10 Minutes of Infinite Wisdom

This last episode in the series of Productive Conflict, has Inge and Pam walking through the steps in the practice.This information will assist you to be prepared to enter into a conflict productively. Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

This week's episode is part 2 and a continuation of what it means to have productive conflict.  Inge and I discuss what are triggers and how they can adversely effect your capacity to enter into a conflict productively.  We also talk about ways to work with them, put them aside for the time being, or eliminate them. Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

Pam and Inge Michielsen discuss the value of productive conflict, what it is, and also, what it isn't!  Listen to its entirety to get some good examples too, so that you can begin to practice being in conflict, productively. Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

We are back with Susie Walton! The real reason we love being grandparents - be supportive vs giving advice.Establish an adult relationship with your kids and love on your grandkids. Be a resource and make it safe for them to ask you for help or a shoulder to listen. Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

This conversation with Susie Walton - Parenting & Grandparenting Expert - is for parents and grandparents so that parents can have those crucial conversations with the grandparents.  And, grandparents can understand you get to support your kids and grandkids rather than advise. Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

This is Part 2 of my conversation with Trevor Dunn.  I know I promise 10-12 mins, but this was too good to split up!He dives further into ways to conquer stress, alleviate anxiety, restore order amidst turmoil, refine mindset, gain mental clarity, and enhance decision making.He also talks about how to navigate set backs. Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

Pam's interview with Trevor Dunn (her son) is full of valuable information on how to conquer stress, alleviate anxiety, restore order amidst turmoil, refine our mindset, gain mental clarity, and enhance decision making capacity.Taking action is a prerequisite, so listen to Part 1 of this 3-part series and get started with actions that work. Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

Vulnerability is more natural than we realize. A life full of going for our dreams and having the relationships we desire, means that we will need to access our vulnerability. Let's normalize vulnerability and let's make it more natural. Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

We know it takes two to tango, but how much do we know about the delicate dance of interdependence? Pam speaks about the necessary and constant balancing act between dependence and independence that we all navigate throughout our lives. Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

Are you pushing through and efforting when really you need a break? Pam emphasizes why it's vital to pause and rest and reminds us of the immense wisdom and creativity that comes from slowing down. Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

Do you hold the common belief that hard work is more valuable than rest? Pam reflects on her past relationship to “hard work” and shares new beliefs around fulfillment, purpose, and presence. Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

Have you ever listened to what was being said without considering the who and the why? Pam shares wisdom gained about the importance of holistic listening from a place of patience, curiosity, and care. Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

Feelings of discomfort often coexist with conflict, but does that mean there has to be resolution? Pam reveals why living in a society hooked on “conflict-resolution” does little to spark curiosity, facilitate personal growth, or support self-reflection. Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

Do you confuse belonging with fitting in? Pam urges us to broaden our perspective of “belonging” with the loving reminder that “you belong wherever you're willing to risk being seen”. Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

Candles and baths can be gratifying forms of self care, but what if we thought about it more holistically? Pam provides tools and insights about caring for ourselves mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.  Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

Do you know the difference between being grounded versus being centered? Pam shares examples of how to identify both and speaks to the indispensable value of feeling and listening to ourselves. Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn Videos on YouTube

How often do you truly listen to yourself and others? Pam reminds us that it's never too late to start listening better, more effectively, and more curiously.  Follow us on Instagram Like us on Facebook Information on LinkedIn ...

Do you have enough self trust to put your trust in others? Pam reveals the importance of self trust as a way to cultivate our sense of accountability, intuition, compassion, and boundary setting.

When someone you care about is suffering, is your automatic response to try and fix it? Pam speaks to the deep tenderness we can access within ourselves to hold space for suffering.

Does hearing the word “meditation” immediately invoke visions of crossed legs and closed eyes? Pam speaks about alternative opportunities for meditation in everyday activities and the wisdom we find when we slow down, get still, and listen.

What's the secret to aging gracefully? Pam speaks to Mary Ann Patterson about the value of curiosity, movement, acceptance, and human connection at any age.Mary Ann Patterson is my Mom!  She has approached so much of life with grace and I have learned so much from watching her navigate aging.  Mary Ann is the matriarch of our family of 5 siblings, 7 children, 2 sons-in-law, 3 daughters-in-law, 19 grandchildren, 13 great grandchildren, 9 nieces and nephews.  Her wisdom is shared in every word.

Do you know that your sensitivity is your superpower? Pam speaks about the wisdom of investigating your internal experience in order to connect back to the true essence of who you really are.

Have you ever felt lost in a position of leadership? Pam speaks to Erik Lingvall about the unexpected gifts to be gleaned when we can assess, adapt, and advance in the midst of life's challenges.Erik Lingvall is the Founder and Chief Talent Thrower for Catapult Acting Studio in Atlanta, GA.  His ability to focus on the positive, stay grounded in reality, and create change is nothing short of magnificent!  Erik reminds us that leading ourselves in our lives through new challenges will help build us in ways that serve us for years to come.

Change is often out of our control, but what if we can work with it, rather than against it? Pam speaks to Susie Walton about embracing the changes life throws our way with resilience, presence and acceptance.Susie Walton has so much experience with change in personal and professional aspects. She is a parenting expert and co-hosts a podcast called, Raising Athletes, that speaks to her wisdom as well.  Susie brings the concept of delight and acceptance to change.

Are you listening to the signals your body is giving you? Pam speaks to Lesley Hoffman about  the important practice of tuning into your body and the considerable mental and physical health benefits of doing so.Lesley Hoffman is a Certified Yoga Teacher, former writer for an advertising agency, and has facilitated the Community in Unity Program at the elementary school level for Peaceful Project.  Her vast knowledge and wisdom about the way our bodies talk to us is why we can more easily access what it really means to tune into the body and how to do it.

Can you look past the surface of your child's behavior in order to truly see and meet their unmet needs? In part two of this two-part episode, Pam speaks to Matthew King about seeking deeper understanding, compassion, connection and communication with your children.Matthew King is a Certified Coach, a High School Teacher, and an advocate for children that have experienced trauma.  He has such a great perspective and way of looking at behavior that fosters genuine self acceptance.  His level of compassion and care for self and others is something that inspires all who listen to him.  https://matthewmking.com/

Are you in tune with your own needs enough to effectively show up for others? In part one of this two-part episode, Pam speaks to Matthew King about the wisdom of taking responsibility for your own behavior and the importance of meeting your own needs mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.Matthew King is a Certified Coach, a High School Teacher, and an advocate for children that have experienced trauma.  He has such a great perspective and way of looking at behavior that fosters genuine self acceptance.  His level of compassion and care for self and others is something that inspires all who listen to him.  https://matthewmking.com/

Can we receive the gift of growth in the aftermath of a broken promise? Pam speaks to Leigh Onorato about the wisdom, grace and personal development that can be found in broken promises, if we're willing to stop and listen.Leigh Onorato is that person that everyone wants to be friends with because of her honesty and willingness to put her best first. Leigh can have you belly laughing one minute and crying from her care and compassion the next.

Do you have a way to free your mind when you're up against a wall? Pam speaks to Cindy Appanaitis about the value and wisdom of letting go of thought in order to regain clarity, creativity and self-compassion.Cindy Appanaitis is a Certified Coach for Your Infinite Life, a Teacher in the Corvallis, OR school district, Mom of 2, and a wife.  Cindy lives from the motto of doing her personal best, which means she is always in learning.  Her joy, commitment, love, compassion, and integrity make her a great person to listen to when it comes to freeing your mind.

Do you ever feel like an outsider looking in on your own life? Pam speaks to Stefani Wessel about the necessity of cultivating a relationship with ourselves, first and foremost, in order to show up truly present in our lives.Stefani Wessel is a Certified Coach for Your Infinite Life. She is the host of the podcast, Messy Talk. Stefani embraces life and people while loving the messiness of our humanness.  She is also fun, funny, and full of life.

Do you have a plan in place to maintain your overall wellness? Pam speaks to Soraya Papayoute about the connection between mental, emotional and physical health and the importance of cultivating a routine to support wellbeing.Soraya Papayoute is a therapist and certified coach. More importantly, though, is her story of trauma and resilience because it led her to follow her dream. You will love her plan for taking care of yourself. 

What if before you start, you stop to take pause? Pam speaks to Laura Shiliam about the necessity of self-compassion in creating true change and the lessons learned from stops & starts in her parenting journey.Laura Shilliam is the parent of four children. She is also a Positive Parenting Coach as well as a Coach for Your Infinite Life.  Her accepting nature and willingness to always be learning about how to be the person she wants to be in order to be the parent she wants to be is what makes her an excellent Coach.

Why is it so important to invest in our youth? Pam speaks to Sparkle Simmons about the power of giving children the skills they need to succeed, and connecting them to their own purpose and power. Sparkle Simmons is the Director of Programs and Outreach for The Peaceful Project.  She is also a coach and course leader for Your Infinite Life.  Her dynamic enthusiasm is contagious and inspiring.  She travels between St. Louis and Ft. Myers living her dream of teaching youth to access even more of their brilliance.

If children had the tools to peacefully resolve conflict, could it change the world? Pam speaks to Sparkle Simmons and Lesley Hoffman about the mission behind Community in Unity and the power and wisdom of supporting our youth.Sparkle Simmons and Lesley Hoffman are lead facilitators for Community in Unity in St. Louis and Florida. They have a passion for our youth and, more importantly, for them to understand their brilliance and the power of peace in their lives.

Do triggers show up to teach us more about ourselves? Pam speaks to Christy Deniston about the wisdom of looking at personal triggers as informative “gems” that can help us expand, heal and grow.Christy Deniston is a Certified Coach. She also is a parenting coach with Fresh Start Family.  Christy has a very gentle, loving approach to all challenges.  She makes looking at yourself when you are triggered a beautiful experience.

Could separation be the very thing you need to grow more into yourself as an individual? Pam speaks to Erin King about the wisdom of separating ourselves from who we think we are in order to become who we truly want to be.Erin King’s intuitive way of looking at life's design applies to the beauty she brings to life in her branding design business and in the way she approaches her life as a daughter, mom, wife, and as you will hear, a twin sister!

Are you hoping to create and maintain more balance in your life? Pam encourages listeners to self-reflect on their mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual self-care practices.

Is there wisdom to be found in the aftermath of divorce? Pam speaks to Glenn Goodstein about enduring the hardships, recovering, and rediscovering your true self after divorce. Glenn Goodstein has a vast amount of experience and wisdom and we are grateful he was willing to share that wisdom from his own personal experience with the effects of divorce. He has a genuine and real approach that ends with lots of self-love.

If you knew that you were always “on purpose”, would you look at challenges differently? Pam speaks to our innate magnificence and the immense wisdom in our emotions, vulnerability, and acceptance of ourselves and others.

If children had the tools to peacefully resolve conflict, could it change the world? Pam speaks to Sparkle Simmons and Lesley Hoffman about the mission behind Community in Unity and the power and wisdom of supporting our youth.Sparkle Simmons and Lesley Hoffman are lead facilitators for Community in Unity in St. Louis and Florida. They have a passion for our youth and, more importantly, for them to understand their brilliance and the power of peace in their lives.

Can you put your pride aside and navigate hardships with integrity? Pam speaks to Wendy Snyder about being true to who you are, finding humility in hardship, and the wisdom of starting fresh, even when things get messy.Wendy Snyder has an amazing online support and growth organization for parents called Fresh Start Family. Her passion and wisdom for serving families is nothing short of magnificent. Wendy is a Certified Parent Educator with lots of ways to support families at: www.freshstartfamilyonline.com

Can our differences in relationship to others bring value and richness to our lives? Pam speaks to Michael Fleming about the wisdom of seeing things differently and stopping to take a deeper look at what’s important to us.Michael Fleming is a gem. He works with large teams and in the arena of coaching, he is caring, tender, relatable, and always willing to learn more about himself.

Is it possible to engage with your failures in a constructive and valuable way? Pam speaks to Joshua King about the wisdom of holding your failures lightly in order to grow from them.Joshua King is the US Agile Lead and an Agile Coach for North Highland. His direct, powerful, and accepting way of approaching failure makes him a supportive partner in any endeavor. Joshua is also a Coach for Your Infinite Life.

Do we benefit from surrendering to life’s challenges rather than resisting them? Pam speaks to Mika Barber about adversity as an opportunity for growth and the ways in which we can cultivate resilience through the act of ritual.Mika Barber is a world traveler, taking her family with her to attend life's school. She is passionate about fostering the mother/daughter relationship and coaches utilizing many modalities that she has expertise in. Mika lives in Park City, UT with her husband and 4 daughters.

Are you living life at the pace of a stroll or a sprint? Pam speaks with Gabi Arad about her ongoing practice of patience and the wisdom that emerges when we’re willing to slow down and listen.Gabi Arad is the Rabbi and Leader of Jewish Collaborative in Carlsbad, CA. She is also a Coach and Course Leader for Your Infinite Life Training & Coaching Company. Gabi lives in Carlsbad, CA with her 2 daughters and considers her congregation extended family.Find out more about the Jewish Collaborative of San Diego: www.jcosd.com

What if the function of doubt is not to discourage, but rather to support us, strengthen us, and help us expand? What if “doubt” is not an enemy, but an ally? Pam reflects on her own experience with the unexpected wisdom of doubt.

Do your expectations for how you show up in the world align with your current values? Pam speaks to Aparna Casarella about the wisdom of shedding outdated beliefs and choosing an intentional path forward.Aparna Casarella is a Coach and Facilitator for Your Infinite Life. She holds a Bachelor's and Master's degree and she will say her most important role to date is being a Mom. Aparna's dedication to every single thing she takes on is inspirational.

Do you find yourself setting unattainable goals that leave you feeling less than? Pam speaks to Kelly Leffler about the importance of baby steps and the day-to-day creativity we can tap into when we stop striving for perfection.Kelly Leffler is a Coach and Course Leader at Your Infinite Life. She is also the Manager of Population Health at Tallahassee Memorial Hospital. Her ability to pivot and keep everybody's needs in focus during the beginning and throughout the pandemic is masterful.

Is there emotional safety in being your authentic self? Pam speaks to Amy Reed about her personal journey with coming out and the undeniable freedom that resides in living your truth. Amy Reed is a devoted and curious listener. She has developed these skills through the journey of learning to listen to herself deeply. Amy is a certified Coach through Your Infinite Life and can be found at www.amyreedcoaching.com.

Are there gaps between what you say you want and what you actually get? Pam speaks to the capacity we all have to change if only we’re willing to look inside.

Has your own misinterpretation of a situation ever caused you to underestimate others? Pam speaks to Jen Sights about the power of opening up, the disservice of underestimating others, and the wisdom of learning from misunderstandings.Jen Sights is a Certified Life Coach at Your Infinite Life. You can find out about her at www.harmoniouspathcoaching.com. You will love the honesty and acceptance that Jen talks about during our discussion. She helped me integrate what it really means when we say, "when you know better, you do better."