The "So Now What?" Podcast

If you are childless after infertility and wondering how to move forward without the future you dreamed of, this powerful conversation with Jody Day will meet you right where you are. In this episode, we explore what it truly means to grieve childlessness and how embracing that grief can lead to deep healing, creativity, and purpose. Jody shares her personal story, her insights from years of working in the childless-not-by-choice space, and how grief can evolve from something you endure into something you grow through. Inside this episode: Why grief is not an event but a skill What it means to experience disenfranchised grief as a childless woman How to feel seen in a society that avoids your pain What it takes to build your own support network as you age Why asking for help is a form of strength and connection Unforgettable quotes from Jody Day: “Grief is not an event. It's a skill.” “You're not needy. You have needs. You're human.” “We grieve that which we have loved.” “Grief is the emotion that allows us to let go of what was in order to embrace what's next.” “I look back at the woman who tried so hard and say: You didn't know more was available to you.” Whether you are early in your grief or further down the path, this episode will remind you that you are not alone, and that you still have the power to build a life you love. You are not too late. You are not alone. You may be childless, but your story still matters. This episode will remind you that healing is possible, connection is available, and the life ahead of you still holds meaning. Helpful links and resources:

If Mother's Day felt hard for you, you're not alone and this week's episode of The “So Now What?” Podcast is especially for you. You've probably spent years feeling like a party of one, moving through infertility and now life without children, not sure where to go to find connection or how to create it. Maybe you've told yourself you should be strong enough to figure this out alone. Maybe you've been hiding, thinking you're the only one whose treatments didn't end in motherhood. In this powerful episode, you'll hear why connection is not a luxury, it's a necessity. You'll be reminded that you are not weak for wanting support. You are human, and you were never meant to do this alone. Lana opens up about her own journey, from getting an unexplained infertility diagnosis in 2011 and hiding her pain, to walking into silence despite being someone who always had “talks too much” on her report card. You'll hear how that silence was one of the hardest parts, and why finding your voice again starts with connection. Lana shares what inspired her to start this podcast in 2021, why she left her 20-year corporate career to coach full time, and how her Thrive After Infertility program and The Other's Day Brunch were created to make sure women like you never have to navigate childlessness alone. You'll hear about: - What it feels like when connection feels out of reach after infertility - Why fertility clinics gave us science but not the soul-level support we needed - What healing starts to look like when you stop hiding - The incredible stories of women at The Other's Day Brunch who showed up not knowing a soul and left with new friendships - Simple ways you can say yes to connection today . even if it starts with a coffee invite or replying to a DM This episode is a reminder that even if your life looks different than you planned, it can still be beautiful, because you are part of it. ✨ Resource Mentioned: Download *The Top 27 Things People Say When You're Childless (and How to Respond) . Click here!

If you're feeling overlooked, invisible, or emotionally raw as Mother's Day approaches, this episode was made for you. In this heartfelt and healing conversation, Lana speaks directly to you — the woman who did everything she could to become a mom, but still doesn't have the child she dreamed of. Whether this is your first Mother's Day since stopping fertility treatments or your fifteenth, this episode holds space for your grief, your story, and your desire to be seen in a world that rarely acknowledges women who are childless not by choice. Lana shares why Mother's Day can be more than just a tough day — it can be a cultural reminder of the life you hoped for and the identity you never got to claim. She talks about the emotional toll of constant reminders — inbox ads, grocery store signs, brunch invites — and why it's not about jealousy or resentment, but a profound sadness that so few people recognize. You'll also hear: Why your grief is real and valid — even if others don't understand it What disenfranchised grief is and why it's so common for childless women How the Other's Day Brunch was born out of this very longing to be seen Why healing doesn't mean forgetting, and how grief and joy can coexist What to do this weekend if you're looking for a way to honor your story and take care of yourself Whether you're quietly grieving at home or attending the 4th Annual Other's Day Brunch in Chicago, this episode is your reminder that you are not alone.

If you've ever felt like life passed you by — that everyone else got the invitation to motherhood while you were left standing in the quiet — this episode is for you. In Episode 166 of The “So Now What?” Podcast, I'm bringing you into a deeply personal story I recently shared with a room full of college students. It wasn't about infertility — at least not directly — but it brought up a feeling you probably know all too well: what it's like to have a plan for your life… only to watch it fall apart. I share what happened when I didn't get into the college I thought would define my future — and how that moment mirrored the heartbreak of leaving fertility treatments without a child. If you've ever followed every "right" step and still didn't end up where you hoped, you're not alone. This episode will help you: Connect the dots between your past rejections and how you define your worth today Understand why your grief is valid, even if no one else sees it Reframe your childless life as one that is not behind — but boldly becoming Feel less alone in a world that celebrates milestones you didn't get to experience Whether you're in the thick of navigating a future without motherhood or trying to figure out what comes next, this conversation will remind you that you still get to write your own story. And that story can be meaningful, beautiful, and yours.

If you've gone through IVF or fertility treatments and didn't end up with the child you always dreamed of, this episode is for you. During National Infertility Awareness Week 2025, it's easy to feel like the spotlight is only on the stories that end in a baby. But what if yours didn't? What if you're childless after infertility, and you've spent years wondering where your voice fits in? This week, we're finally talking about the part no one wants to say out loud: The silence that follows when fertility treatments don't work. The awkward comments. The unsolicited advice. The way people try to “fix” you with adoption suggestions, miracle stories, or spiritual shortcuts. But in this episode, you'll hear what you've been longing to hear: You are not an afterthought. You are not a failure. And you are not alone. Lana shares: Why awareness doesn't always mean inclusion, especially when your journey ends without a child How society struggles to hold space for grief that's not “fixable” What it's like to be left without resources or support when you leave your clinic for the last time A reading from Chapter 14 of her new book So Now What?, called “Avoiding Isolation and Strengthening Existing Connections” What you can do to start reconnecting with yourself and others in an authentic way without having to explain or justify your path Whether you've felt misunderstood, judged, or completely invisible, this episode will help you feel grounded, seen, and empowered to move forward, even when life looks nothing like you planned.

If you've been through fertility treatments like IVF or IUI and ended your journey without the baby you dreamed of, you might be waiting for the day you finally feel “healed.” But what if healing isn't something you ever fully complete? What if infertility isn't a finish line—but a beginning? In this episode of The “So Now What?” Podcast, you'll discover that you don't have to be completely healed to start feeling proud of who you are becoming. You'll explore how to notice your growth, even on the hard days, and how small steps forward are worth celebrating—even if no one else sees them. I'll also be sharing details about a few special public events coming up, including a reading from Chapter 11 of my book, So Now What?, titled “Who Are You Now? Who Do You Want to Become?” This question is at the heart of reclaiming your life after infertility, and I hope it inspires you the way it inspired me. ✨ Upcoming Events (All Open to the Public):

Have you ever looked around and thought, “So now what?” after years of trying fertility treatments that didn't work? You're not alone. This week's episode is for you. In this deeply personal and empowering episode, you'll hear Lana reflect on the powerful launch of her new book, So Now What?, which became a #1 New Release in the Fertility and Infertility categories on Amazon. That milestone wasn't just about sales. It was about finally being heard after years of feeling silenced by a childless outcome. Whether you've gone through IVF, IUI, or spent years navigating the complex, emotional rollercoaster of fertility treatments only to leave without a baby, this episode will remind you that your story still matters. You'll hear: How Lana's unexpected injury mirrored the unpredictability of infertility Why So Now What? was written for women just like you A powerful reading from Chapter 3 of the book that will leave you feeling seen and understood Why this book belongs in every fertility clinic and how you can help make that happen

Are you childless after infertility, feeling stuck in the “in-between” after years of fertility treatments and IVF? Have you spent years yearning for motherhood, only to be left wondering what life looks like now? If that sounds like you, this episode was created with your heart in mind. In Episode 162 of The So Now What? Podcast, I share a deeply personal reflection that started on a seemingly ordinary Saturday. It was a day filled with movement, joy, connection, and the kind of freedom I never expected to feel in a life without children. But by the end of the night, everything changed. That moment forced me to think about what I had built and who I had become. You'll hear how that experience helped me step even more deeply into ownership of a life I never imagined living, and how you can do the same.

You've done it all—IVF, IUI, every possible fertility treatment. You've spent years hoping, praying, and planning for a baby that never arrived. Now, you find yourself in a place you never prepared for—life without the children you dreamed of. And you keep asking yourself, So now what? If those words have been circling in your mind, you are not alone. I remember when they consumed me. When I was told my only frozen embryo wasn't viable, I was convinced I had failed at everything. I believed I had let my husband down, that I had cheated my in-laws out of becoming grandparents, and that I would grow old alone, pitied by everyone. Most of all, I believed that my life would never feel full again because I didn't become a mother. But what if those beliefs aren't actually true? In this episode, I'm giving you a sneak peek into So Now What?, my upcoming book that I have poured my heart into. It's not just words on a page—it's a guide, a companion, and an invitation to create a life you love, even though it looks nothing like what you expected. Today, we're talking about something that changed everything for me: your beliefs. Are Your Beliefs Holding You Back? The way you see yourself, your future, and your worth is shaped by what you believe. And most of the time, we don't even realize how much our thoughts are controlling our reality. Do you believe that because you didn't become a mom, you'll never experience deep love? Do you believe your marriage is doomed without children? Do you believe that you'll always be on the outside looking in while your friends celebrate milestones with their families? If you've been carrying these beliefs, it's not your fault. Society, family, religion, and the stories we've been told about what makes a woman's life meaningful have shaped them. But here's the truth: just because you've believed something for a long time doesn't make it true. I want you to start questioning the beliefs that have been keeping you stuck. Who told you these things had to be true? What if they aren't? Rewriting Your Story When I first realized that my beliefs were shaping my happiness (or in my case, my deep sadness), I had to do the uncomfortable work of questioning them. I had to ask myself: If I wasn't a failure, then what? If my life wasn't actually over, what could it look like? If I didn't let my husband down, what was still possible for us? These questions were scary, but they were the key to setting myself free. They were the key to creating a life that, while different from what I imagined, is still full, meaningful, and beautiful. In So Now What?, I walk you through exactly how I did this. How I stopped letting these outdated beliefs define me. How I learned to see myself in a new light. How I discovered that I was still whole, still worthy, and still capable of creating a future that felt deeply fulfilling. And if this episode has you realizing that you've been carrying beliefs that no longer serve you, let's talk. Join Me for a Free Thrive Call Maybe no one has ever offered you 45 minutes of their time, free of charge, to help you start creating a plan for your next chapter. But I do. During our Thrive Call, we will: ✅ Look at the beliefs that have been keeping you stuck ✅ Create a plan for what comes next ✅ Start shifting your mindset so you can move forward in a way that feels real and authentic to you You don't have to keep feeling like your life is over. You don't have to stay in this place of uncertainty and grief. There is another way forward, and I'd love to help you take that first step. Schedule your free Thrive Call here. Win a Free Signed Copy of So Now What? I am beyond excited for this book to be in your hands, and I want to give 10 lucky listeners a signed copy for free! Enter the giveaway now: Enter to win here. Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

If you've ever felt like happiness is something you have to earn—as if the universe is compensating you for the pain of infertility—this episode is for you. In this special episode of The So Now What? Podcast, I'm giving you a sneak peek into my new book So Now What?, releasing on April 2nd. I'll be reading a powerful excerpt from Chapter 13, Choosing to Love Your Life After Infertility and Redefining Your Worth, where I challenge the belief that joy is a consolation prize. You deserve to feel good. You deserve to experience happiness, not as an apology for what didn't happen, but as something you've created for yourself. Your life isn't a backup plan—it's yours to fully embrace. In this episode, you'll learn: ✨ How to break free from the compensation mindset—joy is not a reward for suffering ✨ Why you don't have to justify your happiness to anyone, including yourself ✨ How to retrain your brain to accept and create joy without condition ✨ A powerful challenge to help you own your happiness today

If your fertility journey didn't lead to motherhood, it's easy to feel like everything else is just second best. After years of IVF, IUI, and trying everything to have a baby, you never imagined navigating a life without children. And now, instead of embracing the opportunities in front of you, you might feel stuck, wondering if true joy, fulfillment, and connection are even possible for you. But here's the truth: You CAN create a life that feels meaningful, fulfilling, and deeply connected because you CAN. In this episode of The So Now What? Podcast, I'm sharing how my recent injury and surgery forced me to shift my focus from what I can't do to what I can and how this same mindset shift is essential for embracing your life after infertility. Too many women who are childless after infertility struggle to see the gifts available to them. You might hold back from fully living, believing nothing could ever measure up to motherhood. But when you start doing things because you CAN instead of focusing on what's missing, you'll begin to create a life that feels aligned, purposeful, and truly yours. In This Episode, You'll Learn: ✔️ Why it's so easy to overlook the opportunities available to you after infertility ✔️ How my experience recovering from surgery helped me reframe what's possible ✔️ How to stop treating your life as a backup plan and start embracing it fully ✔️ The simple shifts that help you find joy, fulfillment, and meaning without guilt ✔️ How I help my clients in Thrive After Infertility create lives that feel truly theirs You don't have to stay stuck in the feeling that life without children is less than what it could have been. The things you CAN do, the dreams you CAN pursue, the adventures you CAN take, the ways you CAN show up for yourself are not second best. They are your life. And when you begin to truly live because you CAN, everything starts to shift. Resources & Next Steps for Your Journey:

Have you been living in a holding pattern—waiting, hoping, and unsure of when you'll finally start living again? For years, infertility treatments dictated your schedule. You held off on vacations, skipped girls' weekends, and put projects on pause, thinking, Maybe by then, I'll be pregnant. Maybe I'll have a baby. But now, fertility treatments are behind you, and you're still feeling stuck. You have ideas of what you could do—remodeling a room, traveling, learning something new—but the energy just isn't there to start. Why? In this episode, we're breaking down the three biggest reasons why moving forward can feel paralyzing when you are childless after infertility: 1️⃣ Fear – Making plans for your future feels like closing the door on motherhood, and that's terrifying. 2️⃣ Comparison – Nothing seems as meaningful as motherhood was supposed to be, so you tell yourself it's not even worth trying. 3️⃣ Overwhelm – You don't know where to start, so you keep waiting for the “right time.” But if not now… when? I recently worked with a coaching client who felt this exact way. She had things she wanted to do—remodeling her bathroom, planting a garden, traveling more with her husband—but nothing was on the calendar. It all just felt big. So we mapped it out. What mattered most? What was her first step? When did she want to start? And suddenly, it didn't feel so overwhelming anymore. This is exactly what we do inside the Thrive After Infertility Mastermind. One of the three core pillars of the program is owning your time—because when you start making intentional choices about how to fill your days, you stop feeling lost in your own life. ✨ Want more guidance? My upcoming book, So Now What?, has an entire chapter dedicated to planning your future in a way that feels meaningful and fulfilling. I'm giving away 10 free signed copies, and you can enter to win using the link in my show notes or by heading to my bio on Instagram or TikTok. And if you're ready to take action, book a free Thrive Call with me. We'll create a personalized plan to help you stop waiting and start moving forward. The time to start is now.

Infertility and Self-Blame: It's Time to Let Go of Guilt After IVF and Fertility Treatments Failed Have you ever found yourself questioning every decision you made on your fertility journey? Wondering if you should have started trying sooner, chosen a different doctor, lost more weight, or pursued another round of IVF? If self-blame has become a constant companion after infertility and failed fertility treatments, you are not alone. So many women who are childless after infertility carry a heavy burden of guilt, believing that somehow, they could have done something differently to change the outcome. But here's the truth: infertility was never your fault. You did the best you could with the information, resources, and circumstances you had at the time. Blaming yourself isn't helping - it's keeping you stuck. It's time to stop carrying the weight of guilt and start moving toward a future that feels fulfilling, even without the children you dreamed of. In This Episode, You'll Learn:

How to Handle Pity When You're Childless After Infertility If you've ever felt the sting of someone's pity—whether it's the sad look, the heavy sigh, or the “I just feel so bad for you” comment—you're not alone. When you've been through fertility treatments like IVF and IUI, only to walk away without the child you dreamed of, the last thing you need is for others to make you feel like your life is something to mourn. In this episode of The ‘So Now What?' Podcast, we're talking about how to recognize and process both your own feelings of sorrow and the misplaced pity that others place on you. If you've struggled with feeling like people see your life as incomplete because you're childless—not by choice—this conversation is for you. In This Episode, You'll Learn:

Do you feel like you don't belong because you're not part of the "parent club"? Maybe you've noticed friendships shift as kids come into the picture, or you've caught yourself feeling excluded from conversations or outings. That sting of being left out is real, and it often taps into a much deeper wound—the grief of the dream of motherhood that didn't come true. In this week's episode of The 'So Now What?' Podcast, we're unpacking this tender topic: Why parenthood seems to create a natural “club” that can leave you feeling like an outsider. How feelings of exclusion connect to the grief of childlessness after infertility. Personal stories of navigating shifting friendships and feeling left out of social circles. Strategies to stop taking it personally—even when it still stings. How to find connection and meaning on your own terms, without needing to fit into the “parent club.” You'll leave this episode with a new perspective, encouragement to rebuild relationships authentically, and a reminder that your life and connections are deeply meaningful—just as they are.

Episode Summary: Many people believe that time will naturally heal the pain of being childless after infertility, but what if that isn't true? In this episode of The 'So Now What?' Podcast, Lana dives into a powerful story shared by a woman in her 60s, who has spent decades hoping time would ease the ache of childlessness—only to find herself still struggling with the same feelings of disconnection and loss. Through this heartfelt and thought-provoking conversation, Lana unpacks why the belief that "time heals all wounds" can keep you feeling stuck and disconnected from the life you deserve. She explains how our brains use defense mechanisms to protect us from disappointment but often hold us back from creating the lives we truly want. Lana also shares her own pivotal moment of realizing that the life she was living wasn't the one she wanted and how taking intentional steps—rather than waiting for time to heal her—changed everything. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why the idea that "time will heal" might not be enough to overcome the ache of childlessness. How fear of disappointment keeps us stuck in a comfort zone that feels anything but comfortable. The power of deciding to create the life you want, even when it looks nothing like the life you envisioned. Real-life examples of women who moved from just "getting by" to thriving in their childless lives. Connect with Lana: Website: www.LanaManikowski.com Instagram: @LanaManikowski Join the Thrive After Infertility Mastermind: Learn More Book a Thrive Call: Schedule Here Take the Next Step: If you've been telling yourself that time will eventually heal your wounds but still feel stuck, it's time to take action. Imagine feeling confident, joyful, and connected one year from now. The life you want is possible—if you're ready to stop waiting and start creating it today. Don't let another year pass by without taking a step toward thriving. Listen to this episode and discover how to begin your journey toward a fulfilling, childless life. Share This Episode: If this episode resonated with you or someone you know, share it on social media or send it directly to a friend who might need this message. Let's keep the conversation going and support one another in thriving after infertility.

In this week's episode of The So Now What? Podcast, we're diving into a deeply relatable topic: the habit of self-blame when things don't go as planned—especially when it comes to your fertility journey. If you've ever poured your heart and soul into IVF treatments, followed every protocol, and still didn't achieve the outcome you dreamed of, this episode is for you. Drawing parallels from a recent personal experience, I share how easy it is to feel like you've fallen short despite doing everything right. You'll learn why blaming yourself only deepens the hurt and how to shift your focus toward celebrating your efforts instead of dwelling on what didn't work out. I'll also share stories of women like you who have stopped measuring their worth by outcomes beyond their control and started creating meaningful milestones in their lives. From rediscovering old passions to building a life that feels true and fulfilling, you'll hear what's possible when you choose to stop shaming yourself and start showing up as your own greatest supporter. Key Takeaways: Why self-blame feels natural after infertility but ultimately holds you back. The connection between shame and your sense of self-worth. How to rewrite the narrative of what success and fulfillment look like without children. The transformative power of compassion in how you speak to yourself. Resources Mentioned: Free Resource: Top 27 Things People Say When You're Childless and How to Respond. Ready to Take the Next Step? If this resonates with you, book a free Thrive Call. In just 45 minutes, we'll create a plan to help you feel more fulfilled and confident about the future. Click here to book your Thrive Call now. Connect With Me: Instagram: @lanamanikowski YouTube: Lana Manikowski TikTok: @lanamanikowski You've worked so hard already—it's time to create a life that makes you feel proud of who you are.

Welcome to The So Now What? Podcast with Lana Manikowski. In this episode, we kick off the new year by exploring a life-changing question: How long are you willing to wait to believe that something is possible for you? If you've left fertility treatments without the child you dreamed of—or if you're feeling stuck in the aftermath of your infertility journey—this episode is for you. You'll hear: Why dreaming again can feel impossible after infertility and how to shift that mindset. How to stop anchoring your future to the pain and disappointment of your past. What it means to reconnect with the version of you that exists today—a childless, determined woman capable of creating new dreams. The transformative question that helped Lana move forward and create a fulfilling, childless life. Lana also introduces you to the Thrive After Infertility Mastermind, a 12-week program designed to help you reconnect with who you are today and build a life that feels meaningful without the milestones of motherhood. If support groups leave you feeling stuck, this growth-oriented program could be what you need to start thriving.

Merry Christmas to Those Who Celebrate This week's episode of The "So Now What?" Podcast is here to guide you through the complexities of the holiday season, especially if you're navigating the challenges of being childless after infertility treatments. Christmas can be a beautiful season of nostalgia and tradition, but it can also bring unexpected emotions - grief, longing, and loneliness - if your journey to motherhood didn't turn out as planned.

The holidays can feel especially heavy when you're childless after infertility and IVF. In this episode, I'm sharing heartfelt insights and practical strategies to help you navigate this season with grace, even when it feels like everything revolves around kids. Whether you're grieving the loss of a dream of motherhood after fertility treatments failed you, feeling out of place at family gatherings, or looking for new ways to make the season meaningful, this episode is for you. Join me as I offer support, validation, and actionable tips to help you honor your emotions, set boundaries, and create moments of joy that align with your life. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How to Honor Your Grief and Emotions: Why it's common to feel both sadness and joy this season, especially after navigating infertility and childlessness after IVF failed. Setting Boundaries at Family Gatherings: How to protect your emotional well-being while showing up in a way that feels true to you. Navigating Holiday Triggers: Managing the constant reminders of what you hoped life would look like, from social media to family traditions, and why it's normal to feel the grief of being childless after infertility. Creating Your Joyful Traditions: Ideas for new ways to celebrate that bring comfort and meaning to your holiday season when life without children looks different than you expected. Why You're Not Alone: Real stories of support and love, even when life looks different than you dreamed, and why community matters when you are childless not by choice. Special Invitation: Join my FREE Masterclass on Thursday, December 19th at 6 PM Central Time where we'll dive deeper into handling the holidays without children. I'll share more tools and ideas to help you feel prepared, connected, and at peace this season, even if you're childless after infertility. Register Here  Key Moments: [00:01:31] Healing and the love I received—even without kids, and how I am processing life after IVF. [00:03:08] How the holidays highlight grief and bring up unexpected emotions for childless women after infertility. [00:06:32] The truth about grief: it doesn't disappear, but we can learn to carry it with us. [00:07:25] Setting boundaries and permitting yourself to step back when needed. [00:08:31] Ideas to create new, meaningful traditions that honor your experience as a woman without children. [00:10:32] Holding two emotions at once: joy for others and grief for yourself. Quotes to Inspire You: “Your worth is not defined by whether or not you have children. Your presence matters deeply.” “You can love your nieces and nephews while also grieving what hasn't happened for you.” “The holidays can feel heavy, but you don't have to navigate them alone.” Connect with Me: YouTube: @lana.manikowski  Instagram: @lana.manikowski TikTok: @lana.manikowski Website: lanamanikowski.com Resources Mentioned: Register for the Free Masterclass: Handling the Holidays: Managing Your Family, Traditions, and Celebrations Without Kids Free Resource: The Top 2️⃣7️⃣ Things People Say When You Are Childless (...and how to respond) If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who may need to hear this message. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review—it helps me reach more women navigating life after infertility and IVF who need to hear they are not alone. You are seen. You are loved. And you are not alone.

In today's episode of The 'So Now What?' Podcast, we're tackling a deeply personal fear that many women who are childless after infertility and IVF struggle with: the fear of growing old alone. When the dream of motherhood doesn't become a reality, it's natural to worry about who will be there to care for us as we age. We often think that without children, we're missing a safety net for the future. But what if that isn't the whole story? Lana Manikowski, certified life coach and advocate for women who are childless after infertility, shares a personal story about the recent outpouring of support she received after a sudden injury. From friends offering rides and food deliveries to unexpected check-ins, Lana's experience highlights a powerful reminder: family, love, and care come in many forms — not just from children. In this episode, we'll explore: - Why the fear of aging alone affects so many childless women after fertility treatments - Practical ways to redefine what “family” and “support” can look like in our lives - Steps to build intentional community and meaningful relationships that bring love, connection, and support - How to ease the uncertainty of the future by planning and building a fulfilling life without the milestones of motherhood   Join us for this heartfelt discussion on shifting our perspective, letting go of the “what ifs,” and finding reassurance in the connections we're building today.   Tune in to learn more about: - How to embrace a fulfilling future as a childless woman after infertility - Ways to find and nurture a support system beyond biological family - Practical tips to let go of the fear of aging alone without children - Strategies to build a strong, caring community after IVF and fertility treatments Links Mentioned: -Register for the Free Holiday MasterClass here - Free Resource: “The Top 27 Things People Say When You're Childless (…and how to respond)    Download this helpful guide to handle common questions and comments that can feel intrusive or hurtful: https://lanamanikowski.com/thingspeoplesay

  Welcome to The "So Now WHat?" Podcast. I am so glad that you're here. I created this podcast because I remember what it felt like after I left fertility treatments without the child that I dreamed of.  When I looked around for resources to help me navigate a life I hadn't planned for, I found so few that truly spoke to the experiences of an unexpected childless life.  So in 2021, I became a certified life coach and started this podcast because I knew that other women were searching just like I was for ways to thrive and feel fulfilled, even without the children that we dreamed of. On this playlist, I'm sharing a few of my favorite episodes just to help you get started, but I also encourage you to dive in to any of the others that might resonate with you. Each week I release about a 10 or 15 minute episode to offer support, acknowledgement, and real life strategies to help you recognize that you are not alone. Together, we'll look for opportunities to move forward and redefine what a fulfilling life can look like, even though it turned out so differently than you imagined. If you want to learn more about my coaching practice and the Thrive After Infertility Mastermind, you can visit my website, lanamanikowski. com. And if you're in the Chicago area, I'd love for you to join my meetup group. We have an awesome group of women who are childless and childfree, We get together every so often and connect, share, and support each other.  And if you find yourself wanting to visit the Chicago area on Mother's Day weekend, I would love for you to join me at the Other's Day Brunch, an annual event that has gotten national media attention, and it's a celebration I host every year the day before Mother's Day to create connection and awareness and unity for women who don't have children at a time that feels so hard. All right, so let's dive in.

Welcome to Episode 147 of The “So Now What?” Podcast with Lana Manikowski. In this special episode, Lana dives deep into the often-overlooked journey that follows fertility treatments for women who leave without a child. Whether you're a fertility doctor, clinic staff, mental health provider, or a woman navigating life after infertility, this episode highlights the unmet needs and real stories from women who feel unseen after treatment ends. Highlights: Free Masterclass on Handling the Holidays    Join Lana's free MasterClass on November 20 at 6 p.m. CST to learn how to manage holiday gatherings and traditions when childless after infertility. In this live class, you'll gain strategies for building new traditions, handling family dynamics, and creating a plan for holiday celebrations. Register here to reserve your spot!   When Treatment Ends: What Childless Women Really Want    Lana addresses the gap in support often felt after IVF and fertility treatments conclude. Without a plan or follow-up, patients are left to navigate grief, mental health challenges, and marital and social dynamics alone. Lana shares her recent discussions at the American Society for Reproductive Medicine's Congress, where she raised awareness about the importance of continued support for patients who leave treatment without a child.   Real Voices from Infertiole, Childless, Women Who Needed More    Lana shares direct feedback from her community of listeners and followers. Hear heartfelt perspectives from women who longed for acknowledgment and empathy post-treatment, as well as a structured care plan including mental health resources, peer support networks, and follow-up care. These women are calling for a roadmap to help navigate the grief and redefine purpose after infertility.   Advocating for Better Resources when IVF Fails    Lana encourages women to advocate for their needs by requesting additional resources and post-treatment support from clinics and mental health professionals. To the fertility community, Lana calls for a more holistic approach, recognizing that when treatments end, the journey is far from over for many women. Support beyond the treatment room can bridge a painful void.   Why It Matters: This episode sheds light on the immense need for a compassionate continuum of care when ferrility treatment ends without children. From practical resources to sensitive emotional support, The "So Now What?" Podcast aims to uplift women who feel left behind and encourages providers to extend the care they give their patients. Links Mentioned: -Register for the Free Holiday MasterClass here - Free Resource: “The Top 27 Things People Say When You're Childless (…and how to respond)    Download this helpful guide to handle common questions and comments that can feel intrusive or hurtful: https://lanamanikowski.com/thingspeoplesay   For fertility doctors, fertility clinics, and anyone involved in patient care, this episode is a heartfelt reminder that the impact of fertility treatments extends far beyond conception. Understanding and addressing these needs can help more women feel seen and supported through their childless journeys.  

Hello, beautiful! I'm so glad you're here for this week's episode of The "So Now What?" Podcast.  If you're watching on YouTube, you'll notice I'm in a different setting than usual. I'm currently in Denver, attending the American Society of Reproductive Medicine  (ASRM) Annual Congress. This episode might sound a bit different, but it's coming straight from the heart, and I think it's one you'll connect with if you've been searching for recognition after leaving IVF or fertility treatments without the child you dreamed of. In this episode, I share a deeply personal story about reuniting with my reproductive endocrinologist after six years of wondering what I'd say if we ever crossed paths again. This was the doctor who, back in 2018, told me my only frozen embryo wasn't viable for implantation. It was a moment that shifted everything for me and my journey to motherhood. If you've ever felt like you were left to figure out life on your own after fertility treatments, this episode is for you. I talk about what it was like to finally speak with him face-to-face and express gratitude for his efforts, even though the outcome wasn't what I'd hoped for. It was also an opportunity to tell him how I've moved forward—leaving my corporate career, becoming a life coach, and now dedicating myself to helping women like you who are navigating life after IVF. As you listen, I want you to think about what you would say if you ever had the chance to speak to your own Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE) or fertility team again. What would you want them to know about where you are today? Whether or not you ever get that chance, it's important to acknowledge yourself for how far you've come and the life you're creating, even though it looks different than what you envisioned. After the episode, I encourage you to take a few minutes to write down what your conversation would look like. It's a powerful exercise in recognizing your strength, resilience, and everything you've achieved since your fertility journey ended. And if you're still feeling unsure about what's next, I'm here to help. Book a free Thrive Call with me, and together, we'll create a plan for how you can move forward feeling fulfilled, even without the children you hoped for. It's time to thrive again, and I'm here to walk that path with you. Key Takeaways: You're not alone in feeling left behind after fertility treatments. It's a common experience to feel lost without the support and guidance you once had. Think about what closure looks like for you. Even if you never speak to your RE again, you can still acknowledge what you've accomplished since that part of your life ended. Your story is yours to create. The narrative around living without children doesn't have to be one of loss or sadness. You have the power to rewrite your story into something beautiful and fulfilling. Resources: YouTube:  Watch this week's podcast on Youtube.  Find my YouTube channel here. Free Download: The Top 27 Things People Say When You're Childless and How to Respond. Grab your free copy at https://LanaManikowski.com/thingspeoplesay Thrive Call: Ready to create a plan for thriving without the children you dreamed of? Schedule a free Thrive Call with me at https://LanaManikowski.com/thrivecall Thank you for tuning in this week. Remember, it's never too late to discover your meaning and create a life that feels whole, even if motherhood wasn't part of your story. I'm so proud of you for showing up and doing the work to live life on your terms. Until next week, take care, and know that I see you, I celebrate you, and I love you.  

Welcome to this week's episode of The “So Now What?” Podcast. In this episode, you'll dive into something that may resonate deeply with you, especially if you're a woman who is childless after infertility treatments. Lana opens up about those painful moments when you're surrounded by reminders of what you longed for but never came to pass. If you've ever felt that pang in your heart when someone else has what you so desperately desired, this episode will speak to you.   What You'll Hear in This Episode:   - Why you might feel pressure to prove your worth through possessions or achievements, especially after your infertility journey. - How society's unspoken rules tell you that you need to have something—like a child, a prestigious job, or financial success—to be admired. - What happens when the one thing you longed for, a child, never comes, and how that affects your sense of worth. - How to stop looking outside yourself for validation and instead turn inward to find your inherent value. - The exhaustion that comes with constantly striving for external success and how to break free from the cycle of feeling "not enough."   Lana shares her personal experience of walking past a mother surrounded by people admiring her baby, and how it triggered feelings of inadequacy. She challenges you to consider: what if you didn't need anyone or anything outside of yourself to prove your worth? Key Takeaways: - You don't need to keep acquiring things—whether it's a baby, a degree, or a high-paying job—to feel valuable. - True worth comes from within. You are enough just as you are, even if you never become a mother. - You can live a fulfilled, meaningful life without needing to meet society's standards of success and motherhood. - Reflect on how much you've been through and admire yourself for your strength and resilience in navigating life after infertility. If you're feeling that familiar pressure to “keep up” or “prove yourself” in a world that values achievements over true self-worth, this episode offers you a moment to pause and realize that you are already enough.   Resources Mentioned: - Download Lana's free resource: The Top 27 Things People Say When You're Childless and How to Respond by clicking here   Upcoming Events: - Stay tuned for details about Lana's upcoming free masterclass on How to Handle the Holidays as a Childless Woman After Infertility. Sign up for her love letters here to get all the details.   Follow Lana: - Instagram: @Lana.Manikowski -YouTube: @lana.manikowski Be sure to share this episode with anyone who needs to hear this message. Remember, it's never too late to discover your meaning and create a fulfilled life—no matter what society tells you.   Subscribe & Review: If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe to The “So Now What?” Podcast and leave a review. Your support helps other women like you find these messages and feel less alone in their journey.  

In this week's episode of The "So Now What?" Podcast, we explore an issue that many women who are childless after infertility experience—feeling overlooked or dismissed as adults simply because they don't have children. If you've ever felt like society doesn't take you seriously because you didn't become a mother, this episode is for you. In today's conversation, we talk about the challenges of navigating life when you're seen as "less than" because you didn't become a parent. Whether at family gatherings or in the workplace, many of us find that our achievements and contributions are often downplayed compared to parenting milestones.  I know how hard it can be to attend family gatherings like Thanksgiving, where conversations revolve around kids and their latest achievements. It's easy to feel like your work promotions, hobbies, and personal growth aren't valued in the same way. And if you've ever felt like your colleagues think your life lacks the complexity or responsibility of parenthood, you're not alone. In this episode, I'll guide you through ways to reclaim your confidence and remind yourself—and others—that your worth is not defined by your ability to have children. We'll also explore how to celebrate your accomplishments and embrace the multifaceted woman that you are, beyond the narrow societal definition of adulthood.  What You'll Learn in This Episode: - Why society often overlooks women without children and how it impacts your self-worth. - How to confidently navigate family events and workplace dynamics without feeling diminished. - Practical steps to stop shrinking and start celebrating your life and accomplishments, even without children. - How to break free from societal expectations and redefine what it means to be a grown-up.  Sign Up for the Thrive After Infertility Mastermind Are you ready to stop feeling sidelined and start thriving? Join me in my *Thrive After Infertility Mastermind* this fall, where we'll dive deep into reclaiming your narrative, celebrating your achievements, and navigating the complexities of the holidays without children. The final class of the year starts soon, and it includes bonus support around the holiday season—Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and beyond.  How to join?  Book Your Free Thrive Call here. Sign up for a free 45-minute Thrive Call to explore how you can create a fulfilling life without the children you dreamed of. In this call, we'll discuss your challenges and aspirations, and I'll share how the Mastermind can help you thrive in ways you never thought possible.   Get Your Free Guide If you've ever been in a conversation where people offer unsolicited advice on how to become a mom, download my free resource, The Top 27 Things People Say When You're Childless and How to Respond. Head over to LanaManikowski.com/thingspeoplesay or click here to get your copy.   I hope this episode reminds you that you ARE enough, just as you are. Your life is meaningful and valuable—even without the children you once dreamed of. Tune in, and let's break down the myths around what it means to be an adult.  

After going through infertility treatments, including IVF, many women find themselves facing life without the child they hoped for. This journey of being childless not by choice is filled with grief, heartache, and often, a deep sense of comparison. You may be asking yourself questions like, “Why can't my life look like hers?” or “What am I supposed to do now without the milestones of motherhood to guide me?” In this episode, I want to remind you that while it's natural to compare yourself to others, it's not where your fulfillment lies. You can begin to break free from those comparisons and create a life that is rich with meaning—even when it doesn't involve children. We'll talk about what it looks like to reclaim your body after years of IVF and fertility treatments, let go of the idea that motherhood is the only path to joy, and start building a future that excites and fulfills you. Imagine waking up each morning, no longer weighed down by the question of  “What if?”  Instead, you're filled with the excitement of new possibilities. You're investing in your passions, learning new things, and finding ways to make a difference in the world. Your body feels like a place of strength again—not because you had a baby, but because you're learning to appreciate what it can do, how it moves, and the joy it brings you in everyday moments. This episode is all about helping you stop comparing your life to others and start living with purpose, joy, and fulfillment. Your life, just as it is, has so much beauty to offer. Links and Resources: Ready to thrive after infertility? Click here to join the Thrive After Infertility Mastermind Feeling stuck? Click here to book your Free Thrive Call today Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram for daily encouragement: @Lana.Manikowski Subscribe & Review: If today's episode spoke to you, please consider subscribing and leaving a review. Share your thoughts, let me know how this episode helped you, and spread the word so we can reach more women who are on this journey of being childless after infertility and IVF. You don't have to navigate this alone—together, we can find meaning and fulfillment beyond comparison.

If you're childless after infertility treatments, you are not alone, even though it might feel like you are. In this episode, I open up about my personal journey through seven years of fertility treatments, only to end up without the child I dreamed of. I know firsthand how devastating and isolating this experience can be. What most women don't realize is that these feelings—grief, confusion, loss of purpose—are prevalent among women who have undergone IVF or fertility treatments without having a child. But here's the truth: most fertility clinics don't offer the support or resources to help you make sense of life after treatments. We're left to navigate this uncharted, unexpected path without guidance. That's where today's episode comes in. I'll walk you through the 10 most common struggles women face after unsuccessful fertility treatments, and more importantly, I'll show you how you can begin to shift your perspective so these struggles no longer define your life. Key Points from This Episode 1. Grief and Loss     Grieving after infertility is specific and complex.Grieving the loss of your dream of motherhood is deep and often unacknowledged by others. It doesn't have to define you forever. 2. Identity and Purpose    When motherhood doesn't happen, it can feel like you've lost your identity. But there is so much more to you than the title of “mom.” You can redefine your life and find purpose in a way that is fulfilling. 3. Feelings of Failure     It's easy to feel like your body failed you, but infertility is not your fault. Learning to release self-judgment is crucial to moving forward and finding peace. 4. Compassion and Jealousy     Seeing friends and family share milestones with their children can lead to feelings of comparison and jealousy. But you can release those feelings and celebrate your own unique journey. 5. Isolation    Infertility and childlessness can be isolating. You're not alone in feeling this way. Finding a community that truly understands what you're going through is important. 6. Relationships with Partners    Infertility puts a strain on relationships, but it's possible to reconnect with your partner in a deeper way once you release the weight of grief. 7. Navigating Friendships    Being the only childless friend in your circle can feel isolating, but your friendships can evolve, and you can still find meaningful connection. 8. Cultural and Social Expectations    Society places a lot of pressure on women to find purpose in motherhood. However, you define your own success, and it doesn't have to include children. 9. Uncertainty About the Future    When your future no longer includes children, it can feel like you've lost direction. But you can create a new vision for your life that feels exciting and full of possibility. 10. Fear of Aging Alone     The fear of growing old without children is real, but you can build meaningful relationships and a support system that gives you love and care throughout your life.   Why This Episode Matters:   The feelings you're experiencing after leaving fertility treatments without a child are not unique to you. They are incredibly common, yet rarely talked about. Most fertility clinics don't provide resources for women in this situation, which leaves us feeling alone. But you don't have to stay stuck in these feelings forever. There is a way to shift your perspective and move from merely surviving to thriving. In this episode, I share how the women I've helped through my Thrive After Infertility Mastermind have shifted their lives from being consumed by grief and loss to feeling fulfilled and hopeful for the future. As someone with an advanced certification in grief and post-traumatic growth, I understand the weight you're carrying, and I'm here to help you transform your life. Resources Mentioned:   Thrive After Infertility:  A 12-week coaching program for women who are childless after infertility, and craving a sisterhood with women who are ready to thrive and feel fulfilled without the children you always dreamed of -Free Thrive Call: Ready to explore what's next for you? Let's get on a free call and create a plan that helps you move forward.  - Free Resource: Grab my free guide, *“The Top 27 Things People Say When You're Childless and How to Respond”*.   Join the Conversation Have you experienced any of these struggles? How are you working through them? Connect with me on Instagram @lana.manikowski and let's continue this important conversation. Remember, you don't have to navigate this journey alone.  

Welcome to another episode of The "So Now What?" Podcast! This week, we're diving into the important topic of body image after infertility—a struggle many women face when their journey to motherhood didn't go as planned. If you've been feeling disconnected or resentful toward your body after years of fertility treatments, this episode is for you. In this episode, you'll learn: Why body image struggles are common for women who are childless after infertility. How to begin the process of healing your relationship with your body by focusing on what your body does for you every day. The benefits of gentle movement and why it's important to move your body with kindness. How to embrace body neutrality as a step toward self-acceptance, even if body positivity feels out of reach right now. Practical self-care tips to help you reconnect with your body, including writing down three things you're grateful for each day. This episode also touches on self-compassion and how small shifts in how you think about your body can lead to big changes in how you feel about it. Whether it's appreciating that your body allows you to take a walk, or simply that it keeps you alive each day, reconnecting with your body is possible—one step at a time. Lana also introduces her Fall Thrive After Infertility Mastermind, a 12-week coaching program designed to support you through challenging holidays like Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. You'll get the tools and community to help you thrive, even when it feels like life didn't go according to plan. Key Takeaways from This Episode: Body Image After Infertility: Understanding why infertility can make you feel disconnected from your body and how to start healing. Gentle Movement and Self-Care: How small acts of kindness, like yoga or a walk, can help you feel more connected to yourself. Body Neutrality: Why you don't have to love your body right away, but you can learn to accept and care for it. Want More Support? Get the replay of Lana's free class on handling awkward questions about not having kids. Just email her at hi@lanamanikowski.com or DM her on Instagram. Join the Fall Thrive After Infertility Mastermind: Learn more about this supportive, transformative program here. Download Lana's free guide: The Top 27 Things People Say When You're Childless and How to Respond at LanaManikowski.com/thingspeoplesay.  

In this episode, Lana dives into the complex emotions that can arise when you're the only one in your group of friends who is childless after infertility. If you've ever felt like an outsider among your BFFs as they talk about their kids, this episode is for you. Lana explores how to maintain meaningful connections, even when your life looks different from those around you. She shares personal stories and practical advice on how to embrace your unique journey, reclaim your relevance in your friendships, and feel empowered in your childless future. What You'll Learn: How to recognize that your value in friendships isn't diminished just because you don't have kids. Tips on finding common ground with your friends that doesn't center around motherhood. The importance of embracing your own journey and sharing your unique perspective with your friends. How to set compassionate boundaries with friends who are moms, and why it's okay to do so. Ways to feel connected and relevant in conversations, even if you don't have parenting stories to share. Key Takeaways: You don't have to relate 100% to everyone's experiences to feel connected and valued. Your friends appreciate you for who you are, not for how closely your life mirrors theirs. It's okay to set boundaries when certain topics or events feel too painful, and real friends will respect that. Embracing your journey as a childless woman can deepen your connections with your friends. You have the power to create and maintain meaningful connections, regardless of your childless status. Resources Mentioned: Free Class: Register for Lana's free upcoming coaching class  on September 10th about how to handle comments and questions when you're childless. If you can't make it live, don't worry—register to receive the replay.  Thrive After Infertility Mastermind: Interested in joining Lana's next Thrive After Infertility Mastermind starting on October 1st? This program is designed for women ready to move beyond their infertility journey and create a life they love.  Free Resource: Get Lana's free guide, "The Top 27 Things People Say When You're Childless and How to Respond," at LanaManikowski.com/thingspeoplesay. Support the Podcast: If you enjoyed this episode, please consider rating and reviewing the podcast. Screenshot your review and send it to Lana to receive a $5 Starbucks gift card as a thank you! Your reviews help other women who are searching for resources to find the support they need. Stay Connected: Follow Lana on Instagram: @LanaManikowski Join the conversation on Facebook: Lana's Facebook Page Thank you for listening! Remember, it's never too late to discover your meaning and fall in love with your life again. Tune in next week for another empowering episode.

Welcome to this week's episode of The "So Now What?" Podcast! In this episode, we're diving into a subject that many women who are childless after infertility can relate to—managing emotions during back-to-school season when you weren't able to have kids. This time of year can bring a mix of emotions—sadness, frustration, comparison, and even a deep sense of loss—as you see friends, family, and social media filled with photos of children heading off to school. For those of us who went through infertility treatments and now find ourselves living a life without children, back-to-school season can be a stark reminder of what we hoped for and what didn't come to pass. It's easy to feel as though life is moving forward for everyone else while you're stuck watching from the sidelines. In this episode, we'll explore how to manage these emotions with self-compassion and how to break free from the comparisons that can drain your joy and sense of worth. What to Expect in This Episode: Why Back-to-School Season is Emotionally Difficult for Women Who Are Childless After Infertility: We'll discuss the complex emotions that can arise during this time of year—whether it's seeing kids with their backpacks heading off to their first day of school or hearing friends share their back-to-school routines. We'll explore how these reminders can trigger grief and feelings of being left out. How Comparison Undermines Your Wellbeing: Comparison is a common reaction, especially for women who are childless after infertility. We'll break down why women in this situation often find themselves comparing their lives to those of women with children, and how this comparison cycle can prevent you from fully embracing your life. Validating Your Feelings: It's important to give yourself permission to feel the sadness, anger, or jealousy that can surface during back-to-school season. I'll share why acknowledging and validating your emotions is essential, and how it can actually be a powerful step toward healing. Practicing Self-Compassion: We'll talk about how to be gentle with yourself when feelings of self-judgment creep in. It's common to think that your life is lacking or that you're somehow less worthy because you didn't have children. I'll offer practical strategies to help you show yourself more kindness and acceptance. Reframing the Back-to-School Experience: While back-to-school season can be challenging, it's also an opportunity to shift your focus toward celebrating the unique and fulfilling life you've built. We'll explore how you can create new traditions during this time of year that reflect your growth and achievements—whether or not they involve children. Why This Episode Matters for Women Who Are Childless After Infertility If you've gone through infertility treatments and ultimately didn't have children, back-to-school season can be a particularly emotional time. It can feel like a constant reminder of what you longed for and the life you imagined. Everywhere you turn, there are photos and stories of children going off to school, which can stir up feelings of grief, longing, and exclusion. But it's important to remember that you are not alone in these feelings. Many women who are childless not by choice experience these same emotions, and they're valid. Through this episode, I want to offer you the tools to manage those emotions, so that back-to-school season doesn't have to feel like a painful reminder of what didn't happen, but rather a time for self-compassion, reflection, and growth. Episode Takeaways: Understand why back-to-school season can be emotionally challenging for women who are childless after infertility. Learn how comparison can undermine your sense of worth and prevent you from fully embracing your life without children. Discover the importance of validating your emotions and showing yourself compassion during this emotional season. Get practical tips for reframing your experience of back-to-school season and finding fulfillment in your own unique journey. If back-to-school season has been tough for you, or if you've found yourself feeling triggered by the children and families around you, this episode is here to support you. Tune in to learn how to navigate these difficult emotions with grace and self-compassion, and how to find peace—even when your life looks different than what you once imagined. Links and Resources: Free Guide - The Top 27 Things People Say When you are Childless (..and how to respond): Get your copy here Sign up for my FREE coaching class on September 10th: Click here to registerThis class will teach you how to confidently handle the question, “How many kids do you have?” with ease and strength. Join the conversation: Follow me on Instagram @lana.manikowski to connect with a community of women who understand what you're going through. Share your story, offer support to others, and let's lift each other up as we continue to thrive, even after infertility. Thank you for tuning in to this week's episode. Your journey is uniquely yours, and it's my honor to be a part of it. If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need to hear these words. Remember: You are worthy, you are loved, and your life matters—just as it is.  

Welcome and Personal Update Vacation Preparation: Lana discusses the anxiety she felt as she prepared for her first vacation since leaving her corporate job, and how this trip is a significant change from her previous work-focused vacations. Upcoming Free Coaching Class Free Webinar Announcement: Lana is hosting a free coaching class on September 10th at 6 PM CT. This session is designed to help those who struggle with responding to the question, "Do you have children?" Registration Details: You can sign up here: Sign Up for the Free Webinar. For those unable to attend live, a replay will be sent to all registered participants. Today's Topic: Unpacking Anxiousness Around Vacation Working with a Life Coach: Lana explains how her recent session with her life coach brought up feelings of anxiety related to not working during her vacation. This was the first time she would be traveling without the responsibilities of her former corporate job. Past Corporate Life: Lana reflects on her time working in the medical field, where she often felt tethered to her job even during vacations. She recounts moments where she would hide in the bathroom to take work calls, illustrating how deeply her identity was tied to her work. The Link Between Work and Self-Worth Job as Identity: Lana discusses how, for many women who are childless not by choice, their careers become a major source of validation and worthiness. She shares her own experience of feeling successful and validated through her job, especially after the emotional toll of infertility treatments. Common Struggles in Life After Infertility: Lana touches on how many women in her Thrive After Infertility Mastermind program face similar challenges—using work as a way to measure success and self-worth, often driven by the label of being a "failed patient" in fertility treatments. Coaching Insights: Learning to Relax Feelings Work: During her coaching session, Lana did some “feelings work” to identify where her anxiety was manifesting physically. This exercise helped her realize she had difficulty relaxing and not working on vacation. Nervousness About Free Time: Lana also uncovered nervousness about spending uninterrupted time with her husband, despite their close relationship and shared love for travel. She questioned whether she knew how to enjoy downtime without the distraction of work. Reframing Vacation: By the end of her coaching session, Lana decided to allow herself to fully enjoy her vacation without the pressure to work. She prepared her business tasks in advance and planned to focus on reading—a goal aligned with her vision board. Vision Board and Intentions for Vacation Choosing Activities Over Work: Lana shares how she selected two books to bring on vacation, aiming to replace any urges to work with reading. She emphasized the importance of aligning her vacation activities with the intentions on her vision board, which included relaxation and quality time with her husband, not working. Vision Board Inspiration: Lana encourages listeners to revisit her Instagram post from August 7th to see her vision board, which visually represents her goals for relaxation and connection during her vacation. Final Thoughts and Invitation to Connect Free Coaching Session Offer: If this resonates with you and you'd like to talk through anything that's been holding you back, I'd love to help. You can schedule a free Thrive Session with me using this link:  Schedule a Thrive Session. Conclusion Encouragement: Lana closes the episode by acknowledging that none of us need to work during vacation and encourages listeners to embrace relaxation and enjoyment fully.

Introduction Welcome back, gorgeous! By the time you listen to this, I'll be in Turek, Poland, celebrating a family wedding. As excited as I am about this trip, I want to share something equally important with you—how to let go of the disappointment that often follows unsuccessful IVF and infertility treatments. If you're struggling with feelings of failure or sadness because you couldn't have children after all your efforts, this episode is for you. Free Webinar: How to Handle Awkward Questions About Kids Before we dive in, I want to remind you about a free webinar I'm hosting on September 10th at 6 PM Central Time. This class is designed to help you navigate those awkward and painful moments when someone asks, “Do you have kids?” We'll discuss how to respond with confidence and self-compassion. If you can't attend live, you'll receive a replay—just make sure to register here. Understanding the Root of Disappointment After IVF In this episode, we explore how disappointment often stems from self-judgment. When you've tried everything to become a mother and it hasn't worked out, it's easy to feel like you've let yourself and others down. But is this disappointment truly warranted? We'll discuss how to reframe these feelings and stop allowing them to define your self-worth. Why Disappointment Feels So Overwhelming Feeling disappointed in yourself can be exponentially more painful than being disappointed in others. We talk about why these emotions can be so powerful and how they often keep us from trying new things out of fear that we won't meet our expectations. Learn how to quiet the loud voice of disappointment and take steps toward self-forgiveness. Creating a New Narrative for Yourself Living a life of disappointment is not something you signed up for, and it's certainly not something you deserve. We'll explore how to create a new narrative—one where you're not defined by your ability to have children, but by your strength, resilience, and the meaningful life you can still build. This is a crucial part of the work we do in the Thrive After Infertility Mastermind. Letting Go of Perfectionism and Embracing Acceptance Many women who undergo fertility treatments are high achievers, accustomed to setting goals and reaching them. When motherhood isn't one of those achievements, it's easy to feel like a failure. In this episode, I discuss how to let go of the perfectionism that might be holding you back and embrace acceptance and self-compassion instead. Personal Stories of Disappointment and Healing I share my own journey with disappointment—how I felt like I let down my family, my husband's family, and myself. We'll talk about the healing power of realizing that you are not a disappointment and that it's okay to let go of these negative emotions. Schedule a Free Thrive Session If this episode resonates with you and you feel stuck in your journey, I'm here to help. You can schedule a free Thrive Session with me to talk through the things that are holding you back and start working towards a more fulfilled and joyful life. Book your session here. Get Your Free Resource: 27 Things People Say When You're Childless and How to Respond Finally, I've created a resource that I think you'll find invaluable—27 Things People Say When You're Childless and How to Respond. It's free and available here!     Thank you for listening! Remember, it's never too late to discover your meaning, and you are not defined by your ability to have children. Have a beautiful week, and I'll catch up with you from Italy next time! Sign Up for the Free Webinar: Register Here Connect with Me: https://lana-manikowski.myflodesk.com/webinar Instagram: @LanaManikowski YouTube: Lana Manikowski Free Download: The Top 27 Things People Say When You are Childless  

Hey there, lovely listeners! Did you know I have a YouTube channel? Yes, I do! You can watch the video version of this podcast, including some fun outtakes, on my YouTube channel at Lana Manikowski on YouTube. This week, I want to share something that hit me deeply: the parallels between the journey of Olympic athletes and women who undergo fertility treatments. Watching a recent track and field event, I couldn't help but notice how much their experiences resemble ours. Let's dive into it. The Journey of Preparation Both Olympic athletes and women undergoing fertility treatments spend years preparing for a single dream. Athletes dedicate themselves to grueling training regimens, strict diets, and countless sacrifices. Similarly, you might have faced numerous medical procedures, hormonal treatments, and financial burdens, all with the hope of becoming a mom. Facing Disappointment Despite all the preparation, not all athletes win a medal. Similarly, many women complete their fertility journey without becoming a mom. The emotional toll, the physical exhaustion, and the financial strain can be overwhelming. But both journeys are marked by an incredible amount of perseverance and strength. The Role of Support Systems Athletes rely on coaches, teammates, and family for support. For those of us going through fertility treatments, the support system might include partners, doctors, nurses, or online communities. Sadly, not everyone has access to a robust support system, making the journey even more challenging. Psychological Strength The mental resilience required to face setbacks, whether it's an athlete missing a medal or a woman navigating failed fertility treatments, is immense. The emotional highs and lows, the waiting, the uncertainty—it all takes a toll. But remember, it's okay to grieve, to feel lost, and to seek support. Moving Forward Just as Olympic athletes find new paths after their sports careers, women who conclude their fertility journey without becoming moms can find new meanings and joys in life. It's not about giving up; it's about finding a different path that brings fulfillment and happiness. Join Thrive After Infertility If you're ready to move forward and thrive, my program "Thrive After Infertility" might be just what you need. The next class starts on October 1st. Let's work together to ensure you don't carry the burden of not becoming a mom forever. You can find more details on my website. Free Resource Before you go, I want to share a fantastic resource I created: "The Top 27 Things People Say When You're Childless...and How to Respond." You can download it for free on my website. It's a great tool to help you navigate those sometimes uncomfortable conversations. Conclusion Thank you for joining me this week. Remember, it's never too late to discover your meaning and find joy in your life. I'll be checking in from Poland next week. Until then, I love you and I'm here for you.

Hey there! It's been quite a week in the media, and I felt compelled to address some comments circulating about childless women being miserable. As someone who deeply values integrity, especially in my role as a life coach supporting women crafting fulfilling lives without children, I want to make it clear: this isn't about politics, and it never will be. My goal here is to provide a space where all women, regardless of political affiliation, can feel supported and understood. This week's episode is a response to the myth that women who are childless are inherently unhappy. As someone who once immersed myself in politics, even working in Washington, D.C., I understand the power of narratives. But as I shifted my focus to life coaching, I chose to step back from the constant news cycle, focusing instead on creating a positive and supportive environment. I rarely watch the news now, and some might say I live in a bubble. To that, I say, yes, I do—and I value the peace it brings me. It's important to me to curate my environment, choosing what influences I allow in. While I care deeply about the future, my energy is better spent fostering a supportive community for women like us—women who are childless, not by choice, but because of infertility. The idea that childless women are miserable is a damaging stereotype rooted in outdated societal expectations. It suggests that a woman's worth and happiness are tied solely to her ability to have children. But this couldn't be further from the truth. Many women, whether by choice or circumstance, lead rich, fulfilling lives filled with purpose and joy. That's the message I share weekly on this podcast. Experiencing childlessness, especially after infertility, can indeed bring moments of deep sadness or even misery. These feelings are valid and normal. It's essential to acknowledge them without self-judgment. Remember, it's okay to have days that aren't filled with joy. This doesn't mean you're failing or destined for a life of unhappiness. It simply means you're human. Fulfillment doesn't come from one single source, like motherhood. It's found in relationships, hobbies, careers, personal growth, and so many other areas. Happiness and purpose are not linear; they come from a diverse range of experiences. We are multifaceted beings, capable of finding joy and meaning in various aspects of our lives. If you're feeling stuck in sadness or finding it hard to move past these negative feelings, now might be the time to explore new communities and support systems. Whether it's through a local group, social media, or programs like my "Thrive After Infertility Mastermind," connecting with others can be a powerful way to rediscover joy and purpose. To those who believe that childless women are miserable, we can't change everyone's mind. But we can change how we see ourselves. It's about proving to ourselves that we can create and enjoy a fulfilling life. If you're feeling down or questioning your worth, remember that you're deserving of happiness and fulfillment, just like anyone else. Life is full of ups and downs, and that's okay. It's about embracing the full spectrum of emotions and not judging ourselves for feeling anything less than perfect. Happiness and sadness can coexist, and that's what makes our journey authentic and meaningful. As you navigate these challenging emotions, remember that you're not alone. It's never too late to find meaning and create a life you love. I hope you have a beautiful week, filled with moments that remind you of your worth and potential. I love you all, and I can't wait to connect with you again next week. Take care!  

On this episode, we're diving into a topic that often gets overlooked: embracing abundance after infertility. It's something many of us struggle with because we rarely see examples of women thriving in a life that doesn't include motherhood. That's precisely what inspired me to start this podcast — to fill that gap and provide a space where we can explore where these communities exist, how to navigate difficult interactions with those who don't understand, and finding acceptance and peace on our unique paths. I remember vividly the moment my reproductive endocrinologist gently recommended against further IVF cycles. It was like a ton of bricks crashing down, leaving me unsure of what lay ahead. Deciding not to pursue adoption or egg donation wasn't easy either. I wasn't prepared to just bounce back; healing takes time, and it's okay to sit with those emotions. If you're feeling lost in this journey right now, please know you're not alone. There's no timeline for healing, no one-size-fits-all approach. But when you're ready to take that next step toward reclaiming your life and finding joy again, that's what today's episode is all about. Navigating conversations where people offer well-meaning but insensitive remarks can be challenging. "Just relax, it'll happen," or "You can always adopt," aren't always helpful. It's important to assert our boundaries and share our stories authentically. You deserve to be heard and respected in your journey. Finding supportive communities is crucial. While social media can be a lifeline, it's also important to curate your feed mindfully. Surround yourself with voices that uplift and inspire you. Consider joining support groups or programs like Thrive after Infertility, where you not only find connection but also actionable steps to shape a life you love. Creating or joining local meetups can also be incredibly fulfilling. I started one myself, and it's grown into a vibrant community of women celebrating life beyond motherhood. It's about finding spaces where you can be yourself, where you don't have to explain or justify your path. As you embark on this journey of rediscovery, think about who you want to be six months from now. Take small steps toward that vision, whether it's engaging more deeply with supportive communities or setting boundaries on social media. Your journey is unique, and your path forward is yours to define. If you're looking for practical tips on handling insensitive comments or starting conversations about your journey, check out this free resource I created just for you. It's call The Top 27 Things People Say When you Are Childless...and How to Respond. Remember, it's never too late to redefine what brings meaning to your life. Thank you for being here with me today. I cherish our time together and look forward to connecting again next week. Until then, take care of yourself and know that you're not alone on this journey. You are seen, you are heard, and your story matters. Here's to embracing the abundance that awaits us all.

Discovering Your Purpose After Infertility Welcome back to another episode! I'm thrilled you're joining me on this journey through life, where sometimes navigating can be challenging. Today, I want to open your mind to a new perspective on purpose. Navigating Conversations About Childlessness: I've just launched a valuable resource for those struggling with discussing childlessness. If you've faced unwanted opinions or advice, visit Instagram (@Lana.Manikowski) or email me at HI@LanaManikowski.com to access this resource. Rethinking Purpose: Let's dive into the concept of purpose. We're often told it's this elusive, singular thing we must find. But frankly, I call BS on that idea. Society often links purpose with motherhood, leaving many of us who are unexpectedly childless feeling adrift. My Unique Perspective on Purpose: Through my work and personal journey, I've come to redefine purpose. It's not a single mission statement but a fluid, personal connection to oneself. Purpose isn't about selecting one grand thing; it's about living deliberately and authentically. Thrive After Infertility Mastermind: Launching October 1st, Thrive After Infertility offers a supportive community to explore and define your unique path forward. It's not just about finding purpose; it's about embracing a life you love, despite its unexpected turns. Creating Purpose in Everyday Moments: Purpose isn't confined to one monumental achievement. It's found in everyday actions—how we connect with others, contribute at work, or nurture relationships. Living purposefully is about finding joy and connection in the present moment. Inspiration from Unexpected Sources: Reflecting on my music teacher's funeral, I saw firsthand how one person can embody different purposes for different people. Her impact on my life wasn't about motherhood but about nurturing confidence through music education. Joining Thrive After Infertility: If you're resonating with this journey of self-discovery and purpose beyond motherhood, consider joining our 12-week program. It's designed to empower you to build a life you're proud of, free from the burden of societal expectations. My Commitment to You: I became a certified life coach to support women navigating life after infertility. Thrive isn't about replicating my life; it's about helping you craft a life that resonates with your values and aspirations. Embrace Your Unique Journey: Remember, your purpose isn't limited by one experience or identity. By reconnecting with yourself and living authentically, you'll discover a life filled with meaning and impact. Closing Thoughts: As we wrap up, I want to remind you—it's never too late to uncover your purpose and embrace your unique journey. Wishing you a beautiful week ahead, filled with self-discovery and meaningful connections. Join me next week as we continue this empowering conversation. Remember, your journey matters, and your purpose is waiting to be discovered. I look forward to our next chat!  

Welcome back to another episode of The "So Now What?" Podcast. I'm Lana Manikowski, and I'm thrilled you're joining me today. As we dive into the heart of summer here in the US, with July 4th Independence Day celebrations just around the corner, it feels fitting to talk about a different kind of independence—personal independence, especially for those of us navigating life after infertility. Reclaiming Independence Post-Infertility After enduring years of fertility treatments, the constant start and stop, and the endless cycle of uncertainty, finding independence can feel daunting. This week, I want to explore ways you can reclaim your sense of independence and make decisions that empower you. Exciting New Resource Coming Soon! I'm thrilled to announce a new resource designed specifically for women who have faced relentless questions about their motherhood status. This free resource will help you navigate those difficult conversations with confidence. If you're interested, reach out to me on Instagram at @lana.manikowski and send me a DM. I'll add you to the waitlist and ensure you get early access! My Personal Journey to Independence This week is particularly special for me as I transition out of Corporate America. After working since I was 14 and always relying on an employer's paycheck, I'm stepping into a new chapter. On July 8th, I'll be dedicating myself full-time to my coaching practice, leaving behind a successful corporate career. Since 2021, alongside my demanding corporate job, I've been nurturing my life coaching practice. Completing my life coach and grief certifications has equipped me with the tools to support women like you and me—women who are unexpectedly childless and striving to find fulfillment. Believing in Yourself Often, we think we need someone else's approval or a perfect plan to pursue our dreams. But I'm here to challenge that belief. You have the power to make decisions for yourself and create the life you've dreamed of. Even without a clear roadmap, you can take steps towards your goals.  Action Steps to Embrace Independence   1. Identify Your Dreams: Think about what you've been wanting to pursue—whether it's a new hobby, education, or career change. 2. Trust Your Instincts: Believe in your innate ability to make decisions and create change. 3. Start Small: Begin by writing down your ideas and evaluating them. You don't need external validation—your inner voice is powerful enough. A New Chapter As I close this chapter of my corporate life, I reflect on the purpose it provided during my infertility journey. My career gave me meaning and allowed me to thrive during a challenging time. Now, I'm proud to embrace this new independence and dedicate myself fully to helping women create lives they love. Connect with Me I hope this episode inspires you to embrace your independence. Remember, it's never too late to discover your meaning.  Follow me on Instagram at @lana.manikowski or on YouTube at lana.manikowski and reach out if you want to be part of this journey.   Subscribe & Review If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review. Your feedback helps me reach more women who can benefit from these conversations. Stay Tuned Join me next week for more insights and encouragement on living a fulfilling life after infertility.  

Feeling Like a Failure After IVF Fails Introduction: Welcome back to another heartfelt episode of Thrive After Infertility. I'm Lana, and this week, we are rolling up our sleeves and diving deep into what it means to feel like a failure, especially after the challenging journey of IVF and fertility treatments. This episode is for all the incredible women out there who have struggled with these feelings and are ready to redefine their stories. Key Points Covered: Understanding the Fear of Failure: The fear of failure often starts at a young age, influenced by family and cultural norms. Many of us have been taught to hide our struggles and present a picture-perfect life. Navigating Infertility and IVF: Personal reflections on the pressure to do everything "right" during fertility treatments. The emotional toll of feeling like you're not good enough as a fertility patient. Changing the Narrative: The impact of being labeled as a "failed" IVF patient and how that affects self-perception. The empowering shift from viewing oneself as a failure to seeing IVF treatments as the ones that failed. Personal Growth and Life Coaching: How becoming a Certified Life Coach helped me change my perspective on failure. The importance of deciding how to relate to the word "failure" and choosing a narrative that empowers you. Introducing the Thrive After Infertility Mastermind: Exciting news about the upcoming Thrive 2.0 program, designed to help women find fulfillment and thrive after infertility. Details on how to join and the benefits of being part of this transformative community. Special Announcement: I'm thrilled to announce a new resource for those of you on my mailing list, all about handling the things people say and how to respond to them in empowering ways. This unique resource is created especially for you, so be sure to follow me on social media and sign up to get access. Closing Thoughts: Remember, you are not a failure. You are a beautiful, courageous soul who has shown immense strength and resilience. Let's redefine what it means to thrive and embrace a life full of meaning and fulfillment, even without the children we dreamed of. Thank you for joining me this week. I love you all, and remember, it's never too late to discover your true meaning.  

Episode Summary This week marks my 15th wedding anniversary, a significant milestone that feels both like yesterday and a lifetime ago. Reflecting on our journey, I've decided to discuss marriage and relationships when you find yourself unexpectedly childless. In this episode, I'll uncover the top 10 misconceptions about childless marriages, shedding light on the unique challenges and bias we experience when we eave fertility treatments without a child.     Key Points Discussed Lack of Fulfillment Debunking the myth that true happiness and purpose in a relationship only come from raising children. Selfishness Addressing the misconception that childless couples prioritize personal desires over responsibilities. Incompleteness Challenging the belief that a marriage is incomplete without children. Loneliness in Old Age Confronting fears about being lonely and unsupported in old age without children. Lack of Family Bonding Explaining how childless couples create their own meaningful traditions and bonds. Temporary Decision Discussing the notion that being childless is just a temporary phase. Regret Exploring the assumption that childless couples will inevitably regret their decision. Marital Problems Debunking the myth that childlessness indicates or causes marital issues. Social Isolation Addressing the belief that childless couples are socially isolated. Biological or Medical Issues Clarifying misconceptions about the reasons behind childlessness after infertility.     Thrive After Infertility Mastermind In my Thrive After Infertility Mastermind, we focus on relationships, of of 3 crucial pillars in the program which is  often overlooked for those navigating life without children. Whether it's with your spouse, friends, family, or coworkers, Thrive offers support and tools to help you create a life you love without the children you thought you were going to have. I'm excited to announce the next launch of the Thrive After Infertility Mastermind in October, which includes advanced tools and support from my certification in grief coaching.   Conclusion As Jack and I celebrate our 15th anniversary, we've learned that a fulfilling, meaningful marriage is possible even without the children we once envisioned. If you're feeling stuck or wondering about the future of your marriage, remember that there is no right or wrong path. Whether you stay together or part ways, it's essential to find what works best for you and your partner.  

Hello, lovely listeners! I'm so glad you're joining me today. If you haven't already, I invite you to subscribe to my YouTube channel, Lana.Manikowski. Look for my profile picture with a yellow shirt—if you see me in a red shirt, that's an old channel I no longer update. Subscribe to stay connected and catch some funny outtakes that don't make it to the podcast. Why Your Reviews Matter Before we dive into today's topic, I want to thank everyone who rated and reviewed the podcast last week. Your $5 Starbucks gift card is on its way! If you haven't yet, please rate and review on your preferred platform. Your feedback not only helps me understand how the podcast impacts you, but it also boosts our visibility. This way, more women who are searching for ways to create a fulfilling life after infertility can find us and join our community. Advanced Certification in Grief and Post-Traumatic Growth Did you know I have an advanced certification in grief and post-traumatic growth? It's something I don't mention often, but it's a significant part of my journey and my coaching. When I realized my infertility journey wouldn't end with a child, I felt immense grief. But society often overlooks the grief of those who lose a dream rather than something tangible. This certification helps me guide you through that nuanced grief and find post-traumatic growth. The Power of "And" Today's episode focuses on one of the most powerful words in navigating grief and creating a fulfilling life: "and." It's a simple three-letter word, but it opens up a world of emotional possibilities. Society often presents emotions as binary—either you're sad, or you're grateful. But why can't we be both? Why can't we be sad about not becoming mothers and also grateful for other aspects of our lives? Breaking Free from False Binaries I remember hearing that you can either be sad about not having children or grateful that you don't have to raise them in today's world. But this binary thinking isn't helpful. You can be both. Grief is nuanced, and so are human emotions. It's perfectly okay to feel multiple emotions at once. For example, you can have a great day at work and cry when you receive a baby shower invitation. Both feelings are valid and can coexist. Embracing All Emotions Trying to force ourselves into constant gratitude or happiness suppresses other valid emotions like sadness or anger, which can resurface even stronger. Instead, allow yourself to feel everything. Replace "but" with "and." You can be proud of yourself and feel anger. You can feel lost without motherhood and discover strengths you never knew you had. Ditching Toxic Positivity We often think we need to be grateful 24/7 to love our lives, but that's not true. You don't have to be grateful for every difficult aspect of your infertility journey to love your life. Embrace the "and." Love your life and acknowledge the tough parts of your journey. Both can exist together. Actionable Insight: Using "And" in Your Life Next time you catch yourself thinking in binaries, try to use "and" instead. Notice how it opens up space for all your emotions and makes life feel more manageable and authentic. Join the Conversation I'd love to hear how you plan to incorporate "and" into your daily life. Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments or on social media. Let's support each other in embracing our full emotional selves. Thank you for listening, and remember, you are a beautiful human navigating this path of life. Until next time, take care and be kind to yourself.

Welcome back to another week of The “So Now What?” Podcast! I'm so grateful you're here with me. As we welcome June, it's the perfect time to reflect on the goals and dreams we set for ourselves at the start of the year. Maybe you're reassessing some plans or realizing that some things didn't pan out as easily as you hoped. Remember, it's never too late to recalibrate and adjust your path. Episode Highlights: Reflect and Recalibrate: With nearly half the year behind us, it's a great moment to reevaluate our goals. What were your intentions at the beginning of 2024? What's working, and what's not? It's okay to pivot and refocus your energy on what truly matters to you. The Power of Ratings and Reviews: I need your help! Your feedback is crucial for reaching more women navigating the unexpected journey of childlessness after infertility. Please rate and review The “So Now What?” Podcast on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Send me a screenshot, and I'll send you a $5 Starbucks gift card as a thank you. Shame vs. Self-Love: This week, we discuss the harmful habit of shaming ourselves into action. Have you ever felt pressured to do something just to meet others' expectations? Let's shift that narrative. It's time to embrace self-love and motivation from a place of joy and curiosity. Envision Your Future Self: Picture the person you want to become. What does she look like? What brings her joy? Write down these visions and start embodying those feelings today. You don't have to wait until you've achieved all your goals to love yourself. Compassionate Self-Talk: Engage in kind, supportive conversations with yourself. When you miss a goal, instead of judgment, offer understanding and encouragement, just as you would to a dear friend. Takeaways for This Week: Reevaluate Your Goals: Take stock of what you planned for this year and see if it aligns with your current path. Don't be afraid to weed out what no longer serves you. Rate and Review the Podcast: Help us reach more women who need support by leaving a review. Your feedback can make a big difference. Shift from Shame to Support: Recognize the areas where you might be shaming yourself and consciously replace that with positive reinforcement. Love Your Future Self Today: Visualize the joyful, fulfilled person you aim to become and start living with that mindset now. Engage in Positive Self-Talk: When challenges arise, treat yourself with the same compassion and encouragement you would offer a friend. I want all women who are childless after infertility to know they can love themselves and create fulfilling lives. If you need more personalized support, I'm here to help. Let's discover together how you can create a life you love. Have a beautiful week, and remember, it's never too late to discover your meaning.  Connect with Me: Website: www.lanamanikowski.com Instagram: @lana.manikowski Email: hi@lanamanikowski.com Don't forget to share this episode with friends who might benefit from it. Your support helps us grow and reach more women who need this community. Thank you for being here!  

In this episode, we explore the intricate emotions surrounding birthdays if you are childless after infertility. Inspired by recent gatherings celebrating The Other's Day Brunch, I highlight the complexities of navigating birthdays and offer insights on how to approach them with strength and hope. Celebrating The Other's Day Brunch: Reflecting on recent events likeThe Other's Day Brunch in Chicago and an ambassador-hosted event in Seattle, I acknowledge the increasing awareness of the challenges faced by women who are childless not by choice. These gatherings provide a supportive environment for sharing stories and finding solace amidst shared experiences and I am thrilled with the media attention given to this celebration and the awareness that was built about the complexities Mother's Day offers so many women. The Birthday Reflection: Yesterday I celebrated my 50th birthday, and shared my candid journey of grappling with the anticipation of another year passing. This week I explore common sentiments felt by women facing infertility, such as questioning accomplishments, feeling the weight of time passing, and envisioning a future without motherhood. Finding Meaning Beyond Motherhood: The narrative shifts to empowering you to redefine your identity and aspirations beyond traditional expectations of motherhood. Despite the absence of children, there are numerous opportunities to pursue fulfillment and purpose. Embracing Change and Self-Compassion: Acknowledging the fear of failure and uncertainty, I encourage listeners to embrace change with self-compassion. By reframing narratives of disappointment and embracing vulnerability, individuals can cultivate inner strength and create new paths filled with meaning and joy. Crafting Your Future: I am urging you to reflect on their achievements and aspirations, regardless of societal pressures. By setting intentions and embracing personal growth, individuals can reclaim agency over their narratives and envision a future filled with possibilities. A Letter to Yourself: A poignant suggestion is made to write a birthday letter to yourself, celebrating your journey and path through infertility. This practice fosters self-appreciation and serves as a reminder of one's inherent worth and meaning. Conclusion: As the host extends birthday wishes to herself, she emphasizes the transformative power of self-love and inner strength. I encourage you to revisit this episode whenever you need encouragement and to remember that your life and your journey is worthy of celebration.  Always.  

When you're childless after infertilityMother's Day can be a challenge. It's a time that can feel heavy with reminders and emotions, but fear not, I'm here to walk you through it with care and compassion. Finding Peace Amidst the Mother's Day Buzz: Acknowledge Your Feelings: It's okay to feel a mix of emotions during this time. Whether it's sadness, anger, or even ambivalence, give yourself permission to feel what you feel without judgment. Create Boundaries: Opt out of Mother's Day-related emails and social media if they're triggering for you. Your mental health comes first, and setting boundaries is an act of self-love. Crafting Your Own Meaningful Mother's Day: Plan Your Day: Take control of how you spend Mother's Day. Whether it's hosting a gathering, indulging in self-care, or simply taking a quiet moment for reflection, prioritize activities that bring you peace and joy. Write Yourself a Letter: Channel your inner Hallmark and write yourself a heartfelt Mother's Day card. Celebrate the qualities that make you proud, and affirm your worthiness of love and recognition. Cultivating Gratitude and Connection: Express Appreciation: Reach out to the people in your life who've supported you on your journey. Let them know how much their presence means to you, and express gratitude for their love and understanding. Remembering Your Worth Beyond Motherhood: Reflect on Your Significance: Take time to reflect on the meaningful contributions you make to the world, regardless of your parental status. Your worth is not defined by motherhood, but by the unique essence of who you are. As you navigate Mother's Day, know that you're not alone. Your journey is valid, and your feelings are heard and honored. Take this time to care for yourself, to acknowledge your strength, and to embrace the beauty of your unique path. You are worthy of love, celebration, and belonging, today and every day.  

This week we are tapping into the concept of welcoming in happiness as you are navigating life after infertility and a new norm without the children you thought  you were supposed to have. Discover practical tips and heartfelt insights on finding joy, embracing gratitude, and celebrating the beauty in everyday moments. In today's episode, I expand on episode 123, diving into the concept of happiness is not a destination but a journey, especially for those who are childless not by choice. If you missed last week's episode, I encourage you to catch up as we dive deeper into this topic. As Mother's Day approaches, I invite listeners to consider self-care and connection, highlighting the importance of support for those who may find this holiday challenging. Reflecting on the purpose behind The Other's Day Brunch in Chicago, I emphasize the power of seeking connection and support, especially during times that may trigger feelings of sadness or heaviness. Join us this year in Chicago and help us create a supportive community where all experiences are valued and celebrated. In today's discussion, I address the misconception that happiness is your consolation prize for not becoming a mother. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, I encourage you to embrace the joys and beauties present in their lives, without comparison to motherhood or societal expectations. As the episode progresses, I guide you through practical strategies for cultivating happiness and gratitude in everyday life. By acknowledging the beauty in small moments and celebrating personal achievements, we can create a more fulfilling and joyful journey, regardless of our path to motherhood. Let's talk about embracing happiness beyond traditional notions, finding strength in the experiences you are having, and recognizing the abundance of beauty that surrounds us.  Thank you for tuning in to today's episode of The “So Now What?” Podcast. Remember, happiness is not a destination but a journey filled with moments of joy and gratitude. Embrace the beauty of your life, celebrate your victories, and cherish the happiness that surrounds you.  

As we usher in a new month, I welcome you to pause and reflect on your path. What are you choosing to focus on this month? Remember, there are no boundaries to the richness your life can attain, even when the dream of motherhood didn't happen for you. But before we dive into the core of today's discussion on happiness, remember to get your tickets for The Others' Day Brunch. Scheduled for May 11th in Chicago, this event promises camaraderie and support as we navigate the complex emotions entwined with Mother's Day. Now, let's unravel the essence of happiness and the expectations you have put on yourself to find happiness after your infertility journey left you childless. In Episode 123, I unravel the myth that happiness is a destination and not a journey.  Being happy is shoved down our thoughts and when you find yourself unhappy - you've been conditioned to believe you're doing something all wrong.. This week I confront the fallacy of "toxic positivity," urging you to embrace the tapestry of your emotions. Drawing from my journey toward certification in grief and post-traumatic grief, I illuminate the significance of acknowledging and honoring all emotional facets, even those that defy society's expectation of perpetual happiness.  On a side note - I am  looking for volunteers that will do practice coaching with me. Part of my certification requires me to meet a certain number of hours coaching on grief, so if you are willing to hop on a 30 minute call with me to coach on any topic you are feeling grief around, please send me a DM. Happiness isn't confined to societal norms or the façade of perfection. It resides in the small, everyday moments—the laughter shared with a friend, the warmth of a pet's companionship. Grant yourself the spaciousness to experience the full spectrum of emotions without judgment for how you are feeling. In my eyes, the pursuit of happiness shouldn't overshadow the intricate tapestry of life's complexities. Embrace your journey, embrace yourself, and know that happiness, in its myriad forms, is always within reach. Join me next week as we continue to navigate life's labyrinthine twists and turns, with a reminder that it's never too late to unearth your purpose. Until then, cherish the moments, embrace the journey, and find solace in the knowledge that you are never alone.  

This week we wrap up our discussion on body image, particularly for those navigating life post-fertility treatments. As you reflect on your own journey, consider this: What beliefs do you hold about your body?  I share personal insights and encourage you to redefine your body image positively. But before we dive in, I reflect on a heartwarming weekend with loved ones, emphasizing the importance of nurturing connections, especially with the younger generation. It's a reminder that bonds transcend traditional roles, echoing the theme of self-compassion and connection discussed in today's episode. Throughout the episode, I challenge common narratives surrounding body image after fertility struggles. I am highlighting the impact of self-talk and invites you to reconsider ingrained beliefs about your body's purpose and capabilities.You're encouraged to shift from viewing your body as a source of disappointment to one deserving of love and appreciation. I will also prompt you to envision a future where self-acceptance replaces self-criticism, paving the way for healing and empowerment. As you listen, consider the small steps you can take towards fostering a healthier body image. Whether it's acknowledging your body's resilience or practicing self-forgiveness, every effort contributes to a more positive self-perception. I am also extending an invitation to The Other's Day Brunch, a gathering dedicated to celebrating connections and community. Don't miss out on this opportunity to connect with like-minded individuals and embrace a supportive environment. So, as you reflect on today's episode, remember: Your journey towards self-love begins with a decision to redefine your body image and prioritize self-compassion. And if you're considering attending The Other's Day Brunch, seize the opportunity to connect and celebrate your journey with others who understand and support you.

Introduction: Welcome to The "So Now What?" Podcast, where we embark on a journey of self-discovery and self-love after infertility. Today, we're diving into the power that comes with embracing our bodies and fostering a positive body image amidst the challenges we've faced. But first, let's celebrate the upcoming Other's Day Brunch – a safe haven for women like you who are seeking connection and empowerment on a weekend that traditionally seems so hard. Other's Day Brunch: Mark your calendars for May 11th in Chicago – it's the third annual Other's Day Brunch! Created for women who are not moms, may not have traditional mother figures or who feel disconnected during Mother's Day, this event is a celebration of sisterhood, connection, and self-love. Tickets are available at LanaManikowski.com/othersday or reach out on Instagram for more info. You deserve joy and celebration, not sadness, on Mother's Day. Empowering Exercise: In last week's episode, we explored guided meditation as a tool for self-awareness and forgiveness. If you haven't tuned in, check out episode 120. Today, let's delve into a powerful exercise inspired by personal reflection. Picture this: sitting poolside, faced with your reflection, and feeling disconnected from your body. It's a moment of realization, a moment where you decide to love your body despite its changes – be it post-infertility or menopause. Embracing Self-Love: Your body has been through so much, and it's time to show it the love and respect it deserves. Challenge the negative self-talk and societal standards by asking yourself: "Is this the love my body is seeking?" Just like salty snacks may not nourish your body, negative thoughts and judgments don't nourish your soul. Make choices that align with self-love, whether it's nourishing foods, positive affirmations, or embracing your body as it is. Conclusion: As you navigate the complexities of body image post-infertility, remember that self-love is a journey – not a destination. Embrace every curve, every scar, and every change as a testament to your strength and resilience. Join us at The Other's Day Brunch for a celebration of sisterhood and empowerment. And always remember, it's never too late to discover your meaning and embrace the beauty of who you are.  

In this episode, I dive deep into the intricacies of body image, offering insights and strategies to help you break free from societal norms and redefine your relationship with your body. It's time to unwind the narrative that may have taken root in your mind, not because you did anything wrong, but because we often get caught up in societal expectations. What to Expect This Month: Throughout March, we're dedicating our episodes to the theme of body image, with today's installment promising to be particularly insightful. I provide valuable tools to help you create a new and positive image of yourself, even if your journey to motherhood took an unexpected turn. Special Announcement: The Others' Day Brunch!