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GayTherapyLA is a private practice for psychotherapy and coaching services, with Ken Howard, LCSW, as its founder and director, with over 27 years experience providing services for gay men, as individuals and couples, with offices in Los Angeles and serving others nationwide in the U.S. or guys all…

Ken Howard, LCSW


    • May 24, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
    • every other week NEW EPISODES
    • 30m AVG DURATION
    • 175 EPISODES

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    The Gay Therapy LA with Ken Howard, LCSW podcast is an incredible resource that I cannot recommend enough. As a gay male, I have found immense value in listening to every single episode and eagerly anticipate the release of new ones. Ken Howard's wealth of knowledge and advice has truly been life-changing for me.

    One of the best aspects of this podcast is the vast amount of information and guidance that Ken provides. Whether it's dealing with trauma, relationships, self-acceptance, or navigating the challenges specific to being gay, there is something in every episode that resonates deeply with me. Ken's expertise allows him to address these topics in a way that is not only insightful but also relatable. His ability to provide valuable advice and support has made a significant impact on my personal growth.

    Additionally, as someone living in Los Angeles, I appreciate how much I can relate to the content discussed on the podcast. Ken often incorporates experiences and issues that are unique to this city into his episodes. This relatability makes the podcast even more meaningful for me as a listener.

    While it's difficult to find any drawbacks to The Gay Therapy LA with Ken Howard, LCSW podcast, one thing that could potentially be improved upon is the frequency of new episodes. As an avid listener, I always crave more content from Ken. However, I understand that creating high-quality episodes takes time and effort.

    In conclusion, The Gay Therapy LA with Ken Howard, LCSW podcast is a must-listen for anyone looking for valuable insights and guidance on various aspects of life as a gay male. Ken's expertise and relatability make each episode incredibly informative and impactful. Despite its infrequency in releasing new episodes, this podcast remains an invaluable resource for personal growth and understanding within the LGBTQ+ community.



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    Latest episodes from Gay Therapy LA with Ken Howard, LCSW

    Flash vs. Substance: Pop Psychology Gurus vs. Real Clinicians

    Play Episode Listen Later May 24, 2025 24:22


    Tired of flashy social media gurus? In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, breaks down the difference between pop psych soundbites and real therapy that heals—especially for gay men seeking depth, substance, and actual growth.

    Gay Men and Coping with the Forms of Betrayal

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2025 34:02


    In this episode, I explore the many ways gay men experience betrayal—in relationships, friendships, family, and professional life—and how we can heal from these wounds with clarity and strength. If betrayal has touched your life, listen in and consider therapy or coaching with me to reclaim your peace of mind and restore trust in yourself and others.

    Positive Masculinity for Gay Men in a Changing World

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2025 25:24


    In this episode, Ken explores how gay men can reclaim positive masculinity—balancing strength, emotional intelligence, and authenticity amid today's political and cultural battles. Learn how evolving healthy masculinity empowers gay men personally, professionally, and within our larger society.

    The Success Principles for Gay Men: What We Can Learn from Jack Canfield

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2025 30:30


    Gay men's specialist psychotherapist and coach Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, breaks down Jack Canfield's The Success Principles through a queer lens, showing how its life-changing tools can help gay men overcome internalized shame, build self-worth, and boldly pursue their goals.  Ken shares practical, affirming insights inspired by Canfield's book to help you design the life you truly want.

    White Lotus and Gay Men's Fantasies - The Teasing Taboo of Pop Culture

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2025 14:59


    Therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores The White Lotus Season 3's buzzed-about gay incest story line, why taboo fantasies intrigue gay men, and how pop culture stirs both desire and discomfort. A candid look at erotic imagination, psychological nuance, and separating fantasy from reality.

    The Healthcare Hustle: What Gay Men Need to Know

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2025 60:33


    Navigating healthcare as a gay man isn't just about checkups—it's about self-advocacy, access, and fighting systemic bias. In this episode, I break down the clinical, financial, cultural, and emotional barriers that make medical care more challenging for gay men, from dealing with dismissive doctors to securing PrEP, HIV treatment, or mental health support. If you've ever felt frustrated by insurance battles, medical gaslighting, or the stress of getting the care you need, let's talk about how therapy and coaching can help you take back control.  

    Legal Essentials for Gay Men: Protecting Your Future

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 27, 2025 56:00


    Too many gay men delay vital legal planning—until it's too late. In this episode, Ken covers key protections like wills, medical directives, and financial security to safeguard your relationship from a psychotherapist's perspective. Learn how to take charge now for a secure and empowered future!

    When You Know You're Ugly: A Guide for Gay Men Coping with Physical Unattractiveness

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2025 24:20


    In a society where "pretty privilege" often dictates social dynamics, many gay men confront the challenge of not fitting conventional beauty standards. In this frank episode, Ken delves into embracing one's identity beyond physical appearance, highlighting the power of charm, confidence, and kindness.  Listen in to discover strategies for building emotional resilience and redefining self-worth in a gay world that often prioritizes looks.

    Gay Men and Therapy Support for a Legal Case

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2025 34:11


    Ken discusses the often-overlooked role of therapy in supporting gay men through legal battles. From workplace discrimination to hate crimes, gay men can face legal challenges that demand both legal representation and emotional resilience. Therapy can prepare clients for high-stress situations like depositions and cross-examinations, build psychological stamina for long-term legal fights, and strengthen self-worth in the face of systemic bias. Therapy can be a crucial ally in your fight for fairness, empowerment, and self-advocacy.  

    Interview of Host Ken Howard, LCSW, CST on the History of Gay Men's Therapy and His Career

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2025 51:43


    GayTherapyLA Podcast producer, Austen Weinhart, interviews host Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, on the history of Gay Men's Therapy and his own career path over 30 years as a gay men's specialist therapist, coach, sex therapist, author, and activisit. 

    Gay Executive Coaching and The Dark Side of Ambition: Navigating Toxic Competition in the Workplace

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 14, 2025 41:35


    This episode discusses the unique challenges gay men face in competitive professional environments. It explores how toxic competition, workplace biases, and generational tensions can undermine professional growth and mental health, and how executive coaching can foster resilience, authenticity, emotional intelligence, and leadership skills. 

    Gay Men and the Lessons Learned from 'Wicked'

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 7, 2025 44:38


    Gay men's specialist therapist and life coach Ken Howard, LCSW, CST discusses the new musical movie, "Wicked," and the lessons gay men can learn from its themes, characters, and songs. 

    Therapy, Coaching, Psychiatry, and Medicine - Let's Stop the Misinformation, Shall We?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 14, 2024 51:47


    Ken exposes the myths around therapy, life coaching, psychiaty, and medicine, and how to understand and access these services. 

    Gay Men and Trump 2.0 - Coping with Anxiety

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 26, 2024 28:40


    Ken gives tips on how to cope with anxiety over the re-election of Trump and its implications for LGBT+ and gay rights, discussed in an historical context of the re-election of George W. Bush in 2004, and how to critically examine sources of anxiety. 

    Gay Men as Caregivers for Aging Parents

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2024 19:43


    Ken gives tips when gay men act as caregivers for aging parents, discussing navigating family history, conflicts, work/life balance, emotional ambivalence, cultural issues, and how therapy or coaching can help you get through it. 

    Special Bonus Episode: In Defense of Hate: Understanding the Modern American Conservative

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2024 18:59


    In this re-reading of his November 2, 2016 blog article, Ken revisits an analysis of the Modern American Conservative, Republican/Trump Supporters, on the eve of the 2024 election, and how the 2016 warning is a lesson for today. 

    Gay Men and the Need for Attention: Healthy vs. Unhealthy Narcissism

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2024 34:00


    Ken discusses gay men and the need for attention; healthy vs. unhealthy narcissism; inclusion and exclusion from gay groups; and practical tips for meeting guys in gay social settings. 

    Managing Symptoms in Gay Men's Mental Health: A Path to Empowerment

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 15, 2024 39:24


    Ken teaches about the TFID (Type, Frequency, Intensity, Duration) model for managing mental health challenges for gay men such as depression, anxiety, and others, with practical exercises to bring symptom relief. 

    Netflix's “Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story” – Gay Psychotherapist on Healing for Gay Male Survivors of Sexual Trauma

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 23, 2024 50:42


    Ken discusses Netflix's "Monster: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story" and its themes of notoriety, abuse, and healing, and applies these in the context of gay male adult sexual trauma and abuse survivors. 

    Episode 155: Open Relationship and CNM Ground Rules: Who What When Where Why

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 20, 2024 21:04


    Ken provides education on how gay male relationships (couples or polycules) can establish ground rules agreements for Consensual Non-Monogamy using the Who What When Where Why structure. 

    Episode 154: Supporting Gay Men Leaving Religion: Reclaiming Your Identity with Secular Alternatives

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 4, 2024 34:25


    Ken teaches about supporting gay men leaving religion and reclaiming their identity with secular alternatives, free of religious abuse and embracing secular solace or an affirmative tradition that works for them. 

    Episode 153: How to Survive Election Season: Coping with Election Anxiety

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2024 55:57


    Ken gives tips and "modules" for coping with election anxiety in this 2024 election season, and how to cope with anxiety symptoms, increase self-empowerment, and practice compassionate self-support. 

    Episode 152: Gay Men and Internal Family Systems: The Different Parts of You

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2024 35:09


    Ken describes how IFS, Internal Family Systems, a model of evidence-based psychotherapy, can apply to gay men to help you integrate the different parts of you into a cohesive, confident sense of Self. 

    Episode 151: Gay Men's Dating: What Your Dates Aren't Telling You

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2024 33:01


    Ken gives tips for gay men's dating on what gay men complain about their dates to their therapist or their friends, and what to do about them. 

    Episode 150: Gay Men's Relationships: When You Want Kids and He Doesn't

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 11, 2024 32:21


    Ken gives guidance on how gay men in relationships can discuss whether to have kids, and their options for doing so. 

    Episode 149: Confronting Religious Moralism in Therapy for Gay Men

    Play Episode Listen Later May 21, 2024 71:20


    Ken discusses the subtle and insidious ways that religious moralism undermines professional mental health services delivery (psychotherapy) for the broader LGBTQ+ community and more specifically for gay men, and how to counter this. 

    Episode 148: How to Get Your Financial Life Together: A Guide for Gay Men

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2024 53:02


    Ken reviews the psychological, clinical dynamics of money management, planning aspects of your financial life, and how to talk to the people in your life to reduce financial anxiety and support long-term financial stability. 

    Episode 147: Gay Men and How to Recover from a Breakup

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2024 41:40


    Based on his 32 years as a gay men's specialist psychotherapist, sex therapist, and coach, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST gives 21 tips for gay men and how to recover from a breakup. 

    Episode 146: Gay Men and Starting Your Own Business

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 22, 2024 54:22


    Ken gives guidance on gay men and starting your own business, based on his own experience owning a business for over 25 years, and providing career/executive coaching to the Gay Male Solo Entpreneur, a preview of his upcoming e-course. 

    Episode 145: Gay Men and How to Be a Better Lover

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 12, 2024 36:29


    Ken gives thirteen tips for gay men on how to be a better lover, based on his thirty-year experience as a gay men's specialist therapist, coach, and sex therapist. 

    Episode 144: Gay Men and Wealth: Coping with Rewards and Challenges

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2024 62:12


    Gay therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, discusses gay men and wealth: rewards, challenges, how to cope with those challenges, and how to develop a social support network. 

    Episode 143: Seven Ways to Enhance a Gay Men's Relationship for Satisfaction and Longevity

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2024 32:32


    Gay therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST gives seven secret tips and recommendations for how gay male couples and polycules can enhance their relationship for both longevity and satisfaction. 

    Episode 142: Gay Men and the Emotional Benefits of Kink Play

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2024 40:44


    Ken describes the emotional benefits of kink play for gay men, with their implications for daily life and personal self-empowerment. 

    Episode 141: Gay Men and Gender Role Enforcement Rage

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 14, 2024 49:16


    Ken describes Gender Role Enforcement Rage: what it is, who is doing it, its harms, and what to do about it. 

    Gay Men, the Holiday Season, and the Five Senses

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 21, 2023 16:54


    Ken takes a Mindfulness look at how gay men can enjoy the Holiday Season with the five senses of sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch. 

    Episode 139: Gay Men and Santa Daddy

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2023 18:17


    Ken discusses gay men and "Santa Daddy," gay men's approaches to Santa Claus, inspired by the song, "Santa Baby," and inspiration for the holiday season. 

    Episode 138: Gay Men and How To Reach Your Full Potential

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 19, 2023 44:01


    Ken discusses the most common unconscious barriers gay men have to reaching their full potential from 30 years practicing therapy and coaching for gay men. 

    Episode 137: Gay Men and Spirituality: Reclaiming Your Rights

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 8, 2023 21:51


    Ken discusses how gay men can reclaim their right to spirituality even after abuse by religious institutions. 

    Episode 136: What Is Daily Mental Health for Gay Men?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2023 33:21


    Ken gives tips on how to start each day with a strong mental health to give inspiration and focus to meet our goals as gay men.  (To support the show, visit glow.fm/gaytherapylawithkenhowardlcswcst)

    Episode 135: Top 10 Reasons Gay Couples Break Up and How to Prevent Them

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 16, 2023 50:35


    Ken describes the Top 10 reasons gay male couples break up, as observed in over 30 years of practice as a gay specialist therapist, and offers a coping strategy to prevent each one. 

    Episode 134: The Gay Male Executive: Coaching for Success

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2023 45:36


    Ken describes his role offering Executive Coaching for gay men and its many purposes and functions. 

    Episode 133: Gay Men, Dating Challenges, and How to Cope with Them

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 24, 2023 53:29


    Ken reviews the most common complaints and challenges from single gay male clients in dating, and how to adaptively cope with each of them. 

    Episode 132: Lessons for Gay Men from the 'On the Boulevard' Musical

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2023 33:04


    Ken discusses lessons learned in writing his full-length, LGBT-themed musical play, "On the Boulevard," its concept album, and its themes for gay men's self-acceptance. 

    Episode 131: The Economics of Gay Male Relationships: Time, Energy, Money

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2023 30:32


    Ken gives tips for gay male relationships managing the economics of time, energy, money, convenience, space, control, and sex. 

    Episode 130: Gay Men and Knowing Your Sexual Self

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 18, 2023 34:01


    Gay men's specialist psychotherapist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and coach Ken Howard, LCSW, CST provides a self-reflection exercise to know your own sexuality in more depth; your background, hopes, fears, best, and worst experiences to re-empower your sexual self at every phase of life. 

    Episode 129: Correction Announcement for Audio File

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2023 0:28


    Ken announces that the audio file for "Episode 129: Gay Men and Superheroes as Role Models" has been corrected due to a previous incomplete audio file, and now listeners can enjoy the complete episode.   

    Episode 129: Gay Men and Superheroes as Role Models

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 28, 2023 41:23


    (NOTE: This episode was corrected from an earlier recording that was cut off early.) Ken discusses classic superhero characters from comics and movies, who they are, what they mean for gay men, and what we can learn from them. 

    Episode 128: Gay Men and Moving On in Life After Trauma

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2023 44:10


    Ken discusses traumatic experiences such as child abuse, illness, accidents, crime, and interpersonal betrayals and the long-term coping in life for each of these. 

    Episode 127: Balance and Reciprocity in Gay Men's Dating and Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later May 18, 2023 31:15


    Ken discusses areas of gay men's relationships that can feel out of balance, and how to re-establish fairness and equality in those areas for the long term. 

    Episode 126: Gay Men and Coping with Cheating

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2023 59:26


    Ken discusses some unusual and unique considerations for gay men when discovering a partner has "cheated" or broken an agreement, with tips on how to understand layers of nuances for healing. 

    Episode 125: Gay Men, Activism, and Social Conscience

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2023 38:37


    Ken discusses the history of LGBT civil rights activism and how we can all contribute in our own ways to the movement. 

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