NOT YOUR AVERAGE OPERATOR

As for all things that have a beginning, they must also have an end. This week, we are proud to put the “final” stamp on our NYAO podcast journey after 90 straight weeks. 90 straight weeks of our core pillars of humility, honesty, and action. Sharing stories and lessons of failure, victory, and everything in between. Throughout our time, Mike, Melon, and Raf have gone through a substantial amount of growth. Learning to speak to one another and access new levels of emotional intelligence, communication, and significance. You, our listeners, have only added to that vine with your shared stories and experiences. We have been happy and honored to have you along the trail with us. In this episode you will hear the teams final thoughts on the 90 week journey, what it means to them, and what is ahead.    There will also be new details on the future as the trio will evolve and relaunch 01 June 2022 with their new brand and title: “Pushing Back Chaos” W/ Melon, Mike, and Raf Watch out for advertisements on FB, IG, Twitter, Linked In, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Heroes Media Group in the coming weeks! Cheers and thank you from the NYAO Podcast team! We'll see you soon! Very Respectfully, Mike Paul “Melon” McFAdden Raf “Tio” Espinosa

It's always great to take stock of where you have been- this is one of the most important parts of determining where you are now, and helps refocus on the journey ahead. Raf opens this episode revealing where he is now in life. Sharing the house he dreamed of with his extended family, and about to embark on a 10 day trip that will culminate with him completing his type rating and certification in his airline job. These initially only existed in his mind, but over the course of our series, our audience has witnessed his journey, as he went about creating the life of his dreams from possibility to actuality. Your team then take the time to go over some of their standout episodes- a difficult task after nearly 90 episodes over 20 months. We only release conversations that we feel reflect who we are and support our aim of attempting to push back the chaos, along side you, our audience. It can be rare sometimes to find a space or a group where men share honestly and deeply. We opened our podcast series with a conversation right from the heart- about our biggest setbacks. This set the stage for how our subsequent episodes flowed and the show unfolded. Big topics, attempting to remain authentic and to normalize men discussing life while having a few laughs. We have been blessed with amazing guests- too many to mention in this short summary, but together we remember a few that left lasting impressions on us, and about whom we received a lot of feedback. Your team finish with a major reveal about an opportunity they see ahead of them. Let us know about some of your favorite episodes, topics and guests. Maybe a story touched you, or you were motivated by a guest. Maybe there was a favorite story that still makes you laugh. Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

As a follow-up to last week's episode on being authentic, we must acknowledge that while being genuine, it is important to understand what we are attempting to be a part of. Whether it be a relationship, a work environment, a political party, or within a family. In order to conform, one must accept and understand the positives and negatives that may come along with the decision, as all others do. Throughout this process, people in the world have the right to change and evolve. Sometimes for the better, and sometimes for the worst. As Mike says, “Sometimes you just have to call a spade a spade.” Conforming can bring unity, identity, teamwork, power, and friendships. On the flipside, it can also bring blind loyalty, abuse of power, censorship, non-authenticity, and divisiveness. It is important for us to always evaluate our own morals, standards, and character and assess whether or not the groups we are part of stand for and reflect those exact key pillars. Whether you are brand new to the environment, or a veteran of 20 years, we should always strive to be the voice of reason in all aspects and hold the standards for the greater good. Do you have some examples of both good and bad instances in which conforming came into effect? Was it addressed? How was it resolved? We'd love to hear your responses. Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

“This above all: to thine own self be true And it must follow, as the night the day Thou canst not then be false to any man” - William Shakespeare, Hamlet People often speak of being “Authentic”. What does it mean? How does this play out in life? Authenticity, in the context of this episode, is defined as the degree to which our actions are aligned with our values and desires- especially when there is pressure to behave differently. How closely are being true to ourselves? With some people, we know that we can really be our true selves. We can bring everything we have to the table. We know them, and they know us down to the ground. We have true freedom and full self-expression in these relationships. We feel alive. In other situations, we repress our thoughts or feelings under a layer. We are “inauthentic”. We have a loss of full self-expression. There are ways of being or topics we can't touch. We feel fake or repressed. Clearing these relationships up takes honesty and the willingness to take responsibility for letting things slide. As Raf says, sometimes we “need to put the ugly baby on the table”. Which is Melon's new favourite English phrase. In this conversation, you'll hear examples of work and personal relationships where a straight conversation took place, and authenticity was restored. Your hosts distinguish between authenticity and being an ass. You can be straight and kind. You can clear up a past error and end with no negative charge in the space between you and the other person. In all cases, you can at least get any skeletons out of your closet and out of your future. You can remove the mask and know you aren't faking it with that person anymore. Let us know of a time when you have restored a relationship and experienced being authentic. Try having a conversation with this aim this week- let us know how it goes. Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

This week, the boys felt compelled to talk about a somber topic; the invasion of Ukraine. On the eve of the 5th day of the Russian invasion, the guys felt it was important to try and focus on many of the inspiring and positive stories that have been propagating the news from the front lines. Stories of leadership and sacrifice. Strong men and women making difficult decisions to save their country and families, while forging ahead to hold off invading forces. They share their thoughts on the inspiring true tales of the famous Ukrainian boxing champions, the Klitschko Brothers, who have left their life of luxury to defend their native lands. Similarly, President Zelensky is celebrated for his ability to rise to the occasion as a war time leader. They run some parallels from their former experiences while serving in various combat theaters overseas. All three make an effort to funnel their current frustration with anecdotal talking points on how we can all glean fundamental importances that would massively benefit our society here in the Western First World to avoid the destruction of peace as we're witnessing in Ukraine.. Clear cut examples by the individuals in Ukraine fighting for their lives. Fundamental importances such as, making every effort to never dehumanize any opponent. Striving to be an absolute dangerous monster, but controlled and harnessed as a sheepdog, rather than a tyrant. Finally, they want to remind everyone that no one ever wins in a war, not even the victors. Please share your thoughts about this episode and more importantly, we hope this encourages our listeners to spend some time thinking about what you can do to support Ukraine in their fight for survival as a sovereign nation.  We encourage all of our listeners to reach out to us with your own stories. We love reading your insights, feedback, and how we can add more value to your day Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

This week, the boys were inspired to talk about the many layered approaches that have historically proved fruitful for transitioning veterans, as well as themselves in establishing bonds similar to their time in service. More pointedly, they discussed  how to shift your mind and processes to ensure a positively gained experience as you leave your old (military) tribe, and venture out to find your new (civilian) tribe. They had a deep discussion on some of the catastrophic results that can come from dissociating from our evolutionary deep rooted inclination to be an intrinsic member in communal life. Largely, having others depend on you, as much as you depend on them, as is commonly experienced in high stressed, high risk tight knit organizations like the military, law enforcement, and alike. Mike spends some time warning that a significant number of veterans are unfortunately setting themselves up for downfalls by having an expectation of entitlement that more often diminishes the core life skills developed through unique hardships and challenges experienced in a combat environment. Melon highlights that injecting yourself into a sport you love is a great opportunity to cultivate those bonds we're seeking, but also play a massive role in mental health rehabilitation. Raf shares anecdotal stories he heard on a recent podcast and how humanity's mental health,  and its ability to deal with trauma reaches the apex when the individual is surrounded by a close knit tribe, are not just coincidentally related, but necessary and backed by countless studies. Please share your thoughts about this episode and more importantly, we hope this encourages our listeners to spend some time thinking about what works best for them to unindoctrinate from an old organization while successfully cultivating strong ties with a new one whose' contrasts are stark. We encourage all of our listeners to reach out to us with your own stories. We love reading your insights, feedback, and how we can add more value to your day. Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

This week, the NYAO team is proud to welcome our friend and NFL lineman BJ Finney, from the Pittsburgh Steelers. BJ joins us to discuss what he routinely calls his “Unfair Advantage.”- Being handed the worst of circumstances at a young age,only to learn the lessons and prosper from them sooner rather than later in life. His story is one of great loss and then to uncompromising success, beginning with the unexpected passing of his father, followed by many years of struggles to pay for college, medical issues, and taking care of his family and evolving into a successful 7 year tenure in the NFL. As BJ explains, life can be viewed in a few ways. For one, life can be a game of poker in which we are dealt a random hand and we can either focus on the less than desired cards we received, or have positive inputs and build upon that hand to win at life. Another way is to think of life as a road with multiple forks in the road. On a daily basis, we find ourselves coming to that decision point on not just one instance, but multiple. It is up to us to choose not just easiest path, but right path to get us where we want to be. If you can relate to BJ's story and you'd like to reach out, have questions, or comments, reach out to us! We always enjoy to hear from our listeners! Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

Have you ever wondered if you actually were fitting in? Whether it be a professional group, friends, new acquaintances, family, or even an intimate relationship? Sometimes we struggle to “fit in”, but if we are struggling, we must ask ourselves an honest question: Do we even belong in it if we are struggling and it's not who we really are? Listen in as the trio of Raf, Mike, and Melon open up and discuss some of their own experiences on fitting in as children in a gang environment, to going through a culture transition in special operations, and the trials of acceptance in the aviation community while also reflecting on some of the considerations one must make to feel accepted into a community, group, or relationship. Some of the questions we must ask ourselves: -Why do I want to be a part of this? -Why do I want to be accepted? -Do I accept myself for who I am? -If things change, am i comfortable walking away and being ok? Let us hear your stories and share your thoughts on what it means to “fit in.” Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

Young people when asked said the main thing they wanted in life was to make a lot of money. More than 80% listed this first. Is this the best indicator or sign post for a good and fulfilling life? How could we ever know? Harvard University has been tracking a group of students for more than 75 years, and the results of this huge study reveal that the number and strength of social connections throughout our life is the best indicator of our future physical health, mental functioning and sense of happiness. At the same time, suicide rates among men are skyrocketing in synch with rates of loneliness. Men over 45 reporting loneliness increased from 20% to 33% in ten years, while the suicide rate in this group went up 50% in the same period. Male suicide rates are 3.7 times higher than among females. Men struggle with self-expression- of their internal emotional state, and especially with the ability to tell significant people that they love them. And yet boys up to their early teens are just as open and expressive as their sisters. How are these things linked and what can be done about it? How can we help boys and men make progress in these critical areas? Join you hosts as they take on a topic that they feel it is essential to address: the ability to self-express and generate meaningful relationships as life moves forward. There are take away's here for all of us- not just men. But think especially about men in your life you love- from boys to grandfathers- as it applies to them even more. Our challenge to you is to initiate a conversation with someone new for the first time. Let us know how it went for you. References: Harvard Study of Adult Development https://www.adultdevelopmentstudy.org/ TED Talk by Dr Robert Waldinger, 4th Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development https://www.ted.com/talks/robert_waldinger_what_makes_a_good_life_lessons_from_the_longest_study_on_happiness?language=en Mark Green's article “Why do we murder the beautiful friendships of boys?” https://medium.com/remaking-manhood/why-do-we-murder-the-beautiful-friendships-of-boys-3ad722942755 Commuter Study- University of Chicago Booth Prof. Nicholas Epley https://www.chicagobooth.edu/media-relations-and-communications/press-releases/mom-was-wrong-you-should-talk-to-strangers 2019 BBC Article on the same topic: https://www.bbc.com/news/world-48459940 Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

Ever wonder what kind of leader you are? Does it match your personality? Are there instances when you have to shift from one style to the next depending on the environment? Now you can find out! This week, the team tackles the 5 styles of leadership and share some of their own experiences and how they are as leaders. 5 Styles of Leadership: Authoritative: imposes expectations and define outcomes. Participative:  involves team members in the decision making process. Delegative: gives initiative to team members. Transactional: presents rewards, punishments and other exchanges to get the job done. Transformational: inspires his or her followers with a vision and then encourages and empowers them to achieve it. To find out about yourself, we recommend you visit: PERSONALITY ASSESSMENT: https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/IPIP-BFFM/ LEADERSHIP ASSESSMENT: https://www.verywellmind.com/whats-your-leadership-style-3866929 Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

This week, the boys are doing some Q&A for the listeners. What do you want your legacy to be? More pointedly, what impact do you think your existence will have after you've physically passed on. All three responses were unique in their emergence, yet they shared fundamental threads in their finale. Melon gave a philosophical response that centered on the current and future wellbeing of his family. Every day, the actions he takes are to some degree, mirrored off the health of his family, and the current state they're in, both collectively and individually. Mike idiosyncratically focuses his attributes to build a legacy that he has refined down to 4 pillars he wants to be moored to. That is, he wants to be remembered as Authentic, a Warrior, Humble, and a Beacon of Resiliency. Finally, Raf hopes that his legacy will be his ability to validate  that unique drive of the human spirit to achieve what you dream, regardless of where you are in life and its infinite number of obstacles that will stand in your way. He hopes his story will inspire others with similar crossroads to exhaust every effort to reach their dreams, as well as, help those around you reach theirs. Please share your thoughts about this episode and more importantly, we hope this encourages our listeners to spend some time thinking about what works best for them when they have to reignite their passion. We encourage all of our listeners to reach out to us with your own stories. We love reading your insights, feedback, and how we can add more value to your day. Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q

This week, the boys were fortunate enough to sit down with Elliot's wife, April (from Episode 78 - The Legacy of Adam) and talk about the most unspoken tenant in the life cycle of the battle with P.T.S.D.; the sojourn of the spouse in this palpable fight of mental illness. You'll quickly understand the strength and  grace that April brings is forged in the rawness of her experience in standing by Adam through his darkest moments. Many times, having a very direct impact on her own mental health. April does the rest of us a massive favor in being candid about her close proximity with the fallouts of undiagnosed P.T.S.D and exposing the fractures it brought into her home. She navigates this tender topic of the injured spouse with such candor and strength, to hopefully shed light for the rest of us, of what it's like and what to expect when it's our turn. The boys agreed that this  episode will be one of the most popular in our series, because April leaves everyone a roadmap.  A step by step list of faith based  axioms and approaches to push through the chaos into higher ground. For her and Adam both, it started with their faith in God. April's Recommended Resources & Organizations: 1.“Why is Dadso Mad”, book by Seth Kastle. Helps explain PTSD to kids. 2. Giveanhour.org; free counseling/therapy/chiropractic and other care for veterans and their families. 3. Mighty Oaks Warrior Program; Faith based retreat for veterans and spouses in California and Ohio, no residency requirements & travel expenses may be covered. 4. Boulder Crest Retreat; free family/individual retreat opportunities. Warrior PATH program for PTSD. 5. Elizabeth Dole Hidden Heroes; retreats, caregiver resources & support. 6. Reboot Combat Recovery; 12 week faith based course for veterans, first responders, and their families. 7. Operation Homefront; support for military families. 8. Project Sanctuary; free family retreats. 9. Semper Fi Fund; financial assistance if qualified. 10. Wounded Warrior Project; support, activities, individual & family retreats, help with disability claims. 11. Vet Center; counseling, help with claims, other resources. Please share your thoughts about this episode and more importantly, we hope this encourages our listeners to spend some time thinking about what works best for them when they have to reignite their passion. We encourage all of our listeners to reach out to us with your own stories. We love reading your insights, feedback, and how we can add more value to your day. Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

What a way to start off 2022!  In our first episode of the new year, we welcome our special guest, friend and fellow Marine Corp veteran, Adam Elliott to the show. With many people stating that the new year is an opportunity to become a better version of themselves or to reach their goals, we must first acknowledge our past and revisit our journey to extract the required lessons throughout hardships that assist in guiding us to our future self. Adam takes this opportunity alongside the team to share his journey through his military service as a Marine and post military life as a father and husband. His courage and openness to discuss the topics around his experiences with PTSD, alcohol and drug addiction, and relationship issues that are shared in this episode is a master class example on how to navigate through hard times. His acknowledgment of the need to maintain a positive legacy within his family reminds him that everything in life, both good and bad, are all part of of the journey. If you would like to reach out to Adam or share your own similar story, please reach out to us: Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

Happy New Year!!! (Already?! -Or- “About time?!”) In our final show of the year, the team takes the time to discuss, assess, and remember 2021 for what it meant to each of them. From personal triumphs and career changes, to hardship and the effects of what we could not control ultimately brought to who we are as we stand here on the last day of the year. -What were our 2021 goals? -Did we reach them? Why or why not? -What was our significance and who did we affect? -What are we looking forward to most in 2022? -Are we ready for what is ahead? Join us in our final episode of the year as we invite you into the conversation as we share some great stories and some of our favorite memories! Cheers and Happy New Year to all of you around the world! If you would like to share some new Years photos, please send them to our FB or IG page and we will post them on January 1! Thank you to all of our supporters and listeners for a wonderful year! Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

Merry Christmas everyone! We at NYAO wish you all the best for a season filled with love, caring, gratefulness, and memory making with those who we truly care about and the strangers we encounter along the way. This week, the team decided to have some adult Christmas fun with the one and only Irish Jolly man, Mark McCarthy AKA “Slainte' Claus.” Listen in as Slainte' Claus (after a few frothies) reviews his naughty and nice list and reminds us that he knows if we've been bad or good…mostly bad! But hey! We'll see you next tuesday Slainte' Claus! Please feel free to share your holiday messages and thoughts with us as we would like to hear from you all out there! We hope you all made the nice list! Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477 HEREOS MEDIA GROUP https://www.heroesmediagroup.com/

It's daunting. It can be intimidating. It can mean the first step of a dream or the first setback along your journey. Either way, job interviews can be labeled many things, but the primary goal should never be to ignore your preparation for them. Since we like to keep things relevant here at NYAO, Mike, Melon, and Raf decided to breach the topic on how we have prepared for our own job interviews. Recently, Melon was promoted this previous year and shares some of his suggestions and techniques to prepare, including his STAR method. Currently, Raf was hired to a major airline after going through extensive processes and in-depth interviews, sharing the importance of interviewing as yourself and not as a position or title. In the near future, Mike will be interviewing for a coveted childhood dream type position within his community and share some of his own guidance and insights on how to be the right kind of person that leaders with the right characteristics want. Do you have a story about interviews? Any suggestions for our fellow veterans? We'd love to hear from you and share both the challenges and successful stories that have transpired within our circles. Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477 HEROES MEDIA GROUP https://www.heroesmediagroup.com/

This week we are special guests on The Decision Hour Podcast with our friend Mr. Adam Bird to discuss The Importance of Mindset. (TheDecisionHour.com) We are forced to make Decisions in our lives every day.  We are faced with situations that we have no control over, however we can control our reactions to those situations.  Before you can do that, you must be in the right mindset.  Mindset is a conscious decision that requires a choice: positive or negative. In this episode, I was lucky enough to sit down with the guys from Not Your Average Operator, a podcast that dives into some of life's hardest questions, challenges, and situations as they open up their lives and personal experiences and dissect them in a way that can bring out the best version of ourselves, and help leave the negative in the rearview mirror. After some much-needed banter and some really good laughs, we dive into the topic of mindset. We discuss the importance of mindset and provide some examples of our own personal experiences regarding positivity, being grateful, asking for help and how to turn a bad situation around. We had a lot fun recording this episode as you will hear.  That said, this is a topic we don't take lightly, we understand the importance, we have all been there.  We hope that you enjoy this episode.  Should you find yourself letting your mindset wonder into places it doesn't need to be, call on us… We are here to help. Email: Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com

Have you ever considered using a technique or framework to solve a critical task a lot more effectively? The boys discussed a famed technique called the OODA Loop invented by a legendary United States Airforce fighter pilot John Boyd. OODA is an acronym for Observe, Orient, Decide, Act! The boys have a quick discussion on how they've implemented this process throughout their professions as well as in their personal life. They dissect each step and share the varying methods that they commonly implement. More importantly, the biggest gains in using this process is the ability to be comfortable in uncomfortable situations, increasing your rate of execution, and thriving in total unpredictability. Please share your thoughts about this episode and more importantly, we hope this encourages our listeners to spend some time thinking about what works best for them when they have to reignite their passion. We encourage all of our listeners to reach out to us with your own stories. We love reading your insights, feedback, and how we can add more value to your day. Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

Have you ever had an instance where you know you are fundamentally right, but every one around you is trying to convince you otherwise? They make you question everything in that moment, but you still can reference back to some sort of solid pillars, maybe even a feeling, that can give you justification? This week, the team address some of their own struggles when it comes to sports, military objectives, and aviation. They supply the context, identify the friction points, and discuss their approaches that ultimately led to their overall successful end states. Listen in as the team offers up some framework for these situations and also cover the four zones of growth that can assist in the development of a confident person or leader: -Comfort Zone -Fear Zone -Learning Zone -Growth Zone Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

"Thank you for your Service" What do you want it to mean? “I'm appreciative of you being a volunteer and sacrificing yourself for our country”? What does it possibly mean to a veteran that has: -Immense stress -Experienced worst of humanity at a young age -PTSD -Struggles with depression -Grieving -Survivors guilt -Lost time/missed life occurrences -Relationship strains/divorce -Physiological or physical wounds -Social reintegration (distances themselves) -Relatability to society In Leu of Veterans Day, the team tackles this topic to help bring together civilians and veterans on a more human level. As a society, both should strive to reconnect as common people, instead of civilian vs veteran. Taking the time and getting to know and understand what veterans have been through can have amazing results on the common perceptions about military service and possibly help those veterans who are struggling with post military service. Challenges: What can you do different the next time you approach a veteran? To the best of your ability, attempt to imagine being in their shoes and ask yourself how would you want to be approached? Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

The boys had the immense privilege of hosting Tony Imbarlina Sr. as he decided to do an impromptu join in! This episode centers around practices, life hacks, and theories to try out when you're having a hard time fueling your passion. Each delves into their personal moments where they've struggled, and what they did to help themselves, especially when there's so much at stake. Melon kicks it off, sharing his inability to find passion towards a sport he's loved his entire life. He analyzes the real consequence when a rugby practitioner is just going through the motions. He quickly points out that the risk of injury is extremely high! That was enough to force him to have an honest discussion with all his teammates. Raf admitted that reigniting passion is a constant battle for him. His “go to” methodology is always to “just do something”. He's found that simply keeping his dead down and grinding at work generally generates the new motivation he's been seeking. Mike reflects on some of his toughest moments and realizes that using his closest friends and family as a sounding board is his most effective tool. Tony Sr. openly speaks about using his beautiful wife Louise as an accountability partner who is honest when he's not being his best and suggests that we all do that. These are just the tip of the iceberg.  Please share your thoughts about this episode and more importantly, we hope this encourages our listeners to spend some time thinking about what works best for them when they must reignite their passion. We encourage all of our listeners to reach out to us with your own stories. We love reading your insights, feedback, and how we can add more value to your day.   Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

Identity. How do you think of yourself? How do you introduce yourself? Who are you underneath it all? When elite professionals like military special forces, pilots, athletes move on in life, many face a crisis of identity. The same thing occurs to many retirees and empty nesting parents when their children move out. If you have committed yourself fully to pursuing a dream or fulfilling a goal, there can be many challenges when that chapter in your life comes to an end. Certainly, many military and first responders can face a future where they struggle for purpose while dealing with physical, mental and emotional scars from their service. Your hosts are joined by an Aussie mate, Simon, who has a unique set of insights around the topic of identity and how to reforge it from a position of values and empathy. His insights come as the result of wide life experience and ongoing education. He has faced this question of identity himself and has come on to share what has worked for him. When the excitement and competitive environment ends, how do you reset and find your datum points? How can finding self-awareness help complement the other skills that have been such a large part of your other successes in life? How can we continue to grow so that we ensure we are equipped for the next challenge that life has in store for us? Every step of life is a doorway. Don't be held back. Identity is a construct, make sure you keep evolving to be the best version of yourself. Please help us achieve our goals of doubling our social media footprint by sharing, leaving a rating or a review. We are committed to making a difference to our audience. Rafael “Tio” Espinosa notyouraverageraf@gmail.com Paul “Melon” McFadden notyouraveragepaul@gmail.com Mike notyouraveragemike77@gmail.com

“Have you ever noticed the people that drive slower than you are idiots and those who drive faster than you are maniacs?” - Comedian George Carlin Is there truth behind this? Do we think we are always in the right and everyone else is in a degree of wrong? Or is it a place we find comfort in to avoid self correction? Is there something there that makes us do this? Does this help formulate how we perceive the rest of the world? It absolutely does! This week, Melon and Mike take on this conversation head on while Tio Raf recovers from a “boys night out” after a well deserved professional achievement. (Wish him a quick recovery at 45!) In addition, the team shares some reviews from our listeners around the world and puts out some of NYAO Podcast's goals for the rest of 2021: -100 ? Ratings on Apple Podcasts -50 Written reviews on Apple Podcasts -50% increase of followers on FB and IG Help us reach our goals! Please take a minute and SHARE our posts, leave a RATING, REVIEW, or send us a message. Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

In ancient Greece, famous Goddess Athena was known to take the form of a man to mentor Telemachus, the son of Odysseus, and converse about power, wisdom, and direction to become successful. The  focal point of the story displays that in fact there is an uncomfortable barrier between men and women when it comes to mentorship. This week, the team welcomes our special guest Liz, a female U.S. Army commander and blackhawk pilot, to discuss the importance of men mentoring women, while addressing and creating solutions to the hardest challenges this ultimately brings. Key Discussion Points: -Perspectives from both male/female leaders on appropriate/inappropriate interactions. -Communication barriers -Professionalism and Culture -Multiple challenges women face in gendered work environments - Why men, as a group, are so bad at cross-gender mentoring -Negative and Positive effects of mixed gender units on the force and family For further information, we highly suggest the following books by W. Brad Johnson & David G. Smith: Athena Rising - How and why men should mentor women. Good Guys- How men can be better allies for women in the workplace. Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

Have you ever had a point in your life where you felt completely lost? That you are in a position where you don't know exactly where you are, but know where you want to go? Of course you have! In global navigation, we can use what is called “dead reckoning“ to find our approximate position. This is when you are in the air, over an ocean, or in a vast body of land that has little to no reference points and you have to rely on a formula of time, speed, distance, and drift. We must also make sure we are using the right “North“, whether it be true, grid, or magnetic. If we apply the wrong one, we can miss our mark or destination by miles. In life, we have to identify what our own version of “north“ is and trust our formula of values, determination, character traits, vision, and healthy relationships to guide us through the unknown and give us clarity on where we stand on our journey between where we are and where we want to go. To many, navigation can be a hard and challenging task, but when done correctly, it can provide you with efficient pathways, energy conservation, time efficiency, and satisfaction. Why would we not want to do the same in life? Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

Melon, Tony Sr., and Raf come together in the absence of Mike to talk about the third chapter in the Tender Warrior series. Chapter Three covers what Stu Weber labels the Four Pillars of Manhood. The four roles that every man is conscripted to play in his circles of influence. He defines the four pillars as the King, Warrior, Mentor, and Friend. It's a critical chapter that looks at the roles played out by men in society and have helped shape this world. More importantly, this chapter paints, with zero ambiguity, the destruction that falls on the earth when men don't step up to the roles we've been assigned, or as Melon put it, “you allow either of those roles to go unbalanced, like a King without humility”.  All agreed that this chapter has been one of the most challenging for several reasons. Mostly in the application and looking at them through an honest introspective lense. It's not for the faint of heart. The Four Pillars are the fundamental roles that every man plays in his life, whether he acknowledges them or not. The boys talk about the importance of making an effort regardless of the probability to meet the goals, because they're that important. Naturally, everyone has a role they play well intrinsically, and there are those that we struggle with, but the common understanding of these four pillars, is that when they're sought after correctly with a purpose filled life, the world, as we know it, is a better place. More to the point, “We were all born originals, don't die a copy”. -Tony Sr. Please share your thoughts about this episode and more importantly, we hope this encourages our listeners to pick a copy up for yourself and those closest around you. We encourage all of our listeners to reach out to us with your own stories. We love reading your insights, feedback, and how we can add more value to your day. Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

The boys had the immense privilege of hosting Tony Imbarlina Sr. as he joined the gang to have a lively discussion on Chapter 2 of Stu Weber's book, Tender Warrior. They discuss what this chapter invoked in them individually, regarding the Scout role every man of the household has been commissioned to play by the social construct of our society. More importantly, they explored collectively the ways in which the timeless wisdom delivered in this chapter can have an application in our lives. The lessons are many, but some of the key highlights discussed in this chapter are profound if not simplistic and enduring in their nature. -  The distinction in the word “provision” by Stu Weber. -  The significance of the symbiotic relationship between the Scout and the wagon train, and how you can't have one without the other. -  The measure of a man is the spiritual and emotional health of his family. -  Trust is the ultimate currency, and it's earned through daily small tasks -  The importance and grave difference between sight and vision. -  Who's been the Scout in your life? Please share your thoughts about this episode and more importantly, we hope this encourages our listeners to pick a copy up for yourself and those closest around you. We encourage all of our listeners to reach out to us with your own stories. We love reading your insights, feedback, and how we can add more value to your day. Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

Have you ever ask yourself the following questions: Am I successful? Is what I'm doing significant for others? Do I have balance between the two? When will I be enough to be satisfied? If the answer is yes, then listen as the boys  welcome back their favorite psychologist, Dr. Erin  and discuss and share examples of personal and team success while also maintaining the importance of aligning a positive significance with those around you. We realize this can be a continuous  and daunting challenge, but with some of the framework and suggestions from Dr. Erin and the NYAO team, we can all conduct an honest assessment on our current paths, identify how we can add or subtract certain layers, and progress into a well balanced state that's supported by strong healthy values and character traits. To learn more about yourself and how to identify some of your strengths and areas that need improvement, you can visit the following link and take the character test for free: Viacharacter.org Please reach out to us directly to share your story or if you have questions for us or Dr. Erin. Paul “Melon” McFadden NotYourAveragePaul@gmail.com Raf “Tio” Espinosa NotYourAverageRaf@gmail.com Mike NotYourAverageMike77@gmail.com LISTEN IN ON: SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/6cQyL6nPDxPNFz4p8RN5PQ?si=Pm-chuufQGSYdcflJ5Xq0Q APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/not-your-average-operator/id1522297477

“For those who fight for it, life has a flavor the sheltered will never know” ~ Theodore Roosevelt ~ History. We all know the saying that if we forget it, we are doomed to repeat it. This episode has a large piece on finding and cherishing amazing, living history. This is an uplifting conversation, full of laughter. Mike was privileged to participate in a charity event. Operation Once in a Lifetime hosted their annual major trip to Washington DC. As a volunteer supporting the event, Mike was lucky enough to meet some of the heroes who have gone before us. He paid his respects to fallen comrades at Arlington, and heard stories about- and directly from- some of the “Greatest Generation”. You'll hear about a Korean War veteran who only told his family that he “played a lot of baseball” while he was deployed to the peninsula during the war. At his funeral they heard a citation that shocked them- heroism that they had never heard of was attributed to their quiet family man. What is it that we most admire about these people? The quiet professionalism? The focus on resilience and the character ethic? Let us know what it is that touches you most, what it is that draws your admiration when you think of the people you most respect. Rafael “Tio” Espinosa notyouraverageraf@gmail.com Paul “Melon” McFadden notyouraveragepaul@gmail.com Mike notyouraveragemike77@gmail.com  

It's not every day you have the opportunity to meet a best friend from across the globe that you have never met before, but that is exactly what happened this past week. In this episode, Mike and Melon, sitting side-by-side, discuss their week together and reflect on their adventures and discussions. What they come to […]

In part 3 of 3 of this series, the team welcomes back senior trauma nurse instructor Mark McCarthy to cover the crucial points of critical incident learning. After taking the time to review and dissect critical points in incident debriefing (1/3) while identifying crucial decision points (2/3), it is imperative that we then figure out […]

This is episode 2, of a 3 part mini-series on Critical Incidents. Mark McCarthy, senior trauma nurse instructor, rejoins us for the follow up to #52- Critical Incident Debriefing. “We see the world not as it is, but as we are…” Steven R. Covey During Critical Incidents, decisions are genuinely life or death, so the […]

The boys are launching their first multi-episode series- which is on the topic of Critical Incidents. Melon met Irishman Mark McCarthy on a rugby pitch in 2012 but there's more than just rugby banter in this episode. Mark, a senior trauma nurse instructor in the Middle East, shares his experiences and insights from the ER […]

The boys talk and share personal anecdotes on the current state of the withdrawal of coalition forces in Afghanistan, and the impact it'll have. Mike and Raf both have spent a considerable amount of time, and felt it was a good natural discussion to opine on. The boys then transitioned into a tougher conversation. They […]

Mike and Melon still are not sure what Raf said at the beginning of this episode, but we couldn't be happier to have him back on the show this week! (We're pretty sure it was nothing but a nice complimentary introduction in Espanol) This milestone episode brings an interesting topic to light, a famous quote […]

Melon has landed back in Saudi after his trip to Melbourne, and he and Mike catch up. Raf is still deployed and is very busy with his workload, so Mike and Melon carry this episode as a pair. After catching up, Melon shares his insights after having the privilege of being an audience member for […]

In this week's episode, Melon and Raf  continue to make their movements around the world while Mike takes the mic and welcomes back his older brother Jeremy to the show. Two brothers who have both served in combat during the global war on terror, discuss what it was like growing up together entangled with military service […]

After a very emotional week leading up to Memorial day, what better way to follow it than to have some of your own family who've served in war join the show? In this week's episode, Melon and Raf  are off taking care of family and priorities abroad, so Mike takes the mic and welcomes his older […]

For some, Memorial Day is a day off of work, a day of barbecues, and a reason to wear fun red white and blue outfits and head to the pool and beaches. To those who have served or who are serving, their meanings are much different. Some celebrate the lives of the men and women […]

Productivity. Advancing towards a goal. Achieving an outcome. We all need to create desired effects in the world. All of us have areas where we are naturally strong- where our strengths come to the fore and our output is excellent. This episode is not about these areas. How do you achieve your best in the […]

Take a minute and think about this…Who do you talk to when you are hurting? If you hurt your arm, you go see a doctor. If your emotions are out of sync, you go see a counselor or psychologist. Pretty simple right? Where do you go when your spiritual side is hurting? This week, the […]

It’s no secret that today, in the age of social media, we are constantly being bombarded by influencers in politics, fashion trends, physical attributes, financial endeavors etc. This social communication inter-web that has become a part of our everyday lives tells us about the world we live in and how to live in it…or does […]

The boys come at you with another absolutely incredible story, and had the immense privilege to have a sit down with The Great Russell “Ruthless” Ruth! A former Staff Sergeant with the storied 1st Ranger Battalion, 75th Ranger Regiment, and now a newly minted U.S. Army Apache Aviator, he shares his story, and it’s one […]

This episode, your hosts are joined by a special guest- the multitalented Dave “MacDaddy” McGregor. The MacDaddy has what might be a unique combination of skills- a professional jazz trumpet player, F/A-18 Hornet pilot, flying instructor and Joint Tactical Air Controller (JTAC). His story highlights that none of us really know what our capabilities are, […]

The boys had the immense privilege to have a sit down with the great Matthew Hopper. This is a name that most people will never know, but in the shadows of the Army’s Special Operations Aviation Regiment and a very tight inner circle, this name is a currency in competence and authenticity. That’s to say, […]

This week, the team returns with our Q&A session to answer some more listener questions that we have been receiving. Mike and Melon cover down again this week while Raf takes some personal time to do some recovering (He sang too much Whitney Houston at Karaoke and lost his voice) Some of this week’s questions: […]

The boys had the immense privilege to have a sit down with Dr. Erin Donnelly. She  is a Licensed Psychologist and Reproductive Sexologist who is currently in private practice. She grew up in Kansas City before attending Saint Louis University in St. Louis. During her time in undergrad, she also cheered professionally for the St. […]

Every day, the average person has approximately 2500 interactions in person, emails, on the phone, or on social media. In each of these interactions, there are specific times in which we can make vital choices to have either positive or negative impacts, influences, or responses . It’s in these times that we need to take […]