Queer Queeries

On the Season 2 finale of Queer Queeries, we reflect on what this past season has taught us in terms of creating a foundation for future generations to build on, being an ally v.s being an accomplice, and protecting our joy so that we can continue to fight for true equality. Follow:Qween JeanSisIanne Fields StewartResources for Further Learning:What's the Difference Between an Ally and Accomplice?Show Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"What are specific mental health challenges queer people deal with?" "How can we cope?" "How is the field of social work broken?" "How can we, as a community, take care of each other?"On this final interview of Season 2, I interview healing justice practitioner, licensed clinical social workers and founder and executive director of the National Queer and Trans Therapists of Color Network, Erica Woodland (he/him). Erica and I get into discuss journey of taking care of our mental health and that specific journey for queer people and the challenges we face. Erica shares how he knew form a very young age he wanted to of service to his communities in some capacity. he felt responsible because of the support he got and because he wanted to help correct a system that isn't set up for black folks to succeed. It was through his journey of unlearning outside of his formal schooling, which was taught through a white, cis, heterosexual, ableist lens and recognizing the need to center healing in the journey to repair the relationship between the medical field and Black and Indigenous folks, that led him to see the need for a resource that connected queer and trans folks of color to practitioners in their community. This resource being the National Queer and Trans Therapists of Color Network. In addition to talking about the creation of NQTTCN, Erica shares his own approach to mental health in his practice and with his clients, and we discuss the idea of meaning making and understanding generational trauma, de-centering therapy as the only form of healing, the impact of this past year on all of our mental states, and what we can do moving forward to heal ourselves, community, and world.Follow Erica:InstagramWebsiteOrganization of the Week: NQTTCNLearnDonateShow Produced by Nick EiblerCo-Produced/Edited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"What is the inspiration for you music?" "How has your queer identity grown through your music?"  "Have you dealt with queer-phobia in the music industry?" "How can we make more space for queer recording artists?"On this episode, I interview a singer and songwriter in the hip-hop scene, Niambi Ra (she/her). Growing up, Niambi was always exposed to the arts and an array of queer people in it, in her hometown of Washington D.C. Niambi shares specifically how she witnessed positive examples of Queer Black love and how that had a positive impact on her own coming out journey. She shares how her mother was a dancer, and it was inevitable that she would go into some kind of art. She found and fell in love with music and also acting and ended up attending NYU for musical theatre. Niambi then goes on to share how being a musical theatre performer used to be something she would hide but now it's something she owns because she recognizes the strengths it gives her. Niambi shares her own journey as a queer recording artist and how her ownership of her identity evolved as she created more music and showcased her queerness in her music videos, particularly her most recent song "Guidance." Throughout the episode, we discuss many things such as: queerness and camp in the music industry, how the act of queer people being themselves is political, double standards between men and women in the industry, the unsureness the industry has about where to put gender non-conforming folk, and much more.Follow Niambi:InstagramYouTubeOrganization of the Week: National Queer TheaterLearnDonateShow Produced by Nick EiblerCo-Produced/Edited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"What is activism?" "What is the intersection of art and activism?" "How has social media affected activism and the spread of information?" "How do we all show up for Black lives?"On this episode, I interview Marla Louissaint (she/her), a Haitian-born performer, published model, activist, abolitionist, visionary, and life-long student who is also the founder of the non-profit Claim Our Space Now. Marla didn't anticipate being an activist, or "artivist" as she likes to say. She says how it is something the ancestors chose for her because she had many things she wanted to say and people needed to hear them. Marla shares how the lynchings of George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, Ahmaud Arbery, and far too many black bodies at the beginning of 2020 was "the straw that broke her back." She decided from this moment that she had to do something to get those not just in her communities but all in for the fight for Black lives. Marla shares her 2020 journey: from sending a call out to various Jimmy Awards (The National High School Musical Theatre Awards alum) to call out James Nederlander (who the awards were named after) who had been revealed to have donated significant funds to Donald Trump's campaign. The goal was for him to donate funds to various Black Lives Matter organizations and to stand in solidarity with the black and brown alumni who had gone through his program. Marla shares how this initial spark led her to founding her non-profit Claim Our Space Now, who's mission is to provide resources and aid in the fight for Black lives.We also discuss:The necessity for all to get in on the fight against racism in all fields: medical racism, environmental racism, educational racism, etc.Questioning the systems around us and where our funds are actually going.The use of social media to spread information and also the racism that keeps Black, Brown, and Queer creators down.Claiming space and knowing who you are so you can be intentional with your life.Follow Marla:InstagramTwitterResources for Further Learning:How Marla Louissaint is Making the Revolution Irresistible from Playbill.com1619 podcastOrganization of the Week: Claim Our Space NowLearnDonateShow Produced by Nick EiblerCo-Produced/Edited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"When did you first see a trans character in performance?" "Why is there such a lack of inclusion of trans performers in theatre?" "How do we hold institutions who have failed and done harm accountable?" "How can we grow?"On this episode, I interview singer, actress, producer, director, writer, activist, and winner of the Human Rights Campaign Visibility award in January of 2020, Aneesh Sheth (she/her). Aneesh shares how her first exposure to queerness was when a sari (a garment from the Indian subcontinent traditionally worn by women) was put on her at a young age, and she recalls feeling very comfortable in it.  She also shares how her exposure to Hijra culture made an impression on her as to how society viewed those outside of the gender binary. It was then through her journey of working on the role of Sweetie in the musical Bombay Dreams that she learned about her own gender identity and also how trans characters and actors were viewed in theatrical spaces. Aneesh and I discuss how the theatre has progressed in terms of inclusion, how we can hold institutions accountable for making sure to do this work, the impact this past year has had on artists, and advice for trans and gender non-conforming artists who feel stifled by the inaccessible theatrical industry.We also discuss: How trans characters have developed in theatre and why there is such little progressHow to be inclusive of trans, gender non-conforming, actors with disabilities, and many other minorities in revivals of shows.How to successfully develop shows with trans characters in them.The issue of accessibility in theatre...and much more.Follow Aneesh:InstagramWebsiteResources for Further Learning:An Open Letter: A Statement to the Public Theatre by Aneesh ShethAneesh Sheth receives HRC's Visibility AwardOrganization of the Week: The Next Generation ProjectLearnDonateShow Produced by Nick EiblerCo-Produced/Edited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"How did you know you were non-binary?" "How do you explore gender?" "What is the difference between gayness and queerness?" "How can cis people be better allies to trans and gender non-conforming folk?"On this episode, I interview actor, writer, and a light of a human, Colette March (they/them). Throughout the episode, Colette shares how for the beginning of their time identifying they identified as a gay man to eventually identifying as someone who is non-binary, more so on the trans femme side. We discuss things such as how one's queer identity isn't all we are but how it informs how we live in the world; how cis people can be better allies to trans and gender non-conforming folk; and what advice they have for those wanting to explore their gender but aren't sure how.We also discuss:Growing up in the age of the internet and how that was many of our first introduction to what queerness was.Homophobia in the public eye and why it's necessary for celebrities to be visible with they ally ship.Microaggresive language towards trans and non-binary people.The issue with the ideas of Normalization and Tolerance....and much more.Follow Colette:InstagramTikTokOrganization of the Week: The CenterLearnDonateShow Produced by Nick EiblerCo-Produced/Edited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"How do you talk to kids about queerness?" "How can a kid know how they identify gender or sexuality-wise?" "How do you deal with backlash from those who think kids shouldn't know about 'these things'?" “Why is it important for kids to see queerness represented in media?”On this episode, I interview Lindz Amer (they/them), the creator of Queer Kid Stuff: a web series and media outlet that imagines a kinder and more equal future through highly-accessible education and entertainment for kids ages 3+.  Lindz launched QKS in 2015 with their best stuffed friend Teddy as a way to make seemingly complex subjects like Queerness, Pronouns, Racism, Religion, Homophobia, and many others easy for kids to understand. Lindz says how they did it as a way to not only help kids understand but parents as well. They, ultimately, wanted to create something that they would have loved to have seen when they were a kid. Representation and support from family and friends can make a tremendous impact on a young queer kid. Aside from this show, we also discuss the evolution of representation in kid's media and why the representation needs to be explicitly visible and not just hinted at. As Lindz and I discuss their journey as an activist and creator of QKS, we also talk about the backlash they've faced from those who don't understand the work they do. We talk about why Queerness and LGBTQ+ topics seem to be deemed too sexual or too hard for kids to understand. Follow Lindz and Queer Kid Stuff:Lindz on InstagramQueer Kid StuffQueer Kid Stuff InstagramQueer Kid Stuff YouTubeOrganization of the Week: PFLAGLearnDonateResources for Further Learning:Activist, You! PodcastLindz's TED TalkShow Produced by Nick EiblerCo-Produced/Edited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"What made you decide to have kids?" "Did you ever see examples of queer parents with kids growing up?" "What was the process like for having a kid as a same-sex parents?" "What is the best and hardest part about being a mom?"On this week's episode I interview an award-winning Broadway performer, choreographer, director, educator, and philanthropist, Stephanie Klemons (she/her). Growing up, Stephanie always knew she wanted to have kids. However, until recently, having kids didn't always seem like an achievable dream for many queer people. This was due to the lack of representation we saw around us, the legislation that made it difficult for queer parents to have or adopt kids, and the fact that we are told kids who are raised by queer parents will end up "troubled" or "messed up." Stephanie says she recalls asking adults who were her age who had been raised by queer parents if they were "okay." This, due to all of the lies we as queer people are fed from an oppressive religious hierarchy. However, that didn't stop her from pursuing this dream and eventually having, now, not one, but two kids. Stephanie talks about how it was important to raise her kids around other kids like them, hence raising them in a community with other same-sex parents. We also discuss her and her wife's process to get pregnant, the importance of kids seeing themselves in media, the proudest moments she has had as a parent, and much more.Follow Stephanie:InstagramWebsiteKatie's Art ProjectOrganization of the Week: Queer ArtLearnDonateResources for Further Learning:Same Sex Parenting - Birth Certificate FAQ'sHow expensive is it for Queer couples to have kids?Show Produced by Nick EiblerCo-Produced/Edited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"How are queer people shamed from expressing ourselves authentically?" "How do we rediscover our authentic voice and self?" "Is there ever a time where code-switching is good?" "How can finding community help us pursue our dreams?"On this episode, I interview business coach and entrepreneur Jacob Ratliff (he/him). Through his business, Jacob aims to "work with committed entrepreneurs who want to create a positive impact on other people's lives and on the world…who want to change lives and make money doing it." He also markets himself as a coach who specifically works with aspiring LGBTQ+ and allied entrepreneurs. Through the episode, we discuss Jacob's journey from being bullied in middle school for his more "effeminate" qualities and to feeling ashamed of his queer identity to being the proud queer person he is now. He hopes to inspire others to live their truth's, follow their dreams, and learn how to monetize them as well. Jacob shares how it was inspired by his mom who returned to medical school after undergrad and then raising two kids to take charge of his own career and start his own business. He also shares how initially he wasn't attracting the clientele that aligned with his morals. However, once he started identifying as a queer and queer specializing coach, he began to see a shift in not only the clients he began attracting but also himself and his own journey.We also discuss:Code-switching: the positives and negatives about itThe journey Queer people go on to rediscover our voices.The impact of colonialism on society, gender expression, the binary, sexualityHow one's sexuality went from being something they did to being a part of their identity and the problem White, Christian society had with that....and much more.Follow Jacob:WebsiteInstagramFacebook group for LGBTQ+ Coaches and LeadersOrganization of the Week: StartOutLearnDonateShow Produced by Nick EiblerCo-Produced/Edited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"What's the deal with Animal Crossing?" "Why do so many queer people love this game?" "What are some examples of queerness in gaming and animation?" "How has Animal Crossing helped us this past year?"On this week's episode, we are talking about one of my favorite subjects, and something that truly came through over this past year: Animal Crossing: New Horizons. I'm joined by special guests Angie (she/her) and Luca (they/them) (Angie of Mokoto and Frankie of Lothorien in the game) of the LGBTQ+ Animal Crossing Facebook group. I chose to talk about Animal Crossing on the show because as I was exposed to it over the past year, I started to see the giant community it brought together. It allowed many of us any outlet to connect and socialize with each other during a type when we had to be physically distant. It allowed for a beautiful, virtual escape where we could create the island paradise of our dreams and express ourselves in ways we may not feel comfortable doing in real life. Through the episode, we discuss why this game has such a significant LGBTQIA+ following, how do we express our Queerness in the game, Queer icons from the game, and why we think everyone needs to get into this game.Organization of the Week: Queer Cultural CenterLearnDonateResources for Further Learning:Animal Crossing: New Horizons Helps Queer Players Express ThemselvesAnimal Crossing: New Horizons has subtle nods to LGBT relationshipsShow Produced by Nick EiblerCo-Produced/Edited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"How did Queer slang come about?" "What is the difference between my gender identity, sexuality, and my romantic identity?" "What is the difference between appropriation vs. appreciation?" "How has our vernacular evolved?"On this week's episode, I interview the author of the new book The Queen's English: The LGBTQIA+ Dictionary of Lingo and Colloquial Phrases, Chloe Davis (she/her). Chloe had the idea for the book in 2006 when she landed her first job as a professional performing artist at a Philadelphia-based dance company. She remembered hanging with some of the MVP's of the cast where they would laugh, joke, "kiki", but many of the jokes sounded like code to her. One day she decided to ask what some of these words and phrases meant, and they went on to break it down. From that point, she became obsessed and kept a list of all of the words and phrases she was learning. As she traveled the country performing, she learned more terms from other LGBTQIA+ artists and performers, friendly strangers in gayborhoods, at LGBT Centers, and during Pride events. She remembers jokingly telling a friend that this was a fully developed language and there should be a dictionary for these words. “When you write it,” he said, “call it The Queens' English. It's a language for all the queens.”On this episode, we discuss Chloe's journey with creating the book. We also discuss the beauty and expansiveness of Queer vernacular. We get into things such as: The appropriation of Queer vernacular and AAVE through mainstream culture and other queer spaces.The importance of giving credit to the communities where these terms originated.The freedom and power with labels (i.e. gender, sexuality, romantic identity).How words have evolved and been reclaimed....and so much more.Follow The Queen's English and Chloe Davis:Queen's English WebsiteQueen's English InstagramChloe Davis InstagramOrganization of the Week: The Audre Lorde ProjectLearnDonateResources for Further Learning:"Lavender Language, The Queer Way to Speak""LGBTQ Definitions Every Good Ally Should Know"Show Produced by Nick EiblerCo-Produced/Edited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"Did you have a queer role model growing up?" "How can we be role models to younger queer folk?" "How do we make connections with queer people of a different generation?" "How do we create accurate representation of queer people in performance?"On this week's episode, I interview my good Judy, collaborator, director, theatre maker, and Canadian, Tom Delbello (he/him). We discuss the importance for queer people to have role models and the impact of making intergenerational connections with other queer people. A study done by PMC Labs says that 60% of LGBTQ+ youth have healthy role models to look up to but only 33% are accessible. The numbers are even worse for BIPOC and Transgender youth. Tom and I get into growing up in two different eras where the visibility and representation was far less than it was now. We talk about the scariness and importance of being the first in our communities to come out, and how that can help others accept their own queerness. We find that being a role model means to lead the way, make space for others, and doing something before anyone else tells or asks you to. We also talk about the disconnect that sometimes exists between younger and older generations of queer people and the necessity for both to listen and learn from each other.Also, as we are both theatre makers, we also talk about the change of queer representation in theatre over the years: how to evolve older works, queer actors playing queer roles, and much more.Follow Tom:InstagramOrganization of the Week: Brave TrailsLearnDonateResources for Further Learning:"LGBT Youth Need Role Models"Show Produced by Nick EiblerCo-Produced/Edited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"Why would someone get involved in politics?"  "Why should LGBTQ+ individuals care about our political system?" "What inspires you to keep going in a seemingly rigged system?" "How  do we make real change in our political system?"On this episode, I'm joined by Congressman Sam Park (he/him) of Georgia House District 101 to discuss the current state of the American political system.  Born and raised in Georgia, Sam is the grandson of refugees from the Korean War and the son of immigrants. It is largely due to his mother--who worked tirelessly to provide for her family and make sure her kids had a fair shot at the American dream--that he decided to run for office in 2016. Just after Sam passed the bar exam in 2014, his mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Luckily, due to public health insurance, like Medicaid and Medicare, she had access to healthcare and a fighting chance. Because she had this access, Sam and his family were able to have a long goodbye with her, and she lived to see her son become the first Asian American Democrat and first openly gay man elected to the Georgia State Legislature. It was through the process of taking his mom to chemotherapy appointments and caring for her that he realized the life and death importance of healthcare. In 2016, he unseated a three-term Republican and made history with a grassroots, people-powered campaign.In addition to discussing Sam's political journey, we also talk about the importance of knowing our history in order to create the future we want, the current backlash we are seeing with Jim Crow-like legislature being passed nationwide, the importance of working to enfranchise those who have been disenfranchised by the political system, and the necessity of using our voice by casting our vote at all levels of elections.Follow Sam:WebsiteInstagramTwitterOrganization of the week: Southerners On New GroundAboutDonateResources for Further Learning:Danica Roem's Message to LGBTQ Youth: 'You have to care' about politicsGeorgia's restrictive new voting law, explainedMeet Sam Park, First Openly Gay Man Elected to Georgia CongressShow Produced by Nick EiblerCo-Produced/Edited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"How has Queerness--queer expression, lifestyle, identity--evolved?" "How has your Queer identity changed over time?" "What gives you hope to keep going?" "What does the next stage of Queer evolution look like?"On this episode, I have the immense pleasure of speaking with Chitah Daniels Kennedy (any pronouns), a San Marcos, TX based drag artist/mother, actress, storyteller, and enchantress. Chitah is someone who has truly gotten to see the evolution of LGBTQ+ acceptance, vernacular, and identity. She has witnessed it not just through her own life and career but through the countless drag children and other Queer babies who have the honor of meeting her. Growing up, Queerness was ever present in her life, even if she didn't have the words to name it. She shares about the uncle she had who was a famous San Antonio drag performer in the 70's as well as the butch lesbian cousins she had to look to as examples. There was something about them that she was both drawn to and scared of. Chitah and I talk about this common experience for a lot of younger Queer people because there is something we see that we identify with. However, the fear comes form the uncertainty of how we will be perceived once we explore this. She shares how she eventually leaned into her more queer qualities, and there she found her power. Throughout the episode, we take you through Chitah's incredible journey: to growing up in a very conservative middle Texan town; to moving to New York City and finding her drag identity in the 90's in the East Village alongside the likes of Laverne Cox and Peppermint; to realizing her trans identity during a time when the visibility for trans identifying people was extremely limited and stigmatized; to moving back to her hometown in Texas and seeing a new Queer culture bubbling under the surface; to becoming the mother of countless drag children and helping create a flourishing community of LGBTQ+ individuals in her hometown. Chitah's story is truly epic, but the best part about it all is that her motto is, "just keep going." She shares how she has no end goal; that by always actively seeking joy she knows she will find her bliss and things will work out.Follow Chitah:InstagramOrganization of the Week: QueerbombAboutDonateShow Produced by Nick EiblerCo-Produced/Edited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"Who is one of your dream guests for this show...?"SURPRISE! This week I'm so excited to release a special episode with an incredible Queer that I've been admiring and wanting to talk to for so long...Marti Allen Cummings (they/them) is an NYC based drag artist and activist/community organizer. Marti is currently running for a city council seat in Manhattan's 7th Council District on the West Side of Manhattan. On this special episode, Marti and I discuss their unconventional way of becoming a drag queen and moving on to become one of the country's most recognizable drag artists. We also discuss the moment they chose to do more with their drag and get into community organizing and politics, how drag queens and Queer people in general need to get political, and lastly what has given us both hope for the future.Follow Marti:WebsiteInstagramTwitterOrganization of the week: The Ali Forney CenterLearnDonateDEADLINE TO REGISTER TO VOTE IS MAY 27TH! Register to Vote in the NYC primaries and ElectionsResources for Further Learning:The First Drag Queen Was A Former Slave: William Dorsey SwannThis Drag Queen Was The First Openly Gay American To Run For Office: José SarriaShow Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

Welcome to Season 2 of Queer Queeries! "That's Queeries double e, not queries single e, cause queries single e is straight not gay." I can't believe it has been a year since I launched this show, and here I am at the beginning of another season full of more incredible conversations with Queer people whom I'm so inspired by. Thank you so much for tuning into this show. Get ready to enjoy a whole other season full of incredible guests and conversation.Follow Us:WebsiteInstagramFacebookResources for Further Learning:"A surge in legislation targeting trans youth 'could come at the literal cost of lives,' advocates warn""Supreme Court Lets Philadelphia Religious Adoption Agency Block LGBTQ Foster Parents""1 in 6 Gen Z adults are LGBT"Show Produced by Nick EiblerCo-Produced/Edited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

On the Season 1 finale of Queer Queeries, we look towards the future and what we can all do to take strides forward in visibility, rights, and protection for LGBTQ+ people. Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/queer.queeries/) and stay tuned for news on upcoming Bonus episodes and when Season 2 will be released.Email thoughts, feedback, or anything you'd like to say to askqueerqueeries@gmail.comShow Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"What is the hardest part of raising a child who's gay?" "When did you know?" "What was your impression of the LGBTQIA+ community before having a gay child?"  "What can I, as a parent, do for my Queer child and other Queer children?"On this final interview of the season, I interview my parents, Kathy and Jay Eibler (she/her, he/his), about their experience of raising a gay child and their journey from no exposure or knowledge about the Queer community to being fully immersed in it and two of the biggest advocates I know. As two kids of the 60's, born into small town Midwestern homes, both my parents really had no knowledge of the Queer community. Both of them said they weren't fully aware of the community until the AIDS crisis. However, looking back, with the knowledge they have now, they both say how there were probably more Queer people around them than they were aware of. They both say how it was always as a result of shame around being gay or lesbian that they feel is what kept people from being out.  We also discuss my coming out journey and the impact it had on our family: how the impact of what society thought about gay men and specifically in a Christian environment negatively affected us. Both my parents believe me being gay was a wake up call for both of them. They share where they felt they succeeded, what their mistakes were, and lastly, advice they have for parents and adults on how to make our society a safer, more loving and accepting place for Queer children.We also discuss:Impressions of people who acted outside gender normsThe evolution of language around Queer peopleTheir struggle of internalizing a lot their fears around me being gay as opposed to externalizing it onto meWhy Queer people have to prove themselves in their career in order to be loved because  they have their queerness going against themHow can parenting shift in terms of allowing kids to self identify and not feel like their kids are being sexualizedResources for Further Learning:Boy Erased: A Memoir of Identity, Faith, and Family: https://www.amazon.com/Boy-Erased-Memoir-Identity-Family/dp/0735213461/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2POFKN0JGK4W8&dchild=1&keywords=boy+erased&qid=1604171835&sprefix=boy+erased%2Caps%2C169&sr=8-2Living Right: https://www.amazon.com/Living-Right-Laila-Ibrahim-ebook/dp/B01EVMC2I0/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1NEOAYSLRXJ8R&dchild=1&keywords=living+right+by+laila+ibrahim&qid=1604171880&sprefix=living+right%2Caps%2C167&sr=8-1How We Sleep at Night: https://www.amazon.com/How-We-Sleep-At-Night/dp/1499725388/ref=sr_1_2?crid=YBM7WZVLIZ2U&dchild=1&keywords=how+we+sleep+at+night&qid=1604171968&sprefix=how+we+sleep%2Caps%2C173&sr=8-2Show Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"Why do we have such hesitations when discussing sex?"  "What can we learn from the BDSM community?" "How have we assigned gender to roles in sex?"  "How is sex a form of self love?"This episode contains mature content.In continuing the discussion from last week on Sex, I interview Natalie Rivera (she/her), host of the How I F*ck podcast: a show that aims to debunk myths and misconceptions about sex by interviewing people of different backgrounds, identities, communities, and lifestyles. I talk with Natalie about why she decided to start her show, not only as a way to learn herself but to help bring awareness to any disparities or sexual movements that are overlooked in mainstream media. We also discuss our society's discomfort with discussing sex in casual conversation, sex as a form of self love, how we have gendered certain roles in sex, and her own experience as a bi woman and the bi-phobia she experienced both in life and in sex. ...Wow, that's a lot fo sex. But hey, like Natalie says, talking about sex is fun and important because it is one of the most human things about us.Follow How I F*ck podcast:Website: https://www.howifckpodcast.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/howifckpodcast/Twitter: https://twitter.com/HowIfckpodcastSNaPCO:Learn: https://www.snap4freedom.orgDonate: https://www.snap4freedom.org/donateShow Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"Why do we have shame around discussing sex?"  "Do you feel shame around discussing sex? Having too much sex?"  "Why are fear and sex so integrally linked?" "What is 'pegging'?"This episode contains mature content.On this episode, I interview original Grover in The Lightning Thief  musical, fierce slam poet, and incredible human, Jorrel Javier (he/him), and we are here to discuss everyone's favorite three letter, adult activity.....SEX. Sex is such an integral part to not only Queer culture but all cultures because we all have such a complicated relationship with it. For Queer people it is especially complicated because it is one part of us that has been shamed for much of our lives. Then when we get the chance to learn about it, it is often through a very skewed, incorrect leans--through mediums like porn--which is often a detriment to our mental health, relationships with others, and ourselves, and overall growth. Jorrel and I delve into how our society developed from ancient cultures where sex and Queer people where such and integral part of society to carrying shame and hesitation around discussing it: why we feel so ashamed discussing it, how religion has taught us to fear it, acceptability for men vs. women when expressing sexuality, how Gay men equate our self worth to how much sex we have and who we do it with, how we shame people in certain roles within our community, and so much more. The list goes on. This is a Sex Ed episode not just for Queers but also for the straights. It is time we destigmitize something that is one of the most human things in our world.We also get into Queeries such as:Prerequisites for sex.How feeling and discussion around sex trickles down from older generations.Fear based around sex and the act of losing one's virginityHow porn negatively teaches us how sex is supposed to goOur preferences being rooted in misogny and the "white ideal"Daily diligence and doing work--that will never be done-- for the betterment of our communityQueer Glossary:Two Spirit:  Native American two spirit people were male, female, and sometimes intersex individuals who combined activities of both men and women with traits unique to their status as two spirit people. In most tribes, they were considered neither men nor women; they occupied a distinct, alternative gender status. Follow Jorrel:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jorrel_/Twitter: https://twitter.com/JorrelFromWorkTEDx Texas State Talk "Being Purple in a World of Reds and Blues": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q5495EAtxP4Art Hoe Collective:Donate to Arthoecorep@gmail.com on PayPalInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/arthoecollective/Show Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"How did having a closeted father impact you?" "How do you talk about queerness with your family?" "How do you talk about queerness with kids?" "How can we all be better at normalizing queerness?"On this episode, I interview Jimmy Larkin (he/him), a fellow actor and creator of the Instagram account "Let's Heart It For The Choice" which is sweeping musical theatre accounts across the nation. When Jimmy was younger, he was cast in the show Falsettos, a musical that centers a family dealing with a father who's a newly out gay man. It was at this same time Jimmy noticed his own father was hiding something and that there might be a reason his father loved coming to see the show every night. Jimmy and I discuss what it was like having a closeted father growing up and the shame he felt was passed on to him from his father. He says how it was apparent while he was coming out because he was living in a much freer and accepting world when his father was not able to. It wasn't until recently that Jimmy felt it was time to share his father's story with his family and others not just to finally free himself and his father of his secret, but also to continue to destigmatize being gay and the shame that surrounds it. Jimmy also works with kids regularly and shares how it is imperative for him to to teach kids and in turn their parents about queerness, the importance of identifying yourself, and being an ally to those who might be different from what they are taught is "the norm."We also discuss:Gay shame and the expectations of what being Gay isWhy the struggle to talk about our personal lives is the last bit of shame Queer people hold on toThe importance of listening to kids and asking them who and what they want to be as opposed to telling themWhat can parents do to keep their children safe but not squash their method of self-expression Gendering toysAnd...Best Christmas gifts that might not have been "boy gifts"Follow Jimmy and Let's Heart It For The Choice:Jimmy: https://www.instagram.com/jimmylarkin/LHIFTC: https://www.instagram.com/letshearitforthechoice/Southern Fried Queer Pride:Learn: http://www.southernfriedqueerpride.com/our-visionDonate: http://www.southernfriedqueerpride.com/donateResources for Further Learning: Pride and Pronouns--Talking with Kids about Pronouns and Gender: http://www.genderwheel.com/pride-and-pronouns/How to Talk to Kids About Gender: https://www.parents.com/kids/how-to-talk-to-kids-about-gender/Show Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"How do you know if you're trans?" "What would our spirits be if we didn't have oppressive voices telling us what to be?" "What is the energy that connects all Queer people?" "Why do we need to say 'black lives matter' and 'black trans lives matter?'"On this episode, I interview Sunshine Bella (she/her), published author, hair and fashion stylist, empowerment speaker, and the first trans woman and trans woman of color to be on the board of the Alliance For Full Acceptance. On of the first things I was curious about in interviewing Sunshine was all of the incredible accomplishments on her resume. She states how it stemmed from a mentor she had who empowered her to use her voice and taught her that our lives are not about us and the things we experience only. This especially rung true as a Queer and Trans individual who wanted to work to change people's perception of Trans identity and help inspire others to live out and proud. Sunshine reveals her journey of eventually coming out as trans; how it was through a spiritual encounter that she began that journey after many years of trying to define who she was. Also, in considering Black Lives Matter, we discuss the importance of saying Black Trans Lives Matter at protests, on social media, because of the history of black trans people being excluded from both the Black community and the Queer community but still being expected to fight for the cause.Things also discussed:Using your platform to increase visibility for and acceptance of Queer peopleThe importance of educating yourself on the experiences of others to be a better ally and Queer personThe beautiful spiritual energy that connects all Queer peopleAdvice Sunshine has for anyone who is trans contemplating whether they want to socially transition or medically transitionWords Sunshine has for people who do not understand someone who is transFollow Sunshine:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sbg_global/Linktree: https://linktr.ee/SBGLOBALCBD For The Gworls:Follow: https://www.instagram.com/forthegworls/Rent and Gender Affirming Surgery Fund: https://www.artsbusinesscollaborative.org/asp-products/for-the-gworls-rent-and-gender-affirming-surgery-fund/Medical Fund: https://www.artsbusinesscollaborative.org/asp-products/for-the-gworls-ftg/Resources for Further Learning:Disclosure documentary trailer (available on Netflix): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ysbX6JUlaEc3 Season of Life: Discovery, Believe, Faith: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1717586260/ref=cm_sw_r_em_apa_i_vMKPEbXCV0VSQShow Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"When did you know you were trans?" "What hardships have you experienced as a transgender person?" "Have you experienced transphobia within the Queer community?" "How can we all work to be more inclusive of TGNC (Trans Gender Non-Conforming)?"On this week's episode, I'm joined by Kayden Taylor (he/him), the host of the Transcaster Radio, a podcast about trans life and all the things that go along with it. In a recent study done by GLAAD, 80% of Americans say they don't personally know someone who is transgender. That means most of what audiences learn about transgender people comes from the media. And, unfortunately, most of the representation of Transgender people has often been portrayed in an offensive/incorrect light. So, if you have nothing but misinformation and bad representation presented to you, then what are you supposed to do and think about someone who is transgender? Or, if you are transgender, how are you supposed to find the confidence to come out and lead the life you want? Kayden shares how he created his podcast to combat this problem in two ways: provide positive representation of transgender people and to ask the questions that some people are uncomfortable to ask trans folk. He shares how it came from an initial need for himself when he was researching what being transgender was on his own coming's out journey; he only found incorrect or negative information and rarely found informative first-hand accounts or saw positive representation. This led to increasing internalized transphobia for Kayden which he shares is a common thing for many trans people. Kayden shares though that it was through the acceptance and love of his chosen family that eventually led him to come out and now work towards helping other at-risk LGBTQ+ youth. On the episode, we discuss Queeries such as:Some of the most extreme instances of transphobia existing in medical institutionsTransphobia within the Trans communitySocially Transitioning vs. Medically TransitioningThe need for Queer people to keep fighting, using our voices, telling our stories, because not all of us live in these progressive hubs.Kayden's experience of being female presenting in the world to now being male presenting and having to check his now white male privilege.Queer Glossary:Living stealth: where a fully transitioned person lives completely as their new gender and doesn't reveal they are transgenderFollow Transcaster Radio:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/transcasterradio/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TranscasterRadio/?modal=admin_todo_tourWebsite: https://www.transcasterradio.comThe Transgender District in San Francisco:Learn: https://www.transgenderdistrictsf.com Donate: https://www.transgenderdistrictsf.com/donateResources For Further Learning:ALSO Youth (Advocacy Leadership Support Outreach): https://www.alsoyouth.orgDisclosure: 100 years of Trans representation on Screen: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ysbX6JUlaEcAmateur: A True Story About What Makes a Man a Man by Thomas Page McBee: https://www.thomaspagemcbee.com/amateurShow Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"What is a Gay Icon?" "Who are some of your favorite Gay Icons?" "What do Gay Icons teach us?" "Are you a Gay Icon?"On this week's episode, I decided to switch things up a little bit: me and guest, Zacary Landolt (he/him) of the In Another World podcast, play a little game of "Guess That Icon" where each of us gives the other three words that describe some of our most favorite Gay Icons. What is a Gay Icon you may ask? Well, depending on which Gay you talk to they have different criteria, but a Gay Icon ultimately is some famous figure who has made an impact on the Queer community in some type of way; whether it be in their activism, their style, their persona, or being Queer themselves. And, more often than not, a lot of these Gay Icons are women. Zacary and I discuss why so many Gay Icons are women, why many gay men have a fascination with sexy, glamorous, powerful women, and how we use these women to explore our own sexuality and personalities. I always love talking about the women I gag for and that inspire me, so this episode was such a treat. I hope you enjoy gagging over these divas and queens as much as we do. Follow the In Another World podcast:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inanotherworldpod/Twitter: https://twitter.com/IAWPODCASTApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/in-another-world-a-pop-culture-podcast/id1519017017Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jh3hSjcBLg1pv8brbdjzsMarsha P. Johnson Institute:Learn: https://marshap.org Donate: https://marshap.org/donate/ Resources For Further Learning:"Eartha Kitt on Relationships: Compromise or What?": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rlUjHu3H_L4&t=107s"Auntie Mame trailer": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2gsRMtl70aQ"Paris is Burning trailer": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=78TAbjx43rk"Gay Icons: 25 Divas Who Have Been Embraced By Gay Culture": https://www.huffpost.com/entry/gay-icons-25-divas-who-have-been-embraced-by-gay-culture_b_2882021?slideshow=true#gallery/5bafb249e4b0ad7692604505/0Show Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"What was the hardest part about being out in a sorority?" "Did ever feel you were just used as a face of acceptance and inclusion for a place that wasn't that?" "What are the best parts about Greek life?" "How can we change a system so rooted in antiquated ways?"On this week's episode, I interview Addison McKissack (she/her), who's a journalist and the editor of our show; not only that but she is also and Alpha Delta Pi alumna and the first openly gay president of the National Panhellenic Conference chapter at Texas State. Something that is very integral to the college experience is that of Greek life. However, the unfortunate thing about this system, is that its many antiquated elements (language and policies) that negatively perpetuate gender roles and heteronormativity. Though, as Addison shares, there are many positive elements to the Greek life--creating family that expands generations, the philanthropic elements--it can often be hard to acknowledge the good when the "foundation of the house" is made up of elitist principles. Addison tells her story of doing Alpha Delta Pi and eventually becoming the first openly gay president of the Texas Sate Chapter of the National Panhellenic Conference.We also discuss:Organizations and companies commodifying Queer and BIPOC people as faces of inclusion and diversity.Traditions that perpetuate inherent heteronormativityExclusion of Queer people in the Greek systemWhy the Greek system should still existHow to make the system more inclusiveFollow Addison:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/addisonmckiss/Twitter: https://twitter.com/addisonmckissHouse of GG:Learn: https://houseofgg.orgDonate: https://houseofgg.org/donate/Resources for Further Learning:Secret Sisters: Stories of Being Lesbian and Bisexual in a College Sorority: https://www.amazon.com/Secret-Sisters-Stories-Bisexual-Sorority/dp/1555835880"Gay and Greek: LGBTQ+ students make homes in fraternities and sororities": https://www.dailytarheel.com/article/2019/02/gay-and-greek-0218"What's It Like Being Queer and in Greek Life? 4 Students Tell Us":  https://www.toughtotame.org/4-students-tell-us-what-its-like-to-be-queer-and-in-greek-lifeGreek and queer: LGBTQ+ students navigate Greek life at the university: http://udreview.com/greek-and-queer-lgbtq-students-navigate-greek-life-at-the-university/Show Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"It's not racist. It's just my preference." "I just prefer someone who is more masculine over feminine." "No fats, no fems, no Asians...just my preference." "Please don't think this is racist but..." "You're cute for an Asian guy."On this week's episode, my guest, actor and FIERCE cycling instructor, Marquis Johnson (he/him), and I delve into the problematic term "preference." It is a well known fact that digital Queer dating apps, like Grindr and Scruff, have a major racism problem. Even while apps like Grindr have launched campaigns to combat this type of behavior, it still persists. Studies have shown, this type of problem and behavior has largely stemmed from "whiteness," or proximity to it, being the ideal characteristic men search for--usually expressed by a white majority--on these apps. In addition to this type of racism, there is the problem of fetishizing and objectifying BIPOC men on these apps through stereotyped lenses (assuming black men are dominant and aggressive in the bedroom, Asian men are submissive, etc.) and seeing them as nothing more than a fantasy needing to be fulfilled. In talking, Marquis and I attempt to figure out the root of these "preferences," why they are often glossed over as just a sexual and attraction preference as opposed to overt racism and homophobia, and what is needed for the community to do--particularly cisgender white gay men--in order to move forward and truly make our community an inclusive place for all.We also discuss things such as:The vocalization of racist and homophobic preferences (saying you aren't into certain races or are only into masculine men) and finding the root of themThe impact of porn on gay men and how it perpetuates these stereotypes (BBC, Sub-Asian, etc.)The dynamics and conversations that come from being in an interracial relationshipRace play and "F*ggot play" in the bedroomCringeworthy racist and homophobic words/phrases that have been said during sexBuckle up, because it's about to get very real.Follow Marquis:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marqjohnson/Website: http://www.marquisjohnson.comBrave Space Alliance:Learn: https://www.bravespacealliance.org Donate: https://www.bravespacealliance.org/donate Resources for Further Learning:"'Sexual racism' is a major problem on queer dating apps like Grindr, and it may be causing depression in black men":https://www.insider.com/sexual-racism-queer-men-dating-apps-grindr-2019-11"Asian-American man plans lawsuit to stop 'sexual racism' on Grindr": https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/asian-american-man-threatens-class-action-discrimination-suit-against-grindr-n890946"So Many Gay Dudes Are Openly Racist On Dating Apps": https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/bnpavv/so-many-gay-dudes-are-depressingly-racist-on-dating-appsDouchebags of Grindr: http://www.douchebagsofgrindr.com/Show Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"How can I be a better ally?" "What is 'performative allyship'?" "How was the system and media informed how I see those who are different from me?" "How can I start deconstructing the systems of patriarchy, racism, misogny, etc. for myself?"On this week's episode, I'm joined by someone who is no stranger to speaking out and working every day to dismantle the "system." This is LOUD, BOSSY, GROSS, also known as Laura (they/them, she/her). Laura runs an instagram account where she posts videos that aim to help people live their best lives and also work to dismantle the oppressive systems that exist in their world. I wanted to have Laura on because not only is she such an inspiration (at only 19 years old, might I add) for so many people, but for her living in England, I wanted to discuss the difference in systemic oppression and racism on a more global scale.On this episode, we discuss things such as:How to be better allies to Queer folk, BIPOC. "Allyship is not a destination or a once a week class."-LauraWhy White Liberals can exhibit the worst kinds of micro-aggressive racism."Preferences are Political"-Laura; why we are taught to have certain depictions of racial minorities in our brainsThe system of the media and how it teaches us to think what is beautiful and what we should think of people who look or live different from us...and, as always, so much more. Follow Laura:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loudbossygross/Big Sister Hotline ft. Loud, Bossy, Gross: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1ue2cJ4KJI0CUf5he5ZhzF?si=NgrBDjZzQZCO-o67IDUccwBlack LGBTQIA+ Migrant Project:Learn: https://transgenderlawcenter.org/programs/blmpDonate: https://transgenderlawcenter.org/donateResources for Further Learning:“Here's What's a Good LGBTQ Ally Looks Like”: https://www.vox.com/identities/2019/6/22/18700875/lgbtq-good-ally“6 Ways to Respectfully Be a Better LGBTQ Ally”: https://www.oprahmag.com/life/relationships-love/a28159555/how-to-be-lgbtq-ally/“How you can be an ally to the Black Lives Matter movement”: https://www.greatbigstory.com/guides/how-to-become-a-better-black-lives-matter-allyShow Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"What are kinks?" "Why is kink culture so taboo?" "Is it bad if I'm just ‘vanilla'?” "How do I feel safe when exploring kinkier sex?" This episode contains content for mature audiences.On this week's episode I interview, Broadway actor, funny man, and host of my favorite podcast, Josh Swallows Broadway, Josh Lamon (he/him). This week we discuss "kinks:" the exploration of, the taboos, types, and so much more. Kink culture has always been a very integral part of Queer history. However, there has been a taboo attitude that surrounded it largely due to our culture's discomfort with talking about sex and sexuality. 'It [was also] especially seen as taboo for queer people, who have been ostracized and outcast for not falling into heteronormative expectations of how we should love and form relationships (Slate.com)." Largely because of this, many Queer people, myself included, hold such shame around the exploration of sexuality, those who do participate in kink culture, and exploring their own kinky side. What people have failed to recognize is that kink was often one of the first was Queer people could find safe spaces to express themselves sexually outside of a norm that was set for our culture. "It is built on the foundation of embracing what can otherwise be shunned and misunderstood."On this episode, Josh and I trade our own stories of early days of exploring our sexuality and our "kinky" side as well as discuss:Allowing yourself to explore the kinkier side of youThe importance of planning kinkier sexual situationsExploring fetishes v.s. being the fetishAccepting the way all people choose to express their sexuality as well as your own...and so many more Queeries.Follow Josh:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/josh.lamon/Twitter: https://twitter.com/JoshLamonJosh Swallows Broadway Podcast:https://broadwaypodcastnetwork.com/podcast/josh-swallows-broadway/COLOURS:Learn: http://coloursorganization.orgDonate: http://coloursorganization.org/donations/Resources for further learning:"Kink and BDSM are a part of radical queer history:" https://slate.com/human-interest/2018/11/kink-bdsm-radical-queer-history.html"QUEER KINK:" https://www.femzinelondon.com/queer-kink"Why Kink, BDSM, and Leather Should Be Included at Pride:" https://www.them.us/story/kink-bdsm-leather-prideShow Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"What makes a man?" "Why is our current version of masculinity problematic?" "How have we changed the way we live in order to fulfill certain gender roles?" "Why is assigning babies gender problematic?" "What if a boy doesn't want to be the textbook 'man'?"On this week's episode, I interview Queer theatre maker, avid baker, and HAIM lover, Charlie Rodriguez (he/him/his). We tackle the complex idea of "masculinity": what is it? What is our definition of it? What are the problem's with how we have come to define it? We start with Charlie's first experience of being told to "butch up" and the universality of this experience  being the start of many gay men's or men who are naturally more "effeminate" battle with having to perform the gender role that was assigned them. We also discuss:Trauma and the effect that has on how we live in the worldHow we mold our bodies to fit whatever gender we are presenting or trying to attractThe problem of masculinity and internalized homophobia within the gay communityHow we assign babies not just a gender before they're born, but a prescribed way of life and expectations for them to fulfill.The patriarchal structure of God and religionWoof...and many more Queeries...Strap in.Follow Charlie:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ch4rlierodriguez/Black Transmen Inc:Learn: https://blacktransmen.org Donate: https://blacktransmen.org/donate/ Resources for further learning:"I Wore 18th-Century Clothing *Every Day for 5 YEARS & This Is What I Learned (Corsets Aren't Bad!)": https://youtu.be/DyWnm0Blmh4Read Amateur by Thomas Page McBee and The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs, PhD"I'm Masculine Because I'm an Artist. Why Are You?" by Jake Young at TEDx Texas State: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JHhe0LuSpLg"Being Purple in a World of Reds and Blues" by Jorrel Javier at TEDx Texas State: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q5495EAtxP4Show Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"Is Drag like what it is on Drag Race?" "How'd you get your drag name?" "Why isn't there a Drag Queen Union?" "What do you hope to accomplish with your drag?"On this week's episode, I sit down with New York City based drag queens Kiki Ball-Change (she/they in drag, he/him out of drag), Corma Kelley (she/they in drag, he/him out of drag), and Sequoia (he/they out of drag, she/her in drag) to discuss "queeries" such as these and many others that surround the art of being a drag artist. The queens trade stories about how they got into drag, how they got their names, and their inspirations for their drag personas. In addition, when discussing drag now and days, you can't help but acknowledge the large, sparkly, diamond headdress in the room that is RuPaul's Drag Race. We also discuss the impact of Drag Race on the industry as a whole as well as the world's view of drag now that it has gone "mainstream."Follow these Queens:Kiki Ball-Change: https://www.instagram.com/kikiballchange/Sequoia: https://www.instagram.com/theonlysequoia/Corma Kelley: https://www.instagram.com/cormakelley/Watch Kiki's kitchen w/Kiki Ball-Change:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdkUxIAXUsoVbcKcapAh-QgDonate to the Alibi Lounge GoFundMe: https://www.gofundme.com/f/everyone-needs-an-alibi?utm_source=customer&utm_campaign=p_cp+share-sheet&utm_medium=copy_link-tipResources for further learning:“The First Drag Queen Was a Former Slave”: https://www.thenation.com/article/society/drag-queen-slave-ball/ "Is It Time for Drag Queens to Unionize?": https://www.out.com/print/2020/2/29/it-time-drag-queens-unionizeWerk is Work! campaign: https://www.coworker.org/petitions/no-pay-is-a-drag-sf-bay-drag-employers-set-a-min-booking-feeSUPPORT YOUR LOCAL DRAG ARTISTS AND LOCAL LGBTQIA+ BARS.Show Produced by Nick EiblerTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"What are some of the most extreme forms of intolerance?" "What happens at a conversion therapy camp?" "Is that still allowed?" "How do you survive?" "How do you continue surviving?"On this episode, I interview my dear friend, talented lighting designer, and overall wonderful human being, Justice (they/them, he/him) where we discuss their experience of going to a "restorative therapy camp" (also known as a conversion therapy camp), as well as the lasting effects this can have on a Queer person. Justice--like the experience of many Queer people--was born into a heavily Christian and Texan family who believed that loving someone of the same-sex was a mental illness that could be fixed through "proper treatment." It was after their mom discovered their internet browser history and what they had been looking at that they were awakened in the middle of the night and forced to go somewhere where they had no knowledge of the horrors they would endure. This unfortunate narrative is common for many Queer people and a very real part of Queer history. It was in 1973 that homosexuality was deemed not a mental illness or sickness by the American Psychiatric Association (APA). However, Queer people and allies are still fighting to this day for this to actually be a reality. Twenty-Nine states still have no laws that ban conversion therapy; qualified transgender Americans are banned from serving in the military; and it wasn't until recently that Title VII included discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identification. In listening to this episode, I, Justice, and countless other Queer people who face discrimination hope you not only love and nurture Queer people but actively work to protect us and our rights as well.Follow Justice:Website: https://www.justinbeets.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/beets_me/National Center For Lesbian Rights Born Perfect campaign:Learn: --Born Perfect: http://www.nclrights.org/our-work/born-perfect/ --NCLR: http://www.nclrights.orgDonate: https://secure2.convio.net/ncflr/site/Donation2;jsessionid=00000000.app217b?4020.donation=form1&df_id=4020&mfc_pref=TResources for further learning:Watch Boy Erased: https://www.amazon.com/Boy-Erased-Lucas-Hedges/dp/B07JZDBMS9"When Gay Was Not Okay with the APA: A Historical Overview of Homosexuality and its Status as Mental Disorder": https://cedar.wwu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1001&context=orwwu"The Lies and Dangers of Reparative Therapy": https://www.hrc.org/resources/the-lies-and-dangers-of-reparative-therapy"Frequently Ask Questions on the Transgender Military Ban": https://notransmilitaryban.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Transgender-Military-Ban-FAQ-Updated-9.18.19.pdfJoin The Trevor Project to End Conversion Therapy: https://p2a.co/rQaDTzkShow Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"What does ideal visibility look like?" "How does ideal visibility lead to more freedom to explore gender expression and sexual identity?" "Why do bisexuals need visibility?" "Why was The Prom more important than people realized?"On this episode, I have a Prom reunion with the two incredible leading ladies--Caitlin Kinnunen (she/her) and Izzy McCalla (she/her)--who made national television history when they shared the first same-sex kiss in The Prom's performance on the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade. Queer stories are increasingly becoming more visible in all entertainment mediums and that is extremely important considering how long the Queer community was only exposed to "straight" narratives or stereotypical portrayals of Queer characters. However, sometimes people can see all this increased visibility as a check in a box and not feel the need to keep fighting for it to be better. Sometimes people, even the most "progressive," can fail to acknowledge the privileges that come with living in a liberal bubble. Caitlin, Izzy, and I talk about why The Prom was so important because not only did it help so many people, including themselves, feel comfortable in their sexual identity, but it also showed many living in these bubbles that these stories about overcoming adversity, even in a more progressive world, still exist. We also discuss the importance of visibility and acceptance of all sexual identities; too often Queer people are defined by the relationships they are in and not by what they say they are. We talk about the idea of bi-erasure and how gender and sexual profiling can cause Queer people to struggle to accept themselves in a world that tells them what they are instead of listening to what they say they are.Follow Izzy and Caitlin:Izzy: https://www.instagram.com/izzymccalla/Caitlin: https://www.instagram.com/caitlin.kinnunen/"If I'm Not Gay Enough, & I'm Not Straight Enough, Then What Am I?" by Lauren Patten: https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2020/06/9880848/lauren-patten-jagged-little-pill-queer-bisexual-coming-outBlack Trans Femmes in the Arts:Follow: https://twitter.com/BTFAcollectiveLearn: https://linktr.ee/btfacollectiveDonate: https://www.artsbusinesscollaborative.org/asp-products/black-trans-femmes-in-the-arts-sponsored-projected_/Show Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"What does Queerness look like on stage?" "How is Queer representation evolving?" "What does a more equitable space look like in the theatre?"On this episode, I interview TJ Young (he/him), an award-winning playwright, who's works include No. 6, Lyon's Den, Ruby's Baby Blue, Hell is Empty, just to name a few. In a day and age where the amount of Queer representation is becoming increasingly more visible on our screens and on the stage, TJ not only aims to continue to place Queer and Black characters at the forefront of his stories, but he aims to challenge the traditional narratives we are used to seeing; toying with the time and space of his worlds, having a character's queerness be a fact as opposed to the main focus. We discuss how TJ got into playwriting, how he has seen his work evolve over time, how the depiction of Queer characters in media has evolved, the importance to showcase more underrepresented identities from the Queer alphabet, and so much more. Also, in considering the Black Lives Matter Movement in relation to the theatre, we discuss how we, as industry, can work to create a more equitable working environment as well as more space for black creatives and voices. TJ Parker-Young is a Texas born award-winning playwright based in Pittsburgh, PA where he serves as co-representative for the Dramatists Guild - Pittsburgh region. Some of his plays include NO.6, Lyon's Den, Ruby's Baby Blue, Hell is Empty, to name a few. He is the recipient of the 2017 Ken Ludwig Playwriting Scholarship, the 2019 Spotlight Artist of Throughline Theatre Company in Pittsburgh, PA, and is also the NPP Vice-Chair for Region 2 of the Kennedy Center American College Theatre Festival. He is also a member of subTEXT Solutions Dramaturgy Group and with the groundbreaking Entertainment Engineering Collective.Follow TJ:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tjwritesgood/Website: https://tj-young.com"How Do I Keep Going As A Black Man? Easy. I Prepare For Death." by TJ Young: https://medium.com/@thorn.young/how-do-i-keep-going-as-a-black-man-easy-i-prepare-for-death-11c91fe366b8The Starfruit Project:Learn: https://www.thestarfruitproject.comDonate: https://www.thestarfruitproject.com/donateResources for further learning:Queer Black Playwrights to Support Volume 1 & 2: -https://www.playbill.com/article/queer-black-playwrights-to-support-https://www.playbill.com/article/queer-black-playwrights-to-know-and-support-volume-iiEntertainment Engineering Collective: https://entertainmentengineering.orgsubTEXT Solutions Dramaturgy Group: https://subtextsolutions.comShow Produced by Nick EiblerTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"What was it like growing up gay in a Catholic household?" "What does religion look like to you now?" "Why was it important to tell a queer narrative in your music?" On this episode, I'm joined by Nashville-based, singer/songwriter Katie Pruitt (she/her) to answer "queeries" such as these. In February of this year, Katie released her debut album Expectations: written as a Queer autobiographical narrative in which she tackles topics ranging from her sexuality and mental health to family and faith. Between going to Catholic school, being a part of a Christian theatre group, and living in a religious household, Katie was not able to "come out" easily. It actually wasn't until she went away to college that she states she really came into herself as a queer woman. Music was always a huge part of her life and in the creation of her album she was able to not only help her parents understand her truth, but she was finally free to live it herself. We discuss things such as her album and the process/inspiration for it as well as growing up in a religious Southern environment, the importance of queer visibility in the music industry, and how the idea of God has changed for us over time.On her album Expectations..."An album informed by love in its many forms, Expectations presents a bracing portrait of self-destructive love with “Grace Has a Gun” (a hypnotic and heavy-hearted track featured on NPR's "All Songs Considered”). "It's about a girl I dated in college who was dealing with a very intense mental illness at the time, and about me trying to be some kind of cure for her,” Pruitt explains. On "Out of the Blue," the album slips into a languid reverie, with Pruitt's lyrics channeling a classic-pop romanticism (e.g., “What a lovely day for loving you”). And on “It's Always Been You,” Expectations closes out in a moment of understated glory, the song's gently plucked strings and wistful piano melodies magnifying its tender mood. “That one's a love song to my girlfriend,” says Pruitt. “It's the first time in my life I've experienced a genuinely healthy relationship, and I wanted to show those moments that are so mundane but beautiful, like making out on the porch or play-fighting with baguettes in the grocery store—all those normal, everyday things that feel so heightened by love."--from https://katiepruitt.comFollow Katie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katiepruittmusic/Twitter: https://twitter.com/KPmusikVisit Katie's Website: https://katiepruitt.comListen to Expectations:https://music.apple.com/us/album/expectations/1485461322https://open.spotify.com/artist/1c5w8KrxGwq44fxM5lGB4s?si=42C7ijOdTzCIMn_p2LjD8wResources for further learning:Explore: Religion and Faith resources: https://www.hrc.org/explore/topic/religion-faithTransfaith: http://www.transfaithonline.orgNational Queer and Trans Therapists of Color Network:Learn:  https://www.nqttcn.comDonate: https://saveourplanet.org/projects/nqttcn/Show Produced by Nick EiblerTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"Am I going to die?" "Can I sleep with someone who has HIV?" "How do I get to an undetectable status?" "How do I get help? How do I tell my family? My friends?" On this episode, I'm joined by Hernando Umana (he/him), Broadway actor (Kinky Boots/School of Rock) and HIV activist, who helps to answer "queeries" such as these and many more. Growing up in a religious environment, he was not allowed exposure to sex education, not to mention gay sex education. At 20 years old, he was diagnosed with HIV and had no idea what that meant for his life. "Am I going to die?" was the first thing he asked the doctor. However, after educating himself, realizing that an HIV diagnosis wasn't a death sentence, and that he could live a normal and healthy life, he decided to go public with his status. He has since gone on to be featured in various Queer magazines, as well as be a part of the 2019 U=U campaign to end stigma and raise awareness. We discuss why he decided to go public and be a face for HIV awareness; the lack of knowledge and stigma around those living with HIV; the lack of queer sex education in our schools; as well as Hernando's other passions, Cannabis and Dogs, and how the intersectionality of the two led to a profitable business endeavor.Follow Hernando: https://www.instagram.com/hernandoumana/https://twitter.com/HernandoUmanaCBD Dog Health: https://cbddoghealth.comBlack AIDS Institute:Learn: https://blackaids.orgDonate: https://blackaids.org/donate/Resources to learn more about HIV/AIDS, testing, prevention (PrEP, PEP), and care:How to Survive a Plague Documentary: https://www.amazon.com/How-Survive-Plague-Bill-Bahlman/dp/B00AGEHFK8/ref=sr_1_2?crid=21693BH46MDSR&dchild=1&keywords=how+to+survive+a+plague&qid=1591549495&sprefix=how+to+su%2Caps%2C199&sr=8-2GMHC: http://www.gmhc.orgWhitman-Walker Health: https://www.whitman-walker.orgTrillium Health: https://www.trilliumhealth.orgShow Produced by Nick EiblerTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

"What does Queer mean?" "Is it your gender?" "Is it your sexuality?" "Is it neither?" "I thought I was gay, but am I Queer?"On this episode, I'm joined by my dear friend and "once upon a time" prom date, Ati (she/her, they/them), who is a New York City based actor who identifies as queer. Ati's journey, like many others who identify as queer, started with exploring the spectrum of her sexuality. Do I like girls? Do I like boys? Do I like both? How should I act? Why do I have to pick and choose? She didn't feel compelled to put herself in any sort of box or under any label which is when she was introduced to the word and identity of being queer. We discuss what the word Queer means in today's context: how has it evolved? What does it mean to different people? How can I get in touch with my queerness? We'll answer "queeries" such as these and so many more. Dang that's a lot of Queer, but you asked for it ;)Follow ATI:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/atiaunasimone/Twitter: https://twitter.com/AtiaunaSimoneThe Brown Boi Project:Learn: http://www.brownboiproject.orgDonate: https://brownboiproject.nationbuilder.com/donateResources for further learning:"What Does Queer Mean?": https://www.them.us/story/what-does-queer-mean"How to Express Your Queer Identity": https://queer-voices.com/how-to-express-your-queer-identity/"Queer 101: Identity, Inclusion, and Resources": https://www.uua.org/lgbtq/identity/queer"If I'm Not Gay Enough and I'm Not Straight Enough, Then What Am I?" https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2020/06/9880848/lauren-patten-jagged-little-pill-queer-bisexual-coming-outShow Produced by Nick EiblerTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón

Welcome to "Queer Queeries": an interview style podcast hosted by actor Nick Eibler that aims to CELEBRATE Queer identity by bringing visibility to this incredible community and EDUCATE those within and outside the community about the unique experiences Queer people have in life and what has made them a fearless and fabulous group of people over the course of history. Trust me, we are more than just rainbows, clack fans, and tea. We will cover the gambit of Queer experience and identity, from discussing things such as the process and need for a Queer person to “Come Out” to Queer representation in entertainment to Racism and Homophobia within the community to living with HIV and the stigmas that surround it. This podcast aims to have these tough conversations in hopes to not only educate but also to normalize these sensitive topics in a way to heal and help us all learn, become better humans, and a more accepting society. Hope you're ready for the fabulous ride. Let's go!Show Produced by Nick EiblerTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón (https://www.instagram.com/david.pavon/)Follow:https://www.instagram.com/queer.queeries/Join our Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/2394649693970716Email suggestions, topic and guest ideas:askqueerqueeries@gmail.com

Rate, Subscribe and Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/queer.queeries/) and Join our Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/2394649693970716).Email suggestions, topic and guest ideas:askqueerqueeries@gmail.comShow Produced by Nick EiblerEdited by Addison McKissackTheme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard Produced by Colin Egan and Mike HubbardLogo Design by David Pavón