Podcasts about Ken Howard

In Part 2 of Five Love Languages Reimagined for Gay Men, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explores why receiving gifts and physical touch can mean far more than they seem. Gifts may communicate that your partner stayed in your mind; touch can offer comfort, safety, and belonging without needing to lead to sex. Ken connects these everyday moments to attachment, the histories gay men bring into relationships, and a central question for couples: does the way I'm loving you actually feel like love to you?

The five love languages can be useful—but for gay men, they often carry deeper psychological meaning. In Part 1 of this two-part episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, reimagines the familiar framework through the lived experiences of gay men. He explores why words of affirmation can be about being seen, why acts of service can become a way of earning closeness, and why quality time is less about hours together than genuine emotional presence. The deeper question is not simply how we express love. It's why certain expressions of love make our nervous system feel safe, valued, and connected. Part 2 will cover receiving gifts, physical touch, and the attachment psychology beneath the five love languages.

RMR 0373: Special Guest, Michelle Devorah Kahn, joins your hosts, Bryan Frye, and Russell Guest for the Retro Movie Roundtable as they revisit 1776 (1972) [PG] Genre: Musical, History, Drama, Period Piece   Starring: William Daniels, David Ford, Ken Howard, Ron Holgate, Howard da Silva, Donald Madden, Emory Bass, John Cullum, Jonathan Moore, Roy Poole, Howard Caine, John Myhers, Rex Robbins, William Hansen, Ray Middleton, Leo Leyden, James Noble, Charles Rule, Patrick Hines, Daniel Keyes, Blythe Danner, Virginia Vestoff, Ralston Hill, William Duell   Directed by: Peter H. Hunt Recorded on 2026-05-28

They discuss a bill introduced by the Senate that would change how birthright citizenship is defined in the U.S. Ken and Howard break down the Citizenship Act of 2026, which includes language about people entering the country without authorization or for birth tourism purposes, and talk about the chances of the bill passing and what it could mean for birthright citizenship.

They discuss a bill introduced by the Senate that would change how birthright citizenship is defined in the U.S. Ken and Howard break down the Citizenship Act of 2026, which includes language about people entering the country without authorization or for birth tourism purposes, and talk about the chances of the bill passing and what it could mean for birthright citizenship.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many successful gay men appear to have everything: thriving careers, financial security, meaningful accomplishments, and lives that others admire. Yet beneath that success, many quietly wonder whether they are truly lovable—or simply valued for what they achieve. In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores why professional success often fails to create emotional security. Drawing on more than 34 years of working with gay men, he explains how childhood experiences of monitoring ourselves, adapting to others' expectations, and earning acceptance can lead to a lifelong belief that love must be continually earned through performance. Topics include: Why success and emotional security are not the same The difference between admiration and genuine intimacy How childhood adaptation becomes adult achievement Why many high-achieving gay men still fear rejection The hidden cost of always appearing strong and capable How emotional visibility creates deeper relationships Why vulnerability—not perfection—is what builds lasting intimacy If you've ever felt admired but not truly known, accomplished but still insecure, or worried that people would lose interest if you stopped performing, this episode offers a compassionate psychological framework for understanding why—and how genuine emotional security can begin to grow.

Art created by Ken Howard during the Troubles shows the power of images to control the conflict narrative and conceal the reality of war.

Have you ever opened Instagram only to discover your friends got together without you? Within seconds, your mind may begin asking painful questions: Did they forget me? Did they not want me there? What's wrong with me? In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores why social exclusion hurts so deeply—and why the real wound often isn't the missed invitation itself, but the meaning we attach to it. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience working with gay men, Ken explains how childhood experiences of feeling different, monitoring ourselves, and searching for acceptance can shape our adult friendships, social lives, and sense of belonging. Topics include: Why being left out feels so painful The difference between facts and assumptions Why social media amplifies feelings of exclusion Why many gay men are waiting to be chosen instead of building connection The difference between friendship and validation How to stop organizing your self-worth around other people's invitations What genuine belonging actually looks like If you've ever wondered why a missed dinner, party, or group trip feels so much bigger than it "should," this episode offers a compassionate psychological framework for understanding what's really happening—and how to build relationships where you no longer have to wonder whether you belong.

Many gay men believe their struggles stem from anxiety, loneliness, dating frustrations, low self-esteem, or difficult relationships. But underneath many of these challenges lies a quieter and often overlooked pattern: self-abandonment. In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores how gay men learn to disconnect from their feelings, needs, boundaries, anger, instincts, and even their dignity in order to preserve connection, approval, desirability, or emotional safety. Drawing from more than 30 years of clinical work, Ken explains how childhood experiences of conditional acceptance, invisibility, bullying, and self-monitoring can evolve into adult patterns of self-suppression that quietly erode self-respect and intimacy. Topics include: What self-abandonment actually is Why many gay men learn to prioritize acceptance over authenticity How self-abandonment masquerades as maturity, patience, and understanding The hidden resentment created by chronic self-suppression Nine common forms of self-abandonment in everyday life How to set boundaries without guilt The difference between healthy compromise and self-betrayal Why authentic relationships require self-respect If you've ever found yourself laughing off hurt feelings, staying too long in one-sided relationships, over-explaining your boundaries, suppressing your anger, or making yourself smaller to keep the peace, this episode offers a framework for understanding what's happening—and how to begin reconnecting with yourself.

Why does Donald Trump continue to inspire such fierce loyalty among millions of Americans? In this special episode of the Gay Therapy LA Podcast, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, steps outside his usual focus on gay men's mental health to examine a broader psychological question: what emotional needs does authoritarian communication fulfill? Drawing on more than three decades as a psychotherapist, Ken explores why certainty can feel more persuasive than complexity during periods of rapid social change, economic anxiety, and cultural uncertainty. He discusses how fear seeks emotional containment, why simple narratives can outperform nuanced explanations, and why people often respond to emotional regulation as much as they do to policy. Rather than debating politics, this episode examines the psychology that makes authoritarian messaging so compelling—and why understanding these emotional dynamics may be one of the best protections against manipulation. If you've ever wondered why facts alone often fail to change minds, or why confident leaders can inspire devotion despite contradictions, this episode offers a psychological framework for understanding one of the defining political phenomena of our time.

Why can't I stay hard anymore? Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores the real causes of erectile dysfunction in gay men—and what actually helps beyond pills, panic, and self-criticism.

Many successful gay male professionals reach a point where something doesn't quite add up. Your career works. You're capable, driven, and functioning at a high level. And yet, something still feels off—especially in relationships, connection, or your sense of ease outside of work. In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explores why this happens—and why insight alone isn't enough to change it. He breaks down: the hidden "second layer" of stress many gay men carry in professional environments how career demands shape emotional patterns, relationships, and identity why high-functioning men can stay stuck despite strong self-awareness and what actually creates meaningful, lasting change This is not about burnout or failure. It's about understanding why success in one area of life doesn't automatically translate into fulfillment in another—and what to do differently if you want that to change.

In Part 1 of this series, we explored why insight alone isn't enough to create real change in gay men's lives — even for those who are highly self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and deeply reflective. So what actually does work? In Part 2, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, moves beyond theory and into real-world application. This episode focuses on the practical side of personal growth: how to translate insight into concrete, repeatable behaviors that lead to meaningful change. Instead of trying to "fix everything," Ken introduces a more realistic and effective approach — replacing old patterns with small, intentional actions that build over time. This episode explores: Why change requires replacement, not just awareness How to interrupt emotional and behavioral loops in real time The role of structure, delay, and intentional choice in breaking compulsive patterns Why "partial wins" matter more than perfection How to reduce isolation through small, manageable social actions The difference between motivation and movement How self-respect is built through behavior, not just mindset Ken also walks through specific, real-life examples of how to replace common patterns, including: compulsive app use → meaningful connection urgency and impulsivity → structure and delay emotional numbing → purposeful action self-criticism → self-respect through follow-through isolation → low-pressure social engagement If you've ever felt like you know what's going on in your life — but still struggle to change it — this episode offers a clear and grounded path forward. Because at a certain point, growth isn't about understanding more. It's about living differently.

Many gay men already understand themselves surprisingly well. They've read the books, listened to the podcasts, explored their childhood patterns, and can explain their shame, anxiety, trauma, or relationship struggles in detail. So why do so many still feel stuck? In Part 1 of this two-part series, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores one of the biggest limitations of insight-based personal growth: understanding yourself does not automatically change your life. Drawing from more than 34 years of work with gay men, Ken explains why insight alone often turns into rumination instead of transformation — and why lasting change requires behavioral shifts, emotional regulation, structure, repetition, and real-world action. This episode explores: Why books like The Velvet Rage and The Body Keeps the Score are helpful — but incomplete on their own The repeating emotional-behavioral loops many gay men experience Why shame and trauma frameworks can unintentionally keep people stuck The difference between awareness and behavioral change How gay men can begin replacing compulsive or self-defeating patterns with healthier alternatives Why "partial wins" matter more than perfection How therapy and coaching can help translate insight into real-life change Ken also offers practical examples of replacement behaviors for: compulsive app use emotional numbing self-criticism isolation urgency and impulsivity all-or-nothing thinking If you've ever thought: "I understand why I do this… but I still keep doing it," this episode is for you. Part 2 will continue the conversation by exploring additional behavioral replacements and strategies for handling the everyday stressors many gay men face.

Why does it feel so hard to build real friendships as a gay man in adulthood? You meet people. You have good conversations. There's even mutual interest. But somehow, nothing turns into something consistent or meaningful. In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explains why this isn't about a lack of effort—it's about a lack of structure. He breaks down: why modern gay social life often prevents friendships from forming the subtle patterns that stop connections from developing and what actually creates real, lasting friendships over time This is a practical, grounded look at how connection really works—and what to do differently if you want your social life to feel more stable, consistent, and real. Work with Ken: https://gaytherapyla.com/individual-therapy-and-counseling-gay-men/ https://gaytherapyla.com/services-offered/gay-men-online-counseling-coaching/

What happens when a routine workplace situation suddenly turns into a formal concern—or worse, an accusation? Many successful gay men are finding themselves navigating high-stakes anxiety around reputation, HR processes, and professional risk. In this episode, Ken Howard explores the psychological impact of these situations and how to stay grounded, think clearly, and respond strategically under pressure.

What happens when gay couples mix love and business? Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, examines how gay men sharing a business can intensify power struggles, communication issues, and sexual disconnection.

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explores why many gay men experience a shift in ambition after 40—and why it's not burnout, but a natural developmental transition. He explains what's changing psychologically and how to navigate this stage with clarity and purpose.

Why do many successful gay men feel unsettled in midlife? In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, long-term specialist in therapy for gay men, explains how midlife restlessness is often a normal developmental transition — bringing new questions about meaning, relationships, sexuality, and purpose — and how it can become a powerful opportunity for growth and reinvention.

Breakups can feel emotionally destabilizing—especially in the immediate aftermath, when routines collapse and emotions swing unpredictably. In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST shares practical, therapist-informed coping strategies specifically for gay men navigating the first difficult weeks after a relationship ends. Learn how to calm the nervous system, manage emotional triggers, and begin stabilizing after loss so healing can gradually take hold.

Many gay men feel persistently on edge in today's prolonged climate of political and social uncertainty. In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explores how chronic stress affects the nervous system—and what actually helps gay men stay grounded, clear, and emotionally steady when reassurance isn't enough.

Struggling with ED issues and want practical tips that actually help—not vague advice or just "take a pill"? In this episode, gay men's sex therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST shares clear, experience-based strategies for coping with ED, reducing performance anxiety, and staying sexually confident. Learn what makes ED worse, what helps immediately, and how to stop panic, self-monitoring, and pressure from killing arousal.

Experienced specialist gay therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, examines neurodivergence, autism spectrum, dating, and intimacy in gay men, offering practical guidance for neurodivergent men and their partners.

Careers don't develop all at once — they unfold through psychological phases across the lifespan. And for gay men, that path often looks very different from the one straight men inherit. In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, maps the developmental stages of a gay man's career — from early achievement and identity formation, through ambition, visibility, and midlife reassessment, to senior authority, retirement, and legacy. Drawing on Erik Erikson's lifespan psychology and over 30 years of clinical experience, he explores why many gay men tie self-worth to performance, use work as a substitute for belonging, and experience midlife not as a crisis, but as a psychological review. If you've ever felt behind, over-identified with your career, or unsure what your next chapter is supposed to be, this episode offers a developmental lens that replaces shame with context — and confusion with clarity.

A gay therapist, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, examines the Heated Rivalry phenomenon—exploring why gay romance has gone mainstream, where visibility becomes fetishization, and what this cultural moment really means for gay men's identity, safety, and mental health.

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, gay men's specialist therapist, discusses the new movie, "Wicked: For Good" and its implications for gay men, in themes about silencing political voices, seeing things for what they are, and how to stay resilient during Trump 2.0 America.  

Many gay men fear psychiatric meds. Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explains how the right medication can restore—not change—who you are, separating facts from stigma and myths about treatment and mental health.

Mid-life gay men still use apps like Grindr or Scruff; not just for sex, but for social connection, validation, and visibility.  Gay therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explores desire, aging, open relationships, and how to use apps with intention instead of compulsion.

“Post-nut clarity” isn't just a meme — it reflects real neurobiological and psychological shifts that affect how gay men experience sex, emotion, and judgment. Gay men's specialist psychotherapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explores this normal post-orgasmic process through the lens of CBT, psychodynamic theory, and the Six Principles of Sexual Health, showing how self-awareness can turn confusion or shame into sexual self-empowerment and integrity.

Why do gay men joke that “the Navy's the gayest branch” or “all Marines are bottoms”? In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores how these myths reflect cultural anxieties about masculinity, sexuality, and belonging. Through the Six Principles of Sexual Health and 30+ years of clinical experience, Ken examines how humor, fantasy, and identity intersect—and how gay men can move from stereotype to sexual self-empowerment.

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores how Yom Kippur's themes of reflection, apology, forgiveness, and renewal resonate for gay men. A secular take on the Jewish Day of Atonement, this episode invites you to let go of shame, repair relationships, and embrace bold renewal.

Too often, gay men trade in “toxic currencies” like attention, sex, money, status, drama, and jealousy. They feel powerful in the moment but drain us over time. In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, shares what healthier currencies look like — and how to build a richer, more grounded life.

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, unpacks the political whiplash from Obama to Trump and its impact on gay men's mental health—exploring minority stress, cultural backlash, and strategies for resilience in a divided America.

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explains why lasting trauma recovery for gay men comes from evidence-based approaches like CBT and Narrative Therapy—not trendy quick fixes. Learn how to move beyond shame, grief, and rejection toward resilience and authentic connection.

Some therapists claim to be “welcoming to all” while secretly holding non-affirming values about LGBTQ+ identity and gay men's issues such as sexuality. In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, exposes the harm, ethical breaches, and red flags of non-affirming therapy — and shows clients and parents how to spot it before it causes damage.

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores “The Cinderella Syndrome” in gay men—the rise from rejection to confidence, and what happens when the glow-up fades. From body image to aging, learn how to build lasting self-worth, stay empowered, and thrive beyond appearances. Real talk, real tools, real growth.

Losing a partner is devastating—especially for gay men, whose grief is often marginalized. In this episode, gay men's specialist psychotherapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores the emotional journey of gay widowers, including AIDS-era losses, the five stages of grief, coping strategies, and how therapy or coaching can help. Whether you're grieving or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers healing and hope.

Aging as a gay man can feel like becoming invisible—but it doesn't have to. In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, shares insights from 30+ years of helping gay men reclaim sexual confidence, confront ageism, and embrace desire at any age. It's time to get real about erotic aging—and radically refuse to disappear.

What holds us back from achieving our full potential? In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explores the unconscious barriers many gay men face—like self-doubt, fear of success, cultural pressure to stay small, and toxic professional competition. With insights from 30+ years of clinical practice, he shares empowering strategies from cognitive and positive psychology to help move past internalized limitations and build a life aligned with your true goals.

Discover how the Big Five OCEAN personality traits—Openness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism—can help gay men improve relationships, communication, and self-understanding, with insights from therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST.  

Tired of flashy social media gurus? In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, breaks down the difference between pop psych soundbites and real therapy that heals—especially for gay men seeking depth, substance, and actual growth.

In this episode, Ken explores how gay men can reclaim positive masculinity—balancing strength, emotional intelligence, and authenticity amid today's political and cultural battles. Learn how evolving healthy masculinity empowers gay men personally, professionally, and within our larger society.

Edie, get some ice cream! We're celebrating 2009's “Grey Gardens” with that fine HBO polish, impeccable prosthetics, a sweeping score, the wild range of Jessica Lange and Drew Barrymore working harder than anyone to bring Little Edie Beale to life in all her glory, misery and resilience. Jeanne Tripplehorn's Jackie O, Malcolm Gets's Gould and Ken Howard's Phelan Beale, to say nothing of those Maysles and that Baldwin, buoy the Beales through a thoroughly quotable, heartbreaking and hilarious rise to cult stardom. Join us for The Best Supporting Aftershow and early access to main episodes on Patreon: www.patreon.com/bsapod Email: thebsapod@gmail.com Instagram: @bsapod Colin Drucker - Instagram: @colindrucker_ Nick Kochanov - Instagram: @nickkochanov

Gay men's specialist psychotherapist and coach Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, breaks down Jack Canfield's The Success Principles through a queer lens, showing how its life-changing tools can help gay men overcome internalized shame, build self-worth, and boldly pursue their goals.  Ken shares practical, affirming insights inspired by Canfield's book to help you design the life you truly want.

“This movie takes its time, like an old man getting into a bathtub.” - Eric On this week's episode, this one's a long time coming as Chris Cabin gets his wish and we chat about David Dobkin's The Judge! Was a comedy director right for this project? Was this script right for this project? How great is Vincent D'Onofrio in literally anything, including this? What's with that lame waterfall back drop at the diner? And couldn't we have skipped that bathroom scene? PLUS: Look out for The Judge 2: The Appeal! The Judge stars Robert Downey Jr., Robert Duvall, Vera Farmiga, Billy Bob Thornton, Vincent D'Onofrio, Jeremy Strong, Dax Shepard, Ken Howard, Emma Tremblay, Balthazar Getty, David Krumholtz, Grace Zabriskie, Denis O'Hare, and Leighton Meester as Carla; directed by David Dobkin. This episode is brought to you in part by Rocket Money! Cancel your unwanted subscriptions and reach your financial goals faster with Rocket Money. Go to RocketMoney dot com slash WHM today. And also in part by Huel! New customers visit Huel.com SLASH WHM today and use our code WHM to get 15% off your first order plus a Free Gift! Tickets are on sale now for our three-night residency during the Oxford Comedy Festival! We'll be doing six shows over three nights from July 18 through 20, doing shows like WHM, W❤️M, The Nexus, The Gleep Glossary, and Animation Damnation! Tickets are going fast, so friends over there, snag your tix!  Throughout 2025, we'll be donating 100% of our earnings from our merch shop to the Center for Reproductive Rights. So head over and check out all these masterful designs and see what tickles your fancy! Shirts? Phone cases? Canvas prints? We got all that and more! Check it out and kick in for a good cause! Original cover art by Felipe Sobreiro.

GayTherapyLA Podcast producer, Austen Weinhart, interviews host Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, on the history of Gay Men's Therapy and his own career path over 30 years as a gay men's specialist therapist, coach, sex therapist, author, and activisit. 

Gay men's specialist therapist and life coach Ken Howard, LCSW, CST discusses the new musical movie, "Wicked," and the lessons gay men can learn from its themes, characters, and songs. 

In Episode 70 we are joined by Ken Howard for the sixth episode of "An Outdoorsman's 7 Wonders of MN" Series. Ken is the Director of the Minnesota Trappers Association District 6 and is a dedicated and experienced trapper who has trapped multiple species along the Mississippi River. The Mississippi River is one of MN's greatest resources with year round opportunities to trap, hunt, and fish.

Jessica's vacation to Honolulu becomes chaotic when the son of her host vanishes during a hotly contested U.S. Senate election.This episode can be streamed on Peacock.Guest Stars include:1. Ken Howard (30 Rock) as Matt Kinkaid2. Nina Foch (The Ten Commandments) as Rebecca Kinkaid3. Ted Henning (Port Charles) as Jeff Kinkaid4. Robert Duncan McNeill (Star Trek: Voyager) as Danny Kinkaid5. Tamlyn Tomita (The Day After Tomorrow) as Detective Sharon Matsumoto6. Tom Hallick (Days of Our Lives) as D.A. Randall Thompson7. Ata Scanlan (Tank Girl) as Ben Kamaka8. David Tress (Missing in Action) as Martin Osborn9. Steve Park (Fargo) as Joe Yoshanaga10. Gretchen German (Will & Grace) as Liz Dougherty11. Marty Rackham (Seinfeld) as Boone Aldridge12. James F. Kelly (Dark Skies) as Brett ReynoldsThe IMDb page can be found here: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0653500/

Based on his 32 years as a gay men's specialist psychotherapist, sex therapist, and coach, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST gives 21 tips for gay men and how to recover from a breakup.