Helping Committed Fathers & Husbands End Their Habit of Watching Porn So They Can Reignite the Passion in Their Relationships and Be Better Role Models to Their Children.
In today's episode of the "Pørn to Purpose" podcast, I sit down with Coach Yeadon to unpack one of the most common questions men ask on the recovery journey: “Am I addicted to Pørn if I only watch it once a week?”. We break down the difference between being “functional” and being truly free, and explore how even low-frequency Pørn-use can still rewire your brain, sabotage intimacy, drain your focus, and erode your integrity over time. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:30] Why “Am I addicted?” is the wrong question — and what to ask instead [01:58] The truth about once-a-week Pørn use and why it still keeps you trapped [03:55] A real definition of addiction: returning to behavior you know is harming you [04:55] The red flags: hiding, sneaking, deleting, and rationalizing [06:18] The mental obsession: when your brain starts planning your next fix [07:38] How even occasional use rewires your arousal and wrecks intimacy [09:05] The emotional cost: why your relationship feels distant and disconnected [10:40] Integrity check: if you only lie once a week, are you honest? [12:07] Why asking the question at all means your conscience is waking up [14:03] Four steps to change: Own it, Interrupt the Pattern, Get Support, Join a Brotherhood Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Pørn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the Pørn to Purpose podcast, I'm joined by Coach Yeadon to expose the hidden cycle that keeps men addicted to pornography—what we call the “shame loop.” If you've tried to quit pørn but keep falling back into old patterns of guilt, isolation, and self-condemnation, this conversation is for you. We unpack how shame fuels porn addiction, how it distorts your identity, and most importantly—how to break free using real-world tools from our Liberation Boot Camp and men's recovery community. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:30] Introduction to the shame loop and its impact on porn addiction recovery [01:11] Coach Matt and Coach Yeadon discuss growing up with religious shame and sexual suppression [02:23] What is the shame loop? Understanding the guilt-shame-porn cycle [03:17] Why porn becomes a coping mechanism for emotional pain and unmet needs [04:15] Step-by-step breakdown of the 5-part shame cycle keeping men stuck in addiction [06:38] Guilt vs. shame: how the wrong mindset makes recovery harder [07:31] How shame creates isolation—and why isolation fuels relapse [10:10] Why willpower and moralizing aren't enough to quit porn [11:09] A 3-step strategy to disrupt the shame loop: Speak it, Reframe it, Make a new choice [14:29] How the Liberation Bootcamp helps men rebuild their identity and stay porn-free Resources & Links Mentioned in the Episode: Join the Porn to Purpose Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn more about the Liberation Boot Camp: https://www.porntopurpose.com
In today's episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, I'm joined by Coach Yeadon, and we're diving headfirst into one of the most misunderstood ideas in the recovery world—NoFAP. We're calling out the truth that simply counting days doesn't lead to real freedom. Together, we break down the difference between behavior-based abstinence and true identity-level transformation. I share insights into why white-knuckling your way through a streak doesn't actually heal the root of the problem, and Yeadon gets real about what finally made the difference for him after decades of struggle. We unpack how emotional pain, unprocessed trauma, and isolation feed the cycle of p0rn use—and how community, connection, and inner work are the real path to freedom. This episode is for the man who's tired of “trying harder” and ready to become someone new. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:26] Conversation around NoFAP, streaks, and real recovery. [01:34] Defining NoFAP and why it's not enough to lead to true transformation. [02:05] “NoFAP will get you days on the counter. Real recovery sets you free.” [03:34] The danger of behavior-based change versus identity-level change. [04:26] Why most guys fail: they never address the emotional wounds underneath. [05:01] The missing ingredient in NoFAP: brotherhood and community. [06:01] Porn is the painkiller—not the problem. [07:14] Yeadon shares his breakthrough moment and how healing began. [09:43] Shame dies when stories are told in safe spaces. [12:07] What real recovery requires: tools, accountability, and identity shift. Resources & Links Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: https://www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, we dive into one of the most important questions a man can ask: “Do I actually have a porn problem?” I'm joined by Coach Yeadon as we get brutally honest about how porn quietly chips away at your integrity, marriage, energy, and mental clarity—even if it hasn't “wrecked your life.” If you've ever questioned your habit, this one's for you. We unpack the real signs of porn addiction, the lies we tell ourselves to minimize it, and the emotional pain we're often medicating with porn. For most men, porn isn't the core issue—it's the symptom. Whether you're single, married, spiritual, or just sick of the shame cycle—this episode will help you face the truth and take your first step toward freedom. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:29] Why we keep asking the same question—and why we'll keep answering it [01:28] “Is porn a problem?” — how that question became the catalyst for change [01:58] The moment you start searching is the moment you already know [03:13] The truth about compartmentalization and why it's not helping you [04:12] Classic justifications we use: “Every guy does it,” “At least I'm not cheating” [05:36] What white-knuckling really looks like—and why it doesn't work [06:04] Why hiding it is a sign it's a problem, even if it hasn't “ruined” your life [06:42] Buying your own lies: “She knows,” “It's not that bad,” “It's just visual” [07:43] Key gut-check questions: Have you tried to quit? Have you failed to? [08:30+] A call to self-inventory—and why integrity is your true north Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Apply for the Liberation Bootcamp: https://www.porntopurpose.com
In today's episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, I'm joined by Coach Yeadon to discuss one of the most challenging and crucial topics for fathers: raising sons in a world saturated with porn. This conversation is packed with real experiences, practical advice, and honest insights on how to guide our kids through the challenges of today's hypersexualized digital landscape. You won't want to miss it. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:02] Introduction to the episode and the challenge of discussing porn with kids. [01:27] Yeadon shares his journey into recovery and how concern for his children was the catalyst. [02:25] Discussing the fears and challenges fathers face when talking to their kids about porn. [04:52] Emphasizing the importance of intentional leadership in guiding kids. [06:26] The role of technology in exposing children to pornography. [07:52] Why leading by example is more powerful than preaching. [10:26] How silence around the topic creates shame and leads to secret struggles. [12:19] Yeadon shares how he found freedom through recovery and the impact on his family. [17:12] The importance of creating a safe space for open, honest conversations with kids. [20:31] The power of consistency and authenticity in parenting. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Boot Camp: www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, I sit down with Coach Yeadon to have one of the most uncomfortable—but critical—conversations every man trapped in porn eventually faces: how to talk to your wife about porn. Let's be real—confessing this kind of struggle feels terrifying. You're afraid she'll be crushed. That you'll lose her trust—or worse, her love. But staying silent? That's already killing your marriage. Today, Coach Yeadon and I break down what that conversation actually looks like, why timing and honesty matter, and how to lead with truth rather than shame. If you're serious about healing and rebuilding intimacy, this episode will show you how to stop hiding and start communicating with the woman who deserves your full heart. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:40] – Matthew and Coach Yeadon open the episode with the emotional weight of bringing porn into a marriage. [02:10] – Why hiding your porn habit silently erodes trust—even if she doesn't know. [04:00] – “Secrets rot everything they touch” — why honesty matters more than perfection. [05:30] – The wrong time to tell her—and what emotional state you need to be in before you speak. [06:50] – How to avoid blame, shame-dumping, and defensiveness when coming clean. [08:20] – Why most wives aren't hurt just by porn—but by the betrayal of being lied to. [09:55] – What real accountability looks like after the conversation. [11:15] – Why “just telling her” isn't enough—you need a plan for recovery. [13:00] – How the Liberation Bootcamp helps men rebuild from the inside out—and lead with truth. [14:30] – A message to husbands: how to earn her trust back with action, not words. Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Apply for the Liberation Bootcamp: https://www.porntopurpose.com
In today's episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I'm joined by Coach Yeadon as we dive into a question many of us have silently asked ourselves: “Why am I watching porn even when I'm not even horny?” This episode explores the deeper emotional drivers behind porn addiction—stress, anxiety, loneliness, fear, and emotional exhaustion—and why porn becomes our default coping mechanism. Together, we unpack the truth that porn use often has little to do with sex and everything to do with emotional avoidance. We look at how this habit develops, why it “almost works,” and how we've been misled into thinking we just have a high sex drive. The truth is, unmet emotional needs are what drive most compulsive behaviors. Yeadon and I also share practical tools and powerful mindset shifts to help you build the capacity to sit with discomfort, regulate your nervous system, and begin choosing healthier ways to meet your needs. Whether you're just starting out or deep in the work, this conversation offers real insight, emotional clarity, and an invitation to rise above old patterns. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Matt and Yeadon open with the real question: “Why do I watch porn when I'm not even aroused?” [01:34] Breaking the myth: it's not about sex, it's about emotional pain and avoidance. [02:04] A look at how stress, boredom, anxiety, and loneliness fuel compulsive porn use. [03:57] Calling out the lie of the “high sex drive” narrative—porn is not about libido. [05:12] Yeadon shares how emotional overwhelm led to habitual porn use in his past. [06:50] The role of awareness and the HALT check-in: hungry, angry, lonely, tired. [08:42] “Porn almost works”—why short-term relief keeps you stuck in the cycle. [10:12] Training the brain to face pain: how to sit with discomfort and not run. [12:57] Practical tools: breathwork, cold showers, movement, and brotherhood. [15:26] Emotional intelligence: learning to respond, not react—and how to begin that journey. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Boot Camp: www.porntopurpose.com
In today's episode of the “Porn to Purpose” podcast, I'm joined by Coach Yeadon as we unpack one of the most essential conversations in breaking free from porn: understanding and applying what we call the Three C's—Community, Clarity, and Commitment. These are the foundational pillars that have helped hundreds of men step out of addiction and into lasting transformation. We get honest about the real reasons men struggle to quit, why willpower alone isn't enough, and how most of us are fighting the wrong battle altogether. Coach Yeadon brings his personal experience of over 800 days porn-free and shares the deep inner work, tools, and frameworks that have kept him free and thriving. If you're serious about change, this episode is a roadmap. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the Three C's and why this episode is foundational for recovery. [01:24] Community: Why shame dies in safe spaces and how connection is the true opposite of addiction. [03:23] The power of sharing your story and normalizing the conversation around porn and addiction. [06:12] Clarity: Why porn isn't the real problem—and how to uncover what you're actually running from. [07:55] Understanding emotional triggers using the HALT method: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. [09:46] How porn becomes a nervous system regulation tool—and why it almost works. [10:57] The truth about needing regulation, not relief—and how to meet your needs in healthy ways. [12:26] Commitment: The importance of following a proven path with structure and guidance. [14:22] Coach Yeadon shares how visibility and brotherhood keep him accountable even 800+ days in. [17:27] Final reflections on how building a better life makes porn irrelevant—and why now is the time to act. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
In today's episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I'm joined by Coach Yeadon as we break down the five clear signs that porn has become more than just a habit. If you've been wondering whether this is something you actually need to deal with—or how to even begin—we lay it all out. From compulsive use to emotional avoidance, escalation, and shame, this episode helps you recognize the real roots behind the struggle and what to do next. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:28] The hidden truth behind asking, “Am I addicted to porn?” [01:51] What compulsive use looks like and why it's so hard to stop. [03:18] Using porn as a way to numb emotions like stress, loneliness, and anger. [04:50] Why porn “almost works” and how that creates deeper pain. [06:18] How escalation and tolerance lead to more extreme content over time. [07:45] The trap of chasing novelty and longer sessions for the same dopamine hit. [09:39] A powerful question: Where does this trend go if nothing changes? [10:09] The impact of porn on real-life relationships and intimacy. [13:05] How secrecy, hiding, and shame isolate men in silence. [15:59] The truth: “Shame dies when stories are told in safe spaces.” Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
In today's episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, I'm joined by Coach Yeadon as we explore how porn rewires your brain and drains your energy, focus, and motivation. If you've ever felt foggy, numb, or disconnected after watching porn—this episode unpacks why. We break down the dopamine loop, why it's so addictive, and how it impacts your mental and emotional health. Most importantly, we offer real hope: your brain can heal. With the right support, you can rewire your mind, reclaim your energy, and reconnect with the life you were meant to live. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:33] The reality of porn in recovery spaces—and why this conversation is long overdue. [01:03] Introduction to the topic: the effects of porn on the brain and dopamine. [03:31] Common symptoms of porn addiction: brain fog, low energy, and lack of motivation. [04:45] Why porn delivers a massive, unnatural dopamine hit—and how it trains your brain. [06:15] How modern porn creates supernormal stimuli that don't exist in the natural world. [07:56] The escalating cycle: from pictures to videos to more extreme content. [09:20] The porn industry doesn't care about you—it profits off your biology being hijacked. [10:49] Why porn leads to depression, numbness, and disconnection from your partner. [14:57] Neuroplasticity: how you can retrain your brain and create new dopamine pathways. [19:46] The importance of community and support in lasting recovery from porn. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
In this special 100th episode of the Porn to Purpose Podcast, Coach Yeadon and I explore the deep-rooted reasons why many men continue to relapse during their recovery journey from pornography. They discuss personal growth, self-reflection, and the necessity of community support as part of the healing process. Key insights on coping mechanisms, emotional regulation, and how to break the cycle of relapse are shared. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:45] Why quitting porn feels impossible, even when you're doing all the “right” things [02:30] The real reason why you keep relapsing—it's not just about willpower [06:10] The power of extracting the lesson from relapse instead of spiraling into shame [10:20] How to shift your focus from quitting to truly outgrowing porn [15:00] The deeper emotional and psychological factors driving addiction [19:45] Why trying to do this alone is a guaranteed path to failure [22:00] What most men misunderstand about “discipline” in recovery [25:30] The missing piece that keeps guys stuck in the relapse cycle [28:10] How to rebuild momentum after you've lost it [30:40] The truth about relapse that no one talks about Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
Struggling to quit porn? You're not alone. In this episode of the Porn to Purpose Podcast, I sit down with Coach Yeadon to reveal the step-by-step blueprint for breaking free from pornography addiction. We dive into the four critical pillars of lasting recovery: Recognizing that you need help – Breaking through denial and understanding the real impact of porn on your life. The power of community – Why quitting alone never works and how surrounding yourself with the right people changes everything. Leveraging accountability and a mastermind group – The secret weapon to staying on track and avoiding relapse. Long-term commitment to a purpose-driven life – Replacing porn with something greater to create real transformation. If you're stuck in the quit-relapse cycle and want to know why willpower alone isn't enough, this episode gives you the exact strategies to break free—for good. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] – Why most men fail to quit porn—and the biggest mindset shift you need. [02:05] – The first step: Admitting you have a problem and breaking through denial. [04:20] – How community plays a powerful role in quitting porn. [07:10] – The dangers of isolation and why quitting alone never works. [09:45] – How a mastermind group creates accountability and lasting change. [12:30] – Essential strategies for long-term commitment and staying free. [15:15] – The biggest mistakes men make when trying to quit porn. [17:40] – Why quitting porn isn't the goal—it's about building a life of purpose. [20:05] – Practical steps to take today to break free from addiction. [23:30] – Final thoughts and the most important action you need to take. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com Porn is robbing you of your confidence, your relationships, and your purpose. You've tried quitting alone—it hasn't worked. It's time to do something different. Listen now and take your first step toward real freedom.
In today's episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I dive into a mindset shift that is crucial for long-term recovery—failing forward. Recovery isn't about perfection; it's about learning, adjusting, and continuing to grow, even when setbacks happen. I share insights from my own journey, where I've experienced struggles but have also built the skills and tools necessary for sustained freedom. This episode explores the difference between sobriety and recovery, why relapse doesn't erase progress, and how to build a strong framework that helps you get back on track faster. If you've ever felt like you're constantly starting over, this conversation is for you. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the "failing forward" mindset—why recovery is a lifelong journey. [02:05] The difference between sobriety (quantitative) and recovery (cumulative)—why counting days isn't enough. [04:15] Understanding that relapse doesn't mean failure—you never lose the skills and lessons you've gained. [06:00] How to analyze a relapse: What were the thoughts, triggers, and patterns that led up to it? [08:22] The "recovery boat" analogy—why setbacks help reveal leaks in your framework so you can improve. [10:45] How to use the Relapse Recovery Document to track patterns and adjust your strategy. [13:10] Why accountability and community are essential for bouncing back stronger after a setback. [15:30] How to shift your focus from "starting over" to "building forward"—each step counts. [17:55] The importance of having a structured system—daily habits, check-ins, and proactive strategies. [20:10] Final thoughts: This is a lifetime journey—progress over perfection. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp:www.porntopurpose.com
In today's episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I dig into the journey from porn to purpose and how living with greater intentionality can serve as a powerful pathway to freedom. I share the origins of this community, starting from 'Making Peace with Porn' to what it has evolved into today. I talk about how purpose can act as both a call to action and a stabilizing force in recovery. This episode dives deep into recognizing the call to live a greater life and how aligning with purpose can transform our relationship with porn and with ourselves. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the episode's theme on the journey from porn to purpose. [01:37] The origins of the community, starting with 'Making Peace with Porn.' [03:15] How the concept of 'porn to purpose' emerged and its significance in recovery. [05:04] Recognizing the call to live more, give more, and be more. [07:22] The role of purpose as a motivator in the recovery journey. [09:40] How living with greater intentionality helps in overcoming addiction. [12:18] The importance of creating a life worth living as a deterrent to relapse. [15:03] Building deeper and more meaningful relationships in recovery. [17:25] Stepping into leadership and personal responsibility as a stabilizing force. [19:48] An invitation to reflect on your purpose and take actionable steps forward. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Check out the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
In today's episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I'm joined by Coach Yeadon. We're tackling one of the most pressing questions for those on the journey to recovery: "How long does it take to quit porn?" Together, we dive deep into the myths, the science, and the personal experiences that reveal why recovery is a lifelong journey rather than a quick fix. Coach Yeadon and I unpack the misleading 90-day rule, the myths behind habit formation, and the importance of a fundamental shift in perspective—from seeing porn as a sin to understanding it as a coping mechanism. We also emphasize the significance of active recovery over mere sobriety, and why ongoing diligence is crucial for long-term success. This episode is packed with honest insights, relatable stories, and practical advice for anyone seeking freedom from porn. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the episode's main question: How long does it take to quit porn? [01:39] Debunking the 90-day myth and exploring the real science of habit change. [03:06] Why the journey to recovery is a lifetime commitment. [05:04] The power of shifting perspectives: from sin to coping mechanism. [07:03] Understanding recovery as an active, ongoing process. [08:29] The role of community and support in breaking free from porn. [10:24] Matt's insights on avoiding the trap of white-knuckling recovery. [12:24] The importance of being proactive in managing emotional triggers. [16:10] How a fundamental shift in thinking leads to sustainable recovery. [18:36] Practical steps to build new coping mechanisms and prevent relapse. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
In today's episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, we dive into the concept of the "Chasm of Cringe"—the uncomfortable yet necessary process of facing challenges head-on in recovery. Coach Yeadon and I explore how overcoming the fear of judgment and failure is a crucial step in breaking free from porn addiction and stepping into a life of purpose. Through personal experiences and practical insights, we discuss how pushing through the discomfort, embracing imperfection, and choosing the right kind of hard work can create lasting change. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the episode's theme – The "Chasm of Cringe" in recovery. [02:05] Why starting something new—especially quitting porn—always feels uncomfortable. [04:32] The amplified shame and stigma surrounding porn addiction and recovery. [07:10] How cultural and personal narratives make speaking about porn even harder. [09:45] The importance of being willing to "do it ugly" and embrace imperfection. [12:28] Why community and accountability are essential in overcoming the cringe factor. [15:50] The difference between choosing short-term comfort vs. long-term freedom. [18:22] Why failure isn't a setback—it's part of the process of building resilience. [20:55] How taking consistent small steps beats waiting for the “perfect” time to start. [24:38] Invitation to join the Liberation Bootcamp and get support from other men on this journey. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com Schedule a call to join the Liberation Bootcamp: https://calendly.com/sinkovitzlegacy/assessment-call
In today's episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, I'm sitting down with Coach Yeadon, to talk about some of the hard lessons we've learned on our journey of overcoming porn addiction. We're breaking down the myths around having a high sex drive, the dangers of isolation, and the trap of trying to figure it out alone. If I could go back and talk to my 20-year-old self, what advice would I give? This episode is packed with real talk, practical strategies, and the wisdom I wish I had years ago. If you're struggling, this conversation will show you the path to real freedom. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:15] – Introduction to the theme: What we wish we knew at 20. [02:30] – The high sex drive myth—why porn isn't just about sex. [05:45] – Understanding porn as an emotional coping mechanism. [08:20] – How dopamine addiction keeps you stuck in the cycle. [11:05] – The isolation trap—why porn thrives in secrecy. [14:40] – The power of community and why you can't do this alone. [17:15] – Why willpower alone isn't enough to break free. [21:00] – The importance of guidance—why you need a structured path. [24:35] – Key mindset shifts that help reframe your journey. [28:50] – Final words of encouragement: You don't have to fight this alone. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com Schedule a call to join the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com/bootcamp
In today's episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I'm joined by Coach Yeadon Smith for an open and honest discussion about the signs that indicate it's time to rethink your relationship with pornography. We reflect on our personal experiences, the emotional and psychological impact of porn use, and how to recognize when it's affecting your life negatively. We also explore the role of shame, social conditioning, and disconnection in maintaining the cycle of addiction. Most importantly, we share insights on how to break free and reclaim true intimacy and connection. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:15] Introduction to the episode's theme: Identifying the warning signs of porn addiction. [02:42] Coach Matthew reflects on the early moments when he realized he needed a change. [05:18] Coach Yeadon discusses how guilt and shame played a role in his struggle with porn. [08:10] The hidden ways porn can rewire the brain and impact real-world intimacy. [11:35] How porn use can lead to isolation and avoidance of meaningful relationships. [14:20] Recognizing when you've “quit a thousand times” but keep coming back. [18:50] The link between porn use and emotional disconnection from oneself and others. [22:17] Understanding how pornography provides a false sense of connection. [25:40] The importance of community and accountability in the recovery journey. [30:12] Invitation to join the Liberation Bootcamp and take the next step toward freedom. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com Schedule a call to join the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com/bootcamp
In today's episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, we celebrate an incredible milestone—two years of sobriety from pornography. Our co-host, Yeadon Smith shares his personal journey, reflecting on the lessons learned, the challenges overcome, and the key shifts that made long-term freedom possible. We discuss the deeper emotional patterns that drive porn use, the importance of community, and the essential tools that helped sustain recovery. This episode is packed with raw insights and powerful takeaways for anyone on the path to liberation. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Welcome and introduction to today's milestone episode. [01:30] Reflecting on two years of sobriety and how it almost didn't feel possible. [03:45] The realization that quitting porn isn't just about quitting—it's about personal transformation. [06:20] Why willpower alone isn't enough and how environment plays a crucial role. [08:10] Understanding that porn was never really about sex—it was a coping mechanism. [11:05] The importance of emotional intelligence in overcoming addiction. [13:30] How community and accountability provide the foundation for lasting change. [16:45] Learning to replace unhealthy habits with productive coping strategies. [20:15] The power of being honest with yourself and others in the healing process. [23:50] Final reflections and an invitation to take action toward freedom. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com Schedule a call to join the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com/bootcamp
In this episode of the Porn to Purpose Podcast, I delve into the vital role of accountability in recovery. I share my personal framework, developed since 2019, for staying connected, supported, and visible on my recovery journey. This episode outlines actionable steps to establish a robust accountability infrastructure and emphasizes the importance of community and visibility. Top 10 Episode Highlights: [00:15] Introduction to the topic: Why accountability is key in recovery. [01:25] The challenges of navigating recovery alone and the value of community. [03:40] Daily accountability check-ins within the Porn to Purpose community. [05:10] Weekly calls with sponsors and secondary accountability partners. [07:00] Leveraging accountability software for transparency and visibility. [09:15] The role of external communities like SAA in long-term recovery. [11:05] Structuring a weekly framework to maintain momentum and focus. [13:20] Bookending the week with support calls and reflections. [15:50] Overcoming challenges and returning to the accountability system. [17:35] Practical advice for building your own accountability framework. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
In today's episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, Coach Matt and Coach Yeadon continue their deep dive into debunking common myths around pornography. Building on last week's discussion, they tackle three additional myths that hold many men back from reclaiming their power and purpose. These myths include: "I've tried to quit and failed, so it's hopeless," "Porn is just a normal part of being a man," and "I can use porn in moderation." This empowering conversation highlights the importance of community, hope, and progress over perfection in overcoming challenges related to pornography. The episode concludes with actionable steps and self-reflective questions to help men assess their relationship with porn and take meaningful steps toward liberation. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:10] Introduction and recap of last week's myths: "Porn is harmless," "I can stop anytime I want," and "I'm the only one struggling." [02:45] Myth #4: "I've tried to quit and failed, so it's hopeless." Coach Yeadon shares insights on finding hope and resilience. [06:32] The role of community in breaking free from isolation and cultivating hope. [08:15] Myth #5: "Porn is just a normal part of being a man." Coach Matt and Yeadon discuss how normalization perpetuates harm. [13:04] Why "common" doesn't mean "healthy" – understanding the real impact of porn on men's lives. [17:20] Myth #6: "I can use porn in moderation." Insights into how addiction escalates and why negotiation doesn't work. [20:50] The importance of focusing on progress over perfection in recovery. [23:40] Self-reflection questions to determine if porn is a problem in your life. [27:18] Three ways to start shifting your relationship with porn: awareness, honesty, and support. [32:10] Invitation to join the Liberation Bootcamp for active recovery and community support. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn more about the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
In today's episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, we tackle the top three myths surrounding porn addiction that keep men stuck in cycles of shame and struggle. Coach Yeadon and I share personal experiences, practical insights, and actionable advice to help listeners recognize these myths and begin the journey toward freedom. This episode is part one of a two-part series dedicated to exposing false beliefs and empowering men to reclaim their lives. From addressing the misconception that "porn is harmless" to breaking the silence of isolation, this episode is packed with wisdom and encouragement. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the episode and the theme of debunking common myths about porn addiction. [02:45] Myth #1: "Porn is harmless and doesn't hurt anyone." Why this belief is false and its impact on mental, spiritual, and relational health. [06:15] Insights into the toxic nature of the pornography industry and how it affects consumers. [08:40] Myth #2: "I can stop whenever I want." Challenging this belief and exploring the psychology of addiction. [12:20] Strategies for testing self-control and taking the first steps toward change. [15:05] Myth #3: "I'm the only one who struggles with this." Why isolation is a trap and how community brings healing. [18:50] The importance of breaking the silence and sharing your story in safe spaces. [22:30] How shame diminishes when stories are told in supportive environments. [26:00] Introduction to the Liberation Bootcamp as a next step for sustained recovery. [28:45] Closing thoughts and preview of part two in the series. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
In today's episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, we're diving into one of the most challenging yet essential aspects of recovery: rebuilding trust in our relationships. This is a conversation that often feels terrifying, but it's also one of the most liberating steps we can take. In this episode, Coach Yeadon shares his personal journey—lessons learned, hard truths faced, and the powerful tools that have helped him rebuild trust in his life. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:15] Introduction to the theme of rebuilding trust in recovery. [02:08] Yeadon shares his first exposure to pornography and the early struggles he faced. [04:12] The impact of hiding pornography use and its effect on relationships. [07:06] Why transparency and bringing loved ones into the conversation is vital. [10:18] Understanding the difference between seeking validation and being authentic. [13:35] The role of time and patience in rebuilding trust. [16:22] Practical steps for remaining visible and transparent with your partner. [18:54] How recovery skills apply to all areas of life, including parenting and communication. [22:11] The secret to rebuilding trust: demonstrating change through consistent actions. [25:40] Final words of encouragement for those navigating trust and recovery. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, I explore an intriguing connection between food and sexual urges in the recovery journey. Drawing from my own experience, I share insights into how binge eating and porn addiction often mirror each other, both acting as ways to sedate, distract, or regulate emotions. I discuss the emotional patterns beneath these behaviors, the role of self-discipline, and how mindfulness can help us uncover and address deeper issues like fatigue, anxiety, and stress. By reshaping our relationship with food, we can create a foundation for healthier habits and greater self-control in other areas of life. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction - Exploring the food and sex connection in recovery. [02:15] Food as Sedation - Emotional overeating and its ties to pornography urges. [06:10] Emotional Intelligence - The importance of slowing down and observing triggers. [09:22] Quote Insight - “Hunger is the first element of self-discipline...” and its deeper implications. [12:35] Food and Survival - The link between food, sex, and root survival instincts. [15:48] Interchangeable Addictions - How food and porn serve similar emotional needs. [18:42] Dopamine Hits - The role of food, screens, and porn in seeking quick pleasure. [22:01] Energy Leaks - How poor habits around food and sex drain us energetically. [25:14] Clean Up Energy - The transformation that happens when we regain control. [28:30] Call to Action - Invitation to join the Liberation Bootcamp for deeper healing. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, I explore an intriguing connection between food and sexual urges in the recovery journey. Drawing from my own experience, I share insights into how binge eating and porn addiction often mirror each other, both acting as ways to sedate, distract, or regulate emotions. I discuss the emotional patterns beneath these behaviors, the role of self-discipline, and how mindfulness can help us uncover and address deeper issues like fatigue, anxiety, and stress. By reshaping our relationship with food, we can create a foundation for healthier habits and greater self-control in other areas of life. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction - Exploring the food and sex connection in recovery. [02:15] Food as Sedation - Emotional overeating and its ties to pornography urges. [06:10] Emotional Intelligence - The importance of slowing down and observing triggers. [09:22] Quote Insight - “Hunger is the first element of self-discipline...” and its deeper implications. [12:35] Food and Survival - The link between food, sex, and root survival instincts. [15:48] Interchangeable Addictions - How food and porn serve similar emotional needs. [18:42] Dopamine Hits - The role of food, screens, and porn in seeking quick pleasure. [22:01] Energy Leaks - How poor habits around food and sex drain us energetically. [25:14] Clean Up Energy - The transformation that happens when we regain control. [28:30] Call to Action - Invitation to join the Liberation Bootcamp for deeper healing. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, Coach Yeadon Smith and I talk about how to stay sober and on track with your recovery during the holiday season. We dive into the challenges that come with disrupted routines, holiday events, and potential pitfalls that can throw you off course. We focus on bringing awareness, planning, and intentionality to the chaos of the holidays. You'll hear practical tips on how to assess your capacity, spot the danger zones, and stick to your recovery habits — even when things get tough. Top 10 Show Highlights [00:15] - Introduction to the episode's theme: navigating recovery through the holiday season. [01:32] - Why the holiday season is full of potential pitfalls and challenges. [03:24] - The importance of assessing your schedule and being aware of reduced capacity. [05:41] - Understanding the concept of “middle circle” behaviors and identifying danger zones. [07:10] - How holiday events can drain your energy and affect decision-making. [09:08] - The role of the daily active recovery framework during the holidays. [11:23] - Why small, consistent efforts matter more than perfection. [13:15] - Practical tips for maintaining core recovery habits in chaotic times. [15:48] - How to avoid falling into the trap of “life by default” during the holidays. [18:10] - The importance of getting support and staying connected to the community. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn more about the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, we uncover the underestimated yet foundational role of sleep in the recovery journey. Sleep isn't just about rest—it's the bedrock of clarity, resilience, and effective decision-making. Without it, even the best strategies falter. Coach Yeadon and I break down how poor sleep impacts recovery and share practical tools to reclaim this critical piece of your foundation. Join us as we discuss the profound importance of sleep and its direct connection to recovery, emotional stability, and overall well-being. Top 10 Show Highlights [00:18] Introduction to the episode's theme: Is your foundation built on rock or sand? [01:44] Why sleep is the often-overlooked yet critical element in recovery. [03:12] The HALT framework: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired—and why “tired” tops the list. [05:21] Insights into how lack of sleep triggers impulsive behaviors and decision fatigue. [07:15] Personal stories from Matt and Yeadon on how sleep deprivation has impacted their lives and recovery journeys. [09:08] Why sleep deprivation compounds over time and undermines long-term success. [12:23] The importance of reparenting yourself and setting intentional sleep schedules. [14:56] Tips for integrating micro-naps and breaking the stigma around rest. [16:37] How to create a supportive environment to prioritize and protect sleep. [19:02] The value of community in reinforcing sleep habits and recovery tools. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn about the Liberation Bootcamp and other resources: www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, Coach Yeadon shares a powerful story of his recovery journey, offering insights into the habits, tools, and intentional practices that have shaped his path to freedom from pornography. Reflecting on his two-year journey, Yeadon delves into the foundational importance of building healthy habits, understanding triggers, and practicing emotional awareness. He emphasizes how tying intention to recovery activities transforms them into effective tools for lasting change. This episode is an inspiring reminder that recovery is possible with focus, intention, and the right support. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:15] Introduction to Yeadon's journey and his role in the Porn to Purpose community. [01:45] The discovery of the Liberation Bootcamp and the realization of recovery potential. [03:10] Introduction to the "Core Four" habits: exercise, journaling, reading, and meditation. [05:22] The hard truth of moving beyond white-knuckling sobriety to intentional recovery. [08:50] Understanding the impact of triggers and how the brain processes dopamine responses. [12:15] The transformative role of meditation in recovery and emotional awareness. [14:40] How tying habits to recovery changes the game and builds lasting progress. [17:02] Recognizing and reframing the stories in our minds to move past triggers. [19:40] The importance of supportive community spaces in navigating recovery. [21:55] Closing thoughts: Recovery is a journey, and freedom is possible. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose): Learn About The Liberation Boot Camp: www.porntopurpose.com
In today's episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, we're diving deep into the essential topics of identifying our triggers and managing the conditions in our lives for lasting recovery. I'm with Coach Yeadon, and together we're breaking down how stress, loneliness, fatigue, and other conditions combine with everyday triggers, creating real challenges on the recovery journey. We'll talk about the importance of building a solid framework that keeps our inner conditions balanced, so that spark doesn't ignite into harmful reactions. This episode is all about how taking care of our mental, emotional, and physical states every day can build resilience, helping us face life's unexpected moments and moving us closer to true self-mastery. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to today's topic of triggers and conditions and their impact on recovery. [02:05] Insight into how most people recognize triggers, such as visual stimulation or stress, but may overlook underlying conditions. [05:15] Explanation of how “conditions” are like kindling in a fire, setting the stage for triggers to ignite reactions. [08:32] Yeadon shares a personal story on recognizing the difference between triggers and conditions. [12:10] Discussion on proactive daily routines to strengthen mental, emotional, and spiritual resilience. [14:20] The role of community and support systems, such as the Liberation Bootcamp, in maintaining recovery. [18:05] Importance of understanding that emotional and mental states drive reactions more than triggers themselves. [21:40] How unmet emotional needs, not necessarily sexual ones, often drive the urge to act out. [24:05] Emphasis on the value of self-awareness and checking in with oneself to assess internal conditions. [27:30] Closing thoughts on using daily habits, like exercise, meditation, reading, and connecting with others, to stay grounded and resilient. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn more about the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, hosts Matthew Sinkovitz and Yeadon Smith explore the critical topic of trigger management within the recovery journey. They dive into the concepts of "conditions" and "triggers" and how these influence our susceptibility to act out. By sharing personal experiences and insights, they demonstrate how understanding and managing these factors is essential to a sustainable recovery journey. Through mindfulness and emotional intelligence, Matthew and Yeadon highlight the importance of self-awareness and the tools needed to navigate challenging moments effectively. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the episode's theme on trigger management in recovery. [01:28] Discussion on the significance of recognizing conditions and triggers. [02:55] Explanation of conditions as "fuel" and triggers as the "spark" in addiction. [05:18] Insights on controlling one's conditions to lower the risk of acting out. [07:34] Yeadon's real-life example of managing an unexpected trigger. [11:54] Strategies for calming emotional responses through mindfulness and self-reflection. [13:26] The role of communication and vulnerability in navigating relationships. [17:50] The benefits of emotional intelligence in identifying and understanding triggers. [24:20] Introduction to the 4RAC Formula for trigger management. [27:53] Emphasis on building this skill within a supportive community for lasting change. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose): Learn About The Liberation Boot Camp: www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, Coach Yeadon sits down with Dr. Eddie Capparucci, a renowned author and expert on addiction recovery, to discuss the deep-rooted emotional patterns that fuel addiction. Dr. Capparucci, who has authored six books, including Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction, shares insights on how unresolved trauma and emotional distress drive addictive behaviors. Together, they explore the importance of understanding these emotional triggers, building emotional resilience, and the transformative power of recovery communities. This episode highlights tools and strategies for moving beyond sobriety to achieve genuine recovery and emotional maturity. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to Dr. Eddie Capparucci and his work in addiction recovery. [02:30] Dr. Capparucci explains the phrase "it almost works" and its relation to addiction coping mechanisms. [10:45] Discussion on the impact of unresolved trauma on addictive behaviors and emotional intimacy. [15:55] Exploration of the inner child model and how it addresses core emotional wounds. [22:16] Importance of proactive recovery actions, such as meditation, journaling, and self-reflection. [32:04] The role of community support in recovery and how connection mitigates addictive tendencies. [40:12] Insights on parenting and teaching children healthy emotional habits to prevent dependency on coping mechanisms. [49:28] Dr. Capparucci's approach to rewriting personal trauma and changing its impact on adult behavior. [55:43] Importance of fostering emotional intimacy in relationships and not relying solely on physical intimacy. [1:03:10] Closing thoughts on building resilience against addiction and the resources available for those on the recovery journey. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Books by Dr. Eddie Capparucci – Available on Amazon Contact Dr. Eddie Capparucci – Email: innerchildmodel@gmail.com Join the Porn to Purpose Community – https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Learn About The Liberation Bootcamp – www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the Porn to Purpose Podcast, I am joined by my esteemed partner, Coach Yeadon Smith, as we dive deep into the power of purpose and the importance of discovering your "WHY" on the path from porn to purpose. We explore the significance of understanding your motivation as the foundation for real, lasting change. Listen in as we discuss the courage it takes to ask for help, the journey of redirecting energy, and how focusing on purpose leads to a fulfilling life by design. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:03] Introduction to today's theme on finding your “WHY” and how purpose drives transformation. [00:56] The self-defeating thoughts and excuses that hold us back—and how a strong purpose clears the path. [01:27] The importance of facing your struggles and getting clear on your motivation. [02:26] Using life-saving analogies to emphasize the power of a strong “WHY.” [04:38] The courage it takes to ask for help and the journey to building lasting change. [05:55] Yeadon's personal journey of stepping into this work for his children and family. [08:56] Embracing vulnerability and integrity as crucial aspects of growth and connection. [10:15] Overcoming guilt, shame, and avoidance with a supportive community. [12:25] The transformation from “making peace with porn” to redirecting purpose in life. [14:10] How vision and values provide clarity and direction on the path from porn to purpose. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/pourtopurpose Learn About The Liberation Boot Camp: www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, Yeadon and I dive into the most common mistake in recovery: complacency. We explore how taking your eye off the ball when you're doing well can lead to relapse. Drawing from our personal experiences and recovery journeys, we highlight the importance of maintaining a consistent recovery framework and staying connected to a community. The conversation touches on how complacency can creep in after periods of success, and why it's essential to double down when you're doing well. This episode serves as a reminder that recovery is a lifelong journey, with ups and downs, and requires consistent effort and attention. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:32] Introduction to the podcast, the theme of recovery, and greeting the audience. [02:00] Introduces the topic of complacency as the number one mistake in recovery. [02:26] The discussion focuses on how complacency leads to relapse, even after weeks or months of progress. [03:26] Yeadon shares a personal lesson from his father: "Don't camp out around the campfire of success, because it will go out." [05:18] Matthew a parallel between recovery and his past experience in real estate, emphasizing the importance of consistently generating leads—or staying proactive in recovery. [06:46] The value of maintaining core habits during recovery is discussed, especially when things seem easy. [07:45] Yeadon reflects on how letting go of healthy habits can lead to returning to porn and emphasizes the need to maintain a recovery framework. [09:40] Yeadon shares his personal journey of building recovery habits after 34 years of unhealthy patterns. [11:32] Yeadon uses the analogy of riding a bike to illustrate the importance of forward momentum in recovery. [15:24] The long-term nature of personal growth and recovery is emphasized—there is no finish line, only continued progress. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode, Yeadon talks about the concept of interrupting patterns that lead to addiction, particularly focusing on how environments can either sabotage or support your recovery. Drawing on insights from Dr. Joe Dispenza's book, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, Yeadon discusses how deeply ingrained routines and environments make it difficult to change destructive habits, like turning to porn during emotional turmoil. He shares personal anecdotes about how environmental cues impact our choices, making the case that consciously shifting your environment is key to lasting change. Top Show Highlights: [00:25] Yeadon introduces the episode's theme, explaining how he'll focus on interrupting destructive patterns. [02:12] Addiction "almost works": Yeadon shares Dr. Eddie Capricci's insights on why addictions feel like solutions but ultimately make things worse. [04:45] Reference to Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza and how environmental changes can be crucial for habit-breaking. [07:50] The power of willpower vs. environment: Yeadon's personal story about health coaching and how environments affect food choices. [11:15] Why the environment “trumps willpower” and how working in the right space can make all the difference in achieving goals. [13:45] A comparison to how veterans who experimented with drugs during Vietnam stopped when returning home due to a shift in environment. [17:50] Realizing how autopilot routines control our lives, with Yeadon's story of driving back to his childhood home unintentionally. [21:30] The "Interrupt the Pattern" exercise: small daily shifts in routine, like changing commuting routes or rearranging your environment, to break habitual patterns. [27:00] How symbolic acts, like buying a new outfit or moving your computer, can mark the shift toward becoming the man who is free from porn. [31:12] A final challenge to the audience: Identify and interrupt patterns in your daily life to better support your recovery journey. Linked List of Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Schedule a confidential call with Yeadon or Matt: www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, we delve into the concept of The Noble Lens, an approach and way of life central to the work we do in the Porn to Purpose community, particularly in our Liberation Bootcamp. I introduce this profound idea that involves shifting our perspective from objectifying women to honoring them with respect and nobility. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to today's theme: The Noble Lens. [01:14] Overview of the Porn to Purpose community and the Liberation Bootcamp. [02:43] Introduction to the concept of The Noble Lens as a way of life and perception shift. [04:17] How pornography distorts our view of women and others, and the need for a new way of seeing. [06:33] Moving from objectifying women to respecting and honoring them through The Noble Lens. [08:49] Practical tools for implementing The Noble Lens in daily life. [11:27] Explanation of the Noble Lens exercise and its role in the Liberation Bootcamp. [13:44] The significance of regular practice in making this new perspective permanent. [17:05] Encouragement to place daily reminders on your phone to reinforce the practice. [20:14] Call to join the Porn to Purpose community and receive the Noble Lens exercise worksheet. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose): Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com For a copy of the Noble Lens exercise worksheet, email: makingpeacewithporn@gmail.com
In this episode of the ‘‘Porn to Purpose'' podcast, Yeadon and I break down the inner and outer game in recovery from porn addiction. We discuss how technology, accountability, and emotional resilience work together to build a strong recovery framework. While limiting access to triggers is key (outer game), it's just as important to tackle the emotional and psychological reasons driving the behavior (inner game). We also share personal stories and strategies that have helped us, like using tools such as Covenant Eyes, building accountability systems, and focusing on emotional intelligence to address deeper issues. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to today's episode theme: Inner Game vs. Outer Game. [01:23] Matthew discusses his recovery framework and how technology plays a role in limiting access. [03:45] The importance of balancing supply (outer game) and demand (inner game) in recovery. [06:15] Yeadon shares how accountability software helped initially but didn't address underlying emotional issues. [08:45] Matthew emphasizes the importance of community support in developing a recovery framework. [10:33] Yeadon talks about teaching his sons about technology's impact and emotional resilience. [12:27] Why it's important to work on the demand side through inner work like meditation and journaling. [14:19] A discussion on how emotional wounds and trauma affect behavior and recovery. [16:42] How Victor Frankl's philosophy of choice between stimulus and response applies to porn recovery. [19:55] Final thoughts on combining inner and outer game strategies to build a successful recovery journey. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Find out more about the Liberation Bootcamp: www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I dig into another conversation inspired by my work in the 12-step recovery community. I share my personal journey navigating the ideas in these recovery rooms, including the struggle I initially had with the concept of powerlessness. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:10] Introduction to the episode and inspiration from Sex Addicts Anonymous. [01:35] Struggles with the idea of identifying as an addict. [03:22] The importance of keeping an open mind in the recovery journey. [05:14] How adopting the mantra “take what works and leave the rest” shifted my perspective. [07:18] Discussion on the concept of powerlessness and its role in recovery. [10:05] The challenge of accepting powerlessness while seeking empowerment. [12:47] Insights into how recovery tools help turn the ship around when relapse feels inevitable. [15:30] Reflections on the lifelong journey of managing addiction. [17:50] Emphasizing the importance of daily habits, community, and staying active in recovery. [19:40] Final thoughts on powerlessness, empowerment, and the gifts of recovery. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose): Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the ‘Porn to Purpose' podcast, I'm diving into the essential topic of how to navigate the moments when you're struggling, feeling depleted, or edging toward acting out. This is a common experience in recovery, and I'll be sharing a framework I've developed through my personal journey and the work we do inside the Porn to Purpose community. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to today's episode: Navigating the struggle and finding balance. [01:45] Explaining the importance of connection in recovery and how it differs from sobriety. [03:23] A deeper look into what it means to be in the "danger zone" and how to course correct. [06:10] Overview of the 4RAC Formula and how it helps in overcoming urges to act out. [08:05] The role of community and why building a support system is key to long-term recovery. [10:32] Understanding the middle circle and how to identify when you're edging toward acting out. [12:14] The power of rest: How sleep and recharging your energy can prevent relapse. [14:55] Connecting with yourself: The practice of slowing down and tuning in when you're triggered. [17:22] Exploring outer circle activities that promote connection and fulfillment in your life. [20:07] Encouragement to apply for the Liberation Bootcamp for deeper support and transformation. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose): Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com Contact me at: makingpeacewithporn@gmail.com
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I dive into an essential conversation about tracking your days porn-free and whether using a sobriety counter is beneficial or counterproductive in your recovery journey. I share my personal experiences and insights gained from my journey and the discussions within the Porn to Purpose community, including the Liberation Bootcamp. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:10] - Introduction to the discussion on tracking days porn-free and the debate around its effectiveness. [02:15] - The benefits of tracking sobriety: How it helps measure progress and create awareness. [05:02] - Drawbacks of tracking: The risk of getting fixated on the number and its impact on your recovery mindset. [07:18] - Sobriety is quantitative; recovery is cumulative: Understanding the difference and its implications. [10:42] - The value of focusing on the quality of your recovery rather than just the day count. [14:10] - The role of intentional daily practices like exercise, meditation, and self-care in maintaining a strong recovery framework. [17:25] - The importance of honesty in recovery: How being truthful with yourself and your community strengthens your journey. [20:48] - How relapses are part of the journey and why they don't erase the progress made in recovery. [24:03] - Matthew's personal approach to recovery: Incorporating the core four daily practices and the benefits of consistent engagement. [27:56] - Closing thoughts on why tracking can be helpful but should not overshadow the quality and intentionality of your recovery efforts. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose): Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the ‘Porn to Purpose' Podcast, I dive deep into my own recovery journey. Since starting in 2019, I've experienced both highs and lows, but my commitment to getting back up and moving forward has never wavered. I've shared three key elements that have been crucial in my journey and might just help you in yours. Top 10 Show Highlights: [01:10] - Embracing Recovery: My journey began in June 2019 with a focus on deep personal recovery. [02:45] - The Power of Coaching: Joining a group coaching program was the first step in taking my recovery seriously. [05:15] - High Ticket, High Commitment: The investment in coaching led to a greater commitment to my recovery journey. [07:00] - 30,000-Foot View: Coaching provided a broad perspective on recovery, giving me a solid foundation. [12:20] - Exploring 12-Step Recovery: After coaching, I found value in joining Sex Addicts Anonymous, which added depth to my recovery framework. [16:30] - The Importance of Honesty: 12-step programs taught me the value of honesty and vulnerability in recovery. [21:10] - Relationships Matter: Building real relationships in 12-step rooms has been crucial to my ongoing recovery. [26:40] - Discovering Therapy: Working with a certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT) allowed for a deep dive into the root causes of my addiction. [30:15] - The Role of IFS: Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy helped me explore deeper aspects of myself and my addiction. [37:20] - Progress Over Perfection: Recovery is a journey focused on continuous progress, not perfection. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the “Porn to Purpose” podcast, I explore the critical distinction between active and passive recovery. This discussion emphasizes the importance of sustained engagement in the recovery process and how complacency can lead to setbacks. I share insights from my personal journey, highlighting that recovery is a matter of life or death and requires daily, active participation to maintain progress and avoid relapse. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the episode's focus on the difference between active and passive recovery. [01:39] Matthew's personal experience with the challenges of maintaining enthusiasm in recovery. [03:06] The concept of complacency and its impact on long-term recovery success. [05:04] The urgency of treating recovery as a matter of life or death, both spiritually and emotionally. [07:03] Overview of a daily recovery framework and its components, including meetings and spiritual practices. [08:29] The role of daily habits and their correlation with overall well-being and recovery success. [10:24] Discussion on the potential dangers of passive recovery and how it can lead to relapse. [12:24] Insights into maintaining a structured recovery framework and avoiding complacency. [16:10] The importance of active engagement in recovery meetings and community interactions. [18:36] Matthew's recommendations for creating and sticking to a daily recovery framework. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I introduce you to one of the foundational tools of our community—the 4RAC Formula. I dive deep into the origins and applications of this powerful framework, designed to help you navigate the challenges of pornography addiction. I share my personal journey and the inspiration behind creating the 4RAC Formula, which emerged during a community challenge. This six-step process provides you with a real-time skill set for managing urges and impulses related to pornography, helping you move towards a life of purpose and freedom. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the 4RAC Formula and its significance in the recovery journey. [01:45] The inspiration behind creating the 4RAC Formula during a community challenge. [04:30] Overview of the six steps in the 4RAC Formula. [05:55] The importance of remembering the pain as the first step in resisting urges. [08:20] Refocusing on the "paradise"—what you want to achieve instead of succumbing to addiction. [11:10] Resolving to your commitment and anchoring yourself in your "why". [13:35] Reflecting on what you truly need in moments of temptation. [15:45] Asking yourself what else you can do to meet your needs in a healthier way. [17:50] Choosing a new behavior and taking action to break old habits. [20:30] Final thoughts on using the 4RAC Formula to build a new way of being over time. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: (https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose) Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I delve into a foundational conversation within the Porn to Purpose community: the Freedom Framework. Developed initially in 2019-2020, the Freedom Framework is a system designed to support and sustain long-term recovery from pornography. I break down the essential qualities and principles of this framework, offering listeners a high-level overview of the critical components necessary for lasting recovery. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the concept and history of the Freedom Framework. [01:39] Discussion on the importance of understanding the why behind recovery efforts. [03:06] Insights into breaking down the why into pain (what you're moving away from) and promise (what you're moving towards). [05:04] The role of commitment in the recovery journey and how it is anchored by the why. [07:03] The importance of community in providing accountability and support. [08:29] How awareness and mindfulness practices like meditation and journaling contribute to recovery. [10:24] Emphasizing the natural state of growth and how it impacts happiness and progress. [12:24] The significance of maintaining high energy levels through diet, rest, and healthy environments. [16:10] Practical tools and processes like the two by two rule and the relapse recovery document. [18:36] Overview of the core philosophy and guiding principles of the Porn to Purpose community. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I delve into the crucial role of creating a recovery framework. This episode is a deep dive into the importance of having a structured approach and how it's a key component in maintaining long-term sobriety. I share insights from my personal recovery journey since 2019 and how a consistent framework can support emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual health. The focus is on establishing daily practices that provide a solid foundation for recovery. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction: Sharing the importance of a recovery framework. [01:39] Explanation of what a recovery framework is and why it's essential for long-term sobriety. [03:06] Insights from personal recovery journey since 2019, including the bumps along the way. [05:04] The concept of the "Core Four" foundational habits for mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional health. [07:03] Importance of daily exercise, meditation, reading, and writing as part of the recovery framework. [08:29] Discussion on the role of prayer and connecting with a higher power in the recovery process. [10:24] Significance of community and connection in overcoming addiction. [12:24] How maintaining a healthy diet and proper nutrition supports emotional and physical well-being. [16:10] Role of a robust outer circle of activities, including fun, play, and connection with others. [18:36] Encouragement to define and commit to a personal daily recovery framework for long-term success. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose): Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, we delve into the transformative journey of Yeadon Smith, a member of our community who has turned his struggles with porn addiction into a pathway toward a more meaningful and purpose-driven life. This episode provides deep insights into the challenges and breakthroughs that are part of recovering from addiction. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the episode's theme on overcoming porn addiction. [01:39] Yeadon's first steps towards recovery and the initial challenges. [03:06] The role of the "Liberation Bootcamp" in Yeadon's recovery journey. [05:04] How Yeadon used personal insights and community support to maintain sobriety. [07:03] Introduction to Yeadon's key strategies for managing triggers. [08:29] Discussion on the importance of community in the recovery process. [10:24] Yeadon shares his experiences with the "Porn to Purpose" community. [12:24] The impact of mentorship and coaching on Yeadon's progress. [16:10] How Yeadon's life has changed since joining the community. [18:36] Closing thoughts from Yeadon and advice to listeners struggling with similar issues. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com
In today's episode of the 'Porn to Purpose' podcast, I welcome Brent Dowlen, also known as the Fallible Man. Brent is a men's personal development and relationship coach, as well as the founder and host of the Fallible Man podcast. In this episode, Brent shares his journey of personal growth, the importance of aligning with one's purpose, and the significance of small, consistent efforts in achieving meaningful change. Top Show Highlights [00:12] Introduction to Brent Dowlen and the theme of aligning with purpose. [01:39] Brent discusses the importance of finding and aligning with your purpose. [03:06] Insights into the journey of personal growth and overcoming challenges. [05:04] The significance of small, consistent efforts in achieving meaningful change. [07:03] The impact of doing what you love and being compensated for it. [08:29] Brent shares his experience of working with men on personal development. [10:24] The role of incremental growth and daily effort in personal development. [12:24] The importance of having a strong 'why' to guide you through challenges. [16:10] Brent's message for men: 'You can. It really is that simple.' [18:36] The value of having a purpose and mission in life. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com The Fallible Man on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefallibleman The Fallible Man Podcast website: https://www.thefalliblemanpodcast.com Sign up for Brent's email newsletter and get the 'Foundations of Change' ebook: https://bit.ly/foundationsofchange
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I am joined by special guest Yeadon Smith to discuss the exciting developments within the Porn to Purpose community. We share our journey of partnership, the power of community support, and our vision for the future. Yeadon shares his personal transformation story, emphasizing the importance of a supportive community and long-term commitment to overcoming porn addiction. We also explore the new membership options designed to make the community more accessible to everyone seeking help. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Matthew Sinkovitz welcomes listeners and introduces special guest Yeadon Smith. [01:39] Matthew announces the exciting partnership with Yeadon Smith to take Porn to Purpose to the next level. [03:06] Discussion on why community is critical for a lifelong journey of overcoming porn addiction. [05:04] Yeadon shares his story of struggling with porn addiction and finding hope through the Porn to Purpose community. [07:03] Insights into how focusing on habits and building a freedom framework can lead to long-term success. [08:29] Matthew and Yeadon discuss their vision for a community that supports men throughout their lives. [10:24] Introduction of new membership options designed to make the community more accessible. [12:24] The importance of long-term vigilance and support in maintaining freedom from porn addiction. [16:10] How staying engaged with a supportive community can enhance personal growth and relationships. [18:36] Encouragement for listeners to join the Porn to Purpose community and start their journey to freedom. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I explore the theme of embracing imperfection in the journey of recovery from porn addiction. I delve into the next chapter of my personal journey, the paradigm shift from perfectionism, and the creation of a new community off Facebook. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the episode's theme of embracing imperfection and building a strong foundation. [01:39] Personal Journey: I share my personal journey, discussing the paradigm shift from perfectionism to a more authentic approach. [03:06] The Call to Truth: Insights into the importance of living in greater degrees of truth and visibility. [05:04] Leadership Insights: I discuss the challenges of leadership and the loneliness it can bring. [07:03] Fundamental Paradigm Shift: The shift from the need to be perfect to accepting human flaws and the entitlement to one's own journey. [08:29] Community Building: The vision of building a supportive community where men can be vulnerable and real. [10:24] New Community Space: Announcement of moving the P2P community off Facebook to a new, dedicated platform. [12:24] Making Work Accessible: Efforts to make the recovery work accessible to anyone willing to participate, regardless of financial status. [16:10] Comprehensive Approach: Emphasizing a holistic approach to recovery, covering all aspects of life. [18:36] Lifetime Connection: The importance of long-term connection to a supportive community for sustained recovery. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I delve into the crucial moments and decisions that shaped the early days of the Porn to Purpose community and my personal recovery journey. This episode highlights my transition from a hotel job to pursuing coaching, and the investments in coaching programs that played a pivotal role. I also share insights into my living arrangements, the creation of a driving business, and the various challenges and breakthroughs I experienced during this transformative time. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Welcoming listeners to the episode and setting the stage for today's continuation of my story. [01:39] Reflecting on the end of 2019, working at a hotel, and contemplating a transition to a more entrepreneurial path. [03:06] How seeing Uber drivers at the hotel inspired me to save up, buy a vehicle, and start driving for Uber and Lyft. [05:04] My experience living in a van, staying at a Buddhist temple, and moving between friends and family. [07:03] Building a driving business and hustling with various driving-oriented jobs to support my coaching aspirations. [08:29] Joining a group coaching program and the impact it had on my recovery and coaching journey. [10:24] Graduating from seminary, becoming a Buddhist minister, and serving as an interfaith chaplain in a local prison. [12:24] Developing and launching the Liberation Boot Camp, and transforming it from a six-week to a six-month program. [16:10] Coping with the personal and professional challenges posed by the COVID-19 pandemic, and doubling down on building the Porn to Purpose community. [18:36] Reflecting on the role of relationships in my recovery journey and the lessons learned from past relationships. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I take you on a journey through my life from a real estate career to discovering my true passion. This episode is part three of a series where I share my personal story, focusing on the transitions that shaped my path. From dealing with depression and unfulfillment in my professional life to finding joy and meaning through music, spiritual practice, and coaching, I open up about the struggles and triumphs that led me to where I am today. Join me as I delve into the moments that defined my purpose and how I learned to trust myself and life. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the third part of my personal journey series on the "Porn to Purpose" podcast. [01:45] Reflecting on my early real estate career and the onset of depression. [03:22] The turning point: realizing my lack of fulfillment in real estate. [05:30] Discovering a passion for music and the formation of my band, Rivers. [07:45] The internal conflict between corporate work and creative pursuits. [10:15] My spiritual journey and enrolling in a local seminary program. [12:50] Transitioning from real estate to a full-time music career. [15:35] The importance of following one's heart and the noble code principle. [18:20] Experiences as a local celebrity and the impact on personal growth. [21:05] Founding the Porn to Purpose community and stepping into my role as a coach. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose): Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com
In today's episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I delve into my journey from addiction to finding a profound sense of purpose. Join me as I share the personal challenges and insights that have shaped my path to recovery and growth. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:00] Introduction to My Journey: I introduce the theme of overcoming addiction and the transformation towards a life of purpose. [01:50] The Beginnings of My Addiction: I discuss my early exposure to pornography and how it began to shape my perceptions and experiences. [04:20] The Impact of Technology on Addiction: I reflect on how the advent of high-speed internet and digital content escalated my addiction. [06:35] Challenges in My Early Adulthood: I explore the struggles I faced during my twenties, balancing personal issues with a budding career. [09:10] Acknowledging the Addiction: I share the pivotal moments when I recognized the detrimental impacts of pornography on my life and relationships. [12:30] Seeking Change and Building Support: I talk about the steps I took towards recovery, including seeking help and building a supportive community. [15:45] The Role of Personal Development: I discuss how personal development and spiritual growth have played a crucial role in my recovery journey. [18:50] Professional Life and New Beginnings: I share insights into how overcoming addiction allowed me to refocus my professional goals and embrace new opportunities. [22:15] Lessons Learned and Shared Experiences: I reflect on the lessons learned throughout my journey and how sharing these experiences has helped others. [25:30] Looking Forward: Continuing Growth and Purpose: I conclude with thoughts on ongoing personal growth and the continuous journey towards living a purpose-driven life. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/porntopurpose): Download a copy of the ‘Freedom from Porn Accelerator': www.porntopurpose.com
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