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It was wonderful to have Ned Johnson back on the podcast to talk about his new workbook for parents. This is a companion book to “The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives”. We discuss the importance of having control as a protective factor in preventing youth mental health challenges, especially with anxiety and depression. Here are links to Ned Johnson and William Stixrud's other co-authored books: The Seven Principles for Raising Self-Driven Children – A Workbook The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their LivesWhat Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. You can follow Ned's Fabulous advice on his IG and Tik Tok: @theothernedjohnson And on LinkedIn here.Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I'll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm thrilled to welcome back two favorite podcast guests and just all-around wonderful humans, Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson. You might know them from their bestselling book The Self-Driven Child, which I often refer to on this show as one of the most important resources in my parenting life. Well, Bill and Ned have a new phenomenal resource that I can't wait to share with you — a workbook based on their beloved book called The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child.  Today's episode features a rich and deep conversation about some of the concepts they support parents in navigating in their new workbook, like why fostering autonomy is key to motivation, emotional well-being, and long-term success, why connection matters more than control, how to support our kids without trying to change them, and ways we can create a home environment that builds confidence and trust. They also share practical strategies for effective communication, including how to guide our kids through challenges without adding pressure or anxiety. As parents, it is scary to let go of control and to trust our kids to navigate their own problems, but as you'll hear in this conversation, this is exactly what they need to be motivated. We know we can't change them, but we can support them in finding the reason to change for themselves.   About William R. Stixrud, Ph.D William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives, What Do You Say: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home, and The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook. About Ned Johnson Ned Johnson is president and “tutor-geek” of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring and standardized test preparation. A battle-tested veteran of test prep, stress regulation and optimizing student performance, Ned has spent roughly 50,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests, learn to manage their anxiety, and develop their own motivation to succeed. Ned is the host of the The Self-Driven Child podcast. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Washington Post, NPR, The Guardian, Wall Street Journal, US News, Seventeen, and many others.   Things you'll learn Why empowering children with autonomy fosters their development, motivation, and ability to navigate their own reality Why connection matters more than control, and parents should act as supportive guides rather than enforcers The role of self-reflection, an understanding of different temperaments, and a willingness to listen without pressure in effective parenting (guiding) How to cultivate respectful environments where children feel safe to explore, make decisions, and learn from their experience Why raising self-driven children leads to the best outcomes for their lives as self-determined and self-actualized adults   Resources mentioned The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook by Dr. William Stixrud & Ned Johnson Ned Johnson / Prep Matters What Do You Say? How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home by Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Teens Overcome the Pressure and Succeed by Ned Johnson and Emily Warner Eskelsen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We've touched on the theory of self-determination on the show before, but today, I'm thrilled to dedicate an entire episode to this important topic. Joining me for this deeper dive is Dr. Gina Riley, an expert in self-determination theory and motivation. This conversation will resonate with so many of you because it beautifully ties into themes we often explore here, like low-demand parenting and fostering our kids' natural passions and strengths. In this episode, Gina explains the theory of self-determination and dives into the science behind why it's so impactful, particularly for neurodivergent kids. We explore how it connects with autonomy-supportive parenting and discuss the three tenets of cognitive evaluation theory, which examines what fosters intrinsic motivation. We also tackle the hot topic of whether extrinsic motivators like stickers and rewards have a place and how to genuinely connect with our kids' interests—even when they differ from our own.   About Dr. Gina Riley Gina Riley, Ph.D., is an educational psychologist, Program Director, and Clinical Professor of Adolescent Special Education at CUNY – Hunter College. She has conducted significant research on homeschooling and unschooling, an educational method and philosophy that advocates student intrinsic motivation as a primary means for learning. In addition to her research on self-directed learning environments, Dr. Riley has expertise in Supported Decision Making, an alternative to guardianship for students with disabilities. She is a faculty advisor for Supported Decision Making New York, promoting autonomy and self-determination for individuals with disabilities.  Dr.Riley also has extensive experience in online, hybrid, and HyFlex education, having been actively involved in the field since 1998. Her contributions to educational psychology and alternative education models have been influential in shaping contemporary discussions on personalized and flexible learning approaches. Dr. Riley is the author of numerous academic articles and three books, including Unschooling:Exploring Learning Beyond the Classroom (Palgrave, 2020), The Homeschooling Starter Guide (Simon & Schuster, 2021), and The Joys of Self Determined Learning: A Collection of Essays (Ricci Publishing, 2022). She is the current President-Elect of the New York State Association of Teacher Educators.   Things you'll learn from this episode What self-determination theory is, and how it's connected to intrinsic motivation Why a sense of competence, autonomy, and relatedness, as outlined in the cognitive evaluation theory, are crucial for motivation Why it matters that parents focus on facilitating autonomy and decision-making in their children What the science says about how and why intrinsic motivation leads to better academic and social outcomes in adulthood How intrinsic and extrinsic motivations can coexist and why it's important that they're balanced   Resources mentioned Dr. Gina Riley's website Gina on Instagram Gina on Twitter Unschooling: Exploring Learning Beyond the Classroom by Dr. Gina Riley The Homeschooling Starter Guide: How to Create and Adapt the Best Education Action Plan for Your Needs by Dr. Gina Riley NYS Decision Making Curriculum (free decision making curriculum for schools and homeschools I Will Die on This Hill: Autistic Adults, Autism Parents, and the Children Who Deserve a Better World by Meghan Ashburn and Jules Edwards Meghan Ashburn and Jules Edwards on Autistic Adults, Autism Parents, and the Children Who Deserve a Better World (Tilt Parenting podcast) Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Dan Pink The intrinsic motivation of Richard Ryan and Edward Deci The Self-Driven Child, with William Stixrud and Ned Johnson (Tilt Parenting podcast) The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Part 2 with Dr Ned Johnson where we discuss strategies for motivating children to do chores and homework, such as involving them in decision-making and offering support rather than control. We also talk about the big picture---where we hope to form strong relationships with our children, and also have children who grow into independent, self-reliant adults.  The conversation concludes with the reminder that the time spent with children during their upbringing is crucial and should be focused on building trust, support, and independence. Ned Johnson is an author, speaker, and founder of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test preparation.   Ned coaches clients to manage their anxiety, and find the motivation to reach their full potential.  In 2006, Ned co-authored the book Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Students Overcome the Pressure and Succeed, which tackles the outsized role anxiety plays in standardized testing. With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives and “What Do You Say?: How to Talk With Kids to Promote Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home”.   Aa sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. Dr Jessica Hochman is a board certified pediatrician, mom to three children, and she is very passionate about the health and well being of children. Most of her educational videos are targeted towards general pediatric topics and presented in an easy to understand manner. Do you have a future topic you'd like Dr Jessica Hochman to discuss? Email Dr Jessica Hochman askdrjessicamd@gmail.com. Follow her on Instagram: @AskDrJessicaSubscribe to her YouTube channel! Ask Dr JessicaSubscribe to this podcast: Ask Dr JessicaSubscribe to her mailing list: www.askdrjessicamd.comThe information presented in Ask Dr Jessica is for general educational purposes only. She does not diagnose medical conditions or formulate treatment plans for specific individuals. If you have a concern about your child's health, be sure to call your child's health care provider.

Episode 153 with Ned Johnson, co-author of 'The Self-Driven Child'  discusses the importance of giving children autonomy and control over their own decisions. He explains that a low sense of control is the most stressful thing a person can experience and can lead to anxiety and other negative outcomes. Johnson emphasizes the need for parents to shift from protecting their children to helping them protect themselves, allowing them to develop problem-solving skills and resilience. He also highlights the importance of being a "non-anxious presence" in our children's lives.  To help them, consider playing the role of a "consultant" and validating children's feelings, rather than immediately jumping in to solve their problems.  Ned Johnson is an author, speaker, and founder of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test preparation.   Ned coaches clients to manage their anxiety, and find the motivation to reach their full potential.  In 2006, Ned co-authored the book Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Students Overcome the Pressure and Succeed, which tackles the outsized role anxiety plays in standardized testing. With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives and “What Do You Say?: How to Talk With Kids to Promote Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home”.  Aa sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. Dr Jessica Hochman is a board certified pediatrician, mom to three children, and she is very passionate about the health and well being of children. Most of her educational videos are targeted towards general pediatric topics and presented in an easy to understand manner. Do you have a future topic you'd like Dr Jessica Hochman to discuss? Email Dr Jessica Hochman askdrjessicamd@gmail.com. Follow her on Instagram: @AskDrJessicaSubscribe to her YouTube channel! Ask Dr JessicaSubscribe to this podcast: Ask Dr JessicaSubscribe to her mailing list: www.askdrjessicamd.comThe information presented in Ask Dr Jessica is for general educational purposes only. She does not diagnose medical conditions or formulate treatment plans for specific individuals. If you have a concern about your child's health, be sure to call your child's health care provider.

This week, Kaity and Adriane chatted with Ned Johnson, co-author of "The Self-Driven Child" and "What Do You Say?" about healthy brain development. Episode 42  explores:

In today's episode, join me in a thought-provoking conversation with Ned Johnson, author of several books and founder of PrepMatters. We delve into crucial parenting topics, sharing insights from his book, "The Self-Driven Child." Your journey to understanding and empowering your child begins here, tune in!BioNed Johnson is the founder of PrepMatters, an educational company that helps students find success in high school and get into and through college. A professional “tutor-geek” since 1993, Ned has spent more than 50,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests, learn to manage their anxiety, and develop their own motivation to succeed.    With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives and What Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. He is the host of the The Self-Driven Child podcast and his work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. Follow Ned on LinkedIn, visit The Self-Driven Child Website, and click to listen to The Self-Driven Child Podcast.Become part of Signet's Parent Support Community here!Access free resources and learn more about Sheila and her team at Signet Education at signeteducation.com or on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/sheilaakbar/.

On episode 206 we talk about autonomy and motivation. In a world where autonomy is key to motivation and engagement, how do we navigate this with our children, especially those who are neurodivergent? Today, we're exploring the vital role of independence and control in fostering engagement and motivation, not just in kids, but in all of us. Joining us is Ned Johnson, founder of PrepMatters and co-author of The Self-Driven Child, and What Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. If you're a teacher and not yet a member of the Neurodiversity University Educator Hub, we'll be opening up registration in January. It will only be open for a limited time, so make sure you're notified when it happens. Sign up here. Ned Johnson is the founder of PrepMatters, an educational company that helps students find success in high school and in getting into college. A professional “tutor-geek” since 1993, Ned has spent more than 50,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests, learn to manage their anxiety, and develop their own motivation to succeed. He co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives and What Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home with Dr. William Stixrud. Ned is the host of the The Self-Driven Child podcast and his work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. BACKGROUND READING The Self-Driven Child website TikTok Instagram X, formerly Twitter

Many times I hear parents wanting to spark that internal motivation in their children to learn, acquire new skills, and be kind. But how do you do this?In this episode, you will learn what is intrinsic motivation, is external motivation bad? and how to support your children's internal motivation and how early you can do this.Additional relevant episodes :#36 Beyond Sticker Charts; How to Wisely Use External Motivators and Rewards?#32 "Roaring with Compassion: discovering parenting styles"#17 How To Form Healthy Habits And Raise Calmer Kids? With Michelle ColeThis episode is based on the following resources:The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Raising Kids Who Love to Learn by William Stixrud and Ned JohnsonHow to Raise Internally Motivated Children by Amy WrzesniewskiLee W, Reeve J, Xue Y, Xiong J. " Neural differences between intrinsic reasons for doing versus extrinsic reasons for doing: an fMRI study." Neurosci Res. 2012;73(1):68-72. doi:10.1016/j.neures.2012.02.010Want to join an online  Parent Talk?Join the waiting listAs a certified parent coach, I can help you own your parenting style! Want to connect? Book your free 30-minute session Leave a message Instagram Join the Bonding Boost Newsletter (We'll keep it short & sweet)!

Ravi sits down with William Stixrud, PhD and Ned Johnson to discuss lessons learned from their book The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control over Their Lives. Listen in for William and Ned's insights about stepping back as parents to let your children navigate the world with confidence and find their own path.

Special guest: Dr. William Stixrud. Are we raising an anxious generation? Many would agree that we are. The causes of the uptick in anxiety among children has started to be discussed—even within our podcast- we have talked with Jessica Lahey and our obsession with grades and our focus on avoiding failure at all costs. We have talked with Julie Lythcott Haims about the bubble-wrapping of our children that leaves them unprepared for a life that we deliver them to at the age of 18—a life in which they don't have the skills, yes, but also where they don't have the resilience or the confidence to take it on. In The Self-Driven Child, authors William Stixrud and Ned Johnson continue this conversation—focusing specifically on the ways that children today are being denied a sense of controlling their own lives—doing what they find meaningful, and succeeding or failing on their own, and on their own terms. While screen time and technology certainly are part of the problem, the real issues lie with us—the parents and the teachers—who have their hearts in the right place but are nevertheless, taking the opportunities away from children that would allow them to grow stronger, more confident, more autonomous, more competent-- and more themselves.  William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist, frequent lecturer, presenter, author and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. You will also see him featured for his expertise in publications such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron's, and, New York Magazine. And—fun fact- Dr. Stixrud also happens to be a musician who plays in a band! The post How to Talk to Kids about Being Self-Driven, Self-Motivated & Self-Controlled with Dr. William Stixrud – ReRelease appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

Special guest: Dr. William Stixrud. Are we raising an anxious generation? Many would agree that we are. The causes of the uptick in anxiety among children has started to be discussed—even within our podcast- we have talked with Jessica Lahey and our obsession with grades and our focus on avoiding failure at all costs. We have talked with Julie Lythcott Haims about the bubble-wrapping of our children that leaves them unprepared for a life that we deliver them to at the age of 18—a life in which they don't have the skills, yes, but also where they don't have the resilience or the confidence to take it on. In The Self-Driven Child, authors William Stixrud and Ned Johnson continue this conversation—focusing specifically on the ways that children today are being denied a sense of controlling their own lives—doing what they find meaningful, and succeeding or failing on their own, and on their own terms. While screen time and technology certainly are part of the problem, the real issues lie with us—the parents and the teachers—who have their hearts in the right place but are nevertheless, taking the opportunities away from children that would allow them to grow stronger, more confident, more autonomous, more competent-- and more themselves.  William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist, frequent lecturer, presenter, author and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. You will also see him featured for his expertise in publications such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron's, and, New York Magazine. And—fun fact- Dr. Stixrud also happens to be a musician who plays in a band! The post How to Talk to Kids about Being Self-Driven, Self-Motivated & Self-Controlled with Dr. William Stixrud – ReRelease appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

In episode 3 of The KindlED Podcast, hosts Kaity Broadbent and Adriane Thompson talk with Bill Stixrud, co-author of "The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control over Their Lives."Dr. William (Bill) R. Stixrud is a clinical neuropsychologist, founder of The Stixrud Group, a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center, and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. He is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the bestseller "The Self-Driven Child." He is also a frequent lecturer on adolescent brain development, stress & more.

In this episode, Ned and I discuss the “parent as consultant” way of approaching raising children. It's important to not solve all your kids' problems, they need to build those skills themselves to face issues in a constructive and thoughtful way. We also discuss stress and how we all need to learn how to deal with it. As a parent, guardian or teacher, we all need to model self-care to manage our stress levels so our children can watch, learn and mimic that behavior.The topics we cover in this episode are:Why it's important for kids to feel a sense of controlBeing the parent and a consultantHow important play isWhy you should let young people solve their own problemsHow to be that non-anxious presence in a Child's lifeRemaining calm in stressful situationsUnderstanding that your kids want their lives to be great tooAbout The Guest - Ned JohnsonNed Johnson is an author, speaker, and founder of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test preparation. A professional “tutor-geek” since 1993 and battle-tested veteran of test prep, stress regulation and student performance, Ned has spent nearly 50,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests, learn to manage their anxiety, and develop their own motivation to succeed. With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives and What Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. Ned is the host of the PrepTalks podcast: conversations with parenting and education experts. A sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. Website - theselfdrivenchild.comInstagram - @theothernedjohnsonNed's Resource - Top 10 Tips from The Self-Driven Child: https://prepmatters.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/SDC_Talk_Handout-1.pdfAbout The Host - Janine HalloranJanine Halloran is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, an author, a speaker, an entrepreneur and a mom. As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Janine has been working primarily with children and adolescents for over 15 years. She loves to create products and resources, so she started two businesses to support families and professionals who work with children and teens. ‘Coping Skills for Kids' provides products and resources to help kids learn to cope with their feelings in safe and healthy ways. It's the home of the popular Coping Cue Cards, decks of cards designed to help kids learn and use coping skills at home or at school. Janine's second business ‘Encourage Play' is dedicated to helping kids learn and practice social skills in the most natural way - through play! Encourage Play has free printables, as well as digital products focused on play and social skills.Coping Skills for Kids - https://copingskillsforkids.comEncourage Play - https://www.encourageplay.comInterested in reading my books? The Coping Skills for Kids Workbook - https://store.copingskillsforkids.com/collections/coping-skills-for-kids-workbook/products/coping-skills-for-kids-workbook-digital-versionSocial Skills for Kids - https://store.copingskillsforkids.com/collections/encourage-play/products/social-skills-for-kids-workbook Connect with Janine on Social MediaInstagram: @copingskillsforkidsFacebook: facebook.com/copingskillsforkids and facebook.com/encourageplayYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JanineHalloranEncouragePlay

You love your kids, so you probably spend a lot of time worrying about them. Not knowing what your child's future has in store can make you feel anxious and tense. But remember–secondary education and careers rarely go according to plan. Yet things almost always work out better than we could have imagined! Today's episode includes a reading from the book The Self Driven Child. The authors, Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, have spent their entire careers counseling and tutoring gifted and struggling students. You'll learn that keeping an open mind about the path to a successful life will help both you and your kid feel happier and less stressed. The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives, by William Stixtrud PhD & Ned Johnson --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/everydaystrong/message

We are honored to have Dr. Bill Stixrud as our guest today. Dr. Stixrud is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of the The Stixrud Group. He is the co-author of the national bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. Diana and Dr. Stixrud discuss the false assumptions that self-driven children of affluent families face. They discuss the benefits of medication and other behavioral strategies for children with ADD and ADHD, as well as how neuropsych testing can help kids be more confident and successful in school. Dr. Stixrud gives advice on how parents can have high expectations yet  still allow their kids to be successful in their own  way.    IN THIS EPISODE:    [01:40] What does a neuropsychologist do and what neuropsych tests tell about children  and their skills?  [04:03] False assumptions about self-driven children and perfect educational pathways.  [10:50] The balance between high expectations and high support for children to be successful.  [13:01] How neuropsych testing can help kids be more successful in school.  [16:23] Does medication for ADD and ADHD work?  [19:57] Other behavioral strategies for those diagnosed with ADHD.    KEY TAKEAWAYS:     Many children of affluent families in high achieving schools don't feel as close to their parents. We recommend, more than anything else, that parents spend time alone with each one of their kids.  Parents must balance their expectations. Express confidence in your children to let them know they can do something really interesting in this world and let them know you'll support them however you can. Don't weigh children down with the idea that somehow there's only one path for them. If children are  suffering from ADD or ADHD, or it's holding them back from being successful in school, try medication. See how it works for your child, and then decide whether to continue to use it or not.    BIO:  William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a faculty member at Children's National Medical Center and an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. He is  the co-author, with Ned Johnson, of the national bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives, and of their new book, What do You Say? Talking with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. Dr. Stixrud's work has been featured in media outlets such as NPR, CNN, MSNBC, The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron's, and New York Magazine. He is a long-time practitioner of Transcendental Meditation, and he plays in the rock band, Close Enough.    The Stixrud Group Website    The Self-Driven Child Website    Prep Talks Podcast Website 

In this episode, we're talking about why it's important for kids to have a sense of control.    Why do we feel the need to control things as parents? And is it necessary for our kids to feel like they have control too? If we're not giving some control to our kids, then they're not gaining confidence and learning to do things for themselves.   Joining me for this conversation is Dr. William R. Stixrud, a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives.   He is a frequent lecturer and workshop presenter and the author of several articles and book chapters on topics related to adolescent brain development, stress and sleep deprivation, integration of the arts in education, and meditation.    His work has been featured in publications such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron's, and, New York Magazine.    Listen in as we talk about: [2:25] Why we as parents and kids need control [8:00] How to help our kids find their own motivation [11:05] Tips for parents who feel like it's too late to make changes [16:30] Why it's okay to let our kids “fail” [20:28] What happiness means to young people Resources mentioned in this episode: Self Driven Child By William Stixrud, PhD and Ned Johnson Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck What Do You Say? By William Stixrud, PhD and Ned Johnson   Notes from Natalie: Sign Up for Natalie's Newsletter  Try Canva Pro for free here: https://www.natalietysdal.com/favorites Collaborate here!   Connect with Dr. William Stixrud   Self-Driven Child Facebook Group https://www.selfdrivenchild.com   https://stixrud.com    Connect with Natalie Tysdal On Instagram On YouTube On Facebook Website

Parenting often feels like we're carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders. We focus more on the things we think we have to control, rather than the things that bring us joy.  Today is a continuation of last week's episode about coaching our kids instead of controlling them. Dr. Bill Stixrud is a neuropsychologist whose take on adolescent brain development could have a significant shift on how you show up and help to support your child. He discusses how the sense of autonomy—not full control, but some amount of knowing that what you do matters—can actually raise the feelings of motivation, and create resilience and hope in both us and our kids. Watch the full clip. How to Find What You Love, Love What You Do, and Do It for the Rest of Your Life, by Marcus Buckingham. The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control over Their Lives, by William Stixrud and Ned Johnson. Don't forget to check out Our Favorite Things—A Resource Guide! As always, I'd love to hear from you! Subscribe, leave a review, or follow PG-ish on IG @pgishparenting, or you can always find me at www.pgishparenting.com.

For parents, there are always anxieties looming on the horizon, constant concerns about our kids' futures—and we feel the pressure of needing to fix all of it. But what would happen if we took a different approach? What if instead of trying to control everything, we gave our kids autonomy and simply walked calmly beside them? The ideas that Ned Johnson presents today could be transformative in helping us truly nurture and enjoy our kids, and giving them the tools they need to grow into a confident adult. Don't forget to vote for me in Podcast Magazine's 3rd Annual Top Moms in Podcasting! Watch the full clip, and learn more at thenedjohnson.com. Check out his book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control over Their Lives. Our Favorite Things—A Resource Guide. As always, I'd love to hear from you! Subscribe, leave a review, or follow PG-ish on IG @pgishparenting, or you can always find me at www.pgishparenting.com.

Host: Sophia Kornienko, writer/ animation artist/ unschooling mom Co-hosts: Martha Skinner, former professor of architecture, artist who works together with her daughter, now a young adultMarta Obiols Llistar, unschooling mom of three, educator, author of the book 18, An Unschooling ExperienceResources:William Stixrud, Ned Johnson. The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives, Penguin Books, 2019.Martha Skinner's TEDx Talk: The Exponential Power of Design https://tedxgreenville.com/portfolio/martha-skinner/Jenny Odell, How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy. Penguin Random House, 2020.Learn Transcendental Meditation https://www.tm.org/learn-tm

Host: Sophia Kornienko, writer/ animation artist/ unschooling mom Co-hosts: Martha Skinner, former professor of architecture, artist who works together with her daughter, now a young adultMarta Obiols Llistar, unschooling mom of three, educator, author of the book 18, An Unschooling ExperienceResources:Edwin H. Friedman, Margaret M. Treadwell, Edward W. Beal. “A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix”, Church Publishing, Inc., 2007.Robert Epstein. What Makes a Good Parent? Scientific American Mind, Special Collectors Edition. Raise Great Kids: How to Help Them Thrive in School and Life. Vol. 25, No.2, summer 2016. William Stixrud, Ned Johnson. The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives, Penguin Books, 2019.Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged. 1957.Jean Liedloff. The Continuum Concept, Da Capo Press, 1975.

Joe and Phyllis are joined by special guest Ned Johnson as they discuss how to use our understanding of young adolescents' development to help drive intrinsic motivation, develop executive functioning skills, and promote positive behavior. Ned Johnson is the founder of PrepMatters, a tutoring and educational advising company in Washington, DC, and the co-author with Dr. William Stixrud of What Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives, and of Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Teens Overcome the Pressure and Succeed.

Click for full show notes, exercises, and parenting scripts from this episodeEnforcing rules on teens is no easy task. Half the time they ignore you, sometimes they lie to you, and they love to find plenty of reasons to do the exact opposite of what you asked! As they gain independence, teens just don't want to abide by your rules...even if they're living in your house.Plus, as much as we want kids to listen to us and take us seriously as authority figures...gosh dang it, we want them to like us! We know that it's important to give kids restrictions and limits, but it's hard to see why when they're slamming the door and screaming at us for taking their XBox away. To be a parent is to constantly walk that fine line between being close to your kid and knowing when it's time to be tough….and it can be really hard!Luckily, William Stixrud and Ned Johnson are back to give us more great advice on finding that parenting balance. They were last on the show to discuss their bestseller, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives.  Today, they're here to share some groundbreaking material from their brand new book, What Do You Say? How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance and a Happy Home. Although they're big believers in giving kids autonomy, Bill and Ned know that parents still have an irreplaceable role in guiding kids through the perils of adolescence. That's why we're discussing how parents can best respond to a child who comes to them with a crisis. Plus, we're debating the idea that kids should always “try their best” and revealing how you can start equipping kids with the independence they need to survive college and beyond.Click for full show notes, exercises, and parenting scripts from this episode

In this episode of "Keen On", Andrew is joined by Ned Johnson, one of the authors of "What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home", to discuss delivering constructive feedback to kids; boundaries around technology; sleep and kids' brains; the anxiety of current events; and family problem-solving. Ned Johnson is an author, speaker, and founder of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test preparation. A professional “tutor-geek” since 1993, Ned has spent nearly 40,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests and honing his insightful interpersonal skills. A battle-tested veteran of test prep, stress regulation and student performance, Ned coaches clients to manage their anxiety and find the motivation to reach their full potential. In 2006, Ned co-authored the book Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Students Overcome the Pressure and Succeed, which tackles the outsized role anxiety plays in standardized testing. With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. Their book explores how fostering children's autonomy can help solve two challenges endemic to kids today: facing anxiety and developing intrinsic motivation. Ned is a sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's episode, I sit down with Ned Johnson, author, speaker, and founder of PrepMatters, for a Q&A surrounding the principles of raising a self-driven child.   This conversation was recorded in my membership, where community members were able to ask Ned their questions.    Ned also talks about the book he co-authored with Bill Stixrud called What Do You Say? How to Talk to Kids to Promote Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. The book is now available for order.    Listen in as we talk about: Is there anything really worth fighting about with our kids? Why approaching situations peacefully helps everyone come to a better solution How to encourage your kids to pursue their passions in this time Ways to support your kids without undermining their autonomy Tips to help neuro-diverse children when feeling unaccomplished or frustrated   Resources mentioned in the episode:  Purchase his new book What Do You Say with co-author Bill Stixrud here Purchase The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives Free to Learn: Why Unleashing the Instinct to Play Will Make Our Children Happier, More Self-Reliant, and Better Students for Life by Peter Gray   A professional “tutor-geek” since 1993 and battle-tested veteran of test prep, stress regulation and student performance, Ned has spent nearly more than 40,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests, learning and honing his insightful interpersonal skills. Ned coaches clients to manage their anxiety, and find the motivation to reach their full potential.     In 2006, Ned co-authored the book Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Students Overcome the Pressure and Succeed, which tackles the outsized role anxiety plays in standardized testing. With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives and “What Do You Say?: How to Talk With Kids to Promote Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home”, due out August 17.    Their book explores how fostering children's autonomy can help solve two challenges endemic to kids today: facing anxiety and developing intrinsic motivation. Ned is also the host of the PrepTalks podcast: conversations with parenting and education experts. Aa sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, and The Wall Street Journal.   Connect with Ned On Instagram On Twitter On LinkedIn On Facebook Prep Talks Podcast www.prepmatters.com   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

Not ready for school to start? Has school already started and you already need a reset? A little late in the prepping like me!? In this episode I have offer a few tips on how to get your year started off on the right foot - whether you are a student, a parent/guardian or a teacher. As promised, here is the link to the MilSpouse Mastermind Show and how you can create a whole month's worth of meals in 1 day!MilSpouse MastermindEpisode 19 - For ALL Listeners!Do You Struggle to Get Dinner On the Table When Your Active Duty Spouse is Gone?? Here's The Secret! - MilSpouse MastermindThe Self-Driven Child (not an affiliated link)The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives: Stixrud PhD, William, Johnson, Ned: 9780735222519: Amazon.com: Books

Communication in general is hard. Communication with kids is even harder. What do you say to your kids when you want to motivate them, get them to listen and cooperate without resorting to begging, scolding, lecturing, ordering, and threatening? Authors of the fantastic book The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives Ned Johnson and Dr. William Stixrud are on the show today to talk about their new book: What Do You Say:How to talk to kids to build motivation, stress tolerance and a happy home.  OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY ENJOY   Ep. 251: How To Raise a Self-Driven Child with Dr. Stixrud Ep. 260: Parenting with Presence with Dr. Dan Siegel Ep. 278.:What Kids Need Most From You with Anna Seewald Ep.238: The Secret to Getting Kids to Listen and Cooperate  Ep. 167: (Coaching) How to Curb Back-Talk, Teach Respect and Responsibility without Punishments      BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now.   FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast    ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services.  I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)    YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

In this week's episode, I sit down with Ned Johnson, author, speaker, and founder of PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test preparation.     Ned's books have helped me through so many parts of my parenting journey and I share some of the stories in this conversation.   Listen in as we talk about: Why parents are so afraid to give their kids more control What a self driven child is How giving kids control helps them to be self motivated Tips for parents to manage their anxiety when it comes to their kids' choices Tips to help your kids see the bigger picture   A professional “tutor-geek” since 1993 and battle-tested veteran of test prep, stress regulation and student performance, Ned has spent nearly more than 40,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests, learning and honing his insightful interpersonal skills. Ned coaches clients to manage their anxiety, and find the motivation to reach their full potential.     In 2006, Ned co-authored the book Conquering the SAT: How Parents Can Help Students Overcome the Pressure and Succeed, which tackles the outsized role anxiety plays in standardized testing. With Dr. William Stixrud, Ned co-authored The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives and “What Do You Say?: How to Talk With Kids to Promote Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home”, due out August 17.    Their book explores how fostering children's autonomy can help solve two challenges endemic to kids today: facing anxiety and developing intrinsic motivation. Ned is also the host of the PrepTalks podcast: conversations with parenting and education experts. Aa sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others.    Resources mentioned in the episode:  Pre-Order his new book What Do You Say with co-author Bill Stixrud here Purchase Hunt, Gather, Parent by ​​Michaeleen Doucleff  Purchase 50 Dangerous Things You Should Let Your Children Do by Gever Tulley   Connect with Ned On Instagram On Twitter On LinkedIn On Facebook Prep Talks Podcast www.prepmatters.com   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   On Instagram On Facebook https://www.sarahrosensweet.com 

Marc Sims speaks with Ned Johnson president and founder of PrepMatters, and co-author of The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. http://www.theselfdrivenchild.com

Special guest: Dr. William Stixrud. Are we raising an anxious generation? Many would agree that we are. The causes of the uptick in anxiety among children has started to be discussed—even within our podcast- we have talked with Jessica Lahey and our obsession with grades and our focus on avoiding failure at all costs. We have talked with Julie Lythcott Haims about the bubble-wrapping of our children that leaves them unprepared for a life that we deliver them to at the age of 18—a life in which they don't have the skills, yes, but also where they don't have the resilience or the confidence to take it on. In The Self-Driven Child, authors William Stixrud and Ned Johnson continue this conversation—focusing specifically on the ways that children today are being denied a sense of controlling their own lives—doing what they find meaningful, and succeeding or failing on their own, and on their own terms. While screen time and technology certainly are part of the problem, the real issues lie with us—the parents and the teachers—who have their hearts in the right place but are nevertheless, taking the opportunities away from children that would allow them to grow stronger, more confident, more autonomous, more competent-- and more themselves.  William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist, frequent lecturer, presenter, author and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. You will also see him featured for his expertise in publications such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron's, and, New York Magazine. And—fun fact- Dr. Stixrud also happens to be a musician who plays in a band! The post How to Talk to Kids about Being Self-Driven, Self-Motivated & Self-Controlled with Dr. William Stixrud appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.

Special guest: Dr. William Stixrud. Are we raising an anxious generation? Many would agree that we are. The causes of the uptick in anxiety among children has started to be discussed—even within our podcast- we have talked with Jessica Lahey and our obsession with grades and our focus on avoiding failure at all costs. We have talked with Julie Lythcott Haims about the bubble-wrapping of our children that leaves them unprepared for a life that we deliver them to at the age of 18—a life in which they don't have the skills, yes, but also where they don't have the resilience or the confidence to take it on. In The Self-Driven Child, authors William Stixrud and Ned Johnson continue this conversation—focusing specifically on the ways that children today are being denied a sense of controlling their own lives—doing what they find meaningful, and succeeding or failing on their own, and on their own terms. While screen time and technology certainly are part of the problem, the real issues lie with us—the parents and the teachers—who have their hearts in the right place but are nevertheless, taking the opportunities away from children that would allow them to grow stronger, more confident, more autonomous, more competent-- and more themselves.  William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist, frequent lecturer, presenter, author and founder of The Stixrud Group. He is a member of the teaching faculty at Children's National Medical Center and an assistant professor of psychiatry and pediatrics at the George Washington University School of Medicine. Additionally, Dr. Stixrud is the author, with Ned Johnson, of the nationally bestselling book, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. You will also see him featured for his expertise in publications such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Times of London, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine, Scientific American, Business Week, Barron's, and, New York Magazine. And—fun fact- Dr. Stixrud also happens to be a musician who plays in a band! The post How to Talk to Kids about Being Self-Driven, Self-Motivated & Self-Controlled with Dr. William Stixrud appeared first on drrobynsilverman.com.