HAM Podcast - Happy Asian Males Discussing Sex, Philosophy, and Health

Today's episode, we will compare the difference between the Strawman and the Steelman methodology of debating. This has really helped me understand differing ideologies.

In this episode, Seibo sits down by himself to talk about the Bruce Lee documentary "Be Water" - This is a short podcast to pay homage to one of the greatest martial artists to ever live. What impresses us so much about Bruce were not his physical talents, but his mental philosophy. What did Bruce mean be "Be Water?" Listen to find out more!

HAM68 Today Seibo talks with Teen, one of the team members of Plan A Magazine about psilocybin and the lessons they both learned from their experiences with the substance. The podcast begins with Teen discussing his personal, first time experience with psilocybin, what made him decide to explore it, and the difficulties describing the uniqueness of the ordeal. The pair then proceed to examine how the psilocybin experience seems to differ each time depending on your idiosyncrasies, but also allows you to become more sensitive to your emotions and sensations - almost as if there was a separation of consciousness from the "everyday version" and the "enlightened version". Seibo then moves on to discuss the beneficial applications of psilocybin therapy as an aide to resolve mental trauma, as well as the research progress made by previous guest Terence Ching. Where patients describe that it is almost as if the effects of psilocybin provide enough detachment to analyse and reframe these traumatic experiences and then have the confidence to explore their unresolved issues. In the latter half the two then reflect on the aftermath of Teen's session and talk about the difficulties processing and describing the experience after taking psilocybin. Although the experience was an unusual, negative one it allowed Teen to further explore his negative emotions and better comprehend the shared challenges and burdens that human beings have. Contrary to Teen, Seibo talks about how psilocybin sessions helped him realise the need to rebuild the relationship with his brother and recognise how certain motivations originated from particular influences in his life, which allowed him to free himself of these restraints. With the controversy surrounding psychedelics and those that use them, the experiences discussed in this podcast episode demonstrate how these substances can in fact be beneficial and it is hoped that continued progress can be made in this area to destigmatize and educate the public. For more guest information, Plan A Magazine is a platform that discusses Asian issues and can be found at the following: planamag.com @PlanAMag on Twitter For writers wanting to submit work about Asian issues, submissions can be made to Plan A Magazine where all successful submissions are compensated.

Seibo gets together with Eric Feng, brought together by fellow guest Gavin Masumiya. Coming from Singapore, Eric brings the heat where he discusses: personal and brand identity, how to inspire others and create an audience, and the importance of public perception.  Starting off, Eric discusses the steps about how to bring others into the fold and become invested into you as a person, and in turn, your brand. Eric identifies three important steps: Knowing, Liking, and Respecting. Where if these three steps are met creates the catalyst for audiences to become invested in your branding to create long term business ventures.  The KLR framework was initially created because of Eric's personal experiences with public speaking and after much introspection, Eric identified the importance of public perception, where those with the highest social value had more margin for error compared to more qualified, but less known figures when it came to providing information.  Moving on, Seibo asks the important question about how one would identify what motivates us and how this can have an impact on promoting your business - The best method Eric discovered was the need to find an objective third party to observe and critique you as a person to enable you to identify where your strengths and talents lie.  Once this has been identified, the individual can progress to further stages to develop an improved business model such as: identifying your target audience, how to convert interest into leads, and clearly defining what product or image you are selling them.  Lastly, Eric stresses the importance of finding mentors to springboard your success. However, Eric reminds the listeners to not be an askhole, where we are stuck analysing our mentor's advice without walking the walk and taking action. In doing so you are able to create a better relationship with mentors and progress at a quicker rate.  This fast paced episode unfortunately concludes early due to time scheduling, but is nonetheless packed with information.  For more gems Eric can be found at @ericgoesglobal Eric is sharing his social media secrets to get more clients on social media without paying for ads or creating any content! I’ve actually attended his previous webinar and gotten results from it!  https://www.knownlovedrespected.com/freewebinar?affiliate_id=2288458

In episode 66, Seibo sits down to speak with Allen Fu, Founder and CEO of Hustle Nation. Allen, born in Australia is the son of immigrants from China. His parents first begin an all too common immigrant journey: immigrating to an unknown country, leaving loved ones behind, and working tirelessly to make a living.   Eventually, after making the decision that they did not want to continue working for others, Allen's parents made the hard decision to start their own business and forge their own path in Australia. With hustle in his DNA, Allen utilised the skills and experiences he learned in life and from his parents; this allowed Allen to build his own successful business where he now works with famous athletes and others who want to turn their dreams into reality.   Starting off, Allen talks about his struggles that Asians routinely face living in Western countries, however Allen recognised the importance of self improvement at an early age and began to take action to try and improve his situation. Channelling his family name of F.U, he began discovering how taking ownership, developing yourself physically and mentally, and pushing back when necessary helped him gain more respect on both a social and business level.   Furthermore, Allen gives practical solutions to learning high value business skills, the most important one being sales. Sales and door to door jobs were what allowed Allen to become accustomed to rejection and build his soft skills, which allowed him to make connections and partnerships to grow his business into what it is now. Nonetheless, when talking about developing EQ, Allen displays his vulnerability where he attributes that being bullied for 10 years provided him the opportunity to develop his empathy and see things from different perspectives. The two then talk about the benefits of Asian Hustle Network (co-founded by fellow HAM guest Bryan Pham and partner in crime Maggie Chui) which the two are both a part of. When reflecting on how this group has helped them find like minded people and business connections, Seibo also comments about the importance of helping others which can have numerous positive effects. In fact, Seibo comments about the times where he had helped others and how these situations actually became a type of long term investment, as the people that he had helped were able to help him grow his own business when they had finally reached their own success.   As the podcast comes to a close, Seibo and Allen both offer opportunities to reach out to them to any Asians who are considering starting their own business venture. The two also recommend signing up to Asian Hustle Network to find even more opportunities to help propel your business. For any Asian considering starting their own business, Allen offers his words of encouragement - Try, learn, and reach out. You'll never know if you don't start.

HAM 65 - Asian Hustle Network In this episode Seibo interviews Bryan Pham, co-founder behind the Asian Hustle Network alongside his partner Maggie Chui. Originally a software engineer in LA, Bryan was staggered about the high cost of living in the Bay area. Because of this, Bryan began partnering up with a friend where he was able to navigate the real estate environment, and over time eventually became active in the start-up community. This love of start-up inspired him to build a positive support network to connect and find others who were willing to support individuals who were turning their dreams into reality. With the boom of the meme page Subtle Asian Traits, wanting to combine his love of entrepreneurship, and support of his partner Maggie, Asian Hustle Network was born. Continuing on, Bryan talks about his growth and some of the challenges he faced; this included challenges such as breaking out of his more introverted personality and overcoming his aversion to public speaking. Seibo and Bryan then reflect on Asian culture and its irrational fear of exploring the unknown outside of the more reliable STEM fields, as well as the self limiting beliefs commonly placed upon by ourselves or by our Asians parents. The message about having the ability to look beyond traditional avenues, to stop boxing yourself in and to stop limiting your potential due self imposed beliefs is an important message everyone should take to heart, no matter what path we take. With the pair then advocating that we should begin to recognise that we may be underutilizing skill sets that can in fact be adapted to a variety of different areas and to also be comfortable when our paths may deviate from the traditional career paths we first set upon. Moving onto practical advice, Bryan talks about his own process on how to: tackle long-term goals, break these goals into more manageable segments, and recognise when you need to delegate or outsource your tasks. This can also lead to positive side effects such as: allowing people to work on areas they are personally passionate about, freeing you up to tackle other tasks, and allowing others the opportunity to shine. Moving onto entrepreneurial pursuits, Seibo and Bryan contemplate the rise and grind culture associated with entrepreneurship. In this segment, the two discuss the need to take time to relax and recharge, realising the act of grinding and being busy can in fact be a futile endeavour, and the benefits of blocking out time to allow yourself to rest to be able to work more effectively. Rounding off, Bryan cautions listeners to not force themselves to fit into preconceived moulds commonly seen in the rise and grind culture and work with what feels natural to you. As Seibo touts the positive benefits and continued positive momentum since joining the Asian Hustle Network, Bryan talks about how he was initially spurred into action by talking to a Jewish friend, where Bryan wanted to mirror the positive, supportive communities that he commonly saw in the Jewish community, leading him to try and develop a more united network regardless of what Asian ethnicity you are. As Bryan and Seibo continue to talk about the positive impacts of the Asian Hustle Network, Bryan reiterates that all members have something to bring to the table regardless of what stage they are at; Asian Hustle Network is not just about the fantastic achievements other members have (deservedly) achieved, and in actuality the stories Bryan and Seibo found that were the most inspirational were from members who came out on top despite the odds or expressed vulnerability, but had the courage to talk about challenges or struggles they were facing. Branching off the topic about overcoming challenges, Bryan expresses his own vulnerability regarding his journey to develop his EQ, realising the power of developing high EQ, and how developing these skills helped him bring together quality people - By getting out and doing one thing that made him uncomfortable, but having the fortitude to power through the short lived awkwardness, Bryan demonstrates firsthand how these "talents" can be worked on over time. As the podcast comes to its end, Seibo then closes out the podcast by asking Brian about the future direction of Asian Hustle Network, where Bryan envisions other Asians will be in the future, and the most surprising thing that came out of creating Asian Hustle Network. For more information, Asian Hustle Network can be found on Facebook and Patreon, where the Patreon fund is used to fund events all around the world. To contact Bryan Pham personally, Bryan can be found on Instagram - @bryanvuongpham Facebook - Bryan Pham

Seibo stops by to chat with Gavin Masumiya, co-founder of Flowmaster which mixes public speaking with free-style rap. Gavin talks about the origins of Flowmaster, which originated from a happy accident from talking with another colleague at Toastmasters. The pair expressed their secret love of free-style rap and began devising ideas on how to put a unique, modern spin on public speaking. At the start of the podcast Seibo and Gavin begin talking about listing the benefits of realizing and expressing your true self and the benefits it brings when it comes to mindset, forming relationships, and positive action. Moving on, Gavin reflects on his own childhood and the struggles of denying his true self and the impact it did to his self esteem when he allowed himself to be defined by self imposed standards. Furthermore, with the societal pressures to conform where we treat the symptoms with pharmaceuticals Seibo also reflects on our inability to address the root cause which have connections to repressed emotions and the question of why we are so unwilling to address them. Gavin then transitions into providing useful tips and practical exercises to calm yourself when you are feeling overwhelmed with anxiety or frustration, noting the positive changes you can experience if you practice these exercises and how it has been beneficial in his own life. Conversely, acknowledging your own achievements or positive comments from others is also needed, and you should allow yourself to give yourself permission to truly own them. The podcast closes out reiterating the benefits of developing these exercises and the small steps you can take to incorporate them into your own life. For more information Gavin can be found at his site www.gavinmasumiya.com

In the world of Instagram stories, Facebook likes, and 24/7 Hustle Seibo and Brandon sit down in episode 62 to discuss how society conditions individuals to always be switched on and where being busy is a virtue. Episode 62 reflects on the challenges this type of environment can bring and how to break away from this frame of mind. Starting off, Brandon introduces the concept of "masturdating" - Being intentional and taking time out to pursue your own desires and being comfortable alone. The pair then move onto exploring strategies, such as starting small by blocking out small chunks of time thinking about things you want to do but have been putting off or going out to a restaurant eating the foods you want without restraints. Following on, Brandon and Seibo discuss their own experiences about the challenges of truly committing to the things you want to pursue in the moment without remorse; Seibo talks about his difficulties and guilt of switching off because of the need to always be productive and Brandon talks about managing all the different internal struggles many of us grapple with when it comes to making and committing to decisions. Reflecting on this train of thought, the two then look to people in their own lives where these individuals are pursuing and defining their own lives and how exciting and freeing it can be living life on your own terms. In the fast paced world and 24/7 productivity, the pair reminds listeners to remember to take some time out to go after the things you have been putting off in pursuit of the hustle.

Chi starts off with his colourful background and how he pivoted into overseeing numerous psilocybin sessions today. From his particular experience playing professional poker Chi learned how the poker scene provided lessons about how not to act, which lead him to reorientate himself and begin his journey of self exploration. Seibo and Chi start off about their introduction to products such as cannabis, acid, and psilocybin. Chi then describes his own journey about how he was initially introduced to mushrooms by his friend, and subsequently this first positive experience encouraged him to continue exploring the world of psilocybin. The pair then disclose advice to those wanting to begin using psilocybin and the importance of priming the individual. Factors such as a good environment, positive mindset, and being honest with yourself about your preparedness can heavily determine the outcome of your first session. Chi also provides sound advice about the need for a good support system and dosing before attempting psilocybin, as well as the qualities of a good trip-sitter. Seibo moves into the final leg of the podcast about how changing terminologies can make unfamiliar topics more palatable for public consumption; being a conduit may also allow people to be more open to the idea of more stigmatized products such as psilocybin. The pair then transition to Asian culture and its perceived inability to address repressed emotions, how Asian cultures may benefit from psilocybin use and how it could potentially be introduced. Finally, the podcast closes out about how we can face our own sense of self and how psilocybin sessions could facilitate self awareness and individual growth.

This week, Seibo Shen does a solocast to detail his journey doing jiu jitsu and what it means to him. He talks about: The physical aspect of jiu jitsu Playing speed chess with your body How his daughters are benefitting from it How men get to hug each other in a safe environment

Brandon and Seibo discuss the Karpman Drama Triangle allowing us to better understand relationship dynamics using this framework. The Karpman Drama Triangle is a social model of human interaction mapping a particular destructive type of interaction. The model analyses the connection between personal responsibility and power in conflict, as well as the shifting roles people embody in this type of interaction.   The Triangle contains three distinct roles: Victim – powerless, helpless and ashamed. The victim hopes for the rescuer to change everything without empowering themselves. Persecutor – critical, blaming, authoritarian, the persecutor oppresses the victim by bullying and threats. The persecutor usually presents because of building resentment and feelings of being underappreciated. Rescuer – Needs to feel important, by enabling the victim they validate their own importance. Rescuing takes the attention off the rescuer's own problems so they do not need to confront their own issues.   The pair use the Karpman Triangle to analyse how this destructive behaviour can impact us as individuals and affect us as human beings. Brandon and Seibo then move onto discuss situations and times in their own lives where they embodied each of these roles, what they learned from these experiences, and how they turned these experiences into positive action. Brandon reflects on his romantic challenges and times in his twenties and thirties where these roles presented themselves, but also talks about how he transformed these experiences into positive action once he challenged these dynamics. Brandon closes his part by recommending Atomic Habits which discusses the pay offs for certain habits such as: achievement, autonomy, and comfort if listeners want to further understand these dynamics. Moving on,   Seibo talks about how breaking from the cycle helped him find more appreciation to help and give back to others. One heartwarming experience he reflects on is practicing Jiu Jitsu with his two daughters and the joy of helping others improve and grow without expecting anything in return or using nefarious means. The podcast then closes out by reminding listeners how using the Karpman Triangle can be beneficial in identifying times when we are behaving in a toxic manner and avoid the pitfalls which may impact our relationship with others.

Seibo flies solo stopping by to have a discussion with 10th Planet instructor Jarrell Garcia talking all things Jiu Jitsu. Episode 58 demonstrates how seemingly unrelated aspects can benefit you in other areas of life. Jiu Jitsu doesn’t just have benefits on the mat, the same principles allow you to cultivate your emotional intelligence and how you perceive things enabling you to judiciously navigate emotional challenges.  Jarrell began playing soccer as a childhood sport from middle school to high school as many others did, however Jarrell then went off to college to choose the path of pursuing sports instead of culinary arts. During undergrad Jarrell originally started off training MMA, but eventually settled down with 10th Planet where he has been for 7 years.  Seibo and Jarrell reminisce about how they met and their first impressions and how they got into Jiu Jitsu. Moving on, Jarrell talks about his approach coaching and how his coaching principles do not drastically change when teaching – in fact he believes that each different pupil will emphasize the parts which speak to them and adapt the art to fit their own personality.  There are many lessons taken from Jiu Jitsu that can apply to numerous areas of life such as: Seibo’s blue belt arrogance – How to be more adaptable and let go of rigid thinking. Family – Finding support in friends such as Grace and having the opportunity to learn from them. Finding your own voice – Following the principles of Bruce Lee, after learning the fundamentals eventually you need to find your own style and voice in the world. In the second half the pair moves into discussing fatherhood and relationships. Seibo and Jarrell reflect on preparing for fatherhood and how to maintain and cultivate the relationship with their partners such as the importance of date night. The talks also highlight the need to address and open up to feelings which facilitates better communication and relationships allowing to express your authentic self, much like when moving into flow states when rolling on the mat and competing in sports. Closing out, Jarrell emphasizes the importance of sports in creating positive action such as how it benefits inner city kids, the joy of helping others by teaching, and being a catalyst to allow others to reach the next level. Finally, congratulations to Seibo who recently graduated to purple belt after many years of hard graft and dedication.

HAM57 – Justin Tsui of Win Each Day In episode 57, Brandon and Seibo sit down with Justin Tsui. Justin began enveloped in the world of football, eventually becoming a high school physical education teacher; he taught a wide variety of sports from hockey to football where he developed his skills of coaching, teaching and mentoring. His experience building up young adults into competitive athletes developed into finding new methods to how these athletes could address and manage their emotions and mindset in the world of sport. After flourishing for many years, Justin was at a turning point – on paper he had it all, but he was left wondering why he was still left unfulfilled. Fast forward to today and Justin is now a health and wellness businessman providing a refuge for people who are seeking mentoring with regards to how tackle their emotional challenges head on and develop the skills to manage and navigate personal turmoil. Episode 57 delves deep into the struggles of resolving relationships and personal challenges focusing on: - How do we keep ourselves accountable with the individual we want to be? - Being consistent with our character and being the best version of ourselves, not just in our professional lives, but also our personal lives with friends and family - How do we balance our behaviours and attitudes with strangers compared to our loved ones – why do feel it is permitted to be patient with the young athletes we coach, but forget to extend the sentiment to our own sons or daughters? - Why is communication so important as father figures and partners? The group break down the importance of communicating and disclosing our feelings to cultivate good relationships with our children and partners, as well as the consequences of not cultivating our emotional intelligence or maintaining good, consistent communication with loved ones. The trio then move on to discuss the need for support groups to allow ourselves to open up about our feelings, territory we as males are commonly reluctant to venture into. Why are individuals like Brandon able create havens that allows people to feel comfortable and open up? – it all comes down to trust, vulnerability, and honesty. Finally the discussions conclude with the importance of trust and intuition when it comes to forming genuine relationships. Seibo and Justin reflect about the people they have met in their life time, coming to the understanding how much an individual’s character plays a much larger role in forming these relationships compared to the conventional, even opportunistic criteria such as: profession, academics or qualifications. This trust, combined with listening to your own intuition plays an important role for finding like minded people enabling you to grow and develop. The trio ends out the podcast by underlying the three most important things to take away from the podcast and where to find Justin at the Win Each Day Facebook group.

Brandon is back! After a few solocasts, Seibo welcome Brandon back to the podcast to talk about Asian emasculation. We talked about A LOT of stuff in this episode from vulnerability to shame, and even including if Brandon is gay! We decided to start doing some show notes so it would help you guys find the interesting parts of the podcast but truthfully, the whole thing is awesome. Please leave us a rating or share this with a friend, we really appreciate it! 4:15 Difficulty of Dating Apps 7:35 Deductive belief formation 9:00 White names   10:30 No Chinese Accent   10:45 Chinese Exclusion Act   11:34 Feminine jobs   13:40 "I'm an introvert" excuse   14:00 Hypermasculine Identity   15:00 Overcompensation to get out of comfort zone   18:35 Friendzone real?   21:30 Brandon's Overcompensation   23:20 Masks attracting other masks   24:41 Brandon's Pick Up Artist experiences   25:10 Bad strategies   29:35 Mark Manson's "Models" book   30:15 Vulnerability and Brene Brown   32:20 Inner vs. Outer Game   33:17 Is Brandon Gay?   33:55 Two guys read the same dating book   35:00 Seibo's stories that women love   36:40 Sharing your real story   38:04 Guy friends not having sex with you   40:00 Permission to be vulnerable   40:45 Brandon gets sex coaching   41:52 Marriage Counseling   44:08 Seibo's previous paradigm   45:35 Asking for what you want   46:35 Polarizing people towards you   48:47 White Belt Advice: Approval?   49:27 Blue Belt Advice: Vulnerable Conversation   50:00 Black Belt Advice: Somatica Skills   52:01 Beliefs are placeholders   53:45 Helping yourself first    

Jie Yang is the founder of TenX17 (https://www.tenx17.com/) a blog about the normalization of cannabis in Canada and globally. In today's episode we talk about what he does for self improvement, all the different jobs that he's had in his life that have shaped and influenced the way he is today, and many practical things you can begin doing so that you can begin the projects that you have been wanting to do but always ended up in the back burner due to competing priorities.  We also talk about some of the differences between growing up Asian in the United States versus Canada. We also dived into some of the influences that Asians have had in the history of cannabis and why it is the "King of Herbs" -- We cover so many topics in this podcast, I have dubbed Jie the Renaissance Man!

This week we have a very special guest, Adam Bramlage, formerly of Hummingbird Medicinals. Adam has suffered from depression his whole life and has made vast improvements to his mental health by changing his diet, exercising more, taking ice river baths, and utilizing psilocybin mushrooms. If you have been curious about how psychedelics can improve your life, this episode is full of information on how to get started, micro dosing, respecting the fungi, and how to integrate the learning from these experiences.

Today's guest is Edwin Ho, an occupational therapist who works with autistic children. Edwin grew up with severe hearing deficiencies and how it formed and shaped him into the human being he is today. In a world where we often compare ourselves to others only on a monetary basis, we get real and talk about the things that are really important in life. We speak about many subjects including: 1. Our relationship with our father and how it shaped us into the men we are today. 2. Why he loves working with autistic children and the fulfillment it brings to him. 3. What he plans on doing in the next phase of his life. 4. Mastery of our professional, personal, and spiritual aspects of our lives

In this week's episode, Chris Kim, of Badass Asian Dudes stops by to talk about: Being a digital nomad Traveling the world What motivated him to start the BAD group Success without happiness This was recorded as a dual podcast and has also been released under "Badass Asian Dudes" Go give them a follow and enjoy!

In this episode, we get to sit down with Terence Ching, who is getting his doctorate in Clinical Psychology while focusing specifically cultural barriers with people of color in regards to Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy. Links mentioned in Show: Open Letter: An open letter to racial/ethnic and sexual/gender minorities Research Gate Profile: Terence Ching Debunked MDMA Research: Debunking Drug Folklore MDMA Testing Kit from DanceSafe: MDMA Testing Kit 

In this episode, Victor Ung, from the Human Up podcasts joins Seibo as they talk about their journeys from shy, quiet teenagers to where they are today. As Asian-American males, many of the struggles we share are quiet shameful to talk about. If the problems aren't discussed, it is very difficult to find a solution. Hopefully, through these discussions, we can start the healing process.

In today's episode, Angela Shen, joins the HAM podcast to update us on her latest shamanic journey and how it changed her perspective on so many things. Brandon and Seibo also update us on all the things and reasons why the show had to take a short hiatus. A lot of different topics were discussed including emotional intelligence, shame, and what we can do to improve our mental well being.

We have a special guest - Rachel Alexandria. She's the creator of the "Adulting Revolution" and teaches people how to be leaders through power and love. She's a lot more than that - just ask Brandon who she's working with right now on leveling up! We discuss the missing pieces our culture isn't preparing it's citizens with and how to fill in those gaps to become an adult. You can find out more about her offerings here: https://rachelalexandria.com/

In this guest episode we feature two Headmasters of #OnlineMovementUniversity - DJ Murakami and Jonathan "Mirth" Huynh-Mast. We get into the good stuff: experiencing movement outside of the "tasks", non-monogamy, BDSM, our Shadow, psychedelics and rites of passage, relationships, and masculinity in modern times. You can find these cool dudes on Instagram: @strongcamps @majesticmirth And you can learn more about their amazing project -https://onlinemovementuniversity.com/

We generally discuss the virtues of being a responsible adult on this show - but all of us have an inner child. How often do we let him or her out to play? We all need to do things just for fun too. What are like when we take off that "Adult Mask"? Martials arts and business are just as important as drawing cartoon characters and dancing like a monkey. 

This week, Brandon and Seibo discuss the important ability to make friends and building a digital persona. How can we use social media to connect and cooperate with others? It can be tough to balance our "online" and 3-D world personalities. Real hugs, eye contact, and longing for human touch can be balance with our smart phones. What skills do we need to maintain to be humans?

This episode we talk about pop culture - Elon Musk and Colin Kaepernik. Polarization is a side-effect of standing for what we believe in. Acting in alignment with your beliefs take GUTS. This comes with discovering yourself through life experiences and finding your own beliefs. And we will make people upset - and bring others closer to you. Have you drawn a line in the sand lately?

Brandon has been trying many new things and has been feeling insecure, challenged, and sometimes, he even felt like giving up. These are all normal and rationale feelings to have when you are embarking on something new. Listen to Brandon and Seibo discuss how they tackle and conquer these moments in their life in order to LEVEL UP!

This episode is about how Brandon spent the last ten years debunking myths about Fitness and showing people how be their own personal trainer. It flies in the face of conventional fitness dogma - it works well for independent thinkers who aren't big fans of gyms. It is also the culmination of his facing his fears of the body and sharing that gift so others can benefit. Here's the link for the Intelligent Body Map.

This episode is about embracing the lessons from fathers, even if they were not emotionally available. Balancing our masculine and feminine sides leads to wholeness. Brandon goes on a roadtrip with his dad to find out more about him. Seibo experiments with hugging strangers and forms of dance. 

This episode is EPIC. Seibo and Brandon interview Ryan Beauregard, the manager of the Zendo Project. If you go to Burning Man, Lightning in a Bottle, or music festivals then chances people are doing psychedelics. The Zendo Project provides training for Psychedelic Harm Reduction and trains people to support others through "bad trips". We talk about everything from nature, human potential, technology, and most importantly - how to respect and use psychedelics to improve human behavior on Earth.

This episode is about the importance of PLAY. From a young age we're taught to grow up, be responsible, and stop playing games. What if it was part of being a responsible adult to keep playing though? Our guest Don Savella, co-founder of Yogohana and Movement coach, talks about the seriousness of play and how to incorporate it into our lives. For more information on DJ Yoga check out: www.yogohana.com

Our special guests today are Philip and Martina Chubb. They are the brains and brawn behind "The Mindful Mover" on Instagram. Combining gymnastics and weight training all while teaching you how to get the most gains from the least amount of work. We discuss owning our Inner Nerd, Movement Culture, gratitude, and most importantly: How they are changing the Online Fitness industry! You can find them on IG @The_Mindful_Mover and www.mindfulmover.com

Seibo has been involved in business and sales for most of his adult life. Brandon has benefited from Seibo by watching his example as a CEO and family man. He launched his own online education business and digs into his "true why" for getting into fitness and how being true to that has altered his life purpose. We talk about how it's more important to rest enough and use fitness to enhance your family and work life. We also talk managing personalities within a business and how to round out our weaknesses.

Our two guests today are Sex & Relationship coaches! Elena and Dori met Brandon during his "Sex School Training" and became friends. This episode is PACKED with practical advice you can use starting NOW. We cover how to be the best version of yourself, authentic compliments, flirting, everything BEFORE sex, body language, and much more!  Dori Melton Elena Letourneau

Fatherhood. Every man should consider his position on the matter. We get two stories from each side; Don and Seibo who are fathers and Tony and Brandon who are single. We get deep about the lessons and experiences of having children in our lives. Enjoy this heartfelt episode!

Do you ever make simple mistakes that you could easily avoid? Do you beat yourself up over these simple mistakes for far too long?  This week Brandon and Seibo talk about some of the mistakes they have made over the past few weeks and have they have affected their mood, their actions, and how their loved ones around them responded. Instead of beating themselves up, Seibo and Brandon try to learn and move on. Listen to this week's adventures!

In today's episode we talk about Seibo's healing experience with MDMA and how he used it helped strengthen his marriage. He discusses letting your guard down and genuinely listening to your loved ones. Brandon talks about his weekend with Gordon, our honorary Happy Asian Male. He helps Gordon bring Feng Shui into his home and "De-bachelorize" the place. We discuss the benefits of keeping a clean space and clean mind!

This week's guest is Angela Shen, the host of "Power of Connection". She is also Seibo's sister! We dive deep into both aspects of growing up an Asian, for both men and women. We discuss family history, the Enneagram, Yoga, community, psychedelics, and growth through adversity. We also talk about love knowing no boundaries. And that leads to the most important idea of lending a helping hand to those who need it most.

Do you have a SEX KIT? Today's guest Raj Bandyopadhyay met Brandon at Somatica, or "Sex School". In this special episode we discuss being prepared like a Boy Scout getting ready for a sex adventure! One way men can up their game is to be considerate of women's sexual needs. We talk explicitly about how to choose condoms, vibrators, lubricants, and much more! 

This episode explains the core principle of HAM - taking powerful techniques for changing the mind, body and spirit and making them available to all. Like the Linux OS, you can reprogram your MIND operating system if you learn the structure. We share our best wisdom to help people find a"Flow State" and to spot the practices, habits, and thoughts that promote it. We truly believe everybody can achieve remarkable results if they pay attention.

An "Emotional Vortex" is when two people get into an triggered state and cannot make decisions with their logical minds. They essentially have a flashback to being a wounded child and cannot understand what is going on. It is extremely common in intimate relationships and even in business. Seibo and Brandon talk about recognizing vortexes and strategies to deal with them. They are a healthy part of life if we learn to deal with arguments constructively. 

Flow State is just another word for being PRESENT. It will enrich all of your relationships, attract the right kind of business opportunities, and sexual partners. It is because you get a massive amount of information in the present moment, instead of thinking of the future or past. Brandon also talks about how going to "Ecstatic Dance" taught him about flowing with a group. Seibo relates how being in the present attracted the right business partners.

Happy Asians care about their mental health! This is something hardly talked about in the Asian-American world until recently. Both Seibo and Brandon have experienced success only because they have addressed their own mental health too. It's about moving from a state of mind of "Fear and Abandonment" to a state of "Playfulness, Cooperation, and Ease." We talk about the Scarcity vs. Abundance mentality and how to that governs all aspects of our lives. 

The most important resource we have is TIME. And in order to use that time well we need to put pressure on ourselves to act. And sometimes we play games with ourselves that help us take steps towards our objectives, or push us away from our goals. But in the end, we need to PLAY games with ourselves both mentally and physically because that's how humans learn best - when there are REAL consequences. And we need to act with the "fear of death" in us so we commit to the action fully. Play for keeps!

In this episode, we have guest Tony Irwin talk about his Live DJ Yoga event called Yogohana - a unique blend of nightlife and movement in a pressure-free environment. We discuss how the language of the body is movement - and there's not one right way to do it. Yogohana encourages the art of PLAYING, singing, and honest expression through the body. Yogohana was indeed inspired by Cannabis and Psilocybin, shifting Tony and Brandon's courage to open up to dance and celebrating the body's wisdom.

Seibo and Brandon had to learn how to have difficult conversations. They discuss how they went from TOLERATING things to CREATING relationships they wanted! Here are some ideas for long-term success in dealing with lovers, colleagues, family, and haters: Expressing gratitude for a person directly. Initiating difficult conversations that may change the course of the friendship/romance. Asking for what you want instead of assuming the other person reads minds.

Do you keep the promises that matter most - to yourself? Sometimes we have to look back in the past and realize we didn't see memories clearly. As we mature, we develop the ability feel mixed emotions simultaneously. And sometime we don't take care of ourselves because we distract ourselves with other people's problems. We talk the Karpman Drama Triangle and how that applied to our lives. Both of us are going through transition phases - to burn off the "deadwood" and focus on what matters.

Why is being alone awesome? In this episode, we talk about how Seibo doesn't like crowds even though he's often schmoozing at Cannabis parties. The effects of daydreaming and "doing nothing' have a huge impact on mental health. Psychedelics have a huge effect on making us sit for hours with ourselves. But what about doing it on purpose for 15-20 minutes a day? Can we still benefit?

In today's episode we discuss the idea of competency. Do you know the difference between continuing to struggle or learn and when to move on? One of the best ways to figure this out - tune into your own thoughts. There are aspects of our jobs, friendships, and hobbies that we need to move on from. And perhaps spend a little more time doing things we like!

Today we talk about how to become a Happy Asian Male, you need to develop social skills in order to do it!

This episode, we tackle the topic of toxic masculinity. This is a tough topic because many men think that growing up manly is the only way to develop. Many times, these characteristics can be great but sometimes they can hold you back. This week, we discuss the pros and cons of toxic masculinity.