Podcasts about high functioning

Do you ever wonder when it's appropriate to set a boundary? Or do you wish you knew what boundaries to set? Maybe unhealthy behavior was normalized in your family of origin, making it difficult to know when a request is “reasonable.” If so, this episode is for you. It's the second in a two-part series about boundaries and high-functioning codependency (HFC). In this one, we're covering the five types of boundaries, three boundary styles, and tips for when to set a boundary and how to do it. You can catch Part 1 here, where we covered boundary basics and talked about the unique challenges HFCs have in setting boundaries. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/718

It's been estimated that over 21 million adults in the United States have experienced depression. While the common symptoms of depression like sadness or lack of energy can be easy to spot, depression doesn't always present in one specific way. Today, you're going to learn about the hidden type of depression that is stopping many people from experiencing joy. On this episode of The Model Health Show, our guest is board certified psychiatrist and author, Dr. Judith Joseph. Her new book, High Functioning, takes a look at an important mental health condition that is often overlooked. In this interview, you're going to learn what high functioning depression is and why it often flies under the radar. You're also going to learn about simple strategies you can use to better understand your mental health and reclaim your joy. Dr. Judith Joseph is not only an expert in this subject matter, but she also draws on her personal experience to help you understand how high functioning depression presents and what you can do about it. Enjoy!  In this episode you'll discover:  What the leading cause of disability and absenteeism is. (00:14) How Dr. Joseph got interested in studying mental health. (12:20) What high functioning depression is and why it matters. (14:49) How our modern world damages our mental health. (19:48) The important role that joy plays in our longevity. (20:48) How our eating habits stop us from experiencing joy. (21:31) The multiple faces of depression. (23:10) What anhedonia is. (23:35) The symptoms of high functioning depression. (23:53) How high functioning depression differs from burnout. (24:44) Why our technology causes us to miss out on joy. (32:51) What scarcity trauma is. (41:52) The 5 Vs of healing. (44:37) How different generations view mental health. (46:03) What validation is. (48:58) How venting in psychology is like venting in physics. (57:53) The importance of identifying your values. (1:04:10) How your relationships impact your health. (1:12:11) What nutritional psychiatry is. (1:15:46) Why you need to prioritize joy for better mental health. (1:22:05)  Items mentioned in this episode include:  Peluva.com/model -- Get 15% off barefoot shoes with my code MODEL!  Organifi.com/Model  -- Use the coupon code MODEL for 20% off + free shipping! High Functioning by Dr. Judith Joseph -- Grab your copy of Dr. Joseph's book! Connect with Dr. Judith Joseph Website / Facebook / Instagram / TikTok  Be sure you are subscribed to this podcast to automatically receive your episodes:   Apple Podcasts Spotify Soundcloud Pandora YouTube   This episode of The Model Health Show is brought to you by Peluva and Organifi. Peluva's barefoot minimalist shoes support postural alignment, proprioception, and overall functionality. Get 15% off your order by using code MODEL at peluva.com/model. Organifi makes nutrition easy and delicious for everyone. Take 20% off your order with the code MODEL at organifi.com/model. 

High-functioning depression often goes unnoticed as people hide their struggles behind busy schedules and impressive achievements. But understanding and addressing these hidden challenges can help you find more joy and live a mentally stronger life. My guest is Dr. Judith Joseph, a Columbia-trained psychiatrist, clinical assistant professor, and leading voice on high-functioning depression. She is also the author of High Functioning. Some of the things we discuss are: The key warning signs of high-functioning depression How unresolved emotional trauma can lead to avoidance and overworking as coping mechanisms The differences between perfectionism as healthy striving versus harmful overachieving Simple, actionable strategies to create small moments of joy throughout the day and why they matter The importance of acknowledging your feelings and taking small steps to process and heal Strategies that can help you overcome high-functioning depression Want more tips for building mental strength? Subscribe to Mentally Stronger Premium and get weekly AMA episodes and monthly bonuses to help you grow mentally stronger! Links & Resources ⁠DrJudithJoseph.com High Functioning Connect with the Show Buy Amy's ⁠books on mental strength⁠ Connect with Amy on Instagram — ⁠@AmyMorinAuthor⁠ AmyMorinLCSW.com Sponsors OneSkin — Get 15% off OneSkin with the code STRONGER at ⁠⁠⁠https://www.oneskin.co/⁠⁠⁠ #oneskinpod Calm — Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription at ⁠⁠⁠calm.com/STRONGER⁠⁠⁠ AirDoctor — Head to ⁠⁠⁠AirDoctorPro.com⁠⁠⁠ and use promo code STRONGER to get UP TO $300 off today! Shopify — Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠⁠⁠Shopify.com/mentallystronger⁠⁠⁠ Mentally Strong — Sign up for your free 7-day trial at MentallyStrong.Downpait.Ai Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever caught yourself saying "it's not that bad" when you're feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, or simply not yourself? That seemingly innocent phrase carries enormous weight, subtly convincing us to minimize our struggles and postpone getting the support we truly need.This Mental Health Awareness Month bonus episode tackles high-functioning distress—that space where you're managing responsibilities, showing up for others, and appearing put-together while feeling completely drained inside. Through personal stories and gentle insights, Dr. Angela Downey reveals how functioning doesn't equal thriving, and why waiting until we're at our breaking point to seek help robs us of preventative care that could change everything.The episode explores why codependents, people pleasers, and overachievers are particularly susceptible to downplaying their mental health needs. Dr. Downey shares a powerful personal experience of receiving a spa day gift only to discover her nervous system had forgotten how to relax—a wake-up call that being "fine" on paper doesn't mean you're well. She challenges the false dichotomy that suggests we can't be both grateful and struggling simultaneously, offering a more compassionate framework for validating our experiences.Most importantly, this episode reframes mental health support as preventative rather than reactive. Just as we wouldn't wait for a cavity before brushing our teeth or an engine failure before changing our oil, we shouldn't postpone mental healthcare until we're in crisis. Whether you're the family rock, the eternal caregiver, or the high-achieving perfectionist, you deserve support before everything crumbles. Small steps count—booking a therapy consult, admitting to a friend you're struggling, or simply acknowledging to yourself that you're not okay right now. BecaSend me a messageI am so excited to share my codependency recovery workbook with you. Click on the link to be brough to Enough As I Am on Amazon.

Do you struggle with setting boundaries because it feels selfish or wrong to put your preferences or needs first?  Do you inadvertently trample on other people's boundaries? (Hyper-helping, auto-advice giving, etc.) Or are you a newly identified high-functioning codependent (HFC) wondering why it's especially tough to set boundaries? Then you're in the right place. In this episode, I am breaking down why it's challenging to set, stick to, and respect other people's boundaries, particularly as HFCs. This is part one, and in part two (coming next week), we'll cover boundary scripts and the different types of boundaries you might want to consider setting. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/716

Dr. Judith Joseph is a Harvard-trained psychiatrist, clinical professor at NYU Medical School, and a renowned voice on high-functioning depression. In this conversation, we explore the paradox of achievement and anhedonia—the curious, often painful reality that success doesn't always equate to joy. Judith shares her clinical insights into why so many high performers feel emotionally flat, walking us through her integrative approach to mental health and her groundbreaking "5 V's" framework for reclaiming points of joy. This one hit close to home. I found myself confronting how we chase achievement while disconnecting from what truly matters in life. Judith is a rare voice—wise, warm, grounded in science, and even more so in compassion. This one will land where it's needed most. Enjoy! Show notes + MORE Watch on YouTube Newsletter Sign-Up Today's Sponsors:  iFit: Use the code RICHROLL to get 10% off any purchase of $999+

In the latest episode of our podcast, we delve into a topic that resonates with many but is often overlooked: high functioning trauma and PTSD. Briannne Davis-Gantt, our host, opens up about the hidden struggles faced by individuals who appear to have it all together on the surface. They may be successful in their careers and maintain an active social life, but beneath that exterior lies a complex web of unresolved trauma that can lead to burnout and emotional distress.High functioning PTSD is characterized by individuals who have experienced significant trauma but choose to suppress it rather than confront it. This suppression can lead to a range of issues, including anxiety, depression, and difficulties in relationships. Brannne shares her personal experiences, revealing how childhood neglect has manifested in her adult life, and emphasizes that trauma doesn't just disappear; it remains trapped in our bodies, waiting to be addressed._____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email secretlifepodcast@icloud.com_____SECRET LIFE'S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to secretlifepodcast@icloud.com) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteBrianne's Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteMark Gantt Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/secret-life/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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I never thought the girl I got in a drunken cake fight with would be the same one handing me a big book in AA, but here we are. Emily Blossom is an author, a badass real estate broker, and someone who's lived a thousand lives. We hadn't talked in years after that wild night, but then I walked into the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous and there she was, holding up a mirror I wasn't ready for.We talk about being high-functioning alcoholics, the shame we carried, and what it was like to reconnect after everything. Emily shares raw stories from her book Mental Mayhem, including growing up in violence, marrying her abuser, and learning to break the cycle.This one's real, vulnerable, and one of my favorite conversations as it shares the highs and lows of going on a sobriety journey.Connect with Emily Blossom @soulblossomtribeStep into Your Sober Era! Are you ready to embrace a life of clarity and empowerment? Let's embark on this transformative journey together! [Subscribe Now ➔] Sam's Sober Stack | Samantha Parker | Substack Want to Work with The Samantha Parker for Content Management CLICK HERE Grab my Sober Travel Tips Guide HERE Check out My Sober Storefront HERE Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@samanthaparkershow YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@thesamanthaparker Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thesamanthaparker/ Grab $10 off Curious Elixirs https://oken.do/ho7cxduy Shop Ryze Coffee - Grab 15% Off HERE

Addiction doesn't discriminate - even in medicine. Dr. Jason Giles was a successful physician, trained at top universities, and on track for a thriving career. But behind the scenes, he was battling a growing dependence on fentanyl, one that nearly derailed everything.In this episode of Med School Minutes, he opens up about the moment things changed, how recovery reshaped his purpose, and why being high-functioning can also mean being high risk.This isn't just a story about addiction—it's about honesty, second chances, and the power of medicine to heal both patients and doctors.

Stress, anxiety, fatigue can keep us in a state of EXHAUSTION. Over time, this leads to what I call High-Functioning Fatigue. Oftentimes, women feeling this way will also feel like they are going through a form of spiritual warfare or attack. This is so common cuz Satan loves to keep God's daughter's sad, sick and stuck.   I will be sharing 2 very simple, doable and calming actions you can take today, to praise & pray your way through High-Functioning Fatigue and any type of spiritual warfare you may be going through.  If you're thinking, ok but what IS High-Functioning Fatigue, Go to ep. 277 where I talk about HFF and your adrenal risk. Women in this midlife season who are notorious for putting their own health and wellness on the back burner for years, are really struggling with exhaustion, brain fog and that overwhelmingness of not feeling like themselves… and they explain it away with comments like: it's menopause or it's my job or it's my age or….I just need a vacation or.. (Fill in the blank…) You are pushing through your tiredness, pushing through and getting things done, and continue to say to yourself: “I'll focus on my health when xyz gets done.” I consider HHF that underlying tiredness you can't shake, no matter how much you rest, coupled with a mental fog that makes even simple decisions feel overwhelming. You might look put-together on the outside, but on the inside, you're struggling to keep up, feeling like you're barely holding it together while wondering why you're so exhausted all the time. Sound like you?  In this episode, I share 2 ways you can fight back through whatever spiritual attack or warfare you are going through right now… and always... and help you get starting to heal and recover God's way from High-Functioning Fatigue. These 2 ways should always be our GO-TO. NO hesitation.  I pray this blesses you and moves you to action today! XO, Michelle Book your  Fatigue Freedom Call today, where together we will uncover what's really keeping you exhausted AND show you how you can start feeling BETTER in your whole health, within DAYS.   ***Join our community, Fight FATIGUE over 40 with FAITH & Holistic Health, to be supported, encouraged and educated as you take back your health WITH God at the center. **Catch the Treasured Wellness Podcast on https://christianmix106.com/   AND YouTube   ***DISCLAIMER: By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others. Contact your own physician for any medical concerns you have. This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Treasured Wellness, LLC, guests or contributors be responsible for damages arising from the use of this podcast.

In this soul-shifting episode of Wake Up Happy, Sis!, LeAnne Dolce and Sheronda Sealey cracked open the conversation that so many Black women have been silently living through—high-functioning depression masked by hustle culture and overachievement. Sparked by a viral Instagram video, this episode got all the way real about how unprocessed childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and the need for validation often drive us to collect degrees, titles, and accolades—while quietly breaking down on the inside.LeAnne and Sheronda didn't just talk about the pain. They showed us how to name it, own it, and begin healing from it. From the origins of emotional avoidance to creating new rituals of rest and radical self-love, this episode served as both mirror and medicine. With powerful personal stories, hard-earned wisdom, and a whole lot of humor and heart, this was a healing session in real time.Sis, you don't have to hustle to be whole. This episode is your permission slip to just be well.SEO Keywords: high-functioning depression, trauma response in Black women, emotional healing, overachievement burnout, Black women mental health

We often associate depression with withdrawal and low energy - but what if it hides behind a packed schedule and staying busy? Board-certified psychiatrist Dr. Judith Joseph joins Professor Sarah Berry to explore high-functioning depression. Dr. Joseph explains how depression gets missed by medical professionals, explaining what's really happening in the brain. She shares how traditional definitions of depression often overlook people who appear to be coping, leading many to go undiagnosed and unsupported. We discuss how a busy, high-achieving lifestyle can actually mask the symptoms of depression - and even perpetuate it. Dr. Joseph, the first psychiatrist to run a lab focused on high-functioning depression, shares her latest findings on its causes, signs, and long-term impact. ZOE's Chief Scientist Prof. Sarah Berry explains how food and the gut microbiome may hold the key to reducing these symptoms. If this sounds familiar, Dr. Joseph introduces a quick self-test to help identify high-functioning depression - and outlines five practical strategies to begin healing, and Sarah gives you the foods that could help.

Have you been running on empty — but somehow still getting everything done and wondering what's wrong with your body?You're not alone. In this powerful episode, I sit down with holistic health coach Michelle McCoy to dive into the hidden epidemic of high-functioning fatigue — especially among women approaching midlife.We unpack why conventional medicine often misses the root issues and how holistic health, nutrition, and even your spiritual well-being play a massive role in your energy (or lack of it). Michelle also shares her personal health journey and how small, strategic changes can lead to big breakthroughs.If you're feeling worn out, constantly stressed, or concerned about your children's health too — this episode will leave you feeling hopeful and equipped with practical tips to start healing naturally.✅ You'll Learn:5 warning signs you're dealing with high-functioning fatigueWhy your mineral balance matters more than you thinkHow spiritual health impacts physical healthSimple diet tweaks that can drastically improve your energyHow to advocate for yourself (and your family) in today's health system

In this powerful and deeply personal episode of You're Not Broken, Dr. Kelly Casperson is joined by psychiatrist Dr. Judith Joseph to unpack the complex relationship between trauma, high-functioning depression, and the systemic challenges facing both patients and providers in healthcare. Dr. Joseph shares her unique career journey from anesthesiology to psychiatry—a shift fueled by the pursuit of deeper fulfillment and connection. Drawing from her new book High Functioning, she explores how trauma can show up in unexpected ways: perfectionism, strained relationships, and even the culture of medicine itself. Together, Dr. Joseph and Dr. Casperson dive into the mental health crisis within the medical profession, the difference between complex PTSD and traditional PTSD, and why trauma-informed care must become the standard in healthcare. They highlight the need for preventative mental health care and why joy—not just happiness—is vital to healing. Key Takeaways: Dr. Judith Joseph's new book High Functioning explores hidden depression and the masks people wear. A desire for deeper meaning and purpose sparked her transition from anesthesiology to psychiatry. Trauma can subtly impact daily life, relationships, and career satisfaction. Complex PTSD differs from traditional PTSD and requires a nuanced approach. Perfectionism may be a trauma response rooted in avoidance and fear. Many healthcare professionals operate with unresolved trauma, often unacknowledged and invalidated. The medical system itself can contribute to both patient and provider trauma. High-functioning depression is widespread but often misunderstood or overlooked. Preventative mental health care is crucial—waiting for a crisis is not sustainable. Joy is a core component of mental health, not a luxury or afterthought. Understanding one's own trauma can make you a more effective and empathetic clinician. Identifying and naming emotions can be profoundly therapeutic. Self-care and setting boundaries are necessary acts of preservation, not selfishness. https://www.instagram.com/drjudithjoseph/ High Functioning Book by Dr. Joseph https://drjudithjoseph.com/ Sedona in October - only five slots left: https://www.ascendretreats.com/menopause-and-sexual-health-2025 Order my book "You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over You Sex Life" Listen to my Tedx Talk: Why we need adult sex ed Take my Adult Sex Ed Master Class: My Website Interested in my sexual health and hormone clinic? Waitlist is open To learn more about Via vaginal moisturizer from Solv Wellness, visit via4her.com for 20% off your first order. For an additional $5 off Via, use coupon code DRKELLY5. Thanks to our sponsor Midi Women's Health. Designed by midlife experts, delivered by experienced clinicians, covered by insurance. Midi is the first virtual care clinic made exclusively for women 40+. Evidence-based treatments. Personalized midlife care. https://www.joinmidi.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

#194. Have you heard of high-functioning depression? Because I hadn't, until I read Dr. Judith Joseph's book, High-Functioning. In today's episode, Dr. Judith is on NTS to break down the signs of high-functioning depression, how to notice it in yourself, and what to do about it. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Find Simply Pop and any of its five juicy flavors by visiting us online at cokeurl.com/simplyPOP. Join the thousands who have already turned to Rula for support on their journey to better mental health and well-being. Getting started is easy—just visit Rula.com/notetoself today. When you sign up, they'll ask how you heard about them—please support our show by letting them know we sent you! It's a simple way to help us while you take the first step toward the care you deserve. Your mental health matters!For your next trip, treat yourself to the luxe upgrades you deserve from Quince. Go to Quince.com/payton for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your orderSign up now and join the over 14 million all-time customers who have already saved and invested over $25 billion dollars with Acorns. Head to acorns.com/notetoself or download the Acorns app to get started.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are You Joyful… or Just Functioning? Most people don't realize it—but there's a silent struggle happening behind the smiles and the schedules. Today, I sit down with Dr. Judith Joseph, a Columbia-trained psychiatrist and author of High Functioning: Overcome Your Hidden Depression and Reclaim Your Joy. We tackle something that I think is affecting more people than anyone talks about… high functioning depression. It's not in the "DSM"—but it's very real. And if you've ever felt like you're doing everything “right” but still feel empty inside, you need to hear this. We talked about a condition called anhedonia—this sneaky, silent twin of depression that robs you of joy without making you collapse. It's the part of depression that doesn't get seen or treated because you're still performing, still producing, still achieving. Dr. Judith broke down how traumas, even the little ones, can rewire the way we experience joy. And more importantly, she gave a way out. You don't have to crash to get help. You don't have to be broken to deserve healing. This episode isn't just about naming the problem. It's about owning your emotional truth, slowing down, and reclaiming the simple human experiences that actually fill you. Whether you're a high achiever constantly “doing” or someone who feels like joy is always out of reach, this one's for you. Judith's “5 V's” framework gives you real tools you can use every day—like planning your joy, validating your feelings, and choosing presence over performance. And let me tell you what stood out most. Joy is contagious! It spreads. To your kids, your spouse, your team. The more we access joy, the more we model it for those around us. This conversation hit home for me—and I think it will for you too. Key Takeaways: Why anhedonia is the overlooked symptom stealing your joy. The difference between happiness (an idea) and joy (an experience). The “5 V's” system to help reclaim joy: Validation, Venting, Values, Vitals, Vision. How trauma—big or small—can lead to high functioning depression. Tools to help yourself or someone you love who's silently struggling. The impact of hormonal changes on mental health, especially for women. A method to ground yourself daily and reduce anxiety: the 5-4-3-2-1 technique. Let's not wait for the crash to start healing. You deserve joy. You just forgot how to feel it. Max out.

In our fast-paced world, many high-achieving women find themselves caught in the cycle of suppressing emotions to maintain a facade of perfection. While everything might seem picture-perfect on the outside, the hidden cost of unexpressed emotions can take a toll on both mental and physical well-being. By embracing and processing these emotions, we can unlock a new level of personal and professional growth.  Key takeaways: Physical Impact: Suppressed emotions can lead to physical symptoms like headaches and fatigue. Addressing these emotions can improve overall well-being. Strength in Feeling: Embracing emotions is a sign of strength, not weakness. It enhances resilience and authentic leadership. Empowerment Through Release: Releasing emotional burdens frees up energy for clarity and creativity, leading to a more fulfilling life. Listen to the episode for more insights and visit callwithrebecca.com to schedule a consultation and begin your journey to emotional freedom.     TIMESTAMPS How to Stop Holding Back Your Emotions - 00:01 - 06:20 How to Manage Your Emotions effectively - 06:21 - 13:14 A message for high-functioning women - 13:14 - 14:04 How to Process and Embrace Your Feelings - 14:05 - 21:27  

In this episode of Ambitious, we dive into a topic that hasn't been explored before on our show: sex and intimacy. We talk with Rena Martine, a women's intimacy coach, educator, and author dedicated to empowering women to embrace their sexuality and cultivate deeper relationships. Rena shares her journey from being a deputy district attorney specializing in sex crimes to founding Shameless Coaching, an eight-week program designed to help women achieve fulfilling, shame-free sexual experiences. We discuss why sex and intimacy remain taboo, the role of shame in our perception of sexuality, and how to reframe our understanding of pleasure. Learn about creating connections, communicating desires, and the transformative power of intimacy. This episode is packed with insights and actionable advice to help you strengthen your relationships and embrace your true self.01:15 Meet Rena Martine: Women's Intimacy Coach02:46 Diving into the Taboo: Sex and Intimacy11:13 The Difference Between Sex and Intimacy14:17 Practical Steps to Embrace Sexuality21:24 Reframing Sexual Scripts28:25 Grounding Exercises for Better Intimacy33:09 The Role of Self-Intimacy39:45 The Role of Communication in Intimacy46:35 Reigniting Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships51:30 Navigating Different Libidos in Relationships57:53 Responsive vs. Spontaneous Desire01:03:30 The Dynamics of Dominance and SubmissionBuy Rena's book: "The Sex You Want: A Shameless Journey to Deep Intimacy, Honest Pleasure, and a Life You Love," which is available in paperback, e-book, and audiobook everywhere books are sold.Connect with Rena: InstagramWebsiteResources Mentioned:The Sex You Want by Rena MartineCome As You Are by Emily NagoskiMating in Captivity by Esther PerelNot Always in the Mood by Sarah Hunter MurrayGottman Card Decks App Savage Lovecast with Dan SavageTo join the Ambitious Network for free, click HERE. To connect with Kate on Instagram, click ⁠HERE⁠. To apply for ITI, click ⁠HERE⁠.To submit a question to be answered on the podcast, click HERE.

Send us a textDr. David Adams is one of the most respected voices in domestic violence prevention and abuser intervention. In this episode of The Modern Arizona Podcast, Dr. Adams shares insights from his 45 years of experience working with abusers, victims, courts, and professionals across the U.S. and beyond.We dive into what really works when it comes to changing abusive behavior, why coercive control often gets missed in court, and how to accurately assess risk during divorce and custody disputes. Dr. Adams also shares what makes expert witness testimony so crucial in cases where abuse may not be “visible” but still deeply impacts families.Key Topics Covered:1. Why many abusers appear high-functioning at work but abusive at home2. The psychology behind abuse and how it can be unlearned3. The truth about parental alienation and coercive control4. What courts and evaluators often miss in family law cases5. How to assess risk before a high-conflict divorce or custody battle3. Parenting programs that work, beyond couples therapyThis episode is a must-listen for attorneys, judges, counselors, and parents navigating high-conflict relationships. Whether you're working within the legal system or supporting someone who is, this conversation gives you tools to recognize patterns, avoid costly mistakes, and ultimately protect families better.Where to Find Dr. David AdamsLinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-adams-0488949/#ModernArizonaPodcast #DrDavidAdams #DomesticViolenceAwareness #FamilyLaw #CustodyBattles #HighConflictDivorce #CoerciveControl #ParentingPrograms #ExpertWitness #DVPrevention

If you've ever felt like you're doing all the “right” things—showing up for work, taking care of everyone, checking all the boxes—but inside, you feel numb, disconnected, or just... not okay, this episode is for you.This week on Be Well, Sis, I'm joined by the brilliant Dr. Judith Joseph, a board-certified psychiatrist and researcher, to talk about something that doesn't get nearly enough attention: high functioning depression.We often associate depression with what we see—sadness, withdrawal, tears. But what happens when it looks more like achievement, perfectionism, and over-functioning? When the pain hides behind productivity? That's where this conversation begins.Dr. Judith breaks down what high functioning depression actually is, why it's often missed in clinical settings, and how trauma, societal pressure, and internalized expectations can all contribute to emotional burnout, anhedonia (the loss of joy), and disconnection.She also introduces her powerful framework, the Five V's to Thriving—a model that prioritizes validation, venting, values, vitals, and vision to support true emotional well-being.In this episode, we explore:What high functioning depression really looks and feels likeThe link between trauma, anhedonia, and collective numbnessHow societal expectations can mask mental health struggles in high-achieving womenWhy validation and venting are essential for healingThe Five V's to Thriving and how to use them as tools for personal growthWhy joy is an experience, not an achievementHow to stop chasing external validation and start doing the inner work of self-careDr. Judith also speaks candidly about how mental wellness is deeply connected to relationships, rest, and reimagining what success and happiness truly mean—especially for Black women and women of color who are often taught to suppress their feelings to survive.This episode is for you if:You feel emotionally drained, even when everything looks “fine” on the outsideYou've normalized burnout and high stress as your baselineYou're curious about new ways to think about healing and emotional regulationYou're doing the work, but still feel like joy is just out of reachYou want to understand your mental health through both a clinical and compassionate lensAbout Dr. Judith Joseph: Dr. Judith Joseph is a board-certified psychiatrist, media expert, and mental health advocate whose work bridges the gap between clinical research and culturally competent care. Her mission is to empower people—especially those in marginalized communities—to prioritize their mental wellness with evidence-based, heart-centered tools.

402. Are You A High Functioning Codependent? Find Out with Terri Cole. Amanda, Glennon, and Abby are joined by licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert, Terri Cole, to talk about high-functioning codependency—a term Terri coined to describe those who appear highly capable but feel deeply exhausted, resentful, and overwhelmed in relationships. In this episode, we'll explore how being overly invested in others' outcomes can take a toll on your peace and relationships, and how to begin your healing journey. Be sure to tune in next episode for a deep dive into codependent recovery and how to navigate the process. -Why the more capable you are, the less codependency looks like codependency -Terri's personal story about how she finally got into recovery for codependency -The two questions you should ask yourself as a codependent before you say yes to anything -The three quick practices you must do to protect your energy On Terri: Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert and the author of Boundary Boss and Too Much! She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients –including parents, celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs – achieve sustainable change.  You can find her through her blog, courses, her podcast, The Terri Cole Show, and at terricole.com. Check out www.terricole.com/hfc for a special offering from Terri just for the podsquad! To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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“Let's not wait for people to break down. Let's give them the tools to prevent a breakdown,” explains Judith Joseph, M.D., M.B.A. Joseph, board-certified psychiatrist, researcher, and author, joins us today to discuss the subtle signs of high-functioning depression, the 5 tools to truly thrive, plus so much more:  - What is high-functioning depression (~1:55)  - The subtle signs of depression (~5:25) - The hedonic treadmill (~7:15) - Unprocessed trauma (~12:30) - People pleasing & pathological productiveness (~15:00) - Price tags vs priceless (~19:10)  - Joseph's personal story (~21:30) - How to reset (~23:45) - Joy & childhood (~27:35) - The 5 V's to thriving (~29:30) Referenced in the episode:  - Follow Joseph on Instagram (@drjudithjoseph) - Learn more about her (https://drjudithjoseph.com/)  - Pick up her book High Functioning  We hope you enjoy this episode, and feel free to watch the full video on YouTube! Whether it's an article or podcast, we want to know what we can do to help here at mindbodygreen. Let us know at: podcast@mindbodygreen.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Toxic Free with KB, I sit down with the amazing Dr. Judith Joseph! She's a Board-Certified Psychiatrist, clinical assistant professor at NYU Langone, and Chair of the Women in Medicine Initiative at Columbia University. She is the author of the highly anticipated book, “High Functioning: Overcome Your Hidden Depression and Reclaim Your Joy” that was released on April 8th!We go in-depth on what depression really is, how high-functioning depression and anxiety affect our daily lives, and the impact of toxic stress on mental and physical health. She shares insights on breaking unhealthy family patterns, recognizing emotional toxicity in relationships, and practical strategies for managing stress in today's high intensity world!More on Dr. Judith Joseph:Website: https://drjudithjoseph.com/Book: https://highfunctioningbook.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjudithjoseph/Follow Us on Instagram: @ToxicFree.KB: https://www.instagram.com/toxicfree.kb/ Follow Us on TikTok: @toxicfreewithkb: https://www.tiktok.com/@toxicfreewithkb Shop some of my favorite products I use everyday!

Dr. Naomi Torres Mackie is the Head of Research at Kenneth Cole's Charity, The Mental Health Coalition. She joins us on The Vault to discuss the MHC's newest mental health initiatives in the workplace. We also discussed how MHC provides mental health resources for youth and adults. We discussed how youth and adults can implement my book, High Functioning's, 5 Vs to thriving methodology in order to reclaim joy. We also discussed how to address the emerging mental health crisis and ways you can advocate for your mental health and well-being. How can I cope with anxiety? How to cope with depression? How to find purpose? How to use the 5 Vs in the workplace. What are the tools to cope with stressful situations? What ways to advocate for your mental health? How can lean on my community? How to Cope with High Functioning Depression.Follow Dr. Naomie Torres-Mackie and The MHC: Mental Health Coalition Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mentalhealthcoalition/ Mental Health Coalition Website https://www.thementalhealthcoalition.org/ Dr. Naomi Torres-Mackie Website https://www.drtorresmackie.com/ Kenneth Cole Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kennethcolereal/Follow Dr. Judith:Instagram: https://instagram.com/drjudithjoseph TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drjudithjoseph Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drjudithjoseph Website: https://www.drjudithjoseph.com/Sign up for my newsletter here: https://www.drjudithjoseph.com/newsletter-sign-upDisclaimer: You may want to consider your individual mental health needs with a licensed medical professional. This page is not medical advice.

In this episode, Steve chats with Terri Cole.

Are you someone who feels responsible for everyone else's happiness, often at the expense of your own? When does “being nice” cross over into “unhealthy”?  Join us for a powerful conversation with Terri Cole, psychotherapist and author of Too Much: High Functioning Codependency, as we dive deep into the hidden costs of being a high-functioning codependent. Terri shares insightful perspectives on recognizing subtle patterns, setting healthy boundaries, and reclaiming your emotional freedom. Learn how to stop over-functioning, release the burden of constant caretaking, and finally prioritize your own wellbeing without guilt.  This episode is essential listening for anyone looking to break free from the cycle of 'too much' and step into a healthier, happier version of themselves. Follow Terri on Instagram @terricole For more information on Terri click here To get your own copy of Too Much: High Functioning Codependency  Follow us on Instagram: @every.body.talks @jenngiamo @schully Subscribe to our YouTube channel! Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening. Apple Podcasts Spotify Be sure to leave a 5 star rating! It really helps grow the show. If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing!

In this episode of Insights from the Couch, we're joined by Dr. Kelly Kessler, a physical therapist and transformation coach, who's on a mission to help high-achieving women break free from self-abandonment and stress. Kelly shares her own journey of moving from a life of chronic self-sacrifice to one of self-honor and balance, offering strategies that can help you find your way back to yourself. She talks about nervous system regulation, the power of breath work, and why setting boundaries is essential to reclaiming your well-being. Together, we uncover why it's crucial for women to prioritize their emotional and physical health, even in the midst of busy, driven lives. From techniques like the physiological sigh to embracing your inner critic with compassion, Dr. Kessler's approach is both gentle and transformative. Tune in for practical tips, grounding insights, and actionable steps to start putting yourself first. Episode Highlights:[0:00] – Welcome and introduction to Dr. Kelly Kessler's background and mission.[1:14] – Kelly shares her journey from self-abandonment to self-care and transformation.[4:33] – Defining self-abandonment and how it impacts high-functioning women.[6:51] – Recognizing patterns of perfectionism and external validation in personal and professional lives.[9:48] – Breathwork as a gateway to slowing down and self-connection.[12:33] – Starting small: how breathwork and gentle exercise initiated Kelly's healing journey.[15:39] – Introducing the “physiological sigh” breath technique and its calming effects.[20:30] – Exploring the connection between body, mind, and anxiety management.[23:38] – Taming the inner critic and cultivating self-compassion through daily practices.[27:46] – The role of boundaries in self-care and why they're essential for personal peace.[34:08] – The grief of setting boundaries and the empowerment it brings.[38:27] – Final takeaways: honoring yourself as a non-negotiable priority. Resources:Dr. Kelly Kessler's Website – Optimal You Health and Wellness – Find resources, coaching, and programs for personal transformation.Free Guide: Eight Daily Practices for Self-Loyalty and Nervous System Harmony – Available on her website.Follow Dr. Kelly on Instagram: @drkellykessler

Succeeding on the outside but struggling on the inside? In this eye-opening episode, Dr. Judith Joseph helps you recognize the hidden signs of high functioning depression that often hide behind your achievements and busy schedule. Drawing from her powerful new book "High Functioning: Overcome Your Hidden Depression and Reclaim Your Joy," Dr. Joseph shares her proven 5-step framework for breaking free from this silent struggle. You'll discover practical ways to identify warning signals in your daily life, learn science-backed techniques to manage stress and overwhelm, and gain effective strategies for healing from past traumas—both big and small. This conversation equips you with actionable self-care tools that help you balance success with genuine mental wellbeing. You deserve to feel as good on the inside as your life looks on the outside—this episode shows you how! SHOW NOTES + TRANSCRIPT acertainagepod.com FOLLOW A CERTAIN AGE: Instagram Facebook LinkedIn GET INBOX INSPO: Sign up for our newsletter AGE BOLDLY We share new episodes, giveaways, links we love, and midlife resources Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Psychiatrist and author Dr. Judith Joseph joins Lesley to unpack "high-functioning depression," a hidden struggle affecting many high achievers who seem successful externally yet feel emotionally exhausted inside. Discover why driven individuals often overlook signs of burnout, the surprising prevalence of anhedonia (lack of joy), and Dr. Joseph's practical framework—the Five Vs—for understanding and enhancing your personal happiness. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co.And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:How to spot signs of high-functioning depression and overcome anhedonia.Why your emotions, including joy and anhedonia, directly influence those around you.The role of trauma, people-pleasing, and over-functioning in our mental health.Dr. Judith's biopsychosocial model for understanding your own unique path to happiness.Easy ways to reduce burnout by shifting from constant "doing" to mindful "being."Episode References/Links:Dr. Judith Joseph Website - https://drjudithjoseph.comDr. Judith Joseph Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drjudithjosephHigh Functioning Book by Dr. Judith Joseph - https://a.co/d/9sFHkQWAnhedonia Assessment Quiz - https://drjudithjoseph.com/anhedoniaquizGuided Meditation by Deepak Chopra - https://beitpod.com/deepakchopraGuest Bio:Judith Joseph MD, MBA, is a board-certified psychiatrist, researcher, and award winning content creator who specializes in mental health and trauma. She is chair of the women in medicine initiative at Columbia University Vagelos College of Physicians and Surgeons, clinical assistant professor in child and adolescent psychiatry at NYU Grossman School of Medicine and Chief Investigator at Manhattan Behavioral Medicine, New York City's Premier Clinical Research Site. Dr. Judith was awarded by the US House of Representatives with a 2023 Congress Proclamation Award for her social media advocacy and mental health research. In 2024 she was named a top 6 NAACP Mental Health Champion and a VeryWell Mind top 25 Thought leader. In 2024 She taught a Workplace Mental Health Course to The Executive Office Of The President of The United States of America. In addition to being a notable public speaker at prestigious institutions, Dr. Judith is a sought after on-air expert who has been featured on Oprah Daily's The Life You Want Series, Good Morning America, The Wendy Williams Show, Tamron Hall, Today Show, CNN News With Anderson Cooper, The Mel Robbins Podcast, and more. She recently received a 2020 and 2023 Share Care Award for her MedCircle series on PTSD and a Good Morning America investigative special on ADHD. Social media's favorite psychiatrist, Dr. Judith boasts more than 880,000 followers across platforms, a 30% increase in less than a year. Her Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, and YouTube videos receive more than 15 million views per month. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. https://lovethepodcast.com/BITYSIDEALS! DEALS! DEALS! 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I always say Anhedonia is contagious, but joy is contagious too.Lesley Logan 0:13  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Lesley Logan 0:55  Ladies, and the few good men who listen, hi. This is amazing. This is exactly an episode I wanted to have since last fall. We had a whole topic on Anhedonia, and I got so many of you reaching , going oh my God, tell me more. So, I found an expert. Get your notebooks out. If you're driving, you'll hit, you'll, just listen, because you want to listen again, you're going to take some notes, and also you're going to want to get this book. So Dr Joseph's book is going to be out April 8th, and so you, normally, I don't preview that. I let you fall in love with her and then tell you, but I'm already in love. I'm going to make sure I get my hands on a copy of this book. So definitely check it out, but here, for you to get the help that you deserve and some amazing validation of who you are and what you're going through, here is Dr. Judith Joseph. Lesley Logan 1:40  All right, Be It babe. I am honored, truly. I heard about our guest today through one of my favorite people in this world, Amy Lavell, and so Dr. Judith Joseph is our guest today. She has a story to tell us, and also has done so much research, and I wanted her on the show because my high-functioning peeps, I see you, we keep talking about not being a perfectionist, not over committing, not do all this stuff, but I thought we'd have an expert come in and talk about the journey of what that does to us and how we can get out of it. So Dr. Judith Joseph, thanks for being here. Can you tell everyone who you are and what you rock at? Dr. Judith Joseph 2:12  Thank you so much, Lesley. I'm a board certified psychiatrist. I am based in New York City, and I am high-functioning. AF. All of my followers know it. I do a gazillion things on top of being a single mom. I run a lab, content creation, podcaster, author of my book High-Functioning, conducting the first ever study in the world on high-functioning depression, which is something that you know is not really recognized at all in medical literature. But I don't think the depression of our days is our grandma's depression. I think there's a whole new beast out there, and many of us don't even know that we're walking around with it. So I'm trying to demystify that and to bring useful tools to heal.Lesley Logan 2:56  Yeah, that's why I was so intrigued by you. Because what I hear all the time is like, well, I'm not depressed because I get up every day. I do 17 other things, but there's no joy in it. And so can we maybe, maybe take a step back and figure out, like, what is high-functioning depression, and what are the maybe some of the signs that we might be having it?Dr. Judith Joseph 3:15  Well, you said two really great things. You said, listen, we're still getting up. We're doing our stuff. It doesn't look like anything's wrong. And you also said something that's really key, that there's just no joy in it. And actually, the two are connected. So when you go to a doctor or therapist, they're going to pull out this bible of psychiatry called the DSM, and they're going to go through checklists. And according to the DSM, the bible of psychiatry, Diagnostic Statistical Manual, if you don't meet criteria for a lack of functioning or significant distress, but you have all these symptoms of depression, like sometimes you have poor concentration, poor sleep, feeling on edge. That's what we call psychomotor agitation or restlessness, low mood, anhedonia, which is a lack of joy and interest and pleasure in things that once used to light us up, but you don't meet that box of lack of functioning or significant distress. They're going to be like, well, you know, come back and see me when things are really falling apart. The problem with that is that there are tons of people out there who have these symptoms of depression but are still functioning and over functioning because they're the rock, right? They're the mom, they're the boss, they're the teacher, you know, they're the doctor, the nurse, that people depend on, so you can't fall apart. So how do they cope? They busy themselves. They people-please and, eventually, something's going to give either they physically burn out, they mentally burn out, they have a major depressive disorder where they actually do stop functioning. They medicate with substances or with alcohol or self-soothe by shopping too much and going broke, right? Something's gonna give. So why are we waiting for people to lose functioning to do something about this? Why aren't we preventing it? And that's where the research comes in.Lesley Logan 4:56  Oh my gosh. I think first of all, a bunch of people just were like, uh, I have all these things. That's me. I meet a lot of women who are doing all these things, and yet they don't have that joy, that anhedonia that you mentioned, and they try to get help, and the help is either medications that they don't need right now because they're not fully depressed, or they're being told to come back later, and that's so frustrating to not feel heard, and then you just keep doing because you're like, okay, well, maybe I need to do this other seven things. Maybe these things will be the thing that makes me feel better. So I know that people feel so seen, and also I really hope that this becomes the thing people can get diagnosed with, because in that bible, because it does feel like, as you said, this the depression we're having now is not from grandma, because it's true, I don't have children, but if I just were to take off for a week, my team could do a lot, but at some point I need to, like, show up, like the wheels don't spin without, you know, so , it does, it can feel like there's extra pressure on the women who are going through this. How did you get involved in this topic? Were you just seeing it as a bunch of people coming through, or is it something that you went through? Like, can you tell us a little about how you got intrigued by this? Dr. Judith Joseph 6:06  Yeah, actually, it was during 2020, I was given this talk from the same desk that I'm talking from right now, and it was a large hospital system, and it was April, and people didn't know what the pandemic was going to do. They, I mean, we didn't know anything then, and I was called in to really give people the tools to get through a tough time. And halfway through the talk, I realized, I think I'm depressed, but here I am at my desk with my gazillion degrees behind me, instructing doctors and nurses and healthcare professionals on how to heal. And I didn't even realize that I was depressed because I was a doer, you know, and I had this saying, are you a human doing, or are you a human being, right? And I think a lot of us, that's our coping mechanism, at least for me. I'm an immigrant. I come from scarcity. It was never an option of giving up. You had to, you know, if times are tough, you work harder. If you go through something like a breakup, then you just got to take on more tasks at work, you know. And a lot of us cope with our pain by busying ourselves by doing versus just being and feeling and over time that wears on you. And I found myself at that moment in time during this Zoom talk, having that epiphany, and then led me to wonder, how many people on the other side of the Zoom feel like me, because there are a lot of nurses, a lot of doctors in healthcare. Then I started looking into, you know, some I'm in Manhattan, so a lot of my clients are performers, and they went through a really hard time during the pandemic, being out of work, and then the strikes and all that. And many of them, even though they were feeling depressed, they couldn't show it. They had to mask it, because they have to perform. They have to light up a room. So I just started looking at all these different industries, moms, you know, who have to do so many things. They have to go to work, they have to take care of their jobs. They have to take care of their kids. All these people masking these symptoms and just not slowing down and doing instead of feeling and healing. And I just thought, I'm onto something. So I created a reel on socials in 2022 and it went viral. It's been seen over 10 million times around the world. And I had people reaching out to me from different countries saying, I have that. I have anhedonia. This is me. How did you know? Like people were joking, do you have a camera in my home? That's me. Lesley Logan 8:23  Yeah, yeah. Well, I mean, I like, as we're sitting here talking, we're two weeks into the new year, so the before, you're, you know, we're taking a few months before everyone's hearing this. And I have friends who are in LA. I lived in LA for 14 years, and, you know, I checked on my friends where I live, where I lived, is still there, because it's kind of in the total middle. And so they're still going to work. Their jobs still expect them to do the thing that they're supposed to do. So they're showing up and doing all the things, and I'm showing up doing all the things, and I'm kind of like, so do we, this is how we just, like handle everything now. We just like keep doing and I think part of it is like it feels normal. And a lot of times we, when there's tough times, we want to do the thing that feels normal, because we we don't want to experience the other thing. But I also think not a lot of us have the privilege in life to not keep doing when stuff is going on, so then you're kind of stuck. You have to keep going, because the world like you are, that's how you get paid, that's how you make a living, that's how all these, that's what people expect of you. And also, you know, there's this underlying currently you can't really deal with so it feels like what you're onto is something that will continue to be happening, but we need to be able to recognize it, so we can label it, so that we can actually go and address it, right? Because we can't just keep living like high functioning, you know, we can't just keep doing that depression. Dr. Judith Joseph 9:42  Yeah, you're absolutely right. I saw this meme, hilarious meme, where it was like, I told my mom I was depressed, and she said, boy, we broke. We don't got time for that, you know. And I thought it was so funny, because you're right when you go through hard times and you don't have the privilege to slow down or others depend on you even if you are economically sound, but others depend on you. You just don't feel like you have that privilege to slow down. You feel like, well, let me just do because that's what I've always done, but you're absolutely spot on, something's gonna give either your body breaks down. And I think that's why a lot of women have these autoimmune conditions, because women, particularly are like they just have so much on their plate. There's so much expected of them. They're not allowed to seem deflated because someone else is going to take your position. Someone's going to say you're on your period, or you're going through menopause. You know, there's just so much on our plates that we don't feel like we can slow down and certain under represented groups, same way, they're just happy to be in the room. Certain industries, doctors, like, if a doctor says that they are experiencing depression in certain hospital systems, they have to report it to the state. I mean, like, there are certain industries that you just can't even say that you're struggling. So I think that if we allow ourselves to process pain, it's not saying that we have to stop everything, because that's like the worst nightmare for someone who's had function AF. It's about teaching them how to get back into their body, how to process their trauma, so that once you start to feel the pain, then you can also feel the joy. But if you continue to numb and you keep on doing you're not going to be able to feel the pain, but you're also not gonna be able to feel the joys in life that we are all, you know, built to enjoy.Lesley Logan 11:28  That's so, thank you for sharing that. I think , like it's, to feel, I have a yoga teacher who is like, you cannot have one thing without the other. Like in the world, we want balance, you cannot have love in this world and not have hate. If you get rid of the hate, you get rid of the love. If you want to only have peace, there is war. Otherwise, you wouldn't know what you're in. And so if you want to have joy in your life, you do have to also feel your pain. And I think also not many of us were really raised on how to feel our pain. If I cried in public, it's like, hey, don't do that like you learn to mask it or bury it. And you brought up women with autoimmune issues. It is insane. How many women I know with multiple autoimmune issues, and you start to go, okay, what is going on here is either that we actually are testing for it, or the life that we're living now is causing us to harm our bodies in ways that are not visible, and not even things we would choose to do, but because we just keep shoving and not getting the help we need, or even if you're trying to get help, not being heard to get help. It's causing a lot of issues I feel like cannot be reversed, and we're missing out on a lot of life, you know. And you mentioned something about getting into your body that I love, because I'm a Pilates instructor, and I believe if you get into your body, you know so much about yourself. For the people listening, what are ways that you help people get in their body? What are the ways, the tools that you've used? Dr. Judith Joseph 12:49  Well, I love this Venn diagram called the biopsychosocial model, and I teach my patients. I teach my clients. It's three bubbles, if you can imagine them overlapping, but those three bubbles are a nice representation of each of us, and I always say your happiness is not the same as my happiness. Know the science of your happiness because a lot of people out there, they're trying all these different things, and it doesn't work for them, but that's because they're basing it off of the science of someone else's happiness. But there is only ever going to be one you. There's only ever going to be one Lesley, ever. I mean, when I think about that, I get chills, because it's like you're so unique. So understand what your makeup is. Understand your bio, which is basically your past history, in terms of your family history, your current medical conditions, what are the medicines you take? What are the supplements you take? You know? You have a very unique biology. Understand your psychology. That's the psycho part of the biopsychosocial you have traumas that are different than my traumas, right? You have resilience factors that are different than my resilience factors. You have a different attachment style, possibly to mine, right? Or different strengths or weaknesses psychologically. And then, the social aspect, we're just saying, I live in New York, you live in Vegas, there are different environmental factors there, right? You probably eat different foods than me, or we have different movement routines. You may have a different work environment than me, right? Understand your relationships. Those are all the social things. So we all have unique factors. And if we were taught to understand these overlapping diagrams, we would understand the science of our own happiness, and we wouldn't be chasing after someone else's happiness. That's number one. And knowing about the uniqueness of your happiness, if you're someone who tends to have a lot of pent up trauma in your body, then I could tell you to eat as much kale as possible, but that's not going to treat your trauma, right? So in that case, I'm going to focus on the psychology bubble of that Venn diagram, and I'm going to say, let's try and process that trauma. We may have to do some 5-4-3-2-1, exercises with you, or some more trauma-focused work, like EMDR work or trauma-focused therapy, making you feel safe again, because that's something that trauma survivors, you know, really grapple with that sense of safety and psychological safety, right? But if you're someone who, on the biological end of things, has an autoimmune condition, has headaches and really intolerable physiological symptoms, I'm not going to be like, well, let's put you in a trauma workshop, right? I'm going to say, let's work with your nutritionist, let's work with your movement specialist, let's work with your autoimmune doctor, and let's see if we can bring down the levels of inflammation, right? If the social issue is the problem, let's say you're in a toxic work environment, where every time you walk into work, you're triggered. Your heart is racing. You have broken self-esteem because people are like, not kind to you, and this is your job that you depend on for your livelihood. I'm not going to say, well, you know, let's have you go see your cardiologist. I'm going, to fix that fight or flight sensation in your chest, I'm going to say, it's your work environment. Let's see if we get you more support at work or get you out of that environment. So everyone has different factors going on, and I think that makes us really unique and special, but it also complicates things a bit further. So I wanted to democratize this tool that is taught in all of medicine and let everyone have access to it so they can understand their unique workup and areas that they should really focus on first and their step to understanding the science of their own happiness. Lesley Logan 16:24  I love that and I do see that there's a challenge there, because we are kind of trained that if you ask the question, you should get an answer, and that answer should help you. But it is true. You know, we all have different needs, especially, and at different times. And I love the idea of the three bubbles, because you can evaluate for yourself, oh, it is more of the psychos. That's where I need to go get help. It is more of this. But I do love like defining our own happiness, which is not easy if you never explored that, if that wasn't something that we were invited to do or even feel. And so I think that where I feel my listeners struggle, where I get a lot of questions, is almost like, how do they know if they're happy? How do they know? Because they're so busy doing and they might even feel like the pain of stuff that's going on, but they're having a really hard time feeling what's happy also, because I think as women, specifically, we sometimes feel bad if I'm happy and they're going through something, I should put things around so people can't see that I'm happy. I should bring my happiness. I should come down. So, I mean, is there tips on how to know what makes you happy? Dr. Judith Joseph 17:30  Yes, and that is why I have a happiness lab in New York City. And a lot of people don't know this, but happiness researchers, we very rarely use that word happy. People are like mind-boggled when they hear that, because a patientwho will come in to see me for private practice will say, all I want to do is be happy. And so I wear two hats. I wear the research hat and then the private practice hat, where I do traditional therapy and medication, but the research hat is really trying to understand whether or not this person's getting happy or worse, and we use points in research. And so I developed this scale, the Anhedonia Rating Scale. Anhedonia means a lack of joy and pleasure. So basically, you want to know how many points you're getting in these basic pleasures in life. If you have like, high anhedonia and you're not enjoying things, then that's a problem. I love to use these quantitative ways because unlike, you know, let's say diabetes, right? If you go on for diabetes tests, you know where your glucose is, you know where your hemoglobin A1C is. But with mental health, it's kind of harder, like you don't have a test where you can look at and say, oh, I'm getting happier, right? But these quantitative measures, these tests, are really helpful. So you can go on my website, take the Anhedonia Quiz and see if you're getting points of joy. Lesley Logan 18:44  You have a quiz? Dr. Judith Joseph 18:45  Yes, I have an Anhedonia Quiz on my website, and you can see whether or not you're getting points of joy in life. And then what I ask is that people practice the five V's, because that's based on the science of your happiness. So the five v's are, number one is validation. A lot of us with high functioning we're always pushing down our feelings if they're negative. We only talk about the good. We don't like to talk about the bad. Someone says, how you're doing, oh, I'm great, and your house could literally be burning down, and you're saying, great, you know? So I want people to start learning how to accept their emotions, whether they be negative or positive, and there are many tools that I give in my book on how to validate, because people have a hard time with validation. Number two is venting. How do you express your emotions? And there are ways to do healthy venting, but there are ways to engage in unhealthy venting. I do a lot of content on, you know, narcissistic parents, and a lot of us had parents who trauma dumped on us when it was not appropriate. So I talk about how to vent in an appropriate way and the different creative ways to vent. You mentioned crying. You know, crying is something that a lot of people don't engage in because they think from childhood they were told to stop crying, you know, like you're a cry baby. But crying is actually a very healthy way to express emotions. And when you cry and you let a good cry, your body calms down, you feel relaxed, you feel more connected to you. The third V is values. And I say that values are things that don't have price tags. They are things that are priceless. So tap into things that, you know what and when you think at the end of the day, your last minutes of life, you're not going to be like, I wish I had that Gucci bag. You're going to be like, I wish I had five minutes with my loved ones, or I wish I had 10 minutes to do something that I always wanted to do, you know? So tap into those values. Try to get part of those values once a day. For me, it's learning and sharing my knowledge with my daughter, so, like, I love to learn black history and science, and I teach her because she wants to be a scientist. That makes me feel great, or when I volunteer and I offer my expertise to underprivileged youth, because that was me at one point in life that makes me feel good, that, you know, that's a value that I'm going to be like, wow, I wish I could do. I wish I did more good in life, you know. And then the fourth is vital. So we only get one body and brain. We have to take care of it. And so, you know, that's probably a lot where you come in, in terms of understanding how to honor the mind-body connection, eating foods that decrease inflammation that are not processed, drinking enough water, getting sleep, you know, like putting that phone away and getting really rich sleep, getting movement that actually helps your longevity and makes you feel happier, and understanding how relationships can be very toxic. And I wish that this was taught in school when I was growing up, but a lot of people don't understand how negative relationships can really drain your life force, and then having that healthy work life balance that's all in the vitals. And then the fifth V is vision. How do you plan for joy in the future? And when I say a future, I don't mean like, 10 years from now. I mean like, as in an hour from now. So for example, after this podcast, I'm gonna have a nice dinner, probably curry or sushi, and I'm gonna eat it, not in front of a screen. I might watch a little bit of Emily in Paris, because that's my guilty pleasure. You know, like these are little points of joy that I'm gonna plan, to treat myself, because today I helped people. I talked with you, these are all things that I need to celebrate, but we don't celebrate but we don't celebrate that. We're like, well, we're supposed to be doing these things, you know, no, every time I get my daughter to school on time, I pat myself on the back, and I sit and I drink my coffee, my oat milk latte, and I take my time. I don't go straight to work. I go home. Take my time. It, 5, 10 minutes, and just say I did a good job. I got her to work. I got her to school on time today. These are all things that we can savor in life, but we rush, we're busy. We don't take the time. We don't treat ourselves like human beings. You know, how many times have you eaten in front of a screen and they're like, you can't even taste the food, you know, and you love the food, but you're like, did you enjoy that meal? Not really. I just needed to get rid of that hunger pain. So the five Vs can really help you to understand the science of your happiness. Once you do that Venn diagram, and then you apply the five Vs to your life, it can really make a difference and increase those little points of joy every day. Lesley Logan 23:11  I really love each one of those in a different way, also what I'm getting. I love that you introduced yourself as high functioning AF, because I do think that a lot of the people like myself and the people who listen to this podcast, we start to think like, maybe I should do less. If I just do less, then I'll be happier. But then we are not happier doing less, because we are people who want to do things, and we are high-functioning people we and so I loved that it's not necessarily about not doing stuff, it's about how you do stuff and how you acknowledge what you're doing. And I think that that's really special, because it's sort of going, going, going, it's like, yeah, pat, I got my kid, my daughter at school on time today. Way to go. Yes. We have an episode on Fridays here. It's called Fuck Yeah Friday. And just this year I changed it so, like, I share a story from Instagram or the internet that, like, inspired me, some woman who inspired me whatever she did. But then it's about sharing the wins from the listeners. So they send in a win, and sometimes they send in these wins, like I finally did, blah, blah, blah. And my favorite wins are, like, I actually made dinner for myself and I went to bed on time, and I'm like, yes, that's a win. That's a huge win. You know, we have to give ourselves credit for that, because, just because it's what you think you're supposed to be doing you not celebrating it is not going to help you enjoy doing it in the future, and it's not going to help you do it in the future. So I, those are my favorites, and so that's what the episode is about. It's about celebrating the things we did do, as opposed to like these achievements that we're waiting to celebrate until a certain time comes. I think that that is, it's hard to do. Most people can't see a win in something or a celebration in something that they're supposed to do. So thank you for highlighting that. Your book. You wrote a book. I think anyone who writes a book to get their word out into the world is amazing, because it's not the easiest thing to write a book. Who is the book for and what are you hoping they get from it?Dr. Judith Joseph 24:55  I'm glad you said that people who are high-functioning AF want to do everything, because five Vs is a lot. And I can personally say, and I say this in the book, pick one or two, because the rule of twos says you really shouldn't be working on more than one or two things at a time. But I like one and two. I like validation, because it's something we can all do. And I like venting a lot, like, sometimes I'll just be so exhausted, and I'm like, why am I so tired? I'm like, wait a second, I'm not practicing the five Vs. I validate, I acknowledge, actually, I am tired. I had a long day. And then I vent. Sometimes I say it out loud. Or I'll tell my partner, listen, I had a really busy day. Or I'll tell my daughter, I was like, oh, mommy, had a busy day, you know? Like, I then I really try. Or I'll, like, put something on Canva, on IG, and say I've had a rough day, or something like that, but I'm venting. I'm expressing. And the other things, you know, the values, I try to tap into at least something a little a day, you know, for my values, vitals, that's hard to get to. I don't work out every day. I try to, but it doesn't happen. But at least if I'm not going to work out, well, I'm going to eat well. And if I'm not going to eat well, I'm gonna sleep better or drink more water or limit my screen time. So, there's a temptation to want to do it all, but pick one or two and tap into it, and then score yourself and see if the anhedonia is getting better. And I really do believe that once you start to do these things that are not expensive, like these, are all things within your capacity, right, to democratize mental health, you can do these things, and your life will be happier. But this book is for that family member who never acknowledges how they're feeling when they struggle because they're the rock. The book is for that entrepreneur who really is afraid of bankruptcy, doesn't ever want to be in that position again, and overworks and overextends and doesn't enjoy their wins. It's for that mom out there who puts everyone before herself, who feels depleted but can't slow down because she feels empty and restless when she sits still she doesn't even know what makes her happy anymore. You know, it's for that immigrant student who feels as if everyone's dreams are on their back and they can't fail, they can't tell anyone that they're struggling, it really is for those people who wear a mask, like the educator, the teacher who spends all their money getting their students supplies, but doesn't even eat lunch, you know like you are seeing you matter, so take care of yourself, because there's no one else like you, and you're worthy of it.Lesley Logan 27:27  That is so beautiful, and I love that you can be in a different walk of life and this book is still for you, because there is, we all have these dreams and aspirations, and sometimes those are other people's dreams and aspirations on top of that, and it can just be a lot. I'm assuming the five Vs are in this book. If people want to, like, read and score and write notes, I do want to attach that I love, that you put values in there. It's something I really in this house, like, we like to all filter things through my, our values. And I'm like, that's a no, because it's not hitting one of these things, and I can't take on more than that. So I love that. And if it can fit one of these things, I could do it, but doesn't. But I never thought about, like, how to make sure I'm acting with that as a way of finding some joy. Because, yeah, that's really, really cool. And yes, I love that if you're not moving well, then eat well. And if you're not going to eat well, then you got to sleep well. You got to do something. You got to do something for your body. Yes. For you, you practice those five Vs because so in 2020 you felt like, okay, I must have this, like, high-functioning depression thing. Obviously, you worked your way through and this is where you're at, is this something that, as a high-functioning person, you might dip in and out of or you can start to recognize it. And the goal is, like you recognize it faster, so you don't go into the depression for too long before you get yourself out. Like, I guess what I'm asking is for my perfectionist is like, is this a light switch once we get over our shit, can we feel really awesome and we never have to go back? Or is this something that we gotta just monitor?Dr. Judith Joseph 28:55  I'm glad you said that, because one of the risk factors for this is something called people-pleasing. But people don't realize that people-pleasing is actually a watered down version of masochism. So before the term masochistic personality disorder was removed from the DSM, the bible of psychiatry, it was really a caricature of someone who sacrifices their own happiness for someone else's happiness, or who's constantly in a position of giving and not getting. And when people think of masochism, they think of sex. But it's not that type of masochism. It's the personality traits that makes people bend over backwards when they shouldn't be but they feel as if that's the only way right? These are doers. They do, do do but what ends up happening is that the takers, they don't, like, thank you. They're resentful of you. They're like, well, do everything because you wanted something, or did you think I wasn't capable? So it actually backfires. So falling into these traits of being a doer is a pattern. It's a way of life for so long but yeah, you're going to work on yourself, but there's going to be a time when you fall back, and I'm guilty of that too. I'm constantly oscillating. But when I start to practice the five Vs and I'm like, let me, like I just demonstrated, let me validate that I went through a hard day, let me acknowledge these feelings, it's easier for me to snap out of that downward spiral because I'm practicing these skills. And so I always explain happiness as when we think of happiness, we think of this picture in the future, like I finally got the job, or I finally got the clout, or I finally got the thing that I wanted, the person that I wanted, the home that I wanted. And then what research shows us is that when we get these things, we're still unhappy. We're on to the next right? So my philosophy has shifted to finding happiness in the now. So when I get into that slump where I'm like, looking around me and I'm like, oh, so and so is doing that, and I'm starting to feel low, and maybe I should be doing more, it's easier for me to snap back into my values, right? I acknowledge how I feel, I validate, I vent it, but then I also tap into my values. And I'm like, wait, but I don't value what they value. My values are different, and I'm pretty good right here, where I am, I'm pleased in what I value right now. So that allows me to slow down. And so I think the more you practice this, the more exposure you get to this. Not only do you change, but the people around you change. I always say anhedonia is contagious, but joy is contagious, too. If you've ever had a boss that was a micromanager who was doing everything and you all were like, oh my gosh, we're so busy, we're all burnt out. And if that something good happened to that boss, let's say they finally dated someone, or they finally got validation in life, or something happened and or maybe even they got ill and they realized this is not important. When that boss shifts, the organization shifts, right? An organization is only as good as its CEO. So I think that anhedonia is contagious, but so is joy. So when you start to shift inside, people are going to notice it. They're going to come towards you and be like something's different. I want what you have, and you may not be more successful, you may not have more money, you may not be more beautiful, but you have something that they want, and they're going to gravitate towards you, but you have to get it for yourself. They can't have what you have. And I really do think that people will start to cultivate joy within themselves by understanding the science of your happiness and applying your five Vs to your life. Lesley Logan 28:55  Oh my gosh. I feel like every woman has to get this book for their best friend, just even as preventative, even if your friend isn't going through this yet, it's true that anhedonia is contagious, and also so can that high function like the doing can be contagious too. So I really appreciate you. I feel like we could learn so much. Now I might have to just binge out on every video you make, but I can't wait to read the book when it comes out, and probably send it to 17 of my friends. So we're gonna take a brief break, though, and then find out where people can find you, follow you, work with you, get your book and then your Be It Action Items. Lesley Logan 32:58  All right, Dr. Judith, you truly have given us a wealth of knowledge. Where can people connect with you, get your book. Where do you like to hang out? Dr. Judith Joseph 33:06  So they can buy my book at drjudithjoseph.com or follow me on IG, Dr. Judith Joseph and all the socials they could find my book there. And if you order before the pub date, you get preorder bonuses, and I have courses on the science of your happiness and ways to take you through the five Vs. Lesley Logan 33:27  Oh my goodness. Thank you so much for bringing you. You really have given us a lot, the five Vs is amazing. So if that ends up being part of this Be It Action Items, that's totally fine with me, but something that caused this podcast to exist is I would be drawn to someone and love what they said, and then going, okay, like, what is my first next step, though, you know? And so the bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted steps people can take to be it till they see it. What do you have for us? Dr. Judith Joseph 33:51  I just recently did this guided meditation with Deepak Chopra, and he said something that I thought was profound. He just kept saying, lose your name and just say I am. And it's really like a part of the just be, you know, what is it to just be? And if you could just take five minutes a day just to feel your being, just to get to know yourself again, I think many of us have forgotten who we are. So if you could just be, you know, I say, be a human being, not a human doing, you could learn so much about yourself. That self-reflection time, you could practice the five V's during that time, you could just practice one, validation, right, and just be. It sounds simple, but I think it's very difficult for a lot of us to just be. Lesley Logan 34:40  To sit for five minutes is very difficult. And you guys, like, what I found is like, 30 minutes is only 2% of your day, so five minutes is, like, not even a half a percent. So I don't do math well, so don't correct me. But if we cannot take five minutes for our day, we really do have to re evaluate what we're doing and who we're doing it for, because that is not the easiest thing to just be for five minutes, but ooh, I sit in a cold plunge every morning for four minutes, four minutes. And here's why, my tub is not big enough for my whole body. So three minutes with like, shoulders, hips, stomach, ankles, and then a minute for the knees to go in. And what I can say is I don't want to do it before I get in. I step in and I'm like, why am I doing this? I get in, I'm like, the air is sucked out, and then within a few seconds, you kind of settle in, and you're like, I just have to be here for four minutes. This is all I have to do. And it really is something that I'm so grateful that I do every day, because it does let me, like, set to go okay, today is today. Here I am today. I'm not even thinking about the schedule. It's just kind of like this moment and just being in this moment, where am I feeling this and how am I doing? And I highly recommend it. You don't have to get a plunge, but it just sits still for five minutes and see how you're doing. I highly recommend. I love that Be It Action Item. I think it'll be a challenge for a lot of people, unfortunately, but also I hope it's one that they take on, because I do love that. Dr. Judith, you are fabulous. I hope to one day, run into you and see what you're doing changing this world, because I do think this, your book and what you're saying are really what people are needing to hear right now. And I also just want to highlight one more time, everything you said in those five Vs is not actually going to cost a lot of money. It's like things you can just do by evaluating and addressing. So I appreciate tips like that. So thank you being you. Lesley Logan 36:18  Y'all, how are you gonna use these tips in your life? Make sure you tag Dr. Judith, you tag the Be It Pod, share this with a friend, but this is a friend who needs to hear it, you know, sometimes we feel like we have to help everyone, and sometimes we can help them by sending Dr. Judith's words to them so that she can help them and you can go back to taking care of you. So thank you so much. And until next time, Be It Till You See It. Lesley Logan 36:39  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. 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Mentioned in the episode:All Things Elderberry- www.allthingselderberry.com Code- GOLDIVY at checkout for 15% off your first orderSafeSleeve- safesleevecases.com/collections Code- GOLDIVY for a 15% discount at checkoutSmidge- Magnesium Supplements for a Good Night's Sleep | Smidge® Code- GOLDIVY10 for a 10% discount at checkoutEveryday Dose- https://www.everydaydose.com/goldivy Code- GOLDIVY at checkoutGuest: Terri ColeHFC Toolkit: Welcome to TerriCole.comTerri's Instagram: InstagramTerri Cole is back with another book that is going to ROCK YOUR WORLD! Too Much- A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency is the book that is going to change relationships in the best way- more authenticity, less resentment, more intimacy, less burnout, and total liberation from overgiving. Terri's humor in the midst of delivering powerful stories and insights will leave you feeling more aware of your tendencies and feeling capable of shifting them in a way that level up every relationship you have. Terri's mission is teaching women how to liberate themselves from over-functioning, over-giving and total exhaustion so they can create the lives, loves and careers of their wildest dreams. We are honored to have the opportunity to learn from Terri and are thrilled to share this conversation with you. *Additionally, we want to remind you that this podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. We are not licensed therapists, and this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional.*Find Andrea & Brooke as @goldivyhealthco on Instagram: Brooke Herbert | Andrea Herbert (@goldivyhealthco) • Instagram photos and videos#codependency #highfunctioningcodependency #peoplepleasing #boundaries #terricoleSupport the show

Depression isn't always the obvious, can't-get-out-of-bed situation everyone thinks it is. There's this sneaky, dangerous version hiding in plain sight that nobody's talking about. High Functioning Depression is that is the ultimate mask that lets you CRUSH IT at work, check off every box, and still show up for everyone around you. You're performing, you're delivering, but inside? You're EMPTY. Completely disconnected. Zero joy. This is what's destroying our highest achievers, caregivers, and perfectionists – all the people getting praised for "having it all together." You're too capable, too reliable for anyone to notice you're drowning. Nobody's checking on you because from the outside, you look like you're WINNING. In this episode of Medical Disruptors, I sit down with Dr. Judith Joseph, one of the only psychiatrists studying High Functioning Depression. Together, we unpack the psychological toll of pathological productivity, and why ambition often masks unresolved trauma. Dr. Judith drops a COMPLETE FRAMEWORK – her Five V's Methodology – that will transform how you approach your mental and physical wellbeing. It's time to reclaim your energy, your peace, and your life—before burnout turns into a full breakdown. If you feel like something is slipping away inside you, like you're constantly on edge, or like rest is something you'll "earn" someday—this conversation is your invitation to stop. To see yourself. And to start healing. You don't need to crash to justify getting help. Your body is ALREADY telling you something's wrong. Listen to the full episode now. And if it hits home, share it with someone who needs to hear this just as much as you do. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Judith Joseph, renowned psychiatrist and author of High Functioning: Overcome Your Hidden Depression and Reclaim Your Joy, joins Ginny Yurich on The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast to shine a light on a silent epidemic—high-functioning depression. In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Judith explains why so many seemingly successful, productive people—especially women—feel numb, restless, and joyless while continuing to perform at a high level. She unpacks the connection between trauma, people-pleasing, and emotional exhaustion, and introduces powerful concepts like anhedonia and modern-day masochism that help explain why burnout alone doesn't tell the whole story. With warmth, clarity, and depth, Dr. Judith offers real tools for reclaiming joy through her five V's framework—including valuing relationships, taking tech breaks, and even learning how to celebrate again. She reminds us that joy isn't a distant ideal, but something we can reach for daily in small, intentional ways. If you've ever felt like you're just going through the motions or can't figure out why life feels so heavy, this episode will help you name it—and start to heal it. ** Get your copy of High Functioning here Learn more about everything Dr. Judith has to offer here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are used to seeing depression one way: tears, extreme sadness, never leaving the house, pure misery. But for many of us, we experience depression differently. High functioning depression, a kind of depression where an individuals presents as seemingly 'fine' if not successful and thriving is on the rise. But despite outside appearances, it's just as debilitating as the depression we expect. In today's episode we discuss: The bad vs. sad stigma present in society What we expect depression to look like + why that harms people What HF depression really looks like What factors increase the likelihood The link between overachievers, childhood trauma + hyperindependence How to support a loved one with HF depression How to cope ourselves + so much more Listen now! PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Can someone seem totally fine — successful, social, high-achieving — and still be deeply struggling? Absolutely. In this eye-opening episode, psychiatrist Dr. Judith Joseph breaks down the concept of high functioning depression — a condition that often flies under the radar but affects so many people.We talk about why this kind of depression is so often dismissed, and how societal pressure pushes people to keep going, even when they're hurting inside. Dr. Joseph shares practical tools to spot the signs early, prioritize your mental health before it becomes a crisis, and create more joy in your daily life.She also dives into what it means to understand your own unique mental health makeup — and how doing so can lead to real, lasting change.

We got a Doctor in the Den! Psychiatrist, researcher, and author Dr. Judith Joseph joins the Mamas for a powerful convo about high-functioning depression, grief, and the struggle to find joy in daily life. Dr. Judith keeps it real about her own experience with depression and explains the high-functioning challenges faced by high-achieving women, particularly Black women. If you've ever felt the pressure to have it all together while struggling silently, you're not alone - and this episode is for you!Dr. Judith's book, High Functioning: Overcome Your Hidden Depression and Reclaim Your Joy, is available everywhere on April 8, 2025.**Warning: This episode contains mention of suicide from 06:45 - 08:00, which may be triggering for some listeners.**======We love getting Listener Letters! Send any thoughts or questions for the Mamas at podcasts@blacklove.com.Make sure you connect with our Mamas:Ashley - @watermeloneggrollsCodie - @codiecoFelicia - @felicialatourMelanie - @melaniefiona

Are You Secretly a High-Functioning Codependent?“The irony is that the more capable you are, the less codependency looks like codependency but it's still codependency.” - Terri ColeBuckle up for a conversation that's going to rock your world and potentially change everything you thought you knew about yourself. When I first heard Terri Cole talk about high-functioning codependency, I literally stopped brushing my teeth and stood there, mouth agape, thinking, "OH. MY. GOD. This is ME." If you're a high-achieving woman who's constantly giving, solving everyone else's problems, carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders, and running yourself into the ground - this episode is your wake-up call. I'm talking to all you incredible, capable women who are secretly exhausted, overwhelmed, resentful, and wondering why you can never seem to catch a break. Terri Cole is dropping some truth bombs that will help you understand why you're stuck in this cycle and, more importantly, how to break free. We're diving deep into what high-functioning codependency really looks like, why it's not just about "being nice," and how these patterns are keeping you from living your most authentic, joyful life. Trust me, by the end of this episode, you'll have a whole new understanding of yourself and the tools to start making powerful changes.Terri Cole, MSW, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert, and best-selling author of “Boundary Boss” and “Two Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.” She inspires millions weekly through her blog, social media, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. Key Takeaways:Defining high-functioning codependency and its prevalence among highly capable women.How to identify if you are a high-functioning codependent.Terri's practical tools for recovery and the benefits of recovery like personal peace.Saying no to self-abandonment, self-sacrifice, and saying yes.Looking at root causes of HFC like the "Cult of nice" conditioning and childhood patterns.Redefining your self-worth outside of high-functioning codependency.Terri's 3 Q's For Clarity: Who did that person remind you of?Where had you felt like that before?How was that relational dynamic familiar to you? Did it mirror something you'd seen before?Terri Cole Says: You're Not Too F***ing Old! To up your erotic intelligence. Learn more about Jen Marples at https://www.jenmarples.comWant to work with Jen? Book a complimentary 20-minute call HERE. Follow Jen @jenmarples on Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok and YouTubeSubscribe to Jen's NewsletterUnedited AI Transcript HereCONNECT WITH TERRI COLE:Free HFC ToolkitThis podcast is sponsored by The Jen Marples Agency which has one mission and that is to help you step into the spotlight and get the visibility you deserve! Through our signature Stepping Into the Spotlight program, we fast-track your visibility journey. Are you ready to be seen and heard? Book your complimentary strategy call today!

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High-functioning codependency takes center stage as we welcome licensed psychotherapist and boundary expert Terri Cole to the Addicted Mind podcast. With a unique journey from a talent agent to a psychotherapist, Terri shares her personal experiences and insights from her book, "Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency." We dive into the world of individuals who seem to manage life with ease yet secretly bear the weight of excessive responsibilities. Terri provides valuable strategies to help listeners recognize and break free from these patterns, offering a path towards healthier relationships and personal well-being. The episode also shines a light on the connection between highly sensitive people and high-functioning codependency. Terri and I explore the challenges of managing the instinct to control others' emotions and the importance of setting healthy boundaries. Personal anecdotes bring these discussions to life, including the struggle to support a loved one while respecting their autonomy. By acknowledging the discomfort of letting go, listeners can learn to empower others to be the heroes of their own stories, fostering genuine connection and intimacy. In this episode, you will hear: High-functioning codependency and its hidden struggles explored with Terri Cole Transition from talent agent to psychotherapist; insights from Terri's book "Too Much" Connection between highly sensitive people and high-functioning codependency Strategies for setting boundaries and fostering healthier relationships Embracing vulnerability and authenticity as part of recovery Importance of self-discovery and courage to disappoint for personal growth Follow and Review: We'd love for you to follow us if you haven't yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: NovusMindfulLife.com Instagram: Terri Cole (@terricole) Book: Too Much https://www.terricole.com/ Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I sit down with the incredible psychotherapist and author, Terri Cole, to discuss high-functioning codependency, boundaries, and how we can break free from people-pleasing tendencies. Terri shares her own journey from working in the entertainment industry to becoming a therapist and how her personal struggles with boundaries led her to specialize in this area. We dive deep into the traits of high-functioning codependency, where it comes from, and actionable steps you can take to create healthier relationships and reclaim your inner peace. What We Cover in This Episode: Terri's journey from talent agent to psychotherapist Recognizing high-functioning codependency in yourself How childhood and societal expectations shape codependency The role of self-awareness and therapy in breaking codependency patterns Practical tools for overcoming codependent tendencies The importance of setting boundaries and learning to say no How to conduct a resentment inventory and why it's helpful Addressing difficult family dynamics around social and political issues How Terri's book, Too Much, can help you break free from codependency Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction to Terri Cole and her background 01:00 – How Terri transitioned from talent agent to psychotherapist 16:00 – Recognizing high-functioning codependency 25:00 – Childhood & societal influences on codependency 30:00 – The importance of self-awareness and therapy 39:00 – Practical tools for overcoming codependency 42:00 – Navigating difficult family dynamics 49:00 – Setting boundaries and learning to say no 52:00 – Conducting a resentment inventory 58:00 – How Too Much can help you break free Resources Mentioned: Too Much by Terri Cole: https://www.terricole.com High-Functioning Codependency Toolkit: https://www.terricole.com/HFC Mastermind program (Flourish): https://www.terricole.com/flourish Terri's membership community: https://www.terricole.com/TCM The Terri Cole Show Podcast: https://www.terricole.com/podcast Connect with Me: Email: duffthepsych@gmail.com Website: https://www.duffthepsych.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@duffthepsych Instagram: https://instagram.com/duffthepsych If you found this episode helpful, please consider sharing it with someone who might benefit. And as always, take care of yourself!

Are you tired of the constant hustle and yet feel restless when you finally stop? You're not alone! Rediscover your happiest self through today's episode as I explore the concept of high-functioning depression with renowned board-certified psychiatrist and researcher, Dr. Judith Joseph. Dr. Judith shares how success and achievement can often mask underlying undetected depression. She explains how to recognize high-functioning depression and offers clear strategies to address it using her 5V's framework, with her forthcoming book informing our discussion. This conversation just might be the catalyst for meaningful change in your life. Tune in, and let's embark on this journey to better mental health and overall well-being. Show Highlights: Introduction to Dr. Judith Joseph. [02:06] Why Dr. Judith decided to specialize in psychiatry. [05:12] When Dr. Judith realized she was high functioning. [09:35] Destigmatizing slowing down to avoid burnout. [13:23] What is anhedonia? [14:38] Discover the 5Vs framework. [19:13] How to pre-order Dr. Judith's book High Functioning. [22:32] Tips for high-functioning individuals. [23:24] The power of rediscovering happiness. [25:10] To access Dr. Judith's website & book, go to http://www.drjudithjoseph.com/. Connect with Dr. Judith on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/drjudithjoseph/. Follow her on TikTok at https://www.tiktok.com/@drjudithjoseph. Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly  Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki Join the Brilliant Balance Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/281949848958057 

Do you feel like you're carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? Are you the one everyone turns to when things go sideways at work, home, or with friends?  And yet, despite all your effort and capability, you find yourself drained, resentful, and maybe even turning to wine or Netflix just to numb out. If that sounds like you, you might be struggling with high-functioning codependency. In this episode of The Hello Someday Podcast, I'm diving into the world of high-functioning codependency with Terri Cole, psychotherapist, author, and expert on boundaries and relationships.  For the full shownotes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/high-functioning-codependency-what-it-is-and-how-to-break-free/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson To find out more about Casey and her coaching programs, head over to www.hellosomedaycoaching.com

Rejoining us on today's episode is former guest Terri Cole! In case you missed her first episode with us, Terri is a licensed psychotherapist, global leading relationship expert, and author of the book Boundary Boss. In this conversation, we dive into the topic of High Functioning Codependency, the subject of Terri's new book Too Much…and oh boy, was it a MAJOR eye opener for us! From 20 years of practical psychology and Eastern mindfulness, join us to hear Terri's powerful insights on how you can start living a more joyful and peaceful life by breaking cycles of over-extending, over-giving, and feeling overly-responsible for others.    Key Takeaways: How High Functioning Codependency may differ from what we would traditionally define as codependent behavior The root cause of caring too much Identifying the line between supporting others and overstepping How to break unhealthy cycles that lead to burnout, overwhelm, and anxiety  The pathway to establishing better boundaries, embracing surrender, and ultimately creating a happier life Connect With Terri Cole: Free HFC Toolkit Flourish Mastermind Podcast: The Terri Cole Show Her book: Too Much Her book: Boundary Boss Instagram: @terricole Youtube: @terri_cole terricole.com DayLuna: EXPLORE LUNYA Use code: DAYLUNA for 15% off   Human Design Chart Software: BodygraphChart.com Use code: DAYLUNA for 50% off your first 12 months!   Book a Reading With Us Here! Get our book: Your Human Design! Your Human Design Besties Online Human Design Reader Training Physical Products & Ritual Kits Digital Products & Video Courses daylunalife.com Instagram: @d.a.y.l.u.n.a  

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are thrilled to be joined by the one and only Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, author, speaker, and global expert in relationships and empowerment! Terri is here to share her infinite wisdom and tell us all about her new book Too Much. Too Much focuses on the concept that Terri coined called High Functioning Codependency (HFC). Terri explains what HFC looks like, where it begins, and who it tends to affect. She discusses its traits and behaviors like feeling responsible for the emotions of others, the desire to control others' outcomes, and the idea of "auto-accommodating." Terri sheds light on the costs of being an HFC and shares her personal experience with it. She gives us all the tangible tips on how to begin to break the cycle. You do not want to miss this one! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: There is no intro for today's episode - join us right away for the content. The HFC Toolkit Terri's Podcast The Boundary Quiz Flourish Mastermind Terri's IG: @terricole Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Prose: See the difference custom care can make with 50% off your first haircare subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks Ibotta: Ibotta is offering our listeners $5 just for trying it! Go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app to start earning cash back and use code SHRINKCHICKS when you register Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks Manscaped: Get 20% off + free shipping with the code shrinkchicks at manscaped.com Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/shrinkchicks Mint Mobile: Cut your wireless bill to 15 bucks a month at mintmobile.com/shrinkchicks Bilt: Earn points by paying rent right now when you go to joinbilt.com/shrinkchicks

Are you constantly taking responsibility for other people's feelings, problems, or successes? You might be a high-functioning codependent. In this episode, psychotherapist Terri Cole is back sharing the sneaky pattern of overgiving and over-functioning that leads to burnout, resentment, and even sabotage your relationships and career. She breaks down how to recognize these behaviors and start your recovery. We talk about how to set boundaries, stop controlling outcomes, and prioritize self-care in a way that feels empowering. Get ready to stop fixing everyone else and start prioritizing yourself.  Check out our Sponsors: Open Phone - Stop juggling all your customer calls and texts from your personal phone. Save 20% off your first 6 months when you go to openphone.com/earn  Rocket Money - go to rocketmoney.com/EYH to check out the personal finance app that helps find and cancel your unwanted subscriptions, monitors your spending, and helps lower your bills so you can grow your savings.  HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 What does high-functioning codependency (HFC) look like? 06:00 Signs you might be an HFC. 11:30 How auto-advice giving creates resentment in relationships. 17:30 The difference between compromise and self-abandonment in partnerships. 25:00 How to stop trying to control others and reclaim your peace. 31:45 The red flags of taking on too much emotional responsibility. 39:00 Ways to deal with guilt when you feel you “should” do more. 45:00 How to improve your relationships by breaking the over-functioning cycle. 49:00 The FREE toolkit to help you start setting boundaries today! RESOURCES Learn more about Terri's Free HFC Toolkit HERE Get your copy of Terri's “Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency” HERE Listen to my free SECRET PODCASTS SERIES - Operation: Rekindle This B*tch Get glōci HERE Use code: HAPPY at checkout for 25% off! Text DAILY to 310-496-8363 for daily manifesting affirmations, journal prompts, and motivation. Sign up for GrowthDay - https://www.growthday.com/lori?via=harder Watch on YouTube - @LoriHarder My book: A Tribe Called Bliss FOLLOW Follow me: @loriharder Follow Earn Your Happy: @earnyourhappy Follow glōci: @getgloci Girlfriends & Business: @girlfriendsandbusiness Follow Terri: @terricole