My Dad Stole My Limelight

In this episode, I sit with drag performer, comedian and self-described silly, sober, sexy YYC nerd clown, Anne Xiety (she/they). We are also joined by Lulu — the dog in my care — who makes some adorable appearances throughout.   We discuss our journeys with sobriety, the importance of taking care of our mental health, being proud of what we put out into the world, Calgary's queer and sober communities, discovering a better sense of self as we grow and the impact reality TV has had on us!  

In this episode, I sit with Comedian, Quiz Host and Corporate Trainer, Courtney Maldo (she/her), otherwise self-described as Perth's Punk Princess of Comedy.   We recorded this episode during Melbourne International Comedy Festival, IRL, from Naarm, which was a real treat!   We discuss Courtney's next solo show Gender, Drugs and Rock and Roll, Courtney's exploration of herself before coming out, feelings of isolation in growing up in a rural area, how much can change generation to generation, theatre in highschool leading to Courtney's first fan mail, how being alive is just a phase, what “passing” means and how that is different for every trans and gender non-conforming person and that things get better: rocky starts happen but the journey is yours.  

In this episode, I sit with YA and Children's Author and Speaker Will Kostakis (he/him).   We discuss Will's latest award-winning novel We Could Be Something, the importance of libraries for readers and writers, how to support Queer authors when you don't have the money to buy their books, Queer visibility in schools, Will coming out via his writing and empowering each other to grow and evolve!  

In this episode, I sit with Performer, Producer and Comedian Lukas Meintjes (he/him). We discuss Lukas growing up gay in Zimbabwe, his extended run of If You're From Africa? at the Adelaide Fringe and upcoming run at Melbourne International Comedy Festival, the factors outside of our control when coming out, criminalized homosexuality and how those beliefs are carried down generations, the ongoing process of being out and proud, parents who encourage you to be yourself without realising, and we hear from Lukas' mum, Noeleen!

In this episode, I sit with Comedian and Podcaster, Chris Demos (he/him).   We discuss the upcoming run for Chris at the Melbourne International Comedy Festival — Actually Kinda Hot, Cyclone Alfred's Old Queen status, using the term Queer as a way to say you're part of something bigger, having the courage to come out when you never thought you would, the power you have to set boundaries when you come out, a dating app being an unexpected way to help young gay men, and how aniseed jelly beans are the worst!  

In this episode, I sit with Writer and Comedian (and hopefully my future BFF) Alayne Dick (she/her). Via a disconnected mic on my end and a dodgy internet connection on Alayne's (but the show must go on, and go on it did, the content is worth it because Alayne is wonderful) we discussed Alayne's upcoming shows in Australia — bringing her show Purple is the Gayest Colour to Adelaide and Melbourne, people assuming we are straight, starting rumours about ourselves, Alayne's incredible ability to have zero celebrity crushes, alt comedy vs mainstream comedy, becoming the queer elder you needed when you were younger and why we should all be disruptive and weird with our art!

In this episode, I sit with writer, poet, picture book author, educator and zine maker Rae White (they/them). We discuss Rae's poetry collections, their first picture book All The Colours Of The Rainbow, our love for trans and gender-diverse people, counteracting hate with intentional creativity, finding ways to be in our body again, the privilege of being out and proud and the significance of The Mummy films in our lives!

In this installment of the Limelight Mailbag episodes, I am joined by comedian, writer, and MDSML favourite, Joanne Tsung (she/her)! We unpack this month's limelight-stealing submission — from listener Stef.

In this episode, I sit with bilingual singer, songwriter and performer Maryze (she/they). We discuss the fluidity of gender identity, figuring it out as we go and not having to limit ourselves, deconditioning from the cis heteronormative lifestyle, where we choose to invest our time and energy, rebellion becoming habitual, hanging onto childlike joy and wonder and embodying a side of ourself that has no shame!

In this episode, I sit with comedian (and world's most iconic forklift driver) Frankie Fearce (she/they).   CW: I am so very grateful for the honesty that Frankie shared her story with. Some listeners may want a heads-up that they talk about religious trauma and suicide in this episode. As always, LGBTQIA+ resources are linked below.   We discuss Frankie's satirical character comedy show DAZZA, making a conscious effort to live in Queer community, experimenting with labels until we find the right fit for us, homecoming moments on dancefloors, unlearning who we have been told we are, moments that made us stop caring what others thought and knowing who we are is not a choice but fully and unapologetically embracing who we are is.

In this episode, I sit with comedian and musician Noah Holland (he/they). We discuss relating to TV show and movie characters, the importance of having a “cool cousin”, performing as our full selves, the fear of how we will be perceived after coming out, code-switching via our drink orders, how Sprite is queerer than Coca-Cola and queer comedian elders who paved the way for us!

In these uncertain times, Jerrilynn Spears tells us what the woman of the future should be like. Ready to fuck shit up y'all? I know I am! In this instalment of the Limelight Mailbag episodes, I am joined by the world's brightest and best drag performer, the only person who can outsing Hannah Montana, the tattoo on my buttcheek, co-host of Cut The Crease podcast and all-around legend and beauty, Jerrilynn Spears (she/they)! We unpack this month's limelight-stealing submission — from listener Abby.

In this episode, I sit with Comedian, Writer, Cartoonist and Podcaster, Jacob Jackman (he/him). We discuss The Artist's Way and creating for play, the experiences of bisexual men and how they differ from women, partners who play an integral part in discovering our sexuality, becoming the cool older millennial, performing very queer comedy for a very hetero audience, being young queer kids in school and how not all the answers will come at once! 

In this instalment of the Limelight Mailbag episodes, I am joined by a wonderful, hilarious and super kind human/talented writer & host of award-winning You Made Me Queer, Trevor Campbell (he/him)!   We unpack this month's limelight-stealing submission — from DD (Doerthe Dolata).  

In this episode, I sit with Comedian, Screenwriter and Producer Bea Barbeau-Scurla (she/they). We discuss Grub Comedy (every week in Melbourne), being open about sexuality from a young age, how women are beautiful, being interrogated about our sexuality, why parents should expose their kids to queer art and not limiting ourselves to the ideas we have always carried!

In this installment of the Limelight Mailbag episodes, I am joined by hilarious, sassy, badass comedian and friend Steev Letts (he/him) as we celebrate the release of Endless Bummer, Steev's brand-new comedy special! We also, of course, unpack this month's limelight-stealing submission — from the one and only Bradley Fung!

In this episode, I sit with Writer, Development Analyst and Fur Baby Mama, Karen'Nicole Mitchell (she/her).   We discuss her flawless submission to a previous mailbag episode, the evolution of our cookie palates, coming out in different spaces and communities, entering chapters of our lives where we begin to explore who we are outwardly, the challenges of discovering identity while growing up in a large family, gratitude for queer elders who fought before us and bunny limelight stealing!

In this episode, I sit with comedian and content creator Maddy Weeks (they/them).   We discuss favourite ice-cream flavours, Maddy's journey into comedy, being allies before coming out, gender envy, coming out on stage via a ukulele song, repressing parts of ourselves as children and having the courage to unlearn being an actor in our own life to become our truest selves!

In this installment of the Limelight Mailbag episodes, I am joined by talented and hilarious comedian, musician, and actress, Ava Val (she/her). We unpack this month's limelight-stealing submission — our first anonymous story!

In this episode, I sit with Photographer, Marlo (he/they).   We discuss Marlo's first photographic book, Foreground: Portraits of Older Transgender and Gender Diverse People, older people in the LGBTQIA+ community and their visibility in the media and place within society, different approaches to experimenting with photography, first meeting trans and gender-diverse people in university and Marlo's exploration of gender!   Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources   Connect with my guest: -Follow Marlo on Instagram: @_marlowphoto -Check out Marlo's website: marlophotography.com  -Order your copy of Foreground: Portraits of Older Transgender and Gender Diverse People   Resources: -Coming Back Out Ball: comingbackoutball.com -Out and About Program: switchboard.org.au/out-and-about    Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

In this episode, I sit with Journalist and Author, Patrick Lenton (he/him). We discuss elevating and normalising bisexual experiences, Nonsense Newsletter, Patrick's debut queer rom-com novel, coming out via a national newspaper, feeling “undercover” without realising, bi-erasure existing the loudest inside of us and the fulfilled dream of annoying people with how queer we are! Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources Connect with my guest: -Read Nonsense Newsletter: heterosexualnonsense.substack.com  -Follow Patrick on Instagram: @patrick_lenton -Follow Patrick on Threads: @patrick_lenton  -Follow Patrick on Twitter: @patricklenton  -Follow Patrick on TikTok: @patricklenton  -Connect with Patrick on Facebook: facebook.com/PatrickLenton  Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

In this instalment of the Limelight Mailbag episodes, I am joined by hilarious comedian and drag sensation Rae Carson (they/them). We unpack this month's limelight-stealing submission from Marian.   Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources   Connect with my guest: -Follow Rae on Instagram: @raelynncarson -Follow Manly Nipkiss on Instagram: @manlynipkiss  -Follow Rae on TikTok: @raelynncarson  -Follow Rae on X: @raelynncarson    Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

In this episode, I sit with a Writer and Therapist, who specialises in working with the LGBTQIA+ community, Tom Smithson (he/him).   We discuss the faith that it gets better, Tom's book that he is writing due for release in 2025, that there is no one way to come out, how what a therapist looks like can affect how much we share with them, the many ways in which Tom finds his work meaningful, and the idea of ‘inviting in' as an alternative to ‘coming out'.   Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources   Connect with my guest: -Follow Tom on Instagram: @newhcounselling -Subscribe to Tom's Substack: thomassmithson.substack.com -Check out Tom's Website: newhorizoncounselling.co.uk   Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

In the second instalment of the Limelight Mailbag episodes, I am joined by my delightful co-host; writer and gecko enthusiast Nessa Chileshe (she/they). We unpack this month's limelight-stealing submission from Fiona.   Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources   Connect with Nessa: -Follow Nessa on Instagram: @nessacwrites  -Read and subscribe to Nessa's Substack: nessacwrites.substack.com    Connect with Fiona: -Follow Fiona on Instagram: @fionapplebum  -Check out Fiona's work: linktr.ee/fionasamson    Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

In this episode I sit with researcher and historian, specialising in Australian Indigenous and LGBTIQA+ histories, Noah Riseman (he/him). We discuss the language we use and how that has evolved, the importance and privilege of sharing trans folks' stories, the long history of visibility and activism in Australia and coming out to different family members! Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources Connect with my guest: - Connect with Noah on Twitter: @NoahRiseman Resources: -Transgender Australia, Noah Riseman — Melbourne University Publishing. Or buy from any good independent bookseller. All money made from the book is being donated to trans charities. Noah's other books on LGBTQIA+ military service: -Pride in Defence, Noah Riseman, Shirleene Robinson — Melbourne University Publishing (mup.com.au) -Serving in Silence | NewSouth Books Free online resources on trans history provided by Noah: -NSW Trans History Report - written for The Gender Centre and ACON -Victoria's Transgender History - written for Transgender Victoria -A History of Trans Health Care in Australia: A Report for the Australian Professional Association for Trans Health (AusPATH) -Speaking Out Against Anti-Trans Violence: A Call for Justice - written for The Gender Centre and SWOP  (Sex Workers Outreach Project) for the NSW Special Commission of Inquiry into LGBTIQ Hate Crimes Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

In this episode I sit with comedian Tom Ballard (he/him) and discuss coming out over a meat pie, internet browser histories, coming out to ourselves, MySpace, letter-writing as a lost art, lying about being straight to taxi drivers and the insanity of the monarchy!   Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources   Connect with my guest: -Follow Tom on Instagram: @tomcballard  -Follow Tom on X: @tomcballard  -Follow Tom on threads: @tomcballard  -Subscribe to Tom's YouTube: @TomBallardAus  -Watch Tom's latest special, It Is I, with 800 Pound Gorilla Records   Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

I am honoured that my guest on this episode is comedian and musician Eve Parker Finley (she/her). We talk about the role of her art in her coming out and her emotional well-being. A behind-the-scenes note is that I kept trying to write the show notes for this episode and instead just got distracted multiple times watching clips of Eve performing because she is PURE JOY! Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources In this episode: -Eve discusses how she has used music and comedy to figure out who she wants to be! -We hear the process and discovery behind the first song Eve ever wrote! -Using gender as a metaphor for other things is a thing Eve loves to do in her music and writing! -We hate the relationships we have been in where we have forgotten who we are, but the comeback from those? It is the most powerful thing! -Eve wrote a song for her parents and played it to them as her coming out! -It's okay to not know. It's okay to not have it figured out. None of us have anything figured out! -We each share three songs from our crying playlists with each other and let me tell you, nothing feels like more of a bonding moment than that! -Taking scary plunges towards what sets our soul on fire is brave and beautiful! Eve shared her journey and it is gorgeous! -Growing up means growing more confident and out of our “No worries if not!” phase and we love that for us! -SHOUTOUT therapy! Always! Our longest and strongest relationships! Connect with my guest: -Follow Eve on Instagram:@eveparkerfinley -Follow Eve on TikTok: @eveparkerfinley -Eve's album In The End -Eve's latest release, her comedy song Screw You Steve -More of Eve: eveparkerfinley.contactin.bio/ Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

In this episode I got to chat with comedian, producer, host of New Moon Comedy and just all round wonderful human, Jackie Hoffart (they/them).   Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources   In this episode: -Check out New Moon Comedy! One of the best shows in Canada! -Here we are with another story that involves my guest moving very, very far away from their hometown! -This interview has big two-cats-per-house energy and we love it! -How wonderful is it when you can see people on stage that help you discover or uncover your true self? What a gift! -Jackie gives a wonderful perspective on how they feel about identifying as non-binary, for now, until the language catches up and I love it very much! -In this chat, we hear how Jackie came out to themself first, and how big that experience is! -Hot tips for how to start identifying as a lesbian in this episode! -We are here to follow the butterflies that make us feel alive! And we are not taking anything less! -As Jackie puts it, there are infinite ways to be non-binary. Theirs' took the surgical route and they kindly share that experience with us! -We are learning to make less space for folks to get our pronouns wrong! We have been choosing our battles, and maybe it is time to change that!   Connect with my guest: -Follow New Moon Comedy on Instagram: @moonbasedcomedy -Follow Jackie on Instagram: @ostensiblyclear   Resources: -Check out YVR Funny! -The article Jackie wrote in 2003!   Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

In this month's (and our first ever) Limelight Mailbag episode, I am joined by my wonderful co-host; filmmaker, podcaster, writer and dear friend Jason T. Gaffney! (P.S. I get so excited my voice goes high-pitched several times and Zoom is like “Nope! No sound here!”) We unpack this month's limelight-stealing submission from Karen'Nicole. Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources Connect with Jason: -Follow Jason on Instagram! @jasontgaffney  Connect with Karen'Nicole: -Hire Me to Create for You -karennicolemitchell.com  Resources: -The London Writers' Salon Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

Silvi Vann-Wall (they/them) is a writer, film critic, improv comedian and as I excitedly learned in our chat, also a frog enthusiast.   I was introduced to their work via an important piece they published for the ABC (see the resources below) and was so honoured to get to know more about them and their journey.   Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources   In this episode: -Our sexual resume does not define our sexuality! -How nice is being able to change how we identify as we change and grow in life? -We discuss what it is like for Silvi to “be non-binary and have a feminine body”! -We hope this conversation serves as a place to let gender-diverse people know that there are others like them and I want the cishets to listen and learn more about gender diversity too! -Google is free! Stop asking people to do the emotional labour of educating you! -We hear from Matt, Silvi's husband, and hear what it is like to discover who we are and experience that in a long-term relationship! -Lockdowns were revealing for queers, to say the least! -Silvi and I shared the same fears as children: that our parents could read our minds! Our very gay minds! Terrifying! -Silvi is great at checking in with themself every day, keeping their finger on the pulse of who they are! -Did you get pulled out of class to draw dogs? No? You mustn't be as talented as Silvi! Sorry!   Connect with my guest: -Connect with Silvi on Twitter/X @silvireports    Resources: -Here is the article I read that led me to Silvi!    Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

-Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources Curtis Campbell is a playwright, novelist, theatremaker, director and producer. Dragging Mason County, Curtis' YA book was released last fall. Around Toronto, you may see Curtis being awesome in the comedy world and the theatre world. Please enjoy this truly invigorating conversation. In this episode: -We revisit the times we worked together via little digital boxes on our laptops! -Curtis tells us about Dragging Mason County, the YA novel released last year! -We chat about how we want to exist in this world and how we want to define ourselves! -Creativity is such a wonderful way to explore who we are! -Growing up is a lovely way to find out we no longer have to prove our credentials as queer folk! -EVERYTHING Curtis is working on — both solo and collaboratively — is without any exaggeration, perfection. I am delighted to chat about all of this important, joyful, intelligent work! -People are hungry for queer comedy! -As queer folks, making stuff for ourselves vs making ourselves more palatable for others is something we have to think about, and we discuss that in this episode! -Everyone's homework after listening is to go away and create bad things! We deserve it! Connect with my guest: -Follow Curtis on Instagram: @curtisdangcampbell  -Get your hands on Dragging Mason County: annickpress.com/Books/D/Dragging-Mason-County  -More of Curtis: linktr.ee/campwrites  Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources Neut (they/them/their) is back, pals! What a treat! They are such a wonderful person to chat with and I am thrilled we get more of their wonderfulness for your listening pleasure. In this episode: -We discuss the “have to” when it comes to our creative pursuits! -Neut pulls tarot while we record! -We hear from Neut's bestie, Silvia! -Breakups are tough but who we become from them can be the most wonderful! -Conversations with queers are perfect and necessary! -Changing our wardrobe to be our true selves, as we go, is a huge yes! -We are never done when it comes to discovering and uncovering ourselves! -Coming out can be a boundary and a point of self-respect! -Here is to being persistent and resilient! -The people who get it, get it! Unsubscribes and unfollows are a gift! Connect with my guest: -Follow Neut on Instagram! Check out their awesome stuff/diary project! @therealneut  -Visit Neut's website: neut.space  -Check out Neut's Bandcamp: neutwho.bandcamp.com  -Spotify link! https://tinyurl.com/pkg93 -Neut's webcomic: neut.space/visitbostonor  -Neut's tarot deck project: neut.space/#/fools-journey -Explore all of the cool things Neut creates in one space! tap.bio/@neut  Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources Joanne Tsung (she/her) is back to let y'all know gays are taking over the world! I had such a great time chatting with her last time, I wanted to do it all again. PLUS! We needed the ending to the story that was her first weekend at university. So while this ep is less coming out (we covered that a lot in part 1) it is still loads of queer joy and Joanne joy! In this episode: -Since we last spoke, Joanne went to Peru! -Lesbian feature walls are on my vision board for my future home! -Joanne's first weekend at university was indeed WILD! -Starbucks is a little boutique cafe, have you heard of it? Joanne made it cool! -If you follow a queer person into a gay bar… BOOP! You are gay now! You are welcome! -Is axe throwing masculine or is that just Canadian? -Hand blisters make me butch and I love this for me so much! -We love soft, sensitive boys who have rejected toxic masculinity! -IF YOU HAVE THE POWERS, GET JOANNE A PODCAST GRANT! -We are living in a time where queers are ready to take over, and we are so ready! Connect with my guest: -Follow Joanne on IG! @jtsung  Resources: -Wells for Boys

Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources I love my two sisters Lolo (she/her) and Brooke (she/her) and as you listen you will quickly discover why. Here they are, the muses and magical beings themselves, on the podcast, finally. I slept on this for so long, but please enjoy the delight that is these two queer queens, because they are worth every second of the wait. In this episode: -We are giving big ‘get the girlies together for a sleepover' vibes! -Well, what a letdown it has turned out to be to receive the male validation we were taught to want our entire lives! NOT ALWAYS! But ya, know, enough of the time that it is a thing we devoted time to in this convo so… -As kids, our options were narrow, we had straight or gay to choose from — if that — and as we have grown, so have our options! -Singing and dancing and knowing every word to a song with your Mum and your bestie = witchcraft! -If someone trusts you enough to come out to you, let them keep that main character, at least for a minute! -Queer love is magical! -There is so much beauty in sisterhood, including the fact that you can text each other secrets from the other room and that be a beautiful form of communication! -Once the weight of our own judgement (put on us by society) is lifted, so much can change to be authentic: who we love, what we wear, how we speak…! -If you don't karaoke, then can you really call yourself our friend? -The limelight-stealing stories in this episode will haunt my guests on their deathbeds and that is warranted! Connect with my guests: -Follow Lolo for her cute photo dumps: @lolosuede -Follow Brooke for sexy burlesque, independent film and photography: @brookeewadee  Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources Steve Sidi (he/him) is back! You first met Steve in Season 2 (which is baffling to me I waited so long to have him on and my only conclusion is that he means so much to me that I was too nervous to host him when I was still very green). Stove was my roommate for my last long stint in Canada, and long before that, we have been close pals and also work colleagues! How dreamy to have so much of him in my life! In this episode: -If you are familiar with the movie Burlesque, then you already completely understand the dynamic of our friendship! -When you get to a place in your life where you're happy to run into someone in your kitchen, you know you've made it! -Nicknames can be a demotion as they progress and I learn something new every day! -Stand-up comedy has helped Steve understand who is is and who he wants to be and express himself in a way he hadn't been able to before! -Steve learned how to make friends with queer people by creating spaces for queer folks in comedy, where he always felt comfortable! -There is a great reminder to seize opportunities, and also create them for others where you can. Thank you, Steve! -Once again, we are reminded to make the queer community part of our lives, often and intentionally! -Go support comedy! It is a good investment! -“Best friend” is a tier and I am so very lucky to put Stove in the tier! Connect with my guest: -Follow and fall in love with Stove on Instagram: @stovesidi  Resources: -Lauren started watching this before the recording and that is (partly) why they were crying Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources I AM SO EXCITED TO BE BACK IN YOUR EARS WITH NEW EPISODES! I had the pleasure of seeing AJ Norris (he/they) perform comedy when I was in Seattle recently and I knew I had to introduce myself to him after the show to talk to them more. AJ brought as much joy to me in this chat as he did from the stage, and I am so grateful I get to share all that with you in this episode! In this episode: -Here is to not being seen as a queer comedian, but rather as a comedian, who also happens to be queer! -Lauren didn't know how to pronounce Arkansas! -AJ is “a being, and the rest is secondary, " which is beautiful! -It's so great witnessing kids being raised in the present day, outside of the ‘norms' that we were raised in! -The power of a haircut can never be underestimated! -Is it really an episode of MDSML if it doesn't include the guest moving to another town before coming out? -AJ talks about dismantling the expectations that society sets on you as a kid! -Tattoos are a way to “decorate our home”! -Is there a gender-neutral term for aunt or uncle? Please write and tell us! -Here is your reminder to spend time by yourself! Connect with my guest: -Follow AJ on Instagram! @actually_aj_art Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources Cass Furman (she/her) brings a beautiful balance of laughs and ‘things I am going to write in my diary later' in this episode! Cass is a comedian and actor and shares so many lovely gems in this conversation. In this episode: -Cass played a lesbian character in a play and from there was able to own up to some feelings she hadn't acknowledged fully at that point! -Attraction means so much more than what we are taught! -Cass experienced being the Janis Ian to Regina George and it hurt like it “was a little bit true”! -When we come out there can be a lot of pressure to change, but Cass reminds us that there are parts we want to keep and that they're amazing! -Thank you to the expansive and large queer community who have helped us discover and love more about ourselves! -All of the things Cass shared brought me back to the “why” of starting this podcast! -Imagine if we loved ourselves the way we loved others! Or as Cass puts “The more we look for things to love about each other, the more we find to love”! -WE ARE RETIRING JOURNALS! We are bringing back our diaries! -The number of us who are scared to come out as we feel we do not have the “right” to it is a pattern in these conversations! You belong, and your dating history does not define you! -Being honest will get you where you want to go a whole lot quicker! Connect with my guest: -Follow Cass on Instagram: @cassfurman Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca -This episode of My Dad Stole My Limelight was recorded with @SquadCast

Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources Niki Mohrdar (she/her) is a stand-up comedian and podcaster (she's ⅓ of the podcast Soft For Us, amazing!). In this episode, Niki shares her perspective as a Middle Eastern woman on queerness and coming out. In this episode: -Bisexuals? Us? We are attracted to a vibe! -Look, Montreal is a place so many of us have gone to and then been like OH DAMN THIS IS WHO I AM! -I want to talk about being queer ALL THE TIME and also, please recognise I am more than that! -Niki and I never had an “official” coming out and mayyyyyybe we hold a little jealousy about that towards those who did! -Choosing not to be open about who we are in certain spaces can be hard and it can also be a way to protect ourselves! -Comedy is such a freeing space to have a “one-sided conversation” and express who we are, how we feel, what we believe and in the process make you laugh! -Niki and I have struggled in an ongoing way with imposter syndrome and code-switching, feeling like there is something we need to prove! -Sex and intimacy are so much more than being physical, and demisexuality can empower us to feel safe and secure exploring that! -Niki wants there to be more openness and less suppression of our sexuality — being free to explore who we are and not shut ourselves off! -Coffee is not needed if you have a wonderful queer conversation to have instead! Connect with my guest: -Follow Niki on Instagram: @niki.mohrdar  -Listen to Niki's podcast, Soft For Us: @softforus  Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca -This episode of My Dad Stole My Limelight was recorded with @SquadCast

Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources This week I got to chat with the hilarious Joanne Tsung (she/her), who I now want to be my BFF and share demisexual memes with all day every day. Joanne is a comedian and writer who has been featured on CBC Vancouver, CBC Pride, Killjoy Comedy with OutTV and YVR Funny Season 2 with Storyhive. In this episode: -I smiled this entire episode and my hands moved between cupping my face adoringly listening to Joanne and cupping my mouth to stop my laughing drown out Joanne's voice! -Joanne has the most wonderful explanation of the beauty of being demisexual! -We need “horny in your own time” on a throw pillow! -Joanne describes her take on internalised bi-erasure! -The voices in our head can give us so much imposter syndrome, over and over and over again! -The alternative title for this episode was “Joanne Tsung on unfortunately participating in society”! -There is a cameo from Karla, Joanne's girlfriend and it is amazing! -Being queer takes up a huge part of our brain, and it is the best! -Joanne shares the disappointment in the microaggressions experienced after coming out, and I am so grateful for her voicing things so many folks face! -Joanne and I entered queer spaces for the first time assuming everyone was going to hit on us when they clearly would not, and to hear her say that? Validating! Connect with my guest: -Follow Joanne on Instagram: @jtsung -Visit Joanne's website: joannetsung.com Resources: -Watch Killjoy Comedy on OutTV! -Watch Joanne on YVR Funny Season 2! -The Lesbian Master Doc! Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca -This episode of My Dad Stole My Limelight was recorded with @SquadCast

Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources Cassidy Anhorn (she/her) is a comedian, writer and producer. You may have seen her on stages around Vancouver and Canada, heard her on her JFL Originals tracks in their 2023 Album (which was named after her joke!) or on YVR Funny Season 2. Most recently, you can hear her right here with more queer joy and representation! In this episode: -We are secretly okay when plans get cancelled! -I need to go to more queer events, period! -The youth have inspired Cassidy to own being a lesbian and this is wonderful! -Things have changed so much, and yet… so often there is still only one woman (OR NO WOMEN!?) on a comedy show. Ugh! -Thank GOD for Linda Cardellini! -This story involves a queer awakening in the middle of English class! -I have no regrets about leaving social media, but thank goodness for Cassidy for filling me in with cool, queer celebrity gossip! -There is no party like an LGBTQIA+ party! -Which Spice Girl made you gay? -SPOILER! This limelight-stealing story is flipped and Cassidy steals someone else's. ICONIC! Connect with my guest: -Follow Cassidy on Instagram: @cassidya  Resources: -Go to Big Queer Party Mix! @bigqueerpartymix -Cassidy on YVR Funny! -Album link for Cassidy on Stand-Up BC! -Check out QueerProv! @queerprov  Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca -This episode of My Dad Stole My Limelight was recorded with @SquadCast

Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources Patti Savard (she/her) is a comedian who likes to not take herself too seriously. She has found that comedy has been a way to “find the lightness in the dark”.  Being a comedian, Patti hopes to offer a perspective that may help someone on their own journey. I think this conversation can serve the same purpose too and I am so thankful for this chat with Patti! In this convo, Patti mentions her show on the 19th, and if you're listening, you missed it! I got delayed in releases because of being on vacay and timezone confusion on my part… when will I learn? Please go and follow Patti on socials (linked below) to see where you can catch her performing next! In this episode: -Patti grew up surrounded by strong women who have inspired her to be a strong badass, Kirstie Alley in Look Who's Talking inspired legend! -Patti hitchhiked to Mexico and along the way discovered more about herself than she had imagined for that trip! -Growing up, Patti had the best-dressed G.I. Joes in the neighbourhood! -Bless adult stores and sex shops that see us and respect us and encourage us to be us! -Patti and I are basic bitches and envy our kinky friends!  -Patti was able to discover more about herself via podcasts and listening to other folks' stories. Representation matters y'all!  -Sometimes, as we figure out who we are, we continue to seek the “next thing that will make us happy”! -Heck yeah to Life Coaching! Patti was able to identify a fear vs a thought and what comes from elsewhere and what comes from her! -Patti has a mission statement for her writing and her stand up and I LOVE THAT! -Make your mantra list! Patti has many! And she shares some with us! Amazingly blessed! Connect with my guest: -Follow Patti on IG: @pattisavard18  -Like Patti's FB: facebook.com/patatoui69 Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca -This episode of My Dad Stole My Limelight was recorded with @SquadCast

Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources Rogue (they/them) is an iconic Sagittarius and is Vancouver's premier non-binary Jewish drag artist and event producer. Rogue started their drag journey “with a synthetic Amazon blonde wig and a dream” and now they are a host of many a show, travelling around the city and the country spreading their joy and talent with everyone who is lucky enough to witness it AND they founded drag supergroup ENBY 6! In this episode: -Rogue's eyes were opened up to drag in a way I could never have guessed — by insisting they hated RPDR! Listen to find out how that (thankfully and magically panned out)! -If someone trusts you with the honour of coming out to you, please, please, do not respond with “I knew/I know” etc! Because what did you “know”? Really? -We love a story where someone is spending all of their spare time doing something, a true sign of it being their passion and their vocation! -Listeners have your pens ready for this episode! Rogue has a go-to list for diving into queer culture for the first time! -If you can't poke fun at yourself, who can you poke fun at? -Oh to be young, drunk and abroad confessing to your closest pals your sexuality! It's a recipe for coming out and I love it (because I too, have lived it)! -Rogue is very honest in sharing their journey of unlearning and then passing it on, which I am very grateful for! -This conversation is just a reminder (at least for me) of how important it is to be in queer spaces as much as we can! -Allison is kickass! We love you! Canada's Drag Race — hire her! Connect with my guest: -Follow Rogue on Instagram: @itsjustrogue  -Follow Rogue on Twitter: @itsjustrogue -Follow Rogue on TikTok: @itsjustrogue -Book Rogue via their website: itsjustrogue.com    Resources: -Canada's Drag Race! Hire Allison! @mama.rogue  Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca -This episode of My Dad Stole My Limelight was recorded with @SquadCast

Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources Karlie Hart (they/them) was one of my fabulous guests for my first-ever live show and it was beautiful, wonderful, chaotic and a total blur! Also, spoiler, the recording didn't work so we have no proof of any of this, BUT before that knowledge came to us we had already decided that the short time we had on that stage was not enough. To get to sit with them with time to chat, and without 500 people staring at us was a treat. In this episode: -A lot of people misunderstand Karlie's transness because of their drag! -This chat serves as a place for people to be able to have more than just a few reference points of transmasc but more “femme” leaning drag artists! -Just because it wasn't correct, doesn't mean that it was a phase! -Lauren says “For want of a better phrase/word” a lot in this ep and we are going with it! -Sometimes you don't realise that something is possible until you see it! That can be magical, but also hopefully that will change! -Yay to emotional connections to book characters that help us figure things out about ourselves! -Shoutout to badass Mums and badass therapists! -This story involves slam poetry! I love it! -Sometimes there is a really sh*tty vehicle for really beautiful conversations! -We love a Pinterest board coming out story! -The goal is not to get to the other side, it is to get into the driver's seat! Connect with my guest: -Follow Karlie on Instagram: @karliehartbreaker  -See more of their work: @kamillareedschuyler  Resources: -T4 T: https://do604.com/events/2023/8/1/t4-t-tickets (September 5th AKA the day of release is Karlie's all-transmasc lineup!) Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca -This episode of My Dad Stole My Limelight was recorded with @SquadCast

Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources In true queer fashion, even if I say so myself, this episode has been a long time coming and well worth the wait. This week I get to chat with Neut King (they/them) who I met through the magic of an internet workshop – YAY to the internet being a nice place at times! Neut is an Indigequeer artist, creative and visionary who identifies as a trans, non-binary tomboy. Their views on the world that we touch on in this conversation are so refreshing and I am so grateful they share them with us. In this episode: -Straight up, we were strapped for time and I could have spoken to Neut for an entire day so there *will* be another episode with them! -This conversation starts with us both complimenting things the other is wearing, of course! -Friendly reminder — virginity is a myth! -Is “queers move house three times in a year” a thing? -I love a good chunky ring and would love to be a person who could pull this off! -Witches have always been the queerest people in the village! -You never know how anything from fleeting interactions to deep friendships might have an effect on people, it's beautiful! -Being the only out queer in their community, gave Neut the concept of ‘celebrity' and not in the ways people often wish for! -We love an ally! -If every homophobe was secretly gay, we could take over the world! (More than we already are!) -You cannot please everybody! -Being queer is our favourite thing! Connect with my guest: -Explore all of the cool things Neut creates! tap.bio/@neut  -Follow Neut on Instagram: @therealneut  -Visit Neut's website: neut.space  -Check out Neut's Bandcamp: neutwho.bandcamp.com  -Spotify link! https://tinyurl.com/pkg93 -Neut's webcomic: neut.space/visitbostonor  -Neut's tarot deck project: neut.space/#/fools-journey  Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources My guest this week is talented with words, wool, paint and more. Tracy O'Brien (she/her) is the silver lining we all need in our days and comes to share that with us in this week's episode. Tracy is an ‘artist and maker' and brings her positive energy and words of wisdom to this conversation. Have your post-its ready for your new affirmations! In this episode: -This is the most warm-hug-positive-affirmation episode I think I have recorded yet! -Tracy is living her best life! -Being supported at home and in our relationships can give us the space to truly be ourselves in every aspect of our lives! -The process of unlearning the expectations life puts on us can be ongoing, but Tracy has some wonderful wisdom to help the process! -In true lesbian fashion, this story involves moving in together within 6 months of dating and I AM HERE FOR IT! -Babysitting and sleepovers with gal pals were always allowed and were fantastic for us young women exploring our sexuality! -Just because you might escape trying to fit into one box, doesn't mean you won't feel forced to fit into another! -Society might presume things and refer to “your husband” but Tracy and her wife have found a hack that means you can use this to your advantage! -There is always a need for more queer spaces, but we need queer spaces that cater to everyone! -Spoiler folks! If you want something, just go and bloody do it! -Tracy shares how she accomplished stepping away from trying to fit in and living her life on other's expectations of her! -I had to pull back from the mic after hearing Tracy's limelight story because I laughed so much! Connect with my guest: -Follow Tracy on Instagram: @YarnsmithArtStudio -Follow Tracy on Instagram: @tracyoknits  -Get your custom-made Isle of Wight gansey: @isleofwightganseys  -Read Guided by Angels, Tracy's wonderful substack: tracyobrien.substack.com  Resources: -The Nearness: thenearness.coop  -The London Writers' Salon: londonwriterssalon.com  Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca -This episode of My Dad Stole My Limelight was recorded with @SquadCast

Connect with MDSML: -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -2SLGBTQIA+ resources Am I delighted about this episode? Yes indeedy! This week I got to sit and chat with the wonderfully kind and talented Trevor Campbell, who is a writer and the host of the (very awesome) podcast You Made Me Queer. In this episode: -Trevor and I reflect on the beauty that is hosting these kinds of conversations to better discover ourselves! -I was in no way intimidated to be in the host seat with one of the best podcast hosts in the game in the guest seat. Nope. Not at all. -Yay to recontextualising the queer experience from one of trauma, pain or shame to one of joy and humour! -Trevor and I would both like this episode to go viral so we both get book deals, please and thanks! -Air quotes or bunny ears? You tell us! -We have both felt the need to, as Trevor so perfectly put it “move into something that has already been packaged” before we figure out where we go from there and continue to grow! -‘Gender Fatigue' is a term Trevor introduces me to in this episode and it is enlightening, to say the least! -“Does this light me up? Yes or no?” and life can be that simple. -Get your journals ready! We have prompts! -Toxic masculinity ruins everything! Including being gay and coming out! -We are two wonderful queers that got through Catholic school education to be the fabulous selves that we are today! -We pour a glass out for every person who dated someone who was secretly queer, we have been on both sides of this! We love you! -Ja'mie intimidated me as a teenage girl and not for the reasons you might think! -This conversation is just a huge warm hug, enjoy! -Rhea Perlman is the best! Connect with my guest: -Follow YMMQ on Instagram! @youmademequeer  -Listen to YMMQ! -Visit Trevor's website! trevorcampbell.ca  Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro -Logo Art: @raphe.ca -This episode of My Dad Stole My Limelight was recorded with @SquadCast  

Connect with MDSML: -Join the mailing list for weekly queer joy! mdsml.substack.com -Connect with Lauren! laurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -LGBTQIA+ resources Listeners! I have my first couple double-interview! I am so very grateful to my guests, Taj Ruler (she/they) and Kelsey Cramer (she/her), for sharing their stories of discovering their love — which resulted in finding their true selves too. This episode is literally the love story of my dreams, holy moly, a rom-com could never compete. Side note! I have a fun game for you to play as you listen: Every time I say “Cute” or “Beautiful” you get to eat a Twizzler (my fav candy). I say those two words A LOT so ENJOY THE SUGAR RUSH! In this episode: -Queer is a wonderful word for just ~being~! -Compt het (compulsory heterosexuality) is a part of this story and so many of ours! -Barbie is our queer icon! -Someone's hand pushing hair out of your face is a life-changing act! -Taj and Kelsey name their plants, and that is very relatable! -This love story involves the use of the Marco Polo app! -Note to self: Feeling compelled to take care of someone when they're sick, wanting and needing to show up, could be inklings! -Ohhhhh weddings (especially queer weddings) are always a place to reflect and realise where your heart lies and I love it! -This episode is the perfect example of (as Kelsey put it): There's no correct time or age to come out and that never too late to live as your authentic, full self! -Your body knows best, it can tell you what your mind hasn't caught onto yet! -How to define an official first date when you realise you have been unknowingly dating for months? Taj and Kelsey answer this question! -This is a “Ships passing in the night” story until the universe said “Now!” -Let it be on the record, Taj knows how to light a fire! Connect with my guests: -Follow Kelsey on Instagram: @kelseylaurelcramer -Follow Taj on Instagram: @rulert Resources: -Follow The Shrieking Harpies on Instagram: @shriekingharpies  -Check out Minnesota Fringe! minnesotafringe.org  Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork -Logo Art: @raphe.ca -Music: Shawn Kangro -This episode of My Dad Stole My Limelight was recorded with @SquadCast

Connect with MDSML: -Join the mailing list for weekly queer joy! mdsml.substack.com -Connect with Lauren! laurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -LGBTQIA+ resources I am (once again) very excited about my guest this week! We were having such a rad chat and I was like “I need to hit record!”. I am pleased to welcome improviser, Shea Roberts Gyllen (they/them)! Shea is also maybe the most patient person ever as I rescheduled this episode with them mayyyyyybe 12 times, and we ended up back at the original time! This is very much like me trying to choose an outfit, I try on 12, end up back at the first! In this episode: -Enjoy the bird and seaplane sounds as I recorded this from Oak Bay, Vancouver Island, a humble brag! -It feels so good to share ourselves loudly! -Shea talks about coming out as ongoing as someone who presents femme! -Kids can teach us so very much! Talking to kids about gender is very fun! -Improv is FASCINATING to me! So much respect! -Shea used to be a professional stiltwalker! My new dream job is unlocked! -Fun fact, clothes don't make your gender! -Shea named their child and their child named them! -The guest recording in the episode is an educational experience! Blessed! -Hearing a different answer to the same question from multiple guests, means there are more options and possibilities every time and I freaking love that! -Being a parent really helped Shea discover their being non-binary! -Step one when someone you know comes out with a new name and new pronouns? Update their contact in your phone! -Birth spaces are very gendered, which Shea is trying to change in their work! -Shea very kindly passes the mic and asks me about my new pronouns and it felt very nice to talk about being your she/they host in this ep! Thank you, Shea

Connect with MDSML: -Join the mailing list for weekly queer joy! mdsml.substack.com -Connect with Lauren! laurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -LGBTQIA+ resources Since recording this episode, SAG-AFTRA has gone on strike. If you want to find out more information about the strikes and ways you can help support them, here are some links to the pages Jason recommends: -sagaftrastrike.org -wgacontract2023.org Jason T. Gaffney (he/him) is one of my nearest and dearest humans/friends/inspirations and it is an absolute pleasure to have him in my life. So you can only imagine how delighted I was to have someone so special to me as a guest on this podcast. Jason is an actor, writer, producer, and podcaster and his films Analysis Paralysis, The Perfect Wedding, and Out of Body feature gay leads in a post-coming-out world. Additionally, Marriage of Inconvenience, his new LGBTQIA+ series is out now and streaming on Dekkoo!  In this episode: -Jason is very passionate about showcasing all aspects of our queer lives, and not just coming out. The other elements are lacking in the film and television industry, and Jason is filling those gaps with his work! -Jason's mom features in this episode and she is nothing short of a legend! -There is nothing like The Full Monty to help you realise you are gay! -My mission in life is to be friends with my friends' moms! -We all need to channel our inner Han Solo at times! -Listeners you are BLESSED with tips from Jason on the film and TV industry in this episode! -Jason's story is beautiful, and while we know this is not the case for everyone, a reminder that these stories can so often be so full of love is such a beautiful thing! -This story has a coming out with a capital “O”, meaning a public outting, with consent, with a gorgeous story and dedication! -We want you to be in touch with every aspect of yourself: masculine, feminine, non-binary! There is so much to explore and love about each! -Allowing folks to be their full selves, comfortably, on set makes them feel loved and welcome and makes for far more authentic performances! -Jason is pen pals with Bette Midler! -We hear a lot of very special on-set stories from Jason's various projects! -Update on the travel plan dilemma discussed: I fixed it!  Connect with my guest: -Follow Jason on Twitter @JasonTGaffney -Follow Jason on Instagram @JasonTGaffney -Connect with Jason on Facebook facebook.com/ActorAuthorJasonTGaffney  -Check out Jason's Production Company: MyPetHippoProductions.com   Resources: -Hot Target by Suzanne Brockmann -BEAUTIFUL dedication to Jason from Hot Target Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and Alistair Ogden -Logo Art: @raphe.ca -Music: Shawn Kangro -Follow the podcast network: @604podnetwork -This episode of My Dad Stole My Limelight was recorded with @SquadCast

Connect with MDSML: -Join the mailing list for weekly queer joy! mdsml.substack.com -Connect with Lauren! laurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -LGBTQIA+ resources This week's guest writes one of my favourite substacks – Unravelling Daydreams – it is poetic and the imagery is beautiful and I have FOR SURE CRIED with hope and then giggled with her wit while reading it. I am delighted to welcome Phoebe Hancock (she/her) to the podcast! As well as her substack, Phoebe is a host for The London Writers' Salon, holding space for writers worldwide. Phoebe was introduced to me by a mutual friend who said “Hey, this person is writing about lesbian vampires. I think you'll get along!” They were 100% right. Enjoy this conversation filled with tenderness, openness, hope, and laughter. In this episode: -Phoebe identifies as a lesbian. Very much. She loves it. -Looking at lesbians in history is a huge part of Phoebe's life. Iconic! -We talk about love spells written by queer women! Heartbreakingly beautiful! -Padro Pascals' knees. Yep. -Halloween is the perfect day to come out! -We relate when it comes to CHOOSING to have a crush on a boy! -Travel makes us very queer! -We love a Cottage Core Lesbian aka Phoebe! -Queer films are meant to be watched while in the bath! -This coming out involves a response of “Oh, thank god!” -It's so cool to be able to put our queerness (and our real selves) into our art! -Coming out as a slow explosion, and holding people cookie-hostage is how we think it should be done! -Haggis that the Queen eats or no haggis! Connect with my guest: -Read Phoebe's substack! Unravellingdaydreams.substack.com -Follow Pheobe on Instagram @unravellingdykes -Follow Pheobe on Twitter! @unravellingdyke (singular b/c of character limits, to her annoyance) -Follow Pheobe on TikTok @unravellingme (they DID NOT LIKE her using dyke in her handle) -Check out The London Writers' Salon: londonwriterssalon.com  Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and Alistair Ogden -Logo Art: @raphe.ca -Music: Shawn Kangro -Follow the podcast network: @604podnetwork -This episode of My Dad Stole My Limelight was recorded with @SquadCast

Connect with MDSML: -Join the mailing list for weekly queer joy! mdsml.substack.com -Connect with Lauren! laurendeborah.substack.com  -Email the pod! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com -LGBTQIA+ resources Oh my goodness, I am so excited! In this episode, I got to sit with Lee Hulme (it/its) and it was an honour and a delight. You know when you meet someone on the internet and then you feel like you have been friends forever and then you actually get to speak to them and you're like “This is the best!”? Yeah, this is that. Lee is a writer of one of my favourite substacks and it is a podcaster whose new show, Strange Stories from Odd Folx is calling for pitches from queer writers! Get on that!  In this episode: -Learn how you can submit to be a writer on Lee's podcast! -We chat queer collaboration making beautiful, entertaining, wonderful things! -Queer pride tattoos make my heart sing! -We discuss making friends, winding up attracted to them down the line, and then thinking, “Well, fuck!” — this is demisexuality baby! -It just has to be this simple: feeling comfortable! -The first thing you do when you have a crush on someone is set them up with your friend, right? Just us? -We get to meet pets! We love pets with descriptive names! -The medical system is rough, and being a trans person can often mean educating your doctor before getting the services you need! -The trans community is beautiful and generous and helpful and ready to share the knowledge they have or find someone who does! You are not doing this alone, your journey is your own but there are folks ready to help you on it! -Exploring your gender is your right! Changing your mind is your right! You do you, day to day, my lovelies! -Community, as I like to say often, is so important! Listen to Lee tell you why it is so important to find yours! -They say not to meet your heroes. Lee has a story about meeting its hero, and it went great! Love it! -Lee makes its own limelight now and we LOVE TO SEE IT! Connect with my guest: -Listen to Lee's podcast: Strange Stories from Odd Folx -Read Lee's Substack: leekhulme.substack.com -Follow Lee on Twitter: @LeeKHulme -Connect with Lee on Mastodon: toot.community/@leekhulme Resources: -Here is the Miley substack volume that Lee wrote! Behind the scenes: -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and Alistair Ogden -Logo Art: @raphe.ca -Music: Shawn Kangro -Follow the podcast network: @604podnetwork -This episode of My Dad Stole My Limelight was recorded with @SquadCast