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Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Feeling stuck, overthinking every decision, or questioning your next move? I've been there. So we're throwing it back to this potent advice from my friend and coach, Sasha Patpatia.We cover Sasha's decision-making framework to help you move forward with clarity, how to overcome analysis paralysis and fear of making the “wrong” choice, and redefining success to align with your values.Sasha is a multidisciplinary artist, writer, and board-certified career and mindset coach for creatives. Sasha has helped me navigate some of my biggest pivots — from career shifts to creative roadblocks.In Sasha's words: “Our definition of success is doing what I said I would do, with clarity, focus, ease & grace.”Listen to our full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Sasha: https://www.sashapatpatia.com/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Are you a night owl, early bird, or something in between? The key to better sleep, more energy, and improved wellness might be in understanding your chronotype — your body's natural biological clock.We're diving into the science of chronotypes and how understanding yours can help you optimize your sleep schedule, energy, focus, and mood, without forcing yourself into a routine that leads to “social jet lag”. (For night owls who struggle with early mornings, this is the validating episode you deserve!)Whether you're a Bear, Lion, Wolf, or Dolphin (based on Dr. Michael Breus' sleep research), your chronotype determines when you're wired to wake up, feel alert, and perform at your best. But most of us are living out of sync with our internal clock. So how do we hack it?It's time to stop fighting your biology and learn how to work with your natural rhythms. Tune in to learn about:

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Are you dressing for the life you have — or the one you think you should have?We're throwing it back to this key advice from Conni Jespersen, educational wardrobe stylist and founder of Art in the Find, to help you redefine your style identity and build a wardrobe that actually feels like you. Through her Signature Style Method Course, she helps clients edit their closets and uncover their unique style.We cover the 5 key elements of personal style — personality, lifestyle, preferences, environment, and influences — to help you uncover your unique signature look with confidence.Conni has kindly given Teach Me How To Adult listeners a discount on her Signature Style Method Course (which has helped me SO much in understanding the elements of my personal style), so if you're ready to revamp your wardrobe, check it out here and use the discount code style10 for 10% off. Listen to our full episode with Conni here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Are you exhausted from constantly trying to make everyone else happy, and losing yourself in the process? Today, we're talking about breaking free from the burnout of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional outsourcing, and how to regulate your nervous system, trust yourself, and stop abandoning your own needs for the comfort of others.We're joined by Beatriz Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP, a Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing and Breathwork Practitioner, and Master Certified Somatic Life Coach. Bea unpacks the hidden cost of emotional outsourcing™, AKA the survival habit of looking to others for validation, self-worth, and emotional regulation, instead of tuning into yourself.We dive into polyvagal theory, recognizing when you're in functional freeze, and using somatic tools and nervous system mapping to heal the patterns of codependency, self-abandonment, and avoidance that keep you stuck.If you've ever Googled “how to stop people-pleasing,” “why do I care so much what people think,” “how to heal my nervous system,” or “how to set boundaries without guilt,” this episode is for you.Tune in to learn about:What Emotional Outsourcing really means — and why it's a nervous system response, not a personality flawHow people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependence develop from early survival patternsPolyvagal theory 101: how understanding your vagus nerve can help you stop self-abandoningAre you in a state of functional freeze? How to recognize and heal from itUnderstanding social hypervigilence (and the empath paradox)How to set boundaries and make decisions without guilt or second-guessingNervous system mapping and somatic tools to interrupt your automatic responsesHow to find balance between flexibility and authenticityHow to stop “performing” to earn love and acceptancePractical tools for reclaiming your identity, rebuilding self-trust, and honouring your own needs without fear of conflictFollow Bea's Instagram and podcast. Buy Bea's book End Emotional Outsourcing! For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Have you ever stayed in a job, relationship, or situation that's making you unhappy just because you've already invested so much time, money or effort into it? GIRL, SAME. And that's on sunk cost fallacy, one of the most common (and costly) psychological biases that can keep us trapped following paths that no longer serve us.Being able to change your mind and make better decisions is a major key to adulting, so in this episode, we're unpacking the psychology of sunk cost fallacy and how to finally stop letting past investments dictate your future decisions. I dive into how this bias impacts your career, relationships, and mindset, and the powerful mental shifts you can make to start choosing based on alignment — not avoidance.Just because you've spent a long time making a mistake doesn't mean you need to keep making it….  sometimes, cutting your losses can be an investment in your future self.Tune in for:

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. The economy is hella unstable right now, and with a recession still looming it can feel like no matter what we do, the cards are stacked against us. So we called financial expert Jessica Moorhouse back in for actionable advice for building wealth if you're in debt or low income, recession-proofing your financial plan, and managing debt vs. savings vs. investments.Whether you're  struggling with debt or making $250K, this conversation will help you stop self-sabotage and make an actionable plan toward financial security.Jessica is a millennial money expert, speaker, Accredited Financial Counsellor Canada®, bestselling author of Everything but Money, host of the More Money Podcast, and a leading voice on personal finance and emotional literacy in financial wellness.Listen to our full episode with Jessica here.Check out Jessica's book, Everything but Money. Follow Jessica on Instagram, YouTube, and her website.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

The older I get, the more I realize that so much of our stress, burnout, disconnectedness and anxiety can be a result of living out of alignment with our nature and temperament, and a key part of that nature is our tendency towards introversion or extroversion. In this episode, we're breaking down what it really means to be an introvert, extrovert, ambivert, or omnivert, and how your personality type shapes your energy, relationships, career, and overall mental health.Whether you feel drained after social events, thrive in big groups, or swing between both worlds, this deep dive will help you understand your natural temperament, and how to honour it while still growing outside your comfort zone.Tune in to hear about: ✅ The science behind introversion vs extroversion (dopamine, arousal theory)✅ How to know if you're an introvert, extrovert, ambivert, or omnivert... and why it's a scale✅ Myths about introverts (no, they're not socially anxious or antisocial!) and extroverts (yes, they need downtime too!)✅ How introverts and extroverts can thrive in the workplace without burning out✅ Picking the right job and work environment for your temperament ✅ Dating & relationship tips for introverts vs extroverts — and how to make different energy needs work together✅ Self-care strategies: how introverts can recharge and how extroverts can avoid burnout✅ Creating a "restorative niche" for introverts to return to their true self ✅ Why extroverts crave novelty and shared experience✅ Why you don't need to box yourself into one label, and how to expand your window of tolerance / “social stamina”If you've ever Googled things like “am I an introvert or extrovert,” “how to recharge as an introvert,” or “introvert vs extrovert relationships,” this one's for you.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed. Is your sex life thriving in your relationship? If you find that it's dwindling, fear not — we're back to myth-bust common ideas about desire, because most of the conflict couples have around sex can actually be explained by having different desire responses. Tune in as we throw it back to a deep dive on how to navigate different sex drives and desire types, and questions to ask if you're not having the sex you want in your relationship. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, married, or ready to dabble, this is essential in helping you build a stronger sex life.Listen to the full episode here!Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Loneliness isn't just in your head… it impacts your body, mood, longevity and emotional health. There's real science behind why we crave connection, so in today's episode, we dive into the concept of the “social biome” (your personal ecosystem of relationships and daily interactions) and how it can transform your wellbeing. Founded by researchers Dr. Jeffrey Hall and Dr. Andy Merolla, the social biome is a framework for strengthening relationships and cultivating a real sense of community in a culture that's starved of real life connection.Whether you're introverted, socially anxious, super busy, or just craving more genuine relationships, invest in your social fitness with these doable strategies to help you build your social biome and connections.Tune in to learn:Why connection is “social nutrition” and how to feed your social health every day.The Ladder of Connection framework to move from restorative solitude to strong, meaningful friendships.How small, low-stakes interactions (“weak ties”) boost your mood and help you feel less isolated.Using social media and technology as a way to connect rather than compare and consume.Practical tips to actually make friends as an adult, nurture existing bonds, and create a supportive community.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. People don't quit jobs, they quit people — and if you've ever had a bad boss, you know how toxic a workplace can get. So we're throwing it back to this killer advice and helpful scripts from Emily The Recruiter on how to navigate the common kinds of bad bosses, from the controlling micro-manager to the perpetually angry power trips.  Emily Durham—aka Emily the Recruiter—is a career coach, content creator, and host of The Straight Shooter Recruiter Podcast. With millions of views across TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube, Emily is known for her no-BS advice on how to land your dream job and deal with workplace dynamics like a boss.Listen to the full episode with Emily The Recruiter here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Check out our first episode with Emily here.Listen to The Straight Shooter Recruiter podcast Follow Emily on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube.  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

“We're taught how to fall in love, but not how to stay there.” So in today's must-listen episode, I chat with renowned relationship repair expert Baya Voce, MSW, to learn the art of repair, and how to maintain love and connection through conflict.Arguments happen (they're an important part of relationships and individuation!) — but they don't have to break your bond. In this powerful episode, we dive into proven tools for transforming conflict into deeper connection, and Baya's strategies for building better communication, boundaries, and emotional safety.If you're in love, want love, or care about love, this is your roadmap for working towards interdependence, rebuilding trust, and creating love that lasts.With an MSW from Columbia University, Baya specializes in couples counselling and MDMA-assisted couples therapy research, and is supervised by the incredible Esther Perel!  Her work has been featured in a TED Talk, on Vice, Forbes, MTV, and ABC, and her videos on everything from boundaries, to using AI for therapy, to navigating jealousy, have been viewed by millions.Tune in as we explore:

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. “If you're going to manage anything, manage your time. Because that's all you have.” — We're throwing it back to this potent conversation with the master of goal-setting and planning, the force behind Passion Planner, Angel Trinidad.Because when September hits, I'm always confronted with a mini-New Year reset that makes me revisit my goals and how I'm spending my time. Our time is our greatest currency, and we can learn how to manage it with intention and clarity, so we can budget plenty of it for the good stuff. Angel also weighs in on how to overcome procrastination, and how to prioritize tasks that will actually move the needle in your life.Angel is the CEO and founder of Passion Planner, an all-in-one paper life coach, which has helped millions of people plan their goals and their lives. They have built a devoted global community of people who swear by their planners and journals.Listen to our full episode with Angel here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Resources mentioned:Get started on Passion PlannerThe 4-Hour Work Week Follow Angel on InstagramFollow Passion Planner on Instagram Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Hi friends, welcome back to a new season of Teach Me How To Adult! I'm so excited to be back here with you, and for everything that's in store for season 5. PS: If you like to watch your podcasts, make sure you're subscribed on Spotify and YouTube!September always brings those back-to-school, fresh-start vibes, so we're kicking things off with a helpful research-backed goal-setting hack that can completely transform the way you follow through with your habits, routines, and goals.Implementation intentions — aka “if-then planning” — is a super effective (but seriously underrated) productivity and accountability strategy for building consistency, breaking all-or-nothing thinking, and making your goals actually stick.If you've been struggling to follow through with your goals and get back into a consistent post-summer routine, this episode is for you.Tune in to hear:- How to use “if-then” planning to stop procrastination and automate decisions- Why Harvard research proves implementation intentions improve goal success by up to 300%- Avoiding self-sabotage by planning for obstacles in advance- Why the ‘Fresh Start Effect' makes September the right time to reset your habits + routines- The formula for “if-then” planning you can apply to your health/wellness, work, and creative goals For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Friends, this is a quick one to let you know I'm taking a quick summer break, and we'll be back to our regularly programming in September with the launch of Season 5!I'm so excited for what's ahead — I'll be bringing you more must-hear expert interviews AND video podcasts. (If you're not already following the show on YouTube and Spotify, please take a minute to do so now!)And if there are any topics, guests or questions you'd like me to cover in the coming season, I'd really love to hear from you, so hit me up on instagram or you can send any Qs through our website at teachmehowtoadult.ca.I hope you're all finding time for yourself this summer and doing things that light you up. I love you guys, see you in September! Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

If you're confused by nonstop nutrition trends and conflicting health advice online… join the club. In this eye-opening episode, I chat with the internet's favourite registered dietitian and nutrition expert, Abbey Sharp, to break down balanced nutrition tips, metabolism hacks, and what the latest science says about protein, fibre, gut health, and blood sugar balance.Abbey is a Registered Dietitian (RD), a cookbook author, a TV nutrition expert, a YouTuber, host of the podcast Bite Back, and the founder of Abbey's Kitchen. She dismantles diet culture with science and sass, and her core philosophy is that a pleasurable relationship with food, your body and your self is the fundamental secret to good health.Join us as we as we dive deep into evidence-based nutrition science and debunk BS diet trends.We're cutting through the food noise to answer your top questions:How much protein do you actually need to support satiety and muscle health?Why fibre is essential for gut health and how it helps manage cravingsThe surprising link between your gut microbiome and immune system, mental health, and moreHow your microbiome affects calorie absorptionDebunking viral metabolism-boosting hacks (what actually works?)Should you eat 3 big meals or snack throughout the day?Does meal timing affect weight loss, blood sugar, or energy levels?How sleep and hunger hormones like ghrelin, leptin and cortisol are connectedEasy, science-backed nutrition tips to support your health goalsThe power of retrogradation and cooling your carbsHow important is working out for hormones and weight management?Smart strategies to stabilize blood sugar and hormones through dietWhether you're looking to feel more energized, support your digestion, or manage your weight without restriction, this episode is packed with balanced, no-bullshit tips for feeling your best.Listen to our first episode with Abbey from season 1! Follow Abbey:Abbey's KitchenAbbey's Youtube ChannelAbbey's Podcast: Bite BackOn IG: @abbeyskitchen/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Summer brings the best of times, but for those struggling with their bodies and self-esteem, it can also bring triggering times. To help us gear up for an unapologetic hot girl summer of self-love, we're throwing it back to this inspiring pep talk from Roxy Earle, where she shares her self-talk mindset shifts, her gratitude practice, and her keys for building confidence and body acceptance. Because at the end of the day, the only person holding you back from being your most confident self is you. Roxy is a former marketing professional turned model, entrepreneur, body positivity activist and a star on Real Housewives of Toronto. She started the #MySizeRox movement, which advocates that confidence comes in all shapes and sizes. She's worked with brands like Knix, H&M, Le Chateau and Joe Fresh to bring more inclusive sizing and styles to their stores. Roxy is the co-founder of the Ana App, a fertility, wellness and hormone tool for women.Listen to our full episode with Roxy here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caFollow Roxy:@luxuriousroxyGet the Ana App: https://www.anahealth.com/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

I've been thinking a lot about prioritizing lately, mostly because I've been shifting the way I prioritize things in my life the last few months. My priorities desperately needed to change so that work wasn't always #1, and I wasn't always chasing an endless to-do list of busywork.Because “when you prioritize the important over the urgent, you don't just get more done, you get the right things done. And that's the difference between a busy life and a meaningful one.” - Greg McKeown.So today's quickie reveals how to break free from the cult of busyness and master the art of prioritization using productivity minimalism principles inspired by Greg McKeown best-selling book, Essentialism. We dive into why you're focusing on urgent tasks instead of important priorities, along with actionable strategies to create a more meaningful, intentional life. I break down The Law of Inverse Prioritization, which explains why the most important things in life (health, relationships, personal growth) often get neglected while urgent but meaningless tasks consume all of our time and energy.Tune in to hear:Productivity minimalism strategies for focusing on high-impact activitiesThe difference between urgent and importantTime management tricks through intentional prioritizationWork-life balance and escaping the busyness addiction cycleMy priorities in this season of life (Burnout prevention, relationships, writing and health)Time blocking techniques for non-negotiable important activities3 key questions for your prioritization and decision-making frameworkOrganizing your life around purpose and impactResources mentioned:Greg McKeown's Instagram videoGreg's book and academy on EssentialismFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. How do you know when it's time to hire a team, and how do you decide who that first hire should be? Hiring the right people and spotting red flags in the hiring process can make or break your business, so we're throwing it back to this leadership advice from Kelly Roach on fool-proof tips for hiring and team-building.Kelly is a former Fortune 500 Executive turned multi-million dollar entrepreneur/CEO, and founder of Kelly Roach Coaching, an 8-figure coaching and consulting company for entrepreneurs who are disrupting industries and scaling their dreams. For the past decade, she's disrupted the coaching space, built a top-ranked podcast, appeared as an expert for outlets like ABC and NBC, and helped hundreds of entrepreneurs create their dream lives. She's published multiple bestselling books, including Bigger Than You - The Entrepreneur's Guide to building An Unstoppable Team.Listen to our full episode with Kelly here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Kelly on Instagram and on her website.Listen to The Kelly Roach showRead Kelly's best-selling books Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Ready to rewire your brain and transform your habits? This re-released (now in video form!) episode features neuroscientist Nicole Vignola, the internet's favorite brain optimization expert, sharing evidence-based strategies for breaking bad habits, building positive routines, and leveraging neuroplasticity for lasting change.Stay tuned for the science behind neuroplasticity and an inspirational look into how your brain's ability to change means you're never stuck in a negative pattern! Nicole breaks down the habit loop, explains why behavior change feels difficult, and reveals neuroscience-backed techniques for sustainable transformation.Nicole Vignola is a leading neuroscientist, organizational psychology expert, keynote speaker, and author specializing in human optimization, longevity science, and peak performance coaching. Her research focuses on translating complex neuroscience into practical life transformation strategies.This conversation will shift how you think about personal growth and give you the tools to create lasting transformation.Join us as we cover:Neuroplasticity principles for rewiring subconscious beliefs and thought patternsHabit formation science: the anatomy of habits and making new behaviors stickBrain optimization strategies for focus, learning, and peak performanceImproving mental health through targeted brain health practicesDopamine regulation and its impact on motivation and time perceptionBehavioral pattern interruption techniques and neurohacksProductivity maximization by managing your mental energy currencyPhone addiction solutions and digital wellness strategiesPositive psychology applications for overcoming negativity biasNicole's refreshing take on failure and resilienceFollow Nicole:- Get her revolutionary first book, Rewire: Break The Cycle, Alter Your Thoughts and Create Lasting Change- Follow Nicole on Instagram- Check out her websiteFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed.Why do some people have anxious or avoidant attachment styles, while others are totally secure? A lot of it comes down to our formative years in childhood, as early as infancy — but we aren't stuck in those patterns forever. If you're working on cultivating a secure attachment style in your relationships, this throwback to our attachment theory episode with expert Jessica Baum is a must-listen. Jessica is a psychotherapist and couples counselor, founder of The Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, and the founder of Be Self-full®, a company that provides counseling, group coaching and courses for couples and individuals. Listen to our full episode with Jess here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Jessica:@jessicabaumlmhcBeselffull.comBuy Jessica's book Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Hot take: Burnout isn't always about doing too much… sometimes, it's about doing too little of what actually matters. This week, we're diving into a little-known root cause of burnout that can change how we prevent it and recover from it: a lack of meaning, connection, and energizing.While the usual advice focuses on rest and reducing your workload, we're exploring the lesser-known side of burnout — the one that creeps in when your work lacks purpose, when you feel chronically disengaged, or when your lifestyle is missing excitement, hobbies, and emotional fulfillment.I'm all too familiar with burnout, so tune in to hear more about:Why burnout isn't always caused by stress or long hoursHow boreout and emotional disconnection lead to the same exhaustionHow misalignment between your values and daily life creates chronic fatigueActionable ways to reintroduce energy, creativity, meaning, and connection into your life (inside and outside of work)The need to take tech breaks, and why scheduling joy, hobbies, and human connection is non-negotiableIf you're feeling exhausted even after resting, stuck in a loop of apathy or wondering “what's the point?”, this one is for you. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from past episodes that you might have missed. If you're an over-achiever with a strong dose of self-sabotaging tendencies (like perfectionism), your relationship with success is probably complicated. Add in the anxiety that comes with impostor syndrome, and it's a recipe for the never-ending pursuit of more achievement and validation. To help break the cycle, we're throwing it back to this helpful advice from Leisse Wilcox on how to actually feel like enough and overcome self-sabotage. Leisse is a keynote speaker, leadership consultant, performance coach, emotional intelligence expert and two-times best-selling author. Known as “the Marie Kondo of your Unconscious”, She helps clients and businesses turns self-sabotage into success in each of life's cornerstone areas, combining strategic consulting and therapeutic coaching tools. Follow Leisse on Instagram and check out her website. Read Leisse's bestselling books, To Call Myself Beloved and Alone: The Truth + Beauty of Belonging.Listen to our full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

There's a missing link in our mental health routines, and it has everything to do with our HRV (heart rate variability) and the emotional alignment of our mind and heart.In this week's quickie, we're diving into the science of heart coherence — a powerful physiological state that can regulate your nervous system, reduce stress, and help you reconnect to your emotional intuition. This isn't just a woo-woo idea… it's backed by decades of research from the HeartMath Institute, and it shifted how I think about emotional wellness after I tried it in a recent therapy session.Tune in as I recount my experience with HeartMath, a heart rate variability (HRV) tool that measures your emotional state and alignment in real time. We cover how heart-brain coherence works, how it improves emotional resilience, and why regenerative feelings like gratitude, compassion, and connection are more effective than logic or deep breathing alone.Listen to learn about:What heart coherence really means and why it optimizes our mental and physical healthThe science behind HeartMath and HRV (Heart Rate Variability)How emotions like gratitude and humour can instantly improve your physiological coherenceWhy common coping strategies (like walking or box breathing) might not lead to coherence on their ownThe role your heart plays in decision-making, emotional regulation, and stressHow to practice heart-focused breathing and coherence-building techniquesWhether you're feeling burnt out, anxious, disconnected, or out of sync, this one's for you.

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. What you eat has a huge impact on your mood, energy and hormones. Here to advise on how our nutrition and eating habits affect hormonal imbalances and metabolism, we have Amber Romaniuk.Amber is an Emotional Eating, Digestive and Hormone Expert, with 10 years experience helping women create body confidence, intuition and optimal health through mindset healing, self-care and overcoming self-sabotage with food. Her podcast “The No Sugarcoating Podcast” has over a million downloads. Amber overcame her own emotional eating journey after gaining and losing more than 1000 lbs combined and spending 5 years balancing her hormones and digestion. Now she helps others achieve Body Freedom so they can experience true confidence and health.Listen to our full episode with Amber here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Amber:https://amberapproved.cahttps://instagram.com/amberromaniukhttps://amberapproved.ca/podcast/https://www.youtube.com/@amberromaniukFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Feeling isolated in our over-optimized digital world? You're not alone. There's a loneliness epidemic, so we're throwing it back to this solo episode that tackles why modern convenience is sabotaging our social connections, meeting off apps and IRL, and how you can create community.We cover evidence-based strategies to overcome loneliness, build meaningful friendships, and create lasting social connections that can improve your mental and physical health. From blue zone wisdom to friend-making advice, this episode is for anyone struggling to meet people and feel connected to others right now.Tune in to hear about:How apps and automated deliveries have replaced human interactionThe surprising connection between social health and longevity / healthspan (backed by blue zone research)Practical strategies to meet like-minded friends without feeling forced or fakeThe "premium effect" phenomenon in modern dating and relationshipsHabit stacking techniques that naturally build communityStrategic approaches to expand your social circleFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. We're throwing it back to helpful advice on healthy living from supplement queen Siff Haider, who reveals her grounding morning routine for peak mental and physical wellness, the supplements that make her feel at her best, and the building blocks of healthy habits that she swears by.Siff is the co-founder of popular natural supplement and wellness brand, Arrae, which offers high-quality supplements that solve targeted issues like bloating, constipation and anxiety. She's also the host of The Dream Bigger Podcast,  where she interviews guests like Tinx, Glucose Goddess, Lauryn Bosstick, Miranda Kerr, and more, about health and wellness, entrepreneurship, beauty and self-care.Follow Siff on Instagram Check out Arrae.Listen to our full episode with Siff here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

What if we're approaching mental health all wrong? A revolutionary new therapy is debunking popular therapy narratives and changing how we treat anxiety and overthinking.We're continuing our Mental Health Awareness Month series with this introduction to Metacognitive Therapy (MCT), a groundbreaking new approach to treating anxiety, overthinking, OCD, depression, panic attacks, and more, without the usual coping strategies and trauma processing.Unlike traditional talk therapy, Metacognitive Therapy helps people break free from the cycle of worry, rumination, and distress by targeting the way we think about our thoughts — not the thoughts themselves.This is an especially exciting topic for me, as I've been working with the team at metacognitivetherapy.com as the Head Of Content for the past year, creating mental health resources including a website, social media channels, an app and a new podcast that's still to come. MCT might just revolutionize how we treat mental health disorders.I'm joined by Clinical Psychologist Sunniva Itland, founder of one of Norway's largest private psychology clinics and co-founder of metacognitivetherapy.com, to unpack this transformative therapy that's changing lives worldwide.This is for anyone who hasn't found a therapy or modality that's really working to improve their mental health. Welcome to anti-therapy therapy.Tune in to hear about:How MCT differs from CBT, talk therapy, and other traditional approaches to anxiety disorders, OCD and depressionSunniva's personal journey overcoming social anxiety using metacognitive therapy approachesWhy trauma-focused and emotion-processing therapies may be keeping you stuckWhy people develop mental health conditions VS othersHow common mental habits like overthinking, symptom monitoring, and reassurance-seeking fuel anxietyRecognizing unhelpful metabeliefs like “worrying keeps me safe” or “I can't control my thoughtsWhy positive affirmations, reframing, mindfulness, and traditional coping strategies often backfireResearch-backed techniques for immediately reducing anxiety, like worry postponement and detached mindfulnessMetacognitive Therapy resources:metacognitivetherapy.comhttps://www.instagram.com/metacognitive_therapy/https://www.linkedin.com/company/metacognitive-therapy/ For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

The body keeps the score, and after years of cognitive therapy work and intellectualizing, I became totally disconnected from how my body was carrying stress and anxiety. So for Mental Health Awareness Month, we're throwing it back to this deep dive with trauma therapist Simone Saunders on the powerful connection between mind and body healing. We cover how unprocessed trauma physically manifests and evidence-based somatic therapy techniques to release it.Anxiety, depression, and trauma don't just affect your thoughts — they live in your body. From chronic pain and digestive issues to poor sleep and muscle tension, your physical symptoms might tell a deeper story. If you want to take control of your mental health and expand your techniques and awareness, this episode is a must-listen.Simone has a Master's in Clinical Social Work, with a specialization in trauma, emotional regulation, anxiety and depression. As a trauma therapist and educator she has over 800,000 followers across her Instagram and TikTok accounts, the cognitive corner, where she helps people understand the connection between the mind and body and patterns that your nervous system engages in.Tune in to hear more about:Identifying hidden signs of nervous system dysregulation and science-backed regulation techniquesUnderstanding freeze, flight, fight and fawn responses: which survival pattern are you stuck in?Navigating familial relationships or partnerships that trigger the dysregulation loopUnhelpful coping strategies that might make you feel worseCognitive bypassing: The difference between intellectualizing and feelingHow trauma manifests physicallyWhat if you can't remember your trauma?Somatic therapy approaches for releasing trauma stored in the bodyBuilding a life that's healthy for your nervous systemNavigating the loneliness and isolation of your mental health journeyFollow Simone on Instagram and TikTok.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. In honour of Mental Health Awareness Month, we're throwing it back to this helpful advice from Whitney Goodman on how to show up for your friends and loved ones when they are struggling with mental health, grief and loss — without the unhelpful platitudes and empty offers. Whitney is a psychotherapist, author of the book Toxic Positivity, a columnist for Psychology Today and appears regularly in publications like The New York Times and Teen Vogue.Listen to our full episode with Whitney here!Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caFollow Whitney:sitwithwhit.com@sitwithwhitToxic Positivity: Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

One of the most powerful (and underused) tools for emotional healing is creative self-expression. In honour of Mental Health Awareness Month, we're diving into the powerful intersection of creativity, art, relationships, and mindset — and how you can use your unique voice to alchemize pain and struggle.This episode is for anyone looking to improve their emotional resilience, self-awareness, and connection to others through the healing power of creativity. I'm joined by my favourite writer, IN-Q — an Emmy-nominated poet, multi-platinum songwriter, world renowned keynote speaker, best-selling author of Inquire Within and The Never Ending Now Poetry journal. IN-Q has written songs with artists like Selena Gomez, Miley Cyrus and Mike Posner, and he was named to Oprah's SuperSoul 100 list of the world's most influential thought leaders. He hosts writing workshops around the world, and works with brands like Nike, Spotify, Google and Lululemon to help their teams tell their stories and find their authentic voice.Tune in to hear more about:How creative expression can help process trauma, anxiety, and lonelinessWhat's causing our current mental health crisis?Why creativity and storytelling are the most underused tools in the mental health toolkitThe wellness modalities that IN-Q taps intoThe impact of technology and AI on our mental healthWhat is happiness, and have we commodified the pursuit of it?How to cultivate more compassion and connectionReconnecting to community in a lonely and isolated worldHow to set healthy boundaries without isolating ourselvesTaking responsibility for our emotions in relationshipsCo-regulating with your partner and establishing non-negotiablesOvercoming the fear of creating or sharing your workI hope this episode helps you reconnect with yourself and your playful creativity.Follow IN-Q on Instagram and his website in-q.com. Get IN-Q's book Inquire Within and The Never Ending Now Poetry Journal. Listen to The Never Ending Now album.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. May is mental health awareness week, so we're diving into mental wellbeing and anxiety, and how to stop it from holding you back. Tune in as we throw it back to Dr. Lauren Cook's “anxiety hierarchy” framework that helps you measure your level of anxiety when faced with challenges, so we can face our fears without letting anxiety, avoidance, and control stay in the driver's seat.Dr. Lauren Cook is a therapist, consultant, speaker, author and founder of Heartship Psychological Services. Specializing in anxiety, she helps people and couples work through generalized anxiety, phobias, social anxiety, OCD, and more. She has a podcast called The Boardroom Brain, and has written three books, including the “Generation Anxiety: A Millennial and Gen Z Guide to Staying Afloat in an Uncertain World”. Listen to our full episode with Dr. Lauren  here!Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Dr. Lauren:@dr.laurencookDrlaurencook.comOrder Generation Anxiety: A Millennial and Gen Z Guide to Staying Afloat in an Uncertain World Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Money stress is everywhere right now — rising interest rates, the cost of living crisis, inflation, layoffs, and a looming recession — we're all feeling it. But the truth is, even in financially prosperous times, money can be a point of shame, anxiety, guilt, and avoidance for a lot of us. Your money history and money story shape your financial security throughout your life — but you can rewrite that story and heal your money mindset.In this episode, we dive deep into the psychology of money and how to heal your relationship with it, so you can stop toxic financial habits, rewire your mindset, and *actually* build long-term wealth.We called back returning guest, Jessica Moorhouse—Accredited Financial Counsellor, bestselling author of Everything but Money, host of the More Money Podcast, and a leading voice on personal finance and emotional literacy in financial wellness.This isn't just another budgeting or investing 101 episode… it's a mindset shift that can set you up for success in your personal finances and your close relationships. Whether you're  struggling with debt or making $250K, this conversation will help you stop self-sabotage, understand your unconscious toxic beliefs, and make an actionable plan toward financial security.Tune in to hear more about:The emotional roots of money anxiety, guilt, shame, envy, and fearUnderstanding the 3 toxic money patterns that keep you stuck (avoidance, money worship, and relationship codependence)The impact of shame and judgment in your financial journey — and how to break that shame cycleHow ADHD and neurodivergence can affect spending, saving, and money organizationHow your attachment style impacts your financial behaviour and the way you deal with money in relationshipsThe #1 mistake most people are making with moneyActionable advice for building wealth if you're in debt or low incomeHow to manage setting up an emergency fund VS paying off debt VS investingHow to recession-proof your financial plan right nowCheck out Jessica's book, Everything but Money.Follow Jessica on Instagram, YouTube, and her website.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. The majority of our communication is non-verbal... that means our body language is doing all the talking. So we're throwing it back to some game-changing advice from negotiation expert, Fotini Iconomopoulos, breaking down how you can leverage your body language to influence and negotiate better — at work, and socially. Fotini's been helping people get what they want, both personally and professionally, for decades. Through her keynotes, workshops and virtual courses, Fotini helps teach the negotiation and communication skills required to navigate any scenario. She teaches MBA Negotiations at the Schulich School of Business at York University, and is the author of the book “Say Less, Get More: Unconventional Negotiation Techniques to Get What You Want”.We hope this episode inspires you to go after what you want and ask for what you deserve!Listen to our full episode with Fotini here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Fotini:fotiniicon.com/instagram.com/fotiniicon/linkedin.com/in/fotiniiconomopoulos/Get Fotini's Book: Say Less Get More Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

This episode is for anyone who's tired of outdated dating “rules” that don't reflect who they are and how we actually connect in 2025. I've recently dipped my toe back into the dating world, and the amount of toxic “rules” and overly-perscriptive advice floating around online is wild.So today, I'm sharing my hot takes and unconventional dating perspectives to prioritize authenticity, connection, and your dating goals — without all the games.Whether you're dating for fun, looking for your forever person, or navigating something in between, this episode is a guide to more connected, conscious, and actually authentic dating. If you feel drained by casual dating culture, the fast food nature of apps, mixed signals and fuckboy energy, and attention-seeking games… keep. listening.We're debunking relationship myths like:Why “keep the first date short” might be killing genuine connectionWhy women shouldn't always wait to be pursuedWhy “play it cool” and “keep it casual” isn't always the vibeThe truth about when to have sexShould you talk about your exes on a date?When you should consider exclusivityHow to use intentional conversations, clarity, vulnerability, and feedback to create deeper intimacy Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. In honour of earth day, we're taking a look at the cost of fast fashion, our consumption habits, and how we can become more sustainable consumers.We're throwing it back to this perspective-shifting advice on overconsumption with Conni Jespersen, as she explains the impact of overconsumption on our confidence, wallets, and the environment, and how self-accountability for the lifespan of every product we purchase can help end impulse shopping. Conni is an educational wardrobe stylist and founder of Art in the Find. She has spent over a decade helping people craft intentional wardrobes, edit their closets, and break free from excessive consumption. Through her Signature Style Method Course, she helps clients edit their closets and uncover their unique style.Conni has kindly given Teach Me How To Adult listeners a discount on her Signature Style Method Course (which has helped me SO much in understanding the elements of my personal style), so if you're ready to revamp your wardrobe, check it out here and use the discount code style10 for 10% off. Listen to the full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Conni:@artinthefindartinthefind.com Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

There's a lot going on in the job market right now, with a looming recession, mass layoffs, and AI changing the way we work. Whether you're stuck under a micromanaging boss, navigating office drama, dealing with return-to-office mandates, or questioning your entire career path… it's a lot.But we gotchu. Back by popular demand, we're joined by Emily Durham—aka Emily the Recruiter—career coach, content creator, and host of The Straight Shooter Recruiter Podcast. With millions of views across TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube, Emily is known for her no-BS advice on how to land your dream job and deal with workplace dynamics like a boss.Whether you're strategizing how to survive a toxic workplace, burnt out and job hunting, or managing conflict on the job, this episode will help you reclaim your power, boost your career confidence, and future-proof your career in a rapidly changing job market.Tune in for an informative and hilarious conversation about:How to spot a toxic workplace (and what to do if you're in one)When to quit your job vs. stick it out—especially in an uncertain job marketThe myth of work-life balance and how to set boundariesDealing with the most common types of bad bosses (looking at you, micromanagers & mood killers)How to give your boss constructive feedback (without it backfiring)Smart ways to deal with workplace drama and toxic coworkersHow “authentic” you should be at work—without hurting your careerAre work besties trust-worthy? What to do when back-to-office mandates hitHow to stand out and stay relevant as AI reshapes the job marketListen to our first episode with Emily here.Listen to The Straight Shooter Recruiter podcast Follow Emily on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube.  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Do you ever feel paralyzed by indecision, stuck in a loop of self-doubt, decision overwhelm, and perfectionism? Welcome to the club! We know what it's like, and what it takes to get unstuck.Whether you're facing a career crossroads, struggling to start a creative project, or battling the incessant inner monologue of your monkey mind, this episode is here to help.I'm joined by my friend and brilliant coach, Sasha Patpatia, a multidisciplinary artist, writer, and board-certified career coach for creatives. Sasha has helped me navigate pivotal moments in my career, and equipped me with mindset tools I still use to move from overthinking to action.Some brain chemistry-altering quotes from Sasha in today's episode:“It is only the friction between where you are and where you want to be — which is called tension — that shuts us down and makes us feel stuck.”“Our definition of success is doing what I said I would do, with clarity, focus, ease & grace.”If you're feeling stuck, lost, or burnt out, join us for a deep look at how to overcome mental blocks and move forward in alignment with your purpose.Tune in to hear more about:✅ How to get unstuck, use stuckness as data, and take consistent action.✅ Overcoming decision paralysis with a three-part choice and decision reframe (that takes the pressure off!). ✅ Dealing with self-doubt and monkey mind: Navigating excuses and negativity bias without judgment.✅ The myth of motivation: Stop waiting for the “right time”!✅ Reframing our idea of success and failure✅ What's behind creative burnout?✅ How to find the right career coach✅ The power of emotional regulation, + a combined approach of mindset coaching and somatic bodyworkJust remember, ready is not a feeling, it's a decision. You've got this.Follow Sasha: https://www.sashapatpatia.com/For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. In honour of earth month, we're taking a look at our consumption habits and how we can lower our carbon footprint in a way that's actually sustainable.So we're throwing it back to tactical advice on sustainable living, with "accidental environmentalist" Jules Grieve. It's easy to let perfect become the enemy of good (sustainability is a game of progress over perfection) so we cover doable ways to cut out plastic and reduce waste, the truth about recycling, and how to change our water consumption. Julia is a TV personality, entrepreneur, fashion designer, former international model, and founder of the incredible Preloved, North America's leading sustainable fashion brand that has diverted over a million sweaters from landfills. She's CityLine's eco expert and regularly appears on Global News and in Canada's biggest media outlets. Her mission is to show people how simple changes, over time, can have a huge impact, and she's showing the world how we can take an eco-friendly approach to home design, health, food, fashion and lifestyle. Listen to the full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Julia:@prelovedjulesjuliagrieve.cagetpreloved.com Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Feeling constantly busy but not actually making progress? Struggling with overwhelm, burnout, and an endless to-do list? Honestly, same.I've been stuck in an overwhelming cycle of too much work and not enough impact, so I started experimenting with different productivity hacks—and this week I'm sharing one that's really helping.We're diving into the 80/20 Rule—also known as the Pareto Principle—a game-changing productivity method that helps you work smarter, not harder by focusing on the tasks that actually move the needle.The Pareto Principle isn't just a theory; it applies to work, relationships, finances, and general productivity so you can ditch busywork and operate in your zone of genius.Ready to break free from the grind? Tune in to hear about:✅ How to apply the 80/20 rule to your work and daily tasks✅ The difference between being “busy” vs. being productive✅ How to identify and prioritize high-impact tasks to maximize your productivity and efficiency✅ How to stop wasting time and operate in your zone of genius✅ Why urgency doesn't always mean importance✅ How this principle improves relationships, finances, style, and moreI hope this helps you take back control of your time and break free from burnout!For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Your network is everything. The way you establish and nurture your own network and reputation can make all the difference in your career success, so we're throwing it back to this great advice from Maha Abouelenein on how to add value to your unique network. Maha Abouelenein is a strategic communication and personal branding expert who has handled communications for some of world's largest tech companies in the Middle East - from Google and Netflix to Udacity and Weber Shandwick, along with promotions and sports marketing programs for the Olympics, NASCAR, Women's Hockey, and the NFL.Maha consulted on strategic communications with the Obama administration and has worked with powerhouses like Gary Vaynerchuk and Deepak Chopra. She was honored as one of the most influential women in Dubai, and nominated as of one of Forbes Power Women of the Middle East. She's the CEO of Digital & Savvy, host of the Savvy Talk podcast, and Best-Selling Author of "7 Rules of Self-Reliance”.Listen to our full episode with Maha here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Maha on Instagram and on her website.Listen to Maha's Podcast, Savvy Talk.Order Maha's book, 7 Rules of Self-Reliance Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Are you feeling overwhelmed and stressed by the constant flood of negative news? Join the club, friends. News anxiety is at an all-time high as we're bombarded with breaking headlines and social media coverage of economic instability, political tension, war, tariffs, climate disasters, and more—straight to our phones, 24/7.Washington D.C. therapist Steven Stosny coined the term "headline stress disorder" to describe the huge mental health impact of our nonstop news cycle. We're all sucked into the cycle of online fear, and it's crucial to learn how to consume news responsibly without sacrificing your mental health.So how do we stay informed and responsible humans while protecting our mental health?If you're feeling stressed, hopeless, or mentally drained from the overwhelming influx of world events, this episode is for you.Tune in to hear more about:✅ How the 24-hour news cycle fuels anxiety & fear-based algorithms✅ Ways to stay informed without feeling emotionally drained✅ How to break free from doomscrolling & social media-induced panic✅ Practical strategies to set news boundaries & curate mindful media consumption✅ Why focusing on what you CAN control is key to mental resilience✅ The importance of hope & positive news for your mental well-beingLooking for uplifting news sources? Check these out:✨ Good Good Good✨ Good News Movement✨ Tank's Good News

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. If you want to rewire your relationship with money and move into an abundant (and informed) financial chapter, we're throwing it back to this helpful reminder from financial coach Nicole Stanley. A healthy money mindset is the missing ingredient for a lot of people's financial security. Nicole reminds us that "Money is just a magnifier of who you already are" - so our habits, beliefs, and relationship to money right now will dictate how we approach our financial goals for life. Nicole Stanley is the Founder & Head Financial Coach of Arise Financial Coaching. After battling crippling financial anxiety in her early twenties, Nicole enrolled in her first personal finance course and made changes to go from 30K in debt to building over a quarter-million in net worth for her family at age  27. Arise Financial Coaching has now served over 600 clients and has been featured in TIME, Yahoo Finance, & CNET.Listen to our full episode with Nicole here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Nicole:On Instagram: @arise.financial.coachingArise Financial Coaching Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

I saw a TikTok about how your toxic traits can be the exact opposite of your love language, and I CANNOT stop thinking about it. If you're stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage, your toxic behaviours might be the inverse of your love language — aka your loathe language.

I'm SO sick of "having nothing to wear"... I've been going through a wardrobe crisis lately—I dread getting dressed, and despite having way too many clothes, I never feel like my wardrobe reflects who I am. I feel disconnected from my style and the things I buy, and I'm not the only one. Hitting different life stages and engaging in a cycle of overconsumption—buying more but feeling less satisfied—has left a lot of us without a clear sense of style and identity. Today, we're tackling both issues: how to define your personal style with confidence, and how to cut down on mindless shopping and fast fashion.I'm joined by Conni Jespersen, educational wardrobe stylist and founder of Art in the Find, who has spent over a decade helping people craft intentional wardrobes, edit their closets, and break free from excessive consumption. Through her Signature Style Method Course, she helps clients edit their closets and uncover their unique style.We uncover how to build a wardrobe that truly feels like you—without the stress, overconsumption, or pressure to keep up with trends. If you're over impulse buying, feeling lost in your personal style, or staring at a closet full of clothes with “nothing to wear"... we gotchu. Conni has kindly given Teach Me How To Adult listeners a discount on her Signature Style Method Course (which has helped me SO much in understanding the elements of my personal style), so if you're ready to revamp your wardrobe, check it out here and use the discount code style10 for 10% off. Tune in as we talk about:✨ The 5 key elements of personal style: personality, lifestyle, preferences, environment, and influences✨ How to balance timeless basics with trendy statement pieces✨ How to shop smarter, avoid overconsumption, and stop impulse buying✨ The true cost of overconsumption—on our confidence, wallets, and the environment✨ Closet organization tips to maximize wearability and identify wardrobe gaps✨ How to shop your own closet and re-style pieces you already own✨ Secondhand shopping tips to embrace sustainability and cut down on fast fashion✨ When to tailor or edit down your wardrobe to make it truly work for youFollow Conni:@artinthefindartinthefind.com Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

A lot of us go through life avoiding our feelings — but experiencing our full spectrum of emotions is the key to living a full, authentic life. Whether you're an empath who feels everything deeply, struggling with heartbreak, or working through past wounds, embracing your sensitivity can be your greatest strength. After all, our grief is just a representation of how deeply we love.In this all-time favourite throwback episode, we explore how to process emotions in a healthy way, break free from fear, and find your authentic voice with bestselling poet, author and incredibly wise friend, Allie Michelle.Allie captures the depths of human emotion through her beautiful writing and spoken word. Allie is one of my favourite poets, and her latest fantasy novel, Legends of Lemuria, is out now on Thought Catalog! She  runs Pen 2 Publish, a program to help writers create, publish and market their books. Allie co-founded a community for mental health and wellness called We Are Warriors, and she's also a certified meditation, breathwork and yoga teacher.Tune in as we explore:✅ How to feel deeply without drowning in emotions✅ The difference between healthy vs. unhealthy empathy✅ Inner child work and emotional healing✅ The power of embracing heartbreak as transformation✅ How to turn fear into a compass instead of a roadblock✅ Finding your voice as a writer and storyteller✅ Allie's hot take on overcoming writer's block✅ Showing up as your most raw, unmasked self✅ The art of deep breathing and mindfulnessIf you've ever felt overwhelmed by your emotions or struggled to own your sensitivity, this conversation will remind you that your softness is your strength."Break my heartbreak it so wide openthat the whole worldcan fit in between the pieces."  — Allie MichelleOrder Allie's book, Legends of LemuriaFollow Allie on InstagramFollow Allie on TikTokWatch Allie's live performance of her poem shared in this episode. For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

What would you do if failure was impossible? What's something you've always wanted to do, but never find "the right time"? To answer these questions, I started one little list in January, and it has completely changed my life. We all know about bucket lists — but what if the real game-changer isn't chasing what excites you, but confronting what scares you? Enter: The Fear List.Fear has been in the driver's seat of my life for too long, and I realized during my January meltdown, that my avoidance of discomfort and rejection were directly impacting my happiness and growth. Most of the things I was depressed about in my life could be traced to fear-based avoidance and inaction. That's why I created the fear list — it helps you rewire your brain to stop self-rejecting before you even try. Think of it like exposure therapy... this list of things will create proof that you can do scary things, and the more small uncomfortable things you do, the less scary the big things will feel. This episode is all about breaking out of fear-based paralysis and taking action on the things that hold you back. If you've been feeling stuck, playing small, or letting fear dictate your choices—this is your sign to flip the script.In this episode, I cover:✅ How my fear has kept me stuck in life, love, and career✅ The connection between fear, anxiety, and perfectionism✅ Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) and why some of us with ADHD/neurodivergence fear rejection more✅ The power of exposure therapy and why courage is a muscle✅ How to create your own Fear List to build confidence, resilience, and momentum✅ Questions that will help you brainstorm your fear list✅ Getting honest with yourself about the stories you're telling yourself✅ Easy examples of things you can include on your fear list✅ What's on my list, and the wins I've already tackled (LITERALLY LIFE-CHANGING)✅ Why staying accountable and tracking your progress gamifies fear and makes it fun Remember: "The risk you're afraid to take, could be the one that changes your entire life."For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to this week's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. The economy feels more unstable than my high school experience, and we could all use some extra cash to battle inflation and prepare for the potential incoming tariffs. So we're throwing it back to the ultimate lesson in working smarter, not harder, from finance expert Nicole Victoria. Her top tip for making more money, without working harder? Negotiate your bills down and funnel the extra cash into passive income streams, so we can earn cash while we sleep. Nicole is a CEO, money coach and financial literacy advocate Nicole Victoria AKA No Budget Babe, who specializes in helping millennial and gen-z women effortlessly manage their money and build bank accounts that never stop growing.Listen to our full episode with Nicole Victoria of No Budget Babe here!Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Nicole:No Budget BabeInstagram: @NobudgetbabeTikTok: @nobudgetbabeFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

FAfter a tough start to the year—dealing with illness, isolation, and a full-on birthday-induced spiral—I knew I needed to make big, immediate changes to pull myself out of a depressive rut. It was time for a full reset.If you're feeling stuck, lonely, struggling with seasonal depression, or just lacking motivation and positivity, this episode is your roadmap to breaking free from the cycle and taking control of your mental wellbeing. I'm sharing the 10 game-changing shifts and habits that have worked for me and helped me feel like myself again after a month of testing.Tune in to hear about:The #1 most important step to stop isolating and ask for helpHow mindfulness, breathwork, and cold therapy can rewire your moodThe journaling practice that helps you take control of your happinessWhy exercise (without punishment) is a powerful antidepressantThe one daily habit that can instantly break a depressive cycleHow to reset your circadian rhythm to fix insomnia and energy dipsWhy we need to limit social media scrolling, Netflix binging, and cheap dopamineScience-backed supplements to combat seasonal affective disorder and support mental healthThe unexpected way creativity can help you heal and calm anxietyWhy human touch matters for mental wellbeing (and how to get it—even without a partner)Setting realistic goals for your mental health progressSunnier days are ahead so keep going, and please tell someone if you're struggling. I love you guys, you got this.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Happy Valentine's Day, lovers! I hope you are getting showered in love, by someone else or yourself. Whether you're single and ready to mingle, or in a long-term relationship, I've been thinking about how—no matter our relationship status—we all seem to wrestle with the same thoughts: Am I too much? Am I too needy, or should I express my needs more? How can I communicate better? How do I find balance in my relationships? How do I work toward secure attachmentsThankfully, over the years, I've had incredible relationship experts and therapists on this podcast who have tackled these very questions. So today, I'm bringing you a roundup of the best relationship advice I've learned from three amazing guests.Tune in to hear from:❤️ Dr. Morgan Cutlip, Relationship expert and PhD in Psychology: How to find balance and reciprocity in relationships, communicate your needs effectively, and understand the difference between neediness and fair expectations. (Listen to our full episode here)❤️ Liz Earnshaw, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist: Expert strategies for conflict resolution and communication, including how to handle Gottman's Four Horsemen and navigating common power struggles in relationships. (Listen to our full episode here)❤️ Jess Baum, Psychotherapist, Couples Counselor, & Author of Anxiously Attached: How our attachment styles are amplified or healed based on your relationship, breaking our anxious attachment patterns and prioritizing consistent love, recognizing red and green flags in chemistry, and moving from codependency to interdependence. (Listen to our full episode here)Wherever you are in your relationship journey… I love you guys. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Valentine's Day can be triggering if you're dealing with heartbreak or loneliness. But we're in our era of embracing singleness and romancing our damn selves.So tune in as we throw it back to the best practical ad emotional tips from our episode on how to date yourself. Because you don't need to wait for the perfect relationship to start living a life you love. That perfect relationship should be the one you have with yourself.Join as we share the beauty of solo dating, learning to fulfill your own needs, how to give yourself your own love language, and practicing the art of self-love (in a non-capitalist way that doesn't involve buying expensive candles and facials!).I hope this reminds you to give yourself the love you deserve. I love you guys.Listen to the full episode with here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

We're bringing you more than just the tip this week, so I highly recommend watching today's episode on Spotify or YouTube to experience the visuals and product recommendations — if you're not subscribed on Spotify and YouTube, go there now!Happy hump day friends, and welcome back to another episode of “No Dumb Questions,” where I answer allll your burning Qs… because there are no dumb questions when it comes to adulting.To kick off love month and Valentine's Day, we're doing a spicy Q&A on all things sex. Because whether you're in a relationship, dating around, or single AF, we all deserve pleasure.You all voted YES on Instagram, so I delivered… I'm showing you the best props and toys on the market, and how to use them to spice up your sex life. Trust me, it's a vibe(rator).In this episode, I answer all your juicy questions, including:Tips for hot dirty talk (without it feeling awkward or forced)How to tell if your partner is faking an orgasmHow to have honest, trusting communication about your desiresMy top sex toys recos (from glass to silicone to metal of all shapes and sizes)What to do if the guy you're into is… hella smallForeplay hacks that will level up your pleasureAdvice for if your man has performance anxietyPositions for best stimulation and how to orgasm on topTips to incorporate sex swingsThe key to having a healthy sex life without dating appsMy (toxic) case for recycling loversGo forth and get some! Love you.Listen to more helpful sex episodes:Episode 52: How To Spice Up Your Sex Life Episode 64: How To Own My Orgasms and Pleasure, with Sex Coach Portia BrownEpisode 198: Should I use toys in the bedroom? Why is my partner never in the mood? Tips for threesomes?For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube