The GYST of It - Anxiety and Self-Confidence Advice, Guides and Conversations

Welcome to The Reducing Anxiety with CBT Mini-Course with myself Chris Piercy from GYST Hypnotherapy and Life Coaching. If you're watching and haven't signed up for the free course then you can do so here: https://gystcoaching.co.uk/free-cbt-course In this part you'll find out all about control and the role that it plays in increasing or decreasing anxiety.

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Welcome to The Reducing Anxiety with CBT Mini-Course with myself Chris Piercy from GYST Hypnotherapy and Life Coaching. If you're watching and haven't signed up for the free course then you can do so here: https://gystcoaching.co.uk/free-cbt-course In this introductory video I'm going to be telling you what CBT is, the theory behind it, give you some examples of how it is used in day-to-day life, talk about the advantages of it, talk about when it might not be helpful before finishing off by giving you your very first exercise.

Karma eh? If the nicest person you've ever met whose had an impossibly hard life won the lottery you'd probably say that there was no-one more deserving of it And if someone who liked putting kittens on train tracks to watch them die got hit by a train you probably wouldn't say they deserved what they got. But you might well think it (I'm not judging you.) I think that as humans it can be quite nice for us to see “bad things” happening to “bad people” and “good things” happening to “good people.” Please excuse the overuse of “ in that sentence. The problem is that it simply doesn't happen that way at all. One of the nicest most genuine people I've ever met, who I knew basically my whole life was struck down with oesophageal cancer. Died 30+ years too soon. Sadly I'm sure you can easily think of times where life has been wholly cruel to someone genuinely wonderful. Bad things happen, good things happen, this is irrespective of the saintliness of a person. Put simply there is no such thing as people deserving life's events. But this doesn't mean that we shouldn't be a good person because good stuff can happen to good people. The thing is though, it's got nothing to do with Karma whatsoever. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ https://gystcoaching.co.uk

Why is it that some people are completely chilled about dating, others overanalyse every interaction and message, and there are others who seem to deliberately sabotage what seem like perfectly reasonable dating opportunities? The answer is very simple - these different sets of people have different “attachment styles”. Attachment is the emotional bond that forms in us in early childhood but there is also evidence to suggest that people are genetically predisposed to becoming a particular attachment style. This emotional bond unconsciously sets out the patterns which later become the core of how our adult relationships are based - both in romance and friendship. The 4 attachment styles are as follows: Secure Anxious Avoidant Disorganised (anxious-avoidant) People do not have to be necessarily pigeon-holed into one style and some people's attachment style can vary depending on the attachment style of the person with whom the relationship is with. It is important to understand also that attachment styles are stable but plastic, this means that they will not wildly fly all over the place but also they can be trained to become more secure. It might be the case that just by seeing the headlines of the styles you feel you know which category you fit into but let me give you the low-down on what might be typical romantic relationship traits of someone from each style. ___________________________ Find out your attachment type in 5 minutes here - https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/

Communicating effectively is vital in all aspects of life and when disagreement comes along it tends to get worse rather than better. Ex-magician and now public speaker Lee Warren delivers engaging and amusing talks on how to communicate better and how to get people on your side, this flows through all aspects of life whether it be arguments on Facebook or disagreements in the home. Unsurprisingly Lee was a wonderful guest, ridiculously easy to communicate with and funny to boot. Bring with you a pen and pencil to write all of the books that Lee recommends you read! You can find out more about Lee hear - www.leewarrenspeaker.com ****************************************** For more information about hypnotherapy and life coaching with me head to gystcoaching.co.uk

Getting rejected sucks, doesn't it? It always tends to feel like a rejection of us, us as a person, there's something wrong with us, they're right, we're wrong, what's wrong with us? But this isn't actually the case, rejection across our lives comes in all different shapes and sizes and whilst very occasionally it might be an "us" thing, it is usually a "them" thing - it's their opinion and they are entitled to that. In this episode of The GYST of It Podcast I talk about why rejection stings so much, how to make it sting less in the future and a whole host of reasons that the rejection maybe entirely different to how you view it. In short the best way to deal with rejection is to accept yourself in the first place. Podcast on dealing with uncertainty - Episode 043 Email me: chris@gystcoaching.co.uk Find out more: gystcoaching.co.uk

Compliments are so hard to take, right? Wrong. It's a simple case of saying "thank you" or "I appreciate you saying that" or if you're really pushing the boat out...both! So, why is it that people find compliments so hard to take? In this episode I talk about this and how to make taking compliments easier. -------------------------------------------------------- If you're looking to increase your self-confidence - head here: https://bit.ly/gystconfidence Interested in becoming a client? Drop me an email chris@gystcoaching.co.uk Want to find out more about the Hypnotherapy & Life Coaching I offer? gystcoaching.co.uk

Whether you think you're being lied to a lot, are guilty of letting porky pies slip out your mouth or struggle to even be honest with yourself and your own feelings then you're in the right place. In this episode of The GYST of It Podcast I dive in on all things honesty. In truth this came about from a situation I faced in my own life where, when pressed by my life coach, I realised I was feeling bad about it because I wasn't being honest with my own feelings and therefore they had to be let out. Regardless of the reason you're coming at this episode I think you'll take something useful away. For more on setting boundaries: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=986B_Dutx9c Whenever you're ready there are 4 ways in which I can help you. - Listen to more advice on The GYST of It Podcast: https://bit.ly/gystpodcast - Email me your questions: chris@gystcoaching.co.uk - Book a FREE Video Consultation: https://bit.ly/bookgyst - Ask about booking your first online or in-person session: chris@gystcoaching.co.uk

It's hot, it's SO hot at the moment! Oh and everyone is poor and the last thing we want is to buy a fan or increase our energy bills by running one overnight, and no we don't want to buy new pillows, mattresses, duvets, egyptian cotton sheets or anything else. We just want a good night's sleep! So this episode is all about how to get a good night's sleep when it's really flippin' hot without spending any more money! Enjoy! Chris www.gystcoaching.co.uk

Anger is possibly the misunderstood emotions, frequently thought of as just shouting, violence and going crazy but anger can be use in a calm and powerful away, without raising your voice at all. In this episode I'll be talking about anger itself and then a whole host of different things that you can do to help you deal with anger if it is a problem area for you in your life. For more on setting boundaries check out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=986B_Dutx9c If you're interested in therapy session or simply a consultation you can email me chris@gystcoaching.co.uk or read more about my business www.gystcoaching.co.uk

If you fall into the very easy trap of comparing yourself to other people then this episode is for you. I talk about: - The futility of comparison - Why it is impossible to make (fair) comparisons - Why you ultimately set yourself up for a fall - Why social media is one of the worst places to be - And who you should be comparing yourself to For more on helping your self-confidence please check out this episode: Increase Your Self-Confidence Part 1 And for help with Self-Esteem head here If you'd like to chat about having a free consultation then drop me an email chris@gystcoaching.co.uk or head to my website for more information about who I am and what I do: gystcoaching.co.uk

Decisions, for some people at least, can be really hard to make. In this episode I will be talking about the different reasons why people find decisions hard to make and ways to combat them, not only this but I'll be giving you several simple and concise ways in which you can start making better decisions in your life immediately. For more information about working with me directly for hypnotherapy or life coaching please head to: https://gystcoaching.co.uk

Phobias can sit quietly in the background of your life or they can stop you from doing the things that you want to do in life. In today's episode of The GYST of It Podcast I can about how to know whether your phobia is irrational or not and discuss how to create a hierarchy of your phobia in order to get over it. Once you have this established I give some helpful hints and tips about how to change your mindset towards the phobia and how to begin to get over it. I appreciate that what I provide is a slightly reductionist view of phobia but I hope that it provides so form of help or inspiration to you. Should you want direct help with your phobia then please get in contact with me by email chris@gystcoaching.co.uk or head to www.gystcoaching.co.uk for more information Phobia Hierarchy for Spiders: 1 - See a spider on TV 2 - See a small spider through glass 3 - Have a small spider in the same room as you 4 - Have a large spider in the same room as you 5 - Catch a small spider yourself 6 - Catch a large spider yourself 7 - Let yourself remain in the room where a spider is 8 - Catch a spider in your hands 9 - See a venomous spider in glass 10 - Hold a non-venomous spider

What started as a fun way to reconnect with old friends, show an insight into your life and meet new people has now turned into what is essentially huge advertising platforms. Whether it's tiktok, Instagram, facebook, youtube, all of them give profound opportunities to feel bad about yourself. In this video I'll be talking (maybe ranting) about how you can protect your self worth by covering the content you consume, the content you put out there as well as how you engage with content and comments. Looking for hypnotherapy or life coaching? Then head to https://gystcoaching.co.uk

What would make you happy right now? If you could snap your fingers and have anything to make you happy what would that be? When you ask people what would make them happy they'll typically tell you that they need a holiday, or they need a new car, or they want to win the lottery. And yes, getting away from it all, travelling more comfortably or losing your financial issues would definitely help improve your happiness…for a while. But are those bigger, short term things what are really going to make the difference to your life as a whole? I guess by the tone of this you can already tell that I'm going to answer that with the word no. Listen to find out why... ______ Links ______ Setting Boundaries: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3y9y2VxX0R8kddcwWf3SAp?si=e2fd322468c343d2 Gratitude: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1660gLER9fhj9uAaD1S51Z?si=a4e23334fa744d42 Acceptance: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1ZF0zW4BCEe2Th5nijb6x4?si=18b2601f46474c70 Control: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2KfaDQaDUJngFhzkWABrJi?si=9a5fb02b45494d6e More on working with me: https://gystcoaching.co.uk

Geraint (not G) Clarke @geraint_clarke and I had a great chat about our lives during this episode. He is the CEO of one of the biggest magic companies in the world, Ellusionist, he is a creator of magic tricks, an accomplished and respected writer and an all around nice guy.- you'll find the answers to such questions as How is someone's life so boring that Geraint's teapot became a subject of discussion in their marriage? Why a misrepresented event in a reality TV show made Geraint have to move towns. What were the moments and the inspirations that changed our lives? How the pandemic was so boring that being taller than someone made a day in Geraint's life great What I was thoroughly addicted to. How the life of children has changed How to find your passion in life. And so much more. ------------------------------------------------------------------- For more information about working with me directly for hypnotherapy or for life coaching then head to https://gystcoaching.co.uk

Chris has a long term effed back (technical term) and Danielle has Rheumatoid Arthritis, in Chronically Iconic we have very honest and frank conversations about what it is like living with pain, the restrictions it causes us, what we're trying to do to help things and the problems we overcome. Hopefully presented in a fun, conversational and enjoyable way. For more about Danielle check her out on Instagram @theenchantednanny Want to a free exploratory call with me? Book one HERE

I think this about myself, so you MUST think this about me so I am going to do THIS. That is psychological projection in a nutshell. It is damaging to our relationships, to our self-esteem and to our ability to make the changes that we want in life. This video briefly covers what projection is, some examples and 8 different things that you can do in order to help you project less. __________________________________________ Further Resources Self-Esteem: https://bit.ly/gystselfesteem Self-Confidence: https://bit.ly/gystconfidence Want to work with me, book in a free 1-on-1 call: https://bit.ly/bookgyst

Rackley first and foremost is my cousin but he and his wife Melissa have created Bravely - a mental health tracking app made in partnership with therapists and psychologists. Rackley, Mel and their team also trawl through scientific research on what helps mental health and turn what can be quite plain and dull scientific jargon into easy to understand and hence implement into your life. We also speak about the shocking leukaemia diagnosis that Mel received aged just 29, the trauma that her and Rackley had to go through, that support he gave her through the darkest hours and how honest communication forged their relationship making them stronger than ever. A compelling, moving, inspirational and helpful listen. To download Bravely go here - https://bravely.io/ "Evidence-based. Holistic. And never fluffy. Straight from the minds of therapists, psychologists, scientists, and real humans — just like you." ********************************************** For more on GYST Coaching head to https://gystcoaching.co.uk

When Sophie from Kooky Bloom was told by a doctor to take up a hobby to help with her crippling anxiety she could barely believe what she was hearing, fast forward a couple of years and what started as a way to distract herself is now a full-time business selling handmade jewellery across the world, endorsed by celebrities and loved by all. Sophie's story is one of passion, disbelief, self-doubt and how even anxiety that causes panic attacks can be calmed down and managed. In this inspirational episode we talk about imposter syndrome, body image, anxiety and much more. To find out more about Kooky Bloom head to their website or head over to their Instagram *********************************************** For more on GYST Coaching head to Website Instagram Or Book a Free Call with Chris

People used to just write in a diary and call it "keeping a diary" now a new trend in "journalling" is increasing in popularity, voice journalling however is a slightly old idea being brought up to date with modern technology. One of the people pioneering this is Rory Adams who has created the app "Sound Off" which allows you to....sound off.... about whatever you like, the app not only acts as a place for all your recordings it also gives you prompts to inspire thoughts and feelings to come out and has a plethora of content designed to help with specific issues that you might be working on or goals you might be setting. In this episode I chat with Rory about the app itself, why it came about and how he has gone from working with some huge names in showbusiness (Dynamo and Neil Patrick Harris to name just a couple) to creating a voice journalling app. Sound off is only available on iPhone at present but there is a wait list to join if you would like it on android - head to trysoundoff.com to get it. For more about life coaching and hypnotherapy head to gystcoaching.co.uk

What is it that allows some people to deal with life's problems and stresses seemingly with ease while others struggle to let go of the past? Qualified Teacher, Mother of 4 and Childcare Guru Danielle Manton-Kelly of The Enchanted Nanny joins me as we chat about all things self-care, self-love and the honest conversations that you need to have with your inner-child in order to make progress, gain resilience and move on with your life. A fascinating chat that seemed to absolutely fly by. ****************************** Check out The Enchanted Nanny: Instagram | Website ****************************** If you'd like to talk to me about Hypnotherapy or Life Coaching head to https://gystcoaching.co.uk

Life can sometimes feel dark, terrifying, and relentlessly awful - bad things can happen often through no fault of our own and we find ourselves in a situation where we simply don't know how to feel happy or positive about the future. I know, I've been there. However, every day for the last 2 years (since 25/1/2020) I've taken just 5 minutes out of my day to do the same thing, I've done it on good days, bad days and every day in between EVERY day without fail. And this simple task is to just write down all of the positive things that have happened in that day no matter how difficult they are to find. Listen to find out more. To book a free 1-on-1 discovery call with me please head to https://bit.ly/bookgyst

Whether you're suffering with physical discomfort from an injury or condition, or whether you're hurting due to some emotional trauma taking 15 minutes out to listen to this hypnosis audio will be of benefit to you. DO NOT LISTEN TO THIS WHILST DRIVING OR DURING ANY ACTIVITY THAT REQUIRES YOUR CONCENTRATION. For more about hypnotherapy and life coaching with GYST Coaching head to www.gystcoaching.co.uk

Boundaries - How to Set, Maintain, and Defend them If you've got to the point in life where you might describe yourself better as a doormat rather than a human being, or you get simply told that “you're too nice” then you're in the right place. The boundaries that we set in our lives are the difference between being trampled all over or standing up for ourselves and how we are going to accept being treated. If you haven't already then I'd really strongly recommend checking out this brief blog about the types of boundary that you might consider setting. But why is setting boundaries so important? Well, this is best explained by explaining the boundaries that you already have firmly set in your head without even thinking about it. The boundaries you already have I think it would be generally safe to say that the house/flat which you own/rent you'd consider to be “yours”, you live there, your stuff is there and you spend the majority of your time there. If one day whilst the front door was open a stranger walked in and sat on your sofa and started watching Netflix you'd quite rightly be freaked out and ask them to leave. This unlikely scenario is an easy example of boundary which you already have, you know how to maintain it (keep the door shut) and you know how to defend it (ask people to leave, call the police etc). I appreciate this is a weird example but it is very easy to understand. This is an example of a physical boundary. Here's another. When a private number calls you and you don't answer, that is an example of a communication boundary. The boundary is that you only answer the phone to people you know, you maintain it by not answering your phone and you defend it by blocking/reporting the number as spam. In terms of structure this is actually no different to deciding whether you are going to put up with someone talking down to you or any other boundary you might want to set. The application is the same, just the boundary itself changes. Let's be clear on exactly what a boundary is though..... ******************************************************** Links mentioned in the video: How to Apologise Less: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m3jqIVTkd_Q How to be more self-confident: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXpcTwiBkTE How to increase self-esteem: https://bit.ly/gystselfesteem Book a free 1-on-1 call with me: https://bit.ly/bookgyst

When relationships end people tell their close friends and family who rally around them and give them tea, biscuits and normally the same bit of advice. “You should spend some time by yourself before starting anything new” or words to that effect. This is normally followed by the person ignoring this and jumping at the first person who shows them a bit of attention or ankle, and before they know it they find themselves in another relationship which doesn't have the best chance of success again. To be clear, I'm not saying that if you haven't spent any time alone then your next relationship is doomed and you can still increase your chances of it being a success by doing one very complex yet simple thing. Love yourself. Listen in full to find out why. Or read the blog here: https://bit.ly/gyst-ingredient Follow for more on Instagram: https://instagram.com/gystlifecoaching Book a free exploratory call here: https://bit.ly/bookgyst

In the funny, moving and downright chaotic series The Good Place there is a moment in it which genuinely made me think hard. The show, if you haven't seen it, is all about the afterlife and essentially the existence of “heaven/The Good Place” and “hell/The Bad Place” and what qualifies people to be in either. I'm someone who hates spoilers so will not ruin it for anyone who hasn't seen it. At one point some characters arrive in The Good Place and are met with someone of the most influential, compassionate, kind and brilliant people from history who have been there since they passed. In The Good Place they can do anything, have anything and nothing ever goes wrong. And guess how everyone feels? Bored. In fact so bored that they want to die, but they can't because they're already dead - so they've been condemned to an afterlife of “perfection”. I found this so interesting and alarmingly accurate. People speak about winning the lottery so that they could buy this, have that, do this etc without any burden, troubles or responsibility but is that what they really want? In this vlog I'm going to be discussing why suffering is actually necessary in order for us to enjoy life. ************************************* Anxiety Toolkit: https://bit.ly/freeanxietytoolkit Website: https://gystcoaching.co.uk Book a FREE call with me: https://bit.ly/bookgyst

Positive thinking is one of the latest things that you simply must do if you want your life to be better apparently. You'll see it in people's instagram bios - “positive thinking only”, on dating profiles you'll see “no negativity allowed”, and people will insist that they're a positive thinker and that is the only people they want in their lives. And that must be simply wonderful for them and although this sounds sarcastic as hell I am genuinely pleased that these people are able to live in this manner. Constant positive thinking is hard work if you're someone who simply isn't used to doing it, there isn't a switch in your head that you flick and can instantly let go of all the negativity in your life. That's why in this blog I'm going to be presenting a much better alternative to just thinking positively all the time. But first I have a question. Is Constant Positive Thinking Actually Good for You? ************************************************** Website: https://gystcoaching.co.uk Gratitude Blog: https://bit.ly/gystgratitude Acceptance Blog: https://bit.ly/gystacceptance

I'm fully aware that there are so many sources for information about this but I wanted to create something that had all of the best things I can think to do "in the moment" of increased anxiety to help reduce it. If you're interested in finding out more about my 4-week anti-anxiety course then find it here: https://gystcoaching.co.uk/from-anxiousness-to-awesomeness Want to support the podcase then buy me a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/gystcoaching

You'd meditate if you had the time, right? Well, here's no excuse not to. Take literally 1-minute now to reset your mind, calm yourself and get on with having a great day. ***************************** Want to find out more about what I do? Head to https://gystcoaching.co.uk Self-improvement videos: https://bit.ly/gystyoutube Free Anxiety Toolkit: https://bit.ly/freeanxietytoolkit

In part 3 we'll be diving deeper into more techniques including the very biggest one of all, stopping caring what other people think about you. In part 1 and part 2 you've hopefully learnt about how attractiveness is a mental game not a physical one and also taken on board a few techniques which can help you accept that what you look like is what you look like, in part 3 we're going to be continuing to build upon these techniques that will get you believing that you're an attractive person. Hold yourself to the same standards as everyone else On Instagram in particular I am a big fan of women celebrating other women and their appearance. If someone I'm following posts a photo of themselves within minutes there will be a gang of women throwing out boundless positivity about how incredible they look. Maybe you have even been one of those people throwing body positivity around like confetti. What's stopping you doing the same for yourself? Maybe you have a muffin top and you think that's not attractive so you don't post the photo of you where that's showing a bit. I absolutely guarantee that if a friend posted a photo with a little muffin top showing you wouldn't comment saying “yo, what's with the muffin top?”, you'd be telling her she was beautiful. What makes you so special that you get treated to much more brutal standards huh? ********************************************** Blog - https://bit.ly/gyst-attractive-3 Website - https://gystcoaching.co.uk

Feeling down in the dumps and want a quick lift to raise your spirits and motivate you for your day? And all within just 5 minutes? You've got it and you're welcome! ************************************* Head to gystcoaching.co.uk to find out more about life coaching and hypnotherapy Anxious? Get Access to my FREE Anxiety Toolkit here

Recommend listening to Part 1 first If you want to start finding yourself more attractive and you've not read part 1 yet then please do - there's an important exercise at the end of that which can really get you started well on your journey to thinking you're as fine as you are! Below are a whole host of different things which will help you find yourself more attractive, I'd advise giving all of them a go. I'll talk about my own experience of doing them as well. Mirror Work You are probably going to hate this, it's going to sound cringey and awkward - and that's because it is but goodness me it is a powerful way of accepting your appearance. It will take you 5 minutes a day and I implore you to try it for a week. Quite simply you go up to a mirror close enough that your field of vision is taken up by your whole face, from here you are going to look at every little part of your face. Every perceived imperfection, every line, every corner, every part. And, preferably out loud, tell yourself - for example - “I accept the crease on my forehead”, “I accept the lines around my eyes”, “I accept the size of my nose”. You don't have to love these things or like them or even want to keep them as they are, you just have to accept that this is what they are right now. When I did this I liked to systematically go through each different part making sure I didn't miss anything, telling myself I accepted them. Finally I would make direct eye contact with myself and say “I accept myself.” Yes, it's awkward and cringey at first but you'll be surprised how enlightening an experience it is. ********************************************************* Want to boost your self-esteem? Then check out my free self-esteem booster Want to have a free chat with me 1-on-1 about your issues and how I can help? Book here through Total Health West Berks

How to Start Finding Yourself Attractive Why is it so hard to find yourself attractive? Just the idea of saying “I'm sexy” or “I'm hot” without cringing yourself inside out seems utterly impossible to a lot of people. They would in fact rather be thought of as being unattractive over being believed to think that they themselves are attractive. What on earth is the problem with thinking something so positive about yourself? In this episode I'm going to be talking about how to find yourself attractive, talking quite starkly about my own journey through this relatively recently. Reaching a tipping point When I came out of my last long term relationship my belief about how attractive I was couldn't have been lower. I'm not going to go into the reasons why, that's not necessary but I wanted to talk to you frankly about my own discovery that I am actually a pretty attractive person. I started at a point where I thought I was ugly, that no-one would like someone bald, that my body lacked anything sexually interesting about it at all and that there was roughly a zero percent chance that anyone would possibly want to have sex with me. Like I said, it couldn't have been lower. To be honest I spent a good few months just allowing this feeling of physical inadequacy just to sit there doing its thing. Weirdly this wasn't the worst thing because given where I was at in my life and with lockdowns in place it actually helped in preventing me from falling into the trap of thinking online dating would have been a good thing for me which it wouldn't have been. I was “damaged goods” at that point and subjecting myself to the emotional rollercoaster that online dating can often bring would have put dynamite on the fire. And I continued to not do anything about it until I had a tipping point moment. Out of the blue someone told me in no uncertain terms how hot they thought I was. And I cried...a lot. I'm very pleased that this was done via message or it would have been a situation of Bridget Jones level cringy-ness This was the moment where I realised just how unattractive I thought I was and how this might not actually be in alignment with reality. It also reaffirmed something that I knew, I REALLY knew and that it was buried deep down under years and years of feeling so terrible about myself. And that thing was that attractiveness is a mindset. Read the full Part 1 blog Here Want a self-esteem boost? Here's my 5-minute-a-day self-esteem booster Fancy a free chat with me 1-on-1 about how I can help you achieve whatever you want to achieve? Book here with me at Total Health West Berks

Let's be clear, you're going to die one day. The moment you were born you were given a death sentence. Right now that shocking thought which, let's be honest, you already knew will either be terrifying you or inspiring you. ************************************************************* Anxiety Toolkit: https://gystcoaching.co.uk/the-anxiety-toolkit Book a Free Call: https://bit.ly/bookgyst Full Blog: https://bit.ly/gystdeath ************************************************************* If you've found that the stark reminder that you're going to die one day scary then hopefully this blog will help you take death as a inspiration to live your life in the way you really want to. In Stoic philosophy there is a well known expression “Memento Mori” - which translates from Latin to mean “Remember you will die”. The Stoics liked to be reminded of their mortality as it forced them to take an honest look at what they were doing and how they were living their life. Death essentially forced them to live life on the terms that they were genuinely happy with. Being on your deathbed I'd like you to imagine for a moment that you are on your deathbed, you know that the grim reaper is waiting to take you so all that is left is for you to think about your life. As you lay there do you think you wished you spent more time worrying? Were those hours on TikTok really time well spent? Would those small things that angered so much really worth losing your tranquillity over? Do you wish you'd had more arguments? The answer to all of the above is “probably not”. Looking back at your life from now, what do you wish you'd done more of? Which things have been a waste of time? Which things do you think you'd have been better off letting go of? The answers that you come up with are a powerful insight into the way in which you could live your life with much more joy. Here's the thing though, whilst you might not be on your deathbed at this second, but death can, and does, strike at any moment. You could be hit by a bus, have a tragic cancer diagnosis, or you could just hit your head and never wake up again. These ideas might be somewhat grim to think about but they serve as a reminder to live your life with more joy, the path to which has been shown by answering the questions above.

If the word sorry slips out of your mouth before you've even had a chance to think then listen on. This episode goes into detail about why you apologise so much, why it is potentially so damaging to you and most importantly 7 different things to try in order to stop you over-apologising. If you'd like help with self-confidence or self-esteem please check out the following links. Self-Confidence: https://youtu.be/ZXpcTwiBkTE Self-Esteem: https://bit.ly/gystselfesteem If you'd like a free 1-to-1 discovery call with me to see if I'm the right person to help with your issues head to https://bit.ly/bookgyst Anxiety Toolkit: https://gystcoaching.co.uk/the-anxiety-toolkit

This progressive muscle relaxation has been recorded over the sound of gentle waves crashing onto the beach. You'll find that there's no nonsense, woo-woo or fluff in this PMR just a simple to follow audio which will get to gain deeper awareness of your body and relax it all part by part. ***************************************************** A progressive muscle relaxation (PMR) is a well-researched and documented away of bringing about a deep state of relaxation. In this PMR I'll be instructing you to become aware of a particular body part and then to either actually contract the muscles or just imagine contracting them - before releasing the tension again. Please note that if you have an injury to any of the body parts mentioned the tension should only be imagined not actually created. **************************************************** PMR has been shown to reduce stress and anxiety. It can also help to lower your heart rate. This makes it a great thing to do during particularly stressful times, such as before an exam or after you've had an argument. Multiple studies have shown that PMR can have physical benefits too, including reduction in blood pressure and improvement of overall quality of life. For more about GYST Coaching head to https://gystcoaching.co.uk Anxiety Toolkit: https://gystcoaching.co.uk/the-anxiety-toolkit Book a Free Call: https://bit.ly/bookgyst

“It's all in your head”. If you've suffered from any mental issue at all, particularly one where that causes physical symptoms such as in IBS and Anxiety then you've heard this before. Whether it's from an unsympathetic partner, a friend who's trying to help or someone who just doesn't get it, it never feels great to hear. But today I'm going to explain why hearing this, no matter how it is said, should serve as an inspiration about improving your issue. Allow me to explain… If you'd like to sign up for the FREE anxiety toolkit head to https://bit.ly/freeanxietytoolkit To work with me directly drop me an email chris@gystcoaching.co.uk Read the blog here: https://bit.ly/its-all-in-your-head

Struggling to get out of bed, then struggle no more - it's time for you to get the f#*k out of bed. Like, literally, now. Get up, get dressed and go and be awesome. If you want to help smashing your goals and getting your s#!t together then head to www.gystcoaching.co.uk

How to be more tolerant of uncertainty Humans are often described as being creatures of habit, we like routine, we like knowing where we're going to be and to an extent we love certainty. Uncertainty however is the great cause of anxiety, with all of the millions of possible things that can happen at any given time, what if one of the hundreds of thousands of bad things happen? How will I possibly deal with things if x, y or even z happens? In this episode I'm going to show you how to better tolerate uncertainty by showing you how beautiful it is and how we actually crave it. ***************************** If you'd like to get FREE access to The Anxiety Toolkit head to https://bit.ly/free-anxiety-toolkit

In this episode I'll be teaching you 3 different ways in you can deal with intrusive thoughts: 1) Identify, Accept, Redirect 2) A mindfulness approach 3) Socratic Questioning No one approach is better than the other, it's a case of trying each one out and seeing what works best for you. If you suffer with recurrent, intrusive or otherwise unhelpful thoughts then this video has been made specifically for someone just like you. Our thoughts control how we feel so if we can learn to control our thoughts we can learn to control how we feel. We examine how to identify thoughts, how thoughts are not facts and I give an "in therapy" example of how Socratic Questioning works. If you'd like to get access my FREE Anxiety Toolkit which features the Socratic Question List mentioned in this then head to https://gystcoaching.co.uk/free-anxiety-toolkit

If you're feeling overwhelmed right now then this will calm you down in minutes. This episode has been designed specifically for overthinkers, people who suffer with panic attacks and those who can be overwhelmed by their thoughts. There's no fluff, introduction or waffle we get straight into calming you down in a way which actually work even, or perhaps especially, if your mind is racing. We start off with a grounding exercise to bring your mind into the present whilst simultaneously keeping your brain nice and busy with a task to complete - it's all very simple. Once your brain is a little more relaxed we then move into a breathing exercise that will calm it even further. *********************************************** If you'd like to watch my video 3 ways to deal with intrusive thoughts click here Click here for my FREE Anxiety Toolkit To book a therapy consultation with me click here

Overcoming phobias can seem like a pretty daunting thing to do, the problem being that the longer the fear goes on the worse it tends to become. Your fear may then get to the point where you seek therapy in some form or other to help overcome it. This has been a very typical scenario for clients I've seen for professional hypnotherapy sessions to overcome a whole range of fears from arachnophobia to fears of flying and the more unique ones as well. People will have been coping with the fear for years, perhaps noticing a slow decline and then they will reach a tipping point, it might not be a drastic event, it's just that they suddenly just become utterly fed up of having the fear. There are things that most people with phobias tend to do which is actually making their fear worse, so I've made a list of the 6 things that you should stop doing if you want to overcome a phobia. Read the full blog here: https://bit.ly/gystphobias Book in a free chat here: https://bit.ly/bookgyst

So, you've matched with someone! Congratulations, how ridiculously exciting is that? Chances are that you probably swiped on them or messaged them because you were into them for a good reason, the chances are they matched with you for similarly good reasons - remember that moving forwards. In this final part we're going to be discussing: - Why sweating the first message gets you nowhere - Why you should not only give people respect but also demand that same level of respect back again - The importance of honesty, yes HONESTY! - Keeping things light and breezy - Being Patient - Moving Away from App Chatting - How to deal with unwanted content you receive - How you're not the only one and they probably aren't either - And How completely uncool Ghosting is Head to https://bit.ly/gystdating to read the full blog.

Once you've entered the world of literally thousands of potential partners or hook-ups it can be pretty exciting or perhaps even intimidating. In this section we'll be talking about: - Keeping yourself grounded - Remembering people are busy - The importance of actually reading people's profile - Restricting your time on the apps - And perhaps most importantly why you need to NOT project your insecurities onto them. To read the blog in full head to https://bit.ly/gystdating

Modern dating is an emotional minefield. This series will provide you with my top tips to keep yourself from going crazy, getting hurt, getting used whilst still feeling as if you're being yourself. In this introduction I talk about the importance of Control, Acceptance and Integrity. - You'll hear why it's important to understand that you're only ever in control of your thoughts and your actions. - I'll give you the cold hard truth of the world you're entering into by using modern dating apps and how it's different. - And why I think it is important for you to act with honesty and integrity when you're in the modern dating world. Look out for the next two parts of the video series, the next part is keeping mentally healthy before you've even matched and the final part talks about what to do once you've matched with someone. I want to be clear that this is not dating advice, it's not about how to be attractive, it isn't about the rules of dating, it is about developing a healthy mindset towards modern dating, protecting yourself from hurt whilst still being you. You can read the full blog at https://bit.ly/gystdating

Imagine a place where you could leave all your troubles behind. A simple doorway you could walkthrough that could lead to anywhere. Adios Anxiety, See-ya Stress, Farewell Phobias! In the simple, deep hypnosis relaxation exercise you can take some much needed time for yourself to unwind, de-stress, re-assess and recharge your batteries. Find somewhere comfortable where you're not going to be disturbed, put some headphones in/on and just take it easy - you've earned it. ***************************** Want to leave anxiety behind for good? Check out my 28-day course "From Anxiousness to Awesomeness" - Available now.

Moving on from a bad break-up can be done and you will do it. This is the best advice that I could muster from my experience of going through a bad break-up, being trained as a therapist and the advice that my own life coach passed on to me. In this final part I talk about: - How and why you need to set solid boundaries with your ex - Understanding what your "new" relationship with your ex is now - The importance of finding and fixing yourself. - Why you need to "be single" before you go into your next relationship - The power you give yourself by taking the time to heal - And deciding what you want from your next, more healthy, relationship ************************** If you'd like to work directly with me to help with your break-up or any issues that have arisen because of it then head to gystcoaching.co.uk where you can read more, book in a free consultation or book in an appointment for life coaching or hypnotherapy. Wishing you a happy and healthy new relationship in the future.

Want to move on from your bad break-up and start moving forwards with your life? Part 3 of my guide to recovering from a bad break-up focuses on starting to move forwards with your recovery. I'll be discussing: - The importance of having a support network. - Why you should never feel guilty about unloading your life's problems on to your loved ones (and how to do this) - Why memory lane is the worst place to go right now. - An little known Facebook feature to help with nostalgia - Why you need to stay grounded and in the present. - The best way to get revenge (spoiler: it is to not get revenge) - How keeping busy will be a massive ally to you - And why questioning what went wrong will never help. *************************** If you'd like more information about working directly with me to help with break-up issues or anything that has come as a result of your break-up then head to gystcoaching.co.uk

When your relationship has been ended and you're feeling heartbroken and don't know how to even get through each day this is the video for you. I've been there, I've felt that level of hurt, I've felt as if I couldn't carry on and yet I find myself here some time later gladly accepting that I'm not in that relationship any more. I've put together best advice that I can to help you if you're looking to move past your last relationship, find yourself again and hopefully stop feeling so miserable all the time. In this second part of the series we'll be focussing on: - The importance of accepting that the relationship is over (and a great first step to help with that) - Why begging and pleading will make things worse in the long run even if they do change their minds - How and why you should cut all but essential contact with your ex - Why it's vital to unfriend and unfollow your ex (and maybe their friends too) on social media - Why your recovery shouldn't be compared to your ex's recovery - And how there is literally zero benefit to ever comparing yourself to an ex's new partner. ************************************************************** If you're interested in CBT, Life Coaching or Hypnotherapy to help you through whatever you're going through in life then head to gystcoaching.co.uk to find out more about what I offer, book in a free consultation or your first appointment with me.