Lessons in Love

Send us a textDo you have an abandonment wound? Or are you questioning if you have one? An abandonment wound can affect your daily life in very subtle ways. An abandonment wound is usually the result of past experiences and it can hugely impact your life today, as an adult. The question is, how does your abandonment wound show up in your daily life? Seeing these patterns improve your wellbeing, choices, and relationships. Let's dive into the different ways your abandonment wound might show up at work, in relationships, and other areas of your life. You will hear what a recap of what an abandonment wound is, and key signs of how it shows up. I will also share the details of my CBT course, Becoming Secure. As always, at the end of the video I give you big value - one shift you can make when your abandonment wound is triggered. I would love to hear from you in the comments, what is the main takeaway that can help you live happier?FREE WORKSHOP: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/5-steps-to-breaking-the-rulesBecoming Secure (Carly Ann's Signature course): https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-courseSupport the showOther useful links: FREE WORKSHOP WATCH HERE Becoming Secure (Next Course I am running) FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textWATCH ON YOUTUBEThis workshop is sponsored by my signature 6-week course, Becoming Secure. It does exactly what it says on the tin... it helps you move from feeling insecure, lost, or anxious, to feeling grounded, confident, and secure. It's six weeks to rediscovering yourself..and right now there's a special early bird offer available.Join Becoming Secure with Early Bird Pricing until Wed 3rd: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-courseSupport the showOther useful links: FREE WORKSHOP WATCH HERE Becoming Secure (Next Course I am running) FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textFREE WORKSHOP (Breaking The Rules)Part 5:If you struggle with anxiety, anxious attachment, and your mood - it is very possible you are living by hidden rules and inner guidelines without even realising it. Rules like “I must always please others” “I need to be chosen” or “I have to get it right or I'll be on my own” can leave you feeling anxious, self-critical, and stuck in the same old patterns. They quietly fuel overthinking, low self-esteem, and the constant worry that you're not enough... in life, in love, and in how you show up for yourselfIn part 5, I teach you to be able to tell if your rules are helpful or unhelpful, and how to start changing your own inner guidelines for better self-worth and happiness.Support the showOther useful links: FREE WORKSHOP ON 29TH AUG Becoming Secure (Next Course I am running) FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textFREE WORKSHOP (Breaking The Rules)Part 4If you've ever noticed that your anxiety or low mood is tangled up with self-esteem, this episode is a must-listen (or must-watch).There are sneaky thoughts and beliefs holding you back, keeping you stuck in self-criticism, stopping you from feeling confident, and blocking you from being your true self.This, mini episode (4) is here to give you the motivation and reminders to start breaking free, building healthier self-esteem, and inviting more happiness into your life.Support the showOther useful links: FREE WORKSHOP ON 29TH AUG Becoming Secure (Next Course I am running) FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textFREE WORKSHOP (Breaking The Rules)Today's bitesize episode is for those of you that prefer a real exercise compared to theory and ideas.Rules for Living help you live a life where you feel OK, so long as those rules are met. The second they are not, that's when you spiral.E.G. If you believe you should make everyone happy, you will lose yourself the second you think you might have upset someone.In this mini episode, I am delivering a somatic exercise combined with music, affirmation, and visualisation. A great way to regulate yourself and cut ties with old rules that are not serving you.Support the showOther useful links: FREE WORKSHOP ON 29TH AUG Becoming Secure (Next Course I am running) FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textFREE WORKSHOP (Breaking The Rules)PART 2: Rules That Lead to ANXIETYIn today's bitesize episode I am sharing with you a key reason why you fall into panic, worry, & obsessing at certain times in your life. There is something that triggers this cycle and knowing about it has truly changed my life and how I manage my mood and thoughts.If you care what others thinking, or notice yourself doing things you think you SHOULD or MUST do rather than what you WANT), this one is for you!Support the showOther useful links: FREE WORKSHOP ON 29TH AUG Becoming Secure (Next Course I am running) FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textIn this mini episode Carly Ann introduces a popular concept (Rules for Living) that is discussed in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Rules for living are influenced by your own negative core beliefs and they actually maintain low self-esteem, anxiety, low mood, and self doubtIt is when your rule for living is broken that you spiral into worry and feeling badIf you can begin to understand this psychological concept, you can begin to change your lifeSupport the showOther useful links: FREE WORKSHOP ON 29TH AUG Becoming Secure (Next Course I am running) FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textHave you heard of limerence? The longing, obsessing, and thinking about someone you like.In this episode Carly Ann talk about what limerence is, what keeps you hooked on them (why you can't let go).What makes this different to any other episode? I talk about the fact that logically you do know better.You have read the books and you're doing the inner work, yet you still hold onSupport the showOther useful links: FREE WORKSHOP ON 29TH AUG Becoming Secure (Next Course I am running) FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textBrand New Free Workshop HEREThese are not your usual affirmations. In this video, you won't just repeat words, you'll be guided to see, feel, and imagine the outcome as if it's already real. This combination of affirmations and guided imagery creates a powerful shift in your mind and body, making it easier to attract what you desire and rewire old patterns that hold you back.If you've ever felt like affirmations don't “work” for you, this practice is different. By engaging your imagination, emotions, and senses, you'll activate the part of your brain that doesn't just hear the affirmation - it believes it.Listen daily and watch how your thoughts, energy, and reality begin to align with what you truly want.Say it | Visualise it | Become itSupport the showOther useful links: FREE WORKSHOP ON 29TH AUG Becoming Secure (Next Course I am running) FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textYou know the logic. You know what you should do. And yet… you keep repeating the same patterns. Why?In this video, I break down what's really going on beneath the surface when logic and self-awareness aren't enough to create change. You've read the books, done the work, and yet you keep defaulting to old patterns.You chase people, you over-give, you self-criticise - even though you know better.Let's get clear on what is going on, plus you will receive your practice of the week!If you've ever asked yourself “Why do I keep doing this even though I know better?” - this episode will explain what is happeningSupport the showOther useful links: Becoming Secure (Next Course I am running) FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textTRY THIS: 5 Steps That Will Help You Overcome Your Biggest FearsFear can feel like it's running the show.. keeping you stuck, small, and second-guessing every move. But what if you could face those fears head-on and finally stop letting them control your life? In this episode, I'm sharing five powerful, practical steps that will help you break free, to go from stuck to secure. Whether it's fear of rejection, failure, abandonment, or the unknown, these 5 steps will stop you standing in your own way - you will gain courage and and confidence if you put this into action.  This is your brand new blueprint.Support the showOther useful links: Becoming Secure (Next Course I am running) FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textIf your body feels like it's either buzzing with anxiety or completely shut down, you're not alone. In this mini training, Carly Ann explores how physical sensations like overwhelm, tension, or numbness can keep you stuck in the same painful cycles.You'll learn why your body reacts the way it does, how these sensations maintain anxious patterns, and one powerful tip you can start using today to find calm quicker.✨ Stuck to Secure starts 1st August - 21 days to reset and break the cycle:  https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/21-days-courseSupport the showOther useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textDid you know your behaviours influence so much of how you feel and what you do?In this training, Carly Ann is sharing one powerful question that can help you shift your actions, align with your values, and become the version of you that you actually desire to be. Whether you're stuck in old patterns or ready to take that next step forward, this episode will give you a simple but game-changing mindset shift.✨ Stuck to Secure starts 1st August - 21 days to reset and break the cycle:  https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/21-days-courseSupport the showOther useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textIn this episode, we explore the power of emotions - how they show up, how they influence what we do, and why managing them matters so much, especially when you don't feel good enough. You'll hear insights on how emotions can hijack your thoughts and actions, and simple ways to work with them instead of against them. If you're ready to get curious about your feelings and stop letting them run the show, this one's for you.✨ Stuck to Secure starts 1st August - 21 days to reset and break the cycle:  https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/21-days-courseSupport the showOther useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textWelcome to Day 3 of Becoming Unstuck – today is all about your thoughts. If you ever feel owned by your mind, trapped in spirals of overthinking, self-doubt, or fear, this episode is yours.If you know you have negative thoughts that move you away from who you want to be - listen now or save for later!Carly Ann shares a brilliant, practical tool to help you stop being a prisoner of your mind and start becoming its leader. This mini training is a must-listen if you're ready to quiet the noise and reclaim your inner calm. Let's set you free.

Send us a textTriggered?Feeling stuck in the same painful loops? Rejected, blamed, out of control? Whether it is a specific person or a song on the radio, your triggers aren't the enemy.. they're the message. If you keep spiralling in love or life, this training is part of your RESET!✨ Stuck to Secure starts 1st August - 21 days to reset and break the cycle:  https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/21-days-courseSupport the showOther useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textTraining 1/6 - Becoming UnstuckStuck in anxious loops or reacting in ways that don't feel like you? This powerful exercise will help you take a first step in moving TOWRDS the life and love your desire and how to shift.You'll learn how to spot the moment you're at a choice point, and how to move towards the secure, grounded version of you.Join in with the exercise or just listen along, this is how you start becoming who you were always meant to be.

Send us a textFREE WORKSHOP: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/free-btc-workshop This meditation is your emergency pause button when you need to soothe and regulate right now. To help with the spiral, the overwhelm, the noise in your head - this 5 minute audio will bring you back. Back into your body. Back into the present. Back into safety.Whether you're feeling anxious, triggered, heartbroken, or like you've left the room entirely, press play. Let these few minutes shift everythingMUSIC:Cylinder Nine by Chris Zabriskie is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 license. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/Source: http://chriszabriskie.com/cylinders/Artist: http://chriszabriskie.com/Support the showOther useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textIf you've ever been stuck in a worry spiral...the kind that hijacks your mind, interrupts your sleep, and makes you question everything (non stop)..this episode is for you. I was in one recently. And while I didn't fix it overnight, I found something that helped in the middle of it.This isn't a neat “5 steps to stop overthinking” episode. It's a real look at what happens when anxiety takes over, and how to unmerge from the panic long enough to find your self. Carly Ann shares exactly what she did to stop spiralling, and then you can do the same for yourselfIf you overthink, seek reassurance, obsess over decisions, or just want your peace back, listen todaySupport the showOther useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textWe all fall into patterns – but some of them silently chip away at our self-worth. In today's episode, Carly Ann is uncovering the sneaky habits and thought loops that keep you stuck in low self-esteem and anxiety. These are 3 common patterns that damage your self-worth if left ignored. In this episode you will receive practical, powerful tips to start rebuilding your self worth from the inside out. Plus, stay tuned for a self-worth challenge you can start this week to begin showing up as the most confident, secure version of you.Support the showOther useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textReady for a powerful mid-year reset? This guided manifestation meditation is designed to help you get back on track, reconnect with your goals, and start attracting the life you truly desire.It will guide you to cut ties with what does not serve you and call in what you desireWhether you're manifesting love, success, confidence, or a fresh start... this is your chance to pause, reflect, and realign with your highest self. This is the perfect time to raise your vibration and set powerful intentions for the second half of the year.

Send us a textDo you you keep going back to the good times with someone who's no longer in your life? Whether that's an ex, a situationship, or something that never fully got off the ground.In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann (therapist & coach helping you heal anxious attachment) breaks down the real psychological reasons why we play the positives and stay stuck on a loop feeling bad about it all, wishing it was different.If you've ever thought, “Why can't I stop thinking about them and remembering how good it was?”  this episode is for you.I do not want you think think you're not weak for caring. You're human for remembering. But you don't have to stay stuck, so let me help you.Support the showOther useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textA Radical Acceptance PracticeIf you have anxious attachment, you may find yourself stuck in the highlight reel of your relationship - that means replaying the good times over and over, wondering what went wrong, and blaming yourself when the present doesn't match upThis gentle, guided exercise is designed to help you practice radical acceptance - to hold space for the memories and accept the reality of what is, without self-rejection or shame. Through six grounding steps, you'll learn to calm your nervous system and move forward with more Whether you're navigating a breakup, feeling distant in a current relationship, or just struggling with a sense of loss, this can helpSupport the showOther useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textYour inner critic knows exactly when to strike, and if you can be ready for it - you can stop it in its tracks! In this episode, Carly Ann shares the common moments where self-criticism hits hardest, especially for those with anxious attachment, low self-worth, or a constant fear of not being good enough.Plus stay tuned because you will because you will get so much value - Carly Ann will guide you through simple steps to notice and start responding to your inner critic.If you're tired of the same old thought loops and want to finally quiet the inner critic that holds you back in relationships, self-love, and everyday life - this one's for you.Support the showOther useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textA motivational episode - consider it your personal pep talk to manage your inner critic and give you a confidence boost. Carly Ann is here to help if you've got something coming up that's making you nervous. Whether it's a date, a job interview, a boundary to set, or a tough conversation, this episode will help settle your mind and lift your energy. It's for those moments when your inner critic gets loud and tries to convince you to stay small, quiet, or hidden.Carly Ann is speaking directly to that inner critic and guiding you back into your body - back into your power. This pep talk helps you reconnect to the present moment with calm, strength, and self-belief. If you're done playing small and ready to feel grounded and capable, this is the boost you've been waiting for.Support the showOther useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textFor Low Self-EsteemDo you ever feel like you're not good enough no matter how hard you try? Do you second-guess your worth, wonder if you're truly lovable, or compare yourself to everyone around you? If your confidence feels fragile and your inner critic is running the show, this episode is for you.In this episode, Carly Ann shares 4 powerful, evidence-based ways to start healing low self-esteem, drawn from her own experience and the work of psychologist Melanie Fennell. You'll learn 4 common ways therapists support their clients to create lasting self-worth. If you're ready to stop believing the worst about yourself and start feeling more secure, capable, and worthy, definitely don't skip this one.Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textThis self-esteem reset meditation is for you if you struggle with self-worth, overthinking, people-pleasing, or anxious attachment.In just 6 minutes, you'll be guided through a calming, healing experience to:Let go of self-doubt and critical inner talkReconnect with your inner strength and self-beliefStart feeling good enough  as you areBuild confidence from within, not from external validationHeal patterns of low self-worth and emotional insecurityThis meditation blends CBT-based tools, guided visualisation, and somatic grounding techniques to help you rewire negative beliefs and feel emotionally safe in your own skin.Whether you're working on healing after a breakup, navigating anxious attachment, or simply tired of not feeling enough — this is your reset.Listen anytime you feel overwhelmed, unworthy, or in need of calm confidence.Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textDo you find yourself constantly preparing for the worst? Playing out disaster scenarios in your head? Comparing yourself to others and feeling like you're always coming up short?In today's episode, we're diving into a sneaky but powerful habit many of us don't even realise we're stuck in, the automatic pull toward the negative. Whether it's fear, comparison, or imagining everything that could go wrong, this pattern is draining your energy, confidence, and joy.Plus, I'm giving you reflective questions and a motivational boost to help you shift your focus, feel more grounded, and stop letting fear run the show.Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textYou know they're not right for you. You know you deserve better. You know the anxious spiral is hurting you. So why does it still feel like your heart hasn't caught up with your head?In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the frustrating phenomenon known as head-heart lag...That all-too-familiar space where your logic is crystal clear, but your emotions and behaviours aren't playing ball. If you've ever said, “I get it, but I just can't seem to do it” this one is for you.Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textStruggling with anxious attachment? Always asking “Do you still love me?” or “Are you sure you're not leaving?” even when you know the answer won't help for long? In this episode, Carly Ann unpacks why anxious attachers seek constant reassurance, how it keeps you stuck in a loop, and why your nervous system never quite feels safe. If you're stuck overthinking, spiralling after silence, or chasing reassurance through asking non-stop questions, this one is for youOther useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textWATCH THE FREE WORKSHOPJOIN STUCK TO SECURE BEFORE JUNE 1STEverything seems fine… but you still feel stuck or lost? Or maybe you know you've fallen into that pattern again - the overthinking, obsessing, clinging, second-guessing, unsure how to get out.This episode is for the anxious attachers who keep finding themselves here: things look okay on the outside, but inside it's the same fog, the same fear, the same cycle. Or you cant seem to stop yourself falling into old, painful cycles.You've had enough!Carly Ann explores feeling stuck and lost with you, what keeps it going, and how to start breaking free - today!Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textWATCH THE FREE WORKSHOPJOIN STUCK TO SECURE BEFORE JUNE 1STStruggling with feeling panicky or desperate when you think someone you love is pulling away? Do you find yourself turning into a version of yourself you barely recognise - anxious, overwhelmed, even irrational…whenever you fear abandonment or rejection? If you're tired of the emotional rollercoaster with avoidants or feeling stuck in cycles of panic and overthinking, this episode is made for you.Join me as we unpack what's really happening beneath the surface of anxious attachment, why your panic feels so overwhelming, and, most importantly, how you can start reclaiming your calm and grounded self, even if you don't believe it's possible!If you want to finally stop letting fear control your relationships and start coming home to yourself, hit play now. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textWATCH THE FREE WORKSHOPJOIN STUCK TO SECURE BEFORE JUNE 1STStruggling with relationship anxiety/anxious attachment? Feeling like you are struggling with self-worth and showing up as your true self? Today, I am sharing 2 common patterns that actually keep you stuck in a cycle of insecurity, fear of rejection, and low self esteem.If you're ready to get out of the anxious cycle and build your self worth - this episode makes it clear how you can start today!Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textEXAMPLE ANXIOUS CYCLEWATCH THE WORKSHOPJOIN STUCK TO SECUREDOCUMENT WITH TOOLS TO INTERRUPT THE CYCLEIf you know you're stuck in an anxious cycle, like overthinking, chasing, second-guessing, or feeling like you just can't relax in love, this episode is your lifeline.In this free workshop, I'll guide you through powerful and practical steps to break the cycle you're in right now. It doesn't matter if you're single, dating, in a situationship, or in a relationship that leaves you feeling unsure.Grab a pen and paper, or simply follow along in your mind. This isn't just something to listen to. It's a hands-on experience to help you get clear on your patterns, understand what's really going on underneath, and shift how you respond to your triggers.Expect reflection, real talk, and gentle prompts that go straight to the heart.You don't have to stay stuck in anxious attachment. Let this be the moment things start to change.Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textFREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOPIf you have an anxious attachment style and you're doing the work, trying to heal, build self-worth, and stop losing yourself in relationships, there's a question you need to be asking.In this episode, I bring that question to the table. It's the kind of conversation most anxious attachers skip over, but without it, the healing can only go so far.If you're still getting triggered, still chasing reassurance, or still forgetting who you are in love, this episode is a must-listen.Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textFREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOPIf you're feeling like you've messed it all up… again, like you're back at square one, stuck in the same old anxious attachment spiral than this episode is for you. Maybe you've texted when you said you wouldn't. Maybe you're beating yourself up for caring too much (again). Maybe your mind is screaming: “Why am I like this?!”Before you disappear into shame or start rewriting the story that you're too much, too needy, or never going to change, listen to me in this ep.Carly Ann shares the one thing you need to hear in this moment. It's the thing that will help you soften the spiral, reconnect with yourself, and start moving forward again (without pretending it doesn't hurt). It's not a quick fix.. but it is a powerful shift, and will certainly help you get back on track.If you've ever searched:  “Why do I always ruin relationships?”  “I feel like I've messed up again”  “Why do I keep going back?”  “How to stop being so needy”…this episode is for you.Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textFREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOPFeeling triggered in love, dating, and relationships? Constantly worrying, acting out, and obsessing? This episode is for anyone with anxious attachment who finds themselves overreacting, spiralling, or shutting down. Learn the most common attachment triggers and even get some bonus tips on how to manage them.Perfect for anyone healing anxious attachment, exploring their reactions, and ready to feel more secure in relationships.

Send us a textRegister for the free workshop: Breaking the Cycle of Anxious AttachmentYou've been working hard to heal your anxious and/or disorganised attachment and right now you just feel like nothing is working? All the tools, the therapy, the journaling - none of it seems to be helping, and you're right back where you started? This episode is for you.Whether you're feeling a heavy dip right now, stuck in a familiar loop, or questioning if healing is even possible for you, this episode is going to give you what you need right now.  Carly Ann speaks from both professional and personal experience, plus shares expert insight about what these "stuck" moments really mean, and what to do when your attachment wounds flare up despite all the work you've done.If your inner critic is loud right now, if you're caught in anxious spirals or shut down, tune in. This is for your healing heart.Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textAnxious Attachment is often maintained by low self-worth..If you've ever felt like you're not good enough in love, dating, & relationships  (especially when they pull away or act cold), this episode is 100% for you.In this raw and honest moment, Carly Ann speaks straight from here heart to anyway that has anxious attachment, low self-worth, and knows the pain of being caught in a cycle you just want to break!Listen when you're feeling low, hurt, triggered, or just stuck in that familiar spiral of overthinking and self-blame. Or even when you just need a motivational boost. This one's here to remind you, it's not you, it's the pattern...and guess what? it can change.Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN) Becoming Secure (Starting Summer 2025) FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textWhy do people ghost? If you have anxious attachment, being ghosted can feel devastating..like rejection, confusion, and obsession all rolled into one.In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the reasons that different people ghost.If you have recently been ghosted, I hope this gives you some clarity around what is going on.Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN) Becoming Secure (Starting Summer 2025) FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textIf you've ever found yourself obsessing over a message or an ex, worrying they've lost interest, or feeling completely triggered by distance or mixed signals...this episode is for you. Whether you're in a situationship, dating an avoidant, or constantly battling your own anxious attachment style, you've probably heard the advice: just self-soothe. But what does that actually mean?This episode is your go-to if you've been confused about what self-soothing really looks like when your anxious attachment is in overdrive, your thoughts are spiralling, and all you want is reassurance.Hit play if you're tired of being stuck in anxious spirals and ready to learn what it means to self-sootheOther useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN) Becoming Secure (Starting Summer 2025) FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textIf you find yourself constantly worrying...Why haven't they texted back? Did I say something wrong? Are they losing interest? this episode of Lessons in Attachment is for you. When you have an anxious attachment style, waiting and overthinking can take over your whole day. In this episode,Carly Ann is sharing two powerful CBT-based tools to help you cope with uncertainty and worry!You'll hear real-life examples (including my own!) and learn how to gently shift out of panic mode, no matter what someone else is doing. Whether you're dating, in a situationship, or navigating your own healing, these simple steps will help you feel more secure, grounded, and in control. DOWNLOAD PDFOther useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN) Becoming Secure (Starting Feb 2025) FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textHave you been ghosted? Ghosting is one of the most painful and confusing ways to be left behind, but do ghosters actually feel anything?In this episode, Carly Ann dive into a fascinating study by Freedman et al (2022) to uncover what's really going on in the minds of ghosters. Do they feel guilty? Do they regret it? Or do they just move on without a second thought? Spoiler: It's not as simple as you might think.Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN) Becoming Secure (Starting Feb 2025) FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textDo you ever feel crazy? like your thoughts are spinning out of control over someone? That intense, obsessive longing where every little thing they do feels like a sign? You might be experiencing limerence. It's more than just a crush - it's an all-consuming obsession that can feel like an addiction to this person. It feels crazy - but I assure you you're notIn this episode Carly Ann give 3 major signs of limerence, how it differs from real love, and how people are healing. If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of longing and obsession, this one's for youOther useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN) Becoming Secure (Starting Feb 2025) FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textIf you're going through a breakup right now, you already know how painful it is. But have you ever wondered why some breakups feel so much worse than others? Why, for some people, the pain feels overwhelming, like it's impossible to move on?Well, research suggests there's a reason for that. And in today's episode, we're breaking down exactly what makes a breakup feel so unbearable for some people, and what you can do to start feeling better.Stick with me, because by the end of this episode, you'll have a whole new perspective on your breakup and the tools to move forward.Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN) Becoming Secure (Starting Feb 2025) FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textIn this episode of Lessons in Attachment, we're joined once again by breakup coach Holly from Break Ups and Love  to dive even deeper into the challenges of heartbreak and healing. If you missed her first episode on May 26, 2024, scroll back to listen - it's packed with insights on navigating breakups.This time, we're covering some really helpful and interesting topics to support your healing:  The urge to get your ex back  Feeling like you can't cope  The non-negotiables for healing  Managing overwhelming emotions  Tarot for breakups  Dealing with triggers and remindersOther useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN) Becoming Secure (Starting Feb 2025) FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textHealing your attachment wounds and childhood trauma starts with reconnecting with a very important part of you - your inner child. In this powerful episode, we dive into why inner child work is the key to true healing.Our brilliant guest expert shares three essential keys for practicing inner child work in a way that creates real change and healing. Whether you sare recovering from attachment wounds and/or trauma, this conversation will help you nurture the parts of you that need love, safety, and connection.Stay tuned! Carly Ann shares an exclusive clip from a recent mini-workshop inside the Attachment Recovery Gym, giving you practical tools to start your journey today.Get ready to reconnect with your inner child!Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN) Becoming Secure (Starting Feb 2025) FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textDo you have an anxious or disorganised attachment style? If you've ever felt that gut-wrenching fear that your partner might leave, that sinking feeling when someone else gets too close, or the endless overthinking that keeps you up at night... I'm sure you know exactly how all consuming jealousy can be!In this episode, Carly Ann is diving deep into the jealousy through the lens of attachment theory, inner child healing, and reparenting. We're unpacking why it feels so all-consuming, how it ties to your past, and most importantly - how you can start to break free from its grip.DOWNLOAD PDF FOR THIS EPISODE HERE Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN) Becoming Secure (Starting Feb 2025) FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textIf you feel like life is against you, like nothing ever goes right and you're stuck in a cycle of frustration...this 7-minute episode is exactly what you need. When big/small, daily challenges pile up, it's easy to slip into a victim mindset, but staying there only keeps you stuck and creates so much pain and negative energy. This episode will help you shift your perspective, break free from resistance, and start seeing setbacks as stepping stones. What if life isn't out to get you? But instead it's guiding you?Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN) Becoming Secure (Starting Feb 2025) FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textStruggling to let go? Whether you're anxiously attached to a person, an outcome, or the way you thought life should be by now - this episode is for you.When you're constantly waiting for reassurance, obsessing over what might happen, or clinging to control, it only fuels more anxiety. Feeling secure and peaceful comes from learning to detach.. as you will hear in this episode... that doesn't mean caring less from caring less in fact it's something else entirely.In this episode, Carly Ann explore's:✨ The Law of Detachment✨ Radical Acceptance✨ Retraining Your Attention (a practice to break free from obsessive thinking)This isn't even just about relationships today, it's about how you show up in every part of life. Let's talk about how to stop gripping so hard and start trusting that what's meant for you will find you.Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN) Becoming Secure (Starting Feb 2025) FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Send us a textThis podcast is for anyone stuck in a cycle of being attracted to unavailable partners and ready to make a change. If you want to start attracting secure, available types then you need to hear this!Join Carly Ann for practical steps, mindset shifts, and real-talk on how to start choosing secure, healthy love. No overanalyzing - just how you can change your type for good. Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN) Becoming Secure (Starting Feb 2025) FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram