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Kokane shares some wild hip hop stories about Tupac, reacts to T-Pain's comment, Dre, Cube, Eazy-E, Aaliyah, Suge Knight, new music on the way, and more! ----- 00:00 Intro 0:25 - OG Kokane says he's the most featured artist in the world. Doing over 4,000 features over 30 years 5:02 - Growing up with famous Motown composer father Jerry Long 8:12 - Creating Above the Law's first big song “M___ Rap” 9:10 - Pitching the 3-song demo to Eazy-E that landed Kokane his deal in 1989 10:09 - The controversy around Kokane's name, says which Epic Records executives that pressured him to change his name 15:20 - Ghostwriting and producing for Eazy-E and NWA 16:00 - Kokane explains how some of the greatest artists have had ghostwriters 21:56 - Hutch remembers the breakup of NWA. First Ice Cube left, then thrown in the hot seat when Dre left 24:25 - Kokane watched Hutch put hands on Ice Cube 25:14 - Hutch breaks down what led to the beef between him and Ice Cube and gives a play-by-play of their fight 34:48 - Hutch says he can't rule out foul play regarding Eazy's death 35:45 - Addressing the conspiracy theory that Suge Knight injected Eazy with HIV. Eazy was worth $100M when he passed 38:05 - Eazy-E never got stomped out by Suge. How Eazy got 25% of The Chronic 41:20 - Kokane remembers running into Tupac on Sunset Blvd right before he passed 45:38 - When Tupac coined the term G-Funk 47:05 - Reacting to T-Pain saying “Tupac would've gotten ate up lyrically in 2022.” Hutch explains the genius and range of Tupac 49:38 - Remembering their last conversation with Tupac about attending the Mike Tyson fight 50:15 - Giving their side of Snoop's story about when Tupac pressed Nas in NYC 51:40 - The real reason for the East Coast vs West Coast beef was because Biggie wouldn't tell Tupac who shot him 55:28 - Reacting to Funk Flex calling Tupac a fake gangster 57:50 - Conway the Machine was right to call out Flex because he's not respecting the younger generation 1:10:20 - Hutch explains why he was the real creator of G-Funk, not Dr.Dre. Breaking down the real definition of G-Funk 1:18:02 - How Hutch became the VP of Death Row Records 1:20:05 - Reacting to Suge's legal troubles. Not understanding why he got so much time 1:21:15 - Hutch on leaving Death Row a year after Wack100 joined because there was too much emphasis on beef 1:23:33 - Reacting to Wack's comments about Nipsey not being a legend. Working with Nipsey since his ‘Bullets Have No Names' 1:29:15 - Remembering Lisa Left Eye, asked her why she burned Andre Rison's house down 1:31:04 - Remembering how Aaliyah was into hardcore gangster rap 1:31:55 - Kokane and Hutch call out R Kelly 1:32:35 - Meeting Jada Pinkett through Tupac. Believed she was the first woman Tupac really loved 1:33:54 - Hutch feels like Jada was really in love with Pac but wanted to be married to Will Smith 1:43:15 - Creating the Architects of G-Funk Album, book, and biopic. Getting ready to drop the album in September. 1:44:50 - Kokane stills gets inquiries from young new artists. Happy to see young guys tapping in with the OGs 1:47:58 - Shoutout to Ceddy Nash for connecting Kokane and Hutch with Flakko Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Activist-educator Cara Tuttle Bell is a trained attorney and powerful speaker on sexual harassment and assault prevention. Her work on college campuses dealing with sexual harassment and assault inspired her to train women on how to build assertiveness. She says it is crucial to communication, personal safety, and overall wellbeing. Cara also gives workshops on speaking with authority in salary negotiations, relationships, and work meetings. Her new book "Drowning in Timidity: Women, Politeness, and the Power of Assertive Living" is a must-read, especially for those who think being assertive is synonymous with being aggressive. In this episode Dr. mOeand Cara discuss these topics: How to be direct without being aggressive Practicing salary negotiation Sexual Harassment in corporate America Why children must be taught assertiveness Bystander intervention in assault prevention Handling sexual misconduct in schools Moral courage, trauma-informed training and more... Visit Cara's website and connect with her online @caratuttlebell today! Transcript (auto generated) [00:00] Cara Tuttle Bell: I also hope that we can move away from this very gendered and loaded idea of assertiveness and understand it for what it really is, which is just being direct, being clear, being fair, considering the competing interests that might be in a meeting or a conversation and engaging equitably with one another. [00:27] Dr. mOe Anderson: Hey, everybody. Welcome to Perpetual Motion, a podcast focused on wellness, personal growth, culture, and relationships. Positive relationships. I'm your host, Dr. Mo Anderson. Bestselling author, award winning podcast host, keynote speaker, and speaker coach. Sometimes I interview expert guests, like today, and sometimes I do a solo show. But my goal is always the same I want to help you. Yes, you review, renew, and re you at the end of each show. I hope you have learned something that will elevate you to the next level of success. If you're new to the show or a returning visitor, let's make this official. Click that subscribe button to be notified of new episodes as soon as they are available. Also, help us grow and reach more listeners by raiding the show and leaving a comment. Just type a little bit. Just a little something, something. All right, stay tuned, because today my special guest is Kara Tuttle Bell. She is a powerful speaker on sexual harassment and assault prevention. What do we need? Some powerful speakers on that. And she also is an expert on why assertiveness is a crucial component of communication, personal safety, and overall wellbeing, she's got a great book. She's the author of Drowning, intimid, Politeness and the Power of a Certain Living. I'll be right back with Kara Tuttle Bell. You can't say Dr. Mo aintellya the fear might suffer the consequences winter's a failure what are you scared of? Why aren't you afraid? I'd rather live like I'm dying to live and die in the day my heart is pure my soul is safe tara, welcome to Perpetual Motion. [02:35] Cara Tuttle Bell: Hi. Thank you so much for having me today. [02:37] Dr. mOe Anderson: This is exciting. I haven't had a guess with your background or for this particular topic. I mean, assertiveness as part of communication is not something that we really think about. In fact, women get criticized for that a lot when they can just be the same way as a guy. And also, sexual harassment, I don't know if it's on the rise or we're talking about it more, but these are such important topics, and I'm glad you're here to help us understand better. Let's start with assertiveness. Why do we need to be more assertive? [03:11] Cara Tuttle Bell: I really hope that we can reclaim assertiveness. I think there are so many reasons that we need to show up and assert ourselves, both for ourselves and for others. I also hope that we can move away from this very gendered and loaded idea of assertiveness and understand it for what it really is, which is just being direct, being clear, being fair. Considering the competing interests that might be in a meeting or a conversation and engaging equitably with one another and I. [03:46] Dr. mOe Anderson: Hope we can as well. And I don't know the history behind it, but I just think about women who run for office or women who are in positions of authority and it seems like they just held to a whole another standard when it comes to confidence and communication. Do you know the origin of that? Is it just the role of women evolving or what the heck? [04:12] Cara Tuttle Bell: I mean, I think we are in the midst of it. I think we are watching this play out. Unfortunately, there are still too few women in these historically maledominated spaces so they remain judged and evaluated by old fashioned norms about male behavior and what we thought male leadership is and male courage looks like and really white male visions of that in most industries, but especially politics, as you mentioned. I think it is very hard for them to walk this tightrope or strike the right balance and get evaluated in the same way. I mean, they're just not we hear it on the news, we see it in the comment section of websites. You see it in headline after headline. You see it on Twitter where women are being judged more harshly for engaging directly, for having stances and opinions, which of course they do. And we should welcome that because I think a lot of people are confusing assertiveness and aggression. [05:19] Dr. mOe Anderson: Yes. And that's what we're getting to. And as you said, that what came to mind is even the subtle ways that this plays out. Even when I hear I'm a speaker, you're a speaker. But I'll hear other speakers so often when they quote someone famous, it's always what Patton said, what Lincoln said, what Ray. I hear women at events for women, women speakers and events from women and they don't have one single quote or statistics or anything from another female or for that matter, from even someone of another culture. I'll go out of my way to try to find something from someone in India or Canada or Australia and it's so ingrained that I think some people don't even recognize that they're doing it before a woman speaker. To give an hour speech and never quote a woman. It just blows my mind. [06:17] Cara Tuttle Bell: It does mine too. I completely agree. And I hope others can work intentionally to really diversify their message and their program and their slides and their images. I mean, you have to do the work and a lot of it is internalized. So I know that we're all busy and these women's speakers are probably like, I've got this presentation tomorrow and they may be finalizing their slides, but it's worth doing, right? It's worth doing because so many people are watching and listening. Now, granted, we are trying to make up for these huge gaps in education, right? Especially like in public education in the US. You probably were taught about a lot of men a lot of military generals, we see a lot of quotes from men's sports coaches as well. They're always a go to. These things are much more present in our mind because we're surrounded by those messages. We get them from day one. I mean, everywhere you go in a restaurant, church is off and on. Church, male leaders. So it's like we've been surrounded by male leadership in a lot of different spaces for the bulk of our lives and we've made so much progress, but we're still working to get towards equity. We haven't landed there yet, so we got to do some of this work of undoing to really be better at inclusion. Right? So it's like diversity and inclusion and belonging, which means we got to correct for the past, we got to address those lingering effects of that kind of socialization. And I mean, I do think asserting ourselves in these spaces, whether it's work, our professional relationships, our community works, our churches, is part of that work. It's part of the action that we can take. [08:06] Dr. mOe Anderson: Right. Very good point. And back to what you said earlier, which leads to my next question. What is the difference between being assertive and aggressive? Because I think a lot of people confuse the two. [08:22] Cara Tuttle Bell: I agree. I think we see both and it can be gendered. We have lots of good studies on this. We are just judging women more harshly. But when you look at these things foundationally, like, what does this mean? What is the definition of these words, then? Aggression? Is that steam rolling? Is that coming at something with force? It could be an abuse of power. It can be physical, it can be verbal, it can be using or depriving someone of resources. It's that misuse and abuse that becomes aggression. Right? It can be violent, it can be the unhealthy expression of anger. I'm actually fine with anger because I'll probably come up in some other answers. [09:10] Dr. mOe Anderson: But we don't want to be constructive or destructive. [09:13] Cara Tuttle Bell: It depends, right? It depends how you use it. I don't want us to live in it so much that we're bitter, but I want to harness anger as fuel so that we have that extra boost of energy to assert ourselves. Asserting yourself means you're showing up, you're being present, you're participating, and that varies. You're participating appropriate to your role in the workplace. You're participating on a committee that you're assigned to. You should be doing the work you're being asked to do and doing it fairly. So there's nothing wrong when I go to a meeting with asserting my own ideas, the agenda, my office and what I'm responsible for, and having that open conversation about whatever the decision is right. [10:02] Dr. mOe Anderson: And how we should make it, advocate for ourselves yes. [10:05] Cara Tuttle Bell: And what we should consider. And then it just sits there. It doesn't mean the other person has that obligation to receive it. But I'm showing up and engaging directly and fairly and equitably. So that, to me, is an assertive communication, which differs from really, if you think of, like, an 80s Wall Street type of movie that American, like, I'm going to call my way to the top dog approach. That's really the misuse of that. That's taking it too far. That's aggressive and it's inequitable, right? [10:38] Dr. mOe Anderson: You made me think about I'm glad you said that anger is okay sometimes because I'm here in the south, and we still have a lot of Southern belle mentality, and even when you are slicing and dicing somebody, you need to be smiling and offering them tea as they die. So many things. I had a couple of folks that I was mentoring at a previous company, and they came here from the East Coast, and they were just having such problems with clients because they were just going in just being normal, really being normal, but not the Southern way. And I was like, hey, you're going to have to and this wasn't male or female, but they were female, so they were getting it double. Like, people aren't responding. I was like, you got to go in this way. You got to come in real low and smooth. You got to ask about their children. We cannot just sit down and start talking about business. We got to drink and eat a little bit. There's so many cultural things in a dish. And then you throw these gender stereotypes and biases on top of oh, my God, it makes me weary sometimes. [11:53] Cara Tuttle Bell: It can be exhausting. And this is why I always talk about politeness, because when I'm talking about assertiveness or Serbia training a lot of women and you're right about south, right? It's a different audience sometimes a lot of Southern women in particular are a little resistant. Part of them wants to embrace assertiveness, and then they're like, but it feels too confrontational. It feels unladylike. I mean, I hear these things from them, and I'm like, okay, that word exactly. [12:24] Dr. mOe Anderson: I know you here. [12:30] Cara Tuttle Bell: It is. It's like, why wouldn't we just be pleasant and don't want to create conflict? We like to smooth things out. I'm currently in the south, and we just have to talk through it. And so I'm like, Listen, I'm all for polite behavior, but I'm really for kindness, right? We should be kind to other humans and patient and all of those things, but not to a fault. Not when it keeps us engaging, not when it keeps us from addressing injustice, not when it means that we're always minding our business while harm after harm and types of discrimination keep occurring. Not when it keeps us from having healthy relationships. So this people pleasing or fear of any sort of discomfort or conflict is the root of so many problems, personal and structural, societal. So I really am always advocating for us to bring assertiveness well beyond your salary negotiation conversation. That's when I think people think, okay, I can visit it for five minutes. I can be assertive for this moment in my life that comes maybe every three to five years, and I'm just going to cram for it, too. They just think, give me a script, I'm going to cram for this the night before. And listen, I'll help you with salary negotiation. I will, okay? So you can come to me for the last minute cramming session. But that's not skill building, right? That's like faking until you make it. That's like, I hope you can be assertive and hold for two minutes the next day when you have the conversation, but probably not because you're not practicing this on a daily basis, and it feels too hard when we make it infrequent and high stakes. And so this is about something that really, I think people should embrace as daily practice. It's self care. It's setting boundaries. It's maintaining those boundaries. It helps us have healthy relationships, and it helps us also be really in touch with those times when people are trying to violate our boundaries, where I want you to have anger, I want you to be in touch with that feeling when it comes up for you so you know what it means, but then harness it for maximum impact. And so that's where the anchor is fine. The anger is probably valid. I mean, there's so many valid reasons to be outraged right now. There's so many. But what are we going to do with that, right? Because I don't want people to live in bitterness and resentment. That's the same outcome of not engaging assertively. That's what happens when people are passive or passive aggressive, is that they're holding onto it. So for me, assertiveness is this balance that helps us be healthy on a daily basis and fair. [15:23] Dr. mOe Anderson: I like that you make that point about clients trying to come to you for the last minute. They come to me with their speeches at the last minute. Like delivering communication is a lifestyle. It's a way of life. It's kind of hard to get to that keynote level in a night. And I would think with salary negotiating, too, with what I think I've seen with people who try that cramming type of thing, is that they overcorrect and all of a sudden they're like, and this is what I wait a minute, what is going on? I can't even hear what you're saying because I don't know you. Who are you anyway? [16:00] Cara Tuttle Bell: It is a burst. It is because it's really like they are really trying to summon up the courage. And so it does come up too quickly, too strong. And then I also see people who just can't hold their position. So even if they can say the two sentences that they've memorized to make the ask, they then undo it with that need for pleasantry, if that's okay with you. Exactly. [16:25] Dr. mOe Anderson: You don't mind, and I'm sorry, and. [16:27] Cara Tuttle Bell: If you think it's okay exactly. Yeah. [16:35] Dr. mOe Anderson: I want this. We got to fix this quickly because I got a granddaughter and I want something different for her. Absolutely. All of the young women there's so much going on, as you said, and we're not going to get into that. But this is pressing, clear and pressing issue. Let's go to being assertive. And I'm just guessing you're the expert on this. Sexual harassment is a problem. It's something you have some expertise in and it's a lingering problem. And I think I'm wondering if being timid as well, in no way am I ever trying to make a woman at thought about anything. But if assertiveness when you talk about your safety and well being, if that can in some ways help you with that. But let's just talk about let's start with why in Twin. Is sexual harassment still Jeffrey Epstein a problem? [17:39] Cara Tuttle Bell: It is. And people ask me this a lot. This is my day job, right? This is the kind of compliance job that I have. So I'm trained as a lawyer and I work on a college campus. And so I'm addressing sexual harassment and assault all day, every day and have for the past eight plus years. And I am very passionate about it and become very assertive. And that's like both the personal and professional journey. I used to be. Shy. Law school really helps. But you also can practice, right? A lot of it had to be a willingness to do the practice. So I wasn't born this way. For your listeners, like, definitely this can be learned. I know it can be because I'm sitting here as the proof and the outrage that I have over the issue helps. Right? I mean, the outrage helps. The anger helps. I try to turn it into fuel to push me through the day, to be able to then bring it in a meeting or whatever it is that I'm working on addressing. And what we think in the field is that we're not seeing like a new epidemic. We're just seeing increased awareness, increased reporting of what has for a very long time been very high levels of this type of discrimination and heart. And it is everywhere you look, it is more common in male dominated professions. And you can look for data on this. This is business data, this is insurance policy data. The more there is a disparity in a profession, the more men outnumber women, the more incidents we have. And it's been this way for a long time, the more vulnerable a person in a role is. And that can be geographic isolation, that can be low pay, that can be low influence or authority in the position. That can be the seasonal nature of a position. Whatever it is, it isn't. Giving them security in a position in relation to other people makes them more likely to experience this type of harm. So it remains prevalent because inequity is prevalent and it's connected to the other forms of discrimination. So where you have racism and ableism and transphobia and homophobia and other types of discrimination you're going to also have gender harassment, sexism misogyny, sexual harassment and sexual assault. Now where assertiveness comes in is that the current best practice that we're trying to implement really across the board k through twelve schools it's been in the military they're introducing in churches. I think we're going to see this more and more across corporate America definitely has taken hold in higher ed is by teaching what's called bystander intervention training and that's because we're all bystanders like it or not I mean we're just here navigating the world and you choose and it is a choice whether to be an active or a passive. Bystander now a lot of us were raised to mind our own business. A lot of us worry about the risks of speaking up or of standing. [21:06] Dr. mOe Anderson: Out sometimes and that boys will be boys thing. [21:10] Cara Tuttle Bell: Oh and then the tolerance yes I. [21:12] Dr. mOe Anderson: Had some incidents and it was just blown off like that's just part of it yes and go out of the dark kind of thing like your right. [21:24] Cara Tuttle Bell: We still hear a lot of blaming for the target they're responsible for receiving the harassment and so where I am glad and can promise that there's been progress is a lot of the prevention messages are not so sexist anymore I mean they were they were just sexist application. They were saying women do this to prevent your own assault and we weren't having when I was in college corresponding messaging given to the male students who all of the data suggests are much more likely to be engaging in perpetration regardless of the gender identity of the victim. So men are from all the data we have and that's across fields so it's criminal justice data, psychology, sociology, women's studies that's not actually in dispute. So we haven't realistically confronted the problem for some time but the public health model now is recommending that we teach a lot of bystander intervention and we are so it is now routine practice at colleges and universities in the United States more and more often showing up yes since like 2014 so they're supposed to be doing it. If anyone has any questions, please feel free to reach out. But we're doing it and it's teaching you some strategies. If you see something, say something but it's also giving you choices. So not everyone has to swoop in like a superhero or be loud or address something directly. They can also create a distraction. You can delegate to someone who's better able or who has authority to try to respond when appropriate. We need to think broadly about delegation so it's not necessarily always law enforcement that we're calling it's what's appropriate for the situation. Right. So sometimes it's me like on campus people can call me because it's my job to go do these things and so if someone feels like they don't know what to say or they don't know what to do, who can you take with you? Who can you delegate to? How can you document something? Documentation, we're seeing having really transformative and activist power in recent years, helping us really confront some harsh realities and prove to the doubters some things that a lot of us knew were happening. So sometimes documentation from afar is the thing we can do safely to address an issue. And that takes some nerve too, right? So all of these things we're hoping to equip people to choose from if they are in the midst of situations at risk for sexual harassment or assault, but it can apply to all forms of discrimination. [24:17] Dr. mOe Anderson: What bothers me with the documentation is in the form of a video. If that falls into that category, is when people are just filming just for the purpose of posting and entertaining and not get help. That is just appalling filming women being raped, assaulted and me. And two, to be clear, this cannot just happen to women assault and harassment. Although, as you said, the data shows, it is for adults predominantly going to be women. But are they teaching them that documentation needs to go somewhere and not just post it and hope somebody sees it? Because that's scary to me. [25:02] Cara Tuttle Bell: It is scary. So I'm always making that qualifier. We know that college students consume a lot of video content from some popular sites. And so just quite directly, I'm like, this is not for that. That is not what we're asking you to do. Consent is really key when we're talking about sexual misconduct. Like consent is key. So if you're filming something without someone's consent and you're posting it somewhere without their consent and you're sharing it without consent, you are part of the problem. That's also increasingly illegal, right? So they shouldn't be sharing social content. So yes, I think that is a very important part of the conversation that cannot be left out. I don't care how long the training is running. It's like if you're going to mentioned documentation, you've got to put those really important caveats around it because that's what came to mind. [25:57] Dr. mOe Anderson: And even I believe it's illegal almost everywhere now to post pics the revenge posting of some intimate photo or whatever that was sent to you. And I'm happy that law enforcement and our lawmakers are stepping up, but again, we're looking at largely male populations to make these decisions. So that speaking up and getting involved in folks like you being there to help make this transition is so important. And I was thinking about as well too, to go back to harassment being a lingering problem. We're talking about learned behavior, confidence and being assertiveness. Isn't this sexual harassment? Learned behavior? I can't imagine. I mean, I have two sons. They didn't come here like that. And then heaven forbid that's going on. But from the movies, to their peers, to whatever is of course enough. Do we have to attack all of these industries, magazines and music and everything? Not attack, but you know what I'm saying. [27:05] Cara Tuttle Bell: You know what you mean. It is very concerning, right? Because young people are always getting so many different messages is contradictory messages, right? And so even if they're raised one way, they could then land in a peer environment where they're getting reinforcement on a lot of negative behaviors. And this is true across the board. This could be drug use. This could be alcohol misuse. This could be for like, how they engage in sexual practices. Do they bully and harass people? So that peer dynamic pushes some young people into behaviors they otherwise normally wouldn't engage in on their own. And they tell us that, right? I mean there's really fascinating research on these topics and getting them to display some moral courage, some assertiveness, that's really tough. That is really tough. So we got to really pull it apart. We work through scenarios. We talked to a lot of them about what leadership is because many of them want to be a leader in some capacity and they want to skip over the work, right? They want to just graduate and be like a successful millionaire entrepreneur in their twenty s. And we're talking about like, what skills aren't you practicing and developing? Particularly these students who have been in the home environment, so they didn't have the social experience of the past few years due to COVID on college campuses, we are seeing a developmental delay. I mean, we are like it is not the same incoming class that we had prepandemic in the interpersonal communication skills. So it really did feel like we had these young students kind of just unleashed once some of the restrictions were lifted and they were coming to us with different questions. I don't like my roommate. I don't know how to navigate this conflict, whether it's conflict or laundry or deciding where to eat in a group. So they're just asking us really basic social questions and for tips that they thought they were past at least a few years ago. Now, I always thought they had room for improvement, but it wasn't such a basic level. So I'm very concerned about their ability to engage in sexual communication, ensure that consent is a part of those things, or know and honor resistance and discomfort when they're seeing it. I mean, people are not really teaching them this consistently. So we don't have consistent sex ed in this country. It really depends where they are. A lot of schools are afraid and that's because the parents complain about the type of content. So I very rarely see a college student who has what I would want them to have had before they get to college, which would be medically accurate. Information about their body, the bodies of others. Consent, education boundaries, warning signs of unhealthy relationships. What constitutes stating violence or exploitation, sexual exploitation, a lot of which that like coercion and blackmailing can occur with phones, pictures, and videos now, because otherwise they get here. And people in jobs like mine, we will try to do what we can, but a lot of times they're 18 when they get here. Right. So we've got to engage in some unlearning to try to then relearn or teach them new skills. And, no, they're not getting enough time with me. They're with their peers most of all. And dosage is key. [30:56] Dr. mOe Anderson: Micro dosage. [31:02] Cara Tuttle Bell: We got to talk about what they're learning. Right. And with the availability of online ***********, are they learning more from **** because they're not getting sex at in schools? That is concerning to me. So then it's not surprising when they're reenacting things they saw online and they tell us stuff like, oh, I think they like that. And I'm like, you can't assume everybody likes that. [31:28] Dr. mOe Anderson: That woman or that man is paid. [31:34] Cara Tuttle Bell: It's all about consent. Yeah. We have to help them unpack these things a little bit and work through it. And you touched on this earlier, and this is really important to say is some assertiveness does deter some bad behavior. Not all. Okay. There's always going to be people who are trying to violate our boundaries and trying to cause harm, who are trying to take advantage of a situation so we can't prevent everything. [32:04] Unknown Speaker: Exactly. [32:04] Cara Tuttle Bell: But there is research to support that strong articulation of boundaries. Clear resistance does disrupt and deter some behavior. It may not prevent them from harming someone else, which I understand. They might then just choose another target. But it is worth a try when we think we're in a situation to nip something in the bud early on. Right. And especially if we're talking about sexual harassment in the workplace. Right. Because if the behavior continues and you get to a place where you're going to want to report it or seek some support, they're going to ask if you were clear about your boundaries. They're going to ask the question, did you tell them this makes you uncomfortable? And no, you shouldn't have to. They should just not commit the harm. I agree with you completely. None of this should be happening. But it is happening, and it's happening often. So I do want to just give people as many tools as possible to be able to reduce harm, appease when that's the best choice for safety or extricate yourself from a situation. [33:18] Dr. mOe Anderson: Kara, what about this? I'm thinking about the gymnasts mobiles and others. I mean, they did everything. They reported it. They went to the authorities. I think they went to the FBI. Oh, my goodness. It honestly makes me think about discrimination with African Americans back with the Tulsa Race rides and everything. Who do you turn to when the people coming for you are the people who are supposed to protect you or the people who are. Ignoring it are the authorities. [33:51] Cara Tuttle Bell: It is true and it is so discouraging, okay? Not every human resources department or law enforcement department, these people who are supposed to be who you can turn to, clearly that's not consistently available or going to guarantee success. I mean, very few times can I offer the people I'm working with anything that feels like justice. And that's really disappointing, right? Because a lot of us are raised to have faith in the systems and these procedures. We build trust like that. You hope that your company cares about you, especially if you've worked there for 20 years. We get so many messages about how we care about all these issues, yet when people value submissions, yes, the statements are lovely, but you got to back that up with action. And I know that sometimes the supportive person is hard to find, but I do know because this is my professional network, right? These are the conferences I go to. There are hundreds or thousands of us who do care, and they may not be at your company, okay? They may not be. And a good indication is, look up your sexual misconduct policy. Is it from has anyone updated it since? [35:08] Dr. mOe Anderson: How would you know? Because they'll change the bottom of the document. They'll change the footer on the front page when you look at it. Can you tell from the content that this is not current with our culture and our beliefs now? [35:26] Cara Tuttle Bell: Yes. Right, because a wave of activism on this was in the early to mid 90s, really prompted by Anita Hills testimony during the Clarence Thomas confirmation hearing. So that was the Wake up call for America phase one. And sadly, a lot of the work stopped then. So my college students, when they go get at their next job, the ones who maintain contact with us or who took my class, they do things like look up the policy and when was the last time the committee met and what would I do if I experienced sexual harassment in the workplace? And some of them are pretty activist and they ask these questions at the interview. That is risky. You may not get the job offer if you're showing yourself to be what might be perceived as a troublemaker at the interview. But if you care too much about some of these causes that could make the employer nervous, it would be better. [36:21] Dr. mOe Anderson: To know then that HR might be the very person you have to go to. [36:29] Cara Tuttle Bell: Yes, you and I are on the same page. I'm like, there is another job. I promise you there's another job. Sometimes the students are so worried, but I'm like, you need to be interviewing them just as much as they are interviewing you. These are signs. They are telling you whether or not this is going to be a healthy or a toxic or replaced culture, whether or not they're going to cover for people or actually address the things that are happening. But if you can't find it at your school or in your church or at your place of employment, do some Internet research, because there are many nonprofit organizations, regionally, nationally, I'd help anyone find them. There are attorneys who take things pro bono. There are all sorts of resources now to help people across industries. It is sometimes hard to find them, but I know that they're there. I know that they're there because those of us who have experienced these things and have had help now want to extend that help to others because the support is not consistently available. [37:32] Dr. mOe Anderson: No, it's not. But there are so many who have, myself included, being victims of sexual harassment. And I think, in addition to Anita Hill, I feel like Tyrone Burke's Me Too movement, even though it's come under a lot of criticism. And yes, there have been people accused for everything who may have been innocent, even Child Protective Services. There's always going to be that small percentage. But Kara I was at after that happened, and people don't realize she had been talking about that for a while and had that hashtag made too, for some years before it got retweeted following the Harvey Weinstein thing. Weinstein weinstein. And I remember being with some girlfriends. We'd gone to a movie and everybody was talking about hashtag me too. And afterwards we were talking and we got to talking about it. And these were professional women over about six of us. And every single one of us had been a victim of sexual harassment and sexual assault. And none of us were in a position that we felt we can do anything about it and have any support. And that was just it took me weeks just to get over that revelation, because you kind of go around just thinking it's just you like perhaps those young gymnasts were doing, not realizing how many people were being victimized. And we kind of cried together. And when you don't deal with it too, just the post traumatic stress of just being there, and some of that resentment, anger, and explosiveness that it happened and that you weren't able to deal with it. So in addition to you guys teaching these courses and you being there as an advocate, an attorney, a trained attorney, is there also counseling now? Are there more mental health services? [39:29] Cara Tuttle Bell: Yes, we're seeing just a dramatic expansion across higher ed, which is good and overdue around all kinds of counseling and well being. Right. So we'll see a center for student wellbeing, you'll see expanded staff and many more culturally relevant and sensitive trainings and staff to surf particular populations. If you look at the hiring, you just see it everywhere, like in many, many states, that there are so many jobs because this is an urgent issue on college campuses, not just sexual assault, but I mean, the mental health and well being concerned. And yes, right. So if someone were to connect with us, we offer them a menu of services. They can work with victim advocates or they can go to the counseling center. And there's some specialization and sexual trauma or aspects of identity that they can seek out. A provider who they feel comfortable with, who they think gets their experience, but also understands what they're processing. We have yoga, we have meditation, we have study skills, we have financial education that can be necessary. A lot of places have hardship funds, student health. So our medical providers have a lot more understanding of sexual trauma, childhood sexual abuse, because those exams, like the exams you're touching the body, I mean, that can be very triggering for a survivor. And consent is just important in providing information. So everything that I'm seeing is getting more trauma informed. The progress is just slower than any of us would like. Law enforcement also has been getting more trauma informed training over the years. A lot of assumptions about doing the work, which led to really a lot of dismissal of some of the reports because if they interview a sexual assault victim in the immediate aftermath trauma, she's still in the space of trauma. Trauma disrupts memory encoding, like how our brain is storing them and putting them together. So it would be difficult while we're in fight or flight, we're in the adrenaline surge. These things last for days, not just minutes and hours. And so they've learned that conducting open ended interviews after three to five sleep cycles is actually much more likely to produce a coherent narrative with fewer gaps. [42:13] Dr. mOe Anderson: I know for a long time they just kind of thought you just get to them right away, they're going to start making up stuff or imagining stuff or they'll forget. But you're saying the memory can actually oh, that's for the person experiencing that, that's horrible too. But with time it sounds like it's kind of scattered pieces and you can start putting it together a little better. [42:38] Cara Tuttle Bell: You can. And if alcohol is involved and often is not always, but alcohol consumption, whether voluntary or used to commit the crime, that further disrupts that memory consolidation and encoding. And so really sleep and being in a safe environment and emergency rooms aren't always feeling safe. They're like hectic and loud and there's people in and out. So conducting an interview, even with good intentions, even when they want to get the information to try to go try to get the offender as quickly as possible, was not producing good results. So we're seeing new approaches being adopted here and there. Again, it's not everywhere. And I would like it to be, to do things like the forensic experiential trauma interview, that's one called Fetty, where it's training them to build rapport, create a really safe condition so it doesn't feel like we're interrogating a victim, ask open ended questions, let them go where they want to go, right? Because the brain is navigating through fear and trauma and that's not linear and it's not going to be linear but at the end of the conversation or several conversations it should be the job of that investigator to put that story together. So we were really often are making the person who experienced the harm be the crime scene and then do all of the work of reconstructing the narrative and that was just not the best way to get at the information. That's really what we now know about the brain and trauma has really changed the approach in ways that better equip any type of investigator who understands this is the neurobiology of trauma who has this training to ask better questions and get a better narrative and since what we're talking about is often word against word that narrative is crucially important. Sometimes there's corroborating evidence but a lot of times there isn't and so getting that good account from the person who was harmed is tough work but it's. [44:44] Dr. mOe Anderson: Tough work worth doing right and not being dismissed. The big message here, whatever age you are is that there are people out there who will help you, who can help you and systematically it hasn't always been the case and there's still going to be some of the old attitudes and processes out there but don't give up. I mean we're seeing things coming out now about and I don't want to keep naming organizations but just people who were children, male and female and things happen and they're just now getting restitution, getting justice and we don't want to see that anymore. [45:24] Cara Tuttle Bell: No, it takes a long time and it's very important to acknowledge that these harms and this discrimination occurs across identity, right? So it occurs across gender. Identity occurs in all communities whether you're class level and across race. We do know that there's disproportionate impact, right? That some people have more vulnerable characteristics that let them be targeted and also that let them justice system then fail them than others. So absolutely none of this is fair and consistent across the board but help is available if you know where to look and if you don't know where to look reach out to me and I will help you. There are people who will help you find it. [46:10] Dr. mOe Anderson: Thank you for that. We're going to give your information to in the show notes and when we get to the end but before we do I want to know we're talking about assertiveness but how do we if we're not naturally that way unbelievably? I'm not a natural extrovert people have a hard time believing I'm not really but I had to learn it because I was trying to get run over but how can we learn? I mean I just went at it and role model somebody but was better, more systematic. I practiced until it became second nature but what's the more strategic or what is the recommended way to learn assertiveness? And I want to couch that in two ways. One is I've got young people around me. How do I teach them assertiveness in my kind little Southern bobble beltway so that they don't get in trouble at school, but also for people that it's not their nature. And there are a lot of adults, male and females, who just don't want trouble. They just rather not see anything. [47:17] Cara Tuttle Bell: I know it's hard to start, okay? It's hard. And it will feel painful. It will. And I didn't know there were tools around when I was doing it. And so I was like, you have to jump in this conversation. It really was faking it until you make it. But now I know that there are lots of books. There are now. A lot of them came out in the 70s. That's where we saw the debut of assertiveness Training, 70s Women movement. And some of them are still really good foundational texts. Now some of it's going to feel really dated and just if you read those and they're cheap, you can get a lot of these at used bookstores for nothing, for pennies. Just let the dated stuff go and take the lessons where you can find them. Then again, as I mentioned, a resurgence in the 90s, so you might see some of these books available from mid ninety s. A lot of them are really focused on women at work, so they're career focused and they're about being ambitious. But there's some good lessons in there still. Now, what I like about recent products is that they're much more inclusive also, so it's not so stereotypical about men and women. And these are tools for everyone. And this is really good because a lot of people come to the assertiveness training workshops and sometimes they're making assumptions that are just for women. But there are men who feel like they're getting run over in meetings and they don't know how to advocate for themselves either. This really is for everybody. So you can Google assertiveness training. There are lots of free resources on the web. There are books, there are workbooks. I mean, I do have my book. It has some exercises in it. I've got a workbook only that's available on Etsy, but there's lots of name of your book? My book is Drowning and Timidity Women Politeness and the Power of Assertive Living. It is available at my website, karatuttlebell.com, but also for Kendall on Amazon. You can purchase it at Walmart or through professional women books. It lives in a couple of different places, so it's available. It does have exercises in it. Start with self reflection, right? You've got to know who you are and what's hard for you. So we know what to work on. So quick questions would be when you are walking across campus, are you the person who always moves out of the way on the sidewalk or do you hold your position on a plane? Do you ever get the armrest? Or do you never get the armrest in your family or, you know, romantic relationships? Do we ever eat where you want to eat or someone else always making the decision, are you watching the movies you want to watch, or are you just going along? And so there's all kinds of questions to just do some self reflection about where am I and where is it worth it? I'm not saying fight every battle. I don't know what I'm having for dinner tonight. And I may not care when I go home and make that decision with my partner. You know what I mean? It may be their night to pick, but the question is, are you ever getting what you want ever? And where is it important for you to do so? We can apply this to romantic and sexual relationships. Who's experiencing pleasure and how often and why not? And assertiveness matters there, too. Are we giving more than we're getting? And you just apply that give and take analysis that it was Sunday. Yes. Whatever relationship we're talking about. Right? Like, are you feeling taken advantage of or does it feel really balanced and equitable so that you start with the self reflection, then you start with the small practice. I want you to start small. I want it to feel doable. I want you to ask for something that's really low stakes, so it doesn't matter if you get the yes or not. And I also want you to get comfortable getting hearing no. You'll survive the no, it's all right. You survived the tough meeting. We survived the uncomfortable phone call. We've survived it over and over. We've survived it all thus far. Excellent. You will survive. And that's why that's nice. In my career, and I've also learned to perform extraversion, even though I have to retreat and recharge. If you learn you can do it, I'll learn I can do it. I'm going to have this burst of energy. I've also become really good about setting boundaries so I have that time to recharge. That also requires assertiveness. I got to tell my friends I cannot go out again. I'm, like, try to limit to two happy hours or two social events a week. Otherwise, I feel too depleted. And some of us can't say no to our friends who love us anyway. They love me anyway. They know I don't go to brunch. Okay? I don't go to brunch. Brunch is too loud, and I don't understand middle of the day drinking, and. [52:07] Dr. mOe Anderson: They'll tease you about it. We know you're not coming. [52:10] Cara Tuttle Bell: Yes, and it's fine then. It's all fine in other ways. Yes. They know I'll fight for them. They know I've got their back. So your relationships should be strong enough to survive that actually, they should be thriving. It's like they should really be seeing you for who you are and letting you be healthy in the ways that you need and so starting small with the practice just really helps you learn to ask if you have kids. I would say make them make phone calls, maybe put the name in at the restaurant. The students are coming in really struggling with just verbal communication, like out loud communication because they're doing it all on their phones. Okay? They want to text or do an online chat. And we're not preparing them for work. Work still requires some phone calls. I mean, at some point, you have to talk to another human. So you can start small in those ways to make them practice talking and to talk to adults and actually talking across the power differential in appropriate ways. But we got to break the scene and not hurt because seen and not heard is how we have a lot of child victimization. That's how we have the gymnasts, which we talked about going on, going on for so long. How do you have hundreds of victims for so long? Well, they did everything right, as you said. They told us and they told us, and they told us, and they told adults, and they told the FBI, you know, and how does this still continue? So I actually want us to raise angry girls. Write that down. Yes. Because the anger is a signal, as we talked about. If you're stressing politeness over their boundaries and well being, they're not going to acknowledge the harm themselves. They're not going to tell you about it. They're not going to seek support. They're going to be stuck in that self blame. And so let anger be the signal. Let assertiveness be the tool. And then the outcome is healthier beings, right, who once they've learned to advocate for themselves and assert themselves absolutely, I want them to have this sense of collective responsibility. And this is part of my message, which I really think was missing in the books of the in the 90s. You've got to advocate for others. That's what changes our communities. You've got to be a bystander who engages or be the witness who goes along and confirms somebody's report who at least acknowledges the harms that are happening everywhere we look and engage collectively. So it's not assertiveness just to get you a raise, which you deserve, okay, get your rates. But that's changing an individual person's existence. That's not creating change in our communities, structural or systemic change. That's not going to bring about gender equity. So we've got to use assertiveness to change our communities and engage collectively as well. And I think that's been missing in too many places, right? [55:32] Dr. mOe Anderson: And we've been so worried about the cost ourselves individually and not thinking about long term the consequences for generations to come, like the inequity with salaries and so many other things. When we think about what the CEOs of the Fortune 500, fortune 100 company, 4% women, all of this is related. It's all related, and it's time we changed it. And start by not being bystanders. Get out there and be advocates and leaders in this area. I love what you're doing. I could just go on and on. We need to do a live or something because I have enjoyed this and your passion around it is wonderful. I learned a lot. I didn't know what was going on on college campuses. I go back for football games and roll out. I couldn't use some of this. Trust and believe. So again, karate. Tuttle Bell, author of Drowning In That You Drowning in Women Politeness and the Power of Assertive living Tools and Tips to help anyone get it. Wherever books are sold, tell them how to connect with you online. That website one more time. Social media. However, we can find you online. [56:49] Cara Tuttle Bell: Sure. The easy way is to find me on my website, which is my name Caratuttlebell.com, and then you can find me on various forms of social media at Karatuttlebell. So I tried to make it easy. You reached out to me on LinkedIn, Instagram, doesn't matter. I'm publicly available. Feel free to reach out. I'm always happy to talk about this, as you can probably tell. [57:09] Dr. mOe Anderson: I can tell. I love it. And I can't wait to call my son and say, brave, angry girl. That's what we're going to be about. Thank you so much. You've been a wonderful guest. [57:21] Cara Tuttle Bell: Thank you so much for having me. [57:24] Dr. mOe Anderson: Wasn't that a great program? I love that episode. I enjoyed it. I hope you did too. Please remember to like, subscribe and share. Learn more about me on my website. Dr. Moanderson.com. That's Moe. You can read book excerpts, watch videos, learn about the services that I offer, and book me for a speaking engagement. I'd love to talk with your group and I'd love to work with you. So until the next time, review, renew, and re you. Thank you.
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Glasses Malone talks about being sad about R Kelly being locked up, OGs not showing him love, voting for Trump, and more. ---- 00:00 Intro 5:13 - Seeing Kendrick and TDEs growth, Kendrick always being a student of the game, Jay Rock, Schoolboy Q, Absoul 9:24 - Meeting the Giantz early on, meeting and being around Eazy E, DJ Quik 19:33 - Glasses on Ice cube dissing him on about 4 songs, feeling like the OGs didn't show love to the new generation 21:32 - Joe Budden's story of being disappointed in meeting Method Man, going through the same situation with Ice Cube 22:54 - Legends not living up to their hype when meeting them in person, Dr.Dre telling Glasses that he doesn't f*** with real n___ 28:36 - Speaking on rappers these days getting high and numb to do all the gangster stuff they do and crying when they get locked up 31:45 - Selling crack in high school, selling Sherm to Jayo Felony 33:16 - T-Rell says G Malone went overboard with “2pac must die” song and video, G Malone explains the concept 39:00 - Dr Dre calling G Malone about 2pac song 39:42 - Explaining his new song “Kanye should've never married that b*tch”, a woman's past mattering 45:28 - “Why would your dream girl be someone who Ray J smashed on tape?!” 49:16 - 21 Savage breaking G Malone's heart by holding the “Ima sl*t too” sign at the Sl*t walk 51:50 - Signing to Mack 10, Mack explaining west coast life better than most people on records, Wack100 53:30 - The Game is crazy for saying Kanye did more for him than Dr.Dre 56:10 - Explaining who Saucy Santana is, “The n___ that got a__”, his XXL freestyle, Frank Ocean and Lil Nas X have bigger marketing than their talent 1:01:00 - Prescription dr*gs are the cause for a lot of the actions in the culture and music today 1:04:20 - T-Rell shocked that G Malone is sad about R.Kelly being locked up 1:06:22 - Texting R.Kelly, pulling up on him and the girls he's with 1:08:51 - Trump over Biden 1:18:07 - The LA Rapper report card ----- NO JUMPER PATREON http://www.patreon.com/nojumper CHECK OUT OUR NEW SPOTIFY PLAYLIST https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5te... FOLLOW US ON SNAPCHAT FOR THE LATEST NEWS & UPDATES https://www.snapchat.com/discover/No_... CHECK OUT OUR ONLINE STORE!!! nojumper.com SUBSCRIBE for new interviews (and more) weekly: http://bit.ly/nastymondayz Follow us on SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4ENxb4B... iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/n... Follow us on Social Media: https://www.snapchat.com/discover/No_... http://www.twitter.com/nojumper http://www.instagram.com/nojumper https://www.facebook.com/NOJUMPEROFFI... http://www.reddit.com/r/nojumper JOIN THE DISCORD: https://discord.gg/Q3XPfBm Follow Adam22: https://www.tiktok.com/@adam22 http://www.twitter.com/adam22 http://www.instagram.com/adam22 adam22hoe on Snapchat Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jim DeRogatis is the man who first received the infamous R. Kelly sex tape, breaking the story to the public. He was a music critic at the Chicago Sun-Times in 2000 when he received an anonymous fax tipping him off: Kelly, the tipster wrote, “had a problem with young girls.” DeRogatis investigated that tip and found that multiple lawsuits had been filed against Kelly accusing him of sexually abusing girls as young as 14. He published a story that reported his findings in late 2000 — and then he continued to publish follow-ups in the face of widespread public indifference, as Kelly's career continued to flourish. DeRogatis soon became the person that people who knew things about Kelly sent tips to. Two videotapes that appeared to show Kelly having sex with young girls were sent to DeRogatis's home in 2001 and 2002, and the second one became the centerpiece of Kelly's 2008 child pornography trial. Jim DeRogatis is an associate professor of instruction with the Department of English and Creative Writing at Columbia College Chicago, and together with Greg Kot, he co-hosts Sound Opinions, the world's only rock 'n' roll talk show, an independent production heard on some 150 public radio stations nationally via PRX, as well as on podcast at soundopinions.org. He spent 15 years as the pop music critic at The Chicago Sun-Times, and continues to cover news and culture as a freelance writer, including via contributions to The New Yorker He has now compiled the results of all his work — nearly 20 years of investigative journalism — into a book, titled: “Soulless: The Case against R. Kelly”, and it's a damning indictment of not just Kelly but also the system that allowed him to survive and flourish for so long In this episode, we discuss the timeline of R. Kelly's sexual misconduct, how Jim became involved with the investigation, the backlash Jim received for investigating R. Kelly, the failure and corruption of the United States Court System, the immorality of music labels, the symbolism in R. Kelly's music, the racial divide in Chicago, and the many other alleged child-predator celebrities who've managed to slip through the cracks Read "Soulless: The Case Against R. Kelly" https://www.amazon.com/Soulless-Case-... Connect w/ Jim DeRogatis: Website: http://jimdero.com/ Radio Show: http://soundopinions.org/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/jimderogatis Connect w/ Eric Elliott: Website: https://heyimeric.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heyimeric LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/eric-elli... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericmelliott/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/EricMElliott Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
It's about to be a wild one as an R. Kelly story threatens to change our outlook on him. Denver B is ready to quit IG since 'the algorithm' has been affecting him a certain type of way but inspiration from the same place leaves him questioning all he's been told about sex. Clearly a lot of people have been lying, so it's time to set the record straight...Break Time on Westside Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/breaktimeonwestside/My Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/denver_bagaka/My Twitter:https://twitter.com/BagakatheD
Welcome to this week's Indie Artist Music Hustle with Blonde Intelligence. This week we will have a discussion on parenting while in the entertainment business. Our special guests are Dallas Transplant Ronald Parks JR, and Pine Bluff native Kodi Owens. Ronald is the owner of online radio station RP Entertainment Radio and Kodi is the owner and operator of Phunkeephoot Productions. We will discuss groupies, Bill Cosby, R Kelly, and more from the male perspective.Link to YouTube Episode: https://youtu.be/sahsOkYvtAMSupport the show
01.Nelly, Kelly Rowland - Dilemma 02.Ne-Yo - So Sick 03.Mario - Let Me Love You 04.Usher ft alicia Keys - My Boo 05.Chis Brown - Yo (Excuse Me Miss) 06.Jeremih - Birthday Sex 07.Usher - Lovers and Friends ft Ludacris 08.Usher - Confession pt.2 09.Mariah Carey - We Belong Together 10.R.Kelly - Ignition R. Kelly - Ignition (Remix) 11.Twista - Slow Jamz ft Kanye West& Jamie Foxx 12.T-Pain - I'm N Luv (Wit a Stripper) feat. Mike Jones 13.T-Pain - Buy U a Drank (Shawty Snappin') ft Yung Joc 14.Lil Wayne, Bobby V., Kidd Kidd - Mrs Officer 15.Kanye West - All Falls Down ft Syleena Johnson 16.T.I. - What You Know 17.The Neptunes - Frontin ft Jay-Z 18.Usher - U Don't Have to Call 19.Fat Joe - What's Luv? ft Ja Rule & Ashanti 20.Diddy - I Need a Girl (Pt. 2) ft. Loon, Ginuwine & Mario Winans 21.Snoop Dogg - I Wanna Love You ft Akon 22.T-Pain - Bartender ft Akon 23.Akon - Smack That ft Eminem 24.Lil Wayne - Lollipop ft Static Major 25.Twista - So Sexy ft R. Kelly 26.R. Kelly - Feeling on Yo Booty 27.R. Kelly - I'm a Flirt remix ft T.I. & T-Pain 28.Diddy, Usher, LoonDiddy - I Need a Girl (Pt. 1) [ft. Usher & Loon 29.Kanye West - Heard 'Em Say ft Adam Levine 30.T.I. - Why You Wanna 31.Akon - I'm so Paid ft Young Jeezy & Lil Wayne 32.Kanye West - Good Life ft T-Pain 33.Ja Rule - Wonderful ft R. Kelly & Ashanti 34.R. Kelly - Been Around the World ft Ja Rule 35.R. Kelly - I Wish (remix) (To the Homies That We Lost) 36.T-Pain - Can't Believe It ft Lil Wayne
R. Kelly got 30 years; Ghislaine Maxwell, Elon Musk new set of twins; Plan B, Roe vs. Wade; What to Watch - Umbrella Academy, Elliott Page; Amazon Drone hunting; Unabomber movie Tim K, Jaylen Walker, James Caan, Highland Illinois shooter.
Hey Curbsters! Join Sixx & her Co hosts Shawn the Gossip & Michelle Shantee' as we break down the celebrity news! Ricky Martin's lawsuit dropped, Pink Sauce messy drippings, R Kelly news, Fights break out at Disney Land, Meg's new song didn't hit the bar, and much more. Remember, Issa lil bit of truth, a lil bit of lies, but it's all factual! Get your merch from www.lmtbs.com Disclaimer - Excerpts from books, blogs, social media, and public figures protected by Fair Use Clause of the Copyright Act which states Notwithstanding the provisions of sections 106 and 106A, the fair use of a copyrighted work, including such use by reproduction in copies or phono-records or by any other means specified by that section, for purposes such as criticism, COMMENT, news reporting, teaching (including multiple copies for classroom use), scholarship, or research, is not an infringement of copyright. Contact Information: Email: firstname.lastname@example.org Where you can follow Sixx's Word on the Curb: YouTube: https://youtu.be/iDOmXYIgd4o TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sixxfo06 Podcast: Sixx's Word on the Curb is on Apple, Google, Spotify & More!
VERDICT VLOG: R. Kelly Associate Donnell Russell was just found guilty of making an interstate gun threat to shut down @LifetimeTV screening of Surviving R. Kelly. Inner City Press live tweeted the trial, compared #RKelly & Jeffrey Epstein https://www.patreon.com/posts/extra-r-kelly-to-69379249
VLOG: #RKelly "associate" Don Russell closings - & verdict? Giuffre v Dershowitz, his tax returns, her Perth depo. UNSG @AntonioGuterres failed on Ukraine, coming back with food? #BigTony
W. Kamau Bell (United Shades of America, We Need to Talk about Cosby) has carved out his own, personalized niche in media, a blend of comedy, documentary, and community. His path didn't always make sense to his peers, but he forged ahead because he felt that his mission was clear. That's just one thing he has in common with Denzel Washington's Eli from the underloved 2010 “post-apocalyptic neo-Western” The Book of Eli.More about Do the Work!***With Jordan Crucchiola and W. Kamau Bell
Maz loves old TV shows, Ethan Hawke loves love, both Kaitlin Armstrong & Miles Bridges plead not guilty in their cases, MLB All-Star game, more Sesame Place videos, Mo'Nique v. Netflix, Joe Rogan v. the Twitter mob, and how a prostitute got a job with an Air Force lab.Matt Jennings has put together another listener get together for this Friday. This time it's a memorial for Scott Santoni & a fundraiser for the Cholangiocarcinoma Foundation.The MLB all star game was really good. Baseball should put microphones on all their players for every game. The biggest bummer was the National Anthem that was performed by YouTube Star Conan Gray.Kaitlin Armstrong pleads not guilty and her fancy lawyers demand a speedy trial. Drew uses his first wish of the day.The R Kelly "Passport" song has an extended dance mix.A guy has finally been arrested for a 1975 murder thanks to DNA pulled from a coffee cup.Ex-MSU and current NBA Star Miles Bridges pleads not guilty to domestic violence and child abuse.Trudi just had to stop at Speedway for candy. Somehow an open wound in the store didn't kill her appetite. No one uses cash anymore.The monster that shoved and killed a vocal coach in New York turned down another plea deal, but we learned some new details about the spoiled bra . A 13-year-old boy has been charged with killing his 12-year-old cousin while the gun owner slept upstairs.The family that was snubbed at Sesame Place held a press conference to discuss their demands. Sesame Place is talking about just shutting down.Grab your EXCLUSIVE NordVPN Deal by going to nordvpn.com/dams or use the code dams to get a HUGE Discount off your NordVPN Plan + 1 additional month for free + a bonus gift! It's completely risk free with Nord's 30-day money-back guarantee!Ricky Martin will testify in the incest case against his nephew.HBOMax has a new documentary about Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward's lives. Only a serious lover of love like Ethan Hawke could produce such a doc.Derek Jeter's 30 part series "The Captain" is as boring as you think it would be.Maz joins us to talk about the All-Star game and Home Run Derby until it gets derailed about all the old 1960's TV shows he loves... again.Mo'Nique has settled her beef with Netflix. It turns out she beefs with quite a few people.Joe Biden had another gaffe today that confused a lot of people.Twitter is mad at Joe Rogan for joking about shooting homeless people in Los Angeles. Just wait until the "mob" hears Bill Burr's new bit on the homeless.Shania Twain talks about how Mutt Lange cheated on her in her new Netflix doc.Linda Evangelista has settled her lawsuit against the company that "deformed" her.A prostitute used her wiles to get a top level job with a US Air Force lab.Social media is dumb, but we're on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter (Drew and Mike Show, Marc Fellhauer, Trudi Daniels and BranDon).
VLOG: #RKelly & Jeffrey Epstein compared https://patreon.com/posts/extra-r-kelly-to-69379249… UN took Epstein's money; Email on Josh Schulte #Wikileaks case still sealed, calling all whistleblowers
VLOG: #RKelly "associated" Don Russell opening statements, Chris Gunn arraignment EDNY; Virgil Griffiths & Emms in Saudi; Schulte & #BrutalKangaroo. UN covers up its Colombia scandal; CFBP closes complaints - and FOIA requests about them
VLOG: #RKelly associate Don Russell jury selection, trial; comparing to Epstein. UN whistleblowers Colombia, comparing to Josh Schulte. UNGA circus, FRBNY on CRA "off the record"??
Welcome back to another episode. This week in Hot Topics We are catching uo with some of the biggest headlines. From #RoevsWade ., Triatan and Khloe, and the update with the RKelly. Olodo of the Week is the Biden family for ALL of the choices they make. This week Care for the Culture is Abbotn Elementary for making an imprint in Black entertainment. Hear the latest in TV and Music. This is CrossxCultured.
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Yeeaaaa a new week but we back on bad time. This week we are short a member (Smitty), But the gang still held it down. The topics this week include R Kelly, Lil TJay, Tik Tok, Corner store murder, Brittney Griner, Cruise chronicles and much more. Remember to send you "Ask The Bro's" questions to WassupWitItPod@gmail.com Follow us on all social media platforms @WassupWitPod
We discuss the 30 year sentence passed down to R&B singer R. Kelly. We both agree that he 100% should be locked up but we have to ask if race played a role in his sentencing. It gets touchy! We also debate if the parents should have been held responsible as well. Let us know your thoughts. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
in this podacst me and Emily are talking about R.kelly's drama~ the Jail Nurse who Risked it all for Gunna~Doja Cat VS Noah Schnapp+ Chrisean's “blue Tooth” Drama
Gizelle and Robyn talk about the Black Effect Podcast Festival, the BET Awards, R Kelly, Drake, and the inner dynamics of friendship! +Get in touch with the show: whatsup (at) reasonablyshady (dot) com || Follow Robyn on IG: robyndixon10 || Follow Gizelle on IG: gizellebryant See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The Feds are coming for Kwame's money, BranDon has a baby & Lyla goes to the vet, Billy Joel plays Comerica, Biden's Burgundy moment, Boosie Badazz defends R Kelly, Elon returns Twitter, Markel's an elder abuser, Shawn Mendes' mental health break, and we go in search of Miss Mina.Brandon and Kristin welcome baby Emily Mae to their family. So, we have Jim Bentley with us.Drew took Lyla to the vet because she was thirsty. He also learns the lesson of begging forgiveness instead of asking permission.Billy Joel rocked Comerica Park Saturday night.Joe Biden pulls a Ron Burgundy.Stranger Things has made another 1980's song a hit. This time it's Metallica's turn.Shawn Mendes postpones his tour because he needs a mental health break.Macy Gray backtracks on what she told Piers Morgan about trans-women. At least the comments gave her a chance to promote her album on the Today show.The feds want Kwame Kilpatrick to pay back the money he owes them. The man that prosecuted him, Michael Bullotta, joins us. He explains to whom else Kilpatrick owes money.A retired Army General in trouble for mocking Dr. Jill Biden. Hunter Biden was even less kind to Dr. Jill Biden.Former Japan Prime Minister Shinzo Abe was assassinated. SIST: President Trump would not have liked that crowd size.Bill Richardson is going to Russia to bring Britney Griner back. The WNBA was all about #42 Britney Griner.President Biden finally called Paul Whelan's sister.We try to return Thomas Markle's phone call to us. Meanwhile, Harry is pulling his "make a deal and produce no content" scam on Penguin Random House.Elon Musk decides he really doesn't want to spend $44 billion to buy Twitter.Britney Spears doesn't understand how documentaries are made.Jim was once busted for downloading adult videos while living at home.Boosie Badazz is really upset that R Kelly got 30 years. He does a great job defending R Kelly's artistic achievements. Drew thinks The Thriller is overrated.The "2022 Football National Championship" was on ESPN 2 this afternoon. We try to call the Sports Bra in Portland to see what was on the main TV today.Thanks to a loose lipped vacationer, we learned that Kaitlin Armstrong once had a ridiculous meltdown at a Yoga retreat. There's another terrible 911 operator, but this time he's charged with a major crime.We go "in search of" one of our favorite video clips of all time- Miss Mina.Supreme Court Justice Brett Kavanaugh just wanted to eat a meal at Morton's. TikTok "star" Addison Rae's dad is quite the turd. His affair with a 25-year-old woman has blown up in his face.Social media is dumb, but we're on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter (Drew and Mike Show, Marc Fellhauer, Trudi Daniels and BranDon).
In this bonus episode, Jim is joined by news contributor Althea Legaspi to discuss the music industry's response to the Supreme Court's overturning of Roe vs. Wade, the sentencing of R. Kelly and Robert Chiarito of the New York Times joins to discuss the Highland Park shooter's music connections. Send us a Voice Memo: Desktop: bit.ly/2RyD5Ah Mobile: sayhi.chat/soundopsJoin our Facebook Group: https://bit.ly/3sivr9TBecome a member on Patreon: https://bit.ly/3slWZvcSign up for our newsletter: https://bit.ly/3eEvRnGMake a donation via PayPal: https://bit.ly/3dmt9lU
Jim DeRogatis joins us to discuss his decades-long reporting of R. Kelly's sexual abuse now that Kelly has been sentenced to 30 years in prison. DeRogatis explains how multiple institutions failed the victims and how misogyny and racism are intertwined plagues in America. Then, after Tony gets bulldozed by DeRogatis on a music review, we examine his long week and friendship with Billy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Van and Rachel react to R. Kelly's 30-year sentence and the "normalization" of his crimes (17:02), plus Ketanji Brown Jackson is officially sworn in (24:26) to the Supreme Court. They are then joined by Marc Goldwein, senior policy director for the Committee for a Responsible Federal Budget, to break down the current state of the U.S. economy (41:07). Host: Van Lathan and Rachel Lindsay Guest: Marc Goldwein Producers: Trudy Joseph and Donnie Beacham Jr. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Ghislaine Maxwell got 20 years. Will she ever tell-all? R Kelly got 30 years. I summarize Porsha Williams' chapter from her book about what happened between her and R Kelly. Machine Gun Kelly broke a glass on his face. Kim K is being sued for her "SKKN" skin care name. Did Travis Barker have a bad colonoscopy? Wendy Williams' interview about her possible podcast was disturbing. Meghan and Harry are set to do their reality show, and she wants her sister's suit against her dropped. Nene Leakes' lawsuit might get settled. Real Housewives Ultimate Girls' Trip Ex-Wives is so good! I tell a story about when Brandi Glanville made me cry at a dinner party at Craig's. Britney's ex/stalker is still behind bars. Beware of female Sugar Daddies in your DM's. Get extra juice on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/juicyscoophttps://heathermcdonald.net/Support our sponsors:awaytravel.com/juicy Sundayscaries.com use code JUICY for 25% offhttps://sleepnumber.com/JUICYhttps://www.betterhelp.com/HEATHERworthy.com/JUICYMedterracbd.com drinkcirkul.com/juicybestegg.com/juicy