HOW WE TALK ABOUT SEX hosted by Eric Leviton

My guest this week is Kerry Cohen, a psychologist and licensed therapist, specializing in sex and relationships. She is a prolific writer and we talk about her latest book, “Crazy For You: Breaking the Spell of Sex and Love Addiction.” We define what sex and love addiction is and is not; why this addiction is unique for women; Breaking the Spell; the essential process of self-awareness; emotional wounds; and The Four Foundations of continued self-growth.

My guest, Lee Jagger, is the CEO and founder of Rock The Bedroom — the only sex education community of its kind. She helps women be more confident, creative, and playful in the bedroom. It's her mission to normalize conversations around sexuality and make obligatory sex become a thing of the past. We talk about one thing that women get wrong about the penis; her 69 erotic massage techniques; her "7 Minutes In Heaven" morning routine; how Mother Teresa can teach us to show up as a compassionate lover; the one thing Dr. Ruth got wrong about sex; and why she gives a percentage of her sales to The Girl Power Project.

My guest is Brenda Marie Davies. She's here to talk about her book, "On Her Knees," which chronicles Brenda's spiritual journey over the course of a decade in LA, through marriage, divorce, unlikely friendship, and sexual exploration. We discuss sex education; purity culture; the definitions of being a Christian; surviving religious trauma; the Playboy Mansion; badass women from the bible; whether the word “arsenokoitai” means homosexual or not in the bible; the actual definition of a “biblical marriage;” hookup culture; #churchtoo; and a short talk about abortion, that probably should have been a lot longer.

My guest this week is Ella Dawson. Her TEDx talk about fighting herpes stigma has been viewed over 765,00 times. Today we talk about STI stigma; emotional abuse; slut shaming; mental health; disclosure conversations and much more. You can find Ella on twitter @brosandprose and join her Patreon page at patreon.com/brosandprose

My guest this week is Guy Blaise, author of “Vive la Difference: A Frenchman’s Perspective on American Women, Love, Respect, and Relationships” and “Love Like The French,” which comes out 4/22/21. The new book gives his unique perspective on sex for American women. We discuss the difference between sex and lovemaking; dick pix; ménage e trois; racism; PDA; and so much more. thefrenchperspective.com

My guest this week is Dr. Ina Park, a Medical Consultant for the Center for Disease Control and Prevention. She tackles a wide array of sexual health topics with empathy, humor, and inclusivity in her first book, "STRANGE BEDFELLOWS: Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs," which is out right now! There is SO much to talk about!

This is Cooper S. Beckett’s third time on the podcast! Since last we spoke he has written two queer horror novels, started a new podcast, The PikeCast, and gotten married in a hot tub…well, sort of. We discuss how the swinging community is dealing with the pandemic – Naughty in N’awlins; correlating herpes with Covid; personal freedom versus general welfare; depression and anxiety; the outgoing and incoming administrations; and how much he and his wife miss their girlfriend.

My guest this week is Crystal Byrd Farmer, the author of the book, The Token: Common Sense Ideas for Increasing Diversity in Your Organization. We discuss her book; the poly community and her involvement with blackandpoly.org; as well as coping with disability/autism and sex. crystalbyrdfarmer.com

My guest this week is Julie, a divorced mother of three teenage boys. We talk about her first exposure to sex at a rather young age; not finding true comfort in her body until 27; the sex talk with her boys; and then we get into dating and learning about new partners sexually.

Tea Hacic Vlahovic (TAY-UH HA-CHEECH VLA-HO-VEECH) has been a blogger, sex-columnist, TV host, and is now an acclaimed novelist. “Life of the Party” will be out in bookstores on June 2, 2020 but it’s already available as an e-book on Amazon right now. We cover many topics including moving to Milan at 19; sexual hypocrisy in Italy; dealing with abusive relationships; and how it’s never too late to be a teenage slut.

My guest this week is a returning guest from episode #69. The last time Natalie was on we talked about her experience of hosting sex toy parties, but this time we talk about her first experience going to a sex party. We also talk about dating during the time of Covid-19 and her new favorite sex toy. Enjoy!

Lanae St. John aka the MamaSutra, returns to the podcast with her book, “Read Me – A Parental Primer for The Talk.” We cover everything including the cover. Dr. St. John uses “The Five Building Blocks to a Healthy Sexuality” to ensure children and adults of all ages have the best resources, support, and skills to make good decisions and grow into a happy and fulfilling sex life.

My guest this week is Brooke Norton, a therapist who specializes in sexuality and relationships. She works with clients of all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship styles. Brooke feels that her best work is with clients who are dealing with anxiety about their bodies or their relationships. We talk about how she became a sex educator and therapist; her story while working in a dildo shop; desire discrepancy; sex re-education; and finally we talk about her book and different sexual styles. brookenorton.com ohmysensuality.com emilynagosaki.com

This episode is a conversation I had with a new friend, Olivia Osol, talking about the Intimacy Directing workshop we attended back on 10-13-19. This workshop was for directors, actors, and stage managers to learn about directing/coordinating intimate scenes on film, TV, and on stage. I felt like these were concepts that could just as well be used by anyone outside of entertainment too. So, instead of just talking about it myself, I asked Olivia to come onto the podcast so we could have a conversation about what we learned and how this would help in the real world as well. You can find Olivia's podcast "I Stream, You Stream" on iTunes

Kayla Kandy is my guest this week. She is a web-cam girl who also does porn on the side. She refers to herself as an "All-American country sweetie with class & kink." We discuss growing up as a blue girl in a red state; starting to do web-cam shows at 18; trying out porn for a week in Florida while still a virgin; and more.   @realKaylaKandy

Jaeleen Bennis, the creator of Bondassage®, which is an exploration of the senses comprised of light bondage, sensory deprivation, sensual massage and sensation play is our guest this week. “I thought that BDSM people who wanted more erotic touch were going to be the clientele…Not at all, the clients who come to us are mainly people who had done tantra or sensual massage, that kind of want to dip their toes into the kinky waters, but don’t want to go to a dominatrix because it’s too scary and it’s going to hurt.” www.bondassage.com

My guest, Ashley Manta, has become a sought-after authority on mindfully combining sex and cannabis as part of her CannaSexual® brand. As a professional sex and relationship coach, she helps people navigate these topics to make sure they are interacting, loving, and feeling their best in and out of the bedroom. We discuss surviving sexual trauma; how she used to be anti-cannabis; her work as rape crisis counselor and domestic violence crisis counselor; her “aha moment” using a cannabis arousal lube and so much more.

Since 2011, Anthony Asanti has been a straight Male Escort Companion and Sensual Warrior for the busy woman & couples who crave experiences that bring a sense of fulfillment. We talk about how he got into the business; what he deals with as a straight male escort; multiple male orgasm; and Bondassage. Enjoy. website anthonyasanti.com Twitter @anthonyasanti IG anthony.asanti

My guest this week is Vacation.Charlie. Previous guest, Parish Blair, introduced us at the SexExpo in September of 2018. We talk about sexual assault/abuse at an early age and how that led to hosting a workshop about sex and communication. The next workshop will be at Sugar toy shop in Baltimore, MD at 6pm on Sunday, March 24, 2019. Vacation.Charlie also offers Guided Meditations for the mind and Psychic Readings by way of palm touching for the spirit.

Zoey Trope returns to HWTAS. She is an Asian American writer and creative consultant based in Los Angeles. She serves as executive producer of SAKE (Socal Asian Kinkster Events). When she's not enjoying the glow of a newbie enjoying their first taste of sadism, Zoey writes about kink and non-monogamy. See her work at http://zoeytrope.com/#work @zoeylikesit @sakelaevents askfirstcampaign.org

I met Genoa at her booth at the SexExpo in NY in September of 2018 and as soon as I saw her product, I stopped to ask about it and invited her to come on to the podcast and tell everyone about it. The product came about because they couldn’t find a toy that was slim, transportable, and discreet – especially when it came to flying and having TSA going through your luggage. My guests today are Genoa and Steffan. They started a company called Soixante9 and over four years of time, created something that turns your rechargeable toothbrush into a luxury vibrator. You’re going to enjoy this conversation.

My guest is Elise Carr. She is the woman behind StellaMuse. "The blending of what I offer you is Like Psychology for the Soul – honouring your physical, sexual, emotional, mental and spiritual layers; what has brought you thus far, where you are, and what needs healing and guidance all ultimately in alignment with your Soul’s plan of fulfillment." She also is the host of the Sacred Guidance with StellaMuse podcast, which you can find just about anywhere including on her website. www.stellamuse.com

Monika returns to the podcast to talk about using EMDR therapy in order to deal with being abused as a child and how that has affected her marriage as well as her relationship with her family. We also talk about Erin’s Law; BDD - Body Dysmorphic Disorder; Toxic Masculinity; and writing about topics like “Covert Incest” for TheMighty.com themighty.com/author/monika-sudakov erinslaw.org emdr.com

Emojibator promotes health and humor with high-quality sex toys for women. Inspired by the infamous eggplant emoji, Emojibator makes body safe vibrators to bring more fun into the bedroom. Today, women experience 30% fewer orgasms than men. Emojibator empowers women to close the climax gap. Designed with love in Philadelphia, PA. Go f*ck yourself. Literally.  emojibator.com facebook.com/emojibator @emojibator instagram.com/emojibator youtube.com/emojibator

Elizabeth Heineman talks about Germany's equivalent of Hugh Hefner – Beate Uhse. This conversation came from me being asked to give my thoughts about Hefner after he died and I wound up learning about Beate, the woman Luftwaffe pilot who built Europe's largest sex shop empire and embodied Germany's post-war economic miracle. This is a fascinating story. Take a listen.

Naama Bloom is the founder of HelloFlo.com, a modern day health site for girls and women. Her mission for HelloFlo was to create a space where women and girls could learn about their bodies in an open and honest environment without any shame and with a healthy dose of humor. HelloFlo's first two videos, " The Camp Gyno" and "First Moon Party," have been viewed over 50 million times and show girls that while puberty can be awkward at times, it can also be fun and empowering. @naamabloom naamabloom.com helloflo.com

My guest this week is Bryan, who I met at the SexExpo back in September. Bryan and I talk about his new app, BIEM which provides the easiest way to talk with a healthcare professional, get tested, share results, and be notified if a person you've been with tests positive for an STD in the future. We also discuss PrEP; “stealthing”; being sexually irrational; and consent. biemteam.com whatisprep.org

My guest is Marla Renee Stewart. 7+ years ago she founded Velvet Lips, which is an education company that empowers people of all ages to embrace, educate, and enjoy their sexuality and their sexual lives. We talk about her coming out to her mother at 16 as a bisexual; masturbation; orgasms; the swinging community; threesomes; Unicorns and how to find them; safe words; spanking; strap ons for men; and sexual innovation. You can find her on marlareneestewart.com Twitter: @1marlastewart marla@velvetlipsllc.com

This podcast contains three conversations about The Nashville Statement: A Coalition for Biblical Sexuality which you can find at the link below. https://cbmw.org/nashville-statement/ You can find the link to the response from Christians United at the link below. http://www.christiansunitedstatement.org/ Please let me know what you think about this format and what you think about the topic. Thank you.

My guest, Cooper S. Beckett is an author, a podcaster, and so much more. He spent much of his life afraid of sex, sexuality, his bisexuality, his true interests, and global thermonuclear war. In this conversation we talk not just about his new novel, Approaching The Swingularity: Tales of Swinging & Polyamory in Paradise, but also his personal experiences as a host on these weeklong getaways with his guests. “Welcome home…” Those words and a glass of sparkling champagne welcome you to Aphrodite’s Resort and Spa, a place of pleasure and debauchery, situated on a strip of white sand beach on the Riviera Maya. coopersbeckett.com

I met Anne Hodder through Elle Chase, who was on the podcast last year. Anne Hodder, ACS, is a multi-certified sex educator endorsed by the renowned San Francisco Sex Information program and the American College of Sexologists International. She is the sex ed teacher you wish you'd had in high school.   We talk about how she taught herself about sex; household items as sex toys; her sex-positive PR firm; her sex workshops; men and emotions; and “69.” https://annehodder.com/ https://screamingo.com/shop/charged-positive-vibe/ https://www.amazon.com/Jamye-Waxman/e/B001JP4E52 http://www.goodvibes.com/s/sex-toys/p/1-2-AJ-BE02/good-vibrations-toys/fukuoku-9000-massager-

My guest, Silas Bliss is an artist, a writer of erotica, and a lover of bourbon. Silas and I talk about his art and writing; how he chose his name; sex at a very early age; meeting his wife in a religious cult; and his ultimate fantasy. There is also a giveaway at the end of this podcast. So stick around until the end. You can find his art here @SilasBliss or at facebook.com/getintobliss Enjoy!

A quick discussion about "Steak and BJ Day" and how that holiday led me to a charity I had never heard of before called CoppaFeel!   Once I found this website, I thought it was important to share what this charity is doing - especially for young women. coppafeel.org facebook.com/coppafeel.org @CoppaFeelPeople @KrisPoB officialsteakandblowjobday.com

Kristin Russo is my guest for the third time. We talk about her two new projects – “Getting in Bed with Kristin” which is a weekly themed interview show and her new podcast with her wife, Jenny Owen Youngs, called “Buffering the Vampire Slayer” where they not only discuss every episode of “Buffy, the Vampire Slayer,” but they also write a song that recaps each episode. We also veer into politics a little including her experience in the Women’s March in Los Angeles. a-camp.org autostraddle.com everyoneisgay.com mykidisgay.com ourrestroom.com

Happy Valentine's Day everybody.   Just a few thoughts and a little history about the holiday. Whether you're in or out of a relationship, be nice to yourself and don't put too much pressure on yourself just because you think it needs to be a perfect day. It does not. Love yourself.

My guest is Reggie. It's not that her parents didn't talk to her about sex, it's that she just wasn't that interested in hearing about it. When her teacher asked her what she wanted to be when she grew up, she answered, "A virgin." She says that it wasn't until she turned 34 that things really started to change for her sexually. I edited two long, separate conversations into one and we cover quite a bit.

Happy New Year! (and Merry Christmas, Happy Thanksgiving, Happy Halloween and every other holiday I have missed over the last four months!) On this episode it's just me talking about my friend's experience with inappropriate touching by the TSA at a NY airport. This year we may focus a little more on our sexual rights, human rights, female rights and other things that might be more political in the past. I hope you will not only continue listening, but also become more of a voice on this podcast by sharing your thoughts, feelings, and experiences as we go.

My guest, Galen Fous and I discuss the 5 Keys to Being Sexually Authentic as well as Sexual Authenticity Disorder, which is the fear of revealing or having others discover your deepest sexual desires. Galen has been “out” publicly in the Sex-Positive, Fetish and Sacred Sexuality communities since 1998. He has a Master’s degree in Transpersonal Psychology with an emphasis on the study of Fetish, Kink and D/s-BDSM. There is a lot to talk about! Enjoy!

Ryan “Wry” Mantione is kind of the perfect guest for this podcast. He believes in being well-informed regarding options and alternatives to a hetero-normative, traditional love life, as well as maintaining dialogue with partners. He is hosting a workshop on Saturday, Sept 10 at 4pm in Brooklyn with Janet Hardy, co-author of The Ethical Slut as well as other guests. Go to Eventbrite.com to find the link to buy tickets for $35-$50. It will take place at the Hacienda Villa in Bushwick, Brooklyn, which is considered to be a polyamory house. https://nonmonogamyconsultant.com/

Jet-Setting Jasmine is my guest this week. She's a certified SexPert and the fourth woman of the six Sisters of Sexuality that I have had on the podcast. We discuss her Catholic and conservative upbringing and how at the age of 25 or 30, she changed her mind about labeling the stuff that she does now as being bad or nasty. We also talk about how she communicates with her daughters about what she does in the adult industry. We talk about her SexEd Workshops and highlighting the more erotic side of sensuality through Fantasy Flight parties as well as her work with health care providers on learning how to bring up intimacy with people who have sustained serious injury. She’s also a national contributor on the issues of Intimacy & Chronic Illness and Sexuality & Aging. http://sistersofsexuality.com http://jetsettingjasmine.com

My guest is Jenny Block, the author of “Open”, “O Wow – Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm” and “The Ultimate Guide to Solo Sex.” We talk masturbation, Kleenex, the clitoris, faking orgasm, a study on homophobia, politics, sports, and her article, “Why the LGBTQ Community is a Waste of Your Time.”

Zoey Trope remembers having sexual fantasies at the age of 7 or 8 and has been exploring her sexuality on some level ever since. She is in an open marriage with one man while exploring her kinky/submissive side with another man who is her Dom. We talk all about her experience with a couple of Doms and how she found her husband through an ad on Craigslist. You can find her on twitter @zoeylikesit and her blog at xoxofufu.com.   I hope you enjoy the conversation. I know I did.

Shannon Boodram is a clinical sexologist and author of LAID and a Sex/Love expert to millennials, using her own very popular YouTube channel, Shan BOODY that talks about sex, love, and relationships. I ask a lot of questions about her videos and her guests and at the end we take a Cosmo sex quiz, which is a first for this podcast! I also added my own postscript about my receiving a dick pic for the very first time the night before I uploaded this conversation.

Charlie Glickman is my guest. We discuss how he started his sexual education to becoming a sex & relationship coach, a sexuality educator and a sexological bodyworker as well as bring co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners. We talk about how to approach prostate pleasure; somatic sex therapy, which includes sexological bodywork; the 3 minute game that helps with sexual communication; and how to get freaky without being creepy.

Hudsy Hawn is an internationally well-known Lifestyle Educator, an entertainer, an author and a former Miss Teen Talent Alaska. She got into the Lifestyle about 11 years ago and it changed her life. We discuss working in a dungeon and at The Stockroom in California; different kinds of kinks; masturbating to James Spader; polyamory; knowing the difference between Slaves, Switches and Dommes; consent; dog play; and being safe, sane, and consensual. You will love her!

My guest this week is a return guest from 3 ½ years ago. Sapphire and I met when I hosted an hour of radio for Playboy Radio. We travel all over the place, talking about changes in her life both personally and professionally. We touch on how men need to step up when dating; bisexuality; Hitler dicks, angry dicks and limp dicks; public sex; Symphorophilia; sensory depravation; fantasies; threesomes; and the Sex Terminator. Enjoy!

Sexpert Tyomi is my guest this week. She’s been posting videos on sex positions and other topics on YouTube.com for the last 5 years. More recently she has been blogging about various sexual topics like PE, masturbating, finding the right vibrator and her own experience with fetish training. Enjoy!

Parish and I talk about masturbation, manifesting, Jehovah’s Witness, marriage at 19, inviting demons into your life through blow jobs and anal, spirituality, releasing judgment, pregnant threesomes, the pocket rocket, the law of attraction, psychoneuroimmunology, a near-death experience, naming body parts, and sexy Saturdays.

Woody Allen once said, "Don't knock masturbation, it's sex with someone I love." But even if you're satisfied with your solo play, wouldn't it be nice to have new and exciting techniques to try? What if you wanted to try new things, vary it a bit or even do it with a partner? Where do you start? How do you approach it? What toys can I get to enhance my experience? Elle Chase is a sex educator who has many sexual workshops that she presents. I asked her to come onto the podcast to talk about "Mutual Masturbation - Give Yourself a Hand" because it's National Masturbation Month!

My guest this week is Lanae St. John, a board certified sexologist, sexuality educator, and writer. She received her Doctorate in Human Sexuality from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where she focused on Child and Adolescent Sexuality. She blogs about sex, parenting, relationships, and gender at TheMamasutra.net. We discuss many topics on how to communicate better with your children when it comes to sex and sexuality, like menstruation, being open and honest about sex and we also cover five concepts that Lanae believes are foundational when teaching your kids about sex. www.cyclebeads.com www.dearkates.com www.shethinx.com

Nikki Irish is an escort, who’s also an educated southern redhead with a wicked sense of humor and a love of the irreverent. She is a funny, sexy, and vivacious woman who LOVES sex. We talk about how she balances her personal life with her professional life and all the things that come with it. Enjoy the conversation!