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For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/B7buGaYYF98. Couples in which one or both have a diagnosis of ADHD can encounter some particular challenges. Our guest in this episode, Lisa Rabinowitz, specialized in working with ADHD or otherwise neurodiverse couples. She tells us about how she helps them find their way to more satisfying relationships. Lisa's website is https://counselorforcouples.com/. The assessment tool that Bruce mentioned is at https://forms.gle/1Pj8MUQDH2cYfbVW7. Please take it for a test run! Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79  

Welcome to Short Take #5. In this series Judy and I talk about some of our (well, mostly my) favorite topics in bite-size morsels. Today's topic: Betrayal and Forgiveness This short take is about…well, betrayal and forgiveness. What is betrayal? And does forgiveness mean you'll restore your relationship?   Please subscribe and review us! Visit our podcast website, ctin7.com, for more about our podcast, access to past episodes, and links to contact us to make suggestions and sign up for a time to be a guest on our show. Visit Dr. Chalmer's website, brucechalmer.com, for information on his practice, to find his books, and to sign up for his Substack newsletter. Visit Laria Zylber's website, lariazylber.com, for information on her book The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible. (Laria is Judy's pseudonym, and as you'll see in the videos on her website, she looks just like Judy, except she has blue hair!) To see the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/t_EQM32MZso.  

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/OtUSEC7Fk58. Why are so many Millennials deciding not to have children? How does therapy culture affect how young people view the prospect of becoming parents? Judy and I talk about a New York Times article by Michal Leibowitz that discusses this. She organized her article according to stanzas in Philip Larkin's poem “This Be The Verse,” which famously concludes, “Get out as early as you can / And don't have any kids yourself.” Along the way, we also talk about tribalism—both good and bad!—and mention Daryl Davis's TEDx talk, where he describes why he, a black man, has attended KKK rallies. Michal Leibowitz's article: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/05/30/opinion/therapy-estrangement-childless-millennials.html Daryl Davis's TEXx talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/daryl_davis_why_i_as_a_black_man_attend_kkk_rallies Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review.

Welcome to Short Take #4. In this series Judy and I talk about some of our (well, mostly my) favorite topics in bite-size morsels. Today's topic: The “Oh Shit” Moment This isn't about the “Oh shit!” you might say when you've hit your thumb with a hammer. This is about—well, you'll need to hear it to appreciate why I call it the “Oh shit” moment. It's often a turning point in working with a couple.   Please subscribe and review us! Visit our podcast website, ctin7.com, for more about our podcast, access to past episodes, and links to contact us to make suggestions and sign up for a time to be a guest on our show. Visit Dr. Chalmer's website, brucechalmer.com, for information on his practice, to find his books, and to sign up for his Substack newsletter. Visit Laria Zylber's website, lariazylber.com, for information on her book The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible. (Laria is Judy's pseudonym, and as you'll see in the videos on her website, she looks just like Judy, except she has blue hair!) To see the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/5GLAcFW8V7k.

Welcome to Short Take #3. In this series Judy and I talk about some of our (well, mostly my) favorite topics in bite-size morsels. Today's topic: Stability vs. Intimacy—Can We Have Both? Why are both stability and intimacy necessary for a relationship to thrive? Why do they require different—even conflicting—skills?   Please subscribe and review us! Visit our podcast website, ctin7.com, for more about our podcast, access to past episodes, and links to contact us to make suggestions and sign up for a time to be a guest on our show. Visit Dr. Chalmer's website, brucechalmer.com, for information on his practice, to find his books, and to sign up for his Substack newsletter. Visit Laria Zylber's website, lariazylber.com, for information on her book The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible. (Laria is Judy's pseudonym, and as you'll see in the videos on her website, she looks just like Judy, except she has blue hair!) To see the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/8TNv4NaV5NY.

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/FBplUljRg6w. What is Post Betrayal Syndrome? Our guest in this episode is Dr. Debi Silber, who is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute. She describes three discoveries about betrayal from her Ph.D. research, and then talks about five stages along the way from betrayal to transformation. Dr. Silber's website is https://thepbtinstitute.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79

Send us a textWhat if everything you thought you knew about couples therapy was wrong? Dr. Bruce Chalmer joins us to turn conventional relationship wisdom on its head with refreshingly practical insights gained from over three decades working with couples in crisis.The heart of our conversation centers on a radical redefinition of forgiveness. "Forgiveness is an inside job," Dr. Chalmer explains, separating the personal healing process from the decision to restore trust. This perspective offers newfound power to those who've experienced betrayal, allowing them to heal regardless of whether a relationship continues.We dive deep into why communication techniques alone can't save struggling relationships. As Dr. Chalmer provocatively states, "The problem isn't that they don't know how to communicate... The problem is what they are communicating." This insight shifts the focus from how couples talk to the fundamental connection between them.The most fascinating segment explores Dr. Chalmer's framework of "stability and intimacy" as the twin needs all relationships must balance. When couples prioritize stability (comfort and security) at the expense of intimacy (authentic self-expression), they enter what he calls the "death spiral for passion." This pattern explains why seemingly stable partnerships suddenly rupture through infidelity or abrupt endings.Everything culminates in his elegantly simple seven-word formula: "Be kind, don't panic, and have faith." This mantra, born from years of clinical observation, captures the essence of what makes relationships work. The "faith" component—believing there's meaning even in painful experiences—particularly resonates as a path forward for couples navigating betrayal.Whether you're healing from relationship trauma, seeking to deepen connection, or simply curious about what makes partnerships thrive, Dr. Chalmer's compassionate wisdom offers fresh perspective on fostering true intimacy while maintaining stability. https://brucechalmer.com/Want to be a guest on Living the Dream with Curveball? Send Curtis Jackson a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1628631536976x919760049303001600

For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/ftqRVeBptqs. What is Radical Moderation? And how can that idea help heal the hyper-polarization that characterizes not only politics but family relationships these days? Our guest in this episode, Professor Lauren Hall, tells us about her work and how she came to it. As Judy mentions early in the interview, I (Bruce) have called myself a radical moderate for decades. (“What do we want? Moderation! When do we want it? When it's appropriate!”) Lauren's website is https://www.laurenkhall.com/. Her Substack is “The Radical Moderate's Guide to Life.” Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79

Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist in Vermont who has been working with couples for over thirty years. Through his teaching, consulting, writing, podcast, and videos about relationships, his ideas have helped thousands of couples and their therapists. Today, he discusses Why he chose Couples' therapy? At what stage clients come to him Why grey divorce is a “thing” Stability and intimacy Mid-life crises… male and female Stability and intimacy The Oh Shit! Moments Ideas, ideologies, faith Bruce is so good at explaining the inside conversations while looking at the issues from a 10,000 ft. view. Listen now and then share this episode! Find Bruce at https://brucechalmer.com/  and https://couplestherapyinsevenwords.com/ Learn more about Bruce and find all his links at The Boomer Woman's Podcast: Bruce Chalmer    

See the video of this episode here. Our guest in this episode, Dr. Bonnie Comfort, was married for 33 years to a man she deeply loved and who deeply loved her. And they remained married until his death from cancer. A beautiful story with a sad ending—but, as is always true, not the whole story. Bonnie tells us about the struggles she and her husband went through, particularly around issues of sexual compatibility. Those struggles taught her a lot about herself: the pressures she was subject to, the ways she unintentionally cooperated, and the ways she was able to come into her own power and gain self-respect. In her soon-to-be-published memoir, Bonnie offers some of that hard-won wisdom. Bonnie's book is Staying Married is the Hardest Part: A Memoir of Passion, Secrets, and Sacrifice. Her website is https://bonniecomfort.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Have you read my latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again? Would you be willing to leave a review? It's super-easy. Just go to this link, give a rating (5 stars, I hope!), say something about the book, and submit. And thanks!

Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist in Vermont who has been working with couples for over thirty years. Through his teaching, consulting, writing, podcast, and videos about relationships, his ideas have helped thousands of couples and their therapists. Dr. Chalmer is the author of three books: "Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again", published in 2024; "It's Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong", published in 2022; and "Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back", published in 2020. With his wife, educator Judy Alexander, Dr. Chalmer co-hosts the "Couples Therapy in Seven Words" podcast at https://ctin7.com. His other notable interests include musical composition (especially on Jewish themes), choral singing, and directing. His composition "Berakhot: A Midrash Cantata" was recorded in 2005. He has served in leadership positions in several Jewish communities in Vermont. His website https://brucechalmer.com

Welcome to Short Take #2. In this series Judy and I talk about some of our (well, mostly my) favorite topics in bite-size morsels. Today's topic: Rethinking ADHD Is ADHD a disease, or even a disorder?  Or is it a description of one end of a spectrum? Why does the distinction matter? I talk about a recent New York Times article in which long-time ADHD researchers describe how they are re-examining their assumptions. Then I tell one of my go-to stories about working with a high school kid who was diagnosed with ADHD and hadn't been told yet—but his teachers had been told. Here's the article: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/04/13/magazine/adhd-medication-treatment-research.html Why am I ranting about ADHD in a blog about couples therapy? Well, because the way ADHD hardened into a black-and-white diagnosis, as if it were analagous to diabetes, is a great example of psychosclerosis—hardening of the categories (see Short Take #1). And psychosclerosis is often what's plaguing couples.   Please subscribe and review us! Visit our podcast website, ctin7.com, for more about our podcast, access to past episodes, and links to contact us to make suggestions and sign up for a time to be a guest on our show. Visit Dr. Chalmer's website, brucechalmer.com, for information on his practice, to find his books, and to sign up for his Substack newsletter. Visit Laria Zylber's website, lariazylber.com, for information on her book The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible. (Laria is Judy's pseudonym, and as you'll see in the videos on her website, she looks just like Judy, except she has blue hair!) To see the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/78kA6eTMtAs.

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/emily-jamea/. If you're having trouble with sex in your relationship, you might want to consult a sex therapist, and our guest today, Dr. Emily Jamea, is precisely that. But what if it's not about problems—what if what you want is to get past “good-enough” sex to levels you've only dreamed about? Well, Emily is all about that as well. Her recent book, Anatomy of Desire, describes how “flow,” as popularized by the psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, is a key to unlocking passion and desire in a couple. She talks about five secrets and how to apply them. Judy and I had a great time talking with Emily, and we think you'll love this episode. Emily's website is https://emilyjamea.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79

S4 Ep#6Want to be a guest on the podcast? Send Andrew a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/member/anonymousandrewpodcastPlease buy me a cup of coffee!Proud Member of the Podmatch Network!SummaryIn this episode, Dr. Bruce Chalmer, a psychiatrist and couples therapist, discusses the complexities of modern relationships, focusing on themes of trust, betrayal, and communication. He shares insights from his experience in therapy, emphasizing the importance of understanding the underlying issues in relationships, such as infidelity and emotional connection. The conversation explores the evolution of relationships over time, the challenges of honesty, and the role of fantasies in intimacy. Dr. Chalmer's approach encourages couples to communicate openly to navigate their issues effectively. In this conversation, Andrew and Bruce delve into the complex issues surrounding deception and infidelity in relationships. They explore the causes of infidelity, the impact of gaslighting, and the dynamics of codependency. Bruce emphasizes the importance of intimacy and communication in relationships, while also discussing the challenges of regaining trust after betrayal. The conversation highlights the need for self-awareness and personal growth in navigating these difficult topics.Bruce Chalmer, Ph.D.Sign up for my newsletter at https://brucechalmer.comPodcast: Couples Therapy in Seven Words: https://ctin7.comAuthor ofBetrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Againhttps://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/Anonymous Andrew Podcast StudiosAnonymous Andrew Podcast StudiosDigital Dating Podcast w/Anonymous AndrewCultimatum Podcast-The Culture of CultsThe Weekend Rant with Anonymous AndrewWebsite: https://www.anonymousandrewpodcast.comInstagram: @anonymousandrewpodcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@anonymousandrewpodcastThreads: @anonymousandrewpodcastFacebook: facebook.com/anonymousandrewpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@anonymousandrewpodcastLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrew-peters-a8a012285/X: @AAndrewpodcastMusic by: freebeats.io

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/charity-sinclair/. As our guest in this episode, Charity Sinclair, puts it, “I've been on a lot of shit dates. No, really—literally shit dates.” Dates, she means, in which the guy was carrying around a stool sample. Or was carrying around dog shit. And, she says, she'd take a shit date over a toxic date any time. In our conversation, Charity tells us about calling off her wedding just weeks before, when she discovered that her fiancé had been carrying on multiple relationships for years, lying and gaslighting in all of them. She writes—often hilariously—about what she learned from these and other experiences in her book We're All Dating the Same Guy. Charity's website is https://sameguybook.com/podcast. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/matt-digeronimo/. We live in polarized times. It's hard to have conversations across the great divide—as soon as we detect signs that someone we're talking to is on the other side, we tend to shut down our ability to hear and think about what they're saying. Our guest in this episode, Matt DiGeronimo, is a Navy veteran who realized when he took off the uniform that he wanted to be able to tell his grandchildren, when they ask him what he did in that turbulent era of 2025, that he did more to heal the country than simply rant on social media. Matt has developed tools to help people communicate across the divide, starting with one-on-one encounters in our living rooms and kitchen tables. His most recent book is Actualization: Becoming the Person Worthy of Your Dreams. You can find more about Matt at https://beyondplatitudes.substack.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79

What if everything therapists have told you about saving your marriage is completely backwards? Join Matt and Dr. Bruce Chalmer as they challenge everything you thought you knew about relationships and take a deep dive into what it really takes to cultivate genuine intimacy, stability, and the kind of authentic connection that carries couples through life's most brutal storms. You'll walk away with a deeper understanding of why communication might not be the real problem, how stability can sometimes work against you, and overcoming infidelity.Dr. Chalmer's counterintuitive approach isn't what you'll find in typical relationship advice books. Whether you're navigating serious betrayal or simply feeling disconnected, this conversation offers the kind of revolutionary perspective that can transform your relationship pain into power.0:00 Introduction5:42 Forgiveness as an inside job11:15 Communication isn't the core issue16:19 Kindness, faith, and not panicking21:47 The importance of kindness in relationships27:15 Why great sex lives are uncommon31:42 Betrayal can lead to relationship growth33:53 First steps after discovering betrayal36:50 Key takeaways on marriage and relationshipsResources Mentioned:

Welcome to Short Takes! In this series Bruce and Judy talk about some of their (well, mostly Bruce's) favorite topics in bite-size morsels. Today's topic: The Dread Disease, “Hardening of the Categories”   Please subscribe and review us! Visit our podcast website, ctin7.com, for more about our podcast, access to past episodes, and links to contact us to make suggestions and sign up for a time to be a guest on our show. Visit Dr. Chalmer's website, brucechalmer.com, for information on his practice, to find his books, and to sign up for his Substack newsletter. Visit Laria Zylber's website, lariazylber.com, for information on her book The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible. (Laria is Judy's pseudonym, and as you'll see in the videos on her website, she looks just like Judy, except she has blue hair!)  

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/rabbi-shlomo-slatkin/. Can a couple who have fallen out of love regain their passion for each other? What is Imago Relationship Therapy, and how can it help? Our guest in this episode, Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, is the founder of the Marriage Restoration Project, which offers intensive retreats, group workshops, and online courses. Rabbi Slatkin's website is https://www.themarriagerestorationproject.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79

Send Wilk a text with your feedback!Episode 259 – Dr. Bruce Chalmer: When Communication Isn't the Real Problem in Relationships (or in Society)What if the root of conflict in our relationships — and in our divided world — isn't a failure to communicate, but a failure to tolerate discomfort?In this episode of Derate The Hate, I sit down with couples therapist and author Dr. Bruce Chalmer to explore how anxiety, not poor communication, is often the true barrier to meaningful connection — both in marriages and across ideological divides.Bruce has worked with couples for nearly 30 years, and his book It's Not About Communication! challenges everything we think we know about relationship struggles. But what makes this conversation especially powerful is how deeply his insights apply beyond romantic partnerships — to how we engage in tough conversations with those we disagree with.In this episode, you'll discover:✅ Why communication isn't the root problem in many relationships✅ How anxiety disrupts connection and meaningful dialogue ✅ Why tolerating discomfort is essential to emotional intimacy ✅ How ideas lead to growth, but ideologies often create rigidity ✅ The impact of confirmation bias on both romantic and political conversations ✅ Why faith in others' humanity is foundational for bridging divides ✅ How the tools of couples therapy can strengthen civil discourseWe also discuss Bruce's podcast with his wife Judy, Couples Therapy in Seven Words, where they explore love, faith, and what it means to truly connect in a world that often prioritizes being right over being human.Key Takeaways:✅ Emotional connection requires vulnerability, not just technique✅ Communication “problems” are often anxiety in disguise✅ Real transformation comes from deep listening and mutual respect✅ The goal of conversation isn't to win — it's to connect✅ We must create shared space for dialogue, even amid disagreementLearn more about and connect with Dr. Bruce Chalmer by getting the full show notes at www.DerateTheHate.comWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you've got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be! Please follow The Derate The Hate podcast on: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter(X) , YouTube Subscribe to us wherever you enjoy your audio or directly from our site. Please leave us a rating and feedback on Apple podcasts or other platforms. Not on social media? You can share your thoughts or request Wilk for a speaking engagement on our site's contact page: DerateTheHate.com/Contact If you would like to support the show, you're welcome to DONATE or shop our Derate The Hate Merchandise store by clicking here! I look forward to hearing from you!

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/found-out-my-father-had-been-cheating/. What would you do if you found out at your father's funeral that he had been having affairs? Your father, whom you had loved, honored, and trusted? Recently I've talked with several people in similar situations. Judy and I talk about how they might work on healing from that kind of betrayal. We also talk about a dilemma a woman wrote to the NY Times Ethicist column about: Should she reveal to her adopted cousin that she (the cousin) was the product of an incestuous relationship? The article we refer to in this episode is at https://www.nytimes.com/2025/03/14/magazine/adoption-incest-secret-ethics.html. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review.

Send us a textDr. Bruce is the host of the podcast, "Couples Therapy in 7 Words."  His books, all three of them, stress the idea that he lives by;  "Be Kind, Don't Panic and Have Faith." Dr. Bruce talks about leading by example, why polyamory may not be the best idea, how most of us have actually been betrayed, and what forgiveness actually looks like. Why do men hate therapy?  There may be a good reason. This was an incredible conversation with a remarkable man.  Listen now.Contact Dr. Bruce Chalmer here:  https://brucechalmer.com/Check out his podcast here:  https://open.spotify.com/episode/7byD8JmDbcDXDO6QixZqhY?si=YNXzZLe8SFGxcQp2KpNhTACheck their podcast website:  ctn7.comContact us:Rumble/ YouTube/ IG: @powerofmanpodcastEmail: powerofmanpodcast@gmail.com.Twitter: @rorypaquetteLooking for Like-Minded Fathers and Husbands? Join our Brotherhood!"Power of Man Within" , in Facebook Groups:https://www.facebook.com/groups/490821906341560/?ref=share_group_linkFree Coaching Consultation call whenever you are ready... Message me!Believe it!

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For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/craig-mattson/. Do you ever find yourself drowning in digital stimulation and demand? How does digital overwhelm in work life relate to life as a couple? Our guest in this episode is Craig Mattson, a professor of communication who has studied the disconnection and intensity many workers feel in their work lives. And as a person of faith, Craig has invoked teachings from biblical texts as relevant to these very modern issues, in ways that we (Bruce and Judy) find fascinating. Let us know what you think! Craig's website is https://www.themodeswitch.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/leah-spasova/. Our guest in this episode, Leah Spasova, is the CEO of LifeSexperts, which offers coaching and training to individuals, couples, and organizations about healthy relationships. We talk with her about her multi-layered approach to helping couples with sex and relationship issues. Leah's website is https://www.lifesexperts.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/wilk-wilkinson/. We've had many wonderful guests, and like parents with their children, I don't want to compare them. But I do think this is one of our most important episodes. Our guest, Wilk Wilkinson, is a Christian conservative who has taken on the mission of helping this country heal from what he terms toxic polarity. Through his own “Derate the Hate” podcast, as well as his work as a volunteer with Braver Angels and the Prohuman Foundation, Wilk fosters respectful conversation among people across the political spectrum. Wilk's website is https://deratethehate.com/ Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/rachel-macneill/. Are you in a sexless marriage? Our guest in this episode, Dr. Rachel MacNeill, is a pelvic floor physical therapist who specializes in helping people with intimacy issues. She also helps people with urinary incontinence (did you know that Kegels are usually not the answer? I didn't!). Among the sexual issues we talk about are the myth (often) of low libido in women, dyspareunia and how to treat it, what queer relationships can teach straight couples, and more. Rachel's website is https://www.rachelmacneillintimacycoaching.com/. Rachel is offering a one-time 20% discount for an appointment with her (intake or follow-up) to our listeners--use the discount code SEVENWORDS. She also offers a 7-day Pleasure Challenge at this link. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/kristen-williamson/. What is it like to be “neurospicy”? How does neurodivergence affect relationships? Our guest in this episode is Kristen Williamson, the self-proclaimed “queen of chaos.” Judy and I had a delightful time with Kristen—she exudes a contagious joy, and I hope you'll catch it too by tuning into this episode. Kristen's website is https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristensmith0045/. On Instagram, she's at https://www.instagram.com/empowermindsolutionsllc/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/becky-whetstone/. When one partner in a relationship tells the other, “I think I want out,” their relationship will never be the same. They might break up, or they might stay together, but either way they'll have a new relationship. Our guest in this episode, Dr. Becky Whetstone, works with couples dealing with that relationship crisis. She's been through it herself, and she's done research, and based on that experience and learning she helps couples turn their crises into opportunities for growth. Becky's recent book is I Think I Want Out: What to Do When One of You Wants to End Your Marriage. Her website is https://marriagecrisismanager.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/daniel-cohen/. Our guest in this episode is Rabbi Daniel Cohen. Rabbi Cohen has written about how you can “reverse-engineer” your life, so you can live now in ways that will help shape the kind of legacy you want to leave at the end of your life. We talk with Rabbi Cohen about how we can learn to recognize and cultivate “Elijah moments,” and how that skill can benefit couple relationships. Rabbi Cohen's website is https://www.rabbidanielcohen.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79  

How can EFT and attachment theory help couples develop secure, rewarding, lasting relationships? Our guest in this episode is Julie Menanno, a therapist, author, and Instagram creator with over 1.3 million followers. We talk about how she works with couples, and how Bruce's seven words (“Be kind, don't panic, and have faith”) map onto the concepts that guide her work. Julie's website is https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/. She can be found on Instagram at @thesecurerelationship. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79 For the audio-only version of this podcast, visit https://ctin7.com.

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/andrew-davies/. Improv is all about spontaneity, fun, listening, and being willing to play. How can improv help you improve your relationships, romantic or otherwise? Our guest in this episode, Andrew Davies, combines his love and training in theater and Judaism, and beings the joy of improv to children and adults of all ages. We had fun talking to Andrew, and we hope you'll have fun listening to this interview. Among the many nuggets of wisdom Andrew offers is a brilliant hack for making the concept of “date night” possible even for parents of young children. Andrew's websites are https://www.artlyworking.com/ and https://www.thebibleplayers.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/four-things-your-therapist-wants-you-to-know/. What should you know before you start therapy? Christina Caron wrote an article about that in the New York Times (link below), and Judy and I talk about the four things Caron wrote about, and apply them specifically to couples therapy. As we discuss, therapy is often fluid, especially with couples. Goals can shift, the two members of the couple can differ in their opinions about how the therapy is going, and success isn't always easy to define. As I've written about in one of my books (It's Not About Communication), couples therapy is often like improv theater. The article we refer to in this episode is at https://www.nytimes.com/2025/01/24/well/start-therapy-tips.html. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. And here's the link to leave a review: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0D4B6KL79

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/gregory-diehl/. Our guest in this episode, Gregory Diehl, describes himself as a Romantic Idealist, which, he explains is a fundamentally hopeless position since perfection is impossible. And he remains an idealist even as his own love life hasn't yet come to fruition. We talk about his ideas about the complementarity of masculinity and femininity, and about the retreat center he has established in Armenia. Gregory's website is https://www.gregorydiehl.net/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/jack-kammer/. Talking about gender issues can be a minefield. Talking about ways in which not only women, but men too are victims of implicit bias can get you canceled—as evidenced by what happened to our guest's book when he wrote about that. Our guest, Jack Kammer, has the distinction of being a target of cancel culture before the term was coined. We talk about his experiences thinking, speaking, and writing about bias against men. We also talk about why it's so difficult to get men to go to couples therapy. Here's the link we mention to my (Bruce's) video called “How Do You Get Your Reluctant Guy to Go to Couples Therapy with You?”: https://youtu.be/SlGtc9NoaA4 Jack's website is https://www.malefriendlymedia.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/diversity-diagnosis-and-nonsense/. Okay, I (Bruce) get to rant in this one. Bring on the arguments! How does the good idea of diversity turn into the ideology that makes universities insist that candidates for faculty positions sign loyalty oaths? How does the good idea of understanding the experience of trans people turn into the ideology that says you can't question whether someone who grew up in a male body should be allowed to swim on the girls' team? How does the good idea of differential diagnosis turn into the ideology that totalizes and pathologizes people? More generally, how do ideologies turn otherwise intelligent, caring people into malevolent idiots? At the end of this episode, I specifically invite people who'd like to argue with me to come on as a guest. Maybe that's you! Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/sophie-orozco/. What can you do if your husband tells you he no longer loves you, and is ending your marriage? Do you have to just give up? Our guest in this episode, Sophie Orozco, faced that very situation. And her friends, advisors, and therapists told her to just accept it and move on. But Sophie was determined to find a better outcome. She gave herself a year, and discovered that not only could her marriage be saved, but that it was better than it ever was. She shares what she learned with her coaching clients. Judy and I found her story inspiring, and hope you do too. Sophie's website is https://www.sophieorozco.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/

Il a été surnommé “l'homme au 24 personnalités”. En réalité, c'est un des cas les plus complexes de trouble dissociatif de l'identité. Le réalisateur Night Shyamalan s'est inspiré de son histoire dans le film "Split". Son nom : Billy Milligan. Au-delà du récit fantastique, découvrez son fabuleux destin. Un trouble de la personnalité des plus complexes Billy a 4 ans lorsque ses premiers alter ego se manifestent. Christene, une petite fille de trois ans, prend la place de Billy quand il se fait gronder ou mettre au coin. Shawn, lui, a 4 ans et il est sourd, ce qui permet au petit garçon de ne plus entendre, de s'isoler, de se protéger des cris de son beau-père. Son père s'est suicidé alors qu'il n'avait que quatre ans et, peu de temps après, sa mère s'est remariée avec Chalmer Milligan, un homme décrit comme “dérangé”. Il est très violent envers son beau-fils, il le frappe souvent. Un jour, il va même jusqu'à le forcer à creuser sa propre tombe en le menaçant de l'enterrer vivant. Plus tard, Billy racontera qu'à partir de ses 8 ans, Chalmer l'a violé plusieurs fois. Durant l'adolescence, la personnalité de Milligan se fragmente à nouveau. Et d''autres personnages apparaissent... Un trouble de la personnalité complexe. Écoutez nos autres épisodes : Sidney Reilly, l'espion qui a inspiré James Bond Ecriture : Karen Etourneau Réalisation : Celia Brondreau Voix : Andréa Brusque Première diffusion : 16 mars 2021. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/therapist-is-a-quack/. Is your therapist a quack? We've talked about how to know if you should leave a relationship—what about a relationship with a therapist? What are the signs that you should dump them? As you'll hear in this episode, thinking about that led us to talk about when diagnoses, such as ADHD or narcissism or Borderline Personality Disorder, can be damaging, even though they are also often useful. Feel free to argue with me! Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/angelo-santiago/. How can men be better husbands and partners? Our guest in this episode is Angelo Santiago, a Marriage and Relationship Coach with a specialization in helping men become better husbands. Angelo had me (Bruce) on his podcast, “Better Husband,” and we were delighted to return the favor. Angelo's website is https://www.angelosantiago.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/quits-in-40-year-marriage/. A listener question prompted this episode: “Fred” wrote to us asking how to know when to end a 40-year marriage. Judy and I talk about this dilemma from several angles. How do couples get to that point after so many years of relative stability? What's the role of intimacy in a couple? Are there ethical issues to consider? Let us know what you think. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/jonathon-aslay/. Our guest in this episode, Jonathon Aslay, is a relationship coach who works especially with people (most often women, but some men) in mid-life. We talk about the particular issues that arise for people at that stage of life, and how Jonathon helps them navigate them. It's a lively discussion—we had fun! Jonathon's website is https://www.jonathonaslay.com/. His YouTube channel is https://www.youtube.com/@JonathonAslay. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/brian-hite/. Our guest in this episode, Brian Hite, has quite the blend of experiences to offer: he's a Hollywood stuntman with over 100 credits, a Ph.D. in Organizational Psychology, and a sports performance coach. In his speeches and trainings, Brian challenges some conventional assumptions about pressure, motivation, and performance. And his energy is contagious—check out this episode and see if your own level of motivation kicks up a notch! Brian's website is https://www.brianhiteglobal.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/jenn-kennedy/. What are some of the issues that come up for older adults in sex therapy? Our guest in this episode, Dr. Jenn Kennedy, tells us how  she helps older couples navigate the changes and challenges of maintaining and improving their sexual connection. Dr. Kennedy's website is https://pleasureproject.us/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/. For the audio-only version of this podcast, visit https://ctin7.com.

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/kelly-ghweinem/. Many therapists who work with couples are uncomfortable talking about sex with their clients—and therefore miss the opportunity to help them deal with those issues. Our guest in this episode, Kelly Ghweinem, tells us about how she helps couples with sexual issues, and how she and her colleague train therapists to equip them with the skills they need to help their clients more effectively with sexual issues. Kelly's website is https://www.eroticacademy.net/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.

Seth Chalmer's insights on crisis management will help you navigate today's challenging social landscape as a nonprofit leader. This conversation gives tools to spark valuable conversations that can create clarity and confidence the next time your organization faces a hot-button topic and needs to respond.

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/laurel-roberts-meese/. LGBT couples and straight couples share many of the same issues, but there are also some characteristic differences. And our guest in this episode, Laurel Roberts-Meese, tells us not only about those differences, but about ways straight couples (and their therapists) can learn from LGBT couples. Laurel's website is https://www.laureltherapy.net/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/mr-jay/. Why is recovering from betrayal so difficult? Our guest in this episode, Mr. Jay, talks about what betrayal trauma is, why it's different from other kinds of trauma, and how he helps couples recover from it. Mr. Jay's website is https://mrjayrelationshipcoach.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer's newsletter right from our homepage. Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com. Bruce's latest book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again is now available! More information at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.

Infidelity—it's a word that can send shockwaves through even the most stable relationships. In our tech-driven world, the boundaries and expectations surrounding loyalty and commitment seem more convoluted than ever. Without clear communication and defined agreements, even the most well-meaning partners can find themselves entangled in misunderstandings and unanticipated crises. In this episode, we dive deep into the complexity of infidelity within contemporary relationships. We explore the importance of having candid conversations about monogamy and other expectations with your partner, guided by insights from experienced relationship experts. By examining real-life scenarios and discussing therapeutic concepts such as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we aim to equip you with practical tools for handling betrayal. Additionally, we delve into the nuanced process of forgiveness, self-compassion, and the potential for growth and transformation that can arise from relationship challenges. Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist in Vermont who has been working with couples for over thirty years. Through his teaching, consulting, and books, his ideas have helped thousands of couples and their therapists. Together with his wife Judy Alexander, Dr. Chalmer hosts the podcast “Couples Therapy in Seven Words.” His most recent book is "Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again.” Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 06:41 Dr. Bruce Chalmer's profound exploration of forgiveness and betrayal in relationships. 10:31 How infidelity's evolving definitions complicate relationship expectations. 13:52 What forgiveness truly means: Accepting reality without condoning actions. 23:29 Three steps to forgiveness. 34:01 Struggles with emotional connection due to trauma. 40:53 How attachment system impacts security and emotional responses. 47:15 Communication issues often indicate deeper underlying conflicts. 49:16 Why only one partner can be upset simultaneously. 55:16 Why assigning good or bad is often misleading. Mentioned Betrayal and Forgiveness (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) My Stroke of Insight (*TED Talks link) (video) Crucible Institute by Dr. David Schnarch (website) Intimacy & Desire by Dr. David Schnarch (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Resurrecting Sex by Dr. David Schnarch (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Passionate Marriage by Dr. David Schnarch (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 110: How to Manage Two Majorly Conflicting Needs in Relationship ERP 015: Do You Have a “Unity” or “Journey” Mindset in Relationship? ERP 423: How to Transcend Trauma (And the Effects Experience in Relationship) — An Interview with Dr. Frank Anderson The Gottman Institute (website) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Bruce Chalmer Websites: brucechalmer.com | couplestherapyinsevenwords.com Facebook: facebook.com/drbrucechalmer YouTube: youtube.com/user/brucechalmer LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/bruce-chalmer-95ab70305/ Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/couples-therapy-in-seven-words/id1517231158 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

This week we are presenting a special episode to you. Several years ago Andrew Davies, a long-time friend of Media Gratiae and contributor to our Behold Your God studies, visited New Albany, MS. While he was here we asked him to read select sermons preached during the Great Awakening. One of those sermons was originally preached by William Chalmer Burns. Burns was a contemporary of Andrew Bonar and Robert Murray M'Cheyne in Scotland. Because of his godliness, he was offered a number of offices in large churches but turned each one down because he had on his heart to preach the gospel in China. He saw very little fruit there, but took the opportunity to mentor a young missionary by the name of Hudson Taylor. If you are unfamiliar with the work of Taylor, you can search through our archives as we have mentioned him multiple times throughout our podcasts. We also highly recommend his two-volume biography and will put a link to it below. We pray this sermon is a blessing to you. Show Notes: Hudson Taylor Biography - https://www.davidsonpublishing.org/hudson-taylor.html Want to listen to The Whole Counsel on the go? Subscribe to the podcast on your favorite podcast app: https://www.mediagratiae.org/podcasts You can get The Whole Counsel a day early on the Media Gratiae App: https://subsplash.com/mediagratiae/app