Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships

If you're a new mom, about to become one, or navigating healing from past chaos while building a peaceful life, this episode speaks directly to the raw, unfiltered reality of becoming a parent. Learn how early motherhood can unexpectedly awaken old wounds—and how to hold space for both your child and your inner child without losing yourself.In this episode, you'll discover:How motherhood can reactivate trauma from past toxic relationships and how to process thatWhy the early postpartum weeks can feel like emotional whiplash—even in a loving relationshipHow to tend to your inner children while raising a child of your ownPress play to hear the honest, tender, and empowering conversation every healing woman deserves to hear this Mother's Day.MENTIONED:Episode 50. SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: The Massive Life Update I Never Thought I'd Make: https://pod.fo/e/27ea20RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

If you've been burned by a toxic relationship or two (or five—no judgment), dating again can feel like a terrifying endeavor.This episode is here to help you get prepped for what to look out for before you're deep into another emotional circus.In this episode, you will:Learn the 3 red flags that should have you moonwalking out of your next relationship like MJHear the #1 question to ask yourself if you suspect you're in an unhealthy relationshipGet the downlow on what you absolutely need to know before you commit to anyoneHit that play button and let's figure out how to trust your gut, dodge the drama, and find love that doesn't come with a user manual.MENTIONED:Denise's book: Elephants Don't Marry Giraffes: Things You Should Know About Relationships Before You Hook Up, Move In Together or Fully CommitDenise's website: http://www.deniseschonwald.comGet the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotesRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Have you ever looked back and wondered why you stayed so long, giving your ex SO many second chances, despite knowing the relationship was somehow toxic?Breaking free from a narcissistic relationship isn't just about willpower—this episode will help you make sense of your past choices so you can move forward with self-compassion.In this episode you will:Gain a clear understanding of why you kept giving your ex second chancesFind insight into why narcissistic relationships feel like an addiction you just can't quitGet a simple exercise you can do today to move beyond self-blame and gain back your self-esteemHit play now to start reclaiming your emotional freedom.MENTIONED:Interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotesRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Was any of it real? Or were you just being used the whole time?If you're stuck replaying memories, trying to figure out whether your narcissistic ex ever truly loved you, you're not alone. The need for answers is REAL. In this episode, we're breaking down why this question haunts you—and what you can do to finally find closure.By the end of this episode, you will:Understand why you feel desperate for an answer about their loveLearn what love actually means to a narcissist (and why it's not what you think)Take a powerful step toward emotional freedom and healing so you can find closureHit play now to uncover the truth, release the confusion, and take back your peace.MENTIONED:3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotesRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Why does breaking up with a narcissist feel like ripping apart your mind, body and soul, unlike other breakups?Breaking free from a narcissistic relationship isn't just about letting go of a person, and this episode will help you understand why healing feels so layered.In this episode you will discover:Exactly why a narcissistic breakup hurts deeper, lingers longer, and requires a whole new level of healingThe incredible impact a narcissistic relationship has on your emotional, psychological and physiological well beingClear steps that you can start today to begin healing from this relationship▶️ Press play now to uncover the science, strategies, and emotional truths that will empower you to begin healing today.MENTIONED:Ep. 59 - The Narcissist's Lie: Weaponized Sex And The Path to Reclaiming Your Sexuality & Self-Esteem with Hilary Buckwalter-WildeEp. 40 - Finding Self Love & Trust in Yourself So You Can Heal Heartbreak & Increase Your Self-Esteem With EFT Tapping: https://pod.fo/e/27408eFind Yourself Again (A self-guided course to help you identify your values, needs and wants so you can enter into healthy relationships confidently) use with code PODCAST10: https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotesSubmit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotesRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Are you paralyzed in your decision to leave a relationship because you're terrified that they won't be okay if you go?If you've ever found yourself shouldering the responsibility for your partner's emotions, decisions, or struggles and feel afraid to be seen as the villain in their story, this episode is for you.In this episode you'll discover:A new perspective on why staying in a rescuing role may be doing more harm than goodTangible ways to overcome your terror that he won't be okay if you leaveThe life-changing way this client overcame her fear of being the villain in his storyListen now to learn how to move through your fear, let go with love, and trust that both of you will be okay.MENTIONED:The free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE to learn how to communicate without feeling guilty or shutting down and create a secure attachment style before your next relationship: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotesRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you wonder why it is so hard to let go of a relationship, even when things really aren't working?If you're stuck not knowing when or if you should leave, you're not alone. This episode dives into why we stay in painful relationships and how to find the peaceful inner knowing of what to do.In this episode you'll discover:3 reasons we hold onto relationships even when we feel unhappy in themPractical ways to know if you've tried everything to help the relationshipHow to keep track if progress is being made toward your relationship goals - both yours and your partner's - so you aren't stuck wondering if the relationship will ever get betterListen now to uncover what's keeping you from letting go and how to take your first steps toward freedom.MENTIONED:Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotesRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Are you navigating a divorce with someone who is narcissistic and wondering how to protect yourself and your kids from manipulation and abuse?The threats, manipulation, and fear of escalation can leave you questioning your every move.In this episode, you will discover:The clear, practical steps you need to take to plan for a safe exit from a narcissistic spouseEffective strategies for documentation to outmaneuver manipulation in family court and keep your kids safeTechniques to maintain your composure and confidence, even when your ex is manipulating those around you to believe his liesRemember, you are strong as hell. Press play now to gain the knowledge and tools you need to navigate this challenging time and emerge stronger and more empowered.MENTIONED:Domestic Abuse Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or https://www.thehotline.orgSybil's website: www.risingbeyondpc.comSybil's IG: @‌risingbeyondpcSybil's Podcast: Rising BeyondCreate Your Loophole-Free Parenting Plan: 5 Strategies for Protecting You and Your Children: https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/webinars.htmlSybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Approved Clinical Supervisor specializing in working with victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence including the youngest witnesses. She owns a small group therapy practice in Colorado and after witnessing the constant ethical issues survivors experience in the family court system trying to protect their children, she also started Rising Beyond Power and Control to support survivors dealing with post separation abuse. Sybil also started The Rising Beyond Podcast to offer support to a larger audience in 2022 and is active in legislative changes in Colorado.RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

What if there was a clear reason that your last narcissistic relationship was so hard to leave?In this episode, we uncover the striking parallels between narcissistic relationships, cult dynamics and addiction. These relationships don't just manipulate your emotions—they hijack your mind, body, and sense of reality which can make leaving (and healing) feel impossible.In this episode you will discover:How narcissistic relationships mirror cult dynamics and trap you in a false realityWhy these toxic bonds feel addictive and how they rewire your brain to keep you dependent on themThe steps to detox from the addictive cycle and break free from manipulation.Don't let the cycle control you any longer—press play now to uncover the truth, and break free.MENTIONED:Submit an interest form⁠ to work with me: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotesGet the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotesHilary's other podcast episodes:Ep. 47: Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand It With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde https://pod.fo/e/277854Ep. 48: How Narcissists Use Sex As Manipulation & Control In Toxic Relationships With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde (Part 2): https://pod.fo/e/27854aEp. 59: The Narcissist's Lie: Weaponized Sex And The Path to Reclaiming Your Sexuality & Self-Esteem with Hilary Buckwalter-WildeHilary's website: indwellingduluth.comHilary's Instagram: @‌sacredcounsel.duluthRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Have you found yourself questioning how someone could lie, manipulate, or provoke you without remorse?When you're dealing with someone who seems to thrive on pushing your buttons, it's easy to feel stuck and confused.In this episode, we unravel the mystery behind their behavior, helping you understand the way their minds work so you can make sense of what feels incomprehensible.In this episode you will:Finally understand if narcissists know that they are hurting you and if they act cruel on purposeLearn their deeper motivation for being in a relationship and why conversations and conflict resolution never seem to work with themGain practical tips for identifying manipulation tactics so you aren't second-guessing what is happening in your relationshipPress play now to uncover the truth behind their behavior and learn how to stop their emotional hold over you—it's time to reclaim your power.MENTIONED:Phoenix's website: https://phoenixcore.ca/Ep. 47: Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand It With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde https://pod.fo/e/277854Interest form to work with Bre: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotesRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Have you ever found yourself trapped in a whirlwind of emotions after betrayal, leaving you torn between the instinct to stay close to someone who has hurt you and the deep knowledge that you deserve better?In this episode, Heidi Dike Kingston and I explore the complex dynamics of betrayal trauma, the effects it has on your nervous system, and the steps to begin healing so you can move toward a life of safety and emotional freedom (this is part 2 to Heidi's story).By listening to this episode, you will:Understand why betrayal trauma feels so overwhelming and confusing - like life or deathLearn how attachment systems play a role in keeping you second guessing your decision to leave and/or going backDiscover the physiological effects betrayal trauma has on our body and steps to take today to begin to healHit play now to uncover actionable steps and heartfelt insights that will empower you to heal from betrayal trauma and reclaim your emotional strength!MENTIONED:EP 66: How Unhealed Attachment Wounds Lead to Addictive Toxic Relationships with Heidi Dike Kingston (Part 1)Heidi's website: http://heidikingston.comAssociation of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists: https://www.apsats.org/#!event-listAdult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families (ACA): https://adultchildren.orgSex & Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA): https://slaafws.orgRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating unhealthy relationship patterns despite your best efforts to move forward?This episode dives deep into the ‘why' behind our unmanageable cycles of seeking connection or staying in harmful relationships, and how we can make sense of it all.Listen as Heidi Dike Kingston shares her personal journey of love addiction recovery in this part 1 of 2.In this episode you will:Understand the key family dynamics that effect our ability to attach in adult relationships (and how to heal yours)Finally recognize where the core belief, “I can't be alone” comes from and how it can lead to a trauma bonded relationshipLearn how holding onto someone's potential keeps you stuck in toxic relationships & impacts real intimacyClick play to uncover the roots of your relationship patterns and take the first step toward breaking free and building the love life you deserve.MENTIONED:Part 2 of Heidi's episode coming next Wednesday! Ep. 67 How Betrayal Trauma Hijacks Your Brain & Nervous System - And How To Break Free With Heidi Dike Kingston (Part 2)Heidi's website: http://heidikingston.comAssociation of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists: https://www.apsats.org/#!event-listAdult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families (ACA): https://adultchildren.orgSex & Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA): https://slaafws.orgRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Are you wondering if true, healthy love is even possible for you?This episode dives into the heart of what makes relationships genuinely fulfilling. If you've ever found yourself questioning what you should expect from a partner or doubting your ability to experience real love after a toxic relationship, this conversation is for you.In this episode you will:Understand the 8 signs of a healthy relationship so you stop wondering what you can/should expectDiscover the surprising common belief many women have about relationships that keep them stuckLearn why focusing on what is possible in relationships will help you experience real love in your next relationshipHit play now to uncover the tools and insights you need to create the love story you've always dreamed of.MENTIONED:EP 49: Am I Codependent? How To Stop Fixing Everyone & Build Self-Esteem So You Can Have Healthier Relationships With Behk & LAH - https://pod.fo/e/27aa88RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you want to lose it when people tell you to just “love yourself?”Loving yourself can be a nebulous thing and can feel far away, especially while moving through heartbreak from a narcissistic relationship, period - but definitely around Valentine's Day.In this episode Angela Slade and I have a powerful conversation that will take the confusion out of self-love and show you exactly how you can get there.In this episode you will:Finally understand what "loving yourself" really means and how you can get thereKnow exactly what to do this Valentine's Day to feel better if you're smack in the middle of heartbreak and hate everything about loveReceive tips on how to be with loneliness without it taking you underValentine's Day gets to be about YOU loving YOU. You are worth it. Click play to feel the love.MENTIONED:Stepping Into Your Authentic Self (Angela's oracle card spread) - www.angelaslade.comEp. 63: The Truth About Healing From The Narcissistic Mindf*ck & Why It Can Feel Hard to Love Yourself Again (my story)RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Are you wondering if anyone can relate to the self-blame, confusion and heartbreak you're experiencing since you broke up with your narcissistic ex?This episode shares my story.I give you an explicit view from my ride on the toxic rollercoaster and how I finally got off and healed from the mindf*ck of it all - all while learning what the heck "loving myself" even meant. So when I say, “You are not alone…” I mean it.In this episode you will:Be validated as sh*t that you aren't alone by hearing the intimate details of my narcissistic ex's betrayal, manipulation and emotional abuse and how I healed from it allBegin to see the light at the end of your dark tunnel if you are still in the pain of healing - because you will heal tooUnderstand what loving yourself actually means and what healthy love feels like so you know what you can expect in the future without sounding like you're asking for too muchJoin me as I uncover how I (and you) can leave the pain behind and step into a future filled with confidence, clarity, and the love you deserveMENTIONED:Episode 40: Finding Self Love & Trust in Yourself So You Can Heal Heartbreak & Increase Your Self-Esteem With EFT Tapping: https://pod.fo/e/27408eRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Are you struggling to comprehend how your ex could be capable of cheating or living an entire double life?Betrayal trauma cuts deeper than most wounds.In this episode Deana and Lizzie from The Matadoras share their emotional journey of discovering they were both entangled in the same man's manipulative web, how they unraveled his lies and found the strength to move forward.In this episode you will:Understand better how you didn't see the betrayal and cheating happening while you were in itLearn how to approach the dilemma of telling the next woman he's with about the kind of man he isHear why big-hearted women (like you!) often find themselves healing from betrayal trauma, and what to do to move through the heartbreak▶️ Listen now to uncover how betrayal trauma survivors Deana and Lizzie navigated the depths of betrayal and found strength to heal—and discover how you can too.MENTIONED:Tiktok & IG: @‌thematadorasThe Matadoras on FacebookWebsite: http://www.thematadoras.comEmail: thematadoras@gmail.comEp. 47: Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand It With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde https://pod.fo/e/277854RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

How many times has the question, "Am I the toxic one?" keep you up at night, spiraling you into self-blame and self-doubt?If you've found yourself replaying arguments, doubting your worth, and wondering if your reactions are to blame, it's time to get clarity. In this episode, you will:Finally have an easy way to finally be able to answer the, “Am I the toxic one?” question when you're lost and dysregulatedBe able to step outside of self-blame and begin to raise your self-esteemShift your mindset from harsh self-judgment to compassionate self-awareness so you can stop second guessing yourselfListen now to discover the clarity and compassion you need to silence self-doubt.MENTIONED:EP. 22: Am I Anxiously Attached or In the Wrong Relationship? How to Move Towards Secure Attachment & Healthy Relationships With Eli Harwood - https://pod.fo/e/2747a7RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Are you asking, “Why did he do this to me?!” completely bewildered by a narcissists behavior?Making sense of it can sometimes feel like you're trying to understand someone from another planet, and this episode will shine some light on the seemingly non-sensical mindf*ck.By tuning in, you'll discover:The why behind the behaviors, patterns, and tactics used by narcissistic individuals that leave you second-guessing your realityHow to identify the key red flags showing someone is a narcissist and the specific things you can do to protect yourself (and your sanity)If it is possible to maintain a relationship with a narcissist and how to gauge if you should leavePress play now to arm yourself with the knowledge and tools to navigate, heal, and thrive beyond the grip of a narcissistic relationship.MENTIONED:Interest form: https://tinyurl.com/interest-form-htwshownotesEp. 47: Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand It With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde https://pod.fo/e/277854RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

How do you recognize when intimacy has shifted from connection to control?If you've ever felt that your partner's actions didn't align with their words or found yourself using sex to end a fight, this discussion with Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde will resonate deeply for you.In this episode you will:Gain clarity on how sex can be misused as a tool for control and manipulation, trapping you further into narcissistic cyclesLearn how patriarchal narratives might shape your view of intimacy and self-worth and how to reclaim your genuine sexual powerDiscover the steps to grieve and heal from the traumatic mindf*ck of realizing your relationship was built on deceitTune in now to uncover the tools and insights you need to break free from manipulation and reclaim your power.MENTIONED:Ep. 47: Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand The Heartbreak With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde (Part 1) - https://pod.fo/e/277854Ep. 48: How Narcissists Use Sex As Manipulation & Control In Toxic Relationships With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde (Part 2) - https://pod.fo/e/27854aHilary's website: indwellingduluth.comHIlary's Instagram: @‌sacredcounsel.duluthRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Wondering how the heck you're supposed to spot the subtle red flags in your next relationship so you don't fall into another narcissist's trap?Dating again after a narcissistic relationship can be downright terrifying, so in this episode, Angela Davis LCSW and I will equip you with what you need to confidently date without fear.In this episode you will:Learn the #1 sign you're dating someone who is narcissistic or emotionally unavailableUnderstand the 2 most successful ways to navigate your fear of datingGet the tips you need to feel confident walking away from red flags earlyPress play now to uncover the emotional and practical tools you need to break free from narcissistic cycles, heal deeply, and navigate relationships with clarity and confidenceMENTIONED:Find Yourself Again (A self-guided course to help you identify your values, needs and wants so you can enter into healthy relationships confidently) use with code PODCAST10 for 10% off: https://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotesAngela's IG and TikTok : @‌datingthroughtheDSMEp. 56 - The Incredible Mindset Change That Will Help You Break Free From Narcissistic Relationship Cycles with Cheryl Brockie: https://pod.fo/e/293034 RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Are you craving clarity and guidance as you stand at a crossroads, unsure of your next steps in your relationship?The end of the year can feel like a whirlwind—especially if you're wrestling with life-changing decisions in your relationships.This episode explores how harnessing the reflective energy of the winter season can help you access a sense of peace and purpose, even in the midst of chaos.By listening to this episode, you will:Understand how to use the darkest time of the year to find relief from the uncertainty you feel in your relationshipLearn how to make relationship decisions that feel “right” (and you don't feel guilty about)Create simple practices to incorporate into your daily routine to bring long-term guidance and clarity to if you should stay or leave▶️ Press play now to discover how setting intentional, small steps this season can unlock the guidance you've been searching for.MENTIONED:Episode 40 - Finding Self Love & Trust in Yourself So You Can Heal Heartbreak & Increase Your Self-Esteem With EFT Tapping: https://pod.fo/e/27408eEpisode 43 - If I Leave, Will I Be Okay? Finding Strength To Leave A Narcissistic Relationship When You Feel Like You Won't Be Able To Figure It All Out With Tahj Condra: https://pod.fo/e/27407eRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

What does it take to exit the narcissistic cycle for good?If you've ever felt like your worth depended on someone choosing you, this episode with Cheryl Brockie is for you.We dive into the key components you need to strut into healthy relationships with authentic confidence and leave the toxic ones behind.In this episode you will:Learn the #1 game changer that will shift you out of toxic relationships and help you stop dating people who hurt youHear the unbelievable dating stories that led Cheryl to break the negative cycle of narcissistic relationships (in her 40's)Understand how lingering self-worth issues from childhood affect who you choose as a partner and how to heal themEmotional freedom here we come! Hit play to find yours.MENTIONED:Cheryl's website: https://cherylbrockie.comIG: @cherylkbrockieCheryl's essential guide to healthy relationships - http://getdatingsuccess.com/freeEpisode 42: Why We Don't Walk Away From Red Flags & Continue Cycles of Heartbreak in Narcissistic Relationships: https://pod.fo/e/27407fRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Are you navigating the holidays as a newly single woman wondering how to feel joy amidst grief?What if this season could also be an opportunity to reclaim your narrative, honor your healing, and create traditions that reflect who you are becoming?In this empowering episode, you'll learn:How to redefine your single status into something empoweringPractical steps to design holiday traditions that genuinely light you upTechniques to manage emotional triggers and build a self-soothing toolkit so you can self-regulateHoliday blues don't have to define your season—press play now and discover how to create a joyful, empowering holiday that's all about you.MENTIONED:Ep. 54 - How To Cope With Loneliness After Heartbreak During The Holidays: https://pod.fo/e/28b5c7 RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Is the “most magical time of the year” starting to feel more like a rom-com gone wrong?The holidays can hit differently when you're single—especially after leaving a toxic relationship. The world around you screams joy and togetherness while you may be navigating grief, confusion, and the weight of healing.This episode explores how to embrace both the heartbreak and the hope this season brings, empowering you to find meaning in the duality of your emotions.In this episode, you'll learn:Why pretending you're fine at holiday parties when you were crying in your car five minutes ago isn't helping you move onHow to allow yourself to actually connect with loved ones despite being in heartbreak so you can enjoy this holiday seasonInspiration to honor where you are while envisioning the relationship you deserveFeel seen, supported, and maybe even a little inspired—hit play now to turn your “holiday blues” into a season of growth (and maybe a snarky journal entry or two).MENTIONED:Ep. 25 - What To Do After The Breakup: 4 Steps to Help You Move Through The Grief & Heartbreak Of A Narcissistic Relationship: https://pod.fo/e/2747a4RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Have you ever wondered how toxic relationships could be influencing your relationship with food and your body?In this episode, we're diving into how disordered eating often sneaks in as a coping mechanism when emotions get too messy or relationships feel like a rollercoaster you can't get off.If you've felt stuck in patterns of self-criticism or body fixation, this conversation with Kathryn Holt PhD, LCSW offers insight into the deeper emotional dynamics at play—and how to break free.In this episode you will:Learn why “feeling fat” isn't a feeling and how it to begin to reconnect your mind and bodyUncover the 2 most surprising suppressed emotions that are linked to both eating disorders and relationship challengesUnderstand how disordered eating and toxic relationships both exacerbate nervous system dysregulation and keep you stuck in unhealthy situationsPress play now to explore the powerful link between emotional healing and reclaiming control over your relationship with food, your body, and your life.MENTIONED:Kathryn's website: http://kathryncholt.comKathryn's IG: @‌drkathryncholtKathryn's books: Overcoming Body Hatred Workbook and Stronger Than PBD JournalEpisode 40: Finding Self Love & Trust in Yourself So You Can Heal Heartbreak & Increase Your Self-Esteem With EFT Tapping https://pod.fo/e/27408eRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Are you the only one noticing a family member's toxic behavior, while everyone else just tiptoes around it?In this episode, Kristin Hill and I dive into the unique challenges of dealing with a narcissistic family member who isn't your partner—like a mother-in-law.If you're struggling with difficult in-laws or close family members, this episode sheds light on maintaining your peace while preserving family ties.In this episode you will:Hear the cringey challenges Kristin experienced in having a narcissistic mother-in-law (and how she didn't lose her mind)Understand how to manage the balance between respecting family ties and protecting your own peaceGet the number one piece of advice you need before you start setting boundaries, especially during the holidaysDon't let family dynamics hold you back—hit play now to gain insights and tools for handling narcissistic family members and reclaiming your peace.MENTIONED:EP. 51: 3 Ways To Set & Maintain Healthy Boundaries With Narcissistic Or Emotionally Immature People This Holiday Season - https://pod.fo/e/281bd4Connect with her via email: kristinhilltherapy@gmail.comWebsite: kristinhilltherapy.comRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Are you dreading those holiday gatherings with people who constantly cross your boundaries or leave you feeling drained?For many, the holidays are not just a time for joy but also a source of anxiety.But what if you had clear strategies to stay in control and prioritize your well-being?In this episode, you'll discover:The vital FIRST thing you need to do before setting a boundary with a narcissistic or emotionally immature personUseful ways to stay calm and avoid turning into the Grinch, even when family members are pushing every button you haveReal-world, clear examples of how to set a boundary (because asking, “Could you not?” just isn't cutting it)Ready to go into this season confidently setting limits and protecting your peace? Hell yes, let's do this.MENTIONED:Ep. 40: Finding Self Love & Trust in Yourself So You Can Have Healthy Relationships & Increase Your Self-Esteem With EFT Tapping https://pod.fo/e/27408eDomestic Abuse Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or https://www.thehotline.orgRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Have you ever thought you had your life all figured out, only to get hit with a plot twist that leaves you saying, “Wait… what?!”In today's episode, I'm spilling the beans on a major life update that even I didn't see coming. Whether you're feeling stuck, scared to take the next step, or just wondering if things could ever turn around, this episode is your reminder that life's surprises can be shockingly wonderful.In this episode, you will:Hear my special announcement on this massive life change! Laugh (and maybe cringe) at my journey of surrendering controlGet the real-talk about the wild ride I've had healing from a being with a narcissistic person and tending to my childhood wounds so that I can now experience a loving relationship where this life change was possible Click play to join me in celebrating!MENTIONED:EP. 30: The REBRAND Episode (Behind the Scenes) https://pod.fo/e/27479fEp. 10: Waking Up From a Toxic Relationship Nightmare, Rebuilding My Confidence & Stepping Into Real Love (My Story) https://pod.fo/e/274132RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Where are all my empathetic, loving, codependent ladies at?!Whether you are tangled in someone else's addiction, trying to “fix” and manage others' lives, or find yourself spewing passive aggressiveness when your partner loads the dishwasher wrong, codependency takes an emotional toll that is a total doozy.This episode with my guests Behk and LAH, co-hosts of Narcissists, Gaslighters, and Cheaters Oh My!, dives into how to recognize those patterns, set healthier boundaries, and stop sacrificing your own well-being to avoid conflict or chaos.In this episode you will:Hear real life examples of how myself, Behk and LAH all have gone from believing…“everything is mine to fix” to “that's a big glass of not my f*cking problem” (with compassion and grace)Learn strategies to stop the self-blame and guilt when you start to change your codependent patternsSteps you can take if you're just starting your codependent healing journey so that you don't pass down this trauma response to your children (or future kiddos)Hit play now and give yourself permission to step away from the drama llama and prioritize your peace!

Could the very thing that feels like connection be part of a darker cycle of abuse?This is a continuation of my conversation with Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde from Ep. 47 where we explore the complex dynamics of narcissistic abuse and her experience of having sex used as a powerful tool for manipulation.If you've ever struggled to leave a toxic relationship because of the physical intimacy that kept you hooked thinking, “I can't leave because the sex is too good,” this conversation will resonate deeply and shed light on the emotional entanglements you may not even realize you're caught in.In this episode you will:Understand how narcissistic partners use sex to maintain control and create emotional dependencyLearn about the psychological impact of sex in abusive relationships and why it's so difficult to break freeThe surprising role that consent plays in relationships where sexual exploitation is disguised as intimacyDon't miss this eye-opening episode that could change the way you view intimacy and control in toxic relationships—click play now and reclaim your understanding of what real love and connection should feel like!MENTIONED:Part 1 of Hilary's story is episode 47: Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand It With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde: https://pod.fo/e/277854 Hilary's website: indwellingduluth.comHIlary's Instagram: @‌sacredcounsel.duluthHilary Buckwalter-Wilde, MA, is the founder of Indwelling: A Place to Restore Connection. Hilary is a Sacred Counsel Guide that specializes in trauma healing and narcissistic abuse recovery. She sees clients one on one in private practice and also leads retreats, workshops, and offers trainings and certificate programs.RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Trying to come to terms with knowing that your ex was someone completely opposite of who they presented to be in the beginning?This dives deep into the experience of falling for someone who presents themselves as the perfect person, only to later realize their true nature. You will hear Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde's story and what she experienced as her ex narcissistic partner's masks fell off during their relationship.If you are moving through the grief and confusion that surrounds this type of deception, asking yourself “Was any of this real?!” this episode is for you.In this episode you will:Understand how love bombing creates an illusion of a "perfect" partner.Discover why we overlook the truth when someone tells you who they really are upfront.Learn how to heal the worthiness wound that keeps so many of us stuck in unhealthy relationshipsTHIS IS PART 1 of Hilary's story! Catch part 2 coming this Friday 10/25 as the episode immediately following this one. Listen now to feel less alone in your journey of healing from narcissistic deception and low self-worth.CONNECT:Hilary's website: indwellingduluth.comHIlary's Instagram: @‌sacredcounsel.duluthHilary Buckwalter-Wilde, MA, is the founder of Indwelling: A Place to Restore Connection. Hilary is a Sacred Counsel Guide that specializes in trauma healing and narcissistic abuse recovery. She sees clients one on one in private practice and also leads retreats, workshops, and offers trainings and certificate programs.RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Ever find yourself wondering, "Why do I keep dating people who seem to be allergic to basic empathy?" Yeah, you're not alone.In this episode, we dive into why some of us (no judgment) keep choosing partners who make us question our picker. Spoiler: Childhood. If you've ever felt like your love life could double as a reality show, this one's for you!Here's what you'll get from this episode:A-ha moments about how childhood shapes our idea of love (and why it might be broken)Tiffanie's vulnerable experience being with two narcissistic abusive men in a row and her advice on how to avoid falling into the trapHow to actually heal the deeper wounds so you can finally have a healthy relationshipHit play now and get ready to rethink why you're dating the human version of a red flag—and how to change that!MENTIONED:Find Yourself Again (An online course to help you identify your values, needs and wants so you can enter into healthy relationships confidently): https://brewolta.mykajabi.com/find-yourself-againTiffanie's podcast: True Crime Connections Advocacy Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-connections-advocacy-podcast/id1527939841Tiffanie's website: www.truecrimeconnections.comEp. 42: Why We Don't Walk Away From Red Flags & Continue Cycles of Heartbreak in Narcissistic Relationships https://pod.fo/e/27407fRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Have you ever had a conversation so twisted, you walked away wondering if you're losing your mind? How about 50 of those convos? How about an entire relationship that had you thinking you were crazy? I've been there too—stuck in a relationship that messes with your reality so much, you start doubting your own memory. And it totally sucks. So, buckle up for this episode where I break down gaslighting and show you how to regain the trust you've lost in yourself.In this episode you will:Hear real examples of what gaslighting is and feels likeGet practical tips on how to rebuild your self-trust after months (or years) of, "Am I crazy?" momentsUnderstand why your intuition isn't brokenReady to reclaim your reality and sanity? Press play now and let's heal through the mind-f*ck that is gaslighting—don't forget to stick around for that Oracle card moment at the end!MENTIONED:Find Yourself Again (Online course to help you identify your values, needs and wants so you can enter into healthy relationships confidently). USE CODE PODCAST10 for 10% off: https://brewolta.mykajabi.com/find-yourself-againRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Why do we stay in painful, confusing narcissistic relationships even when we know they hurt us? If you've ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of emotional highs and devastating lows, this episode will shed light on the deeper dynamics at play in trauma-bonded relationships and how early experiences shape these unhealthy attachments.In this episode, you'll discover:How codependency and love bombing are intertwinedThe link between trauma bonds and unresolved childhood griefHow abusive relationships become falsely associated with safety & why they are so hard to leaveThis thought-provoking discussion is fully designed to help you start recognizing the patterns that keep you stuck, so you can begin the journey toward healthier relationships.MENTIONED:PART 2 called Trapped in a Toxic Relationship? How to Break Free from the Fog! Coming Wednesday Oct. 9th on Anthony's podcast: The Narcissism DecoderGet in touch with Anthony: https://www.drmazzella.com/Ep. 31: Trauma Bonding: What It Really Is And How To Avoid So You Can Move Towards Healthy RelationshipsRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Is staying in your relationship leaving you feeling drained, yet the idea of leaving has you feeling powerless?This episode dives deep into the reality of breaking free from narcissistic and painful relationships, showing how it's not only possible to heal but how doing so can free up your mental and emotional capacity, helping you feel like yourself again.In this episode you will:Discover how to reclaim your energy, capacity, and resources when you leave a narcissistic relationshipUnderstand how to reset your parasympathetic nervous system for emotional recovery and find compassion for who you were in that relationshipMaster the art of stepping out of the rescuer role and choosing you sans the guilt▶️ Ready to start your healing journey? Click play now and give yourself the gift of clarity and peace.MENTIONED:Ep. 40 - Finding Self Love & Trust in Yourself So You Can Have Healthy Relationships & Increase Your Self-Esteem With EFT Tapping: https://link.chtbl.com/MBA1wRF4RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Ever look back on an unhealthy relationship and think, "What was I thinking—was I blind or just a professional red-flag collector?"(I've been there, no shame here.)If you've ever found yourself cringing at your past choices and wondering why you stuck around longer than a bad Netflix series, this episode dives deep into the real reasons behind those decisions—and how you can finally move on without the guilt trip.In this episode you will:Understand what fuels our dissociation from seeing the red flags are wavingThey key you need in order to recognize behavior that isn't working for you and walk awayLearn how to stop judging yourself like it's an Olympic event and start healing for realIt's time to ditch the red flags and reclaim your peace—no more relationship reruns! Press play for all the goodness.MENTIONED:Find Yourself Again (A self-guided course to help you identify your values, non-negotiables, and wants so you can enter into healthy relationships confidently): https://brewolta.mykajabi.com/find-yourself-again3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://www.brewolta.com/lovebombingRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Is it dysfunctional or is it abusive?Sometimes it can be hard to tell what type of relationship we are (or were) in because abuse doesn't always leave a mark.In this episode Khryzza Kelley shares with us how she realized that the relationship she was in was emotionally abusive and how she found the knowing that it was time to leave. She relays her journey through trauma healing and repatterining her behaviors, and beautifully shares how she and her now husband maintain a healthy relationship - giving you a guide on what to look for in a healthy dynamic.In this episode you will:Hear the unspoken reason why verbal abuse is so hard to recognizeUnderstand the most vital aspects necessary for a healthy relationship, and how the heck to know you're in something healthyLearn how Khryzza moved out of the trauma responses from her abusive relationship in order to trust herself and date again▶️ Tune in now to gain some insight on what you can expect from healthy relationships, and what the signs are that something is not right.MENTIONED:My signature coaching program, Becoming: https://www.brewolta.com/becomingFind Yourself Again (A self-guided course to help you identify your values, needs and wants so you can enter into healthy relationships confidently) USE CODE PODCAST10 for 10% off: https://brewolta.mykajabi.com/find-yourself-againRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Unsure how to access that self-love thing everyone is talking about? Or are you feeling overwhelming judgement and distrust in yourself? This episode is here to help.We're diving into the magical (okay, evidence-based) world of EFT tapping. If anxiety, self-doubt, or just a bad case of the “I-can't-think-straight” blues are your current reality, you're not alone. We're exploring how this simple technique can help you regain control, feel like yourself again, and show up healthfully in relationships.In this episode you will:Learn how to deactivate your brain's “security camera” (aka your trigger response) before it sends you into fight-or-flight mode over a text messageUnderstand how EFT can help you find self-love and self-trust after a toxic relationshipFind out why EFT might just be the best relationship tool you didn't know you neededBonus: Get a personalized Oracle card message at the end of the episode—because who doesn't love a little extra guidance?Ready to tap your way to tranquility and get lovey dovey with yourself?

Sexual trauma is a violation on the body and mind and to heal it, we have to tend to both.This episode dives deep into understanding how unresolved sexual trauma and toxic relationships impact our ability to connect authentically with ourselves and others - and how you can heal.We are honored to hear my friend Shanna Wilton as she shares her journey of finding safety, trust and pleasure again in her body after repeated sexual trauma beginning in childhood. We talk about how the consequences of these traumas led her down a path of toxic relationships (including the relationship she had with herself) and how she found her way out.Soak in this wisdom, this isn't an episode you'll want to miss.In this episode you will:Discover the ‘aha' moment Shanna had that allowed her to recognize and begin healing from her sexual abuseLearn what stands in most women's way from believing their repressed sexually traumatic memoriesTakeaway easy techniques you can use everyday to integrate pleasure and joy into your healing process▶️ Tune in now to start your journey toward healing and reclaiming your power. Experience life in full color, not black and white—click play to begin.MENTIONED:Shanna's IG: https://www.instagram.com/shanna.wilton/RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Has your intuition let you down, leaving you questioning your ability to trust yourself and your decisions in relationships?If you're struggling with self-doubt and finding it hard to trust your inner voice, this episode is for you. We dive deep into understanding how to reconnect with your intuition and rebuild the trust that's essential for making confident decisions, especially after you've been burned in a narcissistic or otherwise toxic relationship.In this episode you will:Learn how to prove to yourself your intuition is working (and what you need in order to be able to hear it)Be shown the best exercise you can do to rebuild trust with yourselfClearly understand why you can't make a wrong decision▶️ Ready to rediscover and trust your intuition? Tune in now and take the first step toward aligning with your true self.‌MENTIONED:Ep. 24: How Do I Know When It's Time to Leave? How Do I Trust My Decision? :https://link.chtbl.com/5_Gw3ZQZ‌RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠‌

If you are ping-ponging back and forth, one moment sure you should leave, and the next feeling waves of guilt and pressure to not hurt your partner by leaving them, this episode is here to help you set down the paddle and cut through the noise.This quick 20 minute episode will help you reframe breakups and find the confidence hidden in your deeper knowing.In this episode you will:Be able to clearly identify the signs that a relationship isn't serving youUnderstand on a higher level why breaking up is really benefiting the both of youGet an answer to your question, “Does it have to end?”▶️ Tune in now if your love life feels like a never-ending soap opera and you want clarity around what to do.MENTIONED:Ep. 25: What to Do After the Breakup: 4 Steps to Help You Move Through the Grief Process Stages So You Can Move On: https://link.chtbl.com/CqxuYlIFRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

If you've been mindf*cked thinking, “IS he a narcissist?”, stuck on not being able to find the answer while second guessing everything, this episode is for you. I've been there, and together we will piece together some understanding around the answer that you seek

Ready to ditch those wobbly, one-legged toxic relationships for something that won't tip over at the first sign of trouble? In this episode, we dive into a a powerful metaphor shared by a client of mine that highlights the stark difference between relationships built on shaky ground and those that offer true stability and balance. In this episode you will:- Hear one client's life changing metaphor describing how they now view healthy vs unhealthy relationships - Discover the importance of not putting your relationship higher than everything else in your life - Feel inspired and guided as to how to seek grounded, stable relationships in your own life ▶️ Tune in now to get the lowdown on upgrading your love life from a teetering pedestal to a solid, steady table! MENTIONED: - Interest form to explore deeper self-growth and healing from toxic relationships: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Are you struggling to differentiate between genuine affection and the overwhelming rush of love bombing in your relationships? If you've ever felt swept off your feet by someone who seemed too perfect too soon, you might be dealing with love bombing—a tactic used in narcissistic relationships to manipulate and control. In this episode, we break down how to identify love bombing and distinguish it from a healthy relationship, ensuring you're equipped to recognize and avoid getting sucked into narcissistic relationships. In this episode you will: - Learn to spot the red flags

Is there fear that consumes you when you think about ending your relationship? Going back and forth in your decision because of layers of fear you're feeling is something my former client Laura Herrmann experienced before she divorced her ex husband. We talk about how she moved through it all and came into her knowing, as well as the inner child healing that allowed her to finally get her light (and her groove) back in her romantic and professional life. In this episode, you will: - Hear how Laura transcended her fear of leaving and rewrote her narrative around failure - Understand the important difference between being alone vs being lonely - See the power of inner child healing and how it enables Laura to now show up in a healthy relationship that is worlds different than what she's ever experienced Click play ▶️ for inspiration and tips on how to move through your fear and finally find yourself on the other side. MENTIONED: - Interest form to explore deeper self-growth and healing from toxic relationships: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Have you rolled your eyes at the thought of doing inner child work, or avoided looking at your childhood trauma even though you know you've been through some sh*t? Studies have shown the consequences that childhood trauma has on our brain structure as well as our attachment abilities in adulthood. Today, Tammy Vincent and I sit down and dive into how a traumatic childhood has shaped both of us, our 12-step work in an Adult Child of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA) program, and how we finally learned to reparent our inner parts so that we could be able to experience healthy relationships. In this episode, you'll discover: - The life experience that Tammy had which was the catalyst for her to dive into her generational trauma work - What being a people-pleaser ACTUALLY means, and how to shift away from it - Our top tips for women who are starting to acknowledge the depth of their trauma so you can move through it with grace ▶️ Tune in for a vulnerable conversation about trauma and how to take back control of the impacts it has on your life and ability to securely attach in relationships. MENTIONED: - Surviving Alcoholic Parents: A Teens Guide to Thriving in a World of Chaos by Tammy Vincent: https://www.tammyvincent.com/shop/p/surviving-alcoholic-parents - Tammy's website: http://www.tammyvincent.com , use code PODCAST for discounted 8-week course - Relationship Reset Guide: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-love RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Have you been irresistibly drawn to certain men, even when they're not good for you? This episode explores the concept of trauma bonding, revealing why we often feel magnetically attracted to people who ultimately cause us pain, and why it is so damn hard to leave them. It sheds light on how past childhood trauma shapes our present relationships, a topic that can resonate deeply if you've ever struggled to break free from a toxic relationship bond. In this episode you will: - Understand the psychological mechanisms behind trauma bonds - Learn the stages of trauma bonding and how to identify them - Hear what trauma bonding is NOT, and how it is so often misused ▶️ Tune in now to uncover the hidden dynamics of trauma bonds and empower yourself to break free from toxic relationships! MENTIONED: - Interest form to explore deeper self-growth and healing from toxic relationships: https://www.brewolta.com/interest-form RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

You're about to get an inside look into why I decided to rebrand this podcast. This episode is vulnerable, you guys! I share many of the fears that I had/have in making this change along with how I realized I was playing small. There are such good parallels here to any sort of change that you are experiencing in your life. It's one you won't want to miss ❤️ PS. The old podcast name was Lucid Living with Bre: Learn to Live + Love Awake if you hear me reference it in older episodes. MENTIONED: - Episode 10: Waking Up From a Toxic Relationship Nightmare, Rebuilding My Confidence & Stepping Into Real Love (My Story) https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lucid-living-bre-wolta/episodes/10--Waking-Up-From-a-Toxic-Relationship-Nightmare--Rebuilding-My-Confidence--Stepping-Into-Real-Love-My-Story-e2dua4c/a-aaq5h6j - Let's connect, I want to hear from you! https://www.brewolta.com/contact RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you feel completely lost on when it's the right time to start dating again after a painful breakup? Maybe you've exited a narcissistic relationship, been betrayed, and/or had the rug pulled out from under you — leaving you heartbroken, confused, and unsure when you'll be “healed enough” to get back out there. In this episode, we'll breakdown the simple things you need to know in order to decide. Tune in to learn: - The 5 key questions to ask yourself to gauge your readiness - The surprising answer to your question, “Am I healed enough to date again?” - Where you should put the emphasis on your healing work while you are single so you can be best prepared to date ▶️ Hit play now for the answers you need in order to feel confident that you are ready to date again! MENTIONED: - Find Yourself Again (A self-guided course to help you identify your values, needs and wants so you can enter into healthy relationships confidently): https://brewolta.mykajabi.com/find-yourself-again - Ep. 4 - The 5 Things You Need to Heal in Order to Have a Healthy Relationship After a Toxic One: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lucid-living-bre-wolta/episodes/4--The-5-Things-You-Need-to-Heal-in-Order-to-Have-a-Healthy-Relationship-After-a-Toxic-One-e2bp4v0/a-aajhejd RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Do you long for real love but aren't sure what a healthy relationship looks like? If you're tired of feeling unfulfilled or anxious in your relationships, perhaps attracting narcissistic people over and over again, understanding what makes a relationship healthy can transform your love life and help you break free from toxic rollercoaster vom-fest

How do you protect your children (and yourself) from the toxic effects of a narcissistic co-parent? Co-parenting with someone who displays narcissistic traits can feel like navigating a minefield. This episode is packed with crucial advice to help you manage this tough situation and shield your kids from emotional harm. In this episode, you will: - Learn how to spot the 4 major red flags of narcissistic people, so you can recognize what you're dealing with - Discover strategies to support your children's emotional wellbeing when they're dealing with a narcissistic parent -Better see how to take care of yourself during post-separation abuse, helping you stay grounded and maintain your sanity ▶️ Tune in for an insights and advice on how to make it through this challenging scenario and protect your kids from potential emotional fallout. MENTIONED: https://www.hollandhearttherapy.com https://www.instagram.com/margeaux_lpc/ Join my email list: https://brewolta.mykajabi.com/getemails RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: ❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠