The Happiness Hunter Podcast

Today's episode marks three years since The Happiness Hunter podcast was first released. And so it felt like a good thing to do to create the space in this episode for you to have an opportunity to reflect on and remember why you started. ... and where you are now in relation to that decision. Nearly 10 years ago, I made a life-altering decision that I just wanted to be happy. And not long after that, that I just wanted to share what I was learning and discovering with other people. And the over the course of the last ten years, I've hit many challenges, gone the wrong way, got very lost, gone round in circles... yet lots of things have also been done well too. But every time I get off track, I can go back to why I started, and this helps me refocus and regroup and get back on track. Do you know why you started? Or do you feel like you are still waiting? Some questions for you to consider: Who am I? What am I here to do? What is my purpose? Why is it important to me? What are my strengths? What lights me up? What do I have to contribute to the world that I am meant to contribute? How is what I am doing now reflecting that? Remembering why we started. It can be challenging, but it's always worth it.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It is so important that we take (read: make) the time for some quiet, healthy, honest self-reflection. Otherwise we just meander through life, the years pass by... and then we wonder where all that time went, and nothing much has really changed. Taking (making) the time to reflect can be deeply uncomfortable, and very challenging. But if we don't, then we deny ourselves the opportunity for something more; we deprive ourselves of the opportunity to grow. And, by they way, this time doesn't magically appear. We have to create the space for it. Some questions for you to consider: Do you know what you want? Do you know why it is important to you? Do you know how to make it happen? Do you understand why it isn't yet? And if you are struggling to answer any of these - send me a message. Fiona xxxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Most of our stress and overwhelm comes from too much busy in our head, too many choices, too many decisions- and lots of flapping, huffing and puffing (shallow breathing, not enough oxygen to our brain) and spinning our wheels with all the stuff we have to do RIGHT NOW. In this episode of the podcast, you'll discover a simple strategy to help you get out of overwhelm and trying to do all the things (and probably not doing any of them well - if at all). We get things done best when we are present and focusing on one thing at a time. Focusing solely on the task at hand, before moving on to the next thing. What is the thing that will move the needle for you right now in the most meaningful way? Work out what that is. And then go do it.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you weren't your story, who would you be?Who are we, if we are not the story?How is that story relevant to today and the life we want to be experiencing?How does telling that story match up with the new story we are writing for our life?Pretty much, I can guarantee it doesn't.But it's an old, familiar story, and we are comfortable telling it.When we hold on to that story, constantly identifying with the self of old... breathing life into that story every time we remember it, every time we tell it, every time we emotionally connect with it.How that keeps us stuck in the old story.Even as we are trying to move forward.We need to let go of the story.We need to let go of all the stories we have around the story.It's time to start telling the new story, and only telling that one. With a nod and a wave to the story of old, but that's it.Sure, the old story is what got us to here.But when we keep telling it?We keep the story alive here.Let's start telling all the new stories.Being willing to let go.To become.Make sure you listen to this week's episode and see what comes up for you!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you think about an area of your life you are struggling with at the moment - chances are you are struggling because your behaviour in relation to that area does not reflect your values. The challenge we mostly face with this is that we are either:  a) not clear on our values or b) are not living our values (consistently) through our behaviour (eg do as I say, not as I do- in other words our actions do not reflect what we say is important) Following on from the recent episode with Dr John Demartini on Honouring Your Core Values, in this episode of the podcast we are going to be talking about how you can get clear on your values and understand the behaviours that align with them, to help you see your way through your struggle. Get clear on your values (what you have determined is important). And understand what that means in terms of your action (in actually living your values). And from that place of alignment, you can begin to turn the ship around.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As Marcus Aurelius put it: “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.” Too often we don't take action, because we are scared it will be messy. We don't start, because we are worried that the action we are going to take is not perfect. But what we want to do instead is begin to embrace the mess and the imperfection, understanding that whatever we do is perfect in its imperfection, and it is in our messy, imperfect action that we learn to overcome the obstacles standing in our way. In fact, it is the only way. It's messy at the beginning and in the middle and sometimes at the end, and that is perfectly okay.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In today's episode of the podcast, you'll get to hear from human behavioural specialist and founder of The Demartini Institute, Dr John Demartini. Having authored over 50 books (and counting), over the last 40 years he has worked across the globe assisting and guiding individuals and groups to greater levels of achievement, fulfillment, and empowerment in all areas of their lives. We cover a huge amount of ground in this episode, and you'll have many opportunities to reflect on how your life is demonstrating your values - and gain some key insights into how you can make your life your masterpiece. Some of the things we discuss, include: Determining your values and hierarchy of values Making decisions and priorities based on your values The Values Determination Process How money circulates in the economy Determining the difference between assets and consumables that depreciate in value The seven different types of wealth Self-depreciation as a feedback system Why the mind is our greatest treasure Prioritising action and prioritising perception Setting goals to master each of the areas of our lives Delegation Uncovering your creative genius Taking on challenges that inspire you The principle of reflection How being too proud or too humble prevents us from knowing and loving ourselves and others Creating sustainable fair exchange in everything Contrast and perception The power of reading and how to choose what to read Visualisation to activate priorities Getting clear on what you want, setting goals and being open to opportunities Your life as a masterpiece Measuring and tracking your achievements Why we need a vital and enthusiastic energy Habits and routines How having a true north reduces volatility in life Keeping a gratitude record to document opportunities Giving yourself permission to acknowledge what you set out and did May you know yourself, and may you be yourself.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sleep deprivation is real, and is caused by a consistent lack of sleep or reduced quality of sleep. Our body needs sleep; just like we need air, food, water and movement to function at our best. During sleep our body rests and heals itself, and chemical imbalances are restored. Without enough sleep, our brain and body systems do not function properly. It is no accident that sleep deprivation is actually used as a form of torture as it is one of the quickest ways to break a person down mentally and emotionally.It is estimated that somewhere around 70% of people are sleep deprived.Chances are, that you are one of them! If we want to improve our health, wellbeing, happiness, relationships and productivity, one of the first places to start is in making sure we are getting enough sleep. There are two aspects to consider sleep from: Sleep quantity and sleep quality. In this episode of the podcast, you'll learn the immediate steps you can take to help you get enough sleep, to build in better habits and to improve the quality of sleep, through the lens of sleep hygiene. Sleep well!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On Sunday I got back from a two-week trip to Palm Cove, where I went for a workshop with the amazing International College of Meditation & Healing. I also took my kids with me too. It was an incredible experience and I've got lots to share about it. About priorities, rest, burn-out, grounding, boundaries and much much more. I basically took two weeks off work, pretty much completely switched off. And I don't think I have ever done that since I started my business in 2013. In today's episode of the podcast, I am reflecting (in real time) the process of working through my challenges with understanding my boundaries and how to run and grow a business that is focused on service, that is in alignment with my values and who I am, but that also serves me and my family. It's something that I am sure you can relate to, and I really encourage you to listen in.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Creating the right environment and doing the right things at the right time. For us to succeed in our endeavours in life, we need to be practiced and we need to be prepared. Often, we do things thinking we are doing the right thing, preparing ourselves for what is coming up - and in a sense we are. The action is right, but the timing is not. We often miss this nuance. We do things, which are the right things to do, but it is not at the best time to maximise the outcomes. In this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing a really simple example of how thinking we are doing the right thing, but not being fully across the conditions for which we are doing that thing, can sabotage our success. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Recently, I completed my first half-marathon. It was a goal I set at the start of the year, a goal that supported my bigger vision for my life - that is, to be the fittest, healthiest and happiest I have ever been. Over the last few months, I have had to overcome a few challenges; with physical weaknesses being exposed and having to be corrected, with fatigue, with looking at my nutrition, vitamins and supplements, managing my time, and also becoming aware of patterns of self-sabotage (and catching them before they went too far!). It has been a worthy goal to pursue, and I learned a great deal about myself in the process. It was a great example of something I talk about a lot - that goal setting is not about the actual achievement of the goal itself - rather, it's who we had to become along the way to become the person for whom it is possible. Running has never been something that has come naturally to me, and it has only been since my late 30's that I ever even had a go at it. But over the last few years, it has been something that I have been more and more drawn to. I walk a lot, and the running isn't to replace the walking, for me they are two very different activities that each provide something unique. In this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing with you the behind the scenes of the process of the last few months. And while I am talking about it in the context of the half-marathon goal, the lessons and insights are universal. It was such a fantastic experience, I loved it all, even the really hard bits. I am very grateful for the experience and I hope that you gain something really worthwhile from listening to this episode.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Please join me to celebrate the 150th episode of The Happiness Hunter Podcast! In this episode I'm reflecting on the experience of bringing this podcast to life every single week for nearly three years; through a global pandemic, pivoting the business, moving home three (!!!) times, lockdowns, home-schooling and many, many 4am starts to get it published to deadline. Creating anything of any substance or meaning takes time and requires effort. There are no shortcuts. When we play the long game, we set an intention, get clear on our vision. And then we just show up and take consistent action - no matter what - until our vision is realised.  If we are only motivated by external measures of success, then we will never succeed at the long game. The rewards for playing the long game are many, but mostly they are not external - certainly not in the beginning. As you go along playing the long game, you realise that the real reward tends to be more intrinsic - developing self esteem, confidence, self-belief, trust, patience. Being willing to stick at things when the shine has worn off and you are just plugging away, requires determination. Yet these are things that no-one can take from you. Once they are developed, they belong to you.   And that is the real prize. To become the person for whom it is possible.    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Happiness Quotient or HQ is based on The Seven Elements Framework for Life Integration, which underpins a lot of the work that we do in The Happiness Hunter. The framework was initially developed in 2013, with a friend of mine, Paul O'Brien.  Since that time Paul and I have both gone on to refine and adapt the framework as we deepened our individual understanding of it's application to real life.  Undertaking your Happiness Quotient (HQ) is one of the first exercises we do when we begin working together. It's based on the framework, and asks you to reflect on how happy you are in each of the elements of your life. It can be a bit confronting, but this can also be quite enlightening, as it shines a light on and exposes where you may be struggling, but also lets you see those areas of your life that are going well. In this episode of the podcast, you'll have the opportunity to reflect on your HQ and make a plan to take the next best step from where you are now. And just so you know, when I first did this exercise - not one element of my life was working well, but today, that is no longer the case.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our rewards, outcomes and experiences in life are in direct relation to our attitude, our effort, our contribution, our service. Our deeds are what counts. So if we are not taking action, then nothing counts. We need to be the catalyst. If we want a different experience, we need to do something differently. Like so much of what I share on this podcast, the original inspiration for this episode came from my teacher, Healing Master Issam Kadamani, and my reflections on his lessons. So, have a listen to this episode, reflect on what it means for you and then go out into the world, and give the best of yourself today.    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We live in a very busy and noisy world, with a lot of distractions, noise and interruptions. From the sound of traffic outside, to the jackhammer down the road on the building site, to the ping of a notification or people talking to us. Our ears are always picking up sound, even when we are asleep. Our brain receives the electrical signal and has to do something with it, it has to decide how to respond – even when the noise is not directly related to us. Always being “on” means that we don't have the ability to go “in”. Experiencing silence is very important to our wellbeing. We need peace and quiet, just like we need exercise, water and to eat well to nourish our bodies. In this episode of the podcast, you'll discover just how beneficial a low sensory environment is to your wellbeing, and have some time to reflect on how you can create the space for more silence in your life.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One of the most challenging concepts for people to accept (includingthose deep into the practice of self improvement and personal development) is that the world around us reflects our inner world. The relationships, the bank balance, the number on the scales, the environment (be it toxic or healthy), the experiences – is a reflection and mirror of what is happening within. This is big, and at times, quite an uncomfortable truth to be reminded of. Yet, it is liberating in the sense of recognising what it reveals about ourselves. Even better is that the solution to changing all of it for the better is within us. In this episode of the podcast, we are talking about our ability to change our experience by turning the lens inwards, and I'm sharing with you some questions to help guide your reflection.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Holding the line is when we maintain the existing position or state of affairs. It refers to former military tactics, in which a line of troops was supposed to prevent an enemy breakthrough. This line is at the edge of where we have been.It's the line where our dreams come to die. Because we can't hold it. And we retreat back.This is the point of self-sabotage.It is the point we quit.It's the point where we say it's too hard, and I give up.We tell ourselves it is not our time.Staying the course is to pursue a difficult task to the end. But if we can hold that line. And make a plan to push over that. If we can cross over. If we can say that's not the way this ends this time.If we can take the leap, as my teacher says, and if we can simply jump.Then that's where the magic happens.Because that's where we go where we haven't been before.Have a listen to this episode of the podcast, where I recently did just that.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happiness is the be found in the overcoming of obstacles and challenges in our lives, not in the absence of them. It is though the obstacles and the challenges that we grow. It is though our struggles that we become more than who we are today, we learn things about ourselves, we let things go. When we confront our challenges, when we face them. We feel the strength and gift of embracing the struggle. In this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing the two significant gifts in embracing our struggles, emotional discomfort and triggers.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There's a scene in the rockumentary ‘This is Spinal Tap' where they have an amp. And because they are such a hardcore rock band, they have an amp that goes to 11. But to get to eleven, you still need to start at one. If we don't start, if we don't just pick up the guitar, metaphorically speaking, and have a go, then the amp is never, ever going to get to 11. In this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing about how we self sabotage, how we stop ourselves from ever getting to 11 - either by never starting in the first place or putting the brakes on before we can get there. Once we start anything, we begin to collect data. And we can review this data which provides a glimpse into ourselves - our patterns and our behaviour. And it is this awareness which gives us an opportunity to do things differently. Let's allow ourselves to get to 11, whatever that means, and wherever that will take us.    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What other people think about you, is none of your business. But what you think about you. That is your business. How you feel about yourself should not be determined by whether other people like you or not. If you like yourself then it doesn't matter what other people think about you - positively, negatively, good, bad, indifferent. If you like yourself then you are friends with yourself. And if you are friends with yourself then you like and accept yourself, just as you are. In this episode of the podcast (it's super short, and super sweet) you'll have an opportunity to reflect on the relationship you have with yourself, and how much you may be impacted by what you think the outside world thinks and feels about you.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The problem and the solution are two sides of the same coin.When we can understand our problem, we can understand the solution.Our problem with other people is nothing to do with them. It is 100% our problem.We may know this.But are we really living it? Are we embodying what we know? Am we honestly implementing it in our lives?Truly, knowledge and awareness are nothing without understanding and action.In this episode of the podcast, I am exploring this idea from another perspective, and I really encourage you to listen in. If you are the problem, and if you can completely accept that, then equally, you are also the solution.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ideas are great, but they need to be believed in 100% and they need to be executed thoughtfully, purposefully. It's not just about chasing fame or money or anything like that. To me it's to create something that lasts and that makes a difference. To believe in creating something of substance. And to be determined to make it happen, no matter the environment or challenges. I've been reflecting a lot this week about putting out stuff of substance, really focusing on my contribution to the world. To be purposeful, and to strive for genuine connection. In this episode I'm sharing examples of two different things I read recently - about Kate Bush making £250,000 a week from royalties of her song, Running Up That Hill. A song that she wrote, performed and produced. A song that was first released in 1985. And of the shifting landscape in the VC funding world, with less capital available to fund start-up ideas.Do you believe in your idea(s) enough to make a go of them, regardless of the circumstances and the environment?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Gratitude is so powerful because it shapes the way we see and experience the world: what we focus on expands. So the more we appreciate, the more we have to appreciate.We tend to say thank you for things we have already received. Affirmations are powerful in that they help guide our thinking and help us to get clear on and focus on what we want. Combined, they are even more powerful. I like to think of them as gratitude affirmations.In this episode of the podcast, you can practice saying thank you in advance, with gratitude for that which you are intending, knowing it's already a done deal.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How aware are you of the words that you speak? What comes out of our mouth, often tells us a lot about what is going on inside. What comes out of our mouth will also let us know a lot about what we can expect to happen. What comes out of our mouth has the power to shape the future. We need to learn how to use our words wisely. Learning to tune in to the words we say, as we are speaking them, will help us to become more aware of what we think and believe, and when we are really tuned in, we will come to understand when what we say no longer serves us - and we can learn to think and then speak things differently. In this episode, I'm sharing a few examples of how words become an instruction, and how we we can say it differently to create a better outcome.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When we are working towards something - when we have a clear vision, direction, mission, purpose. We need to trust that what we are going through is exactly what we need to go through to get us to where we want to be. That we need to clear the clutter that is blocking our progress, to open up new channels of thinking, expand our knowledge and awareness.It's in the challenge or the struggle - otherwise known as The Dip or The Valley of Despair - that we learn stuff, we gain greater insight into ourselves, we get to know ourselves better and understand more. The darkness is the contrast for the light and it gives us greater appreciation.It's very rarely easy. It often comes with pain. But if we can hold the course, and not give up, not retreat but keep facing forward whatever the cost, then we will always come through the other side. In this episode of the podcast, you'll gain a deeper insight into the process of change, and you'll know that you are not on your own.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There are two versions in which we show up. At our best, we are patient, loving, kind, courageous, forgiving, curious, and empathetic to the needs of others. We have an attitude of learning and growth. In our highest and best version of being, we value the self, know our worth, and contribute to life and others. This is referred to as the higher self. Showing up as your highest self means operating and living life in communication with a higher level of consciousness, without the restraints of limiting beliefs. And then there is the other side of the coin. In this state, we are emotionally reactive, stagnated, closed off to any new information, argumentative and operating in victim mode. This is a contracted and closed off energy space. This is referred to as the lower self. We also have free will. In this episode of the podcast. you'll have an opportunity to reflect on which self you are choosing to spend most of your time operating from.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The way we speak to ourselves about ourselves says a lot about the relationship we have with ourselves. When you speak to yourself - are you kind or are you mean? Do you lift yourself up, encourage yourself, motivate yourself, challenge yourself (in a positive way), show yourself grace, forgiveness and compassion? Or do you beat yourself up, berate yourself, talk down to yourself, take yourself down at every single opportunity you get? Imagine if we were talking about a friend or a person outside of you. Which one would you want to be friends with? The question for today is this - how kind are you to yourself... and how can you be kinder and nicer friend to your very own self?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sometimes we need to go where we don't want to go, to get to where we want to be.One of Joseph E Campbell's most famous quotes is this; "The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek". In this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing a recent struggle that I went through, speaking to you as I was right in the thick of it. Change can be really challenging and deeply uncomfortable, as we are forced to deal with emotions that which we have avoided dealing with for most of our lives.But eventually, if we want to move, if we want to change, if we want to grow - we have to face it. Our darkness is nothing to be feared. Denying, suppressing and avoiding dealing with our painful emotions does not make them go away. Being honest with ourselves and facing up to what we fear is the only way through.We want to learn to embrace the struggle - even as we are up to our neck in it - and to recognise that it is through properly owning our problems that we always find our solution.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Charlie Gilkey helps people start finishing the stuff that matters. Charlie is the founder of Productive Flourishing, a company that helps professional creatives, leaders, and changemakers take meaningful action on work that matters. He is the author of the book and and host of the Productive Flourishing podcast. Before starting Productive Flourishing, Charlie worked as a Joint Force Military Logistics Coordinator while simultaneously pursuing a PhD in Philosophy.Start FinishingThe Small Business Lifecycle, Through actionable guidance grounded in thought-provoking theory, Charlie helps you take meaningful action on the stuff that matters in both life and work. I was so delighted to have Charlie join me on this episode of the podcast. I was first introduced to his work several years ago, specifically his approach to time blocking, and my mind was blown by such a simple concept. Charlie's philosophy around living our best lives, productivity and his time blocking method was a game-changer for me, and I share his teachings with all of my clients. In this episode of the podcast we cover a lot of ground, from: Charlie's background in military logistics Living intentionally The overwhelmed brain Why to-do lists will frazzle your brain The concept of time blocking Understanding focus, admin, social and recovery blocks How to communicate your time blocking preferences with others Not all time is created equal Factoring in invisible activities and SO MUCH MORE I hope you enjoy this episode and take what you learn to start to get stuff done.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Busy. How often do you use this word to describe your day?Overwhelmed. Frazzled. Drowning. Chasing your tail. No time to breathe.Trying to do all the things and be everything to everyone, and not necessarily feeling like you are accomplishing things.The crazy thing about this state, is that we think the only way through it is to just keep going and hope that things will get better and improve. But the problem with this strategy is that we get ourselves completely stuck in the weeds. And when we are down in the weeds, all we can see is weeds.When we get like this, it's very important that we use it as an opportunity to reflect what is going on.Why are we thinking, feeling, behaving in this way? What is driving it? What do we need to do differently to change the outcome we are (continually) experiencing?As the creators of our own life experience, it's our responsibility to become aware so that we can change it.In this episode of the podcast, we are talking about The Power of The Pause. Stopping creates a circuit breaker to get us out of the weeds and into the eagle eye present moment. It helps us to rebalance and regain focus. We can breathe again. From this higher perspective, we can gain a greater understanding of why we are where we are, experiencing what we are experiencing, and map out a pathway forward. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When you are feeling overwhelmed it can cause big problems…for you, your family, and your work…it seeps into every corner of your life.In this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing the most common trigger points for overwhelm and the key strategies to put in place to help you: Greatly reduce the chance of getting overwhelmed in the first place Become more aware of your red flags so you can spot them and deal with them, simply and easily Get back on track when the wheels fall off - immediately and for the longer term. These are the same strategies I've taught hundreds of clients over the last eight years, to help them successfully overcome overwhelm. When you eliminate overwhelm from your life, you have… Clarity on your priorities, and the ability to easily adapt to the natural ebbs and flows of life Feelings of inner peace and calm More confidence in your skills and abilities Higher self-esteem Less conflict in your relationships A greater sense of control A better relationship with time The ability to get more done, with much less drama ... and so much more...See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

My teacher Dr Issam shared with us this concept about maintaining your energy and enthusiasm for something in your life. And to do this, you don't allow whatever you are doing to stay at maximum potential. You do less than your motivation allows you, so your motivation never wears out, and you can sustain the energy towards whatever you are working towards. No pressure. No burn out. An enduring hunger. And constant satisfaction.For me this translated to - leave space. It's like flattening the wave of energy so it lasts. Let it breathe. You don't have to push everything to its limit. You can do less than what you can. We don't have to fill every spare space, we don't have to colour in every single thing, we don't have to run till we can't run no more. Space is good. Like pretty much everything he teaches us, it really made me think. Specifically with regards to my running. But this applies to anything. In this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing how I applied this lesson to my running goal. I encourage you to listen in and have a think about how and where you can create space to keep the energy alive.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Gratitude helps us become aware in the present moment, and to help us see and appreciate people, things and experiences in our life from another, more positive perspective. When we are focused on the negative or the lack within a situation, this is what we are focusing on. We don't get to see the good. This then causes us to feel bad, and to continue to experience more of the same. When we can look for the good, the blessing, the lesson within the situation, and ask the question - what is going on here right now, that I can be grateful for? How can I think differently, how can I see differently, how can I feel differently about this? When we choose to focus on the positive, it immediately helps you to have a different experience.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Life is a wonderful dance of giving and receiving. But often, we block ourselves from receiving through a lack of belief, feelings of unworthiness, stories around rejection. At a level, we are much more comfortable to receive nothing, than we are to let things in. We might not like the experience of the lack, or the not having, but we don't know how to not experience it. It is just so much of who we are, deeply ingrained as to our identity and how we interact with life. But both giving and receiving are equally important. The flow. The waves come in, the waves go out. They don't just go one way. So when we block ourselves from receiving, we are blocking the flow. We want to give freely, abundantly, generously. And also, we want to allow ourselves to receive. In this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing a little story about letting go of a story that stand in the way of allowing, and the process I went through for it to happen.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Most of the time we completely overcomplicate things because we either don't have a clear vision or mission, or we have lost our connection with it. This lack of focus creates a state of overwhelm, doubt and uncertainty as we stumble around in the weeds trying to figure out our next move, trying to make sense of all of the options and choices we feel like we have, trying to make sense of the chaos. This idea of keeping things simple, by remembering our why, remembering our purpose, remembering why we started in the first place. It opens things up. It creates the space for clarity, confidence and certainty, trusting that whatever move we make is the right one, because all of our decisions and actions are connected to a bigger aim. It keeps it simple. Keeping things simple does not mean that things are not challenging or hard. Keeping things simple means that we don't get stuck in the obstacles and challenges, if we even create them in the first place. In this episode, I'm sharing the back story of The Happiness Hunter, and how when I'm focused on my mission, everything becomes simple.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if the whole point of our existence was learning how to communicate properly? Not for others to learn how to get on with us, or to understand us, or to communicate with us in a way that we liked. But for us to learn how to get on with others, to understand them. For us to learn how to adapt to the environment we are in, and to speak and listen not for our own gain, or to prove a point, or to be right, but for the other person's benefit. Imagine how different our relationships would be. Imagine how differently conflict would be handled. Imagine how much nicer we would be to each other, how much more patient, how much more open, understanding and forgiving. When people know that they will be listened to, without fear of judgement, but able to express honestly about how they are feeling. That is when relationships transform. In this episode of the podcast, I am sharing a really simple technique to help facilitate highly effective and honest communication – both for the person expressing and for the person listening.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When we try to control things around us, like other people or our environment, this is a safety mechanism. Our primal instinct is that when we feel under threat or feel let down, we immediately try and want to control the situation. We do this when: • We feel unsafe• Fearful that things are not going our way• The need to be right and get the last word in or prove someone wrong• We have assumed without complete understanding or discussion In this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing some examples of how this behaviour shows up, and the impact it has on other people. You'll have an opportunity to reflect on where you might be trying to control other people and situations, and what you can do instead.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We often avoid difficult conversations, because they are just that: difficult. Difficult conversations are a part of life, and being able to approach them in a logical manner can make all the difference to your experience of the process and the success of the outcome. In today's episode of the podcast, I am joined by Jacqui Brauman to explore different communication and conflict styles, and how an understanding of them can help us manage and avoid conflict during those difficult conversations. Jacqui is an Accredited Specialist in Wills and Estates, an NMAS accredited mediator, and a collaboratively trained lawyer, and has written and published three legal guides: ‘In Case of Emergency', a practical guide for young families in the case of injury or death, ‘Death and Social Media, a guide to your digital estate planning', and 'The Sandwich Generation'. In this episode of the podcast, we talk about: The five different conflict styles How to have difficult conversations Mediation and approaching legal conflict differently Empowering assertive behaviour Masculine and feminine energy Understanding what the other person wants and knowing what you want Being able to negotiate with confidence Preparing for difficult conversations The importance of feeling safe in difficult conversations Starting and staying in difficult conversations and much, much more Make sure you listen in to this episode, as you'll gain a lot of insight into your own behaviour (and where you like to sit on the conflict scale) and how you can manage conflict in a more positive way moving forward.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The decision to decide to change can be hard. But what happens if you avoid the hard, and you don't decide? What happens if you just keep going as you are, and nothing changes? We really need to ask ourselves – Is that acceptable? For things to remain as they are? Indecision is a decision in itself. Avoiding the uncomfortable feelings, conversations, reckonings. This is a decision. Deciding not to decide is a decision. But something magical happens when we decide to decide. When we decide to say yes. To step up. To try something new. To do something different. To come at life from a new angle with a different approach. What could happen for you, in your life, in your business, in your health, in your relationships? If you simply decided to decide? Have a listen to this episode and ask yourself – where am I avoiding making a decision? Where do I need to decide to decide?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Napoleon Hill said that every misfortune has within it the seed of an equal or greater opportunity. Opportunities don't always look like we might expect them to, and sometimes when we don't get what we think we want, we are really getting what we need. This can sometimes feel very painful. But really, who gets to say that something is good, and who gets to say that something is bad? We are never in the position of being able to judge something, because we actually never have the full and complete picture. In this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing a story about more than one opportunity ending up on the cutting room floor, which at the time was brutal. But what that experience opened up for me instead. And spoiler alert – it's the reason why I was able to finally get out of my own way and launch this podcast.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Walking is an incredible way for us to balance ourselves, clear our mind, process emotions, boost creativity and improve our outlook. When walking is combined with coaching – we call this Walking Coaching – big shifts can occur. In today's episode of the podcast, I am joined by fellow coach, Robyn Patton. Robyn also utilises the practice of Walking Coaching within her coaching business and with her clients. Pop your headphones in for this episode and head out for a walk, as we talk coach-to-coach about why we love this method, and how combining it with more traditional coaching approaches can help improve your results. Robyn Patton is a highly experienced and accredited life coach and has operated in private practice for over 9 years. She specialises in working with both men and women and offers a powerful blend of knowledge, experience and intuitive wisdom to create phenomenal results in the lives of her clients. Robyn has over 25 years of clinical and facilitation experience including managing, mentoring, coaching and supervising staff. She has facilitated workshops and training sessions to a broad range of professions including people leaders, global and national corporations, emergency services, allied health and men's groups. Robyn specialises in personal transformation, life empowerment and using masculine and feminine essence for more aliveness and play. Robyn works powerfully to make real, measurable differences in her client's lives.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A brand is like an identity - an intangible marketing or business concept that characterises a company, product, or individual. A brand is not a logo, slogan or colour palette. These are the tools that help promote the brand. YOU are your brand, and a strong brand is very clear on it's mission and values. There is not much of a gap between a personal and professional brand, but it's helpful to think about you as a brand from both perspectives, especially as it is almost impossible to distinguish between your personal and professional brand in your digital footprint. In this episode of the podcast, we explore the concept of "you as a brand" aligned with your personal and professional goals, as well as your core values. Knowing who you are and the value you bring to the table Finding your voice and platform Establishing your expertise Creating your brand image and how you show up See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever felt powerless in a situation, or like you are giving away your power? Or perhaps you may have felt like you were exerting too much power, causing someone else to feel uncomfortable? I think it's fair to say that we all want to become more aware of the impacts of our behaviour, to have better relationships, to communicate more effectively and to understand without assuming. In this episode of the podcast, you'll gain: – a clear picture of the passive – assertive – aggressive spectrum– understanding the different communication styles, and where you sit– a greater understanding of your role – within any communication setting– insight into the positive and negative character traits of masculine and feminine energy (which has nothing to do with gender)– some tools and strategies to present yourself, to “read” the communication style and communicate and respond effectively You'll have an opportunity to reflect on where you sit on the passive-assertive-aggressive spectrum, and what you can do to become more empowered in your behaviour.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Everyone experiences anxiety. It is a hard-wired response in our brains to the threat of danger. The challenge is that our brain cannot distinguish between a real, life endangering threat (eg a bear is going to eat me or quick, there is a fire!) and an imagined, or non-life threatening threat (the traffic is slow and I am going to be late or I have back to back meetings today). The chemical response in our brains is the same, and it is this response which triggers the anxious state.  Sometimes we can recognise it, sometimes we have no idea that the name for what we are feeling and experiencing is anxiety. Becoming aware of it, is the first step.  An educational leader, Dr Jodi Richardson supports teachers, parents and other professionals to navigate the challenges of anxiety and to develop the skills and confidence to help their students and children. Jodi is an international speaker, the best-selling author of Anxious Kids and Anxious Mums, host of the popular podcast ‘Well, hello anxiety', and a respected media commentator on topics related to mental health, wellbeing and parenting.  In this episode of the podcast, we have a really honest conversation about anxiety:  What causes it How it shows up How to recognise it How to make friends with it (yes, really!) What you can do to help prevent becoming anxious Strategies to alleviate it's impact Take some time to pause, breathe and ground yourself by listening in to this episode, so that next time you get that anxious feeling, you can say smile, wave and say hello to it… before it takes over.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When we are looking at making change, creating goals, achieving goals, moving from where we are. Whenever we want to create something new, there needs to be space for it. We need to clear the decks and create the room for the new to come in. When there is stagnated or blocked energy, or clutter, or all the space is filled with things that don't support the new vision and the change, then there is a block. To create space, we need to let go and remove the clutter. What is blocking the new from coming in for you? Mentally, emotionally, physically? In this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing some examples and a process to help you create the space – to create the vision, take the action and let go of what does not support your goal. You'll learn the simple, highly impactful techniques to help you create space in all of the areas of your life, so that things can shift for the new to flow in.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Every week on a Monday morning I have a meeting with myself. This meeting is about me being the CEO, CFO and all-round general boss of my life, being across all the things, knowing what is coming up, and feeling excited and expansive about the possibilities for what is ahead. The purpose of this meeting is to review the week that has been, to learn from this information and to look strategically at the week ahead. This process informs my daily goal setting and decision making. In this meeting I take a look at what is coming up in the week ahead, I set my weekly goals, check in with my beliefs and I track my (multi-million dollar) wealth activation plan. It's a super inspiring and motivating way to start the week, it helps keep me focused and looking at the bigger picture. If you are not already, this is a process I'd love you to think about introducing into your life and business too.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Wealth activism is about focusing on your values, priorities, objectives and outcome as the starting point. It is about getting very clear on your desired lifestyle; what you would like to be able to be, do and have and then making a plan to make it happen. The wealth management aspect - the product or the vehicle - comes next. In this episode of the podcast, I'm joined by David Murdoch. David is a Wealth Activist and the founder of Paxton Bridge He works in the exciting space of Financial Advisory, focusing on family groups, private business owners and successful individuals within the C-Suite. I was really keen to get him on the show, because money is a real thing for a lot of us. Making it, spending it, saving it, growing it. I really loved the approach David had towards financial wellbeing and wealth activism and I know that our conversation today will be of great use to a lot of our listeners. Before we initially spoke, my belief was that I was in the middle ground after having implemented The Barefoot Investor and Profit First (both of which I highly recommend by the way) but not at the point to speak with a Financial Advisor - yet. And what I discovered, was that this was not actually true. In this episode, you'll learn more about: The concept of wealth activism The difference between wealth activism and wealth management The questions we need to ask ourselves at the start of our wealth activism plan The different asset classes and how do you choose where to invest How to choose the best place to invest eg – building a share portfolio, investing in super, house deposit etc The three aspects of your financial plan Wealth activism (mindset and strategy)Asset management (investments). Traditional model, business etc and Intergenerational wealth (estate planning) Success breeds success. This approach will have you focusing on the gain, not the gap, and incrementally building your wealth in a sustainable way.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

​How much time do you spend thinking about it, talking about it, worrying about it, procrastinating on doing it, beating up on yourself that you haven't done it yet, doubting whether you should do it, questioning the best way to do it?  Rather than just simply, doing it. Outcomes are achieved and things get done when we get out of our heads and into the field of play. With no excuses. Not thinking about doing it. Just doing it. And then it's done, and you've reclaimed all the mental space that not doing it was consuming. You will feel amazing. You've proven to yourself what you can achieve, which builds trust with yourself, increases your confidence and helps you realise even better results. Imagine what you could achieve if you got clear on what you wanted, you set yourself a goal, made a plan and then got it done. What is possible for you, if you just got out of your own way, and did it?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's a good thing to check in with yourself, to make the time to see what is working, what to let go of and what can be reset. There is a lot that we can do to lead the charge in our lives, with many things within our direct control. In this episode of the podcast, I'm joined by Margaret Aboody of Luemo. Margaret is a workplace mental health and wellbeing specialist, who focuses on practical strategies to increase engagement, resilience and connection in workplaces.Working through Margaret's Re-set Model, we talk about: doing the basics well deliberately enjoying life managing your mind connecting with your back up team busting your stress cycle Now is a great time to push the reset button for a fresh start.You can find out more about Margaret and connect with her at https://luemo.com.au/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We all need guidance and support. Having someone in our corner and championing our success is often the quickest road to success. Someone who has the knowledge, skills, experience, wisdom to help us on our path. Often I am asked the question – do I need a coach or a mentor? The purpose of coaching and mentoring is to help you grow, develop and reach your full potential. While these two roles are similar, they are also different, with a different purpose, approach and outcome. In this episode of the podcast, I'm breaking down the difference in the two roles to help you decide which is the best pathway forward for you (and you can choose both!)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The end of a year and the start of a new year is a great opportunity to reflect on the year that has been, and what this means for the year to come. This process is not about hustle and taking massive action. This process is about giving you the mental space to relax and rest, with confidence that you have created the vision and a direction for the year to come. In this episode of the podcast, you'll have an opportunity to: take stock of where you are now get clarity on what success means for you in 2022, using the proven Seven Elements framework for Life Integration understand where you might be holding yourself back discover the lifechanging mindset shifts and practical steps that will help you move through your blocks decide on your plan of action to make it happen! I'd love to hear what is in store for you for the year ahead!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.