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Deepening self-awareness with self-compassion. Exploring how positive psychology, neuroscience & mindfulness help us make & manage deep & lasting change.

Henny Flynn


    • May 31, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
    • every other week NEW EPISODES
    • 36m AVG DURATION
    • 175 EPISODES


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    The Work Can Be Light (S17E2)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 31, 2025 16:14 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡This episode wasn't planned (hmmm - that seems to be a theme!)I'd actually already recorded something else, but when I sat down to share it, I realised it simply wasn't what I really wanted to say. Not today.So I began again. And what came was this: a call to hold things lightly.Ourselves. The inner Work. The world. This doesn't mean we don't take what we see seriously, or that we condone or ignore the challenging things unfolding around us. It simply means we hold it all with a lighter, loving touch.If you've been feeling called to do the inner work, but there's fear that it might be all too much — maybe this is the call you've been waiting for. We can do this work, with love.If you're ready to step toward your Self in this lighter way, please do connect. I would love to support you, as you navigate whatever inner Work is calling you.***

    Creating Something New - Even When You're Full of Doubt (S17E1)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 24, 2025 32:37 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡This week, I'm sharing thoughts on the doubt that can come (in waves!) when we're creating something new.I talk about the (very human) conflicting thoughts that show up alongside our excitement and joy when we're bringing something into the world – whether it's a project, a course, a work of art, or simply a new way of living.I speak openly about fear, self-trust, and the need for spaces that feel safe enough to hold all of it – not just the polished parts.And though I don't name it outright (yet), I also begin to share more about something new that's taking shape behind the scenes – something rooted in reflection, connection and journaling. If you're curious, I'd love to share more with you when the time is right.You'll also hear:A reflection from the Hopes & Dreams courseWhy we sometimes need to revisit our past successesThe surprising value of letting old corporate strategies evolve into more soulful onesThe outcome from a journaling prompt that feels a little like a personal manifestoIf we're not yet connected through the mailing list, and you're curious to know more about what's unfolding, please do sign up. I'd love to welcome you there. ***

    The Importance of Being Uncertain (S16BONUS)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2025 30:35 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡In this episode, I explore the often uncomfortable but essential experience of uncertainty. From the micro moments of personal indecision to the broader cultural and political implications of clinging to certainty, I reflect on why uncertainty is not something to be fixed but something to be honoured. Through stories, metaphors, and personal insights, I share how uncertainty can become a space for learning, creativity, and ultimately growth. This is an invitation to step into the grey, to trust your intuition, and to allow yourself to not know – for now.JOIN OUR NEXT SMALL GROUP, 4-WEEK COURSE - begins 23 MayMake & Manage Change with Compassion with  Flow Journaling & Coaching https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/1304325244919?aff=oddtdtcreator*** BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH HENNY A free 60-minute call to explore how coaching together could support you https://calendly.com/hennyflynn/henny-60 RECEIVE (ALMOST) DAILY TINY MESSAGES OF LOVE Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion EXPLORE SOLO RETREATS AT BACH BROOK Take time to rest, reflect, reconnect - fully cared for in a place of natural beauty https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/Solo-Retreats BOOKS, EVENTS, FREE RESOURCES & COURSES https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Choosing Love Over Certainty: Floating Home with Adam Lind (S16E10)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2025 55:11 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡In this episode I'm joined by the ever-wonderful Adam Lind - coach, author, speaker and narrowboat dweller - for a rich, honest conversation about vulnerability, creativity and the winding path toward a life of internal freedom.Adam shares the profound challenge of losing his father when he was still just a teenager himself - and how that has informed his life choices: to create a life less ordinary.We talk about writing, as a deeply personal process, the pull between being of service and staying in integrity, and what happens when we start telling the truth about how we really are (even in Tesco). We reflect on loss and grief, success and self-expression, certainty and the freedom to not know - and the deeply human longing for safety in an uncertain world.Adam's new book, Floating Home: a life less ordinary, is an invitation to seek freedom, joy, and connection, wherever you call home. And I'm honoured to say that part of it was written here, on Adam's solo retreat at Bach Brook.As always, this is a conversation that moves gently through different spaces - from laughter to tears, lightness to depth - and lands, ultimately, in love.PRE-ORDER Floating Home: a life less ordinary by Adam Lind published Sept '25 https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/floating-home-lessons-from-a-life-less-ordinary-adam-lind/7814635?ean=9781526683526CONNECT WITH ADAM@adam.floatinghome *** BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH HENNY A free 60-minute call to explore how coaching together could support you https://calendly.com/hennyflynn/henny-60 RECEIVE (ALMOST) DAILY TINY MESSAGES OF LOVE Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion EXPLORE SOLO RETREATS AT BACH BROOK Take time to rest, reflect, reconnect - fully cared for in a place of natural beauty https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/Solo-Retreats BOOKS, EVENTS, FREE RESOURCES & COURSES https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    The Morning of the Soul (S16E9)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 12, 2025 30:50 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡This episode is a bit of a love letter to mornings. Not the jump-out-of-bed, high-energy kind where we hand ourselves straight over to others and give them our day. No. This is a paean to that liminal space between sleep and wakefulness. To gifting ourselves slow moments to enjoy the dawning day.I'm talking about real mornings and the metaphorical ones. The ones that come after a 'dark night' or period of wintering - when the world starts to feel a little more possible again.I share some reflections on how I learned to reclaim my mornings, during my long healing process a few years ago, and how small shifts helped me effectively rewire how I moved through the day.There's also a practice I used to do (and forgot about until recently) that involved silently saying “you are beautiful” to strangers on my commute. Sounds a bit odd, I know, but it was surprisingly moving. I share how this morning practice helped me meet the world with more openness... and showed me some of my own unconscious bias along the way.As often happens with these solo episodes, this meanders a little - from dark nights of the soul to metaphorical sunrises, via gargoyles in London. It finishes with a poem from My Darling Girl that somehow landed in my hand just as I finished recording. It begins 'Settle to the morning', which felt pretty perfect.BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL A free 60-minute call to explore how coaching together could support you https://calendly.com/hennyflynn/henny-60RESOURCESMy darling girl vol. 1 by Henny Flynn https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/my-darling-girl-vol-2Wintering by Katherine May https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/wintering-the-power-of-rest-and-retreat-in-difficult-times-katherine-may/3408348?ean=9781846045998*** BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL WITH HENNY A free 60-minute call to explore how coaching together could support you https://calendly.com/hennyflynn/henny-60 RECEIVE (ALMOST) DAILY TINY MESSAGES OF LOVE Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion EXPLORE SOLO RETREATS AT BACH BROOK Take time to rest, reflect, reconnect - fully cared for in a place of natural beauty https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/Solo-Retreats BOOKS, EVENTS, FREE RESOURCES & COURSES https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    The Mothering Myth and the Courage to Be Enough – with Moe Carrick (S16E8)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2025 60:54 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡In this episode, I speak with Moe Carrick – workplace culture expert, TEDx speaker, and mother of four – about the deep, often unspoken pressures that shape our identities at work and at home.We talk about the myth of the perfect mother, the legacy of the provider-father, and the quiet courage it takes to say, “What I'm doing is enough.” Moe shares a beautifully layered story about a gingerbread house (yes, really!) and how that moment became a metaphor for the deeper journey of letting go of perfection.We explore the ripple effects of shame, identity, ambition and care – and how the stories we've inherited can limit us unless we consciously choose another way. This conversation is full of warmth, honesty and insight, and left me reflecting deeply on how we show up for ourselves, and for one another, in work and in life.PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY WISH TO LISTEN TO NEXT:Empathy and Transformation: Navigating Menopause in the Workplace with Pamela Windle (S14E6)Burnout and Self-Compassion, with Dr. Danielle de la Mare (S14E3)Debunking myths: returning to work & the gender pay gap, with Amelia Miller, Ivee (S13E9)CONNECT WITH MOELinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/moecarrick/ Website: https://moementum.com/ Moe's latest book: https://moementum.com/when-work-is-good/ Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Letters of Love: Navigating the Tenderness of Mother's Day (S16E7)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 29, 2025 24:08 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡Depending on the stories we each carry, Mother's Day can stir deep and complicated emotions. In this tender episode, I share that I was recently invited to write an article for The Gloss on the aspects of Mother's Day, that don't always get acknowledged. It inspired this episode and I include an invitation to write an unsent letter as a way of exploring the truth of your relationship with your mother, whatever shape that truth takes.This isn't about sentimentality or simplifying what may be layered with loss, distance, confusion or grief. Instead, it's an act of profound compassion - a way to gently honour what lives within you.I share guidance from Letters of Love, reflections from my own experience of writing to my mother, and finish with a piece from My Darling Girl - a reminder that, no matter what our story has been, we can learn to be a loving presence for ourselves.If this day feels tender for you -  or for someone you love - I hope this episode offers a soft place to land.BOOKSLetters of Love - a journaling practice for wisdom & connection, published by Inner Work Project, available everywhereMy darling girl, vol. 1, only available direct from Henny FlynnSign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    The Compassion of Rest And The Energetic Ripple Effect (S16E6)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 22, 2025 14:56 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡In this episode, I share a piece of writing I rediscovered – something I'd captured in the quiet of a long-haul flight, sitting beside Anton as he slept. I had no memory of writing it, but when I read it back, it spoke to something that still feels deeply true: the idea of rest as a form of compassion.I explore how the energy we hold – especially in those liminal, half-asleep states – doesn't just affect us, but also gently ripples out into the world around us. Whether we're lying next to someone we love, resting with a pet at our feet, or sleeping alone, there's something powerful in noticing the waves we send out... and there's power in being discerning about the energies we receive.This is a soft, spacious reflection – a chance to consider what we're allowing in as we prepare for rest, and what we're offering out. A moment to remember that even in sleep, we're connected.To read the full piece I wrote, I've shared it on the blog: https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/how-can-rest-be-a-form-of-compassionSign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Finding Peace Within - A Message From My Darling Girl (S16 BONUS)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2025 3:32 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡After several episodes filled with depth, wisdom and vulnerability, I felt called to share something special with you - a beautiful piece of writing from the second volume of My Darling Girl. A piece that appeared when I opened the book at random. The synchronicity feels perfect for this moment.The passage speaks to that universal experience of returning to centre: "And then here we are, safe once more, the spiralling thoughts have spun out of existence, the bird in your ribs has fluttered to calm, the soft breath is now reaching your belly and peace lays on your lips like a balm." These words remind us of our innate capacity to find stillness amid chaos, to release resistance and discover that profound sense that "all is okay."What makes this wisdom particularly powerful is how it honours the full spectrum of human experience. As I reflect in this episode, true self-work isn't about toxic positivity or pretending everything's fine when it isn't. Rather, it's developing the ability to acknowledge when things feel difficult while also recognising moments of light and joy. This balanced awareness - being able to notice and articulate both the challenges and the brightness in our lives - forms the foundation of genuine self-knowledge and inner peace. Wherever you are today, may this brief but heartfelt episode offer a moment of calm and a gentle reminder that you can always return to your centre. What parts of your experience might be waiting for your acknowledgment today?With loveSign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Self-Compassion, Authenticity and Holding Our Own Hand (S16E5)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 15, 2025 32:08 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡This season of the podcast has been threading together a quiet but powerful theme - the many ways we navigate fear. This week's episode takes that theme deeper, exploring how self-compassion gives us the courage to stand in our own space, to hold our own hand, and to live with authenticity.A quote from Dr. Kristin Neff helped spark this reflection: "One of the most pervasive findings of the research literature is that self-compassion leads to authenticity, because when we aren't dependent on the approval of others for our self-worth, we are free to express our true selves."What does it mean to express our true selves? And what happens when we begin to return to ourselves, rather than seeking safety, validation, or belonging outside of us?In this episode, I share my own recent experience of moving through a deeply challenging time - one that called for profound self-compassion and the willingness to stay present with myself, rather than retreating into old patterns of avoidance. Through journal reflections, poetry, and the simple yet profound practices that support me (like the physicality of running, walking or taking baths plus the emotional connection of clear communication with others and sitting with what is), we explore how we can hold ourselves with care and step forward with quiet strength.This is an episode for those who are navigating their own moments of returning - those who feel the pull to reclaim their own space, their own self-worth, and their own power.Settle in, listen, and see where it takes you.Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Power & Fear: Reclaiming What Is Ours (S16E4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 1, 2025 19:19 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡So, you might remember that I'd decided to publish the podcast every two weeks - but here we are, just a week after the last episode. Because sometimes, there are no rules. Sometimes, something asks to be shared.This is one of those episodes.We're talking about power and fear - two forces that shape so much of how we move through the world. What happens when we hand over our power? And are we, in fact, handing it to fear itself?These questions have been weaving through my own journaling and client conversations lately, and as I sat with them, I found myself reflecting on how easy it is to get swept up in the fears of others - fears that may never have been ours to carry. In this episode, I share my journal's response to this question, a passage that speaks to the importance of recognising what is truly ours, reclaiming our choices, and stepping out of the currents of fear that do not belong to us.And, as if by perfect synchronicity, I also came across a poem by Mary Oliver that captures this theme in the most resonant way. I read it towards the end of the episode (and share it below), and I suspect it may stay with you, just as it has stayed with me.Settle in and listen. I'd love to know how this lands with you.Henny xI WorriedMary OliverI worried a lot. Will the garden grow, will the riversflow in the right direction, will the earth turnas it was taught, and if not how shallI correct it?Was I right, was I wrong, will I be forgiven,can I do better?Will I ever be able to sing, even the sparrowscan do it and I am, well,hopeless.Is my eyesight fading or am I just imagining it,am I going to get rheumatism,lockjaw, dementia?Finally, I saw that worrying had come to nothing.And gave it up. And took my old bodyand went out into the morning,and sang.Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Comfort in the Darkness: Navigating the Dark Night of the Soul with Aisling Mustan (S16E3)

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 22, 2025 58:53 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡In this deeply heartfelt conversation, I'm joined by the wonderful Aisling Mustan (founder of the festivals: 'Exhale' and 'Good Grief') to explore the raw, tender terrain of what many call a 'dark night of the soul'. Aisling shares vulnerably and powerfully about her own recent experience - how it unfolded, what it revealed and the practices that supported her through it.We talk about the discomfort most of us try to avoid, and how, paradoxically, it's often where our deepest wisdom resides. We explore:The difference between true comfort and distractionThe courage it takes to sit with what feels unbearableThe role of grief, burnout, and unmet desires in shaping our inner landscapeHow practices like journaling, walking, and simply being can anchor us through the darkest momentsThis isn't a conversation about fixing or solving. As Aisling says, it's about witnessing, honouring, and 'trusting the darkness' as part of 'life's alchemical process'. Whether you're in your own 'dark night' or simply curious about how to meet life's inevitable lows with more compassion, I hope this episode brings you comfort - and the reminder that you're not alone.If this resonates, I'd love to hear from you. And if you feel called, please share the episode with someone who might need it today. You can also connect here with Aisling: @exhalehub OR www.exhalehub.com/schoolWith love, always,HennyA final thought: If you're feeling challenged by your own Samhain - please do reach out and seek the support you need. We ALL need different help at different times in our lives and that may be from your GP, a therapist, a trusted friend or a supportive family member. Always listen deeply to your needs and care deeply for your Self by taking the action that will most support you.Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    When Fear Comes Knocking: A Love Letter to Ourselves (S16E2)

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2025 21:03 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡Sometimes, fear rushes in like an unexpected tide - one moment we're steady, the next we're caught in the swell. In this episode, I share a raw and honest entry from my journal, written during a winter break in Vietnam, where doubt and uncertainty flooded in. Through the simple yet profound act of listening - really listening - I found my way back to myself.In this moment of listening, I wrote one of my My Darling Girl letters, those love notes from my wisest, kindest self. I share it here, followed by the words that poured out in my journal in response. It's an open-hearted exploration of what happens when we sit with our fears, rather than resisting them - when we meet them with curiosity, rather than judgment.This is also a moment to reflect on the power of journaling, of writing letters of love, and of giving ourselves the space to hear our own wisdom. If you've ever felt the weight of self-doubt or the ache of uncertainty, I hope these words offer you something - a moment of recognition, of tenderness, of knowing you're not alone.Settle in, my darlings. This is a pretty vulnerable episode for me, so please hold it gently!And if this practice of writing letters to your Self speaks to you, Letters of Love is now available - my newest book, born from the pages of my journal. You'll find all the details, here in the show notes.Sending love, always.Letters of Love - a journaling practice of wisdom & connectionBy Henny Flynn. Published by Inner Work Project. £12.99From all good booksellers, or order direct from the publishers: https://innerworkproject.com/product/letters-of-love/Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Knowing What Is Enough: Balancing Joy, Pain and Connection (S16E1)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2025 23:57 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡In this episode, I dive into the tender and transformative topic of 'knowing what is enough.' Inspired by personal experiences, reflections on love, and the wisdom of the body, I explore how we can hold space for both joy and pain, embrace the impressions left by connection, and recognise when to say, “Enough, enough now.” This conversation touches on themes of vulnerability, gratitude, and self-compassion, offering insights into how we navigate the balance between striving and contentment. I hope it resonates with you as deeply as it does with me.REFERENCES:Letters of Love - a journaling practice for wisdom & connectionHenny Flynn, pub. 6 Feb 2025, Inner Work ProjectSign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Being With: Reconnecting, Reflecting, and Starting the Year with Intention (S16-bonus)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2025 16:46 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡This bonus episode is my way of reconnecting after a winter break and sharing the exciting plans for the year ahead. From reflections on "being with" as a guiding theme from my time away, to insights on upcoming events like journaling workshops, retreats, and my new book, Letters of Love, there's so much to explore together. I hope this episode inspires you to begin 2025 with peace, power, and self-compassion.PRE-ORDER MY LATEST BOOK: Letters of Love - a journaling practice for wisdom & connectionhttps://innerworkproject.com/product/letters-of-love/Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Embracing The Art of Self-Compassion and Everyday Connection (S15E9)

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 14, 2024 26:09 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡In this season finale, I want to reflect on something that's been on my mind a lot recently: the power of self-compassion and how we can embrace moments of "wintering" in our lives. For me, wintering isn't just about the colder months, it's about the times when we feel called to turn inward, to rest, to nurture ourselves, and to find a sense of renewal.This is partly why I've started a new practice of taking a winter break from mid-December to mid-January. I've learned over the years that these intentional pauses for reflection and reconnection are necessary for me, and I suspect it will become something I'll do every year.Wintering seems to be featuring in many places right now. And I've even discovered that, astrologically, I've moved into my eighth house, a time that encourages reflection, introspection, and change. Maybe that's why I've felt like I've been wintering since the summer?Throughout this episode, I share how compassion - whether it's toward ourselves or others - has such a profound impact on our well-being. I talk about how small, everyday acts of kindness toward ourselves release dopamine and oxytocin, helping us feel more connected and at ease. This is something I see in my own life, in the everyday ♡ compassion emails I send out, and in the connections I'm fortunate to make with you all.I also share a poem from my My Darling Girl series, which feels especially fitting. It's a reminder that loving ourselves is at the heart of everything we do. I hope it resonates with you as it does with me.As we close the year, I'd love to invite you to reflect on how you can embrace these small acts of compassion, both toward yourself and others. Thank you for being part of this journey with me. Sending you so much love, a big hug, and a wave. Let's carry the warmth of compassion into the new year together.RESOURCESStars Aligned - published by Inner Work Project https://innerworkproject.com/product/stars-aligned/ My darling girl vol 1 https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/my-darling-girl-vol-1 My darling girls vol 2 - the poem ‘I can love you' (that I share in this episode) is on page 57 https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/my-darling-girl-vol-2 Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Embracing Wintering: A Journey of Self-Reflection and Creating a Heart's Sanctuary (S15E8)

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 30, 2024 19:47 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡Have you ever felt the urge to retreat inward, seeking solace in the quiet corners of your own mind? Over the past six months, I've found myself embracing a period of 'wintering'. A transformative journey of introspection shaped by both personal and global influences. My own reflection on this, and listening to the experiences of others has inspired this episode - an invitation to explore the natural rhythm of energy that guides us between vibrant creativity and peaceful quietude. Regardless of the natural rhythms of the seasons, there's profound wisdom in accepting silence and stillness as part of our internal landscape. I also share a Flow Journal entry, written several years ago - long before we came to this geographic space - which lays out the vision I held in my heart for creating a sanctuary, where love and self-discovery could flourish in a nurturing, healing space. I feel this piece of writing captures part of this essence of Wintering. Overall, my feeling is that we can all benefit at times from a physical space that enables us to step into our own inner realm.EXPLORE THIS DEEP INNER WORK, ON SOLO RETREAT, HERE AT BACH BROOKAnd it's this inner realm that truly is the space where stuck memories and limiting beliefs can be gently shifted, allowing you to embrace your true essence and desires. Here, we parent ourselves with compassion, trusting our inner wisdom while welcoming the transformation that occurs amidst laughter, tears, and growth. Whether you seek this sanctuary in solitude or through guided presence, it offers a personal refuge of rest and rejuvenation. A space for wisdom and sharing, a loving environment that holds and releases us, always ready to welcome us back into its embrace.Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Achieving Flow: Mindful Purpose in Modern Life, with Dr Sue Jackson (S15E7)

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 16, 2024 66:55 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡How is it to experience the space where time & effort cease to exist?Join us as we explore the concept of flow with Dr. Sue Jackson, a distinguished psychologist and author, who shares the wisdom of 30-years of research and brings her expertise across sports, business, education, and everyday life. In this episode...We navigate the nuanced relationship between flow, perfectionism, and mindfulness (this was particularly resonant as I listened back & realised my mic appeared to be underwater as we were recording!)Drawing inspiration from Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi's pioneering work, we investigate how flow can provide a sanctuary of ease and deep attention in our often chaotic, multitasking work environments. From the influence of Buddhist principles to the power of being present, we reflect on personal experiences that demonstrate the transformative potential of flow. We also hear the importance of reducing self-consciousness to foster flow and authentic connection - with Self, with others and with the task at hand - amidst modern life's disruptions.I love how Sue guides us through the art of balancing challenge, trust in ourselves and skill to avoid the pitfalls of anxiety and boredom, whether on the ski slopes or tackling a mundane household task. This episode celebrates the universal appeal - and the essential nature - of flow. READ MORESue's book Experiencing Flow: Life Beyond Boredom and Anxiety, is available direct from her or Amazon UK, Amazon (US), Amazon.com.auDr Sue JacksonPerformance Psychologist, Author, & Consultant www.bodyandmindflow.com.auSign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Facing Self-Abandonment: Embracing Self-Compassion and Affirmations for Personal Growth (S15E6)

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2024 32:19 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡Self-abandonment can often feel like a hidden force, quietly pulling us away from the very practices that could ground us in our most challenging moments. Have you ever wondered why we neglect meditation, journaling, or even a simple walk when they could help us the most? In this episode, we unravel the complexities behind these behaviours and explore how fear of confronting deeper issues keeps us from self-care. By shifting our perspective from "letting go" to "letting be," we create a compassionate space for our emotions, allowing us to approach our fears with curiosity rather than avoidance. Continuing this journey, we explore the uplifting power of affirmations, such as "I am worthy of this attention", as a tool for reconnecting with oneself and overcoming self-abandonment. My "Affirmations in Practice" mini-course offers a beautiful place to explore the science and practical application of affirmations - full of guidance for those eager to nurture their inner equilibrium. As we stand at the cusp of a new year, there's no better time to set intentions for personal growth and self-care - and if this raises deeper questions for you, then I'd be honoured to explore Working together one-to-one. Affirmations in Practice Mini-CourseJust £7 with PROMO CODE: PODCAST https://hennyflynn.ck.page/products/affirmations-in-practice-mini-course?promo=PODCASTSign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Finding Calm Amid Chaos: TONIC for emotional first aid (S15E4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 19, 2024 48:34 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡Imagine having a gentle yet powerful tool in your back pocket that you can use whenever you need some First Aid. A tool that's there for you, whatever situation you find yourself in - helping to manage feelings of overwhelm, overstimulation and dysregulation, as you navigate life's unpredictable changes. This self-guided emotional "first aid" technique is built around the mnemonic TONIC. In the episode we'll explore how these 5 stages: Time out, Options, Name, Intention, Compassion help us to recognise and nurture what we're feeling in the moment - and identify a way forward.Join us as we explore the power of setting positive intentions and nurturing self-compassion. By focusing on simple affirmations like "I am safe" or "I am here," we connect mind and body to soothe the nervous system and encourage self-kindness, just as we would show to a loved one. Through physical gestures and written reflections, discover ways to cultivate a sense of warmth and care towards yourself. As we embrace this new fortnightly rhythm to our podcast, I am so grateful for your support. Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to connect and share your reflections. I also invite you to sign up for my written reflections, offering a continuous source of support in your own journey.Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Breaking Unwritten Rules: Embracing Beautiful Disruption and Creative Freedom (S15E4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 5, 2024 22:24 Transcription Available


    Tap to send me your reflections ♡Have you ever wondered how much of our lives are governed by unwritten rules we've imposed on ourselves? Today's episode is a meander through some of the self-imposed constraints that often originate from societal expectations or beliefs we've inherited. We look at...Some of my own once unshakeable ideas - for example, that for work to be meaningful, it must always feel hard (spoiler alert... it's not true)How we can question and dismantle limiting constraints and the 'rules' we place around ourselves - to embrace flexibility and creative freedomHow the concept of 'beautiful disruption' can help us create small, intentional changes in routine that help build adaptability, resilience and creativity. Like many of these reflective episodes, this has sparked a personal response for me too. And so, I'm now breaking one of the rules I'd inadvertently created for myself. I'm shifting from publishing the podcast weekly to fortnightly. It's an experiment and we'll see how it goes... after all, there are no rules! I would LOVE to hear what you think about this. Depending on where you're listening you may see a little link to message me your reflections - or you can always email. Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Embracing Detachment with Self-Compassion

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2024 19:10 Transcription Available


    Send me your reflections ♡This episode is about the paradox of embracing detachment (I love a paradox!)Join me on a reflective journey exploring the transformative practices of detachment and self-compassion. I'll share what inspired this episode, diving into the intentional act of releasing - creating meaningful space around our behaviours and beliefs. And we'll touch on how moving away from a fear-based mindset and embracing flow and surrender can lead to healthier, more fulfilling ways of living. With loving detachment, we can let go of our relentless need to control, extending this practice to both external situations and our inner world. This active state of awareness invites us to address what genuinely needs our attention without falling into automatic, triggered responses. It's about embracing life's moments without judgment or force. I close with a heartfelt message, sending you a virtual hug and wave. Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    The Science and Art of Sound Therapy, with Kathy Harmon-Luber

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 21, 2024 61:38 Transcription Available


    Share your reflectionsHow can music change the way we think, feel and heal?Meet Kathy Harmon-Luber, the author of "Suffering to Thriving: Your Toolkit for Navigating Your Healing Journey," who joins me this week to share her  story of overcoming serious health challenges through the power of sound healing. In our conversation, we unravel the ancient wisdom and modern science behind sound's impact on emotional and physiological well-being. From personal anecdotes to professional insights, we explore the profound role sound and music play in cultivating self-compassion, emotional stability, and overall healing.How sound healing is making a resurgence in modern medicine, finding its place in hospitals and nursing homes in the States. The therapeutic effects of various musical genres, vocal yoga, and the intuitive joy of musical expression. Kathy shares some compelling research along the way, from organisations like UCLA, which opens up how these practices could play a role in reducing stress and inflammation.Personal stories of how sound has helped overcome physical and emotional barriers, illustrating the remarkable benefits of integrating sound into daily life.Finally, we explore the future of sound healing through the lens of innovative medical treatments and pioneering professionals like Dr. Mitchell Gaynor. Our episode includes a special offering for listeners—a short course on healing the heart chakra, complete with a sound bath designed to open this vital energy point. This episode is a celebration of Kathy's journey from suffering to thriving and a testament to the incredible healing potential of sound and music - a journey of transformation and renewal.CONNECTYou can find out more about Kathy, her FREE heart chakra offering, the Yoga Magazine article on sound, and her book here: www.SufferingToThriving.com For Kathy's free heart chakra and sound bath offering, you can find out more here: https://healingartshealthandwellness.aweb.page/p/bfd182f7-b456-4ce8-b743-f21fcbd630d8Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Nature, Art, and the Essence of Compassion, with Paul Smith

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 14, 2024 41:44 Transcription Available


    Today I'm speaking with the sculptor, ceramicist, artist Paul Smith.   I first came across his work many years ago and have always been struck by the powerful quality of compassion that, for me, sits within the pieces he creates.Since then I've (joyfully) brought two of his pieces into my home - you'll hear more about what they represent to me... and how Paul keeps his own interpretation of his work open, so each person finds their own story within them. It was a joy to speak with Paul and I'm delighted he accepted my invitation to join us here.In our conversation, we explore the profound interplay between compassion, creativity, and masculinity. We touch on how true human connections, such as heartfelt hugs, are mirrored in creative works and the concept of gestalt, where intertwined figures symbolise both unity and individuality. And Paul shares his insights on the importance of compassion in our relationship with the natural world and the critical need to protect keystone species. His reflections highlight how creativity can foster a closer connection with our environment - as well as with our own emotional landscape. Toward the end of the episode, we come to understand this conversation is really about balance: balance in the beautiful work Paul shares, the importance of balance in nature and how we create balance across the different aspects in our inner and outer lives.I loved speaking with Paul. I hope you enjoy listening.MEET PAUL & see more of his work:INSTAGRAM: @paulsmithsculptureswww.paulsmithsculptures.co.ukREFERENCES:Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype, by American psychoanalyst Clarissa Pinkola Estés (My enormous apologies for getting her name wrong in the episode!)Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S14E7 - Navigating Grief and Rekindling Creativity: A Journey of Healing

    Play Episode Play 60 sec Highlight Listen Later Jul 27, 2024 38:10 Transcription Available


    How do we navigate the stormy seas of grief while keeping our creative spark alive? In this deeply personal episode, I open up about the emotional toll of grief and how it's impacted my ability to produce consistent podcast episodes this season. You'll hear about a fully recorded session that I ended up deleting, and how, with Anton's wise guidance, I've seen that speaking about how creativity can diminish in grief, is part of rekindling creativity.From personal experiences like the loss of loved ones or navigating significant changes, we explore how activities like journaling can provide emotional relief and support. We discuss the concept of "transitional work," emphasising the importance of letting go of expectations and allowing our creativity to serve as a healing process. Drawing wisdom from a grieving artist and a poignant Chinese proverb, we highlight the necessity of self-compassion and the role of various creative outlets—whether it's painting, music, or gardening—in holding sorrow so it doesn't overwhelm us. Finally, I touch on the joy and inner wisdom that can be found in Flow Journaling, and an invitation to explore my book, "In the Flow" - and see how it can enhance your journaling practice and connection to your inner self.BOOK: In the Flow - journal your creative wisdomhttps://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/bookshopRESOURCEShttps://www.insightcreativecoaching.com/blog-1/2023/11/10/art-and-grief#:~:text=Experiencing%20a%20significant%20loss%20or,for%20a%20period%20of%20time.https://www.headspace.com/articles/grief-creativity-togetherPOEMMemory is a strange bird doling out the world in shards— the stuff we are made of. I am the keeper, now, I hold them all. Tonight as I write I become conjurer— When I open my hands: A thousand sparrows Jessica Moore, Everything, Now. Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    Empathy and Transformation: Navigating Menopause in the Workplace with Pamela Windle

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 13, 2024 58:27 Transcription Available


    Imagine navigating the challenges of menopause while excelling in your career—could a compassionate workplace make all the difference? Join us as we sit down with Pamela Windle, a passionate women's health coach who sheds light on the transformative power of empathy in corporate environments. Pamela shares her journey from confronting her health struggles in 2012 to becoming an integrated women's health coach by 2015, offering a deeply personal perspective on the importance of understanding and supporting women through all life stages in professional settings.Pamela opens up about the misunderstandings and lack of education surrounding menopause, particularly in the workplace. She recounts her own experiences with chronic fatigue and job loss, emphasising the need for a more holistic approach to women's health. Through her narrative, we explore the steps organisations can take to create a supportive atmosphere for all employees, touching on critical aspects like self-compassion, gratitude, and the identification of root causes. Pamela's insights are a call to action for leaders to reassess and improve their current practices, creating a more inclusive and nurturing work environment.We also tackle the unique challenges that black women face in the workplace, especially around health conditions like fibroids and autoimmune diseases. Pamela discusses the impact of societal stereotypes and the importance of cultural sensitivity and comprehensive workplace guidance. Through the powerful metaphor of a Jenga tower, we illustrate how life stressors disrupt women's hormonal balance and overall well-being. Concluding with Pamela's empowering "Phoenix Rising" narrative, this episode is a celebration of resilience and the beauty of rewriting one's life story, offering a refreshing perspective on aging and transformation.CONNECT WITH PAMELAPamela Windle https://www.smarterchange.co.uk/Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S14E5 - Releasing what binds you: a meditation

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 6, 2024 21:06


    Today's offering is something different - a mindful meditation; an invitation to explore the concept of 'releasing what binds you' from a physical, mental and emotional place of rest and relaxation.There are no demands here. Simply the act of listening and following my voice. Seeing how it feels to let go of all tension, to fully rest in the present moment.You'll hear I mention this is a piece I wrote as a stepping stone into a Flow Journaling practice. If you'd like to journal after listening, you could use the prompt: As I pick up my pen I am noticing... and see what flows from there. This is the first prompt from my book, In the Flow, and is a wonderful place to start - and to return to - in your journaling practice.Henny xIn the Flow - journal your inner wisdom - available from all major bookstoresIf you're driving, wait until you are somewhere you can stop, close your eyes and get completely comfortable.Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S14E4 - Day 226, from the journal

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 1, 2024 5:34


    A different episode today.I turned to my journal to see what it could share with me. And found that perhaps it is something that may resonate with you, too.With love, wherever you are on your journey.Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S14E3 - Burnout and Self-Compassion, with Dr. Danielle de la Mare

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 22, 2024 63:15


    What does burnout look like? How do we know when it's on our horizon? How can we find our way through it?This conversation with Dr. Danielle De La Mare was inspiring, informative and full of inner wisdom.The founder of Self-Compassionate Professor, Danielle focuses on healing academics' relationship to work, helping them to clear mental and emotional clutter, make space for their own needs and wants, and find the clarity to make sound and meaningful career decisions grounded in wellness.We talk about:The journey we can unwittingly take into burnout Our relationships with loved ones and colleagues when we're on the brink - and when we're moving through burnoutThe impact of ill-health - and recovery from illness - on the burnout experienceHow imposter complex can play a part in the journey toward and experience of  burnout The specific challenges of working within higher education and academia Strategies for coping with these issues, including self-compassion, mindfulness, and finding balance in work and lifeThe vital need for self-care, boundaries, and prioritising well-beingThe importance of empathy and understanding towards individuals struggling with burnout and imposter syndromePractical tips for cultivating mindfulness and trust in career wellnessCONNECTFind out more about Danielle's powerful (and beautiful) compassion-based work here https://danielledelamare.com/REFERENCESIn the Flow - journal your inner wisdom Buy it from any bookshop or get it direct from my publisher Inner Work ProjectSign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S14E2 - Reimagining Elderhood, with Katy Theakston

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 15, 2024 63:39


    A GENTLE NOTE OF GUIDANCE: Early on in this episode (around 7 mins in), Katy shares a difficult story from her childhood that some listeners may find challenging to listen to.Katy Theakston and I first spoke on this topic sharing a stage at Wellbeing by the Lakes in 2023.We'd never met before, but we trusted we were safe in each other's hands. And, of course, so we were. At the end of the talk, our audience spontaneously asked for a group hug. For me it shows the power and deep personal connection we ALL have to this topic.I hope you enjoy listening as much as I enjoyed speaking with Katy. A beautiful woman with a wonderful mission - find out more about her and the work she does to create powerful women's circles and retreats: https://owlapothecary.com/Henny x'Mostly what I have learned so far about aging, despite the creakiness of one's bones and cragginess of one's once-silken skin, is this: Do it. By all means, do it.'MAYA ANGELOU Sign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    The Ibiza Illusion - a reflection on perfection

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2024 18:16


    I'm very mindful I've named this episode at risk of making it sound like Ibiza is an illusion. Which, of course, it's patently not! It's a beautiful island that's home to very real people. So... this is more of a metaphor about beauty and perfection, and the role of reality in and amongst it. Ibiza, because of my own wonderful experiences there, just happens to be my idealised concept of what perfection feels like. Your's may well be somewhere else.I asked AI to give me a summary of the episode (gosh, now there's another topic for a podcast) and this is what it said:Henny Flynn discusses the 'Ibiza illusion' in wellness retreats, where individuals often feel pressure to present a perfect image. She argues that embracing imperfections and vulnerability can lead to a deeper connection with oneself and others. Flynn encourages listeners to reflect on the true purpose of wellness retreats and how they can be designed to be more inclusive and beneficial for all individuals. By making room for emotions and practicing everyday compassion, we can cultivate a more authentic and meaningful connection with ourselves and the world around us.Slightly scarily, I think it's captured it.I'd love to hear what you think. This is one of the (many!) episodes I feel vulnerable about sharing, so I know there's something in it that means something (to me, at least). Maybe it resonates with you too.With loveHenny xSign-up for everyday ♡ compassion - (almost) daily messages of love https://hennyflynn.ck.page/everyday-compassion Explore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S13E10 - Healthy brains: the neurotechnology of personal change, with Dr Nolan Beise

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 27, 2024 61:55


    Today I'm in conversation with Dr Nolan Beise. We're discussing the potential of advanced neurotechnology to improve brain health and well-being.Yes. That. It's a big topic. And a wonderful episode to close this season. You'll hear that Nolan weaves the science with profound compassion, beginning with his reflections on how his younger self struggled to navigate the world.He shares powerful statistics, research and evidence on the way our brains work - and how so many of us are not (yet) optimising the full capacity of our brain function.We discuss... The importance of understanding brain function to prevent brain health issuesOur shared personal experiences with burnoutThe technology Nolan has developed to help people understand their brains betterThe intersections of personal growth, mindfulness, compassion and wisdom in how we maximise our opportunity for supporting a healthy brainThe importance of rest, self-knowledge and supporting oneself and others in developing our brain healthIf you're curious about how your brain works, and how you could improve your brain health... have a listen.There is a short period where the signal between the UK and Canada went a little wobbly - rather than edit it out, I've chosen to keep it in as I think what Nolan was sharing was important. Hopefully it won't disrupt you too much as you listen.To connect with Nolan & find out more about the Circl headset and app...https://www.linkedin.com/in/nolanbeise/https://circlbrain.com/Join the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S13/E9 - Debunking myths: returning to work & the gender pay gap, with Amelia Miller, Ivee

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 20, 2024 63:08


    This is an episode packed with powerful stats, fascinating research and - most importantly - hope.  My guest is Amelia Miller. A psychologist and the co-founder of ​ivee.jobs​. Together with her sister Lydia, they have developed an innovative job platform dedicated to providing free resources and support for women returning to work. As you listen to the evidence and human stories, you'll understand why I was so excited to have Amelia on the show.Alongside painting us a powerful picture of Ivee's mission, Amelia debunks some of the myths of the gender pay gap and also shares her personal experience - watching their mother struggle with her own return to work.We discussed the challenges women face when returning to work after a career break, including lack of confidence and difficulty navigating the job market. And Amelia shared the solutions they have developed, such as prioritising the woman's journey back to work and providing practical support. Amelia closes with an open invitation to any woman who wants to find out more. Whether you're returning to work, on a career break or already in the workplace... you'll be welcome. https://ivee.jobs/SummaryGender pay gap myths and debunking misconceptions.The return to work challenges for women. Gender bias in job applications and how to address it. The impact of motherhood and being a carer on women's earnings. Empowering women, focusing on skills recognition and community support. The importance of community for networking and job opportunities. The impact of menopause on the issues.Many of the same challenges affect men when they take career breaks too. The impact of the Flexible Working Act. The range of options around flexible work arrangements and resources.Join the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S13E8 - Reflections: what can I learn?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 13, 2024 15:21


    Today's episode is a personal reflection on an unexpected happening last weekend.I ended up having to have an emergency medical procedure at the weekend - it all sounds very dramatic and in the moment definitely felt that way. I am ok - 100% ok. But, as is the way with these things I've also seen that embedded within it there is much richness for reflection!Some key themes came up for me.How old stories can become activated when we're facing into difficult thingsHow easy it can be to muddle resilience with foolhardinessWhat it means to respond mindfully, kindfully to pain and acknowledge our need for restThe critical value of self-awareness - both IN the moment and ABOUT the momentGratitude for what is - and for remembering how things wereThis is a short one. A canter through some thoughts. I'd love to know what it sparks for you.Sending so much love, for whatever is showing up in your life.Join the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S13E7 - Journaling: In the Flow

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 6, 2024 41:41


    Today we're back with Kate Adams, founder of Inner Work Project and the publisher of In the Flow - journal your inner wisdom, my brand new book (toot toot). We have turned the tables and Kate is interviewing me...Our conversation begins with a personal reflection from Kate, that grounds our conversation in real life. And beautifully illustrates how journaling can be one of the most powerful tools to support us when things in life feel challenging.We cover...What led to my own journaling practice, and the changes it helped me makeHow journaling helps us reconnect with the deeper, inner wiser part of me - enabling us to really SEE ourselvesWays we can learn to meet ourselves where we are, without judgement, allowing for whatever emerges - often with surprising moments of insightThings that can get in the way of journaling - and what can help us get started, or restartedThe compassionate, practical guidance and inspirational journaling prompts that flow through the bookThis was a rich and nourishing conversation. I found it fascinating to have my own ideas opened up in this way and I hope it feels useful for you too, in your own journaling practice.To order your own copy of In the Flow (pub. 30.05.24)http://innerworkproject.com/product/in-the-flow/Join the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S13E6 - Tough Stuff: with Susan McCulley

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 30, 2024 48:20 Transcription Available


    My good friend Susan McCulley is back on the show. And this time we're talking about the tough stuff. Author, somatic movement coach and artist, Susan brings a breadth and depth of wisdom, knowledge and personal experience to every conversation and this episode is no exception.We look at the topic of Tough Stuff from many perspectives. Exploring the importance of going gently with ourselves when things FEEL hard - and the importance of facing into and taking action to navigate the things that are hard to DO. Some of the areas we cover include:Not just about the DOINGNESS but also the BEINGWITHNESSUnderstanding our capacity is vital to how we care for ourselves in the face of tough thingsBeing persistent, learning, and feeling good about yourself are all affected by a crucial neurological mechanism responsible for cultivating qualities of tenacity and willpowerDoing effortful things is GOOD for you - but we also need BALANCEHow making small changes can lead to big resultsWe finish with Susan's beautiful enquiry: 'How can I make more space for what's needed right now?'CONNECT WITH SUSANFor movement, books & art https://www.susanmcculley.com/For women over 50 https://www.susanmcculley.com/women-over-50REFERENCESDr Andrew Huberman - the 'source' of the will to liveStephen Covey -  7 Habits of Highly Successful People James Clear - Atomic HabitsJoin the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S13E5 - Patience: a practice to practise

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 23, 2024 31:39


    Today we're exploring Patience. It arose as a topic out of a random selection of a page from an old journal. As I dived into the idea, it expanded for me. Perhaps these reflections will support you, in some way, too.This is an invitation to explore how Patience feels for you, the thoughts and beliefs you have about it, the stories you may be carrying that inform it.Some of the ideas that arose were:The use of Angel Cards as journal promptsThe 3 types of Patience, researched by Dr. Sarah Schnitker, Associate Professor of Psychology and NeuroscienceFixed and growth mindsets in how we see our own relationship to Patience (and the work of Carol Dweck)How Patience sits in the centre point between passivity and recklessness - and how it can be seen to support our emotional regulationModern attitudes to patience versus our ancient, shared, cultural heritage of what Patience is and how it can serve usI close with the poem, Patience, by Emily DickinsonPatience – has a quiet Outer –Patience – Look within –Is an Insect's futile forcesInfinites – between –‘Scaping one – against the otherFruitlesser to fling –Patience – is the Smile's exertionThrough the quivering –REFERENCESJohn O'Donohue - poem FLUENTDr. Sarah Schnitker - research in PatienceCarol Dweck - research in fixed & growth mindsetsThich Naht Hanh - we are all the traffic Join the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S13E4 - Stand-up: with Jo Moseley (SUP)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 16, 2024 60:35 Transcription Available


    My guest today is the optimistic and courageous Jo Moseley. Water lover, stand-up paddle boarder (SUP), author of a bestselling book and creator of an award winning tiny film. I love the double meaning in today's title, because I see that through her adventures, Jo really has stood-up for herself, and for all women in mid-life. She embodies the joy of adventure, solo travel and ageing well. We talk of experiences that were deeply challenging in her past and how in 2016, she first stepped onto a paddleboard. And then proceeded to paddleboard 162 miles coast to coast across Britain. She wrote her first book at 57 and now, on the tipping point of 60, is about to publish her second.She's a gorgeous soul who shares her story with compassion and courage. We speak of:Courage and fresh startsThings that can get in the way of adventureWhat can help us access our inner resourcesThe role of (self) compassion in navigating lifeAgeing with a fresh perspectiveI also share the poem, Fluent, by John O'Donoghue - it feels resonant here.I would love to live Like a river flowsCarried by the surprise Of its own unfolding This episode has a transcript.To connect with Jo https://www.jomoseley.com/ or Instagram @jomoseleyREFERENCESAmy Cuddy TED talk - Jo references this as part of what helps her access her courage - it's a talk I've mentioned before on the podcast and highly recommendedStand-up Paddleboarding in Great Britain: Beautiful places to paddleboard in England, Scotland & Wales by Jo MoseleyStand-up Paddleboarding in the Lake District: Beautiful places to paddleboard in Cumbria by Jo MoseleyJoin the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S13E3 - Stories: Rewriting the narrative

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 9, 2024 35:25


    We're hardwired to respond to stories. Before the written word, stories were how humans passed down critical information - Bullet points and facts don't stick around as long. Stories provide us with a way to make sense of the world and neuroscience now shows us how the brain encodes memories in terms of narrative.But.Sometimes the stories we've picked up along the way of our life might no longer serve us. This episode explores the opportunity we may have to rewrite our narrative. It touches on...We all learn & gather stories, beginning in early childhood - from our families, our culture, our communityJung's interest in fairytales and how they can shine a light into our life experienceSome of the stories we carry might actually belong to othersThe 3 steps we can explore to take control of the narrativeExploring how we can transform and rewrite the stories we holdJoin the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S13E2 - Inner Change: returning to Self

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 2, 2024 28:57


    Today, I'd like to talk about Inner Change, and how - at its heart - it's about returning to Self.This was a surprisingly emotive topic for me. You'll hear there's a moment I need to gather myself before continuing - proof (if I needed it) of the significance and importance of connecting deeply and compassionately with ourselves.Some of the things I cover, include:The importance of reflecting on how far we have travelled How taking off my rose-tinted spectacles was part of my own change journeyThat change goes beyond resolutions and goalsThe difference between Will Power and Way Power (part of Motivational Theory)The fundamental truth that caring deeply for your Self is part of caring deeply for the world and the people around youI also share a piece of writing I originally wrote on Instagram, and it felt useful to include it here...I've been noisier than usual recently. Sharing poems, thoughts, things about myself. It's surprising me but I'm going with it. Something is drawing me to speak. And maybe it's you I'm speaking to? Maybe you're feeling like you want to be heard? Maybe something within you is asking to be seen? Maybe you sense an awakening of a long dormant part? Maybe… maybe you'd like to talk? Maybe it's time? Maybe you've been wondering about this for a while? Maybe it's a new surgence* within? Maybe you've been doing the Work for a while and want to see what to do with what you've found? Maybe this change you feel rising feels overwhelming at times? Maybe you're seeking a guide. Maybe having someone walking beside you a while would feel like comfort and courage combined. If a yes arises to one or more, then maybe you are why I'm here right now, asking all these maybes. Maybe this is the moment to reach in? With love ❤️Join the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S13E1 - Mandala mindset: learning to let go

    Play Episode Play 40 sec Highlight Listen Later Feb 24, 2024 35:08


    In ancient Sanskrit, mandala means “circle.” Gradually working outward from the central first dot, the creator builds an intricate and beautiful design. And then, the whole thing is wiped clean. They're ephemeral by nature.Today I'd like to explore how the principles inherent within Mandalas could support us; and dip into what I'm calling: the Mandala Mindset.Along the way, we'll be looking at:How Mandalas represent the ephemeral nature of all thingsThe full version of the famous Marcus Aurelius quote that led to our modern usage of the adage: “live each day as if it were your last.”What it could mean to be aware of our own mortalityHow learning somethng new can help us connect with the Mandala MindsetPema Chödrön's observation that “Each person's life is like a mandala” “Everything that shows up in your mandala is a vehicle for your awakening. From this point of view awakening is right at your fingertips continually.” Pema ChödrönJoin the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S12E10 - Inner work: books to engage us, with Kate Adams

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2024 61:18


    My guest today is the publisher Kate Adams.Kate has published many books you'd recognise, including You Are What You Eat by Gillian McKeith, A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle and Live Well Every Day by Dr Alex George. After working at Random House and then Penguin, she launched the Aster imprint for Octopus Books. Her experience has informed her deep curiosity about her own inner work - and has inspired the creation of the Inner Work Project. This is a wonderful expansive conversation that covers so many things - all enriching. I felt deeply calm after chatting with Kate. She has a wonderful energy that speaks to her curiosity and independent thinking.I think you'll enjoy meeting her too!Some of the things we discussed include…The books & writers that can prompt us to start our journey on the inner workHow our age and Lifestage can inform where we place our attentionThe power of letting the wild mother in (and releasing our need to be ‘good')One of my favourite quotes: "Beware the man of one book"How we can reach outside ourselves for the answers - when they really sit withinThe importance of purpose as we craft the life we are creatingLastly, there was a phrase that came to me as we spoke. Grasp the nettle and make tea. At the time it felt important. Maybe it speaks to you too.Join the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S12E9 - New: What falls away?

    Play Episode Play 59 sec Highlight Listen Later Jan 6, 2024 24:13


    Moving into a new year, a new job, a new relationship, a new home, a new mindset we can feel as though the old is falling away. In truth, we might find we're seeking this 'letting go', this 'falling away' - insisting even, that we no longer carry the old stories, beliefs, experiences and only see the new.And yet.I'm not sure that's ever truly so. Though things may transmute, change, adapt. Do they ever completely disappear?Today we explore this idea of how we make room for the new. Some thoughts that appear are:The idea that there is no ‘away' - materially or metaphoricallyWith change we sometimes forget we also carry the past with usWhen we mindfully, kindfully pay attention to what was, we can create the space for what will beChange seems to me to be more about revelation, rather than transformationPart of our new this year could be learning to see the glimmersThis is an explorative, expansive, reflective episode… spoken from the heart, the hara (though every now and again my head does seem to insist on getting involved). If you love this kind of reflection, I'd love to hear your own meandering thoughts on where it takes you.Join the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S12E8 - Listening: Answering the call

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 30, 2023 21:21


    The root of this episode was inspired by a young man I met this summer.You'll hear the story that prompted today's question: how are you answering the call?This isn't the first time someone has posed this question - you'll hear I share some of their words too. Yet, I feel it bears repeating.And while I recognise it may seem particularly pertinent at this time of year, I see it as a universal, eternal question. Something, perhaps, we can all continue to ask.Thoughts that arise are:The words of Mary Oliver's timeless poem, The Summer DaySeneca, Eckhart and Confucius on the shortness of lifeThis can be a beautiful time to reflect on what was, to see what is, to look ahead to what will beThat we may not know the answer to the question, and that's ok - the importance is we keep listening in for the callThe choices we have about how we envision the now we are creating And we close with the same tender, compassionate, curious enquiry: how are you answering the call?Join the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S12E7 - Receiving: acknowledging, allowing, accepting

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 23, 2023 20:58


    It's no accident that this episode falls on the day before Christmas. A day when many - though by no means all - of us, come together to give and receive.We all recognise there can be complexity in these kinds of festivities. But sometimes it can be useful to break down a single aspect of what's entangled within the complexity and see how we can shine the light of awareness to help create a shift. So, today we're exploring the art of generously receiving, through the 3 As: Acknowledging, Allowing, Accepting.This is a multi-level concept. I believe it applies whether we're being offered something from the universe, nature, others or our own wisest inner self.  We see...There are many things that can get in the way of receiving When we acknowledge something we help bring it into existenceA willingness to be vulnerable means we allow the safe passage of the thing we are being offeredAccepting the thing exactly as it is - without judgement - is not the same as losing our boundariesMaybe the most generous gift we can give is to learn how to receive generously ourselvesI'm aware there is complexity within this exploration too, so the invitation is simply to see what you receive as you listen.RESOURCES Karen Mead article: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/learning-to-receive-5-steps-to-opening-up/Tara Brach RAIN: https://youtu.be/W8e_tAEM80k?si=acft-69cYqr590QmWilliam Shakespeare, The Merchant of Venice, Act IV, Scene IJoin the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S12E6 - Compassionate Wisdom: inner activism

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2023 19:19


    I was sitting by a loch on the Isle of Mull, writing these words. When I looked up I saw a school of dolphin in front of me, and above me... a sea eagle.It felt pretty profound! And seemed to give the words I'd written a certain potency. I'm sharing them here. 10 thoughts on compassionate wisdom and a concept I'm calling inner activism. Here's some of what I cover:None of us know all the answers, and the wisest amongst us may say they know nothing at allWhen we step back and see we are part of something larger than ourselves, we see the weight of the world is not all on our shouldersThere is a way of being that seeks the wisdom path, with compassionWe are the pebble in the centre of our own pond, creating the ripplesIt is in the spaces between the noise that our wisest self can be heardThis is an expansive, explorative, experimental episode. I enjoyed sharing these thoughts - hope you enjoy listening. And I'd love to hear what resonated with you.Henny xWINTER INTO SPRING RETREAT 2024Feb 19-23 - Herefordshire, UK - only a few places remaining.  If you want to know more... https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6a839471c2Join the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S12E5 - Stuck: Creating movement within

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2023 24:58


    Sometimes, when we are so activated by what we're experiencing in our inner world, our only place of control can feel like it's to stay as we are. Even though we also know on a deep level that what will most serve us is to move, to change, to shift, to grow in some way.So today we're talking about stuckness. And how we can create some movement within.It's a familiar feeling for so many of us - whether from the past or something we're feeling right now.Some of the points I cover are:Overwhelm can often come from too many choicesWhen we're activated, our whole system fires up to avoid further riskSelf-compassion is turning toward ourselves with the desire to see our own suffering and help in some wayDifferent somatic expressions of the internal state of stuckness, and a technique to attend to thisTo feel fully safe with others, it can be vital to feel safe with ourselves firstFinally, I close with the reflection that every time you do something kind for yourself, you're creating a shift. Notice those moments, they may add up to something you haven't fully yet recognised.With love.RESOURCESJOURNALING QUEST for Self-Compassion - free mini-course: https://hennyflynn.ck.page/c852854559Join the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S12E4 - Glimmers: Let the light in

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2023 22:25


    Leonard Cohen once wrote 'so much of the world is plunged in darkness and chaos… So ring the bells that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in.'Today we're exploring light. Real and metaphorical. We look at:How vital light is for our well-being - physical, mental, emotional, spiritualThe work of Polyvagal theorists, Stephen Porges and Deb DanHow glimmers, tiny moments of joy, are the powerful opposite of triggers and help us let the light inThe nueroplasticity of the brain and our ability to support ourselves as we re-establish homeostasisA poem from My darling girl vol. 1 that I now understand was all about glimmers When we care for our whole being - body, mind, spirit - when we let the light in - then we are better able to live well, and to care with compassion for the world around us, and the people around us too.Learning our own glimmers, learning how we (as individuals) can let the light in. This is part of the Work.RESOURCESStephen Porges - The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling SafeDeb Dan - The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of RegulationJoin the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S12E3 - Grounding: Stand steady

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 25, 2023 22:08


    The Buddhist teacher thicht nacht hahn tells us how when we look at the tops of trees in a storm, they are wild and look like they might fall. But when we lower our gaze, we see their trunks are standing steady.This reflection felt so perfect when I read it after completing the practice I'd like to share with you today, a practice that introduced me to a piece of wisdom I hadn't been expecting to receive. I share:An ancient and very simple re-grounding practice, to use whenever you feel disconnected or lost in the noise and challenges of the worldMy own personal experience of using this practice, and how it feels to listen deeply to your inner wisest self as you connect with natureHow while being able to move with the flow is important, sometimes it is also important to hold ourselves steady and trust what we know to be the deepest truthYou may wish to also explore Wisdom from Within, a fully guided, online teaching to support you in deepening your connection with your own inner wisdom. https://hennyflynn.ck.page/9ca85eeaafJoin the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S12E2 - Great Expectations: managing assumptions

    Play Episode Play 59 sec Highlight Listen Later Nov 18, 2023 27:38


    How many times have you felt disappointed or surprised that something hasn't gone quite as you expected?Or found yourself feeling faintly uncomfortable at how something was unfolding- perhaps not quite knowing what you're feeling or why you're feeling it?As humans we all make assumptions all the time - they're useful things, designed to keep us safe.But the challenge is that our assumptions can be misguided at times.Today we're looking at Great (or not so great) Expectations:How we can find ourselves assuming something is going to go really well, and end up downhearted. Or we assume it will go really badly and tie ourself up in knots before the thing happens.How finding the balance between positive anticipation and unhelpful assumptions can be tricky - especially as we're not always aware of the assumptions we're creating.And I share an ImageWork practice that can help us create and maintain a mindful awareness of what we're facing into - where we vision the day (or event) ahead, seeing what our imagination can show us about the assumptions we might be makingI'm also offering this practice as a LIVE online eventVision The Day: Thursday 7 December 7-9pm BSTFind out more and book your tickets through Eventbrite or see the information on my website - tickets are going fast!https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/vision-the-day-tickets-754474251797?utm-campaign=social&utm-content=attendeeshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=listing&utm-source=cp&aff=ebdsshcopyurlJoin the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

    S12E1 - Making space for the joy and the pain

    Play Episode Play 35 sec Highlight Listen Later Nov 11, 2023 20:51


    In his writings ‘No Mud, No lotus', the great Buddhist thinker, Thich Nhat Hanh says:"Suffering and happiness are not separate"Every generation faces its challenges, just as every human being faces theirs. This is a universal theme that is feeling particularly resonant right now. And so, today we're going to be exploring what it means to make space for the joy and the pain.I explore how depending on our conditioning we may lean more toward one than the other. Perhaps suppressing our pain or our joy out of fear or shame. As children we make sense of an adult world, using the only resources we have. The challenge is that as we mature we carry the same strategy with us and keep deploying it. The grandmothers of the Hacaritama tradition in Columbia tell us  how to balance the spirit of Ecua - the spirit of pain - by welcoming in our happiness.Keep listening at the end for a bonus extra where I also share a reading from My darling girl vol.2. RESOURCEThich Naht Hahn article https://www.parallax.org/mindfulnessbell/article/no-mud-no-lotus-2/Join the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/

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