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Today's episode is less about sex and more about the silly conflicts that arise which prevent us from experiencing true intimacy or a great connection! Fighting is often trite, exhausting and most couple's can't even remember what their last ten or twenty petty fights were all about. While some altercations may be symptomatic of a deeper issue, others can simply be avoided with a little presence. In this episode we'll teach you how to understand and navigate conflict in a healthy way. Chapters: 0:00 Introduction 3:28 Conflict is usually the result of a repetitive action 5:09 Cause and effect 9:16 Indirect 24:02 Clean clear communication 26:30 Something parasitic 31:49 No one actually knows how to be vulnerable today 34:10 Blindsiding your partner will lead to confusion and negative reactions 36:16 The elusive world of feelings 38:10 When people think all feelings are valid and should be validated 44:50 Understanding intuition 46:40 Text fights 49:35 Engaging in psychological warfare 53:56 When you're already a present, honest and accountable partner but they keep tanking 54:55 When you've done nothing to violate trust 57:25 It's foolish to think your partner will remain calm and patient indefinitely 59:15 Building false evidence against your partner and punishing them for it 1:04:45 Where is your focus and what is more active, the good or the bad? 1:08:45 It's natural to get defensive after poking the pair or being prodded 1:10:05 Expecting infinitely patient behavior 1:11:45 The armchair psychologist

In this unprecedented interview read by the podcast host, a Closeness Client shares her struggles with intimacy and grapples with her desires for dominance and assertiveness in relationship. A two part interview with a "director's cut" version: commentary from the host, as well as an unadulterated interview. Does her experience hit home? CHAPTERS: 0:00 Intro 2:15 The basis of this interview 6:04 The unedited interview begins at about 58 minutes 6:24 The interview begins 7:09 How long have you been together and what is working? 8:16 Fantasizing about dominance 8:42 How is your communication? 9:16 Some personal commentary 11:56 What are you struggling with in your relationship? 12:40 Discussion about women waiting for the action 14:52 She needs a dominant man 22:58 How can I help and what do you want to accomplish here? 29:40 Infidelity and frequency of sex 32:48 Expectations about sex 35:12 Who rejects who more and why? 38:59 Where would you like to see your partner be more of something 40:48 Her primal sexual experiences 44:40 My commentary 50:30 How a man can assert dominance in an attractive way to her 53:00 The importance of women speaking their minds in relationship 53:32 Her sexual kinks and interests 54:02 Do you climax regularly, even if not together? 54:16 She wants to learn how to be more feminine and elimiate masculine energy 58:34 FULL UNADULTERATED INTERVIEW 1:21:59 Outro

Without a doubt, one of the number one reasons people struggle in long term, committed relationships, is because they feel like best friends or roommates at home. There's no passion or excitement! Nothing is moving forward, or things have gone stale. In this hour long episode you'll learn how to immediately take the reins again and change that immediately. CHAPTERS: 0:00 Intro 0:57 The Waiting game 3:47 Why this happens 4:57 Women can take the lead without being outrageous 8:13 If you're already a woman who's comfortable initiating 10:46 Women don't want to initiate 12:56 women are hornier but can go longer without it 14:08 On sexual tension and the importance it 15:32 What I think women want sexually 18:01 Summary of key points 21:17 Women can progress things too! 23:23 Ladies you re allowed! Give yourself permission 25:45 Something women can do to initiate or be more receptive 30:02 Men who think they always need to chase 30:55 Women and lofty expectations 31:40 Men can pick up and notice things but not ultra subtle cues 32:58 Just because you're letting it happen does not mean you necessarily like it 36:54 Advice for men 39:44 Sex and sexuality often doesn't happen outside of the house 42:46 Sitting separately on the sofa like roommates 48:20 You can't be too sweet or exclusively sweet 50:28 Examples of being sexy 53:02 Don't be predictable 54:42 How to engage in suggestive behavior 57:20 How to handle yourself with most women 58:59 How to keep the train moving forward 1:01:23 Further problem solving 1:04:36 Dirty talk 1:05:30 Men really struggle to play and not act 1:07:30 Finding the right words to use with your woman 1:09:24 Delivering the goods 1:13:14 Outro

Often the things we aren't doing in bed can be as detrimental as the ones we are. Here are ten reasons why your wife or girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with you.

An unusually intelligent and intellectual college student explores her boundaries of sexuality, and intimate desires. How men and women at the university level interact with each other these days in the dating world is different than what we've seen before. Together, we explore who should initiate and seduce in the bedroom, male and female nature, teaching inexperienced men how to have sex, what confidence looks like in a man, handling rejection, solving the eye contact dilemma, what eye contact actually conveys, the necessity for men to be dominant, coming into her sexuality and more!

Chapters: 0:00 Intro 4:45 Speak up for yourself 12:00 Speaking unconsciously for obnoxious lengths of time 20:26 Making her come well and relax often triggers women to talk 22:24 Learning to be open and in a receptive mode to welcome intimacy 25:58 Don't have sex with people you don't like sleeping with 27:02 Beating up your man for mistakes from his past that he has remedied 33:05 Not letting insecurities get in the way of a good time 36:38 Toning down the arrogance, entitlement and aggressiveness 40:00 Talking about and bringing your fantasies to life 43:00 Coming to terms with the duality of your beauty 54:30 Actually do stuff to your man 59:00 Bonus: Stop grabbing our D's like it's a stress toy 1:00:48 Bonus: You really can do more. Your advances are almost always welcome Intimacy and closeness are not always about the hottest sex tip or latest magazine article for instant results. Sometimes it's about being a better person. Here are 10 strategies that are sure to not only make you a better human, but will also make your man feel more open and receptive to having sex with you.

The most difficult subject for any man to think about much less discuss is likely to be: keeping it up, getting it up and finishing too quickly. This is an episode you'll want to listen to with your partner because there are tools, tips and tricks in here for both men and women. Don't skip out on incredible intimacy when the answers can be found right here!

CHAPTERS 0:00 Introductions 3:29 How exactly does a man learn to be dominant 8:06 What does healthy dominance mean? 14:30 When a woman is ready for sex before you are and understanding gender roles 16:15 What is sexual foreplay? 22:05 Women often can't express what they want 24:03 How do you handle bad results and fears 25:37 Welcome to Deep Listening™ 29:04 What do women want in bed? 30:15 The shadow side of aggressiveness is not sexually attractive 32:45 What are some better approaches 35:36 It's not about acting 36:32 What is your working definition of being dominant? 38:15 More on what healthy dominance is not 42:00 Men have a different idea of what dominance is, and it's not good 46:40 Anything can be done with the right tone, intensity and speed 47:40 Women with sass 50:16 Don't treat her like a dog 52:06 Why men have such a hard time doing it right 54:18 Women already deeply struggle with decisiveness 55:32 Most women don't often know what they want or how to help you 57:46 More steps to begin being more dominant 58:38 How to demand a woman's presence 1:00:03 Please stop saying I don't know 1:01:58 How to ask the right questions 1:03:45 The myth that the fantasy just happens... naturally 1:06:16 How men ask for sex 1:12:50 To be dominant you must know this 1:13:38 More on what being dominant does NOT mean 1:14:46 What would REALLY put you in the mood for sex? Is it help with chores? 1:17:55 Thoughts on initiations 1:20:10 Final master tips 1:24:52 Outro

CHAPTERS 0:00 Introduction and can you have it all? Recitals and disclaimers 2:44 In a nutshell 4:20 What does it mean to have it all? 9:40 Misunderstandings 12:40 Should one person be your everything? 15:21 COVID and Politics 16:26 Are you really perfect, just the way you are? 17:40 The Disney Fairytale 21:30 How Women Select mates 24:39 How men often think of intimacy 25:45 Great sex does not come naturally to most many men 33:04 How does one become a skilled lover? 37:25 Can a man really become a sexual dynamo? 40:26 An unskilled woman CAN be flipped into a fantastic lover 47:24 What do I make of all of this? 49:15 The fallacy of, If they can do it I can too" 56:24 Further thoughtsWe're one moment away from a meltdown 58:09 Is it ok that you don't have it all in your relationship?

Chapters: 0:00 Intro 6:40 Oh you really don't care? 7:38 Words carry power 8:35 I don't sugar coat 12:46 A certain type of emoji 14:55 Who hurt you? 17:00 Cute 22:55 It is what it is 30:42 Like I said 34:27 Thoughts on talking and conversing 36:10 Useless filler words 38:55 Pour some sprinkles on me 39:23 Low key pointless phrases 41:06 Other phrases that have gone out of style 44:00 I feel like... 48:20 Next time 49:15 It depends 52:07 I just can't possibly imagine 55:09 I just can't explain it 58:28 I'm really so picky and selective 59:32 The misogynist 1:05:31 Shots fired 1:08:28 Just curious 1:10:28 I'm not like all those other girls 1:13:07 Who hurt you? 1:15:20 I can't believe I am doing this! 1:17:01 Keep it chill, what will be will be x=x 1:21:38 Get your ish together 1:24:14 That big D energy and vibin 1:26:02 You can't tell me what to do and starting fights from nothing 1:26:46 Don't judge! 1:34:42 I don't want to argue 1:37:50 It's complicated 1:39:06 Female entitlement for the goddess 1:42:50 Dealing with the most painful type of emotional hurt - special edition 1:59:09 Outro

One of the biggest questions of our time as it pertains to intimacy is whether or not a man should always “finish” when having sex. This episodes dives deep into the pros and cons and explores the little known avenue of pressure that women can place on men. Topics include: 0:00 Introduction 0:53 Societal expectations around finishing 1:33 Typical expectations around male ejaculation 9:10 Is a male orgasm bad? 12:03 The spiritual minded orgasm 13:17 Restraining for energy 14:44 Everyone has a different sex drive 17:43 Pressure! 23:15 There is no reward for marathon sex 30:58 Final thoughts on pressure 34:10 Final thoughts and tips

In our first interview with a male guest, we’re pulling out all of the stops. Sebastien is an ex New York City rent boy and long term friend of mine. We’ll go in depth about his ‘job,’ the world of chemsex, his spiral into addiction and his recovery. Tune in to listen to his story now. CHAPTERS 0:00 Introduction 4:02 How we met 6:25 How did a foreigner find himself at UCLA 7:12 Dry wit disclaimer 9:48 What kind of household did you grow up in? 10:39 Did you have a sense of your sexuality or asexuality when you were a boy? 14:36 What was your relationship like with your parents? 24:52 Childhood trauma and being denied humanity 26:36 The transition from being private to being a sex worker 32:46 Sexual hierarchies 34:36 Must you be a dom or sub in the gay community? 37:30 What is the true nature of someone who flips? 51:35 what is your favorite kind of man to interact with? 1:05:45 Is it difficult for someone who is overweight or unattractive in the gay community 1:07:37 Key sexual differences between men and women 1:10:12 Does sexual consent exist in the gay community 1:20:55 Will you struggle with addiction for the rest of your life or can your be temperate? 1:26:48 Was being a sex worker a full time job? 1:29:46 More key differences between men and women. Novelty and variety. 1:34:52 Are viagra, Trimix, or Cialis addictive? 1:35:51 Once a ho always a ho? 1:36:40 How do you give back to the community?

One of the most difficult things someone can hear, is that their partner needs space. Nothing is clear, the terms are undefined, and once uttered it usually ends up in disaster. Tune in now to find out what to do. CHAPTERS: 0:00 Introduction 5:25 Malignant phrases 6:20 How to handle short term space 8:38 When she takes days, weeks and months of space 13:15 What you’re supposed to know when she says she needs space 16:08 If you’re going to try to make it work, here’s what you should do. 15 minutes. 34:42 Do the feelings of the other partner matter? 39:54 How to correctly ask for space 42:21 Asking for space in a healthy and conscious way 44:55 What NOT to do when you needs space 47:36 Should you go out, party, drink and do drugs? 52:45 You actually could have just ended the relationship 53:32 When a guys never texts you back or calls you back… 56:15 How much space do you actually need? 56:54 Why women get upset when a man asks natural questions 59:15 If you’re going through this now, it gets worse… 1:03:25 The pitfalls of actually taking space 1:06:42 What if your partner doesn’t need or want space but you do? 1:08:43 What if the man needs space? 1:10:54 Summing it all up 1:15:15 How anger and resentment plays in to taking space 1:25:50 Does Tari actually see the value in taking space? Thank you for listening! We hope you enjoyed this immensely.

1:45 Actions speak louder than words 5:55 What do you actually owe the other person? 8:24 Do unto others as you would have them do unto you 10:36 When we invest ourselves too much and get overextended 13:54 Self care and taking care of ourselves 20:23 When you think you don’t want anyone else but them 23:28 getting over your previous relationships 24:36 an exercise to show yourself you can get past this… using your exes 26:20 Caring for and helping others…once you’re healed 28:21 Can you still be friends with your ex or after a breakup? 30:48 How do you treat your ex after a breakup? 32:38 Personal stories of trying to remain friends with exes 34:15 Why must we NEVER touch again after breaking up? 36:26 The ways that couples deal with breakups 38:34 How to not handle your breakup 41:48 Advice for the person who is hurting the most 45:56 Do you even want to be friends after a breakup? 47:46 Personal stories about breakups and relationships 49:11 Being in love when someone only ‘likes’ you back 51:42 What to do if you feel like you actually love them more 55:28 Don’t stay in relationships where you partner doesn’t show up for you 59:17 Personal experience from a partner loving me more, but I wasn’t there yet 1:03:13 Nobody wants to be loved when you’re thinking about someone else 1:08:04 Outro

One of the biggest challenges of being alive today, is handling, processing, surviving and getting through a breakup. In this 90 minute episode I am going to help you get through it.

It’s one of the most detrimental behavior patterns of our generation. Here’s everything you need to know to recognize it, avoid it and if you are afflicted with this disease, how to cure it. CHAPTERS:0:00 What is ghosting?2:25 Why do people ghost? 6:25 When does emotional involvement begin?10:17 Preliminaries and disclaimers13:15 Having to make backup plans 14:41 Taking our own insecurities out on others15:16 The most important sentence when it comes to dating16:45 Runaway brides19:58 Understanding the devastating effects of ghosting 24:15 Why ghosting makes you someone who can’t be trusted25:05 Why you being uncomfortable is not as important as you think 26:35 Examples of being uncomfortable30:50 Do you ghost when your finances are involved 34:35 More emotional effects of ghosting41:46 Stop pretending you don’t want hurt the other person 43:34 Curving46:01 Blocking 48:05 The one key you need to understand boundaries 50:15 Ghosting causes hostility 56:02 Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)57:55 Why you NEED to care about what others think about you1:00:35 One guiding principle 1:01:54 When you do need to set a boundary. Story time1:05:50 Why you need understanding when someone ghosts1:09:19 Another story about someone who gave different reasons for breaking it off1:14:16 The perils of changing your mind 1:21:22 Secrets to being rejected 1:24:25 An exceptional example of asking for understanding 1:26:20 A woman’s sensitivity to tone and intensity 1:27:24 More on healthy boundaries 1:28:51 Do the other persons feelings really matter? 1:32:52 Why if your’e involved with someone, it’s your obligation to be a custodian of their emotions1:35:15 Why it’s risky to ask for understanding if you are being rejected1:38:24 We MUST learn how to reject and be rejected responsibly 1:39:40 Tying it all together Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness

What’s your definition of hot passionate chemistry? Do you believe that it’s just “there or it isn’t?” In this episode we will put that myth to an end.  We’ll explore over twenty concepts including:  – How to have naturally good chemistry with everyone around you -Is chemistry for men inevitable or bound to happen regardless of what happens? -How many kinds of chemistry are there?  -How to have good chemistry by “allowing it” to happen and letting yourself go there -How we constantly shut ourselves down and turn away love when it comes from the wrong people  -Why there will always be people who you aren’t going to have chemistry with  -Why context is everything  -How to chemistry from your past to create chemistry in your now -How to bring forward intimacy from your previous relationships to allow good chemistry to flourish in new ones  -How touch and eye contact play into chemistry  -Why saying, I’m just not feeling it, doesn’t cut it -Why thinking that good chemistry just happens is flawed    Are you ready to come closer?   Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:  www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1     Please consider donating to our Patreon:  www.patreon.com/closeness    

If you’ve ever secretly wondered what it’s like to be involved in the sex industry, you’re in for a big treat. Heather has done it all: camming, If you’ve ever secretly wondered what it’s like to be involved in the sex industry, you’re in for a big treat. Heather has done it all: camming, modeling, dancing, “sugaring” or being a sugar baby, and more. Subscribe and tune in as she spills story after story in this very detailed and intimate account of Heather’s life as a sex worker. It’s guaranteed to satisfy your innermost curiosities and take you on a wild adventure.   Are you ready to come closer?   Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness

In this unprecedented time of worry and concern regarding COVID-19 (or coronavirus), this is our corona-free offering to soothe you and help you relax: a sensual meditation to listen to again and again, anytime you need it. Think of it as a rampage of appreciation. We won’t reveal much, but make sure you’re in a comfortable and relaxing place before you listen. Fifteen minutes is just the right amount to help shift your focus without demanding too much of your time.   Are you ready to come closer?   Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness

Countless Closeness episodes focus on how to pleasure a woman, but what can you do to take care of your man? Put down your magazine and let’s get deep. Sure, we can talk about how to go down and how to arch your back, but what about the stuff everyone is afraid to talk about?   Let’s get closer:   Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness

Learning to kiss our partner in a way that really turns them on is not innate. Like most things we do for the first time, we’re sloppy and we don’t take the time to learn good technique. Yes even kissing has a technique and it isn’t taught in school or by our family, fortunately. Enter the Closeness podcast: a guide to kissing, replete with all the do’s and don’ts you need to be a successful lover as well as understanding all the different varieties of kissing.   One of the best tips we can offer is to be receptive, malleable and intentional with your kissing, but how do you do that. Closeness takes a very intimate look at how to appropriately use our mouths to experience the most pleasure possible. Tips include: Not biting, not doing too much and too little, how to avoid sharing an unsavory tongue, the porn star tongue and a deep explanation as to why simply saying you’re not feeling it, doesn’t really cut it.   Are you ready to come closer?   Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:  www.getcloseness.com/coaching     Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1     Please consider donating to our Patreon:  www.patreon.com/closeness  

Welcome to 2020 and welcome to Season Two of the Closeness Podcast! To start the New Year off with a bang we’re diving in with a sexually-explicit episode that covers fifteen steps to giving a woman a phenomenal experience she won’t forget. What are some of the specific things we can do to get out of our heads, out of our egos and into our partner? Do you have strategies for going beyond yourself and getting into her? This is not a technique driven episode, but if you apply these principles women will feel dramatically more comfortable and sexually drawn to you. We’ll help you decipher what confidence and presence is and teach you how to enjoy the journey along the way. Perhaps most importantly, we’ll show you how to make sure she actually wants to have sex with you. Let’s get closer: Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 Please consider donating to our Patreon:www.patreon.com/closeness

Exposing your sexual health and history to someone new is very vulnerable. Getting tested, asking a partner about their past and sharing your feelings are difficult territories to navigate. Since most of us feel uncomfortable even thinking about it, very few of us possess the wherewithal to have a mature conversation and make the right choices. We’re put off and grossed out by disease, but then in the moments when it counts, we don’t do a whole lot to prevent transmission. Sometimes we make mistakes that we regret. This episode pulls out all the stops on how to handle yourself in the most delicate of situations, including how to share and receive good and bad news and life after bad news. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 Please consider donating to our Patreon:www.patreon.com/closeness

Growing up you may have heard of the sexual response cycle: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution.  We’d like to introduce you to something a little more provocative. In this sexually explosive episode, we’ll unravel the 10 phases most women go through as they get more and more turned on, but we’ll take it further and deeper than you ever thought possible.  Move over Masters and Johnson, this sexual response cycle is hot! Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 Please consider donating to our Patreon:www.patreon.com/closeness

How many times have you changed your mind? Perhaps you didn’t desire someone at first and you later found yourself wanting them. You said you were attracted to them, you acted like you were attracted and then suddenly something switched and you felt differently. Why is that? As a general rule, men love to please women. How then do you reject a man in a way that is healthy for both sexes? Delivery and tone is everything. If feeling safe is a concern, tune in to learn how sugar coating, ignoring and making excuses can only makes it worse for you and other women in your tribe. Additional topics covered: – How to reign it in slightly when something is too much for your partner– What to do when they change their mind from a yes to a no, or a no to a yes– How to navigate your own energy and desires when this kind of confusion sets in It is EXTREMELY important to honor someone’s boundaries and meet them where they are. Closeness DOES NOT ENCOURAGE pushing past anyone’s no. We DO, however, encourage gentle communication, questions, and authentic discussion on the subject so that we can understand each other and move closer to love. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 Please consider donating to our Patreon:www.patreon.com/closeness

Rejection leaves most people feeling unworthy and hurt. Both men and women are generally terrible at receiving it and even worse at giving it. But rejection is a necessary step towards establishing or maintaining healthy boundaries and a healthy sex life. Why don’t we ever put ourselves in anyone else’s shoes? We hate rejection, but we never stop to imagine the effect our own words have on others. It’s usually scathing and we have no idea that we’re treating others so poorly. It’s critical that we honor each other’s boundaries when we hear a no, but there’s so much more to it than that. How do we distinguish between no, maybe, I’m curious, not yet, and a hard stop? How do we lovingly communicate this to our partners, and how can we hear it without losing our minds? Have we learned how to reject someone in a considerate way? Have you ever thought about the best way to receive rejection? We have, and we’ve got a lot to say about it. We’ll also examine why men must approach women as well as why women should be sensitive to this if they plan on not approaching men or are incapable of doing so. Many issues in relationships can be avoided simply by telling your partner what you’re feeling and how it’s making you feel. Showing compassion toward the partner who is hurt or being rejected is paramount. As simple as this sounds, we often tell everyone else what’s wrong while our partner remains clueless. We need to be able to give and receive rejection gracefully. It is EXTREMELY important to honor someone’s boundaries and meet them where they are. Closeness DOES NOT ENCOURAGE pushing past anyone’s no. We DO, however, encourage gentle communication, questions, and authentic discussion on the subject so that we can understand each other and move closer to love. Let’s get closer: Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 Please consider donating to our Patreon:www.patreon.com/closeness

One of the best parts of listening to Closeness is learning how to have great sex! After so much great feedback from previous sensual meditations, we’d like to offer you another. When men listen to this episode, they don’t understand it, yet, for a woman it can mean everything. Check it out for yourselves and let us know what you think. It’s short enough for both partners to listen in one setting and it’s worth discussing how each of you felt after listening. Make sure you’re in a place where you feel safe and can relax when you listen to this one, it’s extremely intimate! Let’s get closer: Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy and quality of life:www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 Please consider donating to our Patreon:www.patreon.com/closeness

This much-anticipated, 90-minute conclusion to our 3 part series holds nothing back. We’ll share articles, statistics, personal references and even explore if paying for dates is a form of prostitution! We’ll discuss how people really feel when their partner fights or argues for the bill, what the expectations are when people pay, and how it works if you have sex first before going to dinner. We’ll even look at evidence that suggests up to 70% of men feel obligated to pay whether they want to or not! This episode is not for the faint of heart, and asks you to take an up-close-and-personal look at your expectations around sex and money. Enjoy! Let’s get closer: Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: https://getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/closeness  

In this three part series, we explore over 25 more points regarding who should pay, including: – What happens when the woman makes significantly more financial resources?– How do we know when our ego is running the show vs. our generosity?– How to handle dating with regard to the wage gap– Is paying for and going on dates like prostitution? We’ll deeply explore semantics, expectations, and whether our choices are stemming from fear or inspiration. Do you feel like sex is something you’re giving up? What about natural born givers vs. people who feel entitled? We’ll explore all of this and more in today’s episode. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: https://getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/closeness  

In this incredible three part series, host Tari shares his thought-provoking stance on who should pay and why. He draws on countless personal experiences as well as experiences from others that have helped shape his philosophies over time. Over three and a half hours of content spread out over three episodes ensures you’ll reexamine almost everything you thought about dating rituals and male, female dynamics. Drawing on countless case studies and hundreds of interviews, Tari helps you explore what kind of person you are inside and out of the dating arena. Let’s get closer: Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: https://getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/closeness  

When we learn how to share closeness with someone else, it often deals with the things we should avoid doing. We’ll give some examples of this before exploring body language, hugging, eye contact as well as understanding who should initiate touch. After listening to this episode, you’ll have five sure-fire ways to figure out if a woman is really into you and what you can do about it. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: https://getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/closeness  

Open any self-help book to discover the phrase, “communication is the key.” But do we in fact know how to communicate? Are we shy? Do we say what we mean? Are we a great listener? Do we practice non-violent communication? How do you know if your partner is understanding what you are trying to express? We can’t hide behind the word, “communication” and expect it to solve everything. We have to know how and when to communicate. More importantly, we have to know what specific things to say and do (and to avoid saying or doing) that will help bring us closer to our partner. In this episode, you’ll not only gain tips you can apply immediately to communicate better, but also learn how to explore your own body in a way that will allow you to unlock more pleasure. We’ll then look at how to ask your partner the right questions to escalate their excitement. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: https://getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/closeness   

We all have the capacity to make things work, but are long distance relationships really worth it? If you’ve been in one yourself or are in one now, you know how challenging it can be without regular visits and zero physical connection. In this episode we look at the countless disadvantages to these types of arrangements and explore why it probably isn’t for everyone. How long can you go without intimacy, being touched, or someone’s real physical presence? This short-form episode is perfect to listen to on your way to work or if you are looking for a quick answer. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: https://getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/closeness  

Hot sex and great intimacy is not just for young people. In this episode we cover a lot of territory such as: – Stigmas and judgements about homosexuality and whether it’s easier for a woman to be openly bisexual in today’s society– Judgements and whether it’s possible not to judge– If the concept of non-judgement is a myth – Double penetration– What is true love, devotion and monogamy?– Does being jealous mean you don’t “truly” love the person? – If you are jealous are you loving conditionally?– Why people think that they’ll be just fine if their relationship ends– A deep exploration of breakup pain– Exploring whether it’s healthy to immediately start seeing other people after just ending a relationship– How to help someone with anxiety when they’re in pain– Do men need women and do women need men?  – What does it mean to need attention– BONUS: A few details about Persian culture. Enjoy! Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: https://getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/closeness  

What does it mean to be demisexual and how does this affect online dating? What does it take for someone like Sarah to get aroused? This is a very special and juicy episode with a beautiful woman who has a phenomenal voice and laugh!  In this special interview, Sarah shares her story and explains why she made a major life decision to undergo a double mastectomy. We explore how this choice affected her sexually as well as when you should disclose potential physical surprises such as scarring or surgeries to your partner. If a roadblock like this comes up, how then do you tactfully tell your partner that you’re no longer interested in proceeding with sex? Additional topics include thoughts on masturbation, how to let go of body image issues, surrendering to pleasure, and Sarah’s favorite toy.  Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness  

For many, traveling is one of our favorite ways to experience life, culture and romance. In this episode, we interview freshly-turned twenty-one, Marisa Vogiatzi about world travel, sexual adventures and romance. Topics discussed include: – Traveling alone vs. with a partner– Long distance relationships when traveling– How to stay safe as a young, single woman while traveling and having sex– How to turn down unwanted attention or affection– The power of the words: I’m not interested– How to let a man know he can be more aggressive with you– A dive into what confidence is in a man, as defined by a girl– The effects traveling has on your sexuality and sexual desires– Craving aggressive acts or acts of violence– Is there such a thing as too much sex?– How lack of confidence can ensure that nothing happens intimately– How confidence and dominance can play a healthy part in sexual adventures– Finally, a story about surviving severe sexual trauma You can learn more about Marisa by visiting her website or following her on social media: YouTube: www.youtube.com/MarisaVogiatzi Instagram: @Marisa.Vogiatzi Website: www.marisavogiatzi.com Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: https://getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/closeness  

By default you are probably thinking, yes of course! However, is that what’s really going on when sexual attraction is involved? This podcast takes a profound look at the favors men do for women to bargain for their friendship as well as the many ways women keep their so-called friends around to help them with other favors and kind gestures. We also examine the differences between and definitions of being true friends vs acquaintances or lovers. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: https://getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/closeness   

In this riveting climax to the 3-part series of Deadly Sins of Online Dating, we’ll give you the final thirteen sins and teach you how to avoid them at all costs. In this episode: – Using general or filler words to make your partner jealous such as being “out with friends”– Being intentionally boring– Not answering direct questions and avoiding them at all costs– Getting offended that the man was “too” this or that– Sending your relationship to the graveyard by suggesting you, “like to get to know people on the app before meeting or talking”– Not talking or communicating in any way shape or form between setting up a date and your actual in person date– Being “bad with your phone,” admitting it, and doing nothing about it– Using phrases like “I just assumed you were…” to make excuses for yourself– Suggesting that all your partners behavior is a red flag– Upholding the mentality that a partner should prove themselves to you or thinking you’re better than your partner– Constantly demonstrating not merely a lack of punctuality, but calling when you’re already late to let them know you will be even more late– Encouraging your date to forget about you before even meeting– Suggesting you “just cancel everything” because of one reschedule– Being totally non-committal– Freaking out because you don’t like his approach even though he has no idea who you are, where you’re from, what your morals are, how you like to be treated– Speaking in generalities and not really caring, “Tell me something about yourself!”– Interviewing your date heavily but not sharing anything about yourself– Telling a guy how you’d love to see him and can’t wait to see him but never taking action on it Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: https://getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/closeness  

Our next installment of deadly sins of online dating include: – Looking approximately 40% worse in person than your worst profile photo – Speaking only of what you “don’t do and won’t do” and being utterly disagreeable – Endless excuses for not getting together when you like someone and never committing to a date – Using snapchat filters and specifically, dog filters – Holding other people’s babies – Giving overly-abbreviated answers – Using the phrase “next time” – Freaking out if a guy asks you if your profile is real or if you are real  – Putting yourself in bad situations because “that’s what he wants” – Only answering one question when someone asks you several  – Speaking abominations such as “I’m never on here, notifications are off,” and “hit me up on snap” – Mind games, tricks and other and manipulative gestures  Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: https://getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/closeness  

Online dating is a bit like the wild, wild, West. For some, it’s like a dirty little secret we don’t discuss with anyone but our closest of confidants. With so much choice and technology at our fingertips, why do most people leave dating apps feeling frustrated, jaded and alone? More importantly, why do we do all seem to say or do the worst kind of things when it comes to how we treat potential lovers and partners? If all the convenience of online dating is supposed to bring us closer, why do we say things to people online that we would never say to their face? This brutally-honest episode is Part 1 of a multi-part series that helps us through some of the trickiest parts of dating. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: https://getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/closeness  

Being close with another starts with caring for yourself and knowing how to stay in alignment. In this episode we discover the power of your own presence. This alone can dramatically improve your life. Then we’ll look at different types of physical activity that supports healthy brain function and explore how to break up our work day in a way that feels energizing and life giving. Sometimes the cure to our own frustrations and anxieties comes from the simplest of activities. Allow us to show you what they are. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: https://getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/closeness  

Introducing two incredible offerings packed into one little episode. First, learn how to go on a rampage of appreciation to immediately feel more positive emotions. Next, get your first taste of our signature Sensual Meditations. Imagine being able to close your eyes while Tari speaks sensually to you about intimate subjects that makes you feel like you’re right in the middle of it all. We’ll describe it in rich, vivid detail so that it becomes easy for you to imagine and visualize what you love about sex and closeness. It’s a listening experience that is sure to delight. Future Closeness Sensual Mediations will be available for purchase, but the first few are on us! Find a comfortable place to sit as you tune in to this fantasy set in Rome. It gets provocative fast! Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness  

In this action-packed episode, we’ll discuss more than twelve mistakes you want to avoid when communicating with others. Here’s just a taste of what we’ll cover:  – Hyper-exaggeration – Erroneously flinging around heavy psychological diagnoses about men – Minimizing other women and degrading them – Exaggerating about your girlfriend who is so “gorgeous” – Asking “is she prettier than me” (or any other comparison) – The “I called you but you didn’t answer” dilemma – Roping other men into your date…while on a date – Demanding to know others’ intentions while not sharing your own – Not knowing yourself – Not recognizing that consent is different for everyone – Referring to spending time with your current date as “wasting your time” – Understanding the all-or-nothing principle – The danger of short replies and communication through emoji  Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness  

This episode is part of an interesting new series on recognizing bad manners and poor behavior, as well as learning what to do about it. Regardless of your gender, it’s worth listening to! Most of us know when someone is being flat-out rude, but what does psychological warfare look like when the signs are subtle and people have ill intent? Learning to communicate well with others and people we’re attracted to is an art unto itself that can save both men and women a lot of pain. Have you noticed yourself or others acting more and more frightened or timid in public these days even well before the dawn of COVID 19? We’ll shed some light on what’s going on as well as explore the damaging effect reality TV stars have on our daily lives. We’ll also discuss the perils of “stealing your partner’s thunder” when they are vulnerably expressing how you’ve hurt them or upset them and you flip things around to make it all about you. All of this and so much more can be found in this fascinating episode. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness  

Have you thought about where you can go to get help for intimacy and relationship issues? Hopefully after listening to the Closeness podcast you know that we are here for you. We offer in person private meetings and video chat as well as text support. But what if you’re not ready for that yet and you’re more of a private person? In this episode Brianna introduces Juicebox: an app that gives you direct access to sex coaches and sex therapists via text! Closeness listeners get a 5-day free trial by using the the code “closeness” to experience it first hand. In the Juicebox app, you’re paired one on one with a professional sex and relationship coach or counselor who you can text as much as you’d like, anonymously. Imagine getting the help you’ve always wanted without having to leave your house or be face to face with anyone. Find out more by visiting https://www.juiceboxit.com. If you prefer a more personalized approach you can also get help via text at Closeness. Juicebox App: https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/juicebox-love-life-experts/id1086096282?mt=8 Instagram: @juiceboxapp // @briraderTwitter: @juiceboxit // @briraderAll listeners will receive a free 5-day trial of 1-on-1 coaching with the promo code “Closeness”. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness  

As many people have discovered for ages, leading and following in dance can directly translate to how you healthily navigate your relationships. In this interview, we’ll discuss why women who trust and follow in dance can also experience better sex and intimacy. Then we look at how partners can get in touch with their masculine and feminine sides through movement. Can we use what we know about social dancing to have better sex and find closeness? Leading and following can be a sensitive subject. Daniela presents a way to think of leading as “offering a suggestion” as opposed to a form of domination or expectation. Daniela takes the conversation deeper by discussing some of the things we can do to make our partners feel safe when dancing. She even has tips for how to do it if you’re new to dance or don’t have any previous experience. Finally, we discuss what to do when jealousy, frustration and anger come up in dance as well as how to make a woman shine when dancing with her. About the guest: Daniela Goulart: www.DanielaGoulart.comNon-Profit Project: www.Danceforkidsproject.com Lifestyle Business Coaching: www.Licensetoshine.com www.Instagram.com/danigula Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness  

Briana Gibson is a talented social dancer. In this candid interview with @breezydanceswcs, she breaks down the art of communicating through dance. A universe can be discovered about someone by moving closely with them for three minutes! In this episode, we’ll discuss what some of those things are. Briana also explains what to do when someone has “ghosted” you, and offers some perspective on why women reject men in the dance world. Our interview concludes with a few key ways to understand chemistry and compatibility both on and off the dance floor.  Connect more with Briana and follow her on Instagram:  www.Instagram.com/breezydanceswcs Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness  

Have you ever wondered why women don’t try again after initiating or approaching only once? We’ll explain how severely women internalize rejection and what both partners can do about it. We’ll then break down how to handle and give rejection compassionately. As a social being, this is perhaps one of the most important skills you can have! Whether you’re dating, married or in a relationship, few people know how to reject gracefully. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness  

Do you have a sense of how much sex you want in a given day, week or month? Do you refuse to quanitfy it? What are your thoughts on who should initiate sex when you’ve already slept together a few times? These are big questions that eventually lead to couple’s coaching. One of the cornerstones of Closeness Coaching is learning not to have sex out of obligation while still being available and receptive towards your partner for intimacy. This episode is an excellent place to examine the alluring question: are women more sexual than men? Finally, how do you know when your partner is genuinely tired and busy versus emotionally checked out or actually rejecting you? How can you communicate with your partner about what you need, especially when it comes to initiating? Has your belief that men should ALWAYS initiate held you back from getting what you want? Tune in to sort it out once and for all. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness  

We are as passionate about our hobbies and physical activities as we are about our intimate relationships. For some, this borders on obsession. For others, it is as important as religious beliefs and whether or not to vaccinate children. But what happens if your intimate partner doesn’t feel the same way about the things you love to do? What if quite simply, they just don’t care? Should they never show up to your events and performances? Or is it their moral duty to force themselves to do something that doesn’t interest them, to support you? Do you expect them to be there for most of your shows, games, conferences or performances? This episode explores whether expectations and sacrifices can be toxic to your relationship. To conclude, we’ll offer some thoughts on what healthy hobby communication looks like. It’s a sensitive topic that needs to be unpacked carefully. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness