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From the Inside Out: With Rivkah Krinsky and Eda Schottenstein
Episode Sponsor:Thehustlewig.com Instagram: @thehustlewigThe Hustle Wig hatfall was created for the busy moms, the long-days-at-work, and everything in between. They make looking good and wearing a wig simple.Their #1 selling hatfall wigs are lined with a jersey fabric for all day comfort. Ranging from $550-700 The Hustle Wig gives you an affordable option to wear on the go. The wigs are made from 100% human hair. They are based in Crown Heights, Brooklyn and offer free shipping and exchanges. They have a special promotion going on called the duo try-on. Order any 2 wigs to try on in the comfort of your own home, while only putting down a deposit for one wig. Use code TRYON at checkout. Episode Details:In this conversation with Dr. Assael and Galit Romanelli, we dive deep into the realms of relationship psychology, and human behavior. This is a follow up to the episode “The Best Therapist You've Never Had: With Assael Romanelli.” Dr. Assael Romanelli is in his third marriage to his first wife. Their experience is not just a romantic tale, but it's also filled with valuable nuggets about maintaining a thriving relationship, being open to self-development, and creating lasting intimacy.How do you respond when faced with conflict in your relationship? Dr. Assael and his wife Gila open up about their own struggles, sharing insightful tips on managing conflict, renegotiating needs, and the importance of effective communication. They introduce us to the concept of 'differentiation in relationships,' which they attribute as a significant factor in building their own strong connection. They aren't shy about discussing self-esteem, self-validated intimacy, and even the uncomfortable weight gain discussions, giving us a real look at what it means to be in a longstanding, authentic partnership.Dr. Assael, a renowned psychologist with decades of experience, brings his expertise and unique perspective to our conversation. Galit is an accomplished researcher and advocate for mental health. She complements Dr. Assael's knowledge with her passion for understanding the intricacies of the human mind. Together, they explore a wide range of topics, including relationships, personal growth, mindfulness, and navigating the challenges of modern life.Dr. Assael and Galit RomanelliWebsite - www.potentialstate.comYouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialStatePodcast - https://open.spotify.com/show/2Z6xnOpBznX7Y9Tf5VMx2zBlog on Psychology Today - https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipsFacebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialState/
Why do so many men and women who tend to be over-masculinized (like so many of us are in our culture) struggle to express and understand their emotions? How can we embrace both our masculine and feminine energies to feel stable, comfortable and open to feeling the roller coaster emotions of life? Today's solocast explores an article in Psychology Today by Dr. Assael Romanelli on the state of today's male psyche. This article references the work of several mental health professionals including Avrun Wiess, PhD., Jett Stone and David Rettew, MD. We take a deep dive into current trends in male psychology, including the challenge of identifying and naming emotions, the persistent pressure to conform to non-expressive masculine norms and the covert signs of depression in men all around us. I also share tips from the article that offer strategies for creating emotional connection and building new friendships. Men and women alike will likely relate to these issues on some level - for the Divine Masculine is within us all. Let's work together to support each other, hold space for our emotions and find the courage to experience life at a safe distance outside the comfort zone! If you find this topic interesting, I highly suggest listing to Episode 160: What Men & Women Want Each Other to Know with the amazing Alison Armstrong. She truly is the real deal! TIME STAMPS 00:00:00 Beginning of Episode 00:04:48 Identifying Your Feelings 00:08:50 Alexithymia 00:11:18 Tips For Connecting Emotionally 00:15:42 Fear Of Abandonment 00:18:08 Episode 160: What Men & Women Want Each Other to Know 00:22:29 Tips For Helping Your Partner Make Friends 00:25:59 Male-Iienation 00:29:58 Gen Z Trends 00:33:26 The Influence Of Technology 00:37:12 Wisdom Sharing your kind thoughts & feedback in a review is the ULTIMATE way to support Awakening Aphrodite. You can also jump on Amy's email list and follow her updates at @FitAmyTV. Find out more at amyfournier.com and watch this episode on YouTube at Awakening Aphrodite Podcast/FitAmyTV! For special discounts on Amy's FAVORITE products, visit her estore.
Why do so many men and women who tend to be over-masculinized (like so many of us are in our culture) struggle to express and understand their emotions? How can we embrace both our masculine and feminine energies to feel stable, comfortable and open to feeling the roller coaster emotions of life? Today's solocast explores an article in Psychology Today by Dr. Assael Romanelli on the state of today's male psyche. This article references the work of several mental health professionals including Avrun Wiess, PhD., Jett Stone and David Rettew, MD. We take a deep dive into current trends in male psychology, including the challenge of identifying and naming emotions, the persistent pressure to conform to non-expressive masculine norms and the covert signs of depression in men all around us. I also share tips from the article that offer strategies for creating emotional connection and building new friendships. Men and women alike will likely relate to these issues on some level - for the Divine Masculine is within us all. Let's work together to support each other, hold space for our emotions and find the courage to experience life at a safe distance outside the comfort zone! If you find this topic interesting, I highly suggest listing to Episode 160: What Men & Women Want Each Other to Know with the amazing Alison Armstrong. She truly is the real deal! TIME STAMPS 00:00:00 Beginning of Episode 00:04:48 Identifying Your Feelings 00:08:50 Alexithymia 00:11:18 Tips For Connecting Emotionally 00:15:42 Fear Of Abandonment 00:18:08 Episode 160: What Men & Women Want Each Other to Know 00:22:29 Tips For Helping Your Partner Make Friends 00:25:59 Male-Iienation 00:29:58 Gen Z Trends 00:33:26 The Influence Of Technology 00:37:12 Wisdom Sharing your kind thoughts & feedback in a review is the ULTIMATE way to support Awakening Aphrodite. You can also jump on Amy's email list and follow her updates at @FitAmyTV. Find out more at amyfournier.com and watch this episode on YouTube at Awakening Aphrodite Podcast/FitAmyTV! For special discounts on Amy's FAVORITE products, visit her estore.
Why do so many men and women who tend to be over-masculinized (like so many of us are in our culture) struggle to express and understand their emotions? How can we embrace both our masculine and feminine energies to feel stable, comfortable and open to feeling the roller coaster emotions of life? Today's solocast explores an article in Psychology Today by Dr. Assael Romanelli on the state of today's male psyche. This article references the work of several mental health professionals including Avrun Wiess, PhD., Jett Stone and David Rettew, MD. We take a deep dive into current trends in male psychology, including the challenge of identifying and naming emotions, the persistent pressure to conform to non-expressive masculine norms and the covert signs of depression in men all around us. I also share tips from the article that offer strategies for creating emotional connection and building new friendships. Men and women alike will likely relate to these issues on some level - for the Divine Masculine is within us all. Let's work together to support each other, hold space for our emotions and find the courage to experience life at a safe distance outside the comfort zone! If you find this topic interesting, I highly suggest listing to Episode 160: What Men & Women Want Each Other to Know with the amazing Alison Armstrong. She truly is the real deal! TIME STAMPS 00:00:00 Beginning of Episode 00:04:48 Identifying Your Feelings 00:08:50 Alexithymia 00:11:18 Tips For Connecting Emotionally 00:15:42 Fear Of Abandonment 00:18:08 Episode 160: What Men & Women Want Each Other to Know 00:22:29 Tips For Helping Your Partner Make Friends 00:25:59 Male-Iienation 00:29:58 Gen Z Trends 00:33:26 The Influence Of Technology 00:37:12 Wisdom Sharing your kind thoughts & feedback in a review is the ULTIMATE way to support Awakening Aphrodite. You can also jump on Amy's email list and follow her updates at @FitAmyTV. Find out more at amyfournier.com and watch this episode on YouTube at Awakening Aphrodite Podcast/FitAmyTV! For special discounts on Amy's FAVORITE products, visit her estore.
From the Inside Out: With Rivkah Krinsky and Eda Schottenstein
This episode is sponsored by the Jewish Children's Library Fund: an organization with a mission to create children's libraries in community member's home, so that there is a separate location, besides for school or shul, to get another taste of Jewish pride. They offer matching grants and a database to get your library started. If you or someone you know is interested in opening up a library, please text Reuven Rockford at 954-709-9541 and check out their website at www.JewishChildrensLibraryFund.Com. Their website features a bookstore as well as some other products, which they call "goodies", including their favorite: a personalized acrylic tzedakah box that you can order for your kids or grandkids or friends! When you order a goodie, you are joining the Jewish Children's Library Fund and helping start libraries, too! And you will be fulfilling the ending of that Hayom Yom which concludes that a person should "do everything in his power- and beyond his power - to inspire children to follow the path along which they are being guided".Meet Assael Romanelli, Ph.D., clinical social worker, licensed Couple & Family Therapist, and an international trainer. He is the founder and co-director of The Potential State Institute For Enriching Relationships, which integrates the worlds of Therapy, Arts, and Education to create safe spaces for people to connect to themselves and others. Assael is also the artistic director of the Or Chozer Playback Theatre Ensemble in Jerusalem. In this episode, we discuss some of the greatest obstacles that get in the way of having a great relationship with your spouse, and how we can overcome them. Website : https://www.potentialstate.com
In this episode, a 'live" podcast, Assael and I discuss why men struggle with their emotions, how that affects their relationships, and what to do about it. We also take some questions from members.https://www.potentialstate.com/https://www.risingphoenixpodcast.comhttps://ko-fi.com/risingphoenixpodcastThe LighthouseHalf-hour moments of comfort and company. Because some days, you just want a hug.Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the show
Change is not easy. Many individuals and couples are lacking a blueprint for long-term systemic change.In this talk, we integrate Joseph Campbell's Hero Journey monomyth with systemic change concepts and our Potential State ideas and present our integrated systemic hero's journey model.Practical tips will help you recognize which stage you are in the journey and how to advance toward your goals.Good luck!Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every month to your inbox.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialStatehttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
A Special Discussion on Jewish Relationships for Singles and Young Adults with Rabbi Yisroel Bernath & Rabbi Yosh Berkowicz Plus… Rabbi Bernath & Rabbi Berkowicz will tackle some of your most difficult and pressing questions. In this no-holds-barred conversation that is sure to leave you with a lot to think about. Are you in a relationship, looking to get into a relationship or wondering why you can't find that special someone? It's a fascinating blend of modern psychology and ancient Jewish wisdom. You will learn practical tips to getting into and maintaining your relationship. It's fun, inspiring and a TAD bit controversial. Hosted by Rohr Chabad NDG | Young Jewish Professionals | JMontreal.com About Rabbi Yisroel Bernath Rabbi Yisroel Bernath - dubbed as "The Love Rabbi" is featured in the Award Winning documentary "Kosher Love". He has made over 50 successful matches. His expertise covers the entire spectrum of the Jewish community, from the secular to the religious. Rabbi Bernath is very passionate about building the Jewish community. He has successfully helped hundreds of singles break through the "singles wall". His caring yet firm style has given singles the hope and clarity they need to navigate dating and long-term relationships. http://www.theloverabbi.com About Rabbi Yosh Berkowicz Rabbi Berkowicz (which he hates being called, try Rabbi Yosh instead) is one the few (or perhaps only) rabbis in the world who enjoy both wrestling and figure skating, never mind being a rabbi. He has a B.A. in Talmudic Studies and Semicha from the RCA in Morristown, NJ, as well as an M. Ed. in educational psychology from McGill University in Montreal. He lives in the NDG neighborhood of Montreal with his wife Chani and kids Levi, Sheina, Toba, and Shula (who's just 11 days old)! Rabbi Yosh works closely with Rabbi Bernath at Chabad NDG on many projects, and is developing and editing a book on Systemic Marriage Therapy with Dr. Assael Romanelli from Jerusalem. Click here for the Private YouTube link to watch the video with the slides https://youtu.be/OxDjEZS-S0Q If you haven't made a profile yet, do so today on JMontreal.com & use marketing code: rabbisgift and it's FREE. JMontreal is open to all Jewish Singles in North America. Our database of over 30,000 Singles We will ensure we can help you find your match. If you are outside North America you can use www.Jmatchmaking.com. If you already have a profile on JMontreal. Encourage a friend to sign up and you will get a special gold membership FREE as a thank you from us. Sign up for the Kabbalah of the Afterlife Here https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/the-kabbalah-of-the-afterlife-tickets-227670648037aff=efbevent&fbclid=IwAR2GUNVQq3Ry30BeeAqNYt4QbxWrz6zfznjzXRxvhD8qZPH5QpcqgNUa6t4 Sign up for Kabbalah Mindfulness Here https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/kabbalah-mindfulness-a-six-week-workshop-on-mindful-living-tickets-227681540617 Access Rabbi Bernath's Articles on Relationships https://medium.com/@loverabbi --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-love-rabbi/support
Hey Man (or woman),Are you alive or are you somewhat turned off, numb, or somewhat apathetic?If so, you're not alone. You might be suffering from the under-diagnosed phenomenon of the covert male depression, as first described by Terrance Real.In this talk, taken from a webinar for therapists, I share my story of covert depression and detail how this covert depression begins through psychological patriarchy, how it evolves and manifests through a limited relational and emotional repertoire, and its long-term (negative) effects on their intimate relationships. Practical tips are given on how to engage and soften this depression.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every month to your inbox.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialStatehttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Are you living your full self?Are you manifesting all your different passions and talents?Some of us have multiple passions, and don't want to commit to only one profession.That is called being a Multipotentialite (coined by Emilie Wapnick), or slashers.How can you live a multipotentialite life?This is an honest talk with friend Tal Shibi who is a slasher: dance/choreographer/photographer/director/actor/shiatsu practitioner. In this talk we explore how multipotentialites are born, bred, and raised through my personal story of how I got to teach at a dance school without learning dance, and to be an artistic director of a professional playback theater company without going to acting school. We explore the relationship and the (shallow) division between the worlds of art, therapy, and education.Along the way, we laugh and challenge each other to grow. We also talk about what is art and how we can reclaim the title of "an artist" in our life.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every month to your inbox.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialStatehttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Many of us learn at a young age (especially boys) that vulnerability=weakness.We therefore try to hide it and don't show it to our partners.This results in shallow, self-presentational relationships with little vitality, excitement, play or curiosity. Moreover, when you're not vulnerable, then you're less interesting to your partner and over time you become more numb to your own inner workings.The solution? practice the ability of vulnerability. The more you'll show, the more free you'll feel.But how can I be more vulnerable (especially if I'm not used to it)?In this talk, we unpack the issue of vulnerability in intimate relationships, using examples from our marriage and the clinic.Practical tips will help you dare to be more vulnerable in a safe and gradual way.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every month to your inbox.Check out more of our content:Blog on Psychology TodayYouTube channelFacebook pagePodcast show linkTwitterSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Fighting is inevitable in every intimate relationship.Most of us don't like, don't know how, or don't even know when we are fighting.Yet arguments and conflicts are a crucial element in building an intimate, differentiated relationship.Too bad there isn't a blueprint for a "positive" fight and make up...Well, actually, there is!In this talk, we share a recommended three-stage model for the positive fight and make up, which will help turn your disputes into relational diamonds.Inspired by the wonderful book After the Fight by Dan Wile, we use our last vicious fight and make up to show how this process is manifested.Practical tips will help you leverage your next fight to deeper intimacy. Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every month to your inbox.Check out more of our content:Blog on Psychology TodayYouTube channelFacebook pagePodcast show linkTwitterSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Many of us find ourselves in charge or a certain dimension of our relationship alone, be it cleaning, financial planning, parenting, and more.This sole responsibility is often a source of tension and frustration in the dyad.This universal pattern is called the seesaw principle (as coined my Michelle Weiner Davis), where the more one person does, the less the other partner does.In this talk we unpack the seesaw principle in intimate relationships through examples from our marriage and the clinic and offer practical advice to help you both find a more collaborative, interdependent partnership.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every month to your inbox.Check out more of our content:Blog on Psychology TodayYouTube channelFacebook pagePodcast show linkTwitterSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Marriage has phases. When one phase ends are you going to break up or are you going to remarrying your partner? Yeah, it's a conscious decision to continue on in this relationship. To recognize that things are going to be different. You'll have more to learn about each other, connecting and building another part of your relationship. Asseal and Galit share with us the pillars of The Potential State. The foundation is play; your marriage is a playground. And then there's 3 pillars of Owning Your Shit, Letting It Land and Saying The Thing. We go deep into this, so get ready for some real insights. Assael Romanelli, Ph.D., is a clinical social worker, licensed Couple & Family Therapist and supervisor, as well as an international trainer and facilitator. Galit Romanelli is a certified coach with an M.A in Gender studies. Assael and Galit each bring their unique and complimentary set of skills and acquired knowledge to nurture an environment to feel freely. They believe that the means to a positive, healthy and inclusive society start first and foremost with our most cherished interactions and relationships. Together, they strive to model a generosity of spirit and an ability to identify, communicate and process our beliefs, thoughts and emotions, so as to foster more and more spaces where people can bring their full authentic selves. Connect with Assael and Galit: Website: www.potentialstate.com Psychology Today Blog: www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships The Potential State Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2Z6xnOpBznX7Y9Tf5VMx2z YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialState Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialState Twitter: https://twitter.com/assael Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/assaelromanelli/ Instagram: galitromanelli Connect with ST: LifePixRelationships.com
Bitterness.Usually it is a passing feeling, but sometimes we encounter a partner who is constantly bitter, and their partner who is trying to cheer them up (or avoid them).It is so common that it has become almost a stereotype.Women express bitterness through criticism, pessimism, grogginess, and overall negativity. Men express this feeling through cynicism, apathy, aggression, or passive aggressive behavior.In this talk, we unpack bitterness and explain why it is so common in intimate relationships, especially in women, through examples from the clinic and our marriage.Practical tips will help you become less bitter and more playful.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every month to your inbox.Check out more of our content:Blog on Psychology TodayYouTube channelFacebook pagePodcast show linkTwitterSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Do you have a sense your partner is sticking it to you but they keep denying it?Do you or your partner deny certain bad behaviors to each other?We all sometimes semi-consciously act in small negative ways to our partners - David Schnarch calls this phenomenon "Normal Marital Sadism". After all, the opposite of love is apathy (not hatred). So we all do it.But when one partner continuously denies aggressive, belittling, or mean relational behavior, in a way that makes their partner doubt themselves and their perception - that is called Gaslighting.Gaslighting is real and happens in all relationships in one form or another.In this talk, we unpack the phenomenon of Gaslighting and it's tax on relationships, through examples from the clinic and our marriage. Practical tips will help you stop (or at least minimize) Gaslighting in your relationship today.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every month to your inbox.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialStatehttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Are you (or your partner) super driven to be efficient?Is it hard for you to lower your productivity and just be?If so, you're not alone. Efficiency is actually a wonderful trait but can also function as a defense mechanism. That is why we call it E-FISH-NET, a big (electronic) net that catches all of you and takes you hostage.What is the solution?To be more present, to do less things in more time, to be DIS(C)organized.But how?In this talk, we unpack the need to be efficient and its relational tolls through examples from our life and the clinic.Practical tips will help you soften the need to be E-FISH-NET, and enjoy the moment more.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every month to your inbox.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialStatehttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
The 'lost' years of a couple's life occur after about 7-10 years: kids, mortgage, school, aging parents, careers, bills, chores, marriage is stable, annoying in-laws, holidays, boredom, fatigue, routine...For most couples these years tend to feel 'comfortably numb' and are sometimes disrupted with a rude awakening in the form of an affair, medical or family drama. These naturally latent years sometimes lead couples to think that they lost their spark and occasionally choose to divorce due to unfamiliarity with the unavoidable dynamics of this stage in life.Yet these somewhat lethargic years need not be lost!In this talk with Dr. Micha Belzer, a couple and family therapist, we discuss the uncomfortable truths about this life cycle stage and what steps can be taken in order to keep the couple hungry, playful, foolish, growing and engaged.Examples are given from my work with couples in that cohort.Practical tips are shared to help prevent these years from becoming dormant.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every month to your inbox.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialStatehttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
"I know all there is to know about the crying game..." Boy GeorgeCrying is a natural and organic way to express and release emotions.Yet crying in relationship is not always easy: Some of us cry very often (over-crying) and some of us find it hard to cry at all (blocked cryers).Both of these extremes have advantages and disadvantages, and both don't facilitate a healthy expression of feeling in relationships.In this talk, we unpack why and how partners avoid or over-emphasize crying in their intimate relationship through examples from our marriage and the clinic.Practical tips will help you learn the art of relational crying today.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every month to your inbox.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialStatehttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
"If I can't see your selfishness, I can't believe your generosity." Betty MartinMany of us have a problem expressing our desires and wants in our intimate relationships.Why?For men, this can stem from psychological patriarchy that deems wanting, vulnerability or need as something negative.For others, not wanting protects us from rejection or ridicule.But if we don't express our wants, then we become bitter, and lonely. Over time, our partner will begin to assume we don't want anything, and that we're always content- which makes us less interesting. The result? Our needs are not seen or met.The solution?Daring to voice our desires!In this talk we share the different reasons why partners avoid sharing, and the costs of such elusion, through examples from our life and the clinic.Practical tips will help you bravely articulate your desires in your relationship.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every month to your inbox.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialStatehttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Hello and welcome back to the Is That Soh Podcast! Today on the podcast, I have invited clinical social worker, licensed couples and family therapist, YouTuber, writer and podcaster Dr. Assael Romanelli, to come on the podcast and talk to us about the victim triangle (also known as the Karpman drama triangle) and how to take back control of your life. Dr. Assael has a PH.D in clinical social work and is a licensed therapist. He has worked with hundreds of individuals, families, and couple all over the world. Together with his wife, he founded and is the director of The Potential State Institute for Enriching Relationships as well as contributes regularly to Psychology Today! With over 15 years of experience, Dr. Assael Romanelli has trained a wide range of individuals and professionals in the art of being more spontaneous, playful and effective in their life and work! Today, we are going to be talking about the victim triangle (aka the drama triangle), why people fall into these patterns, how we can break out of these cycles and Dr. Assael’s ‘life model’ to help you to achieve a more spontaneous, playful and effective life. If you enjoy this episode and want to show your personal support to the Is That Soh Podcast simply leave a review or screen shot today's episode in the podcast app and share it to your stories! If you decided to share this podcast to your stories, please don’t forget to tag me! I would love to hear from you! FOR SHOW NOTES, PLEASE VISIT: https://bit.ly/33PaU2U For more information, visit: www.isthatsoh.com www.potentialstate.com -or - Find Me and Dr. Assael On Social Media: @isthatsoh @isthatsohpodcast @thepotentialstate
Are you a drama queen (or king)?Are you in a relationship with a drama queen?(Truth is that men are the real drama queens.)If so, you probably know how draining and annoying it is interacting with such 'royalty'.But the systemic truth is: You are encouraging them.Yes, there is no drama queen/king without an audience.Underneath such drama, there is usually a cry for attention or a 'love tank' that is empty.Are you looking beyond the queenship drama to see what is the deeper bid?In this talk, we explore this dynamic through examples in our marriage and the clinic. Practical tips will help you soften such dynamic and help both of you feel more seen and valued.For registration and more details on our upcoming webinar exploring the relational power dynamic in relationships - click here!Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox.Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialStatehttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Most of us think that two is the most stable number in relationships.But every dyad needs a third to stabilize it.The process of including a third in a dyad is called triangulation.Triangulation is a natural and unavoidable dynamic that occurs in every relationship.The problems begin with the triangulation is fixed and rigid. It creates a 'lose-lose' dynamic that prevents all three members from raising differentiation and deepening their relationships.In this talk, we discuss the phenomenon of triangulation in intimate relationships through examples of our own marriage and from the clinic.Practical tips will help you lower triangulation in your intimate relationships today. For registration and more details on our upcoming webinar exploring the relational power dynamic in relationships - click here!Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox.Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialStatehttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Imagine all the human emotion would be spread out from 1 being deep despair, all the way to 10 being extreme ecstasy. What would be your range?Which numbers (feelings) are you less familiar with? Many of us are 4-6'ers. We live "between the 40's", keeping it safe, functional but also somewhat numb.In this talk, Galit and I talk about the natural 4-6 phenomenon and its impact on relationships through examples from our own marriage and the clinic.Practical tips will help you expand your emotional range now.For registration and more details on our upcoming webinar exploring the relational power dynamic in relationships - click here!Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox.Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialStatehttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Most of us believe criticism (or constructive feedback) more than praise.Why? Because some of us grew up in homes where criticism was a way to show care.Over time, this environment creates a core belief that "love = criticism".Such a tendency leads to relationships fraught with conflict, cynicism, and sarcasm.In this talk, Galit and Assael unpack this core belief and its effects through examples from their marriage and the clinic.Practical tips will help you soften this tendency and create a more positive, complimentary, generative relationship today.For registration and more details on our upcoming webinar exploring the relational power dynamic in relationships - click here!Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox.Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialStatehttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoonLittle boy blue and the man in the moon"When you coming home, son?" "I don't know when"But we'll get together then, dadWe're gonna have a good time then...Mothers and fathers feel different kinds of guilt regarding their parenting. Kids grow up fast and we have so many things to do all the time. Times are even more challenging during COVID lock-down.Therefore, the guilt is almost inevitable, but there is hope.You can move from guilt to gratitude.But first, you must name it to tame it.In this talk, Assael shares his guilt and the best practices he's found to reduce them.Galit shares her guilt experience as a m.other who is with the kids 24/7 in lock-down.Together they help parents of all sorts, move from past to future, from regret and shame to learning and growth.For registration and more details on our upcoming webinar exploring the relational power dynamic in parenting and relationships - click here!Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox.Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialStatehttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Do you secretly find it hard to feel and/or express joy in your personal life? Are you in a relationship with a joy killer?If you do, then you're not alone! In the past months, we have discovered that Assael has trouble expressing joy (can you say, a pessimist?), while for Galit joy is a natural and accessible resource (optimist, or as we call her a unicorn). This sent Assael to family therapy with his parents to understand the source of this difficulty - and he came back with some shocking discoveries. Since then we have been talking about it with our clients, only to discover that many people find it hard to recognize and express joy for a myriad of reasons. In this talk, we share what we discovered about joy from our marriage and the clinic. We share both the pessimist and optimist tips on how to recognize and express joy in your life.For registration and more details on our upcoming webinar exploring the relational power dynamic in relationships - click here!Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox!Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/c/ThePotentialStatehttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Every couple has implicit power struggles in the different areas of their relationship (sex, money, parenting, looks, intelligence, and so on...).We call this the 95/70 rule.It has been our experience that this dynamic is inherently present and shapes the couples' mutual functioning.One of the ways we have been renegotiating our 95/70 contract in the past year, is by having Galit join Assael's podcast.Reflecting on our journey toward working together, we show how this power dynamic hurts relationships and how to soften this power dynamic in order to deepen intimacy, play, and partnership.For the expanded talk on the 95/70 click here.For registration and more details on the 95/70 power dynamic webinar - click here!Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox!Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Many of us insist that feedback be precise or else they won't consider it.Yet often this precision serves more as a block, a defense mechanism that prevents our growth.In this talk, I share how people use precision as a sophisticated defense mechanism to keep them safe and prevent pain. Through examples from the clinic, I show the losses of this mechanism and how to allow yourself to "lower your standards" in order to accept influence.Practical tips will help you let more things land and grow.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox!Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Often times, we (especially men) prefer to solve our partner's problems instead of actually letting their feelings or pain into our awareness.This often leads to a "report talk" dynamic where intimacy is low and partners avoid leaning on each other.In this talk, Galit and I unpack why do we prefer to solve our partner's problems and how to stop that habit through examples from our marriage and the clinic.Practical tips will help you listen more and solve less in your relationships.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox!Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Most couples avoid certain unavoidable Topics or decisions. In couples therapy, we call it crucibles, T-junctions, gridlock, 70% unsolvable issues, and more.Yet by avoiding these 'hot' issues, we are stunting our own growth.In this talk, Galit and I offer a fresh view on these lose-lose dilemmas and offer practical advice on how to lean into them in order to grow.Examples are given from the clinic and from our own drama around a drawing that was scotch-taped to the wall in my mother-in-law's house...Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox!Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Are you (or your partner) one of those people who constantly apologize for everything, even for things that no apology is needed (for example, sorry I didn't pick up the paper you dropped)?If so, this is not only a disempowered, defeated stance but also a subconscious passive-aggressive manipulative move. Yes, over apologizing has a "shadow" side.In this talk, Galit and I unpack the science and art of over-apologizing, through examples from the clinic and our lives.Practical examples will help you stop over-apologizing, as well as equip you with better ways to deal with an over-apologizing partner.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox!Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
We've all been in this scenario:Your partner asks or remarks to you on something that you don't want to do. Since we're scared of disappointing them and want to avoid a fight, we "smokescreen" our truth and placate them. This often leads to heaviness, lack of play, mind reading, and tension.The solution? “IT'S THAT IMPORTANT TO ME.”In this talk, Galit and I unpack why using this sentence playfully with ownersh!t, can help you become more authentic and open with your partner.Examples are given from the clinic and our life.Practical tips will help you speak this simple truth effectively in your relationship.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox!Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
An Open Discussion on Jewish Relationships for Couples with Dr Assael Romanelli and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath Are you in a serious relationship, engaged or recently married? Join Rabbi Bernath and Dr. Romanelli for a special event just for you and your significant other. They will give you tools for conflict and communication that will help enrich your relationship... It's going to be real, raw and uncanny. It's a fascinating blend of modern psychology and ancient Jewish wisdom. You will learn practical tips to getting into and maintaining your relationship. It's fun, inspiring and a TAD bit controversial. About Dr. Assael Romanelli Dr. Assael Romanelli is a clinical social worker, licensed couple & family therapist, international trainer and Playback Theater conductor. He is the founder and director of The Potential State Institute For Enriching Relationships which incorporates and integrates therapy, art and education to create safe spaces for people to connect to themselves and others. He is also the artistic director of the Or Chozer Playback Theater company in Jerusalem. His Doctoral research is in training therapists in improvisation skills, and has since trained a range of helping professionals to be more spontaneous, playful and effective in their service. Dr. Romenelli has lectured to audiences all over the USA, Europe and Israel. He resides in Kfar Saba with his dynamic wife and two lively kids. Learn about Dr. Romanelli at https://www.potentialstate.com/ About Rabbi Yisroel Bernath Cherished for his incredible warmth and non-judgmental personality, this hipster is not your typical rabbi. In 2012, Rabbi Bernath founded the smashing success JMatchmaking International, a network of Jewish dating sites. He has made several dozen matches to date! In addition to being a matchmaker and dating coach, Rabbi Bernath is also the author of three books, and continuously produces engaging content on his many social media & podcast platforms. As a professional voice-over artist, screen-writer, and actor, he has been a part of dozens of productions, including the hit CBC Documentary "Kosher Love". Learn about Rabbi Bernath at http://www.theloverabbi.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-love-rabbi/support
How many of you have heard and internalized the feedback that you're "too much"?If so, how has that impacted your life?Every day we work with women (and sometimes men) who have internalized this limiting belief and its negative impact on their lives.In this talk, Galit and I breakdown the gains and losses of this core belief, through examples from Galit's life and the clinic. Practical tips will help you soften this core belief and be your fullest self!Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox!Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
So often couples engage in an unconscious competition who is suffering more in the relationship.This dynamic results in more arguments, less vulnerability, and even a breakup.In this talk, Galit and I describe this dynamic, the reasons behind it, and the damage it creates.Examples are given from our marriage and the clinic.Practical tips will help you soften this dynamic in your own relationship.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox!Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Rabbi Bernath and Dr. Romanelli will tackle some of your most difficult and pressing questions. In this no-holds-barred conversation that is sure to leave you with a lot to think about. Are you in a relationship, looking to get into a relationship or wondering why you can't find that special someone? It's a fascinating blend of modern psychology and ancient Jewish wisdom. You will learn practical tips to getting into and maintaining your relationship. It's fun, inspiring and a TAD bit controversial. About Dr. Assael Romanelli Dr. Assael Romanelli is a clinical social worker, licensed couple & family therapist, international trainer and Playback Theater conductor. He is the founder and director of The Potential State Institute For Enriching Relationships which incorporates and integrates therapy, art and education to create safe spaces for people to connect to themselves and others. He is also the artistic director of the Or Chozer Playback Theater company in Jerusalem. His Doctoral research is in training therapists in improvisation skills, and has since trained a range of helping professionals to be more spontaneous, playful and effective in their service. Dr. Romenelli has lectured to audiences all over the USA, Europe and Israel. He resides in Kfar Saba with his dynamic wife and two lively kids. Learn about Dr. Romanelli at https://www.potentialstate.com/ About Rabbi Yisroel Bernath Cherished for his incredible warmth and non-judgmental personality, this hipster is not your typical rabbi. In 2012, Rabbi Bernath founded the smashing success JMatchmaking International, a network of Jewish dating sites. He has made several dozen matches to date! In addition to being a matchmaker and dating coach, Rabbi Bernath is also the author of three books, and continuously produces engaging content on his many social media & podcast platforms. As a professional voice-over artist, screen-writer, and actor, he has been a part of dozens of productions, including the hit CBC Documentary "Kosher Love". Learn about Rabbi Bernath at https://www.theloverabbi.com If you haven't made a profile yet, do so today. http://www.JMontreal.com or use http://www.jmatchmaking.com marketing code: rabbisgift and it's FREE. Sign up for group sessions with Dr. Romanelli and Rabbi Bernath https://forms.gle/qeLi29ZCpJhBP8GQ9 Follow Dr. Romanelli https://www.potentialstate.com/ptinternational Access Past Events and Recordings https://www.facebook.com/pg/TheLoveRabbi/videos/ Sign up for Dr. Romanelli's Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-potential-state-podcast-enriching-relationships/id1449502094 Sign up for Rabbi Bernath's Relationships Podcast https://anchor.fm/the-love-rabbi/episodes/Love-Rabbi-QA-ecpnte Access to Rabbi Bernath's Articles on Relationships https://medium.com/@loverabbi --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-love-rabbi/support
Why is it that when our partner tries to change their behavior, we so often shoot it down, claiming its "fake"?Because often we have this dichotomous thinking (Eithor) that if our partner doesn't do it naturally then they're faking it.But every new behavior will feel somewhat fake because if it was natural for us, we would've done it already!What is the solution?To soften our Natural/Fake Eithor.In this talk, Galit and I explain how this Eithor is created and how it prevents couples from growing and evolving.Examples are given from the clinic and our marriage.Practical tips will help you become more open and positive about the behavioral change of your partner.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox!Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
We all have tense periods where we tend to interpret anything and everything our partner says or does as negative, insulting, hurtful, or aggressive.The Gottman researchers call this dynamic N.S.O - negative sentiment override.This lethal dynamic has a snowball effect that is hard to stop, and can lead to deep resentment and breakup.In this talk, Galit and I explain the reasons and dynamic of NSO through examples from our marriage and the clinic. Practical (somewhat surprising) tips will help you minimize NSO in your relationship today. Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching relationships every week to your inbox!Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Dating today is not easy.Singles are getting tired and confused as to how to date in the 21st century, COVID, apps-filled era.Yet we believe the dating scene should be approached from a completely different angle:instead of going on dates, choose to see them as PLAY DATES, where your goal is to be yourself and fun.In this talk, Galit and I offer our top ten (somewhat surprising) practical dating tips that will help you be more yourself and more vulnerable in your (play) dates.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources on enriching your relationship every week!Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
A Special Discussion on Jewish Relationships for Singles and Young Adults with Dr Assael Romanelli and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath After an incredible discussion on relationships (that if you didn't hear we urge you to listen to it here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XEdB-vIPtZ0) Rabbi Bernath and Dr. Romanelli are back for a second conversation… this time each of them will present their most important dating tips, they will debate them and who knows what will happen. Plus Rabbi Bernath and Dr. Romanelli will tackle some of your most difficult and pressing questions. In this no-holds-barred conversation that is sure to leave you with a lot to think about. Are you in a relationship, looking to get into a relationship or wondering why you can't find that special someone? It's a fascinating blend of modern psychology and ancient Jewish wisdom. You will learn practical tips to getting into and maintaining your relationship. It's fun, inspiring and a TAD bit controversial. About Dr. Assael Romanelli | Dr. Assael Romanelli is a clinical social worker, licensed couple & family therapist, international trainer and Playback Theater conductor. He is the founder and director of The Potential State Institute For Enriching Relationships which incorporates and integrates therapy, art and education to create safe spaces for people to connect to themselves and others. He is also the artistic director of the Or Chozer Playback Theater company in Jerusalem. His Doctoral research is in training therapists in improvisation skills, and has since trained a range of helping professionals to be more spontaneous, playful and effective in their service. Dr. Romenelli has lectured to audiences all over the USA, Europe and Israel. He resides in Jerusalem with his dynamic wife and two lively kids. Learn about Dr. Romanelli at https://www.potentialstate.com/ About Rabbi Yisroel Bernath | Cherished for his incredible warmth and non-judgmental personality, this hipster is not your typical rabbi. In 2012, Rabbi Bernath founded the smashing success JMatchmaking International, a network of Jewish dating sites. He has made several dozen matches to date! In addition to being a matchmaker and dating coach, Rabbi Bernath is also the author of three books, and continuously produces engaging content on his many social media & podcast platforms. As a professional voice-over artist, screen-writer, and actor, he has been a part of dozens of productions, including the hit CBC Documentary "Kosher Love". Learn about Rabbi Bernath at www.theloverabbi.com If you haven't made a profile yet, do so today. www.JMontreal.com use marketing code: rabbisgift and it's FREE. Sign up for group sessions with Dr. Romanelli and Rabbi Bernath https://forms.gle/qeLi29ZCpJhBP8GQ9 Follow Dr. Romanelli https://www.potentialstate.com/ptinternational Access Past Events and Recordings https://www.facebook.com/pg/TheLoveRabbi/videos/ Sign up for Dr. Romanelli's Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-potential-state-podcast-enriching-relationships/id1449502094 Sign up for Rabbi Bernath's Relationships Podcast https://anchor.fm/the-love-rabbi/episodes/Love-Rabbi-QA-ecpnte Access to Rabbi Bernath's Articles on Relationships https://medium.com/@loverabbi --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-love-rabbi/support
The media puts a lot of pressure on us to have wonderful, multi-orgasm, wall-socket sex.But in reality, in a committed long-term relationship, mediocre (maintenance) sex is inevitable. This causes many couples (especially men) to avoid sex and even doubt their relationship.In this talk, Galit and I unpack the truth about maintenance sex and share why it is crucial for happy relationships.Practical tips will help you enjoy mediocre sex (while still aiming for great sex).Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources every week!Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
Do you feel like you are more emotionally intelligent and somewhat superior in your intimacy skills than your partner?Do you feel like your partner is nagging you and never happy with the level of communication and feelings you express?If you answered yes, then you might be in the Intimacy Queen/King and Emotionally Handicapped dynamic. This dynamic hides the fact that BOTH of you are essentially avoiding mature intimacy through your specific roles. In this talk, I explain how this dynamic evolves and how to change it through examples from the clinic.Practical tips will help you soften this dynamic in your own relationship today.Click here to join our mailing list and get free resources every week!Click here for more information on our upcoming online couples workshop.https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
For many of us yelling is a sensitive issue.We inherit from our families of origin certain beliefs and attitudes about yelling.Yet sometimes, yelling is a sublimatory expression of feelings, frustrations, or even excitement.What is the difference then? How can we distinguish and work with yelling?In this talk, Galit and I unpack this topic through examples from our marriage and the clinic.Practical tips will help you better work with yelling in your relationships. www.potentialstate.comhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
We say sorry all the time (or not enough) in our intimate relationships.But often we confuse between the different types of 'sorry' we use. This often leads to more conflict and stress than forgiveness and closeness.In this talk, Galit and I share the four types of Sorry we've distilled in our life together, using examples from our life.Practical tips will help you distinguish which sorry to use in different scenarios in your relationship.www.potentialstate.comhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
A Special Discussion on Jewish Relationships for Singles and Young Adults with Dr Assael Romanelli and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath Many times we present ourselves as shallow or distant from our core values. In this special event, we will discuss techniques that will help you bring your authentic self to your relationships and create more meaningful moments, deeper rapport and a grounded sense of self. Plus Rabbi Bernath and Dr. Romanelli will tackle some of your most difficult and pressing questions. In this no-holds-barred conversation that is sure to leave you with a lot to think about. Are you in a relationship, looking to get into a relationship or wondering why you can't find that special someone? It's a fascinating blend of modern psychology and ancient Jewish wisdom. You will learn practical tips to getting into and maintaining your relationship. It's fun, inspiring and a TAD bit controversial. Hosted by Rohr Chabad NDG | Young Jewish Professionals | JMontreal.com About Dr. Assael Romanelli Dr. Assael Romanelli is a clinical social worker, licensed couple & family therapist, international trainer and Playback Theater conductor. He is the founder and director of The Potential State Institute For Enriching Relationships which incorporates and integrates therapy, art and education to create safe spaces for people to connect to themselves and others. He is also the artistic director of the Or Chozer Playback Theater company in Jerusalem. His Doctoral research is in training therapists in improvisation skills, and has since trained a range of helping professionals to be more spontaneous, playful and effective in their service. Dr. Romenelli has lectured to audiences all over the USA, Europe and Israel. He resides in Jerusalem with his dynamic wife and two lively kids. About Rabbi Yisroel Bernath Rabbi Yisroel Bernath - dubbed as "The Love Rabbi" is featured in the Award Winning documentary "Kosher Love". He has made over 50 successful matches. His expertise covers the entire spectrum of the Jewish community, from the secular to the religious. Rabbi Bernath is very passionate about building the Jewish community. He has successfully helped hundreds of singles break through the "singles wall". His caring yet firm style has given singles the hope and clarity they need to navigate dating and long-term relationships. If you haven't made a profile yet, do so today. http://www.JMontreal.com use marketing code: rabbisgift and it's FREE. Follow Dr. Romanelli https://www.potentialstate.com/ Access Past Events and Recordings https://www.facebook.com/pg/TheLoveRabbi/videos/ Sign up for Dr. Romanelli's Podcast https://www.buzzsprout.com/244426 Sign up for my Relationships Podcast https://anchor.fm/the-love-rabbi/episodes/Love-Rabbi-QA-ecpnte Access my Articles on Relationships https://medium.com/@loverabbi --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-love-rabbi/support
People are different and so misunderstandings and ruptures are unavoidable. Therefore, disappointments are natural and unavoidable. Many of us avoid expressing and hearing of our partner's disappointment with us. This usually stems from a fear that disappointment leads to abandonment. Yet disappointment is actually a wonderful tool for individual and relational growth! In this talk, Galit and I unpack disappointment and why it's a crucial feeling in relationships, through examples from our marriage and the clinic. Practical tips will help you reclaim disappointment in your relationships for deeper intimacy and growth.www.potentialstate.comhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
We all react to our MAP of the world and not the objective world.In NLP we say: The map is not the territory. Our map of the world is shaped by our sensory preference (visual, auditory, kinesthetic, audio-digital). Conflicts and tensions in relationships stem from differences in sensory preferences. Learning to recognize your own and other's maps of the world can help you improve your relationships. In this talk, Galit and I explain the different sensory preferences and how they affect intimate relationships, through examples from our life and the clinic. Practical examples will help you become more aware and flexible in your communication. www.potentialstate.comhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)
A lot of us were taught that "wanting is dangerous" therefore we develop a core belief that "ambition is dangerous" and we either avoid being ambitious or alternatively feel guilty for being ambitious.But Ambition is a healthy feeling that can help you live the life you've always wanted.In this talk, I break down ambition, and through examples from the clinic and my life, show how it can be reclaimed.Practical tips will help you reclaim ambition in your life today.www.potentialstate.comhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationshipshttp://podcast.potentialstate.com/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uwhttps://www.facebook.com/ThePotentialStatehttps://twitter.com/assaelSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=Q5AG6K7L8GYKA&source=url)