Volunteer Page: https://ncadv.org/volunteerPartnership Against Domestic Violence Volunteer/Opportunities: https://padv.org/supporters/volunteer/RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) Volunteer Page: https://go.rainn.org/l/699033/2021-01-13/5ql5pRAINN Career Listings Page: https://www.rainn.org/careersSafeBae Volunteer/Career Page: https://safebae.org/get-involved/Futures Without Violence Volunteer/Get Involved Page: https://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/take-action/One Conversation, the Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

Disclaimer - This episode discusses trauma responses. Please be advised this content might be triggering for someMay is Mental Health and Trauma Awareness Month. In this episode Lisa introduces the "4 F's of Trauma" which are the 4 types of trauma responses. She discusses how trauma can manifest itself in individuals, including different types of situations where trauma can occur. Each one of the trauma responses (or the 4 F's) are broken down, discussing what kind of symptoms or behaviors stem from each. Lastly, she shares out coping techniques for each response, and talks about how you can support yourself, or perhaps someone else that is experiencing these trauma responses."Neurobiology of Trauma": http://stacarecenter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/The-Care-Center-Neurobiology-of-Trauma-Nov-2016.pdfPTSD and Reactions Article: https://www.ptsd.va.gov/understand/isitptsd/common_reactions.aspUW School Research Article PTSD and Sexual Assault: https://newsroom.uw.edu/news/75-sexual-assault-survivors-have-ptsd-one-month-later"Understanding The 4 F's of Trauma": https://bridgesmentalhealth.com/2021/02/12/understanding-the-four-fs-of-complex-trauma/"Why We Do What We Do: Trauma Responses, The 4 F's": http://northstarcounselingcenter.com/trauma-and-stress-responses-the-four-4s"Trauma, Helping Family or Friends": https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/trauma-helping-family-or-friendsOne Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

Disclaimer- in this episode we define all types of child abuse. This content can be triggering due to the nature of the conversation, so please be advisedApril is both Sexual Assault and Child Abuse Awareness Month. In this episode we define and discuss child abuse. We discuss the different forms of abuse, and we talk about differences in child abuse laws state to state. We share out some red-flags and warning signs of abuse before we share out some tips and considerations for how we can hold conversations with kids and provide support for a child who has been abused.National Child Abuse Hotline at 800.4.A.CHILD (422-4453), any time 24/7.National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673) or chat online at online.rainn.org.CDC Child Abuse https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/childabuseandneglect/fastfact.html#:~:text=At%20least%201%20in%207,experience%20more%20abuse%20and%20neglect.Abuse Definitions by State https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubpdfs/define.pdfClevland Clinic “What Is Child Abuse” https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/4018-child-abuseGlobal Child Abuse Resourceshttp://criminal-justice.iresearchnet.com/crime/domestic-violence/global-perspective-child-abuse/International Perspectives for Research on Child Abuse and Neglect https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/ED586148.pdfChild Abuse and Neglect Prevention Organizations https://www.childwelfare.gov/organizations/?CWIGFunctionsaction=rols:main.dspList&rolType=Custom&RS_ID=75&rList=ROLInternational Society for Prevention of Child Abuse & Neglect https://www.ispcan.org/?v=402f03a963baChild Abuse Prevention Curriculums https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/preventing/prevention-programs/schoolbased/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

*Disclaimer*- This episode discusses sexual violence and suicide. Please be advised that this episode can be triggering for some listeners.April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. In this episode we go through Daisy Coleman's survivor story, and discuss the paralleled barriers and challenges that sexual assault victims may go through. March 30th, which was Daisy's birthday, is now known as "Daisy Day"; it's a day to remember the important and impactful advocacy work that she did. Daisy Coleman was featured in the award winning documentary "Audrie & Daisy" that highlights the sexual assault stories of both Daisy Coleman and Audrie Pott. We break down misconceptions and unfortunately common reactions that victims and survivors may face, in hopes of bringing awareness in how to better support victims and survivors. Rest in peace Audrie & Daisy.SafeBAE “For Daisy” Remembrance Page: https://safebae.org/fordaisy/SafeBAE: https://safebae.org/Audrie & Daisy Documentary Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eMq9AL27gmoNational Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673National Suicide Support Hotline: 800-273-8255International Suicide Support Resources Hub Page: https://support.google.com/websearch/answer/11181469International Sexual Violence Resource Hub: https://www.rcne.com/links/international-organisations/Start By Believing: https://startbybelieving.org/Love Is Respect: https://www.loveisrespect.org/Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode we had the pleasure of chatting with Alissa Nourse. Alissa is a Ninja Courage trainer and strategist, as well as a certified strengths and mindfulness life coach. She shares out some of her insight on how to be more courageous and how to own your individual qualities, strengths, and quirks to find success in leadership and life in general. Alissa provides a short activity that anyone can do to highlight your strengths and start the day feeling empowered, instead of feeling the weight of imposter syndrome.Alissa Nourse's "Ninja Courage" Website: https://www.ninjacourage.com/aboutClifton Strengths Online Quiz: https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/252137/home.aspxOne Conversation, The Podcast where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

Have you ever lied on a postpartum depression scale screening? You are not alone! Postpartum anxiety & depression is a conversation that is hard to have, but needs to be had. In this episode, host and new-mom Briana shares out her own personal experience with postpartum anxiety & depression to dive into the complexities of new motherhood, and some of the inherent challenges that can come along with it.The Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale: https://www.sadag.org/images/brochures/edinburghscale.pdfCDC Reproductive Health Postpartum Depression: https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/depression/index.htmGeorgetown Nursing "Postpartum Signs & Resources": https://online.nursing.georgetown.edu/blog/postpartum-depression-resources/Postpartum Support International: https://www.postpartum.net/Postpartum Support International Resource Finder: https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/international/resource/?dosrch=1&q=&wpbdp_view=search&listingfieldsPostpartum Depression Alliance of Illinois "Postpartum help for fathers, dads, husbands, partners": https://www.ppdil.org/resources-for-dads/Postpartum Support International "Help for Dads": https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/help-for-dads/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode, Lisa and Briana had the privilege of sitting down with relationship violence expert Jasmine Uribe to discuss the Teen Dating Violence Movement. She has participated in national conferences, panels, podcasts, radio, and network television shows. Jasmine is a leader in the dating violence and sexual assault prevention movement, with 15 years of experience working with youth and adult allies across the country to inspire leadership and amplify the voices of survivors of violence. As a nationally recognized consultant working to advance non-profit program development and sustainability efforts, she believes in empowering communities through the development of innovative programs and culturally specific resources that enact change. Over the past 11 years she led many initiatives with Break the Cycle, a former organization working to end relationship violence, and most recently served as their Chief Operating Officer. She is currently the CEO and Founder of Leaders Ending Violence, LLC where she works with organizations and advocates across the country to inspire change, adapt programs, and build youth leadership efforts around the issues of dating and domestic violence, sexual assault, stalking, and cyber-stalking.Jasmine's Instagram :@jas.cejauribe - personal account@leadersendingviolence - consulting LLC page@LBRyouth - youth led project that now is apart of Leaders Ending ViolenceJasmine's company website: www.leadersendingviolence.comJasmine's company email: juribe@leadersendingviolence.comLink to MTV true life crime episode featuring Jasmine Uribe:https://www.mtv.com/episodes/uiokbx/true-life-crime-runaway-twin-or-twin-in-trouble-season-2-ep-4Advocacy, Education and Legal Resources - Washington DC Areahttps://www.nvrdc.org/Archived Break the Cycle resourceshttps://vawnet.org/publisher/break-cycleSafeBAE - youth led/servinghttps://safebae.org/SafeBAE Instagram- @safe_baeEsperanza United - work with Latinx youth and communitieshttps://esperanzaunited.org/en/Esperanza United Instagram- @esperanzaunitedNo More Dating Violence Resources and campaigns -https://nomore.org/https://nomore.org/campaigns/no-more-week-2022/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode we wanted to highlight some important tips on how to discuss teen dating violence with teenagers. We share out advice on how to comfortably hold these conversations with youth, and also share some great talking points and insight along the way. We give some specific advice and examples for parents of teenagers to start these conversations, as well as anyone who has teenagers in their life.Live Violence Free Website With Anonymous Chat Feature (M-F): www.liveviolencefree.orgLive Violence Free 24/7 Crisis Line: 530-544-4444The Hotline's National Teen Dating Violence Resource Line: 1800-799-SAFEThe Hotline National Text Chat Line: Text "START" to 88788The Hotline Website With Anonymous Chat Feature: https://www.thehotline.org/news/new-national-teen-dating-abuse-helpline/RESPOND Website For Teen Dating Violence: https://www.respondinc.org/teen-dating-violence/Love is Respect National Website: https://www.loveisrespect.org/"Is Your Relationship Healthy" Quiz: https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/Love is Respect Relationship Quizzes: https://www.loveisrespect.org/quizzes/TDV Month Resource Site: https://www.teendvmonth.org/National Safe Place TDV Article: https://www.nationalsafeplace.org/teen-dating-violenceFutures Without Violence "How to Talk to Teens About Dating Violence": https://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/talk-teens-teen-dating-violence/National Resources for Victims of Dating Violence: https://youth.gov/youth-topics/teen-dating-violence/resourcesNational Resource Hub: https://www.teendvmonth.org/resources/Domestic Shelter's National and Global TDV Resources: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/teen-dating-violenceOne Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. In this episode we decide to kick off the month in a fun way, spending time going through different youth-created slang terms. Briana and Lisa look at different terms they have not seen or heard before, taking guesses on what they mean then revealing and discussing the answers as they go. Many laughs and insightful moments are shared as they learn more about the terms youth are using both in-person and online. Shoutout to Sara Daniel of Live Violence Free for creating this list of words.One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode we focus on grooming, and how it is used to exploit or abuse youth. We define grooming before we discuss some red flags of grooming at different age groups, and the steps in the process. We draw examples from some recent high-profile trafficking cases to deepen the discussion.NY Times: NXVIM Timeline: https://www.nytimes.com/article/nxivm-timeline.html“Surviving R Kelly” Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vbjnkvxIoSI“Jeffrey Epstein: Filthy Rich” Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-j0rjlfmDx4Child Advocacy Center “Stages of Grooming”: https://www.albertacacs.ca/blog/stages-of-groomingDarkness to Light “Grooming & Red Flag Behavior”: https://www.d2l.org/child-grooming-signs-behavior-awareness/Defend Innocence “6 Perp Grooming Behaviors Every Parent Needs to Know”: https://defendinnocence.org/6-perpetrator-grooming-behaviors-every-parent-needs-to-know/RAINN Grooming- Know the Signs: https://www.rainn.org/news/grooming-know-warning-signsRAINN Survivor Stories- Adam:https://www.rainn.org/survivor-stories/adamRAINN Survivor Stories- Gail: https://www.rainn.org/survivor-stories/gails-storyOne Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

Do you have unresolved goals in your life? Do you set new years resolutions, only to forget about, or give up on them months later? In this episode we share out important tips, and ways to reframe the process to make your goals more attainable. We also share out some of our own personal challenges with resolutions, goals we have set for 2022, and relatable moments of our struggles along the way.Goal Setting Journal Prompts: https://pinkfortitude.com/goal-setting/https://zannakeithley.com/2021/07/26/journal-prompts-for-goal-setting/https://lifegoalsmag.com/intention-setting-journal-prompts-2/Videos:Brian Tracy "5 Keys To Goal Setting": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GIhk1MCTqhc"Atomic Habits": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s9uDVVWN_ZE"Power Of Small Habits": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g2S2mhOissoGoal Setting Books: https://www.amazon.com/goal-setting-books/s?k=goal+setting+booksOne Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode we dive into a conversation about online dating. We start by sharing some important online dating risks and considerations for both youth and adults. After sharing the risks, we discuss some tips for how to keep yourself safe while meeting people and dating online.Investigation Discovery Financial Scam Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SGw6KE1xLR8"The Top 5 Online Dating Scams": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f7G7ks70P4M"Dangers of Online Dating" Article: http://www.thefamuanonline.com/2021/03/30/online-dating-is-dangerous-especially-for-women/"Swipe-based dating applications use and its association with mental health outcomes: a cross-sectional study" : https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32127048/"How Online Dating Affects Mental Health" Article: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-online-dating-affects-mental-health-and-behavior-5114576"The Dark Side of Online Dating" BBC Article: https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20210623-the-darkest-side-of-online-datingOne Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

In this episode Lisa discusses trauma bonded relationships. She shares out the definition of a trauma bond before providing some signs or examples of what a trauma bond feels like versus a healthy relationship, throwing in some personal examples as well. This episode is ended with a guided breathing meditation.Oprah Daily Trauma Bond Article: https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/relationships-love/a36788688/what-is-trauma-bonding/HealthLine Trauma Bond Article https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/trauma-bondingMind Body Green Trauma Bond Article: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/trauma-bondingCoalition Against Domestic Violence Resource Hub: https://ncadv.org/resourcesNational & International Resource List: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/international-organizations"The Hotline" National Abusive Relationship Resource: https://www.thehotline.org/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org

The holidays are fast approaching. Although this can be a wonderful time of year, for some individuals the holidays can produce a lot of anxiety. Awkward or triggering conversations that happen at family gatherings, and at the family table, can create a lot of unnecessary stress and pressure. Knowing that many people expect to have these uncomfortable or triggering conversations, in this episode we wanted to share some tips for navigating these moments. We share out 5 tips, and also provide our own personal input on how to get through the stress of gatherings in the best ways possible."Thanksgiving Tips- Navigating Tough Holiday Conversations" Article: https://www.courier-journal.com/story/life/wellness/health/2020/11/10/thanksgiving-2020-tips-to-navigate-tough-holiday-conversations/6144220002/"Tricky Conversations At The Holiday Table" Article: https://www.gominno.com/parents/how-to-navigate-tricky-conversations-at-the-holiday-table/"Navigating Difficult Conversations At Thanksgiving" Article: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-navigate-difficult-conversations-at-thanksgiving-5086516CDC "Coping With Stress" Article: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/about/copingwith-stresstips.html"How To Help Someone With Anxiety" Article: https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/treatment-tests-and-therapies/how-to-help-someone-with-anxietyOne Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org