Winning Inside with Cheddy and Michelle

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The predominance of people pleasing Burnout and resentment from people pleasing Saying "yes" becoming your identity Key takeaways: What part of you is people pleasing benefiting? Losing a part of you is a risk of people pleasing 4 step process to assess people pleasing Pause… Say “no” as the first response (practice not apologizing). Feel the discomfort that saying “no” makes you feel. Allow it to be there; don't resist it, change it, or deny it.    “People pleasers are wonderful human beings who have the quality of empathy and compassion. But they take that past the point, to the detriment of themselves and really losing their own authentic selves; because they are constantly deferring to other people.” -Michelle Wickman Contact Us: Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g   

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Michelle Wickman's four components of self-leadership. Hard skills vs Soft Skills in your career and life.  Key takeaways: The four components of self-leadership are: Self-Awareness Self-Discipline Emotional Intelligence Personal Agency We must invest the time to develop these soft skills. If we are leaders, we must lead ourselves first!   “I think machines are easy. You learn a system, learn a process, and you make it go. But humans, we live in the grey area -we're grey. And in that gray space, that's where you need the soft skills.” -Cheddy Matthews   Contact Us: Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g   

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: A coach sees their client's behaviour from the sideline; they can see the big picture from what the client is describing.  Plan for “what ifs” while you're taking the steps towards your goals.  Choosing action over procrastination. Key takeaways: Procrastination is a nice way of self-sabotage.  Procrastination is based in fear and avoidance of a potential negative emotion.  3 ways to deal with procrastination in the moment.  Take small steps towards another goal. Recognize the emotion, focus and process it. Ask the question, “is that true?” Then take action! “When you are taking those scary steps, when you are taking those scary actions towards goals, towards things that you love, that you desire in your life. It is that exhilarating and scary feeling all in one package. And then you get to assess ‘do I want to do that again?” And that's how you prepare yourself for the next obstacle, for the next step.” -Michelle Wickman   Contact Us: Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Finding a way to accomplish your goal. Eliminating the option of changing course. Understanding what serves your goal. Key takeaways: Deciding to be “all in” will cause current discomfort, but it will yield future results. Look for the shift to happen when you have no other options but to succeed. Learning to say no to things that do not serve your greater purpose.   “All of your focus is on this one goal right, and so if your vision is consistently on that and you wake up with that vision in your mind, and you go to bed with that vision in your mind, and you walk around all day with that vision in your mind. When opportunities present themselves, you will notice them.” -Michelle Wickman   Contact Us: Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Small wins as steps to greater goals Visualizing yourself winning like an athlete. What is a small win?   Recognizing other people's wins    Key takeaways: Schedule time to celebrate one small win per day. The more you take time to celebrate small wins, the more you'll recognize the opportunities to win. Celebrating other people's small wins is infectious A small win today can be totally different than a small win tomorrow. Don't compare your win to other's wins and don't compare your own current win to your past wins.    “Consider the things in your life that you may think are mundane and routine -but those are actually wins. Whan you accomplish something that you set out to do, that's a win! when you do something that's hard and you complete it, that's a win!” -Cheddy Matthews   Website: www.WinningInside.io Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com           Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss:   Behavioral Activation - take the action and let your brain get on board.  WHAT gets you out of bed vs HOW you get out of bed.  Selecting a thought or an action that gets you out of bed.    Key takeaways: Be Intentional when getting out of bed. Celebrating waking up to another day; embodying gratitude.  Be aware how your wake up routine can affect your mood. “Anything we offer is a suggestion, but everybody has their own unique approaches to it as well. So Cheddy had to find the thought that would motivate him into action. I just took the very tiniest, smallest action: ‘get out of bed and put on your shoes…!' Do the action and the brain will catch up” -Michelle Wickman Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss:   Working, Playing, and Resting Hard.  The best  time to make decisions and take action.  Life is in the middle and living a full life is experiencing all of it.  Using tools (like a pomodoro clock) to increase work efficiency.  Key takeaways: You will take the amount of time to allot for a task.  Resting hard allows you to be fully present in life  Take time once a quarter to evaluate how invested you are in work, play, and rest. Playing hard may drain some people while it may rejuvenate others, know which one you are.  “If you give yourself two years to accomplish that goal, 99% of the time, if not more, you will take the full two years. If you give yourself an hour to write one email, you're gonna take that full hour. Even if you are doing the thing, you're not necessarily maximizing your efficiency and your work...” -Michelle Wickman   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g   

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The noun “sticktoitiveness” Celebrating one year of the Winning Inside Podcast The choice of not quitting Key takeaways: Know the difference between quitting and pausing deciding to reflect, reassess, and re-engage. Your current situation could be equipping you for the next phase of your journey. Knowing your purpose and expressing gratitude will increase sticktoitiveness. “What keeps you going? You've gotta focus on the things and the reasons why you started in the first place. You've gotta focus on those; because sometimes, thinking of your why, the purpose, the genesis of the reason why you're doing the thing, or the end-state, the goal that you want at the end, has to be in the forefront of your mind to keep going. And then you can start to ignore the pain...” -Cheddy Matthews   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss:   Stress and how it showed up Being in panic Breaking the cycle   Key takeaways: Stress and frustration can lead to panic Taking a moment to pause can stop the thought of panic Detaching from a problem allows you to address it differently “The power of pause in your life can be transformational.” -Michelle Wickman Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g 

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss:   Janice Chance, the Mother of Jesse Melton III, Captain, United States Marine Corps, who was killed in action on September 9th 2008 Who Captain Jesse Melton was in his mother's words Using faith to persevere through tragedy,  Turning your pain into pearls Key takeaways: Grief turned inward is destructive If you're hurting, go out and serve others Sorrow and joy can coexist. Your heart can be hurting, but you still can be joyful.  Do not leave this life without making a positive impact. Complete your Earthly mission  Learn more about fallen heroes, say their names and keep their legacies alive “A lot of people know God in their head, but don't know Him in their heart. That 18 inches is a big thing.”” -Janice Chance, Mother of Captain Jesse Melton III   “I want to go change the world and make a difference, to do something that will bring God Glory.” -Jesse Melton III, Captain, United States Marine Corps, KIA 9 September 2008 Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g    For more information about Janice Chance, Captain Jesse Melton III, or the Gold Star Mothers, please go to: https:///www.jessemelton3rd.net  www.marylandgoldstarmoms.com    “Jesse, rest easy warrior. We've got the watch... Till we meet again.  -Semper Fi brother!

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss:   Prince Daniel's Story Killing yourself while workout/resurrecting yourself with meditation Optimism, resilience, perseverance Proving the naysayers wrong  Gratitude is an endurance build Key takeaways: Showing kindness and gratitude for your heart Transition (from work to home) and being present Managing your emotions The power of meditation, journaling, being in the moment Getting in the zone with gratitude and intensity  Three Tips from Prince Daniels Mindfulness: being comfortable with the unknown Love yourself/be proud of yourself Have grace and patience for yourself   “I was born like this. I was born in to joy! The word "enjoy" that is my life. I am in joy at every single moment of my life… ” -Prince Daniels   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g    FInd Prince Daniels Jr. at: Instagram: princeadjr Facebook: Prince Daniels Jr.  YouTube: Prince Daniels Jr.  Website: www.princedanielsjr.com 

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Renee Coakley's Story Still birth at 36 weeks  Beating stage 2 breast cancer Turning your pain into power Healing through the sharing of your circumstance Using faith to overcome multiple traumas Key takeaways: Finding peace in the chaos and still finding peace in the things you can't control.  The healing from your trauma might allow you to be the one person someone can come to for help through their situation. Finding the faith to know your healing is always “on time.” “So what set me back a year ago has actually propelled me even further today. And I'm in the best position today… even better than I was a year ago -and healed!” -Reneé Coakley    Follow Reneé Coakley on instagram: @heyreneeashley   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g   

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The Five Love Languages: Words of Affirmation Acts of Service Receiving Gifts Quality Time Physical Touch Ways to incorporate them into your life Key takeaways: The Five Love Languages: Words of Affirmation: Example: Compliments, affirmations, positive feedback Thoughts for self-reflection: Think about a time when you felt appreciated or recognized. How did it make you feel? Acts of Service: Example: Doing chores, running errands, helping with tasks Thoughts for self-reflection: What are some tasks that you find difficult or unpleasant? How could someone help you with those tasks to show their love and support? Receiving Gifts: Example: Surprise presents, tokens of affection Thoughts for self-reflection: When have you received a gift that meant a lot to you? Why did it mean so much? Quality Time: Example: Spending one-on-one time together, being fully present Thoughts for self-reflection: Think about a time when you felt truly connected with someone. What was happening during that time? Physical Touch: Example: Hugs, holding hands, cuddling Thoughts for self-reflection: What physical touch do you find most comforting? Why is that type of touch important to you? Identify your own love language and that of your partner Show appreciation and affection in ways that speak to each other's love languages Consistently make an effort to show love and affection        It's important to note that love can take many forms and that the types of love can overlap and coexist in different ways. The type of love that one experiences can change over time, and it's possible to feel different types of love for different people and at different times in one's life.        Remember,  everyone has different love languages, and it's also possible for someone to value multiple love languages. By reflecting on these prompts, you can gain insight into what type of love and affection resonates with you and how you can best express love to others.   “It's taking the time to truly acknowledge how other people express love. So that kind of awareness. That's what this tool is for -is to build awareness to recognize, “ohhh, they're trying to show me that they care about me.'” -Michelle Wickman   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g 

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Shifting into gratitude Gratitude affecting perception Living in the moment   Key takeaways: As a practice, find things to be grateful for. The difference between optimism and realism. What you put your attention on, grows. We have more power over our lives than we give ourselves credit for.   “Want the things that exist in your life and you will begin to experience a sense of gratitude for your life as it exists today. Not looking at it from the judgement of where you wish you would be now, that is somewhere in the future.” -Michelle Wickman   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g 

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Takeaways from the holidays Goals and Emotions Thanks to the audience Key takeaways: This is a new start and a refresh Keep the good release the negative Reassess your goals and adjust  Celebrate the “little wins”  Have as much grace for yourself as you do for others “I'm just working things out.”    “A lot of times it isn't in the destination, it's actually in the journey, the beauty is in the journey; and a lot of times it is missed. So don't miss the journey…“ -Cheddy Matthews   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g 

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Being shoulder to shoulder Going further, faster The power of collaboration Using curiosity to our unpack our beliefs Intentional creation The silent power of being open Key takeaways: Establishing your “Personal Board of Directors.” Discover, Become present to Question, Create the beliefs and thoughts  Question our limitations and beliefs to overcome them Take charge of yourself to create assurance. The power of being in choice vs. feeling mandated.  “You want to discover, become present to, question, and then create the beliefs and thoughts that are going to get us the results that we want.“ -Michelle Wickman   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g 

In this episode, Cheddy and Hitesh discuss: Hitesh Solanki's background Infertility and miscarriages from a male perspective Hitesh's methods of overcoming negative emotions    Key takeaways: Grit, adaptability, and Intentionality can help you get through adversity Consistency leads to strength, which aids in your success. 3 points for writing your life's story: Awareness Consistency Gratitude   “The more aware you start becoming of yourself, of your surroundings, the more suitable and capable you become for everything else that follows through. Make awareness a consistent effort.“ -Hitesh Solanki Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g 

This special episode is all about the co-host of Winning Inside, Michelle Wickman of Wickman Wellness, her story, why she does the work that she does, what she is passionate about, and more.    Some of the topics we discuss are:  Michelle Wickman's background The Importance of a “want match” The core value of integrity Setbacks in her life  Life at UC Berkeley The value of who we are vs. what we do Why Michelle is a coach (and a great one at that!) The importance of identity as it relates to transition Who Michelle Wickman works with    “It's the one thing that is a non-negotiable for a coach; it's being able to hold space for another human being. And what that looks like is to be fully present to their emotions, and their energy, and create safe space. If I can help one person from having to suffer for another 20 years, then it's worth it. It's worth it to share my story, and it's worth it to offer that help.“ -Michelle Wickman Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g 

This special episode is all about Cheddy Matthews, his story, why he does the work that he does, what he is passionate about, and more.    Some of the topics discussed are:  Cheddy's background Leadership  Setbacks in his life  Resilience  Who he works with  How humans are more similar than different (around the world)  Where to find your highest and best version of yourself  “We have a certain magic that is intrinsic to us, and if we're allowed to let that voice -let that power come out of us, we will see and experience our highest and best selves. I really do believe your highest and best self is your most authentic self." -Cheddy Matthews   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g 

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Recap of ‘Tolerance of Negative Behavior' podcast.  Personal growth and your comfort zone. Tolerating your own negative emotions or feelings by choice.  Key takeaways: Building failure tolerance is the key to personal growth and goal achievement. When you fail, it's critical to take the next smallest step as soon as possible.  Avoiding discomfort is a natural human state, but also keeps us stuck.     “If we're looking to uplevel our lives to the next iteration of ourselves… then expect to experience discomfort and expect to challenge your old thought patterns, your old behaviors, your old habits." -Michelle Wickman   Contact Information: Website: www.WinningInside.io  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How tolerating bad behavior affects your self-worth How to approach a boundary conversation Examples of boundaries in our lives Key takeaways: You can set or reset your boundaries at any time Establishing boundaries lets others know behavior you will and will not tolerate. Boundaries benefit both parties.    “You should be able to articulate what it is that you accept and what you don't accept. And the funny thing is, you're the author of that. You are the person that gets to write that. And you have a pencil and you have an eraser and you can change and modify what you accept.”- Cheddy Matthews   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g 

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How do integrate a gratitude practice in your day  How do use gratitude in pursuing your goals  How Cheddy & Michelle use gratitude when something negative happens  Key takeaways: Gratitude is a mindset and a feeling. Gratitude elevates your emotional state. Gratitude affects those around you.   “If you close your eyes and really just think of all of the things that you're incredibly grateful for in this moment or in the past, then you'll start to generate an emotion within your body; and that emotion will change the actions that you take going forward in that day.” - Michelle Wickman   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g 

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How overthinking can show up in our lives Low production cycles  MAKING A DECISION Key takeaways: Overthinking is fear based Do the best you can with what you have.  The 3 Step Process to Stop Overthinking:  Become aware of the overthinking  Assess what it is that you want/where you want to go Take action - no matter how small    “Overthinking, being rooted in fear, is always gonna hold us back from whatever possibility or potential that we want to have in our lives.” - Michelle Wickman Website: www.WinningInside.io  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Living small within Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.  Living small as a way of feeling safe: protecting your inner child. Living small is an unconscious choice; you can choose to live large. Key takeaways: Living small robs you of your greatest potential. Living a life that isn't small requires risk. Remember, no risk, no reward. Your comfort zone will keep you living small.   “There are people who have interviewed people on their death beds. It is the regret that we did not step into at least the pursuit of that self-actualization, at least the pursuit of the potential we possess as humans…” - Michelle Wickman   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g 

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Where the belief that we have to earn love or acceptance originates.  How we express love and how we receive it - The 5 Love Languages ™  Key takeaways: It's okay to ask someone how they prefer to express and receive love. Conditional love or acceptance is a moving target.   “Love is not a prize (to be won), it's a gift that we give.” -Michelle Wickman   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g 

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How the lies we tell ourselves about what we should be, have or do cause us to feel extremely powerful but negative emotions. They rarely benefit us in a sustainable and positive way. How “Shoulding” ourselves can make us feel and how to identify them.  We tell ourselves we “Should” ourselves for our benefit, but rarely is that the case. Key takeaways: The “you should… (be, have, or do something) by now” thoughts can cause us to feel like failures. The “you should have known…” thought can cause the emotions, Cheddy calls “the triad of terror,” to present themselves in your life. Those are the negative emotions of fear, guilt, and shame. Oftentimes the “Shoulds” come in a familiar voice and therefore are trusted and accepted with little or no objection. This is not an excuse to not take care of your obligations and responsibilities. We must learn to discern between a beneficial and detrimental “Should” in our lives. “Should” is “could” with SHAME attached to it. “Be mindful of those around you and yourself and how many times you hear the ‘shoulda' conversation… it puts you in a state of lack -and wanting and needing!” -Cheddy Matthews “Watch how you ‘Should' on other people!" -Michelle Wickman Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How we assign the responsibility for our happiness to things outside of us. We have more control over our emotions than we realize, acknowledge, or admit. Consumerism relies on us believing the “I'll be happy when…” lie. Key takeaways: Michelle explains how Dr. Seuss' book The Sneetches illustrates the “I'll be happy when…” lie and how it can playout in our lives. The, “I'll be happy when…” lie, keeps us dissatisfied and always looking for the thing that will make us happy.. Oftentimes the thing we thought would make us happy only provides a feeling of happiness for a short period of time.  We are responsible for our happiness, regardless of the circumstances. We are meaning-making machines.   “I am responsible for my own happiness!” - Michelle Wickman   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g 

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How the lie we tell ourselves about not being enough affects the quality of our life. What life could be like if you refused to adopt the idea of not-enoughness. Key takeaways: Regardless of position, status, or title, many people deal with not-enoughess.. Accepting not-enoughness makes you play small. If you are in a room (position, role, etc.), you deserve to be there..  Take active steps to support the idea you are enough. “It's a lie; but it's a lie that we live with. We've accepted it and we've owned that lie to the point it seems like it's a truth!” - Cheddy Matthews   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g 

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Frustrations with the healthcare industry The Difference between being a “squeaky wheel” and a “Karen.” How to have a healthy mindset when self advocating. Key takeaways: We are conditioned to accept what is given to us. Sometimes it is important to ensure your specific needs are met; that requires self-advocation. Be self aware enough to know whether you are being a “Karen” (Offensive advocation) or advocating for your particular needs. Know you deserve to be seen, heard, and have your needs addressed appropriately.  Know the difference between legitimate and unhealthy advocation. “This is worth it, I am worth it, and I can do this!” - Michelle Wickman Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:      Website:       Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:      Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The effects of self-victimization. Identifying the language, patterns, and behaviors of victimhood. Transitioning from victimhood to self-empowerment. Key takeaways: Your possibilities are limitless! When we align with victimization, you're living small and dishonoring the power and potential you possess. A victim cycle consists of three actors: 1. Victim, 2. Perpetrator, 3.Savior/Rescuer. The roles can change from moment to moment. Three steps to convert self-victimization into self-empowerment. 1. Stop, get back to reality. 2. Identity facts from the story that feeds self-victimization. 3. Acknowledge that you are better than that and move towards that higher standard.   “You may not be able to control the weather; but you can choose to bring an umbrella or to wear sunscreen.” - Cheddy W. Matthews Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:      Website:       Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:      Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The joys of travel. The benefits of getting away. Their dream locations and the type of vacations they prefer. Key takeaways: Travel doesn't have to mean traveling around the world; it could be as simple as exploring your local area. Travel requires exploration, which leads to creativity and openness Anticipating a trip, envisioning a vacation or remembering a previous trip is great for your mood and emotional wellbeing.   “Travel teaches us vulnerability, how to be open to new opportunities.” - Michelle Wickman Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:      Website:       Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:      Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Not being seen for who they authentically are from a personal perspective. Why it is important to acknowledge and recognize people for who they are. Compassionate curiosity and how it improves connection. Key takeaways: Being seen is the acknowledgment of who a person authentically is. Recognizing and acknowledging someone's differences,vice attacking them results in greater communication and cooperation. Acknowledging differences, and seeking common ground leads to increased understanding and mutual respect. “If we generalize, we act based on our generalizations; we treat people based on our generalizations -and they may be so off the mark.” - Cheddy Matthews Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:      Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:      Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: What is the not so merry-go-round.. How to recognize a negative cycle of behavior. How to deal with a negative cycle of behavior. Key takeaways: The not so merry-go-round can affect all areas of our lives: personal, private, professional, recreational, social, relational and more. Sometimes we stay on the not so merry-go-round because it is familiar to us. Breaking the cycle will require intentional effort and time. Learn to recognize and acknowledge where you are on the not so merry-go-round so you can decide whether to .1) accept it, .2) change it, or .3) leave that situation.. Cheddy and Michelle are launching a course called “Networking Demystified.” Look out for it! “We just stay on the not so merry-go round -because it is a known discomfort, rather than the unknown; and the unknown can be scarier and more filled with fear than the known discomfort that we have existed with oftentimes for years and years.” - Michelle Wickman Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:      Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:      Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Recognizing what burnout looks like in your life. What to do if you find yourself experiencing burnout. How to manage burnout. Key takeaways: Burnout can affect many areas of your life, to include your health -so treat yourself with compassion. Sometimes slowing down is the fastest way ahead when you're experiencing burnout.. When you are overwhelmed and experiencing burnout, it is necessary to weigh all your activities and focus on the items that must be addressed. Cheddy and Michelle are launching a course called “Networking Demystified.” Look out for it! “When you experience burnout, and it's affecting you in one area, it does translate into other areas as well.” - Cheddy Matthews Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:      Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:      Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Focusing on your goals and their progress. Moving toward your purpose through your goals. How to compassionately reevaluate your goals. How to adjust your actions to better reach your desired goals. Key takeaways: Take the time to assess your goals to monitor progress and make sure they are aligned with your purpose. Assess your actions to see whether your actions are in line with what you desire. Have compassion for yourself without excuses. The three key sources fueling our excuses are 3 D's of Dread, Delay, & Distraction. Cheddy and Michelle are launching a course called “Networking Demystified.” Look out for it! “The question is: ‘what have you actually been doing; versus what you're telling yourself you're doing?'” - Michele Wickman Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:      Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:      Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Avoiding Task Completion Why we avoid completing tasks How we avoid tasks How to overcome task avoidance Key takeaways: People often avoid completing tasks because of fear, overwhelm, low interest or a lack of understanding. Task avoidance is sneaky and can present itself as confusion, avoidance, procrastination, over-thinking, perfectionism, and many more. This can be overcome with honest acknowledgement, small actionable goals, and deliberate action. Cheddy and Michelle are launching a free course called “Networking Demystified.” SIGN UP TODAY! “We create a story, then we live in that story, then we're afraid of the story we created.” - Cheddy Matthews Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:      Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:      Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Celebrating those graduating and getting promoted this time of year. The basic need for connection. The benefits of networking, connecting, and how Cheddy and Michelle met in a virtual networking event. Be present, curious, and authentic when networking. Key takeaways: You never know what opportunities can arise from a networking event. The Winning Inside Podcast is a byproduct of a networking event.. Dare to take the step to find events where people share common goals. Find the people you resonate with. Cheddy and Michelle are launching a free course called “Networking Demystified.” SIGN UP TODAY! “Find the people that elevate your energy, that elevate your mood.” - Michelle Wickman Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:      Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:      Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: It is necessary to acknowledge your emotions and deal with them as they are experienced. It is not okay to discount your emotions or the emotions of others. Be sincere and not dismissive when dealing with people's emotions. Look at mental health as “Mental Hygiene” in order to treat it the same way you do personal, dental, and environmental hygiene. Key takeaways: As Mental Health Awareness Month comes to an end, we urge you to seek the help you need. Mental Hygiene is an essential part of a healthy self-care routine. Emotions are indicators of your physical environment. Acknowledging them increases your self-awareness, and your surroundings. Acknowledging someone's emotions does not mean agreeing with an individual, but it creates an environment of mutual respect which improves personal, social, and professional interactions. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis or emergency and need to talk to someone, here are some resources: www.helpguide.org (International Mental Health Helplines) www.suicidepreventionhelpline.org (1-800-273-8255 (TALK) or dial 988 in the U.S.) www.veteransCrisisLine.Net (1-800-273-8255 (TALK) Veterans  “I can at least acknowledge you as a human being and the feelings that you have right now. What can then transpire between two individuals when I acknowledge where you are at?” - Michelle Wickman   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:      Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:      Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: *Trigger Warning -This episode mentions suicide and other topics that might be of concern. Please consult with a professional if necessary. Acknowledgement of Mental Health Awareness Month Removing the stigma of mental health issues Look at mental health as “Mental Hygiene” in order to treat it the same way you do personal, dental, and environmental hygiene. Happy 19th Birthday to Cheddy Matthews II; “I love you son!” -Cheddy Matthews   Key takeaways: If you need help, or are having a mental health crisis, do not hesitate to ask for the help you need. Mental health is a real issue and devastates the lives of so many who don't receive treatment. Take the time to ask people how are they doing if you notice “something is off.'' Sometimes, that could be the difference between a friendly conversation, and a tragic event.  If you are experiencing a mental health crisis or emergency and need to talk to someone, here are some resources: www.helpguide.org (International Mental Health Helplines) www.suicidepreventionhelpline.org (1-800-273-8255 (TALK) or dial 988 in the U.S.) www.veteransCrisisLine.Net (1-800-273-8255 (TALK) Veterans    “Ask for help! Know that there is help out there!” - Michelle Wickman   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:      Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:      Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

Take a Moment...!   In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Taking the time to enjoy precious moments  Being present through mindfulness Slowing down to gather your thoughts Being aware of yourself and your environment   Key takeaways: Taking the time to enjoy any kind of event that brings you closer to your friends or family members is necessary. It is important to take the time to appreciate those little moments, those precious moments that we would miss if we didn't experience them.  Being mindful enables us to express gratitude and space between your thoughts which enables you to experience greater confidence and creativity..  Take a moment to become aware of your physical awareness and be totally present with someone you love.   “Creativity and confidence go hand in hand” - Michelle Wickman   Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:      Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:      Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: When to not take responsibility  Focusing on what you can control The journey of pursuing a goal  Creating something from nothing    Key takeaways: Taking responsibility over things that you don't own is sometimes an admirable trait, but in many ways it's very unhealthy and it doesn't do much good. A person who does that will end up getting frustrated over something they have no power over.  Focus your energy on where you can do good and define clearly to yourself what you are responsible for, factually speaking. You are not responsible for other individuals.  There is so much value, so much growth that one could attain by being on a journey of pursuing a goal. It's never about getting the goal, it's about becoming the person you needed to be to achieve that goal.  The possibility is limitless when you accept personal responsibility for your goals. You are in charge of your mind, you are in charge of your destiny, and you are in charge of your life. You can create something from nothing, but you have to decide what that something is.    “It's not about taking responsibility for another individual's actions, reactions, or inactions. It's about understanding and building an awareness of what you are in control of, what you are empowered to believe, what you are empowered to think about…” - Michelle Wickman     Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:   Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks     Connect with Michelle Wickman:   Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Deciding to just do it  Doing hard things  When your mind and body aligns Inspiring and motivating others    Key takeaways: You can either take all this time to prepare to do the thing or you can decide to just do it and jump in, knowing that you can complete it.  Do difficult activities that remind you that you can do hard things and survive. Physical exercise or even taking an ice-cold bath can do this for you.  You'll surprise yourself with what you're able to accomplish when your mind and body are aligned with one another.  When you do hard things, you are not only able to appreciate yourself more but you'll be able to inspire and motivate others who are like you to do hard things as well.    “Sometimes you gotta remind yourself that you ARE a rockstar” - Cheddy Matthews Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:   Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:   Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: What are reference groups?  How reference groups can help  Clearing your energy  Empowered to choose    Key takeaways: Your reference group is the people that you associate yourself with, the people that heavily influence you and greatly relate to you in your season of life.  Having a reference group can inspire you to grow, achieve goals and be a better person. They might share new insights that can create breakthroughs in your life, and they might be able to influence you positively. Some groups in your life can impact you negatively. That's why it's important to have resources and tools that will help you clear your energy and reset your mind. Try meditation, mindfulness, or breathwork.  Put yourself in the headspace of empowerment - from that space of having no choice into knowing that you do have a choice, and you are making that choice.    “When you realize that you have a choice, when you feel like you have a choice, your sensation of empowerment versus being a victim or forced into these experiences and actions - your experience of being empowered elevates… when you begin to live with choice.” - Michelle Wickman Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:   Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:   Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: https://www.lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: You need grace  The cure for perfectionism  Getting to the root cause  Liberation from rumination    Key takeaways: Everybody needs grace, even you. It will help you cope with the most common phenomenon in all human beings: failure. Without grace, you can't grow as a human being.  Giving grace is all about releasing yourself from trying to attain that unattainable goal of perfectionism. When things are great, humble yourself. When things go bad, give grace to yourself.  Keep a Q&A dialogue going in your head, challenge your thoughts, get real and go deep into the issue until you reach the root cause.  Extending grace is the liberation from that rumination. Do not keep yourself chained up because of a mistake you made. Take ownership and responsibility of it while giving yourself grace. Grace is a source of power, remember that.    “Be so careful with yourself because your subconscious is listening to that language. Whether it's inside your head or you're saying out loud…watch what you say to yourself.” - Michelle Wickman B 100% responsible for your actions. Reflect on your actions, and see yourself with compassion in that moment. Be more proactive be more positive in your self talk.   Some of oyur own paradigms have been forced unto you - and most are good, and are necessary for that time of your life. Now, you must be brave enough to unlearn, learn, and relearn, whatever it is you need to in order to grow. That will require a lot of grace. The past happened, own that and own your present.    Extending grace is the liberation from that rumination. Do not keep yourself chained up because of a mistake you made. Take ownership and responsibility of it while giving yourself grace.  – Keep a Q&A dialogue going in your head, get real and get deep into the issue until you reach what might be the root cause.  – Challenge that thought. Get to that reason why you don't let yourself get grace.    When things are great, humble yourself. When things go bad, give grace to yourself.    Giving grace is all about releasing yourself from trying to attain that unattainable goal of perfectionism.    If you're even 1% better this week than you were last week, that's progress. Congratulations! You're growing. Growth will take mistakes and failure.    When you ask yourself why - answer the question. When you answer the question ask yourself why again.    – We extend grace to others, but not to ourselves. We don't believe we're as deserving.  Extending grace = comforting yourself. You have to check yourself, ask yourself if you're going to be ass unmerciful to others.  It's about how we grow as human beings.    Watch those words that you use, Be so careful with yourself because your subconscious is listening to that language. Whether it's inside your head or you're saying out loud…watch what you say to yourself. Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:   Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:     Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy, Michelle, and Amanda discuss: Putting yourself in an all-in situation  Self Betrayal Investing in yourself too  Focusing on the “who”  The great value of your failures    Key takeaways: Putting yourself in an “all-in” situation is a high-level motivation. The knowledge that you “can't NOT do it” means that you're going to have to do it and succeed. Invest in yourself, it's non-negotiable. You own your business, it doesn't own you. You must pay yourself. You're not working for your business, your business is working for you.  Focus on the “who” first. Finding the right people who know the “how” and the “what” will get you there more than you trying to do everything yourself poorly.  Your story, your failures in the past, can save people from a long and rough learning period. There is great value in your stories of failure, value that the people around you deserve to be given.    “Failure isn't death, it's the beginning of something that can be really beautiful - taking your garbage and turning it into compost.” - Amanda Bedell Connect with Amanda Bedell: Website: https://bccbusinessconsulting.com/ | https://www.bedellcc.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandabedell/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/amandabedell    Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews: Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks Connect with Michelle Wickman:  Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: What is motivation Tactics that would inspire us into taking action Mindset for action Identifying your goals and your whys   Key takeaways: Motivation is a feeling. It is a sensation that you are inspired to take action, and accomplish something. There are four tactics that you can deploy in order to get motivated and this includes the inner drill instructor (shut up and get it done), the hostage negotiator (acknowledging the reasons you don't want to do something but telling yourself the benefits you can receive by taking action), the bribing the toddler (giving yourself a reward for doing the thing), and the inner psychic (knowing it's not going to happen so you find external reasons or other methods to get it done). Your mindset for action is your willpower to go from thinking about doing something to actually doing it, as well as your persistence to keep going despite not knowing what comes ahead in the pursuit of a larger objective. Your goals and your whys are your personal motivation to get into action.   “There's going to be setbacks, and there's going to be failures. It's how you manage your thoughts and emotions, how you acknowledge the successes that you've had, and how you acknowledge the movement and the momentum that you've created with the actions that you've taken” - Michelle Wickman Connect with Michelle Wickman:   Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness Connect with Cheddy Matthews:   Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks Connect with The Winning Inside Podcast: Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g 

Luke Wright:Don't Find an Excuse, Find a Way!   In this episode, Cheddy, Michelle, and Luke discuss: Dreams that require sacrifices Responding to being demoted, fired or let go Holding people accountable How to best help the youth    Key takeaways: Your dream will require sacrifices. Sometimes, you'll be given a choice to sacrifice a once-in-a-lifetime moment for a dream you've had your whole life. Which will you prioritize?  When let down, fired, or sent off, you have a choice. Remain bitter, or pull yourself together, make a comeback, and decide that being fired would be the best thing they could've done for you.  As a leader, hold people accountable for their actions. There must be a point where you can't just let something slide. Give them an opportunity to experience that so they could learn to take ownership of their lives.  Be selective, spend time influencing the youth who are serious about their life. At the same time, be stern because life is not going to take it easy on them.    “There's many people that want the gift, but they don't want the grind and hustle that goes with it.” - Luke Wright Connect with Luke Wright: Website: http://lukemotivates.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/luke.wright.7524  Twitter: https://twitter.com/LukeMotivates  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChVyUGouLwNa745W8j8Gs1A/  Instagram: http://instagram.com/Luke_Motivates  Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:      Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:      Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram: @wickman_wellness

In this episode, Cheddy, Michelle, and Detective Kevin Doucette of the New Orleans Police Department discuss: Winning the war in your mind Responsibility and obligation  Going beyond your limits  Faith that will keep you moving forward    Key highlights:  On April 21st, 2020, Detective Doucette, a former U.S. Marine, and everyday hero, was shot in the line of duty. More than two years and 14 surgeries later, Detective Kevin Doucette shares his story of resilience, determination, and faith. “It's always darkest before the sun comes up!” Detective Kevin Doucette was cleared for full duty by the New Orleans Police Department.    Key takeaways: Sitting alone with your thoughts can be a very terrifying thing, it will put you in a war with yourself. You must shift your focus from negative feelings to healing in order to win inside your mind.  Responsibility and obligation can be a  heavy burden to carry in life, but they also have the potential to bolster your resolve and empower you to go through everyday life.  Everyone has a limit and then there's the space beyond that. Mindset is the key to unlocking and tapping into that space beyond your limits. It takes a lot of faith to continue moving forward. Often it is something that takes over your mind out of nowhere and that is a big blessing in the moment, but you also have the option to instill that faith into your mind intentionally instead of waiting for that feeling.    “Regardless of the obstacle that's right in front of you, try to be responsive and not react. You have to develop a game plan, a certain mindframe, this isn't something that happens over night. You have to practice having a strong mind frame… Believe that you can do it, that's half the battle…” - Detective Doucette   Click on the link below to go to Detective Doucette's GoFundMe page and show your support: https://gofund.me/356d93a8  Instagram: @kdotd2 Instagram URL: https://www.instagram.com/kdotd2/  Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:  Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:   Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness  

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The conscious and subconscious aspects of self-talk  Intentionality and consistency  Making positivity a daily habit  Thinking positively versus lying to yourself    Key takeaways: Self-talk has a conscious and subconscious aspect to it, and it is often grounded in your belief about yourself. Managing your inner conversation makes the difference between taking control of your own mind and letting your beliefs control you.  You've probably said a lot of things to yourself that still affect you even now. It takes a lot of intentionality and consistency to correct those conversations and it starts by apologizing to yourself for telling yourself those things.  Make healthy self-talk and positivity a daily habit. Prepare your vessel - your mind and your body - for the day that you'll face. Life is inherently filled with negativity, so if you don't intentionally put yourself in that headspace, you're gonna fall into that default state.  There's a big difference between giving yourself positive self-talk and manipulating yourself to believe in something you don't really think is real. See the positive things about reality, but authentically recognize that negative circumstances are part of that reality.    “Our inner critic is often there to protect ourselves, but what's happening is that it's really holding us back from the unlimited potential that we possess as human beings… What you can do to alter the reality of your life is with your self-talk.” - Michelle Wickman Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:   Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:   Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram:@wickman_wellness  

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: What is your identity?  Doing and being are different  Using “I am” statements correctly  Building a strong identity    Key takeaways: Your identity is what makes you unique, in relation to the other people around you. It makes you separate from and at the same time connected to the people around you. Doing and being are two different things. Don't let your identity be wrapped into what you do because when you lose that, you'll experience identity loss and it can be quite traumatic.  Be careful of the “I am” statements that you say, even in jest. They could easily become a part of your identity and end up attaching themselves to your identity.  Ground yourself in a strong and stable foundation of identity. Don't let social media, past trauma, or what you do be the core of your identity.    “Be, have and do. You have to know who you are… when I say have, the traits that you possess - know what they are. And then you go into the ‘do'. Instead of associating your identity to what you do…” - Cheddy Matthews     Website: www.WinningInside.io  Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g  Connect with Cheddy Matthews:   Website:  www.HEDSpaceCoaching.com      Book: www.calendly.com/cheddymatthews  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: CheddySpeaks@gmail.com  Twitter:   @CheddySpeaks Facebook:  @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/CheddyMatthews  Instagram:  @CheddySpeaks   Connect with Michelle Wickman:   Website: www.WickmanWellness.com  Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me  Show: www.WinningInside.io  Email: Michelle@wickmanwellness.com  Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/wickman.michelle  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michellewickman/  Instagram: @wickman_wellness