Parenting The Adlerian Way

Former pediatric occupational therapist Lisa Chan learned a great deal from her years working with children in schools, homes and in her office. During that time, she saw a gap in the services available. While she would offer important help to children, it was more likely the teachers and parents who were the “first responders”, and they did not always know how to respond to these children's unique needs. Lisa solved that by turning her attention to education and skills training for the adults that nurture and support these children. You can follow Lisa Chan on all her social media platforms @lisaparentcoachHer website for her courses and coaching is www.TheLisaChan**********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 4yr old insists that all the Easter candy is hers to eat. How to manage the deluge of sweets? Q2. Adult child moved back home but spends his day gaming. A tech agreement isn't age appropriate now. What else can we do as parents? Q3. My daughter wants a pet but is irresponsible, so I have said no, and it's now a fight.Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kyla Fox is an eating disorder specialist, survivor and advocate who reframes the way that we think about, and treat, eating disorders. As someone who struggled with disordered eating during her teen years, Kyla experienced the large care gaps and fundamental flaws in the treatment and recovery approach that prevents patients from getting the help that they need. Listen in as we discuss what parents need to know to address this issue in their families. Checkout the services provided at the Kyla Fox Center IG: @kylafoxrecovery Twitter: @KylaFoxCentreDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It was wonderful to have Ned Johnson back on the podcast to talk about his new workbook for parents. This is a companion book to “The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives”. We discuss the importance of having control as a protective factor in preventing youth mental health challenges, especially with anxiety and depression. Here are links to Ned Johnson and William Stixrud's other co-authored books: The Seven Principles for Raising Self-Driven Children – A Workbook The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their LivesWhat Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. You can follow Ned's Fabulous advice on his IG and Tik Tok: @theothernedjohnson And on LinkedIn here.Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Anxious about letting my 12yr old daughter walk home from school alone.Q2. Considerations for allowing 17 yr old daughter to go on a beach vacation without supervision? Q3. Helping a hurting 13yr old girl who told a boy she likes him and then all her friends turned on her. Q4. Small-for-his-age 8yr old might get hurt playing hockey. Should I encourage a different sport? If you have a question you'd like answered on a future podcast, email it to hello@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's not every day that you get to interview the former editor of the New York Times parenting section! I have been following KJ Dell'Antonia since she managed Motherlode and it was great meeting her finally, and discussing her book, “How To Be a Happier Parent”. KJ generously provided some of the research and practical wisdom that every parent can benefit from if they want to be happier while they do the inevitable hard work of parenting. If you'd like to read one of KJ's books, here are the links! How to Be a Happier Parent: https://tinyurl.com/HappierParentBookAmazonThe Chicken Sisters: https://tinyurl.com/ChickenSistersAmazon Playing the Witch Card: https://tinyurl.com/WitchCardAmazonIn Her Boots: https://tinyurl.com/InHerBootsAmazonSubstack #AmReading: https://kjda.substack.com/KJ's website https://kjdellantonia.com/Instagram: @kjda https://www.instagram.com/kjda/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kjdellantoniaThe #AmWriting Podcast: https://itun.es/i67F2zJ or http://amwritingpodcast.comDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I met Nick Moon in Nepal on a recent service / trekking trip in support of the NGO “Empowering Nepali Girls”. Over our time together I learned about Nick's childhood diagnosis of autism and how the education system failed him, how a special teacher finally understood him, and a mother who was also a counsellor advocated for him. He was a marine, a tradesman and now a counsellor in practice sharing his wisdom with clients. A gem of a person who shared his experience about living life with neurodiversity. An enlightening conversation!You can get a copy of Nick Moon's mother's book “Tough and Cheerful: The Life And Times Of Kancha Sherpa, Last Living Member From The First Ascent Of Mount Everest” by Patricia Moon here. Learn more about the organization, Empowering Nepali Girls.Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 12yr old girl who has become super-quiet. What to do?Q2. My teen doesn't want to join any clubs, do I force him? Q3. My son says he is trying to find a job, but not really. Do I cut off his allowance?Q4. My kids leave their stuff laying around and I nag but they never pick it up.Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler NewsletterIf you have a question you'd like answered on a future podcast, email it to hello@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, I talk with James Rilling, psychologist and author of “Father Nature: The Science of Paternal Potential”. Did you know that only five percent of mammals care for their young? Yup, and humans are one of the species that do! James explains the science behind testosterone, oxytocin and changes that occur for fathers. Plus, the importance of father caregiving and provisioning and the hidden benefits of rough play to teach emotional regulation and more! A fascinating conversation.You can get a copy of James Rilling's book here. Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Rocky Garrison is one of our Adlerian greats. In this interview Rocky talks about the Individual Psychology model of human development including the development of a fictional final goal and how we develop beliefs about self, others, and the world to sustain this goal and the movement toward it. In this model of development, Rocky shares that the courage to meet the challenges of life constructively is developed primarily within the family constellation. If you have questions for Rocky, he can be reached at rockygarrison@gmail.comDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Teen boy is shutting down outside interests and turning to tech but won't open up about it.Q2. 13yr old daughter won't wear her orthodontic elastics and teeth are shifting now. Q3. Ways for 3 and 5 year olds to find their sense of power in pro-social ways (instead of power over others). Do you have a parenting question for me? Email them to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com to receive my “Home Responsibilities By Age” checklist! And, check out the “Events” tab for my upcoming webinars! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sarah Allen Benton has been a parent in recovery from alcoholism for more than 20 years. She is a counselling psychologist who specializes in addiction and recognizes how parents and their children can quietly but significantly be impacted by alcoholism. We discuss her “field guide to recovery” for parents that is based on a growth-focused lifestyle change, including emotional sobriety across the life span. Check out Sarah Benton's book: Understanding The High-Functioning Alcoholic Have a look at her website too.You can read Sarah's column “The High Functioning Alcoholic” for Psychology Today here. On social media you can follow Sarah on these platforms: Sarah's FB PageSarah's FB Community: Parents in Recovery Support Group LinkedInDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Teen boy makes the same unreasonable requests and then storms about, rude and angry. Q2. How to establish authority and connection when you are the less dominant parent in a traditional family where the dominant father works, and the less dominant mother stays home and does all the child care. Q3. How can I help my 10 and 13 year old boys get along peacefully? Q4. How to support a teen daughter who is getting excluded from her friends' parties and sleepovers?Do you have a parenting question for me? Email them to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com to receive my “Home Responsibilities By Age” checklist! And, check out the “Events” tab for my upcoming webinars! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Funke Afolabi-Brown has dedicated her medical career to helping families function better and achieve more by improving their relationship to sleep. We discuss the importance of sleep and unique approaches to help with typical sleep challenges that parents face. Check out more about Dr Funke Afolabi-Brown's book “Beyond Tired: A Sleep Physicians Guide to Solving Your Child's Sleep Problems for Good”Her clinical practice is The Restful Sleep Place and you can follow her on any of these social media platforms: FacebookInstagramLinkedInDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Yes! That is the title of the new book by Ruth Strunz, a welcome addition to the literature for clinicians, teachers (and parents) working with autistic / neurodiverse people. In this episode I talk to Ruth about the contents of her book and the unique approaches needed for creating a an atmosphere of calm to reduce dysregulation, masking, creating a therapeutic alliance in new ways, the role of belonging, social interest, encouragement and more. You can connect to Ruth at her website www.ruthstrunz.com (launching Nov 2024)Purchase her book hereOn LinkedIn hereDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 12yr old doesn't want to either lie, nor rat on her friends to the substitute teacher re: homework.Q2. 9yr old wants to drop out of extracurricular activities as soon as they prove challenging. Q3. Early reader wants to go back and start from the beginning of the book every time they get a word wrong.Q4. 12yr daughter doesn't do basic chores without me yelling. Too involved in her games and videos. Do you have a parenting question for me? Email them to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com to receive my “Home Responsibilities By Age” checklist! And, check out the “Events” tab for my upcoming webinars! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

October is breast cancer awareness month. A parent's cancer diagnosis has a huge impact on the entire family. Thankfully, Audrey saw this gap in services and support and created a brilliant non-profit organization to assist parents and children going through this experience. Audrey discusses how to talk to children about cancer and dying. She helps us understand what families need for support as community members and the services that her organization provides. You can learn more about Audrey and Nankind at the links below: Nankind Website: https://nankind.com/ Nankind Give Page: https://nankind.com/give/ Nankind Programs: https://nankind.com/for-families/get-help Nankind Impact Page: https://nankind.com/our-impact/research-awards/On social media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NankindCanadaLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/nankindInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/nankindca/Twitter - https://x.com/nankindcaYouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@nankindDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it in to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Julie Cole is the mother of 6 and the co-founder of the multiple award-winning business Mabel's Labels. In this episode we discuss Julie's career and family success and the parallel skills and life hacks needed to make them both work in a joyful way. If you're thinking of starting a business to accommodate motherhood, this is a must listen! You can find out more about Julie, her book, “Like A Mother: Birthing Businesses, Babies And A Life Beyond Labels”, and Mabel's Labels at the links below: www.mabelslabels.com www.mabelslabels.com/juliecole On Social Media: www.instagram.com/juliecoleinc www.instagram.com/mabelslabelshttps://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-cole-llb-ma-3794671/Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it in to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode I talk to the co-authors of the book, “Digging Into Nature: Outdoor Adventures For Happier And Healthier Kids”, published by the American Academy of Pediatrics and co-authored by pediatricians Dr Glassy and Dr Tandon. We discuss Dr Tandon's extensive research into the benefits children get from spending time in nature, what nature might look like for urban dwellers, barriers that prevent us from getting into nature and how to overcome them. You can find out more about Drs Tandon and Glassy, and their work and projects at the links below: Order their book here: “Digging Into Nature: Outdoor Adventures for Happier Healthier Kids” Dr Glassy On LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/danette-glassy-12b00067/Project NatureBestStart Washington Dr TandonOn Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/pooja-s-tandon-md-mph-672040299/IG @projectnatureDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it in to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is a vital episode for all parents. Listen and learn how to get all the education, resources and support you can for your child's vision thanks to The Canadian National Institute for the Blind. CNIB's VP Suzanne Decary-van den Broek and CNIB's Family Guide, Sharon Kanhai-Johnston share some interesting research facts with me. Did you know most parents are unwittingly putting their children at risk for health and educational setbacks because they don't understand the schedule and importance of eye exams for their children? I messed it up with my second child and I don't want anyone else to make my mistake. Book an eye exam for your child. If you're in Canada, you can find your local optometrist here.Help influence policy makers today by signing the CNIB's Charter of Rights of Children Who are Blind, Deafblind, or Low Vision here.Find resources, support and education from the CNIB here. Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it in to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. My child is not in a class with his friends. Should I request to move him?Q2. My child suffers from “post-school collapse” behaviours.Q3. Managing being punctual and getting to school on time. Do you have a parenting question for me? Email them to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and check out the “Events” tab for my upcoming webinars! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

NYT best-selling author Dr Leonard Sax joins the podcast to discuss his book, and to make us aware of the toxic effects the trend towards more gentle, permissive parenting can have on our kids. In our conversation, he provides many evidence-based examples to support his years of observations as a physician managing family care. Check out Dr Sax here at www.leonardsax.comDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it in to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Stacey Stewart, the CEO of Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD), talks with me about the impact that our parenting style has on saving lives by the way we approach prevention of drinking and driving. MADD has created a free, evidence-based, resource to help parents apply the best approach – download it here: Power of Parents Handbookhttps://online.flippingbook.com/view/320259548/MADD's Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/maddnational/MADD https://www.tiktok.com/@maddnational https://x.com/MADDNational https://www.linkedin.com/company/mothers-against-drunk-driving You can find Stacey on social media here:https://www.instagram.com/staceydstewart/ X: @StaceyDStewhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/stacey-d-stewart-mba-9b5472 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. How to respond to the dramatic emotional displays of my son?Q2. Strategies to give my son more responsibilities when he is not following through?Q3. As a mom, how do I stay out of the power struggles between dad and son when it impacts me?Do you have a parenting question for me? Email them to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join me as I talk to family relations expert Dr. Taniesha Burke from Germany about the importance of parent-child relationships, how to foster them and the importance of understanding culture and meaning-making. Originally from Kingston, Jamaica, with its' more hierarchical, autocratic parenting style, Dr. Burke studied and discusses how Jamaican mothers perceive closeness and intimacy and how they deal with their children who resist parental rules and requests. You can purchase her journals here: The Parenting Journal: Key To Strengthening Your Parent-Child Relationship Rediscovering Our Love: A Parental Appreciation JournalJournal of Generations: A Gift From Grandparent To Grandchild Dr. Burke's research: An Exploration of Jamaican Mothers' Perceptions of Closeness and Intimacy in the Mother–Child Relationship during Middle Childhood Jamaican Mothers' Perceptions of Children's Strategies for Resisting Parental Rules and Requests Links to Dr Burke's social media handles: www.facebook.com/drtanieshaburkewww.instagram.com/drtanieshaburkewww.youtube.com/@drtanieshaburkewww.linkedin.com/in/tanieshaburke***************************I am always looking for questions for the Q&A episodes. You can send me your questions at hello@alysonschafer.com For more of my advice, check out my website: www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mollie Thorn has been teaching parent education and also counselling families for decades. Mollie is now a proud grandparent and that means yet another application of Adlerian wisdom! She discusses the Pennsylvania Dutch expression “Grin, Bite Your Tongue and Bear Gifts” to describe best grandparenting practices. We talk about Mollie and her husband Phil's journey with Adlerian psychology over the years. You can find more about Mollie Thorn's work at The Pinnacle Centre. Her profile on Psychology Today You can email Mollie directly at mollie.thorn@gmail.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 12 year old boy doesn't play, but instead annoys and bothers others. Q2. 5 year old in kindergarten has a friend who says “you're not my friend” if they don't get their way. Check out The Common Good Collaborative for Teachers and Educators www.thecommongoodcollaborative.comDo you have a parenting question for me? Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Having kids invites a host of other problems into the martial relationship if they are not addressed properly. Unfair division of labour, feeling unappreciated, changes in intimacy levels, a drop in the fun experienced together, power imbalances, and more can plague a relationship. The good news is these issues are an invitation to dig deeper and grow together. Join Adlerian marriage counsellors Calvin Armerding and his business partner Lindsay Hill for more insights into kid-proofing your marriage. Follow Calvin on his Substack channel here: https://calvindarmerding.substack.com/Follow Calvin and Lindsay on social media: https://www.instagram.com/henosispress/ https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLe4ACV00vWcS3DTATvos1XVm2MhTKSq2Z https://www.instagram.com/travelersrest.counseling/ https://twitter.com/ArmerdingC***************************I am always looking for questions for the Q&A episodes. You can send me your questions at hello@alysonschafer.com For more of my advice, check out my website: www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special episode, I speak with Fabiana Bacchini, the Executive Director for The Canadian Premature Babies Foundation (CPBF) about the difficult challenges a family faces when having a premature birth, and the tremendous support their organization provides. We discuss a very important campaign that is underway to support their work. In partnership with Walmart Canada®, Pampers® Canada will donate 8 cents to the CPBF and Préma-Québec for every Pampers® Swaddlers diaper pack and for every pack of Pampers® Sensitive Wipes sold at Walmart from May 1 to June 30, 2024. This funding will go towards support programs for families of premature babies, including mental health and wellness resources.For more information about CPBF's support programs, visit: www.canadianpreemies.org For more information about Préma-Québec's support programs, visit: www.premaquebec.caThose who would like to donate to the CPBF and Préma-Québec through this initiative can purchase Pampers® Swaddlers diaper packs and Sensitive Wipes in store at any Walmart location in Canada.For more information, please visit pampers.ca.***************************I am always looking for questions for the Q&A episodes. You can send me your questions at hello@alysonschafer.com For more of my advice, check out my website: www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Meaghan Haley discusses her journey from a trauma-filled childhood that led her to seek out support from an Adlerian counsellor, to becoming an Adlerian therapist and teacher herself. Now she is the mother of three young children (ages 5, 2.5 and 1) and she is being challenged to practice what she has learned in a whole new way. If you worry about being a “good enough” mom, give this a listen! Check out Meaghan here at www.megtherapy.comDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it in to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 6th grade girl is the target of a mean “best friend”. Q2. My kids live in a two-household arrangement, and the other home doesn't have structure. Q3. 16yr old daughter changed schools halfway through the school year and while she has a couple of new friends, she still stays in room and is lonely.Do you have a parenting question for me? Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. How do we talk to our kids about racism and the George Floyd riots? Q2. My son saw the video of George Floyd's murder. How do I help him process his emotions? Q3. What can I do as a white parent to ensure I don't raise a racist and do my part to eradicate racism? Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. How do I get my 12 yr old son who has become moody, to open up and talk to me about what is wrong?Q2. My kids are starting to play on the street with social distancing rules, but I don't trust them to actually keep their distance. What do I do?Q3. My 8 year old son is exhibiting anxiety in going out in public now that more things are opening up. How do I help him?Q4. The whole family has become snappy and I am yelling more. Everything is a battle. How do I get my family back on track?Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. I am using your Adlerian parenting approaches but my husband has not studied them yet. How can I manage our different parenting styles? Q2. I am trying your techniques on ignoring when the kids fight and just walking away, but they follow me or they get physical with one another. What do I do?Q3. My kids are using Zoom calls to stay connected with friends but when I check they were being disrespectful and just watching a friend play instead of visiting with one another. Q4. My daughter is using tech to stay connected with her friends more since Covid. Now that they are all online, they are excluding my daughter on FaceTime group chats like “mean girls”.Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Alyson's thoughts on education and homeschooling during Covid. Q1. My daughter struggles with math and says “I'm stupid”. How do I get her to do her online math homework without a fight? Q2. My son does his homeschooling online in the morning from his bedroom, but when I check on him, he is on YouTube. How do I get him to do schoolwork without policing? Q3. (24:24) My son won't sit still to do his homework. He gets up and down and it ends up taking him twice as long.Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 2 yr old competitive dancer has gained a lot of weight during the pandemic and I want to bring this up to her properly, and in a healthy way. Q2. 2.5 yr old has lost interest in potty training. How do I motivate them?Q3. 7 yr old loves our new puppy but refuses to follow the rules and be gentle. What should I do? Q4. 8 yr old is loud and shrieks all the time. How do I get this to stop? I have tried everything. Alyson's blogs on the topic of encouragement: https://alysonschafer.com/category/best-parenting-practices/praise-encouragement/Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. What are the consequences for a 12 yr old daughter who is mean to her 9 yr old brother? Q2. When is it okay to swear? My 13 year old just started. Q3. Help in bringing back and improving family meetings now that they are teenagers.Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Attached toddler won't let mom out of her sight in the house.Q2. 6 year old still soiling underpants. Q3. How to deal with lying. Link to Po Bronson's Article on lying research: https://nymag.com/news/features/43893/Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Home Responsibilities By Age” download. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. I'm trying to work from home, but I am getting nothing done with the kids at home. HELP.Q2. My kids keep coming into my home office and interrupting my work. Q3. What is it with being on a phone call? As soon as I take a call my kids demand my attention. Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. How do I explain COVID and the pandemic to my kids? Q2. How do I entertain my kids all day long during lock down? Q3. How can I get my child to just settle and focus?Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I am so excited to be launching this podcast. In this intro episode, I explain my Adlerian family history and some of the core concepts of Adlerian psychology from which I give parenting advice. So glad to have you onboard. Please feel free to share with your friends, subscribe and write a review! Happy ParentingAlysonwww.alysonschafer.comDo you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Mike Rucker is the author of “The Fun Habit”. In this episode we'll discuss the concept of happiness, the moral injury that can occur when we seek it too much and the benefits and methods for fitting joy and awe into your life and through your parenting. Additional resource book mentioned in our convo: 50 Dangerous Things (you should let your children do) Follow Dr. Rucker on all his platforms: Website https://michaelrucker.com Twitter https://twitter.com/performbetterFacebook https://www.facebook.com/mike.rucker.phd Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thewonderoffunLinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelrucker Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/mikeruckerphd Simon & Schuster https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Fun-Habit/Mike-Rucker/9781982159054 Substack https://funhabit.substack.com***************************I am always looking for questions for the Q&A episodes. You can send me your questions at hello@alysonschafer.com For more of my advice, check out my website at: www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Could AI replace standard counselling? It's certainly cheaper. With the trend towards “manualizing” therapy, maybe we are closer than we know. How do you feel about that? How scared should we be? Adlerian counsellor and teacher/trainer, Calvin Armerding, shares his thoughts with me. Read the original article and other posts from Calvin on his Substack at:https://calvindarmerding.substack.com/Follow Calvin on social media at: https://www.instagram.com/henosispress/ https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLe4ACV00vWcS3DTATvos1XVm2MhTKSq2Z https://www.instagram.com/travelersrest.counseling/ https://twitter.com/ArmerdingC***************************I am always looking for questions for the Q&A episodes. You can send me your questions at hello@alysonschafer.com For more of my advice, check out my website: www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 9yr old son is not trying and his confidence is dwindling.Q2. 14yr old son with type1 diabetes is too lazy to take his insulin at school. Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast. If you have a question you'd like answered on a future podcast, email me at hello@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Amanda Craig is the author of “Who Are You And What Have You Done With My Kid?: Connect With Your Tween While They Are Still Listening”. In this episode, Dr Craig defines what the tween years are, what is happening developmentally and how to maximize the parenting opportunities during this unique period. She also discusses the important four pillars of your parenting to focus on and methods to achieve that stable base in the relationship. Links mentioned in the show: Book: Who Are You And What Have You Done With My Kid?: Connect With Your Tween While They Are Still ListeningDr Amanda Craig's WebsiteFollow Dr Amanda Craig on social media at IG @amandacraigphd***************************I am always looking for question for the Q&A episodes. You can send me your questions at hello@alysonschafer.com For more of my advice, check out my website: www.alysonschafer.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Amy Yip is the author of “Unfinished Business” and in this interview we talk about her personal journey of being a child of immigrant parents and how that experience impacted her life. She discusses how she took charge of the process of changing the relationship with her parents and how that informs her parenting today. For anyone dealing with wounded relationships with their parents, or who wants better for their own children, this is the podcast for you! Links mentioned in the show: Amy's book: Unfinished Businesshttp://unfinishedbusinessbook.com/, Amy's Websitehttps://amyyipcoaching.com/Follow Amy on social media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amycyip & https://www.facebook.com/amyyipcoaching LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amycyip & https://www.linkedin.com/company/amyyipcoaching Instagram: @amyyipcoaching Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 10yr old son having difficulty with change (new items in home).Plus, my thoughts on under- and over-functioning parenting.Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast. If you have a question you'd like answered on a future podcast, email me at hello@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jenna Hermans has used her own extensive training and personal parenting experience to write a book for overwhelmed parents. In this podcast Jenna shares her story and gives us the highlights of the 5 tips we should all incorporate into our family lives for more calm in 2024. Links mentioned in the show: On IG @JennazhermansWebsite https://jennahermans.com Buy her book at a local book seller or online here: From Chaos to Calm Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Marina Bluvshtein is a renowned researcher and archivist of Adler's life. She shares how the events of his life shaped the development of his theory we know as Individual Psychology. In this conversation, Marina shares Adler's own parenting journey and how his theory, and that of Rudolf Dreikurs, came together to still be an evolving, optimistic parenting model. Links mentioned in the show: Learn more about the Adlerian Summer School known as ICASSI Check out the offerings at the Adler Academy of MinnesotaAnd write directly to Dr Bluvshtein at mbluvshtein@adler.edu to learn more about Adlerian training events in Chicago, Vancouver and online. On social media, you can find Dr Bluvshtein on FB. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 6 year old hits and gets angry when he doesn't get his wayQ2. 7 year old tells “creative stories” about how his day was (aka lying). Q3. 2.5 year old is defiant with screaming fits esp on waking in the night.Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler Newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast. If you have a question you'd like answered on a future podcast, email me at hello@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Adlerian father/daughter duo Ted Wohlfarth and Marjie Longshore talk about their impressive work in using games and play to create unique experiences for developing the skills and felt experiences needed to help build peaceful, win-win relationships. You'll hear how their game methods and unique scoring system can be useful at home, in the classroom, the workplace and indeed anywhere people gather. Check out The Family Leadership Center website And social media FB Or on IG @the_4cfamilyIf you would like to support the work of The Family Leadership Center which is a non-profit organization, you can donate to their “A Peaceful World Starts At Home” campaign that furthers their work. Check out the free games and resources at EnTeam's websiteHere is the summary of some of EnTeam's corporate success stories:https://familyleadershipcenter.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/11/Manufacturing-Plant-Turnaround.pdfhttps://familyleadershipcenter.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/11/International-Pharmaceutical-Company-.pdfhttps://familyleadershipcenter.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/11/Electric-Power-Plant-Teamwork.pdfAnd follow EnTeams on social media FBLinkedIn Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.