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Are you surrounded by huge sex parties, tantra and kink events, sex science socials and orgies - though you don't want any of it? Living in a sex-positive intentional community, Lila Donnolo (of Horizontal with Lila and IHeartRadio's Positively Sex) has 24/7 access to whatever her heart desires, but she struggles with receiving pleasure. Yet after watching her housemate's ‘sensation gangb*ng', Lila realizes that luxuriating in touch and adoration feels edgy, so she asks for help and is instructed to create a menu of sensual human appetizers, salads, entrees and desserts and to invites friends and lovers. Is it selfish to bask, and to not rush to reciprocate? #HumanSlipNSlide #Laughter #DoodlePoll    Song: ‘Dopamine' (BØrn)   About our Storyteller:   Lila Donnolo of Horizontal with Lila is an Intimacy Specialist, a Public Speaker, Writer, Actress, & Curator of Immersive events. As the daughter of an American psychologist & a Brazilian social worker, she's been a student of human relationships for about as long as she's been a human. She's had pillow talk with thousands of people (most of whom were not her lovers!), and 127 of those conversations are broadcast for the world to hear on her indie podcast horizontal with lila. She's presented her intimacy frameworks as a TED Idea Search Latin America 2021 finalist, a Business of Fashion VOICES conference speaker, and a SXSW 2022 presenter. Putting her NYU Tisch Drama (Experimental Theatre Wing) BFA to use! Positively Sex! her new podcast for iHeart Media (the #1 Podcast Network in All the Land!) began as a live interactive audio show & winner of Clubhouse's Creator First Program. As a public speaker and creator of immersive events, she hosts happenings such as horizontal storytelling pajama parties, Femme Domme Kink Tasters, connection games, hot love talks & a sensual, intimate Valentine's experience for everyone, regardless of relationship status, called 14 Rooms. Friends who met at one of these events are still dating, 5 years later!   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/B2RhHSxhrvP/ Horizontal with Lila Podcast: https://horizontalwithlila.com/ Positively Sex on IHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-positively-sex-102809649/ Episode links:   LIVE SHOW: Bawdy Storytelling is turning SIXTEEN! It's our 16th Anniversary on Saturday, February 25th, and our theme for the night is ‘HeartThrobs and DemiGods' and this Live Show happens in San Francisco - but it'll be Livestreamed to wherever you are, so that you can be there with us, too. 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Hello horizontal lover. This is horizontal with lila, the podcast about intimacy of all kinds, recorded while lying down. Usually, the first part of our conversation is available wherever you listen to podcasts, and the last part is available exclusively to my patrons on Patreon.com/horizontalwithlila. Navigate yourself on over to Patreon for 50+ exclusive horizontal episodes! Season 4, however, is my Season of Experiments. The experiment of this episode... introduces you to my brand-new live show, Positively Sex! Sex Ed, with Pleasure. Clubhouse pioneered a new form of media: interactive social audio. It's like a podcast you can participate in...  I joined the app in late February and promptly became deeply infatuated. Really. Full-on limerence. NRE: New Relationship Energy. I hardly slept! I barely ate! I talked about it to anyone who would listen! I fell asleep at wee morning hours in Clubhouse rooms, the phone half under the pillow next to me. It was, if you will, horizontal with clubhouse. It began by ‘raising my hand.' Then Alec Murphy began making me a co-moderator, and passing me the mic to offer intimacy advice & sexual education.  I started saying, “Just a sex ed moment here!” As I moved from infatuation to bonding, I met other beloved favourites, like De'Andre Sinette & Shane Cottle & my Clubhouse wife Annie Block & my Clubhouse mistress Dani & Brittany Michalchuk & Angus McColluch & & & & … I became a regular in Angus's club MATE. I found communities of people who shouted my name with joy when I entered a virtual room. These relationships feel tender and warm and deep, playful and tasty and delightful. And real. I haven't met these people in person (yet). But I know their voices. And I can feel them. They are a real part of my real life. Clubhouse is the app of the zeitgeist.  We are the most connected, and the loneliest we have ever been. Facebook Image Crafting & comparing and despairing on Instagram has most of us feeling so much less intimate. There is something unbelievably wholesome and grounding and genuine about dialing our digital connection to its very first form: a phone call — with the addition of a few bells & whistles. It's free. It's global. It's live. And it's just, voice. I think that's marvelous.   I starting co-hosting rooms, like: “Ask Men Anything” with Alec. “The Sex-Positive Room” with De'Andre.   And then I opened rooms of my own: Ladies of the Sex House (with my former housemates from the Villa) I Just Found My Poetry Stash (which I actually did, from 10 years ago, when I was doing a page a day writing practice, and there is some glorious stuff in there!)   Then I formed my own club: The Sex-Positive Club, and began gathering about me wise, compassionate co-mod to carve out a space for sex-positivity. My second week on the app, I happened upon the last few minutes of Abraxas Higgins's “Apply to the Creator First Program” room. He was doing his very last reset — giving the information about the room for the last time before closing it. I snagged that link & stayed up 'til 4am working on the application, very horizontal, laptop resting on my thighs. At 4am, I fell asleep under my computer. At 7am, I woke and kept working. That was the due date. I submitted around 1pm. I was chosen as a finalist. There were 5,000 entries. 53 finalists each made a pilot episode (this episode), and 25 shows were chosen as the inaugural Creator First Class of 2021… and mine, mine was one of them. YESSSSSSSSSSS. This is basically the first time I've won something in 20 years. Positively Sex! Sex Ed, with Pleasure airs a new live episode every Sunday night through September at 9pm EST / 6pm Pacific.  Catch it live, or become a patron of the horizontal arts on Patreon.com/horizontalwithlila (that's P-a-t-r-E-o-n.com / horizontalwithlila) for exclusive patron access to the entire 12-episode season.  Prepare for SENSUAL CONTESTS… Like "Best Sext”   DELECTABLE PRIZES… Like a deck of “Let's Talk About Sex” cards from Games for Humanity's Erin Hickok aka The Connectress. (By the way, all of her fabulous question card games are 10% off with the discount code: HORIZONTALITY, in all caps.)   FUN & SPICY AUDIENCE POLLS… Sexted lately? Got a Clubhouse crush?   TENDER, TABOO, & TIMELY TOPICS… Such as the pilot theme, the theme of this episode: Sex @ a Distance, which included: * noods * sexting * aural sex (phone sex, er0tic hypnosis, described video p0rn) * video sex & sex on video * virtual play parties   & BRILLIANT THOUGHT LEADERS. This pilot episode features special guest Cindy Gallop, one of the most brilliant extemporaneous speakers I've ever heard. The Michael Bay of business (because she blows shit up!) creator and CEO of Make Love Not Porn introduced us to the concept of social sex. We were joined by a few of my former housemates from Hacienda Villa, the sex-positive intentional community I used to live in, as a founding member: Mirelle, polyamorous woman, purveyor of sensuality, & horizontal's very first guest, of episode number 1. feed your delight, which is my most downloaded episode of all time, treated us to her unerring taste for pleasure & a voice that positively drips with sex. Tiger, former Villan & former lady, him of many trades, Trans & gynecological educator and horizontal guest of episodes 16. kiss me I'm jew-witch, and 17. professional cuddling, gave us a taste of erotic hypnosis that left us with our mouths agape. Theia made us all aware that described video porn is a thing, Shane brought his soulful sensuality, Fiona tallied our very important polls, & my Creative Producer & Social Media Maven Natalia Sketch helped me sjuzz the episode, then sat behind me in the tiniest focus room at the co-working space, calling the show & managing the backchannel. The episode begins with my working definition of sex & concludes with showering at a virtual play party. Join my club on Clubhouse so you don't miss an episode. I have always been a Creator First, and now, finally, again, I am being recognized as such. And DAMN it feels good. P.S. Which is, of course, a double entendre, meaning both Post Script and Positively Sex! … Welcome to social audio. Come get positively sex with us, all across the globe, through the magic of the interwebz.

We already know that due to the COVID pandemic, it’s not currently safe to attend a crowded restaurant. It’s not safe to attend a busy gym. It’s not safe to attend large religious gatherings. So…it’s almost certainly not safe to attend an orgy. What’s a sexually adventurous person to do? Attend one online? That’s right, thanks to the pandemic, some folks are now opting for video platforms such as Skype, Zoom and FaceTime for their orgies. UK-based, high-end sex party club Killing Kittens hosted a 100 person orgy online in March complete with burlesque performers, a cage, a live DJ, and 100 masked members. But, despite the fact that they are having a moment, Zoom, is not exactly thrilled with this burgeoning use for their beloved platform. They announced earlier this year that they were going to crack down (no pun intended) on “unacceptable use” and use machine learning to detect sex parties and nudity. For research. Totally. Meanwhile, they have much bigger problems than a bunch of folks e-banging online. With so much Zoom usage due to the pandemic, the platform faced a huge privacy and security backlash as their default settings lacked real security. Suddenly pranksters started crashing private Zoom meetings, playing offensive videos and being all around creeps. Zoom, you have much bigger problems than policing a bunch of consensual orgies! Now that virtual play parties are the new normal and actually a very safe entry point into the sex party world, how do you find one? What happens when you get in? What are the rules? My guest Lila Donnolo is a veteran host and sex educator. The brilliant mind behind the podcast Horizontal With Lila, she is a founding member of Hacienda Villa, a sex-positive intentional community in Brooklyn, NY. Lila is an expert in making private conversations public, being in service of eradicating shame, and at cultivating connection. On this episode, she reveals exactly what you need to do to get invited to a virtual sex party. The importance of knowing and following the rules. How you let attendees know if you’re interested in e-playing with them. How you protect your privacy once you start playing, and even how you protect your keyboard. These are things you need to do before you screw…online. During our conversation, we also reflect back on the sex party I attended without my husband last year, and the lessons I learned from that crazy night. Contact Lila for your Personal Intimacy Roadmap, 60-minute sessions of sex-positive, judgment-free, kink-aware, LGBTQ+ celebratory, gender-affirming guidance on your intimate struggles. A session includes: exercises, techniques, recommendations, homework & a tailored document you can refer back to like your own personal intimacy road map! Definitely check out Horizontal with Lila and follow  @horizontalwithlila on Instagram. I’m going to have a much deeper conversation with her later this summer about her work at Hacienda Villa, her podcast and why she’s currently hanging out in an Indonesian jungle. She will be back on for a much bigger conversation very soon. Meanwhile, here’s another link I mentioned: 9 Dope Podcasts About Black Love, Family and Sex That Keep It All The Way Real. Please support these podcasts and amplify BIPOC voices whenever you can. Here’s a link to my writing on Medium.com if you want to read about my crazy adventures as head of programming at Playboy TV. Trust me, you totally do. Now I’m gonna make some space in my nightstand for a roll of plastic wrap. Cause...well, ya never know... See you next time! Wendy Please subscribe to Sex Ed The Musical and Leave Us A 5-Star Review! Preesh!!!  

When it comes to sexual mastery for men, would you rather show up on a date with a bus pass or a private jet?  How about now, especially in the age of COVID-19, where it's tough to get anyone out of their house?  International sex educator and expert Kenneth Play joins the show to help couples overcome challenges and find new ways to connect in the bedroom. Called “The World's Greatest Sex Hacker” by GQ Magazine, Kenneth's online sex classes feature over 71 sex training videos and 12 hours of content.  He co-founded Hacienda Villa, the globally recognized sex-positive community, and devoted his life to helping couples close the “orgasm gap.” The sex mastery secrets we talk about in this episode are guaranteed to pump up your prowess in the bedroom, make her squirt and make her feel like she's in paradise.    “We look at sexuality as an innate, default, natural thing, without any training. In the fitness world, there's so much potential when you train yourself. The training is so valuable, when it comes to sexuality. We're missing that in the culture.” – Kenneth Play In This Episode: - How men get too focused on their penis size … forgetting all the amazing tools you already have to make her moan with pleasure! - The kinds of orgasms you can trigger for a woman … and then double up for your own pleasure - The 3 sensual secrets of a woman's body – how to help her follow her body's lead and give her just enough of a touch to get her sopping wet - How surrender and shifting between dominance and submission creates intimacy… - And so much more! Resources: Use promo code: rose to get 30% off of Kenneth Play's exclusive online course here: https://kennethplay.com/sex-hacker-pro/?oprid=8298&ref=21997 (https://kennethplay.com/sex-hacker-pro/?oprid=8298&ref=21997) Connect with Sarrah Rose: Website - https://tantricactivation.com/ (https://tantricactivation.com/) Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/tantricactivation/ (https://www.instagram.com/tantricactivation/) Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/TantricActivation/ (https://www.facebook.com/TantricActivation/) Twitter - https://twitter.com/IAmSarrahRose (https://twitter.com/IAmSarrahRose)

This is THE 100TH EPISODE OF horizontal!!! Naturally, this one is a bit different than the others. In celebration, I am releasing a never-before-heard experimental episode, recorded on May 21st, 2019 — the 2 year anniversary of horizontal.  In every other episode, I lie down with one or two people at a time. In this special, I lie down with 9! I gathered as many previous horizontal guests, patrons, and supporters as I could, and asked my boyfriend at the time to join us. We recorded at Hacienda Studio, the event space of Hacienda Villa, my intentional community. We had three beds and three microphones. None of us were sure how it would go. What would come up when the 9 of us tried to have one conversation? In this episode, I lie down with: Kristi Ann, spectacular dancer and movement artist, and my friend who, behind the scenes, has quietly helped me choose between the titles for my episodes. Mirelle, horizontal’s very first guest! Resident of the Villa, my housemate and friend, and, as you may recall, a consummate connoisseur of delight. Steve Dean, my friend the Superconnector, dating coach, dating industry consultant, and guest on episodes 82. 200 dating profiles, and 83. you do not have voting rights in this startup (relationship). Jillian Richardson, creator of The Joy List, author of Unlonely Planet, and my most recent horizontal guest on episodes 98. withhelds & unsaids, and 99. indiana jones is my father. This 100th episode interrupts my 4-episode arc with Jillian and Dennis, but they will be back next week, and the week after that, with episodes 101 & 102. Those episodes are available exclusively to patrons of the horizontal arts, so for more Jillian & Dennis, plus The Full Horizontal, which includes all the part twos (and in this case, threes and fours) going back to the beginning, become my patron on Patreon.com/horizontalwithlila — You’ll get all the independent, uncensored, sex-positive horizontality, and you’ll be a part of the mission that I share with Jillian: to make the world a less lonely, more intimate place. Also in this episode, we lie down with: Owen Muir, MD, my friend, is a child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist, half of the team behind Brooklyn Minds, and the audiophile who made the first season of horizontal possible, by somehow mixing & mastering every episode in the midst of fathering, psychiatrist-ing, and running a business that is changing the world of mental health. Tiana & Orion, my dear friends, poly partners, leaders in the POC (Person of Color) kink community in New York City, and my guests on their own 4-episode arc, episodes 78. surprise surprise he liked black chicks, 79. not gonna be the abusive guy, 80. definition of a primary partner, & 81. sneak attack group sex. These are some of the episodes I am the proudest to have made, and I’m ever-grateful for their bravery and generosity. Venus & Jason, who have been patrons of the podcast and delightful, avid participants in nearly every horizontal event I’ve produced, including the podcast launch pajama party, 14 Rooms (my immersive Valentine’s experience), The Art of Trust (my connection games workshop), and horizontal storytelling (a live recording of the quickies). And Patrick, Engineer, fixer of things, fearless explorer of self… my ex-boyfriend. In this episode, we do a round of “If you really knew me,” which is probably my favorite of all the intimacy games I lead, and then a round of Brags. We discuss the experiences that Jillian and I had with the man that we both dated, disassociation, novelty drive, feelings as puppies, healthy narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder, emotions at 110%, opt-ins and opt-outs, normative dating behavior, and needing other minds to support us in not losing ours. Then we conclude with a round of gratitudes. This episode is unlike any other, because, with Owen present, we have the benefit of a psychiatrist’s insight. Happy 100 episodes to meeeeeee! If you have any ideas for else I might celebrate, reach out through the @horizontalwithlila Instagram or on horizontalwithlila.com This episode was recorded by Owen Muir, with mixing and mastering by Irving Gadhoury. Find Irving at IGrecording.com on the interwebs, to hire him for your Tri-State Area based audio needs. My cover art was created by Shana Shay, whom you can find on 99designs. And this episode features a remix of my original intro music by kidmental, an accapella beatbox musician. I first heard kid’s work on my favorite podcast, Ear Hustle, when he remixed their theme song. He creates theme songs for everyone, podcast or no, and you can snag one by becoming his patron on patreon.com/kidmental Next week we’ll pick back up with Dennis & Jillian in episode 101, part three of our conversation. To gain access to part three, in which we delve into Jillian’s household growing up, that incident with the vibrator, Dennis’s high school work as a peer-to-peer Sex Educator, his biological brothers, the topography of our friendship lives, and how Dennis used to rely entirely on his long-term relationship to get his intimacy needs met — become a patron of the horizontal arts! Until next time, dear ones, may you have someone to love, something to do, and something to look forward to. I’m looking forward to attending Samia’s anti-wedding, today! Samia, of episodes 59. i’m gonna fuck him forEVER and 60. consexual experiences, is getting married, wearing a skeleton catsuit. I’m gonna be their social media maven, so you better believe there’s gonna be loads of videos! Check my Instagram if you wanna see ‘em! If you haven’t yet, do me the honor of clicking the Subscribe button in your podcast player of choice. It makes a difference in my world. Thank you for listening. Thank you for inspiring me to make 100 episodes, and beyond. Thank you for getting horizontal. And now come lie down with all of us in Bushwick, Brooklyn.

Welcome to horizontal, the podcast about intimacy of all kinds, recorded while lying down, wearing robes. I know I said that Season 3 would be threesomes all season long, but we will still have the occasional dyad, because, sometimes it just works out best that way. In this episode, I lie down with Steve Dean. Steve Dean is a dating expert, a MmmmEGAConnector, an adventurer, a perpetual nomad, and an event SuperHost. He’s the founder of the dating industry consulting firm dateworking (which you can find on dateworking.com). He stewards workshops, dinners, coworking sessions, and massive meetups like the food-court-centered Hygge [HOO-GAH] (which means cozy in Danish). Steve Dean intentionally dates people from all different parts of the social spectrum, including those he would never introduce to his friends, in order to understand their perspective on the world. I think he’s actually an anthropologist at heart, and dating is the Tribe he studies. He’s a quintessential participant-observer. His experiences are research. His research is experiential. His brain incessantly crunches data, and relentlessly seeks for the most optimal of the optimal outcomes. I’ve never met a human machine quite like him. One week this February, I had the mean blues, and I reached out to my friend Jillian, patron of the podcast, and creator of The Joy List, a weekly compilation of events that one can go to alone, and leave with a new friend. I asked her what she was excited about that week and she rattled off three or so happenings. Then she asked, “How about you?” And I realized that I wasn’t excited about anything that week. I had, in essence, nothing to look forward to. So Jillian decided to fix that. She encouraged me to go to Open Brain, a roving salon for art and ideas that takes place in living rooms and public parks and spaces in-between. This was a living room edition. I almost didn’t go, I was just feeling so blah. But I eventually dusted off a tango song I used to sing, and showed up. At Open Brain, two things happened in quick succession: I met a man from San Francisco, Michael, who became my lover, and he invited me along to an after-event hang in a hotel lobby in the Financial District. There I would meet Steve Dean, who was orchestrating the event. Everyone kept saying his name. Nobody said his first name on its own. He was Steve Dean to everyone. Jilian said, “You don’t know Steve Dean? Oh. You should know Steve Dean.” That clinched it. And so I went along to talk Burning Man with Michael, and meet Steve Dean. When Steve Dean and I met, I told him, “Jillian said that we should know each other.” Steve said, “What’s your name?” “Lila,” I said. “What’s your last name?” A bit bemused, I said, “Donnolo.” “Yep,” said Steve Dean. “We should know each other.” And then we talked intimacy, dating, and why teenagers are having less sex these days, until the wee hours. Because I had recently curated my intimate immersive Valentine’s experience at Hacienda Villa, 14 Rooms, Steve consulted me about his love-language-themed townhouse full of intimate encounters, The Love Immersive, set for March 30th, and invited me to be a part of it. Knowing that the environment would be overwhelming — potentially magnificent, but certainly overwhelming, I set up a breather-space. A closet with a cozy mat, blanket, and pillow set-up, like a child’s secret hiding spot, with three headsets programmed with an 11-minute audio experience I pre-recorded, about the upper limits problem, catching it in time, and the radical recalibration of rest. The day of the Love Immersive, Michael was back in town from SF. I hadn’t seen him in three weeks, and we had ferocious, pounding sex that soaked all the way through my mattress cover. That night, at the Love Immersive, juiced up and well-fucked and sex-haired and satisfied. I met my current partner, Patrick. Because Steve Dean is a Superconnector, I’m in the most communicative, loving romantic relationship of my life so far. In this, the first half of our conversation, we talk about VR World, where Steve met Patrick, my tendency to codependency, Steve’s dating habits, whether connection or commitment requires compatibility, optimization the skill of connection, dating across 200 different dating apps, the Sex on Demand app, whether comets are partners, or if they might be growth charts, polyamory as part orientation and part skill-set, how relationships are like start-ups, and the libido-killing cycle that Patrick and I found ourselves in at the outset of our relationship. In other words, come lie down with us in Chelsea, on the island of Manhattan, New York.   P.S. Cats were drugged in the making of this episode. And by cats I mean: one singular cat. And by drugged I mean: with catnip. Still. I thought it was important to tell you.

My name is Lila, and I love sleepovers, spooning, sharing, storytelling, sex, and stargazing, among other things. So I metaphorically rolled them up in audio form and called it a podcast. Horizontal with lila is Slow Radio. It’s intimacies of all kinds. It’s consensual eavesdropping. It’s us lying down right next to each other, wearing robes, sharing secrets, in your ears. Each horizontal session with a guest is between 2 and 3ish hours long, and divided into two episodes. Part ones, like this one, are available anywhere you get your podcasts, and part twos are available exclusively to patrons of the horizontal arts. As you might imagine, the part twos go deep, since we’ve been marinating in conversation for over an hour. And at the very very end, my guest tells me a story of some intimacy. For access to The Full Horizontal,go to Patreon.com/horizontalwithlila, and become a patron of $5 or more per month, because... Fair warning, horizontal lovers! When I launch Season 3, (and it is happening Soon) I’ll be shifting some things, revealing a couple of surprises, and revamping my Patreon tiers: If you’ve already become a patron, you’ll be grandfathered in with access to all the episodes and my gratitude for being an early listener. In this episode, recorded in a slender little apartment in Brooklyn, New York, I lie down with Lee. Lee is a Pleasure Guide: a Tantrika, a Bodyworker, an Intimacy Coach. She’s a Sensuality specialist. I first met Lee when she was working with a friend of mine at The Women of Venus (which you’ll hear about in part two, episode 71). I’ve been trying to get her to move in with us at Hacienda Villa for about a year now. When I’m around Lee, I feel warm and grounded. She is exceptionally supportive and clear-eyed, at the same time. Her belief in the version of me that I love the most, my favorite self, and my potential to embody that self and act beautifully on the world is like … an amulet that she has made by hand. She has her finger on the pulse of the Great Mystery, without being a prig about it. She’s a girl’s girl, a woman’s woman, with a generous dash of humility, and a fierce commitment to stand for her own growth, and for yours. For all of the information about Lee’s Intimacy and Pleasure Coaching practice, find her on LeeNoto.com  This episode was recorded in Lee’s bed, in another part of Brooklyn, and though you are spared the trains screeching around the bend like they do when I record in my room, there’s a few sonic visitors: an old heating unit, a creaky ceiling that is someone else’s floor, some pretty raucous neighbors, and… a plane or two. City living. Local color. In this part of our conversation, we talk about slow-going sex and celibacy, plant medicine journeys and masturbation, objectifying yourself and faking orgasms, promiscuity as rebellious self-expression, pushing buttons just to know what they’re for, the glorious practice of bragging, a Tiger Mom, and driving herself to perfection so hard that her face paralyzed itself to get her attention. To see pictures from this recording session, and get behind-the-scenes access to horizontality and my sex-positive life, follow @horizontalwithlila on Instagram, and sign up for my missives on horizontalwithlila.com And now, come lie down with not one, but two recovering perfectionists, in Brooklyn, New York. *** Let me give some credit where credit is due: Chad Michael Snavely is my editor. He’s a podcast maven, and you can find his full roster on chadmichael.com. Alan Markley composed my intro music, and his exploits can be witnessed on Instagram as plasticcannons. Shana Shay created my cover art, and you can hire her for graphic design and character illustration on 99 Designs. In next week’s episode of horizontal, the second part of my conversation with Lee, episode 71, we discuss intentional masturbation, receiving oral sex, fantasies of auto-cunnilingus, giving yourself what you wish for a partner to give you, the indefinable mystery of tantra, red tantra, white tantra, urban tantra, a tantric temple called The Women of Venus, Mama Gena’s practices of Trinities, Swamping, and Spring Cleaning... And Lee & I do something unprecedented on the podcast, something I’ve never heard recorded anywhere else: we each do a Spring Clean on a topic we’re struggling with in real time, stream of consciousness style, and entirely unedited. I feel a little bit nervous to share it, actually, but that’s when I know I have something really worthwhile to reveal. Next week’s installment is available exclusively to my beloved patrons of the horizontal arts. Become one and get access to The Full Horizontal catalog on Patreon.com/horizontalwithlila On Saturday, March 16th, Lee is curating an event called Eating Out: an Erotic Feast inspired by oral sex. She calls it an Edible Education. For all the details, visit her at LeeNoto.com and sign up for her mailing list. On Thursday, March 28th, I’m leading The Art of Trust: an Intimacy Games Workshop. If you’ve seen any of the shots from my Intimacy Warriors photoshoots, you might have an inkling of what this workshop will be like. We’ll play games like Sphinx, Hot Seat, Human Conveyor Belt, and the Touch Gauntlet. Details coming soon. Until next week, may you have someone to love, something to do, and many things to look forward to! Thank you for getting horizontal.

This episode is a little different than the others. It’s a quickie. If you’ve been listening to horizontal, you know that: at the end of every conversation with a guest, I ask them to tell me a story. Each full conversation is between two and three hours long. It gets divided into two parts and released as two episodes. Part ones are available to everyone in all the podcast places. Part twos are available exclusively to my patrons through Patreon.com/horizontalwithlila. Sign up there for access to The Full Horizontal. Naturally, our conversations get deeper and deeper as my guest and I drop in together. So when, at the very end of those part twos my guest tells me a tale, (except in the case of Annie Lalla, because we ran out of time!) it is a tale of intimacy of some kind. Any kind. It can be about friendships, lovers, family. It has been about being carried down a mountain on the back of a hunky guide, a literal and figurative friend death, the first time ejaculating where stuff came out, a big fat freaky wedding, and a miscarriage, among many, many other things. I always tell my guest that it can be any story that falls under the umbrella of intimacy, with any kind of tone or outcome, as long as it’s a story that they truly desire to tell it to me. This quickie episode (which consists of three little stories, rather than one big one) was recorded live at my last Horizontal Storytelling Pajama Party, which was held at Hacienda Studio in Brooklyn. At Horizontal Storytelling, we all donned pajamas, had milk and cookies, got exceedingly cozy,  and curled up together, all 50 of us, to listen to just the stories, back to back, by six storytellers, one after the other. I got horizontal with my guest just like we do when we record a full episode, wearing robes, sharing a pillow, microphone positioned above us, gazing upward as though stargazing, or post-coital, or the wee-morning hours of a really good sleepover. I’m planning to host another one (or something like it) in the Spring of 2019, so make sure you’re on the mailing list through horizontalwithlila.com and all the details shall come! In this quickie I get horizontal with Kenneth Play, my friend, my housemate, and world-renowned Sex Hacker, Sex Coach, Sex Educator, and co-founder of Hacienda Villa, the intentional community in which I live and love, and where I am a founding member. We’ve been living in the same house for four and half years. I introduce him quite fully in the episode, so I’ll just say here that I have been privileged to live in the same house as a Master of Sex. Kenneth taught me how to verbalize specifically the kind of oral sex that I desire. He taught me how to insert and operate my nJoy pure wand dildo. He also taught me the most nourishing technique I've ever come across for grounding with my lover after sex. And now he's gathered all these tips, tricks, and techniques from his teachers — some of the greatest sex educators and coaches and tantra masters alive — as well as from hours upon hours of, let's call it "laboratory practice," and distilled them into a Sex Ed video series that is accessible to everyone. It focuses on giving pleasure to women and those with vulvas and consists of The Oral Course, The Squirting Course, The Penetration Course, & the Sex Hacker Bundle This quickie was edited by Mr. Chad Michael Snavely, bearded man, podcast impresario. His roster is available on chadmichael.com. My sensual cover art was illustrated by Shana Shay based on my photograph. Hire this woman through 99 designs. And my intro music was composed by Alan Markley, rock star, and plasticcannons on Instagram.   Speaking of Instagram. Feel free to reach out to me there if you have any questions, ideas for dream guests, or musings spurred by any of the episodes. It’s lovely to know that you’re listening, and pondering.   And if you want access to The Full Horizontal, right now you can still get that when you become a patron of $5 a month and up. Very soon, I’ll be launching Season 3, and with it, I’ll be streamlining my tiers and raising the bar for patronage. But if you lock it in now, baby, you’ll be grandfathered in, with my gratitude for being an early patron of the horizontal arts. I have big dreams, and every single patron helps me happen them. Patreon.com/ horizontalwithlila In other words, come lie down with us, in Bushwick, Brooklyn.  

Every time Dr. Zhana teaches about almost any topic, someone asks a question about squirting, often referred to as female ejaculation. It seems like squirting is having a moment right now, with everyone and their mother wanting to know if all vagina-owners can squirt, what the ejaculate is made of, and how to make it happen. There is very limited science on this, which Dr. Zhana recently sifted through extensively while working on the http://bit.ly/squirtingclass (online squirting course) that her business partner, Kenneth Play, launched recently to teach people how to squirt. So in this episode, Dr. Zhana and Joe do something a little different. Instead of an academic researcher, we invite someone with an impressive amount of hands-on “research” when it comes to making vagina-owners squirt – Kenneth Play. Just how many vaginas has Kenneth had an opportunity to try and make them squirt? What’s his success rate? What’s the most reliable technique for making this happen? This and so much more in Episode 56 of the Science of Sex Podcast. Oh, and want to help us learn more about squirting? Dr. Zhana and Kenneth recently put together the world’s largest and most comprehensive survey on squirting – head on to http://squirtingsurvey.com (squirtingsurvey.com) and take it! Anyone regardless of gender or squirting experience can take it!! About our Guest https://scienceofsexpodcast.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/A0606FDE-32CB-417D-8520-984EAC73B7C8.png () Kenneth Play is an international sex hacking expert, sex educator and coach, and former celebrity fitness trainer. From a deeply sexually insecure Asian immigrant to becoming the most viewed sex hacking expert on PornHub and being named the World’s Greatest Sex Hacker by GQ, Kenneth develops and teaches sex hacks to help people learn new ways to play and overcome challenges in the bedroom. With his accelerated learning approach and playful style, he helps people gain sexual confidence, experience more pleasure, and cultivate deeper intimacy in record time. His teaching has been described as a mashup of Bruce Lee’s “knowing is not enough, we must apply” mantra, Martha Stewart’s step-by-step show-you-how, and Tim Ferriss’ personal experimenting-to-mastery. Meanwhile, he co-founded the globally-recognized http://wearehacienda.com (sex-positive intentional community, Hacienda Villa); he teamed up with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova to work on http://casualsexproject.com (The Casual Sex Project); and his projects have been featured in Vice, Thrillist, Elite Daily, Refinery 29, Time Out, The New York Times, Playboy, and Cosmopolitan. He has devoted his life to empowering people to experience incredible sex, and his mission is to make unapologetically explicit sex education mainstream.) Connect with Kenneth via https://www.facebook.com/kennethplaypage (Facebook), https://www.instagram.com/kennethplay (Instagram), https://twitter.com/kennethplay (Twitter), and his http://kennethplay.com (website). You can order his Kenneth’s Sex Hacker Bundle Course http://playscience.ontraport.com/t?orid=14274&opid=11 (here). Before Next Time… Remember to like The Science of Sex Podcast on https://www.facebook.com/ScienceofSexPodcast/ (Facebook), https://twitter.com/ScienceofSexPod (Twitter), and https://www.instagram.com/scienceofsexpodcast/ (Instagram)! Visit https://www.adameve.com (Adam & Eve) and use promo code SCIENCE for 50% off just about any product. And if you order before 2/14, you get 10 FREE gifts (including FREE shipping)! Remember to submit comments, questions, and everything in between on our Get in Touch Page! Do you love The Science of Sex Podcast and all the work Dr. Zhana does? Support her by becoming a monthly https://www.patreon.com/drzhana (Patreon Supporter)! Facebook Twitter Google+ Pinterest LinkedIn 35Shares

Horizontal is a podcast of intimacies recorded while lying down. Think of it as consensual eavesdropping. Together, we’re making private conversations public, in order to dispel shame, diminish loneliness, and alchemize human connection. Brene Brown, the world-renowned researcher/storyteller and expert on vulnerability, shame, and courage, states that shame (in a petri dish) needs 3 things to survive: secrecy, silence, and judgement. If you put the same amount of shame in a petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can't survive. I envision this podcast as a douse of empathy. In this episode, I lie down with Samia Mounts in my bed at Hacienda Villa, the sex-positive intentional community in Bushwick, Brooklyn. Samia is a singer, actress, voice-over artist, creator of music, and a polyamorous podcaster of political proportions, with a voice built for stadiums and arenas. Currently based in Korea, I was fortunate enough to get horizontal with her when she was in town to sing at the Kennedy Center. She is a bisexual babe, a military kid, a half-Jordanian woman who grew up largely in South Korea, an advocate for nontraditional relationship structures, and a great believer in horizontality. You may remember that I enthusiastically recommended Samia’s political podcast: Make America Relate Again. In it, Samia did something I'd never heard before in my life — she had respectful conversations about politics with women who voted for Donald Trump. Pretty much all the political conversations I hear between liberals and conservatives are acrimonious and combative. Make America Relate Again is based on the premise that if we can communicate respectfully with people whose viewpoints frustrate, enrage, or sadden us, we can cultivate more compassion in this sorely-divided country of ours. And if we stoke the fire of that compassion, we can work together to create positive change. Samia managed to put the humanity back into politics for me. I am impressed and astonished that she had the reserves of compassion and empathy to engage wholeheartedly in this way for two entire seasons. I find her to be brave in a way that I am lacking, and this had me tuning in. Now in 2019, lucky for us, she'll be applying those skills to a new podcast called Future Love, one about polyamory and unconventional relationships and and sex and love, in which she aims to help people have more authentic, passionate, longer-lasting romances by forgoing the conventional rules, and instead, writing their own. To be apprised when her new podcast launches, and for all things Samia, including her articles about polyamory for Huff Post and Refinery 29, point yourself to samiamounts.com, and sign up for her mailing list! Since our episode was recorded in my room, you’ll get a little local color from the Symphony Orchestra of Bushwick, but when you hear the crackling sounds of a Yule Log, that’s Samia, vaping. In this first part of our episode, we discuss growing up as a horny little beast on a military base, playing lumberjack, dry-humping girls at 8, coming out as bi at 14, the year of the purge, a play I was in called An American Family Takes a Lover, Sex at Dawn, my new fashion friend, ordering food while fucking, Samia’s night with her new 48 year-old lover — we call him “Wild Man,” being multi-orgasmic, and cultivating lifelong sexy relationships. We cover a lot of ground! To listen to the second part of my conversation with Samia, which will be released next Friday as episode 60, in which she tells me the most epic love story of her life, and the most epic friend-love story of her life, become a patron of the horizontal arts! Patreon is the love child of crowd-funding and a subscription service. As a $5 month patron, you’ll get a special RSS feed that you can add to your podcast player, and it gives you exclusive access to all the episodes, every part two, going back to the beginning. I’ve made a little video tutorial for it, in case the RSS is confusing. It’s available on my Patreon page. (See what I did there?) Patreon.com/horizontalwithlila And now, come lie down with us in Bushwick, Brooklyn. *** For more horizontality, you can receive my words in your inbox once a week(ish). I call them missives, and they are full of my personal writing, bits of the show notes for each episode with links to the whole shebang, invitations to my live events, and horizontal photos, often in unexpected places. Sign up for all that goodness on horizontalwithlila.com and add lila@horizontalwithlila.com to your address book, because email servers are frustrating and strange and sometimes treat my email like a message Mr. Jim Carlos who misspells your name as well as several third grade words while asking you to wire money — which I’m pretty sure is not something that people do anymore. Please rescue my thoughtful, well-crafted emails from the depths of folders like “Spam” and “Promotions” and “Updates.” Thank you. Here’s the credits: Chad Michael Snavely edits horizontal. Check him out on chadmichael.com. Shana Shay drew horizontal. Hire her through 99designs. Alan Markley scored horizontal. Find him on Instagram as plasticcannons.

Horizontal is a podcast of intimacies recorded while lying down. I’m really glad you’re here. You can think of it as consensual eavesdropping.Together, we’re making private conversations public, so that we can dispel shame, diminish loneliness, and alchemize human connection. If you’ve been horizontal for a while, you know that each conversation is about 2-3 hours long, and gets divided into two episodes, released a week apart (by popular demand). For instance, this is episode #57. Next week’s episode, #58. the love drive, will feature part two of my conversation with Shaun. As I said in the last couple of episodes, I’m making a big shift in the way horizontal is released, and it just went into effect on Wednesday. All the part twos have now disappeared from your apps (unless you downloaded them, as I suggested! Thanks for being an early adopter!). They are now gated, and available to patrons at $5 a month and up. This is my first serious step toward making this work a sustainable career path. I intend to untether myself from my bread-and-butter job and continue expanding the horizontality … into videos, books, a TV show. I have big big dreams to SPREAD INTIMACY ACROSS THE GLOBE. And you can help me happen it. Patreon is the love child of crowd-funding and a subscription service. As a $5 month patron, you’ll get a special RSS feed that you can add to your podcast player, and it gives you exclusive access to all the episodes, every part two, going back to the beginning. I’ve made a little video tutorial for it, in case the RSS is confusing. It’s available on my Patreon page. (See what I did there?) In this episode, I lie down in my bed in Bushwick, Brooklyn, with Shaun Galanos. I live in Hacienda Villa, a sex-positive intentional community, and, just like most places on the vanguard, our neighborhood is (still) fairly gritty. So be advised: Bushwick— is a very noisy place. Trains and sirens and construction and unidentifiable buzzings and whirrings… let’s just say, you’re definitely gonna hear some local color in this episode. We’ll call it...verite. Shaun Galanos is a 30something silver fox, a Canadian, an American, a 12-time burner, a dog dad, and the host of the podcast The Love Drive, which aims to make sex and love less awkward. He’s also a street performer who gives Free Love Advice. He sets up a sign and his recording kit all over the place, in public parks, at Burning Man, while waiting for transportation, and, before he got chased away for soliciting the customers, at the airport. Point yourself towards thelovedrive.com for everything Shaun (including that free advice he talks about). Shaun and I met on the interwebz and started flirting and brainstorming and podcast-conspiring on Instagram. He’s handsome and charming and skilled in cheeky banter. He makes cute videos in which he talks directly to camera, Ferris Bueller-style. He cares about intimacy! He’s single! So when he came to New York, naturally, we hopped into bed. But only to record. (More on that in the episodes.) In this first part of our conversation, we talk about cruising chat rooms and cybering, wizard sleeves and uncircumcised cocks, the pics of naked men that turn Shaun on, the pics of naked women that turn me on, self-voyeurism, check-ins, and our level of sexual attraction. If you want to hear the second part of our conversation, released next Friday, in which we discuss our pheremones, the hierarchy of relationships, touch-starvation, Old Spice, my breasts, and Shaun tells me a story about risky wedding sex, become a patron of the horizontal arts! And now, come lie down with us in Bushwick, Brooklyn. (whispers) We’re naked. Let’s do the credits! Chad Michael Snavely is my editor and a podcast maven. He has a slew of podcasts you can check out on chadmichael.com. Shana Shay is my illustrator and graphic designer. She specializes in good-looking character illustrations from photographs, like the one you see in my podcast cover art. Hire her through 99designs. Alan Markley is a rock star touring musician, and he created my intro music (with a little bit of sex vox from me - those are the breathy sounds). Find him on Instagram as plasticcannons. Shaun and I also got vertical together. We recorded episode 28 of The Love Drive: how to get invited to a play party in Shaun’s borrowed apartment in Williamsburg. (Despite the title, I make no promises.) But if you’re curious about what a Hacienda sex party is like, well, darlin’, we made you an episode. At the end of that recording, Shaun asked me if I had a parting thought. I said all I could think of was the E.M. Forster quote, “Only connect.” I don’t think that we will regret any of the time we’ve spent trying to connect with other humans. What I mean is: the time we spent cultivating intimacy in our lives is time worth spending. It is among the worthiest of pursuits. So thank you, thank you for getting horizontal with us. To listen to the rest of our conversation, as we unpack our own challenges getting intimate with each other: Patreon.com/horizontalwithlila Until next week, I wish you someone to love, something to do, and something to look forward to.

horizontal is the podcast of intimacies that’s recorded while lying down. In this episode, I get the opposite of vertical with Marcia B., co-founder of Cuddle Party, creator of The Good Girl Recovery Program, and co-leader of weekend intensives like “Make Hot Play Happen” and “The Wanted Man,” that teach humans to have more fun, deeper connections, and hotter sex. Her co-teacher for these weekends is Midori, the renowned sex educator and doyenne of Japanese bondage. Marcia is an educator, a writer, a wild-permission giver, a generator of joy. She's funny and warm and lovely and clear. Marcia is a boundary expert, and the set of rules that she co-created for Cuddle Party have inspired a legion of hosts, including pretty much everyone who hosts an event at Hacienda Studio — the event space housed in Hacienda Villa, the community I live in. The Cuddle Party rules are so good, so simple and yet so profound, that I am compelled to share them here: Pajamas stay on the whole time. You don’t have to cuddle anyone at a Cuddle Party, ever. You must ask permission and receive a verbal YES before you touch anyone. (Be as specific in your request as you can.) If you’re a yes, say YES. If you’re a no, say NO. If you’re a maybe, say NO. You are encouraged to change your mind. Respect your relationship agreements and communicate with your partner. Get your Cuddle Party Facilitator or the Cuddle Assistant if you have a question or concern or need assistance with anything during the Cuddle Party. Tears and laughter are both welcome. Respect people’s privacy when sharing about Cuddle Parties. Keep the Cuddle space tidy We got horizontal in Kensington, California (Marcia says that I should say Berkeley, because even people from the Bay Area don’t seem to know that there is a Kensington). My San Francisco stop was right in the middle of my horizontal does america cross-country road trip tour. For synchronicitous stories and pretty pictures, sign up for the missives on horizontalwithlila.com We are in Marcia’s “Room of Requirement,” a designation borrowed from the world of Harry Potter (which I loooove. I used to re-read all the books every year, for comfort). It’s a space that converts into whatever the seeker needs it for most at that very pressing moment, if they know where to find it. Marcia’s Room of Requirement is a sometime office, sometime guest room, often living room, occasional Cuddle Party space… you get the picture. It’s exactly the opposite of an austere apartment where you feel like you probably shouldn’t touch anything or sit down. In Marcia’s house, you should plop down straightaway. Purrrfect for getting horizontal. In this first part of our conversation, we talk about Marcia’s coming of age during the AIDS crisis, the some/many/most model of sex information, boundaries boundaries boundaries, the abnormality of “average,” saying no gracefully and… asking for what you want.   *** If you enjoy lying down with Marcia and I, become a patron of the horizontal arts. You could receive monthly love poems, tickets to a live horizontal storytelling show, or horizontal pillows so that you too can get horizontal with lila. Every bit of patronage goes into continuing to make independent, uncensored, ad free homemade radio. I believe that making private conversations public makes intimacy contagious, and the more intimacy we have in all different forms, the happier we are. Be part of my mission to spread intimacy across the globe through Patreon.com/horizontalwithlila. Show me you believe in what I'm doing. Patronage begins at $2 a month, and as it increases, the rewards get more sumptuous. *** Now, dear ones, come lie down with us in Berkeley, California.   Credits! Chad Michael Snavely is horizontal’s editor-at-large. He and the rest of his coterie of podcasts can be found at Chad Michael.com. Alan Markley created my intro jams. He’s plasticcannons on Instagram. And Shana Shay drew the sensual me that comprises my cover art. You can hire her through 99designs. On next week’s episode, Marcia and I discuss the dog/cat/bird model of play party personalities, touch deprivation, what is “queer enough,” bi-erasure, constellations, poly pods, and the post-nuclear family. Also, Marcia reiterates that “if you can’t say no, your yes is worthless.” Until next Friday: may you have someone to love, something to do, and something to look forward to.

This is a special edition of horizontal, the podcast that takes you into my bed and lets your ears watch as I unzip intimate conversations. horizontal aims to dispel shame, diminish loneliness, and cultivate connections. This conversation was recorded last week at Hacienda Villa, the intentional community and center for sex education in Bushwick, Brooklyn: my home. In this episode, I lie down with Madison Young. Madison is a performance artist, an author, a sex educator, and a feminist pornographer. Last week, Hacienda Studio, our event space, hosted three performances of Madison Young’s one-woman show Reveal All Fear Nothing. It is literally like nothing else I’ve ever seen. Reveal All demystifies, illuminates, and celebrates the often-misunderstood worlds of kink, porn, and BDSM, through the words and body of an insider. It is important work. It needs to be seen. And it needs to be seen by you. I don’t want to reveal too much for her, because you should watch her reveal it yourself, but I must tell you this: I haven’t even seen my own g-spot yet… but I’ve seen Madison’s. Did you even know that was possible? You could say, quite accurately, that I was moved. In so many ways. Throughout the night, I laughed, I danced, I gasped, my heart hurt, I ran upstairs during intermission and gave my date a blow job … I cheered, and I was left with this liquid pool of gratitude at the astonishing generosity with which Madison has crafted this piece. She made us a gift. Go enjoy it! Madison will be performing THIS WEEKEND in a two-night-only limited engagement at The Tank in Midtown Manhattan on Friday the 8th and Saturday of the 9th of June, 2018. Make it your mission to be there. You can get your tickets on RevealAllFearNothing.com - There is radical sexual healing to be had, merely by being a witness to this work. In the first half of our episode, we talk about Madison’s memoir, titled “Daddy,” saturations, rainbow unicorn bondage, self-aftercare, how a porn star prepares, and the petition that stopped Madison from going to church. And now you can do something that legions of fans have only dreamed of. You can come lie down with us. *** If you are moved by this work, become a part of it through Patreon.com/horizontalwithlila — if you aren't familiar with it, Patreon is a life changer for independent artists with the desire to make lawless, uncensored, and undilutedwork. It allows each of you to become a patron of the horizontal arts, and to gain access in various ways to this process of spreading intimacy. You can become a patron at the base level for $2 a month, and the awards get more sumptuous as you offer more! *** Credits! Time for some credit. This episode was edited by Chad Michael Snavely, podcast maven. Check out his entire roster by heading to ChadMichael.com. My lovely intro music was created by the nicest rock star in the world, Alan Markley. He's on Instagram as plastic cannons. The horizontal cover art was illustrated by Shana Shay, and her playful, sensual work can be found on 99 designs.

This intro was recorded in Baltimore, MD because, throughout the month of October, horizontal does america. It’s just me, a Honda Civic, and a backpackful of recording equipment circling the United States together … and you can be a part of happening it. Patreon.com is a platform for crowdsourcing patronage. Whereas in the olden days, an artist survived on the support of one single patron, now, you can support the horizontal arts with a monthly contribution of any amount whatsoever, from $1 on up. Rewards include handwritten postcards, tickets to the horizontal storytelling live show, behind-the-scenes videos and sensual photos, and having an episode curated to your chosen theme, amongst other perks! Go to Patreon.com/horizontalwithlila. I’m just a few dollars away from filming a video of the elaborate happy dance I do every time I get word of a new patron! This month, I’ll use your support for gasoline, the recording equipment I just bought, and horizontal storytelling, where the quickies are recorded. You can get horizontal photos (I aim to take one in every city), video postcards, and missives from the road by signing up for the mailing list at horizontalwithlila.com - also check out the website if there are any vocabulary words we use that you don’t know yet - because it has a glossary. Horizontal’s cross-country tour was sponsored in part by Lucid Studios, a New York-based production company. They’re meticulous and passionate people, and they truly care about how your work affects the audience. Find them on lucidstudiosnyc.com (not ny, as I said last week - oops!) In this episode, I lie down with my housemate Zed. He’s a sound engineer who works mainly on musicals, and before he moved into the house, he worked on Broadway touring shows for seven years. Our relationship has been fraught in the past, especially during the early months of living together, which we share about in the second half of our episode. Our respect for each other has grown, though. Zed’s motto is, “Always leave it better than you found it.” He often lives up to that. And without Zed’s generosity, this podcast would probably not exist, as, up until two weeks ago, I was borrowing my sound equipment from him. He is fiercely dedicated to his work and our home, Hacienda Villa, a sex-positive intentional community in Bushwick, Brooklyn. To record this with me was a great act of bravery on his part, and I hope you feel that. In the first part of our episode, we talk about the sex table, the “poly” house, outsiderness, and being a sex-positive germophobe. Come on. Come lie down with us. ** Horizontal’s sensuous cover art is by the illustrator Shana Shay - find her on 99 designs.com. My intro & outro music were created by Alan Markley, plasticcannons on Instagram. And every episode is mixed and mastered by Owen Muir, of Self-Disclosure Productions. On the next episode of horizontal, you’ll hear the rest of my conversation with Zed, in which he allows me to read one of the hardest letters I’ve ever written, a letter that I wrote him. Follow horizontal around the country by signing up on horizontalwithlila.com  

In this episode, I lie down with Philip Stehlik, of the sex-positive venture Cambyo. Cambyo is designed to help people develop their intimate lives. Through their online publication, research, community building, and in-person events, such as a sort of salon / meeting in which people are invited to share their experiences around intimacy, sexuality, and relationships in semi-public, Cambyo aims to cultivate a safer space for people to discuss. On Medium, they publish real stories about people’s intimate lives. If you want to contribute a story of your own to the ongoing, destigmatizing dialogue, please reach out to them! I first met Philip at a small cocktail party in the West Village - Philip and Cambyo co-founder Matt Hunter were in town for just a few days, and by the strength of their charisma alone, and also a little nudge from Bryony Cole, host of the fabulous sex tech podcast “The Future of Sex,” they gathered a mix of sex tech entrepreneurs, educators, activists, and therapists together for a night of conversation. Philip is German, and now based in San Francisco’s sex-positive nexus. He’s an excellent communicator, a world-class hugger, and somehow his presence simultaneously both calms and excites me  - I wish he lived in New York! This episode, as an experiment, was recorded in the basement event space at Hacienda Villa, called Hacienda Studio. It’s roomy and echo-y, we’re marooned on a little island of a mattress with a purple sheet in the middle of a huge space that spans almost the entirety of the brownstone, and the house itself makes some noise, as if it wants to be a third character in our conversation - but it was worth the experiment. In the first part of our conversation, we talk about the lack of proper sex ed, the book that taught Philip about being a good lover, condoms, and VR porn. The second half has been released separately, by popular demand. Won’t you please...come lie down with us. More horizontality, please: To become a patron of the horizontal arts, support me on Patreon, a website for crowdsourcing patronage! Patronage allows artists like me to buy equipment, schedule recording tours, and devote my time to creating more horizontal goodness, for you! Becoming my patron has delicious perks, ranging from exclusive photos and behind-the-scenes video content, to handwritten postcards, spring cleaning phone calls, and creative input on future episodes! You can become a patron for $1 a month on up, and the rewards just get more sumptuous. patreon.com/horizontalwithlila Credit where credit is: Horizontal’s badass theme music was created by Alan Markley, on Instagram as plasticcannons. It’s saucy cover art was designed and illustrated by Shana Shay. Hire Shana for character illustration and graphic design through 99designs. Horizontal was mixed and mastered by Owen Muir of Self-Disclosure productions, right here in Brooklyn, New York. Stay tuned for Owen’s own podcast, Self-Disclosure, a show where people talk openly for the first time about their experiences with mental health. Coming in August 2017 @psychdisclosure To sign up for the horizontal show notes, exclusive subscriber content, and sensual horizontal photos, head to horizontalwithlila.com

In this episode, I lie down with Grant Stoddard. Grant is an experiential journalist who specializes in reporting from outside of his comfort zone (sometimes way, waaay outside). The wild situations he has experienced bodily have appeared in Thrillist, Vice, T, New York Magazine, Penthouse, and Maxim, among many others.  He’s the author of one of my favorite memoirs of all-time, Working Stiff: The Misadventures of an Accidental Sexpert. When I was reading it on the bus, I laughed so hard that I completely missed my stop and had to double back about ten blocks. It follows Grant’s journey from lovelorn small town virgin to sex writer at Nerve.com. In 2002, Nerve was the very first place where I posted an on-line dating profile, after my friend Marley insisted that it wasn’t a weird and scary thing to do. As a budding sex-positive advocate, I began devouring Nerve’s sexy offerings, including erotica, photography, and Grant’s column, “I Did It For Science!” Last year, he began collaborating with Kenneth Play, our community co-founder, and I met the author of "I Did It For Science" in my hallway. This episode is the first Horizontal with Lila recorded on the road, in a cozy, creaky, charming airbnb in New Orleans, Louisiana, where Grant and I (along with another writer, her fiance, and my boyfriend Alex) were staying for the weekend in order to attend a Hacienda Maison play party themed “The Year of the Cock.” Andrew Sparksfire, owner of Hacienda Villa, the sex-positive intentional community in which I live, created Hacienda Maison down in NOLA as a sex-positive retreat center. The Maison is a sumptuously-appointed, several-storied, meticulously-restored plantation house, available to rent out for your sexiest events. In this episode, we talk about sex parties (dubbed “play parties” in the sex-positive community), the alchemy of attraction, the benefits of having two partners, and Grant’s first experience seeing female pubic hair. So there. Come lie down with us in New Orleans. You can hire Grant to sling some words for you. Peruse his zillion-article portfolio here. More horizontality, please: To become a patron of the horizontal arts, support me on Patreon, a website for crowdsourcing patronage! Patronage allows artists like me to buy equipment, schedule recording tours, and devote my time to creating more horizontal goodness, for you! Becoming my patron has delicious perks, ranging from exclusive photos and behind-the-scenes video content, to handwritten postcards, spring cleaning phone calls, and creative input on future episodes! You can become a patron for $1 a month on up, and the rewards just get more sumptuous. patreon.com/horizontalwithlila For all things horizontal with lila, including show notes, horizontal-inpired writing, and saucy saucy photos, subscribe at http://horizontalwithlila.com Without whom, it would not be possible: Badass theme music by Alan Markley, on Instagram as @plasticcannons Saucy cover art by Shana Shay (hire her!) on 99designs Mixing and mastering magic and sorcery by Owen Muir of Self Disclosure productions, on Twitter as @psychdisclosure

This week, Jess welcomes Kenneth Play. Kenneth Play is a former fitness professional, sex educator and one of the founders of Hacienda Villa - a sex house in NYC. You’re probably thinking ‘what goes on in a sex house?’ You’ll have to listen to find out! As mentioned in this episode, we must share one of Kenneth's hacks! Featuring Dr. Zhana, check out what tips the pair have when your date cancels last minute! (function(d, s, id) { var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0]; if (d.getElementById(id)) return; js = d.createElement(s); js.id = id; js.src = "//connect.facebook.net/en_US/sdk.js#xfbml=1&version=v2.9&appId=585746744967355"; fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs); }(document, 'script', 'facebook-jssdk')); How to deal with last minute date cancellation

Aired Thursday, 23 March 2017, 4:00 PM ET Hack Your Sex Life with Sex Hacker Kenneth Play Kenneth Play’s private PlayLabs, which are hands-on sex coaching intensives, have recently received a lot of media attention around the world. He’s helped couples with everything from squirting to kink to communication. In this show, Kenneth will share why he thinks play-by-play sex coaching is the most effective way to help couples experience new pleasure, overcome challenges, and master new techniques. About the Guest: Kenneth Play Kenneth Play an international sex hacking expert/educator, former top fitness professional, and private celebrity fitness and sex-ed coach. As a sex hacker, He develops and teaches hacks to help people learn new ways to play and overcome challenges in the bedroom. With his accelerated learning approach and playful teaching style, he helps people gain sexual confidence, experience more pleasure, and cultivate deeper intimacy in record time. His teaching style has been described as a combination of Tim Ferriss, Martha Stewart, and Bruce Lee. He co-founded the globally-recognized intentional sex-positive community, Hacienda Villa; he teamed up with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova to work on The Casual Sex Project; he’s been a featured presenter for the Sexual Health Expo (SHE) and New York University; and his projects have been featured in Playboy, New York Magazine, The Huffington Post, Thrillist, Refinery 29, and Cosmopolitan. He has devoted his life to empowering people through sex education, radical sexual self-expression, and community building. His mission is to bring hands-on sex education accessible to a mainstream audience. Website: www.kennethplay.com Twitter: @kennethplay Facebook Page: www.facebook.com/kennethplaypage

Desde la Hacienda Villa Flores de Elba y Harry Feliciano, la celebración de los ochenta de del actor ponceño Dani Torres. Rodeado de sus amistades y compañeros de las artes, cada uno le dedica su tiempo presentando inspiradas melodías. Choco Orta, salsera, cantante tropical, fue amiga de Ruth Fernández por muchos años y se describe como “la hija que ella nunca tuvo”. Lucy Nevarez, acompañada por los maestros de la guitarra Tavo (Tavin) Torres y Félix Santini, nos deleita con canciones como Máscara, Quejas del Alma. Quique Romero, Félix Santini y Tavo Torres cantan y también acompañan a las cantantes Choco Orta, Gryssel Ramirez y Lucy Nevarez. Video de Choco Orta, cantando Ahora MIsmo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=utUa_0UTmq4

0138 AjiTerapia 17 Enero 2017 | Fiesta en Hacienda Villa Flor | Penuelas | Puerto Rico | Actor Dani Torres | Felix Santini | Peter Borrero | Steel drums con Johnny Perez | Quique Romero Dani Torres presenta a los cantantes Peter Borrero con Johnny Pérez y su Steel Band, Félix Santini y Quique Romero. La trayectoria de un artista se mide en forma mística. Al igual que  un cometa o una estrella fugaz, es la magnitud de la estela de luz, una vez pasado el cuerpo celeste, lo que más recuerdan de su pasar. Dani Torres, a sus ochenta años, ha creado una luz fuerte y amplia. Un actor puertorriqueño marca su nueva hazaña vivencial, logra pasar la marca de los ochenta años. En ocasión de la celebración de su cumpleaños número 80. El evento se celebró en la Hacienda Villa Flor del pueblo de Peñuelas, en Puerto Rico. Con el actor Dani Torres, su grupo de AjiTerapia LLC, con José A. Rodríguez Roche, Ph.D. y esposa Isabel, el declamador Juan E. Domínguez Rivera y su esposa Mara Carrero, el actor Peter Borrero y su esposa con la cantante Lucy Nevarez. La Dama Pincel, Ángeles Badea Pérez, Ph.D.

Trío Guayanés presenta su música al actor Dani Torres En ocasión de la celebración de su cumpleaños número 80. El evento se celebró en la Hacienda Villa Flor del pueblo de Peñuelas, en Puerto Rico. http://ajiterapia.com Con el actor Dani Torres, su grupo de AjiTerapia LLC, con José A. Rodríguez Roche, Ph.D. y esposa Isabel, el declamador Juan E. Domínguez Rivera y su esposa Mara Carrero, el actor Peter Borrero y su esposa con la cantante Lucy Nevarez. La Dama Pincel, Ángeles Badea Pérez, Ph.D.

Ryan “Wry” Mantione is kind of the perfect guest for this podcast. He believes in being well-informed regarding options and alternatives to a hetero-normative, traditional love life, as well as maintaining dialogue with partners. He is hosting a workshop on Saturday, Sept 10 at 4pm in Brooklyn with Janet Hardy, co-author of The Ethical Slut as well as other guests. Go to Eventbrite.com to find the link to buy tickets for $35-$50. It will take place at the Hacienda Villa in Bushwick, Brooklyn, which is considered to be a polyamory house. https://nonmonogamyconsultant.com/

Some of the parties discussed in this episode include Chemistry, Kinky Salon NYC, Myth, Spam, Hacienda, 2 House of Scorpio events: Countdown and Lip Service, Kinky Riot, Wild’s Playground, and Curvy Fling. We will also hear from Jack from Adult Socials. You can find more information about Wild’s Playground and Kinky Riot on FetLife. Both parties often take place at Pendulum Dungeon. Don’t forget to check out the full archives of Jefferson’s blog One Life, Take Two and to listen to every episode of Billy Procida’s Manwhore Podcast. Watch the Huffpost Live video about Hacienda Villa here, and book your reservation for Hacienda Maison here. And when you’re done with all of that, remember to read Polly Superstar’s Reddit AMA.

Some of the parties discussed in this episode include Chemistry, Kinky Salon NYC, Myth, Spam, Hacienda, 2 House of Scorpio events: Countdown and Lip Service, Kinky Riot, Wild’s Playground, and Curvy Fling. We will also hear from Jack from Adult Socials. You can find more information about Wild’s Playground and Kinky Riot on FetLife. Both parties often take place at Pendulum Dungeon. Don’t forget to check out the full archives of Jefferson’s blog One Life, Take Two and to listen to every episode of Billy Procida’s Manwhore Podcast. Watch the Huffpost Live video about Hacienda Villa here, and book your reservation for Hacienda Maison here. And when you’re done with all of that, remember to read Polly Superstar’s Reddit AMA.