Calming the Chaos

Transcending Chaos – Podcast Interview with Victoria Shaw Calming the Chaos welcomes Victoria Shaw, Psychologist, Licensed Counselor, Author and Intuitive. She also has a podcast called “Intuitive Connection.” Victoria Shaw is Licensed Professional Counselor and Spiritual Coach who combines her background and training in psychology and counseling with her intuitive gifts to help clients heal, grow and realize their spiritual and full personal potential.  She takes a holistic approach to counseling, addressing clients' concerns on the mind/body/spiritual levels. She especially loves working with people who are committed to using their struggles and life experiences to fuel their own spiritual awakening.  Victoria is the author of four self-help books for parents, children and teens, the host of Intuitive Connection podcast, and the mother of two spirited (now adult) children. In this podcast, Victoria Shaw, PhD, talks about how she was able to move away from a near constant state of stress and anxiety in her life by learning to connect with her intuition and “inner wisdom.” Victoria will help you learn ways that you can access and use your inner wisdom to transcend chaos and make wise choices during times where you are thrown off balance.  The goal: To share Victoria's story and her “two different lives,” to present an overview of intuition, and to encourage people to develop inner wisdom so that they will have an additional tool to help them calm the chaos.  Victoria introduces herself “My Two different lives” – Before Intuition and Afterward   What is intuition, anyway?   We're all intuitive Your soul's wisdom, or your “Spiritual GPS” Some healers with alternative methods of healing (i.e., acupuncture, energy healing, etc.) presented themselves on her path and she followed   How she was able to access the power of intuition to transcend stress and anxiety   An overview of Chaos: “A state of disorganization, confusion, resulting from anything in our environment that throws us off balance, overwhelms or confuses us. Question for Victoria: When you are in this state of chaos, how can people activate intuition so that they can be more confident making decisions and successfully manage a chaotic world? Make a Commitment Listen to what shows up Trust what shows up Follow what shows up Grow Confidence in your intuition over time Using your inner wisdom to help you calm the chaos with Decision Making Intuitive Pros and Cons list: Journal about what excites me, what worries me Intuitive toolbox: Victoria can help you find the key at 28:14 Story Time: “The hot bath and the Midas Touch” at 30:20 Promotions or products: Go to Victoria's Website at https://www.victoriashawintuitive.com and look at the online and live courses, her podcast and coaching opportunities and @victoriashawintuitive.

The Chaos of Menopause –Interview with Debi and Georgia of “The Heart Core Warriors” Calming the Chaos welcomes Debi Wallbank and Georgia Manning of “The Heart Core Warriors.” Debi and Georgia are on a mission to eliminate the stigma and the trauma of menopause. They are both extremely passionate when talking about menopause, which can also be a source of chaos and trauma for women as they go through it.     The goal: Debi and Georgia hope to help women calm the chaos of menopause. We start by meeting Debi and Georgia and hearing their story. We then discover what happens in the body during menopause, why menopause fits the definition of chaos, and how it can be traumatic. We then talk about some ways to help the system regain balance using some tips, tools and techniques offered by Debi and Georgia.   Introductions: Debi and Georgia   Debi Just a few years ago, Debi struggled with a lack of self confidence. She hated looking at herself, hearing her own voice and literally ran away from the camera! Debi had no clue about online presence, engagement and creating valuable content.   Fast forward a few years and Debi has created freedom for herself by building online businesses, utilising social media to market herself and has grown her own confidence IMMEASURABLY by learning from peers, taking action and creating an authentic personal brand!​   Debi now teaches other people to do the same - embrace their personalities and true values to become the best version of themselves and grow an instantly recognisable brand online as well as having exponential growth in self worth and belief.​   Georgia Not so long ago, Georgia was debilitated by a crippling lack of self connection which affected her ability to self regulate and maintain inner calm. This disconnect resulted in rampant addictions which were injurious to her mental and physical wellbeing.   Today... Through integrative holistic modalities, using a 'from the bottom up' approach, feeling centred mindfulness of the emotions and feelings, expanding awareness and uncovering beliefs that before prevented her from living a fully engaged life - now Georgia has self compassion, trust in her inner guidance system and ability to acknowledge and accept herself holistically.   Georgia now shares these methods, including Breathwork and TFT, to help others reassess themselves and their previous life experiences. In turn, this enables them to have a positive and curative response to a situation rather than reactive. This gives her Clients the belief and power to manage any scenario in an effective way.   What is menopause, and what happens to the body and the mind during menopause: PeriMenopause ('around menopause') is the stage where oestrogen levels start to drop. This is when symptoms are typically at their worst. You will still be menstruation during this time but it will become less frequent. This stage can on average 4 yrs but can last up to 10 years. Typically between 40-50 yrs but can start in 30s and in rare cases, 20s.   You do not enter menopause until you have had no menstruation cycles for at least 12 months. Symptoms are still present but should start to decrease at this point. Menopause also lasts on average 4yrs.   Once symptoms have ceased, you are in postmenopause but you are never actually 'out of' or 'through' menopause.   There are 34 officially recognised symptoms but in truth there are many more (list 34+)     How does menopause fit the definition of chaos? (Chaos = “A state of disorganization, confusion, disorder and overwhelm in a system.”) In menopause, the system is thrown off balance, which creates chaos & trauma Hormonal changes affect sleep, energy levels, brain cognition, memory etc which can be scary and cause panic   Tips, tools and techniques to help you calm the chaos of menopause by helping the system (body and mind) to regain balance: Breathwork Mindset Gut health Orienting Somatic experiencing Regulating sleep cycles HeartMath Morning/evening routines   Products and services you have to offer (list)   21 day virtual retreat, 4 times a year 121 coaching Online courses Free 5 day holistic workshop   Website: https://theheartcorewarriors.wixsite.com/heartcorewarriors   The Heart Core Warriors on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwfHONExp7ErzBQUdbieoWw/videos   Pinterest https://pin.it/4xswCNT   All Social Media Links at Allmylinks https://allmylinks.com/heartcorewarriors

The Chaos of Menopause –Interview with Debi and Georgia of “The Heart Core Warriors” Calming the Chaos welcomes Debi Wallbank and Georgia Manning of “The Heart Core Warriors.” Debi and Georgia are on a mission to eliminate the stigma and the trauma of menopause. They are both extremely passionate when talking about menopause, which can also be a source of chaos and trauma for women as they go through it.   The goal: Debi and Georgia hope to help women calm the chaos of menopause. We start by meeting Debi and Georgia and hearing their story. We then discover what happens in the body during menopause, why menopause fits the definition of chaos, and how it can be traumatic. We then talk about some ways to help the system regain balance using some tips, tools and techniques offered by Debi and Georgia. Introductions: Debi and Georgia Debi: Just a few years ago, Debi struggled with a lack of self confidence. She hated looking at herself, hearing her own voice and literally ran away from the camera! Debi had no clue about online presence, engagement and creating valuable content. Fast forward a few years and Debi has created freedom for herself by building online businesses, utilising social media to market herself and has grown her own confidence IMMEASURABLY by learning from peers, taking action and creating an authentic personal brand!​ Debi now teaches other people to do the same - embrace their personalities and true values to become the best version of themselves and grow an instantly recognisable brand online as well as having exponential growth in self worth and belief.​  Georgia: Not so long ago, Georgia was debilitated by a crippling lack of self connection which affected her ability to self regulate and maintain inner calm. This disconnect resulted in rampant addictions which were injurious to her mental and physical wellbeing. Today... Through integrative holistic modalities, using a 'from the bottom up' approach, feeling centred mindfulness of the emotions and feelings, expanding awareness and uncovering beliefs that before prevented her from living a fully engaged life - now Georgia has self compassion, trust in her inner guidance system and ability to acknowledge and accept herself holistically. Georgia now shares these methods, including Breathwork and TFT, to help others reassess themselves and their previous life experiences. In turn, this enables them to have a positive and curative response to a situation rather than reactive. This gives her Clients the belief and power to manage any scenario in an effective way.     What is menopause, and what happens to the body and the mind during menopause: PeriMenopause ('around menopause') is the stage where oestrogen levels start to drop. This is when symptoms are typically at their worst. You will still be menstruation during this time but it will become less frequent. This stage can on average 4 yrs but can last up to 10 years. Typically between 40-50 yrs but can start in 30s and in rare cases, 20s.   You do not enter menopause until you have had no menstruation cycles for at least 12 months. Symptoms are still present but should start to decrease at this point. Menopause also lasts on average 4yrs. Once symptoms have ceased, you are in postmenopause but you are never actually 'out of' or 'through' menopause. There are 34 officially recognised symptoms but in truth there are many more (list 34+) How doesmenopause fit the definition of chaos? (Chaos = “A state of disorganization, confusion, disorder and overwhelm in a system.”) a.       In menopause, the system is thrown off balance, which creates chaos & trauma b.     Hormonal changes affect sleep, energy levels, brain cognition, memory etc which can be scary and cause panic Tips, tools and techniques to help you calm the chaos of menopause by helping the system (body and mind)

COVID Chaos in LGBTQ Communities – Podcast Interview with Matt Goldenberg Calming the Chaos welcomes Dr. Matt Goldenberg, Psychologist, Psychotherapist and Teacher. Dr. Matt is a popular trainer, teacher and psychotherapist in Olympia, Washington who focuses on helping, treating and honoring those in marginalized communities, especially those who live within LGBTQ+ communities. In this podcast, Dr. Matt talks about the COVID-19 Pandemic and why this pandemic has affected LGBTQ+ communities so profoundly.  Dr. Matt also presents some ideas to help individuals in LGBTQ communities calm the chaos in a pandemic that is still ongoing.   Introduction to Dr. Matt Goldenberg   Who are you, Dr. Matt? Your Involvement in the LGBTQ Community Historical Trauma – The HIV / AIDS Epidemic Unique challenges / “chaos” to LGBTQ Individuals during the pandemic (all life domains) Historical Oppression of those who have HIV – where is the vaccine? Vaccine for COVID-19, but lack for HIV Systemic neglect of marginalized people Emotions of Fear, Disappointment, Anger and Hopefulness Politicization: (Dr. Fauci, etc.) Cis-Normative Inclusivity: Normalizes non-trans and hetero persons, and blocks the LGBTQ+ communities Cis-Hetero Normativity: Normalizes those whose biological gender is consistent with their expressed gender Funding for programs to help marginalized individuals in these populations. Social challenges – Groups Financial / jobs Intersectionality: There has been an impact on other marginalized populations, including black, Latino and other populations that intersect with LGBTQ+ Poverty and the working class Employment Discrimination Unfavorable working conditions or lack of being able to telework Other life domains Underground economics Bad working conditions = less ability to protect yourself from COVID Lack of protections for the working class Privileged people can protect themselves better Emotional trends Isolation and psychological stress Suicidality increases with those who refuse to honor pronouns Feeling excluded, unwanted, hopeless, suicidal Solutions: Tools and strategies for LGBTQ individuals to access when in chaos Sharing messages Respecting preferred pronouns Training on LGBTQ+ populations Training on strategies of inclusion Be aware of physical safety for vulnerable populations Support mental health and access to healthcare Empowerment strategies for vulnerable populations Social Support Dr. Matt Goldenberg's website: https://drmattgoldenberg.com/ US Trans Survey at https://transequality.org/issues/us-trans-survey Trevor Project at https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ Fedup Collective at https://fedupcollective.org/ Translifeline.org at https://translifeline.org/ Matt's Trainings and more! Other resources Trainings: https://drmattgoldenberg.com/trainings/ Supervision: https://drmattgoldenberg.com/supervision/ Counseling: https://drmattgoldenberg.com/counseling/ October is National LGBTQ+ History Month https://nationaldaycalendar.com/lgbt-history-month-october-2/ October 11 is National Coming Out Day https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Coming_Out_Day Closing: LGBTQ+ people are marginalized…AND…they are: Resilient / Strong Brilliant Creative / Rich in Knowledge Respectful

COVID Chaos in LGBTQ+ Communities – Podcast Interview with Dr. Matt Goldenberg Calming the Chaos welcomes Dr. Matt Goldenberg, Psychologist, Psychotherapist and Teacher. Dr. Matt is a popular trainer, teacher and psychotherapist in Olympia, Washington who focuses on helping, treating and honoring those in marginalized communities, especially those who live within LGBTQ+ communities. In this podcast, Dr. Matt talks about the COVID-19 Pandemic and why this pandemic has affected LGBTQ+ communities so profoundly.  Dr. Matt also presents some ideas to help individuals in LGBTQ communities calm the chaos in a pandemic that is still ongoing. Introduction to Dr. Matt Goldenberg, and your Involvement in the LGBTQ+ Community Unique challenges / “chaos” to LGBTQ Individuals during the pandemic (all life domains) Historical Trauma – The HIV / AIDS Epidemic:                                             Historical Oppression of those who have HIV –where is the vaccine for HIV?                                                   Vaccine for COVID-19, but lack for HIV                                                  Systemic neglect of marginalized people                                                    Emotions of Fear, Disappointment, Anger and Hopefulness                                                      Politicization: (Dr. Fauci, etc.) Cis-Normative Inclusivity: Normalizes non-trans and hetero persons, and blocks the LGBTQ+ communities Cis-Hetero Normativity: Normalizes those whose biological gender is consistent with their expressed gender Funding for programs to help marginalized individuals in these populations. Social challenges – Groups Financial / jobs Intersectionality: There has been an impact on other marginalized populations, including black, Latino and other populations that intersect with LGBTQ+ Other life domains: Poverty and the working class Employment Discrimination Unfavorable working conditions or lack of being able to telework                                                          Underground economics                                                        Bad working conditions = less ability to...

The Chaos of Cancer – Podcast Interview with Katherine Marie Calming the Chaos welcomes Katherine Marie, Speaker and Cancer Coach. Katherine tells her story about the chaos of having breast cancer. As October is breast cancer awareness month, Katherine shares her story about being a breast cancer survivor and Cancer Coach who speaks out about a variety of aspects of having cancer: from pre-diagnosis, treatment and beyond. If you've ever received a cancer diagnosis, you can benefit from hearing Katherine's story! Introduction to Katherine:  Who are you now? Mom to boy/girl twins who were born prematurely, and both have special needs. Cancer coach, working individually with people to provide emotional comfort or resources as they navigate cancer.   A speaker with topics such as moving from fear to action and creating an environment that is supportive of employees through wellness programs and a sense of community. Katherine is also in the beginning stages of writing a book. An overview of Chaos: “A state of disorganization, confusion, resulting from anything in our environment that throws us off balance, overwhelms or confuses us. Katherine's Story of Cancer Chaos                                                                Pre-diagnosis - Chaos begins before a diagnosis when “an area of concern” was identified by the Radiologist, and Katherine was told she needed to go in for more testing Skills used to calm her chaos: 1.      Going into “Function Mode” 2.      Asking her friend (who had cancer) for resources 3.      Beginning to think about humor 4.      Changing her mindset about double mastectomy from a tragic loss to a “clean slate,” where she can reconstruct whatever she wanted.                                                        Cancer Diagnosis  - Receiving the cancer diagnosis over the phone, from a stranger. Skills used to calm her chaos: 1.      Gathering information 2.      Setting up and attending appointments 3.      Laser focused on taking care of her family and getting well                                                        Cancer Treatment – Surgery, followed by 5 months of chemo, 6 weeks radiation. Lessons Learned: 1.      Humor is important 2.      Ask for and accept help from others 3.      Learn to lower your expectations of what will get done 4.      Care Calendar: http://www.carecalendar.org/ (www.carecalendar.org) Cancer Post-Treatment - Delayed reconstruction. 2016 I was moving forward physically, but not emotionally, until I read something by another cancer patient that made her realize she had to live NOW. At the same time, she was friends with someone dying from the same disease, living a healthy life. Lessons Learned: 1.      Honor the mourning process 2.      Offer to help

Calming the Chaos of the Stress Response – Interview with Sarah Falk, MSW, LCSW, Author, Coach Calming the Chaos welcomes Sarah Falk, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Author and Certified Coach in Illinois. Sarah shares her story about how the chaos of cancer led her to earn a Masters degree in Social Work and land her dream job at a cancer support center. After experiencing crippling panic and anxiety on the job, Sarah took time off to heal. In the process, she learned how to heal her relationship with her stress response by making anxiety her Superpower. She now provides coaching to people around the world to help them do the same. 1.      Introduction to Sarah and her story a.      Anxiety and first cancer diagnosis at age 17 b.      Anxiety in childhood and “feeling safe”                                                     The anxiety response is triggered by any perceived threat to safety                                                      Good stress and Bad Stress   2.      The Stress Response a.      A survival instinct that happens when there is a real or perceived threat to safety in our environments b.      Our systems react (adrenaline, cortisol, blood sugar, survival instinct) c.       We are triggered everywhere: perceiving threats everywhere d.      Tracy's own description of her stress response today – “My body is activated” 3.      Sarah's work: How to use the Stress Response as a Superpower a.      Anxiety is a survival instinct that you need – let's work with it! b.      How Sarah had to quit her dream job due to crippling panic and chaos on the job Identifying Cancer Treatment as a trigger                                                         Recognizing                                                           Acknowledging   Shifting the energy to powerful and positive action vs. actions based on negativity and fear                                                       “In reality…what control do we really have?” Move past the obsessing, and toward holding things loosely (“a posture of surrender”) as opposed to holding on tightly to an idea or expectation c.       You have very little control over situations…and…you have absolute control over what you do in situations 4.      Paths that led...

Out of Chaos and Into Your Potential - Interview with Robert Kittridge, Mentor, Speaker, Coach Calming the Chaos welcomes Robert Kittridge, who describes how he uses his training in Human Design to help people recognize and overcome any fear-based conditioning that can happen through their lives and cause them to experience internal chaos. Robert also describes a process by which people can use Human Design principles to help people become grounded in their true selves, realize their true potential, and remain calm under any chaotic situations.   1.     Introduction to Robert - Your story, and what led you to be where you are now                                                     "My journey started in the back of a police car in Boulder, Colorado”                                              This incident helped him to get him to think, “How can I be just a little bit better?” and “How can I get my team to work together better?” What do you do to help people with the Human Design?                                                      i.     Human Design was introduced to Robert a couple of years ago. “It blew me away. It answered so many questions I had about myself and my life.”                                                            ii.     Robert learned that all the answers to his questions were within him all the time                                                         iii.     Robert believes that when you know your own unique Human Design, it is an excellent way to calm your chaos What is Human Design? Definition: A modality that encompasses I Ching, chakras, Kabbalah, Astrology, Vedic Philosophy. “It is our God's DNA” or “Roadmap.” Human Design tells us what our own unique roadmap is. It helps you know your Possibility, Purpose, Potential." Human Design helps you reach fullest potential beyond the conditioning Robert's Human Design has helped him understand how to calm the chaos of decision-making, learning and future direction in life. We're meant to stand out….not fit in! We're designed with an “Inner Authority,” that we use to live our lives. However, the world forces us to h learning through the “Outer Authority” of school, teaching “I believe in a world where people can make choices and decisions in line with their designs, free from the “shoulds” of life. Examples of how we can use Human Design principles to help us stay calm during chaos: Educational chaos: what if your child's design isn't supportive of the traditional school systems? As a...

Chaos and Food Cravings – Podcast Interview with Laura Folkes Calming the Chaos welcomes Laura Folkes, a Holistic Health Coach in Chicago. Laura helps clients around the world work transform their relationships with food. As a Holistic Health Coach, Laura helps clients identify and work through any areas where they feel stuck, unsupported or self-sabotaging, and helps them reach their goals with food and eating. The goal: In this podcast, Laura talks about her own journey of chaotic eating, and how she was able to experience a truce with food. Laura provides some tips, tools and techniques that will help you: 1. Identify and explore any areas where you feel “stuck” in your relationship with food 2. Assess for any areas of self-sabotage 3. Provide support as you move toward achieving your goals with food and eating 4. Help you continue to notice when you are eating in / out of alignment with your goals 1. Introduction to Laura • Your journey of chaotic eating – Back to age 12-13 and the “Diet program” • Laura says, “I went into a fog.. Sometimes I was eating in alignment with my goals, and sometimes I was not” • “I started exploring my own relationship with food and developed an interest in helping others heal in that area.” • I was “Super burnt out with Diets” 2. Chaos and food / eating • Cravings: When she was a child, she wasn't aware of cravings. It was when she was an adult she became more aware: “Food can be a form of self-protection.” • There is usually something else going on that is causing overeating • High / Low Blood sugar can cause cravings • When “there is something wrong with me,” a craving began to eat • Physical / Emotional Cravings are both very real. • Possible Physical Factors behind “Cravings” • If you are craving something shortly after eating, and • You are feeling your energy is dipping • Hangry • Arriving at a meal ravenous • Possible Emotional Factors behind “Cravings: • Phantom Hunger • Emotionally craving something • Guilt and Shame around a food choice • An insatiable craving around a food choice • Eating when you don't want the food 3. What is self-sabotage? “When we are actively or passively stopping ourselves from reaching our own goals.” (Or…”I'm getting in my own way”) • You want to achieve a goal, but it doesn't happen, and you don't know why • You are doing behaviors with food you don't want • There is guilt or shame after behaviors with food • Self-Sabotage can show up in other areas like work, relationships, shopping 4. What did Laura learn about self-sabotage? • “My past is still controlling me!” She was bullied at school, this still affected her • The fear of “being misunderstood” caused emotional eating • Food as “A safe place” when the world misunderstands you • You can learn to “bully” or “control” yourself when you feel out of control • Consider possible subconscious reasons for self-sabotage • The protective side of you can actually (subconsciously) cause self-sabotage! 5. Products and services you have to offer (list) • Laura's Website at https://laurabfolkes.com can help you with classes, tools and techniques for managing your cravings with food • A “Free” Curiosity Call to figure out what you are struggling with • Discovery Session – The root cause of why you fall off track and turn to food • “We're in a snow-globe. In this process, we're shaking up the snow to see what's happening.” The snow will start to settle again! • 90-day Truce with Food introduction: The first 3 Months of the 6 month Program • 6-month Truce with Food program • Behind Your Cravings self-study course 6. Contact and Social Media Links https://laurabfolkes.com • https://www.instagram.com/laurab.folkes/ • https://www.facebook.com/laurabfolkes • Clubhouse: @laurafolkes

The Heart of Chaos – Interview with Don and Hutch About the Episode: Calming the Chaos welcomes Don MacKee and Ian Hutchinson (“Don and Hutch”), who are best mates who live in Australia. They share their story of how they were both thrown into a “do or die” situation a couple of years ago, which caused them both some chaos. While they were on a bike ride, Hutch went into sudden cardiac arrest, and died for 18 minutes. Fortunately, Don and some bystanders were able to perform CPR and mouth to mouth resuscitation for 10 minutes until the medics came, and Hutch was one of the 9% of people who survive cardiac arrest in Australia. Don and Hutch are now the founders of “CPRfriendly.org” which aims to save lives by helping anyone get CPR friendly in just minutes, in a light and fun way. On this podcast, Don and Hutch share their story of chaos, and some of their “lessons learnt after being dead.” Join us for a fun interview on a very serious topic of chaos! 1. Introduction to Don and Hutch a. Friends for 25 years b. On a bike ride one Tuesday, and Hutch had Cardiac Arrest i. “Donny jumped in like a Superman” ii. A Green corridor wasn't given iii. Clinically dead for 18 minutes iv. Now a new cable into Hutch's heart 2. The 911 call a. Is he conscious? b. Is he breathing? c. Is there a defibrillator? d. “I'll help you do CPR” e. The 000 (or 911) operator was so helpful! f. Don did the mouth to mouth…garlic bread breath? i. TIP: Always have Breath Mints available! 3. What happened a. Hutch went into a coma b. He was in a 20-second loop “Like a Goldfish” – The Goldfish loop c. Don was in chaos from the moment Hutch had cardiac arrest, and until he knew that Hutch would be okay. What a great friend! d. Hutch survived, and the two of them created CPR-Friendly, to help people learn CPR in minutes…for FREE! e. “Any attempt is better than none at all” 4. Questions for Don and Hutch a. Hutch: What was it like to die? “I didn't remember a thing,” “I wanted to avoid the hot place.” b. Don: How did you stay calm in this crisis/chaos? (or did you?) Hutch yelled out Don's name, and Don responded c. What is the difference between a heart attack and cardiac arrest? i. A Heart Attack is a “plumbing issue” where the heart doesn't flow well ii. Cardiac Arrest is an “electrical issue” where the heart can't get a good rhythm iii. Because of the “electrical issue” with cardiac arrest, a defibrillator is a good tool to have on board. “It's like your own coach in a box!” iv. Perhaps try and host your own CPR Friendly gathering v. Consider getting a defibrillator – “The Wiggles” vi. Any attempt is better than none! d. Can a dog do CPR? 5. Products and services you have to offer: a. Free Webinars that are fun and informative that help you become CPR Friendly in minutes! Visit www.cprfriendly.org b. New Defibrillators. c. “If we can save one life, it's amazing!” d. Thank you, Don, for helping Hutch to be here today! 6. Contact Information and Social Media Links a. Website: www.CPRfriendly.org b. Email: info@CPRfriendly.org c. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/CPRfriendly.org/ d. YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQ_Rx6yFTy0S3iBxZcJSB-Q/videos YouTube Video #1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4TwDStxynO0&t=12s YouTube Video #2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o5kiBzXsim4 Email Calming the Chaos at Calmingthec@gmail.com

The Chaos of Parenting – Interview with Dr. Robert Saul Dr. Robert Saul is a Medical Doctor / Pediatrician, Author and Speaker. He has been guiding the physical, behavioral and mental care of children for over 44 years. His area of expertise is in parenting, specifically in providing help for parents in raising their children to be good citizens, after the Columbine High School Shooting in 1999. Dr. Saul wants to improve our communities, and advocate for our children. Dr. Saul is the author of many books on children and parenting, including “My Children's Children: Raising Young Citizens in the Age of Columbine,” and “Conscious Parenting.” In this podcast. Dr. Saul talks about the main issues that cause chaos in parents today. He also offers his thoughts in light of the most recent Oxford High School shootings in Michigan. Through the wisdom of his education, training and experience as a Pediatrician, Dr. Saul provides some insights, tips, tools and techniques that parents and others can use to calm their chaos while working to improve communities by raising good citizens. 1. Introduction to Dr. Saul a. Background and his interest in Pediatrics b. His body of work, including activism and authorship of several books c. You are fond of saying 12 words: “I am the problem, I am the solution, I am the resource.” Tell us why this phrase is so meaningful to you d. His continued involvement in communities although he is retired 2. Five Steps to Community Improvement a. Learn to be the best parent you can be b. Get Involved c. Stay Involved d. Love for Others e. Forgiveness 3. Book: “My Children's Children: Raising Good Citizens in the Age of Columbine” (2013) 4. Connecting with kids today a. American Academy of Pediatrics b. Advocating for children c. Social Media and Parental involvement d. Parental Awareness Threshold 5. The Parents of the Oxford High School Shooter a. Were they aware of the warning signs? b. What could be the reason for parents to buy a 15-year old child a 9 mm assault weapon, when he clearly had mental health issues? 6. What does it mean to “raise our children to be good citizens?” a. What do you think are the main issues today that cause chaos in parents? b. You have written several books. Where would you suggest that parents start? i. “Conscious Parenting” ii. Parental Awareness Threshold iii. Five Steps to Community Improvement c. How open are parents to learning new ways to parent their children? 7. How might you apply the Parental Awareness Threshold to the parents of the Oxford High School shooter? a. The Parental Awareness Threshold is about Positive Actions Going forward b. “I see no positive actions in buying a 15 year old a gun” c. These parents are certainly in the cellar in the Parental Awareness Threshold 8. How might you expand on the idea of forgiveness in light of all of the High School shootings, and in particular the most recent shooting at Oxford High School? a. “It's very difficult in this circumstance to forgive the child and the parents.” b. We have to forgive ourselves for being able to not forgive them 9. Final thoughts from Dr. Saul about High School Shootings Not long after the release of his first book, inspired by the Columbine shootings, the Sandy Hook shootings happened. “I was just numb,” says Dr. Saul. “I just couldn't.” “Unfortunately, I've become numb to all of the subsequent shootings.” Through this phone call, Dr. Saul realized that each high school shooting is unique… and…all should ignite us in some way toward some sort of action. “Maybe I've got to stop being so blasé about all the shootings, and re-ignite myself and my efforts.” 10. Products and services you have to offer: a. Website: www.mychildrenschildren.com b. Links to books and other written materials i. https://mychildrenschildren.com/book/my-childrens-children/ ii. https://mychildrenschildren.com/book/all-about-children/ iii....

Burned by Chaos - Interview with Lise DeGuire Calming the Chaos welcomes Lise DeGuire, who is a clinical psychologist in private practice. She is the lone surviving child of gifted, unsettled, and iconoclastic parents. After being severely burned in a fire when she was a small child , Lise spent most of her childhood in the hospital, undergoing countless surgical procedures. She is the award winning author of her memoir, Flashback Girl: Lessons on Resilience from a Burn Survivor. In this interview, Lise tells us about her story, and helps us learn how we can develop resilience through the chaos of life. Lise introduces herself and states her goal, which is to help people have “resilient and beautiful lives” after trauma 3:37: Lise describes her story, beginning October of 1967 – A family Barbeque gone wrong, resulting in Lise having 65% of her 5-year-old body covered by 3rd degree burns. “I was hideous.” A long and incredibly painful journey of recovery from burn care followed through Lise's childhood 5:21: There were many sources of chaos that came from the fire, and her family 6:01: Lise describes her parents as “Iconoclastic” and presents the definition here. She also describes the love she has for her brother. “He was my best parent.” Chaos happened from all sorts of different perspectives that day, and beyond 8:30: Lise has been through a lot of chaos…and…she has survived! Her book was written to deliver that message to everyone in the world who has been through horrendous trauma such as she has: • Neglectful Parents • Bullied • Years of medical trauma, being alone and scared • Multiple untimely deaths in her family due to suicide 9:18: “And yet here I am, many decades later. And I have the kind of life that most people would be like, ‘I'd like her life!'” 9:56: Lise describes some steps people can take to move through tragic times with limited resources • Having the hope that you can recover, it can get better and things can turn out okay • Pain is inevitable….suffering is optional • Finding resources other than parents (brother, grandparents, friends, plastic surgeon) to help • Love is in the world….you just need to look around for it 12:02: Lise shares her memories of the burn incident, including parental neglect, invalidation and pain 14:25: The origins of the “Flashback Girl” Book “It was my nickname, and I didn't know it.” The burn picture of her as a girl was on the Internet! 16:26: Lise explains the writing of her book. “I knew I would write my memoir, but I had to wait until my parents were both dead.” First Memories of chaos 1. The felt experience in going through the physical treatment and pain of burns 2. The dissolution of my family 18:47: Here's how Lise found the “seeds of resilience” within herself at an early age..and… was able to help them grow, with the help of others, and therapy. She also credits herself as being gifted with “reasonably intelligent,” which helped her out. 21:03: Making it through school. “It was really hard.” “I was the most hideous child you had ever seen, and kids could be quite cruel.” It was the strangers who didn't really know her that were the most hurtful. 24:06: How Lise found Resilience: GOALS + M&M • Gratitude • Optimism • Active Coping • Love • Social Skills • Meaning Making 28:23: Lise takes you through her Website at www.lisedeguire.com and her book, “Flashback Girl” Awards: 2020 Nautalis 2021 Next Generation 2021 Living Now Book Award – Silver 30:34: We talk about the audio version of her book. “It's my oldest daughter who narrates the book.” Check out her Blog, and professional speaking engagements with her riveting topics, such as bullying, suicide, burn survival, trauma and more! Website: https://www.lisedeguire.com/ Book Links: Amazon:...

Dr. Anita Johnston is a Psychologist, Storyteller, Educator and Author of “Eating in the light of the Moon,” a beautiful book available in 7 languages that uses storytelling, myths and metaphors to help women transform their relationships with food. Anita has been working in the field of eating disorders since the early 1980s, and is currently the Clinical Director of Ai Pono Hawaii, a Treatment Center for eating disorders on the island of Maui. In this podcast, we talk about how Anita started treating Eating Disorders Treatment in the early 1980s, and how she uses the language of metaphor in the work she does. We also talk about the ways people can cope with chaos by using food in disordered ways. Anita tells several stories, and also gives us some wisdom about ways to move from chaos and disorder, and back to order again. Introduction to Anita Johnston “Metaphor is how you use one thing to describe another.” The language of metaphor is pictures and storytelling to describe what eating disorders are and how to treat them “It's using the right hemisphere of the brain” to understand Eating Disorders • The left hemisphere = helps you see the trees • The right hemisphere = forest • We see the same things, just from a different view • Our culture has reared us to use mostly the left side of our brain, and that's how the Eating Disordered Brain gets hijacked! When you listen to a story, time is no longer linear! • “Anita's Story,” growing up in Guam influenced her way of thinking • Multi-cultural, indigenous, storytelling has taught her right and wrong • Not good-bad-right-or-wrong…just different! How Anita got started In the early 1980s, she had an interest in women's experiences, and eventually an interest in psychology, and in disordered eating. Remember Karen Carpenter? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NyXil9JPn9c Her body of work: • Why is it women and girls? • Why is it a struggle about food and body? • “I decided to listen to their stories and figure out what was going on.” The Emperor's new clothes (Story time with Anita!) Internal and External Chaos “Chaos happens when we disconnect from our authentic self.” We disconnect because we were taught to do so (to survive) Using food to get to peace / regulate when things get chaotic is natural! However, it becomes problematic when food is the only way we know to regulate. It is necessary to learn other ways of coping with chaos. Disorder happens…with chaos We go to disordered eating when we are seeking order outside of ourselves, and not letting it all in! (A lack of receptivity) (An inner experience is lacking) We are taught NOT to tune in to receive…to NOT attune to the energy we receive Example: When there is overeating, there may be “never enough” time, care When we judge ourselves, it is not helpful Those who pick up on the energetic vibes of the universe are highly attuned This is a good opportunity for those “highly attuned” individuals to reflect on possibilities other than “There is something wrong with me.” Resources and Story Time: Be a mindful consumer of news, and explore https://www.positive.news/ Go into the storm cellar when disaster strikes – What is stable? Nothing new comes out of the “status quo.” It always comes out of chaos “If you want to have something new, you have to make friends with chaos” Angelise Arrien: “And that's a story that doesn't need to happen.” Mark Twain: “I've had a lot of horrible experiences in my life, and, it's a good thing most of them have never happened.” The images we create in our mind's eye will be our superpower Worry is a good imagination…creativity. Once you realize this, you can work with it! Visit Anita and see all she has created at the links below: Website: https://dranitajohnston.com/ • Individual Sessions • Workshops and Retreats • Speaking and Trainings Light of the Moon Café: http://lightofthemooncafe.com/ Workbook Interactive online circle...

Love Yourself Through Chaos - Interview with Leslie Davis Calming the Chaos welcomes Leslie Davis, Author of “You Can't Eat Love,” a book that describes how loving yourself through the chaos of life can help you transform your relationship with food. Leslie introduces herself as a wife and Mom who at one point was going through a hard time in her life. “I was either going to continue going down a not very good path or I was going to make a change” Made a decision that I would be the very best me I could possibly be, which meant that I would be healthy physically, mentally and emotionally It was a lot of hard work! When we face the chaos, we don't know what's in store for us, we simply move through it Kids in the playroom: Picking up one thing at a time and dealing with things one thing at a time “Swiss-cheesing” is taking tiny bites and celebrating the wins you make, and move forward What do you do when it's just too much and you want to give up? 1. Pause…take a deep breath 2. Ask: “What is one thing I can do right now?” (Changing habits and thoughts) 3. Celebrate it when you complete something, however small it may seem Ways to celebrate: • Say to yourself, “Yay! You did it!” • Give yourself a treat or an experience you enjoy • Affirmations • Encouraging yourself • Talking to yourself like a best friend would talk to you • Send a card to yourself from yourself and send it to yourself “I was using food as my drug of choice.” “I used food to numb pain.” Eating was used to relieve the anger and tension and other feelings within herself, which led to shame “I had to learn to name my emotions and not be afraid to sit with my emotions.” “I had a my-self sized hole in my heart, and I was filling it with food” “When I learned to love myself, talk to myself and started being kind to myself, the need for the drug of choice started easing up.” “There are still times when I find myself going to food for comfort. But I catch myself and ask myself, ‘What is really going on here?' And then I have a conversation with myself.” “Put this bus in park, and ask myself what is really going on?” 1. How can you become aware of your behavior of using food to comfort yourself through emotional pain? • I made the decision to improve my health, which included noticing what I was eating • I noticed that I was grabbing for food when I wasn't really hungry • I put the bus in park and considered what was really going on with me emotionally… in a curious way…not in a “critical parent” way • Have an honest conversation with myself • I put the conversations in writing (as if you are talking to yourself in a conversation) and include all the voices in the conversation • Validating your feelings, and congratulating yourself when you don't use food to cope with your feelings To get through emotional pain, you do need to have conversations with others that are helpful, affirming and validating How to voice that “I am struggling with emotional pain and using food as a Drug of Choice to relieve my Emotional pain” What was missing: I am not feeling as if I am loved unconditionally Why is it that I am not getting what I am wanting? Well…maybe I'm not giving it to myself! Leslie then started building a relationship with herself by realizing that she didn't even really love herself, so “How can I expect others to love me? “Am I giving that love to myself?” Building a relationship with myself was key to healing (send a loving card to yourself) Introspection, reflection and action toward ourselves 1. Ask yourself “What is it that I am wanting?” 2. Can I give what I really want to myself? “We are only in charge of us.” Consider how you are treating yourself, back the bus up, and move forward to calm your own chaos Leslie's Book, “You Can't Eat Love: How learning to love yourself can help you change your relationship with food.” Leslie talks about her book: it started with three paragraphs,...

Keeping Up With Chaos - Interview with Jozlyn Rocki and Friends Calming the Chaos welcomes Jozlyn Rocki, who is a host of “Keeping Up with Chaos” podcast. Along with her co-hosts Nikki and Ginger. This podcast helps you find connections, conversations and a place to share your chaos. I met Jozlyn and Nikki on 10/6/21 when I was a guest on their podcast. We all had so much fun, we decided to have them on Calming the Chaos. Since then, I learned that Jozlyn is also a voiceover actor, production director, PR gal, guest coordinator, social media creator and overall bad ass mom, friend who loves to workout, drink coffee (and vodka), read books and dabbles in all things woo! In this podcast, we talk about how they all got together, what they are doing now, and what sort of chaos they have in their lives. We'll also do a first time “Chaos Lightening Round,” where we'll talk about all things chaos with some surprise guests. Introduction to Jozlyn and background on “Keeping up with Chaos” podcast Introduction to Jozlyn's secret surprise guest – Frankie Mateo, Voiceover Actor Introduction to Tracy's secret surprise guest – Mercury Rising, or Tim Steacy, Tracy's Husband 10:43 Chaos Lightening Round Jozlyn's chaos is her podcast co-hosts are in a state of flux, and she is flying solo as a podcast host. She is planning to create a guest co-host roster, with Frankie at the top of her list! 12:01 – Jozlyn talks about how she became a Voiceover Actor, reinventing herself and meeting Frankie 13:21 – Frankie talks about how he became a Voiceover Actor, to cope with “terrible stage fright.” Jozlyn: I am not going to allow fear to stop me 16:15 Tracy explains chaos. “Look around to what is stable and helpful to calm your chaos.” 17:31 – Jozlyn explains what she wants to manifest despite her chaos, and how she is reinventing herself 19:16 – Jozlyn talks about “kid chaos” and “kids are crazy!” 21:43 – Tim talks about being one of four boys and how chaotic it was when he was growing up. He actually calmed his chaos by entering the Army! 23:51 – Tim tells the story of swinging on the porch railing. “It was Indiana Jones…and I was the bad guy.” 25:25 – Jozlyn talks about her secret coping skills (vodka and coffee) and how she copes with her 16 year old boy (the kitchen towel story) 27:07 – Frankie talks about being a single guy and possibly getting a puppy in the future! 28:12 – Tracy talks “cold chaos” in Washington State, and Jozlyn and Tim agree that moving from Michigan was a good idea! 30:09 – Frankie actually wants to spend time in a snowy Christmas town like Frankenmuth, MI “I am the self-proclaimed baby-grandma.” 31:44 – The I-75 Freeway closure in Virginia, and being stuck on the freeway for up to 27 hours. 33:10 What do you do to plan for an emergency? Jozlyn has ideas about what to include in your car: Tylenol, blankets, a bucket (to poop in!) a change of clothes, granola bars, peanuts, phone chargers, batteries, some games for the kids, crayons, markers, notebooks, mad-libs, wine and other adult beverages! 34:30 – Florida, influx of travelers, lack of cell phone towers and inability to call people 39:58 - Tim shows off his “landline” or “bat phone” 43:03 – Cell phones cause Frankie more chaos “I hate the fact that I'm always available.” 44:30 – Jozlyn's Instagram Reels 47:00 – Jozlyn explains dubbing, ADR and how Instagram Reels help her develop her voiceover chops 47:41 – Jozlyn talks about visiting Vegas and meeting Frankie face to face for the first time, and chaos in traveling, travel anxiety and anxiety around people and large crowds 52:40 – Tim describes his fear of flying over the Old Vegas Strip 55:00 – Jozlyn's skill for panic: “It will only be _____ minutes. And it will be fine, and I'll enjoy the moment.” Don't let fear interfere with your life plan. 56:41 – The Candle Factory collapse in Kentucky is an example of when fear is legitimate. Jozlyn suggests taking a break from the news...

Using Mindset Shifting to Calm Internal Chaos – Podcast Interview with Lauren Dreher Calming the Chaos welcomes Lauren Dreher: Author, Mindset Speaker and Coach from Kansas. Lauren has a degree in Family Studies and Human Services, and Gerontology. Lauren talks about being born with a birthmark, having it removed, and living with the scars. Throughout her life, Lauren has struggled with the internal chaos that comes from negative messaging. Using the power of mindset shifting, Lauren has developed a method to help herself and others re-program negative messaging, and calm internal chaos. The goal: Lauren tells her story and provides tips, tools and techniques that will help listeners: 1. Recognize negative messaging and internal chaos 2. Become encouraged to “Not throw in the towel” 3. Meet any fears and overcome them through the power of mindset shifting 4. Move toward positive change in life. Introduction to Lauren - Her story: Birthmark, scars and the beginning of negative messaging a. Types of negative messaging: i. “I'm different” (and that's bad) ii. “I'm not good enough” iii. “I don't belong with others” iv. “I can't do this” v. “I am unworthy, incapable, stupid, a failure” b. The damage of negative messaging – Urges to “Throw in the towel” and give up 2. Tips, Tools and Skills to help you reprogram negative messaging and calm internal chaos: a. Recognizing negative messaging b. Setting intentions and channeling who you want to be c. Daring to Dream (vs. listen to everyone else's dreams for you) d. Using Positive Psychology and journaling to change your perspectives e. Shifting from being a victim / blaming others to Self-Accountability f. Using fear as a motivator to move you toward excitement and passion 3. Products and services you have to offer (list) Website: https://livelifewithlauren.com/

Use your Energy to Calm Your Chaos – Interview with Adele Wang, MS Calming the Chaos welcomes Adele Wang, Certified Energy Healer, Licensed Art of Feminine Presence Instructors and Musician in Georgia. She has a podcast on Soundcloud called “All Things Human.” She's here with us today to have “A new conversation about chaos and the stress that is impacting people in our world today,” and how understanding energy and getting connected to our communities can help calm the chaos that has in the changes in our world today. Adele shares her story about how she learned to understand energy, and how energy healing techniques such as Emotional Freedom Technique, sound shamanism, cranio sacral therapy, Reiki and qi gong have helped her where traditional methods of psychotherapy did not. She now has a thorough understanding of energy, as well as a well-developed skill set in non-traditional treatment modalities. With these, Adele now helps people find their own wisdom and healing through these methods. Notable timestamps: 12:00 – Adele talks about how she got started doing energy healing 18:08 – Adele “goes toward the woo” 24:39 – Adele is “Done with Corporate Life” 29:00 – Adele's “Secret thought about Corporate Life” 32:20 – Adele and music, energy, pets and dancing 37:20 – Adele and Tracy talk Emotional Freedom Technique 44:00 – Adele's services, social links and website 47:05 – “Good healing happens in Community” 51:00 – Adele's blog…”I can be edgy and snarky..” “I share who I am…imperfect and all.” 52:40 – “Put your energy into what matters most.” Follow Adele on her website at https://safehavenhealing.net Adele's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/AdeleWang Learn more about Emotional Freedom Technique at www.thetappingsolution.com Email Tracy at Calming the Chaos at calmingthec@gmail.com

Chaos and Emotions - Interview with Vivian Cobb Calming the Chaos welcomes Vivian Cobb, Author and Keynote speaker. She empowers her audience to embrace emotions, to “get unstuck,” and thrive in life! Vivian was a speaker at the September 25, 2021 TEDx Manitou Springs event, where she talked about how Negativity Clouds Truth. Vivian helps people “lean into their emotions” when chaos presents itself in life, and offers some tips, tools and techniques for those who wish to “get unstuck” from their lives. Notable timestamps: 3:49 – The lack of snow in December causes Vivian some chaos 4:47 – Vivian talks about embracing your emotions 8:23 – We relate to each other through our emotions 19:13 – Tracy talks about being labeled a “Worry Wart” as a child 21:00 – Finding the right people to be around 21:55 – On the importance of stillness and listening! 27:00 – On the importance of grief, loss and leaning into your emotions 31:00 – What happens when people “leave you on read” 33:00 – Use your age as a motivator to change 35:00 – Information about emotions such as anger, depression and all sorts of other information 40:30 – “Everything is energy.” Be grateful for what you have….we can be here for each other through chaos! Find out more about Vivian from her website at https://www.viviancobbspeaking.com Vivian's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBwnGvxxy34v9TaaibsWjfQ/videos Vivian's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/viviancobbspeakingandrealestate/ Vivian's Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/viviancobbspeaking Contact Vivian at: https://www.viviancobbspeaking.com/site/contact Get a Free Gift from Vivian at: https://www.viviancobbspeaking.com/freegift Email Tracy at Calming the Chaos at calmingthec@gmail.com

Chaos Around the World - Interview with Verena Radlingmayr Verena Radlingmayr has a diverse body of education, training and experience… from Law and Quantum Physics, to Holistic Therapies and Neurolinguistic Programming for Children. She joins Calming the Chaos Podcast from Vienna, Austria to offer her insights about the unexpected, random and chaotic events that are occurring in the world today, and the psychological impact these events have on the people she treats. Verena also offers some tips and tools that can help people of all ages calm their chaos. Verena works online and internationally with people and helps them find direction in life through identifying their strengths, values and developing resilience through chaos. Verena's work is built up on the belief that your core values play a major role in achieving whatever you really want in life. Verena's values of courage, strength, resilience and hope can help you transcend the images you see of destruction, desolation, sadness and loss, and can help you find your way through dark and chaotic times, and into a brighter future. Notable timestamps: 3:20 - How Verena got to where she is today 5:25 - Ooops..I am not meant for a career in law 6:10 - Quantum physics 9:00 - I did well, listened to my gut 12:55 - Use your transferable skills! 17:04 - There is a lot of chaos in the world today! Pandemic Overly Tired Exhausted 21:20: Developing Resilience 24:25 Universal core values, 1) kindness and 2) Protection of nature This is what the children want: “A kind world that respects and cares for nature” 32:00 Reduce the time you spend with news – limit your exposure to it so that you are well rested and less stressed 36:35 Our prayers for all of Europe 37:30 – Learn to appreciate what you have each day 43:17 – Explore your own values by creating a “Values Map” 45:35 – Have more fun in your life 46:00 – We have more in common with each other than we don't 48:00 – “Carefrontation” Perhaps a German version of this word? Verena's Social Media Links: facebook.com/dr.verena.radlingmayr instagram@dr.verenaradlingmayr www.verenaradlingmayr.com Email Tracy at Calming the Chaos at calmingthec@gmail.com #warinukraine #childrenandvalues #positivityintheworld

Calming the Chaos with Music - Interview with Dave Combs Dave Combs is a songwriter, entrepreneur and author of the best selling book “Touched by the Music.” In his book, Dave Combs describes his amazing journey through life from a collection of his own inspiring stories. Over the past four decades he has written over 120 songs and created fifteen albums of soothing, relaxing instrumental piano music, including the popular standard, Rachel's Song. His music has been played millions of times on radio, satellite, and all internet streaming media. Dave is here today on Calming the Chaos to describe what a powerful resource music can be to help you calm any chaos you might be experiencing in your life. 1. Introduction to Dave 2. The Random and Chaotic Events in the world today (some ideas) a. A 2-year Pandemic b. The Ukraine-Russia War c. The Chaos of Income Taxes 3. Prescriptions from Dave: How music can help us find peace in a chaotic world 4. Rachel's Song and other peaceful musical creations 5. Dave's Stories from Listeners Notable Timestamps 37:04 - A Musical Prescription for coping with the Pandemic 43:00 - Calming, Soothing music at Dave's YouTube Channel "Long Playing Music" at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=et8fB... 44:16: Dave's Prescription for Ukraine to calm the chaos 46:54 - Your Free link to "Rachel's Song" 47:55 - The Book “Touched by the Music” (Audible actually has Dave's Narration!) 49:45 - If you'd like the sheet music to play Dave's songs, go to Sheet Music Plus at https://www.sheetmusicplus.com/search... 52:17 - Celebrate Freedom was created after 9/11/01, and a fund was created to help students get a scholarship for 27 students at Lake Forest University for free! 54:17 - Play an instrument to calm your chaos (even play the spoons, right, J.D.?) 56:00 - Dave's prescription for Tracy to calm her Tax Chaos - Album "Beautiful Thoughts" 5. Website: www.combsmusic.com 6. Social Media Links Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TouchedByThe... LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dave-comb... YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/combsmusic 7. Products / Services / Promotions https://www.amazon.com/Touched-Music-... 8. Jack Canfield interviews Dave https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3kvpM... #davecombsmusic #jackcanfield #calmingmusic

Moms without Moms – Calming the Chaos on Mother's Day - Interview with Melissa Reilly Dr. Melissa Reilly is a clinical psychologist, a parent coach, and a Mom of two boys. She obtained her Doctor of Psychology from University of Hartford in 1999 and has been a licensed psychologist in the state of Pennsylvania for 22 years. She is also the cofounder of Shoudt & Reilly Psychological Services where she has a thriving clinical practice. Melissa is passionate about helping Moms who have been separated from their Moms….either by physical distance, estrangement, or death. She helps Moms without Moms move from feelings of insecurity, isolation, overwhelm, and feelings of grief to a place of resilience as part of their motherhood experience. Melissa believes it isn't knowledge and skills that create resilience, but rather it is born through a unique method she has developed, and which she describes on this Calming the Chaos podcast. Melissa also describes some coping strategies you can this Mother's Day if you are without your Mom. Introduction to Melissa Timestamp 5:41 – Melissa's story about being a Mom without a Mom, and what brought her to do the work she does helping Moms without Moms Ways to help Moms without Moms develop resilience 1. Overcoming Hardship 2. Having a community Timestamp 15:00 – How to create a community and asking them for help The basics of community • The Wise Woman • The Emotional Supporter • The “Go Getter” • The “Late Night Talker Timestamp 18:51 – “A funny story” from Melissa about having a community, asking for help 3. Living by your values Timestamp 26:00 – Melissa talks about values, activities you can do to develop them, and values in parenting 4. Melissa's tips for everyone, including Moms, who are without their Moms this Mother's Day Timestamp 31:42 – Melissa's advice to Moms without Moms on Mother's Day and other Holidays • Give yourself permission to grieve, plan out a tribute to honor your Mom • Honor yourself as a Mother on Mother's Day • Re-focus on the here and now Timestamp 36:00 – Tracy introduces a way to regain connection to those we've lost connection with through an ancient Hawaiian practice called Ho'oponopono 5. Website and Social Media Links (Timestamp 38:13) Website: https://www.momswithoutamom.com/ Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/momswithoutamom/ https://www.facebook.com/Dr.MelissaReilly https://www.tiktok.com/@momswithoutamom 6. Products / Services / Promotions Enjoy Being a Mom Again Quick Guide: https://www.momswithoutamom.com/enjoy-motherhood-again-guide Care For Yourself While You Care For Your Baby Guide: https://melissareillypsyd.lpages.co/bonding-with-baby-while-caring-for-yourself-opt-in Schedule a complimentary coaching call: https://MelissaReillyPsyD-MomsWithoutAMom.as.me/free-coaching-call Timestamp 41:15 – Melissa's final tips

Join me in this livestream as I respond to what I've been seeing online in the dual-defamation lawsuit between Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. I will also present my own experience with the Assessment that was given to Amber Heard (The MMPI) which has its benefits and drawbacks. I will then present an alternative way of looking at Johnny and Amber (and all people) as human beings. I will also suggest some ways how we as human beings can learn to understand and relate to each other as human beings. My ultimate goal is to help people learn to transcend abusive behaviors and to treat each other with kindness, compassion and understanding. Some of the Legal Channels I like on YouTube with commentary by lawyers to watch this trial: Legal Bytes at https://www.youtube.com/c/LegalBytesMedia Rekieta Law at https://www.youtube.com/c/RekietaLaw Uncivil Law at https://www.youtube.com/c/UncivilLaw Emily Baker at https://www.youtube.com/c/TheEmilyDBaker If you'd just like to watch the trial without commentary, you can access this: Law and Crime Network at https://www.youtube.com/c/LawCrimeNetwork Some of my favorite Mental Health Channels that are covering this trial: Dr. Grande at https://www.youtube.com/c/ToddGrande Dr. Kirk Honda - Psychology in Seattle at https://www.youtube.com/c/PsychologyInSeattle Other great Mental Health channels: Patrick Teahan, LICSW - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbWvYupGqq3aMJ6LsG4q-Yg Anna Runkle - The Crappy Childhood Fairy at https://www.youtube.com/c/CrappyChildhoodFairy Emma McAdam - Therapy in a Nutshell at https://www.youtube.com/c/TherapyinaNutshell If you are interested in reading the MMPI Test Questions (yes...all 567 of them!) here is a link to view them: https://psychtest.net/mmpi-test-questions/ The "Gold Standard" Treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder is Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Find out more about DBT and the developer Marsha Linehan at https://behavioraltech.org/about-us/ #amberheard #johnnydepp #borderline

The Chaos of Being a Mom – Interview with Kimberly Keane Kim Keane is a certified life coach, Reiki and IET practitioner, and podcaster. Kim has addressed community organizations, schools and colleges, such as Boys' and Girls' Club and Purdue University as well as women's groups, such as Polka Dot Powerhouse and Moms Who Dare. She strives to empower women to embrace who they are so they can be and do all that they aspire to. Kim is here on Calming the Chaos podcast to talk about specific challenges and chaos of being a Mom in today's world, and offer Moms some ways to become empowered, embrace who they are and be and do all that they aspire to do in their lives. Let's honor our Moms on Mother's Day! Notable Timestamps: 2:25 to 4:42 - Introduction to Kim You can do energy healing, including Reiki ONLINE! 6:09 – Addressing the most common concerns Moms have in today's world Mom Guilt – The expectation that we have to “do it all” and “to the highest standards” Unrealistic expectations, perfectionism, comparing yourself with others How Moms experience both guilt and shame Guilt – “I've done something wrong” Shame – “I am something wrong” 8:30 – How do we help Moms get through “Mom Guilt” • Find out where the guilt comes from – “Who is telling me that I'm not doing Motherhood right?” • Identifying the “made-up stories” you tell yourself about how good of a Mom you are • Noticing how you compare yourself to other Moms, and finding yourself lacking • Letting go of comparisons with realistic thinking – you never know what is happening in other families • Therapy can help you learn to notice what your body feels like when you feel the guilt • Notice and identify the triggers, perceptions in your mind • Checking the facts – separating the truth from the “made up stories.” Putting your Guilt on Trial • Identify your values and separate them from other Mom's values – Live in alignment with YOUR values 15:00 – The working Moms and the Stay-at-home Mom have the same struggle • Setting up a routine is important – plan out your time and set boundaries with family members • “I need your help, children / partner” • Relinquish control • The whole family gets used to a new routine 17:19 – 19:00 Kim's routine she set for herself and how her family has cooperated with her! 19:18 – Kim answers Tracy's follow up questions: 1. How do you get your kids / partner to understand why a plan is so important? 2. How do you convince them to cooperate with you? Time Management 23:00 - How did Kim become so good at time management? www.flylady.net • Focus on fewer tasks in a bullet journal (she found them on Pinterest) • Finding pockets of time during the day for tasks The Pandemic 26:00 As we're shifting out of it, some Moms are getting judged and / or criticized others or self 29:30 – Dealing with ALL of the critics (others and self) and remembering your values, using intuition School Violence / Bullying / The School System / Conflict 32:36 – Understanding all of the possible reasons why a person might bully others, all the dynamics, and understanding who they are individually, what values they stand for, so that they don't become bullies 34:47 – Identify feelings and asking adults and others for help 35:00 – 38:30 What if YOUR kid is the bully? (Discipline and communication tips from Kim) – Getting to the root and both parents and kids make adjustments. Divorce 39:04 - How Kim works with Moms who are considering divorce or who are divorced “What's the motivation for leaving or staying?” “Is it a healthy motivation?” Social Media 40:42 – Kim's suggestions to Moms who are struggling with their kids' use of social media “It's not about not trusting you….it's about ensuring that you are safe.” Setting standards in accordance with your values, using a timer and time limits 43:43 – Kim's website tour, talking about her podcast, her...

This is a (hopefully) brief livestream to let you know my thoughts and observations about the mental health aspects of the Johnny Depp / Amber Heard Trial for this week. This will include the testimonies of Dr. Dawn Hughes and Amber Heard. My main objective is to give you some analysis on Dr. Hughes' presentation as an expert witness for the defense (Amber Heard). I will also offer some tips, tools and techniques for you to use for self-care if you have been emotionally affected by any of Amber Heard's testimony. Resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 National Institute of Mental Health - Coping with Traumatic Events https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/coping-with-traumatic-events Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills for Distress and Self-Care TIPP: More information at https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/distress-tolerance/tipp/ Self-Soothe with 6 Senses at https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/distress-tolerance/self-soothing/ PLEASE Skill for self-Care: https://dbt.tools/emotional_regulation/abc-please.php Self-Care and other resources can be found at https://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/ Take care! #amberheard #johnnydepp #selfcare

Season 3 Podcast Recap Thank you for listening to Calming the Chaos Podcast in 2021 -2022, my third season of podcasting. In this podcast episode, I will give you a recap of all podcast interviews I've done in my third season of podcasting. If you'd like to check out the full interviews, please do so by accessing my YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/c/CalmingTheChaos/videos You can also access all of Season 3 Calming the Chaos podcast episodes at: www.calmingthechaospodcast.com Also, if you are aspiring Podcaster, check out www.podmatch.com to create a free profile, and get connected with amazing podcast guests like I did in Season 3 of Calming the Chaos Podcast. Notable Timestamps: Dr. Victoria Shaw 1:43 Ben Killoy 3:26 Debs & Georgie – Heart Core Warriors 5:27 Dr. Matt Goldenberg 7:27 Katherine Marie 9:40 Sarah Falk 11:23 Laura Folkes 13.46 Leslie Davis 15.27 Anita Johnston 17:40 Don & Hutch – CPR Friendly 21:19 Jozlyn and Frankie – Keeping up with Chaos 23:14 Dr. Lise DeGuire 25:38 Dr. Robert Saul 28:00 Robert Kittridge 29:25 Lauren Dreher 31:13 Adele Wang 33:07 Vivian Cobb 34:52 Dr. Verena Radlingmayr 37:27 Dave Combs 39:30 Dr. Melissa Reilly 42:17 Kimberly Keane 44:52 Extras: YouTube Review of Dr. Shannon Curry's Expert Witness Testimony in the Depp v. Heard court case at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mN0Tidu2Q5g&t=2635s YouTube Review of Dr. Dawn Hughes' Expert Witness Testimony in the Depp v. Heard court case at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rsBH6zwLyIk&t=3s My appearances on Ken's Counseling Couch on YouTube at this channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/KensCounselingCouch/videos 5/8/22 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jPfTrShuCgQ&t=12830s Timestamp 1:43:24 5/15/22 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tdDEe7P8w-k&t=12285s Timestamp 25:07 Aydin Palladin's YouTube channels @Aydin Paladin https://www.youtube.com/c/AydinPaladin https://youtube.com/c/BrokenCrownPodcast 49:00 – The future of Calming the Chaos, thanks to subscribers, and let me know what you would like me to cover over the summer and into the next podcasting season. Thank you so much for listening, and take care!

Calm Your Financial Chaos - Interview with Sarry Ibrihim Are you interested in learning more about how to grow safe and predictable wealth? If so, join us for a talk with Sarry Ibrihim, and learn how to calm your financial chaos! Sarry is a Financial Consultant with an MBA from Keller Graduate School of Management. He is the founder of Financial Asset Protection, which is an organization that helps you build safe and predictable wealth. Sarry has helped people and organizations create sources of financing and grow safe and predictable wealth. He offers a free e-book called “Thinking Like a Bank,” and is the host of a podcast called “Thinking like a Bank,” which is also available on YouTube as well as all other podcast sites. I. Intro – Tell us about yourself and how you got started doing the work you do II. Let's talk about financial chaos in the world today. Here are some scenarios people are facing today: Spectrum (from worst to best) 1. Homeless 2. Unemployed 3. Poverty 4. Unable to go to college 5. Not making a living wage 6. Living with parents 7. Single parent 8. Credit card debt 9. Unable to buy a house 10. Planning for Retirement III. Tour of the websites IV. Book “Thinking Like a Bank” for free on Sarry's Website at https://finassetprotection.com Social Media Links: Podcast Website: https://thinkinglikeabank.com/ Business Website: https://finassetprotection.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwasIgJYLJwnyANE1iWN3XQ/videos Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thinkinglikeabank/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarry-ibrahim-mba-ltcp-bank-on-you/

Inner Peace in Outer Chaos – Interview with Sue Corl – For National Domestic Violence Awareness If you are interested in learning how women around the world can cope with the most oppressive situations where they are impoverished, abused or neglected, this podcast interview will provide enlightenment, hope and help to those who want to transcend oppression and move toward inner peace. Sue Corl is an International Women's Conference Speaker, Author, Mentor, and Missionary with a Masters Degree in Education and a Masters Degree in Christian Counseling. Sue is the Founder / Director of Crown of Beauty International. She served as a Missionary for 25 years in Asia, and she is the author of several books. Currently, she travels to speak and help women throughout Asia, Africa, the Middle East and the United States. Sue has a passion to see women set free to live in freedom from within, and uses a spiritual framework to help women around the world find peace under oppressive circumstances. I. Intro to Sue: Sue's Story – how did you come to do the work you do now? II. Sue shares about the types of women who struggle with oppression around the world a. Who are they? b. What are they struggling with (examples) c. What do you typically tell them? d. What do they learn from you? III. Any tips or techniques for women who are struggling and feeling oppressed IV. Tour of the website / Products and services you'd like to promote a. Website b. Podcast “His Heartbeat” c. “List of Lies about self and God” (on website, under “More Resources) d. Books i. Crown of Beauty – Twelve Week Bible Study ii. For Such a Time as This iii. Broken but Undefeated e. Workshops, retreats, speaking engagements and other promotions V. Closing comments Social Media Links: Website: https://CrownofBeautyInternational.com/ Podcast: “His Heartbeat” with Sue Corl at https://www.crownofbeautyinternational.com/podcast-1 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CrownofBeautyInternational/ Instagram: @crownofbeauty_international Notable Timestamps: 2:30 Sue's background, travels and beginning work with women who were community leaders and struggling with issues like anxiety, anger, depression, marital issues, troubles with their children, etc. And how she began to work with their core beliefs so that they could change the way they feel about themselves. 7:12: Sue helps people identify: The most common lies that people believe about themselves. What their struggles are What painful emotions they are going through, and when they first started feeling the emotions (early conclusions) Checking the facts about their beliefs, helping them to see the truth about themselves, replacing the lies 11:49: Asking, “Are your beliefs truthful and helpful to you?” 12:23: “Protective Behaviors” are used to protect us so that we won't have to go through hurt or pain again. 13:16: Sue's work in very impoverished areas and “A poverty mentality” and reversing that mentality by seeing situations and circumstances in a different way, and by finding purpose and meaning in life. 16:33: Sue's story that inspires women around the world to believe in miracles, and to open up and start talking about their own struggles 27:24: Sue speaks about how she works with women who have relationship oppression, abuse and neglect 28:45: What if you don't believe in God? Sue can still teach people boundaries, and that you are beautiful, forgiven, valuable and loved. “You are a valuable person.” And so with abuse / neglect, if it happens, Sue helps people to remember these truths about themselves, stand up for themselves and speak their truth. 32:00: When a culture prevents a woman from leaving a relationship 35:00: “When a woman changes and sees herself with more respect, often the man changes too.” 37:00: Thoughts on suicide 38:24: Another cool story from Sue – Thailand refugees from Burma,...

Calming the Chaos of the Disability System – Interview with Spencer Bishins Do you have a disability and want to know more about how the disability system in the United States works? If so, you'll want to listen to this interview with Spencer Bishins, who has worked with Social Security Administration (SSA) for more than 10 years. Spencer has worked at the SSA Appeals Council and has reviewed thousands of disability decisions for compliance with the SSA's complex rules and procedures. He has also worked at the hearing level where he drafted almost 2,000 decisions for SSA Administrative Law Judges. Spencer has a Masters Degree from the London School of Economics, and a law degree from Florida State University. He wrote his first book, Social Security Disability Revealed: Why it's so hard to access benefits and what you can do about it. His wish is to help people demystify the complicated disability system in the United States. Spencer joins Calming the Chaos podcast to share important information with our listeners about himself, accessing SSA disability benefits, and to talk about his book. • Intro – Tell us about yourself and how you got started doing the work you do • Let's talk about the chaos people experience when they are applying for Disability benefits from the SSA • Talking Points • How do you know what evidence of disability you need? What do you need to prove? • How do you find a representative to help you? • What if your claim can't result in a fee for the representative, will they refuse to take your case? • Why are so many people denied when they first apply? • What happens at a hearing? Why are there people talking about you who have never met you? How do they know if you can work? • If you are denied, how do you appeal? • Wait a second, if you are approved, can that be taken away even if you never appealed? • Tour of Spencer's website • Spencer's Book: “Social Security Disability Revealed: Why it's so hard to access benefits and what you can do about it.” Amazon Link: https://www.amazon.com/Social-Security.../dp/B0B5PQ6ZYD Social Media Links: Website: www.bishinspublishing.com Facebook @bishinspublishing Instagram @bishinspublishing Twitter @bishinspub

If you or someone you know is a potential victim of Domestic Violence, please confront them and / or call 911 for help. Here is the link to the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 Articles: 10 Ways to prevent Domestic Violence Article Link https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/ending-domestic-violence/10-ways-you-can-help-prevent-domestic-violence-where-you-live 20 Ways to prevent Domestic Violence Article Link https://www.marriage.com/advice/domestic-violence-and-abuse/ways-of-domestic-violence-prevention/ The CDC Article on Domestic Violence https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/featuredtopics/intimate-partner-violence.html Take care! And feel free to contact me at calmingthec@gmail.com if you have any questions or concerns! #domesticviolence #domesticviolenceawareness #relationship

The Chaos of Treating Eating Disorders - Interview with Katie LearAre you interested in how Therapists treat clients who struggle with Eating Disorders, and why some Therapists hesitate to treat them? If so, join us for a talk with Katie Lear, who is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in North Carolina and is a Registered Drama Therapist and Registered Play Therapist.Katie will offer some information about why she is hesitant to treat Eating Disorders, and Tracy will offer some resources for Katie and all therapists to calm any chaos they might have about treating individuals who struggle with Eating Disorders. Katie combines research-based coping skills with creative play to help tween girls live better lives with anxiety and OCD. She uses Dungeons and Dragons as part of her therapy with children, and when she's not counseling, you can find her playing Dungeons & Dragons with middle schoolers through her sister business, Young Dragonslayers.I. Intro – Tell us about yourself and how you got started doing the work you do. II. Oh…and what about D&D?III. Let's talk about Eating Disorders, and the reasons why you hesitate to treat individuals who struggle with food, eating and body image. IV. Katie's Fears about treating Eating DisordersFears about practicing outside of my scopeA lack of knowledge: we covered eating disorders for less than one class period in my graduate program's abnormal psych class. We were essentially told "Anorexia has the highest mortality rate of any mental health diagnosis" and not much else.A fear of unintentionally causing physical harm to a clientA sense of pressure (or perceived pressure) from the therapist community that treating ED requires extensive additional training. (Say more about this, Katie)A lack of general awareness. In my experience disordered eating is rarely included in case vignettes, roleplays, licensure exams, or other ways that therapists train. It feels as though the message I've gotten is "this is not for you."V. Tour of the website at https://www.katielear.com/VI. Products / Services• Katie's Book: “A Parent's Guide to Managing Childhood Grief” at https://www.simonandschuster.com/authors/Katie-Lear/190548524• Katie's D&D Group: Kids and teens use the creativity and structure of Dungeons and Dragons to forge meaningful friendships through online gaming at https://www.youngdragonslayers.com/Additional information: Katie's first book, A Parent's Guide to Managing Childhood Grief, was published in July by Adams Media and Simon & Schuster, and was recently featured in the New York Times. Her writing and commentary on children's mental health has appeared in Parents Magazine, Business Insider, and National Geographic, as well as on websites like WebMD and Healthline.Free Eating Disorder Consult Groups for TherapistsCenter for Discovery – Contact Clacy Albert at clacy.albert@centerfordiscovery.comThe Emily Program – Contact Katie Sherpe at Katie.Sherpe@emilyprogram.comFree Eating Disorder Support Groups for ClientsCenter for Discovery https://centerfordiscovery.com/blog/online-eating-disorder-support-groups/The Emily Program https://www.emilyprogram.com/for-families/support-for-families/Alsana https://www.alsana.com/programs/online-support-group/ED Referral https://www.edreferral.com/support-groups-freeEating Disorders over 30 https://www.facebook.com/groups/EDsover40/Eating Disorders Support Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/745696442128289/Treatment Centers for Higher Levels of CareACUTE https://www.acute.org/Ai Pono https://www.aipono.com/Alsana https://www.alsana.com/Center for...

Introduction: At the end of my last video, which was a rerun from last year 2021, my pie-eating footage was lost, and I couldn't show you all how to do mindful eating. However….we have one piece of pie left from Thanksgiving this year, in 2022. So I thought I would take this last piece of pie and show you how to do Mindful Eating. First, let me share with you:1. The definition of Mindfulness I like is: Purposefully and intentionally being aware of the present moment, including your surroundings, your thoughts, feelings, body sensations and behavioral urges, in a non-judgmental way. Noticing when your mind wanders to the past or the future, or from anything that is not right in front of you, and gently bringing it back to what's going on right now. 2. So for example: Toothbrushing / Coffee Driniking3. My next podcast interview is with Dr. Vic Manzo. “In that episode, (In this episode), Dr. Manzo talks about the science behind why mindfulness works in your physical brain, how it can help you calm your chaos, and also provides some of his own practices that he uses himself and with his clients. The benefits of mindfulness I have personally experienced a. Improved focus, concentration and mental clarityb. Regular mindfulness practices…even 5-10 minutes per day can help prevent you from becoming overwhelmed, and stay calm during any chaos you might have, and can help you behave with more emotional control.Introduce Dr. Vic Manzo Podcast4. Mindful eating You can do mindful eating like you would do any other mindfulness practice: by being aware of our hunger / fullness, and use all of our senses to fully be in the present moment with our food. We can also notice any thoughts, feelings, judgments and behaviors, and then gently turn our focus and attention back to what we are eating. First, the Brief Version1. Slow down. Take a few breaths to become present. 2. Check in on your hunger and fullnesss (scale)3. Observe the food, and notice any thoughts, feelings or judgments you have when looking at your food5. Consider how that food was prepared, how it got to you, what went into making it, and then feel a sense of gratitude and appreciation for the food. 6. Enjoy your food with all your senses.• Feast your eyes visually on the food. Notice color, texture, shape.• Smell the food, breathing in the aroma, noticing the nuances with both nostrils.• Taste the food, first savoring without chewing it, noticing the flavor, texture, and sensations.• Then chew the food, staying as present as possible with each bite to fully enjoy the experience.• Mindfully swallow when ready.7. Taste. Pay attention to what you notice. Enjoyable or not. What am I noticing? Thoughts? Feelings? Pause. 8. Check in with hunger and fullness levels occasionally throughout the snack or meal. Remember the hunger and fullness scale, and use this as a guide as you continue eating.Here's the link to the Hunger and Fullness Scale: https://www.riversidecorporatewellness.com/single-post/mindful-eating-series-how-to-use-the-hunger-fullness-scale#mindfulness #mindfuleating #pumpkinpie

Use Mindfulness to Calm your Chaos - Interview with Dr. Vic ManzoAre you interested in how to stay calm when life throws your curveballs….or hurricanes? If so, join us for a talk with Dr. Vic Manzo, who is a Spiritual / Business Mindset Coach, Pediatric Chiropractor, Podcaster and Author. Dr. Vic has learned how to rebalance his emotions, shift his mindset and manage the chaos in his life by utilizing a variety of mindfulness practices. Listen as Dr. Vic shares his story, and tells us from a neuroscience perspective how practicing mindfulness regularly can help keep you calm during moments of chaos. I. Intro – Tell us about yourself and how you got started doing the work you do. a. Energy healing, Quantum Physics, Ancient Wisdom and Chiropracticb. Mindfulness and WHY does it helpII. Tell us in more detail how you began studying mindfulnessIII. Describe how mindfulness works in the physiological brain and body from a Neuroscience perspectiveIV. Can you share with us some mindfulness practices we can start doing to help calm our minds?a. Also, how do these specific mindfulness practices work in the body's physiology from a Neuroscience perspectiveV. Do you have any words of inspiration for those who may be hesitant to start doing mindfulness practices?VI. Tour of Dr. Vic's website at www.EmpowerYourReality.comVII. Products and Services Dr. Vic has to offera. Sign up for a FREE 30 Minute Discovery Call or download the first chapter of my new book for Free www.EmpowerYourReality.comb. Podcast: www.TheMindfulExperiment.comVIII. Social Media Links:a. Facebook: www.Facebook.com/drvicmanzob. Instagram: www.Instagram.com/drvicmanzoc. TikTok: www.TikTok.com/@drvicmanzod. LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/drmanzohttps://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Ou6W-hYk0M4xvR-QfESr3ZDLOR--kLfp?usp=sharingNotable Timestamps:2:39 Dr. Vic Intro: 4:43 Intro to Mindfulness and what it is9:47 Tracy Gets frustrated 11:20 From a Neurological perspective, here's how Mindfulness can help12:28 The Amygdala15:47: What the brain does when you practice Mindfulness Shrinking the pathway to the Amygdala Widening the path to the Pre-frontal CortexIf people are resistant to doing mindfulness: 18:00 Practice Mindfulness doing what you normally do each day18:48: What do we have to do? Think of that. Then….do it mindfully!10 long, slow deep breaths to re-set the nervous systemSet an alarm for 5 times per day to take these 10 deep breathsIn through the nose, out through the mouth20:38 Eating Mindfully – Dr. Vic has difficulty doing it but he is trying!22:51: Dr. Vic: “How much in our lives are we missing because we're not being mindful?”24:22: When people with ADHD think “Mindfulness will not work for me”25:51: Meditation takes it to another level, and the blessings of ADHD26:41: Tracy's “Bulls and Butterflies” analogy of sensitivity and ADHD29:49: Dr. Vic cracks the code with his Matrix book and the collective consciousnessDr. Vic Narrates his own books! Some of them are free with an Audible Trial34:05: Dr. Vic quotes the Dalai Lama on meditation37:00 Dr. Vic's 2 podcasts38:45 Dr. Vic explains his “quizzical look” on his website39:44 Dr. Vic offers a free 30 minute consult 40:00 Dr. Vic's wife and his dog 42:35 Be patient with mindfulness….it's a practice. “Show up, even when you don't want to”It will help you in so many ways….just try it!

Working with Chaos - Interview with Maria RippoAre you interested in how Therapists who have had Eating Disorders can successfully treat clients who struggle with Eating Disorders? If so, join us for a talk with Maria Rippo, who is a Psychotherapist, Holistic Coach and Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapist. Maria specializes in treating people who have experienced Eating Disorders, trauma and other challenges of being human. Maria is joining Calming the Chaos Podcast today to talk about how her own disordered relationship with food and her body helped her provide therapy for those experiencing similar struggles. I. Intro – Tell us about yourself and how you got started doing the work you do. II. Let's talk about Eating Disorders: What caused you to go in the direction of treating individuals who struggle with food, eating and body image, when that's what you have struggled withIII. Tell us a bit about how you treat those who struggle with food, eating and body image (Treatment modalities, including hypnotherapy)IV. The Victim Triangle for Disordered Eating (Tracy's creation)V. Tour of Maria's website at http://www.mariarippo.com/VI. Products / Services• Maria's Blog Talk Radio “Enlighten Me” at https://www.blogtalkradio.com/enlightenmeradio• Recipes at http://www.mariarippo.com/blogrecipes• Mindfulness Based Eating Awareness Training 11/13/22 at http://www.mariarippo.com/mb-eat.html• Private Coaching at http://www.mariarippo.com/private-coaching.html

Kids and Emotional Chaos - Interview with Dr. Nghi DangAre you concerned about children and their mental health? Do you wonder how you might talk to your children, or children around you about mental health issues and challenges they might be having?If so, Dr. Nhgi Dang has some valuable information for you!As a Family Practice Physician, Dr. Dang has seen more and more visits related to mental health during his 10 years of practice. Because of this and his love for his own two children, he was motivated to do something to help educate children and help start a dialogue between parents and children about mental health:Dr. Dang wrote a series of short stories that will help highlight mental health issues in children.In this podcast interview, we will talk about the many issues that are affecting the mental health of children today, especially as we continue to move through a global pandemic. We will also discuss some of the ways that parents and kids can talk about these issues and work together to calm their mental and emotional chaos. I. Intro – Tell us about yourself personally and professionally, including how you got started doing the work you do. I was born in Vietnam but grew up in Southern California. Our family moved to the states when I was 7 years old. As an immigrant, I shared the same struggles as many other immigrants with adjusting to a new norm and dealing with bullying, discrimination, and constantly having to self-validate while fighting off depression. Having been in practice for over 10 years as a Family Physician, I have realized that my struggles are shared by many of my patients. II. Tell us in more detail how you became interested in mental health issues in childrenIII. Describe some of the mental health issues that are concerning to children today (tour of the website and books)a. Bullyingb. Learning Disabilitiesc. Making Friendsd. Academic success / pressure / competitione. Stage Fright / panic / performance anxietyf. Divorceg. Arguments with parents about friends and sneaking out, getting caughth. Online games and new online friendsi. Illness and death of a loved oneIV. What sorts of tips and tools in general do you have for kids and parents when a kid is experiencing a mental health issue?V. Social Media Links and any Products and Services Dr. Dang has to offerwww.theadventuresofmaxandfirends.org

Man vs. Man – Coping with male-on-male violence with Brad MewhortAre you a male who has acted violently toward another male, or has been the recipient of violence from a male? If so, join us for a talk with Brad Mewhort, who has a mission to prevent male-on-male violence and end physical bullying. Brad teaches and supports men on their healing journeys by facilitating groups and through individual coaching sessions that include body-based healing experiences and contemplative practices. Brad has received extensive training and holds certifications in developmental coaching, somatic practices, group facilitation, and transformative change.Brad tells about how violent acts such as bullying has affected his own life from an early age, and invites listeners who have been affected by male-on-male violence to use somatic and contemplative practices to heal from such violent experiences. He also shares his book on male-on-male violence called “The Peaceful Man: Heal within Yourself the Personal Effects and Historic Patterns of Male-on-Male Violence.” I. Intro – Tell us about yourself and how you became interested in the topic of male-on male violence.II. Give examples of male-on-male violence, and discuss the fact that many men don't even realize they have been treated violently. Visualize a violence spectrumIII. Talk about Brad's book “The Peaceful Man” and do a tour of the websitePurpose of the book:a. To tell Brad's story focusing on age 13-22b. Invite readers to consider how violence has affected themc. Introduce somatic practices at https://www.peacefulmanbook.com/resources.htmld. Introduce contemplative practices at https://www.peacefulmanbook.com/resources.htmlIV. Other questions and topicsa. Can a victim of violence become a bully?b. How or why someone being a victim of violence makes the person more likely to be violentc. How violence is so often a cycled. The importance of men healing within themselves from violence to break the cycles of violencee. How can we defend ourselves against violence?V. Other tips, tools or techniques that can help anyone in our audience who is struggling with violenceVI. Contact Brad through his website at www.peacefulmanbook.coma. On Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/Peaceful-Man-Yourself-Male-Male/dp/B0B92G12TBVII. Social Media Links:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brad-mewhort-554756/VIII. Products / ServicesInspired Test Prep: http://www.testprep.coach/

In honor of the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) Eating Disorders Awareness week, I am joined by my colleague and friend Stacy Schilter-Pisano. Stacy is the site director for The Emily Program in Olympia Washington. Stacy and I are both Certified Eating Disorders Specialist Supervisors, and we are doing this livestream to help you learn more about Eating Disorders and the myths and truths associated with them. Here are some resources for people who want to learn more about Eating Disorders and Treatment:The Emily Program https://emilyprogram.com/Lokahi Counseling Resources Page https://www.lokahicounseling.com/resources/National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/eatingdisordersawarenessweekInternational Association for Eating Disorders Prevention (IAEDP) http://www.iaedp.com/Poodle Science YouTube Video from Association for Size Diversity and Health (ASDAH) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H89QQfXtc-kThanks for listening, and take care!#EDAW #eatingdisorders #mentalhealth

Climate Chaos – Interview with Author Lee SchneiderAre you concerned about the climate crisis in our world, or want to learn more about it? If so, join us for a talk with Lee Schneider, who has written several non-fiction books about how life might look in the future. His latest book Surrender takes place in a future world that struggles to contain climate disaster using global machine governance, a world run by computers and the humans who are both empowered and controlled by them, and where a small band of resisters fight to keep human thought safe and free.Lee Schneider is the author of screenplays, teleplays, stage plays, short stories, and audio drama podcasts. His thirty-year career in media includes podcast production, documentaries and series with History Channel, Discovery, Court TV, Food Network, Travel Channel, TLC, Dateline NBC and Good Morning America. Surrender is his first published novel. He lives in Santa Monica, California with his family.I. Intro – Tell us about yourself and your past chaotic history in TV / Film ProductionII. How did you get from TV / Film Production to becoming an Author?III. What got you interested in the “Climate Chaos?”The Good AncestorOne Green ThingStop Trying to Save the Planet IV. Speak about “What Really Matters” as it relates to Technology, Climate Crisis and AIV. Talk about The conflict between internal and external values symbolized by a. Earth Values (Internal)b. Technology Values (External)c. How do you mediate the conflict between both (Calming the Climate Chaos) OrHow do we use Technology without sacrificing our Human ExperiencesVI. Any other stories you'd like to tell (i.e., the fires in California, etc)VII. Other tips, tools or techniques that can help anyone in our audience who is struggling with climate chaosVIII. Website / Book TourIX. Social Media Links:Lee's website: https://futurex.studioBooks: https://futurex.studio/booksAmazon: https://www.amazon.com/Surrender-Lee-Schneider/dp/B0BVPMSPBZ/Mastodon: https://scicomm.xyz/@docuguyInstagram: https://instagram.com/docuguy and https://instagram.com/futurex.studioThe FutureX Podcast will be going live next month. Here are some previous podcasts I've produced or hosted. https://www.futurex.studio/podcastsLee's list of books he recommends to learn more about the climate crisis: https://bookshop.org/lists/futurex-studio-book-picks

People in Conflict – Interview with Dr. Mahsa Hajat-KhoshniyatAre you interested in learning about common problems in relationships and how to resolve them? If so, join us fora talk with Dr. Mahsa Hajat-Khoshniyat, who has her PhD in Social work and is also a practicing Licensed ClinicalSocial Worker in Southern California. Dr. Mahsa and I offer our stories of some of the more common relationshipproblems we see in our counseling offices.Intro – Tell us about yourself Describe how you were able to overcome obstacles Common relationship problems we see in our counseling practices include:BreakupsGhostingBullying (in person and on social media)InfidelityDisconnectionAggression / Domineering BehaviorsPolitical DisagreementDr. Mahsa talks specifically about the political events in her home country of Iran. She includes thehistory of The government / religious sect / Dictatorship in Iran, arrests and jailing of citizens of IranThe youth who are rising up and protesting against the systems in place in IranNew ways of thinking about conflict and resolution, including (but not limited to)SolutionsDeveloping resilienceLiving up to your personal potentialStrengths and personal powerTranscending traumaWebsite tourWebsite: https://www.Heal-thrive.com *ADHD and Life Coach Services at https://www.heal-thrive.com/coaching-servicesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/PsychotherapyHAT/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healandthrive_pc/

Chaos in My Brain – Living with Bipolar Disorder – Interview with Steve Wilson Bipolar Disorder is a mental health condition / mood disorder that is present in an estimated 4.4% of adults in the United States. Steve Wilson is one of those people. He joins Tracy at Calming the Chaos to talk about what it is like to struggle with Bipolar Disorder using stories from his own life. He also talks about the forms of treatment he has experienced, and about his newly released book called “Teetering on a Tightrope: My Bipolar Journey.”Intro – Tell us about yourself and about your bookTeetering on a Tightrope, my bipolar journey, is the story of my lifelong battle for balance. For most of my 73 years I have suffered from bipolar disorder. Descending into the depths of suicidal intentions or rising to the high of watching the births of my children, I have endured a roller coaster ride of epic proportions.Questions1. When did you first notice some disturbances in your mood?2. How did you get diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder?3. In what ways has having Bipolar Disorder affected your major life domains? (such as, physical health, mental / emotional health, social, relationships, vocational / school, legal, etc.) – Some stories herea. Physical = medication's effects on kidney; transplantb. Mental / Emotional = Depression and attempted stabbing of Dad, shamec. Relationships = Isolation, staying silentd. Vocational = Not able to keep a job long term4. How did you seek treatment?5. Did the treatment work?6. Suggestions for anyone listening who has Bipolar DisorderBook Linkshttps://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/teetering-on-a-tightrope-steven-w-wilson/1142967489https://www.amazon.com/Teetering-Tightrope-My-Bipolar-Journey/dp/B0BSRJPNYTResources for Bipolar Disorder:Suicide Prevention Hotline: Call 98824 Hour Crisis Line: https://www.crisisconnections.org/24-hour-crisis-line/National Institute of Mental Health (NIH) Suicide Prevention: https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/suicide-preventionLifeline: https://988lifeline.org/chat/

Dungeons and Dragons – Mental Health Lessons from Playing Online In this episode, I have edited our livestream done on 3/31/23 to reflect some Mental Health Lessons we learned from playing Dungeons and Dragons online. In this livestream, we will demonstrate how to handle chaos in a Dungeons and Dragons World! Here are our characters: Tim - Dungeon Master Tracy - Anka, a Tiefling Katie - Edgar, a Sorcerer Mark - Father Hands, a Cleric Scott - Owen, a Wizard Scott and Tracy - Thokk - A Half Ork FighterHere are the Mental Health Lessons we learned from Playing Dungeons and Dragons online together1. Meeting new friends and congregating with old friends2. Noticing, sensing and listening3. Assessing obstacles that get in the way of our goals4. Brainstorming with your friends5. Be Creative6. Come up with a plan7. Not all plans work8. Have courage9. Persist10. There is always another solution11. Deal with Interruptions12. Know when to stop, pause and think it overThank you to all of my faithful subscribers…old, and new. We appreciate you!#dungeonsanddragons #dungeonsanddragonsonline #gaming

The Dark Voice of Depression - Interview with Pastor Michael ScholtesDo you struggle with depression, especially during the darker months of the year? And is there some shame that comes with having depression? If so, join us for a talk with Michael Scholtes, who is a Pastor in Pennsylvania who is very open about his struggles with depression, his attempted suicide.Michael is an ordained Minister in the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America. He has served in several congregations in Eastern Pennsylvania. He talks with Tracy at Calming the Chaos Podcast about how he has lived with major depressive disorder for most of his life. Michael also shares how he was able to calm the chaos of a lifelong struggle with depression. He also shares with us his writings, sermons, reflections, poems and his new book that was released in 2022 called “Darkwater: A Pastor's Memoir of Depression and Faith.” I. Intro – Tell us about yourself as a Pastor who struggles with depression (Candid talk about himself and depression) II. Michael's stories of depressiona. When did you realize you had depression (Intro to the “dark voices”)b. The stigma around being depressed, and being a Pastorc. What drove you to attempting suicideIII. How Michael moved through his severe depression and attempted suicideIV. Any tips, tools or techniques that can help anyone in our audience who is struggling with depression and / or suicidal thoughts or urgesa. Embracing the brokennessb. Remembering God's promisesc. Calming the stigma of depressionV. Tour of the website / blog at www.thescholtes.comVI. Social Media Links:Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/DarkwaterAuthorTwitter: @DarkwaterAuthorVII. Products / Services• Michael's Blog: at www.thescholtes.com• Michael's Book “Darkwater: A Pastor's Memoir of Depression and Faith” at https://thescholtes.com/darkwater-the-book/o At Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/Darkwater-Pastors-Memoir-Depression-Faith-ebook/dp/B0B3LWW9BR/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=o At Barnes & Noble at https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/darkwater-michael-j-scholtes/1141656286?ean=9781633376014o At Target at https://www.target.com/p/darkwater-by-michael-j-scholtes-paperback/-/A-87451855• Subscribe to Michael's Newsletter at https://biblialuna.substack.com/• Michael can do Public Speaking. Find out more at https://thescholtes.com/speak/

Surviving Chaos - Interview with Charles SmithAre you interested in having a better quality of life, and yet aren't ready to see a psychotherapist? If so, join us for a talk with Charles Shaw, who has experienced a LOT of chaos in his life! He offers his stories and a series of self-help books / workbooks which are in the “Life Long Experience” Series. These books / workbooks help people learn wellness skills: from mental health to safety and security, with topics such as:Trauma / PTSDGrief and LossFinding SuccessHomelessnessAddiction RecoveryPositive ThinkingSurvival Skills for Safety at Home, School, and on the StreetIn this podcast, Charles tells some of his stories about chaotic life events relating to these topics. He also provides some tips and tools to those who are struggling with these sorts of chaotic life events He offers hope to all generations, but especially the younger generations who are still trying to figure out life as we emerge from the COVID-19 pandemic. Intro – Tell us about yourself and what drove you to write these books I. Describe how you were able to overcome obstacles and “flip the chaos,” move past the hard times, survive them and grow strongera. Overcoming obstacles – Breathing and Mindfulnessb. Freaking out but staying calm (Flipping the chaos?c. Moving toward safety in tough timesd. Surviving PTSDe. Growing Strongerf. Helping OthersII. Speak to the younger generations and offer them hope, as many of them are a. Discouraged and hopeless (at the state of the world)b. Scared about the future (future fears of failure)c. Overwhelmed (too much stimuli and social media)d. Checked out (avoiding people and school)e. Fearful (school and mass shootings) Website: https://www.lifelongexperience.net/Books in the Life Long Experience Series - Information on all 7 books can be found here: https://www.lifelongexperience.net/self-help-workbooks All 7 books are now available as AudiobooksAmazon Link to books: https://www.amazon.com/Life-Long-Experience-8-book-series/dp/B08RP3P3X7Social Media Links:Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/lifelongexperience/YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJeX8zym5bBTcperE4pqxPwEpisode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/UrlphxCtaZYTwitter: @author_longLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/charles-smith-29681513/

Transcending Weight Bias and Treating Eating Disorders using a Health at Every Size Model – Interview with Amelia MeachamDid you know that Eating Disorders affect at least 9% of the population worldwide? About 28.8 million Americans, will have an eating disorder in their lifetime. Eating disorders are also among the deadliest mental illnesses, second only to opioid overdose. About 26% of people with eating disorders attempt suicide.There are a variety of different ways of treating Eating Disorders. And today, joining me is Amelia Meacham, who is a Senior at The University of Puget Sound in Washington State. Amelia has a Psychology Major and a Religious Studies minor, she'll be graduating this May with her Bachelor of Arts Degree, and she is also my current practicum student. (Practicum = where Amelia and I create opportunities for her to learn about Eating Disorders and treatment using discussion, session observations, and other creative ways she can learn about individuals who struggle with Eating Disorders).And I have learned so much from Amelia! Today, Amelia will be sharing her thesis about how to treat eating disorders better using a “Health at Every Size” (HAES) model. She will also be my first podcast guest to illustrate what I hope to be a new, shorter format that I'll use with future guests in my next season of Calming the Chaos. Intro to Amelia – Tell us about yourself and about your studiesQuestions1. How did you get interested in treating eating disorders?2. What is a Weight based model of treatment?3. What is a HAES model of treatment? ASDAH has the trademark on HAES, so we'll use this definition in part from the ASDAH website:a. Definition: The Health At Every Size® Principles promote health equity, support ending weight discrimination, and improve access to quality healthcare regardless of size. More info at https://asdah.org/health-at-every-size-haes-approach/4. So what is a “Weight Bias?”5. What barriers to treatment happen when Doctors, Therapists and Dieticians have weight biases?a. Lack of perceived needb. Failure of clinicians to diagnose and refer appropriatelyc. Lack of treatment resources6. How does a HAES Approach to Eating Disorder Treatment help people transcend these barriers and move toward lasting recovery (vs. relapsing)?a. Weight neutral, holistic care …vs. Weight-based careb. Weight inclusive framework, including intuitive eating and self-compassion workc. Intuitive Eating Information can be found at http://www.intuitiveeating.org/d. A non-discriminative type of care that combats the weight-centered approach. The weight-centered approach utilizes the biased BMI measure and discriminates against those in bigger bodies, often intersecting with race, disability, and gender. HAES works to combat this discriminative care. Takeaway: Individuals and organizations that align with the HAES movement advocate against weight bias and discrimination in healthcare. This means that not only is HAES is helping individuals with eating disorders, but it is also combating the issues that influence the development of eating disorders.Resources: ASDAH = Association for Size Diversity and Health at www.asdah.orgNEDA = National Eating Disorders Association at www.nationaleatingdisorders.orgFEAST = Families Empowered and Supporting Treatment of Eating Disorders at www.feast-ed.orgANAD = National Association of Anorexia and Associated Disorders at www.anad.orgIAEDP = International Association of Eating Disorders Professionals at www.iaedp.com

A Radical Life of Chaos…And Beyond! – Interview with Elizabeth MikotowiczIf you would like to hear from someone who has had a radical and chaotic life…from Domestic Violence to drug addiction to becoming a prisoner in federal prison, then join us for a talk with Elizabeth Mikotowicz, who has found a way out radical chaos and found a way into a new life. I. Intro – Tell us about yourself and your past chaotic history II. What sorts of chaos did you experience?• Survival of Domestic Violence• Addicted to opioids• Seizures• Being a single mom and pregnant• Turned away from a Domestic Violence Shelter• Injury to her windpipe• Child Protective Services • Getting involved with drug dealers, pimps and thugs• Going to federal prison for a non-violent drug charge• Another Drug conviction and prison time• No double jeopardy for drug charges• Health Insurance ( and lack thereof) – so no access to counseling or medicationIII. How did you turn it all around:a. Realizing I am in a state of crisis / chaosb. Painting murals in prisonc. Designing clothingd. Making and selling artworke. Working for legislation change to provide more resources for vulnerable populations who struggle with domestic violence, addiction and mental illnessf. Working with the Division of Vocational Rehabilitation (DVR)IV. Products and Services you'd like to promotea. Upcoming book “No Justice…Just Us”b. Adult coloring booksc. Clothing itemsd. ArtworkV. Website Tour http://www.legaleriste.com/en/elizabeth.mikotowiczVI. Social Media Links:Linked In www.linkedin.com/in/elizabeth-mikotowicz-409773220/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@epm_art_1111Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/epm_art_1111/https://worldart.news/2022/09/05/unbreakable-surviving-assault-drugs-prison-exclusive-interview-with-elizabeth-mikotowicz-part-1/Resources:Christina Randall's YouTube playlist about life in Prison at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-eaIGMRr30w&list=PLiGmHSdJna3cvz4SuF77G_5_udUDYh6OFList of State Agencies for the Division of Vocational Rehabilitation: https://rsa.ed.gov/about/statesTake care, and have a great Summer!

Introduction:• Paul Zolman introduction• Briefly discuss the problem of anger – why are we so angry?• Why is managing your anger important?The Root Causes of Anger• Why does anger show up? (Tracy explains)• Is anger a “bad” emotion? (Tracy and Paul weigh in)• Anger can be passed down from generations (Paul's story)How Anger Impacts Relationships• Share examples and anecdotes of how anger has negatively affected your relationships (Paul)Paul's Technique: Ditch the Anger and Find True LoveStep 1: Intentionally practice a love language every day for 30 days using the die and the Love Language journalStep 2: Read the Love Language Book and become a Love Language LinguistStep 3: See what happens to your anger after 30 daysIt really is that simple!www.roleoflove.com #relationship #love #selfimprovement

Calm your Chaos with Cooking?• Kristin Tand Introduction Kristin Tand is a mental health counselor who also loves to cook. She is passionate about helping overwhelmed adults slow down the hustle for perfection and start nourishing themselves in the kitchen. Kristin teaches tips and tricks to get out of your head and into your body, using cooking as a vehicle for living a richer life--while also taking the intimidation factor out of how to cook.• Briefly introduce the topic of how Kristin discovered cooking as a therapeutic tool to calm anxiety and panic. (her personal experience)Tracy is Kristin's ideal audience• Kristin to Tracy: “What are the reasons you don't cook?” • Share the video clips of Tracy cooking. Is there such a thing as mindful cooking when Tracy has ADD in the kitchen? • Kristin comments on the clips as we goIs there any science behind Cooking and Emotion Regulation?• Does cooking have psychological and neurological benefits?• Do cooking activate different senses and promote mindfulness?• Does creativity play a part of why cooking reduces anxiety?Cooking and Perfectionism• Tracy shares personal stories of how cooking has been positive and negative• Kristin inspires Tracy to learn and grow from these experiences• Tracy shares her “microwave cooking” videos of confidence• Kristin shares stories about how she's helped others to manage anxiety and panic using cooking as a coping mechanism• Tracy agrees to take a 30 day cooking challengeConclusion: Cooking can be creative and can reduce anxietyCheck out Kristin at her website www.inthekitchenwithkristin.com

Safe Havens: Protecting Pets from the Chaos of Domestic Violence Interview with Orazie Cook – Founder of Praline's CornerOrazie Cook is the CEO and President of Praline's Backyard Foundation. The mission is centered around providing safe and temporary housing for the pets of domestic violence survivors during their transition. In her work, Orazie is consistently encountering situations filled with emotional chaos, overwhelm, and anxiety. The decision for survivors to leave their unsafe environments is complex, especially when the safety of their beloved pets is concerned. Our foundation plays a pivotal role in alleviating some of this chaos by ensuring their pets are cared for, allowing survivors to focus on their own safety and healing.IntroductionA lived experience of domestic violence. Volunteered on a Domestic Violence Hotline and at the Humane Society. Orazie combined both of these experiences to create something that helped DV survivors find homes for their pets while they were in transition“People struggle with Domestic Violence for a variety of different reasons, but I didn't want them to struggle because of lack of housing for their pets.”Partnering with existing pet-boarding facilities to find homes for pets of those affected by DV1. What to do if you are a victim of DV and have a pet• Take the pet with you when you leave the DV situation• Praline's Corner will pay for pet boarding for the first 7 days while a foster is found• Praline's corner will support the foster for up to 6 months with boarding2. How does Orazie find the energy to do all this…and thank you!• “The energy comes from the stories I receive”• Stories of abuse and / or assault and regret of leaving their pet(s) behind• Survivors are grateful for the resource Orazie is giving to DV survivors for their pets• Helping people find information and transcend silence and shame around DV3. Orazie's Lived Experience of an abuser – Her own Mom• She melded the lived experience of abuse with her love and passion for animals to form Praline's Corner4. What is Domestic Violence• When anyone uses a weapon (physical, mental, emotional, financial) against you to hurt you• “Abuse of Power”5. What do we do with a pet if faced with Domestic Violence and I want to leave home? (All kinds of pets apply!)• Pre-Planning Package• Have a copy of pet's vaccination history (to provide them with housing)• pralinesbackyardfoundation.org and fill out the “Survivor Form” and give information on form• They protect the anonymity of the pet and the survivorMission: “To eliminate barriers for DV survivors to providing housing for their pets”Website: www.pralinesbackyardfoundation.orgInstagram: @pralines_backyardYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@pralinesback...#pets #domesticviolencesurvivor #safetyfirst

One Person…Two Losses | Understanding and Preventing Suicide with Lisa Sugarman If you have ever experienced the death of a family member, especially due to suicide, then join us for a talk with Lisa Sugarman. Lisa shares how she coped with the grief and loss of her father, not once but twice. She tells her story, offers some suicide prevention tips, and gives you some valuable resources you can use if you are in crisis.IntroWho is Lisa Sugarman? She is a Boston-based columnist, author, Crisis Counselor and public speaker for organizations like The Trevor Project and National Alliance for Mental Illness (NAMI). Lisa tells her story and describes her emotional experiences at 10 years old when her father died, and as an adult when she discovered he died by suicide.Suicide discussionWhat are some of the signs that someone could be considering suicide as an option to stop their pain?1. Depression2. Low Self-Esteem3. Negative Self-Talk4. Lack of Meaning or Purpose in Life5. Sudden Changes in Mood6. Sudden Changes in BehaviorWhat can we do recognize or help people who could be considering suicide? 1. Actively watch and listen to people around you2. Check in and ask people questions3. Give people time and space to express their feelings4. Provide a safe space for them5. Allow vulnerability6. Be part of a community who will care for people 7. Talk about your thoughtsUnderstand that most people don't want to die….they just want their pain to endThere is a lot of pain in the world right now. Look at the situation in the Middle East and listen to Andrew Gold's YouTube Channel (Israel Explained video) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gMa__98pAa8&t=5sDon't be afraid to be vulnerableResourcesa. Website Tour http://www.lisasugarman.comb. The Trevor Project https://www.thetrevorproject.orgc. National Alliance for Mental Illness (NAMI) https://www.nami.org/Homed. Lisa's YouTube channel Suicide Survivor Series (full playlist) https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLugByhVm06jXI7MmI1ZlZEetxlr_BtvunSocial Media Links:YouTube channel: youtube.com/@thelisasugarmanFacebook.com/TheLisaSugarmanTwitter.com/thelisasugarmanInstagram.com/lisa_sugarmanLinkedin.com/in/lisa-sugarman-16925b69

Poking the Bear: Can Acupuncture Calm your Chaos? – Interview with Dr. Alex JoannouIntro: Do you struggle with a physical or mental health condition that just isn't going away? If so, then perhaps you'd be a good candidate for Acupuncture! If you are interested in learning more about acupuncture, listen to Dr. Alex Joannou talk about what Acupuncture is, and how it might help you calm your chaos. I. Dr. Joannou, tell us about yourself II. Describe how you got interested in doing AcupunctureIII. Describe what Acupuncture can help, including conditions such as:• Anxiety• Depression• Physical Pain• Eating Disorders• Fears• Self-Esteem• Other? (ADHD, Autism, etc)What is the process of doing acupuncture, including how long does it take, what can you expect and does it hurt?IV. Sell Tracy on the process of Acupuncture: Why should she try it? V. How to choose a good Acupuncture ProfessionalVI. Dr. Joannou's products and servicesVII. Impromptu Australian Animal Quiz – Dr. Joannou gets 100%VIII. Website: www.stickittodepression.comDr Alexander Joannou MBBS(Hons) FACNEM is creator of the Transformational Acupuncture System. During his 40-year medical career he has been consulted over 300,000 times and has witnessed firsthand the complex interrelationship between mind, body and spirit. He is one of Australia's thought leaders in the management of depression and other mental illnesses. You can reach him at: DrAlex@StickItToDepression.com linkedin.com/in/dralexjoannou/

Sexual Chaos: Discussion on Male Sexual Expression – Interview with Jack KammerIntro: Have you ever wondered why Calming the Chaos Podcast hasn't talked specifically about the topic of sex? It's because nobody has asked me to! Until now. In this podcast, I talk with Jack Kammer, an Author and commentator on issues between men and women. Jack has a passion of helping policy makers see and understand the connection between male gender issues and some of America's social problems. Join us for an open, fair, friendly and respectful discussion about the sexual expression of men and boys today, and what we can do to calm the sexual chaos.I. The Male Point Of View (Jack)II. The definition of Male Sexual Expression (per Chat GPT) Male sexual expression refers to the various ways in which individuals who identify as male express their sexuality, desires, and preferences in a manner that is authentic to them. It encompasses a wide range of behaviors, feelings, and identities related to sexual attraction, arousal, and intimate relationships. Male sexual expression can include aspects such as communication, consent, self-discovery, and the ability to express one's desires and boundaries in a healthy and respectful manner. It is important to recognize that male sexual expression is diverse and can vary greatly among individuals, reflecting the complexity of human sexuality.What is true? How are men “allowed” to express their sexuality? Male Stereotypes. Confusion. Tracy: Does this mean “Free the nip” and “Free the tip?”Jack: It depends on the where, when, with what expectation and intention (context)III. Young men have a difficult time because “Women have the power” • How many times per day do men think about having sex?• How many times per day do women think about being sexy?IV. A Seat at the Table – “Men get cast away from the discussion” (Jack)• Why aren't men included? “Because they are seen as the enemy” (Jack)• Why would we want to attract the enemy? (Tracy)• Historic context, including feminine and masculine roles, and “EP” (Earning Potential) V. This is the chaos!• Tracy: Both male and female traits can be expressed and they are okay. Be yourself!• Jack: Women have a lot of latitude in their self-expression, men don't Are men “subservient, second class, unimportant and inferior?The hope is that females would be aware of their feminine power and I'm respectful, aware and mindful of the needs of men and boys. • Tracy: We all have personal power. Be aware and use it mindfully. • Jack: Let's have open, fair, friendly and respectful discussions. Invite men to a seat at the table! VI. The PatriarchyVII. The Persona and the ShadowVIII. The Alpha Male vs. “The Alphabet Male”IX. What can females do?• Don't laugh at sexist jokes about how clueless men are• Try not to assume male stereotypes• Acknowledge your ideas of superiority over menX. Free the nip and the tip? “Maybe we're not ready for that yet”XI. Sample social media ads that are geared toward making men sufferXII. Impromptu Fun with the two R's: Red Shoe Diaries and Russell BrandXIII. Contact Jack:• Website / Blog: https://malefriendlymedia.medium.com/• Twitter: https://twitter.com/counterfemsw?lang=en• More information: https://on-boys.blubrry.net/jack-kammer-boys-are-affected-by-sexism-too/#sexualexpression #society #feminism

An Elegant Solution or a Backstabbing Friend? | Exploring Eating Disorders in Midlife with Nicole Christina, LCSW Eating Disorders are mental health conditions that affect people of all ages. In this podcast, Nicole Christina discusses the unique conditions under which Eating Disorders affect women in midlife. Nicole is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in upstate New York who has worked with individuals who struggle with Eating Disorders for over 30 years. She also has a podcast called “Zestful Aging.” In this podcast, Nicole shares her knowledge about how Eating Disorders affect women in midlife, and offers some tools and resources for prevention and recovery.IntroNicole introduces herself and talks about her professional experience treating individuals who struggle with Eating Disorders, and how she became interested in working with women in midlife who struggle with Eating Disorders.Eating Disorder DiscussionWhat are some of the signs that someone could be struggling with an Eating Disorder in Midlife?1. Changes in situations and in body (Body, aging parents, empty nest, grey divorce and mortality awareness) 2. Menopause – Changes in physical body3. Social Influences and Life Domains4. Social Media (Beauty Standards, Instant Information and Feedback from others)5. Control, when life seems chaotic6. Reinforcers 7. Children, especially DaughtersAwareness: What can we do recognize and help people who could have an Eating Disorder in midlife?• The starved brain• Positive comments may reinforce harmful eating behaviors• Spotting inaccurate thinking• Social media and “Super Agers”Solutions: What can we do?• Focus on how well you live, and the quality of your life• Notice how much you obsess….and choose not to do it• Know who you are and embrace it• Being in Relationship with others and yourself• Being connected with others and yourself at any level• Lower your stressThe upcoming Holiday Season: Resources to help those who are struggling with eating in midlifeo “It's one Dayo Continue to check in with yourselfo Stay Mindfulo Enjoy Yourselfo Enjoy the Foodo Practice Intuitive Eatingo Eat like a Normal Dayo Focus on the connectiono Focus on what you have to offer, rather than how much you eat, what you look like or what you weigho “You have so much to offer… The world needs your contributions!Resourcesa. Nicole's Website https://zestfulaging.com/b. Social Media LinksFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/ZestfulAgingPodcast/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zestfulaging/ or @zestfulagingc. “Fat is a Feminine Issue” https://openlibrary.org/works/OL508163W/Fat_is_a_feminist_issued. “Intuitive Eating” https://www.intuitiveeating.org/e. Tracy's Calming the Chaos Podcast Interviews about Eating Disorders:i. From Chaos to Disorder with Dr. Anita Johnston https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RxQIL4DzGF4&t=9sii. Myths and Facts about Eating Disorders with Stacy Schilter-Pisano https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hHYVKDWLFPgiii. Eating Disorders and the Holidays with Stacy Schilter-Pisano https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-wt2sPxb_74iv. Transcending Weight Bais with Amelia Meacham https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wOUF-MXunnQv. Therapists who had Disordered Eating with Maria Rippo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=coXD56metzIvi. Mindful Eating with Tracy Kenela (solo Episode) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IqjBQVwVFL4vii. Therapists who are afraid of Treating Eating Disorders with Katie Lear https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZUpqqzRIrOQviii. Helping the Hangry – Part I with Katie Hart https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5sz8Ad_Fowwix....

A Permanent Solution to Anxiety? | Daniel Packard One of the most common mental health conditions I see as a Therapist in private practice is Anxiety. Whether it is about social situations, relationships, work or school performance, health or family, anxiety often arises in situations that are unpredictable, uncertain or unknown. Which is why so many people experience anxiety in times of chaos, because chaos is by nature unpredictable, random, disorderly, messy. There are a variety of different skills, tools and techniques to cope with anxiety. And most of them work just great if used consistently and properly. But what if there was a permanent solution to anxiety? Well that brings us to our guest today. Daniel Packard is going to talk with us about a more permanent solution to anxiety…without using all the traditional coping skills, tools and techniques. Daniel is a U.C. Berkeley Mechanical Engineer who turned his painful 10 year battle with severe anxiety into a mission to reverse engineer a permanent solution for anxiety. We're going to find out more about Daniel's story, and also his permanent solution to anxiety. IntroDaniel introduces himself and talks about how he reverse-engineered a permanent solution to anxiety, as opposed to just managing it. He offers a way to get past the belief “I am broken” and how to solve anxiety permanently.Tracy's 1-2-3 step method of Managing Anxiety1. Be aware of anxiety and how it feels in your body2. Use coping skills to calm the body's physiology3. Spot errors in your thinking and check the factsDaniel's Background and Research into AnxietyA toxic relationship and missing ALL the flags (from white to purple to red) Developing Complex PTSDTrying “everything” to treat it for 10 years and losing hopeThen: The idea to “reverse engineer” a permanent solution to anxietySolving Anxiety – Permanently?1. Exploring what anxiety looks like mechanically2. Testing it with real participants around the world 3. Approaching the skeptics / mental health professionals who “don't seem to care” and think anxiety is a problem with the mind. But what's missing?4. Engineering a solution that is based in problem-solving5. “The root cause is in the body. The mind is only linked to it…it's not the cause.”“My body is feeling anxious” helps you to understand that anxiety is a problem of the body.“Some well-meaning professionals sent you to the wrong location to deal with the problem of anxiety”Tracy Pushes Back: “Isn't anxiety necessary?”Daniel: There's a difference between the body's stress response (body is on high alert for a short time) and anxiety (body is on high alert for a long period of time)Key points:Your body is creating the anxiety, not your mind. There is a shame / stigma about the idea that anxiety is happening in the mind“There's no stigma in the idea that anxiety happens in the body”Understanding why your nervous system is malfunctioning and that there is a way to repair it and maintain itEvery system needs the basics: The body needs care and maintenance in all sorts of ways. There are 29 basics of care that we weren't taught. You can repair the nervous system and maintain it.The process:1. Repair2. Retrain3. MaintainResourcesa. Website www.danielpackard.comb. Social Media Linksi. Twitter @danielpackardii. Instagram @danielpackardiii. YouTube Channel www.youtube.com/user/danielpackardc. ResourcesA Recent Podcast Daniel was on: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WR04RnxhOu0FREE TRAINING + RESOURCEShttps://www.danielpackard.com/free-resources-download

Help! I'm in Crisis! | Debra Woog talks Divorce, Co-Parenting, Family Conflict and More!Since the Pandemic, the divorce rate has increased, people are frustrated with one another and just don't get along with other people. Families, friends, and romantic relationships are in peril. Truly, people are in chaos!I chose to interview Debra Woog because she is a Crisis Navigation Partner, and she can offer her expertise about how to manage the conflict within relationships, which includes, family, friendships and romantic relationships. Debra has over 30 years of experience as a Leadership Researcher, Executive, and Advisor. Debra helps people process difficult situations, connect with necessary resources, communicate effectively and lead their lives with a clear mind and a solid strategy for success.IntroDebra introduces herself by talking about her own crises and talking about what crisis is.Key points:At a time where people are exhausted, burned out and have less capacity to handle thingsThere comes a crisis or a conflictAnd there are fewer internal and external resources to handle it allPeople give up, blame other people or themselvesWhat do we do when we're unable to accommodate the needs and values of others?Should we come to an agreement?What are the advantages of getting along, understanding the viewpoints of others?What do we do legally, financially and in our homes and families?The process:1. Self-Care2. Enlist the care of others (Therapists, Coaches, Crisis Navigation Partners and Legal)3. Engage with othersSocial Media Links:a. Website www.connecttwo.comb. Social Media Linksi. Facebook: www.facebook.com/connecttwoResources: NYT Article on Loneliness: https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/06/opinion/loneliness-epidemic-solutions.html

Show Me the Money! | Alan Lazaros Can Help You Calm your Financial ChaosAre you in a financial crisis? Having problems making money, or just wishing you had more money to move closer toward your dreams and goals in life? Certainly, there are many people who are currently experiencing financial chaos. If this is you, Alan Lazaros has some financial wisdom to share that can help you calm your financial chaos.Alan is a Business Coach, Consultant, Trainer and Speaker who helps people maximize their growth, impact and profitability. He is the CEO and Co-Founder of Next Level University, and is also the Co-Host of Next Level University Podcast. During this podcast episode, Alan shares his up and down relationship with money, and his own unique brush with a near death experience that completely changed his life and made him contemplate who he was and the choices he was making in his life. Join us for a truly inspiring talk with someone who has found his way toward a life filled with self-improvement, meaning and purpose, and is now helping others do the same. Key points and Questions:At any time, some crisis can happen to throw you off physically, emotionally, financiallyAchievement (what you do) is one thing, but what really matters is who you are, and how you are living your life with Health, Wealth and LoveAre you doing all you can with all you have?Are you making wise choices?Do you believe in yourself?Financial position occurs on a continuum – We review the continuum and consider what people might do during tough financial timesTips, Tools and Techniques (at timestamp 19:58) In summary:• You are responsible for the outcomes in your life. You can re-tool, re-equip, learn a new skill, ask for help and resources• Short term profitability vs. Long term wealth strategies. You need both• Consider what you can use around you to help you meet your basic needs, while also considering what you'll need to do long term to reach your goals and dreams• Anyone who is entitled is in trouble (timestamp 29:01) Keep a good work ethic, have humility, gratitude, appreciate opportunity and have self-discipline.• When you have a medical or mental health condition, play your part, do what you can with what you have• Don't rely on Public Assistance but accept resources from trusted others• Focus on who loves you, who is on your team and who wants to see you win• Ask for free resources, Go Fund Me and free mentorships• “People help people who put in the effort, show humility and express gratitude.”• If you are homeless, try adding value to what you can do, express humility, do what it takes, and know the value of earning a dollar• Getting results does not happen without effort, time, training, connectionsSocial Media Links:Website: www.nextleveluniverse.comPodcast: "Next Level University" (Available on iTunes, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and more) Here is the Apple Podcasts Link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/next-level-university/id1221110027YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@NextLevelUniversityFacebook Page: www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090634475273Instagram: @alazaros88LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/alanlazarosllc/Resources: Book by Bonnie Ware: “The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying” https://bronnieware.com/books/Bonnie's Blog / Website: https://bronnieware.com/blog/regrets-of-the-dying/Ted Talk by Tony Robbins called “Why We do What We Do.” On YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwFOwyoH-3gAlso at https://www.ted.com/talks/tony_robbins_why_we_do_what_we_do?language=enJohn Mayer Song with the reference to a Quarter Life Crisis "Why Georgia Why" Crisis https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uhYn7ryaWNE&t=0sViktor Frankl Great Quotes!...

Ticked off! | Surviving the Chaos of Tourettes Disorder with Kristof MorrowTourettes Disorder is one of the most challenging and debilitating mental health anyone can experience. It's technically a Tic Disorder. Tics are sudden, rapid, unexpected and recurrent motor movements (i.e. hands, feet, legs, eye-blinking) and / or vocal utterings, either of random words and even vulgarities. People experience Tics and Tourettes in different ways, and few presentations are the same from person to person. Sounds like chaos, right? Today, our guest is Kristof Morrow, a man who developed Tourettes Disorder at age 18 while serving in the U.S. Navy. And though he was eventually be discharged from Naval service because of the debilitating effects of Tourettes Disorder and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Kristof was able to discover his talents as a writer. Today, Kristof is an award-winning Author, journalist and his videos have gone viral on TikTok. Join us as Kristof tells his story and tells us how he was able to find success despite having a disability, and to give hope that anyone can overcome even the most challenging and chaotic situations in life. Key points:Kristof learned at an early age “When you are wrong, it gets violent”When you grow up abused, you become an expert in changing and modifying yourself. It's a perverted metamorphosis because modifying yourself doesn't work because then you have no identity. When you have an identity crisis, OCD and other means of coping are used, but these also cause problems. Military service is a solemn, noble thing. Being a Corman Medic in the navy “was a beautiful thing” and “I wanted to know that I was capable of doing that kind of good.”The letter Kristof wrote to service members in middle school. “What's important to me is to provide care to everyone, and do no harm.” Tics are a brief loss of agency. “The underlying cause is unknown, but I know what exacerbates it.”Tips and Tools:Tip #1: One of the main keys to healing is to understand that the notions you have about yourself arrived from abuse and not from the truth.Tip #2: Know what exacerbates your tic(s), and wear gloves or protective clothing to prevent harm to yourselfTip #3: Tics can manifest when you are under pressure, so learning to manage anxiety is crucialTip #4: When any meaningful relationships or any other life domains are compromised, it's a sign that you need to accept that you have a mental health issue and can receive help for itTip #5: Mental health is not your fault but it is your responsibilityTip #6: Being more forgiving toward yourself for having a mental health condition is helpfulGoing Forward – And Doing Great Things (Kristof's Top 10 Tips): 1. Making inspiring and profound connections with others who fulfill and support you2. If you feel like you have a talent, cultivate it and don't give up trying3. “A lot of my success was privilege” (Being a white male) – Acknowledge your privilege4. Learn to turn rejection into resilience5. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy 6. Work with your dopamine receptors by removing stimulants and sensory input and take medications if prescribed7. Meditation and meditative breathing “Emptying a pool with a garden hose”8. Emotional Freedom Technique or “Tapping”9. Loop Earplugs – invisible noise reducing devices for sleep and during waking hours to reduce sensory input10. “Even if the world falls down around us, we can all get through it hugging each other.”“Justice and Redemption are folly…but to seek them is not.”Link to Kristof's Book:https://www.amazon.com/The-Second-Sun-1-book-series/dp/B0C6FWQCYSSocial Media Links:TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kristofmorrowPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/KristofMorrow/postsInstagram:...

Ben Oofana offers some insights and suggestions for those who are struggling with romantic breakups. This podcast episode is being aired in the month of February, 2024, and is the start of the month where I focus on love and relationships. More show notes to come! In the meantime, take care and check Ben out on his website at www.benoofana.com Healing From Heartbreak - Interview with Ben OofanaToday, our guest is Ben Oofana who, after a succession of destructive relationships in his mid-twenties, realized that he was reenacting the traumas of his childhood and adolescence. He had been living among the Kiowa and Kiowa-Apache Indians had been chosen to be an apprentice for Horace Daukei, the last surviving traditional Kiowa Medicine Man. After the breakups, Ben developed a series of intensive meditation practices to help people heal from deep emotional wounding, which is the work he continues to do today. Join us as Ben tells his story and tells us how we can heal from the heartbreak of a breakup or loss. Key points:Timestamp 5:54: Ben says “To scrape bottom is the only way to understand the suffering of the people you're working with.” And “I discovered ways to heal devastating wounds, including romantic relationships. Tracy: Who we are, and who we present ourselves in the world….that's who we attract. And a spiritual connection can help when you go through a breakupTimestamp 8:28 Ben says “Emotions are the doorway to access this deeper core being and a higher power. Most people dissociate, self-medicate and distract from the pain. Timestamp 9:15: Ben says, “You can't heal it if you don't feel it.”Timestamp 12:08: Ben's theory about why we get into these relationships in the first place: When we have deeply wounded experiences as kids with no resources to cope, we develop coping that turns us away from emotions and numbs our senses and waking awareness. On the conscious level, we have a waking awareness, but the deeper subconscious level doesn't come up until we're triggered. Then, we carry the wounds and draw people similar to who have wounded us in the past. Timestamp 25:00 “Nobody is broken, it's just that sometimes your antennae is damaged or corroded.”“Healing the deeply wounded parts of ourselves will make it possible for us to choose more wise partners and friends in the future." Tips and Tools for Healing HeartbreakTip #1: Timestamp 9:20: You are the only one you will never lose or leave.” When a relationship doesn't work, we can truly be present and feel authentic emotional responses, breathe, digest and use various therapeutic interventions to help. Tip #2: Pay attention to yellow flags in relationships: notice numbing, desensitization, dissociation. This is happening because we can't deal with our emotions. Tip #3: When you are triggered emotionally, drop down into your body and breathe into your feelings and bodily sensations.Tip #4: Develop your senses so that you can feel the person in your body….both the connection and the incompatibilityTip #5: Timestamp 30:00 Do things to protect yourself from negative / toxic people (i.e. walking meditation and healing the deeply wounded parts of yourself). This will make you less vulnerable and will transform you and in turn help you attract healthier companions. Resources: Ben's website is https://benoofana.com/Ben Oofana's recently posted article about strategies for bouncing back and healing after breakups https://benoofana.com/breaking-up-and-bouncing-back-unconventional-strategies-for-rapid-healing/Ben's free E-Book: "The Essentials of Getting Over Your Breakup and Moving On"...

Jealous Minds - Interview with Shanenn BryantToday, our guest is Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert and one of the select few who focus on jealousy in relationships. Many people have daily anxiety and mistrust of their partners, even without evidence of infidelity. This fear runs so deep from either childhood dysfunction or past infidelity that they've now developed insecure habits like checking their partner's phone, text messages, and social media accounts for any signs of infidelity. Shanenn is here on Calming the Chaos Podcast to discuss jealousy, how it can hurt relationships, and how people can move past jealousy and into trusting relationships with themselves and others. Key points and Timestamps:2:42: Shanenn's story of chaos and how she became a Jealousy Relationship Expert4:50: Shannen – “If my own father doesn't love me, then why would anyone else?”5:50 Shannen – Jealousy is shameful for people to admit. “There's a lot of time wasted when your attention is focused on your partner 90% of the time.”Jealousy affects all major life domains: Home, work, family, etc.7:27: Shanenn - The difference between jealousy and envy9:07 Shannen - How Jealousy shows up (3 ways)1. Projection – Have YOU cheated in the past, so jealousy is projected onto another person2. Protection – Were YOU in a relationship before where you were cheated on, so jealousy is protective3. Competition – Were YOU in a friend group where you were excluded or uninvited to events, so jealousy is competitive in nature. 11:46: Tracy asks Shanenn to describe some situations where people are jealousTwo buckets:1. Family of origin is unstable2. The adult experience of infidelity on you helped you to develop insecure habits of protection“Jealousy isn't a problem, it's a solution.” “What is the jealousy trying to solve?”13:47 Tracy presents Hypothetical Jealousy Situation #1 to Shannen and she responds about what she would do1. No cheating is happening, but jealousy is happening.Shanenn: The first step is you need to get self-aware of what you are doing. Then, realize that it probably has nothing to do with what your partner is doing, but how YOU are perceiving what is going on. Then, asking yourself, “Why do you have so much fear about this?” Look at the beliefs and thoughts and check the facts.18:27 Tracy presents Hypothetical Jealousy Situation #2 to Shanenn and she responds about what she would do2. Cheating has happened in the pastShanenn: It's important for the offender to come clean about the whole story of the infidelity one time, preferably in the presence of a professional. It's also important to give the offended partner time to process it, and consider the information they REALLY want to know, and what information might hurt them.21:46: Tracy – Do you work with the person who ISN'T the jealous person? Setting boundaries and limits to questions and requests for reassurance. Work toward not providing reinforcement to the jealous partner24:40 Tracy – When is there manageable jealousy and toxic jealousy? How can we figure that out and take action? Consider whether the jealous person is seeking help or working on the problem, how much love they have for the jealous partner. Seek out therapy or coaching from someone like Shanenn.27:38 – Tracy describes how she works with couples who struggle with actual infidelity“I don't know whether this couple will stay together or break it off, but I do know this is that through the process we will gain some clarity either way. Shanenn describes getting “kicked out” of couples therapyTracy – Some therapists admit they are beyond their expertise, so they do need to refer couples on30:38: We tour Shanenn's website and the products and services she has to offer www.topself.comFree resources from...

Dating Help for Shy and Introverted People - Interview with Jon PethkeToday, our guest is Jon Pethke, a United States Air Force Veteran out of Appleton, Wisconsin with a Bachelor Degree in Organizational Leadership who has developed a dating app specifically for shy and introverted people. Jon started development of the app in 2022 when he founded Introwoo LLC and partnered with CodeGlo Technologies. Together, they developed CoyAmore, the dating app for shy and introverted people. Join us as we talk with Jon about what inspired him to develop CoyAmore, how he developed the app, and how to use it. We will also take a tour of the app and his website to give the audience an idea of how it works. As an introvert himself, Jon will offer some dating advice to those who are shy or introverted and offer tips and tools to use in the dating world. Jon is currently working on his Masters in Science Degree in Sustainable Management at the University of Wisconsin Oshkosh. He currently works as an Internal Auditor for American Family Insurance while also working part time as an instructor for Fox Valley Technical College teaching veterans about small business development. Key points and Timestamps:2:02: Jon explains why he developed CoyAmore“Developing an App wasn't easy at all” It took a year to develop CoyAmore, and it was released in May of 2023.A lot of time and patience went into developing CoyAmore.5:46 Jon explains how he developed the questions on CoyAmore specifically for shy and introverted people. • Based around the 5 universal love languages and paired with people who best fit your love languages• CoyAmore is different, and hopefully will help to create a community that helps shy and introverted people more comfortably engage with one another• The hope is to create more features (like a “Blind Date” Option) which is a second layer of matching that takes the fear of asking someone out on a date.8:45: Jon Explains how the App works, starting with the login process, and the intention of meeting up in person eventually. Tracy goes over the questions that CoyAmore asks when creating dating preferences. Smoking, drinking, political affiliations, height, Astrology, Love Languages, children, pets and movie genresFor example: “What do you think about Astrology?” or “Cats or Dogs for Pets”14:05: More information about Jon and the work he is currently doing while going to Graduate School15:12: How did you come up with the name “CoyAmore” (or “ShyLove”)17:10 CoyAmore Website Tour and CoyAmore won the 2023 May Award for Best Mobile App!21:32: Tips for helping people feel more comfortable developing a dating profile• “Get support and talking with someone to help” to be as comfortable as possible reaching out“At the end of the day, to meet someone in any capacity you need to take a step out.” More people have problems getting a conversation going to figure out if they want to go out on a dateCheck out Jon's blog at https://coyamore.com/blog/• Make a dating profile with support from others• Encouage yourself with positive suggestions• Like yourself and you can't go wrong• Positive self-talk 25:38: CoyAmore is in the first year of development so there is a small pool of people on it now. Be patient! And stay on as it continues to grow.Resources: Download CoyAmore at the following links:Apple Devices: https://apps.apple.com/in/app/coyamore-dating-for-introverts/id1661401116Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.codeglo.coyamore&pli=1Best Mobile App Award of May 2023! https://bestmobileappawards.com/app-submission/coyamoreJon's Website: www.coyamore.comCheck out Jon's Blog! He posts every week:...

Calming the Chaotic Brain - Interview with Dominika StaniewiczToday, our guest is Dominika Staniewicz, one of the few Elite Neuroencoding specialists in the world. She is also Licensed as a Brain Coach by Dr. Amen, a renowned Neuropsychiatrist. Dominika helps people overcome a variety of mental and emotional issues using techniques like Brain Coaching, Neuroencoding and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). In this episode, we learn about how Dominika treats issues like trauma, stress, pain, depression, anxiety, ADHD, Anger and aggression using a mixture of science, neuroscience and psychology. Key points and Timestamps:2:26: What is Neuroencoding? “Using the body, mind, neuropathways and neuroplasticity to create lasting change in the brain, behavioral and emotional change.”5:14: Dominika tells how she made the shift from practicing Sociology, Education and Coaching to practicing as an Elite Neuroencoding Specialist and Brain Coach. “Life was Life-ing for me and I made a change.” Life Coaches helped her reduce her own issues significantly, and improve the quality of her life.Anger Management – The Amygdala and Hypothalamus9:23: “There is so much we now know about the Brain” Dominika's tips on “optimizing the brain”Oxygenation and Gut HealthStress in Your EnvironmentVitamin D and the Sun and other supplements11:52: “Your brain is happy to change…if you direct it.” 12:09: Ways to trick your brain – remember more and study less by throwing your brain off balance, studying, and going into deep rest or sleep afterward. (Stanford study)16:43: Can you see inside the brain? “Absolutely” – A Spect Scan18:55: Working with a client with ADHD - it can become a superpower with the right assistance, supplements and brain care!21:44: What can we do about the loss of hope?22:00: Case Study – A client of Dominika's who was frustrated and unhappy about her work and her life. “The brain likes categorizing.”Sports analogy: People enjoy the journey and the progress they are making toward their goals25:52: Depression and the mirror exercise: High five yourself in the mirror and tell yourself “I love you.” Also, celebrate the things that go well during the day. Yoga and walking in green areas also help!Learning how to put your attention on the journey and the little things help depression. 31:18: Chronic Pain suggestions – Ketamine Treatment at a facility in Arizona can help more quickly than Neuroencoding. Also, use medication (vs. self-medication) 35:22: Dominika's website tour – www.yourbraincoachd.com See Blog, Online Coaching Group and Book39:00: Overwhelm and “shooting for the stratosphere.”Parting thoughts: “Your brain…like your liver. can heal itself.” “There's no reason to choose to be unhappy.”Resources: Dominika's Website: https://www.yourbraincoachd.com/Chronic Pain Website: Dr. James at Advanced Wellness and Pain - 5111 N. Scottsdale Road, Suite 105 Scottsdale AZ 85250 or https://advancedwellnessandpain.com/Dominika's Book – “The Magic of Dreaming Big, Acting Small and Achieving Success” at Amazon: https://amzn.to/3vukMAd#ADHD #Depression #mentalhealth

Sensory Input and Chaos - Interview with Dr. Rebecca JacksonToday, our guest is Dr. Rebecca Jackson, a Board Certified Cognitive Specialist and Author of the book “Back on Track,” which is a practical guide to help people of all ages thrive in this age of sensory overload. Dr. Jackson will give us examples of sensory input, help us understand sensory overload, and suggest some ways we can calm the chaos of sensory overload. Key points and Timestamps:What are the things we DO have an influence on in this chaotic world, and be the best version of ourselves? 2:48 Tracy displays Rebecca's book “Back on Track”3:16: “The more I learn, the more I feel like I know nothing” ~ Rebecca4:16: Rebecca's description of herself, who she is and what she is doing in neuropsychology. “I want to understand why things are here in the first place.”Rebecca started out as a chiropractor. As a young mom, she was interested in human development. She also has a passion for learning. As Rebecca learned more, parents would ask Rebecca, “Is this on track for my child?”Rebecca asked the question, “What can we do today so that we don't have to worry about whether our children are on track?”7:40: “We're sensing things all the time”7:55: What Rebecca does at BrainBalance - Chief Programs Officer (Builds and Develops new Programs for creating change in kids)10:10 Rebecca's Book: Back on Track. “It's all about hope and action plan.” Rebecca helps determine why things are the way they are, and what people can do to change it. “I feel like the pandemic took fire and poured fuel upon it.” “What are we prepared to do about the problems?”13:00 – The research about the infants born during the pandemic – different brains??! “Structural changes in the brain.” Tracy wonders about the children, pre-teens and teens during the pandemic and the changes in brain structure…even in adults!Could ALL of our brains have changed during the pandemic?What happened? “A change in our sensory experiences” happened during the pandemicWe all experienced a limited sensory experience during the pandemic – “It's the same, every day.”We cut off our rich and varied sensory experiences every day. It can disrupt attention, increase anxiety, disrupt our ability to regulate our moods17:36: “When we're tired and hungry, our brain is more negative and has a harder time processing information.” We become vulnerable to emotion. 20:20 Rebecca differentiates between• A sensory Overload• A Sensory Disregulation / Processing Disorder“We rely on our senses to give us accurate information”Examples:ARFID (Avoidant Restrictive Feeding Disorder)The lights in TargetAm I overly sensitive“My sensory experience is not your sensory experience”26:33: “When there is a trauma experience, it puts the brain into a higher sense of sensory alert.”27:00 (Tracy) “The Bulls and the Butterflies” spectrumSensory-Seekers and Sensory-Avoiders – Both a sign of maturity29:11: Should we use Tik-Tok to self-diagnose as neuro-divergent?DON'T go to Tik-Tok for DiagnosticsDO Talk about Mental Health ConcernsSensory overload threshold doesn't equal a Sensory Processing DisorderIf you are wondering if you struggle with a Sensory Processing Disorder, go to the specialists for a Diagnosis31:45: Major Life Domains Palm Tree – if your condition is affecting your Life Domains, you might 32:24: The Domains of Brain Health are Sensory, Motor, Cognitive, Social/Emotional and BehavioralEverything in the brain is so interconnected, so if something affects one area, it affects all of them34:20: How to approach being overly tired or sluggish: The Reticular Activating System has a direct impact on how we take in sensory information opens...

Insomnia Causes Chaos! |Interview with Helen SernettToday, for the final episode of Season 5, Helen Sernett talks about the remedies she has used to conquer insomnia, improve her energy, and calm her physical and emotional chaos. Helen is a self-proclaimed Sleep Evangelist, and has helped many people calm their insomnia by using “Sleep Lists.” Helen's interview is timely because Tracy will also be talking about putting Calming the Chaos Podcast down for a nap, and about the future plans for the podcast. Key Points and Timestamps:5:00 How Helen got interested in the benefits of getting good sleep“I had to deserve a good sleep”Helen left a career in non-profit fundraising to do “Sleep Evangelizing”7:19: It is important to get good sleep! Here's why9:24: What happens if you don't sleep enough – “You are being a much more risky person if you don't get enough sleep.” Tracy's stories about driving while too tired. It's a safety issue!Our sleep gives us a better balance of chemicals to be more positive and to get over obstacles.”13:30 - The critical voice can be turned on with less sleep. If you want to turn off the critical voice, more sleep and quality sleep can help!14:24: Helen's method for conquering insomnia: What she's tried and what works and how Sleep Lists help17:00: You can create a podcast with your original ideas!Helen uses Hrz to record her voice in a soothing manner and 60 beats per minute voice pattern21:00 Learning something new is confidence-building. Website Tour22:40 Sleep Resources25:00 Phones and sleep – Your phone can be helpful to you helping you improve and support your goals for sleep32:00 Helen wants to be there for people to help them be joyful. She also comments on using drugs for sleep 35:00 “If you can….get good sleep and find your way to a deep and restorative sleep without the aid of pharmaceuticals37:00 Parting thoughts from Helen – “It will help you optimize your true self!” “Sleep is LIFE!”Links and ResourcesHelen's Podcast with Sleep Lists, Patreon and information about how to contact Helen: www.sleeplists.com Social Media Links:LinkedIn: In@helehsernett#insomnia #Prozacandmentalhealth #sleepdisorders

Does Counseling Cause Chaos? |Let's Discuss “Bad Therapy”Psychotherapists are out in the world to help people, right? But what if there are Licensed Psychotherapists out in the world who are making people's mental health problems worse? Well, that's what author and journalist Abigail Shrier postulates in her book “Bad Therapy – Why kids aren't growing up.” This book accuses therapists of harming people and children by• The rise in accessibility of treatment isn't producing positive outcomes• Not informing parents what is going on with their kids in therapy• Not telling kids the risks of therapy, and that it can do harm• Talking about feelings which can lead to increased rumination, anxiety and depression• Recommending therapy to those who don't need it• Keeping people in therapy to keep an income stream for themselves• Avoiding helping the truly mentally ill• Selling a generation on the idea that everyone is sick• Telling people everyone has trauma, when it's really just “bad memories”• Strong-arming their suggestions and judgments onto children Full Interview Links:Joe Rogan's Podcast Interview with Abigail Shrier: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z72hgYk-5iIUnHeard's Podcast Interview with Abigail Shrier: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJMhyG50N-Y&t=1459sLinks and ResourcesMy Counseling Website: www.lokahicounseling.comMy Professional Disclosure FormContact Abigail at https://www.abigailshrier.com/WACs and RCWs for Mental Health Counselinghttps://doh.wa.gov/licenses-permits-and-certificates/professions-new-renew-or-update/mental-health-counselor/lawsTo File a Complainthttps://doh.wa.gov/licenses-permits-and-certificates/file-complaint-about-provider-or-facility/health-professions-complaint-processLinks and Resources American Counseling Association Code of Ethical Conduct for Counselors: https://www.counseling.org/resources/... To see my Professional Disclosure Form, please visit My Counseling Website at www.lokahicounseling.com #badtherapy #joerogan #Unherd #abigailshrier #mentalhealth #counseling #psychology #psychotherapy #anxiety #depression #gender #kids #lorigottlieb #talkwtihsometone

The word “Chaos” and “Chaotic” are words that seem to be floating around more and more as time goes on. But I was talking chaos back in 2019, before the Pandemic was even though of. Listen to what I said about chaos (this is me back in 2019)So what is Chaos? • Complete disorder • Unpredictable behavior • Random or intense situations • Small changes that happen in bundles or are sensitive in nature • Disorganized • (And my favorite) A confused mass or mixture.These can be in any of your major life domains, includingPhysicalMental / EmotionalEnvironmentalSocietalLegalPoliticalFamily / RelationshipFinancialSchoolCareer / OccupationalTechnologicalInstitutionalExamples: Big events, like any war, the Stock Market Crash, riots, weather systems that cause power outages or death such as hurricane Katrina), 9-11-2001, Watergate, January 6th, Columbine or any mass shooting, the Pandemic. But smaller, more personal events can cause you mental / emotional chaos: like a cancer diagnosis, changes in health care, moving, getting pulled over by a cop, getting robbed, paying more taxes, having kids, being a parent, graduating high school, a wedding, computer hard drive crashes, being ghosted. For all these situations of chaos there is a simple formula that you can use to calm yourself and have more order to your experience. And for this, I will use my yard as an example. So how did I calm the chaos?1. I noticed the situation and my thoughts and feelings about the situation. (Aware)2. I focused on what needed to be done to restore order (Assess)3. I committed my time, energy and patience to restoring order (Agree)4. I spent my time and energy to restore order, being as patient as possible (Act)5. I celebrated each successful restoration of order….not perfect…but orderly (Appreciate)Bottom Line: If you are aware that you are in chaos, you can assess what needs to be done to restore order, agree to commit the time to take action to restore order, and appreciate each successful restoration of order. You can do what I did in my garden in any area of your life!#mentalhealth #psychology #gardening

What to do when Life Feels Awful |Interview with Tom CroninPeople come into my therapy office all the time saying they are anxious, depressed, overwhelmed, and don't have the life that they hoped they would have. Today, I talk with Tom Cronin, who is a speaker, writer, film producer, and motivational speaker. He has developed a meditation method that helped him rise out of the chaos of misery, anxiety, depression, addiction and agoraphobia. In this episode, we highlight parts of his film called “The Portal,” and Tom comments on how his meditation techniques can help people when their lives feel awful. Tom encourages people to “Change their inside worlds and watch their outside worlds change.” He encourages stillness and inner calm to help you manage the chaos in your life. “Changing the world, one mind at a time.” ~ Tom Cronin Bio:I was a broker in finance for 26 years and most of my life I had no idea what I was meant to do, what I was here for, or what my calling was. I was stressed, anxious, depressed, suffering from panic attacks and severe insomnia. It became so bad that I questioned whether I wanted to go on with life.Now it is very clear to me. I have a very deep understanding of who I am and what I'm here to do. My work now is to help other people like you find their passion and purpose like I did. In just a few years I left finance and became a meditation teacher, transformation coach, speaker, author of 6 books, producer of the film The Portal, founder of the app The Portal, and retreat host.I'm here to support you in realizing the immense potential that is within you right now...Website: www.tomcronin.comSocial Media Links:Instagram: @tomcronin#mentalhealth #improvemylife #depression

September is Recovery Month!Let's let recovery last all yearResources:SAMHSA: National Recovery Month. More information at https://www.samhsa.gov/recovery-monthSAMHSA: Suicide Prevention and Crisis Management:https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/988Call or text 988Email 988 lifeline.org to chatFindsupport.govFindtreatment.govwww.samhsa.gov/recoveryPlease call your local crisis clinic or emergency room if you are in crisis! If you need help, email me at calmingthec@gmail.com and I can find you some resourcesFilm Links:SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) Videohttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J1RG9Ut3Efc&t=1sLife on Third and Pike - @BrandonBuckinghamhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ijA2dv5Bss&t=5sMental Health Crisis Video – Detroit 4 https://youtu.be/F7frwiF1e1M?si=NJ2XHtvHOqkhBiutSuicide Prevention Video - Psych Hub https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TokWrCfq_CcTake care out there!

Why Are Young People Avoiding Committed Romantic Relationships? – Interview with Jack KammerIntro: According to a report from the Pew Research Center, a random sampling of nearly 5,000 adults in the U.S., showed that 50 percent of single people are not interested in committed romantic relationships, and are not even interested in dating. Another 10 percent want nothing more than casual dates. This trend has been true for at least the past 15 YearsHere to help us understand this trend is Jack Kammer, who has a passion of helping people see and understand the connection between gender issues and some of America's social problems. Jack has talked about issues between the sexes on radio, publications, podcasts and in person. He's even appeared before both houses in Congress! His book called “Good Will Toward Men attempts to help us understand the breakdown is between men and women, and what to bring a balance of power between the sexes. Today, we hope to have an honest conversation about why young people are avoiding committed romantic relationships, and to help them feel more comfortable and safe about pursuing committed, romantic relationships in the future. I. This is the chaos: Half of single people don't want a relationship, or even to date!Jack • It's not necessarily that men and women don't want to be in relationship. Men and women don't want to be in a certain KIND of relationship• What does commitment by a man to a woman look like? What does commitment by a woman to a man look like?• Equality in a relationship as an example: “Who should pay for the first date?”• Many men DO want an equal relationship…and…what does that look like and what are the expectations?II. Tracy• Most of the people who present themselves for psychotherapy are dissatisfied with their relationships III. Jack – A Message to the Pew People (Researchers)• “They are not capturing what is on men's minds”• Timestamp 7:37 Jack's mission: To try and articulate in a friendly way the male perspective, and to try and help people understand the male perspective.• INCELs (Involuntary Celibate) and MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) are commonly associated with anger, which is a secondary emotion. “There's probably something they felt before they felt angry.”• Call to action: For men to put into words what they feel and discuss it in a friendly way, to women who are wiling to discuss it in a friendly way. Timestamp 9:45: “It makes perfect sense why men don't want relationship because the idea of a relationship has been so distorted. Men don't want the trouble with a “relationship,” and would rather have the freedom to not be in a relationship. However….most men want to be loved, valued and appreciated. So they DO want relationships!• Tracy: “What questions should the Pew Center have asked on the survey?”• Jack: “Would you like to have a happy, committed relationship with a woman who loves you?”The social media algorithm: When they want men to click, they show horrible visions of women. When they want women to click, they show horrible visions of men. • Tracy: What about a relationship that is physically and emotionally and “Safe• Jack: Better to say to be in a relationship where you feel appreciated and understood. www.noreallyiinsist.com: Jack's Dating App Questions, concerning work-life balanceMen want more!INCELs – 18:24 “Involuntarily Celibate” (See Elliot Rodger) He killed 6 people, 2 women and 4 men in Isla Vista California on 5/23/14. “I don't think he does a good job of representing men who want to get laid.”Video: Dramatization on INCELs (See full video at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0NJois4JMGU&t=5s• Jack: “I'm not sure Elliot Rodger is the best example of an INCEL.” “He was a sick, sick person.”• Tracy: “What do you think the couple could have done...

I. Intro to the topic: Political issues that are causing Americans chaos … and what we might be able to do about that within ourselves and others.II. Intro to Ramsey: To help us sort this out, we have Ramsey Zimmerman, host of the Podcast “What's Worthwhile,” to talk about the topics on our minds as Americans as we go into the upcoming Presidential Election in November, 2024. Today, we will be talking about the issues that most Americans feel are worthwhile to consider politically as we prepare to vote.Ramsey and I have been friends for over a decade, and so our talk today with be civil…and…at sometimes we may agree or disagree on where we stand on these issues. It should be fun and maybe get a bit chaotic, so hang on, and let's welcome Ramsey to Calming the Chaos Podcast. III. Ramsey is on screen and introduces himself to Calming the Chaos Podcast audienceIV. Political Issues to Discuss That are Contributing to the Chaos – What are they? Why are they agents of Chaos? Why are they divisive and upsetting? How can we Calm the Chaos within ourselves related to these issues? How can we work within communities to Calm the Chaos?I. The Economy (our money)• Purchasing Power: Inflation – Wages – Savings – Credit – Interest Rates• Business: Jobs – Ownership – Main Street vs Wall Street – Buying OnlineII. The Border / Immigration (safety)• Border: Crossings – Cartels – Drugs – Human Trafficking - Assistance/Enabling • Immigration: Culture Clashes – Crime – Entitlements – Displacement (wages, jobs)Visit Ramsey's podcast at www.whatsworthwhile.net or on iTunes, Apple, Spotify, Amazon and other podcasting websites. Stay Tuned for Part II#election #politics #trump #kamalaharris

What Should We Do? Political Chaos in The USA |Interview with Ramsey ZimmermanI. Intro to the topic: Political issues that are causing Americans chaos … and what we might be able to do about that within ourselves and others.II. Intro to Ramsey: To help us sort this out, we have Ramsey Zimmerman, host of the Podcast “What's Worthwhile,” to talk about the topics on our minds as Americans as we go into the upcoming Presidential Election in November, 2024. Today, we will be talking about the issues that most Americans feel are worthwhile to consider politically as we prepare to vote.Ramsey and I have been friends for over a decade, and so our talk today with be civil…and…at sometimes we may agree or disagree on where we stand on these issues. It should be fun and maybe get a bit chaotic, so hang on, and let's welcome Ramsey to Calming the Chaos Podcast. III. Ramsey is on screen and introduces himself to Calming the Chaos Podcast audienceIV. Political Issues to Discuss That are Contributing to the Chaos – What are they? Why are they agents of Chaos? Why are they divisive and upsetting? How can we Calm the Chaos within ourselves related to these issues? How can we work within communities to Calm the Chaos?• War / Foreign Policy (money, safety and relationships)• Foreign Wars: Necessity – Cost – Escalation – Right & Wrong – Good vs Evil• Homeland: Terrorism – Unrest – Domestic Needs – Attacks on U.S.• Healthcare (wellbeing)• Conventional: Costs – Availability – Specialized – Manage Symptoms• Holistic Health: Root Causes – Body as a Whole – Cures – Beyond pharma and surgeryV. Recap: Some things to keep in mind: 1. Think things through2. Seek different perspectives3. Vary your social media consumption4. Be genuinely curious with other people5. Be sympathetic and empathetic6. Try to validate others7. Be open-minded8. Consider you may be wrong9. Have tough conversations10. Honor and thank others for their conversations11. Find your voice12. Hear what others have to say13. Connect with each other more14. Manage your emotions while you are doing all of this!Ramsey's Bio: Ramsey is a husband and a father to two college-aged kids. Ramsey worked in the Sustainable Energy space for nearly 30 years, but recently has pivoted towards Health and Wellness. He has been asking “What's Worthwhile?” in his podcast most of this year, and has decided that his answer is … Building Mind, Body and Spirit Wellness. He is now a full time student, studying Holistic Health and Nutritional Therapy.Website: www.whatsworthwhile.net Social Media Links:The What's Worthwhile podcast is found on iTunes, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon and iHeart Radio.

Nervous about today's Election? We help you calm your chaos about the election with Licensed Mental Health Therapist and Author Phyllis Leavitt. She discusses the Psychology and Mental Health of America on the eve of the 2024 Election. Phyllis seeks to understand America, the system we are in, and how the psychology of America can be viewed from a Family Systems perspective. The problems of America are discussed, as well as possible solutions we can employ within ourselves to help heal from violence and divisiveness. Phyllis Leavitt has a Masters' Degree in Psychology and Counseling from Antioch University. She co-directed the Parents United sexual abuse treatment program in Santa Fe, New Mexico for two years and then went into private practice full time. Phyllis has treated children, families, couples, and individual adults for 34 years, and has worked extensively with abuse and dysfunctional family dynamics, their aftermath, and some of the most important elements for healing. She has two previous books, A Light in the Darkness and Into the Fire. Her latest book, America in Therapy: A New Approach to Hope and Healing for a Nation in Crisis, published by Morgan James Publishing, explores the roots of divisiveness and violence in America from a psychological point of view, with the goal of bringing the best of what heals relationships and restores us to safety, into national conversation. Phyllis lives with her husband in Taos, NM and is now focusing on writing and speaking.Check out Phyllis and her work here at www.phyllisleavitt.comSocial Media Links:https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.leavitthttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOdxqvDK9N421AZ5TTxqUgQhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/phyllis-leavitt-630179255/https://www.instagram.com/phyllis_e_leavitt/https://twitter.com/PhyllisLeavitt2 https://substack.com/@phyllisleavitt1Book on Amazon — “America in Therapy: A New Approach to Hope and Healing for a Nation in Crisis” https://www.amazon.com/America-Therapy-Approach-Healing-Nation/dp/1636983367/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3RCWW36ZSEJ9E&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.WXEdnJ4geI_MPm1EEMrBnP-XltHP_DsjMBTBJ8VPCGTA798JEUcAXS74aDqim0XEORa9eIEpWk0kZ983Dj-G2y4kP-HsxgZGTS1dX7HKHchvuPwwypEXQnC99ajC27Pwk58mtlL4tVzy35LQvDAdOAPBy7_bilbpzgIRSIVroYzGqKqc7HFfD8v2fbS-WVkF7ZLnKxuA5e2LuY8hpnvCoKFU7rCileAa3Alx7EM0nAE.nBwOi9JzmB6C05on3_MnYI_x0ZUpRx_VwLFlzze_c7w&dib_tag=se&keywords=america+in+therapy&qid=1715267841&sprefix=America+in+Therapy%2Caps%2C169&sr=8-1On Barnes and Noblehttps://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/america-in-therapy-phyllis-e-leavitt-ma/1144110754;jsessionid=50ED3B222E94FE08658574C1D7FE5161.prodny_store01-atgap01?ean=9781636983363Free PDF — The Six Secrets to Repairing Relationships After Conflicthttps://phyllisleavitt.com/wp-content/uploads/The-6-Secrets-To-Repairing-Relationships_-How-to-Reconnect-After-Conflict.pdf Ask Me to Speak at your conference or other eventhttps://phyllisleavitt.com/phyllis-leavitt-speaker/#election #trump #kamalaharris

Are you a person who struggles with food, eating and / or body image and finds yourself anxious, nervous or stressed out about the upcoming Thanksgiving or Christmas Holidays? In this episode, I review podcast episodes from 2020, 2021, 2022 and 2023 where I have conversations with experts who help you calm your Holiday chaos. With us we have:2020: Stacy Schilter-Pisano, M.A., LMFT, Site Manager of The Emily Program in Olympia, Washington2021: Tracy does Mindful Eating (Solo Episode)2022: Dr. Anita Johnston, one of the founding mothers of Eating Disorders Treatment programs, most notably Ai Pono in Hawaii. She is also the author of the internationally acclaimed book “Eating in the Light of the Moon.” Anita helps us understand the connection between chaos and disordered eating behaviors.2023: Nicole Christina, LCSW, specializes in working with people who struggle with food, eating and body image. Last year, she offered her insights about how we can get through the holidays with her tips and tools. Original Podcast Episode Links:Stacy Schilter-Pisano https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ht-Z0lW79W8Tracy's Mindful Eating https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IqjBQVwVFL4Dr. Anita Johnston https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RxQIL4DzGF4Nicole Christina https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwPUG_XU90AI hope this helps! Take care, and Happy Holidays, Everyone!#thanksgiving #mentalhealthawareness #eatingdisorders

Dr. Robert Saul is a Medical Doctor / Pediatrician, Author and Speaker. He has been guiding the physical, behavioral and mental care of children for over 44 years. His area of expertise is in parenting, specifically in providing help for parents in raising their children to be good citizens, after the Columbine High School Shooting in 1999. Dr. Saul wants to improve our communities, and advocate for our children. Dr. Saul is the author of many books on children and parenting, including “My Children's Children: Raising Young Citizens in the Age of Columbine,” and “Conscious Parenting.” Dr. Saul was a guest on Calming the Chaos podcast before the Oxford High School shooting in November of 2021, and after the shooting on 12/6/2021. This shooting convicted Ethan Crumbley (age 15) shooting students and others at Oxford High School. It also convicted his parents James and Jennifer Crumbley of involuntary manslaughter in 2024. Here is a link to our discussion in 2021:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3rZ6aoiJ6eI&t=42sIn this most recent podcast episode, recorded in September of 2024, Dr. Saul is back to discuss what parents can do to prevent their children from being a part in mass / school shootings. This comes now that James and Jennifer Crumbley were both tried and convicted separately on 4 counts of involuntary manslaughter after their son did a mass shooting at Oxford High School in November of2021. As usual, Dr. Saul offers his wisdom about parenting to our audience, and how we can all be better citizens. **Could my child do that Article Link: https://mychildrenschildren.com/could-my-child-do-that/ **Contact Dr. Saul: Website: www.mychildrenschildren.comLinks to books and other written materialshttps://mychildrenschildren.com/book/my-childrens-children/https://mychildrenschildren.com/book/all-about-children/https://mychildrenschildren.com/book/thinking-developmentally-nurturing-wellness-in-childhood-to-promote-lifelong-health/https://mychildrenschildren.com/book/conscious-parenting-using-the-parental-awareness-threshold/A Great Interview with Dr. Saul is here: https://www.wyff4.com/article/pediatric-doctor-talks-about-importance-of-parenting-environment-on-child-health/27141728c. Social Media Links a. Facebook – / mychildrenschildren; / allaboutchildren2017; / consciousparentingpat b. Twitter – www.twitter.com/@saul1robertc. LinkedIn – www.linkedin.com/in/robertasauld. Instagram – www.instagram.com/rsaule. YouTube – / robertsaulmd #crime #children #school

This is a Catch up on the Chaos that has happened in the first month of 2025, and also a flashback to one of my first podcasts in 2020 that gives some tips about how to handle chaos that are still true today.Catch up on Trump's Executive Orders (to date) Here: https://www.federalregister.gov/presidential-documents/executive-orders/donald-trump/2025Check out Captain Steeeve, who does a great job explaining some reasons for plane crashes: https://www.youtube.com/@UCx8Thl4BbkOwslTGXzPJx0A Here is the full version of my 2020 podcast "New Years Fears" on iTunes / Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-years-fears/id1489271578?i=1000461632275My Favorite Astrologers: Rosie Finnhttps://www.rosiefinn.com/Joe Theodorehttps://www.youtube.com/@joetheodoreastroRikhttps://www.youtube.com/@rikastrology/featuredCam Whitehttps://www.youtube.com/@camwhiteastroHo'oponopono Practice - Listen to me teach it here:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZuoWcyOHafQ&t=91sRadical Acceptance – Marsha Linehanhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OTG7YEWkJFI&list=PL_L7KEOxOeQ_gwUQX8ExtaIt3jSm8XYbK#trump #california #drone

Calming the Chaos Podcast Guest:Lindsey Carnick, LCSW, MSW, MAOnward Psychological ServicesLindsey works with people who are sick of settling for less than they deserve from life.People who are “Stuck”In this interview, we talk about the different ways people can feel “Stuck” in their lives, especially around this time of year…February…after our New Years Resolutions have either failed or fallen flat and we're feeling discouraged and even hopeless.Lindsey and I are two Licensed Mental Health Counselors who talk about ways for you to get unstuck and experience joy and peace in your life. You'll want to tune in if you're feeling stuck with any of these issues:Projects and Social MediaLiving Independently from ParentsFinding Love and RelationshipsCareer, jobs, financeChronic PainContact Lindsey at: https://www.onwardpsychservices.com/#stuckinlife #findingfreedom #anxietyanddepression

Calming the Chaos Podcast Guest:Jeff PattersonThe Yielding WarriorJeff Patterson helps people build an evolving life practice using the meditative arts to help with a variety of chaotic life issues. In this podcast interview, we talk about specifically about managing the chaos of having chronic pain in your life. Our Podcast includes the following:Incorporating the Meditative Arts can help:• Stress• Physical and emotional pain• Relationship issuesApproaches:1. Athletic Approach2. Therapeutic Approach3. Medical 0 Chinese Medicine Approach4. Philosophical and Virtues Approach5. Spiritual ApproachMeditation is meant to be a way of life as a Preventative / Resilience approachTimestamp 7:07 – Clip #1. From the short movie “Struggling to be me with Chronic Pain” You can see the full video at • 'Struggling to be me with chronic pain' (About 10 minutes long)Jeff's tips about her mindset, and that negative thoughts can prevent people from moving forward through chronic painTips:1. Build a life practice around the meditative arts2. Tune into your body – understand it, notice it and learn to regulate the body when it is out of balance3. Regulate your breath, using yoga practices and to adjust your physiology4. Regulate your mind. “I can't quiet my mind.” These practices help you gain focus from distractions15:25 Story about the monks, girl and the puddle16:58: How to regulate and circulate your energy19:36: Understand range of motion – don't worsen your body, do positive movement consistently and daily 20:50 3 Things to think about1. What do I want to get from the practice? What is my goal? Why do I want to get better? Motivators. Mindset shift from “something I have to do” to “something I want to do to get the most out of life2. What benefits can I reap from doing the practices consistently3. Find a guide to help you navigate the chaos24:57: The Academy Information. In person, online, website, links and to his book “The Yielding Warrior26:40: Free digital copy or printed copy of bookJeff has been practicing martial arts for the past 36 years and he has learned from highly skilled masters from seven countries. I've achieved black belt equivalency in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, Eskrima, Muay Thai, Kenpō, Tai Chi, and Qigong.Jeff firmly believes in the meditative arts and their power to enhance overall life experiences. This has led Jeff to study the historical, philosophical, and health aspects of meditative arts. His mission is to share his knowledge with you after witnessing the positive and profound impact he has seen in thousands of his students.Having authored three books, created two audio courses, and produced hundreds of videos on Tai Chi and Qigong, Jeff believes he can help you achieve your goals.Jeff is on a mission to guide individuals like you to optimize your performance, heighten sensitivity and awareness, and find a calm sense of groundedness. He believes you can become a finely tuned warrior who reaches top performance in all areas of your life.Contact Jeff at: https://www.theyieldingwarrior.com/Free Book url https://www.theyieldingwarrior.com/bookFB / taichiyielding IG / theyieldingwarrior YT / @theyieldingwarrior #chronicpain #painmanagement #anxietydepressionandrelationships

May of 2025 is Mental Health Awareness Month!In this video, I talk about May of 2025 being Mental Health Awareness Month, and offer you some information about Mental Health Conditions, as well as a story about my own recent struggles with chaos, and resources for help. 1. Mental Health Awareness is simply being aware of a variety of mental health conditions that can affect your major life domainsa. Physical Healthb. Mental / Emotional Healthc. Relationshipsd. Work / School2. Major Mental Health Conditions include (but aren't limited to)a. Anxietyb. Depressionc. Post Traumatic Stressd. Eating Disorders3. In 2025, Mental Health Awareness Month takes “Awareness into Action.” a. Resources for help include:i. National Alliance for Mental Illness (NAMI) https://www.nami.org/ii. Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) https://www.samhsa.gov/iii. National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.orgiv. Calming the Chaos Podcast https://www.youtube.com/@CalmingTheChaos4. Tracy talks about how April “kicked her ass” and how she got through it5. Two Breathing Methods6. Self-Soothing with the 5 Senses7. Tracy's SMART Method of copinga. S = Stay Present and move slowlyb. M = Manage Emotions (breathe)c. A = Assess and Approach each situation individually. d. R = Resources for helpe. T = Time for Self-Care

In this episode of Calming the Chaos, we're still in the month of May, 2025, and so I am continuing to discuss the topic of Mental Health during Mental Health Awareness month. Today, I am going to talk with Tyler Kania, who is going to tell his own story about his struggle with a variety of physical and mental health conditions, including undiagnosed Bipolar disorder, suicidality, impulsivity, and two rare rugby injuries that led to many major life changes. He also describes how he was able to heal with a combination of inpatient and outpatient treatment, medication and community. Tyler has written a book called “The Maniac with No Knees,” which gives you a more in-depth look at his life, his struggles, and how he was able to find treatment for his serious physical and mental health conditions. You can purchase Tyler's Book “The Maniac with No Knees” through Tyler's website atwww.tylerkania.comOr, on Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DRTPD168/?bestFormat=true&k=the%20maniac%20with%20no%20knees&ref_=nb_sb_ss_w_scx-ent-pd-bk-d_de_k0_1_16&crid=2OSHPPQAGJVA6&sprefix=the%20maniac%20with%20Visit Tyler on Instagram and read his one page stories, which you can read in 10-15 minutes every day at@tyler_kaniaLet's keep mental health awareness going strong, and well beyond the month of May, and continue to take awareness into action!#mentalhealth #bipolardisorder #anxiety #depression

Amy Vincze is our guest today on Calming the Chaos. She is an Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) coach and she and I really agree that Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT or "Tapping") helps people process emotions that could be causing emotional distress or chaos. In this podcast, Amy uses EFT on me to help me process my emotions of fear and sadness at what is going on with the Los Angeles Riots / Protests. I hope you stay till the end, where you will learn new skills to manage your emotions in these chaotic times. Amy's website is www.soarwithtapping.com You can download Amy's apo called "Soar With Tapping" on iTunes, Apple and Android apps. Here are some videos Amy has that can teach you more in depth about how Emotional Freedom Technique / Tapping works https://soarwithtapping.com/eft-tappi... Take care!