Military Wife Life

This week on the Military Life podcast, I continue my Defence Family Focused conversations with the ADF Service Chiefs, prompted by National Families Week, which took place recently. Episode 188 with Deputy Chief of Navy Rear Admiral Matthew Buckley is a continuation of last year's episode with the Chief of Navy Vice Admiral Mark Hammond. What is great about this being the second podcast episode focused on Navy families is that it shows a genuine willingness to connect, understand, and communicate directly with families continually. Rear Admiral Buckley and I discuss a range of topics including; -This year's National Families Week theme ‘Lending a hand to Thrive: Supporting each other', and how the Deputy Chief of Navy is helping families thrive. -An update on the ‘Stay On Board' family initiatives, including the Navy Families Handbook. -Engaging with Navy families and how he uses lived experience feedback to inform what he does. -The importance of understanding the changing needs of not only personnel but their partners and families and reflecting it in policy. - What opportunities the Deputy Chief of Navy sees are available to continually challenge thoughts around the evolving experiences and role of the defence partner and family. -We discuss the recent changes to PEAP (Partner Employment Assistance Program) and the negative impact the new reimbursement model is having for some Defence Partners. -The roadblocks the Deputy Chief of Navy faces when it comes to balancing the needs of the Navy organisation, personnel, and families. -The words of encouragement he would offer those defence partners and families who are new to Navy life.   Ready to join the Military Life Community? Click through the link to get connected xx

When I got the call that the Chief of Army Australia, Lieutenant General Simon Stuart, wanted to come back on the Military Life podcast ahead of National Families Week 2025, I have to admit I was feeling a mix of emotions. The one at the top of the list- PROUD. Proud because it signalled that Defence Families are being thought about and considered. Proud because it means there has been a shift in the way Defence Leaders are communicating with families, thanks to all of us and those partners who came before us. Proud because it shows the genuine care, understanding, and so importantly, the connection being built each time Defence Leaders listen and learn, adjust policy and introduce new family initiatives. And proud because each time Defence Leaders show us that Partners and Families deserve to be supported throughout our defence life journey, and acknowledged for our sacrifice. Each conversation with Lieutenant General Stuart has been genuine and insightful with someone who, in his own words, isn't interested in “legacy” but is committed to real and actual practical changes for Army families so that they can continue to thrive and choose to serve. On episode 187, Lieutenant General Stuart and I continue our family-focused conversation and speak about; - This year's National Families Week theme ‘Lending a hand to Thrive: Supporting each other' and how the Chief of Army is helping Army families thrive. - An update on the new Army Families Handbook, the Army Partner Support Pilot Program and plans for future family initiatives. - What he has learnt during his recent catch-ups with Partners and Families, and how he uses real-time feedback to inform and take action. - Are the results of the ADF Families survey timely, relevant, and representative, and how do they direct policy change? - What opportunities the Chief of Army sees are available to continually challenge thoughts around the evolving experiences and role of the Defence Partner and Family. - We discuss the recent changes to PEAP (Partner Employment Assistance Program) and the negative impact the new reimbursement model is having on some Defence Partners. - What words of encouragement he would offer those Defence Partners and Families new to Army life.   Ready to join the Military Life Community? Click through the link to get connected xx www.militarylife.com.au

RE-RELEASED EPISODE This week on the Military Life Podcast, I speak with my Husband Scott, who has, just days ago, returned from a 6 month deployment. We speak about; -The ins and outs of deployment from the Defence member's perspective. -What happens when the ship pulls away from the wharf and sets off on its journey? -How it feels for the Military member to be away from their family for long stretches. -Scott answers all those little questions you might have but never get the chance to ask.   Ready to join the ML community? Click through the link to get connected www.militarylife.com.au

RE-RELEASED EPISODE This week on the Military Life Podcast, I speak with the National Music Director of the Australian Military Wives Choir, Cath Parsons, about her journey as a spouse and where the idea for the AMW Choir came from. Cath and I also speak about;   -How the Choir went from being a handful of people in Canberra to locations around Australia -Why the Choir is about what we do as spouses rather than what our military partners do at work -How the Choir creates a safe space for spouses and why all singing abilities are welcome -Why the Choir isn't about rank or service with the main focus on connection and social inclusion -Where to get involved and the types of songs they sing *hint, hint the Choir is far from boring when it comes to song choice; think Tay Tay and Bruno Mars.   To find out how you can join your local AMW Choir or to find out more about the AMW Choir, click through to the website for details https://www.amwchoir.com/

RE-RELEASED EPISODE This week on the Military Life Podcast, I speak with Susan, who has just hit the one-year mark of being a Defence spouse. Susan and I speak about; -The huge changes she and her Husband went through during the first 12 months of living Defence Life. -What Susan expected Military life would be like versus the reality. -How she adjusted to going from seeing her Husband everyday to months of separation. -The decision to give birth to their second child without her Husband by her side. -The impact having a second baby alone and solo parenting had on her mental health. -How she rose to the challenge and tackled everything that was thrown at her during the first 12 months.   Ready to join the ML Community? Click through the link to get connected www.militarylife.com.au

This week on the Military Life Podcast, I speak with Open Arms Community and Peer workers Jess and Sarah after the program recently celebrated its 5-year anniversary. Jess, Sarah and I speak about; -The Community and Peer program and how it aligns with the mental health supports Open Arms provides. -Why the Community and Peer program was established and how important it is that Peer workers have lived experience. -What draws Veterans and Defence Partners to become Community and Peer workers? -Why Community and Peer Workers are an important part of the Open Arms ‘Stepping Out' program -How the support offered by the Community and Peer Workers differs from the other options available via Open Arms. -Understanding when to connect with a Community and Peer worker VS seeing a psychologist or a counsellor through Open Arms. -Why the Community and Peer program can be the first step to accessing other mental health supports and services. -How to find out more information about the program and connect with a Community and Peer Worker.   Click here to visit the Open Arms website, learn more about the Community and Peer Program here, or call 1800 011 046 to speak with someone from Open Arms and connect with mental health support and services. Ready to join the ML community? Click through the link to get connected www.militarylife.com.au

RE-RELEASED EPISODE This week on the Military Life Podcast, I speak with Army spouse Mel about a service dog called Maxx and how he saved her husband Damien. Mel and I also speak about; -What it's like when your Husband deploys every two years -Her Husband's decision to be proactive in seeking mental health support -Why a service dog was the right fit for her Husband and their family -Defence Community Dog program and the support the Defence Bank Foundation give the program -The impact Maxx has had on her Husband's everyday life and their family life -The type of support Maxx provides and why Mel being the third wheel is a good thing   Maxx was matched with Damien through the Defence Community Dog Program, a program that is funded by the Defence Bank Foundation thanks to Defence Bank. The DCD program provides highly trained service dogs to serving and ex-serving ADF members who need physical and emotional support for mood, depressive and anxiety disorders including Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Every dog in the program is rescued from a pound/shelter/training facility and trained at the Bathurst Correctional Centre with the assistance of professional dog trainers and inmates. The admin costs to run the Defence Bank Foundation are met by Defence Bank to make sure that all donated funds are provided to the Defence Community Dogs program. Visit https://www.defencebankfoundation.com.au/ to make a donation or to find out more info. And, if you think your Veteran (current or former serving) or a Veteran you know would benefit from connecting with a program like DCD and being matched with an Assistance Dog at no cost, the program is currently seeking expressions of interest from Veterans. For more information, visit www.dcdogs.com.au/apply

This week on the Military Life Podcast, I had the privilege of having an authentic, informative, and real defence family-focused conversation with the Chief of Army Australia, Lieutenant General Simon Stuart. I have now met and spoken with Lieutenant General Stuart several times, in various settings, focused on discussing a range of defence family topics. There have been ten-minute conversations at defence events and hour-long conversations in Lieutenant General Stuart's pretty impressive office in Canberra for this podcast episode (even though the recording was supposed to be a 30-minute chat). What can I say? The conversation was flowing. And you know what my conversations with Lieutenant General Stuart all had in common? It was a feeling that he had all the time in the world to speak with me and hear from all of you and that discussing defence families was as important to him as what it is to all of us. Each conversation with Lieutenant General Stuart has been genuine and insightful with someone who, in his own words, isn't interested in “legacy” but is committed to real and actual practical changes for Army families so that they can continue to thrive and choose to serve. In episode 181 we discuss; -Why focusing on purpose and people takes priority -Achieving as part of a team, and the team that should matter most is your family -Recognising that a defence members service is a collective effort and the vital role families play -Creating more opportunities for Army families to have agency over their lives through a variety of initiatives -Acknowledging that housing and where defence families live impacts so many other areas of our lives -The importance of staying in touch and engaged with the everyday experiences of Army families -How data-informed changes to policies that are flexible create more choice and better support for families -Being able to change policy quickly enough to have a real and tangible impact on the current challenges Army families are facing -Understanding the changing set of considerations, circumstances and priorities defence families have at different points of service life -The introduction of an Army Families Handbook and why it will be an evolving resource -What are capability bricks and why designing a health and well-being brick will help connect families -Why Lieutenant General Stuart's focus is not on leaving a legacy but rather on building an inheritance for defence members and families   Ready to join the Military Life Community? Click through the link to get connected xx www.militarylife.com.au

This week on the Military Life podcast, Veteran Spouse Jo returns for PART TWO of her episode. In episode 179/PART ONE, Jo detailed her 15-year Defence Partner journey over 9 postings across New Zealand and Australia, her husband's transition, and her decision to take her career in a new direction.   In PART TWO, Jo and I speak about; -Why she decided to pursue Career Coaching and focus on helping Defence Partners -What a Career Coach does and why it is so much more than helping people with their resumes -The joy and satisfaction Jo gets from helping Defence Partners take their careers to the next level -The importance of finding meaningful employment you WANT to be in -Helping Defence Partners find their confidence & empowering them on their career journey -We discuss the value and unique skills Defence Partners bring to a workplace -Explaining PEAP (Partner Employment Assistance Program) how, when, and why to access it -How to find a PEAP provider and what they should be bringing to the table -The importance of working with a qualified CDAA career practitioner -Why Jo offers FREE masterclasses for Defence Partners on various career topics                                                                                                        To find out more about Jo, PEAP, and her work as a Career Practitioner, follow along via her socials Instagram:  @jomacdonaldcareers or Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/jomacdonaldcareers   Or check out her website https://www.jomacdonaldcareers.com/defencepartners   Jo has an Upcoming Masterclass- Love What You Do Masterclass for Defence Partners on Tuesday 29 October 2024 at 7pm (QLD time) find out details over on her socials or website. To read more about PEAP or to access the application form, check out the Defence Member Family Support (DMFS) website via this link https://www.defence.gov.au/adf-members-families/family-programs-services/support-for-families/partner-employment-assistance-program

On this week's Military Life podcast episode, Veteran Spouse Jo details her 15 year Defence Partner journey over 9 postings across New Zealand and Australia.   In PART ONE, Jo and I speak about; -Embracing support, finding community, and making lifelong friends -Discussing her spouse experience vs that of the 2024 Defence Partner -How she ensured her relationship with her Defence Member stayed strong -Communication, understanding & the mental load a Defence Partner carries -Resilience vs Limits and the point of impact on the Spouse and Defence Kids -Choosing transition, figuring out where to settle, and which career path to follow -Finding her passion, becoming a Career Practitioner, and helping Defence Partners   *Stay tuned next week for episode 180 and Part Two of my chat with Jo. We speak about her decision to become a Career Practitioner, her focus on helping Defence Partners find their confidence to go after what they want to be doing when it comes to their career, finding meaningful employment and PEAP (the Partner employment assistance program).   To find out more about Jo and her work as a Career Practitioner follow along via her socials Instagram:  @jomacdonaldcareers or Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/jomacdonaldcareers Or check out her website https://www.jomacdonaldcareers.com/defencepartners Jo has an Upcoming Masterclass- Love What You Do Masterclass for Defence Partners on Tuesday 29 October 2024 at 7pm (QLD time) find out details over on her socials or website.

This week on the Military Life Podcast, I have put together a compilation episode with real talk and words of wisdom offered by some of the Defence Partners who have been gracious enough to tell their story on the podcast over the last 5 years! FIVE YEARS…. Can you even believe it? What a huge milestone for all of us to celebrate. Five years of the podcast, 175 episodes and 100,000 downloads. I want to say thank you to all of you for sharing your stories, listening, supporting, connecting, building this community with me, empowering yourselves and each other by accessing and sharing information and resources, coming together as a united force and for getting it. You just GET IT, and I thank you for that. It is that shared understanding that this community of defence partners has that has created a space of CONNECTION and BELONGING for all Defence Partners Navy, Army and Air Force. So, get comfy and enjoy listening to some of the best advice, words of wisdom, tips and tricks, insider info, and real talk from a number of Defence Partners who have previously shared their spouse journey with us on the Podcast.

This week on the Military Life Podcast, I have put together a compilation episode with real talk and words of wisdom offered by some of the Defence Partners who have been gracious enough to tell their story on the podcast over the last 5 years! FIVE YEARS…. Can you even believe it? What a huge milestone for all of us to celebrate. Five years of the podcast, 175 episodes and 100,000 downloads. I want to say thank you to all of you for sharing your stories, listening, supporting, connecting, building this community with me, empowering yourselves and each other by accessing and sharing information and resources, coming together as a united force and for getting it. You just GET IT, and I thank you for that. It is that shared understanding that this community of defence partners has that has created a space of CONNECTION and BELONGING for all Defence Partners Navy, Army and Air Force. So, get comfy and enjoy listening to some of the best advice, words of wisdom, tips and tricks, insider info, and real talk from a number of Defence Partners who have previously shared their spouse journey with us on the Podcast.

This week on the Military Life Podcast, I had the privilege of having a genuine, insightful and defence family-focused conversation with Chief of Navy Australia Vice Admiral Mark Hammond. Throughout my time as not only a Defence Partner but also now through my work in the defence family space, I have interacted with people from all services, various ranks, departments, and positions, and you get a feel when someone is genuine. You get a feel when someone wants to listen, wants to understand, wants to acknowledge, and values the defence family perspective. Vice Admiral Hammond is one of those genuine people. In episode 176, we discuss; -What makes Defence and, in particular, Navy families special -How fundamental families are when it comes to members and the Navy as a whole  -Remembering that “our power at sea is derived from our family's strength at home” -The importance of frequent engagement with ADF members & families -The ‘Stay Onboard Campaign' explained, the focus on families, and why now? -Continued listening to understand what matters most to Navy personnel and their families -How his spouse and family, including his daughter, who is also in the Navy, have provided perspective -Evaluating the Stay Onboard Campaign initiatives and the importance of continued improvement -Recognising command teams, personnel, and bases having a positive impact for families -Supporting those in leadership positions to balance capability needs and the needs of Navy families   Want to know more about the Stay Onboard Initiatives? Check them out here https://www.navy.gov.au/navy-people/programs/stay-onboard-people-first Have you seen the new Navy Families Handbook? Download a copy here https://www.navy.gov.au/navy-people/family-support   Ready to join the Military Life Community? Click through the link to get connected xx www.militarylife.com.au

Posting to a new location is a huge life event. Whether you do it every few years or, like me, have long stretches between moves because you choose to URF (unaccompanied Resident Family), it can be a lot. Throw in selling a property, and the TO DO list can seem overwhelming. It's understandable that maybe you just want to take a minute between selling in one location and buying in the next so that you can catch your breath, unpack, and explore your new location. Soooo, in the meantime, what do you do with the funds from the sale of your property, and which defence allowances can you access? Queue Defence Bank's Regional Manager Lending Distribution Ashley to walk us through some of the options. In this episode, Ashley and I speak about; -First steps when it comes to selling a property, your mortgage and everything in between -The paperwork and admin you can get sorted ahead of time before selling and posting out -What happens once your property sale goes through and the funds are released to your bank -DHOAS (Defence Home Ownership Assistance Scheme) payments and what happens once you sell -Applying for a new DHOAS certificate and accessing payments when it comes time to buy again -Guidelines around accessing DHOAS when buying property upon transition out of Defence -What is the HPSEA (Home Purchase or Sale Expenses Allowance), who can access it and when -The costs associated with selling in one location and buying in another and what you can claim -What to do with funds from the sale of a property and how to make the money work for you -High-interest saving accounts, fixed-term deposit options, and the Salute Account explained   Check out the Defence Bank website for further information about buying and selling a property, as well as DHOAS, HPSEA, and other home buyer allowances. You can also find out more about Defence Bank's high-interest savings accounts, fixed-term deposit options and the exclusive Salute Account, which rewards ADF members for service milestones.  www.defencebank.com.au

On this week's Military Life podcast episode, I ask Defence Partner Nicole, who is currently posted in the USA with her ADF member and two children, ALLLL the overseas posting questions you didn't even know you needed answered! In PART TWO, Nicole and I talk about; - The regret Nicole and her Husband felt about moving overseas once the dust had settled - The impact on her mental health when the reality of being so far from home set in - Feeling like everything is hard and different and figuring out their new normal - Finally settling into living overseas and finding the positives - Being bitten by the travel bug and visiting New York, Florida and other bucket-list locations - Working through concerns around safety in their new location   - Getting to work to make their house a home and building a new friend circle - The huge amount of choice you have in the USA and the associated decision fatigue - Feeling like life in Australia goes on and wondering if they will be forgotten - Nicole's top advice for others posting overseas   If you didn't listen to PART ONE of this episode, consider giving it a listen. There is so much great overseas posting insight in Episode 173, PART ONE. Ready to join the Military Life community? Click through the link to get connected xx www.militarylife.com.au

On this week's Military Life podcast episode, I ask Defence Partner Nicole, who is currently posted in the USA with her ADF member and two children, ALLLL the overseas posting questions you didn't even know you needed answered! In PART ONE, Nicole and I talk about; -Why the timing was right for their family to apply for an overseas posting -What happens once you get the official word your family will be posted overseas -Differences between the overseas posting Nicole and her Husband did 10 years ago and now -The practical stuff like paperwork and appointments that need to get done and STAT -What the deal is with Housing, Schooling and Medical care overseas -The family support offered by Defence in Australia vs Overseas -Breaking the overseas posting news to Defence Kids and the support available -The process of choosing which stuff to leave and which stuff to take -The financial impact of an overseas posting and the various allowances available -The regret Nicole and her Husband felt about moving overseas once the dust had settled Stay tuned next week for Part 2 of my chat with Nicole. There is so much more overseas posting insight to come.   Ready to join the Military Life community? Click through the link to get connected xx www.militarylife.com.au

On this week's Military Life Podcast Episode, Dr Peggy Brown, one of the three commissioners tasked with leading the Royal Commission into Defence and Veteran Suicide, speaks about the release of the lived-experience book Shining a Light: Stories of Trauma & Tragedy, Hope & Healing. The trauma-informed book, authored by journalist Patrick Lindsay AM, showcases the lived experience of suicide and suicidal behaviour of serving and ex-serving Australian Defence Force members and their families. These experiences, which have been at the heart of the Royal Commission during its inquiries, were bravely and generously shared through submissions and evidence. Commissioner Brown and I also speak about; - What motivates and fuels her to get up every day and work toward making a difference as one of the Commissioner's heading the 58th inquiry examining veteran suicide. -What she thinks needs to happen to ensure the outcomes of this Royal Commission are different and that some significant change occurs. -What the Commissioners learnt about defence and veteran families. -Her concern around Defence Families Australia being in caretaker mode for 12 months and working at 65% capacity at such a critical time. -Why it was important to encourage those with varied experiences and not just those who have been impacted by suicide to step forward and be heard. -Her frustration at the amount of work she believes Defence still needs to do to support families. -Thoughts around transition and what is needed to make it a better experience for veterans and their families with better outcomes. -What has happened following the release of the Royal Commission's Interim Report, which made 13 urgent recommendations? -The proposed new entity to follow the Royal Commission and what the commissioners envision that new entity being responsible for. -How the everyday current serving ADF member and those in leadership positions connect with the findings of the Royal Commission and understand how they can be part of the change. - What happens when the final report is handed down in September 2024, and who determines whether the responses and the changes are good enough or what the veteran community needs?   *The establishment of the Royal Commission was the product of tireless advocacy by a determined group of individuals with lived and living experience of suicide and suicidality in a military context. Over the past three years, the Royal Commission has received 5,889 submissions, published 1,011 submissions, received 6,662 phone enquiries, held 886 private sessions, heard 346 witnesses at hearings, and had over 164,000 Livestream views. Together with Commissioners Brown, Kaldis, and Douglas's final report, due to be handed down in September, it is hoped the ‘Shining a Light' book will help drive real and lasting change and lead to a greater understanding of the sacrifices made by those who defend our country, our ADF members and their loved ones-Us. If you would like to read the ‘Shining a Light' book, follow the link below to access it for free. A variety of publicly available information regarding the Royal Commission into Defence and Veteran Suicide can also be accessed via the website. https://defenceveteransuicide.royalcommission.gov.au/publications/shining-light https://defenceveteransuicide.royalcommission.gov.au/ *TRIGGER WARNING- There is some discussion of suicide in this episode. If this episode brings anything up for you, please contact FREE ADF mental health service Open Arms on 1800 011 046 or, in case of emergency, call 000.

On this week's Military Life Podcast episode, I speak with Acting CEO of Defence Bank Marnie Fletcher about her leadership style and how she aligns her values and purpose while working in the financial services sector. Marnie and I also speak about;   -How her parent's past financial difficulties motivate her to help people create a better life through good financial decisions. -Joining Defence Bank in 2021 and leading Defence Bank through a period of growth and innovation.  -Learning about the needs of Defence families through engagement with members around the country. -Working in the financial services sector for over 25 years and how it has shaped her leadership style. -How Defence Bank being member owned enables better decision-making in the interests of members. -How Marnie empowers herself and the women around her to lead others, especially in a male-dominated field. -The best leadership advice Marnie received in her career and life.   Click on the link below to learn more about Defence Bank and the available products and services. https://www.defencebank.com.au/

This week's Military Life podcast episode is about the FREE mental Health service available to Defence Partners, current ADF Members, Veterans, and their immediate Families—OPEN ARMS and the recently introduced Model of Care.  This week I caught up with Leonie Nowland, First Assistant Secretary of Open Arms, and Dr Jon Lane, Senior Psychiatrist Advisor with Open Arms and member of the Open Arms National Advisory Committee. In this episode, we speak about;         -Who can access support and services through Open Arms, and when      -What they know about current serving families and their mental health support needs.      -Understanding the Open Arms services the 43,000 clients access with 38% being current serving members and families.      -The introduction of the first Open Arms Model of Care. Why now, how it was developed, and what does it mean for Open Arms clients?       -The importance of setting the record straight when it comes to misinformation surrounding the new Model of Care.       -The confusion around whether Open Arms clients will or won't have a 3-6 month/10 session limit of support and…. is there a 3 month waiting period before accessing further services?       -The Open Arms National Advisory Committee's purpose and representation of current serving families.       -We discuss whether the experiences of Veterans vs Family Members are different and should be acknowledged.      -Why Open Arms clinicians, peer support workers, and contractors are military-aware and what that means when it comes to partners and families.       -Do you have to start fresh with a new Open Arms clinician when you post to a new location, or can you continue with your previous provider?       -Current wait times defence partners, members, veterans, and immediate family are experiencing when it comes to accessing services.       -The trauma defence partners and families experience living defence life and why it is important to acknowledge the various stressors encountered on a daily basis.       -Understanding how and when Defence Kids and Teens can access mental health support via Open Arms and the current limitations.       -Why Open Arms can't provide services for Australian Defence Partners and Families who post to an overseas location.      -Where to access and read the Model of Care https://www.openarms.gov.au/about/our-model-care     Open Arms is a 24-hour, 7-day-a-week FREE service. For further information or to access mental health support, you can call 1800 011 046 or visit the website www.openarms.gov.au Please note: Anyone who has served at least one day in the ADF, their partner, and immediate family members can access support via Open Arms. Even if you are new to military life and haven't completed your paperwork (to be recognised as a couple), you can still reach out for support, and Open Arms will talk you through whatever you are struggling with and also, if needed, refer you to other services.   Ready to join the ML community? Click through the link below to get connected xx www.militarylife.com.au

Re-released Episode- Military Life Community Connectors EXPLAINED PART 2   Maybe you have heard about Military Life Community Connectors, or maybe you want to know more about them. This episode is all about who they are, what they do, and why I felt there was a need for the Military Life Community Connector Program.   No one quite gets you like a fellow Defence Partner, but finding and connecting with other partners can be both tricky and nerve-wracking!   It took me 10 years to find a Defence Partner friend. Partly because I didn't realise what I was missing out on. Partly because I was downright scared to step forward to connect. Partly because I was reluctant to put my hand up for support. Partly because I wasn't given the opportunity to connect and belong in my community.   So, when I finally found what I didn't even know I was missing, that connection and support only fellow Defence Partners can give, I felt a weight lift off of me. I caught my breath. I felt like I belonged and wanted every Defence Partner to have what I had found.   That's why I created the ML Community Connector Program and where Community Connectors come in! I wanted to give every Defence Partner the opportunity to CONNECT and BELONG in their community just like I had because I knew in my heart what a huge difference it made having Defence Partner friends in your corner who just got you and defence life.   ML Community Connectors play a vital role for Defence Partners by bringing them together to create meaningful connections with each other, offering peer support and information, empowering Defence Partners with confidence to access local and defence community-related services, and acknowledging the importance of belonging.   Community Connectors are amazing Defence Partners around the country who have stepped forward and put their hand up to volunteer to help connect spouses in their community- the defence community by providing consistent and welcoming spouse-focused events (on weekends and child-free) that ALL Defence Partners can attend.   We currently have ML Community Connectors in Amberley and Enoggera QLD, HMAS Cerberus VIC, Sutherland and Williamtown NSW, Rockingham WA, Adelaide SA, and Canberra ACT. Community Connection events take place regularly (every 6 weeks or so). If you would like to become a Community Connector in your location, get in touch via hello@militarylife.com.au!   Have a listen to Episode 168 (PART 1) first to find out more. If you would like to learn more about a Community Connection Event happening in your area, click through to your ML Closed State/Territory Facebook group for details (links below).   ACT- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongact/   QLD- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongqld/   TAS- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongtas/   VIC- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongvic/   NT- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongnt/   SA- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongsa/   NSW- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongnsw/   WA- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongwa/

Re-released Episode- Military Life Community Connectors EXPLAINED PART 1   Maybe you have heard about Military Life Community Connectors, or maybe you want to know more about them. This episode is all about who they are, what they do, and why I felt there was a need for the Military Life Community Connector Program.   No one quite gets you like a fellow Defence Partner, but finding and connecting with other partners can be both tricky and nerve-wracking!   It took me 10 years to find a Defence Partner friend. Partly because I didn't realise what I was missing out on. Partly because I was downright scared to step forward to connect. Partly because I was reluctant to put my hand up for support. Partly because I wasn't given the opportunity to connect and belong in my community.   So, when I finally found what I didn't even know I was missing, that connection and support only fellow Defence Partners can give, I felt a weight lift off of me. I caught my breath. I felt like I belonged and wanted every Defence Partner to have what I had found.   That's why I created the ML Community Connector Program and where Community Connectors come in! I wanted to give every Defence Partner the opportunity to CONNECT and BELONG in their community just like I had because I knew in my heart what a huge difference it made having Defence Partner friends in your corner who just got you and defence life.   ML Community Connectors play a vital role for Defence Partners by bringing them together to create meaningful connections with each other, offering peer support and information, empowering Defence Partners with confidence to access local and defence community-related services, and acknowledging the importance of belonging.   Community Connectors are amazing Defence Partners around the country who have stepped forward and put their hand up to volunteer to help connect spouses in their community- the defence community by providing consistent and welcoming spouse-focused events (on weekends and child-free) that ALL Defence Partners can attend.   We currently have ML Community Connectors in Amberley and Enoggera QLD, HMAS Cerberus VIC, Sutherland and Williamtown NSW, Rockingham WA, Adelaide SA, and Canberra ACT. Community Connection events take place regularly (every 6 weeks or so). If you would like to become a Community Connector in your location, get in touch via hello@militarylife.com.au!   Have a listen to Episode 168 (PART 1) and 169 (PART 2) to find out more. If you would like to learn more about a Community Connection Event happening in your area, click through to your ML Closed State/Territory Facebook group for details (links below).   ACT- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongact/   QLD- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongqld/   TAS- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongtas/   VIC- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongvic/   NT- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongnt/   SA- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongsa/   NSW- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongnsw/   WA- https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongwa/      

This week on the Military Life Podcast, I speak with spouses Emma and Elise about their participation in Cowork Coplay, an amazing program that aims to give Defence Partners the time and space to focus on their career goals and projects, be they related to study, business, or job-hunting. Emma and Elise went into the Cowork Coplay program, which ran in Adelaide in early 2023, with different expectations, and both walked out of the program with positive outcomes.   Emma and I spoke about; -Why taking part in the Cowork Coplay program gave her the permission and courage to show up for herself and her goals -The supportive and understanding environment the Cowork Coplay program creates for participants -How the Cowork Coplay program helped her feel energised and realise she had so much to offer an employer  -Understanding the value of her skills and deciding to take her career in a new direction -The confidence fellow participants gave her to be open to new opportunities, apply for jobs, and secure employment by the end of the program -Connecting with support, services and the Defence community and the positive impact it had on her wellbeing   Elise and I spoke about; -The impact her remote job was having on her well-being and setting boundaries -How the career development sessions helped her get clarity around whether to stay in her current role or look for new opportunities -The incredible support and understanding that was offered by fellow Cowork Coplay participants -Being seen as more than JUST a Defence partner, setting intentions, goals and figuring out next steps to take action -The importance of having dedicated time to focus on herself and what she needed to get career focus -How the Cowork Coplay program helped her fall in love with her job again and see all of the positives it had to offer   As we heard from Emma and Elise's stories, it is so important Defence Partners are supported with innovative programs like Cowork Coplay to not only support their wellbeing but also provide the time and space for professional development by combining the things that matter: meaningful work, community and family. Cowork Coplay programs are delivered by Human Quotient Group, a veteran- and female-led Australian social enterprise. The program was created by Claire Harris, a Defence spouse, informed by feedback from the Defence community, her lived experience and professional expertise. The good news is that the Cowork Coplay program will once again get underway in Adelaide, South Australia, thanks to the support of Veterans SA and for the first time, the Cowork Coplay program will be available in Perth, Western Australia, with the support of Navy. To find out more information or register your interest in participating, visit the Cowork Coplay website www.coworkcoplay.com.au

This week on the podcast, my Husband Scott and I talk about our current and past experiences with living apart and being MWDU (Member with Dependants Unaccompanied) or URF (Unaccompanied Resident Family) as it is called now. In PART ONE, Scott and I also talk about; •                   How our 5th MWDU experience went and the big decisions we needed to make •                   Why communication and checking in with each other is so important •                   How different life stages impact how you experience MWDU & living apart •                   Finding out our next posting location and the big changes that are ahead •                   Navigating a defence move after being in one location for 13 years •                   Supporting our children through their first defence move •                   Leaving our dream home so that we can finally all be together again •                   Balancing the many emotions of leaving one location and starting fresh in the next   Click through to Episode 166 of the podcast to listen to PART TWO. Ready to join the ML community? Click through the link to get connected xx     www.militarylife.com.au

This week on the podcast, my Husband Scott and I talk about our current and past experiences with living apart and being MWDU (Member with Dependants Unaccompanied) or URF (Unaccompanied Resident Family) as it is called now. In PART TWO (click through and listen to PART ONE Ep165 first), Scott and I also talk about; •                     Why we decided to wait to tell our children we were moving •                     How we approached such a huge conversation with our children •                     Shifting from owning our own home to living in a DHA property •                     Making space to fully experience our new posting location •                     Focusing on the importance of making a home wherever we all are •                     Figuring out how to live and parent together again •                     The things we are most looking forward to when we are back together •                     The heartbreak that comes with saying goodbye to best friends, our chosen family   Ready to join the ML community? Click through the link to get connected xx     www.militarylife.com.au

On this week's Military Life *Parents Edition* podcast episode, I speak with Spouse and Defence School Mentor Bianca about her new business, ‘Someone I Love is in Defence'. Bianca and I also spoke about; •         Her journey from being an ADF member herself, transitioning out & finding her feet as a Defence Partner •         Navigating Defence life, starting a family and deciding to take up a role as a Defence School Mentor •         How being a DSM opened her eyes to the need for more and  varied resources for Defence Kids •         Deciding to turn her ideas into activity sheets, colouring, activity and storybooks with specific themes for Australian Defence Kids •         Why the support of her Navy husband and FREE entrepreneur courses through the Prince's Trust and Frontline Labs were key to establishing and launching her business •         The importance of the resources serving a dual purpose- to be entertaining and also facilitate meaningful interactions •         How her activity sheets and books encourage conversations and Defence Kids to ask questions, express emotions, and strengthen their bond with their ADF member •         Focusing on a variety of Defence Life topics like moving, deployment, living apart from your ADF member (URF) and the transition out of Defence •         The importance of co-designing her resources and books with Defence Kids and parents •         How to access free resources via her website and when the activity books and Army, Navy, RAAF books will be available for purchase Follow Bianca on her ‘Someone I Love is in Defence' socials via the below links or sign up for her newsletter on her website https://www.someoneiloveisindefence.com.au/ to be the first to know when her colouring, activity and storybooks will be ready to purchase. Follow along on Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/someoneiloveisindefence Follow along on Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/someoneiloveisindefence

On this week's Military Life Podcast Episode, enjoy listening to some real talk from a handful of Defence Partners who have previously detailed their spouse journey with us on past episodes. Episode 163 is all about accessing Defence-related Support and making Spouse Friends. As you will hear from listening to the stories of Defence Partners Hana, Emma, Jeni, Catherine, Chaia, Cheree, and Chantelle, our journeys are unique yet have many common threads that connect us. So, get comfy and enjoy listening to this compilation episode that sheds light on the question… What was it like accessing Defence Family-related Support and Making Spouse Friends? To listen to the full episode, scroll to Ep121 (24/3/22) for Hana's story, Ep103 (2/9/21) for Emma's story, Ep155 (27/7/23) for Jeni's story, Ep111 (26/11/21) for Catherine's story, Ep136 (15/9/22) for Chaia's story, Ep91 (6/5/21) for Cheree's story or Ep107 (710/21) for Chantelle's story. Did you know that you can access various Defence-related services and support? Check my online Defence Partner INFO Hub for all the contact details Defence Partner INFO Hub - Military Life or download the Defence Member and Family Information Guide (thanks to DMFS) Click HERE to read

On this week's Military Life Podcast Episode, enjoy listening to some real talk from a handful of Defence Partners who have previously detailed their spouse journey with us on past episodes. Episode 162 is all about how Defence Partners support their Mental Health while living Defence Life. As you will hear from listening to the stories of Defence Partners Chaia, Catherine, Rachael, Nicole, Kim, and Amanda, our journeys are unique yet have many common threads that connect us. So, get comfy and enjoy listening to this compilation episode that sheds light on the question… How do Defence Partners Support their Mental Health while living Defence Life? To listen to the full episode, scroll to Ep136 (15/9/22) for Chaia's story, Ep111 (26/11/21) for Catherine's story, Ep131 (11/8/22) for Rachael's story, Ep89 (15/4/21) for Nicole's story, Ep82 (11/2/21) for Kim's story or Ep87 (25/3/21) for Amanda's story.

Defence Partners + Career = Complicated!   On this week's Military Life Podcast Episode, enjoy listening to some real talk from a handful of Defence Partners who have previously detailed their spouse journey with us on past episodes.   Episode 161 is all about how Defence Partners focus on and further their Careers while living Defence Life.   As you will hear from listening to the stories of Defence Partners Amelia, Brooke, Jade, Freya, Elle, and Bec, our Career journeys are unique yet have many common threads that connect us.   So, get comfy and enjoy listening to this compilation episode that sheds light on the question… How do Defence Partners envision their careers actually working alongside Defence Life?   To listen to the full episode's scroll to Ep54 (25/6/20) for Amelia's story, Ep56 (16/7/20) for Brooke's story, Ep63 (3/9/20) for Jade's story, Ep146 (2/3/23) for Freya's story, Ep19 (4/9/19) for Elle's story or Ep41 (27/2/20) for Bec's story.

On this week's Military Life *Parents Edition* podcast episode, enjoy listening to some real talk from a handful of Defence Partners who are already Parents or are planning for a family in the future. Arusha, Bianca, Ashley, Anika and Bec have all previously detailed their spouse journey on past episodes, and as you will hear from listening to their stories, our experiences are unique yet have many common threads that connect us. So, get comfy and enjoy listening to this compilation episode that sheds light on the question… How do you even plan for a family while living defence life, let alone support defence kids through the challenges and celebrations that come with it? To listen to the full episode's scroll to Ep23 (2/10/19) for Arusha's story, Ep80 (28/1/21) for Bianca's story, Ep7 (16/5/19) for Ashley's story, Ep18 (28/8/19) for Anika's story or Ep17 (21/8/19) for Bec's story.

This week on the podcast, enjoy listening to some real talk from a handful of Defence Partners who have previously detailed their spouse journey with us on past episodes. Episode 159 of the Military Life Podcast is all about what it's really like to become a Defence Partner and live Defence Life. As you will hear from listening to the stories of Defence Partners Nicole, Rae, Katie, and Amanda, our experiences are unique yet have many common threads that run so deep and connect us. So, get comfy and enjoy listening to this compilation episode that sheds light on the question… What was your introduction to Defence Life really like? To listen to the full episodes, scroll to Ep89 (15/4/21) for Nicole's story, Ep125 (28/4/22) for Rae's story, Ep86 (18/3/21) for Katie's story or Ep87 (25/3/21) for Amanda's story.

On this week's Military Life Podcast episode and as the Defence Community start to receive news of postings and possible moves, I re-release PART TWO of my chat with Defence Partner and Declutter Expert Tara Tuttle. Tara knows the challenges of Defence Life and moving and packing and unpacking and all the things! Tara also knows the challenges Defence Families can face when it comes to organisation, clutter, holding onto things, feeling overwhelmed and how physical and mental clutter are often connected. In PART TWO, Tara and I talk about; -Just in case items and how they hold us down -When excess and clutter prevent us from living the way we want to live -Setting aside time to declutter and organise and starting small in order to avoid overwhelm -Taking time to find or create homes for our belongings when we post into a new location -How that can allow us, mentally, to feel more settled -How deciding to let go of stuff is just the first step in the process and how having a plan and committing to the whole process is key.   PLEASE NOTE: This podcast episode was recorded a couple of years ago, and while the content is still so relevant, it should be noted that Tara does not currently operate the Life Coach/Decluttering business she mentions in this podcast episode and is no longer recording new episodes of her BeUncluttered Podcast. To listen to past episodes, check it out here  

On this week's Military Life Podcast episode and as the Defence Community start to receive news of postings and possible moves, I re-release PART ONE of my chat with Defence Partner and Declutter Expert Tara Tuttle. Tara knows the challenges of Defence Life and moving and packing and unpacking and all the things! Tara also knows the challenges Defence Families can face when it comes to organisation, clutter, holding onto things, feeling overwhelmed and how physical and mental clutter are often connected. Tara and I talk about; -The two types of people when it comes to decluttering -How Defence Life can lead us to be less critical about our belongings -How saying yes to having LESS physical possessions or mental clutter allows us to make space for what is really important -All things decluttering and letting go In PART TWO of this podcast episode, Tara and I talk about just-in-case items and how they hold us down, when excess and clutter prevent us from living the way we want, setting aside time to declutter and organise, and so much more. PLEASE NOTE: This podcast episode was recorded a couple of years ago, and while the content is still so relevant, it should be noted that Tara does not currently operate the Life Coach/Decluttering business she mentions in this podcast episode and is no longer recording new episodes of her BeUncluttered Podcast. To listen to past episodes, check it out here  

On this week's Military Life *Parents Edition* podcast episode, I speak with Defence Partner Chrissy who went on a blind date with an ADF member 13 years ago and never looked back.   Chrissy and I also talk about; -Why, after backpacking solo for five years, the Defence lifestyle really suited her -How her attitude to the unknown of defence life changed once children came into the picture -Balancing Defence life with career & the needs of her son, who is autistic with a mild intellectual disability -Why their family is now living apart after her RAAF husband received a posting to Richmond -The reasons that forced her hand when it came time to decide whether to post with her husband -The lack of support and services available for Defence families with a child with additional needs -How living apart has been going and being faced with living apart for another 7+ years -Questioning whether choosing stability and support for their kids over living together was the right decision -Stepping back into the workforce after an eight-year gap and balancing all the things -Staying connected thanks to Facetime and spending quality time together on weekends   Did you know that Defence Partners, defence children and those considered to be a recognised other person, who have additional needs, can apply to get those additional needs recognised? Defence may provide special needs benefits for resident family members with physical disabilities, intellectual disabilities, sensory impairments, learning or behavioural difficulties, speech disorders and other medical illnesses or impairments. To apply, your ADF member will need to download a copy of the Application for Recognition of member with dependant with special needs (AC832) form from the Web Forms portal on the Defence Protected Network (DPN). To find out more info visit the Defence Member and Family Support (DMFS) website here https://pay-conditions.defence.gov.au/register-resident-family-members-special-needs You can also access support online or in your area via the Defence Special Needs Support Group (DSNSG) here http://dsnsg.org.au/

On this week's Military Life podcast episode, I caught up with Defence Partner Jeni, who was a guest on the podcast on ep98. Back in 2021, Jeni and I spoke about her upcoming move across the country for her husband's first posting, the transition from civilian to defence family life after being together for 13 years, leaving friends and family and helping their kids start fresh in WA. We also spoke about acknowledging your capacity when taking on the mental and physical load of the household while also figuring out Defence Life. In this episode, Jeni updates us on how the move went and what the first few years of Defence Life have been like for their family.  We cover it all. Settling kids, experiencing their first deployment, finding employment, living in DHA housing for the first time, being on the other side of the country from friends and family and everything familiar. Scroll back to ep98 if you would like to refresh your memory by listening to Jeni's original episode, but be sure to come back and listen to this ep (155) because it has such great insight regarding the first few years of Defence Life!   Ready to join the ML community? Click through the link to get connected xx www.militarylife.com.au

On this week's Military Life *Parents Edition* podcast episode, I speak with spouse Simone about the first 5 years of Defence Life and supporting her two kids through huge changes.   Simone and I also talk about; -Her husband's connection to Defence & how that played into his decision to join -Why Defence Force Recruiting told her Husband to come back in a year or two -The importance of making the decision to become a Defence Family together -Why no amount of research or advice could prepare them for living Defence life -The true toll separation takes on the spouse, the kids and the ADF member -Expectation of what Defence life would be like vs the reality -First Posting, First Deployment and Everything in between -Supporting kids who had to get used to Dad not being home every night -The balance of looking after her needs, the kids needs & the ADF members -The pros and cons of posting to the same location they lived in before joining Defence -The first deployment and why it helped connect Simone to the bigger Defence picture -Possible future postings and why Defence might not be a ‘for life' option   NEW to Defence Life? Pop over to the Defence Partner Info Hub. I've translated all that ‘defence speak', untangled information and laid it all out in one easy-to-navigate space in easy-to-understand language https://militarylife.com.au/defence-partner-info-hub/   Ready to join the ML community? Click through the link to get connected xx     www.militarylife.com.au

In this week's podcast episode and as part of Pride month, I re-release my chat with Racheal Cosgrove, President of DEFGLIS, the Defence LGBTI Information Service.   Racheal and I spoke about; How and why DEFGLIS started Who DEFGLIS support and represent How DEFGLIS has changed and evolved over the years The impact DEFGLIS has had on the lives of LGBTI Defence members and their families Why it is important to have a group like DEFGLIS The safe and secure space DEFGLIS offers for LGBTI members and their families Why DEFGLIS are working to stamp out discrimination in the workplace Some of the ways DEFGLIS have helped change Defence policy & practices Why it is so important DEFGLIS continue to advocate for policy change How DEFGLIS help connect the LGBTI defence community The impact of not feeling as though you can come to work as your whole self creates Why feeling misunderstood or unsupported at work leads to a reduction in output and how that impacts capability How to be an ally for fellow defence families who are part of the LGBTI community How those who are part of the LGBTI Defence community can reach out for help and support   If you would like to find out more information about DEFGLIS or pass on the links to someone who might be interested, there are a few ways to do so; Website- https://www.defglis.com.au/ Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/DEFGLIS Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/defglis/ Ready to join the Military Life community? Click through the link to get connected xx     www.militarylife.com.au

On this week's Military Life *PARENTS EDITION* podcast episode, I check in with the University of New England's Dr Marg Rogers to find out how the Children's Family Resilience Programs have been going. The programs and related resources were developed following Dr Rogers' PhD studies and research that found there was a huge gap in the understanding and support of 2- 8-year-old defence kids. Marg and I also talk about;   -Why giving 2- 8-year-old defence kids a voice was important. -The lack of age and culturally-appropriate resources for defence kids. -Figuring out why support and resources were only available for school-age defence kids. -The importance of supporting defence kids to build a sense of belonging in their formative years. -Focusing on deployment, separation, the impact and how to best support 2-8-year-olds. -Launching the pilot program and developing co-designed research-backed resources. -Listening to feedback from defence parents and kids so the programs & resources were on point. -Why it was important defence parents, and kids helped shape the final products. -The 12 downloadable research-based story books (8 interactive) and related resources. -Staying focused on the overall goal, which is for defence kids to be well. -Being recognised and named the 2022 joint award winner for the Council of Humanities Arts and Social Sciences ‘Distinctive Work'. -Acknowledging the team effort with specialist consultants, a web team, Steering Committee, program authors, contributors and those with lived experience involved. -Why military support organisations in Canada are now looking to adapt the programs & resources for Canadian military educators, parents and kids. -What next and the need for more resources around the topics of relocation, moral injury and for veteran families who have transitioned out of the ADF.   To listen to the previous episode with Dr Roger's where we discuss her research in-depth, search for ep68 of the Military Life Podcast. Please note that since recording this episode, the EC Defence Programs has changed its name to the Children's Family Resilience Programs. To access the research findings, FREE books, resources, and programs, visit https://ecdefenceprograms.com/ Ready to join the Military Life and the Military Parents community? Click through the links to get connected xx     www.militarylife.com.au www.militaryparents.com.au

On this week's podcast episode, I speak with new spouse Emily about deciding to move with her ADF member after dating for just ONE month and how they are ensuring Defence life works for both of them.   Emily and I also talk about; Meeting on a dating app and finding out about his ADF career Having open and honest conversations one month into dating Deciding to move from Newcastle to South Australia Telling family and friends and the varied reactions   What happens when you post, and you are not in a recognised relationship Finding a private rental property and living together for the first time The benefit of studying an Online University Degree Moving to a new location, starting fresh and feeling alone Open communication and staying connected even while separated The process of becoming a recognised couple in the eyes of Defence The decision to move from a private rental to a DHA property Figuring out how to make Defence Life work for both of them Finding out together about the Defence entitlements they can access Helping other Defence Partners to connect and build a support network Future postings, career goals and plans to start a family   Ready to join the ML community? Click through the link to get connected xx     www.militarylife.com.au

Welcome to the 150th episode of the podcast! What a huge milestone for ALL of us to celebrate.   4 years of the podcast, 150 episodes and 80,000 downloads!!!   I want to say thank you to all of you for sharing your stories, listening, supporting, for getting it! YOU. JUST. GET. IT.   Thank you for this community we have all built and for this amazing space of connection and belonging we have all created.   It has been 4 years, 150 episodes and 80,000 downloads of Defence Partners and Families being seen and heard, allowing us to share in the ups and downs of military life, to share experiences, advice, information and insight. SO MUCH VALUABLE INSIGHT!   It has been 4 years, 150 episodes and 80,000 downloads of Defence Partners and Families feeling acknowledged for all that we do and sacrifice and juggle and most importantly- for 4 years, 150 episodes and 80,000 downloads the Military Life Community has been a place where all Defence Partners and Families, Navy, Army and Air Force, can connect and belong.   So get comfy and enjoy listening to some of the best advice, words of wisdom, tips and tricks, insider info… real talk from Defence Partners who have previously shared their spouse journey with us on episode 150 of the Military Life Podcast.   If you would like further information about any of the topics touched on in this episode like defence housing, Open Arms and connecting with other Defence Partners and Families check out the Defence Partner INFO Hub over on the Military Life Website. The INFO Hub has all the essential need-to-know-basics about Defence Life. https://militarylife.com.au/defence-partner-info-hub/

On this week's podcast episode, I caught up with Defence Partner Leah who was a guest on the Military Life podcast a few years ago on episode 29. Back in 2019 Leah and I spoke about her quest to find meaningful employment, a long IVF journey and what happened to their remaining and only frozen embryo when they posted out of their location. On this episode, Leah updates us on the last few years, where have they posted to, what was the result of their final round of IVF with that one last frozen embryo, returning to work and pursuing her passion and a surprise decision. Scroll back to ep29 if you would like to refresh your memory by having a listen to Leah's original episode but be sure to come back and listen to ep149 because it truly is such an amazing update.   Ready to join the ML community? Click through the link to get connected xx     www.militarylife.com.au

On this week's podcast episode, I speak with spouse Chantel about how COVID lockdowns gave her and her ADF partner the time and space to establish their relationship and start a family. Chantel and I also speak about; How they met and why after only knowing each other for three weeks, Chantel kinda moved in Her ADF partners fears starting a relationship, and the toll deployments take on a couple Why Chantel used time apart as a chance to focus on herself and her own busy life The pressure of being separated while trying to get to know each other Seeing the positives when it came to COVID lockdowns and cancelled away time Moving in together and starting a family early on in their relationship When reality hit and Chantel's partner went away for an extended time post lockdowns Learning to put her hand up for help and accessing the support that is out there News of her defence members first posting away from the location they met Why Chantel made the decision to move to their posting location ahead of her partner The challenge of finding a DHA property, childcare and employment in Canberra Looking after her own well-being and deciding to start a business   Ready to join the ML community? Click through the link to get connected xx     www.militarylife.com.au

TRIGGER WARNING- There is some discussion of suicide in these episodes. If these episodes bring anything up for you, please get in touch with FREE ADF mental health service Open Arms on 1800 011 046 or, in case of emergency, call 000.   This week on the Military Life Podcast, in celebration of the launch of my collaborative ‘YOUR VOICE' campaign with Julia from The Home Post, a re-released episode, WHY YOUR VOICE MATTERS! Find out more here about how you can get involved with our ‘YOUR VOICE' campaign- resources to make it easier *SO. MUCH. EASIER* for you to add your support to current, ongoing, and future Defence Partner and Family advocacy efforts. Not Sure why ‘YOUR VOICE' is so important? Have a listen to PART ONE of this two-part discussion between myself, Defence Partners Marcelle and Julia, Veteran Partner Jo-anna, Veteran Widow and also the parent of a past serving member Madonna and Defence Partner and Psychologist Brooke. We discuss why YOUR VOICE MATTERS and NEEDS TO BE HEARD and also;   -Where we, as Defence and Veteran Partners and Families, fit when it comes to being included in conversations and decisions related to and that impact us   -How our voices are currently heard and considered via which avenues and opportunities   -The comparison between how American Military and Veteran Partners and Families are included and considered vs Defence and Veteran Partners in Australia   -The freedom and clarity that comes with being able to have more of a voice once your ADF member has transitioned out of Defence and the reflection that comes with transition   -How to work through feeling disconnected from the “cause” (the ADF) and living defence life   -Why Defence and Veteran Partners need to be given the tools and confidence to self-advocate more frequently and via various avenues   -We discuss how we, as Defence and Veteran Partners and Families, are being properly represented if a broad range of us aren't being engaged and very few of us are being heard   -Dealing with feeling let down and unsupported and how to channel those feelings to impact change   -The disconnect between research and our qualified needs versus the actual available support and services   -Do Defence and Veteran Partners and Families have survey and research fatigue, and why clear, real and swift action needs to come from survey and research findings   -The trauma Defence and Veteran Partners and Families can experience as a consequence of the challenges experienced throughout defence and veteran life and its impact   -Why frequent and inclusive Defence and Veteran Partner and Family engagement needs to start at base level and filter UP   -Will there always be hesitation from Defence and Veteran Partners and Families to have a voice for fear of the repercussions when it comes to the ADF members' careers?   -We discuss whether it is time for a completely independent organisation that is separate from Defence, Government, and Command to be created and also provide a voice   -What is the Defence and Veteran Partner and Family identity, and what are our needs?   -How can there be a true and complete understanding of that identity when there is a lack of meaningful engagement?   -Dealing with feeling unheard and as if we are being “swept along” by Defence and what that does to our core sense of safety   -We discuss the wide-ranging positive impact an engaged community can experience when they feel seen and heard and part of the conversation   -Why the existing avenues of support and services all need to have feedback avenues that are connected to positive improvement teams to ensure necessary changes are made   Be sure to listen to PART 1 and PART 2 and to find out more about the 'YOUR VOICE' Campaign, check out this page https://militarylife.com.au/yourvoice/   Ready to join the ML community? Click through the link to get connected xx     www.militarylife.com.au

TRIGGER WARNING- There is some discussion of suicide in these episodes. If these episodes bring anything up for you, please get in touch with FREE ADF mental health service Open Arms on 1800 011 046 or, in case of emergency, call 000.   This week on the Military Life Podcast, in celebration of the launch of my collaborative ‘YOUR VOICE' campaign with Julia from The Home Post, a re-released episode, WHY YOUR VOICE MATTERS!   Find out more here about how you can get involved with our ‘YOUR VOICE' campaign- resources to make it easier *SO. MUCH. EASIER* for you to add your support to current, ongoing, and future Defence Partner and Family advocacy efforts.   Not Sure why ‘YOUR VOICE' is so important? Have a listen to PART 2 of the discussion between myself, Defence Partners Marcelle and Julia, Veteran Partner Jo-anna, Veteran Widow and also the parent of a past serving member Madonna and Defence Partner and Psychologist Brooke.   We discuss why YOUR VOICE MATTERS and NEEDS TO BE HEARD and also;   -Where we, as Defence and Veteran Partners and Families, fit when it comes to being included in conversations and decisions related to and that impact us   -How our voices are currently heard and considered via which avenues and opportunities   -The comparison between how American Military and Veteran Partners and Families are included and considered vs Defence and Veteran Partners in Australia   -The freedom and clarity that comes with being able to have more of a voice once your ADF member has transitioned out of Defence and the reflection that comes with transition   -How to work through feeling disconnected from the “cause” (the ADF) and living defence life   -Why Defence and Veteran Partners need to be given the tools and confidence to self-advocate more frequently and via various avenues   -We discuss how we, as Defence and Veteran Partners and Families, are being properly represented if a broad range of us aren't being engaged and very few of us are being heard   -Dealing with feeling let down and unsupported and how to channel those feelings to impact change   -The disconnect between research and our qualified needs versus the actual available support and services   -Do Defence and Veteran Partners and Families have survey and research fatigue, and why clear, real and swift action needs to come from survey and research findings   -The trauma Defence and Veteran Partners and Families can experience as a consequence of the challenges experienced throughout defence and veteran life and its impact   -Why frequent and inclusive Defence and Veteran Partner and Family engagement needs to start at base level and filter UP   -Will there always be hesitation from Defence and Veteran Partners and Families to have a voice for fear of the repercussions when it comes to the ADF members' careers?   -We discuss whether it is time for a completely independent organisation that is separate from Defence, Government, and Command to be created and also provide a voice   -What is the Defence and Veteran Partner and Family identity, and what are our needs?   -How can there be a true and complete understanding of that identity when there is a lack of meaningful engagement?   -Dealing with feeling unheard and as if we are being “swept along” by Defence and what that does to our core sense of safety   -We discuss the wide-ranging positive impact an engaged community can experience when they feel seen and heard and part of the conversation   -Why the existing avenues of support and services all need to have feedback avenues that are connected to positive improvement teams to ensure necessary changes are made   Be sure to continue listen to PART 1 and PART 2 and to find out more about the 'YOUR VOICE' Campaign, check out this page https://militarylife.com.au/yourvoice/     Ready to join the ML community? Click through the link to get connected xx     www.militarylife.com.au

On this week's podcast episode, I speak with spouse Freya about her quick introduction to defence life after meeting her RAAF guy through Tinder and three months later posting across the country with him. Freya and I also talk about; ·                     Why she decided to follow her heart and jump in feet first ·                     Making the hard decision to leave her cats behind in WA ·                     Why they could not move into a DHA property and finding a rental ·                     Going into defence life with no expectations or information ·                     The first year together and huge milestones- a new relationship, a new location ·                     The realisation that her defence member was going to be away a lot ·                     Her decision to get out into the community and connect ·                     Why it took Freya around 12 months to start finding friends & supports ·                     Freya's nursing career and why nursing is and isn't a great fit for defence life ·                     The decision to start her own photography business and the reality of that ·                     Posting back to Perth WA, and what that means for her business ·                     The comfort she feels after learning defence friends are also posting to WA ·                     Future plans, a possible transition out and where Freya would like to end up   To check out Freya's Photography business, Freya Elise Photography, follow the below links. www.freyaelisephotography.com.au or www.instagram.com/freya_elise_photography Ready to join the ML community? Click through the link to get connected xx     www.militarylife.com.au

So you've decided that now is the right time to look at buying a house....yay, go you! If you're like me, you have so many questions (so many) and need answers STAT about the potential home buyer grants and ADF schemes and entitlements you and your military member may be able to apply for. But…. those answers need to be explained in plain old non-military speak, which is why Defence Bank's Kym Bowles and I talk you through ALL.THE.THINGS when it comes to buying a house.   In this episode, Kym and I talk about; -First steps once you decide to save for a house -Personal debts and how they can impact your borrowing power -Which Home Buyer Grants and ADF schemes and entitlements you may be able to apply for - The First Home Owner Grant scheme explained -The First Home Loan Deposit scheme (now called the Guarantee scheme) explained -The First Home Super Saver scheme explained -What is stamp duty and the available duty concessions -The Defence Home Ownership Assistance Scheme (aka DHOAS) explained -Recent changes to the DHOAS eligibility criteria -When to apply and how the DHOAS payments actually work -The Home Purchase Assistance Scheme (aka HPAS) explained -When an ADF member can apply for HPAS and some things to be aware of -Home Purchase or Sale Expenses Allowance (aka HPSEA) explained -How to factor in Interest rates and understand what you can borrow -Do you need to get preapproval before searching for a potential property   For links to even more information and to check your eligibility for any of the grants, schemes and entitlements discussed in this podcast episode, click through to this BLOG article. Buying a House-ADF Schemes & Home Buyer Grants Explained - Military Life The BLOG article also details any available exemptions for each grant and scheme, for ADF members, by state and territory.   To get in contact with Defence Bank to talk about all of the above in more detail, call 1800 033 139 or visit the website for more information or to make use of the Defence Bank Home Loan Borrowing Power Calculator, Stamp Duty Calculator, Home Loan Repayments Calculator and so much more. https://www.defencebank.com.au/calculators *Any advice contained in this podcast is general advice only and doesn't take into account your personal circumstances. All applications for credit at Defence Bank are subject to approval under credit criteria.

This week on the Military Life Podcast, I speak with Veteran Partner and Founder of Cowork Coplay Claire Harris about the importance of supporting the career goals of Defence Partners through innovative programs. Claire and I also talk about; -The concept behind Cowork Coplay and how lived experience guided how Claire created the initiative and built the social enterprise -Why Cowork Coplay was developed for defence partners with young children -The many (and complex) career and well-being challenges defence partners are navigating -How Cowork Coplay connects defence partners to career, community and childcare -The importance of collaboration; how  existing support organisations and groups can benefit from partnering with others in the wider defence/veteran community -The evolution of Cowork Coplay (from before COVID hit) to now and why being able to offer the  program around the country via a done-with-you service model was the next step -Why Claire has teamed up with Veterans SA to offer Cowork Coplay in South Australia in 2023 -The benefits of working with heart-centred organisations, like Veterans SA, who understand the needs of the defence community -Potential benefits for defence partners, for example, to have focused, self-directed time and space to pursue goals, build confidence and build connections with others  -Claire's big vision: all Defence families can pursue the kind of work they want (contributing their talents to local communities) and build the connections they need to live a fulfilled life.  -Future plans to run the Cowork Coplay program in more locations as one small piece of the puzzle of modern, meaningful programs and initiatives for defence partners.      In the second part of episode 144 of the Podcast, Chantelle Bohan, Director of Veterans SA, speaks about why supporting Defence Partners with innovative solutions like Cowork Coplay is a WIN WIN.   Chantelle and I also talk about; -Who Veterans SA is, why their focus has shifted to include defence spouses and families more, and the steps they are taking to support defence partners and families -The importance of listening to, engaging and consulting with people in both the defence and veteran community and drawing from their lived experience -How recent community forums, surveys and an increased effort to hear community feedback lead to Veterans SA collaborating with Cowork Coplay -Why understanding defence spouses and the challenges they face when it comes to career, community and childcare is important -The decision to pilot the Cowork Coplay program in Adelaide in 2023 and why the program is a great fit for Veterans SA -Why Veterans SA is committed to undertaking community consultation to find out how they can help and support the community -The key themes that emerged from the recent Veteran and Defence Families Forum hosted by Veterans SA  -How those key themes and feedback will help determine the strategic aims and outcomes for Veterans SA in the coming years -The importance of defence partners and families having opportunities to have input and give feedback on the available supports and programs on offer -Why the individual goals of the people participating in the Cowork Coplay program are more important to Veterans SA than traditional KPIs -Why Veterans SA hope to advocate for other states and territories to also consider supporting innovative programs like Cowork Coplay   You can find out more information about the Cowork Coplay pilot program that is set to get underway in February 2023 in South Australia via www.coworkcoplay.com.au/program To find out more information about Veterans SA check out their website via www.veteranssa.sa.gov.au

TRIGGER WARNING- There is some discussion of suicide in this episode. If this episode brings anything up for you, please contact FREE ADF mental health service Open Arms on 1800 011 046 or, in case of emergency, call 000. Have a listen to Ep142 and PART 1 of this Military Life Podcast episode before listening to this ep. This week on the Military Life Podcast- Let's Discuss WHY YOUR VOICE MATTERS!   In Episode 143 (PART 2) Myself, Defence Partners Marcelle and Julia, Veteran Partner Jo-anna, Veteran Widow and also the parent of a past serving member Madonna and Defence Partner and Psychologist Brooke, discuss why YOUR VOICE MATTERS and NEEDS TO BE HEARD.   We also discuss; -Where, we as Defence and Veteran Partners and Families, fit when it comes to being included in conversations and decisions related to, and that impact us -How our voices are currently heard and considered via which avenues and opportunities -The comparison between how American Military and Veteran Partners and Families are included and considered vs Defence and Veteran Partners in Australia -The freedom and clarity that comes with being able to have more of a voice once your ADF member has transitioned out of Defence and the reflection that comes with transition -How to work through feeling disconnected from the “cause” (the ADF) and living defence life -Why Defence and Veteran Partners need to be given the tools and confidence to self-advocate more frequently and via various avenues -We discuss how we, as Defence and Veteran Partners and Families, are being properly represented if a broad range of us aren't being engaged and very few of us are being heard -Dealing with feeling let down and unsupported and how to channel those feelings to impact change -The disconnect between research and our qualified needs versus the actual available support and services -Do Defence and Veteran Partners and Families have survey and research fatigue and why clear, real and swift action needs to come from survey and research findings -The trauma Defence and Veteran Partners and Families can experience as a consequence of the challenges experienced throughout defence and veteran life and its impact -Why frequent and inclusive Defence and Veteran Partner and Family engagement needs to start at base level and filter UP -Will there always be hesitation from Defence and Veteran Partners and Families to have a voice for fear of the repercussions when it comes to the ADF members career? -We discuss whether it is time for a completely independent organisation that is separate from Defence, Government and Command to be created and also provide a voice -What is the Defence and Veteran Partner and Family identity, and what are our needs? -How can there be a true and complete understanding of that identity when there is a lack of meaningful engagement? -Dealing with feeling unheard and as if we are being “swept along” by Defence and what that does to our core sense of safety -We discuss the wide-ranging positive impact an engaged community can experience when they feel seen and heard and part of the conversation -Why the existing avenues of support and services all need to have feedback avenues that are connected to positive improvement teams to ensure necessary changes are made   Ready to join the ML community? Click through the link to get connected xx     www.militarylife.com.au      

TRIGGER WARNING- There is some discussion of suicide in this episode. If this episode brings anything up for you, please contact FREE ADF mental health service Open Arms on 1800 011 046 or, in case of emergency, call 000.   This week on the Military Life Podcast- Let's Discuss WHY YOUR VOICE MATTERS!   In Episode 142 (PART 1) Myself, Defence Partners Marcelle and Julia, Veteran Partner Jo-anna, Veteran Widow and also the parent of a past serving member Madonna and Defence Partner and Psychologist Brooke, discuss why YOUR VOICE MATTERS and NEEDS TO BE HEARD.   We also discuss; -Where, we as Defence and Veteran Partners and Families, fit when it comes to being included in conversations and decisions related to, and that impact us -How our voices are currently heard and considered via which avenues and opportunities -The comparison between how American Military and Veteran Partners and Families are included and considered vs Defence and Veteran Partners in Australia -The freedom and clarity that comes with being able to have more of a voice once your ADF member has transitioned out of Defence and the reflection that comes with transition -How to work through feeling disconnected from the “cause” (the ADF) and living defence life -Why Defence and Veteran Partners need to be given the tools and confidence to self-advocate more frequently and via various avenues -We discuss how we, as Defence and Veteran Partners and Families, are being properly represented if a broad range of us aren't being engaged and very few of us are being heard -Dealing with feeling let down and unsupported and how to channel those feelings to impact change -The disconnect between research and our qualified needs versus the actual available support and services -Do Defence and Veteran Partners and Families have survey and research fatigue and why clear, real and swift action needs to come from survey and research findings -The trauma Defence and Veteran Partners and Families can experience as a consequence of the challenges experienced throughout defence and veteran life and its impact -Why frequent and inclusive Defence and Veteran Partner and Family engagement needs to start at base level and filter UP -Will there always be hesitation from Defence and Veteran Partners and Families to have a voice for fear of the repercussions when it comes to the ADF members career? -We discuss whether it is time for a completely independent organisation that is separate from Defence, Government and Command to be created and also provide a voice -What is the Defence and Veteran Partner and Family identity, and what are our needs? -How can there be a true and complete understanding of that identity when there is a lack of meaningful engagement? -Dealing with feeling unheard and as if we are being “swept along” by Defence and what that does to our core sense of safety -We discuss the wide-ranging positive impact an engaged community can experience when they feel seen and heard and part of the conversation -Why the existing avenues of support and services all need to have feedback avenues that are connected to positive improvement teams to ensure necessary changes are made Be sure to continue listening to this discussion via Ep143 PART 2.   Ready to join the ML community? Click through the link to get connected xx     www.militarylife.com.au      

Trigger Warning: The topic of Gaslighting is discussed in this episode. Gaslighting is a very sensitive topic to discuss for many and for some it can trigger intense emotions and thoughts. If you or anyone you know need mental health support, call FREE Veterans and Families counselling service Open Arms on 1800 011 046, Lifeline on 13 11 14 or text 0477 131 114, Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or in an emergency 000. *What is Gaslighting? Behaviours that can be used to undermine someone's sense of self, sense of reality, and sense of confidence in their own perceptions of a situation and of a relationship, can cause a person to question their judgment, memory, self-worth, and overall mental health.   I've been trying to record this episode for a while now but to be honest, I've just felt so let down for myself and this community that I just couldn't find the right words, which, for me, isn't usual.⁠ ⁠ So here goes….⁠ ⁠ Six months ago, I asked questions following an announcement of the “Enhancement and Expansion” of the Defence School Mentor Program and this is what happened.⁠ ⁠ I was told I was focusing too much on the details.⁠ ⁠ I was told there were bigger issues.⁠ ⁠ I was told that maybe I should seek mental health support if I had been triggered.⁠ ⁠ I was GASLIT.⁠ ⁠ On this episode of the Military Life Podcast; The story of what happened when I asked questions.   The deeper problems that, I feel, exist within the defence and veteran community when it comes to accessing information, openly voicing concerns or giving feedback.⁠   What I learnt. ⁠ For all the details about the DSM program or to read the full blog pop over to the ML website here https://militarylife.com.au/blog/

Protecting our Data & Identity- What we can all do TODAY!   By now, most of us would have heard about the Optus data breach, which compromised the sensitive information of up to 10 million customers. The Optus data breach highlights and reminds us that we live in a world where scammers exist and where there is a real need for all of us to increase our vigilance. On this week's Military Life Podcast Episode, Head of Fraud at Defence Bank Mike Smith and Michael O'Reilly, Chief Marketing & Product Officer talk us through;   -What happens when there is a data breach, who notifies us and which information to trust? -Why we should all be monitoring our credit history and scores and how it can provide an early warning sign of identity theft. You can also check out Defence Banks Intel Blog ‘How to use your credit score to uncover identity theft' -How to check our credit history and scores via platforms like Equifax, RateCity, Credit Savvy or Finder and how regularly we should be doing it. You can also check out Defence Bank's Intel Blog article ‘How often should I be checking my credit score?' -Why someone would want to steal our identity and what our identity can be used for. -Phishing scams- What are they and the popular ones circulating at the moment like the Netflix Scam, the Toll Road Scam and the Hi Mom Scam. You can also check out Defence Banks Intel Blog ‘Five Major Phishing Scams you need to avoid' -Available information and resources to help you stay ahead of scammers and protect your personal information.  -ScamWatch, the Australian Security Centre, MoneySmart and the Office of the Australian Information Commissioner and IDCare, a not-for-profit that provides free support to Australians who have been impacted by fraud or scams. -How we can determine if someone is trying to scam us and the steps we can take if the unfortunate happens and we fall victim to a data breach, scam or identity theft. You can also check out Defence Banks' Intel Blog ‘What can you do if you've been scammed?' -Free and safe Government resources we can access if we have been impacted by fraud or scams and the ways we can prevent further impact through things like requesting a ban on our credit report. -What can be learnt from the OPTUS data breach for consumers, and going forward, what should be front of mind for all of us?   Your best defence is to stay one step ahead of scammers by reading up on the latest information and scams in circulation. Defence Bank has a series of blog articles about scams, fraud and security. Read more by visiting their website here. You can find out more information about Credit History/Score platforms Equifax here, or RateCity here, or Credit Savvy here, or Finder here.

Community Connectors EXPLAINED-PART 2 Maybe you have heard about Military Life Community Connectors or maybe you want to know more about them. This episode is all about who they are and what they do, and why I felt there was a need for the Military Life Community Connector Program.   No one quite gets you like a fellow Defence Partner but finding and connecting with other partners can be both tricky and nerve-wracking!   It took me 10 years to find a Defence Partner friend. Partly because I didn't realise what I was missing out on. Partly because I was downright scared to step forward to connect. Partly because I was reluctant to put my hand up for support. Partly because I wasn't given the opportunity to connect and belong in my community.   So, when I finally found what I didn't even know I was missing, that connection and support only fellow Defence Partners can give, I felt a weight lift off of me. I caught my breath. I felt like I belonged, and I wanted every Defence Partner to have what I had found.   That's why I created the ML Community Connector Program and where Community Connectors come in! I wanted to give every Defence Partner the opportunity to CONNECT and BELONG in their community just like I had because I knew in my heart what a huge difference it made having Defence Partner friends in your corner who just got you and defence life.   ML Community Connectors play a vital role for Defence Partners by bringing them together to create meaningful connections with each other, offering support and information, and by acknowledging the importance of belonging.   Community Connectors are amazing Defence Partners around the country who have stepped forward and put their hand up to volunteer to help connect defence partners in their community- the defence community by providing consistent and welcoming monthly spouse-focused events (on weekends and child-free) that ALL Defence Partners can attend.   We currently have ML Community Connectors in Amberley and Enoggera QLD, HMAS Cerberus VIC and Richmond NSW, with the role expanding to Rockingham WA, Adelaide SA, Canberra ACT, and Sutherland NSW. Community Connection events will take place on October 15th at those locations and every month after that. It will be an amazing night of connection with Defence Partners coming together around the country.   Have a listen to Episode 138 (PART 1) and 139 (PART 2) to find out more, and if you feel like you might like to put your hand up to be a Community Connector in your location, get in contact with Beck via hello@militarylife.com.au   If you would like to find out more about a Community Connection Event happening in your area, click through to your ML Closed State/Territory Facebook group for details.   TAS   https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongtas/   VIC   https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongvic/   NT   https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongnt/   SA   https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongsa/   NSW/ACT   https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongnswact/   WA   https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongwa/   QLD   https://www.facebook.com/groups/mlstrongqld/