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Let's stop pretending this is just a problem for soldiers and politicians. The “human shields excuse” isn't just some abstract wartime tactic—it's the same twisted reasoning people use every day to justify hurting others, dodging accountability, or compromising their integrity.  It's what lets you blow up a relationship and blame the other person for making you do it. It's how you rationalize crossing a line—then sleep at night because technically, it wasn't your fault. In war, this excuse gets innocent people killed. In your life, it's killing your peace of mind, your self-respect, your trust in yourself. This might sound extreme. But if your success feels empty, if your relationships keep breaking down, if you're stuck in burnout with no idea why—you're probably making this excuse. Quietly. Repeatedly. And convincing yourself it's justified. This episode exposes this lie for what it is, and more importantly—how to stop living it. You'll discover the true cost of the “human shields excuse,” the subtle ways this shows up in your relationships and personal lives, and how to stop committing this fatal error, so you don't live the rest of your life wondering why your success feels so hollow.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why having a logical justification for blaming another person is a subtle trap that increases your suffering (and how to eliminate mental anguish without blaming others) (3:17)  How offloading responsibility from your shoulders is the same excuse war criminals use to justify killing women and kids (15:31)  The tragic result of spinning “good guy” stories in your head until you erode your self-trust and confidence completely (16:20)  Why short-term wins that hijack your moral compass cost you far more in the long-term - financially and emotionally (19:53)  A simple mindset shift that makes you look forward to taking responsibility (especially when it's hard) (23:32)  David Tian's list of recommended readings can be found here: https://davidtianphd.com/recommended-readings/ For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Want more success in leadership, deeper connections, or a greater sense of fulfillment? Take this free assessment—it's fast, easy, and tailored to your unique situation. Answer a few simple questions, and you'll get instant access to a suite of masterclasses designed specifically for where you are right now. Whether you're struggling or simply want more out of life, this is your next step. No guesswork. Just clarity. Click here and see what's waiting for you: https://dtphd.com/quiz Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery   

Do you have the drive to get out of bed each morning and live life with a fire in your soul? We've all got big dreams, but most people don't know what it takes to reach them. Or even think their dreams are attainable. And in most cases, people quit their dream jobs for a life of practicality and security. But why can't you have both? In this episode, best-selling author and professional speaker Dwight Edwards and I discuss how to find your purpose through passion and live your greatest life yet.  Show Highlights Include: Why you should say no to “being vanilla” and how this drives a life of purpose today. (2:11) The ‘hunting dog' approach to achieving your wildest dreams right now.  (4:00) What John Grisham reveals about courageously living an epic life (without quitting your day job). (7:30) Why the Prime Minister of England urges you to read the Bible - and how this unbinds you from the chains of your thinking. (13:50) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free. Learn more about Dwight's work: https://vanillabusters.com

Most high achievers learned at a young age that emotions were distractions. This early lesson inspired much of their success… but it came at a terrible cost: It develops emotional blindspots that quietly, patiently, and relentlessly sabotage you.  Here's the thing about emotional blindspots:  No matter how much you try to stuff them down and pretend they don't exist, they don't simply disappear. Instead, they move underground. They become sneakier. More insidious. And more sabotaging.  Worst part? There's only one way to address your emotional blindspots in a way that builds emotional strength and mastery. And it's not hustling harder, doing more mental gymnastics with your cognitive behavioral therapist, or becoming a master at stress management.  The real solution goes far deeper than these knee-jerk reactions most high achievers have.  That's what I share in today's episode. Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why avoiding, distracting, and numbing out your emotions backfires and causes them to hijack your behaviors (even without you realizing it) (1:26)  The “emotions aren't spreadsheets” secret for understanding why you spiral (and why it's not a problem you can think yourself out of) (2:34)  Why “knowing” your emotions doesn't make you a master at them - the same way “knowing” guitar doesn't make you play as good as Jimi Hendrix (3:35)  3 exercises to try when intellectualizing your emotions doesn't help you master them (5:32)  Why addressing your emotional blindspots improves your sleep, lessens your compulsive habits' grip on you, deepens your relationships, and improves your material success (13:06)  The sneaky way anger, frustration, and anxiety hide your real emotional pain (15:44)    For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/    Want more success in leadership, deeper connections, or a greater sense of fulfillment? Take this free assessment—it's fast, easy, and tailored to your unique situation. Answer a few simple questions, and you'll get instant access to a suite of masterclasses designed specifically for where you are right now. Whether you're struggling or simply want more out of life, this is your next step. No guesswork. Just clarity. Click here and see what's waiting for you: https://dtphd.com/quiz   Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery   

There are 3 distinct levels to personal development and self-improvement. And most high achievers get trapped forever in Level 2—never fully healing or integrating with their internal world because they're stuck trying to conquer it.  While Level 2 is helpful up to a point, if you stay in Level 2 for too long, you'll never experience true healing or integration.  Worst part? Most influencers and coaches intentionally keep you stuck at Level 2 because it's easier to sell you “the one thing” you need than to fix yourself than sell the message that you don't need fixed and you're already worthy.  But there's a way through Level 2 to reach Level 3 and experience how life fundamentally feels different when you're healed and integrated.  In today's show, I'll walk you through the 3 stages of personal growth, explain why Level 2 is so intoxicating, but stagnate, and reveal the counterintuitive approach to get to Level 3.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why obsessing over self-development stunts your internal growth (0:18)  The 3 levels of personal development and how learning which level your stuck at explains almost everything about your current struggles (1:04)  3 telltale signs you're stuck in the insidious “Level 2 Self Improvement” trap (and how to finally break through to the third level and experience true healing) (3:25)   The “stop fixing, start listening” secret that actually heals your inner world instead of trying to fix it (4:34)  How trying to conquer or change your parts means you're still not integrating or healing (and one question to help you integrate and heal) (10:15)  Why most of the deep- or enlightened-sounding advice on the internet keeps you stuck at level 2 (15:20)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Want more success in leadership, deeper connections, or a greater sense of fulfillment? Take this free assessment—it's fast, easy, and tailored to your unique situation. Answer a few simple questions, and you'll get instant access to a suite of masterclasses designed specifically for where you are right now. Whether you're struggling or simply want more out of life, this is your next step. No guesswork. Just clarity. Click here and see what's waiting for you: https://dtphd.com/quiz Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery 

Most people, and high achievers in particular, suffer from a paradoxical problem: Trying too hard backfires and causes your deepest, darkest fears to realize. When high achievers are confronted with a problem in their personal or professional life, their first instinct is to push harder, work longer, go on more dates.  They're desperately searching for connection, peace, joy, and love. But they don't realize that their need for control keeps these forever out of their reach.  But there's an ancient solution to this problem: Wu Wei, acting without inner friction.  However, you can't approach it like some business metric. In fact, you have to learn to stop trying so hard, to loosen your grip on control if you want to experience the effortless flow that's the main ingredient in true mastery of life.  In today's show, I breakdown what Wu Wei really is, why most high achievers totally miss it, and how you can become more fulfilled in life by trying less.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why trying too hard in life has devastating consequences that will deprive you of every joy (0:18)  How to incorporate “modern Wu Wei” into your life before you rip apart everything you want most—like connection, peace, joy, and love (2:05)  The paradoxical way you heal naturally by not trying as hard (6:44) The single most toxic mindset that has killed more potential than any other mindset in human history (9:04)  How you make your life into a hollow void when you fall into the insidious “Trap of the Shoulds” (11:18)  Why positive thinking and affirmations are actually a deadly suppression skill that take you further away from what you crave most in life (17:53)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Want more success in leadership, deeper connections, or a greater sense of fulfillment? Take this free assessment—it's fast, easy, and tailored to your unique situation. Answer a few simple questions, and you'll get instant access to a suite of masterclasses designed specifically for where you are right now. Whether you're struggling or simply want more out of life, this is your next step. No guesswork. Just clarity. Click here and see what's waiting for you: https://dtphd.com/quiz Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery 

Most high achievers have been sold a lie: that Chaos is a threat that will take everything from you, and the only way to handle it is with more control.  But if you look into any high achiever's life, relationships, or business, you'll see a similar through line: They're quietly miserable no matter how much material success they've accumulated.  Why does this same story play out across so many lives? Because when you try to control chaos, you cut yourself off from half of life. Peace doesn't come from a lack of chaos, it comes in the midst of chaos. And chaos is the raw material of growth, creativity, love, and leadership.  The trick isn't to compartmentalize your life so much that you don't feel chaos. It's to lean into the chaos, be curious with the chaos, and gain wisdom from it.  In today's show, I'm going to dismantle the lie that chaos should be avoided by turning to ancient Chinese philosophy, Buddhist psychology, and even modern day leadership coaching. And I'll show you how leaning into the chaos doesn't just shift your mindset or cause a paradigm shift, it gives you an entirely new way of being.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why trying to control chaos is a failing strategy that will devour your fulfillment of life (0:28)  How to flow through your problems like water down a river (and why this framework leads to more success and happiness than trying to conquer a particular obstacle) (2:55)  The insidious way “white knuckling” your way through stress sabotages your sleep quality, your relationship, and your joy for life (3:25)  3 characteristics toddlers in the middle of a tantrum crave more than anything else (and no, none of the characteristics include lecturing) (6:01)  The counterintuitive formula for peace that applies to parenting, intimate relationships, your career, and your inner, emotional world (8:20)  How to get unstuck in your career, your relationship, and your life by leaning into chaos instead of shying away from it (11:04)  The single best lesson from Tony Robbins that can 10x your business if you take it seriously (12:32)  Feel stuck in a paralyzing trap of analyzing? Here's why doing more when you feel uncomfortable emotions can only make you more lost (and what to do instead) (17:08)    For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Want more success in leadership, deeper connections, or a greater sense of fulfillment? Take this free assessment—it's fast, easy, and tailored to your unique situation. Answer a few simple questions, and you'll get instant access to a suite of masterclasses designed specifically for where you are right now. Whether you're struggling or simply want more out of life, this is your next step. No guesswork. Just clarity. Click here and see what's waiting for you: https://dtphd.com/quiz  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery   

Between politics and a worldwide crisis, it feels natural to worry. But worrying can also make problems bigger and rob you of any perspective if it hangs around too long. Learning to work alongside the unknown and embrace the things outside of your control only makes life better for you and your loved ones the ones you love. In this episode, Dr. Rick reanalyzes what it means to worry and how you can transform it into unquestionable trust and faith during uncertain times. Show Highlights Include: Why worrying strips you of thinking rationally - and how to remain calm and with common sense the next time you face a crisis. (1:15)  Why Jesus told people not to worry 2000 years ago and how to you can stop negative thoughts from robbing time and happiness in your life today. (4:00) Why hope is never lost and the powerful results that come with trusting God (and the universe) right now. (8:51) The “Philippians” way of changing hopeless thoughts into faithful lessons immediately. (12:30) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third-Grade Dropout, for free.

We've all heard the saying - The early bird catches the worm. And while it might seem like arriving a few minutes early doesn't do much, it is the best chance you have for success.  Being early makes you an instant professional. It shows you value others as much as yourself. You are trustworthy, responsible, and reliable. When you're an early bird, there are more hours in the day. You have the time to be one step ahead and always go beyond the agenda. In this episode, you'll discover why showing up early gives you the best chance of success in all that you do. Show Highlights Include: Why becoming the ‘Early Bird' makes you more productive, respected, and leadership material. (1:07) How to find more hours in your day and make a real impact through the Carol Dweck mindset. (4:26) Why setting the clocks a few minutes ahead turns you into a person of good character and excellence. (7:15) How to become a person of excellence and forward progress through John Wooden's sock tip. (13:50) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third-Grade Dropout, for free.

Going through a breakup or recovering from a divorce is one of the most emotionally complex experiences you'll ever face.  It's always messy and layered. And if you don't approach it with the right mindset, you'll fall back into the old patterns and habits that destroyed your previous relationships.  That's the bad news.  The good news?  Not only are emotions temporary and fleeting, including the entire grieving process, but it's possible to rebuild your life and relationships in a way that ensures long-term success in your next relationship.  It won't be easy. I know this from my own divorce. But it's possible.  And you know what?  By the end of this episode, you'll understand exactly what it takes to turn the pain of your breakup into fuel for your personal growth. You'll be equipped to rebuild yourself from the ground up, not just so you can get over it, but so that you can step into your next chapter of your life with confidence, clarity and freedom. Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why rushing into your next relationship after a divorce or break up is a recipe for a similar outcome (and what to do instead to fully heal yourself first) (1:20)  How relying on time alone to heal deep emotional wounds sabotages your ability to connect with others (1:50)   The 5 stages of a relationship—and how to master each separate stage (4:48)  Why feeling like your relationship is doomed to failure is an important step that can actually deepen your connection (6:22)   The “mirrors” secret to relationships that can either unlock significant personal growth or cause unbridled resentment for your partner (10:08)  Why a relationship built on passion is destined to crumble into shambles (and what to build your relationship on instead to sustain it for the rest of your life) (10:52)  How taking responsibility for your ex messing up allows you to use your heartbreak to become stronger and more resilient for your next relationship (12:54)  3 safe ways to express your anger so it doesn't fester under the surface and cause more serious outbursts (20:19)  The weird way your furniture, music playlists, and old habits from your last relationship can undermine your next relationship (23:16)  The “self-surgery” mindset shift that will help you emotionally recover from a divorce or break up faster and with fewer obstacles (29:36)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery 

Grief is something we all deal with at some point. It may be the hardest thing that you ever have to experience. But everyone grieves in a different way, so finding the right help can be hard. So what do you do when you're searching for hope during the most difficult time of your life? In this episode, I discuss how to find the right help when you're grieving and the most important thing you can do to recover when you feel like all hope is gone.  Show Highlights Include:  Why seeking answers about your grief from others rarely works, and what to do instead to ease your pain (1:24) A commonly overlooked, but critical stage of grief and how you can move past it (7:22) What you must understand about the stages of grief to emerge from the experience stronger (8:37) The 10-Second “Hope Exercise” that can pull you out of your darkest moments (12:36) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Most achievers who want more from life—whether in their relationships, career, or fulfillment—turn to best-selling self-help books. But most of the “wisdom” in these bestsellers doesn't stand the test of time—at least not when compared to ancient texts that have helped people for thousands of years.  One such ancient book that offers a treasure trove of wisdom is called the Zhuangzi, an early Daoist text. And while it's more than 2,000 years old… the wisdom contained inside this text is timeless. In fact, it's even more useful in modern life than it was in ancient times.  In this episode, we're diving into wisdom that could completely reshape your life coming from a source that most achievers have never even heard of. It's ancient, it's profound, and it might just unlock what you've been searching for in love, career, and your inner life.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why this under-the-radar, ancient text can solve your modern day relationships problems better than any best-selling self-help book (0:31) What if you didn't have to struggle, stress, or endlessly prove yourself? Here's a liberating mindset that can get rid of these pressures (3:58)  The “Wu Wei” secret for becoming more authentic and aligned in your relationship instead of always at tension's mercy (8:42)  How to become more successful than you ever imagined by letting go of your expectations and the constant grind for success (13:01)  Do you feel trapped in your own identity? Here's why a butterfly can set you free from this perspective and give you a healthier one (16:55)  How to permanently eliminate your neediness (both in your relationships and career) (24:45)  This ancient Chinese technique helps you “fast” your mind (and free yourself from worries, pressures, and emotions that aren't serving you) (27:23)  The Bruce Lee method for becoming wildly successful in your personal and professional life by acting like a toddler (30:14)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery 

The longest running study in history has proven, with 80+ years of data to back it up, that your relationships are the single most important factor for your longevity, happiness, and even your career.  Here's the problem:  The reverse is also true. In fact, being in a bad marriage can shave off 12 literal years of your life. To make matters worse, most people never think that their relationships alter their health, longevity, or success.  In today's show, you'll discover how exactly a bad marriage shaves off years of your life, how a strong marriage doesn't just increase your lifespan, but your success too, and why your relationships are more important than your bank account, your job title, and your VO2 max. Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why achieving (and surpassing) your fitness and financial goals won't keep you happy, fulfilled, or even alive (only THIS will…) (0:58)  3 ways a toxic relationship shaves off actual years of your life (2:04)  How the “slow drain” trap men often find themselves in erases 12 years from your life (7:24)  The weird way a strong marriage supercharges your career growth and wealth (11:03)  The rarely-talked about #1 most powerful asset for achieving lasting success (13:26)  How to get the health and success benefits of marriage even if you're single (15:36)  This is the most important predictor of your health, happiness, and fulfillment—proven by 80+ years of data (20:20)  For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery 

Irrationality is common in today's society. Why? We live in an era where we value entertainment over learning, and impression over impact. And a lack of common sense causes this shallow and superficial culture.  But developing a greater capacity for common sense is simple, even if it's not easy.  So, how do you do it, so you not only change your lives, but the lives of your loved ones around you? In this episode, you'll discover the critical elements you need to develop your common sense. You'll also discover how to apply knowledge from your field into everyday life.  Listen now. Show Highlights Include: Why we glorify shallow things and participate in a superficial culture in today's society (and how you can break out of that trance). (0:41) The 3 critical elements you need to develop your capacity for common sense—in 30 days or less. (1:42) The difference between intelligence and knowledge (and how to apply your knowledge in your everyday life) (2:01) How this second fundamental element of common sense makes you more confident in your decision-making. (6:24) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third-Grade Dropout, for free.

Many people view solitude as a negative experience. But often this comes from confusing solitude with loneliness. Done right, solitude provides nearly unlimited opportunities for reflection and personal growth. In this episode, I discuss the benefits of life-changing benefits of solitude, why we avoid being alone, and ways you can begin practicing solitude immediately. Show Highlights Include: Why solitude got a bad reputation and how it can improve your life immediately (1:37) Scientific evidence that solitude makes you more creative (7:04) How daydreaming makes your life better and how solitude makes you better at it (7:51) Why having alone time reduces depression (8:33) The truth about why we seek “noise” and avoid being along with our thoughts (10:56) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Inside Out 2 gives you a brilliant in-depth look into your inner world. Just by watching the movie, you'll better understand yourself, your emotions, and how to handle emotions better. But if you pair this movie with this podcast episode, you'll also discover the actionable steps you can take today to balance your emotions, access your higher self, and lead the various parts of you more effectively.  The result?  You'll become more attractive. You'll have an easier time dating. You'll develop healthier and stronger relationships. And you'll create a better life for yourself all around.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why watching movies like Inside Out 2 are more effective for mastering your emotions than many books and courses (1:39)  The weird way watching Inside Out 2 can improve your dating life (3:09)   How to get a better understanding of how anxiety interferes with and sabotages your life (3:42)  Why the “Be Yourself” advice shy guys usually hear increases their anxiety (and how to get over this feeling) (5:58)  How to radically improve your self-confidence by using the “From Within” secret (8:30)  How anxiety hijacks your imagination and weaponizes your thoughts against you (and one trick to help ease your anxiety) (10:35) Why cold water and exercise can dramatically decrease your anxiety (12:40)  An in-depth look at how anxiety affects all of your parts from an IFS lens (16:53)  How to apply the lessons embedded in Inside Out 2 to real life (19:13)  Why balancing your emotions instead of suppressing them leads to healthier relationships and better decisions (25:12)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There are two specific virtues characteristic of your higher self. These two virtues can turn your inner demons into inner supporters. They help you overcome deep-seated trauma and pain that keeps sabotaging your relationships. They can reduce your anxiety and depression. And they can make every aspect of your life—whether in relationships, in your career, or anything else—more fulfilling and enjoyable.  So, what are these two virtues?  Courage and compassion.  While courage is generally considered masculine and compassion feminine, the combination of the two is the only way to heal you of your traumas, free yourself from the burden of resentment, and start you on a journey towards true transformative change.  But I won't delude you: Developing courage and compassion can be difficult. That's why it's so rare when it happens in real life.  That said, it's possible. And after listening to this episode, you'll be steps ahead of the average person towards developing these two virtues.  In today's show, you'll discover how courage and compassion heal and integrate your inner parts, how to balance justice and mercy after someone wrongs you, why forgiveness benefits both the forgiver and forgiven, and realize how crucial these two virtues are for creating a life without regrets.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why hurt people hurt people—and how to break this vicious cycle instead of perpetuating it (0:38)  How to morph your inner demons into inner supporters through the “Two C's” method (1:02)  The “respond, not react” secret for healing your deep-rooted traumas and pains in a healthier and more effective way (5:18)  How scribbling in a journal or walking in nature can help you reconnect with your true self and heal your traumas (7:03)  Do you have trouble forgiving people who have wronged you? Here's how to free yourself from the burden of resentment (and why it's crucial for your emotional health and relationship) (9:22)  2 exercises you can do today and for free to cultivate the skill of courage and compassion (20:11)  How to react and respond better to life's natural ups and downs (without being overwhelmed by negative emotions) (25:30)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Most men, especially hypermasculine men, feel like therapy doesn't work for them. Or worse yet, that therapy could never work for them.  And I get it. Not only are up to 80% of mental health workers women, but traditional psychotherapy operates through a feminine lens that further alienates masculine men.  When men go through traditional therapy, they often feel discouraged, angry, and unheard. Because the feminine approach doesn't account for their lifelong conditioning about how emotions make you weak.  But nothing could be further from the truth: Not only do emotions add all the spice to life that makes it worth living, but mastering your emotions makes you more productive and more fulfilled too.  In this episode, I explain why traditional psychotherapy often doesn't work for men, and I reveal four ways masculine men can start to accept their emotions, undo their conditioning, and use therapy to help them accomplish their goals.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why many men are on the path that only leads to emptiness, regret, and extreme loneliness (and how to jump off this path) (1:24)  The single biggest barrier to effective therapy for men (6:14)  The “color of life” mindset shift that instantly makes you feel more okay with your emotions (7:43)  How the feminine approach to therapy practiced by most therapists renders therapy useless (and how to experience a more masculine—and effective—approach) (8:09) All men who have resistance to their emotions needs to listen here: (13:39)  This one question will start to undo your conditioning that emotions are obstacles to be avoided or solved (15:16)  How a relentless drive to be productive and successful robs you of all the joys of life and turns you into an emotionless robot (19:25)  6 ways to get buy-in from your masculine protector parts that can make therapeutic effective (and an example of how one of my clients went through this process) (22:15)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Here's a harsh truth for many men to understand, especially the pleasers and fixers:  It's not your job as a man to continuously attract your woman or to make her happy. Instead, it's about understanding the elements that naturally cultivate attraction and happiness within a relationship. But this approach to dating and attraction is a lot harder because it requires improving yourself at the deepest levels instead of putting on a façade.  But you know what?  Despite it being harder, it leads to a more fulfilling relationship. And yes, this includes sexual fulfillment too.  In today's episode, I'm answering some tough questions like:  What are women actually attracted to?  What keeps women committed in a relationship, especially a long-term relationship where the initial spark has died? And how do you not only attract a woman, but keep her?  And I reveal my 3H and 3P methods for helping you understand the complex dance of attraction and commitment that are the cornerstones of building a successful long-term relationship. Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why the initial spark in your relationship dies when you don't understand this… (0:56)  How wondering how to attract your ideal woman is a sneaky way to display your neediness (and how to stop being needy) (3:59)  The “CRW” secret for naturally attracting women without even trying (7:08) Are women sexually attracted to wealth? Here's why they're not (even if they say they are) (13:08)  How meeting the emotional needs of your partner naturally sparks, and intensifies, your attraction to her (and the “P-word” that strengthens these emotional bonds) (18:09)  Why downloading a meditation app on your phone can significantly enhance your attractiveness to women (20:06)  How to both improve the sexual relationship with your partner while also strengthening the emotional bonds that glue the relationship together (28:57)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

One of the most common and deadly fears people have is the fear of failure. And this fear in particular has dire consequences:  It creates a life where every decision is clouded by the terror of making a mistake. Where opportunities are left unexplored because the risk of failure looms too large. A life shackled by the fear of failure leads to stagnation—professionally and personally. Even your relationships suffer because a fear of failure prevents you from being your true self. Living with this fear for too long means never truly knowing the full extent of your capabilities or the depths of who you are.  That's the bad news.  The good news?  When you liberate yourself from the gripping fear of failure, you view every setback as a stepping stone to something greater. Your relationships improve because you show up as your true self. Your career takes off because you're no longer shackled by this pervasive fear. And by embracing failure, you unlock a more adventurous, spontaneous, and fulfilling life. It won't be easy—it takes time and effort to address and overcome this deep-seated fear. But it's possible.  In today's episode, you'll discover where the fear of failure comes from, and even more, how to use both modern and ancient wisdom to overcome it and live a more fulfilling life.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why attaching your value as a person to your success and failures is a recipe for fear and disappointment (4:54)  The Buddhist monk's secret for overcoming your fear of failure (7:38) How striving for happiness keeps it out of your reach (and how to find joy without searching for it) (8:24)  2 simple, yet wildly effective ways to find peace and fulfillment within yourself right now (even if you haven't achieved everything you want) (10:37)  4 exercises to help you directly engage with different parts of yourself and understand why they manifest as fear and anxiety (14:34)  The daily “Radical Self-Acceptance” practice that not only enhances your personal relationships, but also deepens your relationship with yourself (18:55)  How to become more aware of your intrusive thoughts and transform them into positive ones in just 5 minutes each day (20:06)  The dire consequences of living a life controlled by your fear of failure (and how it bleeds into every aspect of your life) (26:15)  How embracing failure improves your relationships, boosts your attractiveness, and infuses your actions with a sense of purpose and freedom (27:17)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Stress probably feels like an inevitable part of your everyday life (especially over the last year). But spending your days worrying about every little thing doesn't make life better, it only makes you feel less in control. Instead of waiting for stress to take a different approach in life, why don't you? In this episode, you'll learn how to find peace in any stressful moment and why the most complicated questions often have the simplest answers.  Show Highlights Include: Why managing your stress starts with two statements from Psychology Today. (0:32) How to stop feeling worried when things are out of your hands (and the one thing you always have control over). (2:48) The ‘Front Porch' secrets for living a calmer life today (and why you shouldn't worry about tomorrow). (6:45) What an African Violet plant reveals about finding beauty in unpleasant times and how to use peace with whatever comes your way. (8:56) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Many men don't understand the difference between sadness and self-pity. And this lack of understanding comes with a big cost: You sacrifice joy and growth when you confuse sadness for self-pity.  Now, this isn't your fault, per se. Most modern men grew up believing toxic masculinity myths like that crying is a sign of weakness. Not only is this false, it's objectively wrong and science has proved this.  When you embrace and process sadness in a healthy way, it's no longer an emotion to be feared but an opportunity for growth. But when you ignore, neglect, and repress your sadness, it can morph into self-pity, which, besides nuking your happiness, also leads to actual health problems.  In today's show, you'll discover how to spot the crucial differences between sadness and self-pity, why self-pity is so detrimental to your emotional and physical health, and tools to navigate sadness in a way that opens doors not closes them. Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why confusing sadness with self-pity sabotages your entire experience of life (0:22)  How to use gut-wrenching sadness to open doors to your higher self instead of letting it slam doors shut (2:04)   The “Self Pity Quicksand” that traps you in your own head, prevents you from growth, and spirals you into destructive actions (3:25)  How masculinity myths not only cause mental and emotional pain, but keep joy and fulfillment out of your reach (6:18)  Do you think it's unmanly or weak to be sad? Here's why this toxic thought process will block you from true love (9:39)  The scientific proof that sadness leads to profound self-growth while self-pity leads to high blood pressure, cortisol, and a weakened immune system (12:45)  How to embrace your emotions instead of shying away from them with the “signal” mindset shift (17:26)  4 tools that will help you embrace sadness without devolving into the quicksand of self pity (20:39)  A real-life example of how to turn self-pity into sadness and growth (26:44)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

The lack of a unified message in the world has made it easy to judge others (or even face judgment yourself). But making assumptions and shaming others doesn't help you find common ground in a problem, it only creates a stronger divide.  Having differences shouldn't be about tearing each other down, but lifting each other up.  In this episode, you'll learn why shame and judgment only make you feel isolated and how to have conversations that bring together a community for the greater good. Show Highlights Include: Why judging others keeps you from being more impactful and compassionate. (0:26) How this teacher's lack of judgment turned a talkative student into an avid bookworm - and how judging less shows you more opportunities for yourself and others. (1:49) The “Matthew Chapter 8” way to offer hope, unity and an open heart to those with different opinions (and why Jesus made it a profound principle). (5:15) The easiest way to find blessings in opposing views and bring together a divided and judgmental community. (8:15) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Through the challenges of 2020 comes a unique opportunity for churches to rise up and think through issues together. And if you've lost your faith over the last year, just know there is always a hope-filled conversation to have.  Stories of overcoming adversity and bringing light to the dark are nothing new. But how we bring those teachings to life is what changes our lives for the better.  In this episode, I sit down with Pastors Michael Gamble and Dwight Edwards to talk about the response of the church during these trying times - and how opportunity brings us closer to divinity. Show Highlights Include: Why the church's response to the pandemic, politics, and racial tension starts at God's table - and how to have the conversations that unite us now. (3:34) What the history of Christianity reflects about working through hard times - and why this is beyond just reading sermons. (8:30) The ‘Helmut Thielicke' teachings about pain and how you can create divine opportunities from life's struggles right now. (16:28) Why walking in humility starts by surprising others - and how this makes you a more humble person today. (21:10) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free. Learn more about Dwight's teachings: https://www.revolutionwithin.com Learn more about Michael's teachings: https://radiantlife-church.com

Character seems to be in short supply these days. And our shallow, superficial culture doesn't help. In fact, it works in sneaky, subversive ways to prevent you from building up your character. So how do you overcome these forces of evil to improve your character and quality of life? In this episode, Dr. Rick discusses how your character changes the world (for better or worse), the struggles you'll face in attempting to build your character, and why society is bent on keeping you from improving yourself. Show Highlights Include: Why global character change is not someone else's problem and how you can make the world a better place (1:01) How the media perverts our view of restoration to cash in (and how to find the truth) (2:04) 2 sinister forces you will battle when building a better life (3:04) Three subtle ways that modern society combats those who want to improve their character (5:01) The one place you must begin your restoration efforts, or they'll never work (5:38) Essential character lessons from grandma and grandpa that will fix your priorities (6:00) Why society's definition of success leads to your failure (7:20) Character building secrets from one of the greatest basketball coaches of all time (9:45) Why good character has been on the decline since the 19th century (and what to do about it) (11:12) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Most men don't realize that the patterns they see in their relationships almost always trace back to their core insecurities and emotional baggage.  This may be hard to hear at first, but it's actually an empowering approach to fixing unhealthy dating patterns.  If you constantly find yourself stuck in a cycle of unsatisfying or unfulfilling relationships, instead of searching for quick fixes or dating advice on YouTube, reflect on how your internal psychology is sabotaging your relationships.  For example, low self-worth and unresolved trauma actively work to rip your relationship apart from the inside out.  However, the solution, while difficult, is also simple: By first focusing on the relationship you have with yourself and addressing unresolved issues, you will naturally attract better partners, form deeper connections, and unlock a more fulfilling relationship.  In this episode, you'll discover how to confront these internal psychological problems and escape the cycle of unfulfilling relationships forever. Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why relying on quick fixes to heal your relationship and dating problems is a surefire way to live alone, isolated, and miserable (0:50)  The sneaky way your insecurities and emotional baggage seep into your relationship and sabotage it (1:17)  How to solve all your relationship and dating problems by focusing on the often-neglected “inner world” (3:12)  Do you think you're unlucky in love? Well, here's how your low self-worth manifests in your dating patterns (4:07)   The “Mirror Effect” in dating that explains how your emotions, insecurities, and life perspective influences your relationships (and how to attract better partners into your life) (7:42)  How your insecurities betray your relationship and makes your neediness scare away your partner (8:15)  The key to finally breaking unhealthy relationship patterns and building stronger connections (16:11)  3 reasons why group therapeutic coaching can transform your fear of conflict into a deeply fulfilling relationship (18:48)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Imagine a life where you understand yourself and your relationships deeply. Where you're no longer stuck in unfulfilling patterns because you have the tools and the experience to build genuine, lasting connections.  Imagine you're confident and skilled in expressing yourself and your needs. You know how to navigate relationships with empathy, compassion, and assertiveness. And when challenges arise, you have the skills and the courage to tackle them head on.  While this may seem like a pipe dream for men who have only gone through individual therapy or none at all, it's the reality for those who have gone through a good therapeutic coaching group.  Why? Well, group therapeutic coaching offers certain advantages over individual coaching and can fast track your personal growth, leading to more authentic relationships.  In today's episode, I reveal the four advantages group dynamics have over individual therapy dynamics, how therapeutic group work helps you confront unfulfilling patterns in real time (versus always looking to the past), and why it's a more effective route for transformation.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why reading another self-help book or going through another online psychology course only delays your success in creating authentic relationships (1:13)  How therapeutic group coaching is like going through the therapeutic process with a jetpack strapped to your back (2:08)  The “Corrective Emotional Experience” secret found in group therapy settings that fast tracks your ability to create meaningful connections (5:51)  Have you tried individual therapy sessions and are still stuck in bad patterns? Here's why a therapeutic coaching group can finally break these patterns… (8:07)  How group therapeutic coaching mirrors your outside relationships, leading to quicker and more permanent transformations (8:52)  Why endlessly analyzing your childhood can keep you stuck there (and how the “here and now” approach of group settings forces you to address problems as they arise) (14:26)  4 proven reasons why group therapeutic coaching unlocks faster and more transformative change than individual therapy (23:37)  For David Tian's “Healthy Dating & Relationships” small-group coaching program, which is mentioned in this episode, click here: https://cf.davidtianphd.com/hdr-og Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There's a catch-22 that happens in almost every long-term relationship: The more intimate your relationship becomes, the more it triggers unresolved, unconscious issues. This may explain seemingly random explosions of anger over minor disagreements or waves of sadness and low self-esteem.  Despite our wishes, repressing painful emotions doesn't make them disappear into thin air. Instead, they simmer under the surface, and pop up when you least expect it. The problem is, these explosions of repressed trauma can sabotage even the healthiest of relationships.  That's the bad news.  The good news? Well, there are proven ways to not only deal with these suppressed emotions, but to make sure that they don't sabotage your relationships or mental health. In today's episode, we explore these proven ways, so you can free yourself of the poison they bring when left unanalyzed and unresolved.  Want to improve your mental health, relationships, and discover how to confront repressed emotions so they don't backfire on you and your loved ones? Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why ignoring your “emotional fitness” plants the seeds of destruction in even the healthiest of relationships (1:13)  How being vulnerable with women often re-traumatizes men who haven't yet discovered their true self and turns off your date (even if it seems like good advice on the surface) (6:26)  Does your neediness prevent you from making authentic connections with women you date? Here's the only true way to get rid of your neediness (7:09)  Why your false selves sabotage your mental health (even if they help you land a few dates) (8:54)  How the therapeutic process brings all of your psyche's parts into harmony and balance and unlocks the deep connections you've been searching for in your relationships (13:36)  Why repressed emotions linger under the surface and cause explosions of anger at the worst possible times (and how to handle repressed emotions in a healthier way) (14:48)  The “Emotional Self Sufficiency” secret that enhances your mental health, your relationships, and your general wellbeing (17:21)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery  

Have you ever felt stuck? Like your life was filled with chaos and randomness, preventing you from moving forward?  Imagine if there was a simple shift you could make to break out of that rut. In this episode, Dr. Rick discusses how to have an active mind and why continuous learning is the key to sustained growth in your business and life. Show Highlights Include: Why passive minds are destroying society (2:58) The simple way to develop an active mind (3:05) The common device that is making you dumber by the minute (4:42) If you're making this leadership mistake, you are killing your business (10:30) The single most important question great people ask themselves every day (11:29) How having a foe can force you to level up (14:39) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

When a relationship hinges on sexual attractiveness, it's doomed to fail. Yet despite all the scientific evidence about attractiveness fading over time, the first step most men take when their relationship falters is improving their attractiveness.  They think that if only they had a 6-pack or more designer brand clothes that this will magically make their partner fall back in love with them. But nothing is further from the truth.  Do you think that an elderly couple still obviously in love with each other is fueled by attraction? Of course not. But still, many men miss this point and it sabotages their relationships.  The solution?  Well, there's a few things you can do to build a lasting and thriving relationship that aren't based on your attraction to your partner or vice versa. And in this episode, you'll discover what personal and relationship characteristics help your relationship grow stronger over time instead of withering away into nothingness.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: Why beefing up your attractiveness backfires and can make your partner resent you (0:53)  Can a relationship thrive on sexual attraction alone? No, and here's what happens when the “spark” begins to wither… (2:43)  Why thinking of your relationship as a giant and gorgeous oak tree can prevent heartbreak, divorce, or worse (4:10)  The “EM” anchor that keeps your relationship steady, growing, and always moving towards deepening your love (11:13)  How clinging to being “right” can cost you your marriage and happiness (12:00)  Why relying on your partner for your happiness poisons your relationship from the inside out (and how to take control of your own happiness) (19:06)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Just as people consider a juice cleanse to get rid of toxins in their body, a mental cleanse helps you get rid of the emotions and experiences weighing you down daily.  And when getting rid of emotional “junk,” you are often left with clarity, creativity, and mental wholeness - ready to take on the world and renewed in your spirit.  In this episode, you'll discover how to cleanse your spirit in just a few minutes everyday.   Show Highlights Include: Why watching the news all day makes your soul feel heavy - and how to immediately lift your spirit and feel restored. (1:30) The Psalm 51 solution for handling life's burdens with more peace, forgiveness, and healing. (4:48) How the Blue Mind Effect instantly increases your happiness, makes you feel more connected, and enhances your spiritual energy. (9:47) The daily ritual for cleansing emotional wounds and feeling more open-hearted (even if you only have a few minutes). (12:43) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

One of the most damaging societal myths we believe is that marriage or having a baby can fix underlying relationship issues. This myth isn't only misleading, but it creates more significant issues down the road. For example, breaking up is much easier (mentally and financially) than getting a divorce. Bringing a child into this world under the wrong pretenses can burden your children with deep-seated trauma that takes decades to fix.  The truth?  Marriage and parenthood aren't solutions to your relationship problems. In fact, they heighten these issues. And jumping into marriage or parenthood before you're ready can come with devastating consequences.  But don't worry. In today's show, I'll reveal how you can best prepare—as an individual and as a couple—for both marriage and parenthood.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Why getting married or having a baby won't fix your underlying relationship issues (and how these create even more hardship) (1:06) The weird way marriages based on love and personal fulfillment end abruptly (3:31)  How parenthood triggers new relationship problems (and how to address them without divorce) (6:15)  Why addressing your own internal issues profoundly impacts the health of your relationships (13:49)  The insidious “Imago Match” theory that explains how seemingly minor relationship problems erupt into full-blown fights (and how to leverage it to build a healthier relationship) (15:35)  4 steps to properly prepare for marriage or parenthood (22:59)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There's a myth that most guys believe that looks, status, or wealth are the keys to a lasting relationship. But this isn't the case. And it's how you can wind up in a boring and sexless long-term relationship.  While these attributes initially created the spark of attraction that started your relationship, as your relationship matures, other attributes become more important. In fact, I call these attributes the “Four P's.”  Besides keeping the fire alive in your long-term relationship, the “Four P's” also create a thriving sex life that both you and your partner find deeply fulfilling.  So, what are the “Four P's?” How do you cultivate each of the “Four P's”? And why do many guys struggle with building the “Four P's” in their long-term relationships?  In this episode, I reveal the answer to each of these questions, so you can build a thriving long-term relationship full of passionate sex, connection, and unconditional love.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Why it's a myth that the key to maintaining a relationship is about keeping up your looks, status, or wealth (and the 2 key to making a long-term relationship thrive) (1:04)  How “P&C” prevents your relationship from slipping into monotony, complacency, and even heartbreak (2:14)  The “Four P's” secret that keeps the fire alive in your relationship and blossoms into a fulfilling 50+ year relationship (3:09)  How going through self-development for the sake of your relationship instead of yourself dooms your relationship to die prematurely (4:06)  The fatal mistake most guys commit after being in a relationship for about 6 months (and the “small gestures” trick to prevent this with your wife or girlfriend) (7:11)  The weird way embracing more feminine energies can enhance you and your partner's sexual attraction (13:23)  How neediness seeps into your body language, your choice of words, and the tone of your voice, silently alarming your partner to jump ship (18:42)  Why your repressed sexual shame will lead to a sexless relationship (and how to create a thriving sexual life with your partner) (26:41)  How to reignite the sexual spark in your long-term relationship (even if you haven't had sex in months) (30:28)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

In the coming weeks, we'll be re-airing 5 of our most popular episodes so far. Hope you enjoy this look back at some of our best episodes. What if I told you that all the success you desire is within your reach? All it takes to get it is one simple step. There is one decision you can make today to immediately improve your life. That decision is to embrace a growth mindset. A growth mindset allows you to take everything life throws at you… And come out stronger. In this episode, I discuss the importance of mindset and how to develop the growth mindset that will help you achieve all your goals. Show Highlights Include: Why unsuccessful people have so much trouble improving their situation and what they can do to fix it immediately (2:46) The Michael Jordan secret of greatness and how you can harness it to improve your own life (7:26) The Growth Mindset secret you can use to overcome any obstacle in your life (8:21) Why you should welcome failure with open arms if you want to break free of mediocrity (9:54) What “genius-level performers” can teach you about the irrelevance of talent (and what you should focus on instead) (13:29) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Being loyal has a bad rep these days. Between bad relationships and bosses, people are more loyal to themselves. And it has led people into having a “me” mindset instead of a “we” mindset. But being loyal is still valuable to your life. It shows you commit to standing with someone (or something), no matter what. Loyalty flourishes trust in your relationships and commands respect. In this episode, you'll discover why loyalty makes you a more impactful and influential person today. Show Highlights Include: Why having ‘San Francisco Giants' loyalty brings more meaning and purpose into the world today. (0:42) Why employees feel disconnected from their workplace (and how to find a secure, authentic job today).  (3:10) Why being a loyal employee gives you more respect, trust, and influence today. (8:03) How to command the highest degree of leadership and make an impact every day. (9:12) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

Having a teachable spirit is about the hunger for knowledge. You care more about learning something than what it offers you. And the more you learn, the more you find value in everyday experiences. Your curiosity leads to a better life.  If you stop learning, you stop growing. You find your life is lacking in discovery and new ideas. Knowledge is always the cure. In this episode, you'll discover how to have a teachable spirit for unlimited growth in everything you do.  Show Highlights Include: Why intelligence isn't something you're born with (and how to make the learning process easier). (0:58) How to stop feeling like a nervous student and ask the questions that make you a lifelong learner today. (3:32) The John Wooden mindset for encouraging others to learn. (4:30) A Line Cook's way to drop the excuses and make room for curiosity.  Why having a teachable spirit makes the world a better place (and leaves a legacy for the world). (8:50) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.  

Some say that paying attention to small things make big things happen. And while you may not be able to get everything perfect, paying attention to the details is where you make something great.  Details are more important than time. And when you focus on one spot at a time, you learn more in your tasks (and act greater). Details make perfection and it's worth waiting to get something right.  In this episode, you'll learn why attention to details makes all the difference in your success. Show Highlights Include: Why a painter, pastor, and football coach all focus on the details to accomplish great things. (1:00) How to have Picasso Precision for everything you do in life. (4:00) How to keep every detail in sync and win championships like Vince Lombardi and John Madden. (6:52) The Mindcraft Mentality for remaining faithful to details (and wherever they may lead). (11:55) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.  

Midlife is not always an easy time for women. And when you combine this season with the mental and physical effects of menopause and perimenopause that affect women during the very same time, it can be exhausting. Unfortunately, women are often dismissed by healthcare providers, and can have most of their symptoms written off as hormonal or superficial. As a result, there are a lot of questions and confusion around perimenopause, menopause, and women's health in general. We need an expert voice in the mix. Enter Dr Lisa Larkin. Lisa specializes in women's health, cancer survivorship, menopause management, female sexual health, and women's cardiovascular diseases. She graduated from Yale School of Medicine and has held various prestigious medical positions since then before returning to private practice. She's perfectly very qualified to answer questions on perimenopause, menopause, and the health challenges women face around midlife. Which is exactly what we do today. In this episode, you'll discover the difference between the perimenopausal and menopausal effects on women's health, what you can do about it, and what you should watch out for at this stage of life. Listen in… Show Highlights Include: Why midlife and menopausal women don't receive enough attention from the healthcare system (and who they can turn to in their trying times). (10:40) A huge problem with women's health in the social media space. (13:26) The symptoms of, and difference between menopause and perimenopause (and how to know which one you're experiencing) (14:39) Why it's important to educate men about women's health and aging. (19:18) Why hormones won't fix all your menopausal symptoms (and the overlooked culprit of huge changes in your body) (23:25) Why your hormone levels are an inaccurate representation of your menopausal status (and how to accurately know if you're in menopause or perimenopause). (28:05) How oral contraceptives can be used to treat  symptoms. (32:47) Why this 20-year age range can affect how long you live (and lifestyle practices you should implement to improve your health). (39:35) For Dr. Lisa Larkin's practice including telehealth: https://lisalarkinmd.com For a list of NCMP Physicians:  https://menopause.org Interested in coaching with Brilliant Balance? Schedule an exploratory call here: www.brilliant-balance.com/schedule  Subscribe to The Brilliant Balance Weekly and we'll deliver it to your digital doorstep each Tuesday: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly  Need a few moments of peace? Listen to our free 5-Minute Meditation: www.brilliant-balance.com/breathe/  Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/brilliant_balance  Join our private Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057 

Common sense isn't so common in today's society. Why? We live in an era where we value entertainment over learning, and impression over impact. And a lack of common sense causes this shallow and superficial culture.  But developing a greater capacity for common sense is simple, even if it's not easy.  So, how do you do it, so you not only change your lives, but the lives of your loved ones around you? In this episode, you'll discover the critical elements you need to develop your common sense. You'll also discover how to apply knowledge from your field into everyday life.  Listen now. Show Highlights Include: Why we glorify shallow things and participate in a superficial culture in today's society (and how you can break out of that trance). (0:41) The 3 critical elements you need to develop your capacity for common sense—in 30 days or less. (1:42) The difference between intelligence and knowledge (and how to apply your knowledge in your everyday life) (2:01) How this second fundamental element of common sense affects your judgment,  decision-making and your life. (6:24) Do you want to stop existing and start living your best life right now? Click here to get the first chapter of Dr. Rick's best-selling book, Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout, for free.

There's an invisible world living beneath your skin. It controls your emotions, mood, cravings, and can even alter your entire personality.  What's this invisible world that can hijack your very experience of life itself? Parasites! Now, I don't say this to creep you out or give you a reason to shift blame onto these nasty single cell organisms, but to offer you hope: Whatever you're dealing with now that's lowering your quality of life, could be the result of parasites. And that is empowering because there are things you can do to rid yourself of these parasites.  In this episode, you'll discover how much control parasites have over your body, your feelings, your thoughts, and more. And I reveal some simple (and some complicated) ways to rid yourself of these life-lowering parasites.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include Why your cravings are actually caused by parasites living underneath your skin (5:57)  “The Last of Us” problem infecting the human species in real life right now (7:43)  How certain organisms can grow within the human system and literally hijack your body to do their bidding (11:53)  Are your mood changes because of you? Here's why they could be the result of parasites… (14:07) The weird “Tapeworm” story which shows you the massive impact single cell organisms have on your personality and experience of life (16:35)  The “Gut Microbiome” secret for giving yourself an entirely new and improved personality (18:06)  How “Buddha Mice” get rid of all their fears and insecurities (and how you can too) (20:44)  How to have a grounded and practical spiritual experience (no matter what your religion is—or lack thereof) (29:01)  A simple question to ask yourself when you're craving unhealthy food that instantly obliterates your cravings (34:39)  Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body's Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN   Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/  and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

Finish lines have a powerful allure to them. They inspire us to begin important journeys and give us strong motivation to go after our goals. However, sometimes we misinterpret which parts of our lives need finish lines, so we approach everything the same way and wind up overloaded. If this sounds like you, there's a way you can find a cadence you can sustain as you pursue  your goals all while reserving essential energy. How? In this episode, I'll reveal how using finish lines the wrong way can drain you mentally and physically. You'll discover how to mentally reposition yourself so you can attack your goals and achieve them with the same vigor but at a sustained, healthy pace. Listen in… Show Highlights Include: Why finish lines have a powerful allure (and how they help drive us towards our goals) (4:46) The dark side of finish lines we need to be aware of. (8:03) How using finish lines can overload you and drain your mental and physical stamina completely. (9:09) Why planning finish lines around positive behaviors is unsustainable in the long run (and why some finish lines aren't really finish lines) (10:15) The mental reframe you can adopt to reserve energy to sustain those positive behaviors. (15:39) Interested in coaching with Brilliant Balance? Schedule an exploratory call here: www.brilliant-balance.com/schedule  Subscribe to The Brilliant Balance Weekly and we'll deliver it to your digital doorstep each Tuesday: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly  Need a few moments of peace? Listen to our free 5-Minute Meditation: www.brilliant-balance.com/breathe/  Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/brilliant_balance  Join our private Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057 

Most real estate investors spend way too much time on “Short-Term Equity” deals. These are the types of deals where: You find the property You fully lease it out You do all the hard work… And when it's all said and done, you only own 3% of the total equity in the deal.  Will this setup ever change your life? Probably not. But there's a better way:  It's called the “LTE” model. With this better way, I've amassed a $63 million real estate portfolio.  Best part?  I own 48% of the equity in this portfolio! So, with that all said… In today's episode, you'll discover how to take advantage of this new  equity model for yourself. You'll also find out why some apartment deals are actually jobs disguised as financial freedom.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Why you'll only take home 4% equity in an apartment syndication (even if you found the deal) (2:41) Think owning an apartment means you'll never work again? Here's how it can easily turn into a J.O.B. if you employ a “Short-Term Equity” model (5:12) How your investors can legally steal $720K from right under your nose (even if you're only earning $56K) (7:33) The bizarre way running your property empire like an employee—and not as a business owner—unlocks financial freedom (8:40) How to own 70% equity in your next apartment deal by trying out this “elementary” trick (14:20) Ask yourself these 3 questions to guarantee you'll only buy apartments with huge upside (15:05) The “SF” secret for getting 100% equity in your next real estate deal (without relying on investors) How to build a $63 million real estate empire with the “Long-Term Equity” model (26:59) If you liked the episode, leave me a review on whichever app you listen to podcasts on. If you want to connect with me, follow me on Facebook here: https://www.facebook.com/jennings.smith.50 or Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/jenningsfostersmithjr/.

You might be a perfectionist if… You're restless and discontent with anything that is incomplete, operating at over-capacity and running yourself ragged to get things just the way you like them. Or you might start LOTS of projects and never finish them. Or you might work REALLY hard to get people to like you. It turns out there's not just one kind of perfectionist, but nearly all the faces of perfectionism cause the person exhibiting them to be labeled negatively. The truth is: perfectionism has gotten a bad rap. But what if we can own our perfectionism and reframe it as an integral part of our personality. And what if we can even transform that perfectionism into a powerful force? In this episode, I interview the brilliant Katherine Morgan Schafler, a seasoned therapist who has worked with ambitious perfectionistic women for years. She enlightens us about the different types of perfectionism, and how to own our perfectionism and harness it as the powerful force it is. Listen in… Show Highlights Include: Why perfectionists feel disappointed by imperfection (and how you can be a healthy perfectionist) (8:54) The biggest misconception about perfectionism (and what perfectionism really is). (14:26) The 5 perfectionist types (and the pros and cons of each). (22:31) Why this category of perfectionists should endeavor to manage their perfectionism (and what happens when they don't.) (27:37) How to accept your perfectionism and channel it to produce real power (and why not everyone can be one). (31:55) Interested in coaching with Brilliant Balance? Schedule an exploratory call here: www.brilliant-balance.com/schedule Subscribe to The Brilliant Balance Weekly and we'll deliver it to your digital doorstep each Tuesday: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Need a few moments of peace? Listen to our free 5-Minute Meditation: www.brilliant-balance.com/breathe/ Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/brilliant_balance Join our private Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057 Find Katherine's book and the Quiz at: https://perfectionistsguide.com

We're suckers for authority. We see someone in a white lab coat, and immediately think they know all the answers. But reality doesn't typically play out how they say: Take Amber for example, a featured guest on this episode. She battled chronic pain for years, got prescribed pain pills, and shortly became addicted to them. When she realized she was done taking pain pills, she quit cold turkey. And the next time she went to her doctor—someone she likes as a person, mind you—he told her that quitting pain pills cold turkey could've killed her. Well, it didn't. And we do this in our own lives too: with therapy, with visits to the doctor, by reading self-help books, and even by scrolling WebMD only to convince ourselves we're dying. The truth is, authority isn't always right. In fact, it tends to be wrong a lot of the time. And this is dangerous because at the end of the day, we're our own ultimate authority figure. While it may seem like bad news, it's not. Because this empowers us to make positive changes by simply questioning authority. And in this episode, you'll discover how to do just that to free yourself from addiction, misery, pain, and suffering. Listen now. Show Highlights Include Why we're predisposed to believe anything from an authority speaker's lips (even if its dead wrong and causes more suffering) (5:41) The insidious way pain pills promise to make you better for your family (and how to quit them cold turkey when you realize they aren't serving you) (8:12) The “Slippery Slope” reason why pain pills can help you one day, then overwhelm you with addictive tendencies the next (9:22) How doctors prescribe you life-changing pills off conclusions from the data, not the data itself (and why understanding this distinction helps you break free from addiction) (12:48) The”experience” mindset shift which instantly turns emotions generally considered as bad into fun roller coaster rides (16:11) The weird way watching Inglourious Basterds can help you blow up your trauma—for good—in a fiery explosion (18:37) The “beyond the Milky Way” secret that unlocks an infinite amount of hope that your addiction is not permanent (20:30) How the stories you tell yourself can dupe you into thinking you have full-blown kidney disease (even if you're perfectly healthy) (24:23) Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body's Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

“Operational Real Estate” is an asset class with the easiest-to-negotiate owners in the world. 15-20% of the market is made up of multinational syndications. The remaining 80-85% consists of Mom & Pop operators — people who overlook how sought after their property is — meaning you get high rental yield properties at a bargain price. Speaking of sought after, “Operational Real Estate” has never-ending demand. In fact, its demand increases during recessions. And the best part? Investors see a fully passive double digit annualized return — 10%+. And by the way, these are only a fraction of the benefits of “Operational Real Estate.” In today's episode, Chris Larsen, host of the Next Level Income Podcast, reveals the easiest way you can invest in “Operational Real Estate.” He also shares a sneaky way to add an extra 100 “clients” to your business — without owning or running said business. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Why listening to Dave Ramsey's ramblings about financial security robs you of financial freedom (4:20) How to generate 100 clients who pay you a $1,500 a month (without owning or running said business) (5:16) Watch the moolah pile up in your bank account when you stumble upon a “demographic driven business” (and achieve 50% profit margins) (7:23) Add an extra 0 to the end of your back account this upcoming recession with a business model which taps into humans' “MMFB” trait (15:40) How to make customers cheer with glee by only accepting credit cards (it's not for convenience or the speed of the credit card either) (16:56) [Investors] Achieve double digit annualized cash flows by washing a Toyota Camry (23:22) Why purchasing “operational real estate” with no idea how to operate it sabotages your ability to sell it for a profit later on (26:29) If you liked the episode, leave me a review on whichever app you listen to podcasts on. If you want to connect with me, follow me on Facebook here https://www.facebook.com/jennings.smith.50 or Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/jenningsfostersmithjr/. If you'd like to connect with Chris, check out his website here: https://nextlevelincome.com/ https://nextlevelincome.com/podcast/ https://nextlevelincome.com/book/ https://nextlevelincome.com/banking/

Merging professional ambition with managing your home life isn't easy, but I think it's worth it. While you may constantly have to task-switch between meeting professional goals and meeting the needs of your family, the satisfaction that comes from having a foot in each world runs deep. The question is - what do we do with the guilt?! Wondering how our professional ambition will affect our kids keeps a lot of working women up at night, and that's why my guest today decided to investigate. In this episode, I interview Lara Bazelon: attorney, law professor, and author of the book: Ambitious Like a Mother. Lara and I discuss how we can dance with work-life balance, embrace our ambitions and model for our children what it means to live a truly purposeful life. Listen in… Show Highlights Include: Why the word ‘ambition' holds a negative meaning for women (and how looking past that can help you achieve your goals faster) (6:24) The three mother-child archetypes (and how they differ in work-home balance) (7:58) Why it's important to model vulnerability as a leader in the workplace (17:44) Why the children of working mothers fare slightly better than stay at home mothers (26:51) The boring conversations we have to hash out when starting a relationship (instead of going into it blindly) (29:37) Interested in coaching with Brilliant Balance? Schedule an exploratory call here: www.brilliant-balance.com/schedule Subscribe to The Brilliant Balance Weekly and we'll deliver it to your digital doorstep each Tuesday: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Need a few moments of peace? Listen to our free 5-Minute Meditation: www.brilliant-balance.com/breathe/ Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/brilliant_balance Join our private Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057 Check out Lara Bazelon's website: http://www.larabazelon.com/ Atlantic Article by Lara Bazelon - “The End of Mom Guilt”: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2022/05/working-mom-career-women-guilt/629364/

Scientists discovered that a tiny fraction of the weight of a dime creates enough pressure on your cells to force them to divide. What does that mean for healing yourself from decades of suffering and trauma? Well, it only takes a little nudge of pressure, applied in correct places, to free you from your decades-long misery. Yes, it can be that simple. In fact, when I speak of “Stick Work” that I do at Freedom Specialist Retreats, this is why it can completely liberate you from your trauma in mere moments. In this episode, we examine Chapter 3 from my newest book, Built for Freedom, and how to use your body and pressure to eliminate your deepest held traumas. Listen now. Show Highlights Include Why letting your fear fuel you drowns you in suffering (and how to free yourself of fear instead) (2:52) The “Stick Work” secret of jabbing a stick into your ribs that liberates your problems almost instantly (4:08) Why you can leave therapy feeling like a million bucks yet still haunted by old feelings (9:45) How treating your body like a glorified instrument relaxes both your physical and mental stress (13:45) Why tension can create either misery or bliss in your body and mind (and how to use it for bliss more often) (15:08) The bizarre way being punched can unleash pent-up emotion lurking in your body and free you from it (17:28) Why you can change your nasty negative thoughts in mere moments (even if you're suffered through decades of deep trauma) (26:20) The insidious “Re-Traumatizing Effect” therapy often creates that keeps you stuck in misery and suffering (29:22) How activating your sympathetic nervous system can release years and years of trauma in a jiffy (37:34) Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body's Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

Midlife is a life chapter I see a lot of women struggle with. It's a time you suddenly start questioning everything you've devoted yourself to for the last couple of decades. All your carefully laid plans don't seem to make sense anymore.  You tend to ask: Is this all there is to it? Am I doing enough? Am I enough? Women that experience the midlife blahs go through a range of tough emotions: a sense of boredom, emptiness or sadness. And while it may be mild for some people, it can be intense and hard for others. But you don't have to endure or get comfortable with the midlife blahs. You can shake yourself out of this cycle and find meaning in your life again. In this episode, I'll reveal 5 signs you should look out for to recognize if you're in the mid-life blahs. You'll discover how to regain your sense of excitement, vibrancy and fulfillment. Listen in… Show Highlights Include: Why midlife crisis doesn't always mean a middle aged man with an expensive sports car and younger girlfriend (and the actual effects of mid-life on women)  (1:46) 5 signs you're experiencing the mid-life blahs. (2:41) Why you shouldn't get comfortable in the mid-life blahs (and how to feel a sense of fulfillment again) (11:43) The ‘mix-it-up' trick you can use to help yourself stop feeling like you live on autopilot (and how it wakes your brain to a fresh perspective).(12:56) How this ‘weekly tracking' routine helps if things just don't excite you anymore. (14:37) How to find meaning and clarity in your life on a day to day basis (without the crushing weight of figuring out your entire life) (16:18) The ‘micro-change' technique you can use to take pressure off yourself (while generating momentum and excitement in your life). (19:07)   Interested in coaching with Brilliant Balance? Schedule an exploratory call here: http://www.brilliant-balance.com/schedule Subscribe to The Brilliant Balance Weekly and we'll deliver it to your digital doorstep each Tuesday: http://www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Need a few moments of peace? Listen to our free 5-Minute Meditation: http://www.brilliant-balance.com/breathe/ Follow us on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/brilliant_balance Join our private Facebook Group: http://www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057

How can we be lonely when we always seem to be so busy and surrounded by other people? We're constantly at work, on zoom calls, in our homes with children running around, running errands, watching sporting events, and generally living our lives out in the world…and yet, we're isolated. How on earth does that happen? It's because feeling lonely doesn't necessarily mean being alone. Loneliness is a state of mind that occurs when there's a disconnect between our need for human connection and our actual level of connection with the people around us. So how do we get out of this lonely state and foster deeper connections with people around us? In this episode, I'll share with you the questions to ask yourself if you want to build stronger relationships with the people who matter to you. Listen in… Show Highlights Include: Why we don't easily recognize when we're lonely (and how to realize and pull ourselves out of that hole of loneliness). (04:40) The right questions you can ask yourself to forge more meaningful relationships with your loved ones. (06:28) A 3-part formula you can use to foster deeper connection and increase the ‘connective tissue' in your relationships. (08:33) The eye-contact rule for forming higher quality connections with your loved ones. (09:24) How to get beyond cliched small talk and into proper conversation and build an even deeper connection. (10:40) How to use shared activities to take pressure off conversations and make it easier to advance the relationship to a place of real comfort. (14:00) Interested in coaching with Brilliant Balance? Schedule an exploratory call here: www.brilliant-balance.com/schedule Subscribe to The Brilliant Balance Weekly and we'll deliver it to your digital doorstep each Tuesday: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Need a few moments of peace? Listen to our free 5-Minute Meditation: www.brilliant-balance.com/breathe/ Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/brilliant_balance Join our private Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057

January can be seductive with so many “new year new you” marketing messages. We can easily get swept up in the excitement and then crash and burn by taking on way too much at once. It's not a great way to begin a new year. Instead, we could give ourselves the chance to restore order in our lives and ease into the year one day at  a time Let's take a minute to get our body, mind and space  in order so we can get back in sync with ourselves before we take on whatever the next 12 months have in store. In this episode, I'll share with you three aspects of your life you might want to get in order before you pick up speed this year. Listen in.. Show Highlights Include: Why you should pay attention to the words running through your mind (and how to get your head back in the game) (05:16) How to filter what you watch and read so you avoid things that kick off a negative inner dialogue (07:58)  How to ‘clear your cache' and get your mind to run more efficiently, in order and with clarity. (12:10) 4 important health practices you can adopt to get your body in order. (16:11) Why you should prioritize decluttering and keeping your living and work spaces in order. (22:02) A step-by-step guide to apply these practices to get your mind, body and environment in order. (26:19) Interested in coaching with Brilliant Balance? Schedule an exploratory call here: www.brilliant-balance.com/schedule  Subscribe to The Brilliant Balance Weekly and we'll deliver it to your digital doorstep each Tuesday: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly  Need a few moments of peace? Listen to our free 5 Minute Meditation: www.brilliant-balance.com/breathe/  Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/brilliant_balance  Join our private Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057  Join 30 Days to Vibrant Energy: https://brilliant-balance.com/energy/

As we get ready to turn the page and begin the new year, it's a great time to slow down and reflect on the past one. When we press pause on the typical rhythms of our lives and take a little time to review everything that has happened and what we've learned, we can use those insights to move forward. So let's set you up to host your own self-guided retreat. What's a self-guided retreat? Glad you asked. It's an intentional way to account for the growth you made in the past year and acknowledge any directional shifts you want to make going into the new year. You can learn how to do one here today! Listen in… Show Highlights Include: Why you should never start with a blank slate when planning your thinking day (and the correct way to approach your self-guided retreat). (02:54) The basic tenets of how to execute a successful self-guided retreat. (05:28) How choosing the right spot for your retreats allows you to connect with insights deep inside you (that you may have ignored previously). (06:36) Why a guided, detailed step by step approach is essential for the success of your retreat. (08:00) How being kind to yourself helps you gain a balanced perspective (on both the negative and positive aspects of the year). (11:21) The true purpose of a self-guided retreat (and how using it to build a specific plan might confuse you). (12:30) Why you should keep the insights discovered during your retreat experience sacred and to yourself. (15:13) Download our free step-by-step Self-Guided Retreat here:  www.brilliant-balance.com/selfguidedretreat Interested in coaching with Brilliant Balance? Schedule an exploratory call here: www.brilliant-balance.com/schedule  Subscribe to The Brilliant Balance Weekly and we'll deliver it to your digital doorstep each Tuesday: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly  Need a few moments of peace? Listen to our free 5 Minute Meditation: www.brilliant-balance.com/breathe/  Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/brilliant_balance  Join our private Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057  Join 30 Days to Vibrant Energy: https://brilliant-balance.com/energy/