Life Without Baggage

In this episode, I talk about the ways that trauma or abuse impacts a person physically, emotionally, relationally, and spiritually. This is episode #156 of my podcast #lifewithoutbaggage .0:00" Introduction to the Episode1:30" The impact on the body4:23" The impact of unmet needs, overdriven needs, and addictions6:30" Getting stuck in emotions. defenses, being overly busy, or control and rescuing14:15" Becoming passive (learned helplessness)17:10" Spiritual impact of abuse or trauma19:45" Tips and Strategies for growth23:15" A Prayer of Blessing✅ Important Links:

Do you know how to fight for yourself spiritually? My brother, Vince Didato, LPCC-S joins me to explain how. 0:00" Introduction to the Episode2:36" WHY you need to know how to fight SPIRITUALLY5:37" Understanding God's LOVE helps us know how to fight 8:04" DISTORTIONS that Interfere with our prayers12:45" EFFECTIVE prayers for PROTECTION17:50" Develop YOUR spirit19:50" STRATEGIES and Modes of Spiritual Empowerment27:30" Prayer to EMPOWER you✅ Important Links:

A short video that explains HOW to pray for your protection and the protection of your loved ones, finances, health, etc. using principles from the Bible. I use this for myself and my daughter.✅ Important Links:

There are many ways people can be controlled. Sometimes without an awareness that something is pulling us away from our true identity and purpose. Today, I explain 5 common ways that people are controlled. At the end is a detailed prayer to take back your true identity and break free of control. 0:00" Introduction to this episode3:10" Labels6:00" Trauma and Vows8:03" Addictions10:00" Cultural Trends12:20" Extreme Self-Promotion or Rebellion13:40" A life aligned with God19:23" Prayer for Break Through from Control✅ Important Links:

If you are looking for more peace and order in your life, you may need to look at your boundaries! This is episode #153 of #lifewithoutbaggage . This is taken from a chapter from my book "Anxiety, Depression & Helplessness: Keys to Break Free"

A short bit of encouragement from my personal studies on how to protect your true self in spite of the chaos or discouragement around you. This is a Bonus episode of #lifewithoutbaggage. ✅ Important Links:

My guest today is Dr. Uejin Kim, a Christian psychiatrist. She shares her insights on the proper use of medication in the journey to personal wholeness. 0:00" Introduction to the episode and to Dr. Kim 2:49" Dr. Kim's "calling" into psychiatry 7:28" The process of acceptance, healing, and freedom 10:50" When is medication necessary? 14:20" The role of counseling and the role of medication 19:39" The difference between what your family doctor can do and what a psychiatrist will do for you 24:00" "Burnt Out Brain", Stress & Social Media 26:18" Self-care and expectations in relationships32:28" Closing remarks Here are the websites for Dr. Kim:

Today I give an introduction to Season 5 and an explanation of the changes I am making this year. I also give a retrospective view of the first 4 seasons. 0:00" Introduction 1:00" Season 1: Relationship vs. Religion and the Supernatural aspects of the Christian life 5:45" Season 2: Covenant Names of God and Principles for Transformation 9:00" Season 3: Narcissism and Boundaries 10:46" Season 4: Trauma, Dysfunctional Attachments, Rejection and how to Move Forward 12:20" Season 5: Changes in Episodes and Areas I Plan to Study 13:30" Don't Be Deceived: Trends in Our Culture and the Challenge to Live in the Truth 22:00" Why Motives Matter 24:40" Prayer of Blessing

Today I explain the RIPE approach to successful change. I also discuss the common mistakes that people make that lead to giving up on our goals. I also give practical suggestions for how to counter those mistakes. 0:00" Introduction 3:20" Why Change Can Be Difficult 4:35" 4 Steps for Successful Change: The RIPE Method 11:50" Mistakes People Make and How to Counter Them 18:35" Maintaining Your Change 21:00" Resources

If you have a prayer request, you can leave me a confidential message here on Spotify or on my website. Merry Christmas! I am setting aside a time to pray for my listeners on January 1, 2025. Thank you for your interest in "Life Without Baggage." ✅ Important Links:

Emotional issues can SHIFT when we recognize the roots of problems and the prayer strategies to RELEASE our emotional baggage. 0:00" Introduction 3:44" Definitions 4:50" Hidden Hooks that hold baggage in place 9:49" Prayer to RELEASE emotional baggage

This is the prayer from episode #148 to help you break from the past. ✅ Important Links:

Here I explain the main reasons people get stuck in bad experiences from the past: traumatic bonds, resentment, and inner vows. These experiences create distortions that contaminate our view of ourselves and God. (This is Part 2 from my interview with  @javawithjen  .) 0:00" Introduction to the episode 1:59" Why people get stuck: traumatic bonds, resentment, and inner vows 5:00" Good vows, bad vows and promises 9:00" Identifying the roots in your life 11:50" A Prayer for Wholeness to break from the past 16:20" Additional Resources ✅ Important Links:

This is a video about the peace that God gives us when we stay close to Him. I explain what "peace" means in the Bible. ✅ Important Links:

Toxic guilt interferes with our enjoyment of God's gentle presence in our lives. This week I explain the distortions that create toxic guilt and how that contaminates our view of ourselves and God. This is episode #147 in my podcast #lifewithoutbaggage . Next week, in episode #148, I will explain the steps to move forward. My thanks to @JavawithJen who invited me to be on her podcast. 0:00" Introduction to the episode 2:40" My personal and professional interest in toxic guilt 5:50" Toxic guilt interferes with our enjoyment of God's gentle presence 10:40" Finding peace and freedom from toxic guilt 14:05" 5 Sources of Distortions ✅ Important Links:

In my interview with Julie Rebboah, I explain the practical and spiritual tools to help people get unstuck from their past and begin to move forward in life. 0:00" Introduction to the episode 2:47" A brief description of my personal and professional background 5:50" Common problems for adult survivors of trauma and dysfunction 10:50" Understanding the PROCESS of growth and transformation 15:00" Practical STRATEGIES: self-talk, using a journal, addressing toxic guilt, establishing healthy boundaries 27:12" Spiritual Strategies that help people move forward: the Word of God, the Presence of God, releasing resentments, and removing harmful vows 34:50" A Prayer for Wholeness to Move Forward ✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

Today, I interview  @VivianCumins  who talks about her journey through perfectionism and control into a more balanced approach to living. Viv also talks about her recovery from cancer and how she has learned to lean into her faith in Jesus Christ to find peace. 0:00" Introduction 1:25" How Viv became aware of her issues with control 5:10" How "Control Issues" develop 8:40" The impact of over control on adult choices 10:48" Finding healthy balance 13:38" Viv's journey through cancer 16:11" God speaks through dreams (and other ways) 18:12" How Viv develops her connection to God 20:30 Closing Thoughts

You have a basic coping style. Find out what your style is and how to cope in a more effective way. This is from my book, "Anxiety, Depression & Helplessness: Keys to Break Free." Proactive Coping 0:57" Passive and Active Tendencies 1:52" Over-Use of Our Style 2:27" How Patterns Develop 3:32" Compulsions and Addictions 5:05" Expanding Your Style 5:29" Resources 7:28" This video is about Your Style of Coping - Christian Counseling but also tries to cover the following subject: Building Emotional Resilience Effective Stress Management Personality Style TITLE : Your Style of Coping - Christian Counseling | Drtonicooper.com ✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.tonicooper8565 Important Links:

There are important principles that can help people break free from their past and from a victim mindset. Today I explain how and guide you in a prayer to break free. 0:00" Introduction 0:56" Determination to break free 4:32" Understanding your coping style and #learnedhelplessness 6:50" Living in Crisis Mode 9:22" Changing how YOU view Yourself 11:20" Vows & Judgments 15:53" Guided prayer to release vows and judgments ✅ Subscribe To My YouTube Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

A fun interview with SheRa Renee from the Blemished Beauty podcast where we look at the impact of childhood trauma on our romantic choices and 3 unhealthy patterns in relationships. 0:00" Introduction 1:00" How I got interested in trauma recovery 3:30" 3 Patterns and Relationship Mistakes 10:50" Know who you are 12:10" Dating, Job Interviews, Romance & Sex 18:40" Self-Esteem and Relationships 25:20" Closing ✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

In this video podcast, I explore concepts from nature and the Bible that help us understand how to find peace and navigate chaos. 0:00" Introduction 0:58" Pictures of peace and safety in nature 2:40" Pictures of how Jesus can be our safe place 4:30" Comforting images from the Bible 9:50" Learning how to lean into Jesus and draw from His PEACE 13:22" Prayer of Blessing ✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

This episode explains the power of words that can bring us peace and strength to move forward from the difficulties in life. 0:00" Introduction to the Episode 1:00" Understanding the POWER of words in nature 4:40" The Bible teaches us about the POWER of the Word of God to create change 7:00" Words of strength and healing in a prayer for you 10:27" The Christian life is supernatural power 12:21" Leave me a voicemail of how you unloaded some baggage!

Does childhood stress matter if you are an adult and you've forgiven everyone in your past? This episode explores the answer to this question about the impact of childhood stress (i. e., experiences prior to age 18) on adult coping skills. There is also a quiz to help you understand how much stress you may have had in your childhood. 0:00" Introduction 0:55" Karl is dropping off some of his baggage 1:55" Childhood stress and adult depression, anxiety, helplessness, coping, and physical health. 8:51" The Adverse Childhood Experiences Scale 12:58" Steps to improve adult mental health 15:20" Prayer for the listener

Some tips for people 50+ who want to age well. This is a radio interview with Jeanne Destro from WAKR. ✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

This week's episode is an interview with Julie Rebboah who learned how to STOP people pleasing. Julie grew up with a parent who had an undiagnosed personality disorder. As a result, Julie experienced the divorce of her parents, poverty, emotional abuse, and neglect. We talk about the ways that she lost her self and then learned to stop people pleasing and take charge of her life. This is episode #139 in my podcast "Life Without Baggage." 0:00" Introduction to the Episode on People Pleasing 0:55" Julie Rebboah describes her childhood and family dysfunction 10:45" How Julie started the process of resisting people pleasing 14:45" What is a personality disorder? 15:45" Wrestling with irrational guilt when you stop people pleasing 23:35" Summary and Closing

In light of recent events, I want to post a prayer that you can use to ask God for His intervention in our nation. This prayer uses Scripture from 2 Chronicles 7:14, Exodus 20, Isaiah 58, and Isaiah 53. God responds to humility and repentance for sin.

This week's episode is an interview I did with the Christian Reader's Community. In this interview, I address concerns about a variety of topics and healthy ways to draw on your faith. This is episode #138 in my podcast "Life Without Baggage." 0:00" Introduction to the Episode 3:00" Why People Get Stuck 6:55" Guilt and Self-Care 11:15" Self-Criticism and False Humility 13:19 Cultivating Joy and a Positive Outlook

This week looks at the Joy, Peace, and Beauty we create for ourselves and others as you develop even simple creative talents. Many people do not recognize the creativity they express in the simple tasks of life (like cooking, sewing, repairing items, gardening, solving problems, etc.) 0:00" Introduction 2:22" Where does creativity start? 7:26" Practical Tips 14:09" Spiritual aspects of creativity 17:00" Prayer and Blessing Let me know if you have dropped off some baggage!

Is God mad at me? Why don't I feel forgiven? How do I get closer to God? This video answers those questions. 0:00" Introduction 0:35" Is God mad at me? 4:45" Why do I have trouble feeling good enough? 7:08" How can I recognize if I have distortions about God 10:50" Four steps to remove distortions ✅ Important Links:

This week looks at the therapeutic power of creativity. Many people do not recognize the creativity they express in the simple tasks of life (like cooking, sewing, repairing items, gardening, solving problems, etc.) Creativity gives us joy and blesses other people. 0:00" Introduction 1:56" Have You Dropped Off Some Baggage? 2:50" Creativity in your everyday life 4:35" Therapeutic benefits of having a creative outlet 6:05" What is necessary to have creative energy? 9:50" 3 Components of Creativity 14:15" Prayer and Blessing Let me know if you have dropped off some baggage!

Today, I am interviewing Jenilee Samuel of "Java with Jen" to discuss how to use your faith to get strategies for your business, podcast, or hobby. 0:00" Introduction to episode and to Jenilee Samuel 2:32" Recognizing the gentle ways that God communicates with us 9:34" Getting help from God to improve your finances, business, hobby, or side hustle 18:42" Dreams, Inventions & Creativity 25:25" Prayer of Blessing from Jen Here is a link to the "Java with Jen" podcast and website https://jenileesamuel.wordpress.com/java-with-jen-podcast-2/ Here is how to find Jen Samuel on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/javawithjen/ ✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

If you have dropped off some baggage as a result of any of these episodes, or prayers, or insights, I would love to hear from you! This link will give you 90 seconds of recording time. https://www.speakpipe.com/LifeWithoutBaggage Also, let me know if I have permission to share your recording on a future segment! Looking forward to hearing from you!

This episode looks at the impact of trauma on the body and the brain, triggers, and ways to move forward in recovery from trauma. 0:00" Introduction to the episode and guest 3:20" Trauma & Helplessness 8:50" Triggers and Emotional overload 11:24" Tools for recovery from trauma 14:45" Mistakes people of faith make in their coping 16:05" Increasing your sense of safety 18:34" Improving your self-care and self-compassion 20:15" Boundaries and trauma 21:30" Unhealthy tendencies 26:40" Your view of God 30:00" Closing comments Here is a link to Jenniel's podcast "Shades of Trauma Healing" https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/shades-of-trauma-healing-childhood-trauma-trust/id1697943321 Here is a link to a free resource from Jenniel: https://go.shadesoftraumahealing.com/10-signs ✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

This video gives simple tips to use guided imagery and relaxation to reduce anxiety and enjoy greater peace. 0:00" Benefits of Relaxation Techniques 1:06" Preparing Your Setting 3:16" A Guided Relaxation for you 9:50" Additional Suggestions to manage stress 11:11" A Prayer for Peace This is not a substitute for medication or counseling. This is a Bonus Video from my podcast "Life Without Baggage." ✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

In this episode, I explain how to use your faith to build #selfconfidence on the foundation of your position, purpose, and power in Jesus Christ. 0:00" Introduction 2:21" Our POSITION as loved by God 7:30" Our lives have PURPOSE as a child of God 13:07" We have POWER in the Holy Spirit to overcome obstacles 20:35" Prayer of blessing ✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

This episode explores some roots of self-rejection and important insights to help you move out of low #selfesteeem. 0:00" Introduction 1:42" ROOTS of Self-Rejection 4:45" Building a foundation of self-acceptance 9:30" A prayer to overcome and move forward ✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

There are things you can do to move forward after divorce, a break up, or loss of a friendship. Here are 12 steps to help get through it as smoothy as possible. 0:00" Introduction 3:00" Steps 1 - 12 19:44" Common Mistakes 21:10" Learn what you can so you can choose wisely Psalm 34:18 The Lord is near to the brokenhearted. Video on "Relationship Addiction" https://youtu.be/IdqTTM95Gcc?si=kaEYvK2KX5U7XW3y Video on "Healthy Personal Boundaries" https://youtu.be/R81b29pR92Q?si=bkx24ffCC1_i51zM Video on "Drama In Dating" https://youtu.be/COFQvTVSxDw?si=1_OC0XQRbVZ23Ol2 ✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

There are trendy practices that take us out of the light of Jesus and into murky spiritual practices. Here is a simple explanation of how to tell the difference. Website drtonicooper.com Books on Amazonamazon.com/author/drtonicooper Video Podcasts channel youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/featured FB facebook.com/drtonicooper Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tonicooper777/

In this more personal episode, I talk about my struggles with depression, spiritual confusion, and generational patterns. 0:00" Introduction to the episode 2:25" My background of emotional turmoil and depression 10:18" Ways that the Lord started to change me 11:15" Things that the Lord wanted me to address in order to grow 17:25" Closing the door on the occult practices 19:50" Inner vows that bound me 26:00" Learning about the power of the spoken word & personal decrees 29:00" I was afraid of God 33:20" Learning to ENJOY the presence of God 36:00" Learning how God SPEAKS to us 41:40" Q & A about releasing resentments, the pain of divorce, regrouping after a relapse, guilt, and vows 54:00" Encouragement to the listener by Pastor Shane ✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

This episode looks at a variety of topics related to overcoming family patterns of abuse & dysfunction in order to have a stronger personality and healthier relationships. 0:00" Introduction 1:57" The prevalence of trauma in society 4:00" The role of learned helplessness 7:29" Childhood abuse & domestic violence 14:20" Coping strategies to build a stronger personality 20:04" Toxic guilt, forgiveness & boundaries 26:10" Labels & Judgments If you would like to hear the entire episode of Thrive, here is the link: https://youtu.be/6-DveSLaRWg?si=DebQ0B-7meysy0wk ✅ Important Links:

Today we go step-by-step to help you identify lingering attachments to people, organizations, family members, and spiritual practices that are holding you captive. 0:00" Introduction and Review of Attachments 2:40" Questions to Identify Lingering Attachments 12:50" Prayer to Unload Attachments & Trauma Bonds ✅ Subscribe To My YouTube Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

An overview of how secrets, traumatic family dynamics, and false spiritual practices prevent us from resolving losses or moving forward in life. This information can also be found in my book called "Life Without Baggage" which is available on Amazon. 0:00" Introduction and Review of definitions 2:50" Understanding the Intensity of Bonds and Loss 5:40" Trauma Bonds and Traumatic Loss 6:45" Secrets 8:37" Traumatic Bonds with Parents 12:15" Positive & Negative Spiritual Practices that Impact Freedom 16:30" Prayer to Break Ties ✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

This is part 1 in a short series on attachments, soul ties, and trauma bonds. Understanding this concept helps us break free from toxic relationships and memories. 0:00" Introduction to the episode 2:16" What is a soul tie? 4:20" Is this in the Bible? 7:00" What is the purpose of a soul tie? 8:19" What is a bad tie? 9:40" How are these bonds formed? 11:30 Prayer to Break unwanted attachments and ties ✅ Important Links:

Periodically I set aside a time to pray for the requests that people send me. Send me a message, I will keep it confidential, and I will pray for that request on Monday, July 22, 2024. Also, keep me posted when you receive your answer to prayer!

A short word of encouragement for you. God shares His secrets with those who want to listen.

Today I interview Laura Jane Layton on the importance of self-care and how to build #selfconfidence and #healthyrelationships. 0:00" Introduction 2:15" Why do we need self-care? 6:40" Is self-care selfish? 9:39" Self-care and healthy relationships 15:45" Self-talk and mental health 20:00" Gratitude and self-care Here is the link to Laura Jane website: https://laurajanelayton.com/ ✅ Subscribe To My Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

Tips and strategies to help you stop self-criticism (taken from my Livestream on June 21, 2024). 0:00" Introduction 2:20" ROOTS of Self-Criticism 4:07" Journal Exercises that help 6:00" Strategies to get at the ROOTS 7:44" Spiritual & Psychological ways to UPROOT 11:26" Changing Self-Talk 15:00" Forgiving Yourself & Others 20:20" Positive Supports 22:10" Q & A 26:00" Blessing for the Listeners ✅ Subscribe To My YouTube Channel For More Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@ChristianCounselingforaL-gz3mu/?sub_confirmation=1 ✅ Important Links:

A word of encouragement from Ephesians 4:13. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antoinette-t-cooper/message

A short word of encouragement on how to understand chaos in your personal life and in the world. Here is a link to the YouTube video. https://youtube.com/shorts/OxHOPv3kf08?si=-R8ZPEoMRrvkDXLg --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antoinette-t-cooper/message

Part 2 with Rebekah Anne Perkins, M.S., about emotional intelligence and how to manage difficult emotions like anger and guilt. 0:00" Introduction 2:08" Why people devalue their emotions 3:28" The results of ignoring emotion 7:00" The emotion of anger and how to handle it 16:25" Speaking up in a healthy way will help you build self-confidence 17:20" The power of learning to label your emotions 19:50" Handling guilt and shame Here is the link to Rebekah Anne's website https://www.rebekahanneperkins.com/ ✅ Important Links:

This is Part 1 where I interview Rebekah Anne Perkins, M.S., about what defines emotional intelligence and the signs of whether you are strong or weak in E.Q. 0:00" Introduction 2:52" Definition 4:20" The purpose of emotions and need for E.Q. 6:30" The benefits of improving your E.Q. (Emotional Intelligence) 9:15" Ways to determine your EQ Here is the link to Rebekah Anne's website https://www.rebekahanneperkins.com/ ✅ Important Links: