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Brad and Lesley emphasize the importance of practice in building confidence. Drawing from Ryan Lindner's experience, they discuss how competence doesn't come from waiting but from taking action. They highlight the value of practicing in various situations to become more comfortable with who you are.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Why impostor syndrome can hold you back from taking action.The importance of setting boundaries for self-growth.The value of clarity in relationships from the start.How to build confidence through practice.Episode References/Links:How to Become a Pilates InstructorHow to Become a Pilates TeacherBlack Friday, Cyber Monday (BFCM) Sale https://onlinepilatesclasses.com/Chat with us!  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. Get your free Athletic Greens 1 year supply of Vitamin D3+K2 and 5 free travel packsGet your discount for some Toe Sox using the code: LESLEY Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar Resources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesFollow Us on Social Media:InstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan 0:00  I think it's important for us to revisit impostor syndrome because it just keeps showing itself up as ugly. Just like thorn in your side and it's coming because you are not being yourself. Lesley Logan 0:10  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 0:49  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co-host in life Brad and I are going to dig into the collected convo I had with Ryan Linder in our last episode, if you haven't listened to that one, you should go listen to it. You can look out for this one, but you should listen to at some point. You know, when this podcast the reason we want you to listen to the first to the end, you can bounce around as much as you want. Brad Crowell 1:10  Totally. Lesley Logan 1:10  We I think it's fun to hear what we have to say because it feels like you're part of the conversation and then you go listen that one. Brad Crowell 1:16  Yeah, I mean, if you're new here, pods, the weekly pods are basically connected. So the first one is an interview. And then the next one is a recap of it. Lesley Logan 1:26  And the FYF has nothing to do with any of them. So it's always exciting. You should do that. And also if you're new here. Hi, I'm Lesley Logan. Brad Crowell 1:32  And I'm Brad Crowell. Lesley Logan 1:33  Well, I introduce you we don't introduce me so. Brad Crowell 1:37  Yeah, it's true. She's Lesley. Welcome.Lesley Logan 1:40  Today is November 9th 2023. And is actually Cambodia Independence Day. 1953 is when they actually got their independence from France because yes, France tried to take the France ruled over them for a while.Brad Crowell 1:52  Almost 100 years. It was like the 1860s that they were quote unquote, discovered by France.Lesley Logan 1:58  Yeah, yeah, that's, that's a lot of not so good things in there. But it's also why when you go to Cambodia, some people do speak French.Brad Crowell 2:06  Yeah, there's a lot of French influence for sure. Yes, no doubt about it.Lesley Logan 2:09  But it is their independence day. And it's a big holiday there. Often celebrated more in the capital city of Phnom Penh. But at any rate, I think it's really amazing that they have their own independence from another country. Brad Crowell 2:20  Yeah. And Cambodia has a soft spot in our hearts because we have a place there. We go there every single year, we actually sponsor a girl there to go to school, we take people there in our retreats, we get to explore all the things it's we've really fallen in love with the country of Cambodia. Lesley Logan 2:38  We live in a village.Brad Crowell 2:39  Just incredible. Lesley Logan 2:39  When you're part of that village, it's really fun to you know, be part of that. And it's I love taking people there, because it's really important that you see, we can all travel to Europe and other western countries all the time. I think it's really important to see how people live in other parts of the world that are different than your own. Yeah, it really it's not just about like, having grateful what you have, it's actually like, they're very present people. You know, like I and it's a it's a plate, it's like when I'm there, it's like you feel you turn off the whirlwind and like it's a it's an outdoor, so you can like lifestyle, like they spend a lot of time of their day outside very much a community. They take care of each other so much. And so we you know, we use you really start to realize like how much you can be part of your own community where you live when you see how communal some people can be. So anyways, Happy Independence Day to them. We just got back, I just got back from Chicago, Brad did not join me on this trip. That means I didn't get lost. I didn't lose an ID. I didn't do anything that I didn't miss a flight or any of those things. Like on what. And I'm actually heading into Arizona tomorrow to have a girls weekend with my family. And then I come back and I'm home for the rest of November with Brad. And we have Black Friday, Cyber Monday stuff going on which we will only offer during the week of the actual American Thanksgiving. So if you are wanting to know what those deals are, you have to get on the email list for that stuff.Brad Crowell 4:04  Yeah, so both for onlinepilatesclasses.com For OPC. And for ProfitablePilates, we're gonna be doing some special things. And I really I'm excited for our BFCM Black Friday, Cyber Monday sale coming up for Profitable Pilates, because it's all about a webinar that I'm going to do a public webinar that we'll do on December 3rd, okay, and it's gonna be all about what your Pilates website needs. So make sure you pay attention to that that's where you're gonna get those tickets and come hang out with me and we'll dig into websites and SEO and also images and all the things it's gonna be a lot of fun.Lesley Logan 4:41  When we first offered this topic, like you had very little options to build a website and everything costs money and now there's like so much amazing plug and play stuff. So it's really changed and it shouldn't you should not be afraid of it. It's not expensive anymore. So I think that's really cool. After he's done with that webinar. A few days later we hop in the van well first we kick off our tour in Las Vegas and then we play the Leaving Las Vegas song as we exit Alley fitness and head to St. George. Brad Crowell 5:08  How's it go? Leaving Las Vegas? Lesley Logan 5:10  No. I'm leaving Las Vegas. Anyways, guys so bright it's Saturday night anyways, Who sings it? It's like it's like not Alanis Morissette, but it's something like that. Leaving Las Vegas song, Sheryl Crow, Sheryl Crow. I love Sherly Crow. I went to the the Las Vegas airport. And I was like going up the escalator to go to Security. And the song was playing in the terminal like for south southwest. And I was like, did they play this like 24/7? Or is it just happening right now? Can you imagine if they played all day long, every time like someone into the airport, they play Leaving Las Vegas, it was just that moment, but it felt so apropos. Anyways. So we'll be playing that song. And then we'll go to St. George, and then we will hit the rest of our cities.Brad Crowell 6:01  7000 miles, we're going from Vegas to Boston to Miami. It's gonna be crazy.Lesley Logan 6:07  In between, like Denver somewhere in Ohio, like lots of awesome stuff, you're gonna want to go to opc.me/tour to find out all the stops. And I expect you to get in your car and join us somewhere near you. Because we want this to be the biggest tour we've ever done. And just so you know, at the time of recording this, we don't have the details we can't tell but I'm gonna tell you right now, you're gonna want to make sure you spot this van, you're gonna want to make sure you come to this tour, because there are reasons that you want to come besides meeting me. Yeah, I'm just saying.Brad Crowell 6:38  We got some exciting things cooking. So tune in.Lesley Logan 6:42  Yes. Before we go on to talk about Ryan, we have an amazing question from someone.Brad Crowell 6:48  Yes. So okay. This is a great question. And it's probably one that's, I guess, sometimes overlooked, because we obviously live in the world of Pilates. And so everything seems pretty obvious to us to where to find things. But somebody said, Hey, how do I become a Pilates instructor? And I was like, Oh, that's an awesome question.Lesley Logan 7:14  It's like a question that gets asked so much. It's every single week when I look at like, who goes to the website where they search, they search for this. And we have lots of tools on this. But I got this in an email because someone who's like I love Pilates, I think I should just be able to teach it. But I'm moving at the end of the year, and like, are there things they should consider? And I thought that that was such a great question. And I wanted to say, we do have some free stuff on the site on profitablepilates.com. We'll make sure the links are in the show notes that actually like a free course on like how to become applies instructor, we also have a whole series of courses, once you've like, are like in a programs you can set your business up correctly. But in between those two, I have a book where the first chapter actually talks about what questions to ask a teacher training program. While I'm a classical teacher, I do not force people to become classical teachers, the questions or things you should be asking any teacher trainer you are thinking of purchasing from because here is the deal. No two programs are built the same. You cannot compare this not apples to apples. It's like every type of produce and also the ones that you've ever heard of. So every person, every program you've seen out there is built by someone based on what they want for their studio, or what they were missing in their teacher training program. And so you first need to make sure that you like the teacher trainer that you have. The second thing, especially if you're moving is to make sure that what you're being trained in is a comprehensive program, and that you can teach in any kind of Pilates studio. So if it is something that's like, oh, it's like, if you hear like, sorry, unique blend of exercises based on the equipment that we built, those are signs that it's not gonna be great for you, maybe not for other people, it might be great for other people. But if you are wanting to have a certification, where you can joke anywhere, you're looking for a conference, like him comprehensively trained program on all the equipment, so that wherever you end up in this world, you can actually teach in a full studio. Now some countries have different rules around like actually being certified at the end of the day. For the most part, it's an unregulated job, which is why there are so many different types of trainings out there. So you want to definitely check out my book, it probably will take you six to nine months, six to nine months is what you're looking at to be sure, yep. And if it's anything that takes you more than a year unless it's on your end, like that's your choice. That's a little interesting. Most of the time it's most of the training weekends can happen within six or nine months and then you take the amount of time you need. So anyways, get the book, get the course check it out, and then let me know end up doing we can celebrate your process. If you have questions on anything you want us to answer. You can send that into the Be It pot and we'll answer on the next episode.Brad Crowell 9:44  Okay, now let's talk about Ryan Lindner. Drawing on a wealth of experience overcoming personal hardships. Ryan Lindner collaborates with clients and top organizations around the world to address turnover issues and instill a sense of humanity and understanding within workspace leadership. I thought was interesting that he said, When you get hired for a role, they often they treat you as if you are the role, like, all right, you are going to run the shipping department. So we'll talk to shipping and receiving. All right, yeah, call shipping and receiving not call Bob, but no call shipping and receiving. And, you know, like humanizing the team again. It's interesting, it just changes that scope. But also, it was really interesting to listen to him talk about, you know, his, like, all the things and what he's been able to do and his personal struggle with with, you know, imposter syndrome.Lesley Logan 10:42  Yeah. We've had an impostor syndrome before on this podcast, probably several different episodes. John Laura was the top one really great one. Really great one. And so one of the things I love that we talked about, as he discussed the tendency of people with anxiety to seek approval, and please others, and the thing about people pleasing is that's just a form of control. And you actually can't control how those people are. And so he explained that having boundaries means you have to say no more, which means you may have to end some toxic relationships or leave some jobs. And he emphasized the importance of self love and owning one's worth, and detaching them from external approval. Oh, my God. Well, if you can figure that out, y'all in a in an episode, you just you should be teaching a college course, it is hard. Okay. Especially if you were raised to be that way, if that was like a learned behavior that you have, but I actually I liked that he talked about boundaries means you have to say no, do you know that it is actually kind to have boundaries? It is actually very kind of boundaries. And we'll talk about this in episode coming up with Kelli Adame. For my female, females wanting to live and in more feminine energy, it's actually very feminine to have boundaries and say how you will and will not receive other people. And so boundaries doesn't mean saying no to every like, it's I actually want to rephrase it. When you have boundaries, you're saying yes to the things you actually want in your life. If you don't have boundaries, you are actually saying no to something else.Brad Crowell 12:13  While you're probably saying yes to everything, you're saying yes to everything, inadvertently, you're saying no to something.Lesley Logan 12:18  Especially yourself. And so he said, he stressed so much. He's like, you have to love you. And you have to do that again. And you have to own who that person is. And I think, I think is the hardest part. I think a lot of people don't know how to love themselves. Because how many people listening raise your hand. Only one if you're driving, if your family taught you how to love you. Did your parents show them like you like self love? Because that's how you learn it, right? Like it's a learned behavior. So if you only see your parents who are constantly trying to change how they look, if they're like, like, my, my, all the women in my life were like always on a different diet every single week, and then cheating and going here and have these chips with you. So like, I didn't see self-love. Constantly, consistently unmodeled and why would they the people before them. That's a fucking luxury. Can you imagine the people in the depression and the wars going? I love myself so much like, it's a fucking luxury, right? So we have generations of people not modeling self-love. Brad Crowell 13:19  And so really interesting. I never really thought about that my parents were when I was a kid. Every week, they would drag me out to the stupid soccer game that they played in and we had to sit on the sidelines. And I hated it.Lesley Logan 13:33  That's so cool. And I was like, Yeah, but that's so cool because they go watch your fucking soccer game.Brad Crowell 13:39  On the weekends, we would go sailing and every we hated sailing. Oh my god, my dad was like trying to flip the boat. He was having so much fun. He's like, the best thing ever. And we're like, terrified, and my mom let us take a thousand swim classes.Lesley Logan 13:53  I think that's why you're the unique human that you are, because your parents showed you like how to find, like, fix things for yourself.Brad Crowell 14:00  Yeah, that's what I'm coming to. I don't think I really realized that they were, maybe they were doing it because they wanted to do it. But they were actually also modeling. (inaudible)Lesley Logan 14:08  This is hilarious. Do you know what everyone says about you? They're like, Brad is so happy. Brad is like the kindest person. I know. He's is a very interesting bird as any like they're just like, he's just like, he's just got like, he's just, you know, a good person who loves everybody and like, you're not very good at taking like prioritizing yourself. We're still working on that, last episode. But like, you I don't see people pleasing you at all, like, at all and so much. You have zero problems telling people no, I'm like, Oh my God. We like told them yes. And he's like, it's okay. We just change our planets. I'm like, we can't change our plans. We we have to go we said we'd be there. So like it explained like you were modeled like to, it's okay to do the things you want to do. Brad Crowell 14:55  And my parents liked to play volleyball. My dad played in the band at the church.Lesley Logan 14:59  They don't listen to this show, they can't hear how amazing they did a good job raising you.Brad Crowell 15:05  My mom took sign language classes. Lesley Logan 15:07  Oh, that's cool. Brad Crowell 15:08  You know, like, like they definitely, you know, pursued individual things. And then did those things. Lesley Logan 15:15  Yeah. So this episode wasn't for you at all. At any rate, it's for the people who this is for, if you struggle with these things,Brad Crowell 15:22  Oh, are you kidding? No. There's still plenty for me to learn from Ryan. Lesley Logan 15:25  Yes. But I'm just saying, if you struggle with these things, and it wasn't modeled for you, it's I'm not giving you a Get Out of Jail Free card. But I'm saying like, it's no wonder it's a difficult decision, and you are going to have some toxic relationships that have to end. And heBrad Crowell 15:39  Well, those I mean, those talk. Well, you know, what you guys were talking about was that those toxic relationships will inadvertently end.Lesley Logan 15:46  Yes, and also, the very last thing one time about this, like he stressed the importance of defining relationships from the start. And I, this was very interesting. When I went to college, there was this thing called DTR. And I had no idea what that meant. And down to no determine the relationship. Oh, DTR. Yes. DTR. It's a conversation. Well, I went to a Christian college y'all so shocking. I know. But I did. I fucking did. I fucking did. I fucking did. And I thought I said, fuck all the time. Anyways, it was just like thing that people would do. They're like, oh, we went on a date. And we DTR and like, after a date, like after a date. But I do. I'm not saying that. Like, you should be doing that every time your date. But I do think it's important to be very clear about who people are in your lives in the relationship that it is and whether that's a conversation to have with them. Or if it is one that you just have to have with yourself to understand like, okay, Julie from the office who drives me fucking crazy. The relationship with Julie is at the office only. And if you're taking Julie shit home with you, you are muddling the relationship. Or if you're letting Julie when I also hang with you in the weekend, you don't have to that you can say, Hey, Julie, I love I love our time at the office together. But I don't have time for us to have relationship outside of the office together. And like, Yeah, that might piss Julie off. And you know what, hopefully have a good HR and like, they probably already know how crazy Julie is. And so sorry for any Julie's out there. Well, I mean, the poor Karen's have already been. So let's just find your name. Anyway, I think like, definitely take some time to define relationships from the start is going to help you take yourself off of the pressure of showing up in a way that's unaligned with the relationship's definition. Did you DTR in college, because I never DTR I was like, I'm gonna get through four years of college, without that DTR. Because it just felt weird. It felt like everyone want to get married right away because they just wanna have sex. And it's like, well just go have sex. Anyways, welcome to my college experience.Brad Crowell 17:44  Well, saying no, wasn't something I was always, you know, good at.Lesley Logan 17:48  You say no, all the time.Brad Crowell 17:50  I do now. But when I was in college, I didn't. Oh, you said yes to everything. Well, it wasn't that I said yes to everything. But I wanted to fit it into, you know, even though I was still like,Lesley Logan 17:58  You, you wore rings and all your fingers. You had your hair colored the wrong color. Brad Crowell 18:03  Yeah. I know. I definitely pushed all the boundaries, but it didn't mean I didn't want to fit in. Okay, right. So, you know, I don't know what I don't know. I thought the DTR thing was kind of silly. But I did try to date a girl on my campus. And I asked her dad, if I could date her. And he said no. And I was like, oh, fuck, now what? She lived in Canada. And I was like, that's fair. Brad Crowell 18:16  But did her dad live in Canada? I mean, I'm surprised because that would be really great than she could stay if she married you.Brad Crowell 18:40  Yeah. But no, I wasn't really trying to date so much. I just thought it was all a little.Lesley Logan 18:49  I don't even think Ryan was even talking about dating. But that's what my brain went to. I was just talking about, like relationships in general, like the people in your lives. And so I do think determination is really important.Brad Crowell 19:00  Yeah, I think so too. Especially like, you know, defining the relationship can help with boundary setting. And we were talking about boundaries. Because, you know, if you'reLesley Logan 19:13  Well, if the relationship is a work relationship,Brad Crowell 19:16  Then the boundary is the end of the day.Lesley Logan 19:18  Yeah, you're your boss, the boundary's end of the day,Brad Crowell 19:21  And I think we were talking about this before on a previous episode here, that the, the way that work from home has shifted. It's been so empowering and freeing and amazing, but it was also completely changed our boundaries. And if we're not careful, you know, we're taking home, you know, all this work, meaning we never actually set an end-of-the-day boundary for us. And I think that it's also been mission creep with text messages from work coworkers and working on emails late at night and all this kind of stuff. Lesley Logan 19:21  And you know, I think it's France or when other countries of Europe it's illegal. And also they are not. There is zero expectation of you responding to anything outside of office hours, whatever.Brad Crowell 20:09  Yeah.Lesley Logan 20:09  it's actually weird if you do that they're like, what's wrong with you?Brad Crowell 20:12  Yeah. You know, and, and I don't I don't know that I agree. I think that's a bit extreme. But I, I, I do think that it's healthy to say like, unless the fucking house is burning down, don't contact me outside of those hours. And you're and like, that's with because you've defined the relationship as this is a work relationship, that it can help you reinforce your boundaries. You know, so, yeah, anyway.Lesley Logan 20:34  Define your relationships. Okay, what did you like? Brad Crowell 20:35  Okay, so, I, well, you guys got into introvert extrovert, how you and also defining that how you recharged. You know, some people recharge being alone and others, you know, go together, you know, when it's when people together. And he started talking about how, you know, he's also, you know, very introverted, but he does all these speaking engagements, right? And so he talks all these people at a time and how it stresses him out still, you know, even now, after having done it for so, so much time. And then he kind of, you know, he kind of hidden him, he specifically said, I had a conversation recently with, like, a general or somebody huge in the military, because he got a chance to work with people in the military, right. And that kind of led you down this interesting thing about titles, right? And how titles made will make still make him uncomfortable can make you uncomfortable. If you know somebody's title, you started talking about Doctor and how like you were teaching a doctor Pilates and how you're like, Oh, why are they even taking Pilates from me? Because they are a doctor. And they know everything you know about I don't remember what kind of doctor they were. But you know, your orthopedic surgeon. That's what was and you came to this conclusion that, yeah, okay. They may understand the body, but they don't know how to move their own body. You know. And anyway, the point of it, the point of his thing was that like, when he started to, to focus on their title, the people that he was discussing things with and talking to a coaching, basically, it was intimidating to him. But if he could, like, put the title aside and just talk to like a human, then all of a sudden, it would change the dynamic. And, you know, I mean, I, what it immediately made me think of was, what if you were walking down the street and you bump into a President of the United States, and you don't know that they're the president or were a president, and you just strike up a conversation with them, and you talk them like a human. And it's probably going to be just a simple, easy exchange, conversation, whatever. Nothing weird about that. But if you were walking down the street, and they have the Presidential motorcade with 57 Secret Service agents, and like dudes carrying guns near them, you're gonna be like, Whoa, I have no, no way. I could never even speak to that person I would never try. you know. And so just knowing the person's title alone, it's such a crazy thing, how we how that shifts their own dynamic. Brad Crowell 20:36  Yeah, it's true. I mean, like, even when I was teaching Pilates, like when the celebrities would need a session where I was, and I would have to teach them like, there's this moment of like, okay, so like, it's a little awkward, because like, you're like, I feel like I know a lot about you, you know nothing about me. But also you're it doesn't matter. You're just want me to teach you and I'm here to teach you, but I'm a little nervous. And like, it takes a few moments here those butterflies out for sure. Like, yeah.Brad Crowell 22:55  For 15 years ago, when I was I had just moved to LA and I was in Trader Joe's with my roommate at the time. And there's this girl walking down the aisle, and I just started talking to her. And like you knew her? No, I don't know what you're talking about. Whatever the fuck, I was just talking. I was just being friendly Brad. Right. (inaudible) And we're talking and like, we had this, like, we saw each other in a couple of rows. And it was kind of cute. And we got to the line. Lesley Logan 23:48  And it's like, every single person in LA like you try to meet someone at Trader Joe's.Brad Crowell 23:54  And we're talking and we're chit chatting in the line. And we're waiting and you know, and then my roommate turns around, and he goes, Oh my god, are you so and so and she's a fucking famous actress. And it just killed the entire conversation. And it was so bad. I was like, bro, bro, you fucked that up and what the hell? Lesley Logan 24:11  Who was it, do you remember? Brad Crowell 24:12  I have literally no idea. But you know, but it was like it totally changed the dynamic. And I was like, weren't well.Lesley Logan 24:23  Yeah, yeah. So it's really funny. We put people on pedestals. They put it like it's a whole thing. It's yeah. And that creates weird impostor syndrome, which doesn't have to exist because they're just people who also need whatever you have to offer. So there you go. Brad Crowell 24:36  Yeah. Well, the other thing I thought was really hilarious was he takes inspiration from Patrick Stewart, super famous stage actor and obviously, like Star Trek Stewart.Lesley Logan 24:46  Oh, okay. I just out of myself. I've clearly not watched Star Trek. Brad Crowell 24:49  No, come on. He's like in that he's so famous. Like know that Spock. But yes, I appreciate that.Lesley Logan 24:56  But don't everyone on Star Trek, do it. Brad Crowell 24:58  No, only Spock.Lesley Logan 24:59  Only Spock does this?Brad Crowell 25:00  Well Spock and his people. For those of you listening, family, it's the fingers. Well, just you know you have to do this and realize but your straps on your feet if you're a classical teacher, yeah.Brad Crowell 25:11  If you're not watching on YouTube, she's doing the split V thing.Lesley Logan 25:15  Yeah, but I have to cheat. I have to pull my fingers down. Oh my god, you could do it on both hands.Brad Crowell 25:20  Yeah. Come on, come on, you can do it. What is that hard? It's easy. So yeah, anyway, Patrick Stewart said that even today after being like, like, literally, I think he's Sir Patrick Stewart. And oh, he's knighted. Oh, yeah. Come on. You fucking know who he is. Look at it look. Yes. Look up his picture. You know. Anyway, he, he has been on stage thousands of hours on stage right and in front of cameras. And that's not Spock. Know. Okay. Now, I'll get Patrick Stewart. Anyway, he said he still actually gets stage fright. After career, decades of doing it, he still gets stage fright. And he said, and he has this little mantra that he says to himself, he says, You know what, I don't give enough. He probably says I don't give a fuck. Right? And he says, what happens? What what I thought was really interesting was like, how is that beneficial? Because it kind of seems like flippin and silly and ridiculous, you know, but what I thought was cool was that Ryan said that you're actually you're, you're kind of freeing yourself in that moment. You're detaching from the outcome in the moment and you're reducing the stakes. That's a pretty cool analysis of I don't give a fuck.Brad Crowell 25:21  Yeah, mine is gonna say I did look up who Spock is, I don't know the difference of the two and Sir Patrick Stewart's hotter if it's if it's any, but he's concerned.Brad Crowell 26:47  We were all wondering, you know, if that's what you were sayingLesley Logan 26:51  To people, I would want to be with Sir Patrick Stewart. Yeah, I can't do the eyebrows on Spock. Um, anyway.Brad Crowell 27:01  Okay. All right. Well, stick around. We'll be right back. All right. So finally, let's talk about those Be It Action items what bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Ryan Lindner? Own who you are, there's nothing you have to become or do or you don't have to arrive at anything. You just have to allow it. You are you. Lesley Logan 27:26  You are already you were born amazing. Already happened. I love it.Brad Crowell 27:32  Yeah, so I think well, I think it's also I think it's just hard you know, we feel like we need to be more do more or you know, like with the qualify or again we were talking about this a couple of weeks ago about our performance-based society about how like you know the achievements that we are are how we define ourselves right and I think that of course it feels good to like hit a mark that we set for ourselves but again, we should celebrate that and too if we just jump from mark to mark to mark we're not actually enjoying the in-betweens ever, right ,and I think that we can apply that same thing about you know, who are you who like who are we how how do we see ourselves. I think thatLesley Logan 28:15  Made me think of Allison, who are you and he does it and then he does a little smoke, who are you? The ultimate question My goodness Yeah, it's IBrad Crowell 28:32  There's nothing more that you have to become to be you. You're already you. Lesley Logan 28:37  You're it. You made it. Brad Crowell 28:38  You made it. Congrats you are.Lesley Logan 28:39  You actually technically beened it till you sawed it but you've been I'm just trying to like you have arrived at that new you were born that way but now you maybe you said to be it till you see it but like you've you're born that way and so maybe it's the journey is just you finding yourself back to who you already were.Lesley Logan 28:40  We've beened it till we sawed it.Lesley Logan 28:47  You know what? Past tense on the past tense even like my double negatives I guess you don't like my double past? Brad Crowell 29:07  I don't even know what to say. That's amazing. What about you? What is yourLesley Logan 29:11  Wow he said then this is the hard that he has that seems hard to just be who you are. So he actually said he would practice it and I really here's the thing he says like practice in front of people, practice speaking and put yourself on camera and record it like this will help you accomplish, your competence comes about, you guys, competence says that you don't wait for competence to bestow itself upon you competence comes from doing the fucking thing over and over again until you feel like you can do it like have you ever seen someone like they're able to like like stir something that they're cooking and also like tax on the phone with that looking at German or on old phones now I'm dating myself but all the people in this are RH t nine t nine where you could like I can text without looking at your Yeah, not here your phone and you could like oh texts,Brad Crowell 29:57  I would text I would not only that my screen was is broken. So I had to memorize the I literally memorize the keypad?Lesley Logan 30:07  Because Could you could you read people's text to you? No, no. So but you would text them? I would text them. I can't read you say so just calling.Brad Crowell 30:16  And then I would also I had to force me to memorize people's phone numbers again.Lesley Logan 30:20  Yes. So So but the reality is all those things come from practice and competence comes from just doing the thing. Like that's just what it is. It's actually also from just like showing up and doing the thing you said you would do that's also putting coins in the competence bucket. And so if you are struggling with like, just being yourself and being until you see it, you can't just sit around and wait for it to like, like, you know, night itself upon you. You have to actually do the thing and practice it. So practice in front of mirror, practice it while you practice doing it while you make a bed practice while you do the dishes. Practice that while you're listening to Gaia, try for the 17th time in this recording session to find a bed that's comfortable for her. None of them are we've tried seven, none of them are comfortable. So but we're gonna keep practicing until we find a bed for Gaia. We're just gonna keep going. But that is how you do it. So I really enjoyed this. I think it's important for us to revisit impostor syndrome because it just keeps showing itself up as ugly. Just like the thorn in your side. And it's coming because you are not being yourself.Brad Crowell 31:22  Yeah. And so let us know how you've been until you've sought it.Lesley Logan 31:25  Thank you for bringing it back full circle. I'm Lesley Logan. Brad Crowell 31:28  And I'm Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 31:29  You're amazing for listening to our episode. Sometimes the wheels come off to us. We got three dogs and life going on but we hope that this helps you be it till you see it and not be perfect because that's boring. If you have takeaways want you to tag the Be It pod, tag Ryan and until next time, Be It Till You See It.Brad Crowell 31:47  Bye for now. Lesley Logan 31:49  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. 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In this podcast episode, Lesley Logan engages in a thoughtful discussion about anxiety, introversion, and imposter syndrome with Ryan Lindner. Detailing a pivotal life-changing event, Ryan shares how he transformed his outlook, the inspiration for his book, ‘The Half-Known Life', and how he overcame self-doubt.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Ryan's journey as personal development coachThe misconceptions about fixing introversion and anxiety.Why people with anxiety seek approval and please others.The importance of defining relationships from the start.How to manage pre-talk anxiety and foster self-trustEpisode References/Links:Follow Ryan on IGRyan Lindner's websiteThe Half-Known Life (book) by RyanGuest Bio:Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations all over the world. After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives with clients that come with any profound, life-changing event. If you aren't living, you're dying. It wasn't uncommon for Ryan to teeter on unconsciousness even, at times, while working with a client, requiring him to prioritize his own energy and time masterfully, and assist clients to do the same. Ryan has conducted thousands of coaching sessions, has led operations for a major leadership and organizational change company, and manages learning and development projects for companies to reshape their customer experience.  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. Get your free Athletic Greens 1 year supply of Vitamin D3+K2 and 5 free travel packsGet your discount for some Toe Sox using the code: LESLEY Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipFREE Ditching Busy Webinar Resources:Watch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesFollow Us on Social Media:InstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Ryan Lindner 0:00  And I learned through working with executives is that you know we a lot of people in the working force especially in corporate America think you know all these big executives have it all figured out all the time. They're the scary executives but no, they don't have it figured out a whole lot. They just they're confident they're confident and they're not knowing they're confident. And they can do one thing that I really struggled with anxiety and that's be okay in uncertainty.Lesley Logan 0:31  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 1:12  Okay, where are my introverts at? Where are my peeps who feel like impostor syndrome has got them down? I have a great, this guest is for you. He's actually also just an incredible journey of his career and what he's gotten to but we mostly discussed discussed like, impostor syndrome and getting over yourself and living in uncertainty. And people on pedestals like this is like the thing. And so if you are someone who is like just really having a hard time, not worrying about being an introvert or having impostor syndrome, or even just like letting people intimidate you, or my people, pleasers at, we've got something there for you as well. So Ryan Linder is our guest today, he is the author of The Half-Known Life. And so we don't get too much into his book, but I am very intrigued to read it. I'm actually really excited about it, because he's had this incredible journey. And, and it was, he said, That was a 10-year journey for this book. So you know, that's going to be a good one. I am incredibly overjoyed with what we talked about. And I really think it is a nice pep talk that you need on this day. So here is Ryan Linder. Lesley Logan 2:20  All right, Be It babes. I'm really excited because I know how much you guys like to talk about impostor syndrome. I know how many DMs I get about oh my gosh, oh, we should do this. But like, I just have so much impostor syndrome. And so when I actually found today's guest, I found that like, he's actually someone who knows impostor syndrome really well, and has managed to make an amazing life for himself getting over it and has an incredible book for us all to read. So, Ryan Lindner is our guest today. And I'm just so excited. Can you tell everyone who you are? And how you got here? What made you get into this whole role and go through this journey that you've been on?Ryan Lindner 2:53  Yeah, thanks for having me. Super excited to chat about this. You know, growing up, introvert, super introvert, had just awful, awful anxiety growing up. And I was drawn to, you know, personal development, but pretty much anything I could sink my teeth, and that would help me sort of move beyond that. It was just such a struggle for so many years. I mean, I would I remember giving talks when I was really young, and I'd be it would be so bad. I would like sweat through my shirt. It was like that bad. It looked like I took a shower. It was terrible. Lesley Logan 3:26  I feel like I feel like a lot of people can go yep, I know that.Ryan Lindner 3:31  And chronic worrier, chronic worrier. And really struggled to find kind of where I where I fit in, never didn't know what I wanted to do with my life, and tried to find somewhere where I might fit. And after about a million jobs, not too much of an exaggeration, but pretty close. I fell in to coaching. And I didn't know that was actually a career option. Never, I never knew that was a possibility. But I found out that I just I could empathize and sort of relate to people really well who were going through that. And that felt like well, you know, I can embrace this. Maybe I can turn that into something. I got an amazing contract and did coaching sessions for people all over the world even work for a federal contract the military. And then I started working with organizations really developing training content, leading trainings for major major companies, building out their training departments helping with their culture transformation, helping train managers so that they, you know, most companies treat people like roles and not people. Yeah. And I would track things like turnover, you know, how do you reduce turnover? How do you so it grew and sort of progressed over the years into things that I would have never ever guessed.Lesley Logan 4:57  What I what an incredible journey like like to go from like, all these different like, Oh, I'm coaching now I'm coaching corporations now I'm coaching the military now I mean, like, also, like exciting and I imagine like, there were there are probably some moments like oh my gosh, I'm I'm doing this now you know what I mean? Like so how did like how did you? How did you get over? Like? Did you just outgrow the anxiety? Like what was the journey there?Ryan Lindner 5:25  A lot of people think of anxiety and this is just, you know my approach and you know a lot of my clients when I tell them, hey, I'm really anxious, introvert, a lot of them would be very surprised, because it doesn't seem like that, you know, I've done speeches in front of executives in front of, you know, all kinds of people, generals and you know, all kinds of, and a lot of people think that anxiety, introversion is something that has to be overcome or fixed. That was what I was, I always thought was, I read all the books, I need to do these things to overcome it. You know, we always hear the advice like picture people, in their underwear or some kind of crazy advice. And none of that really worked for me, it was always still there still had the physical symptoms, you know, the sweaty palms, felt lightheaded at times just is terrible. Eventually, I started to think about it differently. I started to think about, you know, what if it was something that didn't have to fix, like, what, what if I just, it took me quite a while but it was a different mindset with it. In other words, like, I think of it right now as I am truly truly okay with however I show up. Yeah, however, I show up. I love that person. You know, most of us treat ourselves way worse than we would treat people. Lesley Logan 6:55  Oh, it's when I mean 100%. You know, I think I tend to highlight what you just said, because so many people that I work with, they're like, Oh, I can't go up and just talk to a stranger because I'm an introvert. And I'm like, Well, no, you are a shy person. You're an introvert because you like you actually gain energy being alone. And, and when they see it like that. It's like something that is hindering them, like being an introvert is holding them back. But being an introvert doesn't actually have to be something overcome or has to hold you back. It's just like how you are as a person in this world who gains energy to show up in this world. And so I love that you're like, I don't have to get over being an introvert. I can just be an introvert who also can do these things. Like it doesn't have to be an either or.Ryan Lindner 7:39  You're exactly right. You know, introverts aren't necessarily all shy, they just kind of recharge, we recharge our batteries a little bit differently. And you know what might be exhilarating or energizing for an extrovert it's draining for me. Yeah. Yeah. You know, I've got to have those boundaries in place.Lesley Logan 7:59  Oh, yeah. I mean, that's what you really have to learn is not how to like overcome your introverted Ness. It's like how to like, say, No, I mean, people don't believe that I'm an introvert. When I say it, I'm like, Well, I'm a very gregarious, that's what Brad calls me I say, high functioning. It's a world that we have to be an extrovert in, like, you have to go out and network you have to put yourself out there. Like, that's the way the world is. So how do I be that till I see it without changing who I am, or thinking that my way of recharging is wrong, there's nothing wrong with that. So the other night, we were at a networking event, I went to dinner with this other person, and he's like, Okay, I'm gonna do something with him, and I'll meet you at the party. I'm like, oh, we'll probably arrive at the same time because I'm gonna sit here and order another drink and be by myself.Ryan Lindner 8:40  That's what I would totally do as well.Lesley Logan 8:42  And I just like the whole restaurant, this look because they just got up and I'm like, I'll have another drink here. And I sat there. I played a video game. I didn't I enjoyed myself. And then I was like, Okay, I'm excited to go to this party now.Lesley Logan 8:54  I also enjoy naps. I'm a big fan of naps.Lesley Logan 9:00  Yeah, so like I actually so it's like, I think I think introvert is an anxiety and even like the imposter syndrome thing, people think I have to overcome that. But what if it like what you said earlier? I don't want to put words in my mouth. But I this is what I came to my mind. Like, what if we just it just existed? Like, it's like, that's what I have right now. And I'm, you know, how do I like instead of overcoming it, it's more of like, this is a sign of who I am or that I care about something or that something's important to me. Like that's why we have feelings of impostor syndrome or maybe even some feelings of anxiety. So we actually care about the things that we're doing.Ryan Lindner 9:34  I think the imposter you know, we feel like we're somehow diminished because I'm an introvert and I should be an extrovert and then but you know, once I love that person now and I was truly okay truly feeling like I was okay, however I show up. Then some of the anxiety does dissipate on its own. So like even if I would be sweating or you know, be read as a tomato I would just, you know, make a joke of it or like, kind of laugh at it almost like you know. You know, I decided to take a shower right before this and, you know, I just left my clothes on but you know, I think it humanizes you and people can and the audience can relate to that. Yes. And it disarms them and it makes them laugh. It's an icebreaker. Lesley Logan 10:24  Well, it's also like, there's when I was taking a class on like doing a keynote speech, they said, like, start your speech with something self deprecating. It makes people like you. Ryan Lindner 10:34  I love it. Actually.Lesley Logan 10:35  And like, and I'm like, am I self-deprecating, but basically, like by you saying, I decided to get started my clothes on before I walked in here. Like what? Like, when it actually makes people stop looking at that and going, what is oh, you know, actually just like, and everyone laughs and then you've caught their attention. So now they're all listening to it anyway. So it's actually like, it's actually like your superpower is that you sweat through your sharp voice?Ryan Lindner 10:58  Absolutely.Lesley Logan 10:59  So okay, you got into this coaching thing. And then it just kept growing and growing. How? Like, what kind of what was that like for you? How did you put yourself out there to get more clients? Was it income was after you got what you after this, like realization that you can just be an introvert with anxiety and like, it's going to be okay. And then and then how did that lead you to like writing a book? Like, what was that journey? Like?Ryan Lindner 11:23  Well, the journey for the book was about 10 years. So I guess better late than never, but it really, I had some things that occurred health wise, when I first started that contract, I actually had a couple of cardiac arrests. And so you know, that's not too good for someone with anxiety because that kind ofLesley Logan 11:46  Takes it to the next level, it's like a vicious cycle.Ryan Lindner 11:48  Yeah, yeah. But it, I, so I just started that, what I would call my dream job at the time, you know, I had this amazing contract, I had clients from all over the place you know I have psychologists as clients, and I was there for about a month. And I suddenly just dropped dead one day, like I had this, like, cardiac arrest, no family history, nothing like that. And I was back at work five days later, you know, working with clients, because, you know, I had a financial need. Lesley Logan 12:22  Yeah, I understand that. Ryan Lindner 12:24  No paid time off, I was one month there. And I'm hooked all these wires, and I'm doing these virtual sessions. Most of them were on the phone, so they couldn't see it. I was, you know, hooked all these wires and stuff. And, and it really transformed my sessions, though, having gone through that. It just totally made me rethink what I'm actually worried about. And it helped in a very weird way.Lesley Logan 12:54  That's so fascinating. And I hate that you had to go back. But I understand the world we live in, like, sometimes you just don't have, you don't have the luxury of actually recovering from your cardiac arrest. You have to be back in action. And so, but also like to go through that, and it helps you rethink, I think, I don't think we have to go through cardiac arrest y'all to rethink like, what are we actually worried about? Like, I think we can actually, we can actually learn how to learn from Ryan's life. That one we can, we can, you know, live vicariously through.Ryan Lindner 13:32  Yeah, and, you know, I had one and then the next day had another, you know, just to oh, it just totally, totallyLesley Logan 13:40  Like an aftershock. Ryan Lindner 13:42  Absolutely, absolutely, you know, I had the paddles and everything. And to this day, you know, it's over a decade later, I have, you know, I was young collegiate athlete, no family history, and again, just a random event. And, you know, I got a pacemaker and but one thing that I have to do, which is interesting for someone who's had anxiety for many years is I the boundaries, you know, I have to have boundaries if I don't I, I I'm busy. 24/7 so if I don't have my boundaries in place, or manage my energy, well, then, you know, then I get really sick. Lesley Logan 14:25  Yeah. So can we talk about that because I I'm, like, obsessed with my boundaries, and like, my whole team, their whole job is just to like, protect the boundaries that I have in place. And at least that's my assistant's job. And then when people inquire like, you did not go through the channels, now you're breaking but like, not every, boundaries are a muscle. And I'm sure one that was really hard for you to even put in place to even think about what boundaries you need to not feel guilty doing it. Like there's a whole host of emotions like am I like, and we also train people how to treat us so if we never had boundaries? And then we asked to start putting them in place, then people are like, Wait, where is this coming from? So how, what was your boundary journey like? And do you have any tips for those of us who are trying to get better at it?Ryan Lindner 15:12  Well, a lot of people I've worked with, especially those with anxiety, they're people pleasers. And that's exactly what I was, I thought that my self-worth and my value came from, you know, getting approval and feeling. You know, and that's part of what was, you know, the anxiety, the stage fright, and all that was, oh, my gosh, what if I screw this up, you know, low self-esteem and so forth. So having boundaries means you have to say no more, and but some relationships also fall away, you know, maybe they're toxic relationships, toxic jobs. And I work a lot with people who are going to use like, career transitions as well. You know, and also working with companies, I really understand that dynamic. And it's, it's really having to detach from that in some ways. That's not where your worst comes from. You have no control over what over outcomes or what other people think of you. You have to love you. And you have to, again, kind of own own who that person is.Lesley Logan 16:22  That I mean, gosh Ryan, you have to repeat that for everybody one more time. So you like it all over wine, this or here it is, you just said it. Like we we cannot control how people think about us. And, and saying yes, and people-pleasing as you trying to control how people think about you. But guess what, just because you said yes to the thing doesn't mean that you're controlling how they think about you, or feel about you. And so you actually have to really, like own what you want, as you said, and like really like who you are, and be okay with that. And then you put the boundaries out there. And you know, the right people are gonna be in your life, because they're gonna respect that. And then and then thank goodness, the bad ones can fall away. Like, thank goodness, you know, we have a lot of people who are business owners here. And recently, my coaching group, one of them was like, How do I fire a client? And, you know, what I wanted to say was like, well, if you have strict boundaries in place from the get-go, you would never have to do that. Because like, they just wouldn't, they wouldn't get through the filter, you know, like, it's like, it'd be really hard for them. But what happens is, sometimes we like say yes to people in our businesses, because we're trying to grow them, we like need more clients right away. So we bring people in, we're just saying yes, and like, oh, then we have that person who like, steps on all the boundaries, breaks all the rules, and we don't want to, we don't want to upset them. We don't want to upset them. So we like kind of let it slide or we just go oh, hey, don't do that we like aren't really clear on what those boundaries are. So they're just being themselves and we're not actually putting fences up that they can actually see we're just like, expecting them to behave in a certain way. And, and then you end up having to fire someone because like, you just get to a point where like, Are you kidding? I can't work with you anymore. And so like, the best thing to do is like to never have to fire a friend, a client or a co-worker or anything like that is just to like really own what you need to be the best at what you're doing. And then be okay with with sometimes that'll make people disappointed in you.Ryan Lindner 18:17  You define that relationship from the beginning. You know, you set that precedent. And, you know, I know firsthand, you know, if you've worked with someone a long time, and you've set a precedent of sort of bad habits, it's so hard to get that back on track. Some people you can't convince anyone of anything, they have to come to that sort of on their own. It's, you know, some relationships, you will have to let go. But that's okay, that's okay.Lesley Logan 18:51  Yeah. Yeah. So you said earlier that the book journey was 10 years, I think that that's probably fast for most people's first time. What made you want to write a book? What what what made you think that like, I, what, I want to get this message out there, what was that whole conversation and journey, like?Ryan Lindner 19:09  The book is called The Half-Known Life. And it's actually it's not a typical self help, or it's like you only live once kind of thing. It's, um, it's from a quote from Moby Dick, which has to do with like, not being able to see ourselves, so we can't always you know, and I come back to, you know, I've had again, like, it's like, first time I had like a psychologist as a client. I was kind of like, confused, because I was like, I thought they were supposed to have it all figured out. Like, like, why are they working with me? And then I had these executives, people that I thought, wow, these people. And this ties really well into impostor syndrome, too, because I learned just a ton from working with these people. But I realized that you know what, that's all we are. We're all just people. You know, matter how smart you are, you could be brilliant. We can't see ourselves. And I learned through working with executives is that you know, we a lot of people in the working force, especially in corporate America think, you know, these big executives have it all figured out all the time. They're the scary executives, but no, they don't have it figured out a whole lot. They just they're confident they're confident in their not knowing they're confident. And they can do one thing that I really struggled with anxiety and that's be okay in uncertainty. Be okay. And uncertainty work and uncertainty they can they can live in that. Yeah. And it and because they trust themselves. You know, I might not have it all figured out right now. But I trust that I will do what I need to do at the appropriate time. They trust that.Lesley Logan 20:55  Yeah. So is that something that you have learned how to do is to like, trust in yourself, you know, through this journey like that you might not know all the answers, but you know, you'll be fine. You'll get you'll get yourself through it.Ryan Lindner 21:10  I do feel like that. I also feel like, you know, I'm comfortable saying I don't I don't know something. You know, if I don't know, I don't know, um, it has no bearing on my value. I as a leader with companies, I try to, you know, I tell people that all the time, you know, don't know everything, don't have it all figured out. But I'm open. I am open to being better. I look at it more as like a continuous thing.Lesley Logan 21:35  Yeah. Yeah, I think that's I mean, that's, I mean, we, first of all, we will never know, everything you will always be learning, there's always going to be a question that you couldn't ever, like, predict is going to happen. And, and because everyone's coming at the same thing that you're doing with a different perspective. And so the more you can be okay, with like, oh, I don't know, or, Oh, let me get back to you, the easier it is for you to be present in the moment of the life that you're in. Because if you are so worried that you're not going to know the right answer, you're so busy thinking that I have to know all the right answers, you're not actually able to be competent, comfortable in the in the position you're in. So I think that that's so true. I and I you mentioned like being there comfortable in the uncertainty. And that's so hard for humans, though, we want to know, we want to know how it's going to end. That's why we skip to the end.Ryan Lindner 22:24  You know, and a lot of us, if you look at you know, one thing I do a lot and I work with clients is in any situation I asked myself, you know, what do I actually know, what do I actually know about the situation? So you know, about a week ago, I gave this huge talk. And I remember like 1015 minutes prior to the talk a lot of you know people all over the country on it. And I I was like, feeling those symptoms again, like, oh my god, like what am I even doing? You know? But you know, what I just said, you know, what, what information? What historical? Do I ever really bomb? We all bomb on occasion, but like, is it ever as bad as I think it is? And I thought you know, it's, it's not. In most situations, the stakes are pretty low. Yeah, you know, what's the worst that can happen? You know? And I just said, You know what, I'm going to do this, like I always do. And I did. And I did and I just became comfortable in the symptoms and not didn't try to, again, wish they weren't there are overcome them. I just said, You know what, I'm going to accept that I feel this way. I'm good with it. I took a deep breath. And I was just a person. That's it. We always try to be this like, you know, get everything right. And all that I was just a person just like they are and I talked to them just like other people. And it's as simple as that.Lesley Logan 23:55  I think that like so I love that you say that. Because firstly, going back to your psychologist client, like I think that we'll have people in our lives like, oh my gosh, I can't believe that they want to work with me, or I can't believe that they want to talk with me. And we're so we've got this thing like they've got it all figured out that psychologist knows everything. I know, it's a whole thing. Like why? What can I possibly teach him? And it's like, oh, actually so much. Because he can't see himself? You know, and I think, you know, we don't give ourselves enough credit if the person has said yes, they want to work with you. Already they're saying I think you know, more than me on this topic.Ryan Lindner 24:29  And also, you know, we don't know those people. It's all assumptions. It's all stories that we've created in our mind and who they are based on what a title and whatever. So you don't have to know everything and you don't have to be perfect. You just have to be able to help them and in some way you have to know more than them about something. Lesley Logan 24:46  Oh yeah, I got it. I had one of like, one of the top like orthopedic surgeons came in to take a session for me and I was like, Oh my God, this person knows more about the body than I could ever know. Like they're an orthopedic surgeon like they they know everything right? My top the best in the field. And I'm teaching him and I'm like, he doesn't actually know what I'm saying, like I'm saying lift your arms and like, it's, they're not. They're like flailing, right? And it's like, oh, he knows everything about how to work, how everybody's body should work. But he doesn't know how to work his body in the way I'm asking him to do it. And so it like, a like, made me go, just teach him like every other human being whoever lays down here, he just happens to know, the anatomical terms of his knee joints and his shoulder joints. And so I can maybe use that.Ryan Lindner 25:35  Yeah, that doesn't mean he knows everything. He's got it all figured out. And that's, that's the case with almost I was. I was when I was a provider, and I was coaching a lot. I also worked with a marriage and family therapist, and I ran into him in the hallway. And I said, I do anything. And he said, Oh, that's a go-into session with this couple, right after I just had a fight with a wife. And I just thought, I mean, just just the person, you know, just just the person, like the rest of us. And but I think having that outside perspective is, you know, you just just can't see yourself. Lesley Logan 26:11  So yeah, yeah. And also like, giving like space and grace to ourselves, because we're, like you said, the beginning of our conversation, like, we are so hard on ourselves. We're not like, not in any moment, you're like, you know, has hard on this psychologists marriage, marriage, family counselor, as you are on yourself, you know, it's like we, the more we can actually be courteous of that judgment of others to ourselves, and then also take people off this pedestal that we keep putting them on, because we can't, we can't show up as our full self, and have these amazing ideas. If we just keep putting people up on pedestals just because of the alphabet behind their name, or who we think that they are, or who said they were whatever it is, it's like if we actually just treat everyone like they're an actual human being, we'll probably learn that we have more in common with people that intimidate us or cause us to have impostor syndrome than we don't.Ryan Lindner 27:04  If you didn't know someone's title, if you didn't know anything about them, it'd be a lot more relaxed conversation. You know, if someone just walked up and said, You know, Paul, or whatever, nice to meet you, you would talk to them, like a regular person, if you found out they were some famous something, suddenly that dynamic, you know, changes. So a lot of that is again, you're totally right. It's just that sort of story, you know, why me? Why am I can I do this, I'm no one, it's all comes back to that, you know, self-dialog. And once you realize that you don't have to have, you don't have to arrive to a particular place or become anyone. You'd have to more allow it or just just be a person, because you're you're going to have something to offer that the other person doesn't. And that's all you need. It reminds me of Patrick Stewart, who I love. He had this, you know, he's getting interviewed one time, and he shared this like, mantra that he uses, because he's been in theater, TV movies, you know, and he shared this mantra, and I thought, wow, I mean, he must never get nervous, because, you know, he's been doing it for decades. And he said, No, I, I still get nervous. I still get like, stage fright and all that. I thought that was really and so I'm waiting for this mantra. Like, like, profound like, and he said, You know what, you know what I do before I go on stage? I just tell myself, I don't give an F. Of course he does. Of course, he cares. Right. But there's something freeing about saying that, I think when you say that, you know, don't care anyway, you know? You do of course care. Yeah. You have detached from the outcome in that moment. Yeah. And reduce the stakes. You know, you know, when you're in front of an audience that, you know, you're looking at all these faces, but most introverts do well, they do well, one on one. So if you can treat audience and just look at them as talk to them, like one person, look at one person, talk to them, like one person. And the stakes aren't aren't as high as you think, you know. And even Patrick Stewart, you know, I just thought that was hilarious.Lesley Logan 29:31  I love I love I always love to find out what those things are because they're never what you expect them to be. They're not this like complicated thing. They're really often not and we like we build these things up. Like when I'm ready when I'm ready. You're never gonna feel ready. Like you. You're just I don't know, maybe maybe I'm wrong there but I really don't think I've ever felt ready to start anything that I've actually cared about.Ryan Lindner 29:53  No way like this. People are waiting for the stars to align and like I need to feel ready. You're totally right and, or they need to have everything figured out. But that comes back to the uncertainty you need to be okay with that, the best thing to do is just just go in and learn. And then always adjust, always adjust, always pivot. And none of it has any bearing on your value. And you're just you're learning approaches kind of as a learner.Lesley Logan 30:21  Yeah. Oh, if we could just approach everything as a learner. All right, we're gonna I mean, I, I want to hear more, but we're gonna take a brief break, find out people find you follow you get your book and your Be It Action Items. Lesley Logan 30:33  Okay, Ryan, you have this amazing book? Where can people find it? What can they learn from it? And where can they work more with you?Ryan Lindner 30:41  They can go to my website, rslindner.com, halfknownlifebook.com as well. They can also find me on Amazon.Lesley Logan 30:51  We'll have all those in the show notes. And all right, before I let you go, because you've given us so many great things to think about. And I really I know all of our peeps who tend to let the imposter syndrome get in the way I just love that you talked about the uncertainty and all of that already, but what bold, executable, intrinsic, targeted steps that people can take to be it till they see it.Ryan Lindner 31:14  I would say number one, own who you are. Own it. If there's nothing you have to be calm or do or you know derived anything. You just allow it. Just practice practice in front of people practice speaking, put yourself on camera, record it, just practice it. And again, just however you show up. Own it.Lesley Logan 31:41  Amazing. Yes. I hope that everyone starts doing that more and more and more because every single one of you is listening to this as something offered this planet and you're keeping it for yourself, which I think is pretty selfish whenever you don't put it out there and you let impostor syndrome or not having it figured out get in the way. Ryan you this has been a wonderful conversation. Thank you so much. I can't wait to hear how everyone loves it. What their takeaways are. Y'all tag Ryan Lindner. Tag the Be It pod and also go get his book at the halfknownlife.com halfknownlifebook.com. Ryan Lindner 32:07  halfknownlifebook.comLesley Logan 32:12  Perfect, awesome. All right, until next time, everyone, Be It Till You See It. Lesley Logan 32:17  That's all I got for this episode of the B until you see a podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. 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Get out of your head. Create change, get away from what is familiar, and start that process this week. Your demons must go; it is time for the real you. Work on this.   Our special guest is here to help work with Ryan - RSLindner.com

Ryan helps listeners cut through all the self-help noise out there. Everyone wants the perfect formula to stick to personal change, and there is no shortage of self-help books to tell them about the best method to save time or find that elusive success they spend so much time chasing (and is never enough). Perhaps they've “read all the books.” They just aren't doing it. In his book, The Half-Known Life, Ryan challenges conventional thinking of success, identity, and personal change. Most often, truly-profound life change happens following events that shake people to their core—a car accident, death of a family member, or a cardiac arrest that pulls someone into a moment of clarity. Priorities change when time becomes precious. Ryan Lindner draws on his experience as a behavioral coach managing a chronic health condition following sudden cardiac arrests in an emotionally-driven exploration of what matters most that is sure to resonate. Essentially, he helps people get unstuck in their careers and their lives. Ryan's Contact info: https:/https://rslindner.com/ My website: https://ungraduated.com Ungraduated Book: https://www.amazon.com/Ungraduated-Finding-dropping-outdated-systems-ebook/dp/B09SXCBY6R/ref=sr_1_1?crid=28QTYUU7T5BN4&keywords=ungraduated+book&qid=1655499090&sprefix=ungraduate%2Caps%2C122&sr=8-1 Join the Ungraduated Living Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/454790476338234        

Ryan Lindner had two sudden unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age. This forced him to explore different perspectives from profound, life-changing events. Priorities change when time becomes precious. Problems look different when you have no energy left to give them.  "If you are not living, then you are dying." - Ryan Lindner You CAN start living. Every. Single. Day.  Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations all over the world. After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives with clients that come with any profound, life-changing event. It was not uncommon for Ryan to teeter on unconsciousness even while working with a client, requiring him to prioritize his own energy and time masterfully, and assisting clients to do the same.  Marathon runners do not talk much on mile 20 - they choose to breathe Ryan has conducted thousands of coaching sessions, has led operations for a major leadership and organizational change company, and manages learning and development projects for companies to reshape their customer experience. You will enjoy Ryan's interview as he addresses the blind spots/habits people do not realize they have and to prioritize their lives and live their best! Click Here to Buy   “I'm going down now,” I said to a young woman a few seconds before the darkness—my first cardiac arrest. As I returned to work as a behavioral coach, it became maddening to hear, for the ten-thousandth time, about all-consuming, everyday problems and misguided priorities while I fought to merely remain conscious. The Half-Known Life challenges the conventional thinking of success, identity, and personal change. Most often, truly profound change happens following events that shake someone to their core—a car accident, death of a family member, or cardiac arrest that pulls them into a moment of clarity. Priorities change when time becomes precious. Problems look different when you have no energy left to give them. After all, marathon runners don't say much on mile twenty; they choose to breathe. And all I have to give is channeled into each moment that I am awake and I, too, choose to breathe.  Why wait until you're burnt out or for a life-changing event to occur before getting real about your life? Who are you when all of the accolades and accomplishments are gone? You can master time management but what does how you manage that time say about what's important to you—about what matters most?  Get out of your head and get into your life, before it slips away.  

…he not busy being born is busy dying.—Bob Dylan, “It's Alright Ma (I'm Only Bleeding)”Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations all over the world. After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives with clients that come with any profound, life-changing event. He is the author of The Half-known Life: What Matters Most When You're Running Out of Time.In this powerful episode, Ryan and I talk about making meaning of our lives, introversion, and the importance of creating healthy boundaries. Ultimately, he concludes, being ourselves is something we must allow, rather than something to which we aspire.Full video: http://bit.ly/selftalklindnerMore from Ryan:Website: http://www.RSLindner.comBook: http://www.HalfKnownLifeBook.comGot a question about your self? Send it to me at rachel@selftalkpodcast.com and it may be featured on a future episode. Support the show• Subscribe here, at youtube.com/@selftalkpodcast, or wherever you get podcasts. •Music:"Ave Marimba"Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0

In this video, we learn from Ryan Lindner, a personal development specialist, how to become more attractive in work and life. Ryan provides valuable insight into how to cultivate a more confident and successful persona, enabling you to stand out from the crowd and make a lasting impression. With his guidance, you can learn how to become more attractive in both your professional and personal life, allowing you to reach your full potential. Watch here: https://youtu.be/W81D5IQ9DAc Listen on top podcast platforms here: https://pod.link/thekajstudio Subscribe to us on YouTube for instant updates on live streams and new episodes. And do tell a few friends if you can! What are your thoughts and opinion on the topic we discussed in this episode? I'd love to hear from you. Got questions? Ping me on LinkedIn --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kajmasterclass/message

Ryan and I discuss the attributes that make someone an introvert. And how individuals who claim to be introverts can get out of this label that has been accepted for themselves.

If you've ever wanted to make something in your life different, you've felt some resistance before.  Sometimes, that resistance comes from an outside source, and others, it comes from within.  The most effective change-makers are able to identify a source and figure out how best to address an issue.  What if the change you want to make isn't just about you?   Ryan Lindner is a coach that feels it's more important that his clients identify than it is for him to tell them.  In fact, it's not even his job to know what it is.  He's there to facilitate the right introspection process.  This episode is designed to help you get “unstuck” and move from a person with an important role to a fulfilled member of a greater cause.   You can find show notes and more information by clicking here: https://www.bobdepasquale.com/podcast/ryanlindner

Ryan Lindner had some challenges around anxiety and OCD as he was growing up. Being an introvert meant that the road to becoming a coach was an unlikely path but one that helped him develop himself as well as others.  […] The post Running Out of Time: Ryan Lindner – ExtraOrdinary People appeared first on People Building.

Personal Development through the eyes of a behavioral specialist. Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations all over the world. After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives with clients that come with any profound, life-changing event. Tell us about you, your story, your background, and/or your business?: I have conducted over 6,000 sessions for the US military, he has led operations for a major leadership and organizational change company, and manages learning and development projects for companies to reshape their customer experience. Not only have I started a successful coaching business, but I have helped many entrepreneurs grow their own business. I specialize in company culture and help some big companies reshape that and decrease turnover and improve performance. Book: “I'm going down now,” I said to a young woman a few seconds before the darkness—my first cardiac arrest. As I returned to work as a behavioral coach, it became maddening to hear, for the ten-thousandth time, about all-consuming, everyday problems and misguided priorities while I fought to merely remain conscious. The Half-Known Life challenges conventional thinking of success, identity, and personal change. Most often, truly-profound change happens following events that shake someone to their core—a car accident, death of a family member, or cardiac arrest that pulls them into a moment of clarity. Priorities change when time becomes precious. Problems look different when you have no energy left to give them. After all, marathon runners don't say much on mile twenty; they choose to breathe. And all I have to give is channeled into each moment that I am awake and I, too, choose to breathe. Why wait until you're burnt out or for a life-changing event to occur before getting real about your life? Who are you when all of the accolades and accomplishments are gone? You can master time management but what does how you manage that time say about what's important to you—about what matters most? Get out of your head and get into your life, before it slips away. What “Knowledge” or “golden nuggets of wisdom” do you want to share with our audience?: How a small shift helps create amazing connections that redefine company culture. As companies grow, many encounter major shifts in employee retention/turnover. The leaders of these companies, I've found, have one thing in common; they are mostly unaware what's causing it. I often help leaders shift their culture to one that's INTERACTIONAL, not TRANSACTIONAL. Specifically in business, it's important to shift to seeing employees as people, not roles. There are several ways to do this, and it's going to require leaders look at their approach very differently. What is one CALL TO ACTION you would like to extend to our audience to apply in their lives?: YOU determine how you're going to show up in the world. "I'm busy" is not a reason why you can't be the catalyst for change. (i.e. website, social media group, landing page, etc.) : http://www.RSLindner.com Discounted book or audiobook (their choice). --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/circle-of-knowledge/message

Ryan Lindner is an author and personal-development specialist who has been a behavioral coach for individual clients and top organizations all over the world.  What I find is so impressive is not only Ryan's ability to successfully cope with many personal challenges, including anorexia, anxiety, and two cardiac arrests, but also his educational background and wealth of professional experience.  He openly shares how his personal health challenges have helped him become a better behavioral coach.  We also talk about his book The Half-Known Life-What Matters Most When You're Running Out of Time.  He wants it to be a catalyst in your life to bring about lasting changes and improvements.Website: https://www.rslindner.com; https://halfknownlifebook.com/Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Ryan-Lindner-Coaching-106216448499307Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryanlindnercoaching/

This week on the Chasing Financial Freedom Podcast, we have special guest Ryan Lindner.Ryan is a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations worldwide. After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives with clients that come with any profound, life-changing event.If you aren't living, you're dying. It wasn't uncommon for Ryan to teeter on unconsciousness even, at times, while working with a client, requiring him to prioritize his energy and time masterfully and assist clients in doing the same.In this episode, Ryan will talk about his experience with these health issues and how they affected his work and life. He'll also share tips on how you can apply these lessons to your own business or career path if you're facing similar challenges!Looking to Share Your Story? Be a Guest on the ShowSupport the show

Speaking Podcast Social Media / Coaching My Other Podcasts + Donations https://bio.link/podcaster ==================== About my Guest: Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations all over the world. After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives with clients that come with any profound, life-changing event. If you aren't living, you're dying. It wasn't uncommon for Ryan to teeter on unconsciousness even, at times, while working with a client, requiring him to prioritize his own energy and time masterfully, and assisting clients to do the same. Ryan has conducted over 6,000 sessions for the US military, he has led operations for a major leadership and organizational change company, and manages learning and development projects for companies to reshape their customer experience. What we Discussed: - 6,000 Sessions for the US Military - 2 Sudden Cardiac Arrests at a young age - People can not see themselves - Webinar Tips - Wherever You Are, Be There - Stop Signing e-mails Regards - Coaching and Why Better Audio Only - His Book and more How to Contact Ryan: https://rslindner.com/ His Book https://rslindner.com/book/the-half-known-life/ =============== Speaking Podcast Social Media / Coaching My Other Podcasts + Donations https://bio.link/podcaster --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/roy-coughlan/message

Welcome to Episode #67My guest Ryan LindnerRyan is a personal development specialist and author. He's worked as a behavioural coach all over the world. Ryan talks about how two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age taught him how to prioritize his time and energy. This is Ryan's story, a message of self-acceptance.In Ryan's book, "The Half-Known Life," he challenges the conventional thinking of success, identity, and personal change. Priorities change when time becomes precious.Let's enjoy his story.To connect with Ryan: http://www.RSLindner.com@ryanlindnercoaching@Ryanlindner

"Treat yourself as if you're someone you loved.” - Ryan Lindner EPISODE OVERVIEW: Did you hear the one about the young boy who struggled with loneliness, childhood anxiety, OCD, insecurity, and developed an eating disorder? You know, the one where he ate a ton of food to medicate the pain, but in high school a single embarrassing moment transformed his eating disorder into an obsession with working out to the point of anorexia? Then, when he gets a bit older and goes off into college he decides to start lifting weights. What happens then?In a nutshell, he puts on a hundred pounds of muscle, but he's still not healthy. He dedicates his life to fitness and studying the science of exercise, but he's not emotionally fit. Then, after starting his own physical training business, he grows his clientele, but has two cardiac arrests. Crazy, right? Watch or Listen Now to hear how today's guest explains how he went from living in anxiety and stress, to accepting the uncertainties in life, and learned to let go and live. Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to the Ryan Lindner story! GUEST BIO: Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations all over the world. After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives with clients that come with any profound, life-changing event. If you aren't living, you're dying. It wasn't uncommon for Ryan to teeter on unconsciousness even, at times, while working with a client, requiring him to prioritize his own energy and time masterfully, and assisting clients to do the same.Ryan has conducted over 6,000 sessions for the US military, he has led operations for a major leadership and organizational change company, and manages learning and development projects for companies to reshape their customer experience. EPISODE PROUDLY SPONSORED BY: Ascend 2 Glory: Sales & Marketing Video Guide SHOW NOTES, GUEST CONTACT INFO, SPECIAL OFFERS, & OTHER RESOURCES MENTIONED:Guest Contact Info:http://www.RSLindner.comhttp://www.HalfKnownLifeBook.com Remarkable People Podcast Listener Special Offer(s):Sign up for free bonus content at http://www.HalfKnownLifeBook.com HOW TO SUPPORT THE REMARKABLE PEOPLE PODCAST:Subscribe, Rate, & Review  us on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your favorite Podcast PlayerShare the podcast and specific episodes with your family, friends, and co-workersSponsor an Episode or Donate what you can financially to help us continue to bring great content that inspires you and people like you around the world! HAVE A QUESTION?Click Here to Connect with David THE NOT-SO-FINE-PRINT DISCLAIMER: While we are very thankful for all of our guests, please understand that we do not necessarily hold or endorse the same beliefs, views, and positions that they may have. We respectfully agree to disagree in some areas, and thank God for the blessing and privilege of free will.Support the show

#136 - Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist and behavioural coach.  He explains how to make a good first impression, get your colleagues to like you, and the difference between interacting with the person rather than the role.What you'll learn[1:38] The difficulty of seeing our true selves and how this inspired Ryan to write his book ‘The Half-Known Life'.[3:18] How Ryan became a coach.[4:52] How to make yourself more attractive in the workplace.[6:00] Why it's important to treat people like people not simply as the roles they're filling.[9:33] The difference between a “transactional” and “interactional” workplace engagement.[13:22] How to improve the way your colleagues perceive you.[18:06] The advantages of treating others well.[20:29] How you can start conversations with your work colleagues to get the best response. [29:03] The importance of being likeable and how to make a good first impression.[33:34] Ways to introduce warmth into your professional interactions.[36:05] The best way to sign off an email.Resources mentioned in this episode (some of these are affiliate links and we may get a commission in the event that you make a purchase - this helps us to cover our expenses and is at no additional cost to you):Moby Dick, Herman MelvilleGallup employee engagementReWork, Jason FriedHow to Stop Worrying and Start Living, Dale CarnegieFor the show notes for this episode, including a full transcript and links to all the resources mentioned, visit:https://changeworklife.com/how-to-be-well-liked-at-work/Re-assessing your career?  Know you need a change but don't really know where to start?  Check out these two exercises to start the journey of working out what career is right for you!Take me to the exercises!Also, make sure to join the Change Work Life Facebook group and check out the ways you can support the podcast on the Change Work Life Support page.Follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Ryan helps listeners cut through all the self-help noise out there. Everyone wants the perfect formula to stick to personal change, and there is no shortage of self-help books to tell them about the best method to save time or find that elusive success they spend so much time chasing (and is never enough). Perhaps they've “read all the books.” They just aren't doing it.In his book, The Half-Known Life, Ryan challenges conventional thinking of success, identity, and personal change. Most often, truly-profound life change happens following events that shake people to their core—a car accident, death of a family member, or a cardiac arrest that pulls someone into a moment of clarity. Priorities change when time becomes precious.Ryan Lindner draws on his experience as a behavioral coach managing a chronic health condition following sudden cardiac arrests in an emotionally-driven exploration of what matters most that is sure to resonate.Essentially, he helps people get unstuck in their careers and their lives.

Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations worldwide. After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives with clients that come with any profound, life-changing event. If you aren't living, you're dying. It wasn't uncommon for Ryan to teeter on unconsciousness even, at times, while working with a client, requiring him to prioritize his energy and time masterfully, and assisting clients to do the same. Ryan enjoys his time with his family and animals and finds peace near his favorite spots by the beach. https://rslindner.com/

Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations worldwide. After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives with clients that come with any profound, life-changing event. If you aren't living, you're dying. It wasn't uncommon for Ryan to teeter on unconsciousness even, at times, while working with a client, requiring him to prioritize his energy and time masterfully, and assisting clients to do the same. Ryan enjoys his time with his family and animals and finds peace near his favorite spots by the beach. https://rslindner.com/

Welcome to Linda's Corner.   Ryan Lindner had two unexplained cardiac arrests when he was only 30 years old.  In this episode, he explains how priorities change when time becomes precious.  Ryan is a personal development specialist and the author of "The Half-Known Life."  You can reach Ryan and learn more about his book at his website rslindner.com.Some of the highlights Ryan shares:His personal story, "I'm going down now." How to conserve energy for the things that matter mostHow priorities change when time becomes preciousWhere to start when you want to make a changeHow to improve our first impressionsSimple ways to come across more confidentThe difference between "transaction" and "interaction" And morePlease share, subscribe, leave a rating and review, visit the Linda's Corner website at lindascornerpodcast.com and/or follow on youtube, facebook, instagram, and pinterest @lindascornerpodcast. Thanks!Also please visit the Hope for Healing website at hopeforhealingfoundation.org for free resources to increase happiness, build confidence and self esteem, improve relationships, manage stress, and calm feelings of depression and anxiety. 

We all know that we only have one life and that we need to make the most of it. For some, this means spending time on their health and wellbeing, while others prioritize their finances. But what happens when time is precious, and you can't do both? Which priority should take precedence?  After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, author and personal development specialist Ryan Lindner began to explore different perspectives with his clients that come with any profound, life-changing event because if you aren't living, you're dying.  Ryan has a book called "The Half-Known Life," where he challenges the conventional thinking of success, identity, and personal change. Through his experiences, Ryan believes that priorities change when time becomes precious. When we realize that time is precious, we often change the way we think and act. Bob and Ryan discuss the mindset shifts that occur when met with adversity; how we transform and begin to fully appreciate what we have and make the most of every moment. The clock has already started ticking. Ryan's book "The Half-Known Life" offers a fresh perspective on personal growth to help you get out of your head and into your life. Thank you for taking the time to tune in. To find links to connect with Ryan and more information, resources and a transcript of this episode, please visit: https://go2.money/podcast

Are you truly living your life in a way that matches up with what you want it to be? Today's guest, Ryan Lindner, experienced two serious cardiac episodes at a young age. After falling unconscious sometimes even with clients, he realized how important it was for him to understand his own energy and how to manage and care for it. It's hard *not* to redefine your life after an event like that, and Ryan made it his mission to help others figure out what truly matters to them so that they could live each day, each moment, present and appreciative of their lives. There truly is no time to waste.   KEY TAKEAWAYS  Think about who you are if you don't list your resume. And if you don't know, explore that. If you do, explore it more.  We're all just here for a short time. People say life is short all the time, I know that. But again, you don't reflect that in your daily life.We make choices that don't reflect that. And that's all life is – it's all a series of choices you've made about what is and is not important to you. Every day can be an experiment in trial and error, every day can be a redo. If you find yourself getting trapped in a spiral of your own negative self-talk, try to treat yourself as you would a friend. It takes time but you can grow out of the habit.  Most people gravitate towards familiarity; rejection is not a comfortable feeling. So what do they do, they're gonna go back to the safety of familiarity. And that's why a lot of people don't take those big risks that are really necessary to learn. BEST MOMENTS   “That's all time management is – managing your own energy. When I had to manage my energy after going through a trauma, I didn't have time for the “problems”; I didn't have time to worry about those types of things. My life dramatically shifted after that and [my coaching] sessions shifted as well.” “If you believe that you're stuck, and you don't have time, then that's true.” “Every day is a redo. And that's the sort of grace that you can extend to yourself, not just other people.” “Lately, I've been trying to help this stray cat. She's so tiny and hungry. I've been trying to – I don't know what I'm doing, really. But I look at her, and I just think  “I wonder what her life is like” –  you know, she doesn't have anyone, she probably has never been touched. [There's]  something beautiful, like, trying to have a relationship with this cat, to where there's trust, and I think I feel more at peace, you know, fulfilling my purpose working with a stray cat, then I would, at any career endeavor.There's just something you know, just beautiful about being there with life.”  ABOUT THE GUEST  Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and organizations worldwide. After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore with clients the different perspectives that come with any profound, life-changing event.  If you aren't living, you're dying. It wasn't uncommon for Ryan to teeter on unconsciousness even, at times, while working with a client, which required him to prioritize his energy and time. He learned how to assist clients to do the same. Ryan enjoys his time with his family and animals. He finds peace near his favorite spots by the beach.  CONTACT METHOD  Ryan's website: https://rslindner.com/ On LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryan-lindner-96802266/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RyanLindnerCoaching/ Ryan's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryanlindnercoaching/ Buy Ryan's book, “The Half Lived Life”, on Indiebound https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781646636433 ABOUT THE HOST  The ‘Mighty Pete Lonton' from the ‘Mighty 247' company is your main host of ‘Fire in The Belly'.  Pete is an entrepreneur, mentor, coach, property Investor, and father of three beautiful girls. Pete's background is in project management and property, but his true passion is the ‘Fire in The Belly' project itself. His mission is to help others find their potential and become the mightiest version of themselves. Pete openly talks about losing both of his parents, suffering periods of depression, business downturn and burn-out, and ultimately his years spent not stoking ‘Fire in the Belly'. In 2017, at 37 years of age that changed, and he is now on a journey of learning, growing, accepting, and inspiring others. Pete can connect with people and intuitively asks questions to reveal a person's passion and discover how to live their mightiest life. The true power of ‘Fire in The Belly' is the Q&A's - Questions and Actions section.  The ‘Fire in The Belly' brand and the programme is rapidly expanding into podcasts, seminars, talks, business workshops, development courses, and rapid results mentoring. CONTACT METHOD https://www.facebook.com/mightypetelonton/ https://uk.linkedin.com/in/mightypete https://www.facebook.com/groups/430218374211579/  Support the show: https://www.facebook.com/groups/430218374211579/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I spoke with Ryan Lindner about his challenges with anxiety and how he helps others. RYAN'S LINKS Website: https://rslindner.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Ryan-Lindner-Coaching-106216448499307​​​​​​​ The Halk-Known Life: https://amzn.to/3LQhxps ___ Want to be a guest on the podcast? Sign up for PodMatch at https://podmatch.com/signup/marked4glory or email me at mark@marked4glory.com ___ Check out our website: https://www.marked4glory.com Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marked4glory Join our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marked4glory Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marked4glory Follow us on Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/marked4glory Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.marked4glory.com/youtube #disability #marked4glory #anxiety --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/m4gadvocacymedia/support

Today's guest is Ryan Lindner!  Ryan is a personal development specialist. Ryan has figured out how to prioritize his energy and time to get the best out of himself and his clients! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/tbospodcast/support

What is your view on personal development? In this segment, Ryan Lindner shares how to create a culture by onboarding people and not just roles. Onboarding is a critical component when bringing someone into an organization. See video here - https://youtu.be/OFJJYRW-3zw WHO IS RYAN? Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations all over the world. After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives with clients that come with any profound, life-changing event. If you aren't living, you're dying. It wasn't uncommon for Ryan to teeter on unconsciousness even, at times, while working with a client, requiring him to prioritize his own energy and time masterfully, and assisting clients to do the same. Ryan has conducted thousands of coaching sessions, has led operations for a major leadership and organizational change company, and manages learning and development projects for companies to reshape their customer experience. RYAN'S CALL TO ACTION I can hook listeners up with a free audiobook if they mention you or your podcast through my website! (on lasts for 1 week!) http://www.RSLindner.com http://www.HalfKnownLifeBook.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryan-lindner-96802266/ https://www.facebook.com/Ryan-Lindner-Coaching-106216448499307 GENESIS'S INFO https://genesisamariskemp.net/ CALL TO ACTION Subscribe to GEMS with Genesis Amaris Kemp Channel, Hit the notifications bell so you don't miss any content, and share with family/friends. **REMEMBER - You do not have to let limitations or barriers keep you from achieving your success. Mind over Matter...It's time to shift and unleash your greatest potential. If you would like to be a SPONSOR or have any of your merchandise mentioned, please reach out via email at GEMSwithGenesisAmarisKemp@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/genesis-amaris-kemp/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/genesis-amaris-kemp/support

The Don't Quit Podcast looks at how professionals work and how you can learn from them. This week's guest is Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations all over the world. Website: https://rslindner.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RyanLindnerCoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryan-lindner-96802266/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryanlindnercoaching/ — Support The Don't Quit Podcast by visiting TyypoPrints, making dreamers into achieves through motivational art prints. Use promo code: Podcast at the checkout to get 10% off your next print. Email the Host, Nick Mann, at Nick@TyypoPrints.com Check out the official The Don't Quit Podcast: TDQPodcast.com Follow the show on Instagram: @TDQPodcast Follow the host on Twitter @MannDesigner If you enjoyed this episode, please give a review on Apple Podcasts. Thank you for listening!

The Encouragement Engineering podcast offers listeners the ability to combat the negativity that inundates our daily lives with a positive perspective and positive actions. Our guest today is Ryan Lindner. Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist and author who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations all over the world. After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives with clients that come with any profound, life-changing event. If you aren't living, you're dying. It wasn't uncommon for Ryan to teeter on unconsciousness even, at times, while working with a client, requiring him to prioritize his own energy and time masterfully, and assisting clients to do the same. Ryan has conducted thousands of coaching sessions, has led operations for a major leadership and organizational change company, and manages learning and development projects for companies to reshape their customer experience. Listen as we discuss: Priorities Mindfulness Transitions Awesomeness Website: http://www.RSLindner.com http://www.HalfKnownLifeBook.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryan-lindner-96802266/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RyanLindnerCoaching/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryanlindnercoaching/

Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations all over the world. After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives with clients that come with any profound, life-changing event. If you aren't living, you're dying. It wasn't uncommon for Ryan to teeter on unconsciousness even, at times, while working with a client, requiring him to prioritize his own energy and time masterfully, and assist clients to do the same. https://rslindner.com/ https://fans.truefanz.com/RichLaMonica https://youtu.be/5ImWo3-80rI --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/richard-lamonica/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/richard-lamonica/support

Do you feel like your value comes from the roles you play? How often do you downplay your needs to care for what other people want? What does your internal dialogue sound like?In this podcast episode, I speak with Ryan Lindner about how to stop people-pleasing and start loving yourself. We discuss the importance of valuing yourself outside of what you do, and how caring for yourself allows you to care for others.Sign up for the FREE e-course to understand your eating disorder and embark on the road to recovery.SHOW NOTES: Click hereFollow me on Instagram @behind_the_bite_podcastVisit the website: www.behindthebitepodcast.com

Do you feel like your value comes from the roles you play? How often do you downplay your needs to care for what other people want? What does your internal dialogue sound like? In this podcast episode, I speak with Ryan Lindner about how to stop people-pleasing and start loving yourself. We discuss the importance of valuing yourself outside of what you do, and how caring for yourself allows you to care for others. Sign up for the FREE e-course to understand your eating disorder and embark on the road to recovery. SHOW NOTES: Click here Follow me on Instagram @behind_the_bite_podcast Visit the website: www.behindthebitepodcast.com

Do you feel like your value comes from the roles you play? How often do you downplay your needs to care for what other people want? What does your internal dialogue sound like?In this podcast episode, I speak with Ryan Lindner about how to stop people-pleasing and start loving yourself. We discuss the importance of valuing yourself outside of what you do, and how caring for yourself allows you to care for others.Sign up for the FREE e-course to understand your eating disorder and embark on the road to recovery.SHOW NOTES: Click hereFollow me on Instagram @behind_the_bite_podcastVisit the website: www.behindthebitepodcast.com

Do you feel like your value comes from the roles you play? How often do you downplay your needs to care for what other people want? What does your internal dialogue sound like? In this podcast episode, I speak with Ryan Lindner about how to stop people-pleasing and start loving yourself. We discuss the importance of valuing yourself outside of what you do, and how caring for yourself allows you to care for others. Sign up for the FREE e-course to understand your eating disorder and embark on the road to recovery. SHOW NOTES: Click here Follow me on Instagram @behind_the_bite_podcast Visit the website: www.behindthebitepodcast.com

Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist, and a behavioral coach.After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives. If you aren't living, you're dying.It wasn't uncommon for Ryan to teeter on unconsciousness even, at times, while working with a client, requiring him to prioritize his energy and time masterfully, and assisting clients to do the same. Ryan enjoys his time with his family and animals and finds peace near his favorite spots by the beach.Website rslindner.comhttps://www.instagram.com/ryanlindnercoachinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/ryan-lindner-96802266/https://www.facebook.com/RyanLindnerCoachingWe discuss real life topics, tools and tips on how to challenge and transform your thinking with no sugar added. Hope you will go on the journey with us as we grow, fail and get back up. Life is about challenges and learning how to overcome those challenges together. https://linktr.ee/Neenaperez#inspire #straighttalknosugaradded #straighttalk #trauma #transform #positivemindset #positivethinking #thinking #positive #CT #NY #speaker #challenge #women #men #mindset #influencer #influence #powerful #life #lifetopics #talkshow #talk #host #selflove #love #women #menSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/straight-talk-no-sugar-added-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Interactions Versus Transactions with Ryan LindnerEpisode 29: Show NotesWhen confronted with your own mortality, it's hard not to walk away with a profound new take on life. Our guest today is a consultant and coach, a personal development specialist, and an organizational change-maker. Ryan Lindner has had not one, but two near-death experiences and it is evident, through speaking with him, that he has come out the other side with unmatched wisdom. In our conversation with Ryan, he walks us through the science of first impressions and explains our need for meaningful interactions, rather than the transactions we've become accustomed to as a society. We learn about the power of presence, the important distinction between pivoting and multitasking, as well as the true nature of time management. Tune in for another inspiring installment of the Arista Wealth Podcast!Key Points From This Episode:Introducing Ryan Linder and the inspiring work he does to help people navigate change.The science of first impressions.The need for interactions over transactions.The power of presence.The difference between pivoting and multitasking.How Ryan's two unexpected near-death experiences changed his view on life.What time management is, essentially.How to circumvent defensiveness when sharing feedback.Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:Ryan LindnerRyan Lindner on LinkedInRyan Lindner on InstagramThe Half‑Known LifeThe Half-Known Life websiteArista Wealth Management Arista Wealth Management on FacebookArista Wealth Management on TwitterPaul Moffatt on LinkedInDavid Boyd on LinkedIn

 I interviewed Ryan Lindner. Ryan is an author, blogger, entrepreneur, a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations worldwide. As Ryan states, after two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives with clients that come with any profound, life-changing event. It wasn't uncommon for Ryan to teeter on unconsciousness even, at times, while working with a client, requiring him to prioritize his energy and time masterfully and assist clients in doing the same. Ryan enjoys his time with his family and animals and finds peace near his favorite spots by the beach. "If you aren't living, you're dying." I've interviewed over a hundred people for my podcast, and I can genuinely say that Ryan has a deep understanding of the art and power of living in the moment. You need to purchase his book, get into his world and become empowered to create the best you possible and change your world.I encourage every listener to follow him, gain insights from his teachings, and buy his books.  Everyone has a story, and this is his story.Below are the sites that house his workhttp://www.rslindner.com/https://www.facebook.com/RyanLindnerCoaching/https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryan-lindner-96802266/https://www.instagram.com/ryanlindnercoaching/Visit our Threads store:  https://threads-of-enlightenment.myshopify.com/ We shop worldwide to find some of the highest-quality and some limited hard-to-find products online for you. We work closely with many suppliers to get the lowest prices. Enjoy our store!!!!!!. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/threadsofenlightenmentt?fan_landing=true)

Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist who has worked as a behavioral coach for clients and top organizations all over the world. After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives with clients that come with any profound, life-changing event. If you aren't living, you're dying. It wasn't uncommon for Ryan to teeter on unconsciousness even, at times, while working with a client, requiring him to prioritize his own energy and time masterfully, and assisting clients to do the same. Ryan has conducted over 6,000 sessions for the US military, he has led operations for a major leadership and organizational change company, and manages learning and development projects for companies to reshape their customer experience. www.rslindner.com

Ryan Lindner is a personal development specialist, and a behavioral coach.After two sudden, unexplained cardiac arrests at a young age, he began to explore different perspectives. If you aren't living, you're dying.It wasn't uncommon for Ryan to teeter on unconsciousness even, at times, while working with a client, requiring him to prioritize his energy and time masterfully, and assisting clients to do the same. Ryan enjoys his time with his family and animals and finds peace near his favorite spots by the beach.Website rslindner.comhttps://www.instagram.com/ryanlindnercoachinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/ryan-lindner-96802266/https://www.facebook.com/RyanLindnerCoachingWe discuss real life topics, tools and tips on how to challenge and transform your thinking with no sugar added. Hope you will go on the journey with us as we grow, fail and get back up. Life is about challenges and learning how to overcome those challenges together. https://linktr.ee/Neenaperez#inspire #straighttalknosugaradded #straighttalk #trauma #transform #positivemindset #positivethinking #thinking #positive #CT #NY #speaker #challenge #women #men #mindset #influencer #influence #powerful #life #lifetopics #talkshow #talk #host #selflove #love #women #menSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/straight-talk-no-sugar-added-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy