Honey, We Need to Chat

Ever feel like you're speaking two different languages in your marriage? Or wonder why your partner shuts down when you bring something up?We sat down with Sam and Liv Ramsden (aka Mr. & Mrs. Silly Stories for Kids) to explore what really goes on under the surface when we miss each other in conflict. This one's packed with honest conversation, real-life tools, and the kind of grace that keeps a marriage grounded.We talk about:Why emotional wiring matters in conflictHow to study your partner instead of fixing themStaying on the same team (even when you clash)Parenting, overstimulation, and emotional repairWhat really holds a marriage together behind the chaos of raising kids and building a podcastIf you're in a season of disconnect or just want to grow your communication muscle, this episode will meet you where you're at.________________________You can connect with Sam & Silly Stories for Kids:Anywhere you get your podcastsYoutube - www.youtube.com/@SillyStoriesforKidspodcastwww.sillystoriesforkids.comInstagram - @sillystoriesforkids____________________________➡️ ⁠⁠Book a Free Clarity Session with Amy! ⁠⁠

In this revealing episode, we dive into the powerful concept of unspoken contracts - the invisible rules and assumptions quietly shaping your relationship. From mental load to emotional shutdown, financial habits to intimacy dynamics, we'll help you uncover the hidden systems that might be leaving you feeling stuck, resentful, or disconnected. Through relatable real-life examples, Amy and Blair show you how to identify these silent agreements, why they form, and how to transform them into intentional, balanced partnerships.

Welcome to Honey, We Need to Chat, where we dig deep into the real struggles couples face, from silent resentment to those tricky conversations that can make or break a relationship.In this episode, we uncover the hidden habit of scorekeeping in relationships, what it is, why it happens, and how to stop it. Whether you're feeling unseen, unheard, or just overwhelmed, we'll share practical tools to break the pattern of resentment, rebuild trust, and create healthier communication.

Ever wonder why you react the way you do in conflict, or why certain habits feel impossible to break?In this episode, Blair gets coached live by Amy using the “Six Core Human Needs” framework to explore what truly drives our behaviour in relationships. From control issues to chasing dopamine hits, we unpack how unmet needs shape our communication, emotions, and connection.Whether you're craving more balance, peace, or clarity in your relationship, this episode offers real-time insight, vulnerability, and practical tools to shift stuck patterns. Tune in and discover what's driving you.➡️ Book a Free Clarity Session with Amy!

Why do the smallest things trigger the biggest arguments? In this episode, we unpack the sneaky, subtle unmet needs that quietly shape our relationship dynamics, often without us realising it. From rejected dinners to phone use tensions and dead bedrooms, we explore real Reddit stories that show how core emotional needs go unspoken and how that misfires into conflict.You'll learn:What unmet needs really are (and why they're so sneaky)Common signs you're missing each other emotionallyWhy assumptions and silence create deeper disconnectPractical tools to communicate needs without dramaHow to spot patterns and build healthier habits together

Feel like you and your partner keep missing each other emotionally? Do you shut down when things get tense or over-explain to get back on the same page? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we unpack how attachment styles shape the way couples communicate, fight, and try to reconnect.We break down the three main attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) where they come from, and how they play out in everyday moments (like text message tone, stonewalling, or needing constant reassurance). Plus, we share our own journey of shifting out of old patterns and building a more secure connection over time.Whether you're married, dating, or just reflecting on your emotional habits, this conversation will help you put language to your patterns and start healing the cycle.

Money stress can quietly erode trust in a relationship, but it doesn't have to. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we sit down with our friends Phil and Kate Thompson to share real-life lessons about navigating finances as a team.From starting marriage with nothing to building a business and raising a family, they open up about what worked, what didn't, and what they wish more couples knew earlier.We talk about why financial transparency matters, how to set shared goals, and how to balance ambition with contentment. Whether you're saving, budgeting, investing, or just trying to survive a mortgage, we're sharing practical tools, honest stories, and encouragement to help you build a financial foundation that strengthens your connection.If you're keen to connect with Phil's work further, you can find him at https://www.skye.com.au/ ____________________

The silent treatment might seem like a quiet moment to cool off—but we've seen how it can loudly erode trust, create emotional distance, and chip away at connection over time.In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we're diving into the real cost of the silent treatment in relationships. We talk about why people withdraw, what's actually happening in your brain during emotional shutdown, and how silence can unintentionally become a power play. With personal stories, wild Reddit relationship drama, and tools we love (shoutout to the Gottman Four Horsemen), we're unpacking how silence can become damaging—and what healthier communication really looks like.Whether you're the one who shuts down, or the one left feeling confused and alone, this conversation brings empathy, perspective, and simple, realistic ways to reconnect. And make sure you stick around for the Reality Check Corner, where we share a practical challenge and a powerful visualisation to help you show up in your relationship the way you actually want to.____________________

In this raw and honest episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive into one of the most misunderstood yet widespread relationship challenges, burnout. Whether you're the one feeling physically, emotionally, or mentally drained, or you're supporting a partner through exhaustion, this episode will resonate deeply.We unpack what burnout actually looks like in a relationship, the cultural lies that normalise overwhelm, and the signs you might be missing until it's too late. From real stories of personal burnout, to practical strategies for prevention and recovery, this episode is filled with relatable insight, vulnerability, and actionable tools.Tune in to learn:The subtle signs of burnout you shouldn't ignoreHow to navigate burnout in marriage or partnershipPractical tools to rebalance when you're already running on emptyThe emotional aftermath of supporting someone in burnoutWhy cultural “busyness” is breaking our connectionsWhether you're in burnout, on the edge, or just want to build healthier rhythms—you'll leave feeling seen, equipped, and empowered.

This powerful episode of Honey, We Need to Chat welcomes Andrew and Kayte Kitchen (creatives, therapists, and real-life warriors) into a vulnerable and deeply encouraging conversation.What makes this episode especially moving is that they didn't wait until things were resolved to speak. Andrew and Kayte joined us while still walking through a hard season in their marriage and work life, a rare and courageous choice that sets the tone for something truly real.Together, we explore what it means to communicate during seasons of exhaustion, loss, and inner transformation. Expect insights on navigating marriage in hard times, how Sabbath rest can restore your soul, the role of active listening in healing communication, and how deconstructing ego creates space for authentic connection. If you've ever questioned your worth, struggled to feel heard in your relationship, or wondered how to slow down in a nonstop world, this episode is for you. Plus, Andrew's take on protecting creativity from the digital world will stick with you for days.You can connect with Andrew at sparrowcollective.com.au and with Kayte at admirari.com.au.____________________

This episode is a little different — we weren't in the same place when we recorded. With Blair away for work, we decided to try something new: answering all our questions separately… without hearing each other's responses first.

In this milestone episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we celebrate one year of their podcast by diving deep into a raw and real conversation about navigating relationships through the chaos of parenting. From real-life Reddit stories to our own experiences, we unpack:The parenting-relationship imbalance many couples faceHow to put your relationship first without neglecting your kidsMiscommunication around emotional labor and household loadWhy different parenting styles aren't the problem (emotional regulation is!)Plus, stick around for our Reality Check Corner to help you actively reflect, reconnect, and rebuild your relationship—one small step at a time.Tune in to hear what over 10,000 listeners and millions of viewers already love about Honey, We Need to Chat's vulnerable, funny, and helpful weekly chats.

In this powerful episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we sit down with bestselling authors Sheila and Keith Gregoire to discuss why traditional views on intimacy may be hurting your relationship more than helping.

Join us for an extra Reddit Story all about not feeling appreciated!

We've talked about the mental load before, but what about the emotional load? That invisible, often unspoken burden that one partner silently carries in a relationship? In today's episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we're diving into real REDDIT STORIES that expose the struggles of feeling unappreciated, unsupported, and unseen at home. From partners who do all the planning and organising to those who feel more valued at work than in their own home, these stories shine a light on a challenge that way too many couples face.We break down what's really happening in these dynamics, why resentment builds up over time, and (most importantly) how to shift the balance before it's too late. If you've ever felt like the default planner, the initiator, or the only one holding everything together, this episode is for you.

Join us as we dive deep into Emotional Load in relationships.

You might be carrying a hidden weight in your relationship—and so might your partner. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive into the invisible emotional load many people carry without realising it. From managing conflicts, anticipating needs, and diffusing tension to remembering birthdays and keeping the peace, emotional labor is often an unspoken burden that can impact intimacy, connection, and overall relationship health.We break down:✅ What emotional load actually is (and how it differs from mental load)✅ How emotional labor can lead to resentment, burnout, and imbalance✅ The subtle ways emotional labor plays out in relationships✅ How to rebalance the emotional load to create a healthier, more connected partnership✅ Small but powerful shifts you can make TODAY to improve emotional balance in your relationship

Join us this week as we dive into our first ever Reality Check Corner of the HWNTC podcast. This wee we're chatting all about communication loops you may find yourself stuck in in your relationship.

Breaking Free from Communication Loops in RelationshipsEver feel like you're having the same argument over and over again? Do you and your partner keep getting stuck in the same emotional cycles without resolution? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we're diving into communication loops - the repeated patterns that keep couples from truly resolving conflicts.We'll uncover:

This week we dive further into what is to come on the podcast and share with you the involvement we'd love to have from our chatters.Sorry for the delay! ❤️

We're back, and we've missed you! In this first episode of Season 2 of Honey, We Need to Chat, we're catching up on everything that's happened over the last few months—why we took an unexpected break, how moving house nearly broke us, and what we learned about communication, stress, and marriage along the way. If you've ever struggled with change, mental load, or keeping your relationship strong through chaos, this episode is for you. We also share what's coming up this season, including exciting new guests, deep-dive discussions, and ways for you to be part of the conversation. Want to support the show? Share this episode, subscribe, and leave a review! Your engagement helps more couples find this podcast.

A bonus story following on from our chat about GROW in relationships. Check back every week for your extra content as one of our Chatters.

This week we dive into the second module of our Relationship Program- the GROW framework!  If you haven't had a chance to run through the Balance Wheel of Relationships, please make sure to do so first! Then we suggest setting aside a night to run through this second module together.  **YOU CAN DOWNLOAD BOTH FREEBIES VIA OUR WEBSITE www.honeyweneedtochat.com** GROW Is an incredibly impactful tool to really assess where you are currently and where you want to go. Standing for Goals, Reality, Options and Way Forward, these three areas help you dig into what might be sitting behind your patterns and identify practical ways to step forward in working on them. We also want to take a moment to let you all know that this will be the last episode of HWNTC Season 1! We are moving and will be taking a season break, but don't worry- we have a list of incredible guests coming up for season two, so watch this space! And if you get bored while we're gone, why not jump on over to Patreon for 20+ extra episodes ;) https://www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat _____________ ❔Have a story or question you want discussed on the podcast.

A bonus story following on from our chat about social lives in relationships. Check back every week for your extra content as one of our Cha

This week we dive into the wild world of Social Lives in Relationships.Join us as we discuss Reddit Stories all about couples navigating their social dynamics in a variety of challenges. From mismatched personal energy levels to unhealthy friendships impacting relationships, this chat covers it all.Also- keep an ear out for our exciting, limited time listener giveaway to celebrate ticking over 30 eps!✨For an extra, more personal chat on this topic, join us over on Patreon: www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat_____________❔Have a story or question you want discussed on the podcast.

A bonus story following on from our chat about the Balance Wheel of Relationships. Check back every week for your extra content as one of our Make sure to check out the pdf if you want to try it yourself! www.honeyweneedtochat.com

On this, our 30th episode (!?!?) we chat all about our HWNTC Balance Wheel of Relationships session. Getting clear on where you are and detailed on where you want to be is a huge part of progress, and relationships are no different! So we've pulled together this session to help you and your partner take stock of your relationship and make plans for where you'd like to focus going forward. To run through the session yourself, you can download it via our website at www.honeyweneedtochat.com, and if you want to watch us do the activity together, hop on over to our patreon! www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat _____________ ❔Have a story or question you want discussed on the podcast.

This week we dive into Reddit stories all about the PAST. When is the past meant to be left in the past? When is it appropriate to raise something from long ago? How can couples navigate long standing issues that can't be 'fixed'? How do past insecurities impact present relationships? This is a wild ride of an episode we dive into these submitted stories, AND one of our very own challenges we've navigated in our relationship. ✨For an extra, more personal chat on this topic, join us over on Patreon: www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat _____________ ❔Have a story or question you want discussed on the podcast.

A bonus story following on from our chat about When Is the Past Just ‘The Past'. Check back every week for your extra content as one of our

A bonus story following on from our chat about Managing Expectations- in which Amy coaches Blair. Check back every week for your extra content as one of our closest community members

This week we have a great Chit-Chat episode on how to manage your expectations within relationships, and what might help you reach your goals with your partner. From 'how can I better respect my partner if he is slacking', 'will my partner ever just know what I need?' to 'How do I help my wife trust that I've changed', we cover a bunch of topics all relating to mismatched expectations and adjusting your focus to help you and your partner strengthen your relationship. ✨For an extra, more personal chat on this topic, join us over on Patreon: www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat _____________ ❔Have a story or question you want discussed on the podcast.

A bonus story following on from our chat about Extended Family and In-Laws for our Chatter Community! Check back every week for your extra content as one of our closest community members

This week we dive into the dynamic world of Extended Families and In-Laws through Reddit Stories. We all navigate family of origin dynamics as we move into our partnerships, and at times, these relationships can present some of the biggest challenges. Join us as we chat through how to support your partner through toxic parent relationships, what to do if you find yourself stuck in between your partner and your parents and how to navigate an inappropriate dependency/venting from your parents. We hope this chat sparks conversations for you and your partner! ____ For an extra, more personal chat on this topic, join us over on Spotify Subscription or Patreon: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Make sure to ⁠⁠⁠⁠sign up to our mailing list⁠⁠⁠⁠ to receive helpful resources that can enrich your relationship ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.honeyweneedtochat.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AND Don't forget to hit that subscribe button and share this episode with anyone you think may benefit!

A bonus story following on from our chat with Luke and Susie Holt for our Chatter Community! Check back every week for your extra content as

This is a VERY exciting Chit-Chat. This week on Honey, We Need to Chat, we welcome our very first GUESTS to the show- Luke and Susie Holt! Luke and Susie are a wildly talented, husband and wife radio-duo and founders of the Floppin' Fatherhood Project⁠ - focused on raising the bar of Fatherhood. We were honoured to chat with them all about communication, conflict resolution, reconciliation tactics and parenting. We know you'll be encouraged, entertained and challenged by this fun episode! Please make sure to check out Luke and Susie's work, and consider 'catching the cause' of Floppin' Fatherhood

This week we thought we would dive further into Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages, exploring the ups and downs of navigating mismatched needs and miscommunication in this space. Can Love Languages be misused? Can mismatched languages be compatible? How do you communicate your needs with someone who isn't willing to hear? These are a few of the questions we navigate in today's chat. Be encouraged with us as we read one of our Chatter's insightful feedback and we workshop a story submitted by a listener like you! ____  For an extra, more personal chat on this topic, join us over on Spotify Subscription or Patreon: ⁠⁠⁠www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat⁠⁠⁠ Make sure to ⁠⁠⁠⁠sign up to our mailing list⁠⁠⁠⁠ to receive helpful resources that can enrich your relationship ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠www.honeyweneedtochat.com⁠⁠⁠ AND Don't forget to hit that subscribe button and share this episode with anyone you think may benefit!

A bonus story following on from 5 Love Languages In Real Life for our Chatter Community! Check back every week for your extra content as one of our closest community members

In this Chit-Chat we answer YOUR questions, ranging from our regrets/things we wish we'd done earlier, to deeper chats about working through conflict within relationships. We also do a 'live' sharing of a fun gift from one of our Chatters- revealing the surprise mugs we got each other for Tea Chat! Tune in for a heartfelt conversation filled with personal anecdotes and tips for keeping your relationship strong. ------------ For an extra, more personal chat on this topic, join us over on Patreon: www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat Make sure to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠sign up to our mailing list⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to receive helpful resources that can enrich your relationship. AND Don't forget to hit that subscribe button and share this episode with anyone you think may benefit!

A bonus story following on from Regrets, Wins and Conflict Resolution for our Chatter Community! Check back every week for your extra content as one of our closest community members

A bonus story following on from Weaponised Incompetence in Your Relationship for our Chatter Community! Check back every week for your extra content as one of our closest community members

This week we dive into another super important conversation in the world of relationships- Weaponised Incompetence! Have you ever found yourself undermining your ability in order to get out of doing something? Have you experienced someone shirking their responsibilities by pretending they "don't know what to do"? Well you might have experienced manipulative, Weaponised Incompetence! Similar to Mental Load, Weaponised Incompetence is a common struggle within relationships, one that often goes undefined and unaddressed, but that can contribute to contempt, criticism, mental load and an array of other dynamics. Regardless of your relationship status or role within your relationship, this conversation is an important one! Join us as we dive into 3 Reddit Stories all on the topic of Manipulative Incompetence. ____  For an extra, more personal chat on this topic, join us over on Spotify Subscription or Patreon: ⁠www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat⁠ Make sure to ⁠⁠⁠⁠sign up to our mailing list⁠⁠⁠⁠ to receive helpful resources that can enrich your relationship ➡️ ⁠www.honeyweneedtochat.com⁠ AND Don't forget to hit that subscribe button and share this episode with anyone you think may benefit!

A bonus story following on from Stay Connected in Your Relationship for our Chatter Community! We dive deep into the feedback from YOU, so this episode is specifically aimed at our Chatter community. Check back every week for your extra content as one of our closest community members

This Chit-Chat is fueled by feedback from YOU! We dive into topics and questions submitted by our Listeners, and share an incredibly encouraging and challenging Listener write-in at the end. We explore the dynamic world of relationships and parenthood. We dive into how to balance differing interests and hobbies when they don't always align, highlighting the importance of communication and understanding each other's needs. We also discuss how to keep the romance alive during the postpartum period and the challenges of adjusting to life with kids. You'll hear practical advice on prioritising your relationship and making time for each other amidst the chaos. Plus, we deep dive into our proposal story, as requested by YOU. Tune in for a heartfelt conversation filled with personal anecdotes and tips for keeping your relationship strong. ------------ For an extra, more personal chat on this topic, join us over on Patreon: www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat Make sure to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠sign up to our mailing list⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to receive helpful resources that can enrich your relationship. AND Don't forget to hit that subscribe button and share this episode with anyone you think may benefit!

A bonus story following on from What is Contempt in Relationships?, for our Chatter Community! Contempt is also known as the relationship killer! But this is not where the story ends. Check back every week for your extra content as one of our closest community members

This week we chat through another of the Gottman Four Horsemen of Relationships- CONTEMPT. One of the biggest red flags of relationships.

A bonus story following on from Our Story episode, for our Chatter Community! We share what resources have been encouraging us lately! Check back every week for your extra content as one of our closest community members

This is a special episode- number 20! So to celebrate meeting this milestone we thought it was time we properly introduce you to us- Amy and Blair. Join us as we share some of our background, explain why Amy has a weird voice, tell you the story of how we met and share what we found helpful in the early years that's led us to today! We also chat through a Chatter's/Listener Write-in asking all about the best way to establish regular relationship check-ins. ------------ For an extra, more personal chat on this topic, join us over on Patreon: www.patreon.com/honeyweneedtochat Make sure to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠sign up to our mailing list⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to receive helpful resources that can enrich your relationship. AND Don't forget to hit that subscribe button and share this episode with anyone you think may benefit!

A bonus story on Insecurities in Relationships for our Chatter Community! Check back every week for your extra content as one of our closest community members

This week we dive into the tricky world of INSECURITIES in Relationships