Podcast appearances and mentions of Christian counseling

Send us Fan MailWhat happens when the church—the very place where we expect to find grace, community, and care—becomes a place of hurt?In this episode of God-Sized Stories with Patricia Holbrook, Patricia talks with Timothy St. John, counseling pastor at Lighthouse Community Church in Torrance, California, about church hurt, healing, rebuilding trust, and finding a healthy church community.Timothy is the author of After Church Hurt: Healing in the Care of the Good Shepherd, a book that addresses the spiritual and emotional wounds that can result when sin and harmful behavior are minimized, normalized, or protected within a church culture.Timothy brings years of experience in biblical counseling to this conversation. He serves as a counseling pastor and oversees a counseling ministry designed to help people bear one another's burdens within the church.If you've experienced church hurt—or if you're a pastor, counselor, ministry leader, or friend trying to help someone who has—this conversation offers a thoughtful place to begin.

God's compassion causes Him to heal us one layer at a time. Dr. Ray interviews professional counselor Dr. Naomi Madrid, author of Healing Through Layers (available on Amazon.com), who explains God's process of healing us through various layers to reach the root of the effects of personal trauma and more. This episode of Self Talk can be life-changing   Isa 54:4 "Do not fear, for you will not be ashamed; Neither be disgraced, for you will not be put to shame; For you will forget the shame of your youth, And will not remember the reproach of your widowhood anymore.   Help Dr. Self continue this show - partner at www.icmcollege.org/donate  Answer your call by enrolling with the International College of Ministry at www.icmcollege.org/enroll  Purchase Dr. Ray's latest book, "The Call." God called you, and you answered: this is what you need to know! Click Here  Follow and subscribe to Self Talk with Dr. Ray Self on our podcast website: https://www.icmcollege.org/selftalk.   Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Hear His Voice, Be His Voice, or visit Amazon.com. Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Redeem Your Past and Find Your Promised Land, or visit Amazon.com. Or our new podcast website at https://www.buzzsprout.com/2249804   For show topic suggestions, email Dr. Ray Self at drrayself@gmail.com Enjoy free courses offered by the International College of Ministry Free Courses Show host bio - Dr. Ray Self founded Spirit Wind Ministries Inc. and the International College of Ministry. He holds a Doctorate in Christian Psychology and a Doctorate in Theology. He currently resides in Winter Park, Florida. He is married to Dr. Christie Self and has three sons and a daughter.

We often use "stressed" and "traumatized" like they're interchangeable but your nervous system treats them very differently. In this episode, we break down what's actually happening in your body during everyday stress versus a trauma response, why the same situation can trigger wildly different reactions in different people, and how to tell which one you're dealing with so you can actually reach for the right tool to help yourself. In This Episode: What's physiologically happening during a normal stress response (and why it's designed to resolve on its own) What makes a trauma response different — including the lesser-known "freeze" and "fawn" responses beyond fight-or-flight The "window of tolerance" and why trauma can make it feel smaller A simple set of questions to help you tell whether you're having a stress reaction or a trauma response Different coping tools for each — and why "just calm down" doesn't work for trauma responses Why chronic, unmanaged stress can start to look and feel like trauma over time Key Takeaway You don't have to label your reaction perfectly to start taking care of yourself but naming it accurately helps you stop blaming yourself for "overreacting" and start reaching for what will actually help.

How might we better (as pastors) better come alongside victims of domestic abuse? Abuse in Christian marriage is easy to miss—and even easier to minimise. How can pastors recognise what is happening behind closed doors and help our churches become places of refuge for the oppressed?Counsellor and author Darby Strickland joins us to discuss domestic abuse, the entitlement that drives it, and the patterns of control that can be hidden beneath an appearance of Christian respectability.Darby Strickland is a counsellor and faculty member at the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation (CCEF), and author of Is It Abuse? A Biblical Guide to Identifying Domestic Abuse and Helping Victims.We explore how to listen carefully and ask better questions.We consider how Christ's sacrificial love shapes our care for those living with oppression and fear.Also see: Caring pastorally for domestic abuse victims — Jenni WoodhouseFeatures a survivor's story, with Jenni reviewing Dominic's pastoral response and discussing what pastors can learn.Abuse in the marriages of ministry leaders — Jenni WoodhouseExplores the added pressures when a victim's home, income and church community are tied to their spouse's ministry.Telling the difference between Domestic Violence and Dysfunctional Relationship? — Magdalena LiemLooks at recognising abuse and responding pastorally to victims and those accused of perpetrating it.Coercive control in Christian families and the impact on children — Jenni WoodhouseDiscusses the impact on children and how church leaders can recognise and respond to coercive control.To watch or listen to Bible Teaching from Dominic Steele at Village Church Annandale Sydney goto this link. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your behavior matters. Your good works, kindness, love, and generosity are all important, but none of these things make you righteous before God. This truth is crucial to understand, and Dr. Ray explains why it matters.  Eph 2:8 -9 For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast.   Help Dr. Self continue this show - partner at www.icmcollege.org/donate  Answer your call by enrolling with the International College of Ministry at www.icmcollege.org/enroll  Purchase Dr. Ray's latest book, "The Call." God called you, and you answered: this is what you need to know! Click Here  Follow and subscribe to Self Talk with Dr. Ray Self on our podcast website: https://www.icmcollege.org/selftalk.   Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Hear His Voice, Be His Voice, or visit Amazon.com. Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Redeem Your Past and Find Your Promised Land, or visit Amazon.com. Or our new podcast website at https://www.buzzsprout.com/2249804   For show topic suggestions, email Dr. Ray Self at drrayself@gmail.com Enjoy free courses offered by the International College of Ministry Free Courses Show host bio - Dr. Ray Self founded Spirit Wind Ministries Inc. and the International College of Ministry. He holds a Doctorate in Christian Psychology and a Doctorate in Theology. He currently resides in Winter Park, Florida. He is married to Dr. Christie Self and has three sons and a daughter.

In this episode, Gunner Gundersen offers encouragement and advice for both the preacher and the people listening on a Sunday morning. Gunner Gundersen is the dean of faculty at the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation (CCEF). He is also the author of 'How Do I Get the Most from My Pastor's Sermons?' from Crossway. ❖ Listen to “What If I Don't Feel Like Going to Church?" with Gunner Gundersen:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Apple Podcasts | Spotify ⁠| ⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to leave us a review, which helps us spread the word about the show.

Is it possible that the truth is not enough? Is it possible that truth by itself can cause more damage than good? Dr. Ray discusses this very important issue in episode 291 of Self Talk.  Jesus said "you shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free" John 8:32  Help Dr. Self continue this show - partner at www.icmcollege.org/donate  Answer your call by enrolling with the International College of Ministry at www.icmcollege.org/enroll  Purchase Dr. Ray's latest book, "The Call." God called you, and you answered: this is what you need to know! Click Here  Follow and subscribe to Self Talk with Dr. Ray Self on our podcast website: https://www.icmcollege.org/selftalk.   Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Hear His Voice, Be His Voice, or visit Amazon.com. Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Redeem Your Past and Find Your Promised Land, or visit Amazon.com. Or our new podcast website at https://www.buzzsprout.com/2249804   For show topic suggestions, email Dr. Ray Self at drrayself@gmail.com Enjoy free courses offered by the International College of Ministry Free Courses Show host bio - Dr. Ray Self founded Spirit Wind Ministries Inc. and the International College of Ministry. He holds a Doctorate in Christian Psychology and a Doctorate in Theology. He currently resides in Winter Park, Florida. He is married to Dr. Christie Self and has three sons and a daughter. 

Ashley is back and this time we're talking about play, spontaneity, and joy through the HOCI lens of moderation. I grew up not knowing how to play. She grew up playing naturally but maybe using it for regulation. In this honest, funny, and personal conversation, we talk about what we've each had to learn from the other, why play and joy are core to healthy functioning, and what it looks like to find the middle, especially if you tend to live at one end of the spectrum. What we will talk about: What play actually is and what gets in the way of it for each of us The HOCI moderation lens: too little play and too much unmoderated play both come at a cost What our friendship has taught each of us about joy, spontaneity, and boundaries What we see clinically in clients who have no play and in clients who use play to avoid Honest, unscripted questions we asked each other for the first time, live on the podcast

In this powerful interview with Dr. Adolphus Sims, Dr. Self and Dr. Sims discuss the need for reconciliation and how debates, pride, and the need to be right run counter to the fundamentals of Scripture. Reconciliation is not optional; it's Christ's ministry and the ministry we have been called to. This show covers relationships, marriage, forgiveness, and much more.  2 Cor 5:18 Now all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation,   Help Dr. Self continue this show - partner at www.icmcollege.org/donate  Answer your call by enrolling with the International College of Ministry at www.icmcollege.org/enroll  Purchase Dr. Ray's latest book, "The Call." God called you, and you answered: this is what you need to know! Click Here  Follow and subscribe to Self Talk with Dr. Ray Self on our podcast website: https://www.icmcollege.org/selftalk.   Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Hear His Voice, Be His Voice, or visit Amazon.com. Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Redeem Your Past and Find Your Promised Land, or visit Amazon.com. Or our new podcast website at https://www.buzzsprout.com/2249804   For show topic suggestions, email Dr. Ray Self at drrayself@gmail.com Enjoy free courses offered by the International College of Ministry Free Courses Show host bio - Dr. Ray Self founded Spirit Wind Ministries Inc. and the International College of Ministry. He holds a Doctorate in Christian Psychology and a Doctorate in Theology. He currently resides in Winter Park, Florida. He is married to Dr. Christie Self and has three sons and a daughter.

There is a way to live a life that is fulfilling and greater than you can imagine. God has given us His Spirit, and through the Holy Spirit you can have a life that's exceedingly and abundantly more than you could ever think or ask. Dr. Self discusses how to allow the Holy Spirit to intervene in your life and live a life better than you could have ever imagined.  Ephesians 3:20 (KJV): "Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us... Help Dr. Self continue this show - partner at www.icmcollege.org/donate  Answer your call by enrolling with the International College of Ministry at www.icmcollege.org/enroll  Purchase Dr. Ray's latest book, "The Call." God called you, and you answered: this is what you need to know! Click Here  Follow and subscribe to Self Talk with Dr. Ray Self on our podcast website: https://www.icmcollege.org/selftalk.   Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Hear His Voice, Be His Voice, or visit Amazon.com. Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Redeem Your Past and Find Your Promised Land, or visit Amazon.com. Or our new podcast website at https://www.buzzsprout.com/2249804   For show topic suggestions, email Dr. Ray Self at drrayself@gmail.com Enjoy free courses offered by the International College of Ministry Free Courses Show host bio - Dr. Ray Self founded Spirit Wind Ministries Inc. and the International College of Ministry. He holds a Doctorate in Christian Psychology and a Doctorate in Theology. He currently resides in Winter Park, Florida. He is married to Dr. Christie Self and has three sons and a daughter. 

Adult friendship doesn't happen by accident, it happens on purpose. In this conversation with Ashley, co-owner of our counseling practice and my best friend, we talk about why making friends as an adult is genuinely harder, why so many good friendships quietly fade under busyness, and what it actually takes to move a friendship from surface-level to real. We will also discuss concrete takeaways—things you can actually do this week. We will talk about: Why making friends as an adult is harder than it was in school and what actually work? Why friendships fade during busy seasons, and how to keep them alive without grand gestures What keeps friendships stuck at surface level and how to move toward real depth Practical takeaways for building, maintaining, and deepening friendships A real, honest conversation between two friends who run a counseling practice together Five key takeaways: Proximity repeated over time beats instant connection Be the one who initiates, even when it's vulnerable Lower the bar for contact; small deposits count Name the season instead of disappearing Ask one real question instead of five surface ones

In this heartfelt catch-up episode of Fed by the Fruit, host KB opens up about the beautiful ways God is moving in her life during the last week of August. She shares family joys; from son Asher starting his third year at Valor Global Online to precious time in Iowa with baby granddaughter Selah along with the unexpected closure of a long, painful friendship rift and the delightful chaos of welcoming eight Highland cows to the Ballard farm. KB also explains why she said yes to a faith-first wellness partnership with Parga's Core 4 supplements (Core Flow, Core Blue, Core Red, and Core Green), delivers a powerful praise report about Christian marriage counseling and answered prayer, and recommends two must-read books: 18 Days in Heaven by Gabe Poirot and The Joy of the Trinity by Tara-Leigh Cobble. Rooted in Isaiah 43:19 "See, I am doing a new thing" this episode is a warm, honest reminder that God is faithful in the wilderness, the waiting, and the every day. Plus, don't miss details on the Legacy of Her luncheon happening September 24 in Manassas, VA.Reach out to KB on Instagram and share your thoughts.

It's Mailbag Friday! You've got questions, we've got answers. Segment 1 • Why is antisemitism escalating around the world? — Jonathan • What's the difference between biblical counseling and Christian counseling? — Anonymous Segment 2 • How should I biblically handle my one-year-old's temper tantrums? — Alexandra • Is it appropriate to confront my retired dad about how he's spending his time? — Anonymous Segment 3 • Should we regularly use study Bibles if we have the Holy Spirit to help us understand Scripture? — Rachel • What does it actually mean to be “led by the Spirit”? Segment 4 • My grandfather died unsaved. How should I deal with the guilt of not sharing the gospel with him? — Matt • How long should I have victory over pornography before pursuing a relationship? — Jonathan ___ Thanks for listening! Wretched Radio would not be possible without the financial support of our Gospel Partners. If you would like to support Wretched Radio we would be extremely grateful. VISIT https://fortisinstitute.org/donate/ If you are already a Gospel Partner we couldn't be more thankful for you if we tried!

Self-care isn't a spa day or a to-do list. In the HOCI model, it's one of the six core areas of healthy human functioning -- the ability to identify and tend to your own needs across four domains: physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual. In this episode we look at why self-care breaks down, what the value wound has to do with it, and why the cultural version of self-care leaves a lot of people -- especially men -- out entirely. If you've ever felt like tending to yourself was somehow selfish, this one's for you. IN THIS EPISODE The HOCI definition of self-care -- and why it's broader and more serious than the cultural version Why self-care breaks down: the value wound, codependence, and the belief that needs are selfish The four domains: physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual -- and what neglect in each one costs A direct conversation about men and self-care: what men are taught about needs, and what that costs them What self-care actually looks like for men -- practical and without the cultural baggage How self-care connects to all six HOCI principles Why giving from depletion isn't generosity -- it's a slow burn REFLECTION QUESTION In which of the four domains -- physical, emotional, relational, spiritual -- are you most depleted right now? And what is the story you tell yourself about why you don't have permission to tend to it?

In this show, Dr. Ray discusses the significance of your personal gifts and talents, as well as the potential for their misuse. The Bible addresses gifts, talents, and abilities extensively, highlighting that they can be used for God's glory. However, these gifts can also be perverted. The show will explain how this happens. Rom 12:6 Since we have gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, each of us is to exercise them accordingly: Help Dr. Self continue this show - partner at www.icmcollege.org/donate  Answer your call by enrolling with the International College of Ministry at www.icmcollege.org/enroll  Purchase Dr. Ray's latest book, "The Call." God called you, and you answered: this is what you need to know! Click Here  Follow and subscribe to Self Talk with Dr. Ray Self on our podcast website: https://www.icmcollege.org/selftalk.   Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Hear His Voice, Be His Voice, or visit Amazon.com. Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Redeem Your Past and Find Your Promised Land, or visit Amazon.com. Or our new podcast website at https://www.buzzsprout.com/2249804   For show topic suggestions, email Dr. Ray Self at drrayself@gmail.com Enjoy free courses offered by the International College of Ministry Free Courses Show host bio - Dr. Ray Self founded Spirit Wind Ministries Inc. and the International College of Ministry. He holds a Doctorate in Christian Psychology and a Doctorate in Theology. He currently resides in Winter Park, Florida. He is married to Dr. Christie Self and has three sons and a daughter. 

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Michael interviews Brad Hambrick and Matias Casco discussing ABC initiatives to expand Spanish-language biblical counseling training. Casco, a Honduran living in the Dominican Republic and serving at Santiago Theological Seminary, explains that a 2022 church survey revealed most churches lacked counseling ministries, prompting a one-year, six-module program on key topics like family, marriage, addictions, suffering, and ethics, graduating about 250 students from multiple countries. The seminary is now partnering with ABC to translate Equip to Counsel and related resources into Spanish and provide certification, scholarships, and digital access worldwide, supported by a $100,000 fundraising goal. They announce an August 21–22 kickoff conference in Santo Domingo at Pastor Miguel Núñez's church on “mental health/living with a renewed mind,” featuring Ed Welch, Hambrick, Beth Broome, and Núñez, available for virtual co-hosting.00:00 Conference Wrap Up01:17 Meet Matias Casco02:00 Counseling Needs in DR03:38 How Brad Connected06:02 Designing Church Training08:52 Digital Access Expansion11:31 Funding the Vision13:49 August Conference Launch17:02 How to Register17:59 Final Thanks and AppealEpisode MentionsHelp us translate ETC into Spanish - Donate Oasis Conference Matais talked about - Register Seminario Teologico de Santiago - Seminary information 

Many of us don't realize how deeply trauma shapes our relationships, view of God, and everyday reactions. Past wounds can leave us feeling stuck, disconnected, or unsure how to move forward—but healing is possible through Christ.In this episode, Ellen talks with pastor and licensed therapist Dr. Evan Marbury. Together, they discuss why healing often takes more than time, how lament becomes part of God's healing work, and what it means to pursue emotional healing without ignoring pain or bypassing it with easy answers.You'll learn:What trauma is—and how it's different from ordinary painWhy some wounds don't heal with time aloneHow Scripture speaks to trauma, grief, and emotional healingThe role of lament in emotional healingHow to care well for someone carrying deep emotional painWhen seeking professional counseling can be a wise next stepHow God meets us with compassion, truth, and hope. Whether you're carrying wounds of your own or walking alongside someone who is hurting, this conversation will encourage you to move toward healing, wholeness, and deeper trust in God.Understanding Trauma and Resilience: A Guide for Counselors, Caregivers, and Ministers by Evan MarburyScripture referenced:Luke 10:25-37 | John 5:1-15 | Psalm 13 | Romans 15:13Resources:EvanMarbury.com | ESV | Journal | Logos (get a free trial here!) | Blue Letter BibleSend us Fan MailGrow deeper in your love and understanding of God's word with The Courage For Life Study Bible! Discover more at CourageForLifeBible.com.Support the showYouTube channel ☕ Instagram Some of the links in this episode may be affiliate links, meaning if you click through and make a purchase, we may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you.

A wounded sense of worth doesn't stay in childhood. It follows you into your work, your relationships, and the story you tell about who you are. In Part 2, we trace the value wound into adulthood -- the achievement treadmill that never stops, the relationships where love never quite feels safe, the inner critic that renders verdicts instead of feedback. Then we look at how a value wound shapes identity, why identity crises are often doorways rather than disasters, and what genuine healing actually looks like. IN THIS EPISODE How the value wound shows up at work: perfectionism, imposter syndrome, the inability to rest How it shows up in relationships: over-giving, chronic reassurance-seeking, difficulty receiving love The inner critic as internalized shame -- and why it renders verdicts, not feedback How a wounded sense of worth produces a borrowed identity built on roles and approval Why an identity crisis is often growth pushing back -- not something going wrong What healing looks like -- and why it requires more than insight If the borrowed identity fell away -- the role, the title, the thing you're known for -- what would be left? Is that terrifying? Or is there something in you that's curious about finding out?

In this show, Dr. Ray explains why you are consistently discontented. The answer lies not only in purpose but also in place. The show will identify the problem and how to overcome it. Jer 32:21 -22 'You brought Your people Israel out of the land of Egypt with signs and with wonders, and with a strong hand and with an outstretched arm and with great terror; gave them this land, which You swore to their forefathers to give them, a land flowing with milk and honey.   Help Dr. Self continue this show - partner at www.icmcollege.org/donate  Answer your call by enrolling with the International College of Ministry at www.icmcollege.org/enroll  Purchase Dr. Ray's latest book, "The Call." God called you, and you answered: this is what you need to know! Click Here  Follow and subscribe to Self Talk with Dr. Ray Self on our podcast website: https://www.icmcollege.org/selftalk.   Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Hear His Voice, Be His Voice, or visit Amazon.com. Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Redeem Your Past and Find Your Promised Land, or visit Amazon.com. Or our new podcast website at https://www.buzzsprout.com/2249804   For show topic suggestions, email Dr. Ray Self at drrayself@gmail.com Enjoy free courses offered by the International College of Ministry Free Courses Show host bio - Dr. Ray Self founded Spirit Wind Ministries Inc. and the International College of Ministry. He holds a Doctorate in Christian Psychology and a Doctorate in Theology. He currently resides in Winter Park, Florida. He is married to Dr. Christie Self and has three sons and a daughter. 

In this episode, Dr. Ray explains why your financial success has been limited. Understanding what you own and what you do not own, what your job is, and what God's job is is a key element to your ability to prosper. Psa 24:1 A Psalm of David. The earth is the LORD'S, and all it contains, The world, and those who dwell in it.  Help Dr. Self continue this show - partner at www.icmcollege.org/donate  Answer your call by enrolling with the International College of Ministry at www.icmcollege.org/enroll  Purchase Dr. Ray's latest book, "The Call." God called you, and you answered: this is what you need to know! Click Here  Follow and subscribe to Self Talk with Dr. Ray Self on our podcast website: https://www.icmcollege.org/selftalk.   Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Hear His Voice, Be His Voice, or visit Amazon.com. Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Redeem Your Past and Find Your Promised Land, or visit Amazon.com. Or our new podcast website at https://www.buzzsprout.com/2249804   For show topic suggestions, email Dr. Ray Self at drrayself@gmail.com Enjoy free courses offered by the International College of Ministry Free Courses Show host bio - Dr. Ray Self founded Spirit Wind Ministries Inc. and the International College of Ministry. He holds a Doctorate in Christian Psychology and a Doctorate in Theology. He currently resides in Winter Park, Florida. He is married to Dr. Christie Self and has three sons and a daughter.

Worth is not something you earn. But most of us grew up in environments that treated it like you could and should. In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, we look at the core issue of value: what inherent worth actually means, what children need to internalize it, and what happens when those needs aren't met. We also unpack the two directions a value wound tends to go one-up and one-down and the role shame plays in keeping the wound alive. What we mean by inherent worth -- and why it can't be earned or lost What children actually need to internalize value -- attunement, delight, unconditional love One-up and one-down: the two ways a value wound shows up, and why most people oscillate between them Shame vs. guilt -- a critical distinction that changes how we understand the wound Why shame lives in the body -- and why insight alone can't reach it Is there a belief about yourself you've never said out loud -- something you suspect might be true that you hope no one finds out? That's often where the shame lives. COMING UP IN PART 2 How the value wound shows up in your work, your relationships, and your sense of identity -- and what healing actually looks like.

Michael is joined with first-time guest Nathan “Jogging” Scroggins, who also highlights Soul Care Consulting International as an “operating system” for local-church discipleship along an intentional-to-intensive discipleship continuum. Nathan explains why Colossians is vital for resisting empty deceit and worldly philosophies and focuses on Colossians 3:15–4:6 about living a Christ-ruled life. Using a case study of Frank, a stressed 42-year-old project manager, husband, and father drifting into irritability and prayerlessness, they discuss counseling applications: letting Christ's peace govern the heart, letting the Word of Christ dwell richly, cultivating thankfulness, restoring prayerful dependence, rebuilding Christlike relational patterns, and refining witness through speech.00:00 Conference Welcome00:55 Soul Care Consulting03:22 Why Colossians Matters05:12 Reading The Passage07:31 Meet Frank Case Study09:07 Peace Rules The Heart20:01 Word Dwells Richly25:51 Thankfulness And Practice28:02 Counseling Frank Summary33:25 Final Thanks And WrapEpisode MentionsSoul Care Consulting 

Welcome to the Personal Development Trailblazers Podcast! In today's episode, we're talking about how to restore your joy after loss by embracing healing, finding hope, and discovering that joy is possible again.  Monique Lynelle Gray was born in Hartford, CT, and grew up in Philadelphia, PA. Monique Lynelle is a Transformational Joy Restoration Coach and Speaker/Entrepreneur, with experience in various backgrounds and has the spirit that just doesn't quit at the first sign of adversity. Having certifications as a Joy Restoration Coach/Grief Support Specialist, Stress Relief Coach, and Christian Counseling. A Doctoral student at Capella University, Master's Degree in Entertainment Business from Full Sail University graduating with a 3.67 GPA, and a Bachelor's in Strategic Communications from Temple University, she knows about finishing a few things. Continuing education after leaving the US Army, and completing her Cosmetology Instructor's simultaneously while completing her Bachelor's degree, then completing her 1st book in 2012, "My Journey at 30," and "A Teen's Guide to Succeed in High School," and in 2015 completing and publishing, "Blessed in the Midst of the Storm." Monique Lynelle went on to complete her 1st studio album entitled "Love of the Music," in 2013. And in 2016 and 2017 released the EP's "Get Lifted Up," and "I'm Still Blessed." And in 2021, "The Love of the Music-Compilation Album"ML produced shows for the Public Access Television Station DCTV in 2016 through 2018, "The Monique Lynelle Show," and "Monique Lynelle's Journey - The Documentary," She also wrote, produced and directed, and starred in her first film, "The PK's."As a Joy Restoration Coach, Coach ML is here to assist others in navigating through life issues to become the best versions of themselves, reaching towards their highest potential. She is also here to help people process their grief and manage their stress to achieve their goals with joy on their journey.Connect with Monique Here: https://instagram.com/MoniqueLyn_ellehttps://YouTube.com/MoniqueLyn_ellehttps://MoniqueLyn-elle.com===================================If you enjoyed this episode, remember to hit the like button and subscribe. Then share this episode with your friends.Thanks for watching the Personal Development Trailblazers Podcast. This podcast is part of the Digital Trailblazer family of podcasts. To learn more about Digital Trailblazer and what we do to help entrepreneurs, go to DigitalTrailblazer.com.Are you a coach, consultant, expert, or online course creator? Then we'd love to invite you to our FREE Facebook Group where you can learn the best strategies to land more high-ticket clients and customers. QUICK LINKS: APPLY TO BE FEATURED: https://app.digitaltrailblazer.com/podcast-guest-applicationDIGITAL TRAILBLAZER: https://digitaltrailblazer.com/

In this episode of the ongoing series "Living the Abundant Life," Dr. Ray discusses how to get back on track when your life seems off. Many times in life, we sense that something is off and we realize we're not where we need to be, but we may not be sure what to do or whether we have the strength and courage to make a change. Dr. Ray will provide practical tips to help you get back on track and live the life that God created for you.  Proverbs 3:5 -6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight.  Help Dr. Self continue this show - partner at www.icmcollege.org/donate  Answer your call by enrolling with the International College of Ministry at www.icmcollege.org/enroll  Purchase Dr. Ray's latest book, "The Call." God called you, and you answered: this is what you need to know! Click Here  Follow and subscribe to Self Talk with Dr. Ray Self on our podcast website: https://www.icmcollege.org/selftalk.   Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Hear His Voice, Be His Voice, or visit Amazon.com. Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Redeem Your Past and Find Your Promised Land, or visit Amazon.com. Or our new podcast website at https://www.buzzsprout.com/2249804   For show topic suggestions, email Dr. Ray Self at drrayself@gmail.com Enjoy free courses offered by the International College of Ministry Free Courses Show host bio - Dr. Ray Self founded Spirit Wind Ministries Inc. and the International College of Ministry. He holds a Doctorate in Christian Psychology and a Doctorate in Theology. He currently resides in Winter Park, Florida. He is married to Dr. Christie Self and has three sons and a daughter.

Men and women look at relationships in different ways. Here is some insight into those differences and how to approach connections in a more positive way.Biology or Upbringing? 0:35Feminine Tendencies 1:10Masculine Tendencies 3:07Expectations and Mind Sets 5:04Dos and Don'ts for Managing Conflict 6:51When To Seek Help / Resources 10:30 Important Links:

You were made for beauty and goodness. You feel that, even on the hardest days. What neuroscience is beginning to show us is that this longing isn't incidental. It's written into the architecture of how you were made.In this conversation, psychiatrist and author Curt Thompson opens up the world of interpersonal neurobiology and what it has to do with the soul, how the mind is not the brain but something that emerges between bodies and relationships, how 80 to 85 percent of a newborn's neural networks can only develop in response to someone paying attention, and what it means that God started with dirt before he breathed in life. Curt also brings his own story, the parts of his inner orchestra that never got developed, and why the gospel doesn't just want the polished instruments.This is a rebroadcast of one of the most beloved conversations in the show's history.Dr. Curt Thompson is a psychiatrist and author of Anatomy of the Soul: Surprising Connections Between Neuroscience and Spiritual Practices That Can Transform Your Life and Relationships.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Join David Heavener and guest Mike Smith as they delve into the complex relationship between mental illness and demonic influence. This episode of David Heavener Live explores the often controversial topic of whether demons can cause or exacerbate mental health issues. Through personal anecdotes and expert insights, they discuss deliverance ministry, the role of repentance, and the importance of spiritual discernment in understanding mental health challenges within the context of faith. Don't miss this enlightening discussion that challenges conventional perspectives and seeks to uncover the truth about spiritual warfare in the modern world. 7.13.26

Join David Heavener and guest Mike Smith as they delve into the complex relationship between mental illness and demonic influence. This episode of David Heavener Live explores the often controversial topic of whether demons can cause or exacerbate mental health issues. Through personal anecdotes and expert insights, they discuss deliverance ministry, the role of repentance, and the importance of spiritual discernment in understanding mental health challenges within the context of faith. Don't miss this enlightening discussion that challenges conventional perspectives and seeks to uncover the truth about spiritual warfare in the modern world. 7.13.26

Michael interviews Bob from Biblicare about a church-focused counseling platform that supports the full counseling workflow from intake forms, scheduling, session notes, and homework to analysis, reporting, and ministry oversight. Bob shares his ministry and programming background, including work with a missions agency, and explains Biblicare's origin after a seminary friend with a large church needed a system beyond spreadsheets to prevent counselees from slipping through the cracks. They discuss how Biblicare helps churches create structure, improve administration, and give pastors visibility into counseling activity, trends, and aggregate data for training and budgeting, while also providing ongoing onboarding, coaching, and proactive support as a family-run company.00:00 Conference Intro00:43 Meet Bob01:51 Origin Story03:39 Church Need Emerges05:49 Family Built Company07:29 Kingdom Infrastructure Vision09:31 What Biblicare Does10:55 Onboarding and Process Design13:01 Oversight and Reporting17:23 Crisis Support and Coaching22:24 Cookie Factory Care25:45 Final Advice and Contact29:15 Wrap UpEpisode MentionsBiblicare Software 

In this episode of the ongoing series "Living the Abundant Life," Dr. Ray discusses love and forgiveness. There are many misconceptions within the Christian community about the true nature of love and forgiveness. This show aims to clarify these concepts and guide you in living the abundant life that Jesus died to provide for you.  Mat 6:15 "But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.  Help Dr. Self continue this show - partner at www.icmcollege.org/donate  Answer your call by enrolling with the International College of Ministry at www.icmcollege.org/enroll  Purchase Dr. Ray's latest book, "The Call." God called you, and you answered: this is what you need to know! Click Here  Follow and subscribe to Self Talk with Dr. Ray Self on our podcast website: https://www.icmcollege.org/selftalk.   Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Hear His Voice, Be His Voice, or visit Amazon.com. Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Redeem Your Past and Find Your Promised Land, or visit Amazon.com. Or our new podcast website at https://www.buzzsprout.com/2249804   For show topic suggestions, email Dr. Ray Self at drrayself@gmail.com Enjoy free courses offered by the International College of Ministry Free Courses Show host bio - Dr. Ray Self founded Spirit Wind Ministries Inc. and the International College of Ministry. He holds a Doctorate in Christian Psychology and a Doctorate in Theology. He currently resides in Winter Park, Florida. He is married to Dr. Christie Self and has three sons and a daughter. 

In Part 1 we named the patterns of codependence. In Part 2 we go deeper – tracing codependence back to its developmental roots, looking honestly at what it costs us, and walking through what healing actually looks like using all six principles of the HOCI model. Not a new self. A more honest one. In this episode we will look at: What families teach without meaning to – and how attachment wounds become codependent patterns Why you don't need a dramatic history to carry these wounds The real cost: what codependence does to your body, your relationships, and your sense of self What healing looks like through each of the six HOCI core areas – with a concrete practice to move forward You were designed for real connection – not managed connection, not performed connection, not connection that costs you yourself. That kind of connection starts with knowing who you are. And that work is always available. Right here. Right now.

Michael interviews biblical counselor Shannon McCoy, who shares her current counseling season in South Carolina and her new role hosting shepherdpresspodcast.com. They discuss her emotions-track session on recognizing bitterness, defined as settled resentment formed when pain is rehearsed and judgment is retained rather than entrusted to God, drawing from Hebrews 12:15, Deuteronomy 29:18, James 3:14–15, and Acts 8:23. McCoy outlines a progression from pain to interpretation, judgment, and resentment, noting bitterness is often camouflaged as irritability and can defile individuals and communities. They emphasize a missing step between bitterness and forgiveness: lament, which includes honest complaint to God, repentance, and surrendering justice to Him, leading to peace, joy, and fruit-of-the-Spirit living even amid unresolved conflict.00:00 Conference Welcome00:58 Meet Shannon McCoy01:22 New Season in Ministry01:49 Podcast Hosting Adventures02:54 Emotions Track Highlights04:04 Why Bitterness Matters04:48 Defining Bitterness Biblically05:42 Calling Out Bitterness07:05 From Bitterness to Forgiveness08:10 Lament and Repentance11:16 Bitterness Toward God13:02 Surrendering Justice to God13:32 Joy Versus Bitterness14:29 Roots of Bitterness15:32 Pain to Resentment Cycle17:13 Family Estrangement Example18:50 Bitterness Defiles the Heart20:58 When Bitterness Turns Toxic24:39 Flesh Versus Spirit Choice26:34 Wrap Up and Next StepsEpisode MentionsShepherd Press Podcast W/Shannon 

In this show, Dr. Self discusses the importance of boundaries, how to recognize when you need them, and how to set them. God established clear boundaries and expects us to do the same.  Mat 5:37 "But let your statement be, 'Yes, yes' or 'No, no'; anything beyond these is of evil.   Help Dr. Self continue this show - partner at www.icmcollege.org/donate  Answer your call by enrolling with the International College of Ministry at www.icmcollege.org/enroll  Purchase Dr. Ray's latest book, "The Call." God called you, and you answered: this is what you need to know! Click Here  Follow and subscribe to Self Talk with Dr. Ray Self on our podcast website: https://www.icmcollege.org/selftalk.   Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Hear His Voice, Be His Voice, or visit Amazon.com. Click here to purchase Dr. Self's book – Redeem Your Past and Find Your Promised Land, or visit Amazon.com. Or our new podcast website at https://www.buzzsprout.com/2249804   For show topic suggestions, email Dr. Ray Self at drrayself@gmail.com Enjoy free courses offered by the International College of Ministry Free Courses Show host bio - Dr. Ray Self founded Spirit Wind Ministries Inc. and the International College of Ministry. He holds a Doctorate in Christian Psychology and a Doctorate in Theology. He currently resides in Winter Park, Florida. He is married to Dr. Christie Self and has three sons and a daughter. 

J. Alasdair Groves (MDiv, Westminster Theological Seminary) formerly served as the executive director for the New England branch of the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation (CCEF). He is the host of the podcast Where Life and Scripture Meet and the coauthor of Untangling Emotions. For more faith-filled, Gospel-centered content, download the Pilgrim Radio app today on Google Play and Apple, or stream at PilgrimRadio.com. 

Welcome to a new era of the podcast where we will be focusing on most importantly growing in your relationship with Jesus, but the habits and behaviors that support that peace and joy we are promised through his word. Mothers shouldn't be the burnt out zombie society makes us believe and feel like we are - addicted to caffeine and scrolling, we are turning the page and striving for more in our lives because we have the sustainable and heathy habits that create order and peace in our lives and so it allows us as women and mothers to strive for better, whether thats for your kids and their future, yourself or everything in between.  Find out what we are all about through our company https://www.traditionalchristiancounseling.ca Reach out with your questions and feedback through instagram https://www.instagram.com/_sheisrestored Find us on instagram https://www.instagram.com/traditionalchristiancounseling   Grab your very own 90 Days of Restoration workbook here https://a.co/d/0dB7HSj1https://amzn.to/4eKXnOb   I look forward to continue encouraging, supporting and loving on you as we grow, heal and learn together in Jesus, God bless you, Rylee June  

Most people hear the word codependence and think: not me. But codependence isn't reserved for people in crisis or recovery – it's a spectrum, and most of us are somewhere on it. In Part 1, we look at what codependence actually is through the HOCI framework, and introduce five patterns that most people will recognize in themselves. In this episode we will discuss: The Healing Our Core Issues (HOCI) definition: codependence as difficulty knowing who you are separate from your relationships Why it's a developmental issue, not a character flaw – and why the spectrum matters How culture and faith communities can quietly reinforce codependent patterns The five faces: the caretaker, the peacekeeper, the controller, the chameleon, and the one who leaves first We're not diagnosing. We're getting curious.

On this episode of Full Circle, Ms. Wanda welcomes Dr. Pamela Peters, a parenting and wellness expert, certified life coach, and trusted mentor with more than 20 years of experience helping individuals, families, educators, and leaders reach their full potential.Dr. Peters shares her journey of transforming personal challenges into a life dedicated to empowering others through coaching, counseling, and personal development. With a Ph.D. in Christian Counseling and a passion for helping people live their best lives, she offers valuable insights on wellness, parenting, resilience, and personal growth.Listeners also get a preview of what's to come as Dr. Peters prepares to launch her own show on the KDEE later this year.Tune in for an inspiring conversation about purpose, transformation, and the power of investing in yourself.

In this episode of Satisfied, Ryan Swanson continues the Twisted Passions series by turning from explanation to application. For those who have experienced same-sex attraction, the question is not only “How did I get here?” but “What do I do now?” Using Ecclesiastes 4 and the picture of the threefold cord, Ryan explains the biblical importance of mutual discipleship, accountability, and outflow. He challenges listeners not to fight alone, but to share what God has used in their lives to help others pursue purity and satisfaction in Christ. Listeners who have experienced same-sex attraction are invited to anonymously share a verse, biblical truth, testimony, or practical step that has helped them at https://theegeneration.org/ssa. Topics Discussed The loneliness often felt by those struggling with same-sex attraction Why Ecclesiastes 4 speaks directly to the danger of isolation The difference between one-way mentorship and mutual discipleship How the “threefold cord” illustrates shared strength and shared responsibility The importance of personal integrity in the battle for purity Why outflow is a necessary part of Christian growth A powerful testimony from a Christian school chapel where young men began helping one another pursue purity The invitation for listeners to anonymously share what God has used to help them How testimony, Scripture, and practical wisdom can strengthen others in their own fight Key Takeaways You are not meant to face temptation alone. Mutual discipleship is not one strong person pulling up the weak, but believers strengthening one another as they walk with God. God can use the very truths He has taught you in your struggle to help someone else find hope and victory. Outflow helps turn the focus away from self and toward serving others. Even an anonymous testimony can be a meaningful first step in helping someone else become less gratified and more satisfied with Jesus Christ. Victory over deceptive thoughts starts early, before consideration turns into acceptance. Ready to download the Cord App? Find it here! Download the Satisfied Battle Plan or listen to the rest of the series here! Satisfied is a monthly program on the Thee Generation Podcast designed to offer practical tools based on biblical principles so that anyone can experience full purity and lead others to do the same. To ask questions or share testimonies, send an email to satisfied@theegeneration.org. If you've been encouraged by this podcast, please take the time to give us a five-star rating and write a brief review. That would help tremendously in getting the word out and raising the visibility of the Thee Generation for others. For more faith inspiring resources and information about joining Thee Generation, please visit theegeneration.org.

We can know we are loved and still not be able to let it in. The gap between believing something and feeling it in the body is not a faith problem — it's a physiological one.In this second conversation with Aundi Kolber, Michael and Julianne press deeper into what it actually takes to change: why being loved is not just a comfort but a biological prerequisite for growth, why asking someone to change before they feel safe is, in Aundi's word, cruel, and what it means to come home to yourself rather than keep fleeing from what hurts. Aundi also draws a line between the shame that keeps us stuck and the compassion that actually moves us — and why God is calling us home, not calling us out.This is a rebroadcast of one of the most-listened-to conversations in the show's ten-year history.Aundi Kolber is a licensed therapist and author of Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us Out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival and Into a Life of Connection and Joy.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Michael interviews Kevin Dau, pastor for discipleship and counseling at Hespeler Baptist Church in Cambridge, Ontario, and a practicum instructor for Heritage College and Seminary's master's level biblical counseling certificate. Dau contrasts professional counseling with pastoral counseling, where caring becomes more personal and multifaceted because counselees are also part of church life, increasing stress and highlighting human limits. Using Galatians 6:1–3, Exodus 18, and themes from Psalms, they discuss bearing one another's burdens while watching for temptation, pride, and burnout, and the need for accountability, peer support, and sometimes personal counseling for counselors. They emphasize proactive self-care, ordinary means of grace, recognizing stress signals (affect and effectiveness), building a church culture of vulnerability, and regularly asking trusted observers what they see and acting on it.00:00 Podcast intro and guest00:59 Kevin ministry roles02:10 Training counselors at Heritage03:38 Pastoral burdens and stress07:24 Needing care and counseling12:00 Accountability for shepherds18:12 Asking for help early20:34 Stress and means of grace24:55 Galatians warnings and humility26:28 Practical steps and closing

I've been doing the work. I've read the books, sat in the sessions, had the hard conversations. And then something happens -- and I find myself right back in a pattern I thought I was done with. What is wrong with me? Am I ever going to get there? If you've asked that question, this episode is for you. "Am I fully healed?" is one of the most common questions that surfaces in therapy -- usually from the people who are working the hardest. Today we sit inside that question rather than rush past it. We look at what healing actually is through the lens of the Healing Our Core Issues (HOCI) framework, why the pattern coming back doesn't mean you're starting over, and how to be in a lifelong journey without it crushing you. In this episode: Why the idea of being "fully healed" may be the wrong goal The spiral nature of healing -- and why returning to familiar territory isn't the same as going backward What regression actually is (and what it isn't) Why triggers are the curriculum, not the enemy How spiritual communities can unintentionally add shame to the healing process How to measure progress differently -- and give yourself credit for what has actually changed The goal isn't to arrive. It's to become more yourself, more of the time. Reflection question to carry with you: How is your relationship to the thing you've struggled with longest different today than it was two years ago -- even subtly? Encountering You is a faith-informed podcast about mental health, healing, and the work of becoming more yourself.

Mike welcomes Jeemin Moon to discuss an eschatological perspective on mental health, trauma, and resurrection hope. Moon shares updates about directing the biblical care and counseling studies program at Heritage College and Seminary, implementing ABC Level One (Equip to Counsel) for fourth-year students, and completing PhD comprehensive exams at Southern Seminary while writing a dissertation on a biblical theology of shame and God's covering. He explains why he taught on resurrection for a forthcoming book project, then reads Hebrews 2:5–18 and connects it to trauma, distinguishing traumatic events from being “traumatized,” and emphasizing Jesus' resurrection ministry to sufferers. They encourage trauma sufferers to interpret painful narratives through Scripture's meta-story, citing Isaiah 43 and Psalm 84 about God redeeming wilderness and valleys of tears into springs.00:00 Podcast Welcome00:22 Meet Jeemin Moon01:26 PhD Work on Shame03:01 Training Counselors at Heritage05:07 Why Focus on Resurrection06:06 Reading Hebrews Two08:40 Trauma Defined Light and Darkness11:40 Traumatic Events vs Traumatized14:46 Resurrection Hope in the Valley17:15 Redeeming the Past Story19:56 Host Reflection and Encouragement22:41 Final Thanks and Sendoff

Send us Fan MailFormer professional counselor turned pastor and deliverance minister Mark Vanderlip joins Karl Gessler for a deep conversation about trauma, fractured soul parts, spiritual oppression, and healing through Jesus Christ.After years working in trauma counseling, Mark began to discover that many struggles could not be fully explained through psychology alone. In this interview, he shares how his journey led him into deliverance and inner healing ministry—and why compassion is essential when ministering to wounded people.Topics include:• Trauma and fractured soul parts• Deliverance and demonic oppression• Soul ties and bloodline issues• The “strongman” in spiritual warfare• Physical healing testimonies• The difference between counseling and deliverance• Healing through Jesus Christ• Equipping the Church in spiritual authorityThis episode is honest, pastoral, and deeply thought-provoking for anyone exploring the intersection of trauma, spiritual warfare, and healing.#Deliverance #InnerHealing #SpiritualWarfare #TraumaHealing #MarkVanderlipSupport the show❤️ SHOW YOUR SUPPORT - LINKS BELOW...➡️ Email me: https://www.karlgessler.com/deliverance➡️ DONATE ➡️  Join our team!https://www.givesendgo.com/karlgessle...  / karlgessler  ...

Recording on the road at the Canadian Biblical Counseling Coalition in Oakville, Ontario, Michael interviews biblical counselor Alysia Whiteside of Deep Roots Biblical Counseling. Whiteside shares her conversion in 2018, her interrupted plans to pursue medicine amid severe ulcerative colitis, multiple surgeries, and a permanent ileostomy, and how God redirected her into biblical counseling training and certifications. Her breakout topic, “Held But Not Yet Healed: Christ in the Midst of Physical and Mental Suffering,” frames chronic illness as “embodied suffering” that integrates physical, mental, and spiritual burdens and raises the question of who God is when healing does not come. Using Psalm 13, she explains a lament framework—turn, complain, ask, trust—leading to praise, emphasizing the “already but not yet” tension of hope amid suffering and encouraging sufferers and caregivers to write their own laments to rehearse God's character and respond faithfully.00:00 Welcome and Road Update01:30 Meet Alysia Whiteside02:26 Her Health Journey and Calling04:30 Training and Narsegesis06:14 Held But Not Yet Healed06:34 Reading Psalm 1308:29 Embodied Suffering and Hope12:18 Lament Framework Explained14:57 Trust and Gods Hesed19:05 Counseling the Stuck20:57 Write Your Own Lament23:26 Singing Joy in Suffering26:12 Encouragement for Chronic Pain27:16 Final Thanks and Wrap UpEpisode MentionsDeep Roots Biblical Counseling 

Have you ever agreed to something and driven home feeling like you left a piece of yourself in that conversation? Or held so firm to your position that the relationship paid the price? Compromise gets a lot of good press -- but most of us have never learned the difference between healthy flexibility and quiet self-erasure. In this episode, we use the Healing Our Core Issues (HOCI) framework to look at what compromise actually requires, why it can feel so loaded, and how it shows up differently in the relationships that matter most. We talk about romantic partnerships, friendships, adult family relationships, and work -- and why the same pattern tends to show up across all of them. In this episode: Why compromise problems are often boundary or attachment wounds in disguise What self-abandonment looks like in everyday conversation How your attachment style shapes the way you handle conflict The difference between healthy flexibility and giving yourself away How to tell whether a compromise left you more solid -- or smaller The HOCI model gives us six core areas to work with: self-esteem, boundaries, owning your reality, self-care, moderation, and attachment. This episode uses all six. Reflection question to carry with you: Is there a relationship where you've been playing a role so long you've forgotten you're allowed to renegotiate it? Encountering You is a faith-informed podcast about mental health, healing, and the work of becoming more yourself.

Shame doesn't only live in the dark corners of a broken life. It lives just as quietly in the person everyone else envies — the one who has achieved everything and still wakes up feeling like it isn't enough.Ken Shigematsu grew up moving between Japan, England, and Canada, carrying the weight of a shame-and-honor culture that most Western theology never addresses. In this conversation, he and Michael explore why deep grace is different from knowing grace is true, what it means to grow our capacity to actually receive love rather than deflect it, and why beauty and joy aren't spiritual extras — they are among the most direct routes out of shame and into the self God made.Ken also shares the simple daily practice that, over 30 days, can literally rewire the neural networks that make it hard to feel loved by God — even when you believe it.Ken Shigematsu is a pastor in Vancouver, Canada, and author of Now I Become Myself: How Deep Grace Heals Our Shame and Restores Our True Self.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Most people assume temptation is about weakness or willpower. But the wilderness story in Matthew 4 reveals something far older — evil moves first against the places where we have not been seen, soothed, safe, and secure.In this conversation, Michael and AJ Denson walk slowly through the baptism and temptation of Jesus, presenting them as a portrait of attachment under siege. They explore how the devil's opening accusation — if you are the Son of God — lands precisely where God's voice had just spoken identity and belonging, why hunger, loneliness, and exposure aren't just physical states but the exact conditions evil exploits, and what it means that after the ordeal, angels came and attended to him — a scene almost never preached, yet the one that puts the bow on the whole story.This is a co-host episode from Michael's ongoing series unpacking Sacred Attachment, chapter by chapter.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Many of us reach a point where we notice it; the way we react, the way we shut down, the way we respond in relationships and think, I don't want to keep doing this. In this episode, we explore what actually gets passed down in families and relationships, and why those patterns can feel so hard to change. Through the lens of attachment and the nervous system, we look at how our reactions are often learned, automatic, and rooted in what once helped us feel safe. More importantly, we talk about how to begin interrupting those patterns in real, practical ways. This episode offers a simple, repeatable framework:Notice → Pause → Regulate → Choose → Repair Because breaking generational cycles isn't about getting it right every time; it's about responding differently, one moment at a time. In this episode we explore: What actually gets passed down in relationships Why patterns repeat (even when we don't want them to) The role of attachment and nervous system responses How to interrupt patterns in real time Why repair matters more than perfection