Let's Keep Talking with Braxton Gilbert

I have learned there are five different ways to engage with s*xual energy. I am sharing them with you here. 1. Escapism2. Trying to have an orgasm3. Pleasure and enjoyment throughout the entire experience 4. Giving and receiving love5. Ecstatic UnionJoin my next men's group: https://sites.google.com/view/8weekmensgroupcom/home⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

In this video I talk about the many ways a lesson from Alexey Welsh has impacted me in the recent weeks. In short, I am learning the skill of sensitivity in sexual practice and it has been so remarkable I wanted to record a video just quickly outlining the few key points I have experienced. I hope this is useful for you.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Is it time to reimagine sexuality as something sacred and awe-inspiring rather than just a biological function? Join me as I share my personal journey of overcoming compulsive sexual behaviors and addiction by embracing sex as a profound mystery. Influenced by Western civilization and purity culture, our perceptions of sex have often been marred by shame and guilt. Together, we'll explore how honoring sexual attraction can lead to personal growth and a richer understanding of ourselves. Discover how redefining sex beyond societal constraints has been transformative in my life, and how it can be for you too.We dive into cultivating sexual energy with sensitivity and mindfulness, moving beyond the relentless pursuit of novelty. Inspired by Thomas Moore's "The Soul of Sex" and insights from Alexey Welsh, we'll discuss the power of engaging deeply with erotic energy rather than seeking intensity. Hear about four enlightening discoveries that have reshaped my view on sexuality, offering an invitation for listeners to reflect and perhaps find new perspectives on this intimate aspect of life. Whether it's the subtle sensations akin to a meditative practice or understanding the pitfalls of intensity, this episode promises a mindful journey through the nuances of erotic energy.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

I respect Alexey Welsh so much. This is the second episode we have recorded together about sex. He has a truly eye-opening perspective on sex, and a great course online that I have personally used.https://www.lovefloweducation.com/ (Alexey's course)https://www.youtube.com/@AlexeyWelsh (Alexey's YouTube)⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

After a week or two of being engrossed in my work projects my partner asked me how I had been feeling about our relationship. This lead to a discussion about our different "appetites" for relationship and we both sought to understand one another more instead of argue over who was right / wrong / who needed to change, etc. We distilled the 3 things that we think worked well in our conversation, and recorded this episode to share them with you! ⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

I have struggled to know how to best guide myself to sexual well-being. Indulgence, or self restraint in the name of being "good". That false dichotomy split when I realized there was no top-down rule that I could apply to know how I should behave, instead, drawing much inspiration from mindfulness practices, I have learened to simply check-in with my body to see if my desire is even legitamite or just the consumption tapeworm that lives inside my brain and can't stand to suffer a minute of boring, bland, challenging reality! (this is the case 99%) of the time. My line in the sand: no disembodied consumption!I hope this helps you! -----Here's what AI said this episode is about: Can the way we consume sexual content be as mindful as the way we approach eating? Join me as I unravel the duality of sexual messaging in modern culture, where sex is both sensationalized and repressed. I open up about my personal journey through sexual repression and the subsequent obsession it triggered, swinging between strict control and unchecked indulgence. By introducing the concept of disembodied consumption, I invite you to consider the importance of mindful engagement with our sexual desires, much like we do with our nutritional needs. By differentiating between embodied and disembodied desires, I highlight the pitfalls of mindless consumption and explore alternative ways to satisfy our needs. This episode promises to enhance your understanding of how to cultivate a healthier, more embodied relationship with your sexuality, ultimately enriching your meaningful experiences.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

In many episodes I have shared information on the mechanisms of addiction  - so you're better equipped to face it. We have spent time looking closely at concepts like dopamine, habituation, and self-discipline.  (Dr. Anna Lembke & Dr. Daniel Lieberman)  I have for a long time pointed to these topics when sharing about my journey with sex/pornography addiction. But here recently I've started to realize the credit might need to be shared with a simple breathing exercise I started doing about a year and a half ago. (Looking back now I think it's actually made all the difference.)---------------------Here is what AI said my episode / video is about: What happens when you transform sexual obsession into a grounded, self-aware experience? Join me, Braxton, as I share my raw and honest journey from the depths of sexual addiction to a state of more harmonious sensuality. Hear firsthand accounts from my personal struggles and triumphs, fueled by insights from renowned experts like Anna Lemke and Daniel Z Lieberman. Discover how a simple breath exercise became the cornerstone of my transformation and gain a deeper understanding of the brain's reward system and the concept of anhedonia, which marked my turning point.Together, we'll explore how shifting our consciousness can radically change our relationship with sexuality and enhance our overall well-being. Through practical techniques such as breathwork, mental reminders, and grounding exercises, we can shift from a mindset of scarcity and frustration to one of abundance and pleasure. Using examples from my own life, including a revealing comparison of experiences at a music festival over two years, we'll highlight how these internal shifts can transform external stimuli from sources of suffering into enriching gifts. Tune in to learn tools that can help you reconnect with your sensual self and foster a healthier, more fulfilling relationship with your own sexuality.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

5 reasons I don't watch porn (even when I want to)1. It makes sex about dopamine chasing 2. Real sex is better and it kills that 3. Habituation is dog shit 4. It reinforces a style of sex that I am trying to unlearn5. It's mostly disembodied consumption for me, and I'm asking what purpose I want sex to serve in my life? -----------------Here is what AI says this episode is about: Ever wondered why giving up porn could transform your life in ways you never imagined? Join us as we unpack the deeply personal motivations behind choosing real-life intimacy over the fleeting thrill of pornography. Discover how shifting your focus from the pursuit of novelty to genuine, meaningful connection can make your sexual experiences far more fulfilling. By sharing our own journeys, we aim to provide you with insightful reminders to stay on course, highlighting the pitfalls of habituation and the chase for more extreme content that never truly satisfies.We'll also explore the concept of "disembodied consumption" and how it can lead to a cycle of unfulfilling behaviors. Learn how to distinguish genuine needs from mere boredom and make more conscious decisions about your sexual energy. By redirecting this energy towards real-life experiences and genuine connection, you can foster deeper love and mutual enjoyment with your partner. Don't miss out on these enlightening reflections and practical tips that lay the groundwork for choosing meaningful intimacy over the empty allure of porn.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

This is one of the most important distinctions I have found on my way out of darkness of sex addiction. Even when I felt NOTHING during sex.. I constantly chased it down and organized my life around it. Why? Here's an AI summary of my episode: Ever wondered why some addictions feel impossible to break? Join me, Braxton Gilbert, as I uncover the surprising truth behind sex addiction: it's not about the act itself, but the anticipation leading up to it. Sharing my personal journey, I reveal how the dopamine rush from anticipating sexual activities fueled my addiction, drawing parallels to the thrill-seeking behaviors seen in gambling and shopping addictions. This episode promises to shed light on how understanding this distinction became a liberating force in my recovery, helping me see through misleading behaviors and grasp the true essence of my addiction.Facing the monotony of daily life often drives us toward compulsive behaviors for a spark of excitement. In the second part of this episode, I recount how recognizing the choice between engaging in these behaviors and succumbing to addiction was pivotal for me. Through a personal anecdote, I highlight how boredom can tempt us, but by focusing on healthier decisions and understanding that addiction was overshadowing the positive aspects of sex, I found the strength to make better choices. This episode aims to provide valuable insights, encouraging a balanced approach to being pro-sexual while firmly opposing addiction.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

I am practicing approaching sex from a totally different intention. In the past, sex has been all about entertainment, and chasing down an orgasm. However, a few episodes ago Alexey Walsh shared with me a different model for engaging with sex, one that aims at saturation instead of "completion". I am learning to saturate in the of emotional substances that make up the flow of sexual energy (mainly love and connection) instead of just quickly reaching for sex as a cure for boredom. In this episode I tell the story of the two most recent sexual experiences I have had and what they have taught me about this. ----------------------------------------------------------- Oh, and here's how AI sums up this episode. lol   What if redefining the way you approach sex could lead to deeper, more meaningful connections with your partner? On this transformative journey, inspired by holistic sex teacher Alex A Walsh, we uncover how shifting the focus from personal pleasure to fostering a loving, caring bond has revolutionized our intimate moments. Join me, Shekhar Mario, as I open up about my profound experiences that have reshaped sex into an act of love and emotional connection, marking a significant step in my personal growth and healing journey.  Discover how embracing sexual discipline and well-being has led to remarkable changes in my life. By comparing fleeting highs from substances like cocaine and MDMA to the enriching exchange of love and presence during intimate encounters, I'll share the importance of genuine connection in fulfilling emotional needs. Listen as I recount vivid stories of personal transformation that will inspire you to cultivate a nourishing emotional bond with your partner, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling sexual life.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

In this video, I share 4 themes of pornography and sex addiction that upon noticing them have really helped me in my personal growth. I hope that by sharing these discovers they may help you too! Four distinct themes of porn and sex addiction: 1. I can't catch anticipation (they feeling I was after) 2. After years of misuse, I became reliant on my behaviors for baseline dopamine (addiction) 3. I learned to objectify people and this really screwed up relationships4. I learned to see sex as a solo act of consumption instead of fundamentally an act of relationship with someone else (how did I get it so wrong) here's what AI said this episode is about..As I lay bare my struggle with porn and sex addiction, you're invited to witness the raw transformation that reshapes the meaning of pleasure and connection in one's life. This episode is a tapestry of vulnerability and hope, threading my personal narrative with the universal challenge of breaking free from the shackles of compulsive behaviors. We confront the paradox of the never-ending chase for an illusive 'perfect' experience, and how it can consume us, leaving a void where satisfaction should reside. It's a profound examination of the addict's mind, where anticipation's fleeting high supersedes any actual fulfillment, a cycle all too akin to the gambler's plight.Venture into the heart of addiction and its insidious impact on our capacity to savor life's true joys. We dissect the journey of rekindling a damaged dopamine system and the quest to reclaim the essence of sex as an intimate, relational act, not a solitary conquest. Shining a light on the often-overlooked power of co-regulation exercises, we share how such practices can fortify the bonds of intimacy, fostering a deeper connection that transcends mere physical gratification. Join us as we navigate through the complexities of addiction, and emerge with a newfound understanding of what it means to connect, love, and feel alive again.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Have you ever stood at the crossroads of temptation and discipline, feeling the magnetic pull of instant gratification? This episode is about conquering that battle, as I share my intimate journey away from the grasp of pornography and towards a more profound understanding of sexual connection. The allure of fantasy had me chasing an unattainable high, but I've discovered that the heart of addiction lies not in the content consumed, but in the pursuit itself. TLDR: For me, porn was addiction to fantasy. Addiction to the feeling of more and better. It was all about anticipation. I've realized there is no catching that. As I have healed from sexual repression, porn is a less reinforcing behavior.The temptation to live without sexual discipline may never got away. The rabbit trail will always be there. Knowing my vice, and waging war against is has been a springboard into a sense of purpose. Pleasure is a selfish pursuit. Like "the reason for my existence is to feel as good as I can" is a bad way to think of things. The desire for women, sexual desire, is something that I can feel through, instead of allowing to knot up inside. A spiritual perspective. Sex can be about love & connection, not just entertainment. Love just may be the most crucial part of “making love”.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

In my life, I am learning so much about how honest dialogue involves conflict. I am learning to not run from conflict, but rather use its presence in my life as an indicator that I am doing something right. ⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Discover the hidden threads connecting pleasure, pain, and our coping strategies as we dissect the pleasure-pain balance in an awesome conversation with Anna Lembke! Anna is Chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic at Stanford University and a New York Times best selling author! (And a super kind and lovely person)She teaches me why the very things we lean on for comfort, from the instant gratification of adult content to the numbing embrace of drugs, might be steering us deeper into the clutches of depression and anxiety. We take a hard look at the concept of anhedonia and how traditional depression treatments might falter in the face of addiction, offering a fresh perspective on how stepping back from these addictive cycles can lead to ground-breaking realizations about ourselves.Embark on a journey through the delicate chemical symphony in our brains, where dopamine's role is often misunderstood in the pursuit of happiness. We analyze why embracing 'painful' activities such as exercise and fasting might just be the secret to recalibrating our dopamine levels, striking a contrast with the fleeting highs of pleasure-seeking behaviors. This episode  features insights from "Dopamine Nation," providing a nuanced understanding of the long-term benefits of enduring discomfort over chasing short-lived pleasures.Furthermore, we unravel how commercialization and the easy availability of sex and pornography have diluted our grasp on the sacred nature of sexual connections, steering us into a dopamine-driven void. The episode culminates with a deep dive into the transformative power of vulnerability in addiction recovery and the profound meaning that can be found in our struggles, drawing inspiration from Viktor Frankl's enduring wisdom in Man's Search for Meaning. This discussion isn't simply about finding happiness; it's an invitation to redefine our understanding of pleasure, purpose, and nourishment in our lives.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

This episode, alongside  seasoned professional in conscious sexuality Alexey Welsh, brings to light the deeper dimensions of love and connection through the lens of sexual awakening. We navigate the waters of societal norms and personal barriers, uncovering how shifting our approach to sex from excitement and pleasure to nourishment and presence can revolutionize our intimate relationships.Throughout our discussion, we weave together the threads of sacred sexuality, conscious intimacy, and the pursuit of a shared journey in love, rather than a destination. The practice of withholding ejaculation, the balance between pleasure and purpose, and the cultural imbalances that often prioritize one gender's satisfaction over another's, are dissected to offer an enriched understanding of sex as an expression of love and devotion.Venture with us as we pull back the curtain on mainstream notions of sexuality and explore the concept of a saturation model of intimacy, where presence is the goal, and pleasure a byproduct of connection.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Dive deep into the heart of self-awareness and relationship dynamics with us, as we unravel the enigma that is narcissism and its influence on personal boundaries. Our conversation journeys through the tricky terrain of human behavior, as we dissect the spectrum of narcissistic traits—from those that can be healthy and self-preserving to the toxic patterns indicative of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. With the guidance of our insightful guest, we shine a light on the different faces of narcissism, the covert manipulators and the overt attention-seekers, while equipping you with the tools to recognize and protect yourself from the subtle tactics of gaslighting that can plague any form of relationship.As the narrative unfolds, we explore the intricate dance of codependency and narcissism, where our guest shares profound personal stories and therapeutic insights. Understand how the cycle of over-giving and the hunger for reciprocation feed into the narcissist's playbook, as we delve into the importance of confronting our own people-pleasing behaviors. ⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

This episode is a raw and intimate journey into the heart of addiction and the power of recovery. Courtney  bravely shares her harrowing battle with opiate and meth addiction, we peel back the layers of this often misunderstood and stigmatized condition. We discuss the paradox of seeking comfort in the very thing that hurts us and the incredible transformation that unfolds through the recovery process.Weaving personal narratives with insights from Khalil Rafati's "I Forgot to Die" and the scientific perspectives of Dr. Anna Lemke and Dr. Daniel Lieberman, this episode is steeped in both hope and pragmatism. You'll hear my own candid story of sex and pornography addiction, and how these experiences reshaped my world. Courtney's descent into the world of drugs following a seemingly harmless prescription opens up a dialogue about the fine line between use and dependency. And we don't shy away from the dark places, including the physical and emotional toll of withdrawal and the role fear plays in maintaining sobriety.But this isn't just about the struggle; it's also a celebration of the human spirit. We explore the profound lessons learned from these battles, tackling the challenges of living in a world marked by excess and the therapeutic potential of psychedelics for healing trauma. Every story shared is a testament to resilience, and a reminder that even in the most challenging of times, connection, community, and self-discovery can pave the path to a brighter future.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Imagine a world where gender roles are not just inverted but transcended, where the value of women is celebrated beyond sexualization, and where the dance of masculine and feminine energies is a harmony, not a hierarchy. Angel de Santas joins us to navigate through this nuanced terrain, dismantling the cultural constructs that have long oppressed women and limited men. We dissect the problematic narratives around sexuality and performance in relationships, advocating for connection over conquest, and emphasizing the vitality of self-awareness in cultivating deep, fulfilling intimacy. This conversation is a call to action, urging both men and women to embrace their whole selves and to foster an environment where genuine self-expression is not just accepted but necessary for connection.Wrapping up, we delve into personal stories of self-love and setting boundaries, understanding the importance of self-possession in a world that often tries to define us by external factors. We discuss the profound implications of emotional suppression and the journey towards embracing our feelings as sources of insight and self-discovery. By the episode's end, Angel and I hope to have inspired you to not only engage with your emotions and sexuality with honesty and curiosity but to carry that authenticity into every facet of your life. Tune in, find your voice, and connect with us on a level that promises transformation both within and in the relationships we treasure.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

From a crack & heroin fueled madness to spiritual well-being and entrepreneurial success.. Khalil's story is insane and I was so excited to get to hand with him for this episode!AI summary: Imagine hitting rock bottom, lost in the grip of addiction, only to rise again with a story so compelling it could fill volumes. Our guest, Khalil Rafati, has lived this extraordinary arc. From the despair of Skid Row to the heights of entrepreneurial success and personal revival, Khalil's candid retelling of his journey in "I Forgot to Die" and "Remembering to Live" offers a raw, unvarnished look at the power of transformation. This episode will take you through the darkness of substance abuse and the exhilarating light of redemption, showcasing that true change is more than just possible—it's within reach for anyone.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Struggling with the facade of emotional performance, I found myself yearning to break free from the shackles of others' expectations. It's a journey I share openly in this episode, as Heidi Priebe's guidance on emotional intelligence illuminates a path to living unrehearsed and embracing the full spectrum of our emotions. We delve into the exhaustion that comes from constantly adapting and the transformative power of authenticity in shaping a more genuine and fulfilling existence. Join me as we confront the battle against shame and explore the courage it takes to show up as ourselves, unfiltered and real, through the good days and the bad.The agony of disconnection is a silent epidemic in our hyper-connected world, and it's one we address on this show with insights from Dr. Chris Donoghue and Thomas Moore. Together, we examine the importance of honoring our eccentricities and the soul's unique essence, critiquing the role capitalism and social media play in our pursuit of authenticity. As we move through the conversation, I invite you to consider how authentic connections—those that align our external expressions with our inner feelings—can reignite the joy of being known and liked for who we truly are. Listen in for a heartfelt exploration of how to forge deeper connections by being true to ourselves and others.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

When Angel DeSantis recounts her escape from the Children of God cult, her story isn't just a chronicle of survival; it's a beacon of transformation for anyone seeking to reclaim their life from the shadows of oppression. Our latest podcast episode is a riveting narrative of Angel's ascent from a world where free thought was shackled by doctrine to a space where divinity is a personal and empowering experience.Through candid recollections, Angel shares the complexities of her past life in the cult and the nuances of adapting to a world unfettered by dogmatic control. Her tales range from the humorous misuse of the term 'systemite' to the heartbreaking dissolution of her marriage, painting a vivid picture of resilience. This episode also peels back the layers on the therapeutic role of psychedelics in Angel's healing journey, inviting us to contemplate the ceremonial and transformative power of substances like ayahuasca, psilocybin mushrooms, MDMA, and ketamine.Ending on a note of gratitude and encouragement, we're reminded by Angel's powerful message to persist in our own paths toward growth. Whether you're mending from similar experiences or seeking to empower your journey through adversity, this episode promises a mix of wisdom, comfort, and inspiration that speaks to the fortitude of the human spirit. Join us for an exploration into the heart of one woman's inspiring journey from victimhood to a life rich with self-discovery and freedom.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Get ready for a captivating conversation with our fascinating guest, Dr. Chris Donoghue He is the director of Clinical Education at the Sexual Health Alliance, an internationally lecturer on human sexuality, author, and sex therapist. Ever wondered how societal norms shape our views on sex? We're peeling back the layers on sex positivity, body positivity, and breaking free from the societal tapestry of sex. Chris's enlightening insights will guide you through the process of being more intentional with sex and dating.Remember - rating the show on your podcast platform helps me bring more enlightening conversations to you. Enjoy the episode!⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Dive into the fascinating world of personality types as we sit down with Caitlin Hawekotte, a certified Myers-Briggs type indicator practitioner. We'll unravel the intricacies of the Myers-Briggs assessment, exploring the four-letter type code and its dynamic components that influence how we interact and perceive the world. You'll uncover the power of self-awareness and acceptance, as we emphasize the significance of embracing our unique traits and preferences, rather than bending to societal norms.We'll also turn the spotlight on the vital connection between personality types, cultural values, and traditional gender roles. Caitlin and I share our personal breakthroughs and experiences, exploring how our personality types can shape our relationships and understanding of the world. Ever wondered about the impact of societal expectations on your personality type? This is the place to find those answers.But, we won't stop there. We'll also delve into the balance between personal growth and acceptance, discussing our experiences with striving for success and validation. Learn to find contentment in the present and understand the role projection plays in our interactions. Join us on this enlightening journey as we discuss the power of self-awareness, acceptance, and the profound influence of our personality types on our lives. Get ready to take a step closer to understanding yourself and others better.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

If this episode doesn't make you a Christian, Hindu, Buddhist, and an Atheist in one punch.. you may be too deep in the matrix. Thomas Moore is a former Monk. He spent nearly 30 years a jungian clinical psychologist. He's written over 20 books including two of my personal favorites: Care of the Soul, and A Religion of One's Own ... and he's this week's guest! We talked at length about cultivating a personal, sacred, relationship with the divine. Building your own religion and learning to draw close to the painful parts of life to give them the loving care WE ALL NEED. We also talked about beginning to interpret dreams, and seeing our personal mythologies reflected in Greek Mythologies.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

So many of us are caught in endless cycles of validation seeking that destroy our ability to show up to life in a way that truly connects and uplifts others, ourself included. Jordan and I discuss the inner mechanisms of work addiction, the role we play in our partner's personal evolution, and how we can HONOR committed romantic partnerships. This was a great episode. I hope you enjoy it. Please don't forget to rate the show! ⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

In today's episode I talk with  @PornBrainRewireDrTrishLeigh about the ins and outs of porn addiction and sex addiction. I share my personal journey through the confusing maze of reconnecting with sexuality, and she shares clinical insights from her work with patients in her office, and around the country. Together we give you the cheat codes to take the next step in recovery. ⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Years ago I read a book called "The Molecule of More" by Dr. Daniel Z Lieberman. By reading his simple explanations of dopamine I gained clarity into human behavior that felt like a damn baptism into Buddhahood. I reached out many times to get him on the show, and just FOR YOU he agreed to do it. Please enjoy my awesome conversation with Dr. Daniel Z Lieberman!⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

What does it mean to be a leader in today's world? Does it mean embodying the hard power persona, or does it revolve around the values of soft power - accountability and responsibility? We explore these thought-provoking questions in an insightful discussion with Larry Hagner from The Dad Edge. Larry shares his compelling views on leadership, bringing a fresh perspective on what it means to be a leader in both the workplace and within the family.Leadership isn't confined to the four walls of an office, it can extend to the family dinner table too. From setting up agreements to creating a mutually respectful environment, Larry and I dig into the nuances of creating a culture of accountability. We also discuss how the themes of love, support, and high expectations can work together to foster an atmosphere of honesty and respect, drawing inspiration from the beloved character of Ted Lasso.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Indoctrination sucks. In this episode you will get a chance to look at ways that you can untangle and heal from being taught to belief without criticism! Thanks to Trevor Poetman for the YouTube channel and podcast "Belief It or Not" for joining me.Because God said so!⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Today I talked with Mason Sawyer, a young man who tragically lost nearly his entire family in a single day. We discussed the meaning of pain, and the role of purpose in our life. What an incredibly meaningful discussion this was.Mason Sawyer IG: https://instagram.com/masonsawyer91?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==1090 Project IG: https://instagram.com/10ninetyrule?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Addictions are challenging, they're like a parasite that robs you of your natural desires and ability to satisfy those desires and instead replace them with an insatiable craving for more and more and more. Humans are fit for that kind of endless pursuit. Addicts live a life of endless chasing with little to no satiation. Torture.Here are the three main lessons I am leaning about sex as I heal from a decade long addiction.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Ever found yourself stuck in the same patterns, wondering how and why you keep winding up in the same place? That's where my friend Chris Jacchio and I find ourselves in a profound conversation about conscious and unconscious behaviors. We ponder the power of our formative years, the societal programming we unconsciously follow, and how ancestral wisdom might be the key to breaking these recurring cycles. Brace yourself for a deep dive into the shadowy world of self-discovery. Chris and I unpack the complexities of personal growth, the pain of seeing others hurt, and how becoming mindfully aware of our choices can steer us away from potential pitfalls. We reflect on our dislikes, projections, and how these deeply held beliefs can trap us in an emotional rut. From uncovering synchronicities to exploring the dynamic dance of masculine and feminine energies, we unravel the threads that weave our identities. We also reflect on the transformative journey of letting go, embracing change, and repurposing our time beyond the confines of social approval or financial gain. It's a candid exploration of self-awareness, identity, and finding our authentic purpose – join us in this journey of becoming.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Clear up confusion about addiction by asking "What do I need right now?"This increased understanding of your REAL needs and can slowly allow you to start getting what you need. Which is the goal anyways.(here's what ChatGPT says this episode is about...)What if the most potent, pleasurable sexual experiences you could possibly have, lie on the other side of a struggle you might be ignoring? What if the real key to unlocking your sexual energy was not more porn, but less? We're diving headfirst into the deep end of porn addiction, its impact on our lives, and how to reclaim our sexual energy. We're peeling back the layers of why we turn to porn, how it numbs us from feeling our bodies, and how our sexual experiences can transform when we show up genuinely.We're turning the tide on addiction, suggesting healthier alternatives to our common dopamine triggers like Netflix, TikTok, Instagram, pornography, food, and even vaping. No more using sex as an escape route or coping mechanism. We'll walk you through tuning into your body, understanding what it needs and how to respond. This episode is about more than just overcoming an addiction; it's about embracing sensitivity and presence in your sexual experiences. It's a journey to better sexual health and self-understanding. Let's get started.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Are you love avoidant? Do you self-regulate your emotional state with solo practice like binge eating/watching, constant social media addiction, food/porn indulgence, etc? Do you want to see your relationship as a safe space to feel and just BE? Well, join today's conversation with my love Lauren as we unpack my l love avoidant / workaholic behavior and how I am learning to truly connect for the first time in my life. ⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Ever wonder why you're not feeling a deep emotional connection with your partner? Or why you instantly reach for the remote, phone, or a bag of chips when you're feeling down? Today's episode is all about confronting these issues head-on, exploring the barriers we unconsciously construct that prevent us from truly experiencing emotional intimacy. We unpack what it means to be emotionally present with others, and highlight common pitfalls that might be stopping you from achieving this profound level of connection. Our conversation takes us through a landscape of avoidance and escapism, as we shine a light on our tendencies to use distractions like endless work, food, online shopping, social media, and even drugs as a way to numb our emotions instead of processing them with our partners. I suggest the radical idea that experiencing our painful emotions with our partner might actually be the key to emotional intimacy. ⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Having boundaries into your relationships with others is THE foundation of healthy relationships. But what happens when someone crosses your boundaries? What are some practical ways we can respond with kindness and strength?Today, we talk about how to enforce standards in relationships with those people we can most about!⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Listing the boundaries and expectations you have for your relationships couldn't be more important. But if the prep work stops there, you may find yourself with some weak "wishes" as opposed to strong limits. Today, we learn an exercise that will ensure our boundaries are strong barriers to mistreatment. This is key for everyone!0:00-6:32 Intro6:33-12:04 My 6 boundaries12:05-15:51 Money15:52-20:23 Guilt / Punishment20:24-26:52 Privacy26:53-30:41 Separateness 30:42-34:54 Disrespect34:55-40:14 Communication40:15-41:58 Outro⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Guys, here are the 6 fundamental boundaries that exist between two people in a healthy relationship:1. Emotional Boundaries - Your problems are not my problems. 2. Money - My money is not yours.3. Time - Time is money. (See #2)4. Intellectual - We can have different viewpoints.5. Physical - Personal space is a thing. 6. Sexual - Enthusiastic consent from everyone.This episode is a great starting line for you if you are interested in integrating healthy boundaries into your relationships with others.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Ever find yourself saying 'yes' when you really mean 'no'? What if that small two-letter word 'no', could be the key to unlocking healthier, more authentic relationships? That's what we're diving into today. The power of 'no' is often underestimated and misinterpreted. It's not about asserting dominance but staying true to yourself and encouraging others to do the same. We will be debunking the fear surrounding the usage of 'no' in relationships and how it can lead to a healthier dynamic.Moving on, we're exploring the importance of setting boundaries in relationships. Whether it's your romantic partner, your family, your friends, or your coworkers, every relationship requires a certain level of respect, consent, autonomy, and open communication.These are not punitive measures, they are essential elements for successful relationships. Tune in as we navigate this complex topic, offering insights into how boundaries, respect, and a simple 'no' can truly enhance your relationships. And remember, saying 'no' doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you a conscious communicator.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Can you remember the boundless optimism, love, and sense of purpose you felt as a child? As we grow up, sometimes those qualities get overshadowed by the harsh realities of life, and we may find ourselves questioning if we've grown up the "right" way. Join me in this heartfelt episode as I share my personal journey from a youthful dreamer to a hardened adult, and how rediscovering childlike qualities has transformed my outlook on life.Growing up is a complex process that doesn't necessarily mean completely abandoning the qualities that made us who we were as children. Through self-reflection, I've realized that it's possible to maintain our love, empathy, and sense of play while still evolving into responsible adults. Tune in as I discuss how we can strike this delicate balance and thrive in the face of life's challenges.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

I recently had a transformative MDMA experience, allowing me to confront the pain, discomfort, and frustration I've felt due to sexual repression. In our honest and vulnerable conversation, we explore how this journey led to powerful self-discovery and healing. Please remember that I always take extreme precautions when it comes to substances, and I don't encourage irresponsible behavior.Throughout the episode, I share my challenges with overcoming sexual addiction and the profound insights I gained during my MDMA session. I open up about resonating with the image of an angry doorkeeper, protecting a secret shrine of sexual fantasies. By facing these emotions, I was able to create a relaxation in my heart and let go of my sexual obsession.Join me as I discuss how the therapeutic benefits of MDMA have helped me gain perspective on my desire to control sexuality and let go of coping mechanisms in exchange for sexual liberation. I encourage you to look inside yourself and have compassion for your own journey towards self-insight and healing.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

The art of working hard, patiently & properly.  Why are we here? Todays episode could help you lose the weight, build the business, make the money, whatever you current goal is.. by helping you be more aware of a little mistake most of us make when we try and tackle new goals! Most of the times when we want to change something, we hyper fixate, get pumped, and fucking dive in. But as most of us know, those changes are quick, all consuming, and short lived. Most of us find ourselves right back where we started. There has got to be a better way. Well, I think I am finding it.. and I want to share that with you. Let me tell you what I have been experiencing, and then we can boil it down to an ultra relatable concept, together.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Last week I talked about quitting porn, and how all easy access forms of dopamine can wreak havoc on your life when you are trying to be responsible, driven, and disciplined. We talked about how dopamine is like an Easter egg with a reward inside and how life is structured in a way that natural rewards (or Easter eggs) are hidden behind things that we do that are good for us. Sex, food, water, exercise, work, etc. We also talked about how the Easter egg hunt of life is tough, and if you have access to get Easter eggs without the work, you would start to be less and less interested in your life, and become an egg addict..I wanted to structure last week's conversation in a way that could be relatable to people with any kind of easy dopamine habit, so that we can all benefit. This week, I want to hyper focus on one in particular. Pornography. And if porn is something that you feel is harming your life, I want to inspire you to give it up, like I am.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Today I want to talk about why I am officially stopping watching pornography, and more broadly about any and all forms of easy-access dopamine and how it can reel havoc in your life when it comes to trying to stay disciplined, organized, and responsible. Dopamine is like an Easter egg. Running around, climbing up trees, looking in bushes are all difficult challenging things to do. They require effort. If you went out looking for candy filled / or money filled eggs, and you didn't find any, you would stop pretty quickly, and the game would be over. But if you found one after a little searching you would feel excitement to keep looking, and then finding another would still make you want to keep playing. Essentially, the eggs are a reward for playing the game, for participating in the hunt. They keep you engaged and interested in playing. This is how your brain works with dopamine. There are things that are beneficial for you to do, eating, sex, exercise, yoga, etc. So your brain hides a little candy filled egg on the other side of completing these tasks! You do the task you get the egg.With technological innovation, we have been able to find ways to get Easter eggs without any work at all. (Or barely any)⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

I lost my drive for work, and pretty much decided that the whole “work guy thing” was not what I wanted to be. Now, after taking some time away, I have achieved a clarity that has allowed me to see how I didn't lose my drive for work, I was just using a fuel-source that was a dedicate old, and it was time for a recalibration.⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

This week has been so tough for me. I have felt the URGES to go and get back on the  workaholic / sex-addict train. However, I have felt so much love and presence with my relationship, family, hobbies. But there is a part of me that feels like LIFE SUCKS without the RUSH baby. It's honestly been really hard to stay the course. One main reason is because without the rush, I am left sitting with all these real, painful, fears and insecurities. I have learned this week, that one of the greatest aspects to being an addict is the numbing effect on inner pain. In this episode I talk about how work has been like a dr*g for me, and how I am beginning to uncover the unconscious behaviors that drive me to work from a compulsive place. We see progress! ⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

I have been on a journey for a couple years now to recalibrate myself to a lifestyle that not only gives me the work projects I love doing, but also cares for my soul. I am on the tail end of the initial recovery process, and want to share with you the 5 ways I have been working DIFFERENTLY - and loving it. I am finally starting to feel like I am able to have my work, and my life, at the same time. Yay for recovery! ⬇️⬇️⬇️Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

My priorities have begun shifting, and I'd love to bring you along for the ride. Me and Lauren just got back from a WHOLE MONTH living in New York City! In this episode, I recount some of the lessons I learned about my relationship to work, peace, and love. Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Wow. I have been learning so much about my relationship with sex. Lauren has too, and in this episode, we talk about what that has meant not just for us individually, but as partners. Watch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g7XfKLztRuoThis episode is not graphic. Time codes!!0:00-5:29 Intro5:30-6:59 Always been something missing7:00-10:09 Vulnerable sex is new..10:10-11:59 Sex is doing it TOGETHER?12:00-19:49 Self-worth from being wanted19:50-23:08 Reassessing my meaning of sex 23:09-28:59 Unlearning porn and hookup behavior29:00-31:59 Desire in committed long-term relationships32:00-33:29 Actually CONNECTING through sex 33:30-40:19 MDMA sex vs Cocaine sex40:20-47:44 Don't imitate others - Be U!47:45-54:44 HER asking for pleasure54:45-59:09 Jealous of your sexual freedom59:10 Pride yourself on your authentic presenceWatch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

Do you think social media has a negative or positive effect on you as an individual? What about the effects it has on society? This episode we discuss these topics and begin to peer down some rather grim perspectives on social media. Enjoy. Listen to Let's Keep Talking on Spotify, Apple Podcast, and Google podcasts.Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!

The story of Christ. For Drake it's a reality, the truth! For me, it's a reminder of compassion and love, an inspiration to BE LIKE Jesus.. Not a recounting of fact.. What is the story of Jesus, for you? Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel!