The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Just because you're talking things through with your partner, doesn't guarantee you're going resolve things.If you and your partner keep having the same conversations on repeat, this episode will help you understand why.So many couples think the issue is that they “just need to communicate more.” But what often happens is this:You try to talk.The conversation gets emotional.Someone feels criticized.Someone shuts down or gets defensive.You both get exhausted.And eventually… you stop talking about it.Not because the issue is resolved.But because you're emotionally drained.In this episode, I break down why so many conversations never actually lead to resolution and what's truly missing underneath repetitive conflict patterns.Tune in to hear me share:• Why avoidance often comes from emotional exhaustion, not lack of care• The difference between expressing feelings and actually resolving conflict• How “me vs you” thinking keeps couples stuck in repetitive cycles• Why emotional safety matters during difficult conversations• The shift that helps couples move from surviving conversations to solving problems together• Questions to ask yourself before and during conflict to create more productive conversationsIf your conversations with your partner feel heavy, repetitive, or emotionally draining, this episode will help you start approaching conflict differently so you can feel more connected, supported, and like a true team again.Resources MentionedDownload the Conflict to Connection Guide here!For more personalized support, book a clarity call to learn how marriage coaching can help you here!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Have you ever considered foster parenting?In this episode, I am joined by Foster Parent Partner, Laura to talk about what foster parenting actually looks like behind the scenes.Laura shares about the emotional realities of caring for children impacted by trauma, how foster parenting affects marriage and family dynamics, and the support systems that help foster families navigate the challenges that come with stepping into this role.In this episode, we discuss:• What foster parenting actually is and how the process works• The emotional and behavioral challenges foster parents may encounter• How foster parenting impacts marriage, work, and family life• Why communication and flexibility matter so much in foster homes• Common struggles foster families face that people rarely talk about• The role of compassion, boundaries, and support systemsLaura also shares details about her book First Time Fostering, which helps hopeful and new foster parents feel more prepared and supported as they navigate the realities of foster care.If you've ever wondered whether foster parenting might be right for your family, this episode will help you better understand both the beauty and complexity of the journey.Connect with Laura:https://www.youtube.com/@foster.parentinghttps://youtube.com/shorts/gvU8Y4tNDD4https://www.tiktok.com/@fosterparenting/https://www.facebook.com/Foster.Parent.PartnerThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!If it seems like your conversations with your partner always end in arguments and issues never get resolved, it's not that you need to talk more. It's that the way you two talk isn't working anymore.In this episode, I break down why so many couples feel stuck repeating the same conflict patterns even though they communicate all the time.The truth is, most couples are not lacking communication. They are lacking structure and emotional safety in the conversation.Tune in to hear me share:Why conversations spiral even when you start with good intentionsThe communication pattern that keeps couples stuck in repetitive argumentsWhy “talking more” is not the answerHow to stay anchored during difficult conversationsA simple question that can completely shift the direction of conflictResources Mentioned:Download the Conflict to Connection Guide here!For more personalized support, book a clarity call to learn how marriage coaching can help you here!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Grief changes everything. And most people were never taught how to navigate it, especially when it comes to child loss.In this episode, I am joined by author and grief advocate, Jenny Kim, to talk about child loss, grief support, emotional capacity, and what grieving people actually need from the people around them.Jenny shares the heartbreaking story of losing her six month old son Joey and how that experience led her to write Look to the Sky and the Grievers & Friends community.Inside this episode, we cover:• What grieving parents wish people understood• Why “everything happens for a reason” can feel harmful in grief• The difference between supporting someone vs trying to fix their pain• How to show up when you don't know what to say• The “Ring Theory” concept for navigating grief support• Why grief doesn't go away and how capacity changes over time• The emotional impact of child loss on parents and siblings• How small acts of kindness can deeply support someone in grief• Why emotional presence matters more than perfect wordsConnect with Jenny:Instagram: @whatjoeytaughtmeInstagram: @grieversandfriendsWebsite: www.grieversandfriends.comSupport Jenny's Kickstarter campaign at:Grievers & Friends Official WebsiteThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Part 2 of the mini series:  Why You Keep Having the Same Arguments and How to Actually Break the PatternConflict is inevitable in marriage.But arguing in circles, escalating every conversation, and walking away feeling more disconnected? That part is optional.In this episode, I break down the foundational communication skill that changes everything in conflict: pausing.If you and your partner keep having the same arguments on repeat, feel emotionally reactive during conversations, or struggle to resolve issues without defensiveness or shutdowns, this episode will help you understand why.You'll learn:• Why most couples repeat the same unhealthy communication patterns• How emotional dysregulation escalates conflict• Why “pausing” is one of the most important relationship skills you can build• What happens when couples learn to slow down and collaborate instead of react• A simple practice to help you respond more intentionally during difficult conversationsIf you're tired of feeling like roommates, constantly misunderstood, or emotionally exhausted after every disagreement, this episode will help you start shifting the pattern.Resources Mentioned:Download the Conflict to Connection Guide here!Book a Clarity Call here!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Keeping your kids safe isn't just about rules, it's about your relationship with them.In this conversation, I got to chat with Child Safety Strategist, Francesca Douglass Franco to talk about what actually protects kids in today's world.If you've ever worried about your child's safety, online exposure, or how to prepare them for independence without scaring them… this episode will completely shift how you think about it.Because the truth is…The safest kids aren't the most restricted.They're the most connected and aware.In this episode, we cover: What predators actually look for in children  The surprising trait that makes kids less of a target  How to build deep connection so your child feels like they can come to you about anything Why self-trust and intuition are critical for safety  The role of generational healing in protecting your kids  How to teach situational awareness without fear Grab her journal here! Use code marriage&motherhood to get $5 off!Download her Child Safety Guide here!Attend her Humansave Quarterly Human Trafficking Training on May 21 from 11-12pm Pacific Time via Zoom here! The focus will be on parents' role in the fight against trafficking.Connect with Francesca:Websites: francescadf.com and humansave.orgIG: @francesca_douglassfranco and @humansave_orgThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Part 1 of the mini series: Why You Keep Having the Same Arguments and How to Actually Break the PatternArguments don't fall apart at the end. They fall apart in a moment you're not noticing.If you've ever felt like your conversations go from calm to chaotic in seconds, this episode will help you understand why.In part two of this mini series, I'm breaking down the exact moment conflict escalates in your relationship and what's actually happening beneath the surface when things suddenly feel out of control.Because it's not random.It's not you or your partner being “too much.”And it's not that your relationship is broken.In this episode, you'll learn how to interrupt the pattern in real time so you can shift from reacting to responding and finally start having productive conversations again.What you'll learn:- the exact moment conflict actually breaks down- why arguments feel like they escalate “out of nowhere”- what's happening in your nervous system during conflict- how to stop mirroring your partner's intensity- a simple micro shift that changes the entire trajectory of a conversationIf you're tired of having the same fight on repeat, this is where things start to change.Help yourself set your conversations up for success by grabbing my Conflict To Connection Guide here!Ready to end the pattern and rewrite a healthier one for your marriage? Book a clarity call today to learn how my Connected Partnership Framework can help you!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Midlife doesn't ruin marriages. It reveals what's been ignored.If you've ever looked at your relationship and thought“How did we get here?”or“Why does everything suddenly feel so hard?”You're not alone and your marriage isn't broken.In this episode, I'm joined by Somatic Life Coach Mikki Gardner to unpack why so many couples experience tension, resentment, or even separation during midlife and what's actually happening beneath the surface.We talk about the emotional load many women carry, how years of self-silencing lead to disconnection, and why midlife often becomes the turning point where everything that's been buried rises to the surface.More importantly, we walk through what you can do now to navigate this phase intentionally so your marriage can evolve instead of unravel.What You'll Learn:- Why midlife changes feel sudden (but aren't)- The real reason resentment builds in long-term relationships- How self-betrayal quietly erodes connection over time- What it actually looks like to communicate needs effectively- Why “saying something” isn't the same as creating change- How to start shifting your relationship without blowing it upConnect with Mikki:Website: https://www.mikkigardner.com/Podcast: https://www.mikkigardner.com/podcastInstagram: @mikkigardnerThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Feel like you're constantly arguing with your partner? You're not having different arguments, you're actually stuck repeating the same pattern.If you feel like you and your partner keep going in circles… talking about the same things… and nothing ever changes, this episode will help you understand why.Because the truth is, most couples think they have a communication problem.But what's actually happening is a pattern problem.In this episode, I break down:- Why repetitive arguments happen in marriage- The emotional pattern that keeps couples stuck- What's really happening before the words are even spoken- Why trying to “communicate better” isn't enough- The simple awareness shift that changes everythingYou'll also hear a real client example that shows how resentment, disconnection, and feeling unsupported aren't about what you think it's about. They're about how you're each responding to each other in the moment.This episode will help you stop focusing on what you're fighting about and start understanding why it keeps happening.Because when you can see the pattern… you can finally change it. Awareness is the first step.Resources Mentioned:Grab the Conflict to Connection Guide here!Ready to deepen and strengthen your marriage? Book a clarity call today to learn how my Connected Partnership Framework can help you!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!The way you talk to your kids becomes the way they talk to themselves.Most parents are trying their best to raise kind, confident, emotionally healthy kids and without realizing it, the words we use and how we say them can either build connection or create distance.In this episode, I sit down with parenting expert Cara Tyrrell to unpack how everyday communication shapes your child's identity, emotional safety, and willingness to open up to you. Not just now, but as they grow too.This conversation will help you parent with more intention, more confidence, and more connection and all without feeling like you have to be perfect.Inside this episode, we cover:Why “not listening” is often misunderstood, how to build deep trust with your kids from an early age, and how small shifts in your language can completely change your relationship.Why connection (not control) is the foundation of effective parenting  The Core 4 relationship builders every child needs  What's really happening when your child acts out or shuts down  Why only 7% of communication is verbal — and what matters more  How subconscious speech patterns from your own childhood show up in parenting  Simple ways to regulate yourself before responding to your child If you've ever thought: “I just want my kids to talk to me” “I don't want to mess this up” “I want a better relationship than I had growing up”This episode is for you.Love this episode? Buy her new book Connect with Cara:Website: https://www.caratyrrell.comPodcast: Transforming The Toddler YearsLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cara-tyrrell/IG: @core4parentingThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!You don't feel disconnected in your marriage because something is wrong. You feel disconnected because you've stopped going deeper.So many couples come to me saying they feel like roommates.They're handling life.They love each other.But something feels… off.Flat.Predictable.Disconnected.And what most people don't realize is this:You can know everything about your partner's life… and still not know their inner world.In this episode, I'm breaking down: Why couples start to feel like strangers after kids  The difference between surface-level connection and true intimacy  Why most people avoid going deeper (and don't even realize it)  How emotional awareness directly impacts connection  What it actually looks like to build depth in your relationship  How staying surface-level quietly creates resentment and disconnection You'll also hear a real client example of a couple who “never fought” but felt like roommates—and how everything shifted once they started sharing what was really going on beneath the surface.If your conversations feel transactional, your connection feels stuck, or your marriage feels like it's missing something… this episode will help you understand why.Ready to deepen and strengthen your marriage? Book a clarity call today to learn what marriage coaching can do to help you!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Motherhood can bring on a lot of anxiety. The sheer overwhelm of going from just taking care of yourself to taking care of people who don't always want to listen is nothing you can ever fully prepare for. Cue the second guessing and the shoulding.If you've ever wondered why certain things feel harder for you than they “should” or if there's a better way to feel confident in your decision making, this conversation is going to give you a new lens.In this episode, I got to chat about human design and nervous system regulation with my new friend MaKenzie Byram.Inside this episode, we cover: What human design is (in a simple, digestible way)  How nervous system regulation helps you actually live your design  Why you struggle with decision-making and how to change that  How to better understand your spouse and stop misinterpreting their behavior Using human design to parent your kids in a way that actually works for them  How to stop “should-ing” your life and start living in alignment  The difference between logical decisions vs. aligned decisions  Practical ways to start using human design in your everyday life This episode will help you move from confusion and self-doubt to clarity and confidence so you can show up as the partner and parent you want to be.Connect with MaKenzie:Instagram: @thecleanmomeditPodcast: Clean Mom EditWork with MaKenzie: Aligned MembershipThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Doing more doesn't make you a better partner. It makes you exhausted, resentful, and disconnected.If you've ever felt like you're carrying the mental load, keeping everything running, and wondering why your partner isn't stepping up… this episode is going to shift how you see it.The truth is, this dynamic isn't just happening to you. It's being created inside the relationship pattern itself.In this episode, we're talking about: Why overfunctioning leads to your partner underfunctioning  The difference between being supportive vs controlling  How “doing it all” quietly creates resentment and disconnection  Why silent expectations are setting your relationship up to fail  How to shift from manager mode into real partnership  Simple ways to start redistributing responsibility without chaos The good news? You don't need to do more. You need to create space for partnership.Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Your body isn't broken. It just needs a different approach.If you've hit your late 30s or 40s and suddenly feel like nothing is working anymore… you're not imagining it.The strategies that used to “just work” stop working — and most women are left feeling frustrated, confused, and honestly… a little betrayed by their bodies.In this episode, I am joined by Health and Fitness Coach Emily Erb to talk about what's actually happening in your body, why traditional dieting fails, and how to fuel yourself in a way that feels sustainable, supportive, and freeing.We're not talking about restriction.We're not talking about cutting out your favorite foods.We're talking about understanding your body — so you can finally work with it instead of against it.Inside this episode, we cover:- Why your metabolism changes in your 30s and beyond- What “metabolic adaptation” is- The truth about calorie counting vs macro counting- Why restriction leads to binge cycles- How to eat dessert and still reach your goals- Why protein matters (and how to increase it realistically)- The real reason most women struggle with consistency- How to build trust with yourself around food- Why mindset and inner work matter more than you thinkIf you've been feeling stuck, frustrated, or like your body is working against you… this episode will help you understand why — and what to do differently.Grab Emily's free macros starter kit here!Connect with Emily:IG + FB: @Ems_Empowerment_CoachingPodcast "Stop It" on Spotify + AppleThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!The fastest way to change your marriage is not by getting your partner to change.If your marriage has been feeling heavy, tense, or stuck in the same arguments on repeat… you're not alone.Most couples believe things will finally get better when their partner starts communicating differently, showing up more, or meeting their needs.But here's the truth: waiting for your partner to go first keeps you stuck.In this episode, we're diving into the powerful ripple effect that happens when you start showing up differently — and how that shift naturally inspires your partner to do the same.Inside this episode, you'll learn:- Why focusing on your partner's behavior keeps you stuck- What's actually happening underneath resentment and disconnection- How your energy, communication, and self-care impact your relationship dynamic- Why “good begets more good” in marriage- A simple but powerful reflection to assess how you're showing up as a partnerReady to reconnect with your partner and create a more hopeful and positive future with each other? Schedule a clarity call so we can chat about how marriage coaching can help you!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!So many women are living lives that look right on the outside…but internally feel off, overwhelming, or unfulfilling.In this episode, I am joined by Intuition Coach, Taylor Nosakhere to unpack what intuition actually is, why so many women feel disconnected from it, and how rebuilding self-trust can transform your motherhood, marriage, and everyday decisions.You'll learn why following your intuition doesn't always feel easy—and why that doesn't mean it's wrong.If you've been second-guessing yourself, stuck in people-pleasing, or feeling resentment build in your relationships… this conversation will help you reconnect with your inner voice and start making aligned decisions again.What You'll Learn:- What intuition really is (and what it's not)- How to tell the difference between fear and intuition- How self-trust can impact your relationships with your partner and kids- Simple ways to start rebuilding your self-trust todayResources Mentioned:Taylor's Private Podcast: How The F To Trust Yourself (Free code: MANDMPOD)Connect with Taylor:Instagram: @taylornosakhere Website: https://www.taylornosakhere.com/Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Staying calm in conflict doesn't mean your conversation is actually working.If you've ever walked away from a calm conversation with your partner and thought…“Okay, but nothing actually changed…” — this episode is for you.In today's episode, we're talking about the missing skill most couples were never taught: collaborative problem solving.Because the truth is—You can regulate your emotions, say things nicely, and still end up stuck in the same patterns.In this episode, I share:- Why calm conversations don't automatically lead to resolution- The difference between explaining vs. collaborating- How couples unintentionally argue like they're in court instead of on the same team- The role of vagueness in creating repeated conflict- How to ask better questions that actually move conversations forward- Why overexplaining keeps you stuck (and what to do instead)- How to use the P.E.A.C.E. Method to turn conflict into connectionYou'll also hear a real-life example of how misunderstandings happen when couples aren't clear—and how small shifts in communication can completely change the outcome.If you're tired of having the same conversations on repeat, this episode will help you start creating real change.If you want help turning your conflicts into productive, connecting conversations:- Download the Conflict to Connection Guide- Book a Clarity Call to get personalized supportThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Your reactions aren't random — they're regulated (or dysregulated).If you've ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “Why did I react like that?” — this episode is for you.In this episode, I am joined by Personal Growth Coach and Breathwork Facilitator, Ashlee Livingstone to break down what nervous system regulation actually is and why it's the foundation for healthy communication, emotional control, and connection in your marriage.Because here's the truth:Most relationship conflict isn't about the words being said — it's about the state your nervous system is in when you say them.In this episode, you'll learn:- What your nervous system actually is (in simple terms)- The difference between being regulated vs. dysregulated- Why so many moms are stuck in survival mode- How dysregulation fuels arguments, defensiveness, and emotional shutdown- The fastest way to calm your body in the middle of conflict- Why “just be calm” doesn't work (and what does instead)- How breathwork helps you reset your reactions in real time- What it looks like to take responsibility for your emotional patterns without blaming yourselfYou'll also hear real-life examples of how stress, parenting, and daily pressure impact your reactions — and how to start shifting those patterns in a practical way.If you want to stop escalating arguments, feel more in control of your emotions, and create calmer, more productive conversations in your marriage… this episode will show you where to start.If you loved this episode, check out Ep. 90 to learn more from Ashlee!Connect with Ashlee:www.ashleelivingstone.comIG: @ashlee.livingstoneIf you'd like to explore working with Ashlee 1:1, she is offering a special discount to my listeners! Schedule your session here!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Most arguments don't spiral because of the original issue. They spiral because couples start reacting to each other instead of understanding each other.One partner gets upset.The other partner reacts to their partner being upset.Suddenly both people are defending themselves instead of solving the problem.What started as frustration turns into a much bigger fight because neither person feels heard.This dynamic is one of the most common conflict loops couples experience.In this episode, I explain why this happens and how couples can shift out of the pattern so conflict becomes productive instead of destructive.You'll learn how emotional attunement helps partners respond with curiosity and compassion instead of defensiveness, and why regulating the emotional moment first is the key to having better conversations.If you've ever felt like your arguments spiral out of control or that small issues turn into big fights, this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface.Want to learn how to do this in your marriage? Book a clarity call to gain the tools so that you can end the conflict pattern present in your marriage so you can start enjoying your relationship again!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Most kids don't ignore their parents because they're disrespectful. They ignore them because their brain isn't developmentally ready to respond yet.If you've ever found yourself repeating the same instruction five times before your child finally listens, you're not alone.Many parents fall into a frustrating cycle:You ask nicely.Your child ignores you.You repeat yourself.You get frustrated.Eventually you yell.And suddenly everyone in the house feels upset.In this episode, I am joined by parenting coach Becky Jennings of Responseable Parenting to unpack what's actually happening when kids don't listen.The truth is that many children simply don't have the neurological development or emotional regulation skills to transition immediately when asked. Their brains are still learning how to shift attention, manage frustration, and respond to direction.When parents understand the nervous system dynamics behind behavior, they can stop taking these moments personally and start responding in ways that actually work.This conversation is especially helpful for parents raising strong-willed or neurodivergent children, where traditional discipline strategies often create more conflict instead of cooperation.In this episode we discuss:• Why kids often cannot respond immediately when asked to do something• The difference between disrespect and nervous system overwhelm• How motivation, play, and curiosity help children transition between activities• How parents can regulate their own nervous system before responding• Why connection leads to more cooperation than control• How to balance emotional awareness without becoming permissiveConnect with Becky:Instagram: @responsableparentingPodcast: ResponseABLE ParentingThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Have you felt more and more disconnected from your partner after having kids? Most couples don't stop loving each other after kids. They just stop prioritizing their marriage and that's what causes the disconnect.After kids enter the picture, life gets full fast. Between school schedules, activities, work responsibilities, chores, and bedtime routines, it can feel like there's barely enough time to breathe, let alone nurture your relationship.So couples adapt. They become efficient. They divide responsibilities. They manage the household.And somewhere along the way, the marriage quietly shifts from romantic partnership to operational partnership.That's when many couples begin to feel like roommates.In this episode, I explain why this shift happens and how couples can intentionally rebuild connection even in the middle of busy family life.You'll learn why waiting for the “perfect time” to reconnect rarely works, how small daily moments can rebuild closeness, and why prioritizing your marriage actually strengthens the entire family system.If you've been feeling distant from your spouse but still want a strong partnership and connected marriage, this episode will help you rethink how connection fits into your everyday life.What You'll Learn in This EpisodeWhy couples often feel like roommates after kidsHow busy family life quietly pushes marriage to the bottom of the priority listWhy connection disappears even when love is still thereHow micro-connections rebuild intimacy over timeSimple ways to reconnect even without childcareWhy prioritizing your marriage benefits your kids tooIf you don't intentionally structure your life around your marriage, life will slowly structure you out of it. Think it's more than just taking the time to connect? Book a clarity call to start receiving support to identify what's really happening and what skills and changes are needed to restore the connection in your marriage!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Have you ever reacted to your kids in a way that brought on feelings of guilt and shame? Looking back, have you ever felt surprised by how strongly you reacted when you lost your cool or struggled to stay calm when the kids aren't listening?Parenting triggers aren't random. They're rooted in your past.I am joined by Psychodynamic Coach Lavinia Brown to talk about inner child healing and how it directly impacts the way you parent.In this episode, you'll learn:- What “inner child” really means (in simple, practical terms)- Why parenting activates unresolved childhood wounds- How triggers reveal unhealed attachment trauma- What re-parenting actually looks like- Why nervous system regulation and inner child healing go hand-in-hand- The difference between normal frustration and disproportionate reactivityConnect with Lavinia:Becoming Untriggered PodcastInstagram: @the.innerchild.healing.expertYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtFSVu5DC5O2-f25L0U8rAw Facebook: @the.innerchild.healing.expertThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Emotional maturity is the difference between repeating patterns and transforming your marriage into a relationship that gets better and better.In this episode of The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast, I break down what emotional maturity actually looks like in a marriage— and what often gets mistakened for maturity.This episode will help you understand:- What emotional maturity really means in marriage- Why projection feels relieving in the moment- The difference between intention vs. impact- Why conflict is inevitable but arguing is optional- How to pause, regulate, and collaborate instead of accuseIf you're ready to stop the blame cycle and build emotional safety in your relationship, this is a must listen.If you're ready for personalized support to help your marriage get back on track with healthy communication, book your clarity call here!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Letting your kids be bored isn't a failure on your part. Boredom is actually essential for your kid's development.In this episode of The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast, I am joined by Lizzie Assa, founder of The Workspace for Children and author of But I'm Bored: Discover the Power of Independent Play to Raise Confident, Resilient Kids.We talk about why modern parents feel overstimulated, pressured to entertain, and responsible for optimizing every minute of childhood — and how that may actually be working against our kids.In this episode we dive into:- why boredom is not neglect — it's neurological growth- the connection between independent play and executive functioning- why college students today struggle with resilience- how to respond when your child says “I'm bored”- what “play pockets” are and how to create them in your home- the difference between connection and entertainment- how to balance downtime and extracurricular activities- why it's not your job to “find your child's thing”- how play builds leadership, frustration tolerance, and autonomyConnect with Lizzie:Substack: https://theworkspaceforchildren.substack.com/Website: https://www.workspaceforchildren.com/twfc-blogGrab her book here!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!One person wanting to talk and the other shutting down doesn't mean one of you cares more. It means your nervous systems cope differently.If you feel like you're always the one trying to talk things through — or you're the one who shuts down and gets overwhelmed — this episode will help you understand what's actually happening beneath the surface.In this episode, I break down:- The pursue–withdraw dynamic in marriage- Why shutting down is about protection, not avoidance- How to stop taking withdrawal personally- What “consensual conversations” are and why they change everything- How to use pacing to prevent arguments- The Japanese concept of ma and how intentional pauses improve communication- How to set conversations up for success instead of forcing resolutionIf you're ready for personalized support to help your marriage get back on track with healthy communication, book your clarity call here!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Growing up with immigrant parents shapes how we love, communicate, and show up in marriage.In this powerful conversation, I am joined by Dr. Stacey Litam, licensed professional clinical counselor and author of Patterns That Remain: A Guide to Healing for Asian Children of Immigrants, to explore:- How transactional love patterns form in immigrant households- Why achievement often becomes tied to worth- The impact of collectivistic vs. individualistic culture on marriage- Why affection can feel uncomfortable — and how to navigate that- Modeling healthy self-care for your children- Healing “in-between” identity strugglesConnect with Dr. Stacey:Website: www.staceylitam.comIG: @drstaceyalitamLinkedIn: @Stacey Diane A. LitamGrab her book here!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Most communication breakdowns happen before anyone even starts talking.If you've ever walked into a conversation with your spouse calm and they still got defensive or shutdown, this episode is for you.In this episode, I break down the often-missed step that determines whether your conversations lead to connection or conflict: nervous system regulation before engagement.Tune in to learn:- Why intention vs. impact matters more than wording- How your nervous system shapes your tone, body language, and pacing- Why “I statements” don't fix dysregulation- The hidden reason your partner shuts down- How the P (Pause) step in the P.E.A.C.E. Method changes everything- Practical questions to ask yourself before initiating a hard conversationIf you're tired of repetitive arguments, walking on eggshells, or feeling like roommates after conflict, this episode will help you approach conversations in a way that creates safety instead of pressure.Mentioned in this episode:- Free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)If this episode has helped you realize that deeper support is needed, you can schedule a Clarity Call with me to talk through what's happening in your marriage and what would actually help.Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!If you constantly feel like you can't keep up or get ahead with time, this episode will change how you see productivity.In this episode, I am joined by Jill Wright, time management expert and creator of the Time Magic System, to talk about why so many women—especially moms and neurodivergent women—feel perpetually behind no matter how hard they try.Jill breaks down why traditional productivity advice doesn't work for women, how ADHD and neurodivergent brains experience time differently, and why seasonal planning is a more compassionate and effective approach than rigid schedules and daily to-do lists.This conversation is for the woman who is doing a lot—but still feels like she's losing the race against time.In this episode, we cover:- Why feeling “behind” is often a system problem—not a personal failure- How ADHD and neurodivergent brains experience time, energy, and overwhelm- The hidden cost of always planning from urgency instead of capacity- Why seasonal and 90-day planning works better than yearly goals- How to stop burning out while still getting meaningful things done- Why rest is not laziness—but a productivity tool- How better time management reduces emotional overwhelm and relationship stressConnect with Jill:IG: @energyandhoursFB: @energyandhoursSubstack: @energyandhoursWebsite: www.jillwright.caGrab The Time Magic Planner here!Listen to Ep. 172 to hear her share more about time confetti!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Valentine's Day can feel heavy when your marriage isn't where you want it to be — and that doesn't mean you're failing. It means something is asking for your attention.If Valentine's Day brings up disappointment, sadness, resentment, or pressure, this episode is for you. Instead of viewing this holiday as a test of your marriage, we're reframing it as a signal — one that highlights what's really going on beneath the surface.In this episode, I share:- How Valentine's Day often magnifies existing disconnection in marriage- The difference between performative romance and real emotional intimacy- Why one “perfect” date won't fix unresolved issues- Why micro-connections matter more than grand gestures- How my husband and I approach Valentine's Day differently — and why it works for us- What to do when Valentine's Day brings up more pain than excitementIf your marriage feels rocky right now, this episode will help you ease the pressure, understand what your feelings are trying to tell you, and take a more grounded, honest step forward.Mentioned in this episode:- Want to know what your love language is? Take the Five Love Languages quiz here!If this episode has helped you realize that deeper support is needed, you can schedule a Clarity Call with me to talk through what's happening in your marriage and what would actually help.Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Postpartum can feel overwhelming—not because something is wrong, but because no one prepares you for how much conflicting information you'll receive after having a baby.In today's guest episode, I'm joined by a Postpartum Doula and Matrescence Educator, Heather Magill who helps parents navigate one of the most vulnerable transitions of their lives with clarity, compassion, and zero pressure. We talk about how hard it can be to know what's normal, what will pass, and when it might actually be time to ask for extra support.This conversation is especially important for parents who feel torn between advice from professionals, family members, social media, and their own instincts—and end up feeling confused or like they're failing.In this episode, we cover:- What matrescence is- Why postpartum often feels like a problem even when it isn't- How conflicting advice can create anxiety and self-doubt- The difference between helpful support and emotionally loaded pressure- How having a neutral, informed support person changes everything- Why trusting yourself again is a skill—not something you're born withIf you're planning to have kids, pregnant or in the postpartum season, this episode will help you feel less alone and more grounded in what actually matters.

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Going on regular dates but still feeling emotionally disconnected?You're not imagining it—and you're not doing anything wrong.In this episode, I explain why spending more time together doesn't automatically rebuild connection, intimacy, or closeness in your marriage—and why date nights often fall flat when deeper issues haven't been addressed.You'll learn:- The foundation of real connection (it's not time together)- How unresolved resentment and communication breakdowns affect your dates- How connection is built through everyday “micro-moments,” not grand gestures- What actually needs to happen before date nights can feel enjoyable againIf you've ever thought, “We're doing the right things… so why doesn't it feel better?” this episode will help you understand what's really going on—and what to focus on instead.If you're ready to stop guessing and start building real connection, book a Clarity Call to explore what support could look like for your marriage.Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses domestic violence. Nothing graphic is shared, but listener discretion is advised.Domestic violence doesn't always leave bruises—but it always leaves an unwanted, undeserved impact.In this episode, I am joined by licensed marriage and family therapist Brooke LaLone to define what domestic violence actually looks like—especially the forms most women don't recognize until they're deeply entrenched.If you've ever thought, “It's not that bad,” or “He's never hit me, so this doesn't apply,” this conversation may challenge what you've been taught to ignore.In this episode, we cover:Why domestic violence is about power and control, not just physical harmThe difference between communication struggles and abusive dynamicsCommon forms of abuseHow trauma bonds keep women stuck—even when they know something is wrongRed flags that often get normalized in long-term relationshipsGreen flags that signal emotional safety, not just chemistryWhy leaving an abusive relationship is so complexHow to support someone you love who may be in an unsafe relationshipConnect with Brooke:1:1 Support Sessions - www.reclaimingmehealing.comInstagram: @ReclaimwithBrookeImportant Note from Michelle:Many of the tools and communication strategies discussed in other episodes on this podcast do not apply to abusive relationships. This episode clarifies why—and helps you determine what kind of support is actually appropriate.Resources Available:National Domestic Violence Hotline (U.S.): 1-800-799-SAFELocal DV shelters and advocacy centersBrooke LaLone's online community and support resources found on her websiteIf this episode resonates, please know you're not alone—and help is available.Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Resentment doesn't show up overnight—and it doesn't mean your marriage is broken.In this episode, I break down why resentment builds quietly in marriages, especially after kids.I share:Why resentment builds gradually instead of in one big momentHow unspoken expectations turn into emotional shutdown and loss of intimacyThe connection between resentment, self-abandonment, and feeling like roommatesWhy saving your partner from conflict doesn't protect your marriageHow early, honest conversations soften resentment and rebuild partnershipIf you've been feeling disconnected, less playful, less flirtatious, or emotionally closed off—this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface and how to start shifting it.Resource Mentioned:Download the Conflict To Connection Guide here!Ready to actively rebuild connection in your marriage? Book a clarity call to learn how getting support through marriage coaching can help you!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Perimenopause doesn't just affect your body — it can completely change how you experience your emotions, your stress levels, and your closest relationships.If you've noticed increased irritability, rage, emotional overwhelm, anxiety, poor sleep, or feeling like you don't recognize yourself anymore, this episode will help you understand what's actually happening and why you're not broken.In this episode, I am joined by Menopause and Stress Resilience Coach Sharon Pennington to unpack how hormonal changes during perimenopause impact emotional regulation, the nervous system, and relationship dynamics — especially in marriage and motherhood.You'll learn why emotional dysregulation often intensifies during perimenopause, how stress hormones like cortisol interact with declining estrogen and progesterone, and what you can do to support your nervous system instead of fighting yourself.This conversation is especially helpful for married moms who feel overstimulated, reactive, exhausted, or emotionally flooded and want practical tools that actually work.If you've been blaming yourself for struggling more lately — especially in your marriage — this episode will help you see the bigger picture and give you permission to approach this season differently.Connect with Sharon:Website: www.sharonpendlington.comInstagram: @sharonpendlingtonFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPendlingtonFB/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharon-pendlington/ Take her Perimenopause Archetype Quiz here!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Feeling like roommates after becoming parents is one of the most common — and most misunderstood — phases of marriage.If your relationship feels more operational than romantic..In this episode, I dive into why feeling like roommates doesn't mean your marriage is broken — it means connection has been deprioritized. She breaks down how parenting shifts things between you two, how emotional distance builds slowly through habits, and why waiting for “more time” rarely fixes things.You'll learn:Why the roommate phase happens after kidsThe subtle ways couples drift apart without realizing itWhat happens when you accept disconnection as “normal”Why awareness alone doesn't create changeHow couples rebuild connection without forcing romanceIf you're craving more closeness, ease, and partnership — and you're ready to stop settling for “fine” — this episode will help you see what's possible.Ready to actively rebuild connection instead of staying stuck? Book a Clarity Call to learn how getting support through marriage coaching can help you!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Motherhood already asks a lot of women. Add ADHD, hormonal shifts, and invisible labor—and suddenly even “simple” tasks feel overwhelming.In this episode, I am joined by ADHD Coach, Martha Hoffman, and we unpack what ADHD actually looks like in mothers, why symptoms often worsen during motherhood and perimenopause, and how executive dysfunction quietly impacts daily life, marriage, and mental health.This conversation is especially for women who feel like they're thriving in some areas of life but constantly falling apart in others—and quietly wondering if something is “wrong” with them.In this episode, we cover:The difference between everyday overwhelm and ADHD-related executive dysfunctionWhy motherhood and hormones can intensify ADHD symptomsCommon signs of ADHD in moms that are often missed or misdiagnosedHow ADHD affects marriage, mental load, and resentment cyclesHow couples can share responsibility without micromanaging or burnoutPractical ways to create more ease instead of white-knuckling through lifeWhen it's time to seek support—and what actually helpsConnect with Martha:IG: @marthahoffmancoachingwww.marthahoffmancoaching.comThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Do you feel like being "quick to anger" or "irritable" is just part of who you are? In this episode, we shatter the lie that reactivity is a personality trait. You will learn the difference between your biological temperament and learned regulation skills, and how to use specific emotional language to stop arguments before they spiral.Here's what I dive into:- Temperament vs. Regulation- The "Skill Gap": Why reactivity isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility- The Power of Specificity: How expanding your emotional intelligence (EQ) can help improve your marriageResources:Download the Emotion Wheel hereGrab the Conflict to Connection Guide hereOr if you're ready for support - schedule your clarity call here to learn more about how marriage coaching can help you!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Are you suddenly feeling a sense of rage towards your partner? You aren't going crazy, and your marriage might not be over—you might just be experiencing the biological shift of perimenopause. In this episode, I am joined by Midlife Marriage Advocate Brooke Davis to discuss why hormones are the "hidden guest" in your relationship. We explore the science behind the "estrogen veil" lifting, why "gray divorces" are skyrocketing, and how to advocate for your health when your doctor tells you "it's just stress."Connect with Brooke:IG: @marriageinperimenopauseThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Is your marriage feeling the "New Year" weight? The holidays often have a way of shining a spotlight on the gaps in our relationships—the tiny resentments, the communication breakdowns, and that quiet voice wondering, "Shouldn't we be further along by now?"In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on why the "New Year, New Me" mentality can actually backfire in your marriage. Instead of trying to wipe the slate clean and ignore the past, I'm sharing how to treat your relationship like a beautiful experiment where every "failure" is actually just valuable data. If you're ready to stop feeling "behind" and start building a marriage that feels like home, this conversation is for you.In this episode, I cover:- How to handle the uncertainty about your marriage that often hits in the new year- A new perspective to view your marriage with that helps you see progressReady to see how marriage coaching can help you bridge the gap? Book a clarity call here!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Have you ever wondered why you're suddenly repelled by someone's energy, or why your partner seems more drawn to you after you've spent the day working out or doing something you love? In this episode, I am joined by Matchmaking Love Coach Leah Mitchell to explore human pheromones and chemical compatibility. Leah breaks down her signature PheroGlow Method, a neurological strategy designed to move women out of survival mode and into a state of magnetic attraction. We dive deep into the neuroscience of love, discussing how high cortisol (the stress hormone) can literally block your pheromone production and lead to anxious-avoidant relationship cycles. Connect with Leah:FB: https://www.facebook.com/leah.mitchell.3914Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/goddess-of-love/id1723559624Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Most couples don't struggle because they don't love each other. They struggle because they were never taught how to communicate, regulate, and stay connected under stress.As I close out the year, I wanted to give you a gift. Instead of another tip or hack, I'm sharing the patterns and lessons I saw come up again and again in my client sessions this year.These are lessons learned in the midst of busy lives and chances are, you'll recognize yourself in at least one of them.In this episode, I break down six of the biggest takeaways that helped my clients transform their marriage in 2025.If you feel stuck in the same cycles or unsure what to focus on next in your marriage, this episode will help you zoom out, reflect, and choose a more intentional path forward.Resources mentioned:Download the Marriage 360 Review to gain clarity on what areas to focus on in your marriageBook a Clarity Call if you want support for your marriageThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!There's a quiet grief many parents carry that no one really prepares you for.You're still raising kids. You're still managing a marriage, a home, and work.And suddenly, you notice your parents slowing down.In this episode, I am joined by life coach and mom of three, Christine Anastasia, for a raw, honest conversation about anticipatory grief—the emotional weight of knowing loss is coming, even when it hasn't happened yet.Together, we unpack:-What anticipatory grief actually is and why it hits so hard in this stage of life- Why watching your parents age can bring sadness, anxiety, guilt, or emotional numbness- How grief, caregiving, and burnout quietly take up mental and emotional real estate- The impact this season has on marriage and partnership- Why “pushing through” makes everything heavier- How to care for yourself without guilt when life already feels like too muchThis episode is especially for parents who feel stretched thin, emotionally overloaded, and unsure how to hold everything without losing themselves.Connect with Christine:Website: https://christineanastasia.com/IG: https://www.instagram.com/villagecoachmammaLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christineanastasiaYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCATfcyjf4cCXMynxmfeZs_wThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!As the year comes to a close, it's easy to start mentally grading your marriage. You notice other couples at holiday gatherings. You scroll past smiling family photos online. And before you know it, comparison creeps in.In this episode, I break down why comparison is so damaging to your relationship—and what actually helps instead.You'll learn:- What comparing sounds like in your marriage- How comparing your marriage keeps you stuck instead of helping you grow- Why your marriage should be viewed in seasons, not years- The difference between judgment and curiosity in conflict and connection- How reflection—not comparison—creates clarity and forward momentum- A practical way to assess what's working, what feels hard, and what needs attentionThis episode is for you if:- You've been feeling disconnected or “behind” compared to other couples - The holidays have amplified frustration or self-doubt about your relationship- You want to start the new year with clarity instead of shame- You're craving partnership, direction, and a shared focus moving forwardResources & Next Steps:Download the Marriage 360 Review to reflect together and identify what matters most right nowBook a Clarity Call if you want support for your marriageThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Invisible labor has a well-known phrase amongst modern women and unfortunately, it's a new concept to a lot of their partners. One that has been challenging to explain and change.This episode is a special treat because for the first time ever, I interviewed a man for the show! When it comes to invisible labor, I thought it would be so valuable to hear from the male's perspective since the female narrative is so often shared. So in this episode, I am joined by Zach Watson, an Invisible Labor Coach for Men.If you've ever felt like you're carrying the weight of the household, the decisions, the logistics, and the emotions on your own… this conversation is a must listen!In this episode, we talk about:- What invisible labor actually is- Why so many men don't see it- How men can step up without needing to be told what to do- The phrase "weaponized incompetence"- How to move away from "just tell me what to do"If you've been waiting for an episode you can forward to your husband that won't shut him down — this is the one.Connect with Zach:IG: @zachmentalloadcoachMental Load 101 PDF: Guide for husbands to quickly understand and implement strategies and for women to improve convo starters to talk about itThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Bringing up something that's bothering you doesn't have to turn into a fight.Most couples assume arguments are inevitable after you get married — but the truth is, arguing is actually a choice. It's conflict that is inevitable.In this episode, I break down a real example from her own marriage: a stressful morning routine, growing frustration, and how I stopped myself from slipping into an old cycle of reactive communication that would have led straight to an argument. You'll hear the exact process I used to reflect, process what was really going on underneath the frustration, and bring it to my husband in a way that actually strengthened our partnership (and saved us from arguing).Inside this episode, you'll learn:- The common mistake most women make when they bring up issues (and why it backfires)- What happens in your partner's brain when you bring something up reactively- How tone, timing, and nervous system regulation determine whether you get connection or defensiveness- The self-coaching questions I used to get clarity before engaging- Why urgency is usually a trauma response, not a relationship necessity- How to choose an approach that preserves partnership instead of triggering survival mode- A real-time play-by-play of how Michelle navigated a morning routine conflict with emotional maturityIf you're tired of feeling unheard, if conversations escalate quickly, or if you keep looping in the same cycle of “I try to bring things up but he gets defensive,” this episode is your roadmap to a better way.Most couples don't struggle because they have problems. They struggle because of how they talk about them. Let's change that.For starters, grab my Conflict to Connection Guide.If you'd like to take it a step further, book a clarity call with me so we can talk about how marriage coaching can help you!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!The holidays are meant to be enjoyed, but what if you have health goals? Being around tempting food and having more to do can make it challenging to stick to those goals.In this episode, I'm joined by health and wellness coach Tess Cheng to talk about how you can take care of your body during the busiest, most chaotic season of the year without guilt, shame, or unrealistic expectations.We cover the real challenges parents face—school breaks, disrupted routines, holiday parties, family commitments—and how all of that impacts sleep, stress, eating habits, and emotional capacity.Inside this conversation, you'll learn:Why holiday overwhelm makes healthy habits feel impossibleThe mindset shift that helps you stop feeling guilty about holiday foodsHow to build a stronger mind–body connection so you can make intentional choicesThe simplest way to stay active even when you're stuck indoors with kidsWhy sleep should be one of your top priorities (and how to protect it)What “light dinners” actually mean and why they matterHow to stay grounded when you're overstimulated, overscheduled, and overtiredPractical ways to recognize how food affects your energy, mood, and clarityThis episode is especially helpful if you're tired of feeling stretched thin during the holidays and want to feel more connected—to your body, your family, and yourself.Connect with Tess!https://glowithtess.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tess-cheng-mshttps://www.instagram.com/glowithtess/https://www.facebook.com/GlowithtessThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Struggling with anger in your marriage? Feeling overwhelmed, resentful, or questioning whether you even want to stay? You're not alone — and your anger may be telling you something important, but not in the way you think. In this episode, I break down what really happens in your brain during anger, why it narrows your perspective, and how to bring clarity back into your relationship before making big decisions.You'll learn:Why anger is a secondary emotion and what's really underneath itHow your brain hijacks your perception and amplifies the negativeA powerful question to help you regain perspectiveThe three choices you have when facing recurring frustrationsHow to tell the difference between fixable issues and deal-breakersWhen it's time to get support from a marriage coachWhy many couples separate over issues that are actually solvable with the right toolsIf you're feeling stuck in resentment, emotionally checked out, or unsure whether your frustrations are temporary or permanent, this episode will help you slow down, zoom out, and reconnect to the full picture of your marriage — not just the parts your anger highlights.Looking for clarity and support as you navigate this season? Book a free Clarity Call to understand what's happening, what you want, and what working together can look like.Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Kids today aren't struggling because they're “lazy,” “dramatic,” or “entitled.” They're struggling because the world they're growing up in is fundamentally different — and their mental health is reflecting that.In this powerful conversation, therapist Keri Cooper breaks down the real reasons kids are lacking grit and resilience — and what parents can shift today to better support their emotional health.We explore how conveniences, screens, gaming, overstimulation, permissive parenting, and constant adult intervention have unintentionally robbed kids of the experiences they need to grow into resilient, capable, grounded humans.Connect with Keri:Website: https://kericooperholistictherapy.com/ IG: @kericooperholistictherapy @sleepsolutionsbykeriGrab her book, Mental Health Uncensored: 10 Foundations Every Parent Needs To Know here!Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!The Power of Gratitude in MarriageGratitude isn't just about saying “thank you” when things go right—it's a powerful way to deepen connection, reduce defensiveness, and strengthen teamwork in your relationship. In this short and heartfelt Thanksgiving episode, Michelle shares how practicing gratitude can transform your marriage, especially during stressful seasons like the holidays.You'll learn:What gratitude really means (and what it's not)Why expressing appreciation lowers defensiveness and builds connectionHow gratitude helps couples repair faster after conflictSimple daily gratitude practices that bring you and your partner closerWhat to do if gratitude feels hard right nowIf you've been struggling to feel grateful because resentment or disconnection have taken root, this episode will help you start shifting your energy toward healing and reconnection.Resources mentioned:Conflict to Connection Guide – Gain clarity so you can confidently communicate your needsBook a Clarity Call – Get personalized support to restore connection and improve communication in your marriageThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!The truth is—most modern women aren't just working one shift. They're working five.Between managing households, raising kids, and keeping marriages afloat, it's no wonder women are exhausted. In this episode, I share what the shifts are and I break down the concept of The Fifth Shift—the invisible labor of maintaining the health and connection of a marriage—and why it's time to stop carrying it alone.You'll learn:What the five “shifts” of modern motherhood and marriage actually areWhy the fifth shift (managing your marriage) often falls on womenHow outdated conditioning still shapes relational imbalance todayWhy partnership isn't about being 50/50—it's about awareness, capacity, and collaborationPractical examples of how to rebalance responsibilities at home and in your marriageYou'll walk away feeling seen, validated, and empowered to start creating more balance—without guilt or resentment.If you're ready to identify what needs to shift in your relationship so you can feel supported again, grab the Marriage 360 Review. It'll help you assess your relationship, spot the imbalance, and open the door to real change.Thanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!When breastfeeding isn't working the way you imagined—it's not your fault.In this episode, I am joined by Shari Stamps, an integrative wellness practitioner and mom of six, to talk about what really happens when feeding your baby doesn't go as planned—especially when oral ties are involved.We dive into the emotional and physical challenges of postpartum feeding, how to spot red flags, and why so many moms feel dismissed or unsupported when they know something's not right.Shari breaks down what oral ties actually are, why they're often missed by professionals, and how a holistic care team (including lactation consultants, craniosacral therapists, and pediatric specialists) can help. She also shares how parents can regulate themselves, connect with their baby, and move through this season with more confidence and peace.If you've ever felt like you were failing because feeding wasn't “natural” or “easy,” this episode will remind you—you're not alone, and it's not your fault.In this episode, you'll learn:What oral ties are and how they affect feedingSigns your baby may be struggling beyond a “bad latch”Why holistic support is essential for both mom and babyHow to self-soothe and stay grounded when feeding challenges feel overwhelmingThe role your partner can play in emotional and physical supportMentioned in this episode:Shari's toolkit: Your Baby's Tie Care BestieConnect with Shari:Website: https://www.navigatingparenthood.com/IG: @navigatingparenthoodPodcast: Navigating ParenthoodThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!Support the show