You Are Not Alone - A Recovery Podcast

Send us a textSummer's here—and with it comes road trips, cookouts, sports tournaments, and beach vacations. For those of us in recovery, that can mean a lot of triggers packed into a short season. In this episode, we dive into the real-life challenges of staying sober during summer travel, from boozy parents at soccer games to the loneliness of hotel rooms. We share personal stories of what's worked, what hasn't, and why having a plan (and a backup plan) can make all the difference. Whether you're newly sober or years into recovery, this one's for anyone navigating a summer without alcohol.We also talk about the tools that help us stay grounded—meetings, podcasts, community, and remembering to be our “best selves.” Plus, how to deal with FOMO, find connection on the road, and why Zoom meetings are a secret weapon for staying sober anywhere.Support the show

Send us a textIn this episode of the Sober Friends Podcast, we're diving into what it really takes to stay sober during the summer—starting with Memorial Day weekend. From cookouts and weddings to long weekends and family parties, the warm-weather season brings all kinds of drinking triggers. Matt, Steve, and John share personal stories and practical strategies for navigating these challenges alcohol-free.Whether you're newly sober or have a few summers under your belt, this conversation covers:Why early sobriety and social events can feel overwhelmingHow to make a plan and stick to itThe power of “No” and the importance of exit strategiesHow sponsors and sober friends help you stay groundedReframing fun: finding joy without alcoholWhere to find sober support during the holidays (yes, meetings still happen!)This one's for anyone worried about staying sober when everyone else is reaching for a drink. Spoiler: it's totally doable—and you're not alone.Support the show

Send us a textOn this episode of the Sober Friends podcast, we dive deep into the idea that kindness isn't some fluffy, feel-good concept—it's a legit recovery tool. We talk about how hard it can be to receive kindness when we first come in, why it's often toughest to be kind to the people closest to us, and how practicing kindness—especially when it's not our default—can transform our relationships and our sobriety. There's honesty, laughter, and a few tough-love truths in here, plus stories about caring for loved ones, being of service, and learning to meet people where they are without losing ourselves in the process. This isn't about perfection—it's about progress, grace, and finding strength in being gentle.Support the show

Send us a textMatt and Steve dive into the real-life challenges of maintaining sobriety when life gets busy—from caregiving and family obligations to missed meetings and disrupted routines. They share personal stories about staying grounded in recovery, the importance of asking for help, and learning to let go of control. This candid conversation explores how flexibility, planning, and community support keep them sober through life's toughest stretches.Support the show

Send us a textSteve and Matt explore why fellowship is a critical "linchpin" in long-term recovery. They share personal stories about how connections with other sober individuals provide essential feedback, guidance, and support when facing life's challenges, like family issues and loss.  Steve and Matt discuss how fellowship complements step work, strategies for newcomers who struggle to connect, and why even long-timers need their "pack" to stay sober. Its a vulnerable episode, as they all are and they reveal that nobody has "perfect recovery" and how reaching out to others, whether through meetings, service work, or simple check-ins and how that creates the safety net that makes sobriety possible. Looking to strengthen your recovery community feel isolated on your journey?  You'll find a lot of strength from this episode.The Cross pt. 2Welcome to Ask Me Anything, the podcast where we give you biblical answers to...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the show

Send us a text"'Stop believing in me. I want you to believe in you.' In this powerful episode, we dive into one of recovery's most challenging concepts—finding a higher power. We share our personal spiritual journeys, discuss a thought-provoking reading about a loving, non-judgmental God, and explore how connection with nature and community can form the foundation of spirituality. Whether you're spiritual but not religious, questioning your beliefs, or simply curious about different perspectives on higher power, this conversation offers compassionate insights for your sobriety journey."Support the show

Send us a textIn this powerful episode, we dive deep into one of recovery's most challenging yet transformative principles: acceptance. Why is it so difficult to accept people and situations as they are? From navigating frustrating family dinners to confronting career disappointments, we explore how our inability to accept "life on life's terms" often leads us back to destructive behaviors. Learn practical strategies for finding peace amid circumstances you can't control, managing expectations in relationships, and recognizing when the quest for justice becomes a pathway to resentment. Our candid conversation reveals how acceptance isn't passive resignation but an active practice that creates space for serenity. Whether you're in recovery or simply seeking more peace in your daily life, this episode offers wisdom on how letting go of control paradoxically gives you back your power. Join us for this honest, heartfelt discussion about accepting reality while still influencing positive change.Support the show

Send us a textIn this heartfelt episode of Sober Friends, hosts Matt and Steve explore how kindness can be our secret weapon in recovery. In a world where social media algorithms reward outrage and division, they share personal stories about their journeys from being "reformed trolls" to discovering the lasting joy that comes from acts of kindness. Steve opens up about caring for his wife during health challenges, while Matt reflects on putting family needs before his own desires. Whether you're new to sobriety or years into recovery, this episode offers practical wisdom on how kindness to others helps quiet the noise in our own heads—and might just be the key to staying sober in divisive times. Listen for authentic conversation about finding purpose through serving others and the surprising ways recovery teaches us to be kinder, even when things aren't going our way.Support the show

Send us a textIn this candid episode of the Sober Friends Podcast, Matt opens up about his recent decision to start taking prescribed stimulant medication for his ADHD while maintaining his sobriety. He and Steve tackle the complex question many in recovery face: does taking prescribed medication break sobriety? Together, they explore the responsibility that comes with medication management in recovery, the importance of transparency with your support network, and how to balance necessary medical treatment while staying true to your recovery journey. This conversation provides valuable insights for anyone in recovery who may be struggling with mental health conditions requiring medication, offering practical advice on maintaining accountability and making informed decisions about your health while protecting your sobriety.Support the show

Send us a textIn this episode, Matt celebrates 11 years of sobriety coinciding with his daughter's birthday, while Steve shares his perspective on marking recovery milestones. The hosts discuss how anniversaries serve as powerful symbols of hope for newcomers while acknowledging that everyone commemorates their sobriety journey differently. They explore the importance of service in recovery, whether through sponsorship, offering rides to meetings, or simply being available to others who are struggling. Matt and Steve emphasize that while their recovery has been rooted in AA, they recognize and respect that there are multiple pathways to sobriety. The episode offers encouragement to listeners that recovery is possible, no matter where you are in your journey, and that the common goal—not the specific program—is what truly unites those in recovery.Support the show

Send us a textJoin Steve and Matt as they dive deep into how self-pity and victim mentality can become energy drains in recovery. Steve vulnerably shares his current struggles at home and how he's navigating difficult emotions without turning to alcohol. The hosts explore how shifting from "Why is this happening to me?" to "What's my next step?" can transform recovery journeys. Learn practical strategies for managing expectations, connecting with your higher power, and finding community support when life feels overwhelming. Whether you're newly sober or an old-timer, this honest conversation offers valuable insights on conserving emotional energy and staying the course when life gets tough.Support the show

Send us a textIn this thought-provoking episode of Sober Friends, hosts Matt, and Steve tackle a common challenge in recovery: maintaining sobriety while living with partners who still drink. Steve shares his personal journey of negotiating alcohol in the home with his non-alcoholic wife, offering practical insights on establishing boundaries through honest communication. They discuss various scenarios, from living with moderate drinkers to active alcoholics, emphasizing that recovery is possible in any circumstance with the right support system. Whether you're newly sober or years into recovery, this episode provides valuable strategies for navigating these delicate relationships without compromising your sobriety or creating unnecessary strain on your partnerships.Support the show

Send us a textIn this inspiring conversation, Katie Campbell, board-certified holistic health coach and founder of Mindful Constitution, shares her journey from binge drinking to sobriety and spiritual awakening. Katie opens up about childhood trauma, her years of self-medication, and the "cognitive dissonance" she experienced while studying health while still drinking. She explains how sobriety helped her discover her true purpose: guiding highly sensitive, empathic women through their own sober curious journeys. From hosting monthly sober curious circles to helping clients build lives they don't need to escape from, Katie demonstrates how removing alcohol doesn't mean deprivation—it means liberation. This episode explores the spiritual dimensions of recovery and how alignment with your authentic self creates ripple effects far beyond just not drinking.Katie on TikTok and InstagramMindful Constitution PodcastSupport the show

Send us a textIn this powerful episode, elementary teacher and TikTok creator Colbi (@collect.the.similarities) shares her journey from using alcohol as a social lubricant to finding authentic belonging in recovery. She discusses how postpartum depression accelerated her drinking, the moment she received "the gift of desperation," and why she now uses social media to create solidarity among sober-curious women. Colbi offers profound insights on the difference between "fitting in" versus "belonging," and how sobriety has transformed her relationship with herself, her children, and her community. A must-listen for anyone questioning their relationship with alcohol, especially parents navigating the challenges of modern life.Support the show

Send us a textIn this thought-provoking episode of Sober Friends, Matt and Steve engage in a candid conversation about spirituality in recovery following their experience at a Joe and Charlie Big Book study. They thoughtfully examine the suggestion that atheists cannot truly work the AA program, offering nuanced perspectives on what constitutes a "higher power."The discussion explores several important dimensions of recovery:Alternatives to traditional religious concepts of God in sobrietyThe role of nature and energy as potential higher powersHow fellowship can serve as a power greater than oneselfPersonal experiences finding peace at the beach and during solo hikesThe value of questioning beliefs while maintaining sobrietyBalancing individual spiritual journeys with program fundamentalsThis episode provides valuable insights for anyone in recovery who is working to define their own spiritual path, whether they identify as religious, spiritual-but-not-religious, agnostic, or atheist. Matt and Steve demonstrate through their own experiences that recovery is accessible through various spiritual frameworks, emphasizing that what matters most is finding what works for you.Support the show

Send us a textIn this insightful episode of the Sober Friends podcast, hosts Steve and Matt explore the critical role of change in sustained sobriety and personal growth. Through candid discussion, they examine how resistance to change can impact recovery and why staying static often means sliding backward. The hosts share personal experiences about overcoming the fear of change, from career transitions to daily habits, while offering practical wisdom about taking manageable steps forward. This episode provides valuable perspectives on how the willingness to change—even when uncomfortable—becomes a cornerstone of lasting sobriety.Support the show

Send us a textIn this episode of The Sober Friends Podcast, Matt and Steve dive into the heart of what makes the 12-step program so impactful: the people who go above and beyond to help others, even when it's inconvenient. From late-night calls to long drives to meetings, these acts of service not only aid those in need but also enrich the lives of those who give. Matt and Steve also discuss the importance of having diverse voices on the show and put out a call for a regular female co-host. Tune in for heartfelt stories, listener questions, and a reminder that you're never alone on your journey to sobriety.Support the show

Send us a textIn this intimate conversation, the Sober Friends hosts dive deep into one of recovery's most challenging aspects: dealing with things beyond our control. Through personal stories about workplace anxiety, childhood trauma, and finding unexpected joy, they explore how fellowship, therapy, and individual solutions help navigate life's uncertainties. Whether you're wrestling with imposter syndrome, anxiety about the future, or searching for peace in sobriety, this episode offers practical insights and reminds listeners they're not alone in their journey.Support the show

Send us a textIn this powerful episode of Sober Friends, hosts Matt and Steve dive deep into the critical connection between isolation and addiction. Through personal stories of drinking alone and social anxiety, they explore how isolation can both trigger addiction and become a destructive pattern in recovery. The hosts share their journeys from basement drinking to building meaningful connections through hiking groups and recovery meetings. This episode offers hope and practical strategies for those struggling to break free from isolation, especially in today's world of remote work and digital disconnection. Whether you're in recovery or supporting someone who is, this conversation provides valuable insights into the healing power of human connection.Support the show

Send us a textIn this thought-provoking episode of the Sober Friends podcast, Steve and Matt dive deep into the changing landscape of recovery programs and what makes an effective support group. The conversation stems from their recent experience with a "Joe and Charlie" study session, leading to an authentic discussion about the evolution of recovery programs over the decades.The hosts explore several compelling topics, including the contrast between historical and modern recovery success rates, the emergence of alternative programs like SMART Recovery, and what defines a truly effective support meeting. They share personal experiences about finding the right meeting environment, including an enlightening story about a Christmas shopping adventure that highlighted the importance of program-focused discussions.A particularly insightful segment covers how recovery tools become second nature over time, with the hosts discussing how they naturally implement these strategies in their daily lives - from managing social anxiety at a school concert to handling holiday stress. The episode also touches on the unique characters that make recovery meetings special, and how unlikely partnerships often lead to successful recovery journeys.Whether you're in recovery, curious about different sobriety programs, or interested in understanding how recovery meetings actually work, this episode offers valuable insights into the real-world application of recovery principles and the importance of finding the right support system.Support the show

Send us a textJoin Steve and Matt as they dive into the recent Surgeon General's warning about alcohol being a carcinogen, exploring what this means for both drinkers and non-drinkers alike. Drawing from personal experience and scientific insights, they discuss how younger generations are increasingly questioning alcohol use, the rise of mocktail culture, and why "moderate drinking" might not be as healthy as once believed. The hosts share candid observations about changing societal attitudes toward drinking, particularly among teens and young adults, while exploring how this public health warning could impact drinking culture over the coming decades. Listen in as they compare this moment to the evolution of cigarette warnings and their impact on smoking rates, offering thoughtful perspectives on what this could mean for future generations.Eye-Opening Moments PodcastEye-Opening Moments are stories of adversity, encounters, and perspectives. They are...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the show

Send us a textJoin Matt as he shares a deeply personal exploration of what keeps his sobriety vibrant after 11 years. In this timely episode, released during the holiday season, Matt reveals how connecting with newly sober individuals continues to fuel his recovery journey. Through engaging storytelling and honest reflection, he discusses the unexpected ways social media platforms like TikTok have created new avenues for connection in the recovery community. Whether you're just beginning your sobriety journey or have years of experience, this episode offers valuable insights into maintaining momentum and finding renewed purpose in recovery.Support the show

Send us a textIn this episode, Matt opens up about his decision to return to Joe & Charlie Big Book study sessions—not to learn more about AA's foundational text, but to combat isolation in his recovery journey. As someone working from home with ADHD, Matt shares his struggles with maintaining connections and building friendships in sobriety, despite his success in digital spaces like TikTok and Bluesky. This episode explores the challenging balance between introversion and the vital need for human connection in recovery, offering hope and understanding to anyone feeling lonely during the holiday season.Support the show

Send us a textIn this candid and heartfelt episode of the Sober Friends Podcast, Steve and Matt dive deep into the challenges of maintaining long-term sobriety. They explore the subtle dangers of complacency, the importance of keeping recovery fresh, and how finding new perspectives can reinvigorate your journey. From Joe and Charlie workshops to unexpected sources of inspiration like TikTok, they share personal strategies for staying motivated, engaged, and committed to a sober lifestyle. Whether you're new to recovery or have years of sobriety under your belt, this episode offers valuable insights into keeping your recovery program dynamic and meaningful.There's more to the Sober Friends experience than just the podcast! Our companion newsletter takes that conversation to another level, where you get an in-depth article that explores our podcast topic from a completely different angle. Head over to soberfriendspod.com, scroll to the bottom to subscribe.Support the show

Send us a textIn this powerful episode of Sober Friends, Matt and Steve dive deep into the transformative role of social media in addiction recovery. Discover how platforms like TikTok and Blue Sky are revolutionizing the way people approach sobriety, offering unprecedented support, community, and hope for those struggling with alcohol addiction. Learn about the importance of compassion, meeting people where they are, and the potential for connection in the digital age of recovery.There's more to the Sober Friends experience than just the podcast! Our companion newsletter takes that conversation to another level, where you get an in-depth article that explores our podcast topic from a completely different angle. Head over to soberfriendspod.com, scroll to the bottom to subscribe.Support the show

Send us a textHow much recovery work is 'enough'? In this candid episode, we dive deep into a common struggle many face in sobriety - the pressure to do more. From navigating the end of the 'pink cloud' phase to finding balance in service work, we explore why feeling like you're not doing enough might actually be a sign you're on the right path. Whether you're 209 days sober or 10 years in, this conversation about recovery perfectionism, guilt, and finding your own pace offers valuable insights for anyone on their sobriety journey. Plus, we discuss how social media is reshaping recovery communities and making sobriety more accessible to younger generations.There's more to the Sober Friends experience than just the podcast! Our companion newsletter takes that conversation to another level, where you get an in-depth article that explores our podcast topic from a completely different angle. Head over to soberfriendspod.com, scroll to the bottom to subscribe.Support the show

Send us a textJoin Matt, and Steve as they dive deep into one of recovery's most crucial warning signs - HALT (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired). Through personal stories and real experiences, they explore how these seemingly simple states can create dangerous unguarded moments in sobriety. From dealing with family dynamics and feeling unappreciated to finding healthy coping strategies, this episode offers practical solutions for maintaining recovery during vulnerable times. Learn why breaking a shoelace might be just as challenging as life's bigger hurdles, and discover effective tools like exercise, meditation, and the power of reaching out to others.There's more to the Sober Friends experience than just the podcast! Our companion newsletter takes that conversation to another level, where you get an in-depth article that explores our podcast topic from a completely different angle. Head over to soberfriendspod.com, scroll to the bottom to subscribe.ClairvoyagingLauren & Frank explore esotericism, intuition, psychic growth, healing, and bad jokes.Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the show

Send us a textIn this powerful episode of the Sober Friends podcast, host Matt shares his deeply personal experience with Step 2 of Alcoholics Anonymous, tackling one of recovery's most challenging hurdles: connecting with a higher power. Whether you're new to sobriety, curious about AA, or a seasoned veteran in recovery, Matt's candid storytelling breaks down the misconceptions about spirituality in recovery and offers fresh perspectives on finding your own path.Key highlights include:Confronting the "God thing" in AA without religious pressureCreative alternatives to traditional concepts of a higher powerReal talk about the challenges of early sobriety and meeting attendancePractical advice for working through Step 2 at your own paceHow humility and openness become stepping stones to recoveryPerfect for the sober curious, newcomers to AA, or anyone seeking understanding about the role of spirituality in addiction recovery. Matt's authentic approach and vulnerable sharing make this complex topic accessible and relatable for everyone, regardless of their religious or spiritual background.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the show

Send us a textWhen life feels overwhelming, where do we find the resilience to get through it? In this episode, Matt and Steve have an honest discussion about coping with stress, loss, and difficult news. They explore strategies like finding purpose, building community, and focusing on what's within your control. With empathy and real-life examples, they provide hope and practical advice for anyone struggling to maintain their sobriety or wellbeing during challenging times.Key Takeaways:Acknowledging the validity of your feelings, even if they don't match others' experiencesUsing coping mechanisms like exercise, meditation, and spending time in natureCultivating a sense of purpose and looking for ways to be of service to othersLeaning on your support network and recovery communityMaintaining healthy routines and habits to provide stabilityThis episode is perfect for listeners in recovery, as well as anyone seeking guidance on building resilience and finding joy even in the midst of life's storms. With thoughtful discussion and relatable stories, Matt and Steve offer a compassionate roadmap for weathering challenges.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the show

Send us a textAnger and resentment can feel like a never-ending battle, especially for those in recovery. In this raw and relatable conversation, hosts Matt and Steve dive deep into their personal struggles with these challenging emotions. From childhood trauma to strained relationships, they share how anger has impacted their lives and sobriety.Discover strategies they've learned through therapy, the 12 steps, and outside resources to manage these powerful feelings. Hear about those "ah-ha" moments that shifted their perspectives, as well as the setbacks they continue to face. Whether you're grappling with your own anger demons or supporting a loved one, this episode offers hope and practical advice for finding more peace.Don't miss this honest discussion about a topic that's all too common, yet often stigmatized. Tune in to learn how Matt and Steve are working to reclaim their power and rebuild the relationships that matter most. Your own journey with anger and resentment may just find validation here.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the show

Send us a textLooking for deeper connections in recovery? Join Steve and Matt as they explore the transformative power of recovery retreats. From intimate 35-person gatherings to step-focused weekends, discover how these getaways offer more than just a break from daily life. Learn why investing in a retreat might be exactly what your recovery needs, whether you're newly sober or years into your journey. Steve shares his recent retreat experience, including a powerful revelation about anger and emotions, while Matt reflects on how retreats helped him early in sobriety. This episode demystifies recovery retreats and shows how they can strengthen your program through fellowship, structured discussion, and meaningful connections with others serious about their recovery. Perfect for anyone curious about taking their recovery to the next level or seeking deeper connections in the program.#recovery #sobriety #AAretreat #fellowship #soberpodcast #recoveryjourney #soberlifeDo you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the show

Send us a textAre you questioning your relationship with alcohol but thinking "I haven't lost everything yet"? In this raw and revealing episode, we dive into what it really means to be a "high bottom" alcoholic in today's world.Matt shares his personal struggle with Step One, challenging the traditional "rock bottom" narrative from the 1930s Big Book. From the exhausting mental gymnastics of "just one drink" to the profound revelation that unmanageability isn't always about losing homes or jobs – sometimes it's the quiet chaos in your head that's the real wake-up call.Key moments in this episode:The eye-opening story of a family gathering that became a battlefield of "should I drink?" decisionsWhy comparing your story to others might be keeping you stuckThe unexpected conversation with a well-heeled woman that changed everythingWhat unmanageability really looks like when you still have the house, the job, and the familyWhether you identify as a "high bottom" drinker or you're just questioning your relationship with alcohol, this episode offers a fresh perspective on what it means to be powerless over alcohol in today's world. You don't have to wait until you lose it all to make a change.

Send us a textAre you stuck in survival mode, always waiting for that "one thing" to make you happy? In this raw and insightful episode, Matt shares a powerful revelation from an AA meeting that struck him "square between the eyes." Discover how the constant struggle to just get by can fuel addiction, and learn how embracing vulnerability and asking for help can transform mere survival into true thriving. Whether you're newly sober or years into recovery, this episode offers a fresh perspective on breaking free from the survival mindset and building a life of purpose and fulfillment. Tune in for practical tips on silencing negative self-talk, finding value beyond external measures, and unlocking your potential to not just survive, but truly thrive in sobriety.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the show

Send us a textJoin us for an illuminating conversation with Trisha Lewis, host of the Recovery Happy Hour podcast and advocate for inclusive sobriety. In this episode, we dive deep into the evolving landscape of recovery, challenging traditional notions of what it means to be "alcoholic" and exploring the diverse paths to sobriety in today's world.Trisha shares her personal journey and insights on:Why you don't need to hit "rock bottom" to choose sobrietyThe role of non-alcoholic beverages in recoveryNavigating trauma and mental health in sobrietyBreaking free from rigid recovery labelsThe importance of finding your own path while staying connected to communityWhether you're sober curious, in recovery, or just interested in understanding modern approaches to sobriety, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on creating a life beyond alcohol. Discover why sobriety isn't just about survival—it's about learning to thrive.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the show

Send us a textIn this raw and honest episode, Matt and Steve dive deep into the challenging journey of self-forgiveness and building self-worth in recovery. They explore how the weight of past mistakes can fuel addiction and hinder progress, sharing personal stories of their own struggles and triumphs.Discover practical strategies for letting go of guilt, embracing patience in personal growth, and finding self-esteem through "estimable acts." Whether you're new to sobriety or years into your journey, this episode offers valuable insights on:Overcoming imposter syndrome and feelings of inadequacyThe power of making amends and owning your pastFinding balance between self-improvement and self-acceptanceHow to build self-esteem through small, meaningful actionsJoin Matt and Steve for this powerful discussion on transforming self-doubt into self-compassion – an essential step in maintaining long-term sobriety and living a fulfilling life in recovery.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the show

Send us a textIn this thought-provoking episode, we dive deep into a compelling New York Times article that challenges how we view obesity—is it a disease or just a symptom of a larger issue? This sparks a broader conversation about alcoholism and addiction. Could it be that, like obesity, alcoholism is merely masking deeper, underlying problems?Join Matt and Steve as they explore their personal journeys with recovery and weight loss, drawing fascinating parallels between the two. They discuss the struggles of overcoming addiction, whether to alcohol or food, and how societal perceptions might be missing the mark. Is it time to rethink how we approach recovery and treatment?Whether you're navigating your own path to recovery or simply curious about a new way to think about addiction, this episode is sure to spark some insightful reflections. Plus, don't miss the link to the original article for a deeper dive into this eye-opening perspective!Click here to link to the New York Times ArticleNever Enough:  The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction by Judith GriselDo you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the show

Send us a textAre you feeling stuck in your recovery journey, seeing the same faces and hearing the same stories over and over again? You're not alone. In this episode, we dive deep into the rut that many of us experience and how stepping out of your comfort zone can reignite your passion for sobriety. Join Matt as he shares his recent experience as a speaker at a virtual newcomer's meeting, where the fresh energy and diverse voices revitalized his commitment to service. We also explore the value of switching up your routine, from virtual meetings with international participants to intimate small group gatherings, and the unexpected ways these can help combat that feeling of disconnection. Whether you're struggling with motivation or just curious about how others are keeping things fresh, this episode is packed with insights and practical tips to help you reconnect with your recovery. Tune in, and let's rediscover the joy of the journey together!Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the show

Send us a textIn this episode of the Sober Friends Podcast, we dive into the deep end of social anxiety and imposter syndrome—two common struggles that many of us face, especially on our sober journeys. Join us as we share personal stories of navigating awkward social situations, feeling like outsiders, and the challenge of finding our place in new communities. Whether it's at a kid's soccer game or a fancy dinner party, we've all experienced those moments of not fitting in. But what do we do when these feelings become overwhelming, and how can we learn to cope without turning to alcohol?We'll also explore the surprising connections between social anxiety and drinking in isolation, and share practical strategies for building connections, one person at a time. Plus, a heartfelt shoutout to our amazing listener who bought us a coffee and shared how our podcast helps them stay positive on their sober path. If you're struggling with social anxiety, or just want to hear some relatable stories and tips on staying true to your sober self, this episode is for you.Join us, connect, and remember—you belong here.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.In this deeply personal episode, we dive into the striking parallels between food indulgence and the battles of addiction. It all started with a simple craving for greasy food that spiraled into a night of severe discomfort and unexpected reflection. Join us as we explore how one small slip-up triggered memories of past struggles with alcohol, leading to a profound conversation about recovery, self-destruction, and the daily battles to maintain sobriety. Whether it's greasy food or alcohol, sometimes the things we enjoy the most are the ones we must learn to live without. This episode is a candid look at why we fall into destructive patterns, how we pick ourselves back up, and the vital importance of sharing our stories along the way.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.The fourth and fifth steps can cause a lot of fear when we first come into a twelve step group.  For me, they were liberating.  We discuss why the fourth and fifth steps are so important.  This is not a how to, this is why they are great steps, how they help you learn more about yourself and why you drink and help you understand how to stay away from the bottle.  The fifth step helps you build trust and to have a deep conversation with an another alcoholic about your defects and how you have similarities.What was your experience with the fourth and fifth steps?  Let us know at matt@soberfriendspod.com and on instagram @soberfriendspod.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, we dive deep into the world of sobriety among well-known public figures. From presidents to Hollywood stars, many famous faces have openly battled addiction, offering both inspiration and complex reflections on the struggle with substance abuse. Steve and I explore what it means to see these celebrities maintain sobriety, how it resonates with those of us in recovery, and whether their stories bring hope or highlight the harsh realities of this relentless disease. Join us as we discuss the triumphs and trials of living a sober life, no matter the resources at hand.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.You get both of these amazing episodes in one day!  If you have not listened to my excellent interview with William Schaberg, then you are in luck today!  If you have, you'll love going over this again!  I hope you consider buying his book, "Writing the Big Book," which I will link in the notes.  You'll be blown away by Bill's insight.  In Part 2 of the interview with Bill Schaberg, we discuss:What really happened when Ebby Thatcher visited Bill Wilson (The Kitchen Table Story)The problem with most AA historyThe many stories Bill told on how the steps were writtenWho really wrote, “To Wives,” and the urban legends about this chapterHank Parkhurt's role in writing the Big Book and his later resentment of Bill WilsonCheck out Bill Schaberg's site writingthebigbook.com where you can pick up his book, Writing the Big Book.Learn more about Hank Parkhurst at hankparkhurst.comDo you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Tune in to the Patient Advocacy Voices Podcast todayJoin Sanofi's Eric Racine to meet the unsung heroes leading patient advocacy organizationsListen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the Show.

Send us a Text Message.I love this episode and its so far in the back of the catalogue, you may not have seen it, especially if you are a new listener. I got the privilege of interviewing William Schaberg, author of the book, "Writing the Big Book."  To me, it's the definitive history of the period when Bill write the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous.  Here is what we discuss:The genesis of the why he wrote the bookBill W's realization of why a book was writtenBill W's original plan to help alcoholics recoverHank Pankhurst - the founder that drank and how there would be no Big Book without himThe Oxford Group - how the originals got soberBill Schaberg's controversial take on who should be on the AA Mount RushmoreCheck out Bill Schaberg's site writingthebigbook.com where you can pick up his book, Writing the Big Book.Learn more about Hank Parkhurst at hankparkhurst.comDo you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Tune in to the Patient Advocacy Voices Podcast todayJoin Sanofi's Eric Racine to meet the unsung heroes leading patient advocacy organizationsListen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the Show.

Send us a Text Message.In this episode of the Sober Friends Podcast, Matt dives deep into the often challenging topic of faith and spirituality in recovery. Reflecting on his personal struggles with the concept of a higher power, Matt shares his experiences and doubts, from growing up in a Catholic household to grappling with the notion of an afterlife. He explores the conflicts many face when reconciling scientific reasoning with spiritual beliefs, especially within the context of sobriety and 12-step programs.Join us as Matt candidly discusses the feelings of envy towards those with strong faith, the fear of vulnerability in giving control over to a higher power, and the desire for a more concrete understanding of the divine. Whether you're religious, agnostic, or just curious, this episode offers a thought-provoking exploration of belief, doubt, and the quest for meaning in a sober life. Tune in to connect with Matt's journey and share your own experiences and insights on faith in sobriety.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.I struggle with what I can't control.  If things are not going my way and I have no control over it, it can cause me great stress.  That's when I think of the serenity prayer and try to learn from it's wisdom.  In this episode, we discuss those things we think we'd control much better and learn when to let go.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Join Steve and Matt in this enlightening episode as they delve into the transformative power of peace, serenity, and mindfulness. They discuss the importance of recognizing the universe working in our favor and the profound impact of the 11th Step Prayer, also known as the Prayer of Saint Francis. Steve shares his personal journey of navigating sobriety, the challenges of maintaining a spiritual practice, and the benefits of incorporating prayer and meditation into daily routines. Discover how these practices, alongside mindful exercise, can help cultivate inner peace and improve overall well-being. Whether you're struggling with personal challenges or seeking ways to enhance your spiritual life, this episode offers valuable insights and practical tips for creating a more centered and harmonious existence.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Summer is a time we get out of the house and start socializing.  For those of us without the alcohol crutch, how do you survive?  We talk about it on this week's episode.  Having a 12 step group is helpful because you have a group of people you know.  Even if you don't belong to a fellowship, you can learn some tricks to stay sober and happy!Have a planLeave if you have toTake two carsBring your own drinksWe talk about how to survive socializing without booze this week.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.In this eye-opening episode we delve into the inspiring origins of Dry July, where three friends' commitment to sobriety sparked a global movement for health and cancer support. Join us as we explore the profound benefits of pausing alcohol consumption—not just for our bodies but for our minds, wallets, and communities. From a mental health renaissance to economic elevation, discover the transformative impact a dry month can have on every facet of life. Whether you're seeking better health, questioning your drinking habits, or simply curious about this charitable cause, this episode is your invitation to a journey of clarity, charity, and change. Tune in and find out why Dry July is more than a personal challenge—it's a collective stride towards a healthier society.Call to Action: Ready to raise your glass of water in solidarity? Listen now and join the Dry July movement—one day at a time.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.What is service work in recovery?  It's doing a task or a job that helps support others getting sober.  In a meeting, it can be as small as putting chairs away to making coffee.  It can be more involved like being a GSR at District, working at Area or GSO or volunteering for committees.  In the end, it's doing the job that supports others getting sober.  Steve and I are experienced with all kinds of service work and we hope you'll learn a little more about this important part of recovery and maybe even share your own experience.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.Our family of origin can be a cause of stress in recovery.  That's the case for me.  I've had to deal with an unexpected situation around my family of origin this week and I needed my higher power to help me through it.  I shared this stress in a way I hope helps you.  In this episode, we get vulnerable and discuss how the past can show up in the present and how to deal with it.  Steve helps me out in not developing new resentments and how to manage stressful situations with the family.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the Show.

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, we delve into the profound yet practical philosophy of “Take the Next Right Action.” This simple mantra holds a world of meaning, especially for those on the journey of recovery. It's about the courage to confront the challenging tasks we'd rather avoid, the selfless acts of kindness that elevate others at the expense of our own comfort, and the quiet heroism in extending a hand to those who are wrestling with their own battles.For many, recovery is not just a path to personal healing, but a road paved with opportunities to make a difference in the lives of others. “Doing the next right thing” isn't about grand gestures; it's found in the everyday choices that, while they may seem small, create ripples of positive change. Whether it's choosing honesty over convenience, service over self-indulgence, or hope over despair, these decisions shape the journey of recovery and reflect the heart of this podcast.Join us as we explore stories of resilience and generosity, and discuss how embracing this mindset can transform not only individual lives but also weave a tapestry of communal support and understanding. Together, we'll learn that sometimes, the hardest choices are the most rewarding, and helping someone struggling might just be the next right thing for you.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the Show.