Podcasts about self determination theory

The first few lessons give us an opportunity to build the foundations for a classroom where students feel connected, capable and have a sense of ownership over their language learning journey.In this episode, we look at how we can apply the principles of Self-Determination Theory to those crucial first two weeks of the school year. What can we do to develop relatedness? How can we create a sense of belonging? How can we give students meaningful choices and help them feel competent from the very beginning?This episode explores how we can intentionally create the conditions for motivation to take root and grow right from the start. Full programme notes are available on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.liamprinter.com/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Keep in touch and share!Follow The Motivated Classroom on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@themotivatedclassroom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@themotivatedclassroom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.I'd love to know what you think, please get in touch! Join the conversation with the hashtag #MotivatedClassroom.Leave a review on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Enjoying the free content? Support the podcast here:

Summary Hybrid work isn't simply about where people are most productive. New research shows that working remotely tends to satisfy our need for autonomy, while office days strengthen our sense of connection, with both playing a vital role in sustaining motivation. Rather than debating attendance, effective leaders intentionally design office days for collaboration and relationship building, and remote days for focused, independent work.   Transcript Hello and welcome to episode 234 of the Leadership Today podcast, where each week we share practical tips to improve your leadership. This week we look at the hidden motivation trade-off in hybrid work. The debate about hybrid work often comes down to a single question: where are people most productive? Are they better off working from home or in the office? While that's an understandable question, new research suggests it may not be the most helpful one. Instead of asking where people work best, perhaps we should be asking which psychological needs are being met in each environment. A recent diary study published in the European Journal of Work and Organizational Psychology followed 187 employees over ten working days, collecting almost 3,000 daily observations. Rather than simply measuring productivity or job satisfaction, the researchers looked at three fundamental psychological needs identified in Self-Determination Theory: autonomy, competence and relatedness. Autonomy is our need to feel we have choice and control over our work. Competence is our need to feel capable and effective. Relatedness is our need to feel connected to other people. These three needs are important because they underpin high-quality motivation. When they're met, people are more likely to feel engaged, energised and willing to contribute. When they're frustrated, motivation tends to become more controlled, draining and less sustainable. The findings paint a much more nuanced picture of hybrid work than many headlines suggest. On remote workdays, employees experienced greater autonomy. They felt they had more control over how they structured their work and, importantly, they maintained their energy better throughout the day. The researchers found that this greater sense of autonomy was associated with lower declines in energy during the afternoon and evening. However, there was a trade-off. On office days, employees experienced greater relatedness. They felt more connected to the people around them. While office work didn't provide the same autonomy benefits, it did satisfy an equally important psychological need to belong. This suggests that the question isn't whether remote work is better than office work, or vice versa. Each environment appears to support different aspects of motivation. For leaders, this changes the conversation. Rather than arguing about how many days people should be in the office, we should be asking what each day is designed to achieve. If someone comes into the office simply to spend eight hours attending virtual meetings with headphones on, they've probably lost much of the autonomy of working from home without gaining the connection that office work can provide. Likewise, if someone works remotely every day without meaningful interaction, they may enjoy greater independence but gradually lose the sense of belonging that helps teams perform well over time. The best hybrid leaders think less about attendance and more about purpose. Office days should be designed around the activities that benefit most from human connection. Coaching conversations, creative problem-solving, mentoring, relationship building, onboarding new team members and tackling complex issues together are all likely to benefit from being face-to-face. Remote days, on the other hand, can be protected for focused work, thoughtful analysis, writing, planning and tasks that benefit from uninterrupted concentration and greater flexibility. This research also reminds us that motivation isn't like one bucket that we are either filling or depleting. Motivation is shaped by the environment leaders create. We influence motivation every time we decide how work is organised, how meetings are scheduled and how much choice people have over the way they complete their work. There are three practical areas you can consider this week. First, look at your team's calendar. Are office days genuinely designed around collaboration and connection, or are people simply working alone in a different location? Second, think about remote work. Are people given enough autonomy to benefit from working remotely, or have online meetings gradually filled every available hour? Finally, ask your team a simple question: "When do you feel most energised during your working week?" Their answers may tell you far more than another debate about office attendance. The key takeaway is that hybrid work isn't primarily a location challenge. It's a motivation design challenge. Remote work tends to support autonomy. Office work tends to support connection. Great leaders understand that both needs matter, and they intentionally design work so their people experience the benefits of each. As always the reference we used is in the show notes. If you did enjoy this episode, please take a few moments to rate and review it on your preferred podcast player - that helps others to find it. Have a great week.   Reference Olafsen, A. H., Kujanpää, M., Stenling, A., Tafvelin, S., & Bentzen, M. (2026). Daily need experiences across office and remote workdays. 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- Hva driver oss som mennesker?Hvorfor gjør vi det vi gjør?Hva er det som får noen mennesker til å jobbe sent på kvelden, ikke fordi de må – men fordi de vil? Hva er det som driver noen til å trene hver dag, lære seg et nytt språk, skrive bøker, bygge organisasjoner, løpe maraton – uten noen ytre belønning i sikte? Og hvorfor slutter vi ofte å bry oss når noen begynner å betale oss for noe vi tidligere gjorde med glede og engasjement?I dag skal vi dykke ned i noe som er både dypt menneskelig og samtidig forbausende vanskelig å forstå: motivasjon.Vi lever i en tid hvor alt skal måles – i karakterer, klikk, kroner og kalorier. Som Helge Thorbjørnsen skriver i boka Tallskalle, risikerer vi å gjøre tallene viktigere enn menneskene. I vår iver etter å optimalisere og effektivisere, reduserer vi ofte komplekse menneskelige drivkrefter til enkle systemer med belønning og straff. Men hva om disse mekanismene ikke bare er utilstrekkelige – men direkte kontraproduktive?Psykologene Edward Deci og Richard Ryan har brukt flere tiår på å forske på hva som faktisk får oss til å handle. Gjennom det som kalles Self-Determination Theory peker de på at mennesker er mest motiverte når vi opplever autonomi, kompetanse og tilhørighet – ikke når vi blir dyttet, presset eller kjøpt.Daniel Pink har popularisert denne innsikten i boka Drive, der han hevder at vår forståelse av motivasjon henger fast i et gammeldags tankesett – en "pisk og gulrot"-logikk som kanskje fungerte på samlebåndet, men som kollapser når jobben krever kreativitet, tenkning og indre engasjement.Og så har vi det som kalles overjusteringseffekten – et paradoks der ytre belønning kan undergrave den indre motivasjonen. Vi ser det hos barn som mister interessen for å tegne når de begynner å få stjerner og premier for det. Og vi ser det hos voksne som mister gløden i jobben når alt reduseres til måltall og bonusordninger.I denne episoden skal vi ikke bare snakke om hva som motiverer oss, men også om hvordan vi kan dyrke en mer bærekraftig, meningsfull og selvforankret motivasjon – både i våre egne liv, i foreldrerollen, i arbeidslivet og i samfunnet som helhet.Vi skal se på hva som skjer når motivasjon blir forvekslet med prestasjon, når nysgjerrighet blir redusert til produktivitet, og når det indre livet får for lite plass i en kultur som konstant spør: «Hva får jeg igjen for dette?»Velkommen til et dypdykk i motivasjonens psykologi, paradokser og potensial.Vil du ha mer psykologi og flere dypdykk i menneskets sjelsliv?Vil du har en praksis for selvutvikling og hjelp til å dykke ned i ditt eget indre liv?Da kan BeBalanced.ai være noe for deg! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do we do when the racing season ends? Put our feet up and chill out? And lose all that hard earned fitness? Not this time.TRANSCRIPTWhat do you do when your race season is over?I've been asking myself that question all week.For almost an entire year, my life revolved around one goal: qualify for the World Championships.Six days a week I trained. Every workout had a purpose. Every interval session, every endurance ride, every swim, every run—it all pointed toward one day on the calendar.When my alarm went off at 6:00 a.m., I didn't have to negotiate with myself. I knew why I was getting up.There was no debate.The goal made the decision for me.And after nearly a year of consistent training...I qualified.It was one of the most satisfying athletic achievements of my life.Then, because I'm human—and because my ego wasn't quite finished—I signed up for one more race.I wanted to prove to myself that qualifying wasn't a fluke.Fortunately, that race went well too.Mission accomplished.And now...The triathlon season around here is over.So now what?For years, I've handled the offseason the same way.I take the entire month of August off.No structured training.No TrainerRoad.No worrying about fitness.I sleep in.Go for casual rides.Eat a little more.Enjoy life.Honestly...It's wonderful.I think every athlete deserves periods of genuine recovery.The body needs it.The mind definitely needs it.But over the years I've noticed something.Recovery quietly turns into detraining.By September my FTP has usually dropped about thirty watts.Thirty watts doesn't sound dramatic.But here's what I've learned.The problem isn't losing thirty watts.The problem is how long it takes to earn them back.Every autumn I spend two or three months simply returning to where I was before I stopped training.Only then can I begin building new fitness.It's like climbing halfway up a mountain, hiking back down to the parking lot, and then spending weeks just getting back to the place where you turned around.This year...I don't want to do that.Instead, I'm going to experiment.Rather than stopping completely, I'm going to shift into what I'd call a maintenance phase.Just three rides each week.One longer endurance ride.Two quality sessions—threshold or VO₂ max work.The objective isn't to improve.The objective is simply to hold onto as much fitness as I reasonably can while giving both my body and mind a chance to recover.It sounds simple.But psychologically...It's proving much harder than I expected.I just got back from a five-day cycling trip with friends.And I say "cycling" in quotation marks because we were riding e-bikes at a wonderfully relaxed pace.Before I go any further, let me just say this...Seattle is an incredible cycling city.Bike lanes everywhere.Protected paths through parks.Trails beside rivers.Routes along the ocean.It feels like a city designed by people who actually ride bikes.If you've never cycled there, I highly recommend it.But once I got home...Reality hit.Only one week has passed since my last race.One week.And already I feel...Less motivated.Less fit.Which is funny because physiologically I probably haven't lost very much fitness at all.Fitness doesn't disappear in seven days.Research on endurance athletes consistently shows that most aerobic adaptations are remarkably resilient over short breaks. You may notice your legs feel a little flat, but meaningful losses in aerobic capacity and threshold power usually take several weeks—not several days—to develop.So if my body hasn't changed very much...Why do I already feel different?I think the answer has very little to do with physiology.I think it has everything to do with purpose.Sports psychologists often talk about the power of goal-directed behavior. Clear goals don't just tell us what to do—they organize our attention, our habits, and even our identity. When we know why we're training, our brains spend far less energy debating whether we should train.Motivation isn't something we magically possess.It's something our goals create.There's another concept in psychology called Self-Determination Theory. It suggests that people stay motivated when three basic psychological needs are being met: autonomy, competence, and relatedness.Autonomy means we feel we're choosing our actions.Competence means we feel ourselves improving.Relatedness means we feel connected to other people through what we're doing.During race season, triathlon checks every one of those boxes.I choose to train.Every workout gives me evidence that I'm improving.And every race connects me to a community of people pursuing similar goals.Then suddenly...The season ends.The races disappear.The training plan ends.The improvements become harder to measure.And without realizing it, one or more of those psychological needs begins to fade.No wonder motivation feels different.I don't think I'm losing discipline.I think I've temporarily lost direction.Last week I knew exactly who I was.I was someone trying to qualify for Worlds.Today...I'm just a guy standing in the garage wondering if I really need to ride the trainer tonight.That identity shift is surprisingly unsettling.I suspect many athletes experience this after a major goal.Maybe runners after a marathon.Cyclists after a gran fondo.Parents after their kids leave home.Professionals after retirement.When a chapter ends, we're left asking a surprisingly uncomfortable question:"Who am I now?"Maybe that's the real challenge of the offseason.Not maintaining fitness.Maintaining purpose.I've been thinking a lot about how to solve that.And I don't think the answer is to immediately find another massive goal.I think it's smaller than that.I think I simply need a plan.Not a vague intention.A written plan.For the next couple of months that means maintenance riding, a few local 10K races just for fun, and volunteering at some triathlon events so I stay connected to the community.After that...I'll begin building my roadmap toward next year's World Championships.But this time I want to do something I've never really done before.I'm going to write the entire thing out.The milestones.The training blocks.The recovery periods.The races.Everything.Because visible plans reduce decision fatigue.When the workout is already on paper, you don't wake up asking, "Should I train today?"You simply execute the next step.That's what goals do.They remove uncertainty.They replace motivation with routine.And maybe that's the lesson I'm learning this week.Purpose isn't something that accidentally appears.It's something we intentionally build.When one season ends, another one doesn't magically begin.We have to create it.So that's my project this week.Not increasing my FTP.Not becoming fitter.Simply creating enough structure that, when September arrives, I haven't lost the fitness—or the sense of purpose—that took an entire year to build.I'll let you know how it goes.Until next time...Peace.

What do we do when the racing season ends? Put our feet up and chill out? And lose all that hard earned fitness? Not this time.Come join the fun at www.patreon.com/thelonelytriathleteTRANSCRIPTWhat do you do when your race season is over?I've been asking myself that question all week.For almost an entire year, my life revolved around one goal: qualify for the World Championships.Six days a week I trained. Every workout had a purpose. Every interval session, every endurance ride, every swim, every run—it all pointed toward one day on the calendar.When my alarm went off at 6:00 a.m., I didn't have to negotiate with myself. I knew why I was getting up.There was no debate.The goal made the decision for me.And after nearly a year of consistent training...I qualified.It was one of the most satisfying athletic achievements of my life.Then, because I'm human—and because my ego wasn't quite finished—I signed up for one more race.I wanted to prove to myself that qualifying wasn't a fluke.Fortunately, that race went well too.Mission accomplished.And now...The triathlon season around here is over.So now what?For years, I've handled the offseason the same way.I take the entire month of August off.No structured training.No TrainerRoad.No worrying about fitness.I sleep in.Go for casual rides.Eat a little more.Enjoy life.Honestly...It's wonderful.I think every athlete deserves periods of genuine recovery.The body needs it.The mind definitely needs it.But over the years I've noticed something.Recovery quietly turns into detraining.By September my FTP has usually dropped about thirty watts.Thirty watts doesn't sound dramatic.But here's what I've learned.The problem isn't losing thirty watts.The problem is how long it takes to earn them back.Every autumn I spend two or three months simply returning to where I was before I stopped training.Only then can I begin building new fitness.It's like climbing halfway up a mountain, hiking back down to the parking lot, and then spending weeks just getting back to the place where you turned around.This year...I don't want to do that.Instead, I'm going to experiment.Rather than stopping completely, I'm going to shift into what I'd call a maintenance phase.Just three rides each week.One longer endurance ride.Two quality sessions—threshold or VO₂ max work.The objective isn't to improve.The objective is simply to hold onto as much fitness as I reasonably can while giving both my body and mind a chance to recover.It sounds simple.But psychologically...It's proving much harder than I expected.I just got back from a five-day cycling trip with friends.And I say "cycling" in quotation marks because we were riding e-bikes at a wonderfully relaxed pace.Before I go any further, let me just say this...Seattle is an incredible cycling city.Bike lanes everywhere.Protected paths through parks.Trails beside rivers.Routes along the ocean.It feels like a city designed by people who actually ride bikes.If you've never cycled there, I highly recommend it.But once I got home...Reality hit.Only one week has passed since my last race.One week.And already I feel...Less motivated.Less fit.Which is funny because physiologically I probably haven't lost very much fitness at all.Fitness doesn't disappear in seven days.Research on endurance athletes consistently shows that most aerobic adaptations are remarkably resilient over short breaks. You may notice your legs feel a little flat, but meaningful losses in aerobic capacity and threshold power usually take several weeks—not several days—to develop.So if my body hasn't changed very much...Why do I already feel different?I think the answer has very little to do with physiology.I think it has everything to do with purpose.Sports psychologists often talk about the power of goal-directed behavior. Clear goals don't just tell us what to do—they organize our attention, our habits, and even our identity. When we know why we're training, our brains spend far less energy debating whether we should train.Motivation isn't something we magically possess.It's something our goals create.There's another concept in psychology called Self-Determination Theory. It suggests that people stay motivated when three basic psychological needs are being met: autonomy, competence, and relatedness.Autonomy means we feel we're choosing our actions.Competence means we feel ourselves improving.Relatedness means we feel connected to other people through what we're doing.During race season, triathlon checks every one of those boxes.I choose to train.Every workout gives me evidence that I'm improving.And every race connects me to a community of people pursuing similar goals.Then suddenly...The season ends.The races disappear.The training plan ends.The improvements become harder to measure.And without realizing it, one or more of those psychological needs begins to fade.No wonder motivation feels different.I don't think I'm losing discipline.I think I've temporarily lost direction.Last week I knew exactly who I was.I was someone trying to qualify for Worlds.Today...I'm just a guy standing in the garage wondering if I really need to ride the trainer tonight.That identity shift is surprisingly unsettling.I suspect many athletes experience this after a major goal.Maybe runners after a marathon.Cyclists after a gran fondo.Parents after their kids leave home.Professionals after retirement.When a chapter ends, we're left asking a surprisingly uncomfortable question:"Who am I now?"Maybe that's the real challenge of the offseason.Not maintaining fitness.Maintaining purpose.I've been thinking a lot about how to solve that.And I don't think the answer is to immediately find another massive goal.I think it's smaller than that.I think I simply need a plan.Not a vague intention.A written plan.For the next couple of months that means maintenance riding, a few local 10K races just for fun, and volunteering at some triathlon events so I stay connected to the community.After that...I'll begin building my roadmap toward next year's World Championships.But this time I want to do something I've never really done before.I'm going to write the entire thing out.The milestones.The training blocks.The recovery periods.The races.Everything.Because visible plans reduce decision fatigue.When the workout is already on paper, you don't wake up asking, "Should I train today?"You simply execute the next step.That's what goals do.They remove uncertainty.They replace motivation with routine.And maybe that's the lesson I'm learning this week.Purpose isn't something that accidentally appears.It's something we intentionally build.When one season ends, another one doesn't magically begin.We have to create it.So that's my project this week.Not increasing my FTP.Not becoming fitter.Simply creating enough structure that, when September arrives, I haven't lost the fitness—or the sense of purpose—that took an entire year to build.I'll let you know how it goes.Until next time...Peace.

In this episode, Dr. Stuart Slavin is joined by Dr. Daniel Saddawi‑Konefka, associate professor of anesthesia, and Dr. Matthew Tung, instructor in anesthesia, both at Harvard Medical School. They discuss their JAMA viewpoint, Meaning and Comfort in Physician Well‑Being: An Integrated Framework, and explore how two complementary dimensions of well‑being—meaning and comfort—can help physicians thrive throughout their careers. Drawing on concepts rooted in ancient Greek philosophy, Drs. Saddawi‑Konefka and Tung examine the relationship between eudaimonia (the sense of purpose and fulfillment that comes from service, growth, and connection) and hedonia (the well‑being associated with comfort, safety, and the reduction of unnecessary burdens). They discuss why these concepts are often framed as competing priorities in medicine and argue instead that both are essential components of sustainable physician well‑being. The conversation also explores practical applications within graduate medical education, including fostering intrinsic motivation, promoting autonomy, competence, and relatedness, and creating opportunities for learners to connect with the meaning inherent in patient care. Throughout the discussion, the speakers highlight how organizational efforts to reduce administrative burdens and improve working conditions can create the space needed for physicians to engage more deeply with purpose, connection, and professional fulfillment. Listeners will gain valuable insights into how an integrated approach to meaning and comfort can support well‑being for learners, educators, and practicing physicians alike. Podcast Chapters (00:00) – Intro and Guest Introduction (01:15) – Origins of the Meaning and Comfort Framework (03:00) – Rethinking Physician Well-Being (04:30) – Understanding Meaning and Comfort (06:03) – Hedonia, Eudaimonia, and Well-Being (08:10) – Finding Life and Meaning in Work (10:06) – Balancing Purpose and Comfort (11:20) – Intrinsic Motivation and Medical Training (12:56) – Self-Determination Theory in Practice (14:47) – Autonomy, Competence, and Relatedness (16:39) – Creating Cultures of Meaning and Connection (18:18) – Gratitude, Recognition, and Daily Purpose (19:45) – Rediscovering Meaning in Everyday Clinical Work (21:20) – When Loss of Meaning Signals a Need for Support (22:27) – Hedonic Adaptation and Sustainable Well-Being (23:11) – Integrating Meaning and Comfort (24:48) – Closing and Resources

Why do you feel so stuck, tired, and behind when you try to start over? Because the problem usually is not that you are behind, and it is not that you are not working hard enough. It is that your nervous system is stuck in survival, and you cannot design a new life from there. In this episode, Dr Amen Kaur walks through five steps to get unstuck and start over, whether that means a career change, a higher-paid job, or finally starting a business, grounded in the neuroscience of stress and a grounded, tradition-based approach to spirituality. This is not motivation or magical thinking. It is what actually moves you from surviving to creating.In this episode you will learn:Why you are not behind, you are early, and how AI is levelling the field for people starting overWhy fear and fatigue, not laziness, are what really hold you back, and the brain science behind itHow to get unstuck so your ideas finally turn into actionThe one question that designs a life: not what you could or should do, but what you want to doWhy your experience is your expertise, and how to turn it into real value using AIStudies and ideas mentioned:Amy Arnsten (Yale) on how stress takes the prefrontal cortex offline, the thinking and creating part of the brainInteroception research on how the body's signals get read as tiredness or fearFestinger's 1954 work on social comparison and how it lowers self-evaluationDeci and Ryan's Self-Determination Theory on autonomy and intrinsic motivationResearch on how belief and expectation from others can shape outcomesNamed traditions on releasing the grip on outcome: the Bhagavad Gita (2:47), Taoist wu wei, and trust in SufismFAQ:Why do I feel so tired and stuck when I try to start over?Often it is not true tiredness, it is a nervous system in survival mode, driven by fear and self-doubt. In that state the part of your brain you plan and create with is less available, so effort alone does not move you. The fix is to regulate first, then design.Am I behind if I am starting over later in life?No. Because AI is changing what work looks like for everyone, the old map is dissolving. If you are already learning to navigate uncertainty, you are early to the shift, not behind it.How do I get unstuck?Get your nervous system out of survival before you try to plan. Daily, gentle regulation, done consistently, is what lets your ideas turn into action. Borrowed motivation fades because it does not change your underlying state.What is the first step to changing careers when you feel behind?Ask what you want to do, not what you could or should do. Look back at what already comes easily to you, because the thing you undervalue most is often your real strength.Will AI take my job?AI is automating routine, repeatable tasks, and shifting value toward human judgment, creativity, and connection. That makes your experience more valuable, not less, if you learn to use the tools and create from what only you can offer.Listen and subscribe: Follow Starting Over, Being You on Apple Podcasts so you do not miss an episode.keywords: starting over, five steps to start over, overcoming self doubt, designing your life, creating your own path, AI and career change, value of personal experience, regulating nervous system, moving out of survival mode, finding your worth, creating a business from scratch, mindset for success, intrinsic motivation, personal development tips, leadership in uncertain times, emotional regulation techniques, building personal brand, enhancing self evaluation, finding purpose in work, embracing change

Summary Underperformance is often treated as a motivation problem when the real issue may be a lack of clarity, capability or confidence. Effective leaders resist the temptation to jump to conclusions and instead focus on understanding what's driving performance. By diagnosing before prescribing, asking better questions and creating clear expectations, leaders can prevent many performance issues before they occur.   Transcript Hello and welcome to episode 230 of the Leadership Today Podcast, where each week we share practical tips to improve your leadership. This week we explore four areas that will help you to diagnose likely performance issues before they become a problem. When someone in our team starts underperforming, it's remarkable how quickly we jump to conclusions. We see missed deadlines, lower quality work, reduced initiative or declining engagement and often assume we already know what's going on. They must have lost motivation. They've become complacent. They don't care as much as they used to. Before long, we've developed a story about the cause of the problem, often with very little evidence. One of the biggest mistakes leaders make when managing performance is assuming they know why someone is underperforming. We observe behaviour and immediately start interpreting it. The challenge is that while behaviour is visible, the causes behind that behaviour are often hidden. Two people can display exactly the same performance issue for completely different reasons. I was recently facilitating a workshop on managing underperformance and asked participants to think about someone in their team whose performance wasn't where they wanted it to be. The leaders could easily describe what they were seeing. They talked about missed deadlines, lower quality work, avoidance of difficult tasks, reduced initiative and a general drop in engagement. What was much harder was identifying why those behaviours were occurring. As the discussion unfolded, it became clear that most leaders were highly confident about the symptoms but far less certain about the causes. A useful way to think about performance is through four questions. Does the person know what good performance looks like? Can they do it? Do they believe they can do it? And do they want to do it? These questions point us towards four common drivers of performance: clarity, capability, confidence and motivation. Understanding which of these is getting in the way is often the difference between solving a problem and making it worse. For example, someone may avoid a task because they weren't aware it was important. Another might avoid it because they genuinely don't have the skills or experience to complete it effectively. Another person may avoid exactly the same task because they're worried they'll fail or look incompetent. Another person may avoid it because they simply don't see personal value in the task and have disengaged from the outcome. From the outside, all three situations can look identical. We see avoidance, hesitation or procrastination. What we don't immediately see is the reason behind it. This is why curiosity is such an important leadership skill. Rather than asking, "What's wrong with this person?", effective leaders ask, "What's getting in the way of this person's success?" That subtle shift moves us away from judgement and towards understanding. It encourages us to gather information before reaching conclusions and significantly improves our chances of providing the support people actually need. Research provides some useful insights here. Self-Determination Theory, developed by Edward Deci and Richard Ryan, suggests that people are more likely to be motivated when three psychological needs are met: competence, autonomy and relatedness. Competence is the feeling that we can do something well. Autonomy is having some choice and control over our work. Relatedness is feeling connected to others and to a broader purpose. What's particularly interesting is that competence sits at the foundation. When people don't feel capable, motivation often suffers as a result. Think about a time when you were asked to do something that felt completely outside your comfort zone. Perhaps you were asked to present to a large audience, lead a major project or take responsibility for something you'd never done before. Chances are you didn't immediately feel highly motivated. You may have procrastinated, delayed getting started or looked for reasons to avoid the task. Someone observing your behaviour might have concluded that you lacked motivation. In reality, the issue may have been capability, confidence or both. The same thing happens in our teams. Leaders often assume a motivation problem when the real issue is capability or confidence. The reverse can happen as well. Sometimes leaders invest heavily in training and development when the real issue is that someone no longer feels connected to the purpose of their work. Without understanding the cause, we're simply guessing. Another contributor to underperformance that often gets overlooked is clarity. Many performance issues begin long before performance actually declines. They start when expectations are vague, inconsistent or poorly communicated. I've worked with leaders who were frustrated that team members weren't demonstrating enough initiative, only to discover that nobody had clearly defined what initiative actually looked like. Different leaders had different expectations, making it almost impossible for people to consistently succeed. It's difficult to hit a target you can't clearly see. People are far more likely to perform well when they understand what success looks like, how their work contributes to broader goals and what standards are expected of them. Sometimes what appears to be an accountability issue is really an expectations issue. The conversation that needs to happen isn't about performance correction. It's about performance clarity. So what can we do as leaders? First, diagnose before you decide. When you notice a performance issue, resist the temptation to immediately label it as a motivation problem. Consider whether the issue might relate to clarity, capability, confidence or motivation. Gather information before reaching conclusions. Second, ask better questions. Questions such as "What's been most challenging about this?" or "What support would help you succeed?" often reveal far more than assumptions ever will. The quality of our diagnosis depends heavily on the quality of our questions. Third, focus on prevention rather than correction. The best underperformance conversation is often the one you never need to have because expectations were clear from the beginning. Invest time upfront defining success, checking understanding and providing regular feedback before problems emerge. Managing underperformance can be one of the most challenging aspects of leadership, but it becomes much easier when we replace assumptions with curiosity. Most people don't come to work intending to underperform. More often, something is getting in the way of their success. Our role as leaders is to understand what that obstacle is and help remove it. This week, think about someone whose performance isn't where you'd like it to be and ask yourself four questions: Do they know what good looks like? Can they do it? Do they believe they can do it? Do they want to do it? Your answers may completely change the conversation you need to have.

Send us Fan MailWhat if the fun you're chasing is actually working against you? This week I'm digging into why some fun fades the second it's over, while other fun sticks with you for years — and it comes down to a couple of things researchers can actually explain.I'm also giving you my go-to system, VERITAS, for building fun into your life on purpose — even when things are hard, even when you're short on time. If you've ever felt like you "used to" have more fun, this episode is for you.In This Episode●     Why fun is more than just pleasure — the real ingredients behind it (joy, engagement, and meaning)●     The research on intrinsic motivation (Self-Determination Theory) and why fun you choose beats fun you're told to have●     What the Stoics actually believed about pleasure, and why it still applies today●     My VERITAS system for building real, intentional fun into your life — step by stepQuote of the Week"Very little is needed to make a happy life. It is all within yourself, in your way of thinking and in your way of living."— Marcus AureliusCitations & Sources●     Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. — Self-Determination Theory, on intrinsic motivation and autonomy●     Deci, E. L., Koestner, R., & Ryan, R. M. (1999). A meta-analytic review of experiments examining the effects of extrinsic rewards on intrinsic motivation. Psychological Bulletin.●     Csikszentmihalyi, M. — Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, on flow states and optimal challenge●     Boothby, E. J., Clark, M. S., & Bargh, J. A. (2014). Shared experiences are amplified. Psychological Science.Let's go, let's get it done.Get more information at: http://projectweightloss.org

If you've ever ground away on a treadmill and wondered why the scale won't budge, this episode is for you. Lisa Oldson, MD breaks down one of the most persistent myths in weight loss culture: that exercise is the key to getting thinner. Decades of research say otherwise, and understanding why is one of the most liberating things you can do for your relationship with movement.In this episode you'll learn why exercise triggers metabolic compensation (your body is smarter than any fitness tracker), what Herman Pontzer's landmark research on the Hadza people of Tanzania revealed about calorie burn and physical activity, and why even marathon training rarely produces significant weight loss. You'll also learn why exercise IS one of the most powerful predictors of long-term weight maintenance once the weight is lost, and why that distinction matters enormously.Dr. Lisa also covers the surprisingly robust evidence linking regular movement to depression, anxiety, and stress relief. This includes research showing that exercise can be as effective as antidepressants and therapy for some people. She also walks through the behavioral science of actually building a habit that sticks, covering the Stages of Change, Self-Determination Theory, identity-based habits, and why motivation is the wrong thing to chase.Thanks for listening! If you'd like more support during your SMART weight loss & health focused journey, sign up for our FREE newsletter, or check out our program at: www.SmartWeightLossCoaching.com. We would love to help you reach your happy weight, and transform the way you talk to yourself about your body and the number on the scale. Negative thoughts about yourself don't have to take up so much brain space, and we'd be honored to help you reframe those thoughts. Also, we'd be grateful if you'd follow us and share our podcast with your friends & family. We're here to help you live longer, healthier, and lose weight the SMART way! This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher: www.ThePodcastTeacher.com.The Smart Weight Loss Coaching Podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult your physician or a qualified healthcare provider before starting, stopping, or changing any medication.

Perché la gente fa quello che fa? E' una delle domande più antiche e classiche. La Self-Determinatin Theory ci mostra 3 motivazioni specifiche che possono trasformarsi facilmente in 3 strade da seguire…Clicca qui per approfondire (link attivo dalle 5:00 AM del 08/06/26) https://psinel.com/self-determination-theory-3-cose-da-tenere-sempre-in-mente/parare a Meditare? Scarica Gratis Clarity:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://clarityapp.it/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Iscriviti alla Newsletter https://psinel.com/re-iscrizione-alla-newsletter/Se ti piace il podcast adorerai il mio Nuovo libro: “Restare in piedi in mezzo alle Onde - Manuale di gestione delle emozioni”...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://amzn.eu/d/1grjAUS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/gennaro_romagnoli/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Credits (traccia audio): https://www.bensound.comMusic by Maksym Malko from Pixabay

In this episode, Sharona and Boz welcome back Dan Guberman to discuss his new book, Designing Impactful College Courses: Applying Self-Determination Theory to Unleash the Potential of Autonomy-Supportive Learning Environments. The conversation explores how self-determination theory, which is a framework centered on autonomy, competence, and relatedness, provides a powerful lens for understanding both grading reform and course design more broadly.Dan shares his journey from music professor to alternative grading advocate, explains how traditional grading systems often function as tools for behavioral control, and argues that meaningful learning requires environments that foster internal motivation rather than compliance. Along the way, we dive into topics like backwards design, standards-based assessment, late work, intrinsic motivation, and why so many grading decisions are far more arbitrary than we realize. Blending theory with highly practical classroom examples, this episode ultimately challenges all of us to rethink not just how we grade, but how our entire course structure shapes students' relationships with learning.LinksPlease note - any books linked here are likely Amazon Associates links. Clicking on them and purchasing through them helps support the show. Thanks for your support!Use discount code ADC26 to get 30% off of Designing Impactful College CoursesDesigning Impactful College Courses: Applying Self-termination Theory to Unleash the Potential of Autonomy-Supportive Learning Environments, by Dan Guberman, et al (on Routledge)Teaching Intercultural Competence Through Heavy Metal Music, by Dan Guberman, et alAn Urgency of Teachers: the Work of Critical Digital Pedagogy, by Jesse Stommel, et alCourse Redesign Cycle (diagram) by Sharona Krinsky and Robert BosleyCenter for Self-Determination TheoryResourcesThe Center for Grading Reform - seeking to advance education in the United States by supporting effective grading reform at all levels through conferences, educational workshops, professional development, research and scholarship, influencing public policy, and community building.The Grading Conference - an annual, online conference exploring Alternative Grading in Higher Education & K-12.Some great resources to educate yourself about Alternative Grading:The Grading for Growth BlogThe Grading ConferenceThe Intentional Academia BlogRecommended Books on Alternative Grading:Grading for Growth, by Robert Talbert and David ClarkSpecifications Grading, by Linda NilsenUndoing the Grade, by Jesse StommelFollow us on Bluesky, Facebook and Instagram - @thegradingpod. To leave us a comment, please go to our website: www.thegradingpod.com and leave a comment on this episode's page.If you would like to be considered to be a guest on this show, please reach out using the Contact Us form on our website, www.thegradingpod.com.All content of this podcast and website are solely the opinions of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily represent the views of California State University Los Angeles or the Los Angeles Unified School District.MusicCountry Rock performed by Lite Saturation, licensed under a Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivatives 4.0 International License.

In this episode of The Fitness League Podcast, we dive into the psychology behind consistency, effort, and long-term behavior change in health and fitness. We explore why so many people lose momentum, how broken feedback loops sabotage progress, and why celebrating small wins may be one of the most powerful tools for sustainable change. This conversation breaks down the science of motivation in practical, real-world terms—from behavioral activation and competence building to the importance of autonomy, relatedness, and visible progress signals. We also discuss the psychology behind "open loops" and how the Zeigarnik effect can either keep you engaged… or mentally drained. L5 Health Score Quiz https://score.lvltnhealth.com/ The Fitness League app https://www.fitnessleagueapp.com/ Join the Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lvltncoaching Alessandra's Instagram: http://instagram.com/alessandrascutnik Joelle's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joellesamantha?igsh=ZnVhZjFjczN0OTdn Josh's Instagram: http://instagram.com/joshscutnik Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Fitness League Podcast 01:00 The Importance of Completing Tasks 05:32 Psychological Insights on Progress and Completion 10:44 Understanding the Self-Determination Theory 14:40 The Impact of Unfinished Tasks on Mental Health 15:31 Decluttering and Open Loops 19:41 The Psychology of Commitment 22:20 Taking Action and Building Motivation 23:46 Redefining Progress and Feedback Loops 29:54 Maximizing ROI on Efforts 32:06 Building Consistency and Trusting the Process

What does the research actually say about how to achieve your goals — and why does willpower alone so reliably fail?Let's break it down with seven evidence-based frameworks from psychology and behavioral science, each paired with a concrete action step you can use this week. We cover Edwin Locke and Gary Latham's goal-setting research, Gabriele Oettingen's WOOP framework and the surprising science of mental contrasting, Deci and Ryan's Self-Determination Theory, identity-based habit formation from James Clear and Wendy Wood, Charles Duhigg's cue-routine-reward loop, Carol Dweck's mindset research, and the accountability science that shows just how much the relational dimension of goal pursuit actually matters.This isn't a motivational pep talk. It's a practical, research-grounded episode that will change how you think about what goal achievement actually requires — and give you specific tools to do it differently starting now.

Are you exhausted from chasing motivation that never lasts? In this Clinician's Corner episode, Molly Painschab and Clarissa Kennedy break down why motivation is actually an outcome, not a starting point — and what truly drives sustainable recovery from ultra-processed food use disorder.  Using the lens of Self-Determination Theory (SDT), they unpack the three psychological needs every person in recovery must have met: autonomy, relatedness, and competence — the often-overlooked key that separates short-term compliance from lasting change. 

Questo è Dear Alice Best Of, una selezione di passaggi significativi tratti dagli episodi più amati di Dear Alice, scelti per essere riscoperti o riascoltati come riflessioni che brillano di luce propria.Quante volte ti è capitato di sentirti senza motivazione davanti a qualcosa che in teoria conta per te?Magari hai un progetto che ti stava a cuore ma ti ritrovi a rimandare, a perdere slancio, a sentirti stanco o confuso. E più passa il tempo, più ti chiedi cosa stia succedendo, fino ad arrivare a chiederti: perché faccio quello che faccio? Ha ancora senso?Oggi insieme parliamo di motivazione e di cosa ci spinge davvero ad agire secondo la psicologia. Partendo da una teoria molto importante, la Self Determination Theory, esploriamo cosa succede quando perdiamo slancio, perché alcuni progetti si arenano e perché a volte possiamo sentirci bloccati anche quando sulla carta sembra andare tutto bene.In particolare, riflettiamo su:perché la motivazione non è qualcosa che semplicemente si accende o si spegnela differenza tra “andare verso” e “scappare da”motivazione intrinseca e motivazione estrinseca: cosa cambia?perché spesso le nostre scelte sono guidate dalla pauracosa succede quando alcuni bisogni psicologici fondamentali non sono soddisfattiUn episodio per fermarsi un attimo e guardare con più lucidità a cosa ci sta davvero guidando nelle nostre scelte.♥️ Se l'episodio ti è stato utile, condividilo e lascia un commento.Ascolta l'episodio integrale che ha dato origine a questo Best Of

Welcome back to Truth, Lies & Work, the award-winning podcast where behavioral science meets workplace culture. Part of the HubSpot Podcast Network. This week, we explore Microsoft's new retirement strategy, NVIDIA's radical management secrets, and the one wellbeing investment most businesses are overlooking. Plus, we debunk a legendary psychological model and answer your burning questions about toxic top performers and small business culture.

Are you waiting to feel certain before you make a move? Do you know something needs to change but not what? What if feeling lost isn't a flaw, but a signal? In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi breaks down the real psychology behind feeling lost and why it's not about lacking ambition or motivation, but about unmet needs you might not even know you have. From the Self-Determination Theory to envisioning your future selves, this episode gives you a practical, honest framework to stop spinning and start moving. Rather than telling you to "follow your passion" or make a dramatic leap, Radhi explores how small experiments, values clarity, and the right questions can create more direction than any five-year plan ever could. Because sometimes the path forward isn't found by thinking harder, it's found by understanding yourself better. In this episode, you'll learn: Why feeling lost is often a sign of an unmet psychological need, not a life crisis. How to identify whether you're missing autonomy, growth, or connection. A powerful exercise to envision three versions of your future self. Why values always matter more than goals. How to run low-stakes "micro-experiments" instead of making terrifying leaps. Three questions to return to whenever you feel stuck again. Clarity doesn't come from overthinking; it comes from honest self-reflection, small brave actions, and knowing what actually lights you up from the inside. Follow Radhi: https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/ https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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In this episode, I reflect on a recent keynote I delivered in Singapore, exploring the shared challenges impacting teacher and student engagement. Drawing on Self-Determination Theory, I unpack the three psychological needs that drive motivation—autonomy, competence, and relatedness—and explain how these needs shape what we see as engagement in classrooms and schools. Too often, we treat engagement as a student issue, but teacher and student engagement are deeply interconnected and influenced by the same system-level conditions. I share practical examples to illustrate how rigid structures, one-size-fits-all design, and limited opportunities for connection can undermine motivation for both groups. If we want to reignite engagement, we have to move beyond compliance and intentionally design learning experiences that give both teachers and students a sense of control, confidence, and connection.

In this episode, Veronica explores the definition of "horsemanship". What is the historical definition versus the definition given by industry traditions? How much of defining horsemanship is relationship based versus skill based? Have we drifted from its original meaning and can we circle it back? Just another topic to question on the "Question Everything" Equestrian Podcast.Sources and Further ReadingsHistorical FoundationsXenophon. (c. 350 BCE/1925). On horsemanship. (E. C. Marchant, Trans.). Harvard University Press. (Original work written ca. 350 BCE).— Early instructional text emphasizing gentle handling, trust, and partnership even within a military context. Equine Science & Learning TheoryMcGreevy, P. D., & McLean, A. N. (2007). Roles of learning theory and ethology in equitation. Journal of Veterinary Behavior, 2(4), 108–118.— Discusses how misunderstanding learning theory contributes to conflict behaviors in horses.McLean, A. N., & Christensen, J. W. (2017). The application of learning theory in horse training. Applied Animal Behaviour Science, 190, 18–27.— Explains pressure-release training, reinforcement, and the ethical implications of correct timing and consistency.Sankey, C., Henry, S., André, N., Richard-Yris, M.-A., & Hausberger, M. (2010). Do horses have a concept of person? Behavioural Processes, 86(2), 153–157.— Demonstrates that horses recognize and differentiate humans based on previous interactions.Sankey, C., Henry, S., Clouard, C., Richard-Yris, M.-A., & Hausberger, M. (2011). Asymmetry of behavioral responses to a human: Discrimination and memory of individuals in horses. Animal Cognition, 14, 339–347.— Shows horses remember positive vs. negative handling experiences.Hausberger, M., Roche, H., Henry, S., & Visser, E. K. (2008). A review of the human–horse relationship. Applied Animal Behaviour Science, 109(1), 1–24.— Comprehensive review of how handling styles shape equine stress and behavior.Fureix, C., & Meagher, R. K. (2015). What can inactivity (and depression-like states) tell us about welfare in domestic horses? Applied Animal Behaviour Science, 171, 8–20.— Links behavioral shutdown and learned helplessness to welfare concerns.Psychology of Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships Bowlby, J. (1988). A secure base: Parent-child attachment and healthy human development. Basic Books.— Foundational attachment theory explaining trust, safety, and emotional security in relationships.Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2000). The “what” and “why” of goal pursuits: Human needs and self-determination of behavior. Psychological Inquiry, 11(4), 227–268.— Self-Determination Theory: autonomy, competence, and relatedness as pillars of healthy relationships.Baumeister, R. F., & Leary, M. R. (1995). The need to belong: Desire for interpersonal attachments as a fundamental human motivation. Psychological Bulletin, 117(3), 497–529.— Explores connection and belonging as central to well-being. Ethical Framing of Horsemanship International Society for Equitation Science (ISES). (2018). First principles of horse training.— Evidence-based guidelines for ethical, science-informed training practices.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of This Is A Voice, Jeremy Fisher and Dr Gillyanne Kayes welcome back psychologist Michelle Robinson for a deeper conversation about the singer-teacher relationship, motivation, wellbeing, and what voice training can learn from sport psychology.Michelle introduces Self-Determination Theory, breaking down the three psychological needs that help people flourish: autonomy, competence and relatedness. Michelle, Gillyanne and Jeremy explore how these ideas apply to singers, teachers, performance and the learning environment.The episode also highlights:*  why external validation never really lasts* how teaching can support both artistry and wellbeing* the difference between performing “correctly” and performing authentically* what classical music training can learn from more person-centred approaches* Michelle's own distressing experience of music college, and how difficult teaching relationships can leave a lasting mark* her research into singer-teacher relationships, including a new questionnaire designed to measure closeness, commitment and complementarity* why musicians deserve the more holistic support that athletes often receiveThis is an honest, thoughtful episode about voice, identity, teaching and the kind of support that helps artists thrive.Remember to like, subscribe, and hit the bell icon for more insightful episodes. Leave a comment below on what inspired you the most!

Stop building products nobody wants by discovering the psychological bias killing your strategy!Today, Product Manager Brian Orlando and Enterprise Business Agility Coach Om Patel are taking on the "IKEA Effect." The IKEA effect is the cognitive bias that causes product managers and leaders to overvalue the things they build - simply because they built them! That's right, today we're tackling a bias that's led to so much wasted budget, we're going to end up needing Congressional oversight... not to mentioned the ignored research and "survivorship bias" of trying to be the next Steve Jobs.Listen or watch as we discuss and review:- The Scientific research behind the IKEA Effect (people value items 63% higher because they've built those items)- Why teams ignore expert research and undervalue insights THEY DID NOT SUFFER to obtain- How traditional review committees designed to kill bad ideas often stifle innovation (and what to do better)- Balancing the need for intrinsic motivation (Self-Determination Theory) with the necessity of governance- The "Kill or Nurture" Framework: A new 2x2 decision matrix to evaluate projects based on evidence vs. passionWe also share personal war stories on the product-related IKEA effect, bemoan the struggles of gaining funding for evidence-based ideas, and maybe even distinguish between a wobbly chair and a throne. Tune in if you're interested in ways to stop falling in love with your own bad ideas!#ProductManagement #Agile #ProductStrategyNorton, Mochon, & Ariely (2012) IKEA Effect Study, The IKEA Effect (Harvard Business Review), Self-Determination Theory (Ryan & Deci), Gartner Research, Deming's theories on intrinsic motivationLINKSYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@arguingagileSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/362QvYORmtZRKAeTAE57v3Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/agile-podcast/id1568557596INTRO MUSICToronto Is My BeatBy Whitewolf (Source: https://ccmixter.org/files/whitewolf225/60181)CC BY 4.0 DEED (https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/deed.en)

Patty Laushman, a speaker, autism life coach, and the author of the book Parenting for Independence: Overcoming Failure to Launch in Autistic Emerging Adults, joins me to talk about one of the misunderstood stages of parenting: supporting our neurodivergent kids as they move into emerging adulthood. In our conversation, Patty and I unpack the concept of “failure to launch,” why that label is actually unhelpful and inaccurate, and how redefining independence can change everything. We talk about self-determination, motivation, and what support actually looks like during this phase of life. Patty also shares her SBN parenting framework—Support, Boundaries, and Nudges—and offers grounded, compassionate guidance for navigating this transition while strengthening trust and connection along the way. About Patty Laushman   Patty Laushman is an author, speaker, educator, and coach who specializes in supporting neurodivergent individuals and the families who love them. With both personal and professional experience, she deeply understands the challenges of being neurodivergent in a world designed for those who are more neurotypical—and the transformative power of the right kind of support. She is the founder and head coach at Thrive Autism Coaching, where she and her team help neurodivergent teens and adults, as well as their parents, build the skills and confidence needed to thrive. Patty developed the SBN™ parenting framework, a step-by-step system that teaches parents how to use support, boundaries, and nudges to help their autistic emerging adults reclaim motivation, build momentum, and move toward more meaningful lives on their own terms. Through her Parenting for Independence group coaching program, Patty has guided hundreds of families through this unexpected stage of parenting—helping them rebuild trust, strengthen relationships, and finally start seeing progress. Her compassionate, neurodiversity-affirming approach has been described by clients as “the only thing that has ever worked for us.”She lives with her husband, son, and Golden Retriever in the Denver/Boulder metro area. In her spare time, you'll find her hiking, camping, headbanging to heavy metal, or devouring medical or crime dramas. Things you'll learn from this episode   How understanding a child's lived experience lays the groundwork for more effective, compassionate parenting Why the term “failure to launch,” while loaded, can help families find the right support and resources How redefining independence to include positive interdependence supports healthier outcomes for emerging adults Why self-determination is central to helping neurodivergent young adults move out of stuckness and burnout How the SBN framework—Support, Boundaries, and Nudges—guides parents in creating momentum without control Why resetting expectations and timelines can ease parental shame and anxiety while supporting real growth Resources mentioned Patty Laushman's website Thrive Autism Coaching Parenting for Independence: Overcoming Failure to Launch in Autistic Emerging Adults by Patty Laushman How to Get Your Autistic Emerging Adult in the Driver's Seat of Their Life (freebie from Patty) Parenting for Independence (Patty's program) Private Coaching for Parents with Patty The Real Work of Parenting Neurodivergent Young Adults (Part 1) — a crossover episode with Penny Williams (Full-Tilt Parenting podcast) The Real Work of Parenting ND Young Adults (Part 2) (Beautifully Complex podcast) A Conservation with Dr. Gina Riley on Self-Determination Theory & Motivation (Full-Tilt Parenting) A Conversation with Linda Murphy About Declarative Language episode (Full-Tilt Parenting) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Watch the YouTube version of this episode HEREAre you looking for some advice on how to achieve fulfillment in your life? In this episode of Maximum Lawyer Live, Tyson reflects on personal and professional fulfillment, using a recent home renovation as a metaphor for job satisfaction. Drawing from psychological theories like Self-Determination Theory, the IKEA Effect, and Flow, the episode explores how competence, autonomy, and relatedness drive motivation. Tyson shares some insights about personal and professional fulfillment and the 3 things you need to master to become successful in both realms. Autonomy is important to fulfillment because it's about controlling how or what you do. Then there is competence and the belief that you have the ability to do something. Last is relatedness and if what you are doing resonates or relates to people and their life. If you are able to master these 3 things, you will be successful in whatever you do. The control over your work, the competence you have and the reliability is what people are drawn to.Lifelong fulfillment is all about continuous growth and learning. If you have the desire to learn and grow every day of your life, you will never be stagnant or in one place. You will be able to move forward and evolve not only in your professional life, but in your personal life. Putting golden handcuffs on can really hold you back from achieving whatever you want. So, it is important to allow yourself to move forward each and every day!Listen in to learn more!3:22 Personal Fulfillment and Career Reflection10:04 Communicating Value to Clients14:04 Flow Theory: Achieving Fulfillment at Work 19:20 Respect and Equality in the Workplace24:01 Continuous Growth and Lifelong Learning Tune in to today's episode and checkout the full show notes here. 

#235What actually motivates our students? Today we explore that question through the lens of Self-Determination Theory with teacher Martha Cox-Stavros, a middle school Spanish teacher in Massachusetts. Whether this theory is brand new to you or something you've heard mentioned in passing, this conversation breaks it down in clear, classroom-ready ways. We dig into how competence, autonomy, and relatedness show up in real language tasks and how small, sustainable shifts can help students feel successful, motivated, and confident in your classroom. Topics in this Episode:what Self-Determination Theory is and how it applies to the language classroom. how teachers can design tasks so students consistently feel that sense of progress and success?practical, manageable strategies teachers can use to give students real choice and agency without losing focus on required contentlow-stress, high-impact ways teachers can foster relatedness and connection among students how can teachers can begin to build sustainable practices that lead to competence, autonomy, and relatednessConnect with Martha Cox-Stavros:Instagram:@profecox_stavrosA Few Ways We Can Work Together:Ready For Tomorrow Quick Win PD for Individual TeachersOn-Site or Virtual Workshops for Language DepartmentsSelf-Paced Program for For Language DepartmentsConnect With Me & The World Language Classroom Community:Website: wlclassrom.comInstagram:  @wlclassroomFacebook Group: World Language ClassroomFacebook:  /wlclassroomLinkedIn: Joshua CabralBluesky: /wlclassroom.bsky.sociaX (Twitter):  @wlclassroomThreads: @wlclassroomSend me a text and let me know your thoughts on this episode or the podcast.

Stacey Rubin Rose, MD, FACP, FIDSA, makes her memorable Faculty Factory Podcast debut this week with an overview of strategies for autonomy-supportive teaching. Dr. Rose is an Associate Professor in the Department of Medicine (Infectious Diseases). She is also an Associate Professor in the Huffington Department of Education, Innovation, and Technology and the Associate Director of the Center for Professionalism at Baylor College of Medicine in Houston. “The goal of this faculty development for autonomy-supportive teaching is to help faculty create better learning environments for trainees and for themselves,” Dr. Rose said. “When you can foster a supportive learning environment, everyone benefits and you see far less burnout,” Dr. Rose added in the opening moments of the interview. Another goal of this educational push and the faculty development workshop mentioned in this episode is to connect self-determination theory with medical well-being and medical education. For a refresher on self-determination theory, you can revisit Faculty Factory Episode No. 69, “Self-Determination Theory in Academic Medicine with Jeffrey M. Lyness, MD, FACPsych”: https://facultyfactory.org/self-determination-theory-in-academic-medicine/ “If you can teach and educate in a clinical learning environment that is supportive of autonomy, belonging, and competence—with autonomy as the anchor—then everyone wins,” she said. As also mentioned in this episode, if you want to hear more about Baylor's Center for Professionalism you can listen to Faculty Factory Episode No. 359, “Promoting Positive Professionalism with Ellen M. Friedman, MD, FACS, FAAP”: https://facultyfactory.org/ellen-friedman/

Thanks to our Partners, NAPA Auto Care and NAPA TRACS Watch Full Video Episode In this episode, Jeff Rudnick of Pit Crew Loyalty explores the powerful shift from transactional business models to relationship-driven customer loyalty in the automotive repair industry. He challenges shop owners to rethink marketing and branding through the lens of real human connection—introducing the idea that “software has to imitate life.” In other words, technology should support the natural, community-minded instincts of great owners by automating “white glove” service at scale. The conversation dives into the behavioral science behind loyalty through Self-Determination Theory, which shows that customers, like employees, stay committed when they feel competent, autonomous, and part of something bigger than themselves. Rudnick backs this up with industry data, noting that the average “one-and-done” rate for first-time customers is 54%, but can be reduced to nearly 30% through intentional, relationship-based loyalty programs that make customers feel valued from day one. Listeners will learn practical strategies for creating meaningful customer experiences, including: The Confirmation Moment:Treating first-time calls as opportunities to confirm the shop can solve the customer's problem, not simply close a sale.Throwing a Party:Using automation to identify new customers so teams can celebrate and welcome them, increasing the likelihood of repeat visits.Cross-Pollination:Partnering with other local businesses to build community networks that benefit everyone involved.The Easy Button:Leveraging systems that automate complex marketing tasks like fundraisers, digital gift cards, referral programs, and social media graphics. Rudnick also explains how loyalty rewards software can simplify community fundraising, referrals, and cross-business promotion, making high-level marketing accessible even for busy shop owners. Rather than relying on discounts, he emphasizes building strong brands through personalized rewards, authentic leadership, and genuine community involvement. Ultimately, this episode demonstrates how combining smart automation with human-centered leadership can dramatically reduce customer churn, strengthen local relationships, and drive long-term profitability for independent repair shops. Jeff Rudnick, Pit Crew Loyalty Thanks to our Partners, NAPA Auto Care and NAPA TRACS Learn more about NAPA Auto Care and the benefits of being part of the NAPA family by visiting https://www.napaonline.com/en/auto-care NAPA TRACS will move your shop into the SMS fast lane with onsite training and six days a week of support and local representation. Find NAPA TRACS on the Web at http://napatracs.com/ Connect with the Podcast: - Follow on Facebook:...

Anxiety isn't a malfunction to be silenced; it's a message asking to be heard. We sit down with therapist and educator Catherine Deeks Gnocchi to rethink fear through the lenses of evolution, mindfulness-based psychotherapy, and Japanese ikigai—revealing how anxiety can guide you back to your values and toward a life that actually fits.Catherine breaks down the nervous system in plain language: anxiety mobilizes the sympathetic “protect” response, while empathy and connection restore the parasympathetic “recover” state. We trace how early defenses like fawning or avoidance become adult habits, why shame can freeze growth, and how healthy guilt, curiosity, and self-compassion help us update old patterns. Catherine shares insights from her research on anxiety and empathy among university students, why these traits can rise together in demanding environments, and how lived experience of suffering often deepens compassion.From there, we get practical. We map values-based therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and Self-Determination Theory into simple steps: clarify values, spot triggers, name roles, and take small, repeatable actions that honor who you are. We explore ikigai as everyday meaning—not a grand purpose but a daily feeling found in small rituals, mindful walks, shared meals, and moments of real connection. Ibasho, a sense of belonging you can carry anywhere, becomes the anchor for authenticity across life's roles. Along the way, two mantras keep us grounded: thoughts are not facts, and anxiety is your friend.If you're ready to replace reflex with awareness and turn fear into direction, this conversation offers science, story, and tools you can use today. Listen, share with someone who needs it, and if it resonated, subscribe and leave a review so more people can find the show.

A look at Self Determination Theory, Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, Expectancy Theory and how it all affects the classical musician. Followed by a small caveat on the mediocrity of Turkish cuisine. Grma x Inline G Merch ⭐️www.Inlineg.myshopify.comInline G Patreon ⭐️www.patreon.com/TheInlineGFlutePodcastInline G will ALWAYS be free of charge, but signing up to the Patreon helps let this podcast reach new heights, if you can afford it. You'll also get to ask questions to upcoming guests as well as get early access to some episodes. Or if you'd rather not spend money, subscribing to my YouTube channel and following me on Facebook, Instagram and TikTok is a HUGE way to support the podcast. It'll cost you nothing, and it really makes a difference to the algorithm gods. So please interact however you can; like, comment, or subscribe, and help keep this podcast lit xAnd finally; use the code “INLINEG” online or in person at Flute Center for; 5% off accessories, 10% off all sheet music, free shipping on new instruments and free shipping to trial instruments (USA only.)Chapters:00:00 - Submitted Poetry05:46 - Intrinsic, Extrinsic and Other Motivations11:43 - Maslow's Pyramids14:58 - Self Determination Theory (SDT)18:33 - Expectancy Theory and Ageism26:40 - Applying Motivation 

In this episode of Change Starts Here, Kim Yaris and Dr. Eve Miller tackle the dreaded "mid-year slump", that time when energy dips and motivation becomes scarce for both staff and students. Rather than pushing harder, they explore the neurobiology behind what actually drives us to take action. Dr. Miller breaks down the science of the "motivation switch" in the brain, the nucleus accumbens, and explains why choice, relevance, and connection are biological necessities, not just nice-to-haves.Listeners will discover why motivation is not a fixed personality trait but a response to environmental conditions. The conversation unpacks Self-Determination Theory and offers leaders practical strategies to shift their teams from compliance to contribution. By learning how to offer authentic choices and co-create paths forward, educators can reignite agency and engagement even during the toughest stretches of the school year.Download the Handout:https://resources.franklincovey.com/c/CSH_handout_S6E19?x=OcaUHVHosts:Kim Yaris, M.Ed. (Associate Director of Research with FranklinCovey Education) Dr. Eve Miller (Director of Research with FranklinCovey Education)Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction: Mid-Year Slump 01:48 Neurobiology of Motivation 02:46 Visualizing Motivation Triggers 05:17 The Nucleus Accumbens 07:20 Autonomy and Choice 10:14 Self-Determination Theory 12:38 Biology Over Personality 15:24 Practice: Offering Meaningful Choice 17:37 Practice: Co-Creating Paths

In this episode of Change Starts Here, Kim Yaris and Dr. Eve Miller tackle the dreaded "mid-year slump", that time when energy dips and motivation becomes scarce for both staff and students. Rather than pushing harder, they explore the neurobiology behind what actually drives us to take action. Dr. Miller breaks down the science of the "motivation switch" in the brain, the nucleus accumbens, and explains why choice, relevance, and connection are biological necessities, not just nice-to-haves.Listeners will discover why motivation is not a fixed personality trait but a response to environmental conditions. The conversation unpacks Self-Determination Theory and offers leaders practical strategies to shift their teams from compliance to contribution. By learning how to offer authentic choices and co-create paths forward, educators can reignite agency and engagement even during the toughest stretches of the school year.Download the Handout:https://resources.franklincovey.com/c/CSH_handout_S6E19?x=OcaUHVHosts:Kim Yaris, M.Ed. (Associate Director of Research with FranklinCovey Education) Dr. Eve Miller (Director of Research with FranklinCovey Education)Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction: Mid-Year Slump 01:48 Neurobiology of Motivation 02:46 Visualizing Motivation Triggers 05:17 The Nucleus Accumbens 07:20 Autonomy and Choice 10:14 Self-Determination Theory 12:38 Biology Over Personality 15:24 Practice: Offering Meaningful Choice 17:37 Practice: Co-Creating Paths

Recorded during the 2025 National Conference on Health Communication, Marketing, and Media (NCHCMM) in Atlanta, NPHIC's Public Health Speaks podcast continues its Voices from the Field series with a thoughtful and timely conversation on health autonomy, motivation, and the role of artificial intelligence in public health communication.In this episode, NPHIC is joined by Amelia Burke-Garcia, PhD, a longtime health communicator and Director of the Center for Health Communication Science at NORC at the University of Chicago. With more than 20 years of experience in the field, Burke-Garcia shares insights from her recent opinion piece, What Supporting [Health] Autonomy Should Look Like & How Artificial Intelligence Can Help, and unpacks how Self-Determination Theory can strengthen health communication practice.The conversation explores how autonomy—often cited as a core principle in medicine and public health—can become uneven or conditional when people are overwhelmed by complex, and sometimes conflicting, health information. Burke-Garcia discusses how health communicators can better support autonomy by designing messages that are more empathetic, relevant, and empowering, while still advancing population health goals. She also examines how emerging AI tools may help scale tailored, evidence-based messaging in ways that build trust and meet people where they are.Tune in for practical insights and a hopeful path forward for health communicators navigating an increasingly complex information environment.

In this episode, Dr. Stuart Slavin welcomes Dr. Kerri Palamara, Gill and Allan Gray Family Endowed Chair and associate professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School, to discuss the evolution and impact of physician coaching in graduate medical education. Dr. Palamara shares how her journey led to developing scalable, faculty-driven coaching programs that foster psychological safety, agency, and authentic connection among residents and faculty. The conversation explores the distinctions between mentoring and coaching, the core skills required for effective coaching, and the positive ripple effects on wellbeing, resilience, and departmental culture. Drawing on principles of positive psychology and self-determination theory, Dr. Palamara illustrates how structured coaching interventions can reduce burnout, enhance fulfillment, and empower clinicians to find their voice—even within challenging healthcare systems. Through practical insights and research-backed outcomes, this episode highlights how investing in coaching transforms not only individuals but the entire medical learning environment, making thriving possible for all. Podcast Chapters (00:00) – Intro & Welcome  (00:13) – Guest Background: Dr. Kerri Palamara (00:54) – Discovering Coaching: Faculty Engagement & Residency Curriculum  (02:33) – Rethinking Support: Creating a Coaching Culture (04:12) – Mentoring vs. Coaching: Key Differences  (05:20) – Building Psychological Safety & Boundaries  (06:13) – Core Coaching Skills: Listening, Reflecting, Asking Questions (07:42) – Positive Psychology & Strength-Based Approaches  (09:40) – Training Faculty as Coaches: Logistics & Curriculum  (11:37) – Scalability & Feasibility of Coaching Programs (12:25) – Impact on Coaches, Residents, and Department Culture (14:27) – How Much Coaching is Enough? (15:16) – Tolerating Uncertainty & Medical Errors (15:50) – Addressing Systemic Challenges & Fatalism  (16:50) – Handling Coach-Resident Mismatches (18:03) – Authentic Connection & Deep Listening (18:28) – Agency, Autonomy, and Self-Determination Theory   (21:00) – Closing Thoughts & Resources

Self-Determination Theory is a therapeutic framework that explores individual motivation and overall wellness. Join Dave and Greg as they explore the psychology and concepts that comprise Self-Determination Theory, as well as just how important autonomy is in the realm of feeling good.

Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how we can put our key values into action in 2026. They discuss how we can identify authentic values, and then translate them into goals and daily behaviors while reducing our focus on outcomes we don't control. Forrest focuses on insights from Self-Determination Theory, and Dr. Rick shares how to create a warmer inner climate, and they talk about the overall importance of self-belief. The episode includes a number of practical tools related to environment design, scheduling, social accountability, and how to overcome obstacles. Key Topics:  0:00: Introduction 2:00: What values are you focusing on this year? 8:50: Turning your values into plans 16:00: Motivation is “context dependent” 22:10: Claiming autonomy in an imperfect world 34:20: Turning ideas into specific behaviors 41:15: Updating self-concept 51:00: How to deal with normal obstacles 1:00:34: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Go to Zocdoc.com/BEING to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get your free 2026 tracker sheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Check out the 2026 Kick-Off Pack as part of the 1000 Hours Outside Mega Bundle ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (available through January 12th!) *** The world our kids are heading into is changing so fast that the old map from childhood to adulthood doesn't work anymore—and Issy Butson (Stark Raving Dad) explains why that matters right now. We talk about how AI is already reshaping work (starting with entry-level roles), why school still rewards sitting still and fitting in, and what actually builds the kind of young person who can thrive when the future is unclear: autonomy, real competence, and genuine connection. Issy breaks down the research behind motivation (Self-Determination Theory) and makes a powerful case for boredom, agency, mixed-age community, and real-world learning—not as trendy ideas, but as essential training for adaptability. If you've ever had wobbly knees in your homeschool journey (or you're just trying to raise resilient kids in a rapidly shifting world), this episode will steady you and give you language for what you already sense is true. Learn more about everything Issy has to offer here Check out The Complete Life Without School Collection here Check out Issy's Podcast here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Stuart Slavin speaks with Dr. Greg Guldner, director of GME Well-Being and assistant dean for Graduate Medical Education at Loma Linda University Health. They discuss how self-determination theory (SDT)—the most widely researched framework for understanding human motivation—can guide meaningful, system-level change in medical education and training. Dr. Guldner explains how autonomy, belonging, competence, and deep meaning (the "ABCDs" of well-being) form the foundation for a healthier workplace culture. Through practical examples and data-driven outcomes, he illustrates how leaders can redesign environments, policies, and interactions to enhance connection, motivation, and fulfillment for both residents and faculty members, creating conditions where everyone can truly thrive in their work. Podcast Chapters (00:00) – Intro & Welcome (00:14) – Guest Background: Dr. Greg Guldner (00:56) – Workplace Well-Being vs. Wellness (01:57) – Why Focus on the Work Environment (02:25) – The Role of Self-Determination Theory (SDT) in Well-Being Interventions (03:36) – Self-Determination Theory: Origins & Impact (05:05) – The Basic Psychological Needs (06:18) – Finding Meaning in the Workplace (07:18) – Autonomy: What It Really Means (10:23) – The Five Steps to Understanding Autonomy (11:38) – Belonging Interventions (15:02) – Competence: Growth & Mastery (18:00) – Feedback and Intervention (18:31) – Meaningful Work: High-Impact Interventions (21:04) – What about Faculty? (21:41) – Measuring Success: Data & Dashboards (25:42) – Closing Thoughts & Resources

High performer pressure feels like motivation, but it's actually survival. In this episode, Julie Holly unpacks why pressure becomes a safety strategy — and how internal steadiness becomes the real path to mastery. Learn to shift from stress to alignment.Why do high performers rely on pressure — even when it's draining them? In this episode, Julie Holly reveals the identity-level truth beneath performance pressure, burnout recovery, and the internal exhaustion so many high-capacity humans carry.When life looks successful but doesn't feel sustainable, it's not a motivation problem — it's a safety problem. Pressure becomes the nervous system's way of creating stability, clarity, and urgency. But pressure doesn't produce mastery. Internal safety does.Drawing from Self-Determination Theory, internal coherence, and the embodied practices of elite performers like LeBron James, Julie explains why pressure narrows your identity, fragments your clarity, and keeps you locked in survival-mode excellence.Inside this episode you'll learn:why performance pressure becomes a default survival strategyhow identity misalignment drives decision fatigue and success without fulfillmenthow allostatic load creates internal chaos even when life looks stablewhy safety expands creativity, mastery, and grounded ambitionhow internal coherence replaces adrenaline as your true internal stabilizerwhy ILR is the only pathway that shifts excellence from stress to identity-level alignmentJulie walks you through practical, accessible micro-recalibrations you can use today to interrupt the pressure loop and retrain your nervous system to trust safety instead of urgency — without sacrificing your edge.Named Entities: LeBron James (elite performance + regulation), Self-Determination Theory (Deci & Ryan), Identity-Level Recalibration (ILR).Today's Micro Recalibration:Ask yourself:Where have I mistaken pressure for motivation? Choose one area and explore:What would this look like if safety led instead of stress?What would excellence look like from alignment, not adrenaline?What small cue of safety can I give my body before I begin?Team Extension: Ask your team: “Where are we driving performance through pressure instead of clarity?”If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Join the next Friday Recalibration Live experience → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Books to read (Tidy categories on Amazon- I've read/listened to each recommended title.) → One link to all things This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

High performers often hit burnout when metrics—not meaning—start defining success. In this episode, discover why constant measurement creates pressure, how to release the scoreboard, and how identity-driven work restores clarity, peace, and sustainable momentum.High performers rarely realize when metrics begin to run their emotional world. The dashboards, numbers, KPIs, and progress charts become the scoreboard of worth—leading to decision fatigue, performance pressure, and a quiet sense of spiritual and emotional depletion.In this episode, Julie uncovers why measurement becomes a master, how identity drifts beneath constant evaluation, and why releasing metrics restores meaning, clarity, and peace. Through the lens of Self-Determination Theory, burnout recovery, role confusion, and success fatigue, she reveals how humans thrive through autonomy, alignment, and inner congruence—not external measurement.You'll also revisit Sara Blakely's story through a new angle: her early success didn't come from dashboards or performance metrics, but from intuition, aligned risk, and meaning-driven decisions. Her story illustrates a truth every high-capacity human needs to remember: metrics can guide you, but they were never meant to govern you.This episode embodies the heart of The Recalibration — Julie's proprietary, psychology-backed, faith-rooted pathway that realigns identity at the root. ILR isn't another performance tool; it's the recalibration that makes every other tool effective again.In this episode, you'll explore: • why metrics become emotional anchors for high performers • how measurement disconnects you from identity and meaning • the psychological pattern behind “scoreboard living” • what autonomy and alignment do for your nervous system • why releasing metrics actually improves outcomes • how to reconnect with meaning instead of measurementToday's Micro Recalibration Where have the numbers become your master? Today, release the scoreboard and return to the meaning beneath the motion. Not everything meaningful can be measured.Team Recalibration Ask your team: “What would change if metrics supported us instead of governed us?”If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Join the next Friday Recalibration Live experience → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Books to read (Tidy categories on Amazon- I've read/listened to each recommended title.) → One link to all things This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

Concerns about Roblox, screentime, and gaming habits.   In this episode of The Secure Family Podcast, Andy discusses the crucial topic of online safety for families, focusing on the vulnerabilities presented by modern video games. Guest Scott Novis, founder of GameTruck and veteran video game developer, shares his insights into the evolution of gaming, the risks of free-to-play models, and strategies for managing screen time effectively.   Scott emphasizes the psychology behind game design, the importance of purchasing games, and the need to play offline to ensure kids' safety. He also covers how to choose appropriate games for children based on their developmental stages and the dangers posed by platforms like Roblox.   For more from Scot Novis: https://www.gametruckparty.com/ Take control of your data with DeleteMe. Because they sponsor the podcast you can get 20% off a privacy plan from DeleteMe with promo code: DAD.  Connect

Susan Matulevicius, MD, MSCS, a national expert on resilience and work-life integration, joins the Faculty Factory Podcast this week for a discussion to help us better deal with life's inevitable stumbling blocks. Dr. Matulevicius serves as Associate Dean of Faculty Wellness and is a Professor of Internal Medicine, Cardiology, at the UT Southwestern Medical Center in Dallas. To help us think about how to create professional well-being in academic medicine, she discusses the 5 Ps: Person Purpose Path Prioritization Permission “When you get down to it, our values generally align with our purpose, and it helps us refocus when we encounter those little stumbling blocks that life puts in our way,” she said. She also touches on the value of understanding your purpose in relation to Self-Determination Theory, which is an important paradigm related to this conversation. With reassurance, Dr. Matulevicius warmly reminds us midway through the conversation of something we all need to hear occasionally: “Sometimes it's okay to not be okay." “Life and work are not always predictable, and sometimes your emotions aren't predictable in the moment. It's okay to recognize that you need more support to help you through that moment,” she said.  Learn More: https://facultyfactory.org/Susan-Matulevicius

n this episode, Coach Giovanni Urrutia, along with guests Matt and Brent, delve into the intricacies of motivation through the lens of Self-Determination Theory. They explore the differences between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, the importance of group cohesion, and how cultural influences shape motivation in military and first responder contexts. The conversation emphasizes the role of leadership in fostering motivation, the significance of understanding one's 'why', and the need for a balance between process and outcome-focused approaches. Practical applications and action items are discussed to help listeners implement these concepts in their own lives.

Motivation fades and excuses pile up. This is when most people quit (but you'll learn how not to). In this episode, we unpack a surprising study that shows how to actually keep making progress when you don't feel like it (using Self-Determination Theory). No hype or fancy programs (these guys didn't even follow a workout plan). Just autonomy, competence, connection, and human to human coaching. Learn the mindset strategies that keep you training (or bettering any area of your health), even when you're not feeling it.

Burnout recovery starts at the identity level. In this episode, Julie Holly unpacks why “doing more” can't heal the fatigue of misalignment—and how shifting from performance to presence restores peace, purpose, and clarity that lasts.When success still doesn't feel like it should — it's not burnout. It's misalignment.High-capacity humans know how to perform under pressure. But when accomplishment no longer brings fulfillment, it's time to recalibrate. In this episode, Julie Holly explores what happens when achievement outpaces identity—and how the shift from doing to being becomes the most strategic move of your life.Drawing from Self-Determination Theory and the story of Phil Knight (Nike), Julie reveals why autonomy, competence, and connection are the true drivers of peace—and how the nervous system learns to rest when identity and action finally align.This isn't about quitting your ambition. It's about integrating it. Because drive isn't the problem—disconnection is.As Julie explains, presence isn't passive; it's proof. When your internal world catches up to your external world, life starts working again—not because you're doing more, but because you're finally being who you are.Identity-Level Recalibration (ILR) is not another mindset tactic—it's the root-level transformation that makes every other tool work again. It's the process that helps high performers trade exhaustion for peace, pressure for clarity, and performance for presence.Whether you're navigating burnout recovery, decision fatigue, or that quiet ache of “success without fulfillment,” this episode is your reminder that you're not falling behind—you're falling into alignment.Take three minutes and look at your calendar, commitments, and conversations. Ask yourself—and your team—Where are we still performing alignment instead of living it?Which goals reflect who we were—not who we are now?What would peace look like if it ran this meeting, project, or business plan?Because true leadership begins when identity leads—and outcomes follow.If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

On Healthy Mind, Healthy Life, host Aanya sits down with Shelley McIntyre, reinvention partner for Gen X professionals and creator of Burn the Map, to unpack the often unseen emotional cost of leaving a long-held role. Shelley names career transition as a form of quiet grief—a loss of identity, status, routine, and social anchors—and offers a clear, practical path forward grounded in Self-Determination Theory (competence, autonomy, connection). We talk corporate disillusionment, whether reinvention must happen outside the system, how to avoid “productivity panic” after an exit, and the risk of spiritual atrophy when you've outgrown a role. If you're mid-career, burned out, or just questioning the ladder you're climbing, this conversation gives you a direct framework to stabilize first and then move with intent.   About the Guest  : Shelley McIntyre is a certified coach and the creator of Burn the Map, guiding Gen X professionals to release outdated roles and design work and lives aligned with clarity, creativity, and purpose.   Key Takeaways: Name the loss: Career transition can mirror grief—loss of identity, status, routine, and community. Allow space before leaping. Stabilize your “CAC” triangle: Build Competence, Autonomy, and Connection outside the job (learn a skill, make real choices, invest in friendships). Don't rush into “productivity panic”: Immediate job-searching without clarity often recreates the same misfit elsewhere. Do a skills inventory: List what you're great at—and which skills you never want to sell again. Stop leading with the latter. Network for weak ties: Warm, lightweight connections often outperform mass applications in a tight market. Reinvention can be internal: “Quiet quitting” only works if life outside work meets your psychological needs and performance remains solid. Watch for spiritual atrophy: When your identity outgrows your title, ignoring the creative self breeds bitterness that spills into relationships. Create a soft landing: Start CAC habits and relationships before you exit; don't assume work friends will remain your primary support. See the system clearly: Corporate structures optimize for the business; design your path with that reality in mind. Small tweaks vs. a new path: Tweaks help—until they don't. Have a plan for a bigger move when the inner signal is unmistakable.   How to Connect with the Guest   Burn the Map (Program): https://burnthemapcoaching.com/ LinkedIn   Want to be a guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life? DM on PM - Send me a message on PodMatch DM Me Here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/avik   Disclaimer: This video is for educational and informational purposes only. The views expressed are the personal opinions of the guest and do not reflect the views of the host or Healthy Mind By Avik™️. We do not intend to harm, defame, or discredit any person, organization, brand, product, country, or profession mentioned. All third-party media used remain the property of their respective owners and are used under fair use for informational purposes. By watching, you acknowledge and accept this disclaimer.   Healthy Mind By Avik™️ is a global platform redefining mental health as a necessity, not a luxury. Born during the pandemic, it's become a sanctuary for healing, growth, and mindful living. Hosted by Avik Chakraborty—storyteller, survivor, wellness advocate—this channel shares powerful podcasts and soul-nurturing conversations on: • Mental Health & Emotional Well-being• Mindfulness & Spiritual Growth• Holistic Healing & Conscious Living• Trauma Recovery & Self-Empowerment   With over 4,400+ episodes and 168.4K+ global listeners, join us as we unite voices, break stigma, and build a world where every story matters.

Richard Osman is known for his wit, his bestselling novels, and his sharp eye for detail. But behind it all is a simple guiding habit: tip generously.For Richard, it's never just about money. Growing up tall and often feeling different gave him a deep sense of empathy, and over time he realised that generosity, whether through money, time, kindness, or attention, isn't an extra, it's essential. It's how we connect, build trust, and shape the kind of people we want to be.In this episode, we explore what Richard's philosophy of generosity can teach us about leadership, empathy, and happiness. Together, we explore:Why empathy often comes from our differencesHow generosity builds trust and connectionThe science of giving and why it makes us happierWhy small, everyday acts can shape who we becomeHow leaders and teams can practise “tipping generously”Because high performance isn't only about discipline and drive, it's also about compassion, empathy, and the quiet strength of lifting others as we go.Here is more information on the studies referenced: Spending money on others promotes happiness (Dunn, Aknin & Norton, 2008)What we get when we give (Harvard Medicine, 2023)Self-Determination Theory and the facilitation of intrinsic motivation, social development, and well-being (Deci & Ryan, 2000)Influencing value priorities and increasing well-being: The effects of reflecting on intrinsic values (Lekes, Hope, Gouveia, Koestner & Philippe, 2012)Listen to the full episode with Richard Osman: https://pod.fo/e/26ea40 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week Jerred and Dave are talking about a study on self determination theory and how it impacts training. 

Would you rather be liked—or be true to yourself? It sounds simple, but what happens when staying true to your values could cost you your job, your marriage, your faith community, or your friendships? In today's episode of The Virtual Couch Presents, Tony Overbay, LMFT, dives into the real difference between character (the traits others see in us) and integrity (the alignment of our actions with our deepest values). Through stories pulled from the legal world, faith communities, workplaces, friendships, and even the messy reality of parenting, Tony explores how external validation can pull us away from who we are—and how emotional maturity, self-determination, and values-based living bring us back home to ourselves. You'll hear about billion-dollar law firms making impossible choices, parents navigating the tension between community expectations and their child's authenticity, and why even a heated debate over pizza sauce in a Hot Pocket can reveal where integrity really lives. At the end of the episode, stay tuned for a short guided meditation to help you connect with your own values and discover how to live them out with integrity. And don't miss the chance to grab a cheat sheet of this episode and Tony's Values Exercise, a simple but powerful tool to help you start discovering who you truly are. This is not about guilt or shame. It's about curiosity, growth, and finding the courage to live with integrity—even when it costs you. 00:00 Welcome to the Virtual Couch 00:50 The Dilemma: Being Liked vs. Being True to Yourself 01:36 Exploring Character and Integrity 02:58 Upcoming Cruise and Workshops 04:04 Character vs. Integrity: Real-Life Examples 14:14 The Legal World: Integrity Under Pressure 33:21 Self-Determination Theory and Emotional Maturity 35:53 Intrinsic Motivation and Self-Determination Theory 36:56 Autonomy, Competence, and Relatedness 37:42 External Rewards and Burnout 38:39 Real-World Examples of Integrity 39:42 Sophia's Journey to Integrity 42:16 Daniel's Struggle with Values 45:12 Integrity in Different Contexts 58:06 Faith and Integrity 01:06:15 Guided Meditation: Coming Home to Your Values Contact Tony at contact@tonyoverbay.com to learn more about his Emotional Architects men's group. And visit https://julie-dejesus.com/cruise to learn more about Tony and his friend Julie De Jesus's "I See You Living" cruise, a 5-night Western Caribbean Cruise from January 24-29, 2026 aboard the Royal Caribbean Cruise Line. To learn more about Tony's upcoming re-release of the Magnetic Marriage course, his Pathback Recovery course, and more, sign up for his newsletter through the link at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch Available NOW: Tony's "Magnetic Marriage Mini-Course" is only $25. https://magneticmarriage.mykajabi.com/magnetic-marriage-mini-course You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com

Would you rather be liked—or be true to yourself? It sounds simple, but what happens when staying true to your values could cost you your job, your marriage, your faith community, or your friendships? In today's episode of The Virtual Couch Presents, Tony Overbay, LMFT, dives into the real difference between character (the traits others see in us) and integrity (the alignment of our actions with our deepest values). Through stories pulled from the legal world, faith communities, workplaces, friendships, and even the messy reality of parenting, Tony explores how external validation can pull us away from who we are—and how emotional maturity, self-determination, and values-based living bring us back home to ourselves. You'll hear about billion-dollar law firms making impossible choices, parents navigating the tension between community expectations and their child's authenticity, and why even a heated debate over pizza sauce in a Hot Pocket can reveal where integrity really lives. At the end of the episode, stay tuned for a short guided meditation to help you connect with your own values and discover how to live them out with integrity. And don't miss the chance to grab a cheat sheet of this episode and Tony's Values Exercise, a simple but powerful tool to help you start discovering who you truly are. This is not about guilt or shame. It's about curiosity, growth, and finding the courage to live with integrity—even when it costs you. 00:00 Welcome to the Virtual Couch 00:50 The Dilemma: Being Liked vs. Being True to Yourself 01:36 Exploring Character and Integrity 02:58 Upcoming Cruise and Workshops 04:04 Character vs. Integrity: Real-Life Examples 14:14 The Legal World: Integrity Under Pressure 33:21 Self-Determination Theory and Emotional Maturity 35:53 Intrinsic Motivation and Self-Determination Theory 36:56 Autonomy, Competence, and Relatedness 37:42 External Rewards and Burnout 38:39 Real-World Examples of Integrity 39:42 Sophia's Journey to Integrity 42:16 Daniel's Struggle with Values 45:12 Integrity in Different Contexts 58:06 Faith and Integrity 01:06:15 Guided Meditation: Coming Home to Your Values Contact Tony at contact@tonyoverbay.com to learn more about his Emotional Architects men's group. And visit https://julie-dejesus.com/cruise to learn more about Tony and his friend Julie De Jesus's "I See You Living" cruise, a 5-night Western Caribbean Cruise from January 24-29, 2026 aboard the Royal Caribbean Cruise Line. To learn more about Tony's upcoming re-release of the Magnetic Marriage course, his Pathback Recovery course, and more, sign up for his newsletter through the link at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch Available NOW: Tony's "Magnetic Marriage Mini-Course" is only $25. https://magneticmarriage.mykajabi.com/magnetic-marriage-mini-course You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com