Fashionably Late

Can trans men be lesbians? That's the "hot" topic all over social right now, and today we openly discussed where we are at surrounding the topic. We talk about how labels can be helpful and hurtful at the same time, and how we continue to learn more and more as we make our way deeper into this community as late in life lesbians.https://www.sheboyganpress.com/story/opinion/readers/2025/06/15/sheboygan-stories-for-pride-month-meet-kirby-ember/84132944007/

In this conversation, Kirby and Ember share their recent experiences, including rescuing baby bunnies, navigating a name change, and managing family dynamics with their children. They reflect on the significance of Father's Day, discuss the differences in how men and women approach planning for special occasions, and engage in political conversations about community involvement. The discussion also touches on personal boundaries in friendships and the importance of checking in on loved ones during challenging times.

In this conversation, Kirby and Ember discuss their experiences and thoughts surrounding Pride Month, personal updates, and the complexities of celebrity identities, particularly focusing on the recent news about Fletcher and Jojo Siwa. They explore themes of representation, the fluidity of sexuality, and the societal pressures surrounding public figures. The conversation emphasizes the importance of love and acceptance, while also critiquing the backlash faced by celebrities who navigate their identities in the public eye.

The summer has arrived. Full force. & so has Pride month! In this episode we talk about the transition into having all of the kids under one roof again and the chaos that comes with it. We're tired... but we're pushin' through! Like we always do.

In this engaging conversation, Kirby and Ember reflect on their journey over the past year, celebrating personal growth and the challenges they faced. They delve into a trending TikTok controversy involving a creator who shifted her identity from a lesbian to a religious perspective, sparking backlash from the LGBTQ+ community. The discussion explores themes of acceptance, personal journeys, and the complexities of identity, while emphasizing the importance of understanding and compassion in the face of differing beliefs. They conclude with reflections on their goals and aspirations for the future.

** APOLOGIES FOR THE SOUND DISRUPTIONS** Most importantly - In this episode, we share Kirby's biopsy results before diving into a discussion surrounding intimacy as a lesbian couple, and how it compares to our history of dating men. We discuss PDA, the honeymoon stage and so much more.

We're burnt out, to say the least, but wanted to take the time to share some updates surrounding Kirby's current health updates, the importance of using our voices in the healthcare system and the need for open communication throughout the journey. We share our plans for a special (and much needed) getaway, other upcoming summer adventures, and overall, the challenges of navigating life's emotional rollercoaster while staying positive and riding the wave.

In this conversation, Kirby and Ember discuss personal updates, including health concerns and the complexities of relationships. They delve into themes of jealousy, bisexuality, and the challenges faced by individuals in straight relationships who identify as bisexual. The discussion highlights the importance of open communication and understanding in relationships, as well as the fluidity of identity and attraction. They encourage listeners to explore their own identities and have honest conversations with their partners.

In this conversation, we discuss the challenges of balancing mental health, learning how to let thoughts and feelings float by without holding onto them, and the importance of knowing the difference between the end of the road and a bump in the road. We share the most recent update on Kirby's top surgery, and dive into the feelings that have come to surface as the journey continues to unfolds.

In this episode we share all the details of our weekend getaway where we shut down and disconnected from all socials. We intentionally focused on each other, our individual selves, our relationship and found our peace again. We talk about how important it is for couples to step away from the chaos of everyday life and give one another their undivided attention and love.

In this episode we discuss Kirby's journey towards top surgery, including the emotional preparation leading up to the consultation, the connection with the surgeon, and the impact of the surgery. We discuss the feelings of nervousness, research, and the importance of documenting the process. Listen in as we explore the emotional and physical journey surrounding top surgery, discussing the importance of body confidence, the role of support from friends and family, underlying fears, and the more intimate dynamics of our relationship.

Back on the grind of normalcy over here after a long spring break with the fam bam - and we're here to share all the updates with you! From the highlights, to the struggles, and everything in between. With Kirby's top surgery consultation right around the corner we touch on their excitement and feelings surrounding the next steps regarding that part of their journey. Feels good to be back, connecting with all of you again. As always, thank you for being here.

We did it! In a little over a year we put out 100 episodes. We have not only learned so much but we have grown even more. We've had the pleasure of meeting and hosting many talented intriguing people, friends and even family. Sharing our love story with you all has been a pleasure, and we look forward to the next 100 episodes and the growth that comes with them. Thank you for being here.

In this episode Em shares her updates about her new career opportunity and how she got to where she is today. We also share news about our upcoming family spring break vacation and the steps we took in order to create a safe and comfortable environment for ourselves and our kids during travel. Lastly, we talk about our new ventures into daily exercise and the goals we have set for ourselves, specifically Kirby's goals before their top surgery.

In this episode Kirby gets more vulnerable and opens up about their journey into top surgery, mental health and how social perceptions of body choices have affected them directly. We discuss the importance of boundaries when navigating big life decisions and how crucial it is to have a support system to lean on while consistently quieting the noise around us.

We'rrrrre back! After taking a week off for mental health reasons, we are back! In this episode we talk about Em's trip back to Colorado to see the kids - and share some breakthrough moments between her and her family. We talk about Kirby's plans for top surgery and even share their new name now that their divorce is final! Lots of big updates in this episode! Definitely one you do not want to miss!

Just a quick weekly update this time. We share a little about Em's birthday week, upcoming travel plans, divorce updates, etc. Thanks for always hangin' with us- and a special thank you to those of you that have been with us since episode 1- the real MVPs! We appreciate you all.

In this episode we had the opportunity to sit down with two of our closest friends, Ledgin and Blaine, and talk about how we have approached politics within family dynamics. As members of the LGBTQIA+ community it can be difficult when someone you love supports a movement that does not support YOU and your existence - learning how to navigate that looks different for each individual-so today we share what has worked for us and offer advice from our own personal experiences. Follow today's guests on TT:Ledgin GermanyBlaine 

In this episode we welcome Lennox (formerly known as Leo) back to the show to discuss the importance of community, visibility, resistance and education at this time of uncertainty. We talk about how we as a community can get "loud" and feel seen while also remembering that our safety and mental health is important, too - and brainstorm some ideas as to how we are going to come together and create power in numbers with and without social media's assistance. You can find Lennox here: FacebookTikTok Self-care for activists resource: Click here.  

Anyone else have whiplash? Tune into today's episode to hear our outlook on the TT "ban" and what steps we are taking to ensure that we are still offering a strong community and support system for our friends and followers regardless of what happens. We share our opinions on the matter and laugh off the small things because truth be told, on a day like today you have to find the silver lining if you can and let everything else roll off your back.

In this episode we share what our top 3 favorite things about being long distance was vs. what our top 3 favorite things about living together are now. From "sexting" to "pexting" and more!

We made it through the holidays! In this episode we resurface conversation surrounding Em addressing Kirby as her "wife" and how that affects (or doesn't affect) their non-binary pronoun preferences. We chat about femininity vs. masculinity and where we categorize ourselves these days, and why! Also, the question remains... Are queer people just simply... more organized? Tell us your thoughts.

Holidays or HoliDAZE? Join us for our last little catch-you-up sesh of 2024.

Do you and your partner share a friend group? Do you sleep next to them at night? Do you spend 100% of your time together or do you each prefer alone time? These are things that we dive into in this episode and share our outlook on the subject. What works for us vs. what doesn't and what we have learned in our relationship about not only ourselves but each other and how we work together as a unit.

In this episode we discuss current lesbian terms and what they mean. With labels always evolving, we describe what we would “label” each other and ourselves and what terms like “dopplebanger” means in the WLW world!

We are... delusional. This week has been a whirlwind- but so worth it. After skipping last week's podcast we wanted to make sure we updated you on life's crazy adventures! Hang with us as we navigate the holidays, and learn how to create new family traditions while blending our family.

Just a little catch up episode! These next couple weeks will be a whirlwind with the holidays and we are doing lots of things behind the scenes to get ready for it. Thanks for hangin' out with us through yet another #fashionablylate Monday.

In this episode we play a fun little game! Em quizzes Kirby on LGBTQIA+ terms. From slang words that were common "back-in-the-day" to terms currently being used by younger generations. Tune in to hear what Kirby's guesses were and learn with us!

In this episode we discuss how election week approaching has affected us as individuals, as members of the LGBTQ+ community and as a WLW couple. We talk about the importance of beliefs, communication, independence and growth. Most importantly, we encourage each and every individual to go out and vote - have a voice and BE HEARD. We love you all and want to remind you - no matter what- take care of yourselves this week.

In this episode we step back a bit and just simply have some genuine chats, with a sprinkle of vents. We share some of our seasonal updates and re-discuss boundaries we have put into place moving into the holiday season. Em also shares some big news regarding what her future holds moving forward!

In this episode we dig into the dynamics of dating while juggling life and parenthood, emphasizing the importance of spontaneity, creativity, and communication in maintaining a healthy relationship. Tune in to hear about our recent date nights, family traditions, etc as well as our take on societal expectations of relationships and the need for deeper, more meaningful compliments beyond physical attraction.

Kelly L. Campbell (they/them) a Trauma-Informed Leadership Coach to emerging and established leaders who want to live, lead, and love with more confidence and freedom. They also do one-on-one Sacred Trauma Healing with those who have experienced trauma in childhood or adulthood. Kelly writes about “The New TLC”—trauma, leadership, and consciousness—on Substack, for Entrepreneur, and in their book, HEAL TO LEAD: Revolutionizing Leadership through Trauma Healing (Wiley, 2024). Their vision is for more than half of humanity to heal its childhood trauma so that we may reimagine and rebuild the world together.Find Kelly here: https://klcampbell.com/Kelly L. C. - Wiley | LinkedInhttps://www.instagram.com/kelly.l.campbell

This week we delve into the complexities of identity, particularly around pronouns and non-binary experiences, emphasizing the importance of communication in relationships. We also touch on the fluidity of gender, the challenges of transitioning, and the significance of emotional connections in lesbian relationships.

In this episode we spent some time chatting with Jen & Margy, a queer couple that came out late in life. We learn about how they met, how they have merged their lives and how coming out had/has an impact on their careers in education.

Let's chat gender roles, shall we? You wouldn't think that a WLW relationship would have "gender roles", but oddly enough- there has been enough discussion surrounding this topic that in this episode we talk about it! How do gender roles, or the lack thereof, play a part in our relationship vs our previous relationships? What do we think about the assumptions we see online regarding fem vs. masc "roles"? Does being nonbinary play a part in it? We answer all the questions and so much more!

There were lots of questions flood in through TikTok surrounding coming out late in life- so we spent an episode answering those questions! From how we came out to our ex-partners, to the status of our divorces and more. If you have questions of your own DM us on Instagram @ fashionably_late_lesbians . We appreciate each and every one of you! Oh, and happy 100k on TT to Kirby!

Em is finally back home and being away from each other this past weekend brought some old feelings to surface. Tune in to hear about some of the realizations we both had while apart from each other and why we thrive so much when together. We also spill all the deets surrounding Em's new exercise program and her plan to get Kirby yolked!

In this episode we read about the three types of anxious attachment in lesbian relationships from the book Lesbian Love Addiction written by Lauren D. Costine. We discuss what type of attachment style we categorize ourselves and each other in our relationship and dive in to our strengths vs. our weaknesses.

Brighid! She's more than just a friend.. she's family, as well as one of our biggest supporters and top listeners! In this episode we play a fun game where Brighid asks Kirby & Em questions about their relationship and each other. We recap the weekend we had together (Em and B met for the first time!) including karaoke and good laughs! Such a fun episode! We love you, Brighid!

Lesbian TT drama, therapy, 2 year anniversaries, new ventures and so much more! Come catch up with us.

Em made it back to Wisconsin in one piece and after taking a week off we have lots to catch you all up on! Things are settling into place and now that summer break is coming to an end we are finding our new routine all over again. As soon as you get used to something, it changes, right?

We're back in a hotel - in Colorado, showing up for you in real time, after a 20 hour drive across the country... and we are EXHAUSTED. Tune in to hear how the roadtrip went, how the kid are adjusting to the changes, and what our next moves are when it comes to our brand, our travels, and our relationship in general.

We are down to our last week of summer break, and the next three weeks are going to be chaotic to the least. Tune in to hear whats coming next for us- and the kids. Life is wild. Keep riding the wave- and keep loving unconditionally.

As the summer comes to an end, the kiddos will head back to Colorado soon so Em opens up about motherhood and her personal custody situation (we know, you're all dying to know)... we give some updates on where we are at with the house remodel and toss out the idea of a new app for lesbian hands.

Phew, what a weekend! We spent our time diving into more house projects and spending quality family time together! In this episode we give our weekly update but more importantly we discuss a deeper side of being openly "out" in public and how that has affected our children and our family as a blended unit.

It's date night, and it's our ONE MONTH anniversary of living together! Holy smokes! What a whirlwind! In this episode we catch you up on the newest deets, discuss a deeper softer part of how we love each other, touch on new found levels of relationships with our boys, give our opinions on PDA and show off our date night fits.

In this episode we vented some of the more frustrating and emotional moments we have been experiencing, while sharing some of the more vulnerable details of how we have been navigating life in general right now, separately and together.

In this episode Em and Kirby talk openly about the hardest struggle they've come across when it comes to living together vs. favorite parts of living together. A proper compliment sandwich, budget lesbian style.

This is a big moment! This is our first episode recorded and uploaded to YouTube! That's exciting, but also, bear with us as we figure out and fine tune the specs when it comes to audio/video. In the meantime- we spend this episode catching you all up on the process of blending our families and some of the more intimate details of what that looks like for us. Thanks for stickin' with us through our journey- we're excited to continue growing together in all the ways.

Holy. CRAP! We did it. Em's relocation across the country has officially HAPPENED and we are all under one roof- doing the damn thing! What a whirlwind. We are exhausted, and have a million things going in a hundred different directions but most of all- we are thankful. So incredibly thankful- for each other, for our kids, for our supporters and friends, for our home, our family, the love we share in general, and so much more. In the words of Kirby themselves - "Smile- Life is Good."

We are in THE FINAL COUNTDOWN... and boy do we feel it. There are exactly 7 days until we drive across the country and Em officially relocates. The excitement, anxiety, stress, and so much more is overflowing but it's pretty cool that we're ridin' the wave WE created and doin' BIG things, together. This week's episode is a catch-up on all the details surrounding our beautifully blended and wild little love story!