Shamelessly Feminine

As a creative, have you ever said to yourself “I’m lucky to be doing what I love so therefore I sacrifice the income?” That is something that my guest Polly Alexandre used to tell herself all the time, but it came to a point where she realized she had to clear her money blocks. In this episode, she tells us how we can do it while being gentle with ourselves and valuing ourselves as creatives, especially during the COVID-19 pandemic. The bottom line is: We’re all going to be ok. Find full shownotes and connect with Polly & Jen at www.shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-77 Key Quotes from This Episode:  “What makes one person abundant could be $50k a year and working 2 days per week, and what makes someone else abundant could be a minimum of a million and they don’t feel abundant if they’re only doing $700k. Define what is an abundant life to you, and then look at what amount of money that requires to create the environment you want to exist in.” “Money is just one part of abundance, but it does buy a huge amount of freedom and choices.” “We’re all on a spiritual journey right now. You have to dig deep right now because the whole world is saying ‘there’s not enough’ right now.” Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-77. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

Join me and my guest Lannie Reid for a fascinating conversation that will connect you to the “other side.” Lannie is an intuitive medium, teacher, and healer who is passionate about speaking with angels. In this conversation, she clears up what exactly a guardian angel is, how you can know that angels are present, and what you can do in the face of doubt. Key Quotes from This Episode:  “My purpose on this planet is to teach others how they can ask angels for support in their lives so they know they’re not alone.” “Everybody does have their own angel. That is my belief. Everybody has angels all around them and everybody has their own specifically guardian angel.” “A guardian angel can be somebody that has passed over and then they come and [guard somebody] but to me, a guardian angel has been with you through all your past lives and they know you on a soul level and they’re here to guide you.” Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-75. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

In this conversation with Cherie Burton, we’re talking about a few different things, including emotional healing and mental health. Cherie, an emotional wellness expert, tells us how she has a pronounced family history of mental illness and how a string of suicides by loved ones drew her to studying psychology. In her studies, she wanted to crack the code of why people were not getting well, and we take a deep dive into that topic. She also answers the questions how important are periods of rest and rebuilding? How can we have important conversations and human connection even during a global pandemic? And how is the pandemic actually a gift to us? Key Quotes from This Episode:  “We’re experts because we lived through something, not because we sat in a classroom traditional and studied it.” “Your mess is your message. Whatever the universe has served up to you in the forms of trauma or dysfunction or what have you, it morphs into, in some way, what you’re meant to share, teach, bless, lift, heal the planet.” “We are more productive when we go into cycles of rest and rebuilding.” Resources: Richard Rohr Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-75. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

Cassie Parks is a manifester extraordinaire. She created a program to attract money when she needed it, then did the program while she wrote it - and she tells us all about it in this episode. We get down to the real truth of where money blocks come from, and how it’s really pretty simple to attract the wealth you desire by setting intentions as goals. You’ll also find out about a boudoir shoot using $10,000 worth of real bills and how Jimmy Choos factor into Cassie’s journey to wealth! Key Quotes from This Episode:  "You have to be the person who has that experience if you’re going to get that experience." "You have to do the work to feel and open and own your own value, but you can have a conversation with your partner. It doesn’t make it just about you and feeling guilt and shame, it starts to open up that conversation." "Money can find you. It doesn’t have to come through the traditional ways that we think." Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-74. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

Dr. Orlena Kerek joins me on my newest podcast episode to tell me and the listeners all about rebooting your health and wellness. We focus on the 4 pillars of wellness that she has identified - nutrition, exercise, sleep, and emotional wellness, and how you can make adjustments in these areas in our lives and even get our kids on board. She also breaks down an experience of mine to explain how our emotional wellness can spiral downwards but also how we can consciously create a spiral upwards into positivity again. Key Quotes from This Episode:  “From the age of 40 onwards, we lose muscle mass. Osteoporosis starts now and we need to start doing exercise so we’re fit and have muscle tone and bone strength so we don’t put ourselves in danger in the future.” “When you talk about negativity, it makes sense that our brains are geared to protect us. It’s about danger. Our brains are basically this mechanism of survival. But the good news is that once you’re aware of it, there are loads of things you can do by just being aware of it and create positive thoughts and generate positive emotion.” “Ask yourself if something is the truth. We love to fantasize, we love to create all of these different what ifs and these negative thoughts and negative fantasies and we believe it. Check in with yourself. Ask yourself, ‘Is this the truth right now? Right now, what is the actual truth of what you’re going through?’”   Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-73. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

Being a victim of narcissistic abuse is relatively unknown in the medical community, but my guest Suzanna Quintana wants to set the record straight. A survivor of 2 abusive relationships, she knows all about what narcissism is, what it isn’t, and how to recognize it. When you’re done with this episode, you will know whether or not you are dealing with a narcissist in your life. Key Quotes From This Episode:  “I didn’t know I was a victim of abuse until the tail end, when I found a psychologist who told me I was.” “You don’t even realize what’s happening to you as it’s happening. It’s the frog in a pot of cool water. The frog is totally happy because the frog likes cool water, but you turn the  heat to boil, it takes some time, and by the time the frog realizes what’s happening, it’s too late. That’s exactly what narcissistic abuse is.” “Narcissists know exactly what they’re doing. If you are not a narcissist, you do not deliberately try to hurt the person you love.” Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-72. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

Are you overeating while being stuck in self-isolation? I get it, and so does my guest for this episode, Melainie Rogers, MS, RDN, CDN, CEDRD-S. Those fancy letters after her name means she’s an expert in disordered eating and eating disorders, and in our conversation, she goes over how we get caught in a cycle of overeating when stressed, why diets don’t work, and disordered eating vs. eating disorders. If you are missing connecting with others over food like I am, this episode will help you get through it. Don't forget to check out our sponsor for this episode, Hero Cosmetics! Try their Mighty Patch with the code "Shameless15" for 15% off at www.herocosmetics.com Key Quotes From This Episode:  “We’re not designed to feel horrendous and overanxious. That’s not a way that we’re designed to exist, so when we are feeling that way, our survival mechanism is to try to bring that down to a more balanced level, and food in this case is seeing a purpose, bu tit also has a side effect, which is more calories than people are used to taking in.” “This may be a very temporary period and not necessarily disordered or an eating disorder because it’s very specific to the current environment. It’s so out of the norm of anything we’ve experienced.” “What was our set weight when we were 20 or 25 is a little bit different to when we’re 40 or 50 or 60 because of a multitude of factors.” “Weight is a range and we may not want to embrace that but there has to be some kind of acceptance around it and moving beyond just body image and weight on a scale even though society tells us it’s so damn important, especially for women.” Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-71. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

Jenn Scalia joins me to talk about how her gratitude rituals have led to empowerment and manifesting a life she loves, and how you can do it, too. Jenn is a visibility and mindset strategist for entrepreneurs who want to leave a legacy, and you’re going to learn all about how to support the highest version of yourself that you want to be while using gratitude to bring in what you seek. Don't forget to check out our sponsor for this episode, Hero Cosmetics! Try their Mighty Patch with the code "Shameless15" for 15% off at www.herocosmetics.com Key Quotes From This Episode:  “You have to develop a thick skin and know that not everyone is going to like you but the majority of the people will. Focus on ‘I’m doing this for the people who need to hear my message’ versus ‘Oh my god, what if that one person out of a thousand people doesn’t like me?’” “I like to define authenticity as being aligned with your values.” Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-70. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

Did you know that our guts are responsible for virtually every aspect of our overall health? Tina Anderson of Just Thrive joins Jen on the podcast to talk all about it. She clears up the myths about probiotics, talks about the abuses in the pharmaceutical industry that led to the founding of Just Thrive, and lets us in on how probiotics could be helping during the COVID-19 pandemic. Find Tina at the Just Thrive website. Interested in Just Thrive's amazing products? Enter code Jen for a 15% one-time use discount, good through June 30! Check out the Just Thrive website. Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-69. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

My dear friend Gillian (“Gilly”) Stollwerk Garrett joins me on the podcast this week. If you want to hear that you’re not alone as a parent, or a self-employed person, going crazy during this pandemic, tune into this episode. Gilly and I talk about how we’re juggling being busy with not feeing productive, raising kids during COVID-19, gratitude, body positivity, and what led Gilly to create her skin care line, Gilly’s Organics. Key Quotes from the Episode: “Part of my brand is trying to educate. You can have nice, healing, beautiful, effective products without the chemicals.” “Scars, breast cancer, talking about things that seem taboo and might make them uncomfortable is the only way to get people’s attention and to tell the truth.” “Presence over perfection. What I have to say and what I have to teach is so much more important than the number on my jeans.” “I’m owning every little spot on my body, whether it’s quarantine weight or not.” Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-68. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

Tricia Dycka is a cancer survivor, intuitive empath coach, Reiki Master, and more, and she’s on the podcast today to talk about being an empath. She answers the question “what is an empath?” and talks about connecting with people close to you on a different level when you can pick up on their energies and emotions. You’ll also learn about how an empath picks on others’ positive emotions as well as the negative, and how to deal with the emotions we feel during social isolation and a global pandemic. Key Quotes from the Episode: “I want to express that whether you’re home alone or you’re in a house full of people, the four walls of your house do not protect you from emotions, which are energy in motion.” “The universe doesn’t have a verbal language so we have to pay attention to [the signs it sends].” Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-67. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

Julie Peters’ experience of sexual assault and the healing that came afterwards is powerful and a story that has to be told. This episode is full of “a-ha” moments and deep wisdom. Julie talks about her book “Want: 8 Steps to Recovering Desire, Passion, and Pleasure After Sexual Assault” and how it breaks down the healing process in an easy to digest, gentle format. She and Jen also unpack the complexities of socialization and how it shapes rape culture, and Julie gives some surprising insight into how food can help with healing. Find Julie at her website. Key Quotes from the Episode: “One of the things that I really discovered in the process of recovery for me and my experience was that it’s really not about going back to anything, it’s really much more about uncovering a new sense of self and a new perception on what the world is and really taking the lessons from whatever it is you went through and letting those be your gems and riches.” “I did a lot of research around trauma and female sexual desire and all kinds of research, but really the work of the book was delving into myself and my journey and what I’d been through and really digging up some things and processing them and working them through.” “We live in a society that has some gender binary and there’s a lot of misogyny in our culture. Even if you haven’t been sexually assaulted, something like 80+% of people who identify as women has been catcalled on the street, sexually harassed at work, felt disempowered by some way in another by the medical system, not listened to. We have a lot of these experiences where we’re told one rand over again ‘you have less value, you don’t have power.’” Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-66. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

Anti-aging is getting confusing - Lauren Dimet Waters is here to set it straight. Lauren and Jen talk on this episode about choosing the way you want to age, helping women to feel their best as long as they can, and how advertisements for anti-aging products are lying to you. Lauren is a wealth of information for all women ages 30+ and you don’t want to miss this episode! Thank you to Elemis for sponsoring this episode! Make sure to check them out here. Find Lauren at her website. Key Quotes from the Episode: "I am pro you doing whatever works for you. I am anti somebody telling you what you need to do." "If you’re using the same skin care that you were using 15 years ago, it’s time for a change." Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-65. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

This time on Shamelessly Feminine, Jen is talking to Dr. Mary Claire Haver, an OB-GYN in Texas. As her patient population aged, she was overwhelmed with the number of complaints and concerns her patients had with weight gain while going through menopause. For years, she told her patients to eat less and exercise more. It wasn’t until she, too, experienced the changes of menopause that she realized this advice doesn’t work. In this episode, she’s telling us all about how her studies of aging and nutrition caused her to develop the Galveston Diet, the first and only nutrition program in the world created by a female OB-GYN - this is no junk science. The Galveston Diet is dedicated to helping women reach their health and wellness goals through an anti-inflammatory approach to nutrition, and once you hear this interview, you will definitely want to check out the program! Find more information at GalvestonDiet.com Don't forget to check out our new sponsor, Elemis! Key Quotes from the Episode: "It's simple nutritional changes, loading up on on behavior and practices that decrease inflammation and doing away with those that add inflammation." "So I practiced on myself and literally that 20 pounds [that I gained] melted off. Not only that, I was sleeping better. My brain fog was better. I was working out better. My joints felt better. I mean, all of the non-scaled benefits were so much better." "My residency was jam packed and prevention just falls at the wayside. It's like, ‘That's common knowledge. People should just understand that inherently,’ and they actually don’t. So many things in the industry are working against us for that." Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-64. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

How can we better connect to our feminine within? That’s the question Rachael Jayne Groover, my guest on this week’s podcast episode, is answering on the regular. She has trained over 12,000 women with her Art of Feminine Presence® training, which wraps up the physical, energetic, and feminine all in one. We talk about getting clear on the yin and yang aspects of life as opposed to the feminine vs. masculine, how to keep the embodiment of the feminine in everything we do, and how meditation can not only bring us into the present more, but also bring us back to the feminine within so that we can truly be seen. Check out Rachael Jayne's website at https://rachaeljayne.com/ Key Quotes from the Episode: “If we still the mind, we then automatically connect to our life force.” “Everybody on the planet has a different version of what feminine means and what masculine  means. In the Art of Feminine Presence®, we pull apart feminine and masculine to yin and yang as separate things, so we can really get clear on what the yin and yang aspects of life are. Most people would think of masculine as yang and feminine as yin, but let’s take feminine and masculine out of it.” “A lot of women want to be seen, but then they don’t want to be seen, because there’s that fear of that.” Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-63. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

Jen Mazer is the Queen of Manifestation and she’s my guest for this episode. She sets the record straight about manifestation (what it is, what it isn’t), and lays it all out for us to understand how it works. She reminds us it’s not about controlling, but surrendering, and letting abundance soar into your life. Find Jen Mazer and her book, Manifesting Made Easy, at www.queenofmanifestation.com Key Quotes from the Episode: “We’re all being guided. We’re all energy receivers and givers.” “Our thoughts are creating our reality. If you feel good about something, it’s the right thing for you.” “The practice is finding the gratitude in the obstacle.” “The Universe believes in us way more than we believe in ourselves.” Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-62. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

This week I’m joined by Melissa Berry, the Cancer Fashionista. This is an honest and eye-opening interview about what it is like for those of us who have experienced breast cancer. We cover surgical and medical menopause, changes to our bodies, and what it was like to experience chemotherapy. If you are battling, recovering from, or are in remission from cancer, this episode is chock full of advice and tips for you to feel and look your best. (It’s also great for people who are supporting others with cancer!) You can also watch the video version of this episode over at my YouTube channel - don’t forget to subscribe! Please check out our sponsor for this episode, Bambino! Key Quotes from the Episode: “Going bathing suit shopping was never fun. It required a mimosa beforehand. But now it’s hard, because your body is different.” “You just have to embrace [your body]. You have to work with what you have. Technology is great in the world of fashion. There are so many options out there.” “Learn to accept where you are at each chapter and be patient with yourself.” Resources: Ami Wellness Ana Ono SaltyGirl Beauty Violets are Blue Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join the Reconstruction™ Facebook group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Subscribe to the Jen Rozenbaum YouTube Channel This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-61. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

Happy 2020 and welcome back to the podcast! Big announcement: I’m starting 2020 off strong with a new podcast sponsor, Tipsy Chics, the solution for fun products that make fantastic gifts. Check them out at www.tipsychics.com and use our promo code, Shameless. Now on to this episode. 2019 was a hard year, but we’re still standing. And there is no better person to remind us that we are strong fighters than my friend Leah Brathwaite, author and soul advisor. We’re talking leaving religion, soul searching, making big changes that feed your soul, happiness, and even yoga. I’m also plugging her new book, "A New Way of Life: A Guide for Transformation from Living a Lie to Freeing Your Soul," which you can find at her website, www.leahbrathwaite.com Key Quotes from the Episode: "The main thing is what do you believe? That’s something you need to formulate on your own. Does that resonate as true to you? Only you can decide for yourself." "It’s a constant evolution. It’s like an onion of uncovering more truth, more authenticity. That’s what life is supposed to be about. This constant evolution." "Remember that tiny spark, that tiny flame within you, can illuminate even a cavernous black hole." Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-60. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

Emotional eating healer Jessica Procini joins me this week, and she is on a mission to help busy, successful, driven women use food as fuel instead of a way to cope, soothe, or escape from their busy stressful lives. You're going to learn how to observe whether you are engaging in emotional eating and how Jessica can help you get freedom, peace, and integrity when it comes to treating your body right. Key Quotes from the Episode: "We have to be able to process and really feel and digest our happiness in a healthy way, otherwise it turns into a way where we sabotage ourselves." "We’re meant to have a peaceful, loving, healthy relationship with food." "We have to face ourselves every single day, multiple times a day. We can either do it in a chaotic, compulsive way, or we can do it from a real place of freedom, peace, and integrity." Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-59. Produced by Creating Space Communications.

We’re talking relationships this week - the good, the bad, and the ugly. My guest Stephanie McPhail helps women “date up,” and after she did a lot of her own “dating down,” she has come to a place where she can support women who are transitioning from a bad situation to a better one. But don’t worry, this episode is full of hope and REAL, practical advice for people getting out of abusive relationships. Key Quotes from the Episode: “You feel the fear and do it anyway. You get so used to what you know is not good for you, but it’s just what you know. When I made a decision to leave [abuse], I made a decision to change my life.” “When you’re working on a muscle you work on it from a  bunch of different angles, but when it comes to healing, we don’t work on just the emotional part; the physical, social, emotional, and spiritual need to be worked on.” Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-58. Edited by Creating Space Communications.

This time I'm joined by CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke, a duo that is unlocking the keys to how conflict can be a catalyst for creativity, renewal, and intimacy in relationships. They speak about the inspiration for their book The Beauty of Conflict for Couples from within their own relationship. You'll also find out so many simple ways to settle yourself in the midst of conflict, plus, how to find empathy in your relationships.  To order your copy of their book The Beauty of Conflict for Couples, to follow CrisMarie and Susan on social media, and to download free resources, visit their website at thriveinc.com Don't forget to subscribe to their podcast! Key Quotes from the Episode: “When conflict comes up, that is the essence of creativity.” “Our lives can become transactional. Talk about what’s working and what’s not, and be willing not to solve it right away, but actually get underneath it.” Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Jen and Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-57. Edited by Creating Space Communications.

The podcast is back, and what better guest to start off again with than Jonita D'Souza, an Author and Creatress of Exploring Femininity, a medicine for modern day busy women? This episode is full of wisdom, including how you can trust yourself more and how you can connect with your feminine cycles and divine femininity - plus, Jonita will smash the taboos and stigmas about women's sexuality with her graceful and gentle fierceness.  You can find Jonita at her website, where you can find links to her magical events, feminine "womantras," and more. Key Quotes from the Episode: “Cultivating sexual energy is about coming home to this aspect of ourselves.” “The intuition is a woman’s strongest muscle.” Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode-56. Edited by Creating Space Communications.

We did it! You’ve listened to and I’ve recorded over 50 episodes (over a year) of the Shamelessly Feminine Podcast. But what’s the future of the podcast? What’s going on with the book I keep talking about? And how can we navigate the fear we feel? Well, you guys after a year of recording, I’m putting the podcast on hold so I can rewrite portions of my book, which (fingers crossed!) will come out in 2020.  But what does this mean for you?  This Past Year At the start of 2019, my book was almost done, but then the sh*t hit the fan and overwhelm kicked in. I put the book on hold because I want to rewrite portions of it because of all I’ve learned the past six months. My intention is that the book launches in 2020. To make this happen, the podcast is on hold, with the goal to record again in January 2020.    I want to know what you want to hear about so let me know either in the Shamelessly Feminine Group or via email.  My goal is to serve you guys. Working through the Fear This past year I was ravaged by fear. How do you know when fear is real or not real? I ask myself, “What do I have to lose?” Often times, the answers are “Time and money,” but how do you know if these are legitimate fears? Over the past six months, I’ve been trying to get back in touch with my self-esteem and self-worth. I’m trying to reconnect with spirituality through meditation and prayer.  It’s ok to lose touch with your spirituality.  Everything is temporary. The book is about fear, social anxieties, dealing with scripts that go on in our heads, spirituality, and self worth. My goal is to push through things and learn how to handle them.    Dare to be Yourself Listener, never forget to shine and to be yourself. I love you all. xo, Jen   Key Quotes from the Episode: “So much of what we fear actually can be legitimate, but it’s a matter of, ‘Can we handle it?’" “I can take on life.” “I’m coming to you not from a place of superiority but from a place of solidarity.”  “When you live your authentic life, you feel it.” Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram   This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode55.

Can intentionally focusing for 90 days really change your life?  How can you determine what makes you come alive? And what if you feel like you’re in a season - not of hustle or growth - but just survival?    Entrepreneur, single mom of three boys, author, and CEO Kristy Dickerson shares her business  journey with us as well as why she uses both digital and analog planners. If you’re struggling with where you are in life and need some reassurance, Kristy is the voice you need in your earbuds today.    Kristy’s Business Journey Kristy and I met when we were both writers for a business photography magazine. Kristy was a wedding photographer for seven years then began teaching finance, business, and productivity in the wedding photography industry.    She met a graphic designer, Jenny,  and shared with her that she wanted to write a book. Jenny shared that she wanted to create a planner. They put the two ideas together and created the STARTplanner in May 2015. They were featured in Forbes, Entrepreneur, and Inc. magazines.      Kristy has been a speaker at Harvard University and The George Washington University.    In 2018, she took time off for personal reasons, but her goal for 2019 is to put herself out there by being on more podcasts.    Kristy is quick to remind us that her career has been built in layers. She also has found the value is saying “no” when necessary.   The energy you have - what it is that makes you tick - needs to be restored.  And you have to give yourself time to do that. Planners, Planners, Planners Kristy’s planner comes in Hustle, Fancy Pants, and Bling options. They also recently launched “90 Days of Start,” which is designed for someone who uses a digital calendar or has a long-running to-do list.    Analog vs. Digital Planners Kristy uses both types of planner. Here are the benefits as she sees them for the analog planner: You start learning how to plan with a tangible agenda a la elementary school. You can physically check off that you’re done with an item. You have accountability because that “not-done” item stares you in the face. You can visualize the week.    How You Find What Fills Your Soul Give yourself space and grace. Give yourself time to figure out what’s going on in your life and make seasonal changes. You may just need to survive right now.   Don’t go it alone. Ask your business partner for help. Find a counselor.  Check in on your health. How are you doing physically and mentally?   Don’t add stressors where you don’t need to. Learn and carry those lessons forward. What helps you rest? Is it going to the gym, being outside, painting, journaling?   Key Quotes from the Episode:   “Our most valuable asset really is time.”  - Kristy Dickerson “With every decision that we make from a time perspective, there’s an opportunity cost on things we could be pouring our hearts and lives into.” - Kristy Dickerson “You may not be in a growth season.” - Kristy Dickerson “Empathy is a great, great teacher.” - Kristy Dickerson “Own that there are days you just need to be.” - Kristy Dickerson “Use resources for inspiration not imitation.” - Kristy Dickerson     Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram   This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode54.

What do most of your fears revolve around? What are four simple strategies to help you work through your fear? How can you take the pressure off?   Co-host Lauren Trantham and I talk through what’s going on when we experience fear and real-life strategies that will help us work through it. If you experience fear and anxiety in your life, you must listen to this episode!   What Fear Does I found this quote by Soledad O’Brien so inspiring:   “I have learned that fear limits you and your vision. It serves as blinders to what may be just a few steps down the road for you. The journey is valuable, but believing in your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom, how great is that?”    Fear gets in our way, and we get frozen by it.    What We Fear Many fears revolve around the question: “Are people going to like me?” Being ostracized back in the day had very negative consequences and brought up issues of survival.  Today, we worry if we’re lovable and have worth.   For me post-cancer, I have so many “What if” fears: What if the cancer comes back? What if I’m not living my biggest life? What if I’m not happy? What if I forget to take my medication?   Four Strategies to Help You Work Through Fear Ask yourself if your fear is real. Get to the root of why you’re feeling this way. Talk to your friends who can remind you of the truth about you. Tell your fear, “Thank you for looking out for me and sharing. I’m going to do this anyway.” Conclusion: Embrace your fear. Thank it. Let it go. You can take the pressure off by reframing how you feel about trying something new by thinking of it as testing and trying.    Key Quotes from the Episode: “Cancer amplifies the good and shrinks the bad.” - Jennifer Rozenbaum   “You can’t compare hurts and you can’t compare fears and you can’t compare anxieties. We are all going through things.” - Lauren Trantham   “It’s scary to grow.” - Lauren Trantham   Connect with Lauren Trantham: Ride My Road (Facebook) Ride My Road (Website) Authentic Media Training (Facebook)  Authentic Media Training (Website)   Lauren Trantham’s superpower is fierce tenderheartedness. Just imagine an elite ninja crossed with a hopeful romantic and you can understand her personality! She believes in black coffee, dark beer, shooting straight liquor, and that true strength lies in vulnerability. When she is not riding her motorcycle or traveling the world she is helping entrepreneurs find their authentic message so they can grow their business by getting real.   Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram   This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode53.

What is a women's health physical therapist and do you need one? Why do women believe we must just put up with certain physical + medical issues after giving birth? And what information do we need about postpartum sex, the pelvic floor,  and leaking? Podcast guest, women's health physical therapist, and mom Alicia Willoughby gives us the scoop on the importance of understanding, caring, and getting professional medical help for your postpartum and menopausal body. Whether you had a baby last week, last month, or 30 years ago, you need to hear this episode about an aspect of women’s health you don’t hear much about.    How Alicia Got Started As a physical therapist, Alicia treated a pregnant woman with lower back pain and recognized that the treatment made a significant difference in the woman’s life. She realized there was a whole population of women not getting care. Physical therapists simply aren’t trained in women’s health; students receive one day of instruction on pregnancy and one lecture on the pelvic floor.  After undergoing extra training on pregnancy and post-partum to serve this underserved population, Alicia marketed herself to ob/gyns.  When Alicia had her first child, she felt like she was in a body not her own. While her daughter had recurring appointments to track her development and progress, no one guided Alicia into how to reconnect with her own body. Alicia went back to work at an orthopedic clinic and most female patients were mothers. She noticed that many experienced orthopedic issues because they never received postpartum care.  Now Alicia has her own practicing “treating it all,” and believes she’s filling a void in the medical system because postpartum is a really vulnerable time.    Why Women Think We Just Have to Put Up with Certain Medical Issues Alicia believes the reason women accept certain medical frustrations is multifactorial: Our medical system is not designed to care for moms.  Generations pass down their own experiences so we accept certain problems as  part of life.  The fitness community knows women leak when they do jumping jacks, but encourages us to keep going. Our peers reassure us that we’re all experiencing the same concerns so it must be normal. At six weeks, you are discharged by your OB-GYN into the world, but no one is watching out for you.   The Truth About Postpartum Sex For many women, postpartum sex doesn’t feel good, it hurts, or they’re anxious before they even try. Alicia says it’s important to reconnect to your body first.  In postpartum healing, we hear a lot about fitness and getting back to work, but we forgot what brings us joy and makes us feel like ourselves.    What’s Going on with Leaking? Leaking (or incontinence) is involuntarily losing urine, gas or stool. The pelvic floor holds back our bodily fluid so when we leak, this muscle group isn’t doing its job because it’s (1) weak or (2) it’s overactive. To determine the source of leaking, women must be evaluated by a pelvic floor physical therapist.  The more your muscles are stretched, the less likely they hold the fluid in. Leaking is common, but it’s not normal. Leaking is a yellow flag; it’s your body telling you things aren’t right.   Alicia Gives the Scoop About the Pelvic Floor The pelvic floor is a triangular group of 14 muscles that run from pubic bone to tail tailbone, and butt bone to butt bone. There are three layers to your pelvic floor: two are the “squeezers” and one layer holds up your pelvic bones and organs.  What an Appointment with a Women’s Health Physical Therapist is Like Alicia includes these elements in her exams: Posture assessment Balance exercises Full abdomen assessment Pelvic floor exam Prolapse check   The Medical System and How it Cares for Women Alicia sees in her patients that many women feel neglected and disappointed by the current system.  What we may think of as inconveniences are much bigger issues than we think they are.   Connect with Alicia Willougby: Website Facebook Instagram The Postpartum Wellness Solution To find a women’s health physical therapist in your area, go here. Alicia Willoughby is women's health physical therapist who specializes in the pregnant and postpartum body and has her own practice in the San Francisco Bay Area.  Alicia is also a mom and knows first hand how pregnancy, birth and motherhood can be a huge life-altering experience both physically and emotionally. Alicia is passionate about providing mothers the guidance and support that they deserve but are otherwise not getting from the traditional medical model   Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Key Quotes from the Episode: “The pelvic floor can hold a lot of our trauma and can hold a lot of our stories.” - Alicia Willoughby “We have a birth plan, but we don’t have a postpartum plan.” - Alicia Willoughby “When disconnect happens, it just trickles down … it affects so much.” - Alicia Willoughby   This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode52.

In what two areas do most couples struggle? How can we most effectively communicate with our spouse? And what skills can we teach our kids now so they don’t struggle in their relationships later?  Podcast guest Rachel Wright is a licensed psychotherapist, marriage counselor, modern + millennial relationship expert,  and co-founder of The Wright Wellness Center, and I talk about why most couples come to their practice, how to tell if your relationship will last, and how resentment is a silent killer of relationships.   What Rachel Sees in Her Practice and How it Will Help You Rachel and her husband Kyle work together to help couples in their marriages. Together, they do intensives with couples and it helps for the husbands to see that Kyle is there. As a team, Rachel and Kyle look at what is best for the relationship and not only what is best for the two individuals within the relationship.    How Millennials Relationships Differ from Modern Relationships Millennials, people born between 1980-1994, often have a more open mindset for out-of-the-box solutions. In general, millennials are more open to talking about their vulnerability, feelings, and where they can improve.  Why Most Couples Come to See Rachel The top two reasons couples seek Rachel’s counseling are: Sex, i.e. physical intimacy, mismatched libidos, affairs Communication, i.e. one spouse doesn’t feel heard or understand; one partner believes they aren’t being listened to   Let’s Talk about Communication What Skills You Can Teach Your Kids Now to Help Them Later Rachel recommends teaching our children to listen to understand instead of to listen to respond. Children can reflect back what they’ve heard, “I hear you saying that you feel frustrated…” or summarize. If you’re talking and thinking about other things, you’re not listening. It’s physiologically impossible to talk and listen simultaneously. Rachel finds that most people talk at each other; there’s no comprehension.   How You Can Improve Communication in Your Marriage In a healthy relationship, your spouse needs to hear five positive comments for every one negative comment. Even as you communicate logistics with your spouse (“Pick up the milk on the way home!”), you can express thankfulness, extra love, and appreciation.   The Four Warning Signs for Relationship  Rachel reminds us that overarching dedication to your self, the other person, and the relationship is the most important aspect of whether a relationship will make it.   Rachel notes that, according to research, there are four warning signs for a relationship: Criticism: You blame a problem in the relationship on the personality quirk of the other person. Contempt: You criticize and give an eye roll toward your partner. Contempt is the most passive-aggressive, patronizing way to talk to another person. Defensiveness: You do not take responsibility for any issue in the relationship. Stonewalling: You completely shut off and are no longer engaging.    The Role Resentment Plays in a Relationship For those in their 40s, who have been married for 10 to 20 years, resentment can build up over time. Both parties have made mistakes. Is resentment why people grow apart and is it fixable?   Rachel shares that people grow apart for all different reasons, including resentment. As a culture, we have a problem with getting help. Instead of maintaining and healing a relationship along the way, people wait until there’s an issue.    What to do When You Feel You’ve Outgrown Your Spouse When her clients they Rachel her they’ve outgrown their spouses, she asks them if they’ve given their husbands a chance to rise up. You may have grown as an individual, but has your husband had that same opportunity? Also, what can you do to grow together in your relationship?    Connect with Rachel Wright: Rachel Wright’s Instagram Kyle Wright’s Instagram Kyle’s podcast, “Masculinity on the Rocks   Rachel Wright, MA, LMFT: I’ve learned to rely on evidence-based tools to compassionately communicate my feelings, wants, and needs (which is a fancy way of saying these tools work). Through WWC, I’m bringing a fresh, real voice to millennial relationships. My mission is to help people have better sex, relationships, and mental health. The work Kyle and I do makes communication stronger, turns the bedroom into a place of confidence, and gives you the tools you need to feel secure in your own skin. Sex ed shouldn’t stop in high school, and relationship education needs to exist, period. I believe it’s also important to honor the place mental health has in the conversation. As a sex educator, speaker, writer, and The Wright Reasons Podcast co-host, I go where the sun doesn’t shine to talk about the issues that really matter, all through the lens of The Bachelor Franchise. Outside of WWC, I’m hitting up the latest Broadway shows, singing in the shower, eating at all the GF places I can find, and basking in Manhattan’s energy.   Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram   Key Quotes from the Episode: “You can’t read the label from inside the bottle.” - Rachel Wright “If you’re more focused on winning the conversation or argument in your relationship, your relationship -- that third being-- that’s what’s losing.” - Rachel Wright “If we just talked about things, the world would be such a better place.” - Rachel Wright This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode51.

What does it look like for you to be fit in your life right now? What does your body need today? And how can a working woman keep up with her health while she travels?     Personal trainer and podcaster Jen Whitmore and I talk about practical ways to stay fit in your real life, why it’s important, and what you can do to take care of yourself while you’re on the road. If you’ve ever wondered how to protect your health as you travel and what being fit is all about, listen in.   Fit Bodies Come in All Shapes + Sizes If you want to stay motivated and inspired when you’re online, follow someone on social media who looks like you, e.g. she is the same height and body type as you are. It’s important to identify with someone who is the same size and shape as you.   Your body changes as you age so it’s important to ask, “What’s good for my body? What does being healthy in my body look like?”   There’s always outside input wherever you go, but remember that health is crucial to living life.   Listen to What Your Body Needs It’s important to know what your body can physically handle. Losing weight takes time. You need to build up to things. You can’t go from zero minutes of working out to 60 minutes of working out in one session.   Remember that the female body goes through so much: childbirth, miscarriage, menopause, monthly periods. Women tend to keep their emotions in their bodies.   How to Be Healthy When You Travel Jen’s “Road Warriors Wellness Concierge” service helps busy business travelers.   For many business travelers, they have a vacation mindset even when they’re not on vacation. We eat bad things because we want to experience new things. However, we can’t afford a vacation mindset when consistently traveling.   Traveling also means that you’re busy, you don’t know where to go for healthy options, and you’re entertaining clients. These factors make it easy to throw in the towel on health when you travel.   Not only do you need to eat well, but you need to exercise. Jen’s program helps give control back to travelers.   Practical Advice to Stay Healthy Make sure you don’t have a vacation mindset when you’re traveling for business. Be mindful. Exercise when you travel. (Jen’s program helps provide accountability for this!)   Connect with Jen Whitmore: Instagram Facebook LinkedIn   Jen Whitmore is an ACSM Certified Personal Trainer and has been in the health and fitness arena for 12 years. Jen is the creator of "Adventuring The Girl Life" Podcast and "Road Warrior Wellness Concierge". Jen Helps busy business travelers obtain control over their health by building nutrition and training itineraries for them. Jen helps you take your health with you wherever you go.   Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine:   Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram   Key Quotes from the Episode: “As you continue to age, staying healthy and keeping your weight under control are all important things.” - Jen Whitmore   “I have to take care of my body to the best of my ability so I can live longer.” - Jen Whitmore   “You have to know yourself.” - Jen Whitmore   This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode50

Is it easier for you to forgive yourself or forgive others? What makes that so? How can you live life intentionally so you don’t waste a second? Lauren and I dive into forgiveness and dating in this episode, which are very interconnected actually.  After Lauren comes back from the retreat she shared about in Episode 48, we dissect what forgiveness looks like, if it’s easier to date when you’re in your 20s or when you’re older, and so much more. Here’s what Lauren learned at the Matthew Hussey Retreat and there are some gems in here friends!   The Two Types of Forgiveness The forgiveness of others The forgiveness of self Lauren shares an example that Matthew Hussey used at the retreat that really helped her understand how to forgive yourself: Imagine a relay race. Now imagine that the first runner trips. The fourth runner in that race isn’t wasting any time getting mad at the first runner because she is simply running as fast as she can to make up the time. Matthew said that your life is a relay race and that every day you’re a new runner. There is no point in berating yourself when you’ve got a race to run. Dating + Living with Intention Lauren shares that she will date again because she’s not who she once was. She loved this insight from Matthew: Living with intention may not spark much change in your routines or life. Instead, living with intention may simply look like being aware of what your heart is saying.   Dating When You’re Younger (20s) vs. Dating When You’re Older (30s, 40s) Dating is different as you age. Your standards change. The pool from which you can date has changed. You have different life experiences. Remember that you have choices in who you date and whether you date, but even those choices can be overwhelming. As you age, you realize that you’ve made mistakes and that you can be harder on yourself than on others.   Connect with Lauren Trantham: Ride My Road (Facebook) Ride My Road (Website) Authentic Media Training (Facebook) Authentic Media Training (Website)   Lauren Trantham’s superpower is fierce tenderheartedness. Just imagine an elite ninja crossed with a hopeful romantic and you can understand her personality! She believes in black coffee, dark beer, shooting straight liquor, and that true strength lies in vulnerability. When she is not riding her motorcycle or traveling the world she is helping entrepreneurs find their authentic message so they can grow their business by getting real.   Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine:   Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Key Quotes from the Episode: “We worry about the future. We berate ourselves for the past. But again, it brings it back to: We only have today.” - Jen Rozenbaum   “Live life bigger. Join groups. Take chances. Have courage.” - Lauren Trantham   “I don’t want to waste a second.” - Lauren Trantham   “Part of forgiveness is a willingness to go out in the world and be wrong.” - Jen Rozenbaum   “Forgive yourself, and with forgiving others: just let it go.” - Lauren Trantham   This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode49.

When you’re in the trenches of stress and life, how can you realistically practice self-care? What are real-life ways to take care of what’s going on inside your heart when you feel super stressed? And what are Lauren and I doing about it?   Co-host Lauren Trantham and I talk about what’s going on in our lives, how we’re battling stress and the possibility of a Shamelessly Feminine Retreat in 2020.  If you’re stressed out right now, take comfort in knowing that Lauren and I are right there with you so we share what we’re doing in our real lives to combat stress and practice self-care. Three Ways We are Practicing Self-Care: Both of us will attend a retreat. It’s so good to get away, but it’s also super hard. Lauren decided to unplug by taking off all the apps on her phone and turning off her email. When we decide to get away, we wonder what do we do with ourselves when we’re not social. Lauren has attended workshops because she likes to get away from home and learn from an expert.   But how do you know when you’re ready to go on a retreat? For Lauren, going on a retreat is just an annual thing. Her family asks each other how they’ll get to the next level and learn something new. Going on a retreat or attending a workshop is just a part of her life. For me, it’s about getting away from my daily life because I want to get real and do the work.     2. We’re not self-medicating.  I haven’t been drinking lately to take better care of myself. Without drinking, there is so much more clarity and pain. We can self-medicate with our phones, exercise, shopping. Ask yourself, “What am I doing to self-medicate?”   Nobody feels better after self-medicating.   Make a journal of ideas to practice self-care and what brings you joy so that list is available in times of high stress so you don’t have to think of ways to practice self-care on the spot. A creative outlet like art, photography, etc. can help you practice self-care.   3. We’re broadening the definition of self-care. Self-care may look like tapping, a.k.a. EFT or Meridian Tapping.   It might look like Reiki (energy healing) or Polarity Therapy.   And of course, don’t forget to move your body, whether that’s through a work-out or dancing. (Check out Lauren’s Instagram Story Highlights!)   Conclusion: Listeners, what do you think about a Shamelessly Feminine Retreat in 2020? Leave a response in the comments section below! Lauren and I would love to hear from you!   Other Episodes Mentioned: Episode 16: Healing Ourselves Inside and Out with Tina Conroy Episode 22: Chronic Illness and Mindfulness with Marin Turner Episode 26: Practicing Mindfulness with Cory Muscara Episode 29: Remove Your Limiting Beliefs and Live a Life You Love with Valerie Friedlander   Connect with Lauren Trantham: Ride My Road (Facebook) Ride My Road (Website) Authentic Media Training (Facebook) Authentic Media Training (Website)   Lauren Trantham’s superpower is fierce tenderheartedness. Just imagine an elite ninja crossed with a hopeful romantic and you can understand her personality! She believes in black coffee, dark beer, shooting straight liquor, and that true strength lies in vulnerability. When she is not riding her motorcycle or traveling the world she is helping entrepreneurs find their authentic message so they can grow their business by getting real.   Key Quotes from the Episode: “That’s really what changes you -- when you take yourself out of your comfort zone.” - Jen Rozenbaum   “I know that I need to go through the pain to resolve whatever is going on in life.” - Jen Rozenbaum   “I’ve just become so acutely aware lately of how we self-medicate.” - Jen Rozenbaum   “As women … we keep things so close to our heart and we don’t talk about what’s really happening.” - Jen Rozenbaum   Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram   This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode48.

I’m guessing you have a toxic person (or two!) in your life. How can you recognize toxic people? Why is it so hard to recognize that toxicity? And what does recovery look like? Co-host Lauren Trantham and I dig into what a toxic relationship looks like, why they can be so hard to pinpoint, and how you can recover from that type of abusive relationship. We want you to know that if you’re in an abusive relationship, please seek help because you have the freedom to make choices and get out.  Recognizing Toxic People For me, I have one of two reactions to toxic people: (1) they either make my skin crawl immediately OR (2) I understand they’re toxic but believe I can help “fix” them. One way to recognize toxic people is to ask, “How does this person make me feel?” In my life, I don’t want to upset the toxic person so I stuff down my own feelings and don’t take care of myself, all in the name of selflessness. Even when you recognize toxic people, you sometimes can’t separate from them, e.g. a family member. Toxic relationships are complicated. Emotional and verbal abuse comes out like a dripping faucet, but the next thing you know, you have a flood. Humans can adapt to almost anything so we adapt to abuse too. Abuse happens slowly. Two more keys to recognizing toxic people are asking, “Can I identify the drips?” and “Am I able to do something about it?” You can only control your own reactions. Recovering from Toxic People Lauren shares these best practices as she’s recovering from her toxic relationship: Be really clear about how you feel. Take moments to discover how you feel. Analyze if there’s any legitimacy to how you feel. Be really clear on who you are. Surround yourself with those who know and love you.  Conclusion: Remember that abuse can be really hard to recognize because it’s made up of little manipulations. Also, know that you can recover. You are free to do what you need to do to get help.   Key Quotes from the Episode: There is life after toxic people - Jen Rozenbaum   Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram  This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode47.

It all started with a Facebook post by my friend (and today’s co-host) Jana Vallone when she shared a link to a Sports Illustrated story about hip cleavage being a new trend. You guys know that I’m all about accepting all body types, but when did women’s body types get “trendy”? And is that even ok? My fellow boudoir photographer and today’s podcast co-host Jana Vallone and I share our thoughts about body trends, body image, and the media in this episode. If you’re ready for an unfiltered conversation about who and why women’s bodies are deemed trendy, listen in.  What’s Going on With Body “Trends” Jana and I agree that we are thankful that all body types are now being featured in the media, but my concern is that our bodies can even be trendy at all. We know that you can’t change the shape of your body although you can gain/lose weight or have surgery. But we have fallen victim to the idea that our bodies can become trendy. Body Terms You and I hear the terms “plus size,” “curvy,” and “fat” every day.  In the 1980s and 1990s, Kate Moss and the waif-ish look was in. Now, J. Lo, Nicki Minaj, and Kim Kardashian are trendy. Their bodies have been under the knife so how can we keep up with that? How you feel about your body impacts every interaction and relationship you have. Dad Bod versus Mom Bod In our society, Dad Bod, a.k.a. letting yourself go, is considered cool while Mom Bod needs to be “fixed.” Men find women rising up as intimidating. Men are scared of women’s bodies so they make women’s bodies trendy. Labeling our bodies and what’s “trendy” is a form of control.  Conclusion: Let’s ask the question, “Is it ok that you’re being labeled as trendy?” Question what you see and what the media feeds you. What’s hidden underneath? What are the motives behind the message?   Key Quotes from the Episode: “Women’s attractiveness has a shelf life.” - Jen Rozenbaum “I can’t understand how we’ve made body image … trendy.”  - Jen Rozenbaum “How about the trend should be, ‘No two bodies are the same so whatever you have, love that’?”  - Jen Rozenbaum “Let’s make sure that we’re all inclusive.” - Jana Vallone “Body image and body acceptance affect every, single woman.”  - Jen Rozenbaum “We have to be smarter than the trends.” -  Jana Vallone “Fight where you can and question, question, question.” -  Jana Vallone    Connect with  Jana Vallone: Instagram Website   Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine:   Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram   This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode46.

The #1 question I get asked is: “How did they find your cancer?” I share it all in this episode. If you’ve ever wondered about my cancer story,  this is your episode. Lauren and I talk about how doctors found my cancer, what life has been like since, and my advice to you about cancer. How Doctors Found My Cancer My cancer story started in 2016 when I went in for my first mammogram at age 40. Doctors found calcifications on the left side of my left breast and I was told to come back in six months to follow up. Not much had changed so I came back for a mammogram in another six months. In January 2017, the mammogram revealed cysts on my right side, but again, there seemed to be no cause for alarm. Between January and July 2017, I took a selfie and noticed a shadow, a bump that just didn’t look right. It didn’t feel like a lump, but more like a swollen muscle. I went for a sonogram in July 2017 and nothing new was found, but I mentioned to my doctors that I had found a bump on the upper part of my right breast. When they looked at the spot, a giant, football-sized hole appeared on the screen.  The technician went for the doctor, who told me that I couldn’t leave until he performed a biopsy.  During the biopsy, he implanted a titanium marker, which is standard procedure. The doctor came back and told me, “This isn’t good,” and I found out I had cancer. The cancer -- invasive lobular carcinoma --  never showed up on a mammogram because it doesn’t take the form of tumors, but spreads through the lobules of the breasts. I also had no signs of being sick, but was really tired and couldn’t find energy. There was a week between the initial biopsy and the official diagnosis. As a patient that week, I had so many questions about the diagnosis, prognosis, and life questions like, “Do I tell my kids I love them enough?” I made the decision to have a bilateral mastectomy in July 2017. The Battle After Cancer Cancer has ripple effects. You’re in “battle mode” during your treatment, and then you’re in “battle mode” to put your life back together. The emotions come after you’re out of survival mode.  You may have finished with surgery, chemo, and other treatments, but there is still so much more to process physically and emotionally. It’s very easy for me to get paranoid about what I eat and how I live. The trauma of cancer treatment can manifest itself in physical reactions to smells and objects, i.e. needles. I go to therapy to help me process my experience. Some days are good and some days are just bad. However, when I look for it, I can find the good in my cancer like new friendships, perspectives, and opportunities.  My Advice About Cancer Do self-checks, be your own advocate, talk to your doctor. And just know that even if you do everything right, you still might get cancer. I worked out, took my vitamins, ate well, and didn’t have a family history of breast cancer,  yet I still got cancer. Connect with Lauren Trantham: Ride My Road (Facebook) Ride My Road (Website) Authentic Media Training (Facebook) Authentic Media Training (Website) Lauren Trantham’s superpower is fierce tenderheartedness. Just imagine an elite ninja crossed with a hopeful romantic and you can understand her personality! She believes in black coffee, dark beer, shooting straight liquor, and that true strength lies in vulnerability. When she is not riding her motorcycle or traveling the world she is helping entrepreneurs find their authentic message so they can grow their business by getting real. Key Quotes from the Episode: “Cancer doesn’t always show up. It’s not so simple.” - Jen Rozenbaum But then I said, “I’m ready to fight for my life.” - Jen Rozenbaum “There’s no end to it.” - Jen Rozenbaum “I don’t want to just keep putting Band-Aids on my boo-boos. I want to heal my boo-boos.” - Jen Rozenbaum “It’s very easy for the darkness to overshadow the light.” - Jen Rozenbaum “Don’t be afraid to call your doctor … Be your own advocate.” - Jen Rozenbaum Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode45.

Do you find that you like everything to be perfect? That you can’t stand it when you let someone down? Do you have a low tolerance for mistakes? And does forgiving yourself seem impossible? Lauren and I dissect our lives as we talk about what perfectionism is, why we can’t stand making mistakes, and how to forgive ourselves. You’ll also hear about the mistake Lauren made for a charity event, the time I hit a 95-year old man with my car, and an email from a fan declaring his love for me. You won’t want to miss this episode.  Letting Go of Perfectionism Recently, Lauren left off her partner’s logo on a graphic promoting a charity event. She felt horrible. Here’s one question to ask yourself when you’re struggling with being perfect: What is the truth in this situation?   Making Mistakes Lauren believes that she’s not so much a perfectionist, but someone who doesn’t want to let anyone down. When she does make a mistake, she resolves to be better only to let someone down again.  Here are several questions to ask yourself when you’re struggling with being perfect: Where does that thought come from? Do I hold people to the same standards that I hold myself to? What stories am I telling myself?   Forgiving Yourself Others may forgive you far more easily than you forgive yourself.   Here’s one question to ask yourself when things don’t go as you planned: Can I forgive myself when I make a mistake?   Your Next Steps Remember that perfectionism can show up in body image and unrealistic expectations. Read this Psychology Today article, Mothers are Drowning in Stress, to get an idea. Here are two more questions to ask when you’re struggling with perfectionism, making mistakes, and forgiving yourself:  Who do I have to be perfect for, i.e. who demands perfection from me? What is real?  If you struggle with perfectionism and a low tolerance for mistakes, will you get back with us? Let us know if you struggle in these areas too! Other Episodes Mentioned: Episode 40: Pachamama - A Moving Experience in Peru Connect with Lauren Trantham: Ride My Road (Facebook) Ride My Road (Website) Authentic Media Training (Facebook) Authentic Media Training (Website)   Lauren Trantham’s superpower is fierce tenderheartedness. Just imagine an elite ninja crossed with a hopeful romantic and you can understand her personality! She believes in black coffee, dark beer, shooting straight liquor, and that true strength lies in vulnerability. When she is not riding her motorcycle or traveling the world she is helping entrepreneurs find their authentic message so they can grow their business by getting real.   Key Quotes from the episode: There’s so much pressure on women to be perfect. - Jen Rozenbaum Perfection isn’t real. - Jen Rozenbaum Perfectionism comes back to self-worth and forgiveness. - Lauren Trantham We’re trying to be everything all the time. - Jen Rozenbaum   Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine:  Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram   This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode44.

Stress is a part of life, especially for women who are passionate about what they’re doing. So how does it affect us and what are five practical ways you can de-stress today? My co-host Lauren Trantham and I share three ways stress impacts life, what’s stressing us out right now,  and five practices to help battle stress. You know you’re stressed right now so join us in this friendly conversation about stress and how we all struggle with it. The Impact of Stress As women, we care for everyone and everything around us. We take on a lot and that responsibility has an impact.   Stress Impacts You Emotionally It’s easy to pull back from our friends when you need people the most. You may not share what’s going on in your life so you feel isolated or you may not be as available for your friends as you’d like to be. There’s also the element of guilt that you’re not a good friend or daughter when you’re in stress.   Stress Impacts Your Mindset Stress also makes every problem seem bigger. Keeping perspective is hard because everything seems like a big deal and small things can set you off.   Stress Impacts Your Body Sometimes in times of stress, your brain seems to shut down and you can’t think clearly. Your body tells you that you can’t push it to do any more than it’s already doing. High-emotion times can lead to sickness.   What’s Stressing You Out You’re a woman who knows what she wants and is multi-passionate. One area that may cause you stress is work, but how do you not do what you’re passionate about? How do you do what you love without getting overly stressed? How do you not over-do it,  get work done, and take care of yourself?   Five Practical Strategies to Help Manage Stress Ask yourself, “Who am I? What do I want?” In stress, you may feel disconnected from your “why.” Find gratitude in the mundane.  We lose sight of all we have to be thankful for in times of stress. Develop a game plan. Go through the options at your disposal with friends, family, or co-workers. Rest in awe. Do something that amazes you and is restful. Rest and relax in what lights you up. Remember you always have 10 minutes. Take a deep breath. Step outside. Read a book. Meditate.   Conclusion: Lauren and I don’t have the answers to stress, but we are right there with you. You’ve got the tools that can help you manage the stress. It’s just a matter of using them. Other Episodes Mentioned: Episode 26: Practicing Mindfulness with Cory Muscara Connect with Lauren Trantham: Ride My Road (Website) Ride My Road (Facebook) Authentic Media Training (Facebook) Authentic Media Training (Website)   Lauren Trantham’s superpower is fierce tenderheartedness. Just imagine an elite ninja crossed with a hopeful romantic and you can understand her personality! She believes in black coffee, dark beer, shooting straight liquor, and that true strength lies in vulnerability. When she is not riding her motorcycle or traveling the world she is helping entrepreneurs find their authentic message so they can grow their business by getting real.   Key Quotes from the Episode: “Women take on a lot.” - Jen Rozenbaum “Can I find gratitude?” - Jen Rozenbaum “Rest in awe.” - Lauren Trantham   Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine:   Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram   This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode43.

What does confidence have to do with reaching your potential? What’s one secret you need to know to live more confidently today? And how does your wardrobe impact how others respond to you? Devoreaux Walton, an author and confidence coach, joins me as we talk about confidence, self-talk, and your wardrobe.  While we don’t see eye-to-eye on everything we talk, we still collaborate and connect, and respect the heck out of each other! If your confidence needs a boost and you don’t know where to start, listen to Devoreaux’s wisdom.   Devoreaux’s Journey from Feeling Stuck to Living with Confidence In 2014, Devoreaux was frustrated. She felt stuck working at a job she didn’t enjoy. She wanted to be confident and charismatic, but she wasn’t. Then she discovered counseling and therapy then she hired a life coach and audited her closet. Through her experience, she discovered “insider secrets” to become confident in who you are.  One insider secret is to be aware of your mindset and to understand the power of self-talk.  We all have lots of thoughts throughout the day with the majority being negative. Being self-aware of the thoughts you’re thinking can shift the focus of the negative and toward the positive. But how do you stop the negative self-talk? Focus on gratitude. Ask yourself, “What’s the best-case scenario?” Focus on the good that can happen.  What happens when the best-case scenario doesn’t happen? Remember to control what you can control, which is what you do, say, and think. When the outcome doesn’t go your way, think through what went well and what could be improved for next time. Honor yourself for what you did well and then evaluate what could go better the next time. How does your wardrobe impact your confidence? There’s a massive impact between clothing and confidence. How you dress impacts how others view you and how you view yourself. The response you get from people when you wear yoga pants will be a different response than when you wear a suit. After a difficult emotional time, dressing in a way that makes you feel confident and taking good care of yourself will help you feel more empowered.   Spending time the night before can make a world of difference in having a successful tomorrow. What if you’re multi-faceted and you’re unsure what image you want to show the world? There are times and places for everything. In general, it’s possible to have a consistent theme with your colors, fabrics and textures no matter what roles you play.   So what is Devoreaux’s Style? Her style has evolved because style is all about continuous improvement. We’re all changing and growing. It’s about a journey and enjoying the present moment.   Three to four years ago, Devoreaux’s style was more Americana, e.g. J. Crew and Ralph Lauren. Now, she prefers timeless elegance like Talbots, St. John, and Chanel. Her wardrobe has really shrunk. She encourages us to get rid of things that don’t fit, that we haven’t worn in a while, and aren’t respectful to our bodies. Audit your closet and maximize the essentials in your wardrobe. Devoreaux believes that women should always cover their derrieres, bosoms, and mid-sections. I don’t agree with this. But that’s okay! Connect with Devoreaux Walton:  Website YouTube Facebook     Devoreaux Walton is an author and confidence coach who serves as the CEO and Founder at The Modern Lady, a lifestyle company that educates and empowers women to live their best lives. Walton and her team teach women worldwide how to elevate their lives with elegance – helping them to unlock and unleash their feminine power through coaching, courses, and community. Walton knows the power of mindset, wardrobe, and charisma, and teaches timeless life principles for women to upgrade the essence of their chic selves to truly thrive. A Spelman College graduate with a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology and a Washington University in St. Louis graduate with a Master’s degree in Business Administration, Walton is candid about sharing lessons learned from her corporate career at Google and IBM to inform and inspire her clients. A Southern belle from Atlanta, Georgia, Walton currently resides in Dallas, Texas, with her Maltipoo daughter, Nyla.   Listen + Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or STITCHER We’d greatly appreciate a podcast rating and review so that we can reach more women! Search for the podcast in your podcast app (Shamelessly Feminine) Scroll down and click 5 stars Tap “Write a Review” & enter a brief review Press send   Key Quotes from the Episode: “The real problem lies in the fact that most women are constantly focusing on only the areas of improvement and not the areas of excellence.” - Devoreaux Walton “It’s about you being able to like what you see in the mirror.”  - Devoreaux Walton You’ll have much more joy and confidence when you’re authentic.” - Devoreaux Walton “Who we are today is a reflection of who we want to be today.” - Devoreaux Walton “We can all live differently and still be powerful and amazing and a collective.” - Jen Rozenbaum   Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine:   Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram   This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode42.

How can you discover your femininity? Is it possible to embrace your aging self? And why are sexuality and femininity so closely tied together? I chat with MILF podcast host and author Jennifer Tracy dive deep as we talk about femininity, sensuality, and sexuality as women in our 40s. Jennifer shares her personal story about how she discovered her femininity and what pole dancing as to do with all of it! How Pole Dancing Changed Jennifer’s Life Initially, Jennifer took a pole dancing class as a fundraiser hosted by a friend. She’d done burlesque and belly dancing before so she was comfortable in her skin and didn’t think the class would be that big of a deal. However, she walked into a dark room with no mirrors and she felt very awkward in her body during the class. But it was through this class that she started to wake up to her own sexuality and sensuality. Pole dancing is not about form or choreography, but all about organic movement and feeling alive. Before she started pole dancing, she felt frumpy and wore baggy clothes. Now she’s told she’s sexy just by how she carries herself.  Jennifer’s Journey in Discovering her Femininity Jennifer’s femininity-journey changed everything in her life in three major ways: As she rediscovered her femininity, she realized that her marriage wasn’t working. She and her husband went to counseling, but eventually got a divorce. Jennifer changed the kind of woman she was around. She was now drawn to people who were confident, empowered, and didn’t want her to dim her light. Her creative juices were flowing so she wrote a novel. Aging + Sexuality As a 40-year-old woman, I often don’t see myself in ads. I feel forgotten and overlooked. Jennifer also said that she tries not to judge her wrinkles and skin tone. When my doctor suggested that my ovaries be removed, I cried. Here’s what Jennifer said: “There is a grieving that goes along with all of these stages that is natural and needs to be honored.” Our culture doesn’t give us space to grieve. Jennifer also realized that as she gets older, she needs more rest. She reminds us that our bodies will tell us what we need.  Why Do Sensuality and Femininity Live so Closely Together? Jennifer says that in ancient Egypt and Greece, sensuality came with empowerment. Beautiful women were adorned in beautiful clothes. Through the ages, there’s a great deal of power in beauty and sensuality. Beauty, love, sex, and lust are very powerful.  Connect with Jennifer Tracy:  Podcast Website Instagram Listen + Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or STITCHER We’d greatly appreciate a podcast rating and review so that we can reach more women! Search for the podcast in your podcast app (Shamelessly Feminine) Scroll down and click 5 stars Tap “Write a Review” & enter a brief review Press send Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram Key Quotes from the Episode: “There’s a difference between being alive and feeling alive.” - Jen Rozenbaum “There is a grieving that goes along with all of these stages that is natural and needs to be honored.” - Jennifer Tracy “For me, getting older is getting better at listening to [my body], honoring it, and letting it be.” - Jennifer Tracy Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine:  Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode41.

Who or what is Pachamama? How did encountering her change my life? And what can you take away from my encounter with her? In this episode, Lauren and I talk about our experience with Pachamama in Peru. This is really the story about Mother Nature, the power of feminine and energy, and believing that power. Our experience with Pachamama was both spiritual and life changing. Our Pachamama Story In 2014, I was asked to do an educational event for photographers in Peru so I called Lauren and asked her to come with me, and of course, she said yes. While in Peru, Reuben, an Incan,  was our guide.  When we asked Reuben how the Machu Picchu ruins got there, he answered, “Aliens.” Lauren and I were skeptical. As I felt the rocks, there was no energy -- they were just cold. Then we went to Moray, which is also an Inca site where ancient Peruvians would plant crops to climatize them to the height of the peaks. At Moray, there is also a temple and the stones were warm here. Reuben asked if we wanted to go into this sacred hole and that he would call Pachamama for us. Pachamama is Mother Nature. Peruvians don’t worship her, but they do pray to her. She’s a spirit and controls the weather and harvest, and is represented by a rainbow.  Lauren and I go to the hole, lay down, and Reuben calls Pachamama. We can feel the wind swirling and it sounds like a freight train. The birds stop chirping. Then the wind is gone and the birds start singing again. We are crying. Reuben wonders why because he said he would call Pachamama and she came so what’s the big deal? The next day, the three of us go to Machu Picchu and a rainbow appears, something Reuben has never seen in almost 18 years as a tour guide. Now, Lauren and I see rainbows everywhere. Why our encounter with Pachamama was life changing For me, my experience with Pachamama changed my perspective. We are connected to the universe. There is a force out there. We can’t downplay that there is something else out there.  My experience in Peru also opened my eyes to how other people live, that there is so much variety. When we see how big our world is, our problems become small. Let’s enjoy life! And I love that travel gives you a perspective you can’t get sitting at home.   Other Episodes Mentioned: Episode 39: Manifestaction Connect with Lauren Trantham: Ride My Road (Website) Authentic Media Training (Facebook) Authentic Media Training (Website) Ride My Road (Facebook)   Lauren Trantham’s superpower is fierce tenderheartedness. Just imagine an elite ninja crossed with a hopeful romantic and you can understand her personality! She believes in black coffee, dark beer, shooting straight liquor, and that true strength lies in vulnerability. When she is not riding her motorcycle or traveling the world she is helping entrepreneurs find their authentic message so they can grow their business by getting real. Listen + Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or STITCHER We’d greatly appreciate a podcast rating and review so that we can reach more women! Search for the podcast in your podcast app (Shamelessly Feminine) Scroll down and click 5 stars Tap “Write a Review” & enter a brief review Press send   Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram   Key Quotes from the Episode: “Sometimes we just need a perspective of a bigger picture.” - Jen

Is it possible to manifest without taking action? Can you get too specific in manifesting? And why in the world do we talk ourselves out of manifesting our biggest dreams?  In this episode, Lauren and I talk about manifestaction, what it is, how to do it, and what happens when life doesn’t go exactly as you planned. If you’ve ever had questions about manifesting and how or when to take action, this episode is for you. What is manifestaction? Manifesting is intentionally creating what you want to happen in life, but manifesting also needs to involve action. To manifest, be specific about what you want and then ask that it happen in the kindest, most gentle way possible.  Have the vision -- get clear about what you want -- then act on it the best way you know how. Manifestation is not about “the thing” you want, but about the energy around it - your vibe and thinking. In my life, I asked how I could reach more women. Not long after that, I was diagnosed with breast cancer, which I saw as my way to reach more women. It’s important to remember that many good things come because of pain, suffering, and hardship. Why do we talk ourselves out of our dreams? We women can easily talk ourselves out of pursuing our dreams, especially those money-related dreams. Here are some tips in manifesting what you really want: It’s important to understand your motive behind your manifestation. You must know your “why.” When you struggle with understanding why you are so blessed when others aren’t, remember that you may be blessed with good things so you can bless others. Ask yourself what lies you’re telling yourself. Believe in yourself and then things will happen. Remember that negativity attract negativity. Ask yourself what’s going on in your life that’s making you feel negative. Make a promise to yourself not to worry. Instead, turn that worry into an action phrase, “Today, I’m going to …” Can we get too specific in our manifesting? Lauren wonders if as she’s manifesting for a new partner, if she’s being a strong woman or just being nit-picky. How can you tell the difference? Ask yourself, “What’s real vs. reel?” Manifest about how you want to feel when you’re with someone vs. the specific looks or job of that person. Manifest how you want your life to look when you’re with that person. Think about what qualities are most important to you. Final thoughts on manifestaction Manifesting may not take the form you thought.  Listen when the universe answers, and pay attention to how the answer shows up. Other Episodes Mentioned: Episode 37: Reel vs. Real Episode 36: Less But, More Butt   Connect with Lauren Trantham:  Ride My Road (Facebook) Ride My Road (Website) Authentic Media Training (Facebook) Authentic Media Training (Website) Lauren Trantham’s superpower is fierce tenderheartedness. Just imagine an elite ninja crossed with a hopeful romantic and you can understand her personality! She believes in black coffee, dark beer, shooting straight liquor, and that true strength lies in vulnerability. When she is not riding her motorcycle or traveling the world she is helping entrepreneurs find their authentic message so they can grow their business by getting real. Listen + Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or STITCHER We’d greatly appreciate a podcast rating and review so that we can reach more women! Search for the podcast in your podcast app (Shamelessly Feminine) Scroll down and click 5 stars Tap “Write a Review” & enter a brief review Press send  Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine: Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram   Key Quotes from episode: “Without the action, nothing is ever going to happen.” - Jen “Because [life] wasn’t what I thought it would look like, I wasn’t paying attention to the beautiful blessing that it was.” - Lauren  This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode39.

  Listen + Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or STITCHER We’d greatly appreciate a podcast rating and review so that we can reach more women! Search for the podcast in your podcast app (Shamelessly Feminine) Scroll down and click 5 stars Tap “Write a Review” & enter a brief review Press send   MEET THE GUEST: Lauren Trantham’s superpower is fierce tenderheartedness. Just imagine an elite ninja crossed with a hopeful romantic and you can understand her personality! She believes in black coffee, dark beer,  shooting straight liquor and that true strength lies in vulnerability. When she is not riding her motorcycle or traveling the world she is helping entrepreneurs find their authentic message so they can grow their business by getting real. WHERE TO FIND Lauren ONLINE: Ride My Road (Facebook) Ride My Road (Website) Authentic Media Training (Facebook) Authentic Media Training (Website) EPISODE SUMMARY: Let’s put back feminine back into feminist! Lauren and I share our thoughts on what it means to be shamelessly feminine in 2019. There are also times in life when we may feel like our femininity is threatened. For example, for women like myself who struggled with breast cancer or infertility. These are things that define us as women, so what do you do when it’s taken away from you? I share my experience of having a mastectomy and how I found my femininity in other places. Our bodies and minds are always changing. You can either constantly compare yourself to what you looked like 10, 20, 30 years ago, or you can embrace what’s going on now because it won’t be the same later! “Being sexy doesn’t undermine my intelligence!” - Lauren Trantham No two women are the same. Lauren and I share our journeys into motherhood and it’s interesting to see how different our stories are. We are all trying to figure this out in our own way. What is the difference between masculinity and toxic masculinity? Lauren talks on the difference between the two and how many men are struggling to figure out how to be masculine in a healthy way. “How are we defining femininity without taking the time to define masculinity as well?” -Lauren Trantham Show up the way that you want to! Many people question my mothering when I’m out traveling for work and the truth is, for me to be a decent mom, I need to get away from my family sometimes. Motherhood is hard and you don’t have to lose your identity to be a good mom. “You show up in the world the way that you want to be, that’s shamelessly feminine!” - Jen Rozenbaum Let’s Connect! See all that Jennifer has to offer at Shamelessly Feminine! Join The Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group and continue the conversation! Connect more with Jennifer on Facebook and Instagram!

Listen + Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or STITCHER We’d greatly appreciate a podcast rating and review so that we can reach more women! Search for the podcast in your podcast app (Shamelessly Feminine) Scroll down and click 5 stars Tap “Write a Review” & enter a brief review Press send MEET THE GUEST: Lauren Trantham’s superpower is fierce tenderheartedness. Just imagine an elite ninja crossed with a hopeful romantic and you can understand her personality! She believes in black coffee, dark beer,  shooting straight liquor, and that true strength lies in vulnerability. When she is not riding her motorcycle or traveling the world she is helping entrepreneurs find their authentic message so they can grow their business by getting real. WHERE TO FIND Lauren ONLINE: Ride My Road (Facebook) Ride My Road (Website) Authentic Media Training (Facebook) Authentic Media Training (Website)   EPISODE SUMMARY: Being authentic in social media is something I talk about a lot. Lauren and I share our thoughts about what we see on other people’s social media accounts. Are what we are seeing their highlight reel or is it truly their REAL self? “The power of vulnerability really unites people.” - Lauren Trantham Lauren talks on how much you can be vulnerable online and not come off as being negative. Real life can be hard sometimes but what Lauren does best is try to share her struggles as an inspiration for others. Look at authenticity as a purpose and an obligation to help the world. Your story matters and needs to be heard! When it comes to sharing your story, what should you share and what shouldn't you share? Lauren and I don’t always talk about everything in our lives, especially if it’s about someone else. That’s their story to share. “When women can be authentic and open in real life, it really helps create better relationships.” - Jennifer Rozenbaum How can you tell if someone is being real on social media? Lauren shares some of the cues she pays attention to. She says it’s about consistency with that person’s message. Are all big-time influencers fake?! As a New Yorker, I am a skeptic and I questions everything! But, comparing ourselves to the influencers can be terrible on your self-esteem. Lauren talks about noticing your feelings when you’re scrolling through Instagram. Should you have a curated feed? When I see “perfect” social media feeds, I call bullshit! Does it attract more followers? Maybe, but that’s not what I’m about. But, it also depends on what you do. If you’re trying to be vulnerable and be real, the perfect curated feed doesn’t work. “Unfollow anyone that doesn’t make you happy when you’re scrolling through your feed!” - Jennifer Rozenbaum Let’s Connect! See all that Jennifer has to offer at Shamelessly Feminine! Join The Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group and continue the conversation! Connect more with Jennifer on Facebook and Instagram!

I am excited to bring you a solo episode this week! I plan to bring more of just me and my thoughts as well as continuing to talk with amazing guests. If you have suggestions on what you’d like to hear, please don’t be afraid to email me at Jenrozenbaum@gmail.com! Today, I want to talk about “more butt, less but”. As many of you know, I am a boudoir photographer and what I mean by that statement is that I want to see more butt and fewer excuses that we make to ourselves. “Whatever you’re thinking about in your head, it’s probably not true!” - Jen Rozenbaum I see this so often in my line of work! We are making all kinds of excuses and are afraid to get out of our comfort zones. Now, it can be difficult to do, I know! But, the only time you’ll grow and learn what you’re are capable of is by getting uncomfortable and stepping out from behind those barriers. “See what you’re made of, girl!” - Jen Rozenbaum Where are you making excuses in your life? Are those excuses preventing you from going after what you really want? Tell those voices to shut up! I’m guilty of this mindset as well. For example, I am publishing a book and I really had to step out of my comfort zone in this process. I had moments when I told myself, “I’m not qualified, I don’t have a degree in this”, but the truth is, I have valuable life experience that has to be heard! So, ask yourself, “are those excuses really true?” “Get out there and do something uncomfortable today!” - Jen Rozenbaum Let’s Connect! See all that Jennifer has to offer at Shamelessly Feminine! Join The Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group and continue the conversation! Connect more with Jennifer on Facebook and Instagram!

In 2015, postpartum depression left Brooke searching for an identity beyond parenting and partnering. Like many, she felt a sexier self was underneath her other roles but no one was helping her, nor her peers, access it. Brooke decided to give moms just like her what they secretly craved: honest, open conversation about the struggles of staying sexy amid the craziness of a busy life. Brooke connects with women quickly and potently. Why? Because she’s just like them: a frazzled mom, a busy wife, a woman who struggles with her post-baby body daily. Her blog, social media posts and speaking engagements produce an inspiring chorus of “me toos!” from women across the country who are desperate to be heard, understood and most of all, lifted up. Having formerly run marketing & promotions at top women’s magazines like InStyle, Harper's Bazaar and O, The Oprah Magazine, Brooke leverages her former role as a fashion and beauty influencer to not only change women’s sex lives but to change women themselves. Oh yeah, and she’s addicted to vibrators.   WHERE TO FIND BROOKE ONLINE: Website Facebook Instagram EPISODE SUMMARY: How do you feel about Valentine's day? Brooke and I share our thoughts about the whole day and we should look at the day differently. Brooke mentions how we should stop pressuring ourselves to have sex with our significant others just because it’s Valentine’s Day! What’s the best sex toy?! Brooke gives us her best seller and how just like having a great wardrobe, you need to have a great sex toy wardrobe as well! What can you do if you’d like to try a toy but concerned about your spouse’s reaction? Brooke shares tips on the best way to bring up the topic and not make it awkward! Statistics show that women in their 60s are having more sex! Brooke talks on why that is but also some struggles they face when their body is all of a sudden changing. “I’m not going to let menopause steal the youth that I still have left.” Jen Rozenbaum What does being “old” even mean? Brooke and I share our thoughts on when we turned 40 and how it doesn’t mean that you’re “old”! Do whatever makes you feel great, no matter how old you are. “You have to do whatever it is to makes you feel confident and sexy!” - Brooke Christian Let’s start being honest with ourselves. We are all flawed people and Brooke shares a vulnerable story about herself and how important it is to have self-awareness. Also, it’s totally ok to unfollow some that you don’t relate to! Don’t be afraid to show your authentic self, because that is what everyone really wants. Brooke and I talk about influencers and how we need to show others the real stuff. “You’re already beautiful, you just don’t realize it!” - Brooke Christian   Let’s Connect! See all that Jennifer has to offer at Shamelessly Feminine! Join The Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group and continue the conversation! Connect more with Jennifer on Facebook and Instagram!

Listen + Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or STITCHER We’d greatly appreciate a podcast rating and review so that we can reach more women! Search for the podcast in your podcast app (Shamelessly Feminine) Scroll down and click 5 stars Tap “Write a Review” & enter a brief review Press send   MEET THE GUEST: Mallika Malhotra is a professional photographer, brand strategist, mentor and author of The Brand Photography Playbook. After years working in the corporate advertising world, she now helps ambitious women entrepreneurs bring their brand to life through visual storytelling. Her mission is to empower women to stop hiding behind their business and confidently become the face of their brand. When she is not taking pictures or building brands, she is at home with her three sons and husband, drinking coffee or red wine and dreaming about their next global adventure. WHERE TO FIND Mallika Malhotra ONLINE: Website Instagram Facebook EPISODE SUMMARY: As a brand photographer, Mallika shares about the importance of sharing our message with the world and how she helps women come out of their shells when they are in front of the camera. This confidence not only helps her clients in their photo shoots but also in their businesses as a whole. After her photoshoots, Mallika says she sees the women she works with growing in confidence by being able to niche down, raise their prices, and just show up more in the world! Mallika shares the story of how she has grown in her photography business in the last 11 years. She talks about how it all started with photographing children and evolved to women and their brands and helping them understand that it’s more than just a headshot that matters. “People do business with people and if they don’t see a photo of you, they are not going to connect with you.” - Mallika Malhotra Be authentic in your social media platforms! Mallika and I talk about how to be authentic and show up in social media. People want to see the real you and get to know you before they even decide to work with you. We all want some kind of connection. Being an entrepreneur mom can be hard! Mallika talks about how she balances motherhood and running her own business.   Let’s Connect! See all that Jennifer has to offer at Shamelessly Feminine! Join The Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group and continue the conversation! Connect more with Jennifer on Facebook and Instagram!

Sharon Somekh is a general pediatrician, loving wife, and mother to 4 daughters. After a decade of practicing general pediatrics and working with families, she realized that what she enjoyed most was helping parents with parenting concerns, and felt this is what would be most helpful in shaping their children's futures. There often wasn’t enough time, however, while tending to children’s medical needs to address their concerns. She developed Raiseology to help parents with their parenting struggles and teach them how to raise resilient children in a modern world. As a parenting consultant, she hopes to make a difference for parents today while affecting the future of their children in a positive way. WHERE TO FIND Sharon Somekh ONLINE: Website Instagram Facebook Group Facebook EPISODE SUMMARY: As a mother of 4, Sharon talks about work-life balance and how she went into the transition to working at an office to working from home. She mentions how it was easier to turn off work mode when working at the office and how you can learn to do the same even when you’re working from home. A tip she shares is setting a hard stop time for yourself when you’re working on your business. Before becoming a full-time entrepreneur, Sharon was a pediatrician and she shares some of the fears she experienced when she decided to quit her job. Sharon and I talk on parenting. She shares her advice on how to handle our children that have trouble sleeping through the night and how to set boundaries with your teenager! “When people sleep train their kids, they need to remember that it’s not a one and done type of thing. It really is something that you need to be consistent about.”  - Sharon Somekh Find the right balance with your children. Sharon gives advice and house chores with her children. As mothers, we naturally want to do things for our children but it’s best to find the right balance and teach them things that they can do on their own. “I try not to do things for my kids that they can definitely do for themselves.” - Sharon Somekh Let’s Connect! See all that Jennifer has to offer at Shamelessly Feminine! Join The Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group and continue the conversation! Connect more with Jennifer on Facebook and Instagram!  

Steve Maraboli has electrified, inspired, and entertained a wide range of audiences in over 30 countries with his unique style of bridging cutting edge Behavioral Science, proven Business Methodologies, Humor, UNFORGETTABLE stories, and Social Insights. Lending his popular voice to various topics, Steve’s books, quotes, videos, and memes have become a social media sensation; shared by millions across the globe in more than 25 languages. WHERE TO FIND Steve Maraboli ONLINE: Website Instagram Twitter Facebook EPISODE SUMMARY: Steve and I talk about showing the world our real selves and how there is nothing more inspiring than a woman who isn’t afraid to show others who she really is. “I can only be the most powerful me if I accept myself.” -Steve Maraboli Many women who have gone through tough things come out stronger on the other side and learn to accept the person that they are, but what if you are someone that has not been through something awful like cancer or grief? Steve gives us straight talk on how to show up the way that you are meant to be. How can we spot those who are being inauthentic? Steve and I talk about toxic relationships and how we can avoid them. If we are in a toxic relationship, Steve shares how important it is to recognize it and take your power back! “We want healthy relationships - YOU have to BE that!” - Steve Maraboli You only have control of today, and that’s just barely. Steven shares his “ah ha” moment and it didn’t come after reading a self-book. While he was in basic training in Texas during the heat of summer, he realized we have no control over tomorrow and can only do our best in the right now. “I stopped giving the power of yesterday and tomorrow and I was able to harness that power into right now.”  - Steve Maraboli Let’s Connect! See all that Jennifer has to offer at Shamelessly Feminine! Join The Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group and continue the conversation! Connect more with Jennifer on Facebook and Instagram!

Maia, The Smile Enthusiast, is a longevity coach who leads by example. She is on a path toward living to see her 122nd birthday and ultimately becoming the oldest living human ever recorded!  If you want to live to see your hundredth birthday, follow her lead—let’s be future centurions together!! WHERE TO FIND The Smile Enthusiast ONLINE: YouTube Instagram EPISODE SUMMARY: Maia has a smile that shines from the east to the west coast...it’s no wonder people call her the smile enthusiast! So what makes her so happy even in the darkest times? Maia shares her journey of living her best life and passing down her knowledge to the rest of the world so that others can live a happy life too. When we continue to stress ourselves, everything else in our body will react. Maia talks about living with a mindset of always seeing life as something beautiful and having the awareness that bad things happen. We have to learn to have a positive reaction even during stressful times. Maia and I met through social media and mutually follow The Medical Medium. We talk about who Anthony William is and how he has helped us each in our own health. After experiencing a terrible car accident, Maia fell to rock bottom. She was put on many medications and eventually became tired of the medical roller coaster. She talks about her wake up call when she realized that she was the only one that could save herself. “There is nobody that’s going to dig me out of this except for me!” - Maia, The Smile Enthusiast Maia shares her tips on nutrition and what’s best for our bodies. She shares about her daily nutritional routine which includes a healthy dose of celery juice. Let’s Connect! See all that Jennifer has to offer at Shamelessly Feminine! Join The Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group and continue the conversation! Connect more with Jennifer on Facebook and Instagram!  

  Tamara Lackey is a renowned photographer, speaker, author, and program host. Her authentic photography, from children’s portraits to humanitarian photography, is praised within her industry and published internationally. Her work is featured in a myriad of major media outlets, from popular magazines to entertainment sites to talk shows. Tamara is a Nikon USA Ambassador, speaking on behalf of Nikon at a variety of shows and conventions. She was one of two photographers from around the world selected to speak on stage and present her marketing campaign work as part of the Nikon Global Launch Event in Tokyo, introducing a new line of ground-breaking mirrorless camera systems.   Tamara is the grateful recipient of the WPPI/Rangefinder Humanitarian Award, the PMDA Photographers Give Back Award and the WPPI Adorama Inspire Award for her work with Beautiful Together. She and her husband co-founded this 501(c)(3) non-profit to improve the lives of orphaned children, and those living in extreme poverty. A gallery of her work with Beautiful Together exhibited at the Union Square Ballroom in New York City in 2017. WHERE TO FIND Tamara ONLINE: Twitter Facebook Instagram Adorama Store Website EPISODE SUMMARY: Tamara shares her story of consciously building her family through a combination of birth and adoption. What I found truly interesting about Tamara was how she says she consciously built her family but she also lives her life and business the same way. Not only is Tamara a photographer, but she also owns a coffee shop in North Carolina. She talks the inspiration behind all of that. The photography and coffee shop businesses were meant to simply bring people together. Tamara tells us how her inspiration for both was truly about building community. “I truly believe that we are all on this planet to care for each other.” - Tamara Lackey She’s a wife, mother, and runs TWO businesses! How does she do it and deal with the negative beliefs we can sometimes carry? Tamara says life is too short and it’s crazy to walk through this life and not give it our all. “Nothing that we do that is hard is fearless!” - Tamara Lackey Tamara and I talk about work-life balance and how she stays present where she’s at on a daily basis. “That’s the idea of balance. You can have everything set up and still screw up!” - Tamara Lackey Only do the work that you love. Tamara is a strong believer in focusing on what you love and when we do that, it only amplifies the work to be better! “If it’s not hell yeah, it’s hell no!” - Derek Sivers (Anything You Want: 40 Lessons for a New Kind of Entrepreneur)   Let’s Connect! See all that Jennifer has to offer at Shamelessly Feminine! Join The Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group and continue the conversation! Connect more with Jennifer on Facebook and Instagram!

Valerie is a Mom, Certified Life Coach, and founder of The Unlimited Mom. Her work focuses on helping women break self-defeating patterns and take confident action toward their goals. She is passionate about creativity, coffee, and connecting moms to their unique and unlimited self. She believes that moms deserve to live a vibrant life and that by doing so, they will empower their children to do the same. WHERE TO FIND Valerie ONLINE: Facebook Twitter Instagram LinkedIn EPISODE SUMMARY: Valerie shares her passion for helping women get rid of the mindset that is stopping them from living their most amazing life! As moms and women, we can put a lot of expectations on ourselves. Valerie and I chat about the mental load women carry and the guilt we may experience. Valerie helps entrepreneurial moms break through their self-defeating patterns and gives tips on how to deal with the negative thoughts that may come up. One tip is to have a conversation with your people, especially your spouse, around supporting each other. How can you set healthy boundaries for yourself? Valerie says that it starts with knowing who you are! If you don’t know who you are and what you want, it’s impossible to set healthy boundaries.  When you have that disconnect of not knowing who you are, people can’t treat you the way that you feel you should be treated. This can cause us to go into survival mode and feel like we are just getting by. Are you watching how you react to certain situations? Just like many of us, I am guilty of sometimes reacting in a way that doesn’t align with who I am, and I can spend days beating myself up for my reaction. Valerie and I talk more about how to approach this by simply starting a conversation with yourself. Did you react a certain way because you’re actually fearing something? We hear a lot of talk on meditation, yoga, self-care, and waking up early, etc. You don’t have to do all of it to feel that you’re taking care of yourself. You don’t have to wake up early if you’re not a morning person. Do self-care in a way that works best for you! “You have to know what you want, who you want to be and believe that you can be that person! Believe that you can enjoy your life!” - Valerie Friedlander Let’s Connect! See all that Jennifer has to offer at Shamelessly Feminine! Join The Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group and continue the conversation! Connect more with Jennifer on Facebook and Instagram!

Angela Michelle is an internationally published and award-winning photographer who calls Texas home. She started Raven Red in 2008 and since then her work has been published in print magazines, online blogs, and featured in art exhibits. She has been named one of the Top Photographers in the city by The San Antonio Current Magazine for the last four years. Angela is respected among her peers and is a mentor and teacher to other photographers worldwide.  She has photographed artists, musicians, models, actors, entrepreneurs and everyone in between. She always brings her passion and creativity to every session. Angela ’s unique view of the portrait experience stems from her background in Cultural Anthropology. She sees the photoshoot as a way for a woman to transform how she views herself. Her clients leave with a new sense of confidence and feel empowered by the experience. Angela’s passion for photography, art, and her clients is obvious to everyone she meets. She lives to create and she is in her element when she is photographing. No matter the project Angela throws her heart, mind, and soul into everything she does.   WHERE TO FIND Angela ONLINE: Website Instagram Instagram (Personal) EPISODE SUMMARY: Angela shares her incredible story of dealing with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (APS) which is a clotting disorder. She did not know of this diagnosis until 2016 when she had a stroke and nearly died. Thankfully, she survived this traumatic event but it left her blind in her right eye. She turned to yoga to heal from the effects of the stroke and the pain of miscarriage. Practicing yoga was so helpful for Angela that she felt inspired to become an instructor herself. Embrace your scars! Sharing our story with the world can feel overwhelming because we are not sure how it will make others feel, but what we may not know is how much you could be helping others with your story! Someone else might be struggling the same way and you’ve just made that person feel less alone. Angela and I talk about how open we are with sharing our biggest scars. She says that by embracing the scars, she is educating and helping others in a tremendous way. Physical activity can be challenging when you’re faced with chronic illness. However, Angela beat the odds and found healing in yoga. She talks about how she was able to use yoga as her self care and why it has helped her mentally and physically. “Having that mindset of strength and reliance is so imperative to living a quality of life no matter what illness you’re faced with, and yoga helped me do that.” -Angela Michelle Sometimes, it can be tough to always have a positive mindset. Angela has been through a lot from having a stroke, losing part of her vision, not being able to have children, and much more. Naturally, she felt overwhelmed with the amount of stuff that was being thrown at her, but what helped was allowing herself the space to grieve and feel the hurt. She says it’s about allowing yourself to be in the hurt but not stay in it! “You have to give yourself space to have those breakdowns.” -Angela Michelle Angela says that her chronic illness was a gift. It was a gift of perspective and she really embraces that. This illness has shined a whole new light on the way that she now sees the world. “Love your body for how it makes you live and not just how it looks.”  -Angela Michelle We have to be our own advocate when it comes to our health and Angela gives us her tips on how to advocate for yourself when you’re faced with any sort of medical issue. Let’s Connect! See all that Jennifer has to offer at Shamelessly Feminine! Join The Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group and continue the conversation! Connect more with Jennifer on Facebook and Instagram!  

MEET THE GUEST: Renee Hribar has been a sales professional since 1994 in New York. She has sold millions of dollars in products and services and trained thousands to sell for the first time. She is known in her industry as a fun, energetic executive sales coach who leads with heart. A TedX speaker who offers training sessions at global conferences, boardrooms and most recently through virtual programs, she skillfully breaks down her decades of sales expertise with a flair that makes listening to her a joy and if you take action, extremely profitable. With her one-of-a-kind "laugh & learn" teaching style, you will certainly walk away with a new view on the "softer side of sales". WHERE TO FIND RENEE ONLINE: Website Facebook Join the Entrepreneurial Connections Movement! Instagram EPISODE SUMMARY: If you deliver a good product, you’ll never have to sell a day in your life because people will actually want it. But what if you’re not selling a product but a service? Renee and I chat about sales and how can someone present themselves when you’re not selling something tangible. “The great salespeople will ask great questions which allows the potential buyer to share what’s important to them.” - Renee Hribar Renee talks about the trifecta with getting sales without spending money on Facebook ads. She says that it’s email, social media, and the phone call. Spend time where your people are at. Create an email list, connect with them on social, and make that phone call. Sometimes the phone call can feel overwhelming but that human connection of hearing each other’s voice is incredibly powerful. Send people handwritten mail! Renee and I continued our conversation on human connection which is something that can be lost in the internet space. A simple gesture like writing a handwritten thank you note to your potential clients not only makes you stand out but can build on that know, like, and trust factor. You’ve had the potential client call and need to follow up on that sale? How do you that without feeling salesy? Renee says that the key is to expect to follow up with that person before you meet with them for the first time. A great suggestion is to have that potential client to schedule a follow up call before the first call end! One of Renee’s goals is to help women become independent and give them a platform. Now with today’s internet, we now have a global economy and Renee shares her passion with helping women create a career of their dreams right in their own living room! Let’s Connect! See all that Jennifer has to offer at Shamelessly Feminine! Join The Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group and continue the conversation! Connect more with Jennifer on Facebook and Instagram!